To create more meaningful everyday gatherings -- * Embrace a specific disputable purpose. * Cause good controversy. (Heat-- a core ingredient of meaning; burning relevance. Human connection is as threatened by unhealthy peace as unhealthy conflict.) * Pop up rules --one time only constitutions for a specific purpose. (Unspoken norms are trouble.) "Gatherings at their best allow us to be among others, to be seen for who we are and to see."
Love this so much! "How we gather, is how we live." So insightful! Thank you. Also, the comment about unhealthy peace was incisive. And the rule for moms gathering is awesome. I want to be at that party!:-)
i just like this tedtalk soo much, wish more people see it. we usually just make superficial meetings with small talk. just keep doing what your doing priya, good work
Kurt E. Clothier did make a point about minority opinion and social media. However, I think the umbrella theme of doing what you can, where and when you can and as much as you can, is worth noting, and I think a lot of people do that, in their own ways. Even if it's simply being yourself, where and when you can. And I think we can embrace tradition or we can start new traditions, or merge traditions, because everything and everyone wants to flourish, and even grow and evolve, in their own ways. And this runs across all classes, ages, colors, sizes, sexes and genders, etc. And even introverts go to gatherings, because humans are of a herd mentality, for good reason. We determine our own herds and behave accordingly. Some flourish and some stagnate, and we have a choice. And right now that choice seems to be stagnating in tradition or growing through change. Me, I like growing, and change is scary, but you grow.
I must say I am very impressed by how well the speaker is dressed. The dress is neither conservative nor liberal. It emphasizes her feminine, natural beauty and yet, at the same time, doesn't invoke sexual thought towards the speaker. This is something that all women need to emulate if they don't want to be objectified and want to have their message heard. Ok, I have to admit... My amazement and admiration for her distracted me from listening to her talk 🙂 and I had to go back... 🙂 Now, on the points: I am in agreement with tailoring events to the specific needs - the baby shower story was a good example; and her line of "the human connection is as threatened by unhealthy peace as by unhealthy conflict" was absolutely brilliant and ever more pressing in our modern times - at least in the US. I'm not so sure about the pop up rules though... But still, overall, it was a great talk, thank you. 🙂
Don't like the artificiality of her constructs, I much prefer the concept of relaxing a group with some person(s) cultivating spontaneous interaction within the gathering. People overthink simple stuff.
liked the topic, some good points in the speach. but today in our western pc culture there is no room left for "good controversy". you can see it in this very speech. non-white woman joking derogatory about white man: totally acceptable. white man joking derogatory about non-white women: you lose your job and get to court.
The best gatherings ever were after Hurricane Harvey and everyone was flooded out for a week in our neighborhood. Nothing like devastation to create meaningful gatherings.
Priya almost like Preethi; she was in law school with me but I always thought she had a nice name. Call the caterer LoL pizza party , soiree or cucumber sandwiches for the golf brunch ? 🧐LMAO 🤩
Kai McGuire not possible to prove u wrong. I will say this. Many people on the left project. Accuse others of the very things they themselves r guilty of. Prove me wrong.
To create more meaningful everyday gatherings --
* Embrace a specific disputable purpose.
* Cause good controversy. (Heat-- a core ingredient of meaning; burning relevance. Human connection is as threatened by unhealthy peace as unhealthy conflict.)
* Pop up rules --one time only constitutions for a specific purpose. (Unspoken norms are trouble.)
"Gatherings at their best allow us to be among others, to be seen for who we are and to see."
"because human connection is as threatened by unhealthy peace as by unhealthy conflict." Well said!
I too bookmarked this line in my head. Thanks for sharing it via comment.
Totally agreed with what she said
As long as we put down all technology and focus our attention on people we are with... it’s a great beginning.
Love this so much! "How we gather, is how we live." So insightful! Thank you. Also, the comment about unhealthy peace was incisive. And the rule for moms gathering is awesome. I want to be at that party!:-)
i just like this tedtalk soo much, wish more people see it. we usually just make superficial meetings with small talk. just keep doing what your doing priya, good work
this talk is MUCH better than the title suggests. the title almost prevented me from watching it.
Be yourself. Respect others for being themself. Life is Beautiful. ☺☺
I love my family, my girls, I know what good love is and soon all will be better Evolved and grateful Always 😎🤩
@@michelleottley5292 Happy for you 😊😊 Keep loving them. ☺☺
Kurt E. Clothier did make a point about minority opinion and social media. However, I think the umbrella theme of doing what you can, where and when you can and as much as you can, is worth noting, and I think a lot of people do that, in their own ways. Even if it's simply being yourself, where and when you can. And I think we can embrace tradition or we can start new traditions, or merge traditions, because everything and everyone wants to flourish, and even grow and evolve, in their own ways. And this runs across all classes, ages, colors, sizes, sexes and genders, etc. And even introverts go to gatherings, because humans are of a herd mentality, for good reason. We determine our own herds and behave accordingly. Some flourish and some stagnate, and we have a choice. And right now that choice seems to be stagnating in tradition or growing through change. Me, I like growing, and change is scary, but you grow.
*DIdn't had any friends last 19 years*
This thing is exactly what I need...
Thanks for sharing Priya!
Also really enjoying putting your words of wisdom into practise within our team :)
susceptibility vs perception management. it's easy to see and hear what you want to see and hear.
I've subtitled this into Arabic, but doesn't approve yet. I wish approval very soon 🙏
@Music Evolution thank you, my greetings for you!
Thank you
Dinner parties are about to get a lot better!
Wow you’re my new idol. So good! ❤
Ted is making life simpler
Exceptional!!!!!!!!!
*Number 1 Get off your darn phones!* 💪
Absolutely I agree
@@michelleottley5292 yup
Sounds great
She has a point. The table should be white too.
Let's make it happen.
Of course Priya Parker knows about transformative gatherings. Getting bitten by that radioactive spider and all....
She's not Peter Parkee's sis
@@Drawphilic thats right, shes Peter Parker from our universe
Ordinary Tree
AO
I actually lol-ed at this joke :D
Lol
Do you guys only do text version of talks on certain ones? I used to see links to text.
Good talk. also her outfit was liiiit
I must say I am very impressed by how well the speaker is dressed. The dress is neither conservative nor liberal. It emphasizes her feminine, natural beauty and yet, at the same time, doesn't invoke sexual thought towards the speaker. This is something that all women need to emulate if they don't want to be objectified and want to have their message heard. Ok, I have to admit... My amazement and admiration for her distracted me from listening to her talk 🙂 and I had to go back... 🙂
Now, on the points: I am in agreement with tailoring events to the specific needs - the baby shower story was a good example; and her line of "the human connection is as threatened by unhealthy peace as by unhealthy conflict" was absolutely brilliant and ever more pressing in our modern times - at least in the US. I'm not so sure about the pop up rules though... But still, overall, it was a great talk, thank you. 🙂
God say that everybody gatherings is a best idea
Tiny powerful actions
For my graduation party I want a cage fight with my song being Stone Cold Steve Austin's theme
*All for 1 & 1 for all*
Don't like the artificiality of her constructs, I much prefer the concept of relaxing a group with some person(s) cultivating spontaneous interaction within the gathering. People overthink simple stuff.
@@BelleRiverHeating hehe.. is your lawnmower electric?
How to not waste time on everyday gatherings now, please
that i so inspire me dude
Culture etiquette is key
honestly i find those stories cringey
I aint the first viewer but im here right nw😁😂😂
How to quit life and reboot?
Step 1: Buddhism. Step 2: Gun.
5:28
HOW ARE THERE 2K VIEWS AND 30 COMMENTS AFTER JUST 20 MINUTES!? Ö
"Hey, Let's turn this into a transformative gathering."
"Priya ffs we just want to have a beer..."
Ooh ooooooh meee! Pick meeeeeee!!!!!🖐🏽
How can it be an atheist and an agnostic household at the same time
Unhealthy peace is a hard concept to accept
*_This video was literally just released._* So people dislike a video based on the title I guess
@Finn MacCool says the guy who went to the comments to bully "liberals"
We need Arabic translations
Smells like teen spirit.
how to never get an invite to a gathering again lol
Lol I thought this was prince Harry's wife. Rachel Zane from Suits, don't remember her name irl
Meghan Markle? lol
liked the topic, some good points in the speach. but today in our western pc culture there is no room left for "good controversy". you can see it in this very speech. non-white woman joking derogatory about white man: totally acceptable. white man joking derogatory about non-white women: you lose your job and get to court.
Yeah sucks, but they literally view white guys as sub propel that you can insult without repercussions
I don't know, mediocre. Not up to usual TED standards.
trying way too hard to be funny, didn't work too well
I have one step and it's marijuana. That usually does the trick.
Finn MacCool don’t speak on what you don’t understand.
2nd commenter
A DEVASTATING solar storm will whip Earth with solar flares that are 272 times hotter than the Sun, according to a terrifying warning.
No.
The best gatherings ever were after Hurricane Harvey and everyone was flooded out for a week in our neighborhood. Nothing like devastation to create meaningful gatherings.
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Good ver naci
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first
First view
Hi priya...
Priya almost like Preethi; she was in law school with me but I always thought she had a nice name. Call the caterer LoL pizza party , soiree or cucumber sandwiches for the golf brunch ? 🧐LMAO 🤩
@@michelleottley5292 priya is a Bengali name. Meaning of priya in Bengali is the person you love too much or wife or lover... etc...
Anti-white racist beginning but I’ll struggle thru to see if there’s an actual productive point
Finn MacCool every white christian i’ve ever met is ridiculously self-centered, but go ahead and try to prove me wrong.
Pointing out systemic racism is racist? Nah, sorry, but it's not.
@@billc8886
Thank you.
Bill C thank you for your service / will pray for u buddy.
Kai McGuire not possible to prove u wrong. I will say this. Many people on the left project. Accuse others of the very things they themselves r guilty of. Prove me wrong.
Sorry - Disliked
Meghan markle
I thought she was gonna talk about witchcraft
I'm the first disliker 😂
Ha haa haaaaa white hahahah, funny punchline hahaha whiteee male bahaha