When I was small, I watched him every chance I got. My parents were drug addicts. This show helped me escape to a land where I felt loved. And I learned alot of lessons. Thank you for sharing this
What another wonderful testimony to Mr. Rogers. I think he truly helped so many children in times of such dysfunctional issues-I am sorry to hear of what you had to endure with your parents, though.
I’m sorry about your tough childhood, but glad that you found a safe, loving escape thanks to this kind, caring man, even if briefly - but reliably! - each day. Aside from the specific content of its episodes, his show’s repetitiveness - although disparaged by many - and consistency offered kids a safe haven amidst their tumultuous & frighteningly unpredictable lives. What a treasure he was. So sorry for my wordiness. All best wishes from someone who as a kid was aided through a dark period week-by-week by a beloved show of my own. I think many - millions - of us “self-therapy-ized" in such a way. Perhaps including Dr. Grande.
Back in the 90’s I wrote to Mr. Rogers telling him what a wonderful and positive teaching influence he had been to all three of my children (going as far back as 1973 (when my son was 3) and well, Mr. Rogers wrote me back a handwritten letter thanking me! I have it to this day!
My parents took me to see Mr. Rogers at a small public event in 1968, when I was four. My guess is there were maybe 20 children there. I have an autographed photo of him from that event. When my own daughter was 4, she and I wrote to him. She drew a picture for him. I told him about when I had seen him and asked if he still made public appearances. He responded with an obviously personal and surprising long letter. Although he no longer made such appearances, he included an updated autographed photo for my daughter. He was so kind!
When my son was a little boy about 5, (and faithfully watched Mr Rogers everyday) he saw one episode of Mr Rogers where they made leaf prints. He made one and sent it to Mr Rogers, who sent him a personally written card, thanking him and encouraging him to continue with appreciating nature, etc. He’s 46 now and was quite upset when his storage unit was broken into a few yrs ago and most everything was stolen, including that card from Mr Rogers. I’m so grateful that he has always realized what a national treasure Mr Rogers was and is. (The only time I went in person to the Rose Parade in Pasadena was to see Mr Rogers when he was Grand Marshall in Jan 2003. He died the following month.)
Fred Rogers once smiled at me when I recognized him on a street in Pittsburgh one day. That moment is stil very special to me. He was an embodiment of kindness.
You can hear the gentle fondness in Dr. Grande’s voice when he talks about Mr. Rogers, which just further emphasizes how important he is to multiple generations. He taught millions of children the value of empathy and kindness.
Yep. Nothing wrong with having empathy and showing kindness towards others... Mix that with responsibility and trying to tell the truth, and then you're dealing with a really decent person regardless of name, ethnicity, skin color, country of origin or language spoken. If anybody ever had their place reserved in heaven, it had to be Mr. Rogers.
I grew up watching Mr. Rogers' Neighborhood. Every day he'd look right at the camera (at me) and tell me he was glad we were friends and that he liked me just the way I was. He was the only adult who said things like that to me when I was a kid. I can't thank him enough for being there when I needed him. He died when I was in my late 30s yet I burst into tears and cried like I was the sad, lonely six year old again.
My 35-year-old daughter wrote Mr. Rogers a letter when she was seven inviting him to dinner at our house. He RSVPed his regrets in a letter to her. He was so kind and gentle.
Back in the late 90's my sister actually met him in person (she was a student at CMU). She had actually just walked out of her apartment and literally bumped into him on the sidewalk. When she realized who it was she was she became completely starstruck and they had a short conversation. I remember her noting above all that (personality wise) he was the exact same person in real life as he was on the TV show! Rest in Peace Mr. Rogers, and thank you for your authenticity!
Thanks for a Kind analysis and tribute to Mr. Rogers. He was an extremely goodhearted soul on and off camera. He was one of a kind. He never showed anger, impatience nor judgment. Just love..
Thank you for disputing the negative rumours about Fred Rogers. He was a gentle man and a genuine genius at soothing generations of children- myself included- facing difficult family dynamics and a media that increasingly romantised violence and mean-spirited behaviours. He should be remembered for his inclusive generosity and kindness. Great analysis.
The only reason why people want to destroy Fred Rogers is because in their minds he was "too good to be true." Some people are just so unhappy that they can only find satisfaction in tearing others down in order to elevate themselves. The basic trouble with the world now is that is it so filled with cynicism and ugliness. So in the minds of these people, things that are beautiful are a threat.
My dad was put in a mental hospital on my first day in kindergarten. My mom was really worried because I cried so much. I started watching Mr Rogers, my mom would put it on for me. He reminded me so much of my dad-minus the mental illness. He helped me immensely during a very difficult time. I’ll always love Mr Rogers.
I'm so sorry about your dad 😥 Mental illness is heartbreaking to witness and the feelings of helplessness as you were growing up must have been excruciating! Big hugs to you!
He was a comfort to me after my parents divorced when I was seven. Even to this day at age 49, I still get a warm happy feeling when I see a picture of him. He is the true definition of a national treasure.
I loved him when I was a child. I wrote to him how he had an effect on on my ADHD child. Indeed, he did write back thanking me for letting him know how my child would slow down to watch him talk. I was surprised. What a kind man.
My home was very chaotic with my parents constantly screaming, cussing and threatening each other and at me on top of physical abuse towards me. Mr Rogers showed me that life doesn't have to be like this. So here I am at 35 watching him with my kids and giving them a better life than I had with his help.
What scares me is that Mr. Kuklinsky the former NJ resident known as the "Iceman" is to some people a role model, hero, and to others a villain. Weird ain't it?
This absolutely made my day. I loved Mr. Rogers. When I was a little girl I wanted to marry him when I grew up. I was so upset when he died that my mom sent me a condolence card. I was 41 years old. Rest in Love, Fred Rogers.
I find it a bit of a sad commentary on our society, when we are “amazed” to see such an all around nice person such as Fred Rogers. We need far more people like him on this planet.
@Betsy Phariss If we need more people like him on this planet then we, the people, must make it so. The only thing we can really control are our thoughts and our actions. If each of us commits to making every day a day to spread goodness then we can shape this world for the better. Try not to let the lack of kind people create sadness. Become empowered to create light where there is none. As Gandhi once said, we must be the change we want to see in the world. Edit: for subject verb agreement
“I’m not diagnosing, only speculating,” that the reason Dr. G’s channel is blowing up,has something to do with the similarities he has with Mr. Rogers; No crudeness, vulgarities, malice, etc. So refreshing! Thank you, Dr. Grande!🙏🏼🥰
Now that you mention it, he does remind me of Mr Rogers in how he speaks and his integrity, kindness, gentleness. I only found him a couple of weeks ago. I’m hooked lol.
Totally agree!!! I love Dr G’s videos. You can tell he’s a kind person and is generally interested in people. He leaves the unfortunate and unnecessary rude comments and disparaging remarks for others.
I loved Mr Rogers, I was afraid of that one old lady puppet. Mr Rogers's was always there to save the day when he tackled with her and she wouldn't be so mean. I love Mr Rogers, he would be a cool Dad to have. God bless him
@@jackiecarter7815 Lady Elaine Fairchild! I agree, she was a scary looking thing ... but I suppose the reason she looked the way she did (not like a beautiful princess or model) is because Mr Rogers wanted to show that the real person INSIDE is more important than the OUTSIDE appearance?
Fred Rogers was a genuinely kind caring man. As a child I watched him diligently and as a 58 year old woman I find comfort in him still. He was a gift.
On a tangent, your comment is remniscent of the quiet beauty of the Lawrence Welk Show. Maybe they were too placid, or maybe the niceness of being nice is sublime.
I agree! I accidentally discovered a series of videos where, before his death, mr Rogers gave interviews to the smithsonian. They should be available on TH-cam & absolutely worth taking the time to watch! Describing him as a gift is so accurate!
Mr. Rogers was such a kind gentleman. I loved the way he spoke and his interaction. It was so healing and peaceful. RIP Mr. Rogers.❤️ Thank you Dr. Grande!❤️
I grew up with abusive parents. I always felt like Mr Rogers saved my life. He was the only adult I ever heard positive things from. He still means so much to me.
Fred Rogers is what being an American icon is all about! A real gentleman and a truly decent human being. Bless his soul. We can each learn something good from his life. Thank you for highlighting him today!
Amen! I learned many good things from him. And now, thanks to this video about him, I've learned there are people who think people caught up in the criminal Justice system should not only get a second chance, but their own television show. Incidentally, I was arrested for drug trafficking in 2006 :: cough, cough ::
@@goodgracious6364 Ok. I agree with you about this. However, here's my problem. Politics is corrupt. Politics is deception and lies. For example. You have the impression that president trump is a mean rotten person and a criminal. Millions of democrats agree with you. I have the impression that Joe Biden and Barack Obama are criminals who broke laws in order to destroy the incoming trump administration. And millions of Republicans agree with me. Half this country agrees with me. Half this country agrees with you. Understand what I'm saying? Democrats have attacked the president's children. Understand that? You can think whatever you want. However? HALF this country thinks you're crazy. And, I'm pretty sure half the country thinks I'm crazy for calling Joe Biden and his drug addict son, criminals for taking millions of dollars from criminal oligarchs in Ukraine and Russia. HALF this country agrees with me. So before you give me a piece of your mind? Just remember, HALF this country is on each of our sides. Politics is whatever you want it to be dear. Always remember that. The day you start thinking you are 100% correct, is the day you've become easily duped and manipulated by bullshit propaganda. And the same holds true for me as well.
@@bradhuskers I get to agree with BOTH of you, because I think they're all a bunch of criminals. And I should know because... well, just see my earlier post :D
@@bradhuskers One-third of adult citizens in this country don't (or can't) vote. So that third finds nothing laudatory or of interest in either candidate, if they ever think of them at all.
Fred Rogers told me that I was okay when I wasn’t getting that from my mother. I always walked away from the TV with warm affirmations and confidence. Broke my heart when he died. He was family to me.
Hi ... so very sorry to hear you had less than ideal mom ... just want to let you know there's a TH-cam channel called "Crappy Childhood Fairy" and she discusses all kinds of topics that you hopefully will find helpful ... healing thoughts and warm wishes to you! ❤️
The Court made divorce/custody issues more troublesome for children to have 2 happy but separate parents who love them. They created broken homes more than we care to know. They make money on our situations…..Crappy Childhood Fairy has a relatable channel on TH-cam. You are Ok…
I saw a story about him, apparently true, that he'd received a letter from a little girl with impaired sight. She'd heard there were pet fish and was worried they weren't being fed enough. So every episode afterwards, he said out loud that he was feeding the fish, to ease her mind. That level of kindness and consideration is very rare.
I REMEMBERED ...when I first saw MR. ROGER'S NEIGHBORHOOD, I FELT SO HAPPY, COMFORTABLE, & SENSED the Positive AURA of MR. ROGERS' Teachings of HEALTHY MENTAL SELF ESTEEM, KINDNESS, LOVE, ACCEPTANCE & TOLERANCE to ALL CHILDREN. LOOKING BACK... I HAVE TO THANK my Kindergarten Teacher who knew I needed help and introduced me to MR. ROGERS. THE REST WAS HISTORY.
I love this channel, and I love it even more after watching this. The pastor of my mother’s church went to seminary with Fred Rogers. He told my mom “What you saw see is what you get.” Fred Rogers was exactly who he appeared to be. The comments here are all so touching. What a wonderful tribute to everyone’s favorite neighbor.
I've said this on several Mister Rogers videos, but there was a physical education teacher who appeared on Fred's show quite often (she later became the principal of a local elementary school that he visited during an episode of his show from 1999), and she has said that Fred was one of the most selfless people she has ever known. and she also said that if you complimented him about something, he would turn the compliment around towards you,
When I was a kid, watching Mr. Rogers on TV showed me that not all adults were mean or hurtful. That there were good grownups out there, ones that didn’t yell at children or call them names but instead were nice and spoke kindly to them. He was a comfort to me.
I was an early childhood professional for a number of years, and I can say that Fred Rogers was very in tune with what young children need in terms of social-emotional learning. Also, the idea that his show had a very set pattern and routine in order to deliver content is very much the ideal in early childhood. Young children experience less anxiety and tend to be more focused when they know what to expect. This is especially true for children from chaotic households, that desperately need routine to help stabilize both mentally and physically (as we know the physical symptoms of stress can be just as dramatic as the mental symptoms). In addition, he wasn't just talking to kids about emotional issues, but also gave tools and suggestions for children to manage their feelings in a way that made sense to them. He was very much a champion of the idea that social-emotional learning is every bit as important as academic skills. He was spot on in that regard. Also, he had a commitment to diversity on his show which there was a lack of in television programming at the time. HIs message wasn't just about saying to a child you are valuable and worthy of love, but also that by the same token everyone else is valuable and worthy of love too. We should treat others as we would like to be treated ourselves. I find that the criticisms leveled at Rogers are generally by people who do not understand how young children learn or what is needed for young children to develop social-emotional competence. I was a Montessori educator for many years of my early childhood career and children need things modeled for them, which Rogers did. They also generally need explicit instruction in social skills. For example, teaching young children about conflict resolution strategies would require modeling (which puppets are a brilliant and non threatening way to do this) as well as discussing what we can do if we disagree with someone. When given the tools and opportunity to practice, it is amazing what young children can do in the way of problem solving on their own. I also like the message that progress was more important than perfection. Rogers reminded children that they are growing and learning with each experience. The idea that even as adults we grow and change was evident in the show. Mistakes were opportunities to learn and do better, not something that lessen our value as people. Many of the topics Rogers covered are still concerns of children today. His message on September 11th was a perfect example about how his message has stood the test of time, as it draws from the same messages present in his shows from the beginning. Truly, he was one of a kind and irreplaceable.
I met him several times when I worked at WQED. He was really like the character and was very kind and well respected. Yes, there really are a few kind, gentle, intelligent and courageous people in this world.
I watched him almost daily when I was really young and I remember how the show would relax me and make me think. I remember there was a lot of focus on empathy and being thoughtful in general.
Did he offset the damage of the bad parenting? Difficult to answer -- or know -- I guess. I was badly affected by parental abuse, and it affects me to this day. It would be useful for everyone to know if damage from abuse can be counteracted with kindness in childhood -- rather than trying to repair the damage in adulthood.
Yup! His show accepted everyone, but at the same time firmly taught lessons in hard work, in reliability, being honest, being a good citizen and friend, and more.
Part of me has always wondered if Mr Rogers telling children they’re special for no reason other than they are who they are has fed the entitled and narcissistic mindset that has exploded
Mr. Rogers was a kind, honest, generous man. I’m thankful his show was something I could count on as a lonely and anxious child. I really loved him. I believe he was 100% real.
What a great tribute to an amazing man! Thank you, Dr. Grande! Just what I expected: "Yup, Fred Rogers was pretty much the perfect human being. The end."
As a Pittsburgher who grew up and once met him, he was everyone’s grandfather. If you had come for him I’d have never watched another episode. I’m so glad you saw the same Mr. R we all knew. I had a horrible childhood, he is one of the few positives that still makes me smile from that time. And now that my kids always say they had such a perfect childhood, I credit him as a role model as I had none.
Thank you for your parting words, Dr. Grande, “I hope whatever neighborhood you’re in, it’s a beautiful day.” And to you to. It is so difficult for the world not have Mr. Rogers in it. He is so missed!
Dr. Grande, when times get rough and you find it hard to look on the coming months with optimism, just remember this: we like you just the way you are.
Right! And not only! And the act of throwing, and the mess and the ugliness of it all. For someone, having come from a country where food as sustenance was highly regarded, respected, not worshiped, to see a lavish item of something edible treated in such manner was just horrific. I remember I was uncomfortable to see pieces of dry pasta used as a decoration in a picture-frame project at my daughter’s preschool. “To waste a perfectly good food for a decoration?” And then a survivor instinct kicked in: “Ok, in a disaster those pieces could be eaten when there was no food left...” Yet on the lighter side, can you imagine what a high it would be to smash a hated pie into someone you hated even more, the mess and all....
@@ArtU4All Pies used onstage are usually just pie tins filled with Cool Whip or something similar. But I don't think that kind of thing is funny either (usually; I have seen clips, which are probably on YT, of Anita Bryant and Bill Gates getting cream-pied THIS WAY).
My son was in love with Fred Rogers as a boy--he grew up with no father and a loving single mom (me).... his father was a nasty heroin addict that i escaped from when he was a baby and built a life for us! My son is the most wonderful man now! He works tirelessly, takes good care of his wife and family and is an avid outdoorsman! (catch and release fisherman).... we were so blessed to have Mr. Rogers Neighborhood in our house as I was a young mother and although I was devoted I admit I made my share of mistakes. Thank you so much Dr. Grande!
Rogers’ testimony in front of the senate is one of the greatest video clips of all time. When you see the most steel hearted people melt by Rogers just speaking, it’s so powerful.
I loved Mr. Rogers growing up. I was very neglected as a child so to have him as a role model is one of the reasons I became a caring, and generous person. My sister hated him although she was 4 years older and had out grown the show. Mr. Rogers always gave me that warm feeling inside and calmed my anxiety as a child. God bless the man and RIP
He was my surrogate daddy, the one that didn't get drunk and be mean to me. He knew how it felt to be bullied as a kid, and instead of letting it destroy him, he channeled those feelings into helping children. He was the real deal, a truly genuine person, and that's why my generation (X), and millennials love him so much, we knew he was what he said he was. The closest person to a saint that I've ever experienced, and I'll feel that way always.
Gosh, I love him so much. It made me cry when Dr. Grande said that Mr. Rogers got into television as a way to nurture children; he certainly achieved that ❤️️
I loved Mr. Rogers when I was a kid. He always felt so calm when he was on tv. I would watch his show and take my afternoon nap. Such a soothing presence. What the world needs now? More Mr. Rogers.
My children were the same. I would let them watch several PBS shows, including Sesame Street but Mr Rodgers show always calmed them down. After kissing the tv to say goodbye to Mr Rodgers they would take their nap. As a mood just loved him.
I really have come to appreciate and observe Dr. Grande’s videos here: I am still relieved to hear that Dr. Grande was able to clarify [ for lack of a better word ], all alleged disputes aligned against Mr. Rogers. I know this is rather unrelated-but even as a child, Mr. Rogers was a tranquil, serene, and ideal situation. 📺 I sometimes remember reflecting that he was the first man that I never heard holler, at all. Also his body language: his smile, his eyes always matched his gestures and voice recognition. He will be forever missed and cherished in my view. I don’t even allow people to remotely joke as far as anything biased, or unrealistic in the slightest. He helped many children: I remember thinking of how safe he seemed to me-at a time when we’re told not to talk to strangers. I admired his work for the “Mr. Roger’s Neighborhood.” 😀
I wrote a letter to him when I was little and gave him a picture I painted. He sent back a thank you letter. One year the cast was touring and I got to see them. Mr Mcfeely couldn't come. I was thrilled to meet Lady Aberlin. They did some songs and skits. I was little. A very good memory.He was also an advocate for respect.
When Fred Rogers passed, it felt like losing a favorite Uncle. What a genuinely good human being who touched and helped so many people through his kind and steady approach. Reminds me of a certain TH-cam doctor. : )
I admit, even as a kid I was skeptical of Mr. Rogers's gentle attitude toward kids. I had seen so few calm, reassuring adults in my life. I'm glad that I was wrong to be suspicious. RIP Mr. Rogers
@@MIKECNW It has nothing to do with foolishness. When someone grows up surrounded by shitty people, it can cause a person to expect the worse in everyone. Different life experiences, lead to different world views....
I didn't feel it as a kid but as an adult I get it. It's hard to believe anyone could be that kind and good hearted. That he was the real deal gives me hope for humanity.
Some of us really needed to hear we were okay from a grown up. ❤️ Sometimes even a small picture of peace and calm is what a child living in chaos needs.
I always wondered... are there *any* examples of children’s TV that actually exhibited violence and sex back in the 1960’s? Like, Westerns were full of gun violence and scalpings, but like gangster/mobster TV shows of the time weren’t _really_ advertised as being for kids, either, right? They just showed them on prime time hours so kids were unintentionally exposed to violence and rude stuff on regular TV after school. Were people talking about cartoon violence like Tom and Jerry, or inappropriate nudity when it shows a person in a bathing suit at the pool, or profanity when a character says “Jesus Christ” or “heck”? Lol
You need both to understand the world. You can't just show children the good things and the good people, or they'll be powerless to deal with the bad. However you should never glorify the bad, and in some instances in media that happens.
Finally watched the movie and I was in tears... I learnt English with Mr Rogers. And at a time that I felt lonely and rejected, I had a moment of feeling special.
This was just great. My best friend and I would run home from high school to eat lunch at her house and watch Mr. Rogers. We would act like smart alecky young teens and laugh and make fun of it. But we watched it every day for months. I was the oldest of ten children and was generally enlisted as a “mini me” to help my mom with the other kids, so didn’t get a lot of time to be a child. I found Mr. Rogers to be so validating and caring. It was soothing to us to watch. We quit making fun, and we have talked over the years about how he somehow really touched us. I was on pins and needles throughout your talk-I was worried that you were going to expose some dark underbelly. Phew! So glad that he was exactly what he appeared to be. Thank you for the uplifting analysis!
With everything known of Fred Rogers, he was the epitome of an intelligent, kind, caring, nurturing and accepting person. He was so ahead of his time with topics about divorce, mental health, race, assassination, law enforcement, physical disabilities. He talked about EVERYTHING.
No Jenn, Fred Rogers did not talk about EVERYTHING. In "Mr Roger's Neighborhood" there was a character known as "Officer Clemmons (played by Francois Clemmons). Clemmons had been seen having a drink in gay bar and it was reported to the "kind, caring, nurturing and accepting person" that you insist Fred Rogers was. Rogers told Clemmons that if he wanted to keep his job on the show he had better stay in the closet. "You must do this because it (your being known as gay) threatens my dream", Clemmons wrote in his memoir. Rogers went further. He suggested to Clemmons that he marry. Clemmons did marry to keep his job. Imagine, Jenn, if he had married you! ...only to tell you years later that he was gay and to divorce you... all on the advice of this "kind, caring, nurturing and accepting person" who was willing to sacrifice Francois Clemmons AND the woman he married, just so he could follow HIS dream. Rogers began his show with a charming little ditty. It went like this: "Won't you please Won't you please Please wont you be my neighbor?" Clearly Francois was not welcome as his neighbor - unless he stayed in the closet. In his video, Dr. Todd Grande includes "equality" as one of Fred Roger's virtues. Tell that to Francois Clemmons.
@@declankelly9829 Different times. Also, who in the hell coerces someone into marriage? This man could have and should have discontinued whatever endeavor they were pursuing together. I'm sick of the victim narrative.
@@LW-ej6id But of course Francois should not have married just because Fred Rogers suggested it would be a good cover up of his gay identity. He must take full responsibility for his actions as we all must. My point here was to show that the humble child loving Fred did not love his peers... his fellow adults... as much as he loved children... or appeared to love children. Im suggesting he had a powerful ego under his child loving facade. I would look at the possibility of himself being gay and having married to cover it up, since he thought this would work so well for Francois. Regards, declan
Thank you for your discussion about Mr. Rogers. I grew up in the 60s and 70s watching Mr. Rogers and as a child in a dysfunctional home I found confort in his program. It's encouraging to know there was such a wonderful
Thank you.. I kept passing over on Fred Rogers, I was scared there would be a negative! I should have known you would present him perfectly. What a wonderful man he was.
I loved Mr Rogers as a child. He was calm, mellow and easy. His gentle quietude was a comfort to me. I was drawn to sweet things and I believe anywhere I could find that loving kindness and gentility became a tether to keep me grounded while growing up in an abusive and hostile environment. They say the apple don't fall far from the tree, but my apple rolled down the hill to a slow winding stream in a quiet meadow in the valley and it's there that I kept a purer spirit from being corrupted. I'm grateful for Mr Rogers' contributions.
This was beautifully put. I didn't have the privilege of watching the show when I was young ( my mother forbade it). However I'm still soothed by episodes I find online as an adult, and find that I can still learn from him, by example if nothing else.
With my crazy and loud ass family, it was strange to see someone so calm. I used to think there was something wrong with him. But as I got older I learned what a good and genuine person he was.
I absolutely loved Mr. Rogers in the late 70's. After coming home from 1/2 day kindergarten, his show and "The Electric Company" were my go-to afternoon entertainment.
He saved my life! Coming from a severely abusive home life where I though all men were mean, scary loud abusers. I couldn’t wait to get home and watch MR’s gentle nature, I expected him to get mad and start yelling/cursing throwing stuff all the time. He made me feel calm because as a child of abuse, I was always FULL OF ANXIETY! But MR was so kind and made you feel you actually mattered!
Hi, sorry to hear that you had a bad childhood! There is a TH-cam channel but you might find to be healing -- it's called "Crappy Childhood Fairy" -- I'm not kidding, that's the real name! Healing thoughts and warm wishes to you!
Fred Rogers spoke at my daughters college graduation. Hearing thousands of students singing “Won’t You Be My Neighbor” was so sweet to hear. (Like they were kids again)🥰
Speaking as a primary school teacher of 35+ years, I'd say that "Mr. Roger's Neighbourhood" was the best ever children's TV show. His loving nature, his total acceptance, his ability to never be judgmental, made him an example of kindness personified. All he did to build good self esteem in children was monumental and so very beneficial.
What a pleasant personality assessment for a change. After hearing your assessments of serial killers, psychopaths, stalkers, and the like, it's good to hearing about someone who is genuinely kind and good and wanted to make the world better.
Thank you for this one Dr. Grande. I was one of the people who requested Fred Rogers. He was gentle and kind soul and such a gift to many children. It’s true he is a lot like Carl Rogers and his approach of unconditional regard and empathy. I believe we need someone like him during our time. ❤️
I couldn't stop crying this entire video. One pure wholesome soul examining the life of another - it's what a lot of us need right now, thank you Dr. Grande.
On a channel that can talks about dark and negative content all the time, it's such a fresh breath of air to watch a positive video about a truly wonderful human being.
This is now my favorite of your videos Dr. Grande. I watched Mr. Rogers when I was a young child. My older sister made fun of me for it but my Mom would tell her to leave me alone & let me watch. I was always a very anxious shy child, & Mr. Rogers was very soothing. I agree with the other positive comments on this video - I wish we had more people like him in the world.
Spot on yet again. What a wonderful man he was. All the comments below are touching too. I watched his show on PBS as a child. He really walked the talk. How lucky we were to have him on TV in our chilhood. Have a wonderful day Dr. Todd!
I had a terrible childhood in the '70's mr Rodgers made it bearable...to this day, tho I never met him...I consider mr Rodgers one of my best r Friends. Forever!
Thank you, Dr. Grande, for this analysis of one of the kindest persons who ever lived. He truly was as nice, kind and intelligent as he appeared to be on his show. He was also a man of faith. He lived by the Golden Rule. His wife gave a brief interview after he died. She said that he really was Mr. Rogers in his personal life and she could not have asked for a better man, a better husband and a better father to their sons. He was very much respected and is very missed. I'm happy that, of all the TH-cam psychologists and wannabe psychologists, you were the right one to pay tribute to him.
I've always appreciated that he never imposed religion on children. He only spoke of basic moral principles that all humans should have, despite religion or lack thereof. Shoving religion down a child's throat is much more damaging than some people realize. Mr. Roger's was a key part of my youth & I'm grateful for that.
My favorite episode Dr. Grande. A really good man, helping children. Mr. Rogers was a good man when the camera turned off. Nice to have a positive episode Dr. Grande, thank you.
Yes, thank you Dr. Grande for this tribute to a very good man! Mr. Rogers allowed many, many children to feel respected and understood just as they were, as children.
I think it shows how cynical we are as a society where we think a genuinely good and caring man whose passion in life was to help kids become better people that people assume he has some sordid past.
I want to put in a good word here for having a "sordid past". We ALL are often not our best selves, privately or publicly. As long as he wasn't criminal or unethical, and Dr. Grande makes a good case that there's nothing there, there, then no one should care in the least how he behaved off camera. People are entitled to privacy, and mature adults not only accept and respect that, they expect other adults, mature or otherwise, to accept and respect that, too.
I actually work with kids myself, and Mr. R was a big part of my childhood, but I admit, ever since OJ became a murderer, Bill Cosby was revealed to be a rapist, etc., every time I hear one of my childhood heroes mentioned on the news, my gut clenches up just a little. A little part of me fears that they might be revealed as imposters, or worse. I’m so glad to have one childhood hero-probably the most important one-who never disappointed.
Dr. Grande, this has made me realize that your calm, deliberate way of speaking as well as the predictable structure of your videos are somewhat reminiscent of Mr. Rogers! That is a compliment, and (I believe) no small reason why I and others enjoy your videos so much.
I didn't expect to have such an emotional response to this video but here we are...Fred Rogers had a pivotal role in my personal survival as a child. If not for his television program, I doubt I would have maintained the resiliency to overcome the circumstances of my early childhood. Without burdening this comment with those details, I will say that Mr. Rogers was my comforter. In the mind of this child, he provided my only access to positive affirmation. He was at one time during my earliest years the only representation of an adult who demonstrated kindness and gentle, positive regard. I attribute his influence for my learning to read and write and to believe there was a world.beyomd the walls I was confined where happiness was possible and there was hope of being loved . He was proof that people existed who didn't hurt children and ithis was the basis of my make believe world where I would go to escape the overwhelming terror I experienced at the hands of the adults around me. I am forever grateful to this man for being my "friend" and I credit his influence as one that provided the hope I needed to resist succumbing to those impossibly cruel circumstances. Thank you, Mr. Rogers for being the only friend to a very frightened and abused little girl .
I had not been a child for a long time when Mr. Rogers was on TV. However, as an adult, I frequently stopped to visit my parents during my lunch break and my 40 something self and 60 year old mother would watch Mr. Rogers reruns together. I became quite fond of him, I particularly liked the music. Fred was quite a good musician, and he had one of the all time great jazzers, Johnny Costa, as the house pianist and band leader. So, even musically, Mr. Rogers never talked down to kids. I sometimes wish that I could be more like he was. By the way, a couple of times during your presentation I thought I heard a bit of a emotional catch in your voice? Well, Mr. Rogers had that effect on lots of people, not just children.
I remember thinking the same thing when I watched the show with my kids: "Man, for a children's show, this little half hour has some pretty cool music thrown in here and there!" Little did I know...
My father was absent and mother alcoholic, Mr. Roger's added so much to my life! I learned kindness, sharing and loved the episode with a black policeman. I adored this one and learned so much from him that carried into adulthood. Thank you Mr. Roger's for all you gave to me!!
I enjoyed Mr Rogers with my daughter when she was small and again when my daughter had children, I watched with my grandchildren. His gentle and loving voice was wonderful and I think he really encouraged children to use their imagination and also taught good manners and good ethics in a fun way.
When I was small, I watched him every chance I got. My parents were drug addicts. This show helped me escape to a land where I felt loved. And I learned alot of lessons. Thank you for sharing this
Same!
What another wonderful testimony to Mr. Rogers. I think he truly helped so many children in times of such dysfunctional issues-I am sorry to hear of what you had to endure with your parents, though.
@Luke Downing very unhelpful troll
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I’m sorry about your tough childhood, but glad that you found a safe, loving escape thanks to this kind, caring man, even if briefly - but reliably! - each day. Aside from the specific content of its episodes, his show’s repetitiveness - although disparaged by many - and consistency offered kids a safe haven amidst their tumultuous & frighteningly unpredictable lives. What a treasure he was.
So sorry for my wordiness. All best wishes from someone who as a kid was aided through a dark period week-by-week by a beloved show of my own. I think many - millions - of us “self-therapy-ized" in such a way. Perhaps including Dr. Grande.
Back in the 90’s I wrote to Mr. Rogers telling him what a wonderful and positive teaching influence he had been to all three of my children (going as far back as 1973 (when my son was 3) and well, Mr. Rogers wrote me back a handwritten letter thanking me! I have it to this day!
Fred Rogers would be a Man in my book. A Good Man
What a treasure
Wow!!
Lame.
Sounds like a great man .
Fred Rogers was a treasure to humanity. We need more Mr. Rogers now more than ever.
His secret military sniper history says otherwise.
Didn't he have a thing for sticking his hands in puppets? He was a weirdo.
@@mattheww797 doesn't change anything
Toby Fox might just be the Fred Rogers of his generation. The Annoying Dog is to Toby what the character Daniel was to Mr. Rogers.
@@mattheww797 Is this supposed to be a joke?
My parents took me to see Mr. Rogers at a small public event in 1968, when I was four. My guess is there were maybe 20 children there. I have an autographed photo of him from that event. When my own daughter was 4, she and I wrote to him. She drew a picture for him. I told him about when I had seen him and asked if he still made public appearances. He responded with an obviously personal and surprising long letter. Although he no longer made such appearances, he included an updated autographed photo for my daughter. He was so kind!
Amazing
Woah that’s amazing
When my son was a little boy about 5, (and faithfully watched Mr Rogers everyday) he saw one episode of Mr Rogers where they made leaf prints. He made one and sent it to Mr Rogers, who sent him a personally written card, thanking him and encouraging him to continue with appreciating nature, etc. He’s 46 now and was quite upset when his storage unit was broken into a few yrs ago and most everything was stolen, including that card from Mr Rogers. I’m so grateful that he has always realized what a national treasure Mr Rogers was and is.
(The only time I went in person to the Rose Parade in Pasadena was to see Mr Rogers when he was Grand Marshall in Jan 2003. He died the following month.)
Thank you for sharing such special memories. I loved Mr Roger's. He was my guide in how to see and be kind to myself and others
Fred Rogers once smiled at me when I recognized him on a street in Pittsburgh one day. That moment is stil very special to me. He was an embodiment of kindness.
He is the epitome of unconditional love, yes I know he dead. I use is to keep that unconditional love going on.
You can hear the gentle fondness in Dr. Grande’s voice when he talks about Mr. Rogers, which just further emphasizes how important he is to multiple generations. He taught millions of children the value of empathy and kindness.
Yep. Nothing wrong with having empathy and showing kindness towards others... Mix that with responsibility and trying to tell the truth, and then you're dealing with a really decent person regardless of name, ethnicity, skin color, country of origin or language spoken. If anybody ever had their place reserved in heaven, it had to be Mr. Rogers.
You’re right. We can hear it and see it in Dr. Grande. It’s sweet
I saw that as well! Dr. Todd 's personal hero, it would seem.
He was speaking directly to me in the 80s, I truly felt like he was an active part in my life.
So true. I see it now.
I grew up watching Mr. Rogers' Neighborhood. Every day he'd look right at the camera (at me) and tell me he was glad we were friends and that he liked me just the way I was. He was the only adult who said things like that to me when I was a kid. I can't thank him enough for being there when I needed him. He died when I was in my late 30s yet I burst into tears and cried like I was the sad, lonely six year old again.
I also wept when Fred Rogers died. It felt like I had lost a family member.
That is so heart warming. Bless you.
@@abcmxyz I'm a big fan of Mr Rogers and Michael Jackson . I'd be your fan too 😊 I love sweet ppl.
My 35-year-old daughter wrote Mr. Rogers a letter when she was seven inviting him to dinner at our house. He RSVPed his regrets in a letter to her. He was so kind and gentle.
Back in the late 90's my sister actually met him in person (she was a student at CMU). She had actually just walked out of her apartment and literally bumped into him on the sidewalk. When she realized who it was she was she became completely starstruck and they had a short conversation. I remember her noting above all that (personality wise) he was the exact same person in real life as he was on the TV show! Rest in Peace Mr. Rogers, and thank you for your authenticity!
Thanks for a Kind analysis and tribute to Mr. Rogers. He was an extremely goodhearted soul on and off camera. He was one of a kind. He never showed anger, impatience nor judgment. Just love..
Thank you for disputing the negative rumours about Fred Rogers. He was a gentle man and a genuine genius at soothing generations of children- myself included- facing difficult family dynamics and a media that increasingly romantised violence and mean-spirited behaviours. He should be remembered for his inclusive generosity and kindness. Great analysis.
The only reason why people want to destroy Fred Rogers is because in their minds he was "too good to be true." Some people are just so unhappy that they can only find satisfaction in tearing others down in order to elevate themselves. The basic trouble with the world now is that is it so filled with cynicism and ugliness. So in the minds of these people, things that are beautiful are a threat.
My dad was put in a mental hospital on my first day in kindergarten. My mom was really worried because I cried so much. I started watching Mr Rogers, my mom would put it on for me. He reminded me so much of my dad-minus the mental illness. He helped me immensely during a very difficult time. I’ll always love Mr Rogers.
I'm so sorry about your dad 😥 Mental illness is heartbreaking to witness and the feelings of helplessness as you were growing up must have been excruciating! Big hugs to you!
Bless you for bieng so brave
Did u turn out ok ?
He was a comfort to me after my parents divorced when I was seven. Even to this day at age 49, I still get a warm happy feeling when I see a picture of him. He is the true definition of a national treasure.
Always gave me the creeps
@@christinepedersen5511 I made fun of him when I was a teen, but when I had a child, I found that Mr Rogers was the best friend a mom could have.
My oldest wanted me to marry Mr Rogers lol . Given the way my ex behaved I would have been better off 😂
My grandmother had the privilege of meeting him in person. She said he was literally the sweetest and kindest individual she ever met.
How fortunate for your grandmother!
I read this as... "My grandmother had the privilege of meeting him in prison."
@@Superapearmy maybe you should learn how to read properly.
...then, she went missing and her body was found five years later.
Jelly! 😃
I loved him when I was a child. I wrote to him how he had an effect on on my ADHD child. Indeed, he did write back thanking me for letting him know how my child would slow down to watch him talk. I was surprised. What a kind man.
My home was very chaotic with my parents constantly screaming, cussing and threatening each other and at me on top of physical abuse towards me. Mr Rogers showed me that life doesn't have to be like this. So here I am at 35 watching him with my kids and giving them a better life than I had with his help.
FRESH GRANDE! I love when you analyze "heroes" along with society's "villains."
"Fresh Grande" sounds like a summer Starbucks drink
@@angiet7380 I'll bet you that it will be at least $5, Starbucks ain't cheap but they are delish!☕
Hard to quantify the true brilliance and pure creative genius of Fred. Unique in all of human history.
Agree! As much as I love true crime, it’s great to hear about good humans too. 💖
What scares me is that Mr. Kuklinsky the former NJ resident known as the "Iceman" is to some people a role model, hero, and to others a villain. Weird ain't it?
This absolutely made my day. I loved Mr. Rogers. When I was a little girl I wanted to marry him when I grew up. I was so upset when he died that my mom sent me a condolence card. I was 41 years old. Rest in Love, Fred Rogers.
Awwwwwww, your mom sounds like a funny and empathetic person! I miss Mr. Rogers...he was one of a kind!
What a sweet and thoughtful gesture by your mother!
Congratulations on realizing at a young age what type is marriage material.
I find it a bit of a sad commentary on our society, when we are “amazed” to see such an all around nice person such as Fred Rogers. We need far more people like him on this planet.
Yes indeed.
@Betsy Phariss If we need more people like him on this planet then we, the people, must make it so. The only thing we can really control are our thoughts and our actions. If each of us commits to making every day a day to spread goodness then we can shape this world for the better.
Try not to let the lack of kind people create sadness. Become empowered to create light where there is none.
As Gandhi once said, we must be the change we want to see in the world.
Edit: for subject verb agreement
Hey, Betsy. It can start with you! Not to say you aren't nice already, ya know.
People like Fred are broken down by other people every single day. This starts with the parents, so let’s stop breaking people down first.
i know right. sad. i still have hope for humanity though.
I loved Mr. Rogers. I wish I had him around now to tell me “He likes me just the way I am”. God Bless you Mr. Rogers…. I love your sense of humor, Dr.
When I was a young mom, and Mr. Rogers was on for the kids, I felt like he was actually helping me cope with my feelings. I always admired him.
“I’m not diagnosing, only speculating,” that the reason Dr. G’s channel is blowing up,has something to do with the similarities he has with Mr. Rogers; No crudeness, vulgarities, malice, etc. So refreshing! Thank you, Dr. Grande!🙏🏼🥰
Now that you mention it, he does remind me of Mr Rogers in how he speaks and his integrity, kindness, gentleness. I only found him a couple of weeks ago. I’m hooked lol.
@@Itwasme5071 Same thing happened to me, I subscribed from the first time I came across his channel.👌😀
Totally agree!!! I love Dr G’s videos. You can tell he’s a kind person and is generally interested in people. He leaves the unfortunate and unnecessary rude comments and disparaging remarks for others.
Well said!!
I love his "jokes". So stone faced and perfect 😆
"We love you just the way you are" - magical words to a child, and the adult they become. Mr. Rogers was a gift to humanity.
“Yes” he was....
He truly was!
I loved Mr Rogers, I was afraid of that one old lady puppet. Mr Rogers's was always there to save the day when he tackled with her and she wouldn't be so mean. I love Mr Rogers, he would be a cool Dad to have. God bless him
@@jackiecarter7815 Lady Elaine Fairchild! I agree, she was a scary looking thing ... but I suppose the reason she looked the way she did (not like a beautiful princess or model) is because Mr Rogers wanted to show that the real person INSIDE is more important than the OUTSIDE appearance?
@@SwimminWitDaFishies I thought way back when that a Museum Go-Round would be the coolest job in the world. Eh, who am I kidding? I STILL think so.
Fred Rogers was a genuinely kind caring man. As a child I watched him diligently and as a 58 year old woman I find comfort in him still. He was a gift.
Same. And I cry every time I see him, hear about him.
I'm 53 and couldn't imagine my childhood without Mr. Rogers.
On a tangent, your comment is remniscent of the quiet beauty of the Lawrence Welk Show. Maybe they were too placid, or maybe the niceness of being nice is sublime.
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I agree! I accidentally discovered a series of videos where, before his death, mr Rogers gave interviews to the smithsonian. They should be available on TH-cam & absolutely worth taking the time to watch! Describing him as a gift is so accurate!
Mr. Rogers was such a kind gentleman. I loved the way he spoke and his interaction. It was so healing and peaceful. RIP Mr. Rogers.❤️ Thank you Dr. Grande!❤️
I grew up with abusive parents. I always felt like Mr Rogers saved my life. He was the only adult I ever heard positive things from. He still means so much to me.
Fred Rogers is what being an American icon is all about! A real gentleman and a truly decent human being. Bless his soul. We can each learn something good from his life. Thank you for highlighting him today!
Amen! I learned many good things from him. And now, thanks to this video about him, I've learned there are people who think people caught up in the criminal Justice system should not only get a second chance, but their own television show.
Incidentally, I was arrested for drug trafficking in 2006 :: cough, cough ::
There are no perfect human beings.
All are flawed.
@@goodgracious6364
Ok.
I agree with you about this.
However, here's my problem.
Politics is corrupt.
Politics is deception and lies.
For example.
You have the impression that president trump is a mean rotten person and a criminal.
Millions of democrats agree with you.
I have the impression that Joe Biden and Barack Obama are criminals who broke laws in order to destroy the incoming trump administration.
And millions of Republicans agree with me.
Half this country agrees with me.
Half this country agrees with you.
Understand what I'm saying?
Democrats have attacked the president's children.
Understand that?
You can think whatever you want.
However?
HALF this country thinks you're crazy.
And, I'm pretty sure half the country thinks I'm crazy for calling Joe Biden and his drug addict son, criminals for taking millions of dollars from criminal oligarchs in Ukraine and Russia.
HALF this country agrees with me.
So before you give me a piece of your mind? Just remember, HALF this country is on each of our sides.
Politics is whatever you want it to be dear.
Always remember that.
The day you start thinking you are 100% correct, is the day you've become easily duped and manipulated by bullshit propaganda.
And the same holds true for me as well.
@@bradhuskers I get to agree with BOTH of you, because I think they're all a bunch of criminals. And I should know because... well, just see my earlier post :D
@@bradhuskers One-third of adult citizens in this country don't (or can't) vote. So that third finds nothing laudatory or of interest in either candidate, if they ever think of them at all.
Fred Rogers told me that I was okay when I wasn’t getting that from my mother. I always walked away from the TV with warm affirmations and confidence. Broke my heart when he died. He was family to me.
Hi ... so very sorry to hear you had less than ideal mom ... just want to let you know there's a TH-cam channel called "Crappy Childhood Fairy" and she discusses all kinds of topics that you hopefully will find helpful ... healing thoughts and warm wishes to you! ❤️
The Court made divorce/custody issues more troublesome for children to have 2 happy but separate parents who love them. They created broken homes more than we care to know. They make money on our situations…..Crappy Childhood Fairy has a relatable channel on TH-cam. You are Ok…
I saw a story about him, apparently true, that he'd received a letter from a little girl with impaired sight. She'd heard there were pet fish and was worried they weren't being fed enough. So every episode afterwards, he said out loud that he was feeding the fish, to ease her mind. That level of kindness and consideration is very rare.
I REMEMBERED ...when
I first saw MR. ROGER'S NEIGHBORHOOD,
I FELT SO HAPPY, COMFORTABLE, & SENSED the Positive AURA of MR. ROGERS' Teachings of HEALTHY MENTAL SELF ESTEEM, KINDNESS, LOVE, ACCEPTANCE & TOLERANCE to ALL CHILDREN.
LOOKING BACK...
I HAVE TO THANK my Kindergarten Teacher who knew I needed help and introduced me to MR. ROGERS. THE REST WAS HISTORY.
I love this channel, and I love it even more after watching this. The pastor of my mother’s church went to seminary with Fred Rogers. He told my mom “What you saw see is what you get.” Fred Rogers was exactly who he appeared to be.
The comments here are all so touching. What a wonderful tribute to everyone’s favorite neighbor.
I've said this on several Mister Rogers videos, but there was a physical education teacher who appeared on Fred's show quite often (she later became the principal of a local elementary school that he visited during an episode of his show from 1999), and she has said that Fred was one of the most selfless people she has ever known. and she also said that if you complimented him about something, he would turn the compliment around towards you,
Fred Rogers is a role model for humanity in a lot of ways, especially since he was a real person and not some character in a book, TV or a movie.
Right ❤
My 5-year-old self used to run up and kiss the TV screen when Mr Rogers came on. Thanks for covering him, Dr Grande!
My sister watched him in adulthood, oh, sure with the grandson but for her as well. Hard childhood but I think he soothed her.
Aww 😌
So sweet! ❤❤❤
Too cute!
Oh, I love hearing that! How incredibly precious. Thank you for a sweet image to replay during the day!
When I was a kid, watching Mr. Rogers on TV showed me that not all adults were mean or hurtful. That there were good grownups out there, ones that didn’t yell at children or call them names but instead were nice and spoke kindly to them. He was a comfort to me.
I was an early childhood professional for a number of years, and I can say that Fred Rogers was very in tune with what young children need in terms of social-emotional learning. Also, the idea that his show had a very set pattern and routine in order to deliver content is very much the ideal in early childhood. Young children experience less anxiety and tend to be more focused when they know what to expect. This is especially true for children from chaotic households, that desperately need routine to help stabilize both mentally and physically (as we know the physical symptoms of stress can be just as dramatic as the mental symptoms). In addition, he wasn't just talking to kids about emotional issues, but also gave tools and suggestions for children to manage their feelings in a way that made sense to them. He was very much a champion of the idea that social-emotional learning is every bit as important as academic skills. He was spot on in that regard.
Also, he had a commitment to diversity on his show which there was a lack of in television programming at the time. HIs message wasn't just about saying to a child you are valuable and worthy of love, but also that by the same token everyone else is valuable and worthy of love too. We should treat others as we would like to be treated ourselves.
I find that the criticisms leveled at Rogers are generally by people who do not understand how young children learn or what is needed for young children to develop social-emotional competence. I was a Montessori educator for many years of my early childhood career and children need things modeled for them, which Rogers did. They also generally need explicit instruction in social skills. For example, teaching young children about conflict resolution strategies would require modeling (which puppets are a brilliant and non threatening way to do this) as well as discussing what we can do if we disagree with someone. When given the tools and opportunity to practice, it is amazing what young children can do in the way of problem solving on their own.
I also like the message that progress was more important than perfection. Rogers reminded children that they are growing and learning with each experience. The idea that even as adults we grow and change was evident in the show. Mistakes were opportunities to learn and do better, not something that lessen our value as people.
Many of the topics Rogers covered are still concerns of children today. His message on September 11th was a perfect example about how his message has stood the test of time, as it draws from the same messages present in his shows from the beginning. Truly, he was one of a kind and irreplaceable.
Wonderful comments! You hit the nail on the head!🙂
Fantastic insight. Thank you for this.
Well said. He had tremendous wisdom and insight into how to reach and educate children in the most important things, things that are often neglected.
For many children, Fred Rogers provided stability that wasn't available to them at home or in school.
Excellent insight! You've articulated how I felt as a 3-12 year old watching, connecting and loving Mr. Rogers. 💜
I met him several times when I worked at WQED. He was really like the character and was very kind and well respected. Yes, there really are a few kind, gentle, intelligent and courageous people in this world.
Your so lucky 😊
I watched him almost daily when I was really young and I remember how the show would relax me and make me think. I remember there was a lot of focus on empathy and being thoughtful in general.
Me. Rogers was my Xanax as a small child growing up in violence, addiction, poverty, and abuse. An absolute blessing to my generation.
@Stephanie Merrow Stew... I Iike that, Xanax whilst growing up.. Sounds like he was a real help for you..
AGREED
WELL DONE...
Did he offset the damage of the bad parenting?
Difficult to answer -- or know -- I guess.
I was badly affected by parental abuse, and it affects me to this day. It would be useful for everyone to know if damage from abuse can be counteracted with kindness in childhood -- rather than trying to repair the damage in adulthood.
@@anthonyryan998. I would say no.. It cannot be counteracted with kindness.. Professional help will always be required, in my opinion..
Indeed, self-esteem should never be mistaken for self entitlement.
Mr Rogers knew the difference.
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yes, he encouraged self worth and reciprocal empathy towards others
Yup! His show accepted everyone, but at the same time firmly taught lessons in hard work, in reliability, being honest, being a good citizen and friend, and more.
Part of me has always wondered if Mr Rogers telling children they’re special for no reason other than they are who they are has fed the entitled and narcissistic mindset that has exploded
@@redram5150 I don't think so. He also showed admiration for people succeeding at something.
Mr. Rogers was a kind, honest, generous man. I’m thankful his show was something I could count on as a lonely and anxious child. I really loved him. I believe he was 100% real.
He was real
I was lonely as well, but Mr Rogers wasn’t on tv yet. I’m glad Mr Rogers brought you comfort! And I hope u grew up to create the life u wanted..
@@janetpattison8474 Thank you for your kind words. ❤️
The only thing I can say is that, "We miss you, Mr. Rogers." R.I.P
What a great tribute to an amazing man! Thank you, Dr. Grande! Just what I expected: "Yup, Fred Rogers was pretty much the perfect human being. The end."
As a Pittsburgher who grew up and once met him, he was everyone’s grandfather. If you had come for him I’d have never watched another episode. I’m so glad you saw the same Mr. R we all knew. I had a horrible childhood, he is one of the few positives that still makes me smile from that time. And now that my kids always say they had such a perfect childhood, I credit him as a role model as I had none.
I watch every thing I see about Mr. Rogers, scared there will be something negative. I should know better by now. He was a genuinely decent person.
I thought the same thing. “If Dr Grande doesn’t like Mr Rodgers I’m done with this channel.” I’m so glad to hear positive things!
God bless you for loving your kids enough to give them more than you were given. You deserved more then!
Thank you for your parting words, Dr. Grande, “I hope whatever neighborhood you’re in, it’s a beautiful day.” And to you to. It is so difficult for the world not have Mr. Rogers in it. He is so missed!
Dr. Grande, when times get rough and you find it hard to look on the coming months with optimism, just remember this: we like you just the way you are.
Clever!
Touching! Excellent sentiment!
Oh Ritter my inner kid just flipped reading this!
he's good enough, he's smart enough and gosh darn it, people like him
I know I do!
I would say that Fred Rogers was a fully actualized human being. A real gem. 💎
I agree
His sons and wife loved him. Very telling of how genuine he was.
...don't most people's children and spouses love them?
@@colinmontgomery1956 maybe most but not all. People who didn’t have monsters for parents never understand that. But I’m glad for them.
You have to respect a man who didn't believe in wasting a good pie
Right!
And not only! And the act of throwing, and the mess and the ugliness of it all.
For someone, having come from a country where food as sustenance was highly regarded, respected, not worshiped, to see a lavish item of something edible treated in such manner was just horrific. I remember I was uncomfortable to see pieces of dry pasta used as a decoration in a picture-frame project at my daughter’s preschool. “To waste a perfectly good food for a decoration?” And then a survivor instinct kicked in: “Ok, in a disaster those pieces could be eaten when there was no food left...”
Yet on the lighter side, can you imagine what a high it would be to smash a hated pie into someone you hated even more, the mess and all....
@@ArtU4All Pies used onstage are usually just pie tins filled with Cool Whip or something similar. But I don't think that kind of thing is funny either (usually; I have seen clips, which are probably on YT, of Anita Bryant and Bill Gates getting cream-pied THIS WAY).
Along those lines, to me it’s childish and disgusting to see brides and grooms cramming cake into each other’s face.
@@A2D4
🙏🙏🙏
The same. We must’ve grown up in different from here cultures.
Especially if it is pumpkin pie.
My son was in love with Fred Rogers as a boy--he grew up with no father and a loving single mom (me).... his father was a nasty heroin addict that i escaped from when he was a baby and built a life for us! My son is the most wonderful man now! He works tirelessly, takes good care of his wife and family and is an avid outdoorsman! (catch and release fisherman).... we were so blessed to have Mr. Rogers Neighborhood in our house as I was a young mother and although I was devoted I admit I made my share of mistakes. Thank you so much Dr. Grande!
Rogers’ testimony in front of the senate is one of the greatest video clips of all time. When you see the most steel hearted people melt by Rogers just speaking, it’s so powerful.
Who can say “no” to Mr. Rogers?
You think anyone that harmed Mr.Rodger neighborhood could ever win a election again 😂
Agree! That clip is so touching. You can see how much he genuinely cared for the well being of children ❤
Thanks, I hadn't seen it before.
This, yes. 🙂😭🙂 That clip has me moved to tears every time. Im like, wow, pure goodness. So rare! He did exist. We can follow his example.
I'll never forget watching a video of a non-American woman reacting to Mr. Rodgers. His lessons and personality actually moved her to tears.
I loved Mr. Rogers growing up. I was very neglected as a child so to have him as a role model is one of the reasons I became a caring, and generous person. My sister hated him although she was 4 years older and had out grown the show. Mr. Rogers always gave me that warm feeling inside and calmed my anxiety as a child. God bless the man and RIP
He was my surrogate daddy, the one that didn't get drunk and be mean to me. He knew how it felt to be bullied as a kid, and instead of letting it destroy him, he channeled those feelings into helping children. He was the real deal, a truly genuine person, and that's why my generation (X), and millennials love him so much, we knew he was what he said he was. The closest person to a saint that I've ever experienced, and I'll feel that way always.
Gosh, I love him so much. It made me cry when Dr. Grande said that Mr. Rogers got into television as a way to nurture children; he certainly achieved that ❤️️
I loved Mr. Rogers when I was a kid. He always felt so calm when he was on tv. I would watch his show and take my afternoon nap. Such a soothing presence. What the world needs now? More Mr. Rogers.
Mr. Grande often reminds me of Mr. Rogers...
My children were the same. I would let them watch several PBS shows, including Sesame Street but Mr Rodgers show always calmed them down. After kissing the tv to say goodbye to Mr Rodgers they would take their nap. As a mood just loved him.
“As a mother” not mood!
He seemed to be a wonderful human being. Wish we had more like him. Thank you!
He was!
I really have come to appreciate and observe Dr. Grande’s videos here: I am still relieved to hear that Dr. Grande was able to clarify [ for lack of a better word ], all alleged disputes aligned against Mr. Rogers. I know this is rather unrelated-but even as a child, Mr. Rogers was a tranquil, serene, and ideal situation. 📺 I sometimes remember reflecting that he was the first man that I never heard holler, at all. Also his body language: his smile, his eyes always matched his gestures and voice recognition. He will be forever missed and cherished in my view. I don’t even allow people to remotely joke as far as anything biased, or unrealistic in the slightest. He helped many children: I remember thinking of how safe he seemed to me-at a time when we’re told not to talk to strangers. I admired his work for the “Mr. Roger’s Neighborhood.” 😀
I wrote a letter to him when I was little and gave him a picture I painted. He sent back a thank you letter. One year the cast was touring and I got to see them. Mr Mcfeely couldn't come. I was thrilled to meet Lady Aberlin. They did some songs and skits. I was little. A very good memory.He was also an advocate for respect.
When Fred Rogers passed, it felt like losing a favorite Uncle. What a genuinely good human being who touched and helped so many people through his kind and steady approach. Reminds me of a certain TH-cam doctor. : )
I admit, even as a kid I was skeptical of Mr. Rogers's gentle attitude toward kids. I had seen so few calm, reassuring adults in my life. I'm glad that I was wrong to be suspicious.
RIP Mr. Rogers
You gotta be a foolish person. I never felt that way.
@@MIKECNW
It has nothing to do with foolishness.
When someone grows up surrounded by shitty people, it can cause a person to expect the worse in everyone.
Different life experiences, lead to different world views....
I didn't feel it as a kid but as an adult I get it. It's hard to believe anyone could be that kind and good hearted. That he was the real deal gives me hope for humanity.
Thinking of him now I almost want to cry at the genuine goodness of him.
Some of us really needed to hear we were okay from a grown up. ❤️ Sometimes even a small picture of peace and calm is what a child living in chaos needs.
LOVE Mr. Rogers! His was the polar opposite of the ugly, violent children's programs on TV then and now.
@@TuberoseKisser Your comment is incoherent.
I always wondered... are there *any* examples of children’s TV that actually exhibited violence and sex back in the 1960’s? Like, Westerns were full of gun violence and scalpings, but like gangster/mobster TV shows of the time weren’t _really_ advertised as being for kids, either, right? They just showed them on prime time hours so kids were unintentionally exposed to violence and rude stuff on regular TV after school.
Were people talking about cartoon violence like Tom and Jerry, or inappropriate nudity when it shows a person in a bathing suit at the pool, or profanity when a character says “Jesus Christ” or “heck”? Lol
You need both to understand the world. You can't just show children the good things and the good people, or they'll be powerless to deal with the bad. However you should never glorify the bad, and in some instances in media that happens.
I could tell the difference when Mr Rogers was on from when Power Rangers was on!
Yup
Finally watched the movie and I was in tears... I learnt English with Mr Rogers. And at a time that I felt lonely and rejected, I had a moment of feeling special.
I seriously get teary eyed just thinking about Mr. Rogers. He was so kind and taught such wonderful lessons
Me too!
A wonderful, legend of a man! I grew up watching him and I adore him to this day, always will!
I grew up with Mr. Rogers, I was really sad when I heard about his passing. Thank You Mr. Rogers.
This was just great. My best friend and I would run home from high school to eat lunch at her house and watch Mr. Rogers. We would act like smart alecky young teens and laugh and make fun of it. But we watched it every day for months. I was the oldest of ten children and was generally enlisted as a “mini me” to help my mom with the other kids, so didn’t get a lot of time to be a child. I found Mr. Rogers to be so validating and caring. It was soothing to us to watch. We quit making fun, and we have talked over the years about how he somehow really touched us.
I was on pins and needles throughout your talk-I was worried that you were going to expose some dark underbelly. Phew! So glad that he was exactly what he appeared to be. Thank you for the uplifting analysis!
With everything known of Fred Rogers, he was the epitome of an intelligent, kind, caring, nurturing and accepting person. He was so ahead of his time with topics about divorce, mental health, race, assassination, law enforcement, physical disabilities. He talked about EVERYTHING.
@Paul Wieringa thank you, Paul but no. The FCC would have pulled his charter. And then where would you be without an easy target?
No Jenn, Fred Rogers did not talk about EVERYTHING. In "Mr Roger's Neighborhood" there was a character known as "Officer Clemmons (played by Francois Clemmons). Clemmons had been seen having a drink in gay bar and it was reported to the "kind, caring, nurturing and accepting person" that you insist Fred Rogers was. Rogers told Clemmons that if he wanted to keep his job on the show he had better stay in the closet. "You must do this because it (your being known as gay) threatens my dream", Clemmons wrote in his memoir.
Rogers went further. He suggested to Clemmons that he marry. Clemmons did marry to keep his job.
Imagine, Jenn, if he had married you! ...only to tell you years later that he was gay and to divorce you... all on the advice of this "kind, caring, nurturing and accepting person" who was willing to sacrifice Francois Clemmons AND the woman he married, just so he could follow HIS dream.
Rogers began his show with a charming little ditty.
It went like this:
"Won't you please
Won't you please
Please wont you be my neighbor?"
Clearly Francois was not welcome as his neighbor - unless he stayed in the closet.
In his video, Dr. Todd Grande includes "equality" as one of Fred Roger's virtues.
Tell that to Francois Clemmons.
@@declankelly9829 Different times. Also, who in the hell coerces someone into marriage? This man could have and should have discontinued whatever endeavor they were pursuing together. I'm sick of the victim narrative.
@Paul Wieringa Excellent Paul.
@@LW-ej6id But of course Francois should not have married just because Fred Rogers suggested it would be a good cover up of his gay identity. He must take full responsibility for his actions as we all must. My point here was to show that the humble child loving Fred did not love his peers... his fellow adults... as much as he loved children... or appeared to love children. Im suggesting he had a powerful ego under his child loving facade. I would look at the possibility of himself being gay and having married to cover it up, since he thought this would work so well for Francois. Regards, declan
Omg, I clicked SO FAST. I adored Fred Rogers. I still do. Interesting choice for a video topic, Dr. Grande.
Thank you for your discussion about Mr. Rogers. I grew up in the 60s
and 70s watching Mr. Rogers and as a child in a dysfunctional home I found confort in his program. It's encouraging to know there was such a wonderful
Thank you.. I kept passing over on Fred Rogers, I was scared there would be a negative! I should have known you would present him perfectly.
What a wonderful man he was.
He was such an incredible human being. We were lucky to have him and for as long as we did. He is dearly missed by so many.
I loved Mr Rogers as a child. He was calm, mellow and easy. His gentle quietude was a comfort to me. I was drawn to sweet things and I believe anywhere I could find that loving kindness and gentility became a tether to keep me grounded while growing up in an abusive and hostile environment. They say the apple don't fall far from the tree, but my apple rolled down the hill to a slow winding stream in a quiet meadow in the valley and it's there that I kept a purer spirit from being corrupted. I'm grateful for Mr Rogers' contributions.
love this comment so much ♥
This was beautifully put. I didn't have the privilege of watching the show when I was young ( my mother forbade it). However I'm still soothed by episodes I find online as an adult, and find that I can still learn from him, by example if nothing else.
Your post is poetic, insightful and hopeful.
💗💖💝
Thank you for talking about this nice caring man. A good person.
He was a beautiful person. Empathy personified. I watched him even as a teenager, when I was sad and needed a boost.
With my crazy and loud ass family, it was strange to see someone so calm. I used to think there was something wrong with him. But as I got older I learned what a good and genuine person he was.
I absolutely loved Mr. Rogers in the late 70's. After coming home from 1/2 day kindergarten, his show and "The Electric Company" were my go-to afternoon entertainment.
Whoa...I forgot about 'The Electric Company.' My first exposure to Spider-Man.
He saved my life!
Coming from a severely abusive home life where I though all men were mean, scary loud abusers. I couldn’t wait to get home and watch MR’s gentle nature, I expected him to get mad and start yelling/cursing throwing stuff all the time. He made me feel calm because as a child of abuse, I was always FULL OF ANXIETY! But MR was so kind and made you feel you actually mattered!
Hi, sorry to hear that you had a bad childhood! There is a TH-cam channel but you might find to be healing -- it's called "Crappy Childhood Fairy" -- I'm not kidding, that's the real name! Healing thoughts and warm wishes to you!
Fred Rogers spoke at my daughters college graduation. Hearing thousands of students singing “Won’t You Be My Neighbor” was so sweet to hear. (Like they were kids again)🥰
Where did she go to school? I watched his Dartmouth speech and I wonder about what other great schools he spoke at.
That is so great.
@@musicrinda NC State University, 1996. Carter-Finley Stadium. It was so cool.😊
Speaking as a primary school teacher of 35+ years, I'd say that "Mr. Roger's Neighbourhood" was the best ever children's TV show. His loving nature, his total acceptance, his ability to never be judgmental, made him an example of kindness personified. All he did to build good self esteem in children was monumental and so very beneficial.
What a pleasant personality assessment for a change. After hearing your assessments of serial killers, psychopaths, stalkers, and the like, it's good to hearing about someone who is genuinely kind and good and wanted to make the world better.
Thank you for this one Dr. Grande. I was one of the people who requested Fred Rogers. He was gentle and kind soul and such a gift to many children. It’s true he is a lot like Carl Rogers and his approach of unconditional regard and empathy. I believe we need someone like him during our time. ❤️
I couldn't stop crying this entire video. One pure wholesome soul examining the life of another - it's what a lot of us need right now, thank you Dr. Grande.
I'm watching and crying...
On a channel that can talks about dark and negative content all the time, it's such a fresh breath of air to watch a positive video about a truly wonderful human being.
This is now my favorite of your videos Dr. Grande. I watched Mr. Rogers when I was a young child. My older sister made fun of me for it but my Mom would tell her to leave me alone & let me watch. I was always a very anxious shy child, & Mr. Rogers was very soothing. I agree with the other positive comments on this video - I wish we had more people like him in the world.
Spot on yet again. What a wonderful man he was. All the comments below are touching too. I watched his show on PBS as a child. He really walked the talk. How lucky we were to have him on TV in our chilhood. Have a wonderful day Dr. Todd!
I had a terrible childhood in the '70's mr Rodgers made it bearable...to this day, tho I never met him...I consider mr Rodgers one of my best r
Friends. Forever!
Same with me, Andrea.
Thank you, Dr. Grande, for this analysis of one of the kindest persons who ever lived. He truly was as nice, kind and intelligent as he appeared to be on his show. He was also a man of faith. He lived by the Golden Rule. His wife gave a brief interview after he died. She said that he really was Mr. Rogers in his personal life and she could not have asked for a better man, a better husband and a better father to their sons.
He was very much respected and is very missed.
I'm happy that, of all the TH-cam psychologists and wannabe psychologists, you were the right one to pay tribute to him.
I've always appreciated that he never imposed religion on children. He only spoke of basic moral principles that all humans should have, despite religion or lack thereof. Shoving religion down a child's throat is much more damaging than some people realize. Mr. Roger's was a key part of my youth & I'm grateful for that.
JESUS CHRIST isnt religion
@@forpetessake3532 ...Ok?
@@forpetessake3532 Correct- it's a multipurpose swear word I use all the time.
I always thought he did religion correctly. Expressing his beliefs through behavior, not doctrine. 🙏
Agreed 110%. If only more christians were like him...
My favorite episode Dr. Grande. A really good man, helping children. Mr. Rogers was a good man when the camera turned off. Nice to have a positive episode Dr. Grande, thank you.
Yes, thank you Dr. Grande for this tribute to a very good man! Mr. Rogers allowed many, many children to feel respected and understood just as they were, as children.
I love your sense of humor, just pops in now again when least expected. Yes, Mr. Rogers helped many a young child he is a treasure in this world.
He is the reason I’m still here.
And I hope you will be here many more years following Mr. Rogers Thoughts. I wish you the best. Ms. Christina.
Whatever you went through I hope it’s over. Sending you hugs.
I think it shows how cynical we are as a society where we think a genuinely good and caring man whose passion in life was to help kids become better people that people assume he has some sordid past.
So many people we admire do have demons. So it's hard to believe someone is truly kind. That was Mr Rogers.
I want to put in a good word here for having a "sordid past". We ALL are often not our best selves, privately or publicly. As long as he wasn't criminal or unethical, and Dr. Grande makes a good case that there's nothing there, there, then no one should care in the least how he behaved off camera. People are entitled to privacy, and mature adults not only accept and respect that, they expect other adults, mature or otherwise, to accept and respect that, too.
The community service story cracked me up.
Unfortunately, the cynicism is valid. Mr. Rogers was a needle in a haystack.
I actually work with kids myself, and Mr. R was a big part of my childhood, but I admit, ever since OJ became a murderer, Bill Cosby was revealed to be a rapist, etc., every time I hear one of my childhood heroes mentioned on the news, my gut clenches up just a little. A little part of me fears that they might be revealed as imposters, or worse.
I’m so glad to have one childhood hero-probably the most important one-who never disappointed.
Dr. Grande, this has made me realize that your calm, deliberate way of speaking as well as the predictable structure of your videos are somewhat reminiscent of Mr. Rogers! That is a compliment, and (I believe) no small reason why I and others enjoy your videos so much.
Dr. Grande is Mr. Rogers but a bit dryer with a sarcastic edge!
Dr Grande just needs to get a cardigan and some comfy canvas sneakers and a fish tank and there you go!
I didn't expect to have such an emotional response to this video but here we are...Fred Rogers had a pivotal role in my personal survival as a child. If not for his television program, I doubt I would have maintained the resiliency to overcome the circumstances of my early childhood. Without burdening this comment with those details, I will say that Mr. Rogers was my comforter. In the mind of this child, he provided my only access to positive affirmation. He was at one time during my earliest years the only representation of an adult who demonstrated kindness and gentle, positive regard. I attribute his influence for my learning to read and write and to believe there was a world.beyomd the walls I was confined where happiness was possible and there was hope of being loved . He was proof that people existed who didn't hurt children and ithis was the basis of my make believe world where I would go to escape the overwhelming terror I experienced at the hands of the adults around me.
I am forever grateful to this man for being my "friend" and I credit his influence as one that provided the hope I needed to resist succumbing to those impossibly cruel circumstances. Thank you, Mr. Rogers for being the only friend to a very frightened and abused little girl .
Your comment brings tears to my eyes. ♥️
Touching...
This man was an angel.
I had not been a child for a long time when Mr. Rogers was on TV. However, as an adult, I frequently stopped to visit my parents during my lunch break and my 40 something self and 60 year old mother would watch Mr. Rogers reruns together. I became quite fond of him, I particularly liked the music. Fred was quite a good musician, and he had one of the all time great jazzers, Johnny Costa, as the house pianist and band leader. So, even musically, Mr. Rogers never talked down to kids. I sometimes wish that I could be more like he was. By the way, a couple of times during your presentation I thought I heard a bit of a emotional catch in your voice? Well, Mr. Rogers had that effect on lots of people, not just children.
I remember thinking the same thing when I watched the show with my kids: "Man, for a children's show, this little half hour has some pretty cool music thrown in here and there!" Little did I know...
Fred Rogers was the only father figure, including my own, to say they were proud of me. I am 40 now and I still feel his absence.
I often feel Mr. Rogers was the only kind person to have ever lived. Such an amazing man. Good video
Their are alot of people like him walking among us. We just dont take the time to stop and listen to people long enough to knowest.
There was a even kinder man that lived once but we crucified him.
@@mysteryjunkie9808 well....Jesus wasn't always so kind, though. He came with the fiery sword of truth.
@@t5396 Which is kinder? Spreading truth or spreading falsehood?
@@mysteryjunkie9808 we? You mean the Romans ?
My father was absent and mother alcoholic, Mr. Roger's added so much to my life! I learned kindness, sharing and loved the episode with a black policeman. I adored this one and learned so much from him that carried into adulthood. Thank you Mr. Roger's for all you gave to me!!
I enjoyed Mr Rogers with my daughter when she was small and again when my daughter had children, I watched with my grandchildren. His gentle and loving voice was wonderful and I think he really encouraged children to use their imagination and also taught good manners and good ethics in a fun way.