Musician reacts to Ren - Crutch ft. Bibi

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  • เผยแพร่เมื่อ 10 พ.ค. 2023
  • This is probably my favorite Ren track and will be for a while. Much of this subject matter in this song resonates with me on a manor level. I'm sorry I was incoherent in this one but I'm not stopping just because of some tears.
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  • @ranahooke1907
    @ranahooke1907 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    I don’t have much energy for a proper comment. But I just want to say thank you for your authenticity. Seeing you cry to this song, makes me feel less alone. Big love. ❤

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I'm glad that this could help. That makes this all worth it.

    • @marlee680
      @marlee680 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Respect x

  • @ChrisLawton66
    @ChrisLawton66 ปีที่แล้ว +70

    "I'm prepared this time." Hugs brother. I've learned in the last 5 months that we're never prepared for this man.

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +20

      I should know by now LOL

    • @Hope-cm8fb
      @Hope-cm8fb 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Yesss....🥺🥹🍀💚

  • @Snflw3r
    @Snflw3r ปีที่แล้ว +54

    The ending always hits me so hard for this song too. It took me quite a few watches to notice that although she is gone at the end, she leaves him after he’s on his feet. Even though he ends up alone, he stays up on his feet. A little sliver of hope in it even with such a heavy mood. Thanks for another amazing reaction!

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +18

      I didn't even notice that, but I honestly was just trying to get through the video. Good catch on that. I like that little touch.

    • @kimzwolinski9919
      @kimzwolinski9919 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Wow, I never thought about that. Great observation.

  • @ianhislop6782
    @ianhislop6782 ปีที่แล้ว +99

    Thank you for opening up and speaking about your feelings. I hope this song has helped you. Much love ❤️

    • @margaretkichenama2040
      @margaretkichenama2040 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      Yes… the people who show up here got your back ❤ We show up for Crutch because we got REN’s back❤️Numbers not important here❤

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +27

      Thank you so much! I love the community being built!

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +27

      It was a therapeutic experience.

    • @woni77
      @woni77 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      🧡🧡🧡

    • @krotchlickmeugh627
      @krotchlickmeugh627 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      ​@mcflyjp yes! I can tell. With every song you're opening up more and more and I can see it's effect on you. You are healing.

  • @zebraflora747
    @zebraflora747 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    This song hits close to home for me as both a chronic illness warrior and a survivor of trauma. It always brings me to tears. Ren is utterly masterful at creating moods and messages. He has revealed to the masses what it is like to be one of us. His vulnerability is refreshing. He is a true artist and appears to be incredibly humble too. A rare gem. Thank you for your raw honesty and your vulnerability. More people need to allow themselves to sit in those uncomfortable feelings so society as whole can heal as we find our commonalities. I wish you Peace. Be gentle with yourself. You are special.

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Thank you! For the record I am doing ok. Just this song really hit home for a lot of reasons for stuff I have gone through in the past and stuff I am currently going through.
      Thank you for your kind comments. I feel a lot of people are scared to show emotion in risk of judgement. But to me I don't care about that judgement if it means I can help someone else.

  • @LHartman-gj7dl
    @LHartman-gj7dl ปีที่แล้ว +56

    That was a rollercoaster of a reaction. I hope your wife watches it. 🖤

    • @pirada74
      @pirada74 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Same ❤

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +49

      Idk if she'll watch but I definitely had a long talk with her after this!

    • @Lynnie_14
      @Lynnie_14 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Thank you! That's exactly what I was about to type 😊❤

    • @donnakurtz9293
      @donnakurtz9293 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I'm glad there was a talk... She needs to watch this. Hard stuff. I'm watching this one after I've already suggested on your post about Mother's Day did you make sure she reads what you shared.

  • @belinda35
    @belinda35 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    This is one of his most vulnerable songs. And seeing his vulnerability, makes us vulnerable as well. And just like Ren, you're helping others when you share your pain. Much love to you.

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +12

      If I can help even one person I'm happy!

    • @krotchlickmeugh627
      @krotchlickmeugh627 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@mcflyjpyou helped me

  • @ali50n
    @ali50n ปีที่แล้ว +23

    That was hard for you, well done. Thank you for showing your vulnerable state, it makes you very real. As Ren fans, we are all learning to understand each other. Sending hugs from UK 🤗

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Definitely therapeutic for me. And that's what's great. It will also be the same for others

  • @alexiaspaedt-mcintosh5311
    @alexiaspaedt-mcintosh5311 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    Fantastic! The emotion you show is how many of us feel with it. Thank you for doing this one. It is a hard hitting song but I truly love how beautiful it is and his emotion too.

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +12

      It's definitely one of his more underrated songs I feel.

  • @darelynborunda3376
    @darelynborunda3376 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Ren is cracking open the human collective consciousness and allowing humanity to transmute and heal trauma.

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +3

      It's giving people a voice who otherwise thought they didn't have one. It's what we need.

  • @jonasmandersson
    @jonasmandersson ปีที่แล้ว +17

    It’s so damn amazing how Ren songs makes people open up about themselves and their struggles.❤️ And I wept like a baby the first fifty times I listened to Crutch. I can also relate.

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +6

      To be honest with my social anxiety idk how I've got to this portion of my life where I've cried for the public 3 TIMES over a string of notes put together. But I guess that is considered growth.

  • @lisac243
    @lisac243 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    You probably don’t realize how strong you really are, allowing yourself to feel the emotions is hard work. Great honest reaction ❤

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      It's the first step of healing. This channel has become somewhat therapeutic, accidentally.
      Thanks for the kind words.

  • @RonNL70
    @RonNL70 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Thank you for your honest, emotional and heartfelt reaction 🙏
    This one hits hard and very deep... 😓
    "Sometimes they leave"
    Or transcend... my dear friend, who was there for me in my darkest days, passed away in 2020
    Much love m8

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I'm sorry for your loss.
      Sometimes they do leave and sometimes that's the biggest fear.

  • @polyesterspecter
    @polyesterspecter ปีที่แล้ว +8

    You and Ren are helping redefine masculinity. Strength through vulnerability and empathy. Thank you.

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +3

      .sn need to not be afraid to show emotions.

  • @jamescurrie7678
    @jamescurrie7678 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    The reaction is not a mess bro it is real. Remember we come here to watch and support you and this is therapy

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I appreciate you!

  • @frankensteinfpv
    @frankensteinfpv ปีที่แล้ว +16

    @mcfly jp : im prepared this time!
    Us : no youre not! 😅
    Thanks for this reaction bro! I cried with and for you, the way you put things and showed us yourself brought more out of this song for me right at a time when ive needed to have a cry!
    Sorry/not sorry for recommending this song haha.
    Love you and appreciate you brother! Keep being you! 🤌👌👏🔥❤️

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Yeah man. Getting all the sad songs out of the way so we got just fun ones left lol.

    • @frankensteinfpv
      @frankensteinfpv ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @McFly JP so yesterday I got a some not so great news about a couple different things and my wife and I had a bit of tension between us. I pretty much shut down and just sat in a morbid state. Then seen you were posting this at 3am Australian time so I set a reminder so I could watch it first thing when I woke this morning. And man, having that cry along with you and hearing the things you had to say is just what I needed! Watching your reaction this morning was a great therapy for me and has changed the persona of my mind completely! I'm up and alert and able to be more active as a father and husband and have a much brighter outlook on the day! All thanks to you and Ren! So thank you again brother! What you guys are doing is helping the world more than you know! 🤌👌👏🔥❤️

    • @frankensteinfpv
      @frankensteinfpv ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@mcflyjp P.S. I don't think Ren will ever be done with the sad songs 😅😂❤️

  • @geralynsteppe5974
    @geralynsteppe5974 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Ren was really brave to do this, and so were you. As they say, "Feel it to heal it." Hope the release does you good; I think I cried for about 3 weeks when I first found Ren and went through his catalog, and I don't even have mental health problems. Just your everyday repressed childhood traumas, lol.

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      These last 18 months has been a rollercoaster and a lot of learning who I am. Childhood traumas I didn't know I had until now usbe really shaped me and what issues I have now, including anxiety. So I can relate with you 100%

    • @geralynsteppe5974
      @geralynsteppe5974 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@mcflyjp it sounds to me that you are really on a healing journey, so be super hopeful that great things are on the horizon!

  • @comrie22
    @comrie22 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    This song is so underrated and i wish more reactors gave it a chance. I think everyone can relate to this song, in both Ren's and Bibi's shoes. This is my favourite song and video by Ren as it is so raw and his heart is just splayed open. He is such an amazing artist. Thank you for doing this and thank you for being real and sharing your thoughts with us. I just want to give you a big hug! Sending love from Scotland 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿 ❤

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Ths js for the kind words. I'm not a fan of being emotional. Before reactions (and the huge growth of my channel) my themes were always to be uplifting and funny. It's been a weird journey of openness and deep subjects on the channel. But it seems it's a much needed niche on the platform.
      Thanks for the love!

    • @comrie22
      @comrie22 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@mcflyjp It's funny how certain paths we found ourselves on in life can make us realise exactly what we need. Music can be so cathartic and make us realise and actually face things we keep deep inside. Rens music has helped me tremendously and clearly it has helped you. Which is just awesome 😊. Keep talking to your wife and I wish you all the happiness in the world ❤️

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@comrie22 thank you very much. Glad to have you here on the channel. Love the positive vibes! ❤️

    • @comrie22
      @comrie22 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@mcflyjp Keep being awesome, I'll be watching and supporting your journey ❤️

  • @davideastham
    @davideastham ปีที่แล้ว +13

    One of my favorite Ren songs. Ren said in a TH-cam community past saying it was one of his favorite and one that he's very proud of. Than you again. I appreciate your true and honest reaction.

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I think I understand that.

  • @Lynnie_14
    @Lynnie_14 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    This song hit home hard for me because I was that person who should have been the crutch in my marriage with my husband's mental health issues. Mine were repressed to focus on his and after a decade it was a heavy burden to carry, but I powered through. When betrayal and infidelity entered our marriage, I called it and we separated, sharing custody of our young children. It's a decision that will haunt me till the end of my days though. "How To Be Me" ft Chinchilla tells the ending of our story 😪 Marc was 35 when he lost his fight, late one night. The flow on effect is heart breaking. Our son is 30 now and ecpecting a son of his own soon. He's an emotional wreck at a time when he should be happy and excited. My daughter cant marry her fiance of 9 years because she cant cope with not having her dad to give her away at her wedding. Its so incredibly sad to still be witnessing the devastation after 20 years!
    This is why its important talk about mental health issues. All the "If Only......" wouldnt ruminate through my mind. Its like a tornado 🌪 and I'm caught inside 🥺 😪

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Mental health doesn't just affect you but the people around you too. I commend you for staying but it wouldn't judge you if you didn't. That's that right rope everyone has to walk

    • @StephenJacob
      @StephenJacob ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Yikes. I'm sorry, Lynda. I hope you and your family can all eventually find peace, in a positive sense.

  • @TXTrojan
    @TXTrojan ปีที่แล้ว +25

    This is just an amazing song. It really is moving. And seeing you share your feelings really connects those of us that feel the same thing and have gone through all the craziness as well (oh the stories)..... It's amazing how far this rabbit hole goes. So much talent. I assume some videos you try to avoid watching until you react......do you ever get tempted to binge watch and travel down the rabbit hole? I still recommend Ren & Orlean - Jessica . more upbeat song from 2016. Here is what Ren wrote "This is a little insight into my world of recording, most of it is done right here in my bedroom. I had the pleasure of meeting up with an old friend with an awesome voice! We got sparking some ideas off each other and wrote this song and decided to make a little video to go with it!". Another new one I found that is one of my new faves is "Do you Believe" even if you dont react to these, take a listen. "Do you Believe" is a letter to his future self. I've never had an artist have this much of an impact in such a short time.

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +7

      It's been very difficult to not just binge all his stuff, or any other band I've reacted to. Jinjer is another one that has been hard not to binge.

  • @majboomer1285
    @majboomer1285 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    The first therapist my wife saw when she began to get help dealing with an abusive upbringing asked me to come to one of the sessions, and I have never forgotten these words, he said "The most important pill you can take to start healing...is the people around you." He said that the hardest part of healing is finding positive and constructive people to help you through it. They have wrung so true through the last 24 years. Great reaction! Even though these subjects are tough to talk about, words like these are needed for the healing to begin.

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Those are powerful words and extremely important. Then you for that. Ive had the luck of good people around me. I am fortunate in that way.
      Thank you for being there for your significant other need!

  • @Hexenkind1
    @Hexenkind1 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    This reaction made me want to hug you. I feel you brother. The first time I saw this video and song I broke down and cried long and hard too. Part because of my own experiences, part because I felt for ren so much and his experiences he went through.

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +7

      There was just too much between the relating to the lyrics and feeling for Ren. Couldn't stop.

  • @kevinheise7
    @kevinheise7 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    You're far from alone, brother. I empathize deeply with your struggles as a man and a human being. Stay strong, and remember to breathe when the darkness tries to take your breath away.
    Cheers!

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      More men gotta be willing to show emotions. But we will get there.

    • @kevinheise7
      @kevinheise7 ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@mcflyjp My dad was a crier, still is... I cry at anything, even the odd commercial lol It's cleansing, and natural. And there's a reason we have the ability to do it.
      You're a beauty! Thanks for your time, brother

  • @sharis9095
    @sharis9095 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Ren said in a commentary that this song was about his fear that his illness (at that time he was being told it was all psychological) would drive Bibi (and everyone else) away. Make him unable to have a relationship. When I first watched this I wondered if (in the song) was she even real or was she a delusion that became his support and helped him, but knowing if he got better she would be gone. Guess not but it really stuck in my head for awhile.

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +6

      That's a scary thing to think about and part of why I stay silent when my emotions arise.

    • @StephenJacob
      @StephenJacob ปีที่แล้ว

      I also wondered is the song/video was perhaps implying that she was never there at all and he was at breaking point and wishing she were there, and suddenly gaining lucidity and realizing that she was not. Either way, it's a gut-punch of a song. He's an absolute treasure of a generation.

  • @Shiroar
    @Shiroar ปีที่แล้ว +13

    One of my favourite songs by Ren. It is a stunning and perfect expression of agony and fear. The lyrics, the singing, the video, and the music - never has distortion sounded so emotional. This entire song is heart wrenching but beautiful. Thank you for reacting to it ❤

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +5

      For some reason that intense distorted guitar parts reminded me of Radiohead. Something like 2 + 2 = 5

    • @rebeccaburnell9319
      @rebeccaburnell9319 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Unreal that it's written and performed by a 16yr old, too. - edit - sorry, brain got turned upside down there, he was 26 not 16! Not *quite* so unbelievably young as 16 but still an incredible, incredible piece of lyric writing to communicate the complexity and the depths of the situation he was going through.

  • @carissamarple
    @carissamarple ปีที่แล้ว +11

    This song always gets me. But your reaction to this made me absolutely lose it. I've been there mentally as well .. sometimes still am. Seeing you show your true and raw emotions was absolutely beautiful. ❤ sometimes we just can't hold it in anymore. The release of emotion is so therapeutic as well. Much love to you and your family!

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +3

      It was very therapeautic and hopefully it is for at least one other person.

    • @carissamarple
      @carissamarple ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@mcflyjp it was for me. And I'm sure so many others as long as we share it. It will help so many. Thank you!

  • @salishseamermaid
    @salishseamermaid ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I feel like Ren reactions are a form of group therapy.
    I wish you ease, and peace of mind.

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      This was, 100%, just like Therapy.

  • @antonyainsworth1665
    @antonyainsworth1665 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Well done man, trust me I know it's hard when you open up stay strong brother 💪 thank you for the honest and genuine reaction 👍

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Thanks i appreciate that. I think it's easier to be vulnerable when you aren't looking at anyone. Part of being an introvert

  • @lillyvanpug
    @lillyvanpug ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Thank you so much for this honest, raw reaction 🖤 I had to wait a vouple hours before watching, because I knew it would be hard yo get through. I know we are told to stay strong and hold it together so much of the time, that we forget its necessary to break down and feel the pain as well. It's okay to feel weak, imperfect, damaged, tarnished- call it what you may. Its painful, ugly and scary but it will be a little less bad each time we lef it out. And sometimes we have unhealthy coping mechanisms (I know that too well) but to be honest- a lot of the time we just try to survive. Sometimes we are the crutch and sometimes we need one, and having experienced trauma, we are trying to protect the ones we love from that darkness. But by being aware of it, we break the cycle. We heal and we bleed less and less each day. I'm proud of you and I am happy you talked to your wife. Lots of love and big, strong hugs 🫶🏻

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thanks for the kind words. I am a work in progress just like everyone else.

  • @agape843
    @agape843 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    “I must not forget,we must not forget,that we are human beings”
    It’s good to be vulnerable!

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Sometimes. Society has it engrained in men that it's not ok to be. That needs to change.

  • @margaretkichenama2040
    @margaretkichenama2040 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Thanks!

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Oh my goodness! This is amazing! Thank you so much!! What did I do to deserve this?

  • @libby215
    @libby215 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Emotions have such a rippling effect don't they. Your reaction has touched me deeply. ☮

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว

      If my videos help even one person I'm happy.

  • @skunkworksu7638
    @skunkworksu7638 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I've never seen so many strangers cry due to one person's music .😢 I'm one of them.

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Ren has this innate way of feeding your emotions.

  • @nidaladil4150
    @nidaladil4150 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Dude don't hold it back cry if you feel like u want to, we all cry, we all go through the deepest of downs, talk, share, don't run from pain, depression or brush it off, acknowledge it, accept it, always ask for help and u will get through. Stay well❤❤
    Excuse my English not a native speaker 😅

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I appreciate that. Yes I know what's right to do. But sometimes it's very hard to do.

  • @ianmurphy7183
    @ianmurphy7183 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I found myself in tears watching your emotions in this reaction, it was real life bro , bearing your true feelings like that takes alot of courage.

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I tried to hold it in believe me. But alas; the power of music! At least we weren't alone in our tears.

  • @dawnblaynee7983
    @dawnblaynee7983 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    A very raw wholesome reaction. Please don't ever fear opening up about your emotions. Big hugs and much love and respect from The UK.

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I'm doing better about being open. It's rough for me but it's a work in progress.

    • @dawnblaynee7983
      @dawnblaynee7983 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@mcflyjp Small steps can make huge improvements. Chest out and chin up, you're just as important as the next person.

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you. And don't forget so are you 😁

  • @DonnaPoynton.
    @DonnaPoynton. ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Beautiful and Heartbreaking one of my Ren Favourites,Thank you,Stay Strong 💪 you got this

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Definitely a sleeper track! Thank you for watching!

  • @sejbomb
    @sejbomb หลายเดือนก่อน

    Ren is a lot of people’s therapy, outlets, support system. It’s so odd to be so connected to a person you’ve never met, that helps you in ways no one around you could, not because they didn’t care, but because this person understands us because of all he’s been through.

  • @TheBigburcie
    @TheBigburcie ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I'm not someone who normally pays close attention to lyrics (thanks ADD) but I'm amazed how Ren is able to match the visuals of his videos so every word sinks in. He is like Quentin Tarantino, Trent Reznor and Joaquin Phoenix rolled into one body.

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว

      These are pretty good comparisons. I think he just has a vision and has the ability to communicate his ideas to his team.
      Illest of our Time indeed

  • @missicarter267
    @missicarter267 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I can never make it through this song without ugly crying!! 😢

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Well I'll tell you, neither did I. LOL. It's just too relatable.

  • @fawn92
    @fawn92 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Thank you for your reaction. I was crying with you haha Good for you for being able to show true emotion! Its beautiful💪🙌
    I would like this harder if I could ❤

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I appreciate you! I'm all about being real on this channel.

  • @FaerieCastle
    @FaerieCastle ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I think allowing yourself to cry and just have that release is so important. Big hugs for you

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It was very therapeutic. Hopefully it was for others too.

  • @cristarose503
    @cristarose503 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Well done. Emotional honesty is what I'm here for. Thanks for being vulnerable.

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  12 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thank you. This was a tough one for me.

  • @seth1455
    @seth1455 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    "He bared his soul", so did you man and it was real and authentic. Rare quality in these times.
    "Can I interrupt"? What an usual line to have in the middle of a song, Bibi's first line and said in such an intimate way. Blew me away.
    When you review Genesis watch the music video version first, familiarize yourself with it, then watch the live acoustic version, be interesting to see which one you prefer.
    Loving your channel man

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for the kind words. Yes, Ren has always found ways to put obscure things in his music.

  • @abbyg5069
    @abbyg5069 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I only discovered this track after reading comments on another Ren video and I have to say it's a stunning song. I've enjoyed a number of your other reaction videos and I appreciate this reaction immensely, it's beautiful and raw and exactly how I reacted. The whole point of watching reaction videos is because you want to experience the interpretation of others when they hear/see the work of artists and in my opinion there's nothing worse than seeing NO emotion whatsoever from some reactors, as if the whole meaning of the song is completely lost on them. I loved this reaction, and thank you for not shying away from being open and honest with your feelings.

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much for the kind words. This is one of those songs that gets me pretty much every time. Seeing him skinny, so young, knowing what he went through, the meaning of the song; it all is quite sad.

  • @rbbea
    @rbbea ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you for sharing mate. Be kind to yourself man…try not to beat yourself up over the way you feel sometimes. Lots of people, myself included, go through stuff too and you are not alone. It’s part of the human condition. Like Ren says at the end of Hi Ren…relax…soften…and things get easier…acceptance is a huge part of it.

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Acceptance I think is the 2nd hardest part after trying to get better.

    • @rbbea
      @rbbea ปีที่แล้ว

      @@mcflyjp it can be hard and it can take time. I know from personal experience. I was dragged low in a relationship with a manipulative narcissistic gaslighting bully and it took me a long time to heal and believe in myself, but definitely being able to relax/soften and not be so hard on myself helped restore my shattered self esteem. I never did think I would end up in such an abusive and toxic relationship. I thought I was a strong person, but I was sucked into it and really didn’t see it coming. Totally destroyed me. But yeah trying to heal is hard. I had lots of counselling but the thing that really helped me was that over time I was able to soften and believe that I was actually a good person and to feel comfortable with myself. Sending healing vibes. Much love brother….

  • @docdurdin
    @docdurdin ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I kept hoping someone would bring this out. It's devastating, but beautiful in the way Ren creates a picture of what he was going through.

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Ren masters visuals that match the emotion in his words. Not many artists can master multiple facets of art like he can.

  • @craigmitchell604
    @craigmitchell604 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I respect so very much how willingly you just open. It’s not a weakness. You are embracing us when you allow us to embrace you.
    We got you my brother. I mean that. That is what this Ren ride is all about.

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I appreciate you very much and thank you. Empathy and sympathy is missing from our world and we need to find it again.

  • @AmaBrigitte
    @AmaBrigitte ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Such a powerful punch in the emotional gut, one that I never knew I needed until I heard the song! So deeper down the Ren rabbit hole I slid and the ending was a reality check! When he is standing there holding no one, I realized that the "Crutch" title was perfect because a crutch is always temporary like some relationships when things get tough and you find yourself alone 😢 keep working on opening up, its not ideal to keep so much inside! I am sending you hugs ❤

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks for the kind words. The visuals here are, as always, very real when it comes to deeper meanings and these ones just spoke to em specifically.

  • @darcieturner5423
    @darcieturner5423 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I've watched this video a ton bc it's one of my favorites, but this time, the tears fell hard. Your vulnerability was innocent and oh so rare. thank you for sharing it with us, your strength honesty and vulnerability are inspiring xo

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I hope I can help at least one person. Thanks for the kind words.

  • @helenjarvis7755
    @helenjarvis7755 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Appreciated this thorough walk through this song.
    It was all very much worth every minute watched ty

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Glad to hear it! Thanks for the kind words.

  • @NanaM1984
    @NanaM1984 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You are not alone. Ren tends to spark a dialog with most of his songs. ❤❤❤

  • @f2fbassist169
    @f2fbassist169 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    8:02 I have a very similar mental defense mechanism brother. You tha man for opening up like that and sharing

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      One step and day at a time.

  • @augusttexan4657
    @augusttexan4657 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you sir. Your video was not a mess, it was what it needed to be and it was true, brave and educational. I love music that can make me feel like there is something within me that wants out. Like I have something to offer to the world. I just needed to learn how to truly understand and accept those truths about myself. In other words become a student about myself. My life changed, well that's a whole other story that I will not share here. I was a Protege once upon a time, we are not given a book on life when we are born.

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว

      You say you were .... It's never to late to pickup where you left off.

  • @annejones6249
    @annejones6249 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    It takes a real man or woman to show vulnerability to a partner or the world at large😢❤

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  18 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      I'm glad some people have that mentality. We need to spread that view around the world.

  • @maz3555
    @maz3555 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Emotion is real never be embarrassed in showing your human.

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks. It's rough sometimes but it seems my vulnerable state has helped others and that is humbling.

    • @maz3555
      @maz3555 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@mcflyjp Defo Your reaction was my reaction first time too this song , to me I felt the pain in not only his words, but his voice and the visuals . Bibi's voice just completed it .Respect .

  • @Human-being24601
    @Human-being24601 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Man..I feel you been there.
    REN has a can opener to our skull… & he swims in the synapses of our reality… only those that have really been there know…
    Peace & love brother
    💪 ❤
    Amazing reaction ❤

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      He knows how to unleash feelings we didn’t even know we had.

    • @Human-being24601
      @Human-being24601 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      th-cam.com/video/nh3ft-CLfQ0/w-d-xo.htmlsi=7EPLTyhuUZPJjzSr
      For you Mcfly jp
      ❤️ from me🙏

  • @francesdoll4039
    @francesdoll4039 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    That was a great honest reaction.and you found a balanced way to analyze the ending. You are a powerful guy. Thank you for sharing yourself.

    • @francesdoll4039
      @francesdoll4039 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      My current favorite is the live, acoustic version of Genesis. I really think you would like it. Losing it will be whole different thing.

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว

      I am definitely doing Losing It first! Too many requests for it!

  • @Henry-go7gi
    @Henry-go7gi ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Om goodness... You have me all emotional now...I feel you bro. Get it out...tears are poison leaving the body...get it out. Tomorrow you'll have a wonderful day...check this space. Yeah Ren touched many many people's life's.Take care and all the blessings you need.

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks I appreciate it. I believe my reaction to this was better than therapy.

  • @craseyflung1011
    @craseyflung1011 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This man always gets me right in the feels. You are doing great to show vulnerability and your perspective is much appreciated.
    I know that I appreciate you and your commentary on REN’s music as well as your struggles.
    Keep up the good work. We will get thru it together with our friends and family, as well as our art. Much love to you brother.

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว

      Appreciate you. It's definitely a process.

  • @RootsMj
    @RootsMj 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you for this authentic and brave reaction. It's an extremely touching and impactful song for me as well. ❤

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Hard to get through even still!

  • @DogDocKat
    @DogDocKat 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you for your open and emotional reaction. It has taken me a long time to be able to get through this song, as someone who has very little support and when I went through a serious mental break, my support left and caused even more trauma. Thank you for saying how much strength it takes to get through these events without support. Mine literally almost killed me, but I survived and am stronger for it. Loving your reactions ❤

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The silver lining for going through emotional breaks is you realize how strong you are and that helps you in the future. I think for myself I take pride in being able to help myself. So I don't always ask for help when I should.

  • @inatcacenco3006
    @inatcacenco3006 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Big hug❤️

  • @NativeNYerChicHK
    @NativeNYerChicHK ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Aww, thanks so much for your willingness to share such raw and beautiful honesty. You’re not alone. Please know and believe that in the depths of your soul ♥️

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you! The love and support I've got from this reaction is very humbling. But to know that I may have helped some others my being vulnerable is the best thing...

  • @CreativePhotoWS
    @CreativePhotoWS ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Know this. There are so so many of us who know EXACTLY how you feel. I never knew life could be so hard. I never knew escape was even harder. One step at a time forward. One step. Then the next. Onwards.

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Baby steps is the name of the game.

  • @docdurdin
    @docdurdin ปีที่แล้ว +1

    JP, you are a great man with a good heart and soul. I won't pretend to know what haunts you, but I do understand. As a man, I have always felt responsible for everyone in my inner circle. To see to the needs the wants and the hopes to the point of it almost crushing me, some call it the savior complex. Those of us born sensitive are vulnerable to the outer world and vulnerable to being taken advantage of. Loving yourself enough to step down from the cross and ( like Ren says) realizing we are only human, helps. I have lost my first and last-born sons, one at 24 and the other at 32. I stand and still breathe because I know that I did everything humanly possible to teach them to be strong and self-reliant yet they made choices that cost them life. You must take a survivor's course to make it through this journey, but I can tell you at 73 I am glad I chose life. You get stronger, just as Ren has as he FIGHTS to make his life better. I am aware of the season and ready for the next journey when it comes. Be kind to yourself, laugh more, accomplish more, and teach more from what you are learning. Much brotherly love to you, Doc

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว

      Man that is heart breaking. I couldn't imagine outliving my children and honestly you are much stronger than I am! That is a parents worst nightmare.
      I appreciate you opening up about that to us. If you ever need anything the DMs are open on my IG or even in discord.

    • @docdurdin
      @docdurdin ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@mcflyjp Thank you JP... I want all of us to come out of this and on to where we belong next. I believe in next. I hate to see you suffer or the thought it could become unbearable for you. Brothers in life.

  • @Billyrobshaw77
    @Billyrobshaw77 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hopefully Ren and his vulnerability and openness to do so, relates and helps us all to be more open and show our vulnerabilities. Love you, man. Edited: wrote the first bit half way trough. I loved your reaction. It was heart-breaking, but so real... Love

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks. I was finally able to rewatch it (I always like to review my own videos to see what I can do better). I still don't like how vulnerable I was but it seems to be helping a lot of people.

  • @wastefulungratfuls
    @wastefulungratfuls ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You are not alone and we are all here for you … much love, light and healing from the UK ❤️🇬🇧❤️

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you!

  • @StephenJacob
    @StephenJacob ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Damn. Kudos, man, for putting this out there.
    Losing It, Genesis, and the busking videos will be a relief vs. these incredibly heavy ones.

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว

      I will be doing Losing it next. Been looking forward to that one.

  • @MoreKellBellPlease
    @MoreKellBellPlease 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you for being so vulnerable ❤

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Definitely wasn't planned. This song/video just spoke to me.

  • @Lindsjoy-vi7qf
    @Lindsjoy-vi7qf ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks for your reaction, I was really moved by it. Wishing you many easier, happier days ahead.❤
    I really think your reactions are top tier in the way you bring musical/technical knowledge and expertise and combine that with fully getting into the meaning and emotions of a song. I imagine these skills serve your own music well too. With lots of love from the UK

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you for the kind words! I really appreciate the love. It means a lot!

  • @TobiiRheaStarr
    @TobiiRheaStarr 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you for being so vulnerable and raw. I am crying with you believe me. I’m struggling myself but seeing men get upset has me bawling 😢 I love this song so much it’s both beautiful and heartbreaking at the same time. 🖤

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Definitely one of Ren's most emotional.
      It's unfortunate that crying is shown as a weakness but specifically and especially for men. I hope that stigma dies.

    • @TobiiRheaStarr
      @TobiiRheaStarr 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@mcflyjp it’s definitely not a weakness to me, quite the opposite in fact, I think you are a stronger man for being vulnerable on camera! So kudos for that 🖤

  • @staceyjayneplatt9527
    @staceyjayneplatt9527 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Just Watched and sending love and hugs across the pond 🇬🇧 ❤❤❤❤❤

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  18 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thank you very much!

  • @KRiSone1987
    @KRiSone1987 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hey man, a lot of what you're saying/feeling resonates with me too. Life is tough. I'm glad to have found Ren and all the people reacting to his music like you because it's helped me a lot in trying to have a more positive outlook on life. I appreciate you, man. Keep being you and I'll be right beside you along the way.

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I appreciate that man. His music has helped me in many ways as well as the community my reactions to his songs and built.

  • @seagull01-cp8pb
    @seagull01-cp8pb ปีที่แล้ว +1

    What a reaction! I have a partner who suffers from depression and you and everyone in the comments have me thinking really hard about how I treat him. Thank you💕🦇

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว

      It’s hard to have to help someone through really dark times when you have your own problems going on.

  • @yonahgrossman7319
    @yonahgrossman7319 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    First, I always enjoy your reactions. Some of the best out there. Okay, now that's out of the way, your willingness to expose your emotions is genuinely heroic and I'm certain you've help many others process their trauma. I know little about your past, but always remember you got through it, you have a wife and children. You succeeded despite it all. Make peace with your demons and remember the hero life has proved you to be.

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว

      I appreciate that very much. As we are all humans I still have a lot of work to do and healing to go through. But I'm glad I am where I am.

  • @pashworth0910
    @pashworth0910 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Always remember that you are loved and that being broken is only a temporary condition. You need time to gather your strength ,there is always someone to listen and it may help. Love and hugs x

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I just called about getting back into therapy to stay on top of whatever is to come.

    • @pashworth0910
      @pashworth0910 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@mcflyjp This is a positive move for you, i think. x

  • @llchristensen77
    @llchristensen77 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Came back to say you gotta do Blind Eyed with Sam Tomkins. Sam has one of the most beautiful falsettos I've ever heard. 🤌🏻

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Should I do the official video or the Live MC Sessions? Going to record this soon.

    • @llchristensen77
      @llchristensen77 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @mcflyjp My favorite version is the one that says M.C Sessions on the Music Crowns page. It's the clearest imo. You miss a lot of the vocals in the official music video because it's replaced with production.

  • @huldaolafsdottir4898
    @huldaolafsdottir4898 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    We are all just humans, complicated and brilliant. Thank you for opening up, I wish more people would do that.
    And yes, I do agree with you, this is also my favorite song of his. Much love and carry on ❤

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Very difficult to get through for me but it was therapy I needed.

  • @melissadowling
    @melissadowling ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Beautiful raw reaction. You are so brave to be so open, you sir will help many to know they are not alone. Want to give you a huge hug. ❤

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว

      If I help one person then I would be happy! Thanks for the kind words!

  • @hulkstrong2389
    @hulkstrong2389 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Hey brother (was going to say buddy but brother feels more appropriate) I feel like we're one in the same on so many levels. I too internalize so much of what I'm going through. Being a dad almost makes it harder, but it's also literally the only thing keeping me here, so it also is saving me. I get my kids every other week and the weeks I don't have them are really scary inside my head. Then, once Wednesday starts getting here I feel almost like it's a rush to put on the mask to "look okay". I still show emotions in front of my kids, as I want them to see the emotions are okay, but I don't want to dump the heavy stuff on them.
    I know this doesn't make much of a difference, but even though I'm just an internet stranger, I wanted to let you know how much your videos help me out. I want you to know you're cared about and even if it sounds weird, love you buddy.

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks man! I appreciate that. I was one of those kids that would switch off every week (weird setup Mon Tues was with my Mom, Wed Thurs with my dad and every weekend switched).
      I think just letting those kids know they are loved can do wonders.
      Yes my kids and my wife are what's keeping me alive. I truly believe without them I wouldn't really see a reason to get better and I'd eventually fall into a hole with no want to get out.
      What you said to me is true to you too. You got people who love you and if you need anything I got you.

  • @bigdaddydc70
    @bigdaddydc70 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Love your genuine reaction and sharing your personal story. Always reach out for help, no one should go through things alone, we all need each other. Love you brother!

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      ❤️ Make sure we have that crutch!

  • @nancywade3428
    @nancywade3428 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for being so real and vulnerable!!! Let it out and talk !!! ❤

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว

      I will always be real with you all. The vulnerable part was an accident

  • @Horroryoga
    @Horroryoga 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    There must be those with whom we can sit down and weep, and still be counted as warriors.

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Beautiful. Did you come up with that?

    • @Horroryoga
      @Horroryoga 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@mcflyjp The words came to me while I watched your video, and I didn’t know the source. They are from and incredible poet I discovered 30 years ago, Adrienne Rich. Her poem, “Diving into the Wreck” impaired me to learn scuba, and I eventually dove into a shipwreck ! Poems are powerful !

  • @ryanclarke4482
    @ryanclarke4482 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Keep stepping forwards my friend 💙

  • @dawngubb1255
    @dawngubb1255 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    What a sweetie you are.
    I'm old and cried with ya, my advice is stay as available as you can, shutting off /down is traumatic for any support person. (Folk have to train for some mental reacts) :)
    Loved your reactions to this Ren song. Thanks.

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you for the kind words. I just have to be ready to go into any Ren Reaction ready to be emotional. He knows how to tug the heart strings.

  • @LeeannG
    @LeeannG ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is the kind of connection the internet WAS supposed to give us. Hope you’re doing well, friend ❤

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว

      We've come upon the gifts of the internet.

  • @Phil_D_Waller
    @Phil_D_Waller ปีที่แล้ว +1

    chin up sir, from the UK! ;) you'll be fine, talk, open up and keep on talking !

  • @martinmathias2835
    @martinmathias2835 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Love this raw emotion, I feel more reactors should be like this. Respect to you and wish you nothing but love in the future my man! Subscribed 💙

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว

      I appreciate you. The emotion definitely wasn't intentional. But there are people out there who may not have posted it. I feel like it's possible that maybe this video could be therapy for others like it was for me.

  • @llchristensen77
    @llchristensen77 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You're awesome dude. I love watching your reactions and I appreciate your vulnerability here. As someone who shuts down and internalizes everything, I super feel you. Glad you have your wife to lean on! 🖤

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks. Showing this much vulnerability is new to me and a very weird experience albeit therapeutic

  • @ciaranmcmanus3526
    @ciaranmcmanus3526 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    That was a lovely, honest reaction, well done. Keep it up, big love from the UK.

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks for the kind words.

  • @DuelerDog55555
    @DuelerDog55555 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thanks for your honest reaction, keep it up. No shame in being human.

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว

      American society says otherwise but I'm fighting through it.

  • @derekoliver5772
    @derekoliver5772 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Amazing reaction. Over the last few months I've cried more than the last ten years watching reactors to Ren. Reactors like yourself have opened my ears and eyes to music and artists I wouldn't have found if it wasn't for you. I thank you. Peace and be well.

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thanks! Part of what this channel is is providing new artists to the world!

    • @derekoliver5772
      @derekoliver5772 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@mcflyjp Always watching for your posts and at your own pace. Peace.

  • @Rob-bt3ev
    @Rob-bt3ev ปีที่แล้ว +3

    We are all with you - you’re a good man! I related to your comments about not trying to be a burden on others and bring them down with you as I dealt with my own anxieties like this for years. Reality is that your loved ones see it anyway, no matter how much you try to mask it. I managed like this for years and years, trying to “be strong” but last summer finally caught up with me and I spiraled badly - finally I had to seek help and shared what was going on with my wife. My situation is ongoing but sharing with her was actually the most important thing I think I ever did and she has been incredibly supportive. I actually did not want to share as she battled with depression herself for years when we first had children and I saw the mental battles directly and did not want to trigger her. In the end, I think her experience made her more able to understand and I think seeing me go through it also helps remind her that her own experience was nothing to be ashamed off (I spent a long time trying to make sure she knew this!) - people who don’t suffer any mental issues I think are in the minority

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I honestly think there aren't any humans who haven't gone through mental issues. It's either they don't accept that they are or it's so subtle they actually don't know.
      But your situation is relatable man. It's weird going from the POSSIBLE crutch to then needing one but too scared to ask the person closest to you b
      It's something I just have to slowly learn

  • @JoelMyaer
    @JoelMyaer ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Love, strength, and solidarity from Mesa, AZ! I was crying right along with you, Ren has reconfigured my mind, and REN-EWED my soul! Thank you for speaking your truth.

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Of course! Ren has a way of getting deep into our soul.
      Thanks for being an OFFICIAL part of this community. I really appreciate you!

  • @simonejarvis3753
    @simonejarvis3753 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Clearly very theraputic for you thankyou for sharing your vunerabilities. X

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      This was better than any therapy I've been through. Thanks for the kind words.

    • @simonejarvis3753
      @simonejarvis3753 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@mcflyjp I think therapeutic for so many people I think we're all touched by mental health issues in one way or another it takes work to get ourselves in a better place but is so worth the effort. I'm watching your reaction to Hi Ren now. I hope you're able to share with your wife now as a wife myself I can't help but believe she'd want you too. All the very best to you xxx

  • @periurban
    @periurban ปีที่แล้ว +1

    She gets him up on his feet and then leaves. Perfect.

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว

      Honestly I get it.

  • @jenniferedwards9005
    @jenniferedwards9005 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Wow this was powerful. I hope ur feeling better now. I'm glad u talked with ur wife afterwards . I get emotional everytime i watch/listen to this song..Its good though..makes u feel human..

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว

      Emotions are usually not a bad thing but were told time and time again, "Don't get emotional".
      Especially in our society now, men especially are just supposed to stay strong.

  • @helenajrgensen3157
    @helenajrgensen3157 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for being so brave as to choose to post the video and share your pain with us. The weight for you will hopefully be lighter now that you share it. Much love from me to you ❤🙏

    • @mcflyjp
      @mcflyjp  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks for the kind words! Hopefully it was as therapeutic for others as it was for me