I Had To Get This Off My Mind | The Asher House
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I remember pulling into a car wash and the service guy that approached me to get my payment. Must have known that I had a lot on my mind. He said how are you doing you seem like you're sad. Do you feel like sharing? I will forever think of this man in my heart. Because I turned and looked to him and normally I would say oh I'm fine thank you. But this time I looked at him and said I'm sorry I said I lost my father and my brother. And I can't seem to get over the grief. He said come on inside and I'll get you a cup of coffee and I promise you will have a better day. His kindness is carried throughout the years and it's been 34 years and I will never forget this man that reached out to me when I was really sad! When we got inside he shared a sad story that he recently went through. I know he did this to make me feel more comfortable about revealing my feelings. XOXO don't hesitate to reach out to somebody win your heart is telling you it will be okay.
Wow Thank you for sharing this. 🥰
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I am sure you have passed that on too.
What a wonderful encounter. I hope l can do the same for others.
What a beautiful story. Thank you for sharing. Kindness cost nothing. It is priceless!
I agree 100%. People always ask me why I’m always happy and friendly. It’s because I choose happiness every day.
You are spot on Lee !! The old saying, "You get what you give !" Is so true. If you smile, be interactive in a positive way it comes back to you. It can also make someone's crappy day a happy day ! I'm so glad you brought this up Lee ! Let's keep smiling . If it touches one person, it's a good day !! Hugs and love from a Kansas Grandma ❤️
Hey Kansas!! I’m another Kansas fan!! ❤️💫🐶💫❤️
Well said, thanks so much for watching!
Ok I shall start that today 💫!
Cecilia H.🇺🇸❤️🇺🇸❤️
Greetings from Massachusetts!
We had a great talk about you Lee during Easter Sunday breakfast. My dad asked how he can donate to you. Lots of people you’ll never meet are very proud of you.
Love this! I’m 76, and I discovered this attitude years ago. It has brought me joy! I especially enjoy giving kindness to checkers at the grocery store. Their job isn’t easy, and I know they encounter some grouchy customers.
I agree 100% and joke with everyone. They seem to almost be in shock when someone acknowledges their presence in a kind or funny way. 🤗🤗😍
As a grocery store cashier, I appreciate you! We LOVE getting friendly customers, and I'll talk to my coworkers about a positive experience just as much as I vent about a frustrating experience. You are definitely right that we get some frustrating people coming through our checkout lines, but the positive customers always help to outweigh the negative!
I’m a cashier and I love talking and joking with my customers. I try to “BE” what I want to see in others. Some days it is hard, but I try.
So easy to be pleasant to someone who is helping you (waitresses, cashiers, etc.). I always try to be a polite customer.
Agreed! I’m 72, come from a tiny town in Idaho, lived all over the West. My granddaughter swears “someday Grandma is going to get abducted by somebody, because she says hello to EVERYONE”. I see no reason not to “be kind”.
This makes me think of a meme I saw once that said something along the lines of, "Be so completely yourself that everyone else feels safe to be themselves too" and watching your videos, I can see that you are so unashamedly yourself, that I can only imagine the freedom people lucky enough to be in your presence must feel! You are a beautiful soul, Lee, and I'm SO glad I came across your videos however many months ago! Keep doing what you do,because it's so inspiring!
Love this. So true about being yourself makes others feel comfortable ....well some not all.
So true. 💕
I really like what you said, Lee. It goes beyond just smiling. I like that! “Making other’s feel comfortable & safe to be themselves.. as you’re being yourself”. I’m gonna go beyond Hi from now on. And I agree with you on smiling & asking “how’s their day has been”, first. Cannot believe how many clerks or business people I’ve called and somewhere in the conversation asked them how their day has been going. And they act shocked and say “you’re the first person that’s ever (or the first person of the day) asked me that”. Sad, but at the same time, makes me feel good.. like I truly made a difference in their day.. or made them feel like someone truly cared about them and how they were doing. It wasn’t just a one-sided conversation. Smiling/caring doesn’t cost a thing. And you go sooooomuch in return♥️😊
I get it! BE the Light in the darkness! Thanks Lee! From an old woman in Virginia, you inspire me to not give up on life but to keep sending positive words to the world and humble prayers for humanity to the great God above!
Never judge a book by it’s cover. There is good and bad in all of us
Our church feeds the homeless every week. When I'm serving dinner, I look them in the eye, smile, say Hi and
ask them how they are doing. The other servers do the same...
The best compliment I ever got from someone was a man I passed and smiled at who told me “you seem to radiate light “. That is exactly what I try to do and apparently it’s working. WE need to be the light in the darknesses until there is no more darknesses. Love you Lee and everything you stand for.
So true. I’m from a state that is noted for crass, unfriendly people but, the people that I come in contact with are usually reciprocal to my positive interaction. It’s true that many people in my state don’t say thank you or excuse me, but there are so many that do.
I will never forget my first time in a northern state, I'm from Georgia, and I had always heard negative stuff about this state but when I got there I just did what you said! I said Hi, smiled, please and thank you and everybody I encountered was so nice and pleasant! I agree with you 💯 Lee!
Good morning Georgia! I had just moved to the US for my freshman year at Uni and my best friend was from Georgia. We both threw ourselves into Chicago hospitality and treated everyone the same!
@@IntriguedLioness good evening! That's wonderful to hear. I hope you enjoyed your time here!
We love you too Lee and all the doggies
Love and light🙏🏻🇬🇧😘
I totally agree! Be the kindness you want to see and it will come back to you.
Hi Lee. Fantastic sentiment. Thank you.. I lost my border collie on March 10th, only a month ago. I was devastated. I rescued him when he was 18 months. He passed over at 16 years old. I always considered myself kind but since losing him I have been overwhelmed by people's sympathy for my loss...he was a well liked dog in my town by people who did not really know me but were touched by his amazing kindness. Although I am grieving I was really touched by this and have become even more empathetic and kind....situations have happened and I was able to help others even though I was feeling raw. His life taught me the true value of kindness and his death opened my my heart even further. Thank you for all that you do. From the UK.
Stuart Walker. Hello, my friend. I'm sending you a hug in this really difficult time. I know how sorrowful it is to lose our fur baby best friends. My husband and I currently have and have had several rescue dogs during our long lives, and WE have been the lucky ones as each had a lovely long life....16 years, 18 years....long lives which blessed us with their love. Hang in there. It will get easier although it doesn't seem like it right now.😔❤️❤️❤️
@@evelynbonner3908 Thank you so much....fur babies are the best.
A big hug from me too. We learn so much from animals and it sounds like you had a really special one. 🤗🤗
@@rosieoconnor1328 thank you so much.
My sympathy for the loss of that precious loved one. I know how painful it is to go through. There are some animals that are so sentient, so full of personality and light that they become our soulmates. I am so sorry.
Being nice is free! Thank you for your passion! 🙏❤
I agree totally with you, we must be the first one to smile and show them that we ARE acknowledging their existence. 🥰
“Be The Change” is a painted sign I see along a road I frequent. Every time I pass it, it puts me in a better mood because I know it’s true.
You nailed it brother!! Being the agent of kindness begins the journey of change.
When you put out positive energy, and love you get it back! Take time to smile, and speak to others..it is amazing what you will get back!
Wonderful message. We need to be a blessing to others. A ray of sunshine where we go and put positive and encouragement out there with our words.
Exactly! Thanks for watching and staying positive out there!
Thanks for remembering me that we never know which battles are the other people fighting inside... Nothing to do with us.. 🤗💕💕💕 My dog Sam and I have spent 3 days going up the woods and taking care of each other am so happy🐕🦺
I believe that the energy you put out is the energy you get back
With your joyful & positive attitude, it's easy to see why all the dogs in your pack love & respect you as the pack alpha. Great to see a human who has the same great attitude as my Southern Bulldog. Loves all the people we meet on our walks and wants to play with every puppy he encounters. Plus he too loves the water and would spend hours swimming in ponds if I let him.
Lee, speaking truth, spreading peace, love and understanding 💜 My fur babies and I appreciate you SO much.
Yes Lee! Always be the light in the darkness! Share love and hope and kindness. And don't get drawn into the negativity! God bless you. ❤️
My dads life motto was " Kindness comes free of charge. All it takes is a little bit of effort." He was right. Most valuable life lesson I've ever learned.
My grandfather taught that anyone can be "nice"... "Nice" can be a facade... But to be KIND is an entirely different thing. I hope you find kindness today!
@@IntriguedLioness Thank you. I hope you do to! All the best to you and yours.
I wish you knew how great you are with dogs 🐕 you're amazing 👏 Love and blessings from England 🙏🏴❤️
What a gift you have for spreading joy, and God bless you for using it.
Amen 💖💖💖💖💖💖
Believe me, I so understand this. I’m a 3rd Generation born & raised NYer, in the Hell’s Kitchen neighborhood to be exact. And we get a really bad rap. We aren’t rude, we’re just direct. But we’d give you the shirt off our back if you needed it. Think of any emergency in NYC and you’ll know a story about the helpful, kind people and our proud commitment to resilience. ♥️💪 Like Mr. Rogers said, look for the helpers, they’re always there. Doesn’t matter where, look for kindness and you’ll find it. Look for the negative and you’ll find that too. It’s all about how YOU look at the world ♥️
An inspiring video! I am quite shy so it is sometimes difficult to put myself out there but I'll try a little harder to keep smiling. Thank you 💓
Words of light-worker wisdom! Thank you Lee and Asher House crew for spreading your love and light everywhere. It is so much needed and appreciated💕
Well said! I always smile! I love in Victoria BC and most people are friendly back. You are what you give. “ Be the day you want to have” what a beautiful place you have for your dogs! Be safe and remain positive and it’s amazing what comes back to you 🤗
I’m sure there are mean people everywhere.. but I sooo agree that it starts with us!! Be FIRST to smile is such great advice!! And speaking of smiling.. EVERY time I see the pack on a hike & enjoying their lives, it makes my heart happy 🥰
Very Well Said Lee! People have no idea what is going on in my personal life, that is trying to slowly drain my soul, BUT... I still try to smile everywhere I go. Because if I can make someone else smile it helps bring back that spark of light into my soul. Thank you for your positivity it is Contagious!
Good morning! I wasn't going to mention this as I left a comment just now but... one year ago, out of the blue, I got a cancer diagnosis. Going through what I went through, in a pandemic, with all physical support groups closed, if I can still give a smile to nurses, to fellow patients in waiting room as we wait to go into chemotherapy then anyone can! Except for the fact that I lost my hair who could tell that I was going through a rough time... I just throw that smile out there and if it doesn't come back that's okay too!
@@IntriguedLioness Yes I agree! The big C word is very hard but I hope kept you going and you are better now.
My mother had just passed away i was waiting in line to get served at a pharmacy . I wasnt crying or showing signs of grief but a woman across the counter walked around and up to me!! She said are you okay you look really sad. I told her my mom had just passed and ahe actually gave me the biggest, longest motherly hug! She held me for a few moments in amongst a pharmacy full of people. I could not believe a stranger would be so kind and intuitive, an angel.. When i left the shop a flood of tears came that i had been holding back. . I will never forget that womens kindness it meant the world to me that day.. ❤
Exactly! Your energy can uplift others who may not be having a good day. Some are afraid to interact for a variety of reasons. Take the high road and you'll always be ahead.
Have visited the US 6 times now from Australia. A big reason I keep going back is the friendliness of the people. Was there during 9/11 and was in awe of how you guys got together to support each other. Some even apologised to me for the state of affairs. You are so right. Most often we get back what we give. Being positive in life is healthy. Please keep on doing what you’re doing. Cheers from 🇦🇺
I agree 100%. , it was probably his energy they were reacting to you .
Yes, yes, yes! You are so right!
I have to agree with you 100%.
Be the first to say hello or whatever. You have no idea what is going on in their life.
There’s always good people in this world n I believe that.
Lee, you did it again. You said this so beautifully on this subject. ♥️♥️♥️
Be that light!!!
You are a breathe of fresh air that makes life enjoyable. Not only because of the work you do but your positivity is infectious. I love that I was lucky enough to find your videos, I have a lot of love for you. Thank you and keep up the amazing work.
Beautifully said, such a lovely and gentle individual.
Where there is much darkness, Shine Your Light.
Words to live by ! 🤗
I cried over being able to hear the simple rightness of this message. These words have come to my life at just the right moment. #realtruth
Smiles tend to multiply. Mad faces divide.
I was really down and I was just about to run in front of a big truck. Then a boy about 10 years old said hi and smiled at me. I looked around to see if he said hi to someone else behind me because I have never had anyone showing me kindness like that before. When I saw him smiling at me , I then smiled back and said hi back to him. That small act of kindness saved my life. The rest of that day I was smiling and I even forgot what I was so sad about. Even a smile or a simple hi 👋 to someone or both can save a life. I am forever grateful to that boy for that.
Good people out number those crazy and disgruntled people.
One thing for sure “Crazy” is everywhere!
Excellent video Lee!
Lee, you are so smart. You are such a gift to this world. I know that you have moved me with your life. I’ve learned so much from you! Keep your light shinning!
The lens you look through is how you see the world.
We don't see the world as it is. We see it as we are.
Wise words!
Everything you said is point on! We should always be ready to be first!! Smile people, smile!!! At the very least others will wonder what you’re up to! 😉❤️👍🏻
I love you Lee! Thank you for your positivity and outlook on life.
Amen 💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖
You make your own happiness and good feelings
Yes, bring the light. You may change just one person's day, but tomorrow when you bring it again, the first person may have been inspired to do it, so it grows. Lee, you and the pack shine so bright, it's infectious!🐕😊
“Be the first to be kind”. This is so inspirational!!! You always hear parents telling their children “be kind, be kind”. I think there is something much deeper with the teaching of be the first to be kind. An empowerment that you too can acknowledge humanity (as it is) and possibly influence the reality and energy of others near you. It goes beyond recognition of self and embraces the whole notion that we are more than just one.
Absolutely... I've been to every state too and I smile, wave at people, and treat people decently and I've never had any issues!
"Be first to be kind" Lee that is a great phrase, thank you!
I always say: ‘’ what you holler into the woods, the echo comes back.”. also to smile does not cost anything. So give them freely.
This is absolutely true! I'm a smiler and people almost always light up and smile back. There is the rare person who took 3 years before they smiled back...
I love smiling and saying hi. Whenever someone doesn't say hi back, I pray for God to lighten their hearts so that maybe they can smile soon. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
You are so right. Out with the negativity and IN with the positivity. Thanks for your inspirational messages. Need more love in this crazy world. Big hugs to all your “babies” from Aunty Judy.
As a middle school teacher, you have to start with the positive! Every kiddo ALWAYS has a positive!
I worked at a bank and it is hard, serious work. I'm a serious person, but very kind. At my review my boss stated "We will work on getting Mary to smile more" To be honest she could have just asked me that. However it changed my life. I started smiling at everyone. And EVERYONE started smiling BACK. I didn't just do it at work either, I did it out in the world and it would blow your mind away how people respond when you smile at them. I smiled in a meeting today, I have a horrible facial disorder and have teeth issues. And a dear friend commented on how beautiful it was to see me smile. I'm in CT and she is in CA. So...it works! I'm smiling 😃 right now. Love you and I'm looking to rescue as we speak. I keep dragging my feet.
This reminds of a time where my husband was playing a guitar in our parking lot walking around as he normally does and this woman that we barley see revs her engine and whips into a parking stall barley missing my husband. Giving him the most mean looks. Mind you every time we have seen her face it is so unwelcoming. So my husband being the beautiful free spirit he is just smiled at her after she almost ran him over and she finally smiled back. Sometimes people are so hurt they take it out on the world around them and we can't let that rub off on us.
If you see somebody that needs a smile, give them yours. Love to you and all the puppies.
100% agree with this. My Dad would tell us growing up that "it's nice to be nice, and it costs nothing". When I'm out walking with my dog Tizer, whenever I lock eyes with someone (especially if they're also walking their dog) I always smile and say hi. I can usually tell within a second if they want to say hi or not, and if not, then that's fine. Usually a really nice conversation about our dogs, or their day (if they don't have a dog with them!) follows.
It's nice to be nice.
Lumping ALL into one group - never reflects all, but just a few! And, it is amazing how a little kindness goes a long way! Not always, but then the recipient may be too bitter, angry, hurt to accept kindness. So best to be kind - Great message!
I agree BUT as someone with a disability I’ve noticed that There are a small percentage of folks who will scowl or just stare when faced with someone who has a difference. I always smile first but for me I know I might be a big enough light for a deep dark.
I'm sooo glad you said this. I touched on the same idea in a comment here. Interactions are unique based on variables - age, sex, weight, location, looks, clothing, situation, etc. And yes DISABILITIES. I'm annoyed with myself that I didn't add that! My family, myself, and my 25-year profession have given me a "disabled" view of the world, so to speak. When you look at your surroundings through the eyes of those who are mentally and physically disabled, it's vastly different than what others experience.
Public spaces, conversation, opinion, everything media, technology, etc can make you feel like you're alone in your opinion, conditions, pain, and so on.
On a similar note, even those with the same disability might have completely different experiences and unable to understand.
How many times have we heard judgmental comments similar to, "Well I have ADHD too, but I can still pay my bills on time."
Yes.. I'm recently disabled and it is made a lot of people around me uncomfortable, they have pulled away. I feel like the world is busy rushing past me and I am alone in my stillness.
@@pepper1188 I'm sorry you're going through this. You're not alone but I understand it might feel like it. Some groups receive little acknowledgment, although they're paid lip service. The elderly, the disabled, abused children. However, a good chunk of the population are either disabled or elderly, or knows someone who is. The good news is that there are many resources available, even locally, although they're not advertised much.
This is such a good response to people who see things negatively and speak it. I totally agree with what you said about shinning your love light. More people who do this with make such a good difference.
I've always thought that a friendly hello and smile can be infectious.
I have traveled through almost every state in the US and I have always met wonderful folks. My dear wife an I have been lucky enough to have visited 38 different countries, some multiple times, with so many wonderful experiences. It's all about how YOU behave. This world is filled with amazing wonderful folks wiling to help you if you need help, invite you into their homes or even be your guides. We also noticed that the poorest folks are the most generous. Smile and be friendly and you will have the most amazing experiences and meet the most wonderful folks. We could fill a book with all of the amazing unexpected experiences we have had while traveling. Are we really that lucky?
You're an excellent human Lee!
Just wanted to say I have a huge soft spot for Maeve and Muffin. Might be the little old lady vibes they give off, but I want to squish them lovingly. Love all the dogs, but those 2 just have a special place in my heart and Pom Poms 😁 Can't forget Pom Poms aka Mickey ❤️
AMEN MY BROTHER!! A nice reminder that we all need. I learned this about 15yrs ago. I had only had my car back from getting a new bumper on it for 3 days. My son was in our local Children's hospital and we were struggling to take turns spending time with him so that he wasn't alone. It was about 10:30 at night and I'd gone home to shower & get things for the next day, feed the pets, (etc, etc, etc..) and relieve my spouse for the night. At the ticket booth in front of the hospital where you pull into to parking lots, I had one car in front of me and was just getting ready to pull forward and the Porch Cayenne in front of me put the car in reverse and gunned it, crushing my new front bumper and giving me ANOTHER THING TO DO. I was torn between being mad as hell, and wanting to cry from sheer exhaustion and feeling so damn sorry for myself. The gal gave me her card with her insurance company info on it and headed out (thank God we had the same small, at the time, insurance company). After I pulled forward, the guy at the booth started to wave me forward and then stopped me. He said he was surprised at how calm I was by what happened. In my head I was thinking something completely different. He said she pulled into the children's side of the hospital by accident, that her father was in the ER on the Adult side and had been in an accident earlier that evening and she was told he wasn't going to make it, that she should get there as soon as she could. WOW. It hit me like a ton of bricks!! While I we feeling so sorry for myself about my car, my son, the bill to come, work and responsibilities...the only thing worse would be not having it and my family at all. My son was sick, but he wasn't dying. I've never been so glad that I kept my mouth shut and didn't indulge my temper, that I found a scrap of self-discipline and was able to hold my tongue. As I walked up to my son's room I just said a little prayer for the lady and her family, and thanked God that our problems were smaller and I was able to learn something huge that night. You really never do know what the other person is dealing with.
Absolutely!!! 99.9%
We should all remember that we cannot change what others do, we can only change what we do ourselves.
I once read on a forum a guy saying a woman smiling at him makes his day. So many other men agreed. I was used to smiling at other women, girl power and all, but shied away from smiling at men because I was over thinking what that meant. After reading that forum post, I started smiling at men, and while very few smile back, it feels nice just to share the positivity to everyone! I also do my best now to receive smiles well too (from everyone), and smile back.
Lee, you are not ranting, you are speaking your truth. Thank you for your encouraging positivity & love towards all beings. Keep smiling🤗🌞❤️
Thank you for expressing this such truth. Growing up as a military child I learned this lesson early has paid off my whole adult life good job lee
I was just saying tonight how yes, our country has problems but think about how unique our nation is. There are 48 connected states,we cross boarders constantly, and smile, talk and eat and never worry or rarely worry about it. We are an amazing people, we should remember that, smile & be happy.
Doing a happy dance with a smile on my face. I have food, shelter and a dog who loves me ... life is great.
What a beautiful human being you are Lee, LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE YOU LEE ASHER!
motto "I can't help the way I feel, but I can help the way I Think and Act"
Thank you Lee for your positive energy and positive words. And your Love for All! 💙
Good manners don't cost a cent and a simple smile can make a difference in someone 's day. For real !!
"Be first to be Kind" I love this! ❤️
Amen Lee! It is so true, put good energy out and it comes back 10 fold. You should never expect other people to be first. You are awesome.
I'm from Brooklyn. So many people think New Yorkers are unhappy and unfriendly. The truth is, we tend to be in a rush. But there is no group of people I would rather be with in an emergency, when I need help, or to have fun. And what he said is spot on. I had a ton of friendly interactions in NYC. And when I didn't, it was usually because I was the one in a rush. But a smile and some sort of reaching out for human connection makes all the difference.
💖Great reminder Lee‼️A smile is understood by all, no matter what language you speak. And, it’s FREE‼️🙏🏽🤗❤️
“Be first to be kind”……”if you see darkness, shine your light.”….love ya sweetie, thx 🙏
I make a habit wherever I am if I am being served; I read the name on their tag and call that person by name. It is astounding how their eyes shine, and their demeanor immediately softens by just being recognized as who they are. Works 99 percent of the time.
Absolutely. If they do not respond, it is not about you. We never know what they are going through at that very minute.
You are completely right. I work graveyards at a gas station and one of my first days I had a man come in just grumpy. The next time I saw him I was expecting him to be grumpy. I decided to just be myself and started a conversation with him and now he is one of my favorite regular customers. I could have let my first impression of him keep me from reaching out and I would have lost the opportunity to make a new friend. I can honestly say that when you treat others the way you want to be treated the world is a better place.
I agree with what you are saying. I am Canadian and recently visited the US and was in a busy big box store and noted that the workers there were a bit like robots, seeming uninterested and glib. When I got to cashier, I smiled and asked her how her day was going and I really found that her demeanour improved and she did become more responsive to me during our interaction. If I hadn't made the effort, my reaction would have been that everyone there was unfriendly. Which now I see is that these people are just overworked and are lacking positive interactions with their clients. We need to stop and appreciate other people, it benefits everyone. Love the work that you do and it is always a pick me up to see your lovely, happy animals.
Definitely agree with you on this. Kindness is always nice to give and receive.
This is exactly what my Devotional was about this morning. Very uplifting to hear it again on here.❤😊
You're absolutely right. Be the change you want to see. Treat all humans as you'd want to be treated.
A smile is free to give and they are usually contagious. One person smiles and you can watch as others react with smiles too! And also maybe that person you smiled at needed a smile !
Our beliefs are our expectations... and that colors everything. Being a good person is narrowly defined in too many micro cultures. The goodness I've experienced on the streets of NYC was mindblowing, and the goodness I've experienced in a small town in North Carolina was just as wonderful... and they LOOKED completely different. Open minds are rare, but they're the happiest.
"Be kinder than necessary because everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle. J.M.Barry
You are sooo correct!!!! Keep on "ranting", we love it! 😊