Part 1 EP.51 Phumzile on losing her brother due to her mother’s hatred, survival, selling herself…

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  • @madams___speaker
    @madams___speaker  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    Part 2 th-cam.com/video/2wyxgQXcjq4/w-d-xo.htmlsi=utypoAyYTeJUh_yF

    • @tebogoprecious4825
      @tebogoprecious4825 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @madams_speaker Please unlock part 2.

    • @palesadlamini7616
      @palesadlamini7616 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Please

    •  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Excellent job 🎉❤. Congratulations

  • @liinanunes1394
    @liinanunes1394 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

    Thank you soo much for asking her to interpret for us Non-SA residents.
    I am watching from Namibia 🇳🇦

  • @Thembelihle_Zizo_Tshanda
    @Thembelihle_Zizo_Tshanda 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +54

    Its so sad because such parents do exist, there's a young girl out there who is expected to feed her family by means of sleeping around . Thank you for sharing Phumzile, i pray that you find peace and heal from all your past experience .

    • @phumzilentshabele-mw8rs
      @phumzilentshabele-mw8rs 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Thank you so much, I am healed hence I'm sharing my story to heal others you are going through the same situation or who had a similar story.

    • @pontshompe9282
      @pontshompe9282 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      More than people care to admit

  • @_MizzKea
    @_MizzKea 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +40

    The pain of being at odds with your own mother is the worst pain you can go through in life. I know it very well.

    • @nokuthulabooi1930
      @nokuthulabooi1930 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@_MizzKea The worst it doesn't get away you just learn to live with it..

    • @_MizzKea
      @_MizzKea 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@nokuthulabooi1930 yes and it stays with you everywhere you go.

    • @nokuthulabooi1930
      @nokuthulabooi1930 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@_MizzKea The quest of looking for your own mother in other woman' made me to be exploited and wrong choices. Until i learned that i have one toxic mother and will never know mother's love from my own

    • @pontshompe9282
      @pontshompe9282 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@_MizzKea😢

    • @pontshompe9282
      @pontshompe9282 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@nokuthulabooi1930THIS!!!

  • @ZOE_NtombiYaseMancwabeni
    @ZOE_NtombiYaseMancwabeni หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    I realized late that my mother is actually toxic AF. Someone here mentioned " the pain of looking for a mother, from the woman who gave birth to you".... i felt that.

  • @Winterflowers1
    @Winterflowers1 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +37

    Immediately after passing matric, I was told the very same thing ukuthi intanga zam ziyarheleza and now regardless of how stranded I am, home is my last resort. Parents are toxic😢

    • @busisiwemichelle5391
      @busisiwemichelle5391 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Askies sisi

    • @pontshompe9282
      @pontshompe9282 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Lol most of us have been put in that situation

    • @luciateffu9608
      @luciateffu9608 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Same here I was kicked out of our family home 2016 when I was doing my final year by my dad so when ever I lost my job he would tell me that I am a woman I should hussel like other women and that he does have extra food for me. I thank God for my partner as he has been there for me against all odds he's a wonderful father to our kids as well

    • @turboaccountingandtaxservi3611
      @turboaccountingandtaxservi3611 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Askies nana

  • @ntandokazi5587
    @ntandokazi5587 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    Clearly there was a spirit that was pursuing him to take his life
    It’s so unfortunate that they were not well informed on how to handle the situation cause it would’ve been prevented
    Prayer is so powerful and this things can manifest in the future generations. I recommend you break that curse completely so that your children’s lives won’t be affected

  • @karabomoncho
    @karabomoncho หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    You are living my life girl. My mother hates me because I'm not enabling and supporting her toxicity 😢

    • @viezulu
      @viezulu หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      My story eyiii😢

  • @tsholofelomosoane919
    @tsholofelomosoane919 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

    I wish I can get strength to tell my story. I even did something so horrible that I will never forgive myself because of the hatred from both my parents. I was supposed to be sentenced life in prison today because of what I did but by the grace of God all that didn't happen. Madam speaker please invite me to your podcast I need to tell my story😭💔

  • @khethiwemethula2023
    @khethiwemethula2023 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    Everything rises and fall with families. Growing up in a sick home breeds sick children who go out to the community and affect others.

  • @teekay543
    @teekay543 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +91

    I know it is not everyone's cup of tea but Jesus can help this family. Accepting Jesus, deliverance and counseling works better than blaming everyone. Please don't swear at me, I won't see your insult. ❤

    • @khethiwemethula2023
      @khethiwemethula2023 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      I don't think it's blaming others ey but rather looking at the cause and effect of everything. I believe that one can't heal what one does not know. Even God reveals, through prophets, apostles, teachers, etc, certain issues in our lives, with the aim to redeem us.

    • @teekay543
      @teekay543 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@khethiwemethula2023ok

    • @phumzilentshabele-mw8rs
      @phumzilentshabele-mw8rs 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      You are so far from knowing God. If you can just listen to the whole story before you tell people about Jesus.
      We were all saved years ago and I'm where I am today sharing my story because of my God.
      I don't want your Jesus keep him to yourself.

    • @Ntombizodwa_Ikea
      @Ntombizodwa_Ikea 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      You are right, Lord Jesus will definitely help if they call unto Him and allow Him to save them. ❤ Don’t worry about insults.

    • @pontshompe9282
      @pontshompe9282 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      So according to you she's blaming someone or telling her truth?

  • @mcdollard7469
    @mcdollard7469 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    My mother controls everything everything is about her it has to happen when she wants and how she wants it. Her husband died before he died he told me the way im treated here you'll see it oneday. Your mother loves someone with money but when you run out of money she will make your life miserable. He wasn't lying

    • @tsakanimugari9583
      @tsakanimugari9583 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I can relate, the problem is the love of money

    • @pontshompe9282
      @pontshompe9282 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Most mothers like this like money

  • @TebatjoRam
    @TebatjoRam 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    When you talk about all those tittles and achievements Sis Grace i just fell inlove with you 🥺❤🔥

  • @gugundhladhla3273
    @gugundhladhla3273 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    I relate to this story ....my mother is exactly like this nakafika sontweni she is so holy😢

    • @Ezisemoyeni...
      @Ezisemoyeni... 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Askies mntase 😢

    • @mskhumalo5118
      @mskhumalo5118 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Yep these kind of mothers do exist. I can relate to her 100 percent

    • @pontshompe9282
      @pontshompe9282 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Same

    • @SinazoNqana-jj2eq
      @SinazoNqana-jj2eq หลายเดือนก่อน

      My mom exactly😢

    • @pheladitau6762
      @pheladitau6762 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😢

  • @PotsoMalapela
    @PotsoMalapela 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    Mara Madam speaker u are so good shem en so accurate en thoughtful with ur questions

  • @gabisilembuli1260
    @gabisilembuli1260 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I truly believe that spirit is linked to the mom

  • @Y.amanzi
    @Y.amanzi 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    My own mother once said: banana Ba zama kantle ka mo, sebedisa seo o nang le sona. I remember I only wanted xmas clothes as she just came back for holidays mind you my granny raised me. So my story is so similar to hers in almost all aspects. But we grow up and say MAY WE NEVER BE LIKE THEM AND BE BETTER THAN THEM!!!

    • @hildadavids217
      @hildadavids217 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@Y.amanzi I am so sorry to hear that mothers can intentionally do this to their daughters. Very sad indeed. I had a great mum who told me the dangers of how men can use you and if you need money, come and ask her. That is what made become very independent. I would look at a suspeciously if a man offered me money. Up to today money is the last thing I look forward to. A good man is what is important, it is never about money. That helped me find a good man.

    • @busisiwemichelle5391
      @busisiwemichelle5391 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yooh sisi askies neh

    • @Y.amanzi
      @Y.amanzi 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@busisiwemichelle5391 kulungile sis. All I know is ka mohau wa modimo i am at peace🙏

    • @pontshompe9282
      @pontshompe9282 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Same

    • @pontshompe9282
      @pontshompe9282 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The sad part is when she now wants to do the same to your kids and even forms teams with your children's father

  • @nosiphonkomo2367
    @nosiphonkomo2367 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I can relate 100% my mother is bully and toxic she loves what you do for her ,she hates me to the core she tried to abort me but she didn't succeed

    • @MOSIMA.
      @MOSIMA. หลายเดือนก่อน

      yoh. was she raped or kanjan'¿

    • @mercyripunda7282
      @mercyripunda7282 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You are talking about my mom.

  • @mantelekhitsane8935
    @mantelekhitsane8935 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I sold my body to pay rent😢😢😢that's heavy 😭😭sister you went through a lot may God heal you 🙏 ❤

    • @phumzilentshabele-mw8rs
      @phumzilentshabele-mw8rs 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I thank God that it was husband I sold my body 2.

    • @SeboleloTebesi
      @SeboleloTebesi 26 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Got married at 17 to someone who was 10 years older. My Mom was happy when I left because I think the weight was off her shoulders. That lady despised me for looking exactly like my Dad. She would even take me to her mother's village just because she couldn't stand seeing me since I was a baby and she would claim that her Mom hated her then she does the same to me! Those 40s 50s and 60s Moms were straight from hell well not all of them.

  • @busisiwemichelle5391
    @busisiwemichelle5391 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    These mothers who end up abusing their kids they where hurt by something they are hurt they are weak they didn't heal theirself they didn't heal

    • @pontshompe9282
      @pontshompe9282 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Exactly they're weak

  • @pontshompe9282
    @pontshompe9282 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Yes her type creates episodes...everytime you relax she strikes...everytime you hope for the best she does it again...i stopped talking to her a couple of times bedfore this last time for good

  • @dollarscientist9009
    @dollarscientist9009 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    A sad story but reality to many families, mothers can be so cruel! Then people will say " bust she's your mother" and that is what make us keep quiet and die in silence!
    My mother hates me too but since she is unemployed now, she is tolerating me so I can put food on the table and for her. While she was working she didn't care where I lived or anything. Thank God she didn't raise me but the trauma she has put me through as an adult is too much! I thank my grandparents daily for the good childhood they afforded me❤

  • @dorahmokete218
    @dorahmokete218 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    Mothers of the 1950s yoh they are heartless, I can relate😢😢

    • @HloiMollo
      @HloiMollo 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Not all of us. My kids are everything to me

    • @nokuthulabooi1930
      @nokuthulabooi1930 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      @@dorahmokete218 we tye 70s, 80s kids we really are broken. Am 41 and i be honest willl need therapy for rest my life.......

    • @nokuthulabooi1930
      @nokuthulabooi1930 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @@dorahmokete218 my parents 50s and 60s joh toxic relationship and disfuctional families, siblings rivalry and so much more

    • @dorahmokete218
      @dorahmokete218 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@nokuthulabooi1930Me too sis I'm on a survival mode ,I'm also 41 om trying to be strong for my kids

    • @nokuthulabooi1930
      @nokuthulabooi1930 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@HloiMollo True we need healing as black nation

  • @DorisSiganunu
    @DorisSiganunu 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    My mom was the best ever till today I'm still talking about her,unfortunately she is late.may her soul rest in peace

    • @adelaidesisasenkosi6361
      @adelaidesisasenkosi6361 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Zimbabwean 🇿🇼 Ndebele proverb says “ isitsha esihle asidleli.” Loosely translated as good things don’t last forever. However, evil people live much longer.

    • @zosibiya1398
      @zosibiya1398 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The good ones are taken quickly but the evil ones they stay maybe to change but they dont

    • @zosibiya1398
      @zosibiya1398 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@adelaidesisasenkosi6361I typed before reading your comment exactly

  • @nokuthulabooi1930
    @nokuthulabooi1930 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    😢 askies sis I understand the sad part when people know your family they rejection is huge and relative exploit or abuse you ...

  • @menniekumalo3276
    @menniekumalo3276 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    Mothers sometimes can see the potential their own kids posses, then they hate that. They make sure to break you, if they don’t succeed, they start hating you.

    • @MashegoMoeng
      @MashegoMoeng 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      What kind of parent is that?

    • @tsakanimugari9583
      @tsakanimugari9583 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Your right

    • @menniekumalo3276
      @menniekumalo3276 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@MashegoMoeng jelous parents

    • @pontshompe9282
      @pontshompe9282 หลายเดือนก่อน

      THIS!!!

    • @pontshompe9282
      @pontshompe9282 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@MashethgoMoeng the type we were birthed by

  • @mookhokumpi9936
    @mookhokumpi9936 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    That mother was mentally ill.even the brother had a mental problem.Both needed help

    • @hildadavids217
      @hildadavids217 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @mookhukumpi9936 It is mental breakdown. It can happen to anyone. My sister had a mental breakdown as well and was helped at a mental hospital. Unfortunately we interpret it differently. My sister went crazy and almost killed my mom. Thank God she was given tablets and they calmed her down. She had to take them for the rest of her life. Fortunately she didn't have any children. So mental health is real.

    • @phumzilentshabele-mw8rs
      @phumzilentshabele-mw8rs 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Believe me you can only know a mental I'll person if you are also mentally ill.
      You are mentally ill, my mother and brother were not mentally ill🙏

    • @restartingwithPresh
      @restartingwithPresh 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I understand what sis Phumzile was saying...I was also bewitched with that "izilwane" thing,heeh you see things that no one else sees,I saw all the dead and I had moments where I wanted to end my life,I escapaded in hospital and I had power,I dont know from where...mind you I'm a big girl and my family and I are all bazalwane that was the first time we consulted....my family tried different churches before the tradition way and its the only way that had better results...just saying that what she's talking about it's there...and bazali please stop preaching about how intelligent and bright your children are because you guys are putting us in danger...we end up being used to fight battles we don't know

    • @pontshompe9282
      @pontshompe9282 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@phumzilentshabele-mw8rs your brother was not mentally ill my sister...definitely bewitched...your mom usile siii

  • @matlalampho4304
    @matlalampho4304 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    “Kanti what’s wrong with him. Why are you not loving him kanti”😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @phumzilentshabele-mw8rs
      @phumzilentshabele-mw8rs 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Nothing was wrong with him. I just didn't love him then😂

  • @PatriciaNtsie-gz7gu
    @PatriciaNtsie-gz7gu 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I am watching my own life story here☹☹☹☹☹☹ and at 41 finding out that i am adopted is just one hell of a trigger point

    • @Lungo28
      @Lungo28 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Bless you hope you find healing seek Jesus.

    • @Ezisemoyeni...
      @Ezisemoyeni... 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I'm so sorry 😢

    • @mmatshepomarebane5592
      @mmatshepomarebane5592 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I’m sorry sisi🫂

    • @pontshompe9282
      @pontshompe9282 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Same

    • @jabunxumalo2111
      @jabunxumalo2111 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😢

  • @nokuthulabooi1930
    @nokuthulabooi1930 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

    My mother is exactly like her and my dad will not do anything. Am 41 my life is fucked up and I need help

    • @mcdollard7469
      @mcdollard7469 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Hayi siyafana even ngine anger engingayizi ukuthi ivela kuphi but the mother is not my biological mother so since I was founded out at 13 till today if angmniki akufunayo yooooo ngingumcolwa angi nasbongo yonke nje lonto ene futhi athi akanalo isiko lam.

    • @phumlasimandla4641
      @phumlasimandla4641 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Tjooo maan this is so pain full😢😢😢😢😢

    • @pfulu
      @pfulu 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      If you are working please just move out and rent a room 😢you are old enough to still be around such toxicity 😢.

    • @mbalinomusa355
      @mbalinomusa355 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Praying you receive healing my love. And I hope your situation more than anything teaches you to LOVE than becoming hardened.

    • @nokuthulabooi1930
      @nokuthulabooi1930 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@pfulu True moved out a lot of times even now am. Not employed still looking i was homeless picking up glass bottles for survival...

  • @YIked807
    @YIked807 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Mom carried a lot of childhood trauma and unfortunately she didn't have an outlet like writing a book or telling her story. Vicious cycle that will take a strong one to break that generational curse, who will understand that generational pain without blaming.

  • @DikakanyoGoweditswe
    @DikakanyoGoweditswe 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Now I know there is nothing called functional family. All families are disfunctional not only mine. May God bless you and guide you through.

  • @takalanisinthumule7338
    @takalanisinthumule7338 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Thos family was cursed o remember in our villge there was a family were the sisters use to fight like cats and dogs ,one hanged herself but sge was rescued by the other guy ,tbe guy who rescued her alsi hanged himself ,they had to relocate fron our villge ,the Mother needed deliverance wirh the son

  • @sharonnavuga5039
    @sharonnavuga5039 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Hi Madame Speaker, could we have sub-titles please. The story is interesting but I dont understand the language especially in the crucial parts. Thanks.

  • @rittam2178
    @rittam2178 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

    You are one of the strongest person i know.

  • @LeomProjects
    @LeomProjects หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This mother was wounded and suffered from scars from her past.
    Almost raped by stepfather, falling pregnant at 13 and married!
    She never even got a chance to enjoy her teenage years. Now these bad spirits and curses are being passed on from generation yo generation. Thhis family needs deliverance to break away from these chains.
    HURT PEOPLE, HURT PEOPLE

  • @moiponeinnocentiamolaudzi8128
    @moiponeinnocentiamolaudzi8128 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I don’t understand, not all mothers are toxic, we are three kids at home and I know my mom truly loved us all equally, there has never been a moment where I felt like one of us is not that loved. How I miss her,, she truly loved us and that memory will forever remain with me.

    • @thabsilechamane3774
      @thabsilechamane3774 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

      What is it that you don’t understand? Your mother loved you and we thank God for that. Our sister is sharing her story and her truth what is it they you don’t understand

    • @ZOE_NtombiYaseMancwabeni
      @ZOE_NtombiYaseMancwabeni หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I don't think it was stated that "all mothers are toxic".

    • @SeboleloTebesi
      @SeboleloTebesi 26 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Yah sometimes you may find that you were loved like my siblings they think our Mom was an angel but she wasn't!

  • @maphatemamabolo4093
    @maphatemamabolo4093 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This beautiful girl is a fighter❤

  • @tamiwetomoka4963
    @tamiwetomoka4963 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    The mum was broken and carried a lot of trauma

    • @pontshompe9282
      @pontshompe9282 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Some of us are broken by her type but choose to be better parents to our kids

  • @ChristineMadimola
    @ChristineMadimola 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    I know that pain...

    • @madams___speaker
      @madams___speaker  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Love and light 🤍🤍

    • @khethiwemethula2023
      @khethiwemethula2023 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Grace & strength to you. I wish you healing ❤️‍🩹

    • @pontshompe9282
      @pontshompe9282 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Same

  • @tendaimashingaidze7823
    @tendaimashingaidze7823 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Watching from Zimbabwe 🇿🇼 😌😢

  • @NtlanuNogaga
    @NtlanuNogaga 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    The boy was just mentally illl guys ,why saying demorn possessed,?? The brain is an organ like any organ in the body...when are people going to learn kanti 😏😏???

    • @Phumzie_dladla
      @Phumzie_dladla 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I totally i agree with you this reminds me of my father he was just like his brother and they took him to Different traditional healers saying uphethwe yizilwane and they couldn’t help until he was admitted to a Psychotic hospital that’s where he was Diagnosed with schizophrenia and that’s were he started taking Meds he got much better

    • @phumzilentshabele-mw8rs
      @phumzilentshabele-mw8rs 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Can you fly to a cell ceiling to see the mental illness in you. Or just brake your toilet with your bare hands to see

    • @busisiwemichelle5391
      @busisiwemichelle5391 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      But black magic does exist people like witches can twist your mind put things inside of you they twist you to become something else

    • @hildadavids217
      @hildadavids217 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@Phumzie_dladla Thank you Phumzile people just do not want to understand that the brain is just an organ which can be healed. There are doctors specializing in this field. People get healed and unfortunately have to take medication for the rest of their life, my sister is one of them, she nearly killed my mother, she was hearing voices, but is fine now. She was diagnosed with bipolar disorder.

    • @mrm1984
      @mrm1984 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@hildadavids217 just cause you had the means to seek medical assistance and get a diagnosis, it does not mean everyone can. In African culture especially the older generation will first assume bad spirits before thinking of bipolar, dementia etc. Those are foreign medical terms to most.

  • @Theincredibleme-98
    @Theincredibleme-98 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    I need to learn zulu😢😢😂😂😂A Namibian here

    • @teekay543
      @teekay543 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I'm sorry

    • @Mparewasame
      @Mparewasame 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Same here 🙋🏾‍♀️ from Tanzania

    • @Tonti7
      @Tonti7 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Subtitles is the solution.

    • @Ezisemoyeni...
      @Ezisemoyeni... 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😂😂😂😂😂

    • @phumzilentshabele-mw8rs
      @phumzilentshabele-mw8rs 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You must hey😂

  • @smallgirlBigGod-b8u
    @smallgirlBigGod-b8u 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I enjoyed it when is part 2 coming?

    • @thobekiledlamini
      @thobekiledlamini 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Why? You also dating a mon South African?

    • @ReaolebogaB
      @ReaolebogaB 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@thobekiledlaminihau wena?

  • @gift0877
    @gift0877 หลายเดือนก่อน

    When i watched this part few days ago I thought, her mother's side of the story would be nice. After watching part 2.......haikhona

  • @KasiLaw123
    @KasiLaw123 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is so sad 😢 but I’m wondering if she told him the results and he got treatment ngeka phila yhooo

    • @motlagomangmankgomelaphela1051
      @motlagomangmankgomelaphela1051 25 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Sorry to say but her denial killed him, she denied him the treatment , i hope they wont come for me

    • @KasiLaw123
      @KasiLaw123 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @ You’re absolutely right

  • @joeltolamo4707
    @joeltolamo4707 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Shooooo....you went through difficulties, sesi. This life was terrible, hey!😢😢😢

  • @lindiwemhlanga
    @lindiwemhlanga 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Have you ever thought that your mom became a narcissist because of her childhood trauma?

  • @pontshompe9282
    @pontshompe9282 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    N such mothers will steal n take from you shame.....n play fowl...they're liars....manipulative n evil

  • @roseannbarrows5266
    @roseannbarrows5266 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Madam speaker please encourage your guests to speak more English some of us are loosing the story with the vernacular parts.

    • @madams___speaker
      @madams___speaker  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I will do thank thank you 🙏🏿

    • @Tonti7
      @Tonti7 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Everyone expresses themselves better in their mother tongue. Subtitles is the best solution.

  • @katlehomasilo7353
    @katlehomasilo7353 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Sounds like the brother was severely depressed by a mother who was a malignant narcissist, I hope you find healing my sister ❤

  • @2manyofus333
    @2manyofus333 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    how much did she spend budget for the book, more or less please?

  • @dimphomopeli4512
    @dimphomopeli4512 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I so don't get along with my mother...damn I can relate...my mother even told me that she was happy when she only had my siblings..things got ruined when I was born...imagine😢

  • @Nogi_83
    @Nogi_83 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I'm not suprised at all,here in Rustenburg is a norm to pimp their daughters. Worse they are even doing that in churches

    • @pontshompe9282
      @pontshompe9282 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      That they're known for shame n they've been doing for decades

  • @hlapogadintsoane7722
    @hlapogadintsoane7722 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yhoo this story, 😢 just bringing back so many bad memories

  • @Princess_Lehlohonolo
    @Princess_Lehlohonolo 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    If only url knew that this is a norm in unemployed homes

    • @madams___speaker
      @madams___speaker  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Haaahhh 😢😢😢

    • @khethiwemethula2023
      @khethiwemethula2023 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      The brutality of poverty 💔😢.

    • @nokuthulabooi1930
      @nokuthulabooi1930 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes Black mother's pimp us​@@madams___speaker

    • @busisiwemichelle5391
      @busisiwemichelle5391 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Hayi that's a lot sisi haaah

    • @phumzilentshabele-mw8rs
      @phumzilentshabele-mw8rs 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It's a norm for women to pimp their children worldwide. It's always Women all race who distroys their children boys and girls. You will never find a man hating her children. It's always mothers, mother inlaw, sister inlaw and baby mama's

  • @nokuthulabooi1930
    @nokuthulabooi1930 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Madam speaker i have a story horror story of my life to tell the thing is am still in hell i wants to tell when am out but at rhis rate coming out ot seems impossible

    • @phumlasimandla4641
      @phumlasimandla4641 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Uzukhe uzame no Owamie please cc

    • @madams___speaker
      @madams___speaker  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Sorry about what you’ve been through sis. You’re in my prayers ❤❤

    • @nokuthulabooi1930
      @nokuthulabooi1930 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@madams___speaker Thank you job is the answer

    • @pontshompe9282
      @pontshompe9282 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It's non Sisi...I did n still don't know how I did it...I prayed for an exit n also spoke to her late parents spiritually otherwise i'd be saying what you're saying

  • @NeziswaUmeghalu-hm3fp
    @NeziswaUmeghalu-hm3fp 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Yhoo uthetha ngomama wam unjalo kanye kanye😢

  • @karabomoncho
    @karabomoncho 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Her mother is a unfortunately a narcissist, that is exactly how my mother is😢

  • @spm9130
    @spm9130 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Her mom is a narcissist who is wounded herself. Bad combination! Sorry sisi 💔

  • @alinampopza5671
    @alinampopza5671 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Thanks God I don't have a mother😊😊😊most of this mothers are toxic

    • @pontshompe9282
      @pontshompe9282 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Majority of them but people don't want to talk about it cos it's women not men

    • @_theerealnono_7694
      @_theerealnono_7694 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I can't even imagine such, my mum was such a darling while still living. So sad that there are monsters of mothers out there.

  • @jeanneramanyimi1563
    @jeanneramanyimi1563 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I know witchcraft exists however considering the fact that, the mom has a problem was the brother not Bipolar, What she explains sounds like a manic episode

    • @gabisilembuli1260
      @gabisilembuli1260 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

      definitely a sever mental issue

  • @MphoMaredi-k3v
    @MphoMaredi-k3v 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Where is part 2

  • @joeltolamo4707
    @joeltolamo4707 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Your father was supposed to interfere. You can't just keep quiet when things are not going well. Your mother did something to your dad. Aaowaa....mme woo😢😢

  • @mamaAfrica..29
    @mamaAfrica..29 24 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Such mothers are there.

  • @leely1173
    @leely1173 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    part 2 please

    • @Ezisemoyeni...
      @Ezisemoyeni... 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes please part2 toe ...

  • @palesasebeela7608
    @palesasebeela7608 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I honestly think this 1 is the problem, yes her mom was a horrible person but honestly this lady is her mother's daughter and she needs to work on herself.

  • @riisahoppen1231
    @riisahoppen1231 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I had the same experience but at least it was my stepmom and my dad divorced her

  • @VictoriousVee.
    @VictoriousVee. 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Can somebody translate what happened in 1993

    • @phumzilentshabele-mw8rs
      @phumzilentshabele-mw8rs 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      1993 July my mom went outside to fetch something and when she was coming inside when opening the door her foot turned and broke she had to put screws in her foot.

    • @VictoriousVee.
      @VictoriousVee. 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@phumzilentshabele-mw8rs thank you 🥰

  • @pontshompe9282
    @pontshompe9282 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    One day we will talk about how having such a mother affects you psychologically n emotionally and affects your studies and relationships

  • @Tinospakwa
    @Tinospakwa 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Madam Speaker can you please remind yo guests to speak in english as u used because some of us are not from South Africa

    • @madams___speaker
      @madams___speaker  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I will do that thank you 🙏🏿

    • @Tinospakwa
      @Tinospakwa 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@madams___speaker thank you for considering us... 🙏

    • @omphileprecious5159
      @omphileprecious5159 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@madams___speakeror subtitles nje some people express their selfes well in their language

    • @phumzilentshabele-mw8rs
      @phumzilentshabele-mw8rs 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Subtitles is needed, we express ourselves better in our languages.

  • @ruthkandonga9169
    @ruthkandonga9169 หลายเดือนก่อน

    sad story hey...language though,missing out alot😌

  • @sibumahlinza5558
    @sibumahlinza5558 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This one almost had her father killed 😢😢

  • @ModikweSentso-gr7nq
    @ModikweSentso-gr7nq 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Oh my goodness. Shuuuuu this is so sad😢

  • @masellomokone9665
    @masellomokone9665 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Your mom and my grandmother “same WhatsApp group “ yoooo

    • @restartingwithPresh
      @restartingwithPresh 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      That's my grandmother too and I'm her first grandchild 😢

  • @zinhlemngomezulu3109
    @zinhlemngomezulu3109 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    So painful

  • @laizahmawoneni8013
    @laizahmawoneni8013 หลายเดือนก่อน

    i like to watch this podcast but it would be nice if you could persuade the person to speak in English. Its the mixing of English and other languages makes us loose track of the story. Your podcast is good but language make it English so everyone in the world who wants ti watch will understand

  • @KoketsoModise-h6k
    @KoketsoModise-h6k 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Can you invite me to your show. I want to relate my story.

  • @mzyvonnehangara7637
    @mzyvonnehangara7637 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Why come to the show if u are not yet ready to be ask questions related to the stories u are sharing ????

  • @BaileBaloyi
    @BaileBaloyi 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yoh that remedy 54:54😮 what was wrong with the baby again?

    • @KeituForever
      @KeituForever 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Bro😮😮😮😮

    • @madams___speaker
      @madams___speaker  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Vomiting through the nose

  • @mamakhooamphahama3938
    @mamakhooamphahama3938 หลายเดือนก่อน

    your mother needed help herself , i think that's where the hatred began

  • @lettitiasambumbu1266
    @lettitiasambumbu1266 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yhooo our families.

  • @phumze6940
    @phumze6940 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Why can't you put tissue somewhere on the table?🤔

  • @LetAllBeVisible
    @LetAllBeVisible 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    SO WE CANT WATCH PRT2 AS YOU Bribing people with monetary payment to watch. THIS is the lowest. We watch to get inspired and you get your view earnings. Why are you doing this or your channel is for the rich.

    • @madams___speaker
      @madams___speaker  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      Yesses The way you’re so disrespectful and entitled, you think this content was recorded for free and you are entitled to everything you want for free otherwise you’re being bribed? Those without money will watch part 2 on Sunday. Atleast let those with money who are in a position to bless me and want to see growth and improvement get value for money .

    • @zandilemabena3919
      @zandilemabena3919 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Why would you want to police another person's business model? Whether you accept it or not, she is running a business and it will be done on her own terms.

    • @madams___speaker
      @madams___speaker  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      First of all I want to thank my Subscribers, my content consumers and also my patrons 🙌🏿

    • @Ezisemoyeni...
      @Ezisemoyeni... 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@madams___speakerSiyakuncanywa Sisi Wethu❤

    • @pontshompe9282
      @pontshompe9282 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Your level of entitlement from other people's hard work is too much!!!!

  • @uendjizuva9863
    @uendjizuva9863 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Madam Speaker she is fluent in English what happened omg we are here but we don't understand Zula atleast those who can speak English must be Encourage to speak had to stop

    • @phumzilentshabele-mw8rs
      @phumzilentshabele-mw8rs 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      We try but English is not our comfortable language to express ourselves.

  • @GrannyMohlong
    @GrannyMohlong หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Was she saved? Then salvation didn't save her she was supposed to be born again she must try being born again. Becz there's no way a person who worships the name of Jesus can do that.

  • @DianaMokgawa
    @DianaMokgawa หลายเดือนก่อน

    You're father is Rambo.... Rambo is you're father 😅😅😅

  • @phumelelamantwana6300
    @phumelelamantwana6300 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I would like to know the age gap between her mom and dad given that she was impregnated at 13🤔.... ?

  • @JulyMagana-s7f
    @JulyMagana-s7f 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Sorry for your pain sis but so many contradiction in her story let alone the element for jealousy for her sister, and she is a perfect one and a villain in the story

  • @VictoriousVee.
    @VictoriousVee. 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The lady is always eating lollipop 😂

    • @pfulu
      @pfulu 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Lollipop 🍭 where 😅

    • @VictoriousVee.
      @VictoriousVee. 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@pfulu the gost lady with cornrows with grey strands

  • @smallgirlBigGod-b8u
    @smallgirlBigGod-b8u 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    😂😂😂 Podcast 😂 ye 😂 ke 😂 movie 🍿 yooooh.

  • @jackieradebe4419
    @jackieradebe4419 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Amen

  • @mbalilulama8669
    @mbalilulama8669 24 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Yohh Sies ay Girl kudala ugudla shame,Maybe now sewukhathele.

  • @hellen-z2t
    @hellen-z2t 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I wish you tell your story in English

    • @phumzilentshabele-mw8rs
      @phumzilentshabele-mw8rs 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I'm a black woman, English is not my language. I speak 10 South African languages and Luganda. You can ask where you got lost I will gladly translate for you. Before part 2🙏

  • @CheifCheif-s9l
    @CheifCheif-s9l หลายเดือนก่อน

    Phumzile you are made of sterna stuff

  • @MoeketsiMopa-bv3em
    @MoeketsiMopa-bv3em 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The mother hated her and brother coz the could not me pimped

    • @Ezisemoyeni...
      @Ezisemoyeni... 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You're noting a good point uyaz.🤔

  • @dianakatuuo3056
    @dianakatuuo3056 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    If only she was able to express herself fully in English...must we non-South Africans unsubscribe now?

    • @mrm1984
      @mrm1984 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You can, no one is stopping you.

    • @neomalete5832
      @neomalete5832 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You do know English is not our mother tongue , if you’re going to watch South African podcasts you need to prepare yourself for such we have 11 official languages!

    • @neomalete5832
      @neomalete5832 หลายเดือนก่อน

      This lady spoke most of her story in English you did not miss out on anything

  • @ThuliNgobese-q5u
    @ThuliNgobese-q5u หลายเดือนก่อน

    Netflix

  • @joynthabiseng6396
    @joynthabiseng6396 หลายเดือนก่อน

    aii this story

  • @Tish-y6v
    @Tish-y6v 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Polygamy👀

    • @BaileBaloyi
      @BaileBaloyi 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Polyandry