I needed to hear this today. I am embarking on a new life at 51 after finding out at Christmas my 31 year marriage is ending. I made the common mistake of working toward his career goals (of course for the sake of the family) and now I find myself starting where I left off many many years ago. No degree, but just enrolled in college. Gained a tremendous amount of weight throughout the years so made an appointment with a bariatric specialist for next week. I'm terrified but I have to do this. Thank you for letting get lose in your videos for a short time. I too will concentrate on living a good life.
I can only imagine how your life has been turned upside down. Believe in yourself. You can do it. I hope you have lots of support from your loved ones and make sure to take him to the cleaners😉 Stay strong 💪🏻❤️ xoxo from NYC
Though it may not feel like it right now; this may be a blessing in disguise; a time for you to rediscover yourself and focus on your own needs and self care. All the best to you!
Once you adjust and heal you will realise you are better off than before! It is never too late and sacrifices you make for others in life end up rewarding you later in ways you won’t even imagine now, good luck x
Hi Lydia, I never leave comments, but you asked what our goals are for this year, so I’m speaking it into existence! I will start my baking business in February and graduate from university in June. There, I said it, no going back!
In Ireland we traditionally leave our Christmas decorations up until the sixth of January, which is known as Little Christmas elsewhere but also as Nollaig na mBan (Women's Christmas) in Ireland. It's a day where the gender roles in the house are reversed, and the women in non Covid times would go visiting with friends. It is also the day where the last of the Christmas cake is usually eaten (in our house we have to set it aside well before the New Year to ensure that it lasts to then!). If there are any Christmas lovers reading this, or people who spend Christmas ensuring everyone else has a good time, I highly recommend doing this next year. It brightens up January, and acknowledges those that put so much into Christmas for everyone else
Especially with dachshunds. They are HIGH maintenance dogs. They aren't very fast and just need a short walk a day, plus you need to teach them never to jump or run up and down stairs. Otherwise you end up with a dog with arthritis, pain and paralysis. I wish more people knew about this 😔
Dachshunds have so many back problems due to breeding so I wouldn't run with them at any age. They also need special care and ressources so they avoid jumping (buy stairs for the couches etc). Their poor backs are too long for them and they hurt xx
I had the same difficulties 2019. I changed my life completely. Found a wonderful life coach, did two meditation retreats. Never I my life I ever thought that this would be lifechanging. I learned how to calm myself down and everything changed. I’m sending you much love and I’m wishing you nothing less than happyness every single moment ❤️
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My focus this year is mental health: I get into a really low mood every month around my period time so my goal is to every week research some self-help resources and tips that I will then try to apply during that low mood time and just try to figure out what works. I also have social anxiety so my goal is to once a month do something that scares me, I was advised by my therapist that such immersion therapy can work if you take it in small steps so I really want to focus on actually doing that because with social anxiety it's very easy to fall into a pattern of avoiding anything that's scary. And lastly, my partner and I found that we often have deep conversations that we find very insightful but we never write it down or think of it again so it's our goal this year to keep a Discoveries Journal where we would just write everything down. I wish you the best of luck with your goals Lydia and may we all have a better year this year!!
This year I’m going to make more gifts for people that help me along the way and give it to them right away and not wait for a birthday or celebration. Everyday is a good day to appreciate others. Especially Mondays.
Hey, I’m sure you’ll come across this but puppies are only meant to run about for 5 mins per month of their age. Our vert and breeders were really clear on that as their bones/joints are still forming. How exciting!
My goal this year is to make healthier choices. Eating more veggies everyday, going on a long walk or hike everyday and taking time to meditate everyone morning.
Dear Lydia, thank you so much for your vulnerability about your anxiety. I also have experienced the same in 2020 as it was the year I got married and COVID really gave us a hard time. Thank you for being so open about your struggles, it made me feel closer to you, even though I have been following you for years. Let me encourage you by saying that the past year, during my anxiety, your channel was one of the places I would go and retreat and just relax for a few minutes. So do know that even in the midst of your difficulties you were powerful and made a difference in someone's life. Thank you again, have a great 2021. Love, Irene
I am all about a fresh start. Fresh sheets, fresh diary, fresh calendar. I find Adriene yoga really helpful for grounding you in every breath. Literally every breath is a new grounding moment and really helps with anxiety!
I am not feeling the best in my body at the moment- therefore my goals are mostly getting fitter, fueling my body with good food , getting in shape again, drinking more water.... because life is so much easier if you are fit and in good shape- I have much more energy and cope better with stress. So these are my main goals!
Lydia, I think you should talk about your experience of law of attraction. I always thought that you were someone who lives like this without being fully conscious of it. Your natural desires are fully aligned with your business model and the structure shape and appearance of your life, it is why all your decisions feel very authentic. This would fit in beautifully with your new focus.
Check into all the fragrance you use. Candles and cleaning supplies ect. Can mess with digestive track and give headaches. Also can be problematic for skin and can really be negative for pets because their senses are way more sensitive than ours.
I'm sorry, I know I already commented, but now having watched your video, I wanted to say that I think you will find that your gardening will be huge in terms of your mental health and helping decrease stress and anxiety. I know it does for me. Hugs to you as you journey forward with new goals ❤️
I once read something that said: Treat yourself like you treat the person you love the most. I feel like in this mad world where we are in a rush to be better and have it better we start abusing ourselves.
I am not normally commenting on other people’s videos or giving advice on health issues. This is one time only. I just wonder if you ever heard of breast implant illness and the symptoms that some women experience having implants? Since you seem a very healthy person and taking care of your body, it seems that you fit the profile of BII. I wanted (and still want sometimes) to have them, but as a chemist, I understand that the chemistry within the implants and then the biological processes in our bodies might not go hand in hand for everyone. There is a very active group on FB, with some very interesting stories. Worth reading some. Keep healthy!
You have such a lovely energy, Lydia, it really is so very kind of you to share it with the rest of us! I have two big plans/goals for this year - to start using my ‘best’ things every day (like drinking from my grandmother’s beautiful tea cups, and wearing my favourite clothes every day); and to stop saying “I want to change the world for the better” and start actually doing it! Now I have to plan how I do that... wish me luck!
Lydia your vlogs are just a dose of happiness added to my life ! I’ve been watching you many years before you and Ali were engaged .. ! unfortunately 2020 was a nightmare for me .. I was hospitalized at the ICU 6 days after having my first baby.. I get extremely emotional when I remember those days..postpartum preeclampsia is no joke ! it’s a terrifying experience that led me to develop major depression and severe anxiety & being on antidepressants until this moment..my goal for 2021 is to be mentally happy .. reduce my anxiety that sometimes stop me from breathing and getting anxiety headaches .. drinking chamomile tea does wonders for my anxiety as well as sleeping and here’s a big tip : spraying Neom ( perfect nights sleep pillow mist ) has literally changed my life ! I spray it on my pillow, close my eyes and in about 20 min I just fall asleep ! give it a try Xx
Oh! you have had a rotten time of it Mademoiselle R.... I had eclampsia fits when I had my last baby, so I totally understand just how terrifying it was for you. I had to have an emergency caesarian and then haemorrhaged afterwards as well. It’s certainly not surprising that it plunged you into severe depression and major anxiety, it did the same for me. But you sound really focused on getting better and pushing through and how lovely that you reached out to the Lovely Lydia with the Neom spray advice. I so admire that, you sound like a really strong and lovely person. My ‘baby’ is shortly to be having his 33 birthday this year, I marvel each time at how so very lucky we were to both survive! He is such a wonderful kind and generous gentle man and a father to his own two boys now. Enjoy every second of all your moments with your baby, you so deserve to be happy. X sending love.
Lydia for your headaches to get better, please please please consider starting to drink warm water first thing in the morning while sitting down. (Tons of info on the internet about how that helps!) Also, you may consider avoiding coffee on empty stomach first thing in the morning for better long term health. A tongue cleaner (stainless steel or copper) helps with getting rid of toxins (Ayurveda related). And when you have 5 mins free time do watch Radhi Devlukia's TH-cam video called My 5AM(ish) Mindful Morning Routine for ways to start healthy! I wish you lots of happiness and good health!
Welcome back Lydia !! Love that you shared the more vulnerable side of your life with anxiety and would love to see more of that content as I'm sure it would help a huge amount of people like myself xx
I love this - living a good life is the best motto! One of my general life goals is to do the things that bring me joy. For me that means making more art, reading more books, taking more walks or hikes, traveling when it is possible, spending time with animals, writing when inspiration strikes, cooking and baking for the people I love, and doing yoga and stretching daily. I also want to try new things like taking my running outside instead of relying on the treadmill, journal, volunteer somewhere new, or use DuoLingo to start learning a new language (I’m thinking Spanish, Italian, Greek, or Arabic). And lastly, I want to be a dedicated student for my last semester in university before I pursue my master’s.
My goals for the year are to fix my sleep schedule. Being a student for five years had its toll on me. Then start taking better care of my mind and how I treat my body (what i think about it, what i eat, how active i am) and lastly to give a lot o love to important people (and cat) in my life. Hope you have a great year Lydia. Lots of positivity to you.
Stopping to tell you it’s my 10th wedding anniversary today - living our blessed life. I hope all of the subscribers here get to experience the joy I feel. Be well Lydia and Ali ❤️🥂
Just a thought! My son was having lots of head aches and he never did before. They finally concluded that it was coming from his teeth. He was going through invisaIign just as you have been going through so maybe that's where your head aches are coming from. Just thought I would mention it since you would never thing that your teeth can cause head aches. Hope you get to the bottom of your head aches. Love watching your blogs thanks you!
When I did Invisalign I had them all the time my dr even sent me for a CT because they had come on so suddenly and persisted for so long, it wasn’t until I finished my full 18 months that my friend pointed out my headaches had disappeared with the Invisalign!
This was exactly the cosy inspiring blog I needed this morning. Thank you! I’ve actually got a similar focus around living a good life this year and only focusing that which brings me back to joy and peace. I have spent the last two weeks in the countryside hiking and reconnecting with nature and family and it’s been transformative for my stress and mental well-being. More of that in 2021. I can’t wait to follow you on your journey this year x
LYDIA, you are always inspirational. I have retired in May and find that, I, too, am in a new beginning! I appreciate how you and husband are busy building your home. Best wishes to taking each day and planning life. Lovely.
Good luck with Porter, he will have a wonderful home. Thank you more than ever for taking the time to use your platform to raise awareness to such a worthy cause with Alzheimers. You are truly inspiring and never fail to remind all of how beautiful, selfless and committed you are. We remember their LOVE when they can no longer remember 🤍
Lydia why don’t you try cutting maybe start eliminating thing that are highly perfumed out like zoflora and may scented candles see if this makes a difference to your head aches it worked for me xxx
As with children, you can never think of everything for furry family members. Love him, discipline him so he has boundaries and let him shine. You are an animal lover so of course you will love him and will look after his needs. Things may go awry, it is part of the course. You will learn all about him, his personality will develop as time goes on and everyone will mesh together in no time. Lucky you. Animals bring magic to a household.
Would love to see a video based on your therapy journey. I started therapy this past summer and it has been game changing on how I can let myself feel things. Would love to hear how you're getting on with yours!
It’s felt so good to hear you say that you’re going to stop trying to please your critics, too many people that love and respect you 100% to focus on those who want to change who you are
I keep an excel sheet to track whichever habit I want to improve. I award myself an amount for completing my tasks every week and that is my only spending money. It helps me curve impulsive shopping, and allows me guilt free luxury shopping. It also teaches me to save my money and delay gratification, all important values I want to teach my kids :) I can proudly say I've been doing yoga daily for more than 90 days!
Welcome back!! I learned this year that I’m an extroverted introvert, we all learn about ourselves as we go through life. We don’t know everything at the beginning of life. Can’t wait to see all your content this year!
Hi Lydia. Hearing you talk about sleeping, I wanted to THE most impactful book I read last year, maybe even in my lifetime. It’s called “Why we sleep” by Matthew Walker. It seems like the perfect time as you are also investing more time in your audio books. It really thought both me an my husband so many valuable things that have changed our quality of sleep! Thank you for an inspiring and uplifting video as always, you truly spread so much positivity with what you do online ❤️
Lydia! I feel like I have so much to speak to you about. I recently took the Myers Briggs personality test and found out I was an INFJ and now I understand myself sooo much better. I just relate to everything you have spoken about in this video and it is so nice to hear someone speak about themselves and be able to really understand and feel like you would understand me. Thank you for making these videos. I know you don’t know me but I find it so hard to meet people who are like me and watching your videos helps me feel like I’m not alone in the way I think, feel and behave. I hope you can achieve all your goals for this year x
I really love that your goals are so personal. Whenever I think about “goals” they are always related to my career or money but you’ve really highlighted the importance of goals in a wholistic way xx
Hi Lydia. I've personally always thought of your videos as inspiration for living a happy, ambitious and very human life (by that I mean with its natural ups and downs lol). Its so lovely that you share your journey with us as you go along and I can't wait for more videos this year 😀💕 I'm so sorry you've had a tough time last year. You're one strong and amazing cookie I tell you 🥰💕
Happy new year and I hope you're enjoying puppy time with Porter! I'd love to see some cooking videos with heslthy recipes. I also,really enjoy organizing videos, decluttering, styling, as well as anything to do with skincare. And of course, lots of Porter content, about training him, his character, how he gets on with Lumi,...
I’m really motivated to change a lot of things in my life this year. I’ve never been so motivated in January before, even the lead up to the new year. Just the content I needed to see, thank you. Always in enjoy your content regardless though 🤍✨
I think it’s all too me me me and you won’t feel fulfilled until you give back. I think the whole point is we get more out of giving and all the expensive treats? They are just a sign that something isn’t right 🤷♀️
Scents often cause people to get headaches. I used to get an allergic reaction from my parfume. Also many scents give me a headache. You should try going scent free for a couple weeks and see what happens- no candles, no parfume, etc.
I'm allergic to fragrance and found out the same way. It was upsetting my digestive track and I was getting migraines and headaches. I also found out it can negatively effect dogs because their noses are so much more sensitive than ours. I have been scent free for five years and it's amazing!
Since you love journaling ~ my husband & I have a journal that we pass back & forth between us & we write to each other. It’s actually quite beautiful & we have these journals to look back on for years to come.
Be prepared for that morning routine to go out the window when you get the puppy 😂 you’ll learn quickly to adjust though! I am also a 5am riser and I bloody love it x
@@lydiamillen my 19 week puppy likes to sleep late too, i have to pull her out of bed at 6.30 and she hates it 😂 and she was 12 weeks when all the night peeing ended.
This is just what I have been looking for! I try to surround myself with positive, goal-oriented women.. and that includes the people I follow on TH-cam. I love this kind of motivational content :)
I hope this year is wonderful for you and Ali! I loved hearing about how you're approaching your goals. As someone who began suffering from headaches a few years ago myself, I am going to make a suggestion. While you are getting checked out for possible health issues which are very important to rule out, try giving up coffee. I was a lifelong coffee drinker and caffeine never bothered me, but I decided to try quitting for a month as an experiment. The first 2 weeks, I felt like absolute crap, but once I got past that, the almost daily headaches were miraculously gone. It's been 14 months since I've had regular coffee and I don’t miss it. After the first 45 days or so when I was sure the coffee had really been the problem, I started looking for some good decaf espressso so I could enjoy my lattes and cappuccinos. I love the taste and experience of drinking coffee so it was never about the caffeine kick for me. I do still drink other beverages that have some caffeine like tea, matcha, and some soda, but they have much less and don’t seem to cause me any headaches like coffee did.
I hope you are okay. I’m 54 as well. I’ve been unemployed since March of last year. Thank god for EI. ( I’m Canadian ) I’m hoping to go back in April, if not I’ll be looking for other work. If you need support or someone to talk to, I’m here for you. 💖
Boy oh Boy, talk about starting over. I took a hard look at my life and realized I need a whole life makeover. I'm a really good person and I'm really proud of who I am despite the many mistakes I have made in my life which I made it a point to learn from. I'm 56 & healthy, overweight but healthy, have an amazing family, I'm a mother of two teenage boys who are my life and I believe in God!! Now that is a good foundation. If I don't succeed, that's on me cause I have everything I need to succeed. It's really hard, I'm not gonna lie!! Please send me good vibes, I need them!!!! btw, ginger drink, that's 16 ounces of water and a little less than a cup of ginger, right? Hope I'm right 'cause I'm doing it.
Welcome back!!! Loving the inspirational vlog and very excited for the Porter content! Last year was a bit of a crap health year for me, but now I am learning my health limitations and I’m ready to put new exciting plans into play and change my life for the better. Loving the dream life idea, I am so going so that!
I have set so many goals for this year as well. Drinking more water, yoga and studying included. I'm writing a short guide book and it's my goal to get it finished and get it published. Happy New year.
I think a lot of people felt exactly the same last year.. I have felt like that for a very long time..years!!! But good on you for accepting your anxiety and planning to work on it, if you know it exists it's a lot easier to manage ♥️♥️♥️
Thank you Lydia for this amazing video ! I love that you are talking about just 'living a good' life and finding balance in the midst of everything that is going on in the world right now. I will definetely focus more on my business this year because I know that this is the only thing that gets me closer to my goals and the dream life that I have always pictured for myself ! I actually love helping people life their dream life and building up something that can give them everything in life so I'm really glad I can do that for them
I suffer from the same thing with headaches, practically daily. Seeing a chiropractor (twice a week in the beginning) has helped me HUGELY! Perhaps that's something to try? Good luck!
This year I will try to remember and RESPECT everything I have learned about myself up until now. Start to respect my feelings sooner instead of staying in a situation hoping something changes. Like when I am completely overwhelmed I should just go home instead of staying another miserable hour hoping I will get less overwhelmed 😂
My Focus Eat more healthy. I changed my vitamin regimen, Cook More, Save has much money has I can. Continue decluttering and organizing. Fitness...be more consistent.
It's been my dream for years now to become a fashion journalist and this year I want to take as many steps as possible to help myself get there, because I know I can. After reading yours for a very long time, I think I've decided I want to start a blog about fashion and see where it takes me - I don't think many people would care to read it but I think it would be great experience for me and hopefully open some new doors. Wishing you all the best for this year, sending love xx
What a lovely video! I’ve decided to properly tackle my anxiety this year...especially last year has really shown me how far I still have to go (I’m a massive over thinker and worrier) and wanna make it my goal for 2021 to stop being so hard on myself 🤍
Same here! What steps are you going to take? I’m trying to start by being more kind to myself and stopping any negative or restrictive thoughts. Good luck!! ❤️
@@Sbs349 I’m focusing on my breathing throughout the day to make sure I stay present, have also started doing yoga every evening and go on long walks to clear my head. Best of luck to you to ❤️ what are you going to change going forward?
Hey Lydia! I’m only a medstudent so obviously I can’t give solid medical advice but concerning your sudden but regular headaches I wanted to recommend looking into your teeth as the cause. If I remember correctly you started invisiline (the braces?) last year and that can very well be a cause for headaches bc your bite might have changed a bit. Just a thought :) hope you’ll get better soon! Stay healthy!
Hey Lydia, so pleased you're so positively gearing up for 2021 and are so organised with it. Love your plan for setting goals. For the first time in my life (I'm 41) I'm determined to focus on me this year, and importantly not feel guilty about it. Tricky with a husband, 3 young children and working full time. I lost my darling mum last January (not covid related), just a few weeks after my husband was in a bad motorbike accident and I started a new job. It was chaos and emotionally draining. Focussing on positive steps to take control - This year I have ordered a wellness journal that I am planning on filling in most evenings, I am starting to see a therapist fortnightly to help me work through a couple of things (and I NEVER thought I would ever see a therapist in my life!), earlier nights, earlier mornings, drinking a lot more water and trying to eat healthier and exercise more (might even try yoga!). Also will work on a more positive attitude in general (I used to be such a positive thinker). If we don't look after ourselves how can we be expected to look after others. Lots of love to everyone that struggled last year, but dig deep and do what you can to take control in 2021 xxx (Crikey, apologies for the essay!!)
@@TMM-ur7xc Oh I'm so sorry to hear that. You were obviously close like we were. It's just awful but they would want us to be looking after ourselves. Sending love and I hope you're doing ok too xxx
2022 Happy new year! I just rewatched…looking back…yes, you are and have become a great dog mom. It was fun to re-see your year. Motivational for sure!
I literally jumped out of happiness when I saw your new video! It's so interesting how you plan your dream life. I immediately did the same and I am now so extremely happy and excited about how I can achieve this! Your videos help me so much to feel just good and motivate me to give more every day. Thank you so much! Lots of love from Switzerland xxx
Lydia can you do a vlog on running and your journey with getting into running?? Would be good to see and might inspire me to get up off my bum and do some too 😂
Lydia, if you could please share more about your anxiety-related breathing issue, I would greatly appreciate it. I wonder what you've done to identify and remedy that situation. For me, a shortness of breath seems to occur out of nowhere and has had a negative impact on my mental well-being and sleep. I hope you're not suffering too much with this - it makes me so sad.
Such a nice video as always ❤ I think you need to put down "Do whatever I feel like" more often in your planner 😁. Also, that clock would stress me out totally. My best tip is to set timings for when to check your e-mail. I do it twice or three times a day, and I turn of all notifications. That really helped me be more productive and less stressed. I would always find myself get interrupted and to get back to what I did was always a little bit difficult. This actually saved me a lot of time. 😀🙏 Can't wait for your new furry baby to arrive 🥰😍🥰
As soon as you mentioned you have sleeping problems I remembered Vitae lightbulbs 💡 There’s a whole research done on how circadian rhythm is affected by the light we see throughout the day and it’s long term affects one of which are sleeping issues. I really recommend looking into this as it helped me a lot! ❤️
Lydia, this may be one of my favorite videos of yours thus far. I enjoyed you speaking of dream life goals, and all of that. Definitely got me thinking a little more and looking inwards as well. Lots of love x
Hi Lydia, if you don't get any answers about your headaches, it might be worthwhile looking at whether or not you clench your jaw unknowingly. I now wear a night splint which has helped a lot, as well as having physiotherapy and using a spiky ball to help release tension that I hold up high in my shoulders, and I use heat packs. I hope you figure out the cause of your headaches 💕💕
Lydia, my anxiety has been the same lately! I have been having horrible attacks that manifest in me having symptoms and believing I have covid. I have been meditating and taking care of myself, but finally sought help from my doctor a couple of weeks ago because it became too much. Best of luck on this journey, it’s really scary and hard, I feel you. Thanks for sharing 💛
I really enjoy your videos at the start of a new year as it gives me the motivation to better my life and try something new 😊 For 2021 I’m hopefully going to start putting a dream into action, even if I have to do it in small steps but I’m hoping by the end of the year I will have accomplished some of that dream 😊 Please could you share more of your routine videos in 2021 and how to pick your mood up/better your life as I find they give so much motivation! ❤️
Hi Lydia! I’ve been a fan for a long long time but this is my first time commenting on anything actually ahahaha. When my anxiety gets bad I have the same issues with breathing where I have to do it consciously otherwise I’m sure I’m not doing it properly lol but you’re the first youtuber that I’ve heard talk about that symptom and honestly I welled up when you did! So thank you for sharing that I know it’s scary to say personal stuff to the world but you’ve made my day :)
It’s so crazy how you just never know what people are going through, even when you feel like you “know” them because they share parts of their life online. Case in point, you mentioned 2020 was the hardest year you ever faced but to your viewers we’ve seen you live what looks like such a blessed life that anyone would dream of! I hope 2021 is better for you!
Don't be so hard on yourself. This year has been a challenge for most of mankind. Make your plans, set your goals, and if you fall... Get up, dust yourself off , and continue. You will probably achieve more than you think. Welcome back! Missed you!
Lovely to see you again. Happy new year. My dreams are to grow my TH-cam, but right now I am homeschooling two little ones. Still hopeful to expand it more this year though 🥰
Oh Lydia it’s lovely to hear such positivity 🥂 living with cancer these last few years I’ve almost been scared to plan ahead so day by day week by week works absolute wonders for me. I’m excited for the new year and have already enrolled on a course which includes better nutrition and all things to improve my mental well-being I’m super excited. Take care be kind to yourself and turn off those bloody notifications on your watch 😂😂😂😂😂 lots of love xx
Hi Lydia, I know how you feel. Anxiety is the worse. It controls the mind soooo much. You lose control over things that you need under control. I’m the type of person that needs structure and the pandemic messed that up. There’s no structure and sometimes things happen unexpectedly which is the worse. It throws of my day and plans. Losing that control increases my anxiety. I used to focus on the littlest pain in my body and my mind would actually make the pain worse. I had a frozen shoulder and tmj. Those were my pain areas. It was the worst. So I totally understand when u say u have pain. Please make sure to eat enough. That would also increase my anxiety if I was hungry. Lydia you are not alone and there are plenty people like you. I’ll keep posting. Love your vlogs.
Thankyoy for your video today. This year as well as been the worst year Ever. I lost my son before Christmas. My mental health has really suffered. I have felt that I may never feel any joy again. I am going to try some of your suggestions and hopefully get my spark back and start living a good life again. I have seen watching your videos for quite some time now and really enjoy. Thanks again the note t of today's video was just what I I needed. Cheers Carole
I love the idea of designing your dream life, something I'm going to write down today. Also agree with living a good life, and a good life is different things to different people. I really think life is short, we should try our best to make it as enjoyable as possible, we can't completely avoid difficult times but how we react and deal with these difficulties is so important. Wishing you a happy and healthy 2021 x
I have the same goal as I have had for the last 8 years: To take care of myself and others! Taking care of myself involves taking care of my mind, body and soul. I hope that you al reading this do the same and I wish you the best
Love this! One tip, when setting your goals - create measurable achievements. We all want happy lives but that definition is different for everyone, so if being able to spend every month on a designer bag is your definition of living a happy life, then write that down!! Hehehe. Can't wait to write mine down and explore more learning too by listening to audible books and reading more! Xo
I love your Daily Routine thanks for the Inspo. This year I turn 40 and I want to be healthier and Happier. I enjoy your videos so much, Have a wonderful week x
Hi! I have stop smoking. I used to smoke then quit it and quarantine bring it back to me. I want to have a better daily organizatio and also to be strong to continue in a healthy way.
Masseuse here 🙋♀️Obviously still listen to the advice of your doctor...BUT consistent headaches can be related to anxiety, neck tension or eye strain. (your arm/shoulder thing could be linked too!) So meditation, yoga & journalling will help, but adding some neck stretching or trigger point therapy with a tennis ball would great to release the muscles of your neck too! - just thought I'd throw that in there to see you through until your doc appointment 😊 I love this kinda content btw, I love hearing how other people are growing and improving it's so inspiring! My focuses are quite similar to yours too: structure, devotion/discipline around my fitness & really creating the life I want by design ❤️
Hi Lydia-hope your renewed sense of planning and journaling keeps going strong. As you said there are so many benefits from actually writing down small achievements and your day to day activities I don’t wish to sound like a therapist but, a lot of the ‘symptoms’ you are describing are markers for reactive depression with associated anxiety disorder. You mention that last year was really bad for feeling anxious but it sounds like this issue is still unresolved as the headaches and disordered sleep pattern are signs it’s still bubbling under the surface. Finding a really good therapist would make your symptoms far less difficult to manage. In the meantime I’m sure little Porter will provide his own kind of therapy-can’t wait to see him ☺️
Love to hear your thoughts on things. I am also hoping to get stronger both mentally and physically. I find that with a good structure your able to get your head in that bubble of just staying in the moment. I now also have a sand timer on my desk so I can remind myself that time can go so fast, it will run out one day and I want to have lived the best life possible. Looking forward to your unboxings again and of course all the Porter content xx
Happy New Year! Really looking forward to watching your videos throughout 2021! Most looking forward to watching your vegetable garden develop and meeting Porter.
OMG, I watched this blog yesterday and I loved it. I had to come back today to tell you this thought. I have sproutlings! I got an areogarden for christmas. I tried to grow things all summer and nothing but the basil worked. I have 4 lettuce plants. I thought of you the minute I yelled "I have sprootlings!" Thank you for your positive messages and your encouragement. I can't wait to meet porter. I just found bollies instagram today. I hope you do one for porter!!
I came across your video while drinking my matcha after 1h run in sunny London. You just kept the good vibe going. You are so down to earth and this is so refreshing from what we see online or around us. I am your new fan, let’s go for the good life and lift each other up. You are truly AMAZING 🥰🥰🥰
I needed to hear this today. I am embarking on a new life at 51 after finding out at Christmas my 31 year marriage is ending. I made the common mistake of working toward his career goals (of course for the sake of the family) and now I find myself starting where I left off many many years ago. No degree, but just enrolled in college. Gained a tremendous amount of weight throughout the years so made an appointment with a bariatric specialist for next week. I'm terrified but I have to do this. Thank you for letting get lose in your videos for a short time. I too will concentrate on living a good life.
You sound so brave and motivated. I wish you every good luck. It’s never too late to build yourself
I can only imagine how your life has been turned upside down. Believe in yourself. You can do it. I hope you have lots of support from your loved ones and make sure to take him to the cleaners😉 Stay strong 💪🏻❤️ xoxo from NYC
good luck to the new year! small steps build up to a big change over time, im sure you can achieve your own dream life :)
Though it may not feel like it right now; this may be a blessing in disguise; a time for you to rediscover yourself and focus on your own needs and self care. All the best to you!
Once you adjust and heal you will realise you are better off than before! It is never too late and sacrifices you make for others in life end up rewarding you later in ways you won’t even imagine now, good luck x
Hi Lydia, I never leave comments, but you asked what our goals are for this year, so I’m speaking it into existence! I will start my baking business in February and graduate from university in June. There, I said it, no going back!
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Yeees go through and good luck 😊🙏
YES!
Yes! Get it girl!
It’s February now, so how’s the baking business coming along? 😋✨
In Ireland we traditionally leave our Christmas decorations up until the sixth of January, which is known as Little Christmas elsewhere but also as Nollaig na mBan (Women's Christmas) in Ireland. It's a day where the gender roles in the house are reversed, and the women in non Covid times would go visiting with friends. It is also the day where the last of the Christmas cake is usually eaten (in our house we have to set it aside well before the New Year to ensure that it lasts to then!).
If there are any Christmas lovers reading this, or people who spend Christmas ensuring everyone else has a good time, I highly recommend doing this next year. It brightens up January, and acknowledges those that put so much into Christmas for everyone else
This is lovely)))
What a lovely idea ❤🇨🇦❤
Oh happy Nollaig na mBan fellow Irish person 💕And Happy New Year angel x
@@meghanjones8157Merry Nollaig na Mban my dear!!
@@caoimhenimhuireadhaigh1303 It's nice to build a positive community together with love and kindness 💕🙏🏻Back at ya 🥰
Hey Lydia, just double check with your vet, but as far as I know they don't recommend running with your dog until he's at least 14 to 16 months old.
and dont mix raw dog food and kibble..it mucks up their digestion....
Especially with dachshunds. They are HIGH maintenance dogs. They aren't very fast and just need a short walk a day, plus you need to teach them never to jump or run up and down stairs. Otherwise you end up with a dog with arthritis, pain and paralysis. I wish more people knew about this 😔
@@cscscsc They are basically city dogs.
Dachshunds have so many back problems due to breeding so I wouldn't run with them at any age. They also need special care and ressources so they avoid jumping (buy stairs for the couches etc). Their poor backs are too long for them and they hurt xx
@@henriettesofiapetersen thank you, yes exactly
Having a pup is like a child they don't tell you everything in a book!
I had the same difficulties 2019. I changed my life completely. Found a wonderful life coach, did two meditation retreats. Never I my life I ever thought that this would be lifechanging. I learned how to calm myself down and everything changed. I’m sending you much love and I’m wishing you nothing less than happyness every single moment ❤️
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I would say my goals for this year are.
1. Health and wellness
2. No buy year other then a 🏡
3. Just relax and enjoy the moment
Great goals I’m with you on all of these. Simple healthy and environmentally friendly 💕❤️👍
My focus this year is mental health: I get into a really low mood every month around my period time so my goal is to every week research some self-help resources and tips that I will then try to apply during that low mood time and just try to figure out what works. I also have social anxiety so my goal is to once a month do something that scares me, I was advised by my therapist that such immersion therapy can work if you take it in small steps so I really want to focus on actually doing that because with social anxiety it's very easy to fall into a pattern of avoiding anything that's scary. And lastly, my partner and I found that we often have deep conversations that we find very insightful but we never write it down or think of it again so it's our goal this year to keep a Discoveries Journal where we would just write everything down. I wish you the best of luck with your goals Lydia and may we all have a better year this year!!
Right a book as you try to find knowledge, and share your conversations with others in the book, or vlog
This year I’m going to make more gifts for people that help me along the way and give it to them right away and not wait for a birthday or celebration. Everyday is a good day to appreciate others. Especially Mondays.
Hey, I’m sure you’ll come across this but puppies are only meant to run about for 5 mins per month of their age. Our vert and breeders were really clear on that as their bones/joints are still forming. How exciting!
Completely agree
My goal this year is to make healthier choices. Eating more veggies everyday, going on a long walk or hike everyday and taking time to meditate everyone morning.
Dear Lydia, thank you so much for your vulnerability about your anxiety. I also have experienced the same in 2020 as it was the year I got married and COVID really gave us a hard time. Thank you for being so open about your struggles, it made me feel closer to you, even though I have been following you for years. Let me encourage you by saying that the past year, during my anxiety, your channel was one of the places I would go and retreat and just relax for a few minutes. So do know that even in the midst of your difficulties you were powerful and made a difference in someone's life. Thank you again, have a great 2021.
Love,
Irene
I am all about a fresh start. Fresh sheets, fresh diary, fresh calendar. I find Adriene yoga really helpful for grounding you in every breath. Literally every breath is a new grounding moment and really helps with anxiety!
“Living a good life" - so simple but so inspiring. That’s my motto for the year now, thanks Lydia x
I am not feeling the best in my body at the moment- therefore my goals are mostly getting fitter, fueling my body with good food , getting in shape again, drinking more water.... because life is so much easier if you are fit and in good shape- I have much more energy and cope better with stress. So these are my main goals!
Lydia, I think you should talk about your experience of law of attraction. I always thought that you were someone who lives like this without being fully conscious of it. Your natural desires are fully aligned with your business model and the structure shape and appearance of your life, it is why all your decisions feel very authentic. This would fit in beautifully with your new focus.
Check into all the fragrance you use. Candles and cleaning supplies ect. Can mess with digestive track and give headaches. Also can be problematic for skin and can really be negative for pets because their senses are way more sensitive than ours.
I'm sorry, I know I already commented, but now having watched your video, I wanted to say that I think you will find that your gardening will be huge in terms of your mental health and helping decrease stress and anxiety. I know it does for me. Hugs to you as you journey forward with new goals ❤️
I once read something that said: Treat yourself like you treat the person you love the most. I feel like in this mad world where we are in a rush to be better and have it better we start abusing ourselves.
I love the fact you are a totally prepared puppy mummy. People don’t realise it’s like having a new baby, not a Xmas present!!
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I am not normally commenting on other people’s videos or giving advice on health issues. This is one time only. I just wonder if you ever heard of breast implant illness and the symptoms that some women experience having implants? Since you seem a very healthy person and taking care of your body, it seems that you fit the profile of BII. I wanted (and still want sometimes) to have them, but as a chemist, I understand that the chemistry within the implants and then the biological processes in our bodies might not go hand in hand for everyone. There is a very active group on FB, with some very interesting stories. Worth reading some. Keep healthy!
@Alexandra Deák rude.
You have such a lovely energy, Lydia, it really is so very kind of you to share it with the rest of us!
I have two big plans/goals for this year - to start using my ‘best’ things every day (like drinking from my grandmother’s beautiful tea cups, and wearing my favourite clothes every day); and to stop saying “I want to change the world for the better” and start actually doing it! Now I have to plan how I do that... wish me luck!
Lydia your vlogs are just a dose of happiness added to my life ! I’ve been watching you many years before you and Ali were engaged .. ! unfortunately 2020 was a nightmare for me .. I was hospitalized at the ICU 6 days after having my first baby.. I get extremely emotional when I remember those days..postpartum preeclampsia is no joke ! it’s a terrifying experience that led me to develop major depression and severe anxiety & being on antidepressants until this moment..my goal for 2021 is to be mentally happy .. reduce my anxiety that sometimes stop me from breathing and getting anxiety headaches .. drinking chamomile tea does wonders for my anxiety as well as sleeping and here’s a big tip : spraying Neom ( perfect nights sleep pillow mist ) has literally changed my life ! I spray it on my pillow, close my eyes and in about 20 min I just fall asleep ! give it a try Xx
Oh! you have had a rotten time of it Mademoiselle R.... I had eclampsia fits when I had my last baby, so I totally understand just how terrifying it was for you. I had to have an emergency caesarian and then haemorrhaged afterwards as well. It’s certainly not surprising that it plunged you into severe depression and major anxiety, it did the same for me. But you sound really focused on getting better and pushing through and how lovely that you reached out to the Lovely Lydia with the Neom spray advice. I so admire that, you sound like a really strong and lovely person. My ‘baby’ is shortly to be having his 33 birthday this year, I marvel each time at how so very lucky we were to both survive! He is such a wonderful kind and generous gentle man and a father to his own two boys now. Enjoy every second of all your moments with your baby, you so deserve to be happy.
X sending love.
Lydia for your headaches to get better, please please please consider starting to drink warm water first thing in the morning while sitting down. (Tons of info on the internet about how that helps!) Also, you may consider avoiding coffee on empty stomach first thing in the morning for better long term health. A tongue cleaner (stainless steel or copper) helps with getting rid of toxins (Ayurveda related). And when you have 5 mins free time do watch Radhi Devlukia's TH-cam video called My 5AM(ish) Mindful Morning Routine for ways to start healthy! I wish you lots of happiness and good health!
Welcome back Lydia !! Love that you shared the more vulnerable side of your life with anxiety and would love to see more of that content as I'm sure it would help a huge amount of people like myself xx
I love this - living a good life is the best motto! One of my general life goals is to do the things that bring me joy. For me that means making more art, reading more books, taking more walks or hikes, traveling when it is possible, spending time with animals, writing when inspiration strikes, cooking and baking for the people I love, and doing yoga and stretching daily. I also want to try new things like taking my running outside instead of relying on the treadmill, journal, volunteer somewhere new, or use DuoLingo to start learning a new language (I’m thinking Spanish, Italian, Greek, or Arabic). And lastly, I want to be a dedicated student for my last semester in university before I pursue my master’s.
My goals for the year are to fix my sleep schedule. Being a student for five years had its toll on me. Then start taking better care of my mind and how I treat my body (what i think about it, what i eat, how active i am) and lastly to give a lot o love to important people (and cat) in my life. Hope you have a great year Lydia. Lots of positivity to you.
Guuurl, I’d love to know your definition of a “lazy” morning, if you’re back from a run at 10:30 😂
Stopping to tell you it’s my 10th wedding anniversary today - living our blessed life. I hope all of the subscribers here get to experience the joy I feel. Be well Lydia and Ali ❤️🥂
Happy Anniversary
Just a thought! My son was having lots of head aches and he never did before. They finally concluded that it was coming from his teeth. He was going through invisaIign just as you have been going through so maybe that's where your head aches are coming from. Just thought I would mention it since you would never thing that your teeth can cause head aches. Hope you get to the bottom of your head aches. Love watching your blogs thanks you!
When I did Invisalign I had them all the time my dr even sent me for a CT because they had come on so suddenly and persisted for so long, it wasn’t until I finished my full 18 months that my friend pointed out my headaches had disappeared with the Invisalign!
Oh wow! This is definitely a good note
This was exactly the cosy inspiring blog I needed this morning. Thank you! I’ve actually got a similar focus around living a good life this year and only focusing that which brings me back to joy and peace. I have spent the last two weeks in the countryside hiking and reconnecting with nature and family and it’s been transformative for my stress and mental well-being. More of that in 2021. I can’t wait to follow you on your journey this year x
LYDIA, you are always inspirational. I have retired in May and find that, I, too, am in a new beginning! I appreciate how you and husband are busy building your home. Best wishes to taking each day and planning life. Lovely.
Good luck with Porter, he will have a wonderful home.
Thank you more than ever for taking the time to use your platform to raise awareness to such a worthy cause with Alzheimers. You are truly inspiring and never fail to remind all of how beautiful, selfless and committed you are.
We remember their LOVE when they can no longer remember 🤍
Lydia why don’t you try cutting maybe start eliminating thing that are highly perfumed out like zoflora and may scented candles see if this makes a difference to your head aches it worked for me xxx
As with children, you can never think of everything for furry family members. Love him, discipline him so he has boundaries and let him shine. You are an animal lover so of course you will love him and will look after his needs. Things may go awry, it is part of the course. You will learn all about him, his personality will develop as time goes on and everyone will mesh together in no time. Lucky you. Animals bring magic to a household.
Would love to see a video based on your therapy journey. I started therapy this past summer and it has been game changing on how I can let myself feel things. Would love to hear how you're getting on with yours!
It’s felt so good to hear you say that you’re going to stop trying to please your critics, too many people that love and respect you 100% to focus on those who want to change who you are
I keep an excel sheet to track whichever habit I want to improve. I award myself an amount for completing my tasks every week and that is my only spending money. It helps me curve impulsive shopping, and allows me guilt free luxury shopping. It also teaches me to save my money and delay gratification, all important values I want to teach my kids :) I can proudly say I've been doing yoga daily for more than 90 days!
Welcome back!! I learned this year that I’m an extroverted introvert, we all learn about ourselves as we go through life. We don’t know everything at the beginning of life. Can’t wait to see all your content this year!
Hi Lydia. Hearing you talk about sleeping, I wanted to THE most impactful book I read last year, maybe even in my lifetime. It’s called “Why we sleep” by Matthew Walker. It seems like the perfect time as you are also investing more time in your audio books. It really thought both me an my husband so many valuable things that have changed our quality of sleep!
Thank you for an inspiring and uplifting video as always, you truly spread so much positivity with what you do online ❤️
Lydia! I feel like I have so much to speak to you about. I recently took the Myers Briggs personality test and found out I was an INFJ and now I understand myself sooo much better. I just relate to everything you have spoken about in this video and it is so nice to hear someone speak about themselves and be able to really understand and feel like you would understand me. Thank you for making these videos. I know you don’t know me but I find it so hard to meet people who are like me and watching your videos helps me feel like I’m not alone in the way I think, feel and behave. I hope you can achieve all your goals for this year x
I really love that your goals are so personal. Whenever I think about “goals” they are always related to my career or money but you’ve really highlighted the importance of goals in a wholistic way xx
Hi Lydia. I've personally always thought of your videos as inspiration for living a happy, ambitious and very human life (by that I mean with its natural ups and downs lol). Its so lovely that you share your journey with us as you go along and I can't wait for more videos this year 😀💕
I'm so sorry you've had a tough time last year. You're one strong and amazing cookie I tell you 🥰💕
Happy new year and I hope you're enjoying puppy time with Porter! I'd love to see some cooking videos with heslthy recipes. I also,really enjoy organizing videos, decluttering, styling, as well as anything to do with skincare. And of course, lots of Porter content, about training him, his character, how he gets on with Lumi,...
I’m really motivated to change a lot of things in my life this year. I’ve never been so motivated in January before, even the lead up to the new year. Just the content I needed to see, thank you. Always in enjoy your content regardless though 🤍✨
I think it’s all too me me me and you won’t feel fulfilled until you give back. I think the whole point is we get more out of giving and all the expensive treats? They are just a sign that something isn’t right 🤷♀️
Scents often cause people to get headaches. I used to get an allergic reaction from my parfume. Also many scents give me a headache. You should try going scent free for a couple weeks and see what happens- no candles, no parfume, etc.
I'm allergic to fragrance and found out the same way. It was upsetting my digestive track and I was getting migraines and headaches. I also found out it can negatively effect dogs because their noses are so much more sensitive than ours. I have been scent free for five years and it's amazing!
Since you love journaling ~ my husband & I have a journal that we pass back & forth between us & we write to each other. It’s actually quite beautiful & we have these journals to look back on for years to come.
Be prepared for that morning routine to go out the window when you get the puppy 😂 you’ll learn quickly to adjust though! I am also a 5am riser and I bloody love it x
This is what everyone said! But I have to wake him up, he's a lazy sausage x
@@lydiamillen Haha very true they’re very sleepy dogs, I can’t wait to see him!!! 🥰
@@lydiamillen Are you lucky enough that he sleeps through the night?
@@lydiamillen my boxer sleeps in till 10:30 AM!! He’s like a teenager lol
@@lydiamillen my 19 week puppy likes to sleep late too, i have to pull her out of bed at 6.30 and she hates it 😂 and she was 12 weeks when all the night peeing ended.
This is just what I have been looking for! I try to surround myself with positive, goal-oriented women.. and that includes the people I follow on TH-cam. I love this kind of motivational content :)
Glad it was helpful!
I hope this year is wonderful for you and Ali! I loved hearing about how you're approaching your goals. As someone who began suffering from headaches a few years ago myself, I am going to make a suggestion. While you are getting checked out for possible health issues which are very important to rule out, try giving up coffee. I was a lifelong coffee drinker and caffeine never bothered me, but I decided to try quitting for a month as an experiment. The first 2 weeks, I felt like absolute crap, but once I got past that, the almost daily headaches were miraculously gone. It's been 14 months since I've had regular coffee and I don’t miss it. After the first 45 days or so when I was sure the coffee had really been the problem, I started looking for some good decaf espressso so I could enjoy my lattes and cappuccinos. I love the taste and experience of drinking coffee so it was never about the caffeine kick for me. I do still drink other beverages that have some caffeine like tea, matcha, and some soda, but they have much less and don’t seem to cause me any headaches like coffee did.
No a hard year is to be threatened with homelessness and losing you've worked hard for all your life at age 54😿
Oh how awful for you. I hope you are ok. 🤞😥
I hope you are okay. I’m 54 as well. I’ve been unemployed since March of last year. Thank god for EI. ( I’m Canadian ) I’m hoping to go back in April, if not I’ll be looking for other work. If you need support or someone to talk to, I’m here for you. 💖
@@shelleypoole6415 gosh thank you Shelley...so kind❤
@@shelleypoole6415 it’s been so hard for so many people. I’m so sorry for you. I hope it all works out ok. 🤞🤞😥
Absolutely agree, these influencers don’t know what the real world is . Got to remain positive though
Welcome back, we missed you!!! 😀😀😀 Can't wait to see the puppy!!
So sweet that you said "we" 💖
@@b.eyzaozkan 😀😀❤❤!!!
Boy oh Boy, talk about starting over. I took a hard look at my life and realized I need a whole life makeover. I'm a really good person and I'm really proud of who I am despite the many mistakes I have made in my life which I made it a point to learn from. I'm 56 & healthy, overweight but healthy, have an amazing family, I'm a mother of two teenage boys who are my life and I believe in God!! Now that is a good foundation. If I don't succeed, that's on me cause I have everything I need to succeed. It's really hard, I'm not gonna lie!! Please send me good vibes, I need them!!!! btw, ginger drink, that's 16 ounces of water and a little less than a cup of ginger, right? Hope I'm right 'cause I'm doing it.
Welcome back!!! Loving the inspirational vlog and very excited for the Porter content! Last year was a bit of a crap health year for me, but now I am learning my health limitations and I’m ready to put new exciting plans into play and change my life for the better. Loving the dream life idea, I am so going so that!
I’d love to hear more about your dream life planning. This was such a good vlog!
I have set so many goals for this year as well. Drinking more water, yoga and studying included. I'm writing a short guide book and it's my goal to get it finished and get it published. Happy New year.
I think a lot of people felt exactly the same last year.. I have felt like that for a very long time..years!!! But good on you for accepting your anxiety and planning to work on it, if you know it exists it's a lot easier to manage ♥️♥️♥️
Thank you Lydia for this amazing video ! I love that you are talking about just 'living a good' life and finding balance in the midst of everything that is going on in the world right now.
I will definetely focus more on my business this year because I know that this is the only thing that gets me closer to my goals and the dream life that I have always pictured for myself ! I actually love helping people life their dream life and building up something that can give them everything in life so I'm really glad I can do that for them
I suffer from the same thing with headaches, practically daily. Seeing a chiropractor (twice a week in the beginning) has helped me HUGELY! Perhaps that's something to try? Good luck!
This year I will try to remember and RESPECT everything I have learned about myself up until now. Start to respect my feelings sooner instead of staying in a situation hoping something changes. Like when I am completely overwhelmed I should just go home instead of staying another miserable hour hoping I will get less overwhelmed 😂
This is exactly how i feel ... ☺️
Love this
My Focus Eat more healthy. I changed my vitamin regimen, Cook More, Save has much money has I can. Continue decluttering and organizing. Fitness...be more consistent.
It's been my dream for years now to become a fashion journalist and this year I want to take as many steps as possible to help myself get there, because I know I can. After reading yours for a very long time, I think I've decided I want to start a blog about fashion and see where it takes me - I don't think many people would care to read it but I think it would be great experience for me and hopefully open some new doors. Wishing you all the best for this year, sending love xx
What a lovely video! I’ve decided to properly tackle my anxiety this year...especially last year has really shown me how far I still have to go (I’m a massive over thinker and worrier) and wanna make it my goal for 2021 to stop being so hard on myself 🤍
Same here! What steps are you going to take? I’m trying to start by being more kind to myself and stopping any negative or restrictive thoughts. Good luck!! ❤️
@@Sbs349 I’m focusing on my breathing throughout the day to make sure I stay present, have also started doing yoga every evening and go on long walks to clear my head. Best of luck to you to ❤️ what are you going to change going forward?
Hey Lydia! I’m only a medstudent so obviously I can’t give solid medical advice but concerning your sudden but regular headaches I wanted to recommend looking into your teeth as the cause. If I remember correctly you started invisiline (the braces?) last year and that can very well be a cause for headaches bc your bite might have changed a bit. Just a thought :) hope you’ll get better soon! Stay healthy!
Hey Lydia, so pleased you're so positively gearing up for 2021 and are so organised with it. Love your plan for setting goals. For the first time in my life (I'm 41) I'm determined to focus on me this year, and importantly not feel guilty about it. Tricky with a husband, 3 young children and working full time. I lost my darling mum last January (not covid related), just a few weeks after my husband was in a bad motorbike accident and I started a new job. It was chaos and emotionally draining. Focussing on positive steps to take control - This year I have ordered a wellness journal that I am planning on filling in most evenings, I am starting to see a therapist fortnightly to help me work through a couple of things (and I NEVER thought I would ever see a therapist in my life!), earlier nights, earlier mornings, drinking a lot more water and trying to eat healthier and exercise more (might even try yoga!). Also will work on a more positive attitude in general (I used to be such a positive thinker). If we don't look after ourselves how can we be expected to look after others. Lots of love to everyone that struggled last year, but dig deep and do what you can to take control in 2021 xxx (Crikey, apologies for the essay!!)
I lost my darling Mum last January too..... I hope you are doing ok xxx
@@TMM-ur7xc Oh I'm so sorry to hear that. You were obviously close like we were. It's just awful but they would want us to be looking after ourselves. Sending love and I hope you're doing ok too xxx
2022 Happy new year! I just rewatched…looking back…yes, you are and have become a great dog mom. It was fun to re-see your year. Motivational for sure!
Love this vlog! I started doing a gratitude journal/ writing out what I want in life about a year ago and I can say it is totally life changing! ☺️
I literally jumped out of happiness when I saw your new video! It's so interesting how you plan your dream life. I immediately did the same and I am now so extremely happy and excited about how I can achieve this! Your videos help me so much to feel just good and motivate me to give more every day. Thank you so much! Lots of love from Switzerland xxx
Lydia can you do a vlog on running and your journey with getting into running?? Would be good to see and might inspire me to get up off my bum and do some too 😂
Lydia, if you could please share more about your anxiety-related breathing issue, I would greatly appreciate it. I wonder what you've done to identify and remedy that situation. For me, a shortness of breath seems to occur out of nowhere and has had a negative impact on my mental well-being and sleep. I hope you're not suffering too much with this - it makes me so sad.
Yoga does help certainly, deep breathing exercises
Such a nice video as always ❤ I think you need to put down "Do whatever I feel like" more often in your planner 😁. Also, that clock would stress me out totally. My best tip is to set timings for when to check your e-mail. I do it twice or three times a day, and I turn of all notifications. That really helped me be more productive and less stressed. I would always find myself get interrupted and to get back to what I did was always a little bit difficult. This actually saved me a lot of time. 😀🙏 Can't wait for your new furry baby to arrive 🥰😍🥰
THANK YOU FOR BEING SO REAL....YOU ARE SO SWEET AND KIND I HAVE TOLD MY FRIENDS TO WATCH YOU !!!!BLESSINGS THIS YEAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
As soon as you mentioned you have sleeping problems I remembered Vitae lightbulbs 💡 There’s a whole research done on how circadian rhythm is affected by the light we see throughout the day and it’s long term affects one of which are sleeping issues. I really recommend looking into this as it helped me a lot! ❤️
Lydia, this may be one of my favorite videos of yours thus far. I enjoyed you speaking of dream life goals, and all of that. Definitely got me thinking a little more and looking inwards as well. Lots of love x
I just went to Ikea, reorganized in the house and got a label maker! How cute is that!
Make sure you get rid of anything you don't love or use - it will change your life
Hi Lydia, if you don't get any answers about your headaches, it might be worthwhile looking at whether or not you clench your jaw unknowingly. I now wear a night splint which has helped a lot, as well as having physiotherapy and using a spiky ball to help release tension that I hold up high in my shoulders, and I use heat packs. I hope you figure out the cause of your headaches 💕💕
Lydia, my anxiety has been the same lately! I have been having horrible attacks that manifest in me having symptoms and believing I have covid. I have been meditating and taking care of myself, but finally sought help from my doctor a couple of weeks ago because it became too much. Best of luck on this journey, it’s really scary and hard, I feel you. Thanks for sharing 💛
I really enjoy your videos at the start of a new year as it gives me the motivation to better my life and try something new 😊
For 2021 I’m hopefully going to start putting a dream into action, even if I have to do it in small steps but I’m hoping by the end of the year I will have accomplished some of that dream 😊
Please could you share more of your routine videos in 2021 and how to pick your mood up/better your life as I find they give so much motivation! ❤️
Hi Lydia! I’ve been a fan for a long long time but this is my first time commenting on anything actually ahahaha. When my anxiety gets bad I have the same issues with breathing where I have to do it consciously otherwise I’m sure I’m not doing it properly lol but you’re the first youtuber that I’ve heard talk about that symptom and honestly I welled up when you did! So thank you for sharing that I know it’s scary to say personal stuff to the world but you’ve made my day :)
It’s so crazy how you just never know what people are going through, even when you feel like you “know” them because they share parts of their life online. Case in point, you mentioned 2020 was the hardest year you ever faced but to your viewers we’ve seen you live what looks like such a blessed life that anyone would dream of! I hope 2021 is better for you!
Don't be so hard on yourself. This year has been a challenge for most of mankind. Make your plans, set your goals, and if you fall... Get up, dust yourself off , and continue. You will probably achieve more than you think. Welcome back! Missed you!
Lovely to see you again. Happy new year. My dreams are to grow my TH-cam, but right now I am homeschooling two little ones. Still hopeful to expand it more this year though 🥰
Oh Lydia it’s lovely to hear such positivity 🥂 living with cancer these last few years I’ve almost been scared to plan ahead so day by day week by week works absolute wonders for me. I’m excited for the new year and have already enrolled on a course which includes better nutrition and all things to improve my mental well-being I’m super excited.
Take care be kind to yourself and turn off those bloody notifications on your watch 😂😂😂😂😂 lots of love xx
Hi Lydia, I know how you feel. Anxiety is the worse. It controls the mind soooo much. You lose control over things that you need under control. I’m the type of person that needs structure and the pandemic messed that up. There’s no structure and sometimes things happen unexpectedly which is the worse. It throws of my day and plans. Losing that control increases my anxiety. I used to focus on the littlest pain in my body and my mind would actually make the pain worse. I had a frozen shoulder and tmj. Those were my pain areas. It was the worst. So I totally understand when u say u have pain. Please make sure to eat enough. That would also increase my anxiety if I was hungry. Lydia you are not alone and there are plenty people like you. I’ll keep posting. Love your vlogs.
Thankyoy for your video today. This year as well as been the worst year Ever. I lost my son before Christmas. My mental health has really suffered. I have felt that I may never feel any joy again. I am going to try some of your suggestions and hopefully get my spark back and start living a good life again. I have seen watching your videos for quite some time now and really enjoy. Thanks again the note t of today's video was just what I I needed. Cheers Carole
Sending you all my love Carole 🤍
I love the idea of designing your dream life, something I'm going to write down today. Also agree with living a good life, and a good life is different things to different people. I really think life is short, we should try our best to make it as enjoyable as possible, we can't completely avoid difficult times but how we react and deal with these difficulties is so important. Wishing you a happy and healthy 2021 x
I have the same goal as I have had for the last 8 years: To take care of myself and others! Taking care of myself involves taking care of my mind, body and soul. I hope that you al reading this do the same and I wish you the best
Love this! One tip, when setting your goals - create measurable achievements. We all want happy lives but that definition is different for everyone, so if being able to spend every month on a designer bag is your definition of living a happy life, then write that down!! Hehehe. Can't wait to write mine down and explore more learning too by listening to audible books and reading more! Xo
I leave my Christmas decorations up As Long As I want to! Love them!
I love content about living a good life - talking about health and goals and fashion/hobbies! Love watching you lydia!!
Time for a dose of Lydia. I had a heartbreaking day but i'll learn and move on. Hope ur all safe.
I love your Daily Routine thanks for the Inspo. This year I turn 40 and I want to be healthier and Happier. I enjoy your videos so much, Have a wonderful week x
Hi! I have stop smoking. I used to smoke then quit it and quarantine bring it back to me. I want to have a better daily organizatio and also to be strong to continue in a healthy way.
Masseuse here 🙋♀️Obviously still listen to the advice of your doctor...BUT consistent headaches can be related to anxiety, neck tension or eye strain. (your arm/shoulder thing could be linked too!) So meditation, yoga & journalling will help, but adding some neck stretching or trigger point therapy with a tennis ball would great to release the muscles of your neck too! - just thought I'd throw that in there to see you through until your doc appointment 😊
I love this kinda content btw, I love hearing how other people are growing and improving it's so inspiring! My focuses are quite similar to yours too: structure, devotion/discipline around my fitness & really creating the life I want by design ❤️
Hi Lydia-hope your renewed sense of planning and journaling keeps going strong. As you said there are so many benefits from actually writing down small achievements and your day to day activities
I don’t wish to sound like a therapist but, a lot of the ‘symptoms’ you are describing are markers for reactive depression with associated anxiety disorder. You mention that last year was really bad for feeling anxious but it sounds like this issue is still unresolved as the headaches and disordered sleep pattern are signs it’s still bubbling under the surface. Finding a really good therapist would make your symptoms far less difficult to manage. In the meantime I’m sure little Porter will provide his own kind of therapy-can’t wait to see him ☺️
Love to hear your thoughts on things. I am also hoping to get stronger both mentally and physically. I find that with a good structure your able to get your head in that bubble of just staying in the moment. I now also have a sand timer on my desk so I can remind myself that time can go so fast, it will run out one day and I want to have lived the best life possible. Looking forward to your unboxings again and of course all the Porter content xx
Happy New Year! Really looking forward to watching your videos throughout 2021! Most looking forward to watching your vegetable garden develop and meeting Porter.
OMG, I watched this blog yesterday and I loved it. I had to come back today to tell you this thought. I have sproutlings! I got an areogarden for christmas. I tried to grow things all summer and nothing but the basil worked. I have 4 lettuce plants. I thought of you the minute I yelled "I have sprootlings!" Thank you for your positive messages and your encouragement. I can't wait to meet porter. I just found bollies instagram today. I hope you do one for porter!!
I came across your video while drinking my matcha after 1h run in sunny London. You just kept the good vibe going. You are so down to earth and this is so refreshing from what we see online or around us. I am your new fan, let’s go for the good life and lift each other up. You are truly AMAZING 🥰🥰🥰