Getting high, drinking non-alcoholic beer, writing a book and how sobriety affected my relationships
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- Welcome to the second of my Q&Q videos.
Questions asked, and answered in this video are:
01:11 - Do I drink non-alcoholic beer?
03:14 - Am I sober, sober?/ Do I smoke weed?
08:01 - Do I smoke Cigarettes?
08:46 - What drives me to live a life?
10:11 - Have I ever considered writing a book?
12:12 - How has being sober affected my relationships?
Thanks for checking out the video, make sure to like, subscribe, comment and share.
Have a positive day everyone!
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I just want to say that the day I decided to go sober (March 9th, 2020) was because of your videos. You have helped me SO much and I am so grateful for you and your videos.
I don't think you're an under achiever at all. You have helped me along with many others change their lives around. So thank you, truly.
Same here but it's a bumpy road.......
Thank you very kindly for those words. That means a lot to me and it is fantastic to hear that you are doing so well.
Stick with it as, in my opinion, it gets easier the longer you are Sober.
All the best 😊
Agree 100% 😁
I'm sober for over thirty yers now and I don'e regret one day of it. I do appreciate this channel very much. You're comments are always direct and to the point and good points they are too!
Thank you for the kind words and congratulations on 30+ years. You are an inspiration to us all 👊
“Scumbag” lol...love the honesty 🤣
Haha. Cheers bro 👊
I managed 6 months sober, but slipped recently. Every other weekend I'm getting drunk again. I'm aware of it and tracking it daily.
With that said, after reading / listening to a lot of books about the subject. Your videos seem to bring a more human delivery to it, it feels more personal than all the best books. You've helped me and will continue to do so.
There's something about scratching that itch that's so satisfying at the time, but I know in the morning, it wasn't worth it.
Sorry to hear that you have slipped recently but it sounds like you are keeping an eye on it.
I have no doubt that you can achieve 6 months again, and longer.
All the best and thank you for your kind words.
Great watch... i slipped back to alcohol after a nite of non-alcoholic beer... STAY AWAY FROM IT !!!! 12 years sober now 😊
That's the way I look at it as well
Love the channel! Since I stopped drinking 3 years ago my social life disappeared completely. I joined a running club and it's been great.You can go as little or often as you like, but you meet like minded people who are happy to talk running for hours on end whose lives don't revolve around booze. They share each others successes and tge group training has helped me improve no end.I don't think joining a running club is sad. Drinkers are sad!
I think it's more the fact that I love to get lost in the run. I come up with a lot of ideas when I am out running and love the solitude of it. It is my way to recharge after being around people all the time.
Each to their own I guess.
I’d love to see how you make the videos. Most people who explain it are techno bores which you are most definitely not. Luckily I have no addictions but I really enjoy listening to your take on the world. Thanks for taking the time to share.
I will definitely do a video about this as some point. Thanks for showing an interest 👍
You are already successful. People love your channel!
Thank you very much Julia. That means a lot 😊
I think your videos just seen the last one on Instagram is hilarious! You have a real talent for comedy defo 👍
Thanks a lot K H. I certainly enjoy doing them so it is nice to hear people enjoying them 😊
Benjamin! You are such an inspiration to me! ❤ You look so much healthier than when I first started following you! God bless you and your ministry helping and inspiring others!
Thanks very much Janet. Hope you are keeping well 👍
Top notch content! Very inspirational and you seem like a genuine and nice dude. Keep up the good work!
Thanks very much Rob
This video struck a major chord with me, what you spoke about is very relevant to my own self, thoughts and feelings. I’ve come to a point in my life where I feel it’s time to get on the wagon and stay there. Thanks for making this and I look forward to watching your other videos.
That is great to hear James. All the best to you and stay in touch.
Good talk Ben ! It's always nice to see your videos... look forward to seeing your next one!
Thanks very much Joe 👍
I’m glad you are back. Lots of great music has come out this year. Paradise Lost’s Obsidian is my favourite thus far. :)
Cheers bro. Hope to do some more review stuff at some stage but I don't know when that will be.
Great points. Thanks for helping us out.
Thanks Tony
I'm so glad you are back and you are okay :) I love your videos and the way that you think! Thank you. Totally going to follow you on IG.
Thanks for the kind words. Plenty more content to come 😊
As enjoyable and well put together as always
Cheers brother 🤘🤘🤘
Dear Ben, thanks for your kind answer, the sharing of your experience with that, and the perfect pronunciation of my name (no joke).
I'm gonna offer something in return. [ a commitment - which is an offer to me to be honest :D ]
You're right saying that, seing the current state of things, i should leave it alone. Actually the past couple months have been - very - hard, for a few reasons, therefore i need to remove at least this obstacle, luckily i can do that, because it seems to me that the problem is having it here.
I'm about your age and i was 14 years old the first time i smoked, and even if i had long break ups ( mainly for being constantly broke ) it is pretty much all over my memories, oh and the movements are almost inconscious, like your second self, which is nice to me, there is me saying i should not, and my hands are just making it, because i'm so bored and that thing is here. Was here i should say. My latest move it's been to remove everything, so, i'm writing to you from a freshly cleaned house.
Keep on making beautiful videos Ben!
See you in the fray :)
Great video again Ben👍👍
Cheers bro 🤘
I've just found your channel and currently binging on them, you are fantastic!!!!! Keep up the good work I find you so inspiring, love your energy and find myself nodding along and agreeing with literally everything you say 🙈🤣 love your accent too. Your like the male version of myself it's rather uncanny 🤣 thanks for all the vids you cheer me up please keep them coming ta 😊
Thank you very much for the kind words Lynn. Glad you are enjoying the videos and glad that you are getting value out of them 😊
@@BenjaminLeeWright I wonder if perhaps you would be interested in doing a vid about the upcoming winter months, seasonal affective disorder, self care and the importance of thinking positively during this season especially with what's going on in 2020 so far. I can imagine many people struggling now who maybe wouldn't let the winter get to them so much in previous years. Anyway just a suggestion, keep those excellent vids coming, they are a tonic 😎👍
Thank u Ben !!!
No problem
Great video and, good advice man. I wouldn't even, touch non alcoholic beer. Tried it when I relapsed over a year ago. Now I don't even go into bars, I just don't want the temptation around me .
I hear ya bro. Not worth the risk as far as I'm concerned. Stay strong Thomas 👊
Absolutely bud, not after all the hard work. We've put in , to get sober . Not worth it. You stay strong and safe too 😃
Great video, thank you for this!
Glad you enjoyed it Matthew 👊
@@BenjaminLeeWright I have been sober for 310 days today and recently ran a half marathon not best time 03:03 but I'm making progress. Your content is very inspiring you are doing great work.
Nothing wrong with that time at all. Not many people manage a half-marathon at all so good on ya 👏
Hi just loved this video, I can identify with so much of what you said.... As much as a bottle is enjoyable in the evening, its the morning that isnt fun... Not a hangover, but very acute anxiety... So today I've made the decision to try and quit...been for a 17500 step hike... Up and down hills... Looks lovely where you walk.. And say to my self 'I will not to drink today' ... Forever is too long for an addict.... So I will repeat the same 'mantra' tomoro. Its good to see how far you have come and I will be revisiting older vids to remind me.. 👍
That is great to hear Kate and a good way to look at things. Giving up for good can be very daunting so taking it 1 day at a time is a great way to do it.
For me, doing the first year was the key. Once I achieved that I had a real length of Sobriety behind me that was too precious to throw away.
I truly believe it gets easier the longer you go without.
@@BenjaminLeeWright thanks for your encouragement... I will keep on keeping on! 👍
Nice one Kate 😊
Fair play on been able to get the insta vids out we can over come the fear. Ty for your content its brill it hits home deeply on many many aspects, i will reach out to you in time on twitter again, the more you believe in yourself and the more confident you and your vids get the more positive i become and fight the good fight on my own, i hope to chat wit you again when im ready and you av a bit of free time again. Keep it up and hopefully in a fue years we can go see you in the apollo🤟
Thanks very much for the kind words. Reach out when you are ready bro and all the best 👊
@@BenjaminLeeWright im goin to have to get insta on d fone i have to get them vids early lol😎
You won't regret it 😁
Benjamin well done too👍🏻
Thank you thank you 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Thank you Melonie 😊
Thank you for answering my question🙏
I absolutely agree with your answer, quite a few “friendships” were lost along the way.
But so many new things have flourished since, most importantly my relationship with myself.
I spent a lot of time with people I didn’t need, now I’m learning to be in my own company without being intoxicated.
There’s no looking back or being dragged back down.
I’m with you in regards to meeting new people, it takes a lot of work and effort.
I might get there sometime 🙈
Looking forward to the next video and shameless insta-plug😉
Have a good one😊
No problem at all. Hope I answered OK.
I am looking at doing some videos that bring me out of my shell a little more as I feel that this is the next big step for me. It is easy to stay Sober in my own little bubble but I know that there is more to life and I want to explore that more.
Thanks for the question and checking out the videos😊
Benjamin Lee Wright
The answer was very thorough thank you 🙏
Good on you for stepping outside your comfort zone, I can imagine it must be slightly terrifying but probably also very satisfying when the videos are well received 😊
Enjoying the content loads 🙌 😃
It is definitely a little nerve racking at times but, I guess that's ultimately a good thing.
Glad you are enjoying the videos 😊
When and what was the hardest time over the last 5 years giving up the alcohol? Was there a time when you thought I've got this beat?
Thank you for the great question. I will answer this in a future video 👍
Never saw the appeal of social exercising either, I like to get lost in my own head when running/weight training
well done
A lot of people do not know this but non-alcoholic beers still have a small amount of alcohol in them. Thus, it is dangerous to drink non-alcoholic beer if you are wanting to stay sober. All it takes is a sip of alcohol to trigger cravings.
I didn't know that but it doesn't surprise me in the least. As long as they sell their product I am sure they don't care about the outcome
Hi Ben, really enjoy watching your videos and been watching for about a year now, stemming from the alcohol videos. Not commented on anything before but one question I'd be interested to hear your thoughts on would be around moderation. What are your views on moderation and is moderation the real goal? I guess a fair few people who end up engaging with the sobriety videos are of the "all or nothing" psychology, ultimately filling the void of one addiction with another, albeit healthier one. But is that really a healthy position and is the underlying issue to do with self discipline and moderation? Hope that sparks some interest and congrats on your channel👍
Thanks for watching and thanks for the question. I will answer in a future video.
Thanks bro 👊
Do you claim a faith? In the last year, my wife and I have found ourselves back in a Christian church. We don’t have parents around for support, and felt we needed some. Needed peers and encouragement. How do you stay motivated to stay sober and disciplined?
I will have a think on this one and answer in a future video. Thanks for the question David
Alcohol cravings alot of the time is just being under carbed. Smash some sugar, get some carbs into you and watch the cravings go. Durianrider talks about carbohydrates( not really alcohol.)
I don't crave alcohol at all but thanks for the info 👍
@@BenjaminLeeWright yeah man. Just the other day i was craving ciders and had some sugar instead and cravings went away. And i heard alot of alcoholics are under carbed. Cheers man.
Your funny dude
Thank you kindly
I would like to see a editing video ect
Hey mate, have you ever done a masterplan of your life. Like a mindmap of what's important and where you want to be? As a reminder and to hold yourself accountable? Or do you just wing it?
@Pablo Insano there's free mindmap software online, I use meistertask. As for the content, I split into bubbles for values, adventure, relationships, work, health etc but the content would v personalised I suppose depending on what you want to map out and what goals are most important to you...
sorry I meant mindmeister, meistertask is their other software. You can get up to three maps stored for free then you have to pay...
I have never done a masterplan although I do have a rough idea of what I want to get done in the week.
Howdy, I have a question for ya.....I’ve caught a glimpse in a few of your videos of that tribal tattoo you have on your arm up to your neck, do you regret having tattoos as you are getting older and maturing? I’m a tattoo artist, 35 and covered in them and as of yet still quite enjoy having/wearing them :) Cheers
Thanks for the question mate. I will answer in a future video 🤘🤘🤘
What camera do you use, fella?
Gopro hero 5
You just keep talking and let somebody else write👍
I have a question. To replace drinking people often say pursue a hobby, what do you do if you have no hobbies? If your hobbies were drinking and have been for as long as you remember, that you are hobby-less, your interests are drinking and you know not what interests you, as you are the local craft beer guide/artisan gin influencer? I have heard this on various forums and was wondering what your take on this was.
PS Great forum to use reddit.com/r/stopdrinking
Cheers!
Great question. I will answer this in a future video 👍
@@BenjaminLeeWright I'm really looking forward to that! Please do