Years ago, i went thru a breakup with my then gf and she instantly turned negative, violent and angry. Extremely angry. Weeks after we broke up, I ran into her dad at the store and I asked him why on earth is she so angry with me when she’s the one that cheated and broke up the relationship. His words were “she’s finding out that life is very expensive. You had her living in a fantasy by paying all the bills for 6 years and she is just finding out the cost of being an adult” 😳
Came in saying she's doing it all on her own. Then, it's 50/50 custody split... temporary transitional financial support... government aid... living with parents. This isn't doing it "all on your own". Be honest about the entirety of your situation so people can offer solutions that fit your life.
@@singerjo5791 Well seeing as very few divorces are because of that (domestic abuse victims normally stay with their abuser) I highly doubt that's the issue. And while I don't expect you to need to put up with it... Realistically if you were putting up with it for years prior, it's not like it'd be much different waiting a couple months while applying for jobs and then dropping his/her ass immediately. Unless your life is actually in immediate danger you are taking a stupid risk by making your income zero and winging it.
@@gayle2276Yep. Like when one finds out their husband is a secret pedo. We don't know this woman's full story. And hopefully it's not like what I mentioned above, hearing that her husband has 50% custody.
@@AFPride0764 The GOAT!! Kevin Samuels. You should look him up. Marriage is a duty, not happiness. Unless she's a 6-figure income and got her finance together for retirement, she's going to need man.
If you make a lot more than your spouse, you will still have to pay even with 50/50 split. 50/50 doesn’t mean 50% of the cost it means 50% of the time.
Ladies before you get divorced, have a plan. You’ll not be a stay at home mom anymore, or you can’t maintain a lifestyle like the one you had while being a sahm or having two incomes. Your husband is not your husband anymore and don’t expect him to save you when the decision was already made
She had a plan. She kept care of her body, and worked out all the time. She got her personal trainer certificates, and with the support of her boyfriend she decided to divorce her husband. She was going to have it all... a great career, the hot man of her dreams, and with 50-50 custody, she wasn't going to be burdened with child rearing.:) Then it turned out the guy she was cheating with didn't want to buy or even rent (living together) the cow, and her job prospects weren't what she thought they were.
@@scott4825 exactly scott. She had that guy prepared to monkeybranch to. Turned out he only wanted to deal with her padussie and not her bs. Now she screwed and complaining on the phone. It is really funny. I just feel bad for the kids whose mothers take the most stupid decisions...
I like how straight forward both Dave and John are with her. The reality check is being paid. Your dream of being a stay-at-home mom is gone when the divorce happened. Time to strap up those boots and be the provider of your family, whatever the circumstances surrounding the divorce. The split has happened, reality is here.
@@diegogaines2088how are you doing everything if the mom is taking care of the home? Let her be gone and you have kids to take care of and see if what she does isn't reality.
I work at Amazon and make almost 25. Just needed to pass a drug test. No experience required, and lots of single moms work at my warehouse, they pick up overtime and make decent money.
@@FlansyLinny And assuming her kids are school age and she lives with her parents, I am sure her parents can help with child care while she is working. Or she can just do the over time only when her kids are with her ex husband.
@@FlansyLinnydepends what you do at Amazon. I worked at their warehouse last year making $15.50 and then was offered to come back this year for the holiday season at $18. They have driver ads posted for $19. What department is the $25!?
I was on a church committee with a young wife and mother with 2 children who said she didn't love her husband and wanted to get a divorce. I told her the money situation would be very tough. She had a high school education with no helpful skills and had been doing daycare in her home. He had no special faults except she didn't "love" him. She went through with it. The last I heard of her on Facebook she was depressed and poverty stricken.
Working in social services I met so many people. They didn’t want to accept the fact the answer to a lot of their problems was having a steady 40 hour a week job. They thought they could work a couple hours here and there, and get state assistance, and that was a long term solution. In their mind the problem was never they didn’t work enough. The problem was always the state wasn’t providing enough assistance, and they always had reason to believe the state was going to start paying them more money through one of a numbers of programs. Either be they were going to get more food stamps or more disability ect…. It was like they were full-time job begging people for money, and going from social workers to social worker trying to figure out how to get more assistance
@@MrClassicmetal I blame it on how they were raised. They are just modeling what their parents did . Instead of working 12 hours a day their parents spent their childhoods trying to work the system
Yeah-working in community mental health there’s a mentality that is based in victimhood. No judgement, but people that are stuck in this makes it hard on themselves.
Having raised my kids alone, no child support, no government assistance. I worked all the time to pay for everything. So a call like this just pisses me off.
So did my mom after the divorce. She knew that my father could not be depended on for Child Support. Fortunately my Dad (Step-Dad) has been there for us, financially and otherwise, for 35 years.
Rather than being angry, why not remember what it was like when your singleness was just weeks in rearview the mirror? She's sorting herself out. I bet in 10 years, she'll be saying the same as you.
My ex wife tried this very same thing. Now she has the kids 50/50, they don’t like her much anymore, has to work, can’t afford the 4500 sq ft home, expected to stay at home, and works at the job she hated.. Her mom - my daughter fucked up this whole thing. I’m sorry..
Choosing to be a single parent has consequences, this is what happens when you don't plan ahead. Don't end up like this person, she is a cautionary Tale.
Very true. Why would a stay at home mom be the one that initiate the divorce? Makes no sense. She has nothing but the kids. If you are going to be the one wanting the divorce, at least make sure you have a stable job and decent income.
@@dylanlough5234yeah it takes a clear case of being unable to find anything the husband did wrong before it becomes the wife’s problem. Hell, if he was calling in, John would’ve grilled him on if there was anything he could’ve done different before maybe taking his side in the end.
Ofc there first question was “why he not on child support” if a man called and said they divorced and he has the kids you really think they would say “why isn’t she on child support”
She has been brainwashed. Probably modern feminism. She left her husband, her home and the safety of it including two incomes. Now she’s finding out what modern feminism really has to offer women but who knows.
She can do it all on her own guys, she can work 8 hours a week and say she doesn’t have time. Lives with parents, has government assistance, a 50-50 custody… what the heck does she want?
Sounds like my cousin. Lived with her parents (stole money from them) and had 2 kids by 2 different guys, plus wanted my aunt (her mom) to raise the kids. And on government assistance
She initially said he wasn’t paying her anything and suddenly it changed to $500 per my for 6 months. He shouldn’t have to pay with a 50/50 custody arrangement.
Seems like he has more than 50/50 if he has to ask her to watch the kids so he can work more. Probably no room for the kids at her mom and dads plus with her having no permanent residence, he most likely has 80%
@@kjvacp I'm not sure about him, based on what I've heard him say in previous shows. One of those segments was broken down by Coach Greg Adams not too long ago. Basically Delony was agreeing with _everything_ that woman said.
@@MrClassicmetallol dude the other day he said he went to college to chase a girl he met a week before. She then dumped him next week. The dude is the king of simps.
Im just gonna submise here. Husband works long hours so she can work part time and so there's at least one parent home with the kids. All off a sudden husband isnt around enough and now she's "not happy". Can't have it both ways. If you want time that means less income. If you want income that means less time. Went thru this exact situation. Had to pay child support, alimony all because she wasn't "happy" anymore.
And it should NEVER be fair that a man has to pay alimony. I would even state child support should be like a percentage of both income. If she is making $18/hr. and the husband is making $45. Child support should be a percentage. She makes $18/hr., she is only going to be matched another $18/hr. And I get it, it is not about the adults, but about the kids. Well, split the time with the kids after the divorce. She is only getting an extra $18/hr.
Almost 33-years ago my wife and I got married at a downtown justice of the peace in Knoxville, TN (still married). I can't tell you how many of our friends had planned, expensive, elaborate ceremonies and fell into this situation throughout our time together. Well at least they have the memories...
Glad to hear that you're still married. My wife and I married almost 30 years ago in my parents back yard for $100 (Chaplain fee). We're still going strong!
My grandma got divorced with 6 kids and little to no child support. She unloaded freight at night and cleaned out semi tankers during the day. Hardest working lady ever. Dad said she was never at home. You do anything you can until you can get your family stable!
My ex did this… we didn’t have kids and never got married… yet she dumped me and was demanding money from me and was shocked that I didn’t give her shit 😂
Why divorce a husband who provides and she was able to stay at home? I worked my “a” off and so did my husband and wish I have the chance to stay at home.
good lord, the dude could have been a cheat, closet cross dresser, a totally inept parent and partner, a thief, abusive, or just a man baby, but golly gee he had a job, and frankly not a great job at that, but money conqueors all, right?
I have to agree here… if those were factors and the husband had these major problems she would have mentioned it. Same way we’ve heard a thousand husbands call and do the same. It’s not a sex thing, it’s a human thing. “I got divorced; my exe___” If they don’t mention that then it’s either mutual or they were the problem. And she started the conversation saying “I divorced my husband and that’s why he doesn’t have to pay me” I’m saying this from watching:listening to hundreds of hours of these. Man or woman; this is just what I’ve seen. Opinion: I mean no offense, have a nice day :)
In my opinion, if you honestly have joint custody and it’s 50-50, he shouldn’t have to be paying her anything. That’s why it’s called joint custody. He’s responsible for them when he has them and she is when she has them.
What is one side is rich and the other a pauper? The state doesn't want the child to live like this, so the rich one has to make up for the other's lacking.
People say it's never too late to start over, but after my recent horrendous divorce at 49, it can be difficult to not have anxiety about debt and retirement. Is there any idea how an old timer like me could see 7-figures before 60? I've set asides $200k to fire up my goal
You have basically 11 year time, dont rush!….you'd definitely make a killing as long as risks are calculated and appropriate strategies are implemented, considering the shaky economy and volatile market, you’re better off financial advisory
I totally agree, investing can be effortless using an advisor that knows what the heck he/she is doing. I remember early 2020 amidst the rona-outbreak, my portfolio took a big hit, thus consulted an expert. As of today, I've realized nearly $650k ROI after subsequent investments, cos I know enough to seek expert counsel before quitting.
@840trk Hey there, my retirement portfolio has been underperforming recently, and I'm considering a strategy change with the help of an advisėr. Is it possible to get in touch with your advisr?
Anyone that tells you that they can give you a path to turning 200k to 1 mil in 11 years, you need to get away from them. That's not to say that it can't happen. It is to say that no legit professional financial advisor will make that promise. Can it happen? Sure, there are lots of n=1 examples out there such as, my cousin's next door neighbor's uncle's ex-wife's best friend turned $100k to 10 mi in one year, but looking for that pointy end will, statistically speaking, will lead you broke. The last thing you want to do as you approach retirement age is to take unnecessary investment risks that will make you broke. I say this as someone with a low 7 figures net worth
This lady probably divorced her husband to be with a new flame that she thought was going to take over caring for her and her kids, and then it fizzled out. Tale as old as time.
I am in my 60s. On television, I have noticed over the years that they always show the divorced, single mother working terribly long hours, coming home to study till late into the night for her law degree, sitting in the living room doing homework with her children, and she is somehow living in a pristine, beautifully furnished half million dollar home… the long-suffering woman with the loser husband that she was forced to cut loose. I have never known a woman who had that kind of life after divorce with kids. It was nearly always very grim. Furthermore, it seems the husband most always went on to get married again, be financially successful, and put all his energy into his “new family” and not his own children. Divorce isn’t ever like it is on TV.
And- a woman with children has a difficult time, finding a new husband. That doesn’t seem to be true for the men. The men get remarried, and have no children with her new wife. New family.
@visualapologetics4891 simple because being a dad is for more moral alignment and paying the bills. When the kids turn 7 or up then you start putting them to work by giving them allowance for doing their chores. If you want to really amp it up make it a competition where the highest contributor gets a multiplier. Now that housework is outsourced all that is left is moral guidance and responsibility which is easier to manage as a dad
@@visualapologetics4891women see men that have had kids with other women as men of interest because they succumb to pre-selection biases. Men, OTOH, see women with kids as an off the market woman. Or to summarize it more, the attributes that the man had to get a wife (financial success, good head on his shoulders, responsible) still exist after the divorce. If anything, they’ve increased. The attributes that got a woman a husband (youth, beauty, ability to have kids) has all declined, on the other hand.
He doesn't pay child support because they have 50/50 custody - you know Dave, women and men are equal now. She wanted the divorce she is now living in her misery she created.
It still depends on the salaries of each, even with 50/50 custody. He makes $93,000,roughly and is only not paying, because this crazy woman didn't want him too. She also said that they were watching the kids 50/50. I could have missed it, but never heard that the court awarded the custody as 50/50. Sounds more like she is the custodial parent. But yes, she made a lot of decisions, without thought to her kids.
@steelcastle5616 Agree with the first part. Disagree with the second part. Most fathers would rather have more time with the children than be a debt slave to the State.
She made grown up decisions and now she gets to try to be a grown up. Somehow Dave thinks the ex should be responsible for her. She thinks her parents should be.
Dave suggested the father pays child support because 1) she lead him to think she had full custody but also 2) he earns more and in many places offset support payments go from the higher earner to the lower one (even if imputed by a court) in shared custody situations.
@@Lon1001if I do out the calculation and assume she found 160 hours a month of work at $18/hour and he had 160 at $45, she’d be owed like $524 a month. Even with her sitting on her rear, she’s entitled to $1100 a month in child support. I don’t even dispute that a husband should continue to give financial benefit to his kids like he always had been. But if she was expecting that and alimony to replace work, well, she had another thing coming.
Who said she left him for someone else? It's like some of you men have a Chad obsession. Do you realize most women get ignored by Chad? And Chads are exceptionally rare in the first place.
A relative wanted to lose weight so she started going to the gym and met a Chad there so she started cheating on her husband. Eventually, Chad rejected her and she became violent so Chad called the police. Surprisingly, her husband took her back but she told me that she loved Chad. She also said that Chad committed suicide when his business failed.
All I hear is her saying it isn't my fault! But it is, it is your fault. YOU made the decision to leave him. I was a single Mom because my husband died. My kids had to learn that Mom had to work because this is how they got food, clothes and a roof over their head. They also learned how to be productive members of a family.
@@joannaansah4957 as a personal trainer she probably liked the male attention she was getting from men who were in better shape than her husband. He was no longer good enough for her, she thought she could do better, and now she realizes those other men only wanted her for sex. They didn't want to be her next husband/provider. She couldn't tell the difference.
@@joannaansah4957 I am not Ass-u-ming, you are. If she was going to leave, she should have had a plan. In an abusive relationship, having a plan is crucial. In a non-abusive relationship, having a plan is crucial. Bills and daily necessities don't disappear because you decided to leave your spouse.
Some people do not think ahead and just live day to day. Sometimes even a person who plans is in a situation where a situation forces them to deviate from their plan. If she was in a really bad marriage and had to get out I can understand why she was not prepared. But if she has been thinking about getting divorced then she should have had a plan.
She won't work - I bet money on it! She unlearned that a while ago. She knew that she'll divorce her husband longer than just a day before splitting up. If she really wanted, she could have been looking for a real job for at least half a year. She wants to be with her parents and maybe a small job for two half days a week, probably something easy.
They always are there to help the one who calls. They always answer in the best interest of that person, even if they are harsh sometimes. They take the caller's statements and face value. Of course if the caller is lying, then what do you do?
It is ego talking to deny child support. If you don't want money from the ex, he could pick up health care and babysitting. She is trying to act like she doesn't need him to help raise the kids, but she does. Its okay to let the father be a father.
Sounds like she wanted to get rid of him and have nothing to do with him, but as long as there are kids involved she's not getting rid of him. If he is a real dad and has anything to do with those kids, she ain't getting rid of him. He will be there at school functions, sports, birthdays, graduations, weddings, birth of grand kids and then it repeats it's self.
Let's see... A personal trainer who is most likely in somewhat decent shape, got a lot of male attention at the gym and suddenly her husband isn't good enough for her. She filed for divorce, then realizes the men aren't busting down her door to pay bills and provide. Surprise, surprise, they just wanted sex. Now her hours are cut because word is out at her job that she sleeps with clients, she can't pay her bills or feed her kids, and she doesn't have the same grit and hustle she demands from her clients. Welcome to lifelong regret. Mystery solved.
I’ve seen plenty of out of shape middle age women giving it a go as a trainer. Sometimes out of shape people looking for a trainer are too intimidated to listen to a fit person, I guess.
I was approached by two different “trainers” at the YMCA. Both were in worse shape than I was in. One of the “trainers” was an overweight and very unattractive woman. I was thinking that she needed to get into another line of work.
This is the problem with America. A woman gets to divorce a man we don’t ask why but he must pay child support even if he doesn’t want the family separated. We don’t even know why she divorced her husband. If it was infidelity or abuse then that’s a good reason, but if she just divorced him simply because she didn’t want to be with him anymore, her struggle might just be her punishment from God. Those kids don’t need a single mother, they need mom and dad.
Very true. With so many people getting divorced just because they can, it's hard to know if her divorce from him was justified or not. People need to grow up and quit having kids if they aren't planning on staying together. The kids are the ones that suffer the most because their parents are morons.
@@vickimerritt2832 oh, I will be the first to agree with you. My ex-wife would violently attack me unprovoked, and she cheated on me numorous times before I left her. But that wasn't the end of the sufferring for me, because you see, I was born with a penis, and she was born with a vagina, and the law is very clear that people with a penis have to pay a lot of money to people with vaginas, even though it was she that was the reason for the break down of the marriage. Some fun facts for you to think about.....women are responsible for more than 50% of the domestic violence and more than 50% of the cheating in relationships and marriage, so I am glad you mentioned those two important things.....and yes, given the facts above, women still initiate an overwhelming percentage of divorce. Women are failing at life with their onlyfans, single motherhood and huge numbers on welfare, even though your gender is the most protected species on earth and has numerous safety nets that men just don't have....and with all your major failures and needing to be saved time and time again, society and the law continues to give your gender pass, after pass, after pass.....because vagina. Google hypergamy and redpill yourself about your female privilege.
“Doesn’t matter, state law says he pays child support.” So he loses his wife and kids against his will then has to lose pay against his will as well? This is why international dating/expat lifestyle is on the rise among the younger generation of men.
He was already paying for his kids' expenses. They don't cease to be his responsibility just because of the divorce. But now he should be paying 50% of the kids' expenses instead of 100%.
@@ViewpointUniqueI've notice these tendencies in this show before. They lean towards being white knights. It's like they automatically assume that the ex isn't contributing.
Ideally 100% of that money goes to the kids to maintain their current lifestyle when they are with her. But obviously the one getting paid has to use it ethically
@@TheLivedeathYou can’t maintain the same level of lifestyle for the child unless either there is a very high income to begin with or a substantial increase in income by one parent. You can’t operate two separate households on the same income.
I chose to be a single mom because of years of abuse. I left a stable job (with a pension!) of 21 years to move to another state and take a job offering 50% more income and more opportunities for advancement. I left my oldest child behind in college in my previous state (painful 😢). You make choices and you have consequences. I don’t regret my decision for a minute but it wasn’t easy. 7 years later I’ve tripled my previous income, my oldest and her baby live 10 minutes away, and I reconnected with my HS boyfriend and love of my life. YOU have to put in the work to make your life better. I remember thinking, “if I have to live in a cardboard box it will be better than this”. My marriage was killing me and my kids. I made a list of pros and cons and knew it was going to be painful for awhile. I wish her luck and discernment. ❤️🙏🏻
You were actually a victim of a bad husband from your previous marriage. The ex-wife in this video wasn't. You women are not automatically victims and innocent angels that can do no wrong in relationships, especially MARRIAGE! She played herself, and she has nobody to blame but herself. But hey, she's strong and independent, remember? 🤔
Same. If she's lazy in this emergency situation, imagine how many excuses she was giving when she was on easy street. I get the spoiled cheating type "I'll throw a tantrum if you say no" vibes.
That is why she did not give a good reason for divorcing her ex and was vague about it. It would make her look bad. Other women would not hesitate stating the reason for divorcing their exes like adultery, addiction of any kind (on the man's part), physical/verbal abuse, mental health issues (on the man's part), and other reasons that would not make wife look evil for divorcing her husband. I don't know the real reason but if it was what I suspect it was, she believed someone better in her eyes was serious with her.
@@steelcastle5616 why it is always the woman that take the custody? Why not give away the custody when one of the parents can’t simply support him or herself ? Who make that judgement that father is not as equal as mother in term of caring? Is that just gender discrimination?
@@steelcastle5616 you know the answer as well. You simply ignore the gender bias when it comes to children custody. You ignore the financial abilities on each of the parents and always assume that men should the the only person to pay financially and women should taking the role do care giver. If men and women are actually view equally than there should be that equal amount of single mother and single father.
@@mimosa9188 Not sure what you're arguing with me about. You know the realities of the system like I do. I don't see what you mean by ignoring anything.
I’m really glad that they mentioned how just being there for the kids isn’t the whole answer you have to be present. I’ve struggled with that before by taking a lower job to be home more but then I was stressed about paying my bills which led me back to more work and now although it sucks not being home as much at least I know I can take care of them and our time together is more wholesome when I can just focus on being there with them.
Dave gave really good advice: she’s in SAHM mode, and she has to reprioritize her life. Her kids will be ok without her there for every moment, her ex-husband will be ok without her working around his schedule. She’s got to focus on herself because she is the head of her household now, that means working, budgeting, and boundaries. She’s trying to be a team member with her ex, and they’re not on the same team anymore. Since we don’t know her reasons for leaving, they could be entirely reasonable - and whatever the reason, she’s got to go from SAHM to Head of Household. And not taking care of a husband will also give her more time to take care of herself. She’ll be fine if she embraces these changes.
The definition of being a single parent has changed. It used to mean that you were single and took care of your children all by yourself. Not sure why or how the defintion changed, probably because our culture is more about gaining sympathy these days. Nowadays, people say they are a single parent just because they are no longer married and happen to have children, even though there is another parent out there doing half the care.
That's because the word "single" literally means "not married". A single parent is someone who has children but isn't currently married. Even if the parents are cohabiting without a marriage certificate, they are legally single and not bound to each other by law.
Had a friend who put himself on child support, the mother can say she wants none and 20 years later change her mind and sue for full support going back to the time of separation and is legally allowed to do so. Then if you cant pay you could end up in prison. Always go through a good attorney, and dont go along with what an ex says they want. That time of joint decision making is over.
She walked out on the marriage and then expects everyone else to fund her decision She chose to vacate the mom role but wants the mom privileges that come with it The host wasn't listening, the husband working extra time and the mother looking after the kids was clearly when they were together, she walked away from that and now has to wear the consequences of her actions. True, the husband needs to now cut back on hours when she needs to work Actions have consequences
8:34 - Every retailer is hiring at $25 an hour right now? No Dave, they don't pay that much for customer service rep positions in most areas of our nation. Maybe managers or other positions that require specialized skills (like HVAC or electrical), education or certification will get at least $25 per hour, but not at entry level.
Watching the same thing happen with a family member of mine. Left her awesome husband because she ‘wasn’t happy’. Has two kids with two different men. Found out there’s no alimony in this state and her child support is only 500 a month. She thought she was getting everything, the house they literally just bought, the car that they just bought, alimony that doesn’t exist, and child support for a kid that isn’t his. She now lives in her moms basement and dates a man that she once had a restraining order against. She belongs to the streets
@@Fairdemand554 WOW… sounds like it. I mean it’s very sad but at the same time the way she was going to try and do him was dead wrong. I hope she figures things out someday but those ideas come from these multi-divorced authors and women that screw over athletes for their money. It’s all fun and games into they find a body.
This is the problem with people who want to be stay at home parents. You make yourself financially dependent on another person so when the break up happens, you have no work experience and no job prospects. Questions, why did she divorce him? Listening to this lady, it was probably a really stupid reason. Why was she a stay at home mom in the first place. Was this a mutual decision or was it her dream life? What expenses does she have? Why is her story constantly changing? It’s really hard to feel sorry for someone who has self inflicted wounds.
@@vickimerritt2832 this is a stupid take. he isn't. He has income. He can pay for a baby sitter for the 50% of time he doesn't have the kids. Notice how single dads don't seem to complain about issues like single moms? On tiktok a few months a go, there was a trend of single dads calling out single mums with excuses like yours. So while he appreciated her childcare services when given, he was not dependent on it because IT WAS REPLACEABLE. It not like he stopped parenting while they were married. So those skills transfer out to the 50% of time he has the kids. The problem on the women side is they don't make it a "while I was appreciative of his income, it was replaceable" situation. They flat out become obsolete. I personally don't get the stay at home fantasy. Get some paying skills even if the guy is footing all the bills. At least work part time in your career, to keep any knowledge you have sharp. That way is the union ends it's a bridge from 50% to 100% not 0 to 100. Another way I frame this since women like you like excuses is this. Divorce isn't the only way a union ends. What if one partner dies? - man, was working full time, parenting part time. just needs to bridge parenting to 100% - IF woman, was parenting fulltime, working part time, then it's bridge work to 100% - What happens in reality, woman parenting full time, has no work (stay at home). CANNOT BRIDGE FROM 0 TO 100 So if the man dies fo r natural causes, will you still be given excuses? Was his corpse benefitting from "le free childcare" ? I agree with you. Lack of reasoning abilities. Look in a mirror
For whatever job she applies for she should highlight her skills as a stay at home mom (i.e. scheduler, decision maker, caretaker, buyer, etc. ) You get the drift. Often times, stay at home moms don't think they have any skills because they have never worked or they have been out of the work force a long time. She has lots of skills. She just needs to recognize them and feel confident in them. A good employer will recognize that.
I sort of agree, but a good potential employee won't need to make an employer see between the lines and interpret. Being able to argue, even from a "weaker" position (less work experience), is a key skill in most workplaces. I will have a lot of time for just about anybody who can convince me of transferrable skills, regardless of what the skills are, but it's really on them to argue that well and convincingly.
True, when I applied for certain jobs I would reference my mom skills. Being a good listener, and being patient, calming people down who being are angry, and being sympathetic for a receptionist at a doctors office is also a good skill set that a lot of people don't have, or my current job, I clean a day care, and asked if I knew how to fix broken toys and clean. I said obviously, I'm a mom. 😁 best part, I get to take my child with me, so I still feel like a stay-at-home mom.
Her skills: Not thinking ahead, being a leech, being unfaithful, being a mooch, taking more than she gives… oh ya, an employer will be lucky to have her LOL 😂
The laws are wrong. If a woman doesn't want her child, she can abort, or give up for adoption. If a man doesn't want his child, he is a loser, a dead beat, he needs to pay, or go to jail. I've seen idiot woman on TikTok who say, if you're not happy in you marriage, just get divorced, and find another man! That line of thinking is, it is always someone else's fault, and never theirs. People seriously need counseling, and start by going every other day.
$18hr as a personal trainer she’s either a terrible trainer or vastly underpaid. I charge $100hr for personal training & have no problem getting clients
Illegal and legal drugs cause a lot of divorces. Birth control, antidepressants, illegal drugs, alcohol etc plus so many people just give up easily on marriages
Why is it always the woman who files for divorce? These women aren’t like our mothers or grandmothers who believed in commitment no matter what so you can keep the family together.
If your mothers and grandmothers believed in commitment so strongly than we wouldn't have no fault divorces because they fought for changes in the law. Did you not know that started in the 1970s when my grandmother was 30?
No child support if 50/50 which is what I begged the courts for. Good luck with that in SC. Sucks to go through a divorce you don't choose and then see your kids part time and pay child support when you want 50/50 joint legal and physical custody. Dave, no CS for 50/50.
Men usually run away from full custody. Some men don't want to give even minimal support, let alone take on full custody and incur full childcare costs. Women somehow manage without much help. It's amazing.
My daughter was born in another country and I got 100 a month in child support. The day after I got back to the US, I walked into a temp agency and got a job at a call center stuffing envelopes (had been a teacher with a masters abroad). I was young and though it was scary as heck it was a life filled with meaning and purpose. I worked my way up, stayed close to daughters family with whom she is still very close, 99% because of my efforts. Yet I hardly dare breathe my success story because its not pitiful enough for sympathy and my strength just makes people mad
@@Excalibur2 It's just as impressive as being a widow who has children. Especially if the man died and had nothing to leave behind as many men do. $100 a month is so pathetic, yet he probably felt proud of himself. When kids grow up to be rich and famous without help from their fathers, I don't feel sorry if the father is rejected. Jeff Bezos is an example...Jeff's biological father signed away parental rights but wanted to meet Jeff when Amazon prospered.
@@natashadickson4819 statistically, being a single parent is one of the worst things that can happen to a kid. That's why I hate all the praise people give them. I'm sure it is hard, but all the more reason to do everything in your power to find a second, quality parental figure.
Maybe since she got rid of the family element for her children, she should let the kids live with the father who didn’t ask for a divorce. She created this problem, she should suck it up and deal with the consequences.
My parents had 4 kids. Growing up, my dad was sick mentally and physically, he couldn’t hold down a job. My mom was the only bread winner working in a fish factory, and other jobs working all the time. I learned to make dinner for the family at young age. In the summer we helped out doing summer jobs. Mom never complained and stuck it out with the man she married.
Just a question from someone that’s not married and doesn’t have kids but why would he pay child support if they split custody 50-50? Isn’t he also paying for all the kids expenses on the days that he has them? I’m guessing he also pays for the bigger expenses for them too.
@@staleydu1ok? But why? You didn’t answer my question. In all the examples I have heard in my area the woman wife has never paid the husband. One of my coworkers literally has the same job as his ex because they met at work, they have a dead even split 50/50 custody and he still has to pay her $600/month.
Its because the laws are to protect and sustain the kid's current lifestyle. If you have a rich guy and a minimum wage skilled wife. And they divorced but split custody 50/50. Half the time the kids are going to have a great upbringing and be well-fed. While the other half time with the mom they are eating rice and beans and have to bike home 10 miles from school everyday and live in a trailer park. I get the stupidity with alimony and maintaining the wife's current lifestyle in a divorce. But the kids need to be protected.
So the breadwinner who didn’t initiate divorce should change his life around because boss babe wanted to get a divorce? This is why getting married makes no sense in the modern age.
“Jackleg “ cracked me up! The only other person I’ve heard say that was my dad, who is same age as Dave and also from Nashville 🤣 Also, she sounded at first like she has no income, no kind of support whatsoever but he’s giving her something and she lives with her parents. Anyone else shocked at the random ‘I raise beef’? I definitely wasn’t expecting that!
The state (FL) says the non-custodial parent pays child support. I’m the father and the custodial parent and was pretty much forced to say A) I don’t need the support or B) I need the support because I can’t care for my daughter alone. The law isn’t black and white.
@@emoney1231should, could and do are now optional to many. Why 50 50 is a bad idea pushed by men hoping to avoid child support and parenting obligations. Learn the history of WHY child support and penalities came into being in the 1st place, men were refusing to support their offspring pushing the kids and moms to the street or the burden on strangers, churches or tax payers.
She would have been annoyed that he was late for dinner - because of traffic or overtime. Tired that she had to eat alone sometimes and he wasn’t always available to make her feel special - prob as he was exhausted and wanted to relax when he got home. She had 8 hours a day to sit and conceptualize and convince herself that he’s the problem.
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Years ago, i went thru a breakup with my then gf and she instantly turned negative, violent and angry. Extremely angry. Weeks after we broke up, I ran into her dad at the store and I asked him why on earth is she so angry with me when she’s the one that cheated and broke up the relationship. His words were “she’s finding out that life is very expensive. You had her living in a fantasy by paying all the bills for 6 years and she is just finding out the cost of being an adult” 😳
WOW!!! Her own dad told you the truth without backing his own daughter. That’s a good man.
You paid the bills for a non-wife, for 6 years??? WTF man, that was ultra dumb
Lesson learned if you can't marry within two years just leave
@@stevegolacks8731 He wasn't too dumb. He didn't marry her...duh.
@@sobeliever1638what makes you think he ever wants to get married? It's not a wise choice for anyone who is well-off.
Came in saying she's doing it all on her own. Then, it's 50/50 custody split... temporary transitional financial support... government aid... living with parents. This isn't doing it "all on your own". Be honest about the entirety of your situation so people can offer solutions that fit your life.
She's a wimp.
Kudos to John and Dave though.
They dropped their kid gloves and asked for accountability from her.
She meant not wanting her husband in her business. Sounds like a lot of bitterness there that's interfering with her ability to think clearly.
@@curiouscat3384getting a check from the husband doesn’t require him in your business. She either cheated or left sue to boredom and feels guilty.
Shes all over the place.
She thought she could divorce him and he still pays all the bills. Foolishness
lol this! Delusional women
Probably left him to be with some stud she was personally training
@@TheLivedeathyeah she’s for the streets but wants baby daddy to pay all the bills and keep her happy
Those women know the government got their backs! She needs to go back to the street where she belongs.
Exactly
She played herself. You do not divorce the breadwinner with no job and no concrete plan unless you or your children are in danger.
She saw sparks with some stud at the gym and thought she had someone taking over paying for her
@@TheLivedeathI think you’re right because if it was him cheating then she would’ve taken him to the cleaners.
It’s aaaight, she can always give handies under the bridge for cash…
yeah but boredom is like......a KIND of danger.....right?? 🤣
Homegirl deffo cheated or got bored. Even if you’re in danger and had to go back home, you’d have some sort of plan (school, a career) something!
Divorcing your spouse with no career plan is CRAZY
Unless he was hitting her. Sometimes you have to get out fast.
@@singerjo5791 Well seeing as very few divorces are because of that (domestic abuse victims normally stay with their abuser) I highly doubt that's the issue. And while I don't expect you to need to put up with it... Realistically if you were putting up with it for years prior, it's not like it'd be much different waiting a couple months while applying for jobs and then dropping his/her ass immediately.
Unless your life is actually in immediate danger you are taking a stupid risk by making your income zero and winging it.
Sometimes there are other issues. Doesn't sound like you've been there I have.
@@gayle2276Yep. Like when one finds out their husband is a secret pedo. We don't know this woman's full story. And hopefully it's not like what I mentioned above, hearing that her husband has 50% custody.
The fact you came to that conclusion is super weird
Stay at home moms wanna divorce their husbands but continue to stay at home? The delusion is real.
Where do they even come up with this reality??
@@AFPride0764 The GOAT!! Kevin Samuels. You should look him up. Marriage is a duty, not happiness. Unless she's a 6-figure income and got her finance together for retirement, she's going to need man.
I don’t think she thought this through
This happens all the time and these women have a hard reality check
They need laws . If she files just because she shouldn’t be able to collect child support. Just give him half custody.
He doesn't pay child support because they have 50/50 custody. That makes complete sense
Send her $500 and then request $500 so it’s still equal just to mess with her head
There are people like Kelly Clarkson paying child support even though they have full custody.
Hardly relevant. Kelly is a millionaire@@JK-nq1dl
If you make a lot more than your spouse, you will still have to pay even with 50/50 split. 50/50 doesn’t mean 50% of the cost it means 50% of the time.
@@TonyCox1351You’re correct, and her husband does not even need to make a lot more than her.
I can’t be the only one having a reeeeeally hard time feeling bad for this woman
She sounds like she’s trying. I do feel bad for her but she will get out of this situation
Nope.She choose to divorce and thought his money was still going to be there.
@@ballerz1as it should, until she can stand on her own
@@Operation-RealityNope, she walked away with no good reason to do so. Wawa’s for her
Omg for real! She was irritating me! Get a job!
Ladies before you get divorced, have a plan. You’ll not be a stay at home mom anymore, or you can’t maintain a lifestyle like the one you had while being a sahm or having two incomes. Your husband is not your husband anymore and don’t expect him to save you when the decision was already made
Women don’t think with logic only emotions. She wasn’t happy and blew up the marriage with no plan whatsoever
She had a plan. She kept care of her body, and worked out all the time. She got her personal trainer certificates, and with the support of her boyfriend she decided to divorce her husband. She was going to have it all... a great career, the hot man of her dreams, and with 50-50 custody, she wasn't going to be burdened with child rearing.:)
Then it turned out the guy she was cheating with didn't want to buy or even rent (living together) the cow, and her job prospects weren't what she thought they were.
@@scott4825Funny. I thought the SAME thing!
@@scott4825 exactly scott. She had that guy prepared to monkeybranch to. Turned out he only wanted to deal with her padussie and not her bs.
Now she screwed and complaining on the phone.
It is really funny. I just feel bad for the kids whose mothers take the most stupid decisions...
Funny how spot on the comments are.
She has more excuses than a person going to jail.
She tried to hide that she is getting child support
Jeez 😂
Accountability is like kryptonite to some people.
@@GDuncan8002*women
@@residentevilfreakk55 ...and men who leave for a younger woman
I like how straight forward both Dave and John are with her. The reality check is being paid. Your dream of being a stay-at-home mom is gone when the divorce happened. Time to strap up those boots and be the provider of your family, whatever the circumstances surrounding the divorce.
The split has happened, reality is here.
Men deal with real life everyday, we actually have to live in reality, stay at home moms listen up before you wake up to do everything !!
Hope she knows how to pack a lunch. From here on out it’s nothing but a full dam days work
She cheated on him
@@soonermagic24it’s always the Pilates instructors and trainers too.
@@diegogaines2088how are you doing everything if the mom is taking care of the home? Let her be gone and you have kids to take care of and see if what she does isn't reality.
No retailers are hiring at $25 an hour unless you are qualified to be a manager. It's more like $15-$18.
He throws out these big numbers like $25 is easy to get. "Go make $50,000." $50,000 is extremely dificult to make, especially for a single mom.
I work at Amazon and make almost 25. Just needed to pass a drug test. No experience required, and lots of single moms work at my warehouse, they pick up overtime and make decent money.
@@FlansyLinny what do you do at Amazon?
@@FlansyLinny And assuming her kids are school age and she lives with her parents, I am sure her parents can help with child care while she is working. Or she can just do the over time only when her kids are with her ex husband.
@@FlansyLinnydepends what you do at Amazon. I worked at their warehouse last year making $15.50 and then was offered to come back this year for the holiday season at $18. They have driver ads posted for $19. What department is the $25!?
I was on a church committee with a young wife and mother with 2 children who said she didn't love her husband and wanted to get a divorce. I told her the money situation would be very tough. She had a high school education with no helpful skills and had been doing daycare in her home. He had no special faults except she didn't "love" him. She went through with it. The last I heard of her on Facebook she was depressed and poverty stricken.
NO ONE CARES
Unfortunately being a boss babe doesn't pay the bills
@@professionalpookieGrow up.
@@SirHargreeves your mom
They never asked what the custody agreement was, just why is he not paying.
When people think the grass is greener on the other side, they usually end up playing in the mud.
All her single girlfriends telling her how free she would be 😂
She is free now
Free of money too ; )
😂😂 I can see it now
She was a personal trainer, guarantee she was getting her back blown out by Chad and Tyrone on the side.
Stunning and brave 😂😂😂
Would love to get the other side of this story.
Absolutely, lets bring in Bob
Yeah. she's making chronic dumb decisions.
She’s a personal trainer. I have a feeling what the other side is.
Me too
@@BlueDauntless facts
Working in social services I met so many people. They didn’t want to accept the fact the answer to a lot of their problems was having a steady 40 hour a week job.
They thought they could work a couple hours here and there, and get state assistance, and that was a long term solution. In their mind the problem was never they didn’t work enough. The problem was always the state wasn’t providing enough assistance, and they always had reason to believe the state was going to start paying them more money through one of a numbers of programs. Either be they were going to get more food stamps or more disability ect…. It was like they were full-time job begging people for money, and going from social workers to social worker trying to figure out how to get more assistance
That's a pretty messed up way of thinking; expecting the state to solve everything.
exactly how many people think unfortunately,they want more government and handouts.This is why we have Joe in the white house!Is exactly why!
Lazy
@@MrClassicmetal I blame it on how they were raised. They are just modeling what their parents did . Instead of working 12 hours a day their parents spent their childhoods trying to work the system
Yeah-working in community mental health there’s a mentality that is based in victimhood. No judgement, but people that are stuck in this makes it hard on themselves.
Having raised my kids alone, no child support, no government assistance. I worked all the time to pay for everything. So a call like this just pisses me off.
So did my mom after the divorce. She knew that my father could not be depended on for Child Support. Fortunately my Dad (Step-Dad) has been there for us, financially and otherwise, for 35 years.
Is there no government assistance that you would've been entitled to?
@@alex2143he probably made too much according to the state
I know that feeling
Rather than being angry, why not remember what it was like when your singleness was just weeks in rearview the mirror? She's sorting herself out. I bet in 10 years, she'll be saying the same as you.
My ex wife tried this very same thing. Now she has the kids 50/50, they don’t like her much anymore, has to work, can’t afford the 4500 sq ft home, expected to stay at home, and works at the job she hated.. Her mom - my daughter fucked up this whole thing. I’m sorry..
Sounds like she just blew up her home with no thought towards what happens next. I feel bad for the kids.
These people, many have underlying mental dissorders...so their daily lives are like that too..disorder, no planning etc.
Maybe she had a new flame she thought was gonna take of her and her kids, but then it fizzled out
@@TheLivedeathyeah side piece didn’t want to actually take her and her kids, just smash and pass
Yup it's another person that shouldn't have had kids. She's not stable and clearly doesn't think things through.
This woman has no sense of
Choosing to be a single parent has consequences, this is what happens when you don't plan ahead. Don't end up like this person, she is a cautionary Tale.
Yeah destroy your family, your husband, and your kids because “you can do better girl”
And a liar too
Very true. Why would a stay at home mom be the one that initiate the divorce? Makes no sense. She has nothing but the kids. If you are going to be the one wanting the divorce, at least make sure you have a stable job and decent income.
The part that sucks is that we don't get to hear the ex-husband's side of the story.
How would she plan ahead?
This is the first time ive actually seen Jon and Dave tell a female to be accountable for something instead of blaming the husband or exhusband
He needs to do this more often. If us women are not weak little flowers, that means that we can be held responsible for our choices.
@@marymccann6110Dave is a little off though, SAHM with no work experience getting 25-30$ an hour??? Really??
Not the first time, but it’s definitely not often
@@dylanlough5234 yeah it's rarely ever.
@@dylanlough5234yeah it takes a clear case of being unable to find anything the husband did wrong before it becomes the wife’s problem. Hell, if he was calling in, John would’ve grilled him on if there was anything he could’ve done different before maybe taking his side in the end.
Ofc there first question was “why he not on child support” if a man called and said they divorced and he has the kids you really think they would say “why isn’t she on child support”
She has been brainwashed. Probably modern feminism. She left her husband, her home and the safety of it including two incomes. Now she’s finding out what modern feminism really has to offer women but who knows.
So true
If he was a stay at home dad, and he now makes less than half the hourly wage of his ex-wife, they definitely should ask that.
Kids probably aren't his.
She admitted she doesn't have sole custody so that's why she wasn't awarded child support.
She can do it all on her own guys, she can work 8 hours a week and say she doesn’t have time. Lives with parents, has government assistance, a 50-50 custody… what the heck does she want?
She don't want to work after being a SAHM mom for so long and got comfortable
@@TheLivedeath should have stayed married
Sounds like my cousin. Lived with her parents (stole money from them) and had 2 kids by 2 different guys, plus wanted my aunt (her mom) to raise the kids. And on government assistance
Don't forget the side hustles of beef and bartending!
She wants no responsibilities but wants an exciting lifestyle.
She initially said he wasn’t paying her anything and suddenly it changed to $500 per my for 6 months. He shouldn’t have to pay with a 50/50 custody arrangement.
You don’t know how child support works. Her husband makes more than she does? Child support guidelines dictate he pays, even with 50/50
Also, it's according to which state they are in.
The more well-off side pays the other so the kids can maintain their current lifestyle when in the other's care. The laws are to protect the kids.
These laws do not protect the kids. They incentivize women to wreck their own homes.
Seems like he has more than 50/50 if he has to ask her to watch the kids so he can work more. Probably no room for the kids at her mom and dads plus with her having no permanent residence, he most likely has 80%
Sounds like she was feeding her kids just fine as a stay-at-home mom while her husband provided for the whole family.
It would've been interesting if the panel members said something along the lines of: "We insist to hear your ex-husband's side of the story as well."
@@MrClassicmetal delony would have on his channel.
@@kjvacp I'm not sure about him, based on what I've heard him say in previous shows.
One of those segments was broken down by Coach Greg Adams not too long ago. Basically Delony was agreeing with _everything_ that woman said.
@@MrClassicmetallol dude the other day he said he went to college to chase a girl he met a week before. She then dumped him next week. The dude is the king of simps.
@@joesmith3590 You mean Delony?
Im just gonna submise here. Husband works long hours so she can work part time and so there's at least one parent home with the kids. All off a sudden husband isnt around enough and now she's "not happy". Can't have it both ways. If you want time that means less income. If you want income that means less time. Went thru this exact situation. Had to pay child support, alimony all because she wasn't "happy" anymore.
And it should NEVER be fair that a man has to pay alimony. I would even state child support should be like a percentage of both income. If she is making $18/hr. and the husband is making $45. Child support should be a percentage. She makes $18/hr., she is only going to be matched another $18/hr. And I get it, it is not about the adults, but about the kids. Well, split the time with the kids after the divorce. She is only getting an extra $18/hr.
"He never paid enough attention to me!" SMH
Personal trainers are often cheaters
Almost 33-years ago my wife and I got married at a downtown justice of the peace in Knoxville, TN (still married).
I can't tell you how many of our friends had planned, expensive, elaborate ceremonies and fell into this situation throughout our time together.
Well at least they have the memories...
Study after study shows the bigger the wedding expense, the higher the likelihood of divorce.
@@jackoats50 Don't know, but for some, the divorce party was just as big as the wedding.
@@Joshcodes808 Well, as that great philosopher of our time once said..."You never can tell..." (Chuck Berry)
Glad to hear that you're still married. My wife and I married almost 30 years ago in my parents back yard for $100 (Chaplain fee). We're still going strong!
We spent a little less than $300 to get married. We just had our 19th wedding anniversary :)
My grandma got divorced with 6 kids and little to no child support. She unloaded freight at night and cleaned out semi tankers during the day. Hardest working lady ever. Dad said she was never at home. You do anything you can until you can get your family stable!
My ex did this… we didn’t have kids and never got married… yet she dumped me and was demanding money from me and was shocked that I didn’t give her shit 😂
Crazy.
Destroyed her family and is now shocked at the consequences 😂
Maybe the husband drove her to it. Men never think they might be a problem.
Why divorce a husband who provides and she was able to stay at home? I worked my “a” off and so did my husband and wish I have the chance to stay at home.
She probably met someone that she thought was going to take over caring for her and her kids = reason for the divorce. And then it fizzled out
good lord, the dude could have been a cheat, closet cross dresser, a totally inept parent and partner, a thief, abusive, or just a man baby, but golly gee he had a job, and frankly not a great job at that, but money conqueors all, right?
Probably abusing her
She would have mentioned these things
I have to agree here… if those were factors and the husband had these major problems she would have mentioned it. Same way we’ve heard a thousand husbands call and do the same. It’s not a sex thing, it’s a human thing. “I got divorced; my exe___”
If they don’t mention that then it’s either mutual or they were the problem. And she started the conversation saying “I divorced my husband and that’s why he doesn’t have to pay me”
I’m saying this from watching:listening to hundreds of hours of these. Man or woman; this is just what I’ve seen.
Opinion: I mean no offense, have a nice day :)
She's strong and independent. She'll be fine.
Stunning and brave as well.
@@stevebc957 and amazing too. 😂
I’m certain that was sarcasm
In my opinion, if you honestly have joint custody and it’s 50-50, he shouldn’t have to be paying her anything. That’s why it’s called joint custody. He’s responsible for them when he has them and she is when she has them.
This is not so.....yiu also must manage the financial differences
Custody is one thing and money is another
What is one side is rich and the other a pauper? The state doesn't want the child to live like this, so the rich one has to make up for the other's lacking.
People say it's never too late to start over, but after my recent horrendous divorce at 49, it can be difficult to not have anxiety about debt and retirement. Is there any idea how an old timer like me could see 7-figures before 60? I've set asides $200k to fire up my goal
You have basically 11 year time, dont rush!….you'd definitely make a killing as long as risks are calculated and appropriate strategies are implemented, considering the shaky economy and volatile market, you’re better off financial advisory
I totally agree, investing can be effortless using an advisor that knows what the heck he/she is doing. I remember early 2020 amidst the rona-outbreak, my portfolio took a big hit, thus consulted an expert. As of today, I've realized nearly $650k ROI after subsequent investments, cos I know enough to seek expert counsel before quitting.
@840trk Hey there, my retirement portfolio has been underperforming recently, and I'm considering a strategy change with the help of an advisėr. Is it possible to get in touch with your advisr?
excellent share, no BS. just copied and pasted her full name on my browser, thankfully her site came up after scrolling a bit, she seems first-rate.
Anyone that tells you that they can give you a path to turning 200k to 1 mil in 11 years, you need to get away from them. That's not to say that it can't happen. It is to say that no legit professional financial advisor will make that promise. Can it happen? Sure, there are lots of n=1 examples out there such as, my cousin's next door neighbor's uncle's ex-wife's best friend turned $100k to 10 mi in one year, but looking for that pointy end will, statistically speaking, will lead you broke. The last thing you want to do as you approach retirement age is to take unnecessary investment risks that will make you broke. I say this as someone with a low 7 figures net worth
This lady probably divorced her husband to be with a new flame that she thought was going to take over caring for her and her kids, and then it fizzled out. Tale as old as time.
The guy was down to pump and dump the fat old single mom but NO WAY he was going to commit to that deadweight
That's what I was thinking. She didn't say, so you know there's something to hide.
Because which normal guy would sign up to take care of a single mom and her kids
Chad and Tyrone are exciting for a while, but they have no intention of wifing her up or taking on her kids.
Yup.
I am in my 60s. On television, I have noticed over the years that they always show the divorced, single mother working terribly long hours, coming home to study till late into the night for her law degree, sitting in the living room doing homework with her children, and she is somehow living in a pristine, beautifully furnished half million dollar home… the long-suffering woman with the loser husband that she was forced to cut loose. I have never known a woman who had that kind of life after divorce with kids. It was nearly always very grim. Furthermore, it seems the husband most always went on to get married again, be financially successful, and put all his energy into his “new family” and not his own children.
Divorce isn’t ever like it is on TV.
And- a woman with children has a difficult time, finding a new husband. That doesn’t seem to be true for the men. The men get remarried, and have no children with her new wife. New family.
@visualapologetics4891 simple because being a dad is for more moral alignment and paying the bills. When the kids turn 7 or up then you start putting them to work by giving them allowance for doing their chores. If you want to really amp it up make it a competition where the highest contributor gets a multiplier. Now that housework is outsourced all that is left is moral guidance and responsibility which is easier to manage as a dad
@@visualapologetics4891women see men that have had kids with other women as men of interest because they succumb to pre-selection biases. Men, OTOH, see women with kids as an off the market woman.
Or to summarize it more, the attributes that the man had to get a wife (financial success, good head on his shoulders, responsible) still exist after the divorce. If anything, they’ve increased. The attributes that got a woman a husband (youth, beauty, ability to have kids) has all declined, on the other hand.
My mom did just fine, thanks. Shut it, boomer.
Divorce is the epidemic of our time in this nation.
The 19th amendment was a mistake...
Divorce rates have been declining for decades
He doesn't pay child support because they have 50/50 custody - you know Dave, women and men are equal now. She wanted the divorce she is now living in her misery she created.
It still depends on the salaries of each, even with 50/50 custody. He makes $93,000,roughly and is only not paying, because this crazy woman didn't want him too. She also said that they were watching the kids 50/50. I could have missed it, but never heard that the court awarded the custody as 50/50. Sounds more like she is the custodial parent. But yes, she made a lot of decisions, without thought to her kids.
You are 100% wrong. 50 / 50 joint physical custody = no child support to either party.@@pep590
This woman didn’t hear a word Dave said. She has an excuse for everything.
Typical.
Give full custody to the father. Problem solved.
She'd still be financially busted.
She's only getting money because she has the kids.
They never think about that option
@@AFPride0764 Because most mothers won't consider it and most fathers don't want them fulltime.
@steelcastle5616 Agree with the first part. Disagree with the second part. Most fathers would rather have more time with the children than be a debt slave to the State.
Not exactly. The guy has to work so childcare is still an issue and he might not have the ex-wife's parents to do it.
I have no sympathy for her because she had no plan, get off your butt and WORK
the tax payers will take care of her
@@angel-ij4xvstop you're going to make me throw up 🤢
@@AXJ23sucks to be you
We dont know the whole story.
I know a woman like her. She made a decision like this because her ex husband was sleeping with other women.
@@d3r3kyasmarStill doesn’t mean she doesn’t have to go to work.
She made grown up decisions and now she gets to try to be a grown up. Somehow Dave thinks the ex should be responsible for her. She thinks her parents should be.
Dave suggested the father pays child support because 1) she lead him to think she had full custody but also 2) he earns more and in many places offset support payments go from the higher earner to the lower one (even if imputed by a court) in shared custody situations.
@@Lon1001 in a 50/50 custody arrangement there shouldn’t be any child support for the childish mom.
They’re his kids too! Lol like what
@@Lon1001if I do out the calculation and assume she found 160 hours a month of work at $18/hour and he had 160 at $45, she’d be owed like $524 a month. Even with her sitting on her rear, she’s entitled to $1100 a month in child support.
I don’t even dispute that a husband should continue to give financial benefit to his kids like he always had been. But if she was expecting that and alimony to replace work, well, she had another thing coming.
Fellas, don’t let your wife be a personal trainer. She’ll leave you for Chad.
Either that or she keeps seeing what she's missing out on and wants it. While staring at you in bed after your 50 hour workweek with your dadbod.
Who said she left him for someone else? It's like some of you men have a Chad obsession. Do you realize most women get ignored by Chad? And Chads are exceptionally rare in the first place.
She left him for Eli Manning (AKA Chad)??
@@natashadickson4819Oh, our apologies Natasha. She left him for Tyrone then. Happy?
A relative wanted to lose weight so she started going to the gym and met a Chad there so she started cheating on her husband. Eventually, Chad rejected her and she became violent so Chad called the police. Surprisingly, her husband took her back but she told me that she loved Chad. She also said that Chad committed suicide when his business failed.
Sounds like she didn't think this through, but she's getting what she asked for.
Yep. And there is a high probability that she will use the kids as a tool and alienate them from their Father.
She did what she did to. And she will find stable work.
All I hear is her saying it isn't my fault! But it is, it is your fault. YOU made the decision to leave him. I was a single Mom because my husband died. My kids had to learn that Mom had to work because this is how they got food, clothes and a roof over their head. They also learned how to be productive members of a family.
She did not say WHY she chose divorce. Please don't ASS-u me....
@@joannaansah4957 Why she chose is immaterial. She made the choice. Now she is learning that the grass isnt greener.
@@joannaansah4957 as a personal trainer she probably liked the male attention she was getting from men who were in better shape than her husband. He was no longer good enough for her, she thought she could do better, and now she realizes those other men only wanted her for sex. They didn't want to be her next husband/provider. She couldn't tell the difference.
@@joannaansah4957 I am not Ass-u-ming, you are. If she was going to leave, she should have had a plan. In an abusive relationship, having a plan is crucial. In a non-abusive relationship, having a plan is crucial. Bills and daily necessities don't disappear because you decided to leave your spouse.
Wow - that's quite a story there based on zero evidence other than her job title. @@kurtjames9487
Shouldn’t have gotten a divorce
Some people do not think ahead and just live day to day.
Sometimes even a person who plans is in a situation where a situation forces them to deviate from their plan.
If she was in a really bad marriage and had to get out I can understand why she was not prepared.
But if she has been thinking about getting divorced then she should have had a plan.
FACT!!
She won't work - I bet money on it! She unlearned that a while ago. She knew that she'll divorce her husband longer than just a day before splitting up. If she really wanted, she could have been looking for a real job for at least half a year. She wants to be with her parents and maybe a small job for two half days a week, probably something easy.
Homegirl wanted back on the carousel and didn’t realize the ride is over.
Now homegirl gonna be givin handies under the bridge for cash
Men assume she had someone else. They never think that the husband could have been unbearable. Keep thinking that.
@@natashadickson4819”unbearable” = a boring provider and not a bad boy.
@@natashadickson4819 because it's usually the truth. 80%of divorces are initiated by women. Cope.
@@natashadickson4819 reality is a bitch. If the shoe fits
Dave and John always wanting to instantly blame the man while softballing the woman. Sounds like the ex husband got out just in time.
It’s all good. She’ll be giving handies for cash out under an overpass in a week….
They always are there to help the one who calls. They always answer in the best interest of that person, even if they are harsh sometimes.
They take the caller's statements and face value. Of course if the caller is lying, then what do you do?
If the caller is lying, you do your best with the information at hand.
She filed. Maybe it was no picnic to with live her ex-husband.
@@therocinante3443 What did she lie about? She filed and doesn't feel guilty for filing. She just needs better income and that's what they told her.
It is ego talking to deny child support. If you don't want money from the ex, he could pick up health care and babysitting. She is trying to act like she doesn't need him to help raise the kids, but she does. Its okay to let the father be a father.
Sounds like she wanted to get rid of him and have nothing to do with him, but as long as there are kids involved she's not getting rid of him. If he is a real dad and has anything to do with those kids, she ain't getting rid of him. He will be there at school functions, sports, birthdays, graduations, weddings, birth of grand kids and then it repeats it's self.
She won’t get CS when they’re sharing custody 50/50.
I am so glad this channel exist so us people can learn from people who made stupid mistakes themselves.
amen
Let's see... A personal trainer who is most likely in somewhat decent shape, got a lot of male attention at the gym and suddenly her husband isn't good enough for her. She filed for divorce, then realizes the men aren't busting down her door to pay bills and provide. Surprise, surprise, they just wanted sex. Now her hours are cut because word is out at her job that she sleeps with clients, she can't pay her bills or feed her kids, and she doesn't have the same grit and hustle she demands from her clients. Welcome to lifelong regret. Mystery solved.
BINGO! Nail on the head.
I’ve seen plenty of out of shape middle age women giving it a go as a trainer. Sometimes out of shape people looking for a trainer are too intimidated to listen to a fit person, I guess.
As a personal trainer, this is correct and most likely happened
Bro, wish I could like your comment a million times
I was approached by two different “trainers” at the YMCA. Both were in worse shape than I was in. One of the “trainers” was an overweight and very unattractive woman. I was thinking that she needed to get into another line of work.
Personal trainer 😂😂😂 we know why she left him
Yep. She cheated.
No. We don't know why. And Dave Ramsey didn't even care why. He told her to get an income and she will.
Maybe the husband had a role to play in her getting out of the marriage.
@@natashadickson4819she still should’ve had a plan ( and a job)
@kathyharmon2093 That's what Dave said. 😃
This is the problem with America. A woman gets to divorce a man we don’t ask why but he must pay child support even if he doesn’t want the family separated. We don’t even know why she divorced her husband. If it was infidelity or abuse then that’s a good reason, but if she just divorced him simply because she didn’t want to be with him anymore, her struggle might just be her punishment from God. Those kids don’t need a single mother, they need mom and dad.
We want prenuptial agreement!
And he can continue to be a dad. If she is difficult, just go to Court
Very true. With so many people getting divorced just because they can, it's hard to know if her divorce from him was justified or not. People need to grow up and quit having kids if they aren't planning on staying together. The kids are the ones that suffer the most because their parents are morons.
Period.
Dads are required to help pay to support their kids regardless of whether they’re married to their mother. Period.
Women initiate 75-80% of divorce in lower to middle class families, and 90-95% in upper class, wealthier families.....boredom is expensive.
Women hit their peak sexual libido much later than men. She probably saw a bunch of studs at the gym and the husband was no longer wanted
So is cheating, and beating, smart mouths, male hobbies to excess, porn, addictions, work alcoholism and lying to the wife.
amazingly stupid people in the comments today.
@@vickimerritt2832 oh, I will be the first to agree with you. My ex-wife would violently attack me unprovoked, and she cheated on me numorous times before I left her.
But that wasn't the end of the sufferring for me, because you see, I was born with a penis, and she was born with a vagina, and the law is very clear that people with a penis have to pay a lot of money to people with vaginas, even though it was she that was the reason for the break down of the marriage.
Some fun facts for you to think about.....women are responsible for more than 50% of the domestic violence and more than 50% of the cheating in relationships and marriage, so I am glad you mentioned those two important things.....and yes, given the facts above, women still initiate an overwhelming percentage of divorce.
Women are failing at life with their onlyfans, single motherhood and huge numbers on welfare, even though your gender is the most protected species on earth and has numerous safety nets that men just don't have....and with all your major failures and needing to be saved time and time again, society and the law continues to give your gender pass, after pass, after pass.....because vagina.
Google hypergamy and redpill yourself about your female privilege.
@@vickimerritt2832 Many women do all of that too and then some.
“Doesn’t matter, state law says he pays child support.” So he loses his wife and kids against his will then has to lose pay against his will as well? This is why international dating/expat lifestyle is on the rise among the younger generation of men.
Exactly that pissed me off too
He was already paying for his kids' expenses. They don't cease to be his responsibility just because of the divorce. But now he should be paying 50% of the kids' expenses instead of 100%.
@@emoney1231 the caller said they split the kids 50/50 time-wise. So the dad DOES pay 50 percent of the kids' expenses already!
@@ViewpointUniqueI've notice these tendencies in this show before. They lean towards being white knights. It's like they automatically assume that the ex isn't contributing.
Yes he does have to pay child support. The marriage is over. She's not his slave or his prisoner.
Gets divorced and starts getting govt assistance. Another leech on society. Failure
We pay for her and her kids,unfortunately.
She be gettin split like a 2x4 by some dude named Tyrone
@@AmarisKrisla We pay for most single moms.
@@AmarisKrisla Yup exactly why people with kids should never complain about others being socialists.
@@UPalooza Really all parents because of tax credits. Rubio said it best that child tax credit is socialism.
Why the hell did she call in when she already knows she needs to get a full time job?! Good lord.
she wanted validation for being lazy.
So he has the kids half the time but still has to pay her? For what? He has them the same amount of time. The lady sounds lazy and entitled
Child support is only paid if there is not joint physical custody. @@curiouscat3384
That’s not how child support works
Ideally 100% of that money goes to the kids to maintain their current lifestyle when they are with her. But obviously the one getting paid has to use it ethically
@@TheLivedeathYou can’t maintain the same level of lifestyle for the child unless either there is a very high income to begin with or a substantial increase in income by one parent. You can’t operate two separate households on the same income.
I chose to be a single mom because of years of abuse. I left a stable job (with a pension!) of 21 years to move to another state and take a job offering 50% more income and more opportunities for advancement. I left my oldest child behind in college in my previous state (painful 😢). You make choices and you have consequences. I don’t regret my decision for a minute but it wasn’t easy. 7 years later I’ve tripled my previous income, my oldest and her baby live 10 minutes away, and I reconnected with my HS boyfriend and love of my life. YOU have to put in the work to make your life better. I remember thinking, “if I have to live in a cardboard box it will be better than this”. My marriage was killing me and my kids. I made a list of pros and cons and knew it was going to be painful for awhile. I wish her luck and discernment. ❤️🙏🏻
Good for you, you're a planner. Well done. I pray GODs continued blessings on your family. You're a hard-working winner!
Amen
I had a similar experience. My marriage was so bad I was ready to be homeless and live in a tent. Gosh bless you. ❤
I know the feeling❤. Glad you made it out
You were actually a victim of a bad husband from your previous marriage. The ex-wife in this video wasn't. You women are not automatically victims and innocent angels that can do no wrong in relationships, especially MARRIAGE! She played herself, and she has nobody to blame but herself. But hey, she's strong and independent, remember? 🤔
Everything is a trade off. You traded one problem for another.
Probably the most polite way of telling someone to not be a parasite.
It’s sounds like a lot more to this story. I have a strange feeling the husband is the victim here.
Same. If she's lazy in this emergency situation, imagine how many excuses she was giving when she was on easy street. I get the spoiled cheating type "I'll throw a tantrum if you say no" vibes.
Sounds like missing context. Like being a trainer and met someone and made decisions to change her life and now has reality hitting her in the face
Most likely she hooked up with one of her clients or coworkers.
That’s what I was thinking soon as she said she was a trainer.
Exactly what I was thinking CHAD.
@@Tyrantking7 It certainly wouldn't be the first time that happened. The SSM channel has discussed many of those cases.
That is why she did not give a good reason for divorcing her ex and was vague about it. It would make her look bad. Other women would not hesitate stating the reason for divorcing their exes like adultery, addiction of any kind (on the man's part), physical/verbal abuse, mental health issues (on the man's part), and other reasons that would not make wife look evil for divorcing her husband.
I don't know the real reason but if it was what I suspect it was, she believed someone better in her eyes was serious with her.
Ahh if it isn’t the consequences of your own actions
Give the custody to your ex-husband instead!
You make that suggestion like most divorcing women (or men) would consider it.
@@steelcastle5616 why it is always the woman that take the custody? Why not give away the custody when one of the parents can’t simply support him or herself ? Who make that judgement that father is not as equal as mother in term of caring? Is that just gender discrimination?
@@mimosa9188 You know the answers to all those questions (the courts do). You don't have to ask me.
@@steelcastle5616 you know the answer as well. You simply ignore the gender bias when it comes to children custody. You ignore the financial abilities on each of the parents and always assume that men should the the only person to pay financially and women should taking the role do care giver. If men and women are actually view equally than there should be that equal amount of single mother and single father.
@@mimosa9188 Not sure what you're arguing with me about. You know the realities of the system like I do. I don't see what you mean by ignoring anything.
I’m really glad that they mentioned how just being there for the kids isn’t the whole answer you have to be present. I’ve struggled with that before by taking a lower job to be home more but then I was stressed about paying my bills which led me back to more work and now although it sucks not being home as much at least I know I can take care of them and our time together is more wholesome when I can just focus on being there with them.
Dave gave really good advice: she’s in SAHM mode, and she has to reprioritize her life. Her kids will be ok without her there for every moment, her ex-husband will be ok without her working around his schedule. She’s got to focus on herself because she is the head of her household now, that means working, budgeting, and boundaries. She’s trying to be a team member with her ex, and they’re not on the same team anymore.
Since we don’t know her reasons for leaving, they could be entirely reasonable - and whatever the reason, she’s got to go from SAHM to Head of Household. And not taking care of a husband will also give her more time to take care of herself. She’ll be fine if she embraces these changes.
The definition of being a single parent has changed. It used to mean that you were single and took care of your children all by yourself. Not sure why or how the defintion changed, probably because our culture is more about gaining sympathy these days. Nowadays, people say they are a single parent just because they are no longer married and happen to have children, even though there is another parent out there doing half the care.
Very true.
That's because the word "single" literally means "not married". A single parent is someone who has children but isn't currently married. Even if the parents are cohabiting without a marriage certificate, they are legally single and not bound to each other by law.
My first question with situations like this is “ Who initiated the divorce?” And it’s almost always the woman. I have no sympathy.
It’s exactly what she wanted.
Why? Why do women need to put up with jerks?
I am not even a feminist but reading your ego-bruised comment is irritating me.
Even of one initiated, the why is necessary to know.
@@MoonMoon-fx1op I disagree. Women will always claim narcissism or abuse regardless of the truth.
@@lonestarrk9308 always? As if there isn't proof is many cases lol. You got it. Have a good one.
Had a friend who put himself on child support, the mother can say she wants none and 20 years later change her mind and sue for full support going back to the time of separation and is legally allowed to do so. Then if you cant pay you could end up in prison. Always go through a good attorney, and dont go along with what an ex says they want. That time of joint decision making is over.
The Family Court laws need to be changed.
Family court laws won't change until feminism is stripped from our government.
Not when they share 50/50 custody.
So she broke up her whole family and ruined her kids childhood to do what again?
Met some stud at the gym
Do it on her own...
@@nervotica7991 but she isn’t doing it on her own and she was a mom….
To be a "personal trainer" 😂😂😂
She is a strong independent woman
She walked out on the marriage and then expects everyone else to fund her decision
She chose to vacate the mom role but wants the mom privileges that come with it
The host wasn't listening, the husband working extra time and the mother looking after the kids was clearly when they were together, she walked away from that and now has to wear the consequences of her actions.
True, the husband needs to now cut back on hours when she needs to work
Actions have consequences
8:34 - Every retailer is hiring at $25 an hour right now? No Dave, they don't pay that much for customer service rep positions in most areas of our nation. Maybe managers or other positions that require specialized skills (like HVAC or electrical), education or certification will get at least $25 per hour, but not at entry level.
Yea he don’t know shit about the real life 9-5 & how all fast food & most retailers start at minimum Wage 💯✔️
She can take kids in and have a daycare at her home so she can still stay home with her kids
Just remember that this is exactly what you wanted 😂😂😂😅😅😅
Things don’t seem to be going for her as planned.
@@blackworldtraveler3711There doesn’t seem to have been a plan and if you fail to plan then you plan to fail.
@@blackworldtraveler3711 You mean it's not as cool as she thought it would be after reading "Eat Pray Love"? 😆
Watching the same thing happen with a family member of mine. Left her awesome husband because she ‘wasn’t happy’. Has two kids with two different men. Found out there’s no alimony in this state and her child support is only 500 a month. She thought she was getting everything, the house they literally just bought, the car that they just bought, alimony that doesn’t exist, and child support for a kid that isn’t his. She now lives in her moms basement and dates a man that she once had a restraining order against. She belongs to the streets
@@Fairdemand554 WOW… sounds like it. I mean it’s very sad but at the same time the way she was going to try and do him was dead wrong. I hope she figures things out someday but those ideas come from these multi-divorced authors and women that screw over athletes for their money. It’s all fun and games into they find a body.
This is the problem with people who want to be stay at home parents. You make yourself financially dependent on another person so when the break up happens, you have no work experience and no job prospects.
Questions, why did she divorce him? Listening to this lady, it was probably a really stupid reason. Why was she a stay at home mom in the first place. Was this a mutual decision or was it her dream life? What expenses does she have? Why is her story constantly changing? It’s really hard to feel sorry for someone who has self inflicted wounds.
Well, wouldn't someone want that if they get benefits? Change the laws and people cannot do that then.
The only women who should stay at home while married are women who are independently wealthy.
So, is he also a dependant on her free chilcare and other domestic labor in order to have a job himself?
huge lack of reasoning abilities in posters,
@@vickimerritt2832 this is a stupid take. he isn't. He has income. He can pay for a baby sitter for the 50% of time he doesn't have the kids. Notice how single dads don't seem to complain about issues like single moms? On tiktok a few months a go, there was a trend of single dads calling out single mums with excuses like yours.
So while he appreciated her childcare services when given, he was not dependent on it because IT WAS REPLACEABLE. It not like he stopped parenting while they were married. So those skills transfer out to the 50% of time he has the kids.
The problem on the women side is they don't make it a "while I was appreciative of his income, it was replaceable" situation. They flat out become obsolete. I personally don't get the stay at home fantasy. Get some paying skills even if the guy is footing all the bills. At least work part time in your career, to keep any knowledge you have sharp. That way is the union ends it's a bridge from 50% to 100% not 0 to 100.
Another way I frame this since women like you like excuses is this.
Divorce isn't the only way a union ends. What if one partner dies?
- man, was working full time, parenting part time. just needs to bridge parenting to 100%
- IF woman, was parenting fulltime, working part time, then it's bridge work to 100%
- What happens in reality, woman parenting full time, has no work (stay at home). CANNOT BRIDGE FROM 0 TO 100
So if the man dies fo r natural causes, will you still be given excuses? Was his corpse benefitting from "le free childcare" ?
I agree with you. Lack of reasoning abilities. Look in a mirror
For whatever job she applies for she should highlight her skills as a stay at home mom (i.e. scheduler, decision maker, caretaker, buyer, etc. ) You get the drift. Often times, stay at home moms don't think they have any skills because they have never worked or they have been out of the work force a long time. She has lots of skills. She just needs to recognize them and feel confident in them. A good employer will recognize that.
I sort of agree, but a good potential employee won't need to make an employer see between the lines and interpret. Being able to argue, even from a "weaker" position (less work experience), is a key skill in most workplaces. I will have a lot of time for just about anybody who can convince me of transferrable skills, regardless of what the skills are, but it's really on them to argue that well and convincingly.
They maybe be reluctant to hire that the person in front of them is all over the place. They need someone who’s reliable.
True, when I applied for certain jobs I would reference my mom skills. Being a good listener, and being patient, calming people down who being are angry, and being sympathetic for a receptionist at a doctors office is also a good skill set that a lot of people don't have, or my current job, I clean a day care, and asked if I knew how to fix broken toys and clean. I said obviously, I'm a mom. 😁 best part, I get to take my child with me, so I still feel like a stay-at-home mom.
Her skills: Not thinking ahead, being a leech, being unfaithful, being a mooch, taking more than she gives… oh ya, an employer will be lucky to have her LOL 😂
Not every SAHM has the skills you have described.
The laws are wrong. If a woman doesn't want her child, she can abort, or give up for adoption. If a man doesn't want his child, he is a loser, a dead beat, he needs to pay, or go to jail.
I've seen idiot woman on TikTok who say, if you're not happy in you marriage, just get divorced, and find another man! That line of thinking is, it is always someone else's fault, and never theirs. People seriously need counseling, and start by going every other day.
This what the culture is teaching women. Total poison for the entire country.
Abolish no-fault divorce is an excellent starting point.
@@Jenda-ld8djworst law ever passed and it was by Regan a "conservative" lol
$18hr as a personal trainer she’s either a terrible trainer or vastly underpaid. I charge $100hr for personal training & have no problem getting clients
Nobody can seem to stay together in marriage anymore. So many broken marriages.
Yeah well either divorce or the husband kills the wife so what's better
@@ykook7000 Who hurt you?
Illegal and legal drugs cause a lot of divorces. Birth control, antidepressants, illegal drugs, alcohol etc plus so many people just give up easily on marriages
Women cause 4 out of 5 divorces
Ex husband chose his mother over me. Can't fix that.
3:37-3:47 I'm not guilty I divorced a good man and made bad decisions and make excuses not to work full time.
Why is it always the woman who files for divorce? These women aren’t like our mothers or grandmothers who believed in commitment no matter what so you can keep the family together.
Most likely the way they have been treated, at least for me.
Modern western women are not taught responsibility and held accountable for anything. They have the manners and temperament of spoiled children.
@JohnsDeh yeah poor victim like always.
If your mothers and grandmothers believed in commitment so strongly than we wouldn't have no fault divorces because they fought for changes in the law. Did you not know that started in the 1970s when my grandmother was 30?
Because most of the time the state rewards them with cash & prizes for destroying their families.
Let this be a lesson to all of the women considering wrecking their own home.
All broke women, you mean
@@RepentImmediately And look what they drag their kids through...not good.
Have a plan B...adopt a cat
No child support if 50/50 which is what I begged the courts for. Good luck with that in SC. Sucks to go through a divorce you don't choose and then see your kids part time and pay child support when you want 50/50 joint legal and physical custody. Dave, no CS for 50/50.
It's so trash to me how the kids are not with the dad full time when mom can't even take care of herself.
cause he needs to wrk and have his freebies to do so, why did everyone miss that in the call?
😅he doesn’t want them full time trust me! If he did…he’d file for custody and win.because clearly she can’t AFFORD these children 😅
@@sallyhemings2295 LOL. That doesn't work for men...
Men usually run away from full custody. Some men don't want to give even minimal support, let alone take on full custody and incur full childcare costs. Women somehow manage without much help. It's amazing.
@@natashadickson4819 No they don't lol. Single men raise children almost as good as a 2 parent household.
My daughter was born in another country and I got 100 a month in child support. The day after I got back to the US, I walked into a temp agency and got a job at a call center stuffing envelopes (had been a teacher with a masters abroad). I was young and though it was scary as heck it was a life filled with meaning and purpose. I worked my way up, stayed close to daughters family with whom she is still very close, 99% because of my efforts. Yet I hardly dare breathe my success story because its not pitiful enough for sympathy and my strength just makes people mad
You're amazing, and did the best you could in the situation you were in.
Nothing impressive about being a single mom
You made the best out of a bad situation. If your daughter is doing well then that's good enough.
@@Excalibur2 It's just as impressive as being a widow who has children. Especially if the man died and had nothing to leave behind as many men do. $100 a month is so pathetic, yet he probably felt proud of himself. When kids grow up to be rich and famous without help from their fathers, I don't feel sorry if the father is rejected. Jeff Bezos is an example...Jeff's biological father signed away parental rights but wanted to meet Jeff when Amazon prospered.
@@natashadickson4819 statistically, being a single parent is one of the worst things that can happen to a kid. That's why I hate all the praise people give them. I'm sure it is hard, but all the more reason to do everything in your power to find a second, quality parental figure.
Maybe since she got rid of the family element for her children, she should let the kids live with the father who didn’t ask for a divorce. She created this problem, she should suck it up and deal with the consequences.
My parents had 4 kids. Growing up, my dad was sick mentally and physically, he couldn’t hold down a job. My mom was the only bread winner working in a fish factory, and other jobs working all the time. I learned to make dinner for the family at young age. In the summer we helped out doing summer jobs. Mom never complained and stuck it out with the man she married.
I hope she lived long enough to read the fruits of her hard and loyal work. Thi ls is the real definition of wonder woman.
Just a question from someone that’s not married and doesn’t have kids but why would he pay child support if they split custody 50-50? Isn’t he also paying for all the kids expenses on the days that he has them? I’m guessing he also pays for the bigger expenses for them too.
Check your child support guidelines. If you make more than your spouse and it’s 50/50 custody, you pay
@@staleydu1ok? But why? You didn’t answer my question. In all the examples I have heard in my area the woman wife has never paid the husband. One of my coworkers literally has the same job as his ex because they met at work, they have a dead even split 50/50 custody and he still has to pay her $600/month.
Because that’s the rule every state I know of has adopted. If you make more than your spouse, and custody is split, you will pay child support.
Its because the laws are to protect and sustain the kid's current lifestyle. If you have a rich guy and a minimum wage skilled wife. And they divorced but split custody 50/50. Half the time the kids are going to have a great upbringing and be well-fed. While the other half time with the mom they are eating rice and beans and have to bike home 10 miles from school everyday and live in a trailer park. I get the stupidity with alimony and maintaining the wife's current lifestyle in a divorce. But the kids need to be protected.
So the breadwinner who didn’t initiate divorce should change his life around because boss babe wanted to get a divorce? This is why getting married makes no sense in the modern age.
Looking everywhere for a job and can't find one... well, if she interviews for jobs like she does for Dave, no wonder she can't find work.
“Jackleg “ cracked me up! The only other person I’ve heard say that was my dad, who is same age as Dave and also from Nashville 🤣 Also, she sounded at first like she has no income, no kind of support whatsoever but he’s giving her something and she lives with her parents. Anyone else shocked at the random ‘I raise beef’? I definitely wasn’t expecting that!
She went from personal trainer, added waitress picking up shifts to I raise beef. She’s hiding income
The state (FL) says the non-custodial parent pays child support.
I’m the father and the custodial parent and was pretty much forced to say A) I don’t need the support or B) I need the support because I can’t care for my daughter alone.
The law isn’t black and white.
It sounds like they have shared custody, so they should defnitely be splitting expenses.
@@emoney1231should, could and do are now optional to many. Why 50 50 is a bad idea pushed by men hoping to avoid child support and parenting obligations. Learn the history of WHY child support and penalities came into being in the 1st place, men were refusing to support their offspring pushing the kids and moms to the street or the burden on strangers, churches or tax payers.
She would have been annoyed that he was late for dinner - because of traffic or overtime. Tired that she had to eat alone sometimes and he wasn’t always available to make her feel special - prob as he was exhausted and wanted to relax when he got home.
She had 8 hours a day to sit and conceptualize and convince herself that he’s the problem.
My only complaint with this show is they will never hold women accountable for their actiions
She should work in congress since she’s full of excuses, and spends all the money
She'd do a better job than those murderous crooks in Congress.
I'm seriously going to guess she left for another love interest.