Glad you like the knife, Elisha! Love hearing what you have to say brother. One of my favorite ways to get out of my head (especially with women) is to just go out in nature. Breathe in that HIGH THUMOS oxygen
My experience with women has taught me that when they "confess" what they actually did is worse than the confession. She did in fact sleep with the coworker.
*10 tips in addition to what Elisha said* 1. A break up can be one of the best things to ever happen to a man if used as fuel to grow. Use it as fuel to grow into the man you need to be. 2. You don't get her back, you get yourself back. 3. Chase excellence, not women. 4. Your purpose (personal goals, visions, and dreams) is your life-long girlfriend, even when you have/don't have a girlfriend/wife/partner. 5. This is the time to fill the "void" of her, with positive habits that grow you. Examples: Meditate daily to realize you are not your thoughts so that you become free of mental suffering (if you only get one thing out of this list of advice, this is the most important one out of all of them). "We suffer more in imagination than in reality". Read The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. Train more frequently. Eat better. Read more. Invest in yourself. 6. Take the red pill. Read the rational male by Rollo Tomassi. Read The way of the superior man by David Deida. You need to understand male and female dynamics and get out of the soul-mate myth. Rid yourself of oneitis-thinking. This can feel like a bitter pill to swallow at first but don't become bitter, become better. 7. MMM. Make more money. 8. Listen to your soul. Be by yourself now for a long time. Become self-sufficient and independent. Figure out what your ideal life looks like, and keep making moves in that direction. Answer the question: How do I want to live my life? What is important to me in this time on earth? And then live that. 9. Read up on Stoic philosophy. Learn to take on life with an unwavering spirit. I recommend reading Meditations by Marcus Aurelius. 10. Follow great mentors on youtube to accelerate your growth and use the internet to your advantage. To mention some in addition to Elisha: Naval Ravikant, Eckhart Tolle, Sadh Guru, Captain Sinbad, Eliott Hulse, Ralph Smart, Moojiji, Owen Cook, Actualized. I too have a YT channel (Based Brothers) that may be useful to you as well as two self-published books. Links are always in my video descriptions. You are merely 21. You need to spend the coming decade building the life that you want. Invest in yourself, don't put so much attention into women. You will have plenty of options with women if you do the work on yourself now, for decades to come. Work for your future. You can waste a lot of time chasing tail, but working on yourself will never be wasted time (besides, you will get better results with women as you invest in yourself). High Thumos Stay Based
As one of the guys who have been through what he has, last year when I was exactly 21, Elisha speaks truth. One year later, I literally don't care at all about this girl. This dude will look back and think of how much of a naive in love exhaling feminine energy he is right now, and he will laugh at it! hahaha Cheers brotha. If the dude is reading this, it will get better in no time.
Good advice man. 21 is too young to be focused on women now a days. You have so much growing to do. Develope yourself first, and women will come that don't want to leave cause you'll be the best man they've ever met. You made the right decision and deep down you know it. So remember that this is just a speed bump on your journey and its going to make you stronger. Learn from it and be grateful it happened. Journal. Pray. And keep learning. The pain will pass. She was not the one and that should be motivating and excite you. You'll get through this bro!
Found this channel april 2019 when my last ex broke up, to experience single life after a relationship from age 18-26. It's hard to move on when it wasn't your choice and you had already chosen the girl to be your one. But i'm still single and by myself, working on a new purpose. Feeling better. Not working out as much as i would like. Emotional trauma is tough but the spirit will return.
This is literally some of the realest shit I've ever seen on this website, I love this channel and I'm upset I didn't click on you in the recommended videos sooner
*OG Thread* Brian Sorrow I'm dealing with heartbreak. Failing to remain mentally strong after the loss of the closes person to me. This has influenced my life on every level, but it’s most noticeable in my physical performance. The constant grief and despair has seriously influenced me physically, went from 107kg ripped muscle to 97kg with a handful of fat. Been trying to stay strong and keep throwing everything I got against the wall but some days it really feels like an accomplishment to just keep living. I dont know if you understand any of this Elisha, the deep emotional trauma after losing someone who you thought was the love of your life can impact you extremely deeply. I understand however, that as a man it is my duty to try and keep trying to get my spirit back regardless of how broken it is after this. I would like to hear your honest thoughts on this situation Elisha. Stay safe brother. Corbin Odell I have went through this multiple times, maybe because I fall for them easily or what. That heart break, in my experience, never goes away even when you think you moved on. It may not be bubbling on the surface like it was when you initially split up, but it weighs on my conscience every day. The future I thought I had with them, the feeling of love I thought we both shared, all gone. It may have been both our faults for what had happened, but I regret everything that I instigated and ignored. The first love I had back in highschool, destroyed me for months. Cried just about everyday, and felt like I was going crazy cause I could only think about one thing. The saddest part about falling in love with someone else however, is realizing that the love you had for the last partner may have been a facade, however real it may be. So that makes me question whether or not thats all love is, just a in the moment kind of thing that you have to sustain. Anyways, probably not exactly what youre going through, but I thought I would share a piece. Stay alive and well brother. Elisha Long Break up or death man? Brian Sorrow @Elisha Long Break up, broke up with her 2 months ago, but feels like the closest thing to real death. I know that sounds so sissified but my previous comment describes how big of a toll this can take on you as a man Jeff Mitchell @Corbin Odell Hey buddy I feel for ya, I have been there a couple times and I promise it will get better over time, it might take a while but slowly you will heal and get stronger from this. I'm going to suggest you pick up a couple books, one called "the mastery of love" by don miguel ruiz which will help you heal and learn to love yourself more, the other which I'm sure you have heard of is "Way of the superior man" will help you understand yourself better and also help you evaluate what might have gone wrong in the relationship so that you don't repeat the same mistakes. I would also recommend getting journal and journaling your feelings, keep track of your thoughts, wright letters to you ex forgiving her (don't send them to her its for you to heal) and wright yourself a letter to forgive yourself for anything you might have done that contributed to the end. Last you need to work on yourself! self improvement is key! if you need to use your ex as fuel in the beginning to get yourself going then use that but you have to keep moving, clean your room, make a list of shit you need to do and do it, read self help books, get new hobbies, just keep busy and productive my man! Any time you get that sinking feeling in your stomach go do something productive, I don't care if you just wash the windows and listen to a podcast, keep busy! and pay attention to your thought, stop the negative self talk, you are enough, you will meet someone better down the road, I promise you of this! this terrible feeling will eventually go away it just takes time. Elisha Long @Brian Sorrow Why did you break up with her bro? Brian Sorrow @Elisha Long Ultimately because of lack of honesty in the end. She did something behind my back, it wasn’t cheating, but it was enough to make a man walk away. She hasn’t missed me much, because she had a rebound almost immediately. It’s easy to blame the other person when something like this happens, but I don’t think as a man it is the right thing to do. I know she’s a good girl and all, I did some mistakes too. It’s not all her, but I know that doesn’t justify her dishonesty. Jeff Mitchell @Brian Sorrow How old are you brother? And what exactly did she do if you don't mind sharing? If she was being sketchy and there were major red flags you probably did the right thing by ending it, you also most likely saved yourself a lot more pain and heart ache in the future! From the sound of it this girl lacked respect for you and the relationship and what you need to evaluate now is why so you don't repeat the same mistakes in the future or choose women who lack moral character. Her lack of respect for you was probably caused by a combination of her lack of values and things that you did to cause her to loose attraction, this is why I recommend purchasing "Way of the superior man" and using it as a foundation to evaluate yourself as a man and judge the relationship. It is also a possibility that you over reacted depending on the situation and circumstance surrounding it? I don't know because you didn't detail the circumstances but more likely than not you did the right thing. I'd also like to add that her monkey branching from one man to another does not mean she doesn't care about you, lots of women do this because it's convenient and easy for women...think about it, what is more difficult? sitting with your pain, thinking about what went wrong, working on yourself and becoming better so it doesn't happen again or jumping from one guy to another for easy validation so you feel good about yourself? This is a sign of emotional immaturity on her part, this new guy means nothing to her other then easy validation and chances are it's just a rebound. Any way man don't worry so much about what she's doing, worry about becoming the best version of yourself! become who you want to attract! If you want a smart, fit, high value, highly self aware woman then become that! Brian Sorrow @Jeff Mitchell I’m 21 years old. Sorry for the late reply brother. To make it short, she lied to me about going out for drinks with a colleague of hers after work, about who I was aware that she felt attraction for. A few weeks before the break up she confessed to me that she felt awful that there is slight sexual tension between them two. My own thoughts influenced this a lot if I have to be blunt with myself, because after hearing this combined with being very aware of how lust, sexual tension and all of those develop / escalate, hearing this really fucked with my head. Envisioning certain things, how they are over there around each other for long hours, glancing over at one another, and you know... the stuff that can easily plague a man’s mind. Fast forward to present day, every day is dreadful, I try to forget all about her but that feels like I’m trying to forget who I am, I’ve been focusing on myself and trying to remain mentally strong, been hitting the gym like I should but nothing works, I’ve been gaining no muscle back, feel like shit all the time, it feels like my spirit is just not there anymore and my physicality is the biggest indicator that somethings inside me is torn apart. Jeff Mitchell @Brian Sorrow Ah man I've been in your shoes, I'm sorry your going through this, it's a crushing feeling and it sucks! it's sort of a right of passage as a young man though and I promise you it will make you much stronger and help you grow. You 100% made the right decision, that behavior is unacceptable but not uncommon for women of her age, as difficult as it is you should focus 100% of your energy on yourself! women today don't tend to settle down and wise up until they hit their mid 20's so locking a girl down before the age of 25 imo is risky business. Spend your 20s focusing on making mistakes and learning...your 21 brother! your still a baby haha your still learning, growing, and coming into your own, don't be so hard on yourself. I'd suggest reading those books I recommended as well as looking into some of the content in "RSD nation" on youtube to learn more about women and relating to them. Elishas content is great as well obviously and it provides you with a sort of community. Here's a video that might help you? th-cam.com/video/fmNbrlmn00w/w-d-xo.html
Elisha thank you. I am going through this the past month and I wish I had heard your advice when you posted the video three years ago. Please keep up The good work. You give the elder brother advice I never had.
So guys get this.. my gf(now ex) and I had a fight. We said things to each other and I didn't talk to her for a day. We reconciled and fast forward 6 months, I got to know that she slept with a guy just the next day after our fight because she thought that we broke up when I didn't speak to her for a day... When I was in mental turmoil she was getting her back blown by her backup. Crazy isn't it?
Gotta agree 100% with Elisha. Been there, kinda recently. Been about 2 years & ive gotten through it. Its still not easy, she was my best friend for about 10-11 years. But this advice is op. This is my experience too atleast. Be strong out there brother, find a mission, something big picture. Change your life the way you want it without her
Been through it, and in hindsight it’s one of the greatest gifts. The earlier this lesson is bestowed the better. Some people cope and refuse to learn the lesson until they die. “When times are good be grateful, and when not, be graceful” keep rolling brother
What you said about being quick to grow up and having the relationship be the main thing was extremely helpful. Definately reframed my current issue (Thanks Elisha)
i left a 7 year relationship and what i believe was my soulmate because she went for drinks several times with other men. 3 years later, i'm still sad but sometimes u gotta do what u have to do. i am 35 bty.
To the One who wrote the Text to Elisha: Welcome to Manhood. Because heartbreak is the first step to ultimate manhood. Suffer consciously. Breathe deep and say out loud: I deserve better. I will become better. I've been there, it hurts so damn much. But trust me when I say this: Things will get better! Hang in there bro
Great chance to really reflect on your values! If something like this breaks us we need to seriously re evaluate what we’re doing here! Be easy on yourself my guy
Been in this situation back when I was 18-19 years old. All I thought about and my whole self worth was based off how my significant other and family thought of me. After realizing that it doesn’t matter and my life is MY LIFE. That’s when the mindset of just watching the world started to set in. Overall much happier since then
Lotta jezebel woman out there feminism n all that. If a woman shows you that side break up with her and get out. Either they get it or they don’t simple. Don’t let them use sex as a weapon either, whether it’s withholding it to toy with you or utilizing it.
@Trunks Saiyan blood Major, can’t trust women these days have to be careful. It’s not misogynistic, it’s truth. I would love to have a good woman but it’s rare, have to be patient
Elisha could you maybe make a video about how you keep masculine frame in a relationship? i mean for example, how do you not get too emotionally attached in times when you’re not feeling right or at the moment with the whole pandemic going on, being demoralised. Like you talked about in your video yesterday.
Dear Bryan if you ever come across this comment, let me tell you something about women. I am 30, been around the block a few times, cheated, been cheated, had pump and dumps, relationships with single girls, taken girls and single moms. I live in mountains in Eastern europe, monk mode for 6 years. Number 1. Women dont care about You, your pain, your fears, your whatever. Accept it, they dont fucking care, regardless of how she makes you feel. Regardless the sex, money, number of cows and horses you have on your farm, ..... She likes the way you make her feel. Point blank. Number 2. Women are hard wired to find a better option, since the day we walked on our four's. New watch, purse, handbag, high heels, dress, hair, nails...... and a new partner. Im sorry if you had a different picture in your head. They simply, function like this. In conclusion, brother. Be happy because you can love yourself, again. Just like when we were kids and we could stay late outside and play with our friends. We were happy. Now life hit you and you will learn your lession. Pain will go away, life itself will take care of this. I promise. I love you brother. Stay safe.
@@azurerisus4256 no worries my friend. Good luck in this twisted thing called dating and relatioships. Dont loose yourself, if she wants to leave, open the door for her and let her fuck off.
@@majktajson0007 Well it's starting to go bad, and I feel its my fault as a weak man.. She is hot, and her best friend has connections to guys who wanna fck.. I dont feel like going around and fcking different woman at my stage..
@@azurerisus4256 i had same problem yeeears ago. Ex who had a slut demon sleeping whenever i was around. As soon as she went out with her friends, this demon came out and she fucked god knows how many guys. No matter how hot she is, never piss on your moral codes and beliefs. Your intuition is a voice from Universe. If you think its time to run, RUN. No bitch is worth your peace of mind.
when my grandma died everything seem helpless too, you just distract you with life. regardless of his break up. he should carry on with his life. school and projects didn't stop because of my loss. so i had to keep studying. he need to keep going to work/studying.
I got cheated on with who I thought was my best friend. I totally get this guy. All the confusion, being lost. After that I started lifting and I came back on my feet. The best thing you can do for your self-esteem is 1 face the guy who did it to you, not necessarily to beat him up but if he gets his ego up then it might come to that. 2 Find someone else to date, tell your gf to go jump in a lake and be done with it.
I really don't get it - when a suposedly love of my life broke with me I was sad for like 2 days and it was because I conviced myself I have to be sad. When my dog died it was the same, I felt sad because I conviced myself I should. On the other hand I overthink impossible situations and feel worried about them whereas I am not worried about real things.
Elisha , with you on this journey .. I have done Nofap long streaks , lost weight , learned game , found a girl , doing academically good . But I now I'm kinda sliding back on my progress . I gained weight , lack of commitment with everything . How you deal with this downward spiral ?
@@thelastgeneration1926 true , we have to stack some smalls wins to reach the top . Thanks man , I hope you have all the strength as well for your endeavours
@@yasssh7835 when you struggle to accomplish alot and you notice ur routine is falling off track all that it means is u have to slow down and take small baby steps again with everything. So let's stay u studied for 8 hours a day but recently you've been studying for only 3 hours a day. Great continue with the three hours a day until you feel motivation to add one hour the next day so you study for 4. Then let's say next week comes you decide to add another hour so now you study for 5 hours. Like that
Last girl i was with was hella into me, wrote a song for my birthday and shit, old me woulda fell for it, but i didn't fully give myself in which she desperately needed to start with the bullshit like this example and move on, didn't happened although i treated her nicely even had details, but the irrational attachment never ocurred, she left me resented and ego hurt like a had done her dirty (mind tricks) but what really happend is i didn't need her and gave her a test of what i really am... Real love is rational, if you give in soon and start feeling too fullfilled for no reason there is going to be a consecuence, which is the irrational part of that fake love you gave in, this case is a clear example she doesn't know, but she understands she can do that, she feels like she can without feeling like a whore, keep the kryptonite g until she really really really shows worthiness and keep ya head up.
Would you give the same advice to a 27 year old? Elisha, I think you're right. There is something that bothers me though. After the period of suffering comes a period of freedom and wellness. You are young and there is so much to learn. But what comes after that? The cycle repeats itself with the next girlfriend? And the one after that? You become addicted to the feeling of being with someone else and you find yourself lost because without someone, anyone to care for, the only thing you seek is lust and pleasure. When and how does the cycle end? When and how do you finally get your dating school diploma and move on to becoming a real man?
seems like breakups work on the brain like withdrawing from drugs, suddenly all the lovey neurochemicals are gone and your brain's like "what the fuck bro?" so it makes you feel shit until you either relapse or go long enough for it to rebalance. think less of individuals - ie. you and her - and more of in terms of evolutionary archetypes, the software our systems are running on: it's this way for everyone, always has been, and that's just the way it is. that made it feel a bit less weighty for me. RISE ABOVE
A knife for protection? No way man, too much liability, I carry a knife because it is the most handy tool a man can have on him. Can it protect you, sure? If you know what you're doing. If you don't, it's more dangerous to you than it is to your assailant. And that's not even getting into the legal ramifications of it all. The best thing for self defence is situational awareness and martial arts. A little Jiu jitsu doesn't hurt either.
elisha in my opinion, I couldn't focus on what you're saying. cause when you read the story you're looking at somewhere else. It felt like I'm distracted from something else. just to notice to you.
Hey elisha, i started studying applied kinesiology and mediainformatic. Its very interesting but somehow i cant keep focus. I dont even use my smartphone untill 12pm, but i get distracted by literally anything(my thoughts, chess, daydreaming etc). That causes that i fall behind more and more and exams are in february. How can i strengthen my discipline for learning and keep focus? Thank u, big fan for many years. Greetings from Germany
It’s odd I watched the first half early in the day and my gf just broke up with me. I’ll take it as a sign but idk what for. I just know I gotta keep at it.
Women are temporary in the new era. You can thank feminism and the terrible female role models. This day of age is just pipe a female, have for stay for couple of months, then be on your way. Or have rotation. Stop being too attached to these females learn what I learned. “Don’t take a women so serious unless she proves herself to be that women you can’t respect in a relationship way”. Tell then, just enjoy your time with them and focus on yourself.
@@ElishaLong It could also be about repressed anger. I personally have a lot of unadressed repressed anger that doesn't go away with exercise. I don't know where most of it comes from though.
Knowing that 21 is the prime is really depressing. I'm only 20 years old and always low energy, can't run 100 meters and have the body of a child. My efforts to build muscle in the gym have pretty much failed. I gained 10kg of weight but still look like shit, because I can't eat a lot without feeling ill afterwards. I just ordered a free T test kit, I'm excited. I don't know if TRT is the answer for me, after all I already have heart problems and a face full of acne scars. I guess it's worth the shortened life though. I am always submissive, a literal pussy. But it's not surprising, I couldn't defend myself if it came to it, I'm short and have a narrow frame, girly hands etc. What's your advice for people who really have bad genes?
Start doing things that make you uncomfortable. Cold showers, Sauna, pushing yourself in nature or in the wild. Even studying for a long period of time. 75hard by Andy frisella could help.
I don't like something about your videos which is the fact that whenever I watch these I always feel down because when I look for advice(which most of your videos consist of) I attach this with feeling of not being good enough and even though the message if great I feel like it messes me up. Not sure if this helps but just wanted to share that with you.
I think people should be more aware about how truly incompetent we are. We're living in a sort of narcissistic society where we tell everyone that everyone is fine just the way they are coming straight out their mother's womb and do everything in their aims to avoid any harsh criticism just to protect their ego. I'm not sure how old you are, but one of life's greatest lessons is that the people in your life that can accurately tell you that you can do better and be a better person are probably the only people worth your time. It's even better if they tell it you straight without dilluting the message.
Sorry to here that K. I mean it man. I don't want you to feel this way. With these videos I don't want you to feel inadequate. In my mind I'm thinking you can possibly relate to something I'm talking about with something that's going on in your life. Is there something you feel you're lacking in it would like to talk about?
@@ElishaLong I have watched your channel for 2-3 years and it helped me a lot, so i dont really have to talk about anything. I guess what i was trying to say is that I dont want to watch these advice type of video's because when overdo it (which is pretty easy to do) then i start to think that im lacking something. Or maybe watching it reminds me of the times i was miserable, i dont really know. Anyway my life has been really good recently, so thanks for creating channel and helping me during sad times. Peace
Now I will give u the reason why should not make a girl the mission. the thing is man are mission orianted and will make almost anything to reach that mission but you cant control other people.Your goals should be things that u can achieve with working and not letting someone else to decide u will achieve or not.
Not many men can pull that off and remain unbothered and keep feelings out of it. I hear you, however Only a select few can be successful in doing so..if you can props to you; if not then break up is the next best thing
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Glad you like the knife, Elisha! Love hearing what you have to say brother. One of my favorite ways to get out of my head (especially with women) is to just go out in nature. Breathe in that HIGH THUMOS oxygen
My experience with women has taught me that when they "confess" what they actually did is worse than the confession. She did in fact sleep with the coworker.
*10 tips in addition to what Elisha said*
1. A break up can be one of the best things to ever happen to a man if used as fuel to grow. Use it as fuel to grow into the man you need to be.
2. You don't get her back, you get yourself back.
3. Chase excellence, not women.
4. Your purpose (personal goals, visions, and dreams) is your life-long girlfriend, even when you have/don't have a girlfriend/wife/partner.
5. This is the time to fill the "void" of her, with positive habits that grow you. Examples: Meditate daily to realize you are not your thoughts so that you become free of mental suffering (if you only get one thing out of this list of advice, this is the most important one out of all of them). "We suffer more in imagination than in reality". Read The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. Train more frequently. Eat better. Read more. Invest in yourself.
6. Take the red pill. Read the rational male by Rollo Tomassi. Read The way of the superior man by David Deida. You need to understand male and female dynamics and get out of the soul-mate myth. Rid yourself of oneitis-thinking. This can feel like a bitter pill to swallow at first but don't become bitter, become better.
7. MMM. Make more money.
8. Listen to your soul. Be by yourself now for a long time. Become self-sufficient and independent. Figure out what your ideal life looks like, and keep making moves in that direction. Answer the question: How do I want to live my life? What is important to me in this time on earth? And then live that.
9. Read up on Stoic philosophy. Learn to take on life with an unwavering spirit. I recommend reading Meditations by Marcus Aurelius.
10. Follow great mentors on youtube to accelerate your growth and use the internet to your advantage. To mention some in addition to Elisha: Naval Ravikant, Eckhart Tolle, Sadh Guru, Captain Sinbad, Eliott Hulse, Ralph Smart, Moojiji, Owen Cook, Actualized. I too have a YT channel (Based Brothers) that may be useful to you as well as two self-published books. Links are always in my video descriptions.
You are merely 21. You need to spend the coming decade building the life that you want. Invest in yourself, don't put so much attention into women. You will have plenty of options with women if you do the work on yourself now, for decades to come. Work for your future. You can waste a lot of time chasing tail, but working on yourself will never be wasted time (besides, you will get better results with women as you invest in yourself).
High Thumos Stay Based
Damnn bro this could be a content for another video. Thanks a lot, this helped me a lot
@@yasssh7835 👊
I’d like to add Entrepreneurs in Cars (Chase Excellence, not women is a line from him) and George Bruno
As one of the guys who have been through what he has, last year when I was exactly 21, Elisha speaks truth. One year later, I literally don't care at all about this girl. This dude will look back and think of how much of a naive in love exhaling feminine energy he is right now, and he will laugh at it! hahaha Cheers brotha. If the dude is reading this, it will get better in no time.
Bro as someone who’s had multiple gfs, we need to stop caring what women think as much. It shouldn’t be the main focus of our lives
These last videos are really getting the timing right, They never fail to talk some sense into me.
Glad to hear this.
Probably about to have to deal with a similar situation... Couldn't be a better timed video, stay high thumos brothers
Stay strong brother. Drop a comment if you want help from us with anything
That's exactly how I felt about the extreme Laziness/ambitious non balanced video, Elisha is the Truth.
Good advice man.
21 is too young to be focused on women now a days. You have so much growing to do. Develope yourself first, and women will come that don't want to leave cause you'll be the best man they've ever met. You made the right decision and deep down you know it. So remember that this is just a speed bump on your journey and its going to make you stronger. Learn from it and be grateful it happened. Journal. Pray. And keep learning. The pain will pass. She was not the one and that should be motivating and excite you. You'll get through this bro!
Found this channel april 2019 when my last ex broke up, to experience single life after a relationship from age 18-26. It's hard to move on when it wasn't your choice and you had already chosen the girl to be your one. But i'm still single and by myself, working on a new purpose. Feeling better. Not working out as much as i would like. Emotional trauma is tough but the spirit will return.
Common man. You're in a great spot now. A free man.
You can do anything you want. Stay strong and keep the Thumos High.
Relatable. Say no more.
Lets do some great things for ourselves 2021
@@iiZAPPx yesss
This is literally some of the realest shit I've ever seen on this website, I love this channel and I'm upset I didn't click on you in the recommended videos sooner
This will be good for him. 21 is when I left "the one" and looking back at 26 now... good choice looking back.
for me its 24, also broke up 2 months ago. but the future is uncertain so i should just go with the flow
@@isdenn7 no make a plan, some goals and smash them. don’t go back no matter what
*OG Thread*
Brian Sorrow
I'm dealing with heartbreak. Failing to remain mentally strong after the loss of the closes person to me. This has influenced my life on every level, but it’s most noticeable in my physical performance. The constant grief and despair has seriously influenced me physically, went from 107kg ripped muscle to 97kg with a handful of fat. Been trying to stay strong and keep throwing everything I got against the wall but some days it really feels like an accomplishment to just keep living. I dont know if you understand any of this Elisha, the deep emotional trauma after losing someone who you thought was the love of your life can impact you extremely deeply. I understand however, that as a man it is my duty to try and keep trying to get my spirit back regardless of how broken it is after this. I would like to hear your honest thoughts on this situation Elisha. Stay safe brother.
Corbin Odell
I have went through this multiple times, maybe because I fall for them easily or what. That heart break, in my experience, never goes away even when you think you moved on. It may not be bubbling on the surface like it was when you initially split up, but it weighs on my conscience every day. The future I thought I had with them, the feeling of love I thought we both shared, all gone. It may have been both our faults for what had happened, but I regret everything that I instigated and ignored. The first love I had back in highschool, destroyed me for months. Cried just about everyday, and felt like I was going crazy cause I could only think about one thing. The saddest part about falling in love with someone else however, is realizing that the love you had for the last partner may have been a facade, however real it may be. So that makes me question whether or not thats all love is, just a in the moment kind of thing that you have to sustain. Anyways, probably not exactly what youre going through, but I thought I would share a piece. Stay alive and well brother.
Elisha Long
Break up or death man?
Brian Sorrow
@Elisha Long Break up, broke up with her 2 months ago, but feels like the closest thing to real death. I know that sounds so sissified but my previous comment describes how big of a toll this can take on you as a man
Jeff Mitchell
@Corbin Odell Hey buddy I feel for ya, I have been there a couple times and I promise it will get better over time, it might take a while but slowly you will heal and get stronger from this. I'm going to suggest you pick up a couple books, one called "the mastery of love" by don miguel ruiz which will help you heal and learn to love yourself more, the other which I'm sure you have heard of is "Way of the superior man" will help you understand yourself better and also help you evaluate what might have gone wrong in the relationship so that you don't repeat the same mistakes. I would also recommend getting journal and journaling your feelings, keep track of your thoughts, wright letters to you ex forgiving her (don't send them to her its for you to heal) and wright yourself a letter to forgive yourself for anything you might have done that contributed to the end. Last you need to work on yourself! self improvement is key! if you need to use your ex as fuel in the beginning to get yourself going then use that but you have to keep moving, clean your room, make a list of shit you need to do and do it, read self help books, get new hobbies, just keep busy and productive my man! Any time you get that sinking feeling in your stomach go do something productive, I don't care if you just wash the windows and listen to a podcast, keep busy! and pay attention to your thought, stop the negative self talk, you are enough, you will meet someone better down the road, I promise you of this! this terrible feeling will eventually go away it just takes time.
Elisha Long
@Brian Sorrow Why did you break up with her bro?
Brian Sorrow
@Elisha Long Ultimately because of lack of honesty in the end. She did something behind my back, it wasn’t cheating, but it was enough to make a man walk away. She hasn’t missed me much, because she had a rebound almost immediately. It’s easy to blame the other person when something like this happens, but I don’t think as a man it is the right thing to do. I know she’s a good girl and all, I did some mistakes too. It’s not all her, but I know that doesn’t justify her dishonesty.
Jeff Mitchell
@Brian Sorrow How old are you brother? And what exactly did she do if you don't mind sharing? If she was being sketchy and there were major red flags you probably did the right thing by ending it, you also most likely saved yourself a lot more pain and heart ache in the future! From the sound of it this girl lacked respect for you and the relationship and what you need to evaluate now is why so you don't repeat the same mistakes in the future or choose women who lack moral character. Her lack of respect for you was probably caused by a combination of her lack of values and things that you did to cause her to loose attraction, this is why I recommend purchasing "Way of the superior man" and using it as a foundation to evaluate yourself as a man and judge the relationship. It is also a possibility that you over reacted depending on the situation and circumstance surrounding it? I don't know because you didn't detail the circumstances but more likely than not you did the right thing. I'd also like to add that her monkey branching from one man to another does not mean she doesn't care about you, lots of women do this because it's convenient and easy for women...think about it, what is more difficult? sitting with your pain, thinking about what went wrong, working on yourself and becoming better so it doesn't happen again or jumping from one guy to another for easy validation so you feel good about yourself? This is a sign of emotional immaturity on her part, this new guy means nothing to her other then easy validation and chances are it's just a rebound. Any way man don't worry so much about what she's doing, worry about becoming the best version of yourself! become who you want to attract! If you want a smart, fit, high value, highly self aware woman then become that!
Brian Sorrow
@Jeff Mitchell I’m 21 years old. Sorry for the late reply brother. To make it short, she lied to me about going out for drinks with a colleague of hers after work, about who I was aware that she felt attraction for. A few weeks before the break up she confessed to me that she felt awful that there is slight sexual tension between them two. My own thoughts influenced this a lot if I have to be blunt with myself, because after hearing this combined with being very aware of how lust, sexual tension and all of those develop / escalate, hearing this really fucked with my head. Envisioning certain things, how they are over there around each other for long hours, glancing over at one another, and you know... the stuff that can easily plague a man’s mind. Fast forward to present day, every day is dreadful, I try to forget all about her but that feels like I’m trying to forget who I am, I’ve been focusing on myself and trying to remain mentally strong, been hitting the gym like I should but nothing works, I’ve been gaining no muscle back, feel like shit all the time, it feels like my spirit is just not there anymore and my physicality is the biggest indicator that somethings inside me is torn apart.
Jeff Mitchell
@Brian Sorrow Ah man I've been in your shoes, I'm sorry your going through this, it's a crushing feeling and it sucks! it's sort of a right of passage as a young man though and I promise you it will make you much stronger and help you grow. You 100% made the right decision, that behavior is unacceptable but not uncommon for women of her age, as difficult as it is you should focus 100% of your energy on yourself! women today don't tend to settle down and wise up until they hit their mid 20's so locking a girl down before the age of 25 imo is risky business. Spend your 20s focusing on making mistakes and learning...your 21 brother! your still a baby haha your still learning, growing, and coming into your own, don't be so hard on yourself. I'd suggest reading those books I recommended as well as looking into some of the content in "RSD nation" on youtube to learn more about women and relating to them. Elishas content is great as well obviously and it provides you with a sort of community. Here's a video that might help you? th-cam.com/video/fmNbrlmn00w/w-d-xo.html
Elisha thank you. I am going through this the past month and I wish I had heard your advice when you posted the video three years ago. Please keep up
The good work. You give the elder brother advice I never had.
So guys get this.. my gf(now ex) and I had a fight. We said things to each other and I didn't talk to her for a day. We reconciled and fast forward 6 months, I got to know that she slept with a guy just the next day after our fight because she thought that we broke up when I didn't speak to her for a day...
When I was in mental turmoil she was getting her back blown by her backup. Crazy isn't it?
Ross: " WE WERE ON A BREAK"
@@dogsay1078 she said something along those lines omg
you got fucked over, she prob instigated that fight to go snoop around
Gotta agree 100% with Elisha. Been there, kinda recently. Been about 2 years & ive gotten through it. Its still not easy, she was my best friend for about 10-11 years. But this advice is op. This is my experience too atleast. Be strong out there brother, find a mission, something big picture. Change your life the way you want it without her
Been through it, and in hindsight it’s one of the greatest gifts. The earlier this lesson is bestowed the better. Some people cope and refuse to learn the lesson until they die.
“When times are good be grateful, and when not, be graceful” keep rolling brother
You had me with that title I ain’t gonna lie.
You are a legend and a truth speaker. Greetings and skål from Norway to you Elisha
What you said about being quick to grow up and having the relationship be the main thing was extremely helpful. Definately reframed my current issue (Thanks Elisha)
We’ve all been there.. it’s what helps make you into a man
i left a 7 year relationship and what i believe was my soulmate because she went for drinks several times with other men. 3 years later, i'm still sad but sometimes u gotta do what u have to do. i am 35 bty.
Best advice is to not be angry at life and people. Life inevitably gets better.
Broke up (through my own choice) with my girl the other day. Defo needed this video. Thanks Elisha
When you're young you're less connected and more attached, when you're older you're less attached and more connected
Elisha couldn’t have said it better. Listen well bro, eventually it will make sense to you.
High Thumos!
08:21
Elisha got the Zen-Master Vibes!
"Don't be angry" Nuff said
“Seeing that booty in real life, no more pixels” lol
Bruh this whole time I thought that fireplace was real I didn’t know it was just a TV until now
hahaha
Loool
too bad here in Italy it's illegal to bring any kind of knife or weapon with you out of your home
To the One who wrote the Text to Elisha:
Welcome to Manhood. Because heartbreak is the first step to ultimate manhood. Suffer consciously. Breathe deep and say out loud: I deserve better. I will become better.
I've been there, it hurts so damn much. But trust me when I say this: Things will get better! Hang in there bro
Great chance to really reflect on your values! If something like this breaks us we need to seriously re evaluate what we’re doing here! Be easy on yourself my guy
"Just observe"- Derive the lessons and apply them to your life. I like it bro, and yes, enjoy the females dawg they everywhere.
god bless you elisha
Very solid advice right here. Well said Elisha.
“We’re a generation of men raised by women I’m starting to wonder if another women is really the answer we need”
What do you mean?
@@haidenwelch2353 I said if wrong. Men need to find a good enough woman to dominate and have kids with
Please keep up with the “Sound the alarm” intro
Been in this situation back when I was 18-19 years old.
All I thought about and my whole self worth was based off how my significant other and family thought of me. After realizing that it doesn’t matter and my life is MY LIFE. That’s when the mindset of just watching the world started to set in. Overall much happier since then
Lotta jezebel woman out there feminism n all that. If a woman shows you that side break up with her and get out. Either they get it or they don’t simple. Don’t let them use sex as a weapon either, whether it’s withholding it to toy with you or utilizing it.
@Trunks Saiyan blood Major, can’t trust women these days have to be careful. It’s not misogynistic, it’s truth. I would love to have a good woman but it’s rare, have to be patient
1:14 as all things should be...
You give great advice
Thank you
Hit the nail on the head with this one bro
That knife...perfectly balanced..as all things should be...
Good stuff man. 🔥
Elisha could you maybe make a video about how you keep masculine frame in a relationship?
i mean for example, how do you not get too emotionally attached in times when you’re not feeling right or at the moment with the whole pandemic going on, being demoralised. Like you talked about in your video yesterday.
"Knife for self-protection"
*cries in no second amendment law*
Dear Bryan if you ever come across this comment, let me tell you something about women. I am 30, been around the block a few times, cheated, been cheated, had pump and dumps, relationships with single girls, taken girls and single moms. I live in mountains in Eastern europe, monk mode for 6 years.
Number 1. Women dont care about You, your pain, your fears, your whatever. Accept it, they dont fucking care, regardless of how she makes you feel. Regardless the sex, money, number of cows and horses you have on your farm, ..... She likes the way you make her feel. Point blank.
Number 2. Women are hard wired to find a better option, since the day we walked on our four's. New watch, purse, handbag, high heels, dress, hair, nails...... and a new partner. Im sorry if you had a different picture in your head. They simply, function like this.
In conclusion, brother. Be happy because you can love yourself, again. Just like when we were kids and we could stay late outside and play with our friends. We were happy. Now life hit you and you will learn your lession. Pain will go away, life itself will take care of this. I promise. I love you brother. Stay safe.
I'm not byran, but thank you for sharing your experiences
Im just starting out
@@azurerisus4256 no worries my friend.
Good luck in this twisted thing called dating and relatioships.
Dont loose yourself, if she wants to leave, open the door for her and let her fuck off.
@@majktajson0007 Well it's starting to go bad, and I feel its my fault as a weak man..
She is hot, and her best friend has connections to guys who wanna fck..
I dont feel like going around and fcking different woman at my stage..
@@azurerisus4256 i had same problem yeeears ago. Ex who had a slut demon sleeping whenever i was around. As soon as she went out with her friends, this demon came out and she fucked god knows how many guys.
No matter how hot she is, never piss on your moral codes and beliefs. Your intuition is a voice from Universe. If you think its time to run, RUN. No bitch is worth your peace of mind.
I love your energy and solid advice man. Good balance between fierce and loving. Take care 🙏🏼
when my grandma died everything seem helpless too, you just distract you with life. regardless of his break up. he should carry on with his life. school and projects didn't stop because of my loss. so i had to keep studying. he need to keep going to work/studying.
I got cheated on with who I thought was my best friend. I totally get this guy. All the confusion, being lost. After that I started lifting and I came back on my feet. The best thing you can do for your self-esteem is 1 face the guy who did it to you, not necessarily to beat him up but if he gets his ego up then it might come to that. 2 Find someone else to date, tell your gf to go jump in a lake and be done with it.
@The Sven dump them both
"A woman should complement your life not be the focus""
yo bro it's me from Lebanon I messaged you on IG the other day. Just wanna take the opportunity of being early to say ily
Digging the cozy fire vibe
I really don't get it - when a suposedly love of my life broke with me I was sad for like 2 days and it was because I conviced myself I have to be sad. When my dog died it was the same, I felt sad because I conviced myself I should. On the other hand I overthink impossible situations and feel worried about them whereas I am not worried about real things.
Elisha , with you on this journey .. I have done Nofap long streaks , lost weight , learned game , found a girl , doing academically good .
But I now I'm kinda sliding back on my progress . I gained weight , lack of commitment with everything .
How you deal with this downward spiral ?
Taking small steps to rebound. I have to do the same. Im also spiraling too but im just gonna do small things at a time
@@thelastgeneration1926 true , we have to stack some smalls wins to reach the top . Thanks man , I hope you have all the strength as well for your endeavours
@@thelastgeneration1926 Can you explain more clearly what did you say above? I just didn't get it properly
@@yasssh7835 when you struggle to accomplish alot and you notice ur routine is falling off track all that it means is u have to slow down and take small baby steps again with everything. So let's stay u studied for 8 hours a day but recently you've been studying for only 3 hours a day. Great continue with the three hours a day until you feel motivation to add one hour the next day so you study for 4. Then let's say next week comes you decide to add another hour so now you study for 5 hours. Like that
@@thelastgeneration1926 thanks bro
0:02 how the my alarm wakes me TF up in the morning
Last girl i was with was hella into me, wrote a song for my birthday and shit, old me woulda fell for it, but i didn't fully give myself in which she desperately needed to start with the bullshit like this example and move on, didn't happened although i treated her nicely even had details, but the irrational attachment never ocurred, she left me resented and ego hurt like a had done her dirty (mind tricks) but what really happend is i didn't need her and gave her a test of what i really am...
Real love is rational, if you give in soon and start feeling too fullfilled for no reason there is going to be a consecuence, which is the irrational part of that fake love you gave in, this case is a clear example she doesn't know, but she understands she can do that, she feels like she can without feeling like a whore, keep the kryptonite g until she really really really shows worthiness and keep ya head up.
A+
Man i think you are overthinking way too much
@@salah-ib2cd maybe but maybe a year goes by and you are absolutely miserable and don't understand anything, what is a relationship anyway
Solid advice.
She didn’t appreciate what she had now she can cry for what she lost
Absolute King
Some damn good advice
Elisha turning Thanos with that perfectly balanced line 😂
Would you give the same advice to a 27 year old? Elisha, I think you're right. There is something that bothers me though. After the period of suffering comes a period of freedom and wellness. You are young and there is so much to learn. But what comes after that? The cycle repeats itself with the next girlfriend? And the one after that? You become addicted to the feeling of being with someone else and you find yourself lost because without someone, anyone to care for, the only thing you seek is lust and pleasure. When and how does the cycle end? When and how do you finally get your dating school diploma and move on to becoming a real man?
"Weak men are slaves to women", you've already answered the question, loved the video.
Sound the Alarm!
No way a girl leaves(?) a 107kg ripped guy for a colleague I don’t believe what I’m hearing
There’s always something better for a woman, it happens.
He got too comfortable probably
No one is safe.
seems like breakups work on the brain like withdrawing from drugs, suddenly all the lovey neurochemicals are gone and your brain's like "what the fuck bro?" so it makes you feel shit until you either relapse or go long enough for it to rebalance. think less of individuals - ie. you and her - and more of in terms of evolutionary archetypes, the software our systems are running on: it's this way for everyone, always has been, and that's just the way it is. that made it feel a bit less weighty for me.
RISE ABOVE
A knife for protection? No way man, too much liability, I carry a knife because it is the most handy tool a man can have on him. Can it protect you, sure? If you know what you're doing. If you don't, it's more dangerous to you than it is to your assailant. And that's not even getting into the legal ramifications of it all.
The best thing for self defence is situational awareness and martial arts. A little Jiu jitsu doesn't hurt either.
What an intro! Take me in! Haha!
That knife is beautifu❤️
facts brother, much l0ve
Is Brian the same guy as the Bryn Russell that made that knife?
No it's a different Brian
@@ElishaLong Roight
elisha in my opinion, I couldn't focus on what you're saying. cause when you read the story you're looking at somewhere else. It felt like I'm distracted from something else. just to notice to you.
Fire content
thanks big bro
Do more of these plz
Bro you could do stand up comedy 😂😂
That’s a nice knife who made that?????
I love that artwork by Edward Hopper in the thumbnail. Its my wallpaper :)
Hey elisha, i started studying applied kinesiology and mediainformatic. Its very interesting but somehow i cant keep focus. I dont even use my smartphone untill 12pm, but i get distracted by literally anything(my thoughts, chess, daydreaming etc). That causes that i fall behind more and more and exams are in february. How can i strengthen my discipline for learning and keep focus?
Thank u, big fan for many years.
Greetings from Germany
Good question man. Let me take some time. I'll try to make a video about it.
@@ElishaLong thanks man
1:15 *Like everything should be*
this pain can last for years.. best remedy is to start dating other girls
It’s odd I watched the first half early in the day and my gf just broke up with me. I’ll take it as a sign but idk what for. I just know I gotta keep at it.
oh shit we sounding the alarm
High thumos, havent been here in a while
Women are temporary in the new era. You can thank feminism and the terrible female role models. This day of age is just pipe a female, have for stay for couple of months, then be on your way. Or have rotation. Stop being too attached to these females learn what I learned. “Don’t take a women so serious unless she proves herself to be that women you can’t respect in a relationship way”. Tell then, just enjoy your time with them and focus on yourself.
Your a great guy bro
Thumos men ascending the highest ranks
Can you please make a video about anger management?
What is making you angry Caner?
@@ElishaLong It could also be about repressed anger. I personally have a lot of unadressed repressed anger that doesn't go away with exercise. I don't know where most of it comes from though.
@@SebCryptoTrades perfect video topic
Do you have a patreon or anywhere to donate?
Hey bro. We'll be opening up a few spots for coaching on my patreon January 1st.
I'll you updated on the channel.
Thank you for the support.
@@ElishaLong Okey! I'll look up to it.
Knowing that 21 is the prime is really depressing. I'm only 20 years old and always low energy, can't run 100 meters and have the body of a child. My efforts to build muscle in the gym have pretty much failed. I gained 10kg of weight but still look like shit, because I can't eat a lot without feeling ill afterwards. I just ordered a free T test kit, I'm excited. I don't know if TRT is the answer for me, after all I already have heart problems and a face full of acne scars.
I guess it's worth the shortened life though. I am always submissive, a literal pussy. But it's not surprising, I couldn't defend myself if it came to it, I'm short and have a narrow frame, girly hands etc.
What's your advice for people who really have bad genes?
Bruh just go hit the gym stop complaining be a MAN!
Bro I was like you, I highly recommend getting blood work to see if you're deficient. In my case it was vitamin D. Sleep helps tremendously
Start doing things that make you uncomfortable. Cold showers, Sauna, pushing yourself in nature or in the wild. Even studying for a long period of time. 75hard by Andy frisella could help.
how can you even date during lockdowns ??? all my year 20 of age i got "house arrested" :L
I'm afraid of knifes. 😵
Also bro how can i contact you?
IG elishalongws
I don't like something about your videos which is the fact that whenever I watch these I always feel down because when I look for advice(which most of your videos consist of) I attach this with feeling of not being good enough and even though the message if great I feel like it messes me up. Not sure if this helps but just wanted to share that with you.
I think people should be more aware about how truly incompetent we are. We're living in a sort of narcissistic society where we tell everyone that everyone is fine just the way they are coming straight out their mother's womb and do everything in their aims to avoid any harsh criticism just to protect their ego. I'm not sure how old you are, but one of life's greatest lessons is that the people in your life that can accurately tell you that you can do better and be a better person are probably the only people worth your time. It's even better if they tell it you straight without dilluting the message.
Sorry to here that K. I mean it man. I don't want you to feel this way.
With these videos I don't want you to feel inadequate. In my mind I'm thinking you can possibly relate to something I'm talking about with something that's going on in your life.
Is there something you feel you're lacking in it would like to talk about?
@@ElishaLong I have watched your channel for 2-3 years and it helped me a lot, so i dont really have to talk about anything. I guess what i was trying to say is that I dont want to watch these advice type of video's because when overdo it (which is pretty easy to do) then i start to think that im lacking something. Or maybe watching it reminds me of the times i was miserable, i dont really know. Anyway my life has been really good recently, so thanks for creating channel and helping me during sad times. Peace
13:00 is a fact
Now I will give u the reason why should not make a girl the mission.
the thing is man are mission orianted and will make almost anything to reach that mission but you cant control other people.Your goals should be things that u can achieve with working and not letting someone else to decide u will achieve or not.
high thumos
Judging by the title: No need to break up, just downgrade the relationship to friends with benefits level 👌🏻
Not many men can pull that off and remain unbothered and keep feelings out of it. I hear you, however Only a select few can be successful in doing so..if you can props to you; if not then break up is the next best thing
@@vaushawnbrown2110 But you get the point, it's for the guy's best interest. Breaking up is the 2nd best option, for some it's probably the best
@@Teglamen I understand
If you attach your life to Jesus, you wouldn't be attach to any women.
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