Had a similar request. 45K up front. Plus, I had to finance a 100K destination wedding. Not to mention, the father blurted out that he had a joint bank account with the girl - that set sirens off in my head. It could be that she wanted to say no, but it could also be she’s trying to set her own family up for financial comfort. Be wary my dudes.
What happened to the simple mehrs? It's almost the same in iran. If you don't have house of your own, car and a plot of land, no one would even speak to you.
Salamalaykum. Do you happen to know any Persian sisters in Iran looking to get married and come to the US? I’m interested in marriage as a 25 year old male in America with a good job
@@fahid3342 Is there like a shortage of Muslim women in the U.S? Why are you going so out of your way to get married to a sister from a totally different part of the world, with different customs that you might not understand or get along with?
May be her "no" is not being listened to, which is extremely common nowadays, coz after all she's "just a woman, what does she know. She doesn't know what is good for her." so she's having to resort to such tactics to make HIM back off and run away.
Better than being divorced with kids I guess. Young cousin married At 19 pregnant asap separated cuz her husband and mom were abusive towards her, reconciled for the sake of the unborn had 3 more babies in 4 years divorced finally now she’s 26 with 4 babies under 10 years old
@piqueny8872 In Islam, the father is the one who should take care of the children. But if he is not going to be a good practitioner or a father, then...
@@dalponteluis5865 I’ve never heard of father taking care of the children Many men divorce dump the children on the ex wives remarry asap and have more babies or many cases now the men remarry women who are infertile so they can have sex again without the fear of pregnancies
It was lust infatuation not love She thought he would provide her with the life she wanted though his resources when he fell head first back to reality! he realised he wasn’t in love he was being used for his wallet and he used her for perhaps her body
People need to stop saying women only do this if they don't like the guy. There are womnr out there who just lack basic humanity and it doesn't matter how much they like the guy, their love for materialism and other garbage is more and they will request fancy stuff even from guys they like. Stop being repetitive and stupid. Bad people exist
This is likely less fault of the girl and more so the parents. I’ve seen this before where the girl wants to get a nice degree before getting married but doesn’t want to work afterwards. The important of education was likely drilled into the girl’s head mercilessly to the point that if she doesn’t get a medical degree, she will feel useless. The parents likely pushed her in this direction as a “just in case” if her eventual marriage doesn’t work out. That she needs “something in her hands” so she can support herself and not be dependent on anyone. The man dodged a huge bullet.
That’s the generations of today The unmarried women are expected to have a degree work look like a model cook clean be a housewife but must not ask the husband for anything but. A low mahr
Man what’s up with people these days?! If you have great wealth why would you demand such a large sum or your future son in law? I don’t see the sense when you can comfortably provide for your daughter if she needs. Make the mahar hifz Al Quran and you will all be better off.
Most of the time it’s her parents tel her to demand this stuff Immigrant unc married his daughters off for the British passport expecting the new son in law to send her father money Her mahr and wedding gifts will go to her parents to live off
Brother, it's simple; walk away and find another Muslim wife that you can afford. Theres hundreds of millions to choose from in our now small and connected world. In fact, she's not even a villain, you're just a fool if you enter into a marriage knowing that you cannot afford it. She was at least honorable enough to tell you before you married her. Subhanallah, brothers, don't be fools over any women. Be strong willed, dont be trapped so easily.
I think she just wanted to say "no"
But do it dramatically
Lol
@@DMax_Liam that’s correct
@@DMax_Liam 😂
Nah, there are just awful people out there
well she could've just said no in a mario accent
Had a similar request. 45K up front. Plus, I had to finance a 100K destination wedding. Not to mention, the father blurted out that he had a joint bank account with the girl - that set sirens off in my head.
It could be that she wanted to say no, but it could also be she’s trying to set her own family up for financial comfort. Be wary my dudes.
If she really asked for that then she doesn’t like him. I don’t think any person would have those expectations no matter their upbringing
She infact hàted that guy, making him go bankrupt.
She was trying to put him off without hurting his feeling, thats my guess as a woman
Wow.
She is an immature woman, she wasn’t hurting his feelings, she was just ignorant
He should take the hint.
Well he did take the hint, that's why they didn't get married.
What happened to the simple mehrs?
It's almost the same in iran.
If you don't have house of your own, car and a plot of land, no one would even speak to you.
Salamalaykum. Do you happen to know any Persian sisters in Iran looking to get married and come to the US? I’m interested in marriage as a 25 year old male in America with a good job
@fahid3342 wa alekum salam. how would I know?
There's like 90 million people, I only know few who aren't in this category.
Not surprising. Persians are some of the most materialistic women on this planet.
@@fahid3342 Is there like a shortage of Muslim women in the U.S? Why are you going so out of your way to get married to a sister from a totally different part of the world, with different customs that you might not understand or get along with?
Anyone saying she did it to say no.. maybe she shouldn't marry at all if she can't communicate.
May be her "no" is not being listened to, which is extremely common nowadays, coz after all she's "just a woman, what does she know. She doesn't know what is good for her." so she's having to resort to such tactics to make HIM back off and run away.
She wants to be single at 35 and no kids
It depends. Islamically, children must stay with the father, as far as I understand. If anyone has sources confirming otherwise, I will accept it.
Better than being divorced with kids
I guess.
Young cousin married At 19 pregnant asap separated cuz her husband and mom were abusive towards her, reconciled for the sake of the unborn had 3 more babies in 4 years divorced finally now she’s 26 with 4 babies under 10 years old
@piqueny8872 In Islam, the father is the one who should take care of the children. But if he is not going to be a good practitioner or a father, then...
@@dalponteluis5865 I’ve never heard of father taking care of the children
Many men divorce dump the children on the ex wives remarry asap and have more babies or many cases now the men remarry women who are infertile so they can have sex again without the fear of pregnancies
It’s a lot easier just to say no then look like a fool
Evryone is saying she wanted to politely decline. Fine. But why does the brother remark that they loved eachother then?
It was lust infatuation not love
She thought he would provide her with the life she wanted though his resources when he fell head first back to reality! he realised he wasn’t in love he was being used for his wallet and he used her for perhaps her body
People need to stop saying women only do this if they don't like the guy. There are womnr out there who just lack basic humanity and it doesn't matter how much they like the guy, their love for materialism and other garbage is more and they will request fancy stuff even from guys they like. Stop being repetitive and stupid. Bad people exist
Is she cleaopatra 😂
This is likely less fault of the girl and more so the parents. I’ve seen this before where the girl wants to get a nice degree before getting married but doesn’t want to work afterwards. The important of education was likely drilled into the girl’s head mercilessly to the point that if she doesn’t get a medical degree, she will feel useless. The parents likely pushed her in this direction as a “just in case” if her eventual marriage doesn’t work out. That she needs “something in her hands” so she can support herself and not be dependent on anyone. The man dodged a huge bullet.
Some kids are very spoilt 💯
That’s the generations of today
The unmarried women are expected to have a degree work look like a model cook clean be a housewife but must not ask the husband for anything but. A low mahr
She just wanted to say no without saying no.
"They both loved each other"
Doesn't check out.
Assalamualaikum ww
What is this speakers name
Shadee ElMasry
Man what’s up with people these days?! If you have great wealth why would you demand such a large sum or your future son in law? I don’t see the sense when you can comfortably provide for your daughter if she needs. Make the mahar hifz Al Quran and you will all be better off.
They loved each other ?
Most of the time it’s her parents tel her to demand this stuff
Immigrant unc married his daughters off for the British passport expecting the new son in law to send her father money
Her mahr and wedding gifts will go to her parents to live off
She’s gonna be the old single cat lady wondering why men won’t pick her. This is why.
Brother, it's simple; walk away and find another Muslim wife that you can afford. Theres hundreds of millions to choose from in our now small and connected world. In fact, she's not even a villain, you're just a fool if you enter into a marriage knowing that you cannot afford it. She was at least honorable enough to tell you before you married her. Subhanallah, brothers, don't be fools over any women. Be strong willed, dont be trapped so easily.
Ufff
She's like 37 now and on Salamz..😂
... she is saying no to you, just move on
Just say no
😂
Jokes