I almost hung myself. School was crap. Home was crap. I always heard negative comments growing up. I'm 34. I came out at 28 ish. Took 2 bottles of wine on the second attempt. I finally attended Pride for the first time last June. I finally got my first Pride flag that I proudly display outside of my house.
Dude, that genuinely sounds so fucking horrible Jesus. I’m so sorry. I’m 15 and gay and I fucking hate it at school and generally I have a lot of problems. But thankyou, so much for this comment. People like you are so strong that have gone through so much. You’re amazing.
I am a straight woman and I have to say I really don't understand where all this hate is coming from. Why hate people for something they cannot change. Let them be.
MissV, Because people are stupid. If the whole world were heterosexual, stupid people would STILL rise up and hate and bash whatever else. There is no end. Also, gay hate/bashing mainly comes from the very ignorant and very religious. (stupid people)
God bless you all for this. When one of you described what he would wish some one would have said to him when he wasfourteen year old, I actually burst into tears and sobbed. I was one of those fourteen year olds who never heard those words. I was one of those who did try to end it all. No one ever told me those words. Thank God the world is so different today.
***** I wasn't going to reply to the hate-filled troll. My philosophy is not to get into a pissing contest with a skunk. But you are certainly right in your message of love.
My nine year old son is 100% certain he is gay. I told him ...okay and?!? I told him NOT to even THINK that he needs to worry about who he is because HE is a perfects human being. I am SO thankful for people like Google to put such a positive message on the Internet to PROVE to children that labels do not matter...my son could be 1/2 Martian and I would not think any differently and he knows this. I want the HOLE entire population to be happy with themselves. I am bipolar but I refuse to label myself because everyone is their own person. If somebody doesn't like my "crazy" then whatever. My nine year old says he is gay and I told him... I'm why do you feel the need to label yourself because anyone who loves you doesn't care who you are... I told him that I was literally crazy and he told me "no you aren't mommy!" And I said "see in just labeling myself!!" I'm an unwed Asian female with mental problems...but I normally don't tell everyone that...I informed my sweet sweet child if he acts like he is different then he is labeling himself as I could and being "gay" does not define him (like being bipolar does NOT define me) being his BADASS true self defines him And I want him to have 200% confidence about who he is. Thank you all again for showing children that thy need to have confidence and a high self esteem because they are worth it. I wish someone could have told me the same thing!!!!! You are amazing and so is this message. I can't help but to say "I loves U!!!" Please make a suicide agreement parents. Because a seminar taught me that if a promise is In writing then a teen or child is more likely to keep their word. I was 17 when I signed an agreement that I promised I wouldn't commit suicide and though I sometimes think that my life isn't worth anything, I remember the promissory note I made my family that I would never take my own life ......I hope my gibberish make sense u love u all!!!!!
+Shaylyn Gregory I live almost 6000 miles away from you. I don't know you. Yet I still don't want you or anyone commit suicide regardless of who they are. Suicides are lost potential.
I actually disliked it. I think it gets better from the straight community , though straight people today are becoming far more tolerant and open about gays today than gays are about gays (except for Lesbians who prove one more time that women are smarter) . It will get better when you grow up and then if you want a love life or a sex life or even a social life, you will start getting into the scenes (whether it is the real one , bars and clubs and gay associations, or the internet one) and then it'll get worse . The discrimination within the gay so called community is far worse and far more brutal . Whether you're ethnic, or regarding your body type, your age, your wealth, your social background and status , who you know and what circles you're in, even your religious beliefs . I think when you're a white , young, handsome, rich, fit, masculine guy, things not only get better , they get great . If you're fat or skinny, ugly, ethnic , with not much money to your name , effeminate (and not interested in drag), things get , well things get a bit like "out of the frying pan and into the fire". Today's statistics show that there are far more gays attempting suicide from rejection by the gay so called fucking community than there are gay attempting to it due to rejection from the so called straight world . I was lucky growing up , things were never really bad . I knew how to fight and needed half a reason so nobody tried to come for me about my sexuality , i come from a rather wealthy family but importantly i was raised by smart parents who couldn't careless if i was gay as long as i was not going to turn into a utter dick or asshole (you are what you eat) . I am also Scandinavian and was never really called ugly by anyone so i had it easy before and after i came out of Narnia . But my husband is Japanese , and before him i was in a long relationship with a great guy from the Middle East and before him with a fabulous black drag queen who taught me everything there is to know to stay alive and navigate that jungle that is the gay so fucking called community . And they all had different story . It didn't get better for them . It got harder , they were already exhausted facing prejudice from their family, their so called friends, their school , their country even for being gay and black, gay and asian, gay and fem or a queen , gay and and Arab or muslim and now they had to face discrimination from within the gay world for everything else beside being gay . They had to fight even harder , and still have to , for some of them . I think for some gay people , it has to get better twice , and the second time is so much harder than the first . Being a minority that is look down at within the gay community is far more vicious and painful than being a minority outside this community . Because being rejected by a community you try to belong in, is far more cruel than being rejected by a community you don't really want to be a member of . If you have 30 minutes to spare in your life do this simple test . Get the picture of a fit white man , then a picture of a skinny or fat one and create a profile for each of them on a dating or fucking gay site and see how many hits they get . Now open three more profiles with an average looking black guy, an asian one and a middle eastern one (choose a name like Mohammad) , and another account with a drag photo in the profile and check out how many hits your get within the first hour and then within a week . Except in real life these are not made up profiles, these are real people , So try to put yourself in the shoes of the ones who get 3 hits in a week and twenty hate comments , and then i dare you to tell those people that it gets better . Nice video but i think it lacks a bit of accuracy . It doesn't get better for everyone , for some it gets worse . And all the guys who work at google seem to be a little too attractive to really be an exhaustive panel of candidates to really tell how it really gets . So no kids, it only gets better if you are smart and toughen up , get thick skinned , and more importantly pick up the crowd or tribe you really belong with, the one that really appreciates you for who and what you are and doesn't judge you with just one look and leaves you on the bench . You don't have to become a Ken doll and if you have half a brain and don't suffer from Stockholm syndrome , you shouldn't want to belong to a clique that looks down at you . Find your own tribe and if you can't find it , create your own, that's how it gets better (regardless of the gay or straight community, it works with both ).
@@morganolfursson2560 you are correct. The gay community is hypocritical for sure enjoy your youth and find friends who like you for who you are, don’t fall into the “gay trap” that everything has to be gay and that is the only world of friends you can live in.
It does get better. I was beaten up in middle school almost every day. Kept me up throughout my middle school years. Things started to get better in high school. As a teenager, I tried to hang myself on my living room chandelier but was interceded by a visitor. Do not despair, the boat is filled to the brim with gay teenagers. I am now a lecturer and library celebrity. If you are thinking of a way out, don't do it, there's a beautiful horizon waiting for you filled with joy and success. You are just five minutes from the miracle.
Commenters of the world! Please! Let's keep our mouths CLOSED if we don't know what we are talking about! Being gay is nothing abnormal, or terrible, or a sin. I believe it is just the way some people were born. And I prefer these people, who unite us in differences, than bigoted and homophobic idiots with nothing to say but actual crap. Stop this! There are still people out there committing suicide, and if you think that is funny, or the right thing, and you feel liberated from these "horrible sinners", you are no humans, but cold machines with no heart and feelings. We are still talking about human beings! And to he "pro" commenters, I think the Gay community is thanking you right now for how you defend them... US. But stop feeding the trolls. It is not worth it. Don't lose your time, they will just continue attacking. So please. Let them stay in their own shady dark corner with their thoughts of: "We are right!"
Being gay is no different than being left-handed, or having red hair, or green eyes, or being very tall or quite short. We're all different, yet we're all the same. Let's work at accepting one another and getting along, rather than fearing one another.
Google should explain it's hypocrisy in posting this video yet also agreeing to run advertisements from the "Church" of Scientology. The "Church" of Scientology is vehemently anti-gay. What if Westboro Baptist Church had the resources to purchase TH-cam advertising, is this a business relationship Google would be willing to enter into?
As if everybody who got picked on in high school, for whatever reason, are always success stories and the people who were bullies, are literal failures.
Thank you Google and too all the staff on this video who shared their stories and the message that it really does get better! Our LGBTQ youth need to hear and know this message!
To the man at 6:33 I truly wish someone would have said something like to me and some of my friends when we were younger. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you!
I am so glad to live in Québec. My brother didn't have to fear the ''small town'' thing and actually moved back and bought a house in our small town with his boyfriend. His neighbors seem nice, -crime rate? what crime rate.- and those that might not be okay with it mind their own buisness because they or the rest of the family never hear any snark. The only exception was a religious nut, who, ironically, was from the city and got such cold stares for his hateful BS he learned to watch his manners.
Keep on truckin google. you rock this is one of the most realistic and wonderful commercials I've seen. Unfortunately it won't be shown on tv but i think more people go on youtube than watch TV. I loved this!
I would have to disagree I think it gets better from the straight community , though straight people today are becoming far more tolerant and open about gays today than gays are about gays (except for Lesbians who prove one more time that women are smarter) . It will get better when you grow up and then if you want a love life or a sex life or even a social life, you will start getting into the scenes (whether it is the real one , bars and clubs and gay associations, or the internet one) and then it'll get worse . The discrimination within the gay so called community is far worse and far more brutal . Whether you're ethnic, or regarding your body type, your age, your wealth, your social background and status , who you know and what circles you're in, even your religious beliefs . I think when you're a white , young, handsome, rich, fit, masculine guy, things not only get better , they get great . If you're fat or skinny, ugly, ethnic , with not much money to your name , effeminate (and not interested in drag), things get , well things get a bit like "out of the frying pan and into the fire". Today's statistics show that there are far more gays attempting suicide from rejection by the gay so called fucking community than there are gay attempting to it due to rejection from the so called straight world . I was lucky growing up , things were never really bad . I knew how to fight and needed half a reason so nobody tried to come for me about my sexuality , i come from a rather wealthy family but importantly i was raised by smart parents who couldn't careless if i was gay as long as i was not going to turn into a utter dick or asshole (you are what you eat) . I am also Scandinavian and was never really called ugly by anyone so i had it easy before and after i came out of Narnia . But my husband is Japanese , and before him i was in a long relationship with a great guy from the Middle East and before him with a fabulous black drag queen who taught me everything there is to know to stay alive and navigate that jungle that is the gay so fucking called community . And they all had different story . It didn't get better for them . It got harder , they were already exhausted facing prejudice from their family, their so called friends, their school , their country even for being gay and black, gay and asian, gay and fem or a queen , gay and and Arab or muslim and now they had to face discrimination from within the gay world for everything else beside being gay . They had to fight even harder , and still have to , for some of them . I think for some gay people , it has to get better twice , and the second time is so much harder than the first . Being a minority that is look down at within the gay community is far more vicious and painful than being a minority outside this community . Because being rejected by a community you try to belong in, is far more cruel than being rejected by a community you don't really want to be a member of . If you have 30 minutes to spare in your life do this simple test . Get the picture of a fit white man , then a picture of a skinny or fat one and create a profile for each of them on a dating or fucking gay site and see how many hits they get . Now open three more profiles with an average looking black guy, an asian one and a middle eastern one (choose a name like Mohammad) , and another account with a drag photo in the profile and check out how many hits your get within the first hour and then within a week . Except in real life these are not made up profiles, these are real people , So try to put yourself in the shoes of the ones who get 3 hits in a week and twenty hate comments , and then i dare you to tell those people that it gets better . Nice video but i think it lacks a bit of accuracy . It doesn't get better for everyone , for some it gets worse . And all the guys who work at google seem to be a little too attractive to really be an exhaustive panel of candidates to really tell how it really gets . So no kids, it only gets better if you are smart and toughen up , get thick skinned , and more importantly pick up the crowd or tribe you really belong with, the one that really appreciates you for who and what you are and doesn't judge you with just one look and leaves you on the bench . You don't have to become a Ken doll and if you have half a brain and don't suffer from Stockholm syndrome , you shouldn't want to belong to a clique that looks down at you . Find your own tribe and if you can't find it , create your own, that's how it gets better (regardless of the gay or straight community, it works with both ).
To the brave people who made this vid and gave this advice.....thank you......you are the voices of history, courage, brotherhood and the spirit of us all. Thank you thank you thank you.
I was bullied a lot. I had a really rough time myself. That was a long time ago. It is a lot better now. You don't have to stay at home if you are treated that way. You can ask for help. If your family is physically, or emotionally abusing you there is a way out. Don't run away though. But please ask for help. You'd be surprised how different it becomes in a caring environment. Good luck.
I don't think that many people feel depressed that they are gay.I don't treat anyone with bias. What Google is trying to say is in the end,always be yourself.If someone doesn't like me then chances are i don't fancy them either.Long story short,don't let other people that have less wisdom,dictate how you feel about yourself.They don't know you like you know yourself. That's good advise. I'm straight by the way,and have many opportunities to be depressed about something. Then you have to remember how lucky we truly are as a whole,for us all to be here. If God is real,thanks for the universe! If it was nature,thanks for the universe! Hugs all around!
Man. People are ridiculously offensives. Even one of my teachers at school judged gays. This i People are ridiculously offensive. Even one of my teachers judged gays. If there is a god, I wonder if this whole thing is more of a test of accepting people no matter how they are.
Okay. I'm sorry, and I don't say this very often at all, but don't be a bitch. You know what I meant, at least you should. There's a huge difference between accepting someone who's gay, and someone who rapes and kills. No need to be a smart-ass.
I can’t believe this project is over 10 years old now. It Gets Better campaign really gave me hope and soothed my fears. It Gets Better by Google employees was one of the first ones I saw and it made me feel normal. I wonder where these people in the video are now with their lives?
I am 14l, I am a closeted lesbian. Just thinking about hugging a guy has always felt weird, and for so long, I stopped myself when I was looking at girls, I kept telling myself that kissing my boyfriend was nice, though it just felt wrong. It got better as soon as I accepted myself. Like every other gay, I have questioned myself, I have been depressed, I have felt like nobody would ever understand, one night I even considered suicide but then I remembered, that it gets better. Thank You, IGBP.
I wish the Trevor Project was around when I was a teen. I lived in a small town and every day in school was pure hell for me. I feel like I barely made it through life then. I'm almost 30 now and recently moved to an even smaller town of about 800. I can't say this is a story with a happy ending, I feel even more alone now but I'm not being put through pure hell from everyone around me every single day as I was back in high school. I can say though, things will get better. Hang in there.
I want to thank the 'it gets better' project soo much. I was being bullied alot and was beginning to think that suicide was my only way out, this video had given me hope to a better future thanks again
it gets so much better, im happy that i stuck around and didnt give up, now that im in university, ive been able to come out to friends and family and life is so much better than i could have ever imagined, its unreal.
High school is drama. Three weeks into University, I'm smiling more, I'm laughing more and more often. I'm happier than I've ever been, and I'm going to go to Korea next year. :D It has indeed gotten better. :)
What a great video. Great to see an employer supporting employees to get out there and spread a positive message to give hope to others in their time of need. Well done Google!
Thank’s to Google & You Tube this 46 yr old disabled & homebound gay man has made so many friends. The LGBT support on You Tube has been literally a life saver for me.
Excuse me I'm 16 years old, I do not have children, but my friends do and yes there are children looking at the commentary sir. In fact I've seen my ten year old cousin watching videos while looking upon the commentary. May you have a beautiful day blessed be.
One more statement from silly me: I have hate built inside of myself. I HATE people who hate others...and that is not right either. We all bleed the same RED blood folks. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE love each other! Our future generations depend on us!!!!
Thank you. I cried when I saw this. I was saved from suicide once and this made me sure that it was a miracle and I could've thrown away the best life ahead of me
The first step to recovery is believing you can recover. Even if at the time you don't believe it, say you will get better and accept that as fact, because it is....you can achieve whatever you put your mind to and you can accomplish whatever you wish to. Limitations only exist in the mind. Fuck the social conditioning, be yourself. An original is always worth more than a copy and believe me when I say this; There is No Other You and there never will be. You are yourself. Don't deny the world the gift that is, yourself,...you're full of wonderful things and you know it. You're unique, you're special and you are the ultimate of all things; the universe experiencing itself. Don't ever give up, because winners never quit and quitters never win. You don't know what's out there tomorrow and believe me your life can change in a flash. Killing yourself won't stop all the bad things happening to you, it'll stop all the good things that possibly can. God speed. You're a star. 🌟
this touches me couse in the maddness of the world and all the sadness theirs always a light that shine for you as a person. its all about love and love is pure.
@josiahgobert I'm so sorry to hear about your mum, dad, and grandma. Yes, people will hate you. They'll judge you and tease you, but they're so small. Once you're out of high school, you never have to see them again. "Always say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind."
Lady GaGa has told us to embrace who we are. I am straight but yet I aprove SO much of this project. I believe that everyone has the right to love who ever they wanna love and should NEVER be made fun of for it. You will (if not already) find someone who excepts who you are and loves you for who you are. Lady GaGa says that you were born this way so why not embrace it? I am proud of how much progress our nation has made by helping all the beautiful gays, lesbians and homosexuals.ITgetsBETTER!
i recently came out to myself as bisexual and i talked to a counselor who helped me come to terms with who i am. i was taught you either had to be gay or straight, that bisexuality was wrong on both sides. now i know better, and i now know myself! i haven't told my family but a few friends know and i'm thinking of starting a GLBT society help group in my college!
Thank you for supporting the important campaign, "It Gets Better". Your choice to do so extends my respect for your company. After visiting the 1,000,000 Moms website, I feel compelled to let you know how essential I believe it is to stand up against bigotry and I commend you for doing your part.
Can't we just look passed this one aspect of someones life and LOVE them for who they are? I am a straight Christian, and this hatred has to stop. These videos help people, if it doesn't apply too you then why go on here and say hateful things? People need to learn to love and encourage each other, wether we like it or not we are ALL in this life together. "Love God, Love Your Neighbor"
I'm 16 and still going, let me tell you. It gets better. Just focus on the positive and don't let anyone tell you who you can and can't be. IT GETS BETTER! (: Everyone who is having a hard time we love you, hold on tight life is a bumpy ride but it will soon get better (:
This saddens me so much that young gay people today think of suicide. I am 64 years old and growing up as a very young teenager I new I was gay (even though I had never heard of that word) and liked guys plain and simple for me. I thought back then I was probably the only person in the world that felt like that but never gave it a second thought. Throughout my very fun filled life I never felt rejected or prejudiced. I lived my life freely but not flaunting anything. Either you liked me or not. I never had any hangups whatsoever at any point in my life. Today I am living on a Greek island with many many good freinds and still have never felt prejudiced. Its all about perception. I live my life the way I want to without hurting any one. Its 2017 so being gay shouldnt really be such a negative thought!
I'm living proof that suicide is not the way, and that it does get better. If you're ever feeling unloved and unwanted; remember, I'll love you, no matter your flaws, I'll be here for you all.
It gets better....because we have the job of tracking all of your search data and selling that data to advertisers...and just giving it away to the authorities for the asking. That's why we get paid so much.
Dreams are but an illusion we tend to weave around us to conceal the stark reality. I woke up and smelt the sunshine. My career went with the wind, I consitantely have to meet and work with people that just broke my heart, without knowing. When all your dreams die, you die too, what is left is an empty husk lingering over or under the earth. "But I, being poor, have only my dreams, I have spread my dreams under you feet; Tread softly because you tread on my dreams" W.B. Yeats, life ist fair
Everything that these people said... it is everything that I wanted to hear when I was a teenager living in an area that was quite conservative area. I wanted someone to tell me that there was life outside the city limits that would be understanding, that would have had similar experiences and most importantly, would accept me as me. They're right, as you grow up things do get better. You do meet people to lean on. There is a light at the end of the tunnel.
@consult81 I know it probably seems really hard, especially now, but your family can never really hate you. You are a part of them and no matter what hurtful things they may say now, they will come around and realize that you are the same person they have always loved. And even if they don't come around, there are so many other people out there in this world who will love you for who you are, not what society dictates as being right or wrong. I used to always think I would be alone
I got pick on for who I am it last almost a year on my high school the prom was going to happen in a week my cousin and friend defend me and gave me the courage I needed to stand up and ask this guy to be my date so we went together with my friend's date to Prom it was great so after that I stop getting pick on and they saw me been happy like every couple in school my parents knew that I am gay but nothing about school thing I had a blast on my prom in high school he was in choir same as me so I ask him if he wants to be my boyfriend he said Yes so my cousin and friends support me
If there is someone who doesn't want to accept you for who you realy are, he is not worth being close to you.. No matter who you are, where you live, you are worth having good supporting people around you.. And you have them.. Just don't be affraid to reach for them.. You're not alone and you can make it. It realy gets better.. I myself was pretty miserable at high school.. I was afraid to tell anyone.. And now I am 25 living with my boyfriend for 5 years, having dog, flat, job.. It gets better!
I almost hung myself. School was crap. Home was crap. I always heard negative comments growing up. I'm 34. I came out at 28 ish. Took 2 bottles of wine on the second attempt. I finally attended Pride for the first time last June. I finally got my first Pride flag that I proudly display outside of my house.
Dude, that genuinely sounds so fucking horrible Jesus. I’m so sorry. I’m 15 and gay and I fucking hate it at school and generally I have a lot of problems. But thankyou, so much for this comment. People like you are so strong that have gone through so much. You’re amazing.
I'm sorry you had to go through that Daniel.
I am a straight woman and I have to say I really don't understand where all this hate is coming from. Why hate people for something they cannot change. Let them be.
I'm so happy that there are people like you in this world. Thank you
I hope more people can start thinking like you
MissV, Because people are stupid. If the whole world were heterosexual, stupid people would STILL rise up and hate and bash whatever else. There is no end.
Also, gay hate/bashing mainly comes from the very ignorant and very religious. (stupid people)
***** Hate is the norm? Not really, misunderstanding is rather prevalent, but genuine, malicious hate isn't. Take it from me, an openly gay man.
Becuase its freaking wrong to be gay or lesbian
God bless you all for this. When one of you described what he would wish some one would have said to him when he wasfourteen year old, I actually burst into tears and sobbed. I was one of those fourteen year olds who never heard those words. I was one of those who did try to end it all. No one ever told me those words. Thank God the world is so different today.
***** I wasn't going to reply to the hate-filled troll. My philosophy is not to get into a pissing contest with a skunk. But you are certainly right in your message of love.
My nine year old son is 100% certain he is gay. I told him ...okay and?!? I told him NOT to even THINK that he needs to worry about who he is because HE is a perfects human being. I am SO thankful for people like Google to put such a positive message on the Internet to PROVE to children that labels do not matter...my son could be 1/2 Martian and I would not think any differently and he knows this. I want the HOLE entire population to be happy with themselves. I am bipolar but I refuse to label myself because everyone is their own person. If somebody doesn't like my "crazy" then whatever. My nine year old says he is gay and I told him... I'm why do you feel the need to label yourself because anyone who loves you doesn't care who you are... I told him that I was literally crazy and he told me "no you aren't mommy!" And I said "see in just labeling myself!!" I'm an unwed Asian female with mental problems...but I normally don't tell everyone that...I informed my sweet sweet child if he acts like he is different then he is labeling himself as I could and being "gay" does not define him (like being bipolar does NOT define me) being his BADASS true self defines him And I want him to have 200% confidence about who he is. Thank you all again for showing children that thy need to have confidence and a high self esteem because they are worth it. I wish someone could have told me the same thing!!!!! You are amazing and so is this message. I can't help but to say "I loves U!!!" Please make a suicide agreement parents. Because a seminar taught me that if a promise is In writing then a teen or child is more likely to keep their word. I was 17 when I signed an agreement that I promised I wouldn't commit suicide and though I sometimes think that my life isn't worth anything, I remember the promissory note I made my family that I would never take my own life ......I hope my gibberish make sense u love u all!!!!!
+Shaylyn Gregory I live almost 6000 miles away from you. I don't know you. Yet I still don't want you or anyone commit suicide regardless of who they are. Suicides are lost potential.
Shaylyn Gregory
you just didn't get how ducked up family you've made ...
Down the road he will have BIG problems with his Ass hole!
Shaylyn Gregory Bipolar does NOT equal crazy. That’s really damn rude.
Awesome mom!!!!💝
I fucking love gay people. I did growing up straight in a conservative town and I still do. Keep gaying it up, gays.
respect to all of them
Four years on and this still gets me right in the heart!
I've been out since I was 18 and I'm proud of who I am
There are 746 dislikes as of this posting. How can that even possibly be? Are you serious! This moved me to tears.
It's called Ignorance.
746 douchebags.
I actually disliked it.
I think it gets better from the straight community , though straight people today are becoming far more tolerant and open about gays today than gays are about gays (except for Lesbians who prove one more time that women are smarter) .
It will get better when you grow up and then if you want a love life or a sex life or even a social life, you will start getting into the scenes (whether it is the real one , bars and clubs and gay associations, or the internet one) and then it'll get worse . The discrimination within the gay so called community is far worse and far more brutal . Whether you're ethnic, or regarding your body type, your age, your wealth, your social background and status , who you know and what circles you're in, even your religious beliefs .
I think when you're a white , young, handsome, rich, fit, masculine guy, things not only get better , they get great .
If you're fat or skinny, ugly, ethnic , with not much money to your name , effeminate (and not interested in drag), things get , well things get a bit like "out of the frying pan and into the fire".
Today's statistics show that there are far more gays attempting suicide from rejection by the gay so called fucking community than there are gay attempting to it due to rejection from the so called straight world .
I was lucky growing up , things were never really bad . I knew how to fight and needed half a reason so nobody tried to come for me about my sexuality , i come from a rather wealthy family but importantly i was raised by smart parents who couldn't careless if i was gay as long as i was not going to turn into a utter dick or asshole (you are what you eat) . I am also Scandinavian and was never really called ugly by anyone so i had it easy before and after i came out of Narnia .
But my husband is Japanese , and before him i was in a long relationship with a great guy from the Middle East and before him with a fabulous black drag queen who taught me everything there is to know to stay alive and navigate that jungle that is the gay so fucking called community . And they all had different story . It didn't get better for them . It got harder , they were already exhausted facing prejudice from their family, their so called friends, their school , their country even for being gay and black, gay and asian, gay and fem or a queen , gay and and Arab or muslim and now they had to face discrimination from within the gay world for everything else beside being gay . They had to fight even harder , and still have to , for some of them .
I think for some gay people , it has to get better twice , and the second time is so much harder than the first . Being a minority that is look down at within the gay community is far more vicious and painful than being a minority outside this community . Because being rejected by a community you try to belong in, is far more cruel than being rejected by a community you don't really want to be a member of .
If you have 30 minutes to spare in your life do this simple test . Get the picture of a fit white man , then a picture of a skinny or fat one and create a profile for each of them on a dating or fucking gay site and see how many hits they get . Now open three more profiles with an average looking black guy, an asian one and a middle eastern one (choose a name like Mohammad) , and another account with a drag photo in the profile and check out how many hits your get within the first hour and then within a week . Except in real life these are not made up profiles, these are real people , So try to put yourself in the shoes of the ones who get 3 hits in a week and twenty hate comments , and then i dare you to tell those people that it gets better .
Nice video but i think it lacks a bit of accuracy . It doesn't get better for everyone , for some it gets worse . And all the guys who work at google seem to be a little too attractive to really be an exhaustive panel of candidates to really tell how it really gets .
So no kids, it only gets better if you are smart and toughen up , get thick skinned , and more importantly pick up the crowd or tribe you really belong with, the one that really appreciates you for who and what you are and doesn't judge you with just one look and leaves you on the bench . You don't have to become a Ken doll and if you have half a brain and don't suffer from Stockholm syndrome , you shouldn't want to belong to a clique that looks down at you . Find your own tribe and if you can't find it , create your own, that's how it gets better (regardless of the gay or straight community, it works with both ).
@@morganolfursson2560 you are correct. The gay community is hypocritical for sure enjoy your youth and find friends who like you for who you are, don’t fall into the “gay trap” that everything has to be gay and that is the only world of friends you can live in.
Gay nerds!!!! Yay! My home.
The last couple they featured are both so handsome, and together are so cute
alonelychild I started drooling on my keyboard, that's how hot they were.
It does get better. I was beaten up in middle school almost every day. Kept me up throughout my middle school years. Things started to get better in high school. As a teenager, I tried to hang myself on my living room chandelier but was interceded by a visitor. Do not despair, the boat is filled to the brim with gay teenagers. I am now a lecturer and library celebrity. If you are thinking of a way out, don't do it, there's a beautiful horizon waiting for you filled with joy and success. You are just five minutes from the miracle.
I love Google's attitude towards their employees: "we accept everyone, as long as they're brilliant". What a company!
Commenters of the world! Please! Let's keep our mouths CLOSED if we don't know what we are talking about! Being gay is nothing abnormal, or terrible, or a sin. I believe it is just the way some people were born. And I prefer these people, who unite us in differences, than bigoted and homophobic idiots with nothing to say but actual crap. Stop this! There are still people out there committing suicide, and if you think that is funny, or the right thing, and you feel liberated from these "horrible sinners", you are no humans, but cold machines with no heart and feelings. We are still talking about human beings! And to he "pro" commenters, I think the Gay community is thanking you right now for how you defend them... US. But stop feeding the trolls. It is not worth it. Don't lose your time, they will just continue attacking. So please. Let them stay in their own shady dark corner with their thoughts of: "We are right!"
Being gay is no different than being left-handed, or having red hair, or green eyes, or being very tall or quite short. We're all different, yet we're all the same. Let's work at accepting one another and getting along, rather than fearing one another.
I've been feeling really depressed... thank you for the video guys... I love it.. people should love you for who you are. no matter what.
1:25 you are beautiful and sweet!!!
This made me cry
me too
Google should explain it's hypocrisy in posting this video yet also agreeing to run advertisements from the "Church" of Scientology. The "Church" of Scientology is vehemently anti-gay. What if Westboro Baptist Church had the resources to purchase TH-cam advertising, is this a business relationship Google would be willing to enter into?
Lol, I understand, but business is business. They're not gonna say anything else.
Isn't Tom Cruise gay?
I came back to watch this and thank you, fantastic, happy Xmas EVERYBODY!
14 years since this video… I hope they are doing well, getting older and being happy. Time flies…
As if everybody who got picked on in high school, for whatever reason, are always success stories and the people who were bullies, are literal failures.
I agree if you are good looking you will have a successful career
It gets better, it always does
And then it gets worse again, and then better and then worse again, . That's just called life
No it’s not. It’s gonna be shitty forever. Trust me.
One of the ways it doesn't stay bad is by making it better.
Once I started hormones it got so much better now I want a partner
I actually needed this, I've been feeling pretty depressed lately! THANK YOU GOOGLE PEOPLE! ;D
Thank you Google and too all the staff on this video who shared their stories and the message that it really does get better! Our LGBTQ youth need to hear and know this message!
OMG I want those shirts!!!!!
Wow. Thanks for the Czech subtitles!
+Simona Omina I find an old video and it makes me happy to see a familiar friend in the comments :-)
The quality of this video made me believe it was uploaded within the last few years. I was shocked to learn it was uploaded in 2010.
To the man at 6:33 I truly wish someone would have said something like to me and some of my friends when we were younger. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you!
I am so glad to live in Québec. My brother didn't have to fear the ''small town'' thing and actually moved back and bought a house in our small town with his boyfriend. His neighbors seem nice, -crime rate? what crime rate.- and those that might not be okay with it mind their own buisness because they or the rest of the family never hear any snark. The only exception was a religious nut, who, ironically, was from the city and got such cold stares for his hateful BS he learned to watch his manners.
This is beautiful... Absolutely beautiful! Well done google!
It's an insult to the gay community.
Keep on truckin google. you rock this is one of the most realistic and wonderful commercials I've seen. Unfortunately it won't be shown on tv but i think more people go on youtube than watch TV. I loved this!
There are no other video's besides the It Gets Better videos that tug at my heart strings so much..lol, love what this campaign has done! :')
what a wonderful video....
I would have to disagree
I think it gets better from the straight community , though straight people today are becoming far more tolerant and open about gays today than gays are about gays (except for Lesbians who prove one more time that women are smarter) .
It will get better when you grow up and then if you want a love life or a sex life or even a social life, you will start getting into the scenes (whether it is the real one , bars and clubs and gay associations, or the internet one) and then it'll get worse . The discrimination within the gay so called community is far worse and far more brutal . Whether you're ethnic, or regarding your body type, your age, your wealth, your social background and status , who you know and what circles you're in, even your religious beliefs .
I think when you're a white , young, handsome, rich, fit, masculine guy, things not only get better , they get great .
If you're fat or skinny, ugly, ethnic , with not much money to your name , effeminate (and not interested in drag), things get , well things get a bit like "out of the frying pan and into the fire".
Today's statistics show that there are far more gays attempting suicide from rejection by the gay so called fucking community than there are gay attempting to it due to rejection from the so called straight world .
I was lucky growing up , things were never really bad . I knew how to fight and needed half a reason so nobody tried to come for me about my sexuality , i come from a rather wealthy family but importantly i was raised by smart parents who couldn't careless if i was gay as long as i was not going to turn into a utter dick or asshole (you are what you eat) . I am also Scandinavian and was never really called ugly by anyone so i had it easy before and after i came out of Narnia .
But my husband is Japanese , and before him i was in a long relationship with a great guy from the Middle East and before him with a fabulous black drag queen who taught me everything there is to know to stay alive and navigate that jungle that is the gay so fucking called community . And they all had different story . It didn't get better for them . It got harder , they were already exhausted facing prejudice from their family, their so called friends, their school , their country even for being gay and black, gay and asian, gay and fem or a queen , gay and and Arab or muslim and now they had to face discrimination from within the gay world for everything else beside being gay . They had to fight even harder , and still have to , for some of them .
I think for some gay people , it has to get better twice , and the second time is so much harder than the first . Being a minority that is look down at within the gay community is far more vicious and painful than being a minority outside this community . Because being rejected by a community you try to belong in, is far more cruel than being rejected by a community you don't really want to be a member of .
If you have 30 minutes to spare in your life do this simple test . Get the picture of a fit white man , then a picture of a skinny or fat one and create a profile for each of them on a dating or fucking gay site and see how many hits they get . Now open three more profiles with an average looking black guy, an asian one and a middle eastern one (choose a name like Mohammad) , and another account with a drag photo in the profile and check out how many hits your get within the first hour and then within a week . Except in real life these are not made up profiles, these are real people , So try to put yourself in the shoes of the ones who get 3 hits in a week and twenty hate comments , and then i dare you to tell those people that it gets better .
Nice video but i think it lacks a bit of accuracy . It doesn't get better for everyone , for some it gets worse . And all the guys who work at google seem to be a little too attractive to really be an exhaustive panel of candidates to really tell how it really gets .
So no kids, it only gets better if you are smart and toughen up , get thick skinned , and more importantly pick up the crowd or tribe you really belong with, the one that really appreciates you for who and what you are and doesn't judge you with just one look and leaves you on the bench . You don't have to become a Ken doll and if you have half a brain and don't suffer from Stockholm syndrome , you shouldn't want to belong to a clique that looks down at you . Find your own tribe and if you can't find it , create your own, that's how it gets better (regardless of the gay or straight community, it works with both ).
The guy with the Wisconsin shirt ❤❤❤
Marry me please!
To the brave people who made this vid and gave this advice.....thank you......you are the voices of history, courage, brotherhood and the spirit of us all.
Thank you thank you thank you.
I was bullied a lot. I had a really rough time myself. That was a long time ago. It is a lot better now. You don't have to stay at home if you are treated that way. You can ask for help. If your family is physically, or emotionally abusing you there is a way out. Don't run away though. But please ask for help. You'd be surprised how different it becomes in a caring environment. Good luck.
I don't think that many people feel depressed that they are gay.I don't treat anyone with bias.
What Google is trying to say is in the end,always be yourself.If someone doesn't like me then chances are i don't fancy them either.Long story short,don't let other people that have less wisdom,dictate how you feel about yourself.They don't know you like you know yourself.
That's good advise.
I'm straight by the way,and have many opportunities to be depressed about something.
Then you have to remember how lucky we truly are as a whole,for us all to be here.
If God is real,thanks for the universe!
If it was nature,thanks for the universe!
Hugs all around!
shooterzden Completely agree. I'm bisexual btw. Hugs to you my friend ❤
Man. People are ridiculously offensives. Even one of my teachers at school judged gays. This i
People are ridiculously offensive. Even one of my teachers judged gays. If there is a god, I wonder if this whole thing is more of a test of accepting people no matter how they are.
Okay. I'm sorry, and I don't say this very often at all, but don't be a bitch. You know what I meant, at least you should. There's a huge difference between accepting someone who's gay, and someone who rapes and kills. No need to be a smart-ass.
I can’t believe this project is over 10 years old now. It Gets Better campaign really gave me hope and soothed my fears. It Gets Better by Google employees was one of the first ones I saw and it made me feel normal. I wonder where these people in the video are now with their lives?
I am 14l, I am a closeted lesbian. Just thinking about hugging a guy has always felt weird, and for so long, I stopped myself when I was looking at girls, I kept telling myself that kissing my boyfriend was nice, though it just felt wrong. It got better as soon as I accepted myself. Like every other gay, I have questioned myself, I have been depressed, I have felt like nobody would ever understand, one night I even considered suicide
but then I remembered, that it gets better.
Thank You, IGBP.
so brave, xx
6:46....m 25 n still in my closet.
Are you out now?
I wish the Trevor Project was around when I was a teen. I lived in a small town and every day in school was pure hell for me. I feel like I barely made it through life then. I'm almost 30 now and recently moved to an even smaller town of about 800. I can't say this is a story with a happy ending, I feel even more alone now but I'm not being put through pure hell from everyone around me every single day as I was back in high school. I can say though, things will get better. Hang in there.
If everyone would be that tolerant and understanding, there wouldn’t be any wars. Amazing message 😊
It doesn't get better and we will make sure of it!Sincerely, the world! Bwaaaaaahahahahahahahahahaha......
Absolutely true
Makes me so proud to see companies I love supporting things I believe in.
I want to thank the 'it gets better' project soo much. I was being bullied alot and was beginning to think that suicide was my only way out, this video had given me hope to a better future thanks again
People like these who do support others for their differences give me hope for a better world
One of the best it get's better videos and really what I needed right now.
Shaun is so adorable
My friend just came out, it was beautiful. There so much support, I was proud.
Thank you. This is the It Gets Better video I have needed all along.
This is exactly why I am so loyal to Google and Google products. . .great stuff people!
it gets so much better, im happy that i stuck around and didnt give up, now that im in university, ive been able to come out to friends and family and life is so much better than i could have ever imagined, its unreal.
1:57, you can actually see the poor womans pain due to the way she has been treated. Good on you! Be who you want to be.
I'm so glad my family and friends accept me: small town->big town ideas
i like how you turned a negative into a possitive...very clever i like/respect that
High school is drama. Three weeks into University, I'm smiling more, I'm laughing more and more often. I'm happier than I've ever been, and I'm going to go to Korea next year.
:D
It has indeed gotten better. :)
What a great video. Great to see an employer supporting employees to get out there and spread a positive message to give hope to others in their time of need. Well done Google!
Thank’s to Google & You Tube this 46 yr old disabled & homebound gay man has made so many friends. The LGBT support on You Tube has been literally a life saver for me.
Excuse me I'm 16 years old, I do not have children, but my friends do and yes there are children looking at the commentary sir. In fact I've seen my ten year old cousin watching videos while looking upon the commentary. May you have a beautiful day blessed be.
How can somebody hate these people?? Their so NICE!!
I wish that when I was a teenager, there was movies or places to look up for info like this. Now I know it does get much better, but back then...
One more statement from silly me: I have hate built inside of myself. I HATE people who hate others...and that is not right either. We all bleed the same RED blood folks. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE love each other! Our future generations depend on us!!!!
Thank you google employees - there will be many people your message has helped! A very thoughtful video!
im a straight guy, but honestly i want to give half of these people a hug and tell them they are doing some good.
Thank you. I cried when I saw this. I was saved from suicide once and this made me sure that it was a miracle and I could've thrown away the best life ahead of me
That T shirt looks awesome :D
The first step to recovery is believing you can recover. Even if at the time you don't believe it, say you will get better and accept that as fact, because it is....you can achieve whatever you put your mind to and you can accomplish whatever you wish to. Limitations only exist in the mind. Fuck the social conditioning, be yourself. An original is always worth more than a copy and believe me when I say this; There is No Other You and there never will be. You are yourself. Don't deny the world the gift that is, yourself,...you're full of wonderful things and you know it. You're unique, you're special and you are the ultimate of all things; the universe experiencing itself.
Don't ever give up, because winners never quit and quitters never win. You don't know what's out there tomorrow and believe me your life can change in a flash. Killing yourself won't stop all the bad things happening to you, it'll stop all the good things that possibly can. God speed. You're a star. 🌟
I love you and I accept you for you. You're doing the best that you can and I admire that. 👊🏻 you have so much to offer..
this touches me couse in the maddness of the world and all the sadness theirs always a light that shine for you as a person. its all about love and love is pure.
I wish there was stuff like this when I was 15. It did get better
@josiahgobert I'm so sorry to hear about your mum, dad, and grandma. Yes, people will hate you. They'll judge you and tease you, but they're so small. Once you're out of high school, you never have to see them again. "Always say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind."
Lady GaGa has told us to embrace who we are. I am straight but yet I aprove SO much of this project. I believe that everyone has the right to love who ever they wanna love and should NEVER be made fun of for it. You will (if not already) find someone who excepts who you are and loves you for who you are. Lady GaGa says that you were born this way so why not embrace it? I am proud of how much progress our nation has made by helping all the beautiful gays, lesbians and homosexuals.ITgetsBETTER!
@ReunionX3 just for the record...i really support this. They are just full of so much more love than others imo
i have a lot of respect for everyone here and im straight. if it makes you happy, go for it! big ups to all these people
i recently came out to myself as bisexual and i talked to a counselor who helped me come to terms with who i am. i was taught you either had to be gay or straight, that bisexuality was wrong on both sides. now i know better, and i now know myself! i haven't told my family but a few friends know and i'm thinking of starting a GLBT society help group in my college!
i'm straight and this still makes me happy
The Flying Spaghetti Monster will never send anyone to hell for being themselves and loving someone.
I love the face of the blond guy on 5:41, he's about to smile, but is a serious moment, so he better not hahahahaha
Thank you for supporting the important campaign, "It Gets Better". Your choice to do so extends my respect for your company. After visiting the 1,000,000 Moms website, I feel compelled to let you know how essential I believe it is to stand up against bigotry and I commend you for doing your part.
Can't we just look passed this one aspect of someones life and LOVE them for who they are? I am a straight Christian, and this hatred has to stop. These videos help people, if it doesn't apply too you then why go on here and say hateful things? People need to learn to love and encourage each other, wether we like it or not we are ALL in this life together. "Love God, Love Your Neighbor"
Thank you Google for being one of the best companies in the world!
im actually sat crying my eyes out at this video, these videos always get to me :'(
I'm 16 and still going, let me tell you. It gets better. Just focus on the positive and don't let anyone tell you who you can and can't be. IT GETS BETTER! (: Everyone who is having a hard time we love you, hold on tight life is a bumpy ride but it will soon get better (:
This saddens me so much that young gay people today think of suicide. I am 64 years old and growing up as a very young teenager I new I was gay (even though I had never heard of that word) and liked guys plain and simple for me. I thought back then I was probably the only person in the world that felt like that but never gave it a second thought. Throughout my very fun filled life I never felt rejected or prejudiced. I lived my life freely but not flaunting anything. Either you liked me or not. I never had any hangups whatsoever at any point in my life. Today I am living on a Greek island with many many good freinds and still have never felt prejudiced. Its all about perception. I live my life the way I want to without hurting any one. Its 2017 so being gay shouldnt really be such a negative thought!
Suck shit YOU OLD GAY FUCK
Thank You Google Employees. I am not strong enough to tell people, but one day I will tell I already have 3 people who know
I have to agree with this video that it does get better but when you work for google it gets way much much much better!!!
I'm living proof that suicide is not the way, and that it does get better. If you're ever feeling unloved and unwanted; remember, I'll love you, no matter your flaws, I'll be here for you all.
It gets better....because we have the job of tracking all of your search data and selling that data to advertisers...and just giving it away to the authorities for the asking.
That's why we get paid so much.
A-M-A-Z-I-N-G!! I´m very proud of you guys (and girls).. great msgs 4 all those teenages that don´t see a way out..
Dreams are but an illusion we tend to weave around us to conceal the stark reality. I woke up and smelt the sunshine. My career went with the wind, I consitantely have to meet and work with people that just broke my heart, without knowing. When all your dreams die, you die too, what is left is an empty husk lingering over or under the earth.
"But I, being poor, have only my dreams, I have spread my dreams under you feet;
Tread softly because you tread on my dreams" W.B. Yeats, life ist fair
Everything that these people said... it is everything that I wanted to hear when I was a teenager living in an area that was quite conservative area. I wanted someone to tell me that there was life outside the city limits that would be understanding, that would have had similar experiences and most importantly, would accept me as me. They're right, as you grow up things do get better. You do meet people to lean on. There is a light at the end of the tunnel.
@consult81 I know it probably seems really hard, especially now, but your family can never really hate you. You are a part of them and no matter what hurtful things they may say now, they will come around and realize that you are the same person they have always loved. And even if they don't come around, there are so many other people out there in this world who will love you for who you are, not what society dictates as being right or wrong. I used to always think I would be alone
I'm sure It gets better .... for some. For the rest of us everything is just hell. Don't sell empty promises.
Brunin22bh Agreed my life has been hell.
We need more accepting people like you.
I got pick on for who I am it last almost a year on my high school the prom was going to happen in a week my cousin and friend defend me and gave me the courage I needed to stand up and ask this guy to be my date so we went together with my friend's date to Prom it was great so after that I stop getting pick on and they saw me been happy like every couple in school my parents knew that I am gay but nothing about school thing I had a blast on my prom in high school he was in choir same as me so I ask him if he wants to be my boyfriend he said Yes so my cousin and friends support me
If there is someone who doesn't want to accept you for who you realy are, he is not worth being close to you.. No matter who you are, where you live, you are worth having good supporting people around you.. And you have them.. Just don't be affraid to reach for them.. You're not alone and you can make it. It realy gets better.. I myself was pretty miserable at high school.. I was afraid to tell anyone.. And now I am 25 living with my boyfriend for 5 years, having dog, flat, job.. It gets better!
It doesn't always get better, saying it does is a quaint notion. Some people just never catch a break, that's how life works.
A big thank you to Google Singapore for supporting Pink Dot 2011!
I wish I worked at Google. :( I admire these individuals so much.