How to quit your life (and reboot): Priya Parker at TEDxUHasselt

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  • Many people are doing jobs in fear; fear that they might not make the best out of their lives. Priya Parker provides seven techniques to help you quit your life and reboot.
    She invites you to use these techniques to explore the biggest needs in the world that you might have the passion and the capacity to address.
    Priya is an advisor to leaders and organizations on strategy, vision and purpose. Her company, Thrive Labs, works with individuals and teams to help them identify what they care about most and align it with market realities. Her research includes identifying what are the driving factors that lead people to thriving and what blocks them from it. She helps organizations keep and grow their culture and values as they scale. Drawing on 10 years of conflict resolution facilitation in the United States, India and the Middle East, Priya designs visioning and innovation labs that help organizations grow from the root.
    She has run her signature Labs for leading global firms as well as startups from a variety of disciplines. Her clients include disruptors from the fields of fashion, technology, design, development, film, comedy and government. Priya is an expert in innovative facilitation and process design and incorporates creative visioning and movement techniques into her work. Her goal is to help people spend more of their time building things that make them and others come alive.
    Priya received her B.A. in Political and Social Thought at the University of Virginia, Phi Beta Kappa, and an M.B.A. from MIT Sloan and an M.P.A. from the Harvard Kennedy School, where she received the Public Service Fellowship.

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  • @lyricystx
    @lyricystx 8 ปีที่แล้ว +302

    Though I agree with many of the comments about the elitist aspect of this talk, I would like to share this quote “Adapt what is useful, reject what is useless, and add what is specifically your own.” ― Bruce Lee. Cheers!

    • @heathermoran9526
      @heathermoran9526 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      That was good

    • @alicetremain7366
      @alicetremain7366 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      This is a talk I keep coming back to, lots of concrete suggestions. Your quote is also apt.

    • @RandyMercurio
      @RandyMercurio 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks for commenting this. One of the first people outside my family to be influential as a kid. Still have posters of him around to remind me how amazing he was.

    • @danijelajovanovic3202
      @danijelajovanovic3202 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      0000

  • @BrianAndersonTT
    @BrianAndersonTT 5 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    1) Imagine what you want your obituary to sound like by imagining all that you want from life and work backwards from your death.
    2) Recall, with the help of those who know you best, the times you felt most alive. Draw them into a comic strip.
    3) Get prepared for this drastic life change by doing uncomfortable things, mostly via social awkwardness.
    4) Define your life motto that is at the heart of all that you believe in and want.
    5) Figure out exactly how much cash you really need to survive by looking at your monthly expenses. (I personally advise that you factor unpredictable events also).
    6) Learn what you like to do by helping solve various different challenges others are facing.
    7) Have your friends hold you accountable by announcing your deadline to make the big change.

  • @OokamiKageGinGetsu
    @OokamiKageGinGetsu 8 ปีที่แล้ว +146

    Forget the Backward Elevator test. Instead, be the last person to walk into the elevator, face everyone in the elevator and say, "I've gathered you all here today is because one of you. . . is the murderer."

    • @WhoWouldWantThisName
      @WhoWouldWantThisName 8 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Haha, love this idea. My kind of humor.

    • @politereminder6284
      @politereminder6284 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      😂😂😂😂 This comment has made my day. Total deep belly laugh 😂😂😂😂

    • @heathermoran9526
      @heathermoran9526 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Lmao.... Good one. I walk in public with a feed the children red nose

    • @tradingstar9176
      @tradingstar9176 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      XDXDXDXD

    • @hopefulkitty
      @hopefulkitty 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I would love to do this if my boss is in that elevator.

  • @marktcoxlife5610
    @marktcoxlife5610 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I still come back to rewatch this every few months. Anyone else? Helped me SO MUCH when I was preparing to quit.

  • @PrettyBossUNLIMITED
    @PrettyBossUNLIMITED 8 ปีที่แล้ว +75

    I'm glad I watched this even after reading the comments. Regardless of income, she drops some jewels

    • @neoadviser8056
      @neoadviser8056 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Just wonderful, I have been researching "goals for 2016 ideas" for a while now, and I think this has helped. You ever tried - Farnicaas Switcher Capitalisation - (just google it ) ? Ive heard some pretty good things about it and my partner got amazing success with it.

    • @richardjackson7612
      @richardjackson7612 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@neoadviser8056 by

  • @stephdee2711
    @stephdee2711 7 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I have heard so many successful people and my mentors mention these principles. They all had a moment where they stopped and made the decision to step away and restart their lives.

  • @tripod_of_Life
    @tripod_of_Life 9 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Solitude is the best thing for recreation it helps you to know your true inner being.

  • @curiousgeorge555
    @curiousgeorge555 11 ปีที่แล้ว +92

    Maybe I'll "quit my life" and move into a van down by the river and then follow my dreams.
    Seriously!

    • @Slurmp-bn3hz
      @Slurmp-bn3hz 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      That sounds nice!
      I dream of going back home to Bac Ninh in Vietnam
      (I was adopted and raised in Canada)
      Or maybe I’ll go to Japan

    • @aussernllc
      @aussernllc 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I've considered it

    • @levity90
      @levity90 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Just out of curiosity, did you?

    • @curiousgeorge555
      @curiousgeorge555 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@levity90 Yes I did! Biggest mistake of my life.

    • @kasunrajapaksha4108
      @kasunrajapaksha4108 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@curiousgeorge555 Hai, what do you mean by biggest mistake.
      Did you really moved into a van down by the river?
      Did anything went wrong, what did you do after moving to the van.

  • @goosebump91
    @goosebump91 8 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    i don't make much money and i still find some of her suggestions helpful. When there's a will, there's a way. It might not lead you to the best path you want, but at least you get to walk your own crafted path. Life is short. I'd rather take a shot at something scary but meaningful than to get old and regret how i spent my life.

  • @3GRealty
    @3GRealty 10 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    My only criticism of this talk is the "dwindling cash" hack. Most people I know that want to quit their life/job are already living on a Top Ramen budget. I think Ms. Parker forgets that the audience isn't necessarily her typical client and we don't come from Harvard and MIT or have high paid corporate jobs. Most people need a reboot because not only does the soul sucking job also leaves them spiritually empty but financially broke as well. Otherwise she gives a very valuable lesson.

    • @SeanWork
      @SeanWork 10 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Basically everything she talks about is summed up in the movie Office Space :).

    • @Kobac1990
      @Kobac1990 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Come to the comments to find this one. My thoughts exactly

    • @mathildedieujuste3673
      @mathildedieujuste3673 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Qqqq

    • @themaroon3521
      @themaroon3521 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Fr fr

  • @random-accessmemory9201
    @random-accessmemory9201 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I just quit my job, I badly need this right now. Thank you very much Priya.

  • @lorenl9262
    @lorenl9262 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Kudos to you for this very inspirational speach as I am a 50 year old single male who has never married, never had any children and have never owned a house. I stand here and ask myself where my life has gone and if I am truly happy with the position I am faced with!!!!!

  • @v.dembsey3355
    @v.dembsey3355 7 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Lots of answers to be had by asking at any given time, "What would I do if I wasn't afraid?" It doesn't tell you HOW but it atleast reveals WHAT. It's often an easy and rather clarifying first step. Her observations of so many restless professionals reminds me of the George Carlin quote, "They call it the American Dream because you have to be asleep to believe it."

    • @devyn5174
      @devyn5174 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      V. Dembsey I totally agree. She was definitely speaking to a certain demographic (she isn’t talking to people who have gambled their savings away, or are in massive school loan debt, etc). She is talking to people who are passionless, who often don’t even know where to BEGIN in liking a job (else they would have pursued their passions long ago.) Based on who her target demographic is, she should have included the clarifying step as you suggested.

  • @RickoH_NZ
    @RickoH_NZ 8 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Finally! A Ted talk with some useful tools for change! Thanks Priya Parker!! :-)

  • @onnylei
    @onnylei 8 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I think it's sad how much negativity arises from positivity. The lady never says this is the "be all and all". Thank you Priya for your time and advice.

  • @Jen5667
    @Jen5667 9 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    I'm surprised this talk has so many negative comments. I think it applies to people unhappy with their lives, regardless of income level. If you're unhappy with your life, your job, your income level then do something about it. I think this is a good talk and it has some practical tips.
    Also, the speaker said that this talk is specifically relevant to the 'swing voters', therefore if you're comfortable and you've accepted your lot then you won't identify with this.

    • @Patrick10271995
      @Patrick10271995 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Guero Smith you're definitely right. internet is like gold mining field, before you get the golds, you have to deal with a lot of **** people.

  • @raghav3093
    @raghav3093 6 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    If you are poor and unemployed, just remember - the investment banker in the shiny Mercedes is feeling absolutely miserable

    • @mathewbuchner199
      @mathewbuchner199 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Take it from me, finance is not all it’s cut out to be. Focus on happiness.

    • @Nikthehermit
      @Nikthehermit 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      They are still human...

    • @WNCHSTR
      @WNCHSTR 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      But wouldnt u rather be feeling miserable in a shiny mercedez than poor and unemployed?

    • @vijaygovind2134
      @vijaygovind2134 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@WNCHSTR Point.

    • @SuperAlphaKirby
      @SuperAlphaKirby ปีที่แล้ว

      @@WNCHSTR it's the work that makes them miserable. Don't get me wrong, ik being poor sucks, but working all your life just so that you can ride lambos isn't that shiny either.

  • @janaepatricewalker1598
    @janaepatricewalker1598 9 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    I'm a little surprised by some of the negative comments about this video. I do believe that a lot of Priya Parker's advice is geared toward privileged people (ex. being afraid of eating alone and staring at folks in an elevator to test one's discomfort threshold are what I'd call First World Problems). But this advice can be applicable to average joes like us too. It's not a frivolous nor elitist pursuit to make one's life more meaningful. People blame debts and bills and obligations for keeping them stuck in lives that are numbing or suffocating. But what were any of those student loans or houses or children worth if one's life revolves around fear? Making the radical choice of discovering and working toward your passion, while uncomfortable and scary in the short term, will lead to greater reward and a richer life in the long run. It's a shame the folks who might benefit most from taking a few positive risks, namely the folks thumbing this video down, will never take the leap and will continue to be miserable.

  • @lovetrustandpixiedust
    @lovetrustandpixiedust 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I like that she offers actual hacks and techniques instead of just giving a fluffy speech.

  • @carrielauer8913
    @carrielauer8913 6 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    This was a great talk and the timing is perfect. I am not in the higher level income, but I am newly unemployed, 64, and looking at what I really want to express in the world.

  • @marybarton2011
    @marybarton2011 10 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    Brilliant. People who are fearful and insecure are hating on her. What she is saying is to find inspiration and like what you do. Yes, most of us are too afraid to face a little hardship to pursue it.

    • @anthonybaldwin9215
      @anthonybaldwin9215 10 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Not hating .... she is an idealist .... thought provoking but without merit on a mass scale. That's an amazing concept: "You disagree with me therefore you are a hater." LOL

  • @coolmaandude
    @coolmaandude 10 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    Wow... there seems to be a lot of fear ridden people commenting here. Unfortunately the fact that they are so fearful prevents them from accepting they are or even being able to see the depth of the conversation this lady is having through her talk.. :)

  • @lancelot1953
    @lancelot1953 9 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    This is a powerful lecture, I thank TEDx for making these lectures available free for the community to enjoy, to benefit from and to help make this world a better place to live, Thank you for all the videos that you are sharing with us, Ciao, L

  • @victoriawawrzyn
    @victoriawawrzyn 8 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you, thank you, thank you! Couldn't have come at a better time. So many of us are numbed, paralyzed by fear.

  • @lilliemonroe8959
    @lilliemonroe8959 9 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    one of the best seminars I have listened to all year!!! Amazing!!!

  • @ChrisM-tn3hx
    @ChrisM-tn3hx 10 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Lots of people have a ton of passion. Just no money to actually follow them LOL.

    • @kenportnoy6525
      @kenportnoy6525 10 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      If you have passion and capacity to address a perceivable need then the first application for that passion and capacity is finding the money. People with huge money are willing and able to support passionate pursuit of need fulfillment, both for-profit and non-profit. If you lack the personal capacity to grovel effectively for lucre then you lack the capacity to address the need and gotta find a different focus; a need within your capacity. Its the combination of fervent passion with real capacity that gives sense to Parker's paradigm.

  • @ScottLRoyal
    @ScottLRoyal 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Inspiring and wonderful. Re-booting is a choice, one that any of us can make, if we decide to divorce ourselves from our loyalty to the way things are or have been, in favor of what they may become if we would reach beyond our comfort zones. Live beyond our comfort zones. The beauty of Priya's presentation is that she lit a giant green light encouraging us to dare to believe and to leave behind what we were taught to be and become what were meant to be.

  • @Prostitution1O1
    @Prostitution1O1 9 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Reading TEDx comments and slowly realizing how much uneducated individuals comment.
    She promotes happiness in others and fulfillment in life, changing your life doesn't have a requirement. You don't need to be rich, or have X amount of commodities, just a perception.

  • @mobk9774
    @mobk9774 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Priya - your talk stirred emotions within me and brought me to tears. One of the best and most useful TED Talks I've listened to. Thank you from the bottom of my heart and please continue to inspire and share your knowledge. You could be the reason for inspiring the next great contributor to humanity

  • @dirtymartini27
    @dirtymartini27 9 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    this rebooting idea sounds exciting in theory but many many of us cannot financially afford to push pause on the world & find our talents & start from scratch. Thanks for the inspiring words tho, I made some affirmation flash cards that will go up in my room

  • @KuduBal
    @KuduBal 10 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Not death by PowerPoint, very refreshing!
    Very good speaker until the last word.

  • @pauldeakin4730
    @pauldeakin4730 7 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    4k in 4 weeks. Is not that she thinks you need 4k to live, it just an easy way to explain her point. It makes me sad to see all the haters comments. Why leave a comment, why even watch the video if you don't like her ideas? We don't all have to agree on everything but there's no need to be cruel.

  • @azzumbajohnson3995
    @azzumbajohnson3995 8 ปีที่แล้ว +76

    I found the talk to be excellent and never noticed any lip smacking. I think the advice she shared could be applied to anyones situation as she shared seven different tests with the obituary, comic strip and elevator tests having nothing to do with money. I am only commenting because she or her people may scan the comments and I want them to know that I did find value in the talk. The glass is half full and we can take control of our own futures.

    • @cityotter
      @cityotter 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      +AZZUMBA JOHNSON OMG you're lucky! I really want to watch this, but the dry tongue lip smack sound is curdling! just awful! drink some water before giving a speech for god's sake! hope i can make it through. . .

    • @favoritefrontrangehomes7235
      @favoritefrontrangehomes7235 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Nice talk.
      Doable steps.

  • @fluffynamedkimba
    @fluffynamedkimba 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    she is fantastic. thank you so much for posting this.

  • @teawithal3uml3lel3ee
    @teawithal3uml3lel3ee 9 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is one of the best Ted Talks I've ever seen. She hits the nail on the head about bringing clarity to your life. I also love how she says things in the universe take time and space to evolve, so basically don't beat yourself up. And omg people who are saying this is unrealistic, that is advice for people who do have good incomes, for them to realize that they actually can live on less.

  • @travellearn3931
    @travellearn3931 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This interview is so underrated. This should have way more views! Great 👍🏼

  • @annenjambi8579
    @annenjambi8579 10 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This woman is a genius!!! Such profound insights expressed in such a practical manner. These are ideas definitely worth spreading.

  • @irinarudnev3188
    @irinarudnev3188 10 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    It is probably the most profound TED talk I have heard in the last few years! Thank you.

  • @jobhawkanxi5285
    @jobhawkanxi5285 5 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    I quit my job to start a business. it failed, now I want to die.

    • @isaactt5302
      @isaactt5302 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Failed because you gave up?

    • @nehaagarwala5713
      @nehaagarwala5713 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      You don't need to want to die. By default we are all set to doom the day we are in the womb.
      Fail your failure to succeed in your pursuit. Don't treat yourself special.

    • @valegio_ch
      @valegio_ch 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      How you doing now? Goes a year you quit your job.

    • @chrissterling7857
      @chrissterling7857 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Don't die. Start again.

    • @januarysson5633
      @januarysson5633 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Isaac Tt What an awfully judgmental and assuming thing to write.

  • @TankenkaNeko
    @TankenkaNeko 10 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    An axiom I'm particularly fond of: "Why be safe? Safe is what everyone else is doing; look where it got them." ~ D.A.Kelorii

  • @normafrancisco5923
    @normafrancisco5923 10 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is just what I needed to hear. I could not figure out how I was going to find the time to do what I really want to do. Now I'm inspired to break free. I've been self employed before and can do it again. Thank you, Priya

  • @StickAndPotato
    @StickAndPotato 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I am so speechless on her speech. This is exactly what I needed to hear right now. Thank you so much Priya!

  • @dealundquist5649
    @dealundquist5649 8 ปีที่แล้ว

    This woman is exellent Tells you to find out what is making you to feel alive! What is the biggest need in the world that you might have the passsion and the capacity to adress? What is my passion? What is happening in the world? You do not need a fortune to survive and you still can help others! If you have real friends, than you are a happy creature! Find a menaing in your llife! It helps you to be a better human! Mee too: Thank You Priya!

  • @RebootGirl
    @RebootGirl 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is the very reason why I started vlogging, I have done a lot of life and even business reboots and wanted to share my experiences.

  • @seancampbell9689
    @seancampbell9689 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Absolutely amazing! Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us!

  • @The_Queen_Chrysalis
    @The_Queen_Chrysalis 9 ปีที่แล้ว +74

    I was expecting something I could use, but apparently this is just for super rich people. I have maybe 400 dollars per month for spending after bills, and that's only if I'm not running out of anything, if I was that's about 200 down the drain, so I have 200 dollars to work with, so about a good 2/3rds of this talk are impossible or pointless for me, and makes the whole process worthless when I can't do most of it. They need to relabel this ted talk with an added "If you're rich" or "if you're well off" because this was a waste of my time as a normal person.

    • @EverythingElectronic
      @EverythingElectronic 9 ปีที่แล้ว

      You probably have: an internet bill, cable bill, rent/mortgage, cell phone bill, multiple vehicle bills, multiple insurance bills, other misc. bills regarding entertainment, monthly expenses on unnecessary/dangerous medicines...
      You probably don't: sell things on ebay/etsy/farmers markets, run a website, run a business, experiment, brainstorm, solve problems, create prototypes, craft, build things...
      Try to minimize bills and take up extra income, find a way to make some money on the side, preferably something you can find joy in. If you do all of these things, it is quite practical to save up lots of money. Maybe you need to get out of a mortgage and into a trailer home...

    • @1too3fore
      @1too3fore 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      dude, you only live once. Doesn't sound like you're going for it. For example, there are very successful chefs who own several restaurants who absolutely love to cook and started out as line cooks making almost nothing, probably less than you but they didn't care. They used the time to do what they loved and soaked up everything they could to eventually build something themselves. This is also true for lots of other people who follow their passions in life. If you don't have a passion, then you're a dead and lifeless fish. Find your passion and stop whining about your life.

    • @The_Queen_Chrysalis
      @The_Queen_Chrysalis 9 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Love how everyone assumes I have the time to do all these things, I work, I run errands, I sleep, and repeat. The cost of living in america is incredibly high, and full times jobs are paying less and less. My full time job only pays 9 dollars an hour, that's normal here, I always hear about jobs that pay much more, but have yet to actually see one open.

    • @Jen5667
      @Jen5667 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      There are many immigrants that arrived in NY with nothing, but they managed to change their fortunes and those of their children through sheer hard work, using their strengths and creating opportunities. Why can't you do that?

    • @Cirebocaj
      @Cirebocaj 9 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      I especially love all the replies recommending that you live out of your car, stop paying for a phone or any type of internet, and somehow manage to sell things on ebay, etsy, and at the farmer's market....... How is one to do such things without means of communication, room to create products to sell (somehow) online, or land to grow things to sell at a farmer's market while maintaining good health and a full time job? Something tells me this comment thread is rife with highschoolers and college freshmen.

  • @frankfurlacker5219
    @frankfurlacker5219 7 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I don't like life and I never will.

    • @navneettrikha918
      @navneettrikha918 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      same here...Em atheist too.

    • @v.dembsey3355
      @v.dembsey3355 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Ah, then you're not making lunar landings in your life because what's not to like about those? If you told me you're a permanent resident of Fallujah then I might nod. Create a life supernova ala experiential learning, i.e. places like Choice Center in Vegas.

    • @derellrassy4832
      @derellrassy4832 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      me neither wish I wasn't born

  • @joycemawak2649
    @joycemawak2649 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    So true! We are cheating the future of what we are able to give because of our darned fear!! It took me years to develop my discomfort muscles. I have been driving Lyft now for 4 years and the numerous encounters I have made with almost 1500 passengers have helped me do what is awkward and uncomfortable and scary. I still need to do more to get where I am supposed to be. I am not "there" yet.

  • @aokiohyeah
    @aokiohyeah 9 ปีที่แล้ว

    love that she makes the initiative to make us wna try different ways to discover ourselves. thanks priya!

  • @melisateoh
    @melisateoh 10 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for sharing insights from your research and presenting a well structured approach.

  • @robinmahan8198
    @robinmahan8198 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    excellent, she has an excellent speaking flow and a powerful lesson.

  • @SarkisDallakian
    @SarkisDallakian 11 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Excellent talk, thank you much for sharing. It's very important to plan ahead and make sure you can find a better life, before you quit your job.

  • @wrenska8378
    @wrenska8378 9 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Aren't these talks for us to take something valuable from and incorporate into our own life's ? Aren't those talks for us to become better selves?
    Aren't these talks for us to stretch our own personal boundaries/minds, overcome fears and to get into a new place within ourselves?
    Lets be grateful for the talks given to us for free. Why do we criticise something that is positive? Are we criticise enough negative aspects that happens in this world?
    Don't we all deserve to have a better world we live in? ........and frankly, does it matter what clothes one is wearing??....Is it not of a greater importance what point a person is actually trying to convey?
    Why do we frame people? Why are we not letting people to be themselves accepting them as they are with no judgment?
    Everyone has their own truth and there are many messengers out there...lets listen? :)

    • @american11asshole
      @american11asshole 9 ปีที่แล้ว

      It's free too!
      People are stupid.

    • @k1w1fruitz
      @k1w1fruitz 9 ปีที่แล้ว

      Well said!

    • @confuzler6985
      @confuzler6985 9 ปีที่แล้ว

      Renata Uznanska yes, yes, yes,because it is fun sometimes, yes, no, no, yes, because we can, because we like judging others and sometimes, its fun online, ok.

    • @paxora7820
      @paxora7820 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ***** Hard to live without hope :) You have a more than 50% chance
      of being correct Anglekan. We kill zillions of cows, chickens, pigs
      to eat everyday (I'm no vegan) and many humans too, thru legalized wars.
      WAR is legal!

    • @Wutzthedeal
      @Wutzthedeal 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Renata Uznanska I am thankful to live in a country (which I have also honorably defended) in which criticism of anything free is still allowed. Why is it necessary? Because these people are selling ideas, and those ideas can lead directly to changes that affect you and society, worldwide. If we find a problem with their message or presentation, we owe it to them and those interested in comments to try to help them fix something if they agree it was wrong/a mistake or we can suggest that we do not agree with somebody's ideas and find them dangerous/incomplete/mistaken/etc. Can you imagine an America where you could only criticize things you paid for? Spooky stuff.

  • @christopherjohnson8469
    @christopherjohnson8469 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    if you're stuck in the past, keep in mind that if made all the decisions you think you should've made, you could still have ended up being miserable.

  • @varunkapoor1721
    @varunkapoor1721 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    Most Exhilarating talk on career and having a meaningful life.
    Thank you Priya!

  • @WWLions1
    @WWLions1 9 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I really love this.... awesome.
    I am all in; I completely agree.
    Two thumbs up!

  • @cary236
    @cary236 10 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great, concrete exercises to help individuals who are interested in starting over in their career and life.

  • @ruthannma
    @ruthannma 10 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Excellent--------
    And, there are ideas for all, even if some don't want to implement everything!!

  • @sophiadavis4546
    @sophiadavis4546 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    At the 7 min marks, how to.....instructions to quit and reboot. Great plans, lessons,effective and powerful

  • @maiyenish8552
    @maiyenish8552 10 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Comedian at 13:00 = C.K. Louis?
    No. She said the comedian QUIT A PRESTIGIOUS JOB. Louis was an auto mechanic in Boston before moving to Manhattan in 1989. He was fired as a director. He follows Carlin's work ethic of rewriting material every year. CK's life has been one big reboot!

  • @AngieAngie995
    @AngieAngie995 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I am about to quit my job, sell up my home and hit the road. I don't have a degree or a vast income. Im just the wrong side of 50, feel I haven't met my passions head on and want to see where I end up. I won't be doing all these steps as I am pretty ok with being out of my comfort zone. I think the less money you have, the easier it is to quit your life. Maybe some people do need a highly paid life coach to convince them...for me, it was being pressured and manipulated in my job and the constant groundhog day feel that each day brings which has lead me to take the leap. Im ok with that :-)

  • @sagek7949
    @sagek7949 10 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Wow! Amazing lecture ! thank you!

  • @lcarthel
    @lcarthel 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks for the excellent advice, Priya. It was all very helpful for me personally. I'm a creative, visual person so I particularly liked your idea of sketching life out.

  • @phoebeluzs.santos5950
    @phoebeluzs.santos5950 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    very interesting, timely for my needs, very helpful! Tbank You

  • @angeltraegerocana5238
    @angeltraegerocana5238 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I had a profession but my life took a radical change, now I don't know what to do...That is why I'm watching this video.

  • @satchelyork
    @satchelyork 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I followed my passion, took the risk and became an artist. now I'm unemployed, have a toothache, and can't afford to go to the dentist. I regret not becoming a banker or lawyer now.

  • @jrdr1943
    @jrdr1943 10 ปีที่แล้ว

    Provocative and a help for kick starting a different understanding of how we want to live our lives. Well worth listening to and for some of us a push toward implementing the important ideas outlined in this talk.

  • @PrettyBossUNLIMITED
    @PrettyBossUNLIMITED 8 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    'Align the internal with the external'

    • @frankfurlacker5219
      @frankfurlacker5219 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      I don't follow that, i just exist and live off of others.

  • @pepecohetes492
    @pepecohetes492 11 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I had nearly a decade of off and on employment, unemployment, severely dissatisfying under-employment (in some cases I really had to bite my tongue at the abuse, in others I got fired), and even though I like what she is doing, to most of us, as you pointed above, it is impossible as we have to make a living.

  • @pepecohetes492
    @pepecohetes492 11 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The idea of looking back from your grave, is a real eye opener! The question is how to reboot? Very good food for thought, which might provide some answers.

  • @memollymaureen495
    @memollymaureen495 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Fantastic, doable tools to get out of comfort zone!

  • @cooltube3474
    @cooltube3474 8 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I'll try to build my muscles of discomfort...

  • @johnpaulgagne
    @johnpaulgagne 10 ปีที่แล้ว +76

    Step one stop spending $4000 a month? First I would like to make $4000 a month.

    • @MrSatadal
      @MrSatadal 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      this implies that this quit & reboot process is only for those who already makking good amount of money 😂🤣

    • @donne32701
      @donne32701 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Realistically..

  • @TheHDStation
    @TheHDStation 9 ปีที่แล้ว +144

    I have student loans and no degree. I can't reboot.

    • @ernstvieux7430
      @ernstvieux7430 9 ปีที่แล้ว

      Dan Mc Cann

    • @jameswhitmer1201
      @jameswhitmer1201 9 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      ***** I paid of 15K in under a year by cutting out everything in my life that is not necessary. 20K to go. Once I have the rest of it paid off I'm financially free and that means I get to do whatever I want. Maybe it's slow going but it's never hopeless.

    • @TheHDStation
      @TheHDStation 9 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      James Wagner​​​ I've tried that. I owe twice as much as you, and most of my loans are private bc the school lied to me and told me not to bother with federal bc my parents made too much. I make $20,000/yr (no degree), I live with my parents, and was still only able to save $6000 last year. I'm scared to apply that money to my loans bc if something happens i won't have the money to fall back on.

    • @lesliesanga5974
      @lesliesanga5974 9 ปีที่แล้ว

      ***** do you keep your options open on how to make money, as well as to help yourself get out of your debt DESPITE not having a degree?

    • @vivaloriflamme
      @vivaloriflamme 9 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      ***** Try workamping. Live in a van, move to where the jobs are, seek inspiration everywhere. Plenty of work in the oilfields and national parks. Travel light.

  • @ColargolPL
    @ColargolPL 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    To me this is a groundbreaker. I really admire this sharing. This said, I can't agree with statements like "there's nothing inherently wrong with investment banking" (for example). Well, there is, and a lot. There are many jobs which are surely useful for the particular corporations (that's why they are so well-paid), but useless (or often very harmful) to society in general, and to the world as a whole. And those frustrated cases of people doing those jobs just happen to be aware of it, or feel it.

    • @aditishahani5987
      @aditishahani5987 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ColargolPL i agree so hard with this. Finally someone speaking the truth

  • @josephmartyres9342
    @josephmartyres9342 10 ปีที่แล้ว

    Madam I admire you grasp, confidence and composure in delivery of the topic
    you were speaking on. You are truly beauty with brains and thanks for contributing
    you bit for making the world a better place for those lost in the humdrum of life.

  • @SuperSTARWARS4ever
    @SuperSTARWARS4ever 9 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    spending $ 4K a month WTF -
    I live off of $1200 Month
    Im too poor

  • @nato.musica
    @nato.musica 10 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great talk, Thank you Priya!

  • @tripod_of_Life
    @tripod_of_Life 9 ปีที่แล้ว

    I like your video. may be without knowing the techniques i am practically doing it . the technique you had mentioned was very practical & correct.

  • @Treeoflife139
    @Treeoflife139 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    She makes a few good take away points and has a nice presentation. I quit my life in 2005 , not easy but the alternative was just robbing me. A Quote from 'Blade Runner' "Hard to live in fear isn't it, that what it is to be a slave"

    • @josephine9862
      @josephine9862 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      The quote is "Quite an experience to live in fear, isn't it? That's what it is to be a slave."
      But you made a good point.

  • @BrianDornTFP
    @BrianDornTFP 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I've always been told that winners never quit and quitters never win.

  • @miguelcunha3843
    @miguelcunha3843 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    the thing about following our dreams and do whatever we want to, is that it's impossible for everyone to have a success story. So some of us can follow our dreams, and do whatever we want, others must do what the others dont want to do. I know what i would like to do for living but I may dont have the skills or the oportunities to accomplish that.
    Sorry my poor english writing skills

  • @WJav244
    @WJav244 9 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    It was all going sort of ok, it started like its on the right track, yes we all do live in fear of something so you can't disagree. But the more it went on the more it became something only for the wealthy eg 4000 a month (that shows),Priya has lived far too long in a well to do bubble.

  • @abcdefghijklmno66109
    @abcdefghijklmno66109 10 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    Between my home and student loans I'm over $100,000 in debt but only making $36,000 per year. Now add in insurance, food, gas, bills, etc I can't quit and just start another job making half. My degree is useless because I can't get a job in the filed without experience. This woman is acting like everyone can step away from debt and their cash flow. I can't take my wife out to dinner much less pay for a hotel room and go out with friends. I say make her live on minimum wage for a year and then lets see her opinion on stepping away from her current position.

    • @ddawson100
      @ddawson100 9 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Good point and I wish you good luck with those. The point she's trying to make here doesn't detract from that though. You should consider these questions even if you consider yourself a wage slave. The debt will be gone one day but your passions and the world's needs won't be.

    • @lisakimble8122
      @lisakimble8122 9 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      $100,000 in debt from school? that's just stupid. how is it people think it's OK to live beyond their means. if you have put yourself in that position, then don't have the option to quit your life. fix the one you have.

  • @drewa1999
    @drewa1999 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Incredible! Thank You! Can we pause the nighly news for a few days and just show this?

  • @AlexOBrienPE
    @AlexOBrienPE 10 ปีที่แล้ว

    I gaved myself of tour of Wisconsin U today. I used the elevator test to do so...It felt great :)

  • @ankitasood11
    @ankitasood11 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thankyou Priya! have noted down some 👌 useful points .

  • @tacitatacita
    @tacitatacita 10 ปีที่แล้ว

    I think students need to watch this talk. Yes, it sounds as if those problems are only felt by the rich people in the world. But actually, I think they are also experienced by the working class society, the working bees. I am an architecture student who is about to graduate in a year, and I have a lot of fears and anxieties in my mind about what I will be doing in my life. I might have the instinct deep inside that the values she talked about are true. But she puts it nicely, and structured, It gives me insights and ideas..

  • @mpradeep6250
    @mpradeep6250 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Philosophical questions Marketed using Harvard & MIT tag: of 1) what happens if you die? 2) try to be alone for a day (broken down to a dinner) 3) do something stupid (backward elevator) 4) face your fear (create one by singing in supermarket queue) 5) ask why? what & how 6) know what you spend and what will you need to spend & earn accordingly 7) Help others (will help yourself). Really surprised how marketing makes these fundamental questions (with fake accent) looks special :)

  • @scancool
    @scancool 10 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I been doing that most of my life and I can tell you I'm not happy, messing with people and put them in uncomfortable situations does not make your life any better

  • @flyingdutchman4you
    @flyingdutchman4you 8 ปีที่แล้ว +116

    "Lets say you spend 4000 euros a month", what planet is she living on?

    • @SteelRainz1
      @SteelRainz1 8 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      +The Right Stuff She's talking about people who have good careers who hate their jobs starting over. I'm actually in the process of it right now. Many people have families and they do spend their paychecks. So that was the example. Sure you may not make that much or more but it doesn't mean you can't do the experiment with 2000 a month or whatever you make.

    • @chamade166
      @chamade166 8 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      +The Right Stuff I spend more than that...it's all relative.

    • @dragonocero
      @dragonocero 8 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      +chamade166 I feel poor

    • @erfho8y
      @erfho8y 8 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      +Felania Soul i am poor

    • @chamade166
      @chamade166 8 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      The brain adapts to whatever money you're making. After you make enough to cover your home/food/bills/etc., money has little to no correlation with happiness.
      Studies of people who won the lottery prove that after 1 year they are essentially back to baseline with their happiness, mental health.
      If you're struggling to cover your monthly expenses, and sadly many people are, that definitely has have a negative impact.

  • @askafans
    @askafans 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    In my life experiences there are things I wanted to do and I have made it. When I try to connect the dot, I realised God has guided my steps. I will get what God has planned for me because there were I didn't manage because it just not what I am destine to do. We all will know it when we step back and look backward what had happened in our life and it happened the way it should be when God allows it.

    • @tonylimberg8624
      @tonylimberg8624 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you for your sharing...I think I am trodding my way and sometimes i don't figure out the meaning or the reasons between dots. I hope I can tell later on the invisible guidance by Him, on heaven like you mentioned.

    • @askafans
      @askafans 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      Tony Limberg Hi, Tony. You can write to me at choypeichin@gmail.com I have dreams and visions since 18. There were many dreams and visions come to pass in my life. Some were bad and some were good. I was guided by God in life to do what I was meant to be doing although the process was not what I hoping for but everything that happened to me was meant to teach me something. I am who I am now because of all the tough and challenges I have been experiencing. When I looked back I truly understand why people always say everything happens for a reason. Write to me and I will tell you more about God which I was guided by Jesus into church and being saved from darkness into light. I wish to share more with others.

  • @aerozg
    @aerozg 7 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Nobody mentions luck. I would like to quit my job and start my own business, but that comes at a cost. How will i finance myself while my business takes off? What if it doesn't take off? This risk also takes a toll, on your relationship(s), your family, your health etc. It's one thing to give inspiring talks, all nice and dandy, but to actually do it is a whole different game.

    • @Rinixzz
      @Rinixzz 7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      The thing is, you don't. You do not quit a job for a business. Rather you start it up as a side project, and if it becomes successful you quit your current job and work on your business by then.

    • @anonymoususer6334
      @anonymoususer6334 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      aerozg
      What do you define luck to be? It is an important concept, humans have considered, probably as long as humans have existed. How is it that an observable phenomena associated with positive and fortunate results can occur with regularity and frequency is considered taboo and unbelievable?
      Most commonly acknowledged, is the jealously negative internalization. "How come your so lucky, nothing like that ever happens to me." Very seldom do people admit to being or feeling lucky with any frequency, ashamed or embarrassed, though it is often remarked on by others how lucky they are--also negative internalization.
      Often luck is explained as receiving some benefit without reason or undeserved which coupled with random happenstance, "being in the right place at the right time." Also negative internalization.
      It's that these negatives are part and parcel to the internalized notion of luck that it does not receive the attention or consideration it should. But what if it was accepted in a different framework of rationalization? I suggest that it should and it is simple to do if one truly pays attention and accepts the resulting perspective. Ever notice how "some people have all the luck" or "a person can have a streak or run of luck." Do you ever consider that luck is not only possible as a positive result but can also be a negative one? That some people are just unlucky?
      If it's Real and can be Good or Bad, and often occurs in serial progressions. Then perhaps there are causal factors, which is the point of this narration: Luck or the acronym LUCK is Labor Utilizing Correct Knowledge. Often casually observed results are the product of intentionally pursued goals. What appears easy, random and undeserved actually involved work, persistence and research or planning. That this is far more often the truth, than common perceptive.
      One who hopes for luck when its needed is doomed to fail. One who relies on LUCK and seeks to find it is destined for success. Nobody mentioned luck. Peace

    • @fig4159
      @fig4159 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      aerozg - Go to the Search bar. Type in NAPOLEON HILL. Listen to everything you find - repeatedly. And message me on my channel if you have any questions 😎

    • @anonymoususer6334
      @anonymoususer6334 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      +Julie Figueroa
      I first read "Think and Grow Rich" in my early teens and became a fan instantly. Your right, repeat often for best results. In my own experiences, I found that often will apply 3 or 4 principles at any time based on current needs and challenges becomes either tunnel vision or temporary amnesia. Most are so simple to implement and utilize but easily forgotten when not in use.
      It's been decades since I've read that, may need to dust off the hardcover. (-;\

    • @fig4159
      @fig4159 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Anonymous User -And if you can't find it, you can download it free OR stream it on TH-cam (as an audiobook). 😁 Did you know there are ENTIRE CHANNELS here devoted to motivational audio books?!? Well, there are!!! I hardly watch TV anymore...no time for junk.

  • @ColargolPL
    @ColargolPL 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    To many commenters: Yes, she is speaking mostly to the rich, privileged, basically financially secure people. Yet the rest of us can still learn several things from that address.For example, that earning all the money in the world doesn't necessarily make you happy. Or even, make you feel like you belong.

  • @andreafife2362
    @andreafife2362 10 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I have found as someone who did reboot their life that this is exactly how I did it.

  • @clariceism
    @clariceism 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is very good talk

  • @nomadictravelerfromTx
    @nomadictravelerfromTx 8 ปีที่แล้ว

    I quit and rebooted in my early 20's and I'm so glad I did.Come see my journey......

    • @Onlinesully
      @Onlinesully 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      nomadic traveler
      Good for you man. Well done.

  • @mushymcsquishy
    @mushymcsquishy 10 ปีที่แล้ว

    great advice.

  • @raytheonorion
    @raytheonorion 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I need to watch this again. Dense.

  • @jackiebenjamin642
    @jackiebenjamin642 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    All you folks complaining about debt should take personal responsibility for your situation. Sounds like quite a few people are living above their means. Enjoyed the talk. Hope the presenter ignores all the unwarranted negative comments.