Through the lens of compassion everything changes | James Doty
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- James R. Doty, M.D., is a clinical professor of neurosurgery at Stanford University and founder and director of the Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education. He is the author of the bestselling memoir/self-help book called Into the Magic Shop: A Neurosurgeon's Quest to Discover the Mysteries of the Brain and the Secrets of the Heart. He is just about to publish his second book, Mind Magic: The Neuroscience of Manifestation and How it Changes Everything, which is the main topic of today's episode.
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Dr Doty’s last comment/advice is so true and helpful. Thank you for a great podcast!
@@sayaakiba5414 so glad it helped!
Great interview! Dr. Doty is someone everyone should listen to! Thank You both!
Totally! I agree :).
For those of you who struggle with self love and worth here is what clicked for me:
Love the LIFE inside of you, see it as the wonder it is, marvel at it and you will, I hope, find yourself in the magical realm that is life itself. For me “self love” was some impossible psychological trick until I understood that “my” life is just part of LIFE. Then it clicked.
Beautifully said.
Amazing interview! So deep and insightful... Thank you for sharing your knowledge and expertise, Dr. Doty, and Dr. Steindl, much appreciated 👏
Thank you! It was a real treat to get to chat to Dr Doty and soak up his wisdom!!
Really liked the way dr steindl interview dr james doty..he gave space for dr j doty to answer it very clear way without interrupt it..and all questions are worthy..👍🇸🇬🇸🇬
Thanks so much for your kind words!
Thank you for your program, and the interview with dr James Doty. I am learning compassion. Dealing with elderly parents. Also broken yought. But i am helpfull and give lots of love and compassion! Its sometimes not easy. My love is real. Suffering home a lot . But doing the wright thing
And so much greatfull ! Thank you so much from belgium ❤
Thank you for your kind and encouraging feedback. And thank you for all you are doing in your family and personal life!! It sounds like a lot, but your commitment is strong and you are doing great work.
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Just great. Thank you for the interview. Iv been listening to the audible, 'Into the Magic shop,' - most days for years just an hour - my psychotherapist recommended it. I was looking forward to listen to his new one. Mind magic. Enjoying it...
Thank you! Yes, Dr Doty offers lots of great insights in the pages of those two books :).
I became very deliberate a month ago - I saw clearly that to get the life I want I have to want the life I have. And that meant doing the work of shedding… everything turned around so fast the bliss actually scared me. Then two days ago I woke up with Bells Palsy. This is too specific to me and my stuff but I absolutely believe this arrived as the opportunity I need to face the shame I am ashamed of having - the shame for the things I wouldn’t do today to save or preserve anything.
I miss the life I lost to being an asshole and I am so afraid I’ll never be able to build something beautiful again.
But I want to and that’s a sign I’m caipable
Thank you. Such a powerful story. And you are really showing the strength and courage one needs to manifest the life they want. Good luck! And I am sure you can get there 💪.
@@jenmdawg you’re definitely capable. Your comments sometimes channel higher power, just saying 😂❤️ Some of my best friends are assholes. 🤷♀️
Thanks much for this beautiful interview❤🎉
Thank you for watching and I am so glad you enjoyed it!
Thanks
I would love a one-to-one session with Dr Doty.
He mentioned that he was not “living in his car” … I am living in my car the last 5 years 😂😮. I have top 1% IQ, and as high as is possible on “openness” trait. I am also 95% on “agreeableness”. All I ever wanted to do was help people. Sometimes you don’t get reciprocated with that. Just wanted to point that out. 😐
Hi, and thanks for watching and offering your thoughts. Sounds like you’ve been going through some tough times, despite some real strengths and positive qualities. I hope things turn around and head in the direction you may wish for. Thank you for pointing that out. Sending you compassionate wishes.
Hey! I agree with you. I am highly intelligent and compassionate parson like you, and no reciprocation is part of my story as well. I have experienced it last week, this week and many times before. Yet I agree also with Dr Doty. Helping and giving to others can make us feel happy and satisfied
Several days ago I helped a homeless woman, who turned rude to me despite my several help attempts to her. I felt hurt although I knew that the homeless lady was not mentally right. Yet my hurt didn't stop me from using another help opportunity to her, Then the same day I had the opportunity to help a mentally normal stranger, who was deeply grateful. That made my day. Yes, no reciprocation many times, but we still can attach a good vibe to the experience as we did the right thing and relieved a person's suffering to a certain degree. We can still feel good about ourselves when we look back at it after years. Not having helped would not have made us happy.
@@drstansteindl Wow, thank you 🙏🏻 ❤️!!!
Stop helping people and help yourself because nobody else will.Help animals instead they are grateful and no evil in them!Good luck!
In another interview he said "I lost everything but I want to make it clear I wasn't homeless or anything I was a neurosurgeon still making more then 99 percent of people" well that's be nice because I had an absolute shitty absuisive horrible childhood, then had kids and actually was homeless living in a fln tent in the summer with 3 kids while my hsband was enlisted on the military!!! Whew glad neurosurgeons are taken care of, fuck the military though they can all live on cardboard boxes 😂
Very good interview thank you
Thank you! Glad you found it useful :).
I know that the material you are teaching would be more effective to me if you gave examples from your own life. What brought you to realize all that?... that, to me, would be more empowering for understanding the principles that you are talking about... not just as theories but in practical examples from your own experience . I have only listened to 13 minutes on this one but also saw you in another interview with Marianne Williamson and that pulled me in. But still, to show how you came to what you know thru your own life will be so effective, I feel. Wishes for continues success and happiness on your journey.
Thanks so much for watching! You might be very interested in Dr Doty’s first book, Into the Magic Shop, where he does just what you have suggested. In fact, that first book of his is a memoir that dives very courageously into the realities of his life and how he discovered his teachings. Also, just in case you are interested, my TEDx talk also explores my own personal journey into compassion and self-compassion, and I’d be delighted if you felt interested in watching that. It’s only about 16 min. th-cam.com/video/fBlZzElO42Y/w-d-xo.htmlsi=iKqd-3dDCkyphbtW
Thanks again! Stan.
@@drstansteindl Thank you for your helpful response and I shall listen to your Ted Talk tonight! 🙏🌺🌱
@@drstansteindl I just listened to your Ted Talk and it was real and authentic for sure. Very helpful. I also listened further than 13 minutes to your interview with Dr. Doty. Yours was definitely personal and that people can connect to. Dr. Doty, after a while started talking about his journey which was more down-to-earth and more interesting to listen to. (In fact, I saw him at the edge of emotions and then he seemed to push them aside because of who he is - a friend of the Dalai Llama etc... and being a neuro surgeon). But to make a difference, depending on who the audience one is intending, it is so much better in my opinion to make it real and authentic rather than lecturing or advising. Maybe he is still 'work in progress' re his journey. To unfold and emerge is not easy and is scary. I would have asked him whether the manifestation he managed to do, if he would have been better off without it, for e.g.. Maybe he can advise about that - to both combine the inner work with the outer manifestation but also relate it to his journey. My thoughts! and I do not mean to intrude. As an interviewer. it would be a good idea to challenge them with compassion when they pontificate so they may come back to earth and talk to us humans in a real way that would help us relate and understand. Thank you for connecting and listening - compassion is a challenging one... and self compassion is so very important ... to have true compassion (and not condescending compassion) for others, it will be very natural when one works on their own suffering. So you are heading towards the right direction and I wish you all the very best! Thanks again for the opportunity.
This is incredible and total truth!! It confirms a lot for me and the compassion I feel for others, as well as other relevant items noted.
Thank you! Yes, Dr Doty is incredible :).
Superb interview 🙇🏼♀️
Thanks! Glad you liked it :).
Really insightful !! The logic of equanimity makes so much sense.
thank you for the video.
Thanks David. Totally! Calmness and composure!! And thanks for watching 👍.
Hey,the feelings are deeply and sincerely mutual. Believe that you bastards
Theres nothing wrong with wanting physical items like a nice car or a nice house. Using the moralistic terms "self serving, narcissistic" is totally out of line when describing someone who simply wants a perfectly legit thing, be it a Ford Fiesta or a Porsche, a 1 bed flat or an 8 bed house.
This guy is literally just describing "the secret", but using slightly different terminology, so as to lend himself an aura of authority - to sell a book that doesn't really add anything practical to the subject that hasn't been described in dozens of existing books. He is just saying the same thing, maybe with a weak reference here or there, his book isn't the "antithesis of the secret".
He, in fact, is the narcissist - not those applying the "law of attraction", ie. those attuning their mind to that which they want (rather than that which they don't want), and didn't need his advice on how to do so.
Thanks for taking the time to watch and consider the video, and for your comprehensive comments! I agree there’s nothing wrong with physical items, as you say. And it can be very powerful to attune the mind in a way that helps us to achieve the life we want. Thanks again!
Is there a cure to being to compassionate. Too much empathy
This is a brilliant question and a tricky one to answer. For me there might be two parts to it. The first is the importance of wisdom in compassion. Taking wise action is key. What is it that would be helpful in this situation, rather than harmful? There are a number of "near enemies" of compassion, such as pity, taking over, knowing what's best etc. The second part is the importance of balance across the three flows of compassion: compassion for others, receiving compassion from others, and self-compassion. Jack Kornfield once said, "compassion without self-compassion is incomplete," and I think there is also a lot of wisdom in that. So it is really important that we make sure our own needs are met in order to sustain meeting the needs and offering compassion to others. We could spend hours diving into your important question, so that's just a couple of thoughts. Thanks for watching and commenting!
@drstansteindl That was some very wise words indeed. And very helpful. If i gave myself, even half the compassion I give to others, then maybe I wouldn't get taken advantage of by the usual, emotional vampires. Your perspective, was an approach, I didnt even think of. Thank you so much! My kindness, is no longer a weakness👍
I stumbled upon “pathological altruism” as a term and it saved me from giving everything away out of my discomfort for having something when another did not.
Im sorry you dont believe in God,you are teaching his very lessons,Dont let your left hand see what your right hand is doing,God Bless You
Thank you for watching and offering your thoughts.
What the hell is this fellow is saying that is new. No offense but he is really boring.
@@karenhansen4770 Oh! Well, no offence taken, I guess. I find him quite interesting, and his books are great. But each to their own :).
You devils with a smile
I pity your rotten hearts
ive found its tit for tat . if you buy one the other comes with it
Thanks for your thoughts :).