carmy invites sydney to ever | the bear season 3
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- i need someone smart to tell me what the hell they just communicated in that silence because they really do speak their own language
so so many questions.... what's really stopping sydney from telling carmy about the offer? what did carmy really want to say? why does that sauce on the plate look like the scarf sydney is wearing??
sorry again for the mess, that's me trying to bypass copyright
Scene is from The Bear Season 3 Episode 9.
Carmy: a brilliant and caring man who's so riddled with trauma that he's destroying himself and the people around him. A truly tragic character. 😢
"Caring"
@@sitaro1207Carm is an asshole, and got his problems, but he is definitely caring. You can see it, he just keeps fucking himself up and pushing people away with his self destructive behavior, but he does care about everyone.
Whose he destroying?
Eh he’s also building people up around him and himself. Being healthy isn’t like a thing you do where you do it and then you’re healthy. Healthy is usually just trying and usually failing at five things and succeeding *maybe* at one thing. and by that ethos they’re all coming along
@@Ambereighmostly himself, but Syd had a panic attack at the end of episode ten because Carmy’s running his kitchen like a tyrant. He’s constantly freaking out about the pace they’re moving at and fighting with the other chefs. Syd is considering leaving The Bear to be the sous chef at a different restaurant because of this. He’s putting Syd through what Chef David put him through, even if he doesn’t realize it.
I think one of the best details is when Carmy is telling her how he doesn't want to be difficult, he says it more like an order she has to accept and when he stares at her she immediately summits like saying.... "yes chef"
Anyone who supports the idea that Sydney should move to that new place with that "Ever" chef, i'm just gonna remind yall that season 3 confirms that HE was the one who always leaves the smudges on the plates and blame it one everyone else back in season 2, he's not a better alternative to Carm he is gonna be WORSE
Good point
That loud mouth nerd will pay her better and give her medical insurance so i understand why she is considering it . Plus at lHe looks like at least already dealt with his baggage or at least capable of controlling it and we can't say the same with Carmy now
I actually don't like that guy and I really hope Sydney doesn't decide to leave Carmy and his gang of Chefs because they are her cooking family....Even though they are a very dysfunctional family, they are still a family and she is a big part of that family now!
i was thinking that!
Such a juicy ! Clocking ! Bravo bravo 👍🏼
Oh how did I not see this?
The dish carm's working on *looks like Syd*
The sauce looks like Syd's scarf
@@Keesha_Hardy -- I noticed that, as well. If Carmy does hold repressed romantic feelings for Syd, sadly, it would be best for her to run the other way. At this stage of the story/the character's life, he's far too emotionally damaged to offer anything other than emotional trauma. Syd grew up in a loving and emotionally gentle home; she's not prepared for the sh*t storm Carmy would drop on her head.
@@eme.261Well, the good thing is that he has taken one big step imo by confronting his abusive ex-boss in S3E10, so hopefully he’s on the path of continued healing & growth. Neither of them are ready for one another, despite Sydney’s upbringing being an emotionally gentle one in comparison to Carmy’s. Sydney is pretty guarded due to her mom’s death (maybe?) and other things that we have yet to know, but I hope they delve into.
When ever Syd tells carm she is thinking about leaving it's going to crush him 😢😢❤
How he starred at that sauce that was unconsciously inspired by Sydney's scarf. Saying im going crack it eventually. Yeah dude youre in love with Sydney and your trauma is keeping you from fully enjoying life with her.
Antis about to come over here and get severely frustrated idc idc
Especially when I say even claire was used as a distraction from enjoying a partnership with Sydney.
@@neonrays28 Thank You for saying that , I was thinking 🤔 that ! Somebody is fixing to go crazy replying 😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣
@keelajones5733 yeah I saw on Twitter she wore different versions of polka dot scarves throughout this season. Definitely meant for her - she also wore a polka dress for marcus mom's funeral...
@@neonrays28 Also he is really trying to get a ⭐ Star for her. Because that is what she wanted.❤️
I mean... like I know I'm not crazy 😅😅😅
Honestly don't understand how people are hating Carmy so much. His bad choices and the way we are invited to understand the path he followed are exactly the things that make his character interesting. He is not a bad guy, he is a product of trauma
Everyone in that kitchen has trauma. He's the only one who doesn't seem to be growing with it and takes it out on other people. It's draining
@@othelliusmaximusShall we go down the list, one by one, and discuss how each character has a support network which caters specifically to their way of doing things, which helps them process their trauma and be their best? There were two people who didn't, Carmy and Syd. Syd had similar terrible habits to Carmen and as she connected more with other members of staff, she flourished and outstripped Carmy in her maturity. Carmen has Sugar, sure, but their conjoined damage puts a wall between them - this might change now that Nat's started to connect with their mum, but who's to say. The whole point is that he's stagnating because he thinks he's strong enough to endure it, but he isn't, because he's been trying to escape it his entire life. It's an exploration of what that damage does to people, not "Hey, look at this one guy and how badly he processes his trauma." Jesus christ.
@@GoldnDusty and none of that is anyone else's problem. Nor an excuse for taking it out on his staff.
Understanding the reason someone acts badly doesn't mean you have to like the fact that he acts badly. You can have sympathy for him while also not liking who he is today - even if he is putting work into being a likeable person in the future?
And he needs to get it sorted out
The fact that they zoom in on that sauce is crazyyyyyy. Just like ep 1 szn 3...... they are telling us a story with that plate. Storer needs Jesus for gaslighting the sydcarmy fans😂😂😂
Interesting way to ask her out on a date
He wasnt asking her out on a date lol
Ppl can't be friends with the opposite gender apparently
You shipper types are delusional
@@Coolhandchris5 right, I agree. He just asked her to be his + 1 to a funeral.
It wasn't
If food is love and Carmy invites Syd to Ever...
oh my god i didnt catch the sauce part- these two are going to kill me. i think they're endgame, but carmy is so stupid he's literally throwing her and her talent away
I assumed the sauce thing was that it seems like it should be an emulsion, but it's splitting. Could be totally reading that wrong though.
@@Aluc1d I can understand that. I do feel like if it was because the emulsion was broken, he wouldn’t have been staring that hard.
Do they really want Sidney and Carmy to have a romantic relationship, considering all the emotional issues Carmy has? He needs to sort out many things on his own before he can be in a relationship. I'm not sure if they can make Carmy progress in just one season, especially if it's supposed to be the last.
@marianag.5 yeap we really think so- they're at least going to end on a hopeful now.
All the people hating on this season have a - never dealt with mental illness or b - really didn't pay attention to the first episode at all. Not all moments are perfect, but I love how slow this season was, how they tried things, and how so much of this show centred around "reviews". That this meta context is going over your heads is just bizarre
Oh yes I discovered all thw meta context and it made me fall in love with season 3. It will definitely be the season people look back in and see it wasn't bad at all
i know people complained about “nothing happening” or things feeling unfinished, but that seemed so clearly intentional! if the next part does what i think they’re trying to do, i think people will be able to look back at this season and appreciate everything it set up.
I agree. I see this season as reaching plateau or stagnation in concurrence to both the restaurant’s status and the staff’s. Carmy’s non-negotiables are primarily the cause of their lack of profitability, his refusing to cut down on waste because changing the menu every day is non-negotiable, his refusing to make substitutions despite Richie’s insistence is non-negotiable, his contradictory approach to using more with less while wasting food through R&D is non-negotiable. These are things than can be fixed through one variable, Carmen. I think the Bear will close for good once season 4 begins because Uncle Jimmy is anything but flexible, and nobody should blame him for doing so. I also think Sydney should branch out and work with Shapiro and have Richie tag along, we all know that Richie and Carmy are further apart than ever. I don’t know about Marcus, Tina or the rest of the Bear’s staff, but they were improving through Sydney’s leadership far more than Carmy’s. At some point Carmy needs to figure out how to climb out of the hole he dug up and that there’s more to life than perfection or proving something to nobody.
And boy, did the Faks contribute nothing relevant to the season or what, well aside from pleading to Claire Bear.
Carmy’s behavior here is so depressing.
I hope Syd takes the job and puts herself first for once. Panic attacks are no joke….she needs to make her mental health her priority.
Welcome to Carms life. He’s been suffering from panic attacks since we first met him. And if Sydney is getting panic attacks and too much pressure here. She won’t be able to handle it anywhere. Don’t forget no one wanted to take a chance on Sydney except Carmy. She owes everything to Carmy
@@philliesfan3414 she doesn't owe him anything.
@@philliesfan3414You are such a weirdo for this character. I see you comment on anyone who critiques Carmy.
@@laurenj6802 because it’s stupid to constantly play Syd as the victim like she isn’t fucked up in her own right. She has authority issues along with abandonment issues and short tempered. Everyone forgets she stabbed Richie in season 2 for no other reason other than he was being an asshole
Yeah ... Syd sucks. She may be creative, but doesn't have what it takes to be CDC of a Michelin restaurant. Taking the job would be her demise.
They have something.. tht we needed to exploit
Exploit or explore?
Let's not exploit. We only need to explore it
You're telling me that these two aren't in love?
@@drewforsyth1993 Thanks , Because I really think so, but we are going to find out in season 4 , if she leaves !!!
they 100% are lol
They're not though. Marcus is all over Syd, and Carmy inviting Syd is him investing in his best chef's future.
Just like he did with Richie and Marcus by sending them to, surprise surprise, two other Ever related chefs (one of which being Chef Terry).
Carmy is deeply invested in his success as a chef, moreso than anyone else. On the flip, he doesn't want anyone dealing with the same trauma he's been put through, especially Syd, his best chef and one of his main partners.
Two people of the opposite sex can be invested in each other's success without being romantically attracted to each other, especially when Carmy is an inherently awkward person.
Also you noticed , she is the only one he keeps apologizing too❤❤❤
Grow up. Every sexy romantic thought is about Claire. He says very clearly about Claire, not Sydney “she’s peace”. He invited her to the Ever party as a work colleague. They arrived separately because it wasn’t a date. He didn’t engage with her and he just her left her there. If you think that’s romance or a date or love, then you’ve got a massive problem.
@@FarmerJAB you the one that needs to grow up ,he doesn't give 2 f...s about Claire or he would apologize or answer his phone, In Truth he is all about Sydney , just wait and See 😂😂😂😂😂
@@keelajones5733. I assume you are very young and very very inexperienced. You certainly don’t know a damn thing - so look this up... the actors themselves have shut down rumours of a romance between Carmy and Sydney. They themselves have said “no”. Several times. Use Google. There is a difference between who you have fondness for at work and you fantasise over sexually. Who are you having sex with in your dreams - for Carmy that is Claire. You’ll understand as you mature or when you take your gooey-eyed goggles off
@@keelajones5733Carmy fantasises about sex with Claire. He thinks about her kiss. The sexy intimate skin-touching thrill of being in bed naked with Claire. He thinks of sexual intimacy with Claire. With Sydney he thinks of the kitchen and cherry reductions. You’ll understand later.
@@FarmerJABHe had a panic attack last season (S2E9) and the first clip we see him freaking out about is him having sex with Claire, so I wouldn’t say that he’s fantasizing about that.
Also, right after this scene in this video, he goes into the fridge & it’s like he’s going to try to call Claire & apologize, but he says it out loud and doesn’t call her instead. Then as he’s leaving the fridge, he hears Claire’s voicemail telling him she loves him and he closes the walk-in door, cutting that thought off, like he’s closing the door on that relationship or something.
I don’t know, we’ll see what happens in the next season, but I feel like if he really wanted to be with her again, he would’ve reached out to her before the 9th episode of the 3rd season.
I’m not shipping him & Sydney, but it’s interesting how easy it is for him to apologize to her compared to anyone else in this show. He didn’t even apologize to Richie until Sydney told him to. I think that’s what OP is pointing out.
"I dont want it to be so hard to keep up with me"
I could just hear the "is that all?" From sydney but she just waits, gives up and leaves the room. Carm probably forgot what he was gonna say or thats literally all he has to say lol.
No you can tell he wants to say more
Guys, this is just a classic Head and Sous relationship. The Head is always some hotshot chef with the world on their shoulders. They're ALL difficult to keep up with, and not always for skill reasons. Carmy is an amazing, talented, and total beast of a chef. Time spent under him is time learning how to reach that level. But he has HUGE flaws that are apparent to everyone. He hyper fixates on details to the detriment of the business. He would rather get a star at any cost than find a rhythm that works for the restaurant. There are other ways to successfully run your restaurant and he chose the hard way. Charlie Trotter changed his menu every day and he fucking died of a stroke at 54. I think Sydney is torn. She has to defend his decisions to the rest of the cooks, and she's probably the one to get most of the prep done to execute this bullshit.
Yes, she's tempted to accept Chef Adam's offer to become a CDC, but maybe she feels like she's not there yet. Maybe she's not ready to stop learning from Carmy.
But also maybe she's not sure if she buys into this Marco Pierre White bullshit of pushing cooks to insanity. It's a tough decision to make, IDK what I would do myself.
What's the song called that starts playing at the end?
Quee n of the eye rolls..
Working there you'd have to be.
He sucks. 😢
Why?
No, he's just in pain.
Who in the hell eat meat like this? Looks raw.
People with an IQ over 20
@TheMilkman000 don't be rude.
Yeah, it never looks appetizing to me, either.
Sydney is an interesting character and honestly portrayed but she would be a nightmare to work with. She constantly undermines Carm and pit him into corners. Carm is having a nervous breakdown and she’s not helping. Syd’s idea of helping is sitting on top of Carm’s shoulders whispering into his ear all the things he’s doing wrong.
Carm’s litterally begging for help and Syd walks away from him. Syd isn’t willing to be a leader and tell him what’s on her mind. If she is so broken that she can’t have a difficult conversation with him because it’s too stressful she’s in the wrong industry. She needs to say “Carm, I’m leaving.” or start working as hard as he is.
They will probably write away Syd’s failures as a leader in season 4 but watching from the beginning she’s never been anything but the weakest link in that kitchen.
Why does everyone hate Carmy? Because he’s the only one upholding the standard. Syd signed up for this, to turn around later and say it’s too hard is galling. Syd should be the one upholding the finest standards, instead she’s a wet blanket of insecurity.
Wow.
The Carmy hate driven by the writers has been the most frustrating part of S3. They’ve completely upended his character and personality to suit a narrow and woke agenda.
what woke agenda? I agree his character has been making a lot of poor choices, but in the context of the show that concept doesn’t even apply. There’s nothing woke about subpar character writing
Carmy’s personality hasn’t been upended, he’s unfortunately behaving somewhat like his abusive ex boss. If you notice, this whole season has shown how he has picked up things from each of his previous bosses, including Chef Terry. The good thing is that Carmy is not a narcissist like his abusive ex boss & will acknowledge his wrongdoings.
He’s been present physically, but stuck mentally in the past with Claire, his mom, his career thus far & it’s gonna take him some time to get through this period. It doesn’t mean that the writing is woke or subpar.
Oh no! Not Woke! 😢
@@dr.badass702half of you people just spit shit out your mouth, don't even know what woke is and overuse that word way too much lol
Wtf are you even TALKING ABOUT??? 🤦♀️🙄🤣😂🤣🤣 I think this show is wayyyy too advanced for you. Go watch your cartoons, chap!
Please remove her from this show 😭
Wtf why
Find a different show
@@hwykidddThey never have a good reason why.
Please remove yourself from your computer and go touch grass.
Nah I’d stop watching if she left