I'm 22 years old. I've never had a GF, and A lot of it is due to social anxiety and fear of rejection. Kam is right; I have to get over it and put myself out there
same here bro, I've been working on that part of my life and I'm able to hold a conversation with a girl its just initiation and approaching that I need to work on. I also used to have many insecurities, which I coped by thinking I'm sigma or something luckily I faced these issues head on.
Getting a girlfriend is the hardest thing in the world to do. Extremely hard as hell. I just turned 30 and never once was lucky. I tried taking care of my hygiene, doing different and exciting things, widening my social circle and approaching women. And still can't get one. Some men are just born with the skill and gift to get any woman they want. Some of us are dammed for life. Just the way it is in life.
You are 100% right. There is nothing more difficult than that. I tried everything and nothing. I have fixed everything in my life on all levels and this is the only thing I cannot change. There is no specific reason, I'm not even ugly, but it still doesn't happen. I'm living an absurdity and I can't explain it to myself, especially not to others.
There is approaching, but that takes forcing yourself. Why can’t they do the work. The second option is at least trying the strip club to get experience at least, I did it.
@@homiesenatep Prostituição é o caminho da desistência, o caminho do fracasso, fique longe da prostituição, amigo. A prostituição vai lhe prejudicar aos poucos.
Tbh the only way for a girl to approach u first is she gotta be really in love with you and tell you how she feels about u and some females would approach you first and some would wait on us to make the first move.
Probably 99.99% of the time they're never going to approach us. Even, if the women really really like you, they are too shy, women like to sometimes be loud and flashy, but when it comes to serious things, like actually really feeling emotions, they will go so shy, they would rather hide and never say they like for your whole life. We Men must make the move.
That’s not how it works, a girl walking up to you and literally talking to you will never happen. that shit is rare , it’s a 3% chance it’ll happen every once in awhile. 100% of the time.. it’s you that has initiate the convo .
I've done approaches as well in gym, cafes but after getting a girls number or snap, the first thing i noticed is that they don't add you back instantly even if you had the best conversation with her. You come home, the day passed and she didn't even accept ur insta request. M not saying we should crave and get crazy for this. But the reality is they have other boys in the list, in DMs, snaps, everywhere, and me being the nice guy thinks oh, she might be busy or something but the real part, she is with some other dude enjoying her life and doesn't give a shit about us. This makes the thing to do approaches go down and i feel bad after that and avoid doing approaches seeing this thing..
20 yrs old, no friends, cousins don’t even wanna talk to me, never in a relationship, college is lonely and I don’t think it’ll change anytime soon no matter how hard I try to put myself out there people just aren’t interested in me I often wonder if there is something wrong with me
@@giovannimorgan8728 I also got diagnosed with MS last year as well but I was still continuing to grind and do the best I could considering the cards I was dealt last year. She also falsely accused me of strangulation and got me thrown in jail for 4 months so that way she could run off with our son because I told her if she was leaving me for another dude he was staying and then she went crazy.
This video was recommended to me. The reason why I'm single in my 30 years of living because I gave up with women around 22 years old. No women wouldnt give me the time of day. According to friends, they said I'm not ugly but I'm just super shy. I realized that chasing women is a waste of time. People say I shouldn't give up but I just wanted to stay focus, build my money, and leave the country and date overseas. Women in America dont find nerds, virgins and people under 6 ft. Attractive. All women want is bad boy persona just to pump and dump women.
I know I’m playing life safe, even tho I have no risk. I get told “bro you can pull anybody you want, you look the best out of the friend group,” and like fucking “bruh ima set you up, she bad and she might like you,” “bro she looking,” “bruh look at her, go talk to her.” I hear that shit all the time bruh. I’m confident as hell, but the moment any girl that I know I’ve made eye contact with before multiple times in that hour, I can’t do the shit I want. I gotta put my mind in a position of power to be able to talk to them, and because I put myself in a position of power, I just stop caring about them.
@@YaBoyJerichoI kinda get nervous in general, but for some reason I never struggled with eye contact. Matter of fact I purposely break it if I continue to hold it if the girl I’m talking to looks away too much
Both of y’all are completely right when it comes to the actual feeling of eye contact. It just sends a little jolt of adrenaline that makes you not feel your hands or your hand position, making you feel more awkward
Your the problem. Not to be rude but you this is on you. Good female friends probably would have set you up by now. Its either you have a problem with picking good friends or none of them actually fw you. So either way work on yourself, get some self respect and just focus on being a sociable person.
My boy you’re on point! I’m in my 30’s; still look young but feel old, not around women my age; I’m not social anymore. In my 20’s I had social circles and friends and I got women chasing me. Dating apps are not good anymore and let me tell you staying home won’t get you women. Enjoy your youth; it starts to decline after 35, when I say decline; I mean your opinions become narrow bcoz women are taken, too young or too old. Getting laid should be easy in your 30’s but getting a gf that connects with you emotionally is harder.
I will admit, I sometimes still feel like an incel despite having a girlfriend, well ex girlfriend now, mainly due to not ha ing had one until late in life, probably because I feel that my 20s were a waste, didn't have a serious relationship until the beginning of my 30s. It causes me to envy and resent couples out there younger than me, people who got to experience having a serious long-term relationship before I did and yes I know people will always say comparison is the thief of joy or don't compare yourself to others. But I believe it's always has been and always will be part of the human psyche, been that way since the beginning of time to feel upset and depressed when you feel you are not part of the norm. Because of that I feel like a forever permanent incel for all time, even when I did manage to get a girlfriend. So yeah even while I did have a girlfriend, I still felt like an incel. I don't see myself ever getting over this, it will be a pain and wound for the rest of my life. And I'm not afraid to admit that there have been times over the years I have hated being born male, because I know I'm not the only guy in the world that has this mindset, that men have to do everything in dating and relationships and seduction. Yes I know tons of people say what's the point of being angry and depressed over what didn't happen in the past or not? Well I'm entitled and I have a right to my mindset, I believe it's always been part of human nature or just the human psyche to always be sad and depressed or angry and resentful over good things that they wish happened to them in the past but didn't. I know I'm not afraid to admit I have had these thoughts, and I'm sure other guys have thought this way, we feel that if we had been born a woman, we would not have been single that long. Probably because women just have to exist and they are guaranteed attention and options from Men, that requires no skill or no social dynamics, no game or no seduction. because the way it looks like, guys, men, need to know or learn all of these social skills or social behaviors, talk and behave a certain way, have certain social behaviors, have certain talking and communication ability, have a certain lifestyle, because initiating interaction or approaching, leading, getting her attracted to you during the conversation or interaction, flirting, teasing, creating sexual tension, passing her shit tests, leading and taking the lead, leading the courtship, asking her out, planning and setting up the dates, is all social behavior based or social skills based, behavioral aspect based. Along with have a certain lifestyle as well, because men have the burden of building or sparking the attraction, it's like, a woman doesn't need to know how to attract a guy. Yes I know people will say don't compare yourself to others and don't worry about what other people don't have to do and I don't disagree with that, but I just get angry and annoyed whenever people say that women have to learn as well when the man is basically making everything happen for them so because of that I don't see how women have to learn anything about dating or courtship, attraction, because women basically are just passengers in the whole dating and courtship process, so I don't see how that requires any learning or training or practice on their end One person I remember I heard said that women need game as well which I thought was the stupidest thing I ever heard. So ya I still feel like an incel for all time despite managing to get a girlfriend eventually, and I still get irritated and annoyed whenever people and society say that men have it better than women do in the human mating game. I get annoyed when people say go see a therapist because it's not like a therapist can reset my life or have me start my life all over again. I spoke in a few other guys who feel the same way in regards to being forever angry and upset, sad, over never having had a girlfriend until later than normal, until late in life. Probably because guys and men to learn and know all of these skills, all of these social behaviors, talk and behave a certain way, act a certain way, walk a certain way or have a certain lifestyle, have a certain body, certain income, and more than that which I either don't know or forgot. Women are pretty much basically all set for just being born and just existing. Because being pretty and beautiful is not a skill and it doesn't require any learning, it's not a behavior that takes training. It just really feels me with anger and rage whenever people and Society have the mindset or still think men have it better than women do in dating or just human mating in general. I'll never forget what one guy said and this only added fuel to fire in regards to my anger and rage about the cards on dealt with for being born male. "Boo fucking hoo. We also don't have to go through child birth and we're strong as fuck. Testosterone gives us ambition + mental and physical strength that MANY (not all) women are lacking. Being a man has many benefits and with great power comes great responsibility. Stop crying about it and get your fucking shit together" Let's just say that pissed me off even further, got me so mad and angry, enraged, that its not appropriate for me to say what was going through my mind when i read that comment that pissed me off even further. Yes I know there's no such thing as fairness but I'm not afraid to admit that over the years in my life I've hated being born a guy or I just feel that it is unfair being born a man. Yes I'm aware there's no such thing as fairness, I just get very angry and enraged whenever people and Society still think men have it better than women do. I know I'm not alone in thinking this way in which I have the mindset in which I feel that if I was born a woman I would not have been alone or single that long. I like to think this way and I know that a lot of people agree with this and that is being born a woman basically guarantees you will always have options because you are on the receiving end of sexual attention just for being born a woman because it's often said that women are in abundance by default but men are in scarcity by default because for all time women are the ones that get pursued and hit on or sought after or get advances made on them and when you are in that position.
Life isn’t a fair game. We all know this. Most of them (developed countries anyway) spawn on easy difficulty But as a man that’s what separates the best from the weak. It’s good that you have found a relationship, even at your stage in life. If you never had one while young, it’s just an unfortunate stepping stone you had to go through to be the best version of you today. But it’s not all the women’s fault. Some of them are baseless, empty, shallow, and downright intellectually impaired, with nothing to offer but their bodies. And as men we still have to do it all. But it’s how the world has been designed and conditioned. You have many things going for you I bet. The dating game has been washed out for a long time. It’s not healthy to be angry and resentful over things that happened or didn’t happen. They will always be in your mind but you need to see the vision, and be able to live with it. Only fate can decide what every outcome is but you got the power to control those inputs.
@@ry_an. yeah it just makes me angry and resentful and I'm sure a lot of men who went through a similar life story like I did also have a mindset or mentality like I do because they have the mindset that they feel that if they were born a woman they would not have been alone or single that long because women have the luxury of always having been on the receiving end of sexual attention they are the ones that get advances made on them while if you're a guy you're never going to have women hitting on you or aggressively going after you
This video tells me that girls are like gods, they are 1000% smarter than men, they sense stuff and they notice even the tiniest things that men will never and they are highly intelligent when it comes to the dating world. Like is there an aspect where they are not that smart and aware about? Tell me please, what I am missing here?
Man Kam is the fucking GOAT when it comes to relationships and self-improvement. He has lots of common sense which some TH-camrs do not have. In this time Modern Era you need common sense over book sense
Yo the main problem is that the only thing I like talking about is sports and a lot of girls I meet don’t watch sports at all which is crazy to me. I think the problem w me is texting and sometimes running out of things to say and then the convo gets dry.
@darkmidnight818 Just read one of your older comments suggesting to another person to get a hobby/fap and how you don't like dealing with people, prefer to play video games with your cousin and that he rarely invites you places cuz you don't wanna go nowhere. Makes a lot of sense why you would give me that reply based on my suggestion. Sort yourself out and you'll feel a lot better.
I think social media is distracting us from the real world bro I even tried to talk to people especially girls and I ain’t gonna lie things went well for a good 2 weeks then about a month later they just stop being social to me and run to someone else and this happens every time and I’m a social person I love talking to people I been single all my life bro and I still haven’t found somebody I don’t know what’s wrong with people
It's too hard to get a girlfriend, I have severe social anxiety and there is no way I would have the confidence to walk up to a girl and make the first move. Like what I don't get about society is women don't have to do the approaching, they just stand there and wait, us men are pressured and expected to do the approaching, which I find very unfair and stupid. If a girl likes a guy, she should take initiative too and not expect the guy to do everything. Like what is the point of a girl liking a guy and waiting for him to approach, he might never approach her and she won't ever get with him. I just wish it was equal and both men and women approached each other. Like that's why it is so hard for me to get a girlfriend as a shy guy. I just started having a bunch of sex with girls and hooking up. I lost my virginity at like 24 years old just now to some girl. Like even hooking up was very difficult. A girlfriend is extremely hard to get, at least to me personally since I'm very shy and don't know how to talk to girls. Although I am not ugly, I am just average. But thanks bro for making this video, you are the best.
I really don't get what you're complaining about. If you were able to hook up with those girls and have sex with them, then you obviously have some sort of social skills. And if you lost your virginity, what's the big deal? There are guys like me who've never even had sex in their entire lives, and you're complaining about what exactly? You got what you wanted, so stop complaining that getting a girlfriend isn't easy. You don't know what that even feels like.
@@zfinesse Yeah but the thing is bro, I've never had a girlfriend myself, sex really didn't do much. I only hooked up with girls, I have never actually dated them. I am still very lonely. It's not just the sex I want, it is a relationship. I still have never had a girlfriend and believe me, sex isn't all that great, I mean it feels great but still I have poor social skills. Those girls did not love me, they just simply wanted sex and I mostly talked with them online. My social skills were really bad and I had to fake it and act like I have good social skills. I don't know how old you are but I literally lost my virginity not even that long ago at 24 years old so I was exactly in your shoes and I still am pretty much. I just wish we got love and attention from girls which I literally almost never have gotten.
@zfinesses459 Dude shut up, he knows exactly what it feels like to be alone, hooking up doesn't mean shit, Stop acting like you have it so hard, we all do,otherwise we wouldn't be commenting on here.
@@just_some_greek_dude ye I'm full of shit , I really do care , the thing is , every time I see theese self improvement vids I get mad because they be telling shit I already know
How can we make a friend group? I can’t meet new people because I don’t have a social circle, but I don’t have a social circle because I don’t meet new people. I think I could easily get a girlfriend now, but I don’t meet girls. I do quite a few things but I just don’t meet girls. Personally I think cold approaching is kind of weird and unnatural.
Once you get to a certain level some women will! Happened to me multiple times and I've seen women approach men. The last woman that approached me was at a club in Houston, she was walking in my direction and a guy started talking to her, she gave him the one sec finger and came up to me
Hello im 16 yrs old and i have no friends, i have friends in the past but the just leave my aside, i didn't know why and from there i tried to make friends or just hang out with other people but the always left my aside, the worts is that for example they plan to go out they, they dont invite me and the next day they ask why i didn't go out with them then i said i didn't know that you were out yesterday, the times they invite to go out they always left me aside, they almost didnt talk to me even if a im talking to them, other thing, all times that i ask them to go out they wasn't able to, always. There is another in here were i live is like people just dont want to be around black man or black person, in school they just sometimes make fun of u just out of know were, or they make a bad comment of you, or for example they say: "why you left my alone, im not black" i was there when someone said that, i defend my self but sometimes i just dont give him attention. Now days, i just spend time always alone cuz anyone wants me around so.... I dont know if i bother people without knowing or something and thats why anyone want to be around me or maybe i am a bad person and dont know it, it just sucks
The whole “life’s gonna pass you by” bit was real af. I’m 20 and not in college so I’m working full time. I’m not around anyone my age and have no opportunities to talk to girls. Gg
fr fr im feeling it now at 20. I didn’t make much of my middle and high school years bc of anxiety and now I look back like damn I missed out on so much and wasted precious time I could been so fulfilled
Kam I watched this yesterday abolsute heat your putting out their hope you’re doing well aside from TH-cam I spent 80 on that tiege Hanley ima see how it is and make the switch from cera ve hopefully I’m thanking you. Keep up with the videos doesn’t even have to be about looks or getting girls anything stay up bro
I already know why i have some kind of mental illness that gives me severe manic anxiety which makes me not wanna go talk to girls because they can Sense im crazy which i am AND I cant afford medicación because i have a mental illness AND nobody wants to give the crazy perdón a job in short i cant get a gf because im mentally insane so either i figure out how to stop being crazy without meds or in screwed
Something I know is that there is no "easy" way to do it. There is the proper way (guy asking the girl out) and the subtle way (shy guy waiting for the girl to make a move) Some shy guys think the subtle way will work because they fear rejection or are afraid that girls already have a significant other, sure I get that, but another thing is you're taking a risk either way, If you try the proper way you are risking getting rejected, but if you try the subtle way you're risking making her feel uncomfortable or nervous around you (depending what you say or do) that's something my best pal learned one time himself and I've tried to help him get over it
I know that simply telling somebody to have self-confidence is not useful. Even if you had the requisite self-confidence, you would have to know how to use it effectively, and that is a very nuanced thing.
A week ago I was on TikTok in the hallway. My crush walks by and says can I play too and laughs with her friend? Even though I wasn’t playing a game. This week she actually sat closer to me rather than her friend. But honestly I think she was making fun of me Idek though.
Good video, young man 👍🏽. You had touched on something when you brought up the healing part. Would’ve liked to see you elaborate on that. 💯 well put together vid 🤙🏽
@anaswoah I here yall. Just we were friends for over 10 years got together last year. Everything was good then all sudden just say we over and left and block me without closure. Like what about our friendship our history?
@@allhailzamasu69 bro accept that girls don't care. They act on their emotions what feels good for them at that moment. She felt like she wanted to suck another dude's d*ck. Forget her bro
hey bro, ive been kinda struggling to get a large amount of social links, i dont have close friends anymore, and i just stay at home all day cuz everytime i do try to hangout they forget or smth. What can i do to get invited to things and be more proactive if i dont know where to start?? I got some things in mind but every little helps
i get what your saying but man saying not looking for a girlfriend and hoping to find one by letting go and giving up on looking is like saying im going to stop looking for a job and ill wait and stop applying for a job maybe one will find me and hire me! haha thats dumb im sorry
As a Mexican dude, I don’t have a problem putting lotion on my arms, legs, knees, and elbows. I’d rather have clean and exfoliated skin than dirty, wrinkly, and dry skin
@@thedawginside I've tried everything I can think of nothing works for me. Every single woman i've ever tried asking out rejects me saying because I'm ugly, and not attractive enough to date them... I go to the gym, workout things like that. I've got an ok Job. I"m not where I want to be financially right now but I am working on that. Dating this day and age just is not worth it anymore.
I don't have any problems with approach or talkimg to them but the problem is. I don't know how to talk to them or how to attract them. So in short I don't the game when it comes of dating
Yes and no, if ur single at a older age (past 18) cuz girls hate u but u see they like every single guy including ur friends and leave u out it’s the worst thing ever cuz why go through life being rejected and treated like ur shit especially when most ppl have it easy to get in relationships. Tbh there’s no need to have a family cuz why commit to someone who’s treated u like crap like u don’t exist ur entire life and always give other guys attention and not u
Love the advice good video…hopefully I’m able to improve using your tips….I’m decent enough to make great convo…the only problem I have is self doubt..if I see a girl I like.I just immediately assume I would get rejected…getting into relationships are hard these days…girls Standards are too high
@@kb1248 nah lil bro you good don’t ever act on your feeling any girl that makes u feel like dat ain’t worth your time get your money up and hit gym they will come
Shout out to my single brothers out there. We in this together fr, God got us though🙏❤️💯
That’s facts bro
Fr thank you
God is good 🙏🏿
Agreed, we have God. gotta trust the process brotha
Absolutely bro god is good🔥🗣️
I'm 22 years old. I've never had a GF, and A lot of it is due to social anxiety and fear of rejection. Kam is right; I have to get over it and put myself out there
Take phenibut, kramtom , and test booster for your anxiety.
same here bro, I've been working on that part of my life and I'm able to hold a conversation with a girl its just initiation and approaching that I need to work on. I also used to have many insecurities, which I coped by thinking I'm sigma or something luckily I faced these issues head on.
I've recently turned 25 and same... still a virgin
There is literally no other way my guy, you have to try
Same I’m 21, I just hate the fact of embarrassing myself, I gotta get over that asap
Nah how did bro know I was playing mario kart this morning dawg😭😭
😂😂😂😂
That’s so random 😂
Getting a girlfriend is the hardest thing in the world to do. Extremely hard as hell. I just turned 30 and never once was lucky. I tried taking care of my hygiene, doing different and exciting things, widening my social circle and approaching women. And still can't get one. Some men are just born with the skill and gift to get any woman they want. Some of us are dammed for life. Just the way it is in life.
Lowkee it's even worse than going to grandmaster in free fire
You are 100% right. There is nothing more difficult than that. I tried everything and nothing. I have fixed everything in my life on all levels and this is the only thing I cannot change. There is no specific reason, I'm not even ugly, but it still doesn't happen. I'm living an absurdity and I can't explain it to myself, especially not to others.
There is approaching, but that takes forcing yourself. Why can’t they do the work. The second option is at least trying the strip club to get experience at least, I did it.
@@homiesenatep Prostituição é o caminho da desistência, o caminho do fracasso, fique longe da prostituição, amigo. A prostituição vai lhe prejudicar aos poucos.
@@o_ebrio I don’t know what you said but okay
Been single for all 30 years of my life. Don't see that ever changing and I honestly care less and less as the years go on.
r u asexual
Your life has just started and I'm gonna be 16 in a few months .
30 years old too and never been in a relationship.
@@tmcclone you can change that
@ForeverinSolitude-wt8mz try talking to women even if they reject you
This dude is saying real facts but he is also fucking hilarious.😂
This what your social circle look like bro ⭕
Tbh the only way for a girl to approach u first is she gotta be really in love with you and tell you how she feels about u and some females would approach you first and some would wait on us to make the first move.
Probably 99.99% of the time they're never going to approach us. Even, if the women really really like you, they are too shy, women like to sometimes be loud and flashy, but when it comes to serious things, like actually really feeling emotions, they will go so shy, they would rather hide and never say they like for your whole life. We Men must make the move.
@@_Michal_Michal_ yep make the first move and see how she feels and if she's not interested just move on.
@@jonathananthony2049 always watch out for any signs she likes you as well, frequent eye contact, standing close to you, asking questions etc.
That’s not how it works, a girl walking up to you and literally talking to you will never happen. that shit is rare , it’s a 3% chance it’ll happen every once in awhile. 100% of the time.. it’s you that has initiate the convo .
Speak for yourself 🙄 🖕
This dudes honesty is paramount , keep it up brother !!!
I've done approaches as well in gym, cafes but after getting a girls number or snap, the first thing i noticed is that they don't add you back instantly even if you had the best conversation with her. You come home, the day passed and she didn't even accept ur insta request. M not saying we should crave and get crazy for this. But the reality is they have other boys in the list, in DMs, snaps, everywhere, and me being the nice guy thinks oh, she might be busy or something but the real part, she is with some other dude enjoying her life and doesn't give a shit about us. This makes the thing to do approaches go down and i feel bad after that and avoid doing approaches seeing this thing..
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Haircut looks 🔥
Ive successfuly done it but it doesn't last long. So its a hit and miss with women but the main thing is if she gives you eye contact
For me they start talking nicely for few days then they eventually ghost me or block me
@@helloworld2054 thats exactly how it is some gay shit
20 yrs old, no friends, cousins don’t even wanna talk to me, never in a relationship, college is lonely and I don’t think it’ll change anytime soon no matter how hard I try to put myself out there people just aren’t interested in me I often wonder if there is something wrong with me
U ok now?
I never had a gf before. I see now 😔😭 25 and still a virgin
My wife left me for another dude 5 months ago and took our 2 year old son with her. Its been very painful and suicidal but I am trying. I am 23.
sorry to hear, that's female nature
Bro you have your son to live for he needs a strong dad which is what you have to be.
This genuinely makes me mad
@@giovannimorgan8728 I also got diagnosed with MS last year as well but I was still continuing to grind and do the best I could considering the cards I was dealt last year. She also falsely accused me of strangulation and got me thrown in jail for 4 months so that way she could run off with our son because I told her if she was leaving me for another dude he was staying and then she went crazy.
Womp womp😂
This video was recommended to me. The reason why I'm single in my 30 years of living because I gave up with women around 22 years old. No women wouldnt give me the time of day. According to friends, they said I'm not ugly but I'm just super shy. I realized that chasing women is a waste of time. People say I shouldn't give up but I just wanted to stay focus, build my money, and leave the country and date overseas. Women in America dont find nerds, virgins and people under 6 ft. Attractive. All women want is bad boy persona just to pump and dump women.
Few people tell me that I look like Henry Cavill (actor of Superman), and in my 30's, I'm still alone 😞. I must admit, that I am also super shy.
I know I’m playing life safe, even tho I have no risk. I get told “bro you can pull anybody you want, you look the best out of the friend group,” and like fucking “bruh ima set you up, she bad and she might like you,” “bro she looking,” “bruh look at her, go talk to her.”
I hear that shit all the time bruh. I’m confident as hell, but the moment any girl that I know I’ve made eye contact with before multiple times in that hour, I can’t do the shit I want. I gotta put my mind in a position of power to be able to talk to them, and because I put myself in a position of power, I just stop caring about them.
Fr bro, eye contact with a girl is so hard to do for some reason.
@@YaBoyJerichoI kinda get nervous in general, but for some reason I never struggled with eye contact. Matter of fact I purposely break it if I continue to hold it if the girl I’m talking to looks away too much
@@afriking you’re stronger than me, anytime a girl glances at me I get nervous. It’s just uncomfortable to me for some reason
Both of y’all are completely right when it comes to the actual feeling of eye contact. It just sends a little jolt of adrenaline that makes you not feel your hands or your hand position, making you feel more awkward
@@scooby8800 it’s just uncomfortable man, like it’s just a awkward pause of two people staring at each other with no true meaning.
I just don’t wanna look like a creep or a serial killer. Cold approaching in public always feels weird man.
Last girlfriend was coming up 3 years ago.
its not weird till u make it weird
@ lol I’m a big black man in Vancouver. I try not to make it weird but I’m fighting against a lot of perception off rip lol
bro called us disabled 🤣🤣
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Disrespectful fatherless behavior 😭
I have all of these down, not a single female sees me as anything more than a friend. I’m done honestly, I’m just done.
Your the problem. Not to be rude but you this is on you. Good female friends probably would have set you up by now. Its either you have a problem with picking good friends or none of them actually fw you. So either way work on yourself, get some self respect and just focus on being a sociable person.
My boy you’re on point! I’m in my 30’s; still look young but feel old, not around women my age; I’m not social anymore. In my 20’s I had social circles and friends and I got women chasing me. Dating apps are not good anymore and let me tell you staying home won’t get you women. Enjoy your youth; it starts to decline after 35, when I say decline; I mean your opinions become narrow bcoz women are taken, too young or too old. Getting laid should be easy in your 30’s but getting a gf that connects with you emotionally is harder.
I got so much to focus on , much bills waiting too be paid and trying to be the best possible man I can be … women is the least of my worries
I will admit, I sometimes still feel like an incel despite having a girlfriend, well ex girlfriend now, mainly due to not ha ing had one until late in life, probably because I feel that my 20s were a waste, didn't have a serious relationship until the beginning of my 30s.
It causes me to envy and resent couples out there younger than me, people who got to experience having a serious long-term relationship before I did and yes I know people will always say comparison is the thief of joy or don't compare yourself to others.
But I believe it's always has been and always will be part of the human psyche, been that way since the beginning of time to feel upset and depressed when you feel you are not part of the norm.
Because of that I feel like a forever permanent incel for all time, even when I did manage to get a girlfriend.
So yeah even while I did have a girlfriend, I still felt like an incel.
I don't see myself ever getting over this, it will be a pain and wound for the rest of my life.
And I'm not afraid to admit that there have been times over the years I have hated being born male, because I know I'm not the only guy in the world that has this mindset, that men have to do everything in dating and relationships and seduction.
Yes I know tons of people say what's the point of being angry and depressed over what didn't happen in the past or not?
Well I'm entitled and I have a right to my mindset, I believe it's always been part of human nature or just the human psyche to always be sad and depressed or angry and resentful over good things that they wish happened to them in the past but didn't.
I know I'm not afraid to admit I have had these thoughts, and I'm sure other guys have thought this way, we feel that if we had been born a woman, we would not have been single that long.
Probably because women just have to exist and they are guaranteed attention and options from Men, that requires no skill or no social dynamics, no game or no seduction.
because the way it looks like, guys, men, need to know or learn all of these social skills or social behaviors, talk and behave a certain way, have certain social behaviors, have certain talking and communication ability, have a certain lifestyle, because initiating interaction or approaching, leading, getting her attracted to you during the conversation or interaction, flirting, teasing, creating sexual tension, passing her shit tests, leading and taking the lead, leading the courtship, asking her out, planning and setting up the dates, is all social behavior based or social skills based, behavioral aspect based. Along with have a certain lifestyle as well, because men have the burden of building or sparking the attraction, it's like, a woman doesn't need to know how to attract a guy.
Yes I know people will say don't compare yourself to others and don't worry about what other people don't have to do and I don't disagree with that, but I just get angry and annoyed whenever people say that women have to learn as well when the man is basically making everything happen for them so because of that I don't see how women have to learn anything about dating or courtship, attraction, because women basically are just passengers in the whole dating and courtship process, so I don't see how that requires any learning or training or practice on their end
One person I remember I heard said that women need game as well which I thought was the stupidest thing I ever heard.
So ya I still feel like an incel for all time despite managing to get a girlfriend eventually, and I still get irritated and annoyed whenever people and society say that men have it better than women do in the human mating game.
I get annoyed when people say go see a therapist because it's not like a therapist can reset my life or have me start my life all over again.
I spoke in a few other guys who feel the same way in regards to being forever angry and upset, sad, over never having had a girlfriend until later than normal, until late in life.
Probably because guys and men to learn and know all of these skills, all of these social behaviors, talk and behave a certain way, act a certain way, walk a certain way or have a certain lifestyle, have a certain body, certain income, and more than that which I either don't know or forgot.
Women are pretty much basically all set for just being born and just existing.
Because being pretty and beautiful is not a skill and it doesn't require any learning, it's not a behavior that takes training.
It just really feels me with anger and rage whenever people and Society have the mindset or still think men have it better than women do in dating or just human mating in general.
I'll never forget what one guy said and this only added fuel to fire in regards to my anger and rage about the cards on dealt with for being born male.
"Boo fucking hoo. We also don't have to go through child birth and we're strong as fuck. Testosterone gives us ambition + mental and physical strength that MANY (not all) women are lacking. Being a man has many benefits and with great power comes great responsibility. Stop crying about it and get your fucking shit together"
Let's just say that pissed me off even further, got me so mad and angry, enraged, that its not appropriate for me to say what was going through my mind when i read that comment that pissed me off even further.
Yes I know there's no such thing as fairness but I'm not afraid to admit that over the years in my life I've hated being born a guy or I just feel that it is unfair being born a man. Yes I'm aware there's no such thing as fairness, I just get very angry and enraged whenever people and Society still think men have it better than women do.
I know I'm not alone in thinking this way in which I have the mindset in which I feel that if I was born a woman I would not have been alone or single that long.
I like to think this way and I know that a lot of people agree with this and that is being born a woman basically guarantees you will always have options because you are on the receiving end of sexual attention just for being born a woman because it's often said that women are in abundance by default but men are in scarcity by default because for all time women are the ones that get pursued and hit on or sought after or get advances made on them and when you are in that position.
Life isn’t a fair game. We all know this. Most of them (developed countries anyway) spawn on easy difficulty
But as a man that’s what separates the best from the weak. It’s good that you have found a relationship, even at your stage in life. If you never had one while young, it’s just an unfortunate stepping stone you had to go through to be the best version of you today.
But it’s not all the women’s fault. Some of them are baseless, empty, shallow, and downright intellectually impaired, with nothing to offer but their bodies. And as men we still have to do it all.
But it’s how the world has been designed and conditioned. You have many things going for you I bet. The dating game has been washed out for a long time.
It’s not healthy to be angry and resentful over things that happened or didn’t happen. They will always be in your mind but you need to see the vision, and be able to live with it. Only fate can decide what every outcome is but you got the power to control those inputs.
@@ry_an. yeah it just makes me angry and resentful and I'm sure a lot of men who went through a similar life story like I did also have a mindset or mentality like I do because they have the mindset that they feel that if they were born a woman they would not have been alone or single that long because women have the luxury of always having been on the receiving end of sexual attention they are the ones that get advances made on them while if you're a guy you're never going to have women hitting on you or aggressively going after you
Millions of men die lonely every day all round the world, no one is special, just lucky.
This video tells me that girls are like gods, they are 1000% smarter than men, they sense stuff and they notice even the tiniest things that men will never and they are highly intelligent when it comes to the dating world. Like is there an aspect where they are not that smart and aware about? Tell me please, what I am missing here?
Being a ho is smart? Why do you think males dominate leader positions lol
This is the best response to the “I don’t have a girlfriend” trend that I’ve seen.
This guy makes so much sense.
Man Kam is the fucking GOAT when it comes to relationships and self-improvement. He has lots of common sense which some TH-camrs do not have. In this time Modern Era you need common sense over book sense
Yo the main problem is that the only thing I like talking about is sports and a lot of girls I meet don’t watch sports at all which is crazy to me. I think the problem w me is texting and sometimes running out of things to say and then the convo gets dry.
Dating sites suck in general..you have to figure out how to keep the conversation going without being boring.
I'm losing hope bruh I can't even get girls but if I'm not nice I get completely overlooked and ignored I'm also dark skinned and 5'6
The biggest reason is I’m not very social with people and I’m kind ugly.
Raise your mindset higher bro
And? Get your body game up? Get your money up? Get the self esteem up.
@@Takashii85🤡🤖
@darkmidnight818 Just read one of your older comments suggesting to another person to get a hobby/fap and how you don't like dealing with people, prefer to play video games with your cousin and that he rarely invites you places cuz you don't wanna go nowhere. Makes a lot of sense why you would give me that reply based on my suggestion. Sort yourself out and you'll feel a lot better.
Valentine's day nowadays is the most useless holiday in existence
social anxiety is a fucked up thing
I think social media is distracting us from the real world bro I even tried to talk to people especially girls and I ain’t gonna lie things went well for a good 2 weeks then about a month later they just stop being social to me and run to someone else and this happens every time and I’m a social person I love talking to people I been single all my life bro and I still haven’t found somebody I don’t know what’s wrong with people
in a talking stage but im still finna watch
Same
Ive been in countless talking stages
I bet we all wish we could be absolutely perfect specimens.
To become the best version of you
@shawnsdank3624alot of us are either short or have disabiltoes that make that actually imbossible god hates us
It's too hard to get a girlfriend, I have severe social anxiety and there is no way I would have the confidence to walk up to a girl and make the first move. Like what I don't get about society is women don't have to do the approaching, they just stand there and wait, us men are pressured and expected to do the approaching, which I find very unfair and stupid. If a girl likes a guy, she should take initiative too and not expect the guy to do everything. Like what is the point of a girl liking a guy and waiting for him to approach, he might never approach her and she won't ever get with him. I just wish it was equal and both men and women approached each other. Like that's why it is so hard for me to get a girlfriend as a shy guy. I just started having a bunch of sex with girls and hooking up. I lost my virginity at like 24 years old just now to some girl. Like even hooking up was very difficult. A girlfriend is extremely hard to get, at least to me personally since I'm very shy and don't know how to talk to girls. Although I am not ugly, I am just average. But thanks bro for making this video, you are the best.
I really don't get what you're complaining about. If you were able to hook up with those girls and have sex with them, then you obviously have some sort of social skills. And if you lost your virginity, what's the big deal? There are guys like me who've never even had sex in their entire lives, and you're complaining about what exactly? You got what you wanted, so stop complaining that getting a girlfriend isn't easy. You don't know what that even feels like.
@@zfinesse Yeah but the thing is bro, I've never had a girlfriend myself, sex really didn't do much. I only hooked up with girls, I have never actually dated them. I am still very lonely. It's not just the sex I want, it is a relationship. I still have never had a girlfriend and believe me, sex isn't all that great, I mean it feels great but still I have poor social skills. Those girls did not love me, they just simply wanted sex and I mostly talked with them online. My social skills were really bad and I had to fake it and act like I have good social skills. I don't know how old you are but I literally lost my virginity not even that long ago at 24 years old so I was exactly in your shoes and I still am pretty much. I just wish we got love and attention from girls which I literally almost never have gotten.
@zfinesses459 Dude shut up, he knows exactly what it feels like to be alone, hooking up doesn't mean shit, Stop acting like you have it so hard, we all do,otherwise we wouldn't be commenting on here.
@@cityscrapper9968 No he don't and my reply wasn't for you so mind your fucking business lil sensitive ass nigga 👶
@@cityscrapper9968 No he don't and my reply wasn't for you so mind yours. If you wanna kiss slim then just say that 😂
7:40 UR THE MOON 😂‼️🔥🔥
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I jus been styling its hard to sleep 🔥🔥
I feel like I don’t even believe in love anymore I don’t care at this point anymore
“Yall better apply for them disabled parking spots my boy”😂💀☝️….im applying now♿️
Nah i don't really gaf anymore
Fr at this point I’ve given up tbh
@@phoreignoutcast1361 same I've accepted defeat
Do you? If you didn't care then why are you watching this video?
@@just_some_greek_dude ye I'm full of shit , I really do care , the thing is , every time I see theese self improvement vids I get mad because they be telling shit I already know
@@Sh4yt3 same i never had a gf too and u tried some of those still nothing
I have severe social anxiety bro. That's why I find it hard to mingle with others. But thanks for this I found it helpful
What if we just don’t want anyone?
If u didn’t want anyone then u wouldn’t be watching this video
Enough about female advice tell us how we can make money
The needed advice 💯
be on your grind
Money is at the job if you are able bodied
dude, you have Escobar profile pic, connect the dots.
How can we make a friend group? I can’t meet new people because I don’t have a social circle, but I don’t have a social circle because I don’t meet new people. I think I could easily get a girlfriend now, but I don’t meet girls. I do quite a few things but I just don’t meet girls. Personally I think cold approaching is kind of weird and unnatural.
I feel cold approaching is the opposite of weird and unnatural but to each its own
@@YaBoyJericho I mean in the past you met girls through mutual friends, family, hobbies, school, or work.
4:19 YES MAN! I be thinking that everyday, why'd you think the dating apps are trippen?😟
If I were to try any less I'd be dead.
I’m good bruh. Maybe my mindset changes later. Living in da flow at 25
Wym by nice tho? Like I get not being a pushover, but like what’s wrong with being respectful with a bit of an edge? I feel like you need a balance.
Wrong
you live life like you gonna live twice. You live life like you gonna live twice
I’m introvert it’s just who I am.
Once you get to a certain level some women will! Happened to me multiple times and I've seen women approach men. The last woman that approached me was at a club in Houston, she was walking in my direction and a guy started talking to her, she gave him the one sec finger and came up to me
Chad
I’m a fit 10 and can’t get chicks. They literally show high interest then reject me when I ask them out
Hello im 16 yrs old and i have no friends, i have friends in the past but the just leave my aside, i didn't know why and from there i tried to make friends or just hang out with other people but the always left my aside, the worts is that for example they plan to go out they, they dont invite me and the next day they ask why i didn't go out with them then i said i didn't know that you were out yesterday, the times they invite to go out they always left me aside, they almost didnt talk to me even if a im talking to them, other thing, all times that i ask them to go out they wasn't able to, always. There is another in here were i live is like people just dont want to be around black man or black person, in school they just sometimes make fun of u just out of know were, or they make a bad comment of you, or for example they say: "why you left my alone, im not black" i was there when someone said that, i defend my self but sometimes i just dont give him attention. Now days, i just spend time always alone cuz anyone wants me around so.... I dont know if i bother people without knowing or something and thats why anyone want to be around me or maybe i am a bad person and dont know it, it just sucks
Just get a GYM Membership, and you'll be the better version than the old one
The whole “life’s gonna pass you by” bit was real af. I’m 20 and not in college so I’m working full time. I’m not around anyone my age and have no opportunities to talk to girls. Gg
fr fr im feeling it now at 20. I didn’t make much of my middle and high school years bc of anxiety and now I look back like damn I missed out on so much and wasted precious time I could been so fulfilled
im a girl and im probably going to go single forever because im really tall and most guys want short girls
Достойным парням было бы совершенно чхать, а у многих моих знакомых так и вообще есть на подобное фетиш, а уж если вы еще и волейболистка...
How tall are you?
a lot of us have a thing for tall women
not my fault standarts are so high
Your standards are too high along with the internet, stop even fappin bro
@@parkermarker742 He couldn't spell standards right, and you can't even do simple grammar. Keep wanking and projecting, lil bro.
Kam I watched this yesterday abolsute heat your putting out their hope you’re doing well aside from TH-cam I spent 80 on that tiege Hanley ima see how it is and make the switch from cera ve hopefully I’m thanking you. Keep up with the videos doesn’t even have to be about looks or getting girls anything stay up bro
I already know why i have some kind of mental illness that gives me severe manic anxiety which makes me not wanna go talk to girls because they can Sense im crazy which i am AND I cant afford medicación because i have a mental illness AND nobody wants to give the crazy perdón a job in short i cant get a gf because im mentally insane so either i figure out how to stop being crazy without meds or in screwed
Why do I relate to you alot (except not on the part about scared of talking to girls)
Something I know is that there is no "easy" way to do it. There is the proper way (guy asking the girl out) and the subtle way (shy guy waiting for the girl to make a move) Some shy guys think the subtle way will work because they fear rejection or are afraid that girls already have a significant other, sure I get that, but another thing is you're taking a risk either way, If you try the proper way you are risking getting rejected, but if you try the subtle way you're risking making her feel uncomfortable or nervous around you (depending what you say or do) that's something my best pal learned one time himself and I've tried to help him get over it
I know that simply telling somebody to have self-confidence is not useful. Even if you had the requisite self-confidence, you would have to know how to use it effectively, and that is a very nuanced thing.
After watching this vid, I am now more motivated 💪
That’s the thing
I LIVE IN A DESSERT😂😅😂😅
A week ago I was on TikTok in the hallway. My crush walks by and says can I play too and laughs with her friend? Even though I wasn’t playing a game. This week she actually sat closer to me rather than her friend. But honestly I think she was making fun of me Idek though.
Just talk to her
Women playing games as usual
Mario kart DS, and Fortnite. Bro went from 2000s to 2017-2018 era instantly. (Yes people still play Fortnite in 2024) 😅
he is right about that. It's hard to find women outside high school! Wish i dated earlier when i had the chance. Trust me take the opportunity!
7:11 Kam just proved again he's an old uncle
Every single video like this pushes me to give up
Good video, young man 👍🏽. You had touched on something when you brought up the healing part. Would’ve liked to see you elaborate on that. 💯 well put together vid 🤙🏽
Once I didn't want them , that's when they wanted me
so i have to do the exact opposite of everything my traditional indian mom told me to do in order to get girls in america 😂😂
Why does your second and first point contradict each other
That " you are what you attract" hit very very hard
For me getting girls/dates isn't the issue, whenever I meet one I really like I can't seem to keep them around long term.
I just lost my crush. I been trying reach out and get her back
Just ditch her and find a girl that likes you fr
Nah have self respect
@anaswoah I here yall. Just we were friends for over 10 years got together last year. Everything was good then all sudden just say we over and left and block me without closure. Like what about our friendship our history?
@@allhailzamasu69 that jus how many of em be just let it be fr trust me on this one, focus on urself and then go at it
@@allhailzamasu69 bro accept that girls don't care. They act on their emotions what feels good for them at that moment. She felt like she wanted to suck another dude's d*ck. Forget her bro
it feels like he is roasting me personally at the start of every video😭😂
Lmao bro went off 😂
hey bro, ive been kinda struggling to get a large amount of social links, i dont have close friends anymore, and i just stay at home all day cuz everytime i do try to hangout they forget or smth. What can i do to get invited to things and be more proactive if i dont know where to start?? I got some things in mind but every little helps
Nobody wants to be friends anymore. It's all online connections. Having friends is so 1990s.
@@CommandoMastersame here bro
i get what your saying but man saying not looking for a girlfriend and hoping to find one by letting go and giving up on looking is like saying im going to stop looking for a job and ill wait and stop applying for a job maybe one will find me and hire me! haha thats dumb im sorry
As a Mexican dude, I don’t have a problem putting lotion on my arms, legs, knees, and elbows. I’d rather have clean and exfoliated skin than dirty, wrinkly, and dry skin
What's wrong about hitting the gym?
Of course bro had to drop a vid on valentines
I need to change myself now very explaining me to a T and it’s bad
This is actual solid advice
😂😂it is what it is can't do nothing about it I been single for 22 years
Better single than in a toxic relationship.
I know the feeling. i've been single 31 years. I've never once been in a relationship, never even taken a girl on a simple date.
@@CommandoMasterfacts. Being happy single > being happy with someone else
Damn fellas get to work, no point feelin sorry for yourself, I believe every man has the ability to pull a chick if they get themselves right
@@thedawginside I've tried everything I can think of nothing works for me. Every single woman i've ever tried asking out rejects me saying because I'm ugly, and not attractive enough to date them... I go to the gym, workout things like that. I've got an ok Job. I"m not where I want to be financially right now but I am working on that. Dating this day and age just is not worth it anymore.
I don't have any problems with approach or talkimg to them but the problem is. I don't know how to talk to them or how to attract them. So in short I don't the game when it comes of dating
Sometimes it's better to be single 🙏 and work on self improvement
Will u be single for lifetime? You'll need a women who will have your children
Yes and no, if ur single at a older age (past 18) cuz girls hate u but u see they like every single guy including ur friends and leave u out it’s the worst thing ever cuz why go through life being rejected and treated like ur shit especially when most ppl have it easy to get in relationships. Tbh there’s no need to have a family cuz why commit to someone who’s treated u like crap like u don’t exist ur entire life and always give other guys attention and not u
Bullshit
@@Pumphefner22377trash people ain’t worth your time.
That ish at the beginning was funny asf..
Happy valentines boys. I'll see y'all at the gym.
Well see yall in ww3
thank you man you really helped me!
My brain is mad blowable right now
I have social anxiety and my social anxiety is really bad I’m a nice guy I guess I’m too nice I avoid women I got childhood PTSD
Love the advice good video…hopefully I’m able to improve using your tips….I’m decent enough to make great convo…the only problem I have is self doubt..if I see a girl I like.I just immediately assume I would get rejected…getting into relationships are hard these days…girls Standards are too high
oh man if you were my friend and were trying to give me advice this way I d be laughin my ass off. Real talk tho love you man you are right !
like that carti analogy
I liked the way he ended the video like that 😂 16:39
But im so scared bro😢 it sucks when they laugh at you,it feels like u wanna kill urself. U start asking urself,'why am i still alive'
@@kb1248 nah lil bro you good don’t ever act on your feeling any girl that makes u feel like dat ain’t worth your time get your money up and hit gym they will come
Let them know you take no prisoners lil bro.
Man this video is too good, I'm literally laughing because of how true some of these points are 😂. I really need to pattern up
These are facts but saying to approach and not chase makes no sense since Approaching and chasing is exactly same thing
I think the reason i cant get gyal is cause im unattractive to women but if i was i could get da gyaldem
If you’re attractive like that you don’t have to do all this
I love how u write every down on paper lmao 😂 good video tho I enjoyed it
0:50 i don’t actually
I'm so alone 😔 I feel like women have failed me
Potential crash out 😭
@darkmidnight818 yeah I am the worst crash out bruh