I have worked with many kids in Pakistan with autism, ADHD, and psn and I say with great humanity and respect that these kids are no different. They are beautiful intellectuals and must be treated such
I am 23 and autistic. I am semi-speaking & also often have to deal with selective mutism (the two are similar but caused by different stimuli) I often have moments where I don't want to make eye contact or talk to someone because it can be physically painful to me and often very intense emotionally. When I was a kid everyone just thought I was shy and said things like "don't worry, you'll grow out of it." But I've since come to learn that these behaviors cannot simply be changed or "corrected." Being semi-speaking is simply a part of who I am. And I shouldn't have to force myself to talk or make eye contact when I don't want to (or can't) simply because it is the "typical" way of communicating. I would also like to add that I have been working on these things for my whole life thinking that it would get easier and that eventually I would barely have any trouble talking to others. Spoiler alert: that's not how this works. My brain is quite literally wired to work in a different way that what is "typical." My brain is wired to become overwhelmed when I am forced to communicate verbally. We need to stop expecting autistic children to follow every command as if they are dogs. We are living human beings with our own strengths and challenges, our own joys and pains. LET US COMMUNICATE IN THE WAYS THAT FEEL BEST TO US. (edited for spelling corrections and clarity)
My son is turning 3 October 30th and he rarely talks and gets very upset when you don't play the way he likes. I'm sorry to ask such a personal question but how were you treated when you went to school? I'm so scared of how the kids are going to treat him because he's autistic. I just wanna learn how to play with him more and try to get him to talk, he likes to count to 10, say momma and dadda, he can actually do his ABCs in a babble if that makes sense? He likes when I chase him through the house and tickle him then I run away and he'll come looking for me and once he finds me I chase him through the house again and tickle him. Sorry for all the questions I just wanna know from someone whose an adult that's autistic thank you
@@boligard Well, when I was in school nobody ever really knew that I was autistic. They just knew I was "different" somehow. But my whole life I've been very good at "masking" and hiding my autistic behaviors from others. The most prevalent ones that I have trouble hiding are my inability to talk in times of stress, my trouble understanding and engaging in social situations, and my meltdowns. I wish my family and I had realized I was autistic sooner. This is where you have an advantage. Take him to therapy regularly (just not ABA therapy), provide him with a safe space where he can escape external stimuli (like a dark quiet room), keep in mind that even though he cannot always respond to you, he can understand so much of what is going on around him. These are some of the accommodations I wish I would've had as a kid. Another thing: keep in mind that he may never "improve" in the ways you are wanting to. Some skills are going to be impossible for us to improve on completely because we are simply "built" in a different way. My greatest piece of advice I can give is to listen to autistic adults!!! Follow autistic creators on social media and watch their content. The closer you can come to truly understanding your son and the way his mind operates, the better you'll be able to help him.
"If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck..." it's ABA. No amount of "rebranding" will change that. My opinions about the basis of ABA aside, I really do believe that autistic adults are inherently more capable of understanding the needs of an autistic child. There are many skills that can and should be taught to autistic children, but these are things we generally want to learn anyway. We just don't learn the way most people do; after all, our brains literally process everything differently. For example, I couldn't learn to tie my shoes by copying my parents by sight, so my dad taught me at 5 years old by putting his hands over mine and physically doing the motions with my hands (i.e. teaching me kinesthetically). To this day, I still tie my shoes the same way, and if I try to do it any other way, it doesn't work. I'm 22 now. As far as the issue goes with the children not engaging with people, I'll say what those children don't have the experience to fully understand and express at that age: we don't engage because nothing they're doing is engaging to us. We gain nothing from simply talking to people and exchanging words for the sake of it. When we choose to seek out that interaction, it is usually because we want to talk about a concept of some kind. A good illustration of this would be the difference between talking about the weather on a given day and talking about how those weather patterns were formed. If I want to know the weather, I'll find a forecast, but if you want to talk about meteorology, I'll actually be engaged. We aren't "broken," and we aren't a list of "deficits." We're fully-fledged human beings; we just interpret the world differently. A lot of people would understand us a lot better if they would just put away the idea of "correct" communication long enough to have a simple conversation. To that end, I would give you this advice: you're just as strange to us as we are to you, so please remember that communication is a two-way street. I don't agree with the "autism is a superpower" idea, but the vast majority of us also don't see it as a curse. I don't want pity or sympathy from you; I just want you to truly understand me as I am. In this case, whether or not you like me after the fact is largely irrelevant. Sorry for the rant, it just upsets me greatly when I see kids going through what I was *almost* forced into
I would never classify that as a rant. You said it perfectly and I highly agree! Spending time with your kids is the best therapy for any kid. Teach your kids life skills and never let anyone treat them like a bunch of numbers and charts. I think some parents come across as wanting to fix their kids but really they're just worried about their children being able to be independent and safe. I'm 45 with a 5 year old and so I worry that I may not be around as long as my daughter needs me. I'm extremely active and I always take time to play which I think keeps me young. 🤸♀️😁 My girls are my world. Sounds like your dad was awesome!
I think that the most important thing is for parents to realise that your kid don’t need to communicate or do something in a certain way. The best thing in my opinion would be to teach all kids that communication can look different. Like as long as the person is listening is eye contact really that important? Do you need to seek out contact with others if you don’t want to? If stimming helps you concentrate or feel better should you really be pushed to refrain from it? We don’t need to learn how to act “normal” we need the people around us to understand and accept that our way of communicating is a bit different but it’s still valid communication. One of us don’t need to change instead we can both make an effort to meet halfway and find a communication that works for us(neurodivergent and neurotypical). Like among the many verbal languages out there there are also sign language and things like art and common interests that you can use to communicate with someone. It’s a bit weird to me that we seem to think that there are right and wrong ways to communicate. Isn’t it better to teach kids in school that there are many different ways of doing things and then support them if they wish to try different forms of communication with each other?
I am a music therapist and I assisted a 4-year-old child with ASD for a period of one year. It was amazing to be part of this process. The secret is to penetrate their world and slowly bring them closer to ours. This includes not being afraid to interact and use what the child brings to, then, improvise with her/him. Music was a very powerful instrument. I feel grateful for this work.
Music is powerful for everyone to come together. There's no secret to penetrating anyone's world. We're all in the same world. Autistic people are not in a separate world, we're all in the same. Everyone is different. It's great when whatever the difference, we can find ways to connect with each other. Music is perfect for that
My son is 2 years and 3 months Old..I guess I won't be able to find a music therapist here..Can you please guide me how to start this thereapy?Is it available online?Any help will be appreciated.
0:44 Also, *being* the the child with autism is equally difficult. Everything you do seems to be beyond your control without therapy. I’m missed out on so many positive experiences in my life because my autism was torturing me... It took my friends, it dumbed me down socially, and it stole my happiness. I hope I’m not too old to get something effective, I’m only 16. I have such a hard time talking to people and being understood, I even confuse myself! I want to have friends and maybe have a relationship one day, but I get so nervous and overwhelmed around other kids and people. Autism is like being in fog; it’s confusing and annoying, and you just feel so disoriented and limited. Being treated would take so many of the limitations away, and I feel like I could finally be myself. I just hope *someplace* approves of my insurance... 😞
Yes, having autism can be pretty tough (I would know because I have ASD as well), but it does not mean that you are worth less than other people or "wrong" or "not capable" or anything like that. Autism is a disability, yes, and even more so because we live in a world that is made by and made for neurotypical people, so everyone has to live by their rules and standards and if you're not exactly like them, then you don't fit in. But there can also be some beautiful aspects to having autism that neurotypical people will never be able to understand. Autism does not just mean it's a weakness, it can also be a strength in certain situations. So go and look for those. And please don't think that you are limited or ill or weird - you may be different, but that does not mean you cannot be a good person or a good friend. And also, it's not your fault, so please don't feel bad about yourself. Of course, I don't know you (as a person) and I don't know what you have been or are still going through, but please don't let this get you down too much - it might take time, but eventually you will find some people that like you the way you are and accept you for who you are and that's when things start to get better. Don't give up hope.
Bless u hun ive got Mild learning difficulties i know what its like how world judges other people to be but nonone tell cant do same things as other i got daughter with autism she Non-verbal but very Bright i think u need to think what doing injoying thats Important thing not other people its being self not Everyone is perfect but i do believe Got a gift from up above🤗
I'm autistic and my parents say it's so hard and they're dealing with autism raising me. It's equally as hard being the one directly suffering as the person with the disability. I'm constantly lonely. :( I'm in a separate class and I don't get to socialize. I'm put to low expectations and I honestly want to die.
My daughter (Sarah) was diagnosed with severe autism at 16 months. She is five years old now, she is still not speaking sentences. She make sound's 24/7. I did seek help but everyone that was sent to our home could NOT helped my child. I had to educate them in order for them to even start communicating with her. lord know I am devoted and dedicated to my child and because of that she now saying hi and bye bye (recently ) and yes she now know how to communicate nonverbal not sign language< by 8 years old my Sarah will speak. When it comes help if you don't have MONEY the process will take longer.... p.s It's NOT easy but you as the Parent have to have a lot of patient and give your child a lot of tender loving care (They need it ). Parents you need to be devoted, dedicated and advocate when it comes to your child.
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I was not "astronomically harder" to raise. While it can be very challenging I am not a burden. It is amazing how people , even the good ones are vey ablest.
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@Accra Terminal agency U can’t get rid of autism, It’s a neurological disorder, My guess is your son is masking which is tiring and traumatising for an autistic child, Especially when u have brought herbs too try to change who he is
thats like forcing someone who is left handed to only use the right hand, there are studies that say its really harmful, even tho she seems happy she most likely is playing being happy to make her parents happy or she understood that it is the way to make the uncomfortable situations stop
@@Pigeon6295As someone with autism I can say it’s not like that. I had this as a child and I still have mental issues and have had to break up with every relationship. You make us ruin our lives and make us feel horrible so you can see someone not touch their face
@@Pigeon6295have you considered maybe it's the system itself that needs to change and by forcing "outcasts" to assimilate you are also cutting off your own chances of individuality and self-expression
Stop the WOKE-niss! First of all, I think she's a bit too young to fake happiness. She's just too young, you know? Most likely, she is happy. She will appreciate it when she gets older. I got treatment similar to this along with others, and it's not like that. It was a very positive experience for me.
I’m not a therapist but when the therapist talked about helping her make eye contact.. idk. it feels like she’s just teaching her to mask. idk. i think therapy for autism should be about learning how to accommodate yourself and things like that, not learning how to live a neurotypical life. i could be wrong tho
We don’t like being stereotyped as having poor language skills. Most neurotypicals I’ve met are much worse at language than me. My experience over 52 years is that neurotypicals only hear what they want to, or what is familiar. Because of issues with prosody, saying the exactly appropriate words to communicate often backfire because neurotypicals insist on never saying what they mean and my tone of voice is not what they expect, so they just change what I say into what they assume I am saying, and never listen to the words. This is a communication deficit that goes unrecognized due to it being “normal”. This could often be the reason for going nonverbal, when no one listens, why talk? I got in trouble as a toddler for trying to get adults to talk to me like an adult.
My heartfelt admiration goes out to everyone taking care of kids and adults who have disabilities for their devotion support and love, that’s all I can say ❤️🙏
fun facts: the most common punishment for misbehaving in ABA is the electric chair, it also degrades autistic people's personalty, worsens autism, makes children who went thru ABA have a 98% chance of getting PTSD, makes children who went thru it have a 72% chance of getting kidnapped and just makes children who went thru it hide there autism P.S: autistic children can talk to people but they just don't wan't to and this therapy is actually ABA
I used this doc herbs for my son and now my son is completely free, his speaking and behavior is ok. His herbs is 100% working on ASD. I met Dr Oyalo on channel and I’m happy to share my experience about it. 😍😍
@@bolinhong2598you do know autism stays forever right? You can manage the symptoms but your child will always be autistic, there’s no known cause and no cure
With the gradual using of dr Oyalo herbal recommendation for autism, whom I met on TH-cam, my son is totally free from Autism with his speech cleared and social skills ok as he now respond to orders and act right. Thank you doc Oyalo for your help. I am Greatful
My son have autism also one minute he’s cool and calm the next he’s screaming and crying he’s 4 years old now and he’s doing good so far we still have much more to do
This's borderline to me. Some kids are different naturally and it's perfectly "normal" (within normal human variation.) So treating those kids as if they're severely disabled is a little weird and seems potentially harmful. But we also live in a world where not having social skills is detrimental, so there's that as well. It would probably be better for everyone if society was more accepting of differences instead of expecting conformity!
With the gradual using of dr Oyalo herbal recommendation for autism, whom I met on TH-cam, my son is totally free from Autism with his speech cleared and social skills ok as he now respond to orders and act right. Thank you doc Oyalo for your help. I am Greatful
My son has been diagnosed of autism spectrum since childhood and has battled with it all his life. But recently taking Dr Oyalo herbs have helped him get rid of it completely, his speech is vital and his social skill is perfect
I was just recently diagnosed as autistic and it brings a smile to my face that a kid like her is getting the support she needs this early on. Even the first couple of seconds of the video starting where her parents ask her if she needs help. Growing up I was never deliberately asked if I needed help so I just kept it all to myself, this gradually had costing effects and so now I am trying to learn to ask for help and to be more forgiving towards myself. Plus the part where the prof said autistic children love bubbles, I was obsessed with bubble machines and bubble wands as a kid, they are really mesmerizing!
I think it should be pointed out that pivotal response treatment (PRT) is just a play-based, naturalistic form of applied behavior analysis (ABA, the application of behavior analysis to change behavior) and that the other form of ABA used for autism is called (early) intensive behavior intervention (E/IBI), which consists of discrete trial training as the primary teaching unit along with generalizing new skills with incidental teaching. And that PRT is more beneficial for those with expressive language delays while IBI is more beneficial for those with receptive language delays. And that ABA is actually a much broader field based on operant conditioning (aka contingency management).
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With the gradual using of dr Oyalo herbal recommendation for autism, whom I met on TH-cam, my son is totally free from Autism with his speech cleared and social skills ok as he now respond to orders and act right. Thank you doc Oyalo for your help. I am Greatful
This video is all kinds of triggering for me, and I’m not autistic. I will be working with autistic kids soon and it blows my mind the lack of understanding a lot of people have. ‘My kid isn’t that different, they just needed different tools.’ Like really?? EVERYONE NEEDS DIFFERENT TOOLS. Even regular people with no diagnosed labels. We are called individuals because we are EXACTLY THAT. You can’t force people to fit into society. You need to welcome into environments that make them want to engage, interact and coexist. Really unfortunate they make these transitions in life seem ‘incredibly difficult.’ It’s almost dehumanizing in my eyes. This video wasn’t done well…
This is great. I've heard of ABA and my daughter had it until she "aged out" 🙄 in school (5 yrs old) and her 3 yr voucher for in home therapy (God send --ever grateful for programs like these) ran out. Her school district doesn't use ABA in the all-inclusive, self-contained class she's now in. My girl is now 12, sings all the time and will repeat whatever is said, so I kept wondering why is the "communication/comprehension" not coming? It's heartbreaking to watch tears well up in her eyes when she's looking at me like " I'm trying mommy. I should know this but I don't." I really think she knows that and she gets so hurt, frustrated and angry. So she cries, then I cry and sometimes I have to become octopus-like shielding her forehead from the edge or surface of anything close, her fists from her temples (so hard she gets bruises), anything hard in her hands from her knees, backs of hands from edge of table or legs of table underneath (I've figured out if we're at table when overload/frustration occurs, chair gets pulled back quickly and we take a breather from the whole scene)...she's quick! This old mommy has to get my arms moving to protect her from hurting herself, all without saying too much and trying not to give any "positive reinforcement" for her choice of reaction to her frustration. My sweet girl has always tested closer to the severe end of the spectrum due to the inability to comprehend/communicate. I recently learned through more thorough gene testing that she has a mutation of the gene GRIN2A (speech disorders/seizures{yes-she has them}. Speech disorders can be severe and include dysarthria, dyspraxia, and both receptive/expressive language. Kinda feel like life sucker punched my baby girl and she's such a sweet and happy girl a majority of the time. I've been diagnosed with narcolepsy and drop seizures (seizure diagnosis 2 weeks after crainiotomy for hematoma-irony for ya) within the last couple of years, and she has been so patient with me. After one of my harder falls, she came and stood beside me and just reached her hand down and held my hand til I was ready to quit my crying and get up. I would tell her that she was a great "little mommy" helping "big mommy" when I needed her. She would just smile or giggle when I would tell her that. No more falls since seizure melds, thank God! The day she was born my heart leapt from my chest and grew two legs! 💝 My angel girl from God above.
Being real honest, My sister has it. If you have other children make sure they all are getting the attention they need. It’s hard, my parents dont care about me now (no seriously) they don’t even talk to me anymore. We went to a family therapy session today, they said I get to much attention In reality they getting one hug or cuddle isn’t enough sorry to sound needy but it’s true. Get her they help she needs so that your other children don’t have to be a after thought. My parents spend all the money on her. Anything I want to do is turned down. I was born with Craniosynostosis so as I get older I might need more surgery to fix my head, They have spent 3,000 + dollars on my sister. Me? I’m a after thought. I’m dumb so I need a RTI teacher, they don’t even do anything about that. They don’t care. Today’s age you dont need much social skills, don’t spend all your time on her, but get her help. Love and prayers 💖
fun facts: the most common punishment for misbehaving in ABA is the electric chair, it also degrades autistic people's personalty, worsens autism, makes children who went thru ABA have a 98% chance of getting PTSD, makes children who went thru it have a 72% chance of getting kidnapped and just makes children who went thru it hide there autism P.S: autistic children can talk to people but they just don't wan't to and this therapy is actually ABA
I was shocked with how my daughter knew all her ABC and number shapes etc at age 3 but had challenges with being with other kids or fully constructing sentences until we where told she has autism
My son have suffered autism spectrum since childhood and Have battled with it all his life. But recently taking of Dr Oyalo herbs have help his get rid of it completely, his speech is vibal and his social skill is perfect. I’m so glad and happy now
As a student of clinical psychology, during my rotations I have seen many parents getting devastated at the news that their child is suffering from a developmental disorder but all we can do is to manage and make the lives of these little angels more beautiful and much better
I'm also getting my psychology degree and decided to enter this job field where I could help kids with autism. Do you have any advice for me. My future goal is to obtain a masters and get my therapy license and make it into clinical psychology to help people with trauma.
@@LebronJames-if6qg there is no other advice than I would say just be a true human ...Coz for me,a true human being can help others in a genuine way... that's all about it
I do not understand why don't they make the same video with children on the moderate to severe side of the spectrum. I am a special needs parent and this looks like a commercial to me as if they are selling the technic.
I don't even know where too start but seeing their family being happy together and interacting together gives me hope becuz as of a couple of days ago I really believe my son is autistic l, and i just want my son too be able too enjoy life have friends be able too have conversations with family members and be able too hang out with me and with family and friends. He has not been diagnosed/evaluated yet and with all this coronavirus deal everything seems too be moving so slow. I just want too be able too get him the therapy and help he needs asap.
I am 43F with autism. I dont know how much support your son needs. However I can tell you that the hardest part of autism is people expecting us to fit into the NT mold. I work from home and have few friends and I am perfectly happy. I have a very rich inner world full of beauty and calmness and wonder. From the perspective of a NT my life looks pretty boring and sad but from my point of view, the NT way of life is absolutely pointless, useless and boring. Try seeing your son's life through his eyes. What does he like? What makes him happy? It will probably be very different from what you enjoy but it doesnt make it less valid. I hope it helps.
@McCarthy-kg3yoNo offense, but you're EXTREMELY incorrect. Being autistic is a different neurotype, and not something that can be 'cured'. I'm sorry you're wasting your money trying to force your child to act like other people to harmful extents.
If a child can eat and dont harm himself or others im good. I dont need to be like others i just need to live andbe happy in whatever that is i like. feels like people not a days dont want to be different and be dependent of others
I'm glad there's always methods and ways being discovered to help children in autism. People like to say autism isn't a disability but it very much is, adult with "untreated" autism have a really hard time getting along in life. And if there are ways to improve the symptoms then I'm all for it
I wouldn't say autism isn't a disability it's more like someone thinking differently. Say you were uncomfortable in a space and didn't function like everyone else did in the same space, that's basically what autism can feel like. Basically autism isn't a disability because they don't lose the ability to do something, it's more like their environment and their different interaction skills might be different from yours.
We went to the NYU child study center with my nonverbal 4 year old autistic son expecting great things. They turned us away saying we deal with mostly older kids and verbal and minimally verbal with increasing their sociability. I expect Yale is the same seeing this video. Blowing bubbles is great but how about helping the severe autistic who don’t care to blow bubbles? Unfortunately these programs look all great and charge crazy fees but ultimately with difficult cases they rather not put their time/money/energy into it. A hard pill to swallow for parents like myself. The grief that not many people want to help your child because of their severity is indescribable.
Ask a paediatrician. They know where to refer your child. My doctor advised us to put my child in child care. Also you can let your child watch youtube videos about speech or shadowing. There also apps for autism.
I’m so sorry, my 19 month daughter has autism and we are in the same boat. Insurance only covers 1 hours a week of therapy. May I give you advice which I believe will help is, play the Holy Quran to her. It heals in my faith. Just TH-cam search Quran and let it play around her. And while she plays and sleeps. It will do wonders for you.
That is sad to hear, but I would reach out to any community-based programs in your area. Try these sites to help you look for support: www.autismspeaks.org/directory www.autismprthelp.com/
This doesn't really say what was done at all. Happy for this family is this is real but I wish this had more resources for what they did. Saying they used bubbles doesn't really say anything at all
fun facts: the most common punishment for misbehaving in ABA is the electric chair, it also degrades autistic people's personalty, worsens autism, makes children who went thru ABA have a 98% chance of getting PTSD, makes children who went thru it have a 72% chance of getting kidnapped and just makes children who went thru it hide there autism P.S: autistic children can talk to people but they just don't wan't to and this therapy is actually ABA
Hello, my son is autistic and 3 years old. am looking some tips or suggestions for my son to avoid looking at his hands. example when he waves his hand he always look for his hands and he will wave infront of his eyes close to his face. please suggest me what kind of techniques or activities will solve this issue.
Is stimulation but is away they express themselves so don't try to stop stiming is a part of autism is helping them in their on way to calm try groups in FB for autisem and shijal in case is helpful
The video was truly wonderful, and I believe it is a valuable resource that can help increase awareness and understanding of autism. By watching it, people can gain insights that enable them to positively impact and support those affected by autism.
DONE SUBSCRIBING MY daughter has autism too. It is really hard and challenging raising a child with autism. But God choose us to be their parents to love accept and protect them always
Hi . My sister son also shows every sign he is 2.5yr old …did u had commounication delay ..he is not yet talked but often he used to say mother,father,uncle like that
Has anyone thought to engage people capable of deep interests and understanding with things that could develop interest in useful fields? Autistic people need to see the options early in life. This is how it worked when we lived communally and children could see people doing interesting things from an early age. Now we just put kids in bubbles and wonder why the extraordinary ones fail.
@@Darkest_Soul_187written by autistic people? I'd like to read it as a mother of an autistic awesome little boy. I'm kind of tired of reading articles and seeing videos from neurotypical people who don't even have neurotypical children and have never even spoken to autistic people yet they feel entitled to regularly speak for them.
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To be honest with you, I do have autism but I'm on the high level of functioning and that's a good thing because I have a higher chance of getting a job and being independent on my own but I do have some issues with behavior and stop emotions that I need to learn how to control them. This girl sure is showing signs of improvement and with the support of her parents I'm sure that she'll be able to do stuff on her own and be independent. I also want to know what causes autism to develop during pregnancy and how does your brain function differently than others without autism.
People with ASD can be non verbal their entire life. I personally started speaking sooner than other kids and I have autism as well. It really just depends, you have to encourage them like any other child, you just need more patient and to understand that it may never happen
That was really good. Creativity and engagement are really important. Sitting back is too. I think we fear rejection. Getting asked what we want and then being told no, that's no good and no, lets do something else is normal. You become the one who is always compromising and being asked to compromise.It's devaluing and corrosive.
Don't be. It's nothing wrong. It makes you unique and yourself. If people don't like it that's their problem and I'm sure they are missing out on a great person.
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I'm in Canada you think we got it so good ? My son is 17 still non-verbal and we've only been given very little in services. Yay world-class social health care. I couldn't even buy better care if I wanted to. The province next door to me had a plastic surgeon leave the province to find better services for his autistic child in America.
some autistic people are non-verbal forever, and that’s okay. it can be frustrating not to hear your child ever speak, but as long as they’re happy and safe and have some way to communicate (even if not verbally) it doesn’t matter whether they can speak or not.
@@ririwatermelon8681 I agree perfectly fine to be like him he is very happy and loving little man. What I say is true however. The little services we do get are generally covered by inexperienced students who are learning by training on the job with our child. Not that any of that matters once the financial ramifications of our Justin and his short-sightedness finally come to meet us. I have a pretty good hunch over the next 10 to 20 years it's going to be way tighter than any of us have ever experienced financially.
@@stephanosnormandusdelacroi8570 i’m sorry to hear that, though it’s good to hear your son is currently doing well. i hope in future you can get more access to services, particularly services led/influenced by autistic adults, as that tends to be the most effective route. i appreciate it’s not the same as full services from your government, but i’d recommend looking at autistic advocates like Paige Layle and princessaspien. they both have youtube channels with many helpful videos, as well as other social media. i know you’ve had 17 years of raising and autistic child and my advice probably seems a little silly, but i thought i’d recommend it just in case. in my experience, autistic adults offer far better and more useful advice and information than non-autistic people, even if they claim to be ‘professionals’. after all, nobody quite understands autism like an autistic person themself.
My Son was diagnosed with spina bifida, now 7 years old with a condition of 10 kg weight, sometimes admitted to the hospital 1 month 4x for the treatment process.
With the gradual using of dr Oyalo herbal recommendation for autism, whom I met on TH-cam, my son is totally free from Autism with his speech cleared and social skills ok as he now respond to orders and act right. Thank you doc Oyalo for your help. I am Greatful
Reading all the various comments makes me realise almost all persons with autism would benefit for having support from an advocate in the areas where they have difficulties. And due to the nature of the disorder.
"A life changing therapy for children with autism" As someone who is autistic and had to go through ABA, it's life changing alright, but in a horrible way that no person should ever have to go through.
@@mandy472LDS yes, i can elaborate what im basically saying is, most autistic people including myself have been mistreated by the ABA system, and treated horrible. as a result, it has made us have lifelong issues, and some autistic people have developed PTSD from it
I'm sorry your parents allowed you to be mistreated and did not pay attention to what the ABA therapist did to you. I'm a stay at home mom and I'm at home and in the room from the time her RBT walks in the house and until she leaves. No one stays alone with my daughter.
Then what's the best way to help autistic kids? Like to help prevent meltdowns, help them make friends, and allow them to be in mainstream classrooms instead of special ed?
But, if eye contact has proven a source of anxiety and stress for autistics, why teach them that they ought to maintain it? Teaching children to do what makes them uncomfortable is a recipe for abusers of any kind. When are the needs of others more important than one's own? Perhaps inclusivity can mean that people can speak without eye contact and that's O.K. too.
Exactly. I have a hard time keeping eye contact and when I go to therapy I'm very uncomfortable with it so I just look forward or down at myself, this makes it very hard to socialise. But I managr
It's interesting because I used to be very aggressive and I was very behind in school. Would I be where I am today without treatment? I don't know. Doctors were saying that I would never be able to go to a public high school at the rate I was going because I was so bad in the classroom, but now I'm fine. I got ABA, speech therapy, and other stuff. I'm just like everyone else now. Swear to god, I have no idea how that happened. It is the strangest thing ever.
My son is 3 years and 8 months and still hasn't said a word. He makes popping sounds with his lips and flaps his hands and often pats his chest. I'm really worried about how he will be when he's older and I'm really struggling with helping him at home and becoming frustrated that he's not talking yet. I also blame myself for the way he is that's maybe I have done something wrong that's made him this way 😢
Hello . my son is almost 3 years and he doesn't say a world . Poor eye contact and he doesn't understand most of things and he doesn't point towards what he wants . But he plays with his younger sister tries o kiss he and everybody else and that is all . Is that means he is autistic ?ps. I have no access to any experts if any body can help i will ppreciate thanks
🕊🌿🌳🍃🍀🌴🌱🏡 Using words, with clear directive, a wall clock, visual wall bourds with words and numbers, daily walks, keep going out to the park, daily human contact with parents, neighbours, community, are all vital, for autistic children and adults. Autism children need clear, calm, routines, with no yelling, support them in the intetest that does engage them, and a lot of patience when their "social battery hits 0%". Love them, just as they are. Sitting quietly with them, while they are chilling watching a movie/tennis/cricket/news/sit coms, and just being present; without speaking, is a very valid bonding activity, with your autistic sibling, friend, child, parent, step parent, or Grandparent. Your autistic relatives will never drive over to your "place/house/apartment", ... you will be expected to travel all over the state, to pay visits to your high functioning autistic family members. Their routine will never bend, to come to visit you, as adults. Self care is crucial at this time, as working 40 to 60 hours a week, makes it impossible to keep visiting these poor, struggling souls. Love in our Lord Jesus Christ, Princess Holly 🕊🌿🌴🌱🍀🌵🌳🍃🌲🐛
wtf this video tells me nothing about the actual therapy besides "we need to develop objectives", but nothing about HOW this change is brought about...
@@tiffanydickert1360 Very few autistic people agree with ABA. IT by design punishes autistic people for acting autistic and forces them to act neurotypical which is very distressing and often painful.
Really? The number ONE thing on your list is making her stare at other people's eyeballs? Wow... Classic ABA focusing on really unimportant things because neurotypicals can't Stand not being the standard of all that is "good" and "expected".
I have a 16 year old boy with autism. He talks to himself. Twirls around and claps a lot. We are currently in Brussels and labguage is a problem because we speak english. Can you help me on line help
The best experts at helping children with autism living in a neurotypical society is an autistic adult that has gone through the same issues; not some person that learned autism from a book/phd.
I have worked with many kids in Pakistan with autism, ADHD, and psn and I say with great humanity and respect that these kids are no different. They are beautiful intellectuals and must be treated such
I am 23 and autistic. I am semi-speaking & also often have to deal with selective mutism (the two are similar but caused by different stimuli) I often have moments where I don't want to make eye contact or talk to someone because it can be physically painful to me and often very intense emotionally. When I was a kid everyone just thought I was shy and said things like "don't worry, you'll grow out of it." But I've since come to learn that these behaviors cannot simply be changed or "corrected." Being semi-speaking is simply a part of who I am. And I shouldn't have to force myself to talk or make eye contact when I don't want to (or can't) simply because it is the "typical" way of communicating. I would also like to add that I have been working on these things for my whole life thinking that it would get easier and that eventually I would barely have any trouble talking to others. Spoiler alert: that's not how this works. My brain is quite literally wired to work in a different way that what is "typical." My brain is wired to become overwhelmed when I am forced to communicate verbally. We need to stop expecting autistic children to follow every command as if they are dogs. We are living human beings with our own strengths and challenges, our own joys and pains. LET US COMMUNICATE IN THE WAYS THAT FEEL BEST TO US.
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More power to you
My son is turning 3 October 30th and he rarely talks and gets very upset when you don't play the way he likes. I'm sorry to ask such a personal question but how were you treated when you went to school? I'm so scared of how the kids are going to treat him because he's autistic. I just wanna learn how to play with him more and try to get him to talk, he likes to count to 10, say momma and dadda, he can actually do his ABCs in a babble if that makes sense? He likes when I chase him through the house and tickle him then I run away and he'll come looking for me and once he finds me I chase him through the house again and tickle him. Sorry for all the questions I just wanna know from someone whose an adult that's autistic thank you
@@boligard I totally understand how you feel, Isn’t easy at all
The pain is real 😞
@@user-hr8iv9xr8b yes it is I feel terrible for my poor son
@@boligard Well, when I was in school nobody ever really knew that I was autistic. They just knew I was "different" somehow. But my whole life I've been very good at "masking" and hiding my autistic behaviors from others. The most prevalent ones that I have trouble hiding are my inability to talk in times of stress, my trouble understanding and engaging in social situations, and my meltdowns. I wish my family and I had realized I was autistic sooner. This is where you have an advantage. Take him to therapy regularly (just not ABA therapy), provide him with a safe space where he can escape external stimuli (like a dark quiet room), keep in mind that even though he cannot always respond to you, he can understand so much of what is going on around him. These are some of the accommodations I wish I would've had as a kid. Another thing: keep in mind that he may never "improve" in the ways you are wanting to. Some skills are going to be impossible for us to improve on completely because we are simply "built" in a different way. My greatest piece of advice I can give is to listen to autistic adults!!! Follow autistic creators on social media and watch their content. The closer you can come to truly understanding your son and the way his mind operates, the better you'll be able to help him.
"If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck..." it's ABA. No amount of "rebranding" will change that. My opinions about the basis of ABA aside, I really do believe that autistic adults are inherently more capable of understanding the needs of an autistic child. There are many skills that can and should be taught to autistic children, but these are things we generally want to learn anyway. We just don't learn the way most people do; after all, our brains literally process everything differently. For example, I couldn't learn to tie my shoes by copying my parents by sight, so my dad taught me at 5 years old by putting his hands over mine and physically doing the motions with my hands (i.e. teaching me kinesthetically). To this day, I still tie my shoes the same way, and if I try to do it any other way, it doesn't work. I'm 22 now.
As far as the issue goes with the children not engaging with people, I'll say what those children don't have the experience to fully understand and express at that age: we don't engage because nothing they're doing is engaging to us. We gain nothing from simply talking to people and exchanging words for the sake of it. When we choose to seek out that interaction, it is usually because we want to talk about a concept of some kind. A good illustration of this would be the difference between talking about the weather on a given day and talking about how those weather patterns were formed. If I want to know the weather, I'll find a forecast, but if you want to talk about meteorology, I'll actually be engaged.
We aren't "broken," and we aren't a list of "deficits." We're fully-fledged human beings; we just interpret the world differently. A lot of people would understand us a lot better if they would just put away the idea of "correct" communication long enough to have a simple conversation. To that end, I would give you this advice: you're just as strange to us as we are to you, so please remember that communication is a two-way street.
I don't agree with the "autism is a superpower" idea, but the vast majority of us also don't see it as a curse. I don't want pity or sympathy from you; I just want you to truly understand me as I am. In this case, whether or not you like me after the fact is largely irrelevant.
Sorry for the rant, it just upsets me greatly when I see kids going through what I was *almost* forced into
Thank you for sharing this... It is so important for people to understand neurodiversity. Waiting for ABA business to understand that...
Thanks for Sharing!!! Very encouraged by your comment!!
I would never classify that as a rant. You said it perfectly and I highly agree! Spending time with your kids is the best therapy for any kid. Teach your kids life skills and never let anyone treat them like a bunch of numbers and charts. I think some parents come across as wanting to fix their kids but really they're just worried about their children being able to be independent and safe. I'm 45 with a 5 year old and so I worry that I may not be around as long as my daughter needs me. I'm extremely active and I always take time to play which I think keeps me young. 🤸♀️😁 My girls are my world. Sounds like your dad was awesome!
@@favourjohn312 hey please share this info my son is 5 years old
@@favourjohn312 where can I find doc Oyalo
I think that the most important thing is for parents to realise that your kid don’t need to communicate or do something in a certain way. The best thing in my opinion would be to teach all kids that communication can look different. Like as long as the person is listening is eye contact really that important? Do you need to seek out contact with others if you don’t want to? If stimming helps you concentrate or feel better should you really be pushed to refrain from it? We don’t need to learn how to act “normal” we need the people around us to understand and accept that our way of communicating is a bit different but it’s still valid communication. One of us don’t need to change instead we can both make an effort to meet halfway and find a communication that works for us(neurodivergent and neurotypical). Like among the many verbal languages out there there are also sign language and things like art and common interests that you can use to communicate with someone. It’s a bit weird to me that we seem to think that there are right and wrong ways to communicate. Isn’t it better to teach kids in school that there are many different ways of doing things and then support them if they wish to try different forms of communication with each other?
Your herbs has work wonders in my family.
Thanks for the help Dr Oyalo for saving my son from autism spectrum with your herbs. Your herbs is the best
I am a music therapist and I assisted a 4-year-old child with ASD for a period of one year. It was amazing to be part of this process. The secret is to penetrate their world and slowly bring them closer to ours. This includes not being afraid to interact and use what the child brings to, then, improvise with her/him. Music was a very powerful instrument. I feel grateful for this work.
Music is powerful for everyone to come together. There's no secret to penetrating anyone's world. We're all in the same world. Autistic people are not in a separate world, we're all in the same. Everyone is different. It's great when whatever the difference, we can find ways to connect with each other. Music is perfect for that
Wdym “bring their world closer to ours”??
My son is 2 years and 3 months Old..I guess I won't be able to find a music therapist here..Can you please guide me how to start this thereapy?Is it available online?Any help will be appreciated.
Since the final taking of your herbs, my son has been speaking well and responding to his name Thank you for saving my son
How you put this very cringe and I'm not even autistic
0:44 Also, *being* the the child with autism is equally difficult. Everything you do seems to be beyond your control without therapy. I’m missed out on so many positive experiences in my life because my autism was torturing me... It took my friends, it dumbed me down socially, and it stole my happiness. I hope I’m not too old to get something effective, I’m only 16. I have such a hard time talking to people and being understood, I even confuse myself! I want to have friends and maybe have a relationship one day, but I get so nervous and overwhelmed around other kids and people. Autism is like being in fog; it’s confusing and annoying, and you just feel so disoriented and limited. Being treated would take so many of the limitations away, and I feel like I could finally be myself. I just hope *someplace* approves of my insurance... 😞
Yes, having autism can be pretty tough (I would know because I have ASD as well), but it does not mean that you are worth less than other people or "wrong" or "not capable" or anything like that. Autism is a disability, yes, and even more so because we live in a world that is made by and made for neurotypical people, so everyone has to live by their rules and standards and if you're not exactly like them, then you don't fit in. But there can also be some beautiful aspects to having autism that neurotypical people will never be able to understand. Autism does not just mean it's a weakness, it can also be a strength in certain situations. So go and look for those. And please don't think that you are limited or ill or weird - you may be different, but that does not mean you cannot be a good person or a good friend. And also, it's not your fault, so please don't feel bad about yourself.
Of course, I don't know you (as a person) and I don't know what you have been or are still going through, but please don't let this get you down too much - it might take time, but eventually you will find some people that like you the way you are and accept you for who you are and that's when things start to get better.
Don't give up hope.
Bless u hun ive got Mild learning difficulties i know what its like how world judges other people to be but nonone tell cant do same things as other i got daughter with autism she Non-verbal but very Bright i think u need to think what doing injoying thats Important thing not other people its being self not Everyone is perfect but i do believe Got a gift from up above🤗
I’m 16 and have high functioning autism. I struggle with being able to recognize sarcasm, but I enjoy being around others
@@haannguyen4402 I struggle with being able to recognize sarcasm
Thats like most of the indian subcontinent
I'm autistic and my parents say it's so hard and they're dealing with autism raising me. It's equally as hard being the one directly suffering as the person with the disability. I'm constantly lonely. :( I'm in a separate class and I don't get to socialize. I'm put to low expectations and I honestly want to die.
Remember that kid's with autism can be super intelligent!
My daughter (Sarah) was diagnosed with severe autism at 16 months. She is five years old now, she is still not speaking sentences. She make sound's 24/7. I did seek help but everyone that was sent to our home could NOT helped my child. I had to educate them in order for them to even start communicating with her. lord know I am devoted and dedicated to my child and because of that she now saying hi and bye bye (recently ) and yes she now know how to communicate nonverbal not sign language< by 8 years old my Sarah will speak. When it comes help if you don't have MONEY the process will take longer.... p.s It's NOT easy but you as the Parent have to have a lot of patient and give your child a lot of tender loving care (They need it ). Parents you need to be devoted, dedicated and advocate when it comes to your child.
How true is d herb???
What do u mean about if h don’t have money what is it for money Taht will help my child
And what are the herbs ?
@lilylaura6955 Which Doc's herb?
With the gradual using of dr Oyalo herbal recommendation for autism, whom I met on TH-cam, my son is totally free from Autism with his speech cleared and social skills ok as he now respond to orders and act right. Thank you doc Oyalo for your help. I am Greatful
I was not "astronomically harder" to raise. While it can be very challenging I am not a burden. It is amazing how people , even the good ones are vey ablest.
It seems you think everyone who has autism is like you . Opinions are opinions.
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@Accra Terminal agency U can’t get rid of autism, It’s a neurological disorder, My guess is your son is masking which is tiring and traumatising for an autistic child, Especially when u have brought herbs too try to change who he is
Since the final taking of your herbs, my son has been speaking well and responding to his name Thank you for saving my son
It is amazing. I wonder 🤨 what about hyperthemisia ?
Any ways
thats like forcing someone who is left handed to only use the right hand, there are studies that say its really harmful, even tho she seems happy she most likely is playing being happy to make her parents happy or she understood that it is the way to make the uncomfortable situations stop
That's like forcing someone who is a social outcast to be normal and have a chance at a real life
@@Pigeon6295As someone with autism I can say it’s not like that. I had this as a child and I still have mental issues and have had to break up with every relationship. You make us ruin our lives and make us feel horrible so you can see someone not touch their face
Vvbh
@@Pigeon6295have you considered maybe it's the system itself that needs to change and by forcing "outcasts" to assimilate you are also cutting off your own chances of individuality and self-expression
Stop the WOKE-niss! First of all, I think she's a bit too young to fake happiness. She's just too young, you know? Most likely, she is happy. She will appreciate it when she gets older. I got treatment similar to this along with others, and it's not like that. It was a very positive experience for me.
I mainly don’t like the eye contact part because I was forced to do that and it is painfully uncomfortable so I am not ok with forcing eye contact.
Your herbs has work wonders in my family.
Thanks for the help Dr Oyalo for saving my son from autism spectrum with your herbs. Your herbs is the best
Daddy tears in your eyes made me cry
His def a real family man 🥲
Doc Oyalo can also reverse autism with herbs and it’s work completely on my son and now he is verbal and behaves normal.
cry me a river
I’m not a therapist but when the therapist talked about helping her make eye contact.. idk. it feels like she’s just teaching her to mask. idk. i think therapy for autism should be about learning how to accommodate yourself and things like that, not learning how to live a neurotypical life. i could be wrong tho
Your right.
We don’t like being stereotyped as having poor language skills. Most neurotypicals I’ve met are much worse at language than me. My experience over 52 years is that neurotypicals only hear what they want to, or what is familiar. Because of issues with prosody, saying the exactly appropriate words to communicate often backfire because neurotypicals insist on never saying what they mean and my tone of voice is not what they expect, so they just change what I say into what they assume I am saying, and never listen to the words. This is a communication deficit that goes unrecognized due to it being “normal”.
This could often be the reason for going nonverbal, when no one listens, why talk?
I got in trouble as a toddler for trying to get adults to talk to me like an adult.
My heartfelt admiration goes out to everyone taking care of kids and adults who have disabilities for their devotion support and love, that’s all I can say ❤️🙏
beautiful child. a father's love for his children is immeasurable.
fun facts: the most common punishment for misbehaving in ABA is the
electric chair, it also degrades autistic people's personalty, worsens
autism, makes children who went thru ABA have a 98% chance of getting
PTSD, makes children who went thru it have a 72% chance of getting
kidnapped and just makes children who went thru it hide there autism
P.S: autistic children can talk to people but they just don't wan't to
and this therapy is actually ABA
@@Nebulisuzer where did you get the info that they uses electric chair?
I used this doc herbs for my son and now my son is completely free, his speaking and behavior is ok. His herbs is 100% working on ASD. I met Dr Oyalo on channel and I’m happy to share my experience about it. 😍😍
@@Nebulisuzer I agree that ABA is horrible, but electric chairs haven't been used in ABA for a long time. Quite certain that's illegal now.
@@bolinhong2598you do know autism stays forever right? You can manage the symptoms but your child will always be autistic, there’s no known cause and no cure
The parental engagement absolutely have a significant role in the therapy because still lots of children have fear of being with unfamiliar person.
With the gradual using of dr Oyalo herbal recommendation for autism, whom I met on TH-cam, my son is totally free from Autism with his speech cleared and social skills ok as he now respond to orders and act right. Thank you doc Oyalo for your help. I am Greatful
Since the final taking of your herbs, my son has been speaking well and responding to his name Thank you for saving my son
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My son have autism also one minute he’s cool and calm the next he’s screaming and crying he’s 4 years old now and he’s doing good so far we still have much more to do
I admire how they dont show her full face to protect her
This's borderline to me. Some kids are different naturally and it's perfectly "normal" (within normal human variation.) So treating those kids as if they're severely disabled is a little weird and seems potentially harmful.
But we also live in a world where not having social skills is detrimental, so there's that as well. It would probably be better for everyone if society was more accepting of differences instead of expecting conformity!
With the gradual using of dr Oyalo herbal recommendation for autism, whom I met on TH-cam, my son is totally free from Autism with his speech cleared and social skills ok as he now respond to orders and act right. Thank you doc Oyalo for your help. I am Greatful
My son has been diagnosed of autism spectrum since childhood and has battled with it all his life. But recently taking Dr Oyalo herbs have helped him get rid of it completely, his speech is vital and his social skill is perfect
Absolutely
I was just recently diagnosed as autistic and it brings a smile to my face that a kid like her is getting the support she needs this early on. Even the first couple of seconds of the video starting where her parents ask her if she needs help. Growing up I was never deliberately asked if I needed help so I just kept it all to myself, this gradually had costing effects and so now I am trying to learn to ask for help and to be more forgiving towards myself. Plus the part where the prof said autistic children love bubbles, I was obsessed with bubble machines and bubble wands as a kid, they are really mesmerizing!
I think it should be pointed out that pivotal response treatment (PRT) is just a play-based, naturalistic form of applied behavior analysis (ABA, the application of behavior analysis to change behavior) and that the other form of ABA used for autism is called (early) intensive behavior intervention (E/IBI), which consists of discrete trial training as the primary teaching unit along with generalizing new skills with incidental teaching. And that PRT is more beneficial for those with expressive language delays while IBI is more beneficial for those with receptive language delays. And that ABA is actually a much broader field based on operant conditioning (aka contingency management).
Very nice description. So far EIBI is proving to be much beneficial for Children with Autism (CWA)
Doc Oyalo can reverse autism with herbs and it’s completely perfect. I used it for my son and so far his speech is verbal and social skill is normal and he can now also respond to everything positively on his own
don't forget the part where it traumatizes the child. I feel that's a pretty important part.
With the gradual using of dr Oyalo herbal recommendation for autism, whom I met on TH-cam, my son is totally free from Autism with his speech cleared and social skills ok as he now respond to orders and act right. Thank you doc Oyalo for your help. I am Greatful
@christopherdominic6699 I'm so tired of these bots
I'm autistic and I got into therapy half a year ago and it has really helped me and made me happy
This video is all kinds of triggering for me, and I’m not autistic. I will be working with autistic kids soon and it blows my mind the lack of understanding a lot of people have. ‘My kid isn’t that different, they just needed different tools.’ Like really?? EVERYONE NEEDS DIFFERENT TOOLS. Even regular people with no diagnosed labels. We are called individuals because we are EXACTLY THAT. You can’t force people to fit into society. You need to welcome into environments that make them want to engage, interact and coexist. Really unfortunate they make these transitions in life seem ‘incredibly difficult.’ It’s almost dehumanizing in my eyes. This video wasn’t done well…
This is great. I've heard of ABA and my daughter had it until she "aged out" 🙄 in school (5 yrs old) and her 3 yr voucher for in home therapy (God send --ever grateful for programs like these) ran out. Her school district doesn't use ABA in the all-inclusive, self-contained class she's now in. My girl is now 12, sings all the time and will repeat whatever is said, so I kept wondering why is the "communication/comprehension" not coming? It's heartbreaking to watch tears well up in her eyes when she's looking at me like " I'm trying mommy. I should know this but I don't." I really think she knows that and she gets so hurt, frustrated and angry. So she cries, then I cry and sometimes I have to become octopus-like shielding her forehead from the edge or surface of anything close, her fists from her temples (so hard she gets bruises), anything hard in her hands from her knees, backs of hands from edge of table or legs of table underneath (I've figured out if we're at table when overload/frustration occurs, chair gets pulled back quickly and we take a breather from the whole scene)...she's quick! This old mommy has to get my arms moving to protect her from hurting herself, all without saying too much and trying not to give any "positive reinforcement" for her choice of reaction to her frustration. My sweet girl has always tested closer to the severe end of the spectrum due to the inability to comprehend/communicate. I recently learned through more thorough gene testing that she has a mutation of the gene GRIN2A (speech disorders/seizures{yes-she has them}. Speech disorders can be severe and include dysarthria, dyspraxia, and both receptive/expressive language. Kinda feel like life sucker punched my baby girl and she's such a sweet and happy girl a majority of the time. I've been diagnosed with narcolepsy and drop seizures (seizure diagnosis 2 weeks after crainiotomy for hematoma-irony for ya) within the last couple of years, and she has been so patient with me. After one of my harder falls, she came and stood beside me and just reached her hand down and held my hand til I was ready to quit my crying and get up. I would tell her that she was a great "little mommy" helping "big mommy" when I needed her. She would just smile or giggle when I would tell her that. No more falls since seizure melds, thank God! The day she was born my heart leapt from my chest and grew two legs! 💝 My angel girl from God above.
Being real honest,
My sister has it.
If you have other children make sure they all are getting the attention they need.
It’s hard, my parents dont care about me now (no seriously) they don’t even talk to me anymore.
We went to a family therapy session today, they said I get to much attention
In reality they getting one hug or cuddle isn’t enough sorry to sound needy but it’s true. Get her they help she needs so that your other children don’t have to be a after thought. My parents spend all the money on her. Anything I want to do is turned down. I was born with Craniosynostosis so as I get older I might need more surgery to fix my head,
They have spent 3,000 + dollars on my sister. Me? I’m a after thought.
I’m dumb so I need a RTI teacher, they don’t even do anything about that.
They don’t care. Today’s age you dont need much social skills, don’t spend all your time on her, but get her help. Love and prayers 💖
@@misatoholic research Suramin
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fun facts: the most common punishment for misbehaving in ABA is the
electric chair, it also degrades autistic people's personalty, worsens
autism, makes children who went thru ABA have a 98% chance of getting
PTSD, makes children who went thru it have a 72% chance of getting
kidnapped and just makes children who went thru it hide there autism
P.S: autistic children can talk to people but they just don't wan't to
and this therapy is actually ABA
I was shocked with how my daughter knew all her ABC and number shapes etc at age 3 but had challenges with being with other kids or fully constructing sentences until we where told she has autism
@lizzy canal that's bs
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My son have suffered autism spectrum since childhood and Have battled with it all his life. But recently taking of Dr Oyalo herbs have help his get rid of it completely, his speech is vibal and his social skill is perfect. I’m so glad and happy now
please don't put her in ABA
As a student of clinical psychology, during my rotations I have seen many parents getting devastated at the news that their child is suffering from a developmental disorder but all we can do is to manage and make the lives of these little angels more beautiful and much better
I'm also getting my psychology degree and decided to enter this job field where I could help kids with autism. Do you have any advice for me. My future goal is to obtain a masters and get my therapy license and make it into clinical psychology to help people with trauma.
@@LebronJames-if6qg this is all we can do and our joys lies in doing these little things for humanity
@@LebronJames-if6qg there is no other advice than I would say just be a true human ...Coz for me,a true human being can help others in a genuine way... that's all about it
@@wellnessmatters2910 thanks man
Doc Oyalo can also reverse autism with herbs and it’s work completely on my son and now he is verbal and behaves normal.
My son was diagnosed autistic last week, i haven't yet accepted the news but with time i will,am working on how to start helping him.from Kenya
Reach out to netriusbin
On instagram, he will help you out. My son is autistic and he has been helpful
Autism is not curable. Its not an illness for someone to cure. Its a neurological disability. Its within the brain
Your herbs has work wonders in my family. Thanks for the help Dr Oyalo for saving my son from autism spectrum with your herbs. Your herbs is the best.
1:10 wrong, it varies on a person-by-person basis
I do not understand why don't they make the same video with children on the moderate to severe side of the spectrum. I am a special needs parent and this looks like a commercial to me as if they are selling the technic.
We are a money making industry.
It is a commercial, IMMO
I’d like to hear the voices of those who are traumatized from ABA therapy.
Pls what is the contact of Dr oyale?
My son is 2 years old and have moderate Autism.I need help?
as an adult autistic, there is NO WAY to cure autism. Instead find supports and acceptance for us. there is NOTHING WRONG with being autistic
unfortunately, that isn’t gonna happen because those people want to pretend there are no negative effects of aba
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I wonder if they ever work with the Kaufman's from the Son Rise Program? I love, love, love their approach!!!
I don't even know where too start but seeing their family being happy together and interacting together gives me hope becuz as of a couple of days ago I really believe my son is autistic l, and i just want my son too be able too enjoy life have friends be able too have conversations with family members and be able too hang out with me and with family and friends. He has not been diagnosed/evaluated yet and with all this coronavirus deal everything seems too be moving so slow. I just want too be able too get him the therapy and help he needs asap.
I am 43F with autism. I dont know how much support your son needs. However I can tell you that the hardest part of autism is people expecting us to fit into the NT mold. I work from home and have few friends and I am perfectly happy. I have a very rich inner world full of beauty and calmness and wonder. From the perspective of a NT my life looks pretty boring and sad but from my point of view, the NT way of life is absolutely pointless, useless and boring. Try seeing your son's life through his eyes. What does he like? What makes him happy? It will probably be very different from what you enjoy but it doesnt make it less valid. I hope it helps.
@McCarthy-kg3yoNo offense, but you're EXTREMELY incorrect. Being autistic is a different neurotype, and not something that can be 'cured'. I'm sorry you're wasting your money trying to force your child to act like other people to harmful extents.
i am so moved with this video. many thanks it means a lot and to keep on the good work
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If a child can eat and dont harm himself or others im good. I dont need to be like others i just need to live andbe happy in whatever that is i like. feels like people not a days dont want to be different and be dependent of others
Your herbs has work wonders in my family. Thanks for the help Dr Oyalo for saving my son from autism spectrum with your herbs. Your herbs is the best.
right fix the system not autistics
I'm glad there's always methods and ways being discovered to help children in autism. People like to say autism isn't a disability but it very much is, adult with "untreated" autism have a really hard time getting along in life. And if there are ways to improve the symptoms then I'm all for it
@Alexander Mike how do I reach out to dr oyalo
@@eo8310 hello,been having concerns too,did u reach this dr and is it legit?
@@lordspower7757 i didn't reach the dr
I wouldn't say autism isn't a disability it's more like someone thinking differently. Say you were uncomfortable in a space and didn't function like everyone else did in the same space, that's basically what autism can feel like. Basically autism isn't a disability because they don't lose the ability to do something, it's more like their environment and their different interaction skills might be different from yours.
We went to the NYU child study center with my nonverbal 4 year old autistic son expecting great things. They turned us away saying we deal with mostly older kids and verbal and minimally verbal with increasing their sociability. I expect Yale is the same seeing this video. Blowing bubbles is great but how about helping the severe autistic who don’t care to blow bubbles? Unfortunately these programs look all great and charge crazy fees but ultimately with difficult cases they rather not put their time/money/energy into it. A hard pill to swallow for parents like myself. The grief that not many people want to help your child because of their severity is indescribable.
I'm so sorry to hear that :( shame on them for saying that because every child deserves a chance
Ask a paediatrician. They know where to refer your child. My doctor advised us to put my child in child care. Also you can let your child watch youtube videos about speech or shadowing. There also apps for autism.
I’m so sorry, my 19 month daughter has autism and we are in the same boat. Insurance only covers 1 hours a week of therapy. May I give you advice which I believe will help is, play the Holy Quran to her.
It heals in my faith. Just TH-cam search Quran and let it play around her. And while she plays and sleeps. It will do wonders for you.
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That is sad to hear, but I would reach out to any community-based programs in your area. Try these sites to help you look for support: www.autismspeaks.org/directory
www.autismprthelp.com/
This is great but we dont live near a Yale Child Study Center, Our town is 9000 people in WA state & I see NO help for families with kids on spectrum.
This doesn't really say what was done at all. Happy for this family is this is real but I wish this had more resources for what they did. Saying they used bubbles doesn't really say anything at all
fun facts: the most common punishment for misbehaving in ABA is the
electric chair, it also degrades autistic people's personalty, worsens
autism, makes children who went thru ABA have a 98% chance of getting
PTSD, makes children who went thru it have a 72% chance of getting
kidnapped and just makes children who went thru it hide there autism
P.S: autistic children can talk to people but they just don't wan't to
and this therapy is actually ABA
Video cant explain the whole of prt. Do research on prt
It did state that the bubbles were used as a form of motivation to encourage children to communicate.
The video clearly explained the use of the bubbles step by step.
Doc Oyalo can also reverse autism with herbs and it’s work completely on my son and now he is verbal and behaves normal.
Going through the same can I pls have a contact
Hello, my son is autistic and 3 years old. am looking some tips or suggestions for my son to avoid looking at his hands. example when he waves his hand he always look for his hands and he will wave infront of his eyes close to his face. please suggest me what kind of techniques or activities will solve this issue.
Hi
My Daughter also does the same. Please let know if you find out more information about it
Thanks
Is stimulation but is away they express themselves so don't try to stop stiming is a part of autism is helping them in their on way to calm try groups in FB for autisem and shijal in case is helpful
Omg same as my child...she will hold her hand towards her face a wave and say hi or bye😌
@@BalwinderSinghDeol research Suramin
@@anonymous-tl7im research Suramin
Autistic children are special and have a high level of intelligence, and with proper training and rehabilitation, this child will be creative
Training? Oof…
I have autism do you know what kind of autism I have
Polyvagal theory ! Makes complete sense . The onus is on the adult to change not the child !!
The video was truly wonderful, and I believe it is a valuable resource that can help increase awareness and understanding of autism. By watching it, people can gain insights that enable them to positively impact and support those affected by autism.
Your herbs has work wonders in my family. Thanks for the help Dr Oyalo for saving my son from autism spectrum with your herbs. Your herbs is the best.
How much effective are medicine in Autism?? Like some supplements etc??
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MY daughter has autism too. It is really hard and challenging raising a child with autism. But God choose us to be their parents to love accept and protect them always
Doc Oyalo can also reverse autism with herbs and it’s work completely on my son and now he is verbal and behaves normal.
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I wish I would’ve gotten my autism diagnosis when I was younger. That way I could’ve gotten resources and therapy like this
Hi . My sister son also shows every sign he is 2.5yr old …did u had commounication delay ..he is not yet talked but often he used to say mother,father,uncle like that
Has anyone thought to engage people capable of deep interests and understanding with things that could develop interest in useful fields? Autistic people need to see the options early in life. This is how it worked when we lived communally and children could see people doing interesting things from an early age. Now we just put kids in bubbles and wonder why the extraordinary ones fail.
I seriously wish they have more videos and information on autism, it would help a lot especially for parents with autistic children😢
Plenty of books on the subject.
@@Darkest_Soul_187written by autistic people?
I'd like to read it as a mother of an autistic awesome little boy. I'm kind of tired of reading articles and seeing videos from neurotypical people who don't even have neurotypical children and have never even spoken to autistic people yet they feel entitled to regularly speak for them.
@@lateishajones9898 have you read The Reason Why I jump by Naoki Higashida? It was written by an autistic 13 year old boy. I highly recommend it
Im sri lankan. Dear parents . I wormly invite to sri lanka. Have excellent center for autism babies. I garrent 100% you can get surprise good change from your child . So please come and release your pressure.
To be honest with you, I do have autism but I'm on the high level of functioning and that's a good thing because I have a higher chance of getting a job and being independent on my own but I do have some issues with behavior and stop emotions that I need to learn how to control them. This girl sure is showing signs of improvement and with the support of her parents I'm sure that she'll be able to do stuff on her own and be independent. I also want to know what causes autism to develop during pregnancy and how does your brain function differently than others without autism.
No it’s still a very big deal! No one should have that ever! Get help!
Since the final taking of your herbs, my son has been speaking well and responding to his name Thank you for saving my son
how do you get a toddler with asd to talk?
People with ASD can be non verbal their entire life. I personally started speaking sooner than other kids and I have autism as well. It really just depends, you have to encourage them like any other child, you just need more patient and to understand that it may never happen
That was really good. Creativity and engagement are really important. Sitting back is too. I think we fear rejection. Getting asked what we want and then being told no, that's no good and no, lets do something else is normal. You become the one who is always compromising and being asked to compromise.It's devaluing and corrosive.
Since the final taking of your herbs, my son has been speaking well and responding to his name Thank you for saving my son
One day Victoria will be Noble Laureate!!! You write it down daddy!! write it down!!
Doc Oyalo can also reverse autism with herbs and it’s work completely on my son and now he is verbal and behaves normal.
I got diagnosed with autism and I’m scared to tell people about it
I am so happy coming across Dr Isibor Herbal treatment, my 4 years old son is getting better every day and sleeps well at night
Don't be. It's nothing wrong. It makes you unique and yourself. If people don't like it that's their problem and I'm sure they are missing out on a great person.
Same I’ll take it to my grave I’d rather be known as weird than weird and autistic
@@therealmarkzuckerberg with the right help and treatment Autism can be overcome, I know because I had a son who was autistic but now he is fine, no more aggression he sleeps well and improve so much better. Visit Doctor Isibor Alternative Herbal healing on youtube
Please keep it away from us.
Is there anything like this in the uk?
This is like looking at the Future.
Great kid and very nice parents!
Does adderall or ritalin work for autism?
I'm in Canada you think we got it so good ? My son is 17 still non-verbal and we've only been given very little in services. Yay world-class social health care. I couldn't even buy better care if I wanted to. The province next door to me had a plastic surgeon leave the province to find better services for his autistic child in America.
Look for stem cell treatment for autism . You can also try homeopathy. It does help to sone extent.
some autistic people are non-verbal forever, and that’s okay. it can be frustrating not to hear your child ever speak, but as long as they’re happy and safe and have some way to communicate (even if not verbally) it doesn’t matter whether they can speak or not.
@@ririwatermelon8681 I agree perfectly fine to be like him he is very happy and loving little man. What I say is true however. The little services we do get are generally covered by inexperienced students who are learning by training on the job with our child. Not that any of that matters once the financial ramifications of our Justin and his short-sightedness finally come to meet us. I have a pretty good hunch over the next 10 to 20 years it's going to be way tighter than any of us have ever experienced financially.
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i’m sorry to hear that, though it’s good to hear your son is currently doing well. i hope in future you can get more access to services, particularly services led/influenced by autistic adults, as that tends to be the most effective route.
i appreciate it’s not the same as full services from your government, but i’d recommend looking at autistic advocates like Paige Layle and princessaspien. they both have youtube channels with many helpful videos, as well as other social media.
i know you’ve had 17 years of raising and autistic child and my advice probably seems a little silly, but i thought i’d recommend it just in case. in my experience, autistic adults offer far better and more useful advice and information than non-autistic people, even if they claim to be ‘professionals’. after all, nobody quite understands autism like an autistic person themself.
Does stem cell therapy really help? Is it safe for 2.5 yr old baby?
My Son was diagnosed with spina bifida, now 7 years old with a condition of 10 kg weight, sometimes admitted to the hospital 1 month 4x for the treatment process.
Since the final taking of your herbs, my son has been speaking well and responding to his name Thank you for saving my son
Thanks
Wow that is really great your daughter is doing well . My son was just diagnosed with Autism he is 24 months
Why are bots underneath the comment. Nothing can reverse Autism and ABA is not a good environment for an autistic child at all.
@@sleepyhammock3371 why my son has been in ABA almost a month now
With the gradual using of dr Oyalo herbal recommendation for autism, whom I met on TH-cam, my son is totally free from Autism with his speech cleared and social skills ok as he now respond to orders and act right. Thank you doc Oyalo for your help. I am Greatful
Since the final taking of your herbs, my son has been speaking well and responding to his name Thank you for saving my son
@@charnellemonayABA is terrible. please take your son out of it
Reading all the various comments makes me realise almost all persons with autism would benefit for having support from an advocate in the areas where they have difficulties. And due to the nature of the disorder.
Since the final taking of your herbs, my son has been speaking well and responding to his name Thank you for saving my son
Where could I get this service
"A life changing therapy for children with autism"
As someone who is autistic and had to go through ABA, it's life changing alright, but in a horrible way that no person should ever have to go through.
Can you explain this please?
@@mandy472LDS yes, i can elaborate
what im basically saying is, most autistic people including myself have been mistreated by the ABA system, and treated horrible. as a result, it has made us have lifelong issues, and some autistic people have developed PTSD from it
I'm sorry your parents allowed you to be mistreated and did not pay attention to what the ABA therapist did to you. I'm a stay at home mom and I'm at home and in the room from the time her RBT walks in the house and until she leaves. No one stays alone with my daughter.
Then what's the best way to help autistic kids? Like to help prevent meltdowns, help them make friends, and allow them to be in mainstream classrooms instead of special ed?
@@CharlestonChica There are other therapies, CBT is one of them that are used. I was in CBT for a while and it genuinely helped.
Where shall i can buy that toys . Please teacher?
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But, if eye contact has proven a source of anxiety and stress for autistics, why teach them that they ought to maintain it? Teaching children to do what makes them uncomfortable is a recipe for abusers of any kind. When are the needs of others more important than one's own? Perhaps inclusivity can mean that people can speak without eye contact and that's O.K. too.
Exactly. I have a hard time keeping eye contact and when I go to therapy I'm very uncomfortable with it so I just look forward or down at myself, this makes it very hard to socialise. But I managr
More videos please about PRT 🌹😊
Doc Oyalo can also reverse autism with herbs and it’s work completely on my son and now he is verbal and behaves normal.
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I have a learning disability partially sighted and autism
I hate how everyone is like. “Parenting a child with a disability is so hard” it’s a lot harder for the kid… 😃🔫
I wish to start a Autism Study Centre
This made me smile
It's interesting because I used to be very aggressive and I was very behind in school. Would I be where I am today without treatment? I don't know. Doctors were saying that I would never be able to go to a public high school at the rate I was going because I was so bad in the classroom, but now I'm fine. I got ABA, speech therapy, and other stuff. I'm just like everyone else now. Swear to god, I have no idea how that happened. It is the strangest thing ever.
My son is 3 years and 8 months and still hasn't said a word. He makes popping sounds with his lips and flaps his hands and often pats his chest. I'm really worried about how he will be when he's older and I'm really struggling with helping him at home and becoming frustrated that he's not talking yet. I also blame myself for the way he is that's maybe I have done something wrong that's made him this way 😢
Since the final taking of your herbs, my son has been speaking well and responding to his name Thank you for saving my son
Your herbs has work wonders in my family. Thanks for the help Dr Oyalo for saving my son from autism spectrum with your herbs. Your herbs is the best.
Hello . my son is almost 3 years and he doesn't say a world . Poor eye contact and he doesn't understand most of things and he doesn't point towards what he wants . But he plays with his younger sister tries o kiss he and everybody else and that is all . Is that means he is autistic ?ps. I have no access to any experts if any body can help i will ppreciate thanks
Your herbs has work wonders in my family. Thanks for the help Dr Oyalo for saving my son from autism spectrum with your herbs. Your herbs is the best.
🕊🌿🌳🍃🍀🌴🌱🏡 Using words, with clear directive, a wall clock, visual wall bourds with words and numbers, daily walks, keep going out to the park, daily human contact with parents, neighbours, community, are all vital, for autistic children and adults.
Autism children need clear, calm, routines, with no yelling, support them in the intetest that does engage them, and a lot of patience when their "social battery hits 0%".
Love them, just as they are. Sitting quietly with them, while they are chilling watching a movie/tennis/cricket/news/sit coms, and just being present; without speaking, is a very valid bonding activity, with your autistic sibling, friend, child, parent, step parent, or Grandparent.
Your autistic relatives will never drive over to your "place/house/apartment", ... you will be expected to travel all over the state, to pay visits to your high functioning autistic family members. Their routine will never bend, to come to visit you, as adults.
Self care is crucial at this time, as working 40 to 60 hours a week, makes it impossible to keep visiting these poor, struggling souls.
Love in our Lord Jesus Christ,
Princess Holly
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This would be my dream job I want to with who have Downs Syndrome, Autism , other disabilities and learning difference.
Your dream is to force autistic children into complying with you into making eye contact and interacting with you?
@@natesportyboy4939 Yes to teach them how to be social and understand the how cruel the real world is.
@@orange8216 You clearly don't understand how invasive autistic people find contact and forced interaction.
wtf this video tells me nothing about the actual therapy besides "we need to develop objectives", but nothing about HOW this change is brought about...
It’s cognitive behavioral therapy. It’s very effective. I get cognitive behavioral therapy 2x monthly and it helps me a lot
@@tiffanydickert1360 research Suramin
@@tiffanydickert1360 Very few autistic people agree with ABA. IT by design punishes autistic people for acting autistic and forces them to act neurotypical which is very distressing and often painful.
@@spectrumnewstoday6571 My autistic friend said quite the opposite really. i dont think he would even been my friend if he did not get ABA.
Shame to be doing this when there are much kinder and better "interventions" available. This is just sad.
Like what? I’m new to all this.
@@hansenchrisw shame on you Yale Medicine!
@@hansenchrisw they keep deleting my reply with recommendations!
Too bad. Though it might be TH-cam’s automated moderation. I get emails when I’m mentioned, and I got emails for these replies but not the previous.
@@hansenchrisw doesn't seem to be automatic, because there was nothing written that can be screened. One more attempt - "Greenspan floortime"
Dislikes here are filtered out this is very telling. The very beginning makes it clear that it is about the parents not the child.
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Good job
I got diagnosed with Autism in 2019
Really? The number ONE thing on your list is making her stare at other people's eyeballs?
Wow... Classic ABA focusing on really unimportant things because neurotypicals can't Stand not being the standard of all that is "good" and "expected".
I have a 16 year old boy with autism. He talks to himself. Twirls around and claps a lot. We are currently in Brussels and labguage is a problem because we speak english. Can you help me on line help
The best experts at helping children with autism living in a neurotypical society is an autistic adult that has gone through the same issues; not some person that learned autism from a book/phd.
❤❤please read Anthony William. Just try: Hawaiian spirulina and cilantro with organic fruit every day. No gluten no sugar or dairy. Raw honey is good.
I have a son autism l am very worry about him lwant my son understand everything and don't crying every time my other son life is disturbing
Your herbs has work wonders in my family. Thanks for the help Dr Oyalo for saving my son from autism spectrum with your herbs. Your herbs is the best.
@Susan McComas ❤😊
very useful tip. One can also try Ashwagandha capsule by planet ayurveda , it is also very beneficial.
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Disgusting 🤮🤮🤮
Pamela, where are the soul and the heart? They are children, play, smile.
Awesome
Nice video