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I can relate to your struggle. I am at a second stage of singleness with my kids all out of town & very much feeling the loneliness when around other couples. Sometimes being at my FSSP church with all the families is tough, too. And there are very few single men my age at my church. Got to put it in God's hands & remember to do that every single day.
It is important to remember that although you may not be called to a vow of chastity, you get the most excellent opportunity while you are single to live as though you took such a vow. This is a beautiful gift that we receive up until the day of marriage.
I was a degenrate who had just became Catholic a year prior, but remained liberal. I wouldn't go to Mass, since I had just been baptized I didnt learn to go to confession and never felt the need. I continuosly sinned, staining my baptismal garment with all kinds of mortal sin. In the sin, there was deep misery and pain, and a longing to do what was right and truly convert. I met a women, we were both juniors in undergraduate at a swedish lutheran university, the school had finally allowed the Catholic students to make a Catholic Student Association, having a slight interest in the girl, she convinced me to go with her, then convinced me I needed to go to mass and confession, forcing me to do these things out of our friendship, our frienship eventually became romantic, and almost one year ago we got married after dating for 4 years, and we have our first baby due in 12 weeks. All that to say, if Grace was never given to me in the Sacraments, then my wife Grace would have never been given to me in marriage. In Christ alone is there healing, but in Christ he gives us all the sacraments that we need to be given that healing.
Aligning myself to God’s Will is my daily mission. Fr Ripperger’s prayer for intentions guides me forward: PRAYER FOR INTENTIONS AND ACTIONS In the name of the Father, the Son, and the Holy Ghost, Amen. Direct, oh Lord, all our actions by thy Holy Inspirations, and carry them on by thy gracious assistance, so that every prayer and work of ours may begin from thee and by thee, be happening through Christ Our Lord, Amen. Virgin Most Prudent, pray for us. In the name of the Father, the Son, and the Holy Ghost, Amen.
The world has changed. You cant count on traditional dating/courtship structures to be in place anymore. If you're not called to religious life it might be time to take a step down and engage with the broader culture to a degree. I met my fiancee on a dating app after failed attempt with several women. She was a Lutheran and I knew I could work with that. I attended RCIA with her until her confirmation this past Easter. Modern Catholic initiation being what it is, I was forced into the position of stepping up and taking her formation into my own hands. It hasnt been easy and there have been many hurdles, but its been a journey worth making. Its hard out there, for all of us. As you said, someone worthy of being a husband and father has to learn to suffer well for the kind of family he wants to create. And as a man, it is your responsibility to take what you have to work with and create something worthy of Gods creation. We are blessed to face the trials we have been given. You cannot let despair take hold of you, you gain nothing from it.
Christ is the only thing that fulfills. Marriage has been a blessing but spouses can not fulfill each other. They can support each other toward Christ but they are not a replacement. Every next step of my life still leaves me with an ache for more. Only Christ has given me periods of consolation. I was not married until my very late 20s. It was very difficult waiting that long with many difficulties until that point. In the two years since some struggles have been even harder than when I was single. The only thing that can save you is Christ.
The temptation is to become a stoic and fall into an unholy indifference or just worldly bitterness. The Lord wants a Holy Indifference, as mentioned in Holy Simplicity by Fr. Plus, S.J. so it's okay to feel, Christ felt a lot in His life, but He showed us to plod forward along the route of God's Will in the midst of struggles. Also, I agree not every single straight man who loves theology is meant to necessarily be a priest or a religious, else how would those living in the world see an example of one who does the 9 to 5, pays bills, deals with ordering creatures rightly in relation to God, all while finding ones sanctification in that? You do great work, but we must all remember that behind the camera of every single social media personality is a person made in the image of God, and just as much deals with the struggles of life, we must all remember that we are also more than our work. 😇
Nick definately keep going to Adoration. You have the greatest friend Jesus Christ. I’m sure heaven is rooting for you. Mother Mary will help you too. ❤️🙏
Yes Nick I keep being told I need to have a call. They word this call as not really a literal call but some sort of idk how to explain it but it’s anything but wanting to do it. And if you want to do it you’re not called. I asked a trad priest point blank cause I was tired of the wishy washy nonsense and he said if you want to do it then that’s your call. I find that explanation more legitimate than the other. Now it’s just a commitment problem on me. I cannot commit, idk why I just can’t. I feel stuck. Great video, we need the reminder constantly that Christ is with us.
Keep these videos coming Nick, I’m glad you are doing good. I always go back to Padre Pio’s advice when things aren’t going so good “Pray, Hope and Don’t Worry” I’m praying for you too God Bless you my brother
it's good you got it out of the system, this "my feelings"thing, now we need you back in Secunda Secundae St Thomas(SSS) mode much better line of content imo
I can relate to your struggle. I am at a second stage of singleness with my kids all out of town & very much feeling the loneliness when around other couples. Sometimes being at my FSSP church with all the families is tough, too. And there are very few single men my age at my church. Got to put it in God's hands & remember to do that every single day.
This is very helpful Nick, especially I think for young men. I have two sons around your age who are struggling. Praying for you! God bless!
It is important to remember that although you may not be called to a vow of chastity, you get the most excellent opportunity while you are single to live as though you took such a vow. This is a beautiful gift that we receive up until the day of marriage.
You spoke to my heart. I wish I could have a friend like you. Let us all be men of prayer, men of virtue. God bless you, Nick, and Our Lady keep you.
Your suffering is maturing you into the Christian man Jesus wants you to be! God bless you!
I was a degenrate who had just became Catholic a year prior, but remained liberal. I wouldn't go to Mass, since I had just been baptized I didnt learn to go to confession and never felt the need. I continuosly sinned, staining my baptismal garment with all kinds of mortal sin. In the sin, there was deep misery and pain, and a longing to do what was right and truly convert. I met a women, we were both juniors in undergraduate at a swedish lutheran university, the school had finally allowed the Catholic students to make a Catholic Student Association, having a slight interest in the girl, she convinced me to go with her, then convinced me I needed to go to mass and confession, forcing me to do these things out of our friendship, our frienship eventually became romantic, and almost one year ago we got married after dating for 4 years, and we have our first baby due in 12 weeks.
All that to say, if Grace was never given to me in the Sacraments, then my wife Grace would have never been given to me in marriage. In Christ alone is there healing, but in Christ he gives us all the sacraments that we need to be given that healing.
Aligning myself to God’s Will is my daily mission. Fr Ripperger’s prayer for intentions guides me forward:
PRAYER FOR INTENTIONS AND ACTIONS
In the name of the Father, the Son, and the Holy Ghost, Amen.
Direct, oh Lord, all our actions by thy Holy Inspirations, and
carry them on by thy gracious assistance, so that every prayer and work of ours may begin from thee and by thee, be happening through Christ Our Lord, Amen.
Virgin Most Prudent, pray for us.
In the name of the Father, the Son, and the Holy Ghost, Amen.
Make a novena to padre Pio! I found my husband after I completed mine.
The world has changed. You cant count on traditional dating/courtship structures to be in place anymore. If you're not called to religious life it might be time to take a step down and engage with the broader culture to a degree. I met my fiancee on a dating app after failed attempt with several women. She was a Lutheran and I knew I could work with that. I attended RCIA with her until her confirmation this past Easter. Modern Catholic initiation being what it is, I was forced into the position of stepping up and taking her formation into my own hands. It hasnt been easy and there have been many hurdles, but its been a journey worth making.
Its hard out there, for all of us. As you said, someone worthy of being a husband and father has to learn to suffer well for the kind of family he wants to create. And as a man, it is your responsibility to take what you have to work with and create something worthy of Gods creation. We are blessed to face the trials we have been given. You cannot let despair take hold of you, you gain nothing from it.
This is very admiring, thank you for sharing. I’ll continue to pray for you!
Christ is the only thing that fulfills. Marriage has been a blessing but spouses can not fulfill each other. They can support each other toward Christ but they are not a replacement. Every next step of my life still leaves me with an ache for more. Only Christ has given me periods of consolation.
I was not married until my very late 20s. It was very difficult waiting that long with many difficulties until that point. In the two years since some struggles have been even harder than when I was single.
The only thing that can save you is Christ.
Your work is amazing my friend but be aware of telling very personal things on the internet. You don’t know the hearts of everyone that watches you.
The temptation is to become a stoic and fall into an unholy indifference or just worldly bitterness. The Lord wants a Holy Indifference, as mentioned in Holy Simplicity by Fr. Plus, S.J. so it's okay to feel, Christ felt a lot in His life, but He showed us to plod forward along the route of God's Will in the midst of struggles.
Also, I agree not every single straight man who loves theology is meant to necessarily be a priest or a religious, else how would those living in the world see an example of one who does the 9 to 5, pays bills, deals with ordering creatures rightly in relation to God, all while finding ones sanctification in that?
You do great work, but we must all remember that behind the camera of every single social media personality is a person made in the image of God, and just as much deals with the struggles of life, we must all remember that we are also more than our work. 😇
Nick definately keep going to Adoration. You have the greatest friend Jesus Christ. I’m sure heaven is rooting for you. Mother Mary will help you too. ❤️🙏
I think this more personal style of video is interesting.
Just Trust God's plan for you, He knows your heart..Trust Him.
Yes Nick I keep being told I need to have a call. They word this call as not really a literal call but some sort of idk how to explain it but it’s anything but wanting to do it. And if you want to do it you’re not called. I asked a trad priest point blank cause I was tired of the wishy washy nonsense and he said if you want to do it then that’s your call. I find that explanation more legitimate than the other. Now it’s just a commitment problem on me. I cannot commit, idk why I just can’t. I feel stuck. Great video, we need the reminder constantly that Christ is with us.
What I have been wrestling with most regarding relationship issues is that what is objectively good may not be God's plan for me.
God bless you, man. Great follow up!
Keep up these styles of videos man! Nice and short but always rich
Keep these videos coming Nick, I’m glad you are doing good. I always go back to Padre Pio’s advice when things aren’t going so good “Pray, Hope and Don’t Worry”
I’m praying for you too
God Bless you my brother
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it's good you got it out of the system, this "my feelings"thing, now we need you back in Secunda Secundae St Thomas(SSS) mode much better line of content imo
Marriage is an exchange of bodily rights. No need for romantic love.