I just met the man I am going to spend the rest of my life with. I’m 65 and he’s 72. Do I wish we had more time together? Yes, for sure. But I’m blessed that I have been given this gift - I know it’s rare. Thank you 🙏
After being married for 20 years, I cannot imagine being married to a man that I didn't love and respect. Love is what gets you through the hard times. Marry your best friend. As for providing, my husband does that too. We both had nothing when we met but I knew he was an intelligent person and a hard worker. So we worked and struggled together. And it wasn't until being married 12 or 13 years that we felt truly financially secure. Money pays the bills. But love is what keeps you together.
Been married twice for a total of 47 yrs. I'll second most everything you had to say. Only add this: marriage is about mating, not love, nor finding it. Choose someone that is easy for you to love, but never marry because you are "in love." Mating is a life-long process. Each day requires being conscientious towards your mate's needs, desires, and aspirations for there are no guarantees but what you create. Relationships, friendships, and love happen when two people are striving toward a common vision. Marriage isn't about "getting" but as you say, "working and struggling together" to create something worthwhile. They (the "--ships")are not the end in themselves, but the byproduct. My bride is the best friend I have in this world. She gets vexed when she is unable to assist me, console me, protect me. I get vexed when she takes a back-seat to things I do well instead of furthering her own talents in the same. She has become the perfect sex-mate, despite our aging bodies. From the beginning, we have always danced and played well together. Life with her is worthwhile because she brings something to my life I could never have any other way. So it is with her, and "equality" in this never enters or minds because we are not. We are unique, and that uniqueness is the fuel of our happiness.
But love is something you can grow over time. If you spend more time with them and understand their dreams and values no matter how different, you’ll start to care. You can’t do that with money. Money takes much more effort especially when you cone from humble background.
And would he marry her if she wasn't pretty??? These rich men complain about not being loved for "who he is" when he won't love a woman for who she is unless she is a beautiful model.
@@moisesbeyondA woman carried you in her womb and gaved birth to you so you can speel nonsence and feel entitled when you have nothing to offer. They have what most men value the most, beauty which is all he really cares about anyways that's why men always try to get the prettiest. Men don't like ugly and women don't like broke. Nobody is struggling with you.
Rich men don't really compalin about that because they know the deal, its the broke dusties who feel entitled to women that they cant afford to be with.
But you would not be with a woman if you thought she was ugly and a woman with high standards would not be with a man who needs her help financially. Money is not the only thing we care about, shera has said many times that a man has to be decent and a good father like James.There is no way around it. Nobody is obligated to date a broke man. Get your money up and work on yourself as a person.
When you're a woman...only fall in love with someone who invest in you. Then you can choose to reciprocate or not. Love is an ability, a choice. Not a feeling you just randomly "fall into".
Everything you said makes a lot of sense. You can marry someone for money, looks, status, etc. Then all of that can be taken away. Marry for love and God is love. 😊
Love & Emotions are too fickle and you could go around falling in and out of love with people. Love is always a choice each and everyday, when you commit to someone. Temporary chemicals are not a foundation for stability.
All the people that say love is not enough, have never experienced love. They have experienced agreement, infatuation, lust and think that they can have without giving....
@@candylove49 Yes it is!! I've been married for 13 years now and LOVE wears off at times throughout the marriage. A financially stressed marriage equals disaster!
Spot on. Im so in love n he just adores me and treats me like Valentine's day. We are not rich but we are soooo fulfilled. Im so happy my fairytale has come true. Ive dated rich and average guys. I could never prostitute myself. Love is the only way. It beats everything.
Yes, my Mom says the same.. only marry the person you cannot live without.. but - we women are often told just the opposite: You don't need the man! You have to be independent! Don't rely on anyone else for your purpose! And I must say.. no matter how badly I have felt at times that I needed that special someone, and I was devastated when they didn't love me back... it really did not help me to get into a happy marriage. If the other person doesn't feel the same, it is hopeless.
You are absolutely correct.. Love is everything and being in love. May God continue to bless you and your husband wisdom, knowledge and all the things that are aligned with the Higher Power. You have inspired me soooooo much.
I thought I fell in love , but in reality I fell in unresolved issues and drama from my childhood in which I still felt connected to. It is important that "we" enter a new relationship with no baggage or at least are strongly aware of them and not project these patterns onto another partner. Responsibility and boundaries are the most important tools
If Love is the only foundation you have in your marriage then your house is going to crumble. What happens when you don't live that person anymore. Are you supposed to end you marriage? A marriage is also about finances, sex,communication,and commitment. Love is too emotional and inconsistent to sustain a marriage on its own
IM MII : You seem to be confusing infatuation with love. Love comes with friendship, openness, respect, loyalty and trust. These attributes enable you deal and conquer situations as they come, together.
The process that lead to marriage is long and complex, what she's saying is that people should also be mindful of love, it should cap all the other reasons we decide to date, court and marry someone: true friendship, continuous communication, sincerity, admiration, spiritual compatibility, attraction, behavioral compatibility, PATIENCE, shared goals, health, career/finance, MONEY, STATUS, ....there's no perfect combination but u better watch out for these things. with love as the foundation......add those other ingredients. Love is enhanced when you work on those other things
Love is not just a feeling, but a choice. People get that wrong all the time thinking love is just emotion. Its a choice too. So when you may not feel love towards them you still choose to love them in action. Marrying just because you feel you love someone is definitely not enough.
Girl I just love your stuff you're so authentic in a time where everybody so fake you're so spiritual and everybody's so in the Flash it's just refreshing and it's uplifting to know real still exist I was starting to think it didn't thank you for the hope may God bless you and your husband and your ministry ♡
Because the security of the family & future generations have always been the ultimate goals of marriage. Cultures that arrange marriages teach their kids to grow in love by cultivating skill sets, including interpersonal skills, that help ensure its success. I think Americans can learn from other cultures in that way. Because this hookup culture is devastating our society & producing imbalanced children from single parent homes.
That's a great point. The only thing that should matter is real love. Not infatuation, lust, or necessity but love. Because if the people actually truly love each other more than themselves, everything else will be taken care of.
You are so right. If you don't love the person you are with the heart will always be looking to fill that space. The heart cannot tell whether you are married or not.
Amen Amen to this video. It maybe two years old but the message is timeless. I can absolutely can relate to this message. When real love shows up and God is all apart of that...Nothing but #Bliss
THANKYOU FOR THIS. So many men and women have made me feel like shit for holding out. They feel because I’m an attractive woman I should just settle for a man who can simply provide for me or a man who simply loves me but not necessary a man I love back. When I turned down a proposal because I just didn’t love the guy my parents told me I was foolish. What is the world coming to? If I’m not in love with a guy why in hell would I want to be married or have children with him, to be shackled to him everyday, to lose my freedom, my market value it’s just not worth it.
Mimi notbovered I think of you did, you will lowkey resent him and become depressed. He will sense as well that you don’t love him too and feel rejected. Not really a good look
Wow! This is exactly what I've been saying. So many people are looking at what the other person can give them financially. Nobody is thinking about love. I've been single for 12 years. Dating is difficult because folks are leading with what they have materialistically instead of their feelings.
Folks think more money means a happier secure life style & security. People don't know how to control love so they hope it works & that they have things up graded financially if things work out or not. Some think they'll hang in there longer if there's more money & financial comfort or advancement cause of the joint money or the bread winners funds helping enjoy things more.
I m 25 and now starting to think about marriage,I pray to God to find a good man and to also be able to be a good wife . Building a beautiful family is the biggest blessings on earth❤
I definitely want LOVE.... i don't care about you being a high earner or not. As long as we both can take care of ourselves financially, then all I ask for is GENIUNE LOVE, COMPASSION, and KINDNESS. I want "IN LOVE" between us!
THANK YOU! Yes, forgive myself and move on. Profound message. I continue to wait. Was starting to feel it was getting late for me, but trust and believe HE is preparing me, and yes, I get the readiness and maturity that is needed. Cannot wait for 2019 to begin!
I love this so much! Most people nowadays mistake love for attraction, lust etc. Its incomprehensible! I wish upon a star that all humans experience that type of love your talking about. You have a whole lot of men pushing this "fuck woman and leave them" mentality. A lot of men are practicing being cold hearted and invulnerability. What they don't realize is that it damages them too.
Thanks for being real. I always felt bad about marrying because I have severe Myopia. I would test a man to go out with me in my thick glasses to see how he would act in public while other beautiful women around. 9 times out of ten they failed the test.
Smh, reading the comments black men leave on these kinds of videos makes me not want to be bothered with dating period. I'm a beautiful black woman and I have tried to give the average Joe nice guy a chance multiple times, and they disappoint just as much as the playboys. Many men are out here pretending they have their lives together, and in reality it's all smoke and mirrors. Many of us are not looking for a wealthy man. We just want someone stable. Unfortunately, most of the time these men are out here pretending to not only be stable but also wealthy, and they are nothing of the sort.
First of all why are you giving the average joe a chance? kandacegunter you need to let God give you guidance to show you the right type of man to date.
Love is just an emotion. Or you could go more specific. It's a specific cocktail of chemicals in the brain. You have to protect yourself in other ways than just hoping an emotion (or a cocktail of chemicals) lasts a lifetime.
Your definition of love reflects the psychology of a disappointed man. Love encompasses other human attributes beyond money and wealth, power or fame. The difficulty in finding one that is authentic is the reason for the disappointment and sad undercurrent running thru your definition. Greed in America has killed love and all left is the partnership of adversaries.
If love was merely a chemical feeling, then why would people love someone even when they don't "feel" the happy endorphins associated with love? Why would people love someone even tho they were hurt by them; or even when they were angry at them? Why would people be willing to die in order to protect the ones they love? Why would people love unconditionally, if love was based upon the condition of a particular "feeling"? Love is something real and more than a feeling. "Feeling" love is merely one of the many symptoms of love.
Exactly, we should all do this (first & foremost, marry for love) Because only love gets you happiness. Material things don't. We tend to forget that material things come & go. Love doesn't.
That’s RIGHT YESSSSSS TOTALLY AGREE I’m So INLOVE ❤️❤️❤️ With The Man That I’m With and Everything Else falls in place He’s there For Me I’m there For Him
My husband is 20 years my senior and, of course, he is successful in business ownership. Not sure I would have married a window washer that much my senior. But, In my experience, when older men pursue younger wives its because they are seeking the ULTIMATE love: the birth of children. My husband wanted to father 5 or more children. Noway a woman his age was going to give him that. They want children to pass their businesses down to. Fertility is the complicating factor in this. God gave the responsibility of childbirth to younger women and this cornered men like my husband to gamble on me while not knowing if I loved him for him or his success or both.
Some older men marry younger women cos they going through a mid life crisis. They got the children from they 1st marriage, they don't want to be changing nappies at 50.
So he loves you for fertility and you love him for security. Nothing wrong with that, but it still begs Rebecca’s question: “who would love you without the money/fertility?” You’re saying he loves you because of your age. That’s totally ok, but still not exactly what she’s talking about. She’s talking about raw, loving of a person, naked and without the benefits you’re speaking of.
Girl u got me here dying wid laugh. Yip u crazy in a good way, lol. I love it. Totally enjoyed this talk. Its true ppl need to marry or get in relationships for love. Rebecca u are my girl til de end. So down to earth and real.
I just found this video and I realize it's old. Yet, I feel I must play what may be a little bit of a devil's advocate. The thing with being "in love" is "in love" makes people oblivious to MANY circumstances in which a person should not turn a blind eye to for the sake of being "in love"...and then they get burned. Hence the turn "Think with your mind and not your heart." Marriage or long term relationships are NOT always going to be in a state of "in love" because that is being in a state of a fleeting, infatuation period versus actual LOVE. I certainly don't think there's anything wrong with marrying for love. HOWEVER, even love has conditions particularly when each person in the marriage has the power to change the state of the relationship in any direction, thereby killing or building the love. Some individuals choose lifestyle because the old saying is "Love don't pay the bills" and believe it or not that is what they knowingly and willingly choose to do with no strings or love and emotions attached...and sometimes the love grow LATER. Love is indeed special. But it really CAN be conditional despite the vows as you've touched on, which is why some people compensate by choosing the lifestyle or financial security over love.
I admit you should marry for love, but you said Women should have standards, and as a man I have standards. I don't want a woman who is overweight and with Kids!
OF Ta_ne_zzyan first of all that's not a bastard it's a human you don't even deserve to be married dude if you don't want kids that's one thing but you're going to verbally abused a child a little human that has a heart you're going to talk like that I hope you don't find anyone no once a bastard there are human I don't care what their circumstances is it wasn't his fault who knows his daddy could have cheated or left his mother you don't know
OF Ta_ne_zzyan no I didn't blame the guy I said who knows you don't know it still doesn't change the fact the child is still a human with a mind and a heart could be the next Martin Luther King who knows the father could have manipulated the mother could have that's the key word the mother could be a s*** but the baby still a person that could grow up to be the next president you don't know this and plenty of kids in single parent homes go on and be good citizens husbands and parents and deserve respect until proven that they don't and you're the one who sounds like a bitter ignorant person you're more of a bastard that a child that doesn't have a father
I can’t say that I rather be walking in the rain with a man I love than be in a mansion with a man I don’t love. Not happening. We should marry for more THAN JUST love.
In my opinion. Most people do not define what love is for them because love means a lot of deferent things to a lot of different people and no one knows what "love" really means. And when U have two people who doesn't even agree in a definition of one word, that's when problems starts!
Yesss...love is the 🔑 key..some things change and some things never change...love is the foundation.if we loose it all...we may have to eat beans and peanut butter.. but we have each other and with God in the midst of it....the marriage will last...
It’s the part where she said, married the person you can’t live without. That attachment to someone and dependence on your life does not seem stable for you.
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Sounds like that your men do love. They love their money. They are committed to it. They protect it. They devote their time and energy to it. It’s a choice that they probably don’t understand how deep the rabbit hole goes.
I've loved before but we were not equally yoked. That's my only reason I don't think love is enough. So help me understand if I'm thinking about this incorrectly. I think my parents have lasted so far because of love but most importantly they are spiritually aligned.
That's the key all this all understanding those who focus on building only they're trying to take love out of the equation. It's a business partnership not love
I can't wrap my mind around how folks tie the knot for any other reason than love... This world is sick. (I am not using the word Love lightly, just not trying to write an essay in the comment section)
A relative wanted me to marry a wealthy person he liked for me based on this guy’s education as well. Turns out he lost wealth due to marrying a gold digger with kids and losing a job. I’m glad I always told my family that if I’d marry, it’d have to be based on love instead of a status pinned to a guy.
I just met the man I am going to spend the rest of my life with. I’m 65 and he’s 72. Do I wish we had more time together? Yes, for sure. But I’m blessed that I have been given this gift - I know it’s rare. Thank you 🙏
CONGRATULATIONS DENISE! 🌞🌻😇🙏❤❤❤❤❤
After being married for 20 years, I cannot imagine being married to a man that I didn't love and respect. Love is what gets you through the hard times. Marry your best friend.
As for providing, my husband does that too. We both had nothing when we met but I knew he was an intelligent person and a hard worker. So we worked and struggled together. And it wasn't until being married 12 or 13 years that we felt truly financially secure.
Money pays the bills. But love is what keeps you together.
That's the problem wit the black community the love is missing
Been married twice for a total of 47 yrs. I'll second most everything you had to say. Only add this: marriage is about mating, not love, nor finding it. Choose someone that is easy for you to love, but never marry because you are "in love." Mating is a life-long process. Each day requires being conscientious towards your mate's needs, desires, and aspirations for there are no guarantees but what you create. Relationships, friendships, and love happen when two people are striving toward a common vision. Marriage isn't about "getting" but as you say, "working and struggling together" to create something worthwhile. They (the "--ships")are not the end in themselves, but the byproduct. My bride is the best friend I have in this world. She gets vexed when she is unable to assist me, console me, protect me. I get vexed when she takes a back-seat to things I do well instead of furthering her own talents in the same. She has become the perfect sex-mate, despite our aging bodies. From the beginning, we have always danced and played well together. Life with her is worthwhile because she brings something to my life I could never have any other way. So it is with her, and "equality" in this never enters or minds because we are not. We are unique, and that uniqueness is the fuel of our happiness.
@THE GIFTED POET So? How many years have you been married? What's the quality of it?
Goals.😍
@james b well time too teach them about the alpha role and how it is really is
Love is truly something money can’t buy and that’s why it’s so valuable.
VintageAfro91 I agree with you
Love fades, money is always green.
Round Robin go watch channel sheraseven
But love is something you can grow over time. If you spend more time with them and understand their dreams and values no matter how different, you’ll start to care.
You can’t do that with money. Money takes much more effort especially when you cone from humble background.
And would he marry her if she wasn't pretty??? These rich men complain about not being loved for "who he is" when he won't love a woman for who she is unless she is a beautiful model.
Women only have sexual atractiveness...other of that what else can they give to men ? money...they dont give...but ask for money
@@moisesbeyondA woman carried you in her womb and gaved birth to you so you can speel nonsence and feel entitled when you have nothing to offer. They have what most men value the most, beauty which is all he really cares about anyways that's why men always try to get the prettiest. Men don't like ugly and women don't like broke. Nobody is struggling with you.
Rich men don't really compalin about that because they know the deal, its the broke dusties who feel entitled to women that they cant afford to be with.
@@allisonmcinnis5929 beauty is one of thingswe care ...but not the only one...
But you would not be with a woman if you thought she was ugly and a woman with high standards would not be with a man who needs her help financially. Money is not the only thing we care about, shera has said many times that a man has to be decent and a good father like James.There is no way around it. Nobody is obligated to date a broke man. Get your money up and work on yourself as a person.
When you're a woman...only fall in love with someone who invest in you. Then you can choose to reciprocate or not. Love is an ability, a choice. Not a feeling you just randomly "fall into".
Say that. They must choose to love you!
@Cool Breeze Invest money She meant I guess lol.....I think women go for men who have thick wallet same as how Men go for hot and beautiful women.
Exactly. And that’s just it.
What's more important for a man to "invest" in a woman, his money or his time?
@@mrmoe110 You already know the answer don't you bro
Everything you said makes a lot of sense. You can marry someone for money, looks, status, etc. Then all of that can be taken away. Marry for love and God is love. 😊
Love & Emotions are too fickle and you could go around falling in and out of love with people. Love is always a choice each and everyday, when you commit to someone. Temporary chemicals are not a foundation for stability.
All the people that say love is not enough, have never experienced love. They have experienced agreement, infatuation, lust and think that they can have without giving....
Colins Johnson Love pays the mortgage?
@@candylove49 HELLOOOO!!
Ess Warren The number one cause for divorce is money and financial disagreements. Money IS important!
@@candylove49 Yes it is!! I've been married for 13 years now and LOVE wears off at times throughout the marriage. A financially stressed marriage equals disaster!
Ess Warren yes, after a while you get used to each other and those butterflies go away and reality sets in.
As clear and concise as this is, someone is STILL not going to get it. Thank you for speaking truth regardless.
Spot on. Im so in love n he just adores me and treats me like Valentine's day. We are not rich but we are soooo fulfilled. Im so happy my fairytale has come true. Ive dated rich and average guys. I could never prostitute myself. Love is the only way. It beats everything.
Is it still same
A very encouraging video about love. Thank you for advocating for Real Love because that's the one thing I don't think anyone can truly buy.
Mrs Pope really gives me hope for my own future. There are women out there who are willing to actually love u
Yes, my Mom says the same.. only marry the person you cannot live without.. but - we women are often told just the opposite: You don't need the man! You have to be independent! Don't rely on anyone else for your purpose! And I must say.. no matter how badly I have felt at times that I needed that special someone, and I was devastated when they didn't love me back... it really did not help me to get into a happy marriage. If the other person doesn't feel the same, it is hopeless.
Love is patient , Love is kind !!
Ann Cran we.
You are absolutely correct.. Love is everything and being in love. May God continue to bless you and your husband wisdom, knowledge and all the things that are aligned with the Higher Power. You have inspired me soooooo much.
Really? I'm still waiting on my third grade teacher to accept my invite for a date. I'm patient and kind and its got me nowhere.
Yep that’s Bible
I thought I fell in love , but in reality I fell in unresolved issues and drama from my childhood in which I still felt connected to. It is important that "we" enter a new relationship with no baggage or at least are strongly aware of them and not project these patterns onto another partner. Responsibility and boundaries are the most important tools
If Love is the only foundation you have in your marriage then your house is going to crumble. What happens when you don't live that person anymore. Are you supposed to end you marriage? A marriage is also about finances, sex,communication,and commitment. Love is too emotional and inconsistent to sustain a marriage on its own
IM MII : You seem to be confusing infatuation with love. Love comes with friendship, openness, respect, loyalty and trust. These attributes enable you deal and conquer situations as they come, together.
IM MII #Facts
The process that lead to marriage is long and complex, what she's saying is that people should also be mindful of love, it should cap all the other reasons we decide to date, court and marry someone: true friendship, continuous communication, sincerity, admiration, spiritual compatibility, attraction, behavioral compatibility, PATIENCE, shared goals, health, career/finance, MONEY, STATUS, ....there's no perfect combination but u better watch out for these things. with love as the foundation......add those other ingredients. Love is enhanced when you work on those other things
Love is not just a feeling, but a choice. People get that wrong all the time thinking love is just emotion. Its a choice too. So when you may not feel love towards them you still choose to love them in action.
Marrying just because you feel you love someone is definitely not enough.
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Girl I just love your stuff you're so authentic in a time where everybody so fake you're so spiritual and everybody's so in the Flash it's just refreshing and it's uplifting to know real still exist I was starting to think it didn't thank you for the hope may God bless you and your husband and your ministry ♡
“Even a soulmate can test you.”
~TD Jakes (in Jumping the Broom)
Married 47 years. Boy do they ever! The first one could not make it to soul mate and failed the test. The second, with the patience of Job, has.
Wow that’s one of the realest questions out there Who would you attract without your Money ?
Older people say “marry for money, you’ll learn to love them down the road” 🤔
Because the security of the family & future generations have always been the ultimate goals of marriage. Cultures that arrange marriages teach their kids to grow in love by cultivating skill sets, including interpersonal skills, that help ensure its success. I think Americans can learn from other cultures in that way. Because this hookup culture is devastating our society & producing imbalanced children from single parent homes.
compatibility is the new love of today!
Listening to this in 2022! And my heart is full. I’m tearing up 🥲 because of how powerful this message is. Amazing!
That's a great point. The only thing that should matter is real love. Not infatuation, lust, or necessity but love. Because if the people actually truly love each other more than themselves, everything else will be taken care of.
Kingstyles05 Amen!
You shouldn't love someone more than yourself, that will keep you with cheaters, users and abusers.
“God’s best for you is love”. I’m writing that down on my bulletin board💕
You are so right. If you don't love the person you are with the heart will always be looking to fill that space. The heart cannot tell whether you are married or not.
I really needed this. Thank you for taking the time to make this video.
Amen Amen to this video. It maybe two years old but the message is timeless. I can absolutely can relate to this message. When real love shows up and God is all apart of that...Nothing but #Bliss
THANKYOU FOR THIS. So many men and women have made me feel like shit for holding out. They feel because I’m an attractive woman I should just settle for a man who can simply provide for me or a man who simply loves me but not necessary a man I love back. When I turned down a proposal because I just didn’t love the guy my parents told me I was foolish. What is the world coming to? If I’m not in love with a guy why in hell would I want to be married or have children with him, to be shackled to him everyday, to lose my freedom, my market value it’s just not worth it.
Mimi notbovered I think of you did, you will lowkey resent him and become depressed. He will sense as well that you don’t love him too and feel rejected. Not really a good look
Wow! This is exactly what I've been saying. So many people are looking at what the other person can give them financially. Nobody is thinking about love. I've been single for 12 years. Dating is difficult because folks are leading with what they have materialistically instead of their feelings.
Folks think more money means a happier secure life style & security. People don't know how to control love so they hope it works & that they have things up graded financially if things work out or not.
Some think they'll hang in there longer if there's more money & financial comfort or advancement cause of the joint money or the bread winners funds helping enjoy things more.
I m 25 and now starting to think about marriage,I pray to God to find a good man and to also be able to be a good wife . Building a beautiful family is the biggest blessings on earth❤
I definitely want LOVE.... i don't care about you being a high earner or not. As long as we both can take care of ourselves financially, then all I ask for is GENIUNE LOVE, COMPASSION, and KINDNESS. I want "IN LOVE" between us!
THANK YOU! Yes, forgive myself and move on. Profound message. I continue to wait. Was starting to feel it was getting late for me, but trust and believe HE is preparing me, and yes, I get the readiness and maturity that is needed. Cannot wait for 2019 to begin!
I love this so much! Most people nowadays mistake love for attraction, lust etc. Its incomprehensible! I wish upon a star that all humans experience that type of love your talking about. You have a whole lot of men pushing this "fuck woman and leave them" mentality. A lot of men are practicing being cold hearted and invulnerability. What they don't realize is that it damages them too.
This makes more sense in quarantine, when we felt alone and we've seen people lose their money, their lives.
This was sooo on time for me! You spoke to everything I was meditating on. #PerfectTiming #RealLove
Marriage without love in the 21st century is a business contract. So true! The problem today is most people don't even know what love is!
Thanks for being real. I always felt bad about marrying because I have severe Myopia. I would test a man to go out with me in my thick glasses to see how he would act in public while other beautiful women around. 9 times out of ten they failed the test.
This women here is on point can I please found a women with this kind of thinking
Yes you can!
Yes you can, and you will!
Not all of those old people married only for security. Some actually love each other.
Yeah, is a nice though to have and believe, in a perfect world that would make so much sense.
Smh, reading the comments black men leave on these kinds of videos makes me not want to be bothered with dating period.
I'm a beautiful black woman and I have tried to give the average Joe nice guy a chance multiple times, and they disappoint just as much as the playboys. Many men are out here pretending they have their lives together, and in reality it's all smoke and mirrors.
Many of us are not looking for a wealthy man. We just want someone stable. Unfortunately, most of the time these men are out here pretending to not only be stable but also wealthy, and they are nothing of the sort.
"a chance"??? -- Your arrogance is sickening.
First of all why are you giving the average joe a chance? kandacegunter you need to let God give you guidance to show you the right type of man to date.
Love is just an emotion. Or you could go more specific. It's a specific cocktail of chemicals in the brain. You have to protect yourself in other ways than just hoping an emotion (or a cocktail of chemicals) lasts a lifetime.
Your definition of love reflects the psychology of a disappointed man. Love encompasses other human attributes beyond money and wealth, power or fame. The difficulty in finding one that is authentic is the reason for the disappointment and sad undercurrent running thru your definition. Greed in America has killed love and all left is the partnership of adversaries.
If love was merely a chemical feeling, then why would people love someone even when they don't "feel" the happy endorphins associated with love? Why would people love someone even tho they were hurt by them; or even when they were angry at them? Why would people be willing to die in order to protect the ones they love? Why would people love unconditionally, if love was based upon the condition of a particular "feeling"?
Love is something real and more than a feeling. "Feeling" love is merely one of the many symptoms of love.
There are different types of love, but u describing lust and infatuation.
Exactly, we should all do this (first & foremost, marry for love) Because only love gets you happiness. Material things don't. We tend to forget that material things come & go. Love doesn't.
People have always and will always marry for many different reasons and that won’t change 🤷🏾♀️
That’s RIGHT YESSSSSS TOTALLY AGREE I’m So INLOVE ❤️❤️❤️ With The Man That I’m With and Everything Else falls in place He’s there For Me I’m there For Him
Can I just say I love your realness!!! I love your videos too!!
You're wise beyond your years
Fall in love with stability and good morals. Love without sense is stupid.
I am so grateful for this video...thank you!
My husband is 20 years my senior and, of course, he is successful in business ownership. Not sure I would have married a window washer that much my senior. But,
In my experience, when older men pursue younger wives its because they are seeking the ULTIMATE love: the birth of children.
My husband wanted to father 5 or more children.
Noway a woman his age was going to give him that.
They want children to pass their businesses down to.
Fertility is the complicating factor in this.
God gave the responsibility of childbirth to younger women and this cornered men like my husband to gamble on me while not knowing if I loved him for him or his success or both.
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Some older men marry younger women cos they going through a mid life crisis. They got the children from they 1st marriage, they don't want to be changing nappies at 50.
Carla H 🤣🤣🤣🤣
So he loves you for fertility and you love him for security. Nothing wrong with that, but it still begs Rebecca’s question: “who would love you without the money/fertility?”
You’re saying he loves you because of your age. That’s totally ok, but still not exactly what she’s talking about. She’s talking about raw, loving of a person, naked and without the benefits you’re speaking of.
@@CeeceeH1819 lmao it's not a midlife crisis. Why would a man NOT choose a younger, more attractive woman who has less baggage?
People not looking for love because toxic love has become the new norm. Real love has lost its value.
The man I love, loves me. It feels amazing 😍. Mutual true love is a blessing. If only I can have trustworthy loyal friendships like Oprah and Gail 🤔.
on and off here Oprah and Gail are fuck buddies. Nothing is just a friendship in that relationship at all.
Love in the Black Community is on Life Support...Will the "Plug" ever get pulled? Only time will tell.
Buckdodgers1906 We are REEEALY close to the plug getting pulled, and it's a social engineering project that's working, it's by design.
Buckdodgers1906 you can always tell the "so called" inexperience ones. (one 💖
Buckdodgers1906 If the black community chooses to continue disobeying God and living in sin en masse, of course love will be on life support.
Buckdodgers1906 😂
Sorry, I am not buying into defeatism.
Stay Black✊🏿
Girl u got me here dying wid laugh. Yip u crazy in a good way, lol. I love it. Totally enjoyed this talk. Its true ppl need to marry or get in relationships for love. Rebecca u are my girl til de end. So down to earth and real.
My first marriage was for love second and third it wasn't and I regret that I didn't because I was so afraid of heartbreak.
u have the most beautiful and refreshing spirit i have ever seen
This woman is GOLD.
I ABSOLUTELY LOVE U REBECCA! THANK U FOR YOUR WORDS & VIDEOS 💜💜
I just found this video and I realize it's old. Yet, I feel I must play what may be a little bit of a devil's advocate. The thing with being "in love" is "in love" makes people oblivious to MANY circumstances in which a person should not turn a blind eye to for the sake of being "in love"...and then they get burned. Hence the turn "Think with your mind and not your heart." Marriage or long term relationships are NOT always going to be in a state of "in love" because that is being in a state of a fleeting, infatuation period versus actual LOVE. I certainly don't think there's anything wrong with marrying for love. HOWEVER, even love has conditions particularly when each person in the marriage has the power to change the state of the relationship in any direction, thereby killing or building the love. Some individuals choose lifestyle because the old saying is "Love don't pay the bills" and believe it or not that is what they knowingly and willingly choose to do with no strings or love and emotions attached...and sometimes the love grow LATER. Love is indeed special. But it really CAN be conditional despite the vows as you've touched on, which is why some people compensate by choosing the lifestyle or financial security over love.
Rebecca Lynn you are very intelligent
Very. She oversteps a bit on some points, but she’s spot-on 95% of the time.
@@DeCurtaRican oh really! I don't think so.
I admit you should marry for love, but you said Women should have standards, and as a man I have standards. I don't want a woman who is overweight and with Kids!
Ray Love Window Cleaning Service LMAO
Ray Love Window Cleaning Service Thank you for being honest
OF Ta_ne_zzyan first of all that's not a bastard it's a human you don't even deserve to be married dude if you don't want kids that's one thing but you're going to verbally abused a child a little human that has a heart you're going to talk like that I hope you don't find anyone no once a bastard there are human I don't care what their circumstances is it wasn't his fault who knows his daddy could have cheated or left his mother you don't know
OF Ta_ne_zzyan no I didn't blame the guy I said who knows you don't know it still doesn't change the fact the child is still a human with a mind and a heart could be the next Martin Luther King who knows the father could have manipulated the mother could have that's the key word the mother could be a s*** but the baby still a person that could grow up to be the next president you don't know this and plenty of kids in single parent homes go on and be good citizens husbands and parents and deserve respect until proven that they don't and you're the one who sounds like a bitter ignorant person you're more of a bastard that a child that doesn't have a father
Ray Love Window Cleaning Service she said standards, not a wish 😞
I can’t say that I rather be walking in the rain with a man I love than be in a mansion with a man I don’t love. Not happening. We should marry for more THAN JUST love.
She’s a true prophet, thanks for putting this out
I agree.someone you want to see everyday..love is important........you must have that passion...for each other........
In my opinion. Most people do not define what love is for them because love means a lot of deferent things to a lot of different people and no one knows what "love" really means. And when U have two people who doesn't even agree in a definition of one word, that's when problems starts!
Yesss...love is the 🔑 key..some things change and some things never change...love is the foundation.if we loose it all...we may have to eat beans and peanut butter.. but we have each other and with God in the midst of it....the marriage will last...
You are speaking truth! Love & finance is good too. But love 1st!
Why would a millionaire want to be married? Sounds like just a big hassle to me.
Both rich men and women can have whoever they want pretty much 😂
No they can't have who they want.
Haaaa.... "Let me go shopping!" You are so funny but REAL!!! Love this!
It’s the part where she said, married the person you can’t live without. That attachment to someone and dependence on your life does not seem stable for you.
I love your message. I share the exact same sentiments.
Hello Mrs. Pope, First Lady. My name is Felicia. Im a new viewer. I enjoy your content because it is mature, right to the point and you don't sugar coat a thing. You wisdom is sound excellence. You may see this (💛!) in some of the tutorial I've viewed. Yellow is the color of friendship and empathy. The heart is me taking your words to heart. I may not alway leave a comment but a 💛! on my favorite commentary. Im just saying so you want have to wonder why and where all of these 💛! are coming from. I give all my favorite content on many social platform the 💛! sign. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. Have a blessed day.
Amen talk to these women and man. It’s what am doing at 58. Yazzzzzzz
Is not that people don’t want love but often times people fall into the trap of one sided love.
Omg, you're on point.
If the money runs out ,what do you have to fall back on, if true love is not in the picture .
Awesome video...your right I won't give up on love now
Sounds like that your men do love. They love their money. They are committed to it. They protect it. They devote their time and energy to it. It’s a choice that they probably don’t understand how deep the rabbit hole goes.
Great video...that is why alot of divorce happening..
not happening. they are making a choice, life is about choices.
I've loved before but we were not equally yoked. That's my only reason I don't think love is enough. So help me understand if I'm thinking about this incorrectly. I think my parents have lasted so far because of love but most importantly they are spiritually aligned.
And we’re So INLOVE ❤️❤️ReAL Love ❤️
my sister I got to salute you Facts Facts Facts!
That is a good thing, you care for your clients. It is true, people are not looking for love.
That's the key all this all understanding those who focus on building only they're trying to take love out of the equation. It's a business partnership not love
Find me a millionaire woman and I will show a love that money cannot buy. I don't want your money, I want your heart. Truth!
Sooo true you are right. Marry for the right reasons if you even do this.
THANKS I NEEDED TO HEAR THAT!
I can't wrap my mind around how folks tie the knot for any other reason than love...
This world is sick.
(I am not using the word Love lightly, just not trying to write an essay in the comment section)
You are absolutely right.
I love you, this is amazing!!!!!!!
You just gave me hope.
They have egos , pride, can drop a person just simply because they can.
I blame social media and the evil schemes of the world.
#MarryforLOVE 💕💕💕💕🙌 I needed to hear this.
Your amazing girl!!! 🙌🏻😍
So that is struggle love Mrs pope is what your saying
Go ahead and preach sis!!
I rather friendship. In love comes and goes
curchel smoot how does one do it.
Queen Cee friendships need love to sustain it so how love come and go ??
In love does not come and go, this is the point Rebecca is making! Lust comes and goes!!
A relative wanted me to marry a wealthy person he liked for me based on this guy’s education as well. Turns out he lost wealth due to marrying a gold digger with kids and losing a job. I’m glad I always told my family that if I’d marry, it’d have to be based on love instead of a status pinned to a guy.
And u are so right and u can only get that thru the connection of a man and a woman no other way that's how our creator gets involved true love !!!!!