I like her words. I don't think you have to call it a game and make it sound negative. A young gal does need to know that boys and girls often see dating in different ways. Many boys are good people but there are many that will tell lies, and while it's good to understand and not take it personally, do not tolerate. Do not trust them off the bat with secrets and sexuality. You don't get to know someone's ways until you take the time to do so. Boys don't know how to be what a girl wants and they will mess up; try not to take it personally as a reflection of something you have done or your value. Most of all, when you are uncomfortable SAY SOMETHING! If she is told at least this much, she will have a much better start than many women in history.
The 1st thing I told my daughter when she was about 10 was that when a girl gets her 1st boyfriend she thinks it will last forever, and when a boy gets his 1st girlfriend he wants more girls.. she is 14 now and just had a real conversation about soul ties, women feeling guilt from abortions and topped it off with the dirt I did as a young man.. I should have taken a pic of her face lol
Yes, initially. But after more bad experiences, the desire goes down and you don't want to try that much anymore... that's when he becomes open to the red pill: th-cam.com/video/SEVU-YLpM8A/w-d-xo.html
A man who didn't teach his girls about the ways of men literally set his daughters up for the slaughter. I could never imagine having daughters and never giving them game on men............that's setting them up to fail. My mama gave me game on life as a young boy, spoke honestly and transparent and as I've gone through life I've come to understand that most people weren't raised like me!
Agreed! I'm a daddy's girl to my core and my daddy BEEN giving me game before I was even old enough to understand! I'm in my 30's and remember advice he gave me at 9! NINE! Thank God for him and his wise words!
I can totally relate to the message in this video. My dad never talked to me about men. I assumed all men would be like him, fall in love early 20's, get married, have children, work hard, and provide for his family. I married the wrong man at 25 thinking I was doing the right thing, it lasted less than 3 years. I had no clue about games men play until I went through them and by then I was in my 30's. Ironically, it's my current man that is schooling me how most men really are.
Harry 1991 I guess it’s just like how I don’t play games as a woman and can’t relate to what men say about women either. The things like high body count, likes Pookie and RayRay, talks to other men, etc.
Amazing timing!! I just spoke to my niece yesterday before I saw this. I broke down the game to her yesterday. I broke the types of men down and explained what a quality man is and to look at actions and not words. I gave her these things to look for in order 1. Character 2. Values 3. Goals 4. Ambition 5. Communication 6. Believe in some higher being 7. Ask him where does he see himself in 2 years. The Teacher Rom Wills breaks down the two type of men out there who raise the most hell 1. Mr. Goodbar 2. The Masked man aka Status Man The overlooked man is the Thinking man....this what I explained to her who is the most forgotten and non select man when you are young. Teach the young gals about what's out there so they don't repeat cycles of foolishness! Great job Rebecca
The problem is that female nature is going to supersede any of those teachings. It doesn't listen to reason, female nature is not reasonable. If it were, none of these women would be chasing felons, cheaters and beaters. How many do you really know or have ever known that were under 35 and going after sensible, responsible men? Women go after what makes them wet, reason be damned. Reason comes after multiple kids and being run through the wringer, and then they hunt down a simp/Captain Save-A-Hoe to take care of the kids and wipe away her dumb mistakes.
facts!! literally had a conversation (yesterday) with a female friend of mine she wants to break up with her boyfriend... why?.. "because i don't see myself having sex with him"... women are literally ruled by their vaginas, wither by the value they ascribe to it or the value it, and it alone, can bring them... of this I am sure
My parents didn’t teach me anything. They just told me all men are bad and only want one thing and don’t date until I’m 30+. They did not teach me how to distinguish a good man from a one who has bad intentions or anything of the sort. My parents are also very old fashioned and have no clue how dating is today. I wish they had taught me things about dating but they wouldn’t talk about it. They raised me to never have an opinion, just be quiet and do as I’m told. Nothing I did was good enough for them either. So as an adult, I made the mistake of overly trying to please people just thinking if I can be nicer that I will be loved. That’s not how it works. They made me a magnet for narcissistic men and players.
As strange as this may sound to some women I can totally relate to this and I think all men who are classified as "Simps" can relate to what i'm about to say as well. I didn't have a relationship with my mother but I had one with my grandmother. I watched my grandmother be the perfect wife, perfect mother, perfect woman (fairytale) to my grandfather and all he had to do was go to work , provide for her and love her and got a good 50 years out at the very least decent marriage. In my naive mind I believed all I had to do to get a girlfriend was be self sufficient, be a provider , and be able to show a respectable level of emotion as a man and at the very least get what my grand dad had. Yea no one taught me the reality that not all women are going to value that pass i'm using him until he either gives up, or resources are depleted and I learned a lot of hard lessons especially since I was late bloomer socially. Sometimes we get so caught up and calling women hoes, and men simps that we forget that majority of people wanted something simple but were corrupted by reality. And reality can vastly distort your view on the world to the point you're aren't even who intended to be.
Love your comment. I'm learning this in different ways right now. I thought that if I am the "Quintessential perfect woman" be everything a man wants and then a guy will see my value and so forth and so on. It has proven to not be so true. So I continue to wait 🤷🏾♀️
Gino Peterson true. This happens with lack of morals & values. The women now have chosen a dollar 1st. Thats y they're not happy. Women make a majority of the money & still aren't happy
as a man i think one of the biggest lies is be yourself!!! ive only had 2 people like me for being myself and they only liked me for a few months, both less than a year, this is my experience.
I wanted the opposite of my father, that's what I am looking for, period. My dad was the type of man to live off a woman and be dependent. I want a hardworking man, to love me enough to not watch me struggle.
Think of the genesis of the butterfly. Without struggle, we are handicapped. What was missing in your home, is your parents struggling TOGETHER, and when old enough, you joined them. That's part of the role model.
@Saad Bin Masud My mom is from spain. In spain all her sisters where first married and then had sex. Indeed. A man could not ask or push for sex, otherwise only asking it would be for the man a very deep hangover and a girl slapping him in his face or turning him down permanently was common sense. Before not a single sister went into the house with a man. Only dating outside, eating an icecream and walking. Dancing with all friends together in a place where you could dance ones. Talking a lot. The boy or man allways paid for the drink or icecream. It was a honor for him. And he wanted to show her, he was generous and a provider if things went well in the future, when she would marry him. To gain her trust and showing, that he is mature to go for the long howl. To let her know, he is a backbone and is a safe man to choose. Also fir the children. To show her, he likes her. When they where married, the woman stayed home to do homejob. When the children where born the same. This women never worked outside, only the household. Running the household is a full time job. This women where all depending of the money where the man worked for. That was for a man, the way of living and he was not mad about it or feeling like a victim. They found it even honorable, because they did it. But the man was also depending on the woman, his wife. She made it possible that he did not have to think and manage a whole household and kids, school and so on. He came from work and no worries about other stuff. This men where the providers and felt manly and grown up and had an easier life then the single ones today. A woman/girl would never clean, cook, entertain, having sex, do the 1000 other household things and life stuff for a man, when she was not married. Dating was allways outside the house and a must. Seeing eachother. And go home afterwards and bring the girl safe home. And leave, without entering her house or chilling inside with a cup of coffe. That was for a reason! And i see the children, man, wife where better of. Of course, when the man was sick or having an accident, that was job loss and very nasty for all the family. With no security moneywise or wellfare it is a nightmare. One sister in law said to my mothers brother... I do not want to have sex..., i do not want to be your wifie working lady, who lives with you. I want first marriage, then sex. But first i want to finish school. That takes 7 years. He waited 7 years to have sex with her. After marriage of course. He was never trying to push her. Not for sex, not for living together, not for anything. Because he knew... If he not behaves correctly and does not respect her boundaries and wishes, she would stop everything between them. And no turning back. He knew that. He never took the risk to loose her. He wanted only her. He wanted to spend his life with her. He knew, that she was the one for him. She was very serious about everything. Luckily he was also a serious man. He liked her so much, that he waited 7 years and respected all her conditions. She wanted to work and be never depending 100% to a man ever. He respected her in that. They are very wise people in finance too. Very correct people. She would never tolerate anything of bad behavior towards her or the children. She demanded the respect. He could provide that. But they where depending on eachoter and growing. Living life. Nowadays men want from a woman everything. And also not a woman who could or would be depending on him. Men want company, her time, money, emotional support, chilling, watching netflix, going inside her private home, they want her comming to his house, they want her to cook, clean, sharing bills, sex, everything. Making her pregnant, without even marrying! The woman needs today to be a whore in bed, an angel, a virgin, pleasing a man, watch porn together, having sex in all kind of possitions and colors, where sexy lingery is a must, shaving her legs, vagina, armpits, acting like pornstars, allways dressed up...Men want not pay anything anymore... But women this days are suposed to be content without even marriage and be everything. And a good job ir none. But with much more skills then ever before. Having good conversations in all areas, intelligent, cultivated, elevated, wellspoken, dressed like a whoe, because otherwise she's not worthy havibg sex with. Men are brutal, low, emotional handicaped, unwellmannered, unpolite, pushy, want sex on the first date. Are arrogant, and want everything with any wise consideration and want a care free woman, who is not depending on him and totally independed, even when she is pregnant or has more children. In spain, even men would say, this kind of boys/men are the lowest of the lowest. And would never allow that their daughter would be used by men or a man like that. That boy or man would be warned not to come anymore. And the 3d warning would end with a smack on his face by the dad/mom. And even a girl would a man slap on his face, with no manners. Now the world is changed into a place where women have to behave like unmaried housewifes and sex workers without a wage and security. And later with kids. And that is only the top of the iceberg. Depending on someone and vice versa is the normal. Working together on duties is normal. Wanting to marry for the family to be in a unity is normal. What the hell is going wrong today?
Same. My dad was a provider to the best of his ability but he damaged me emotionally and was narcisstic. He started making plans to love off me too before I even established my own life.I haven't had a good love life as a result.
Agreed I was so green and got my heart broken so many times cause my parents didn’t teach me any game and I have a great dad!! But black parents don’t talk about things like that
I have a different narrative because my Dad taught me about GAME and he did it VERY EARLY!! I was like 10 years old. He was a reformed player too so he did not want me to get caught up because he knew the things he had done. My Mom and I thought I was too young at the time, but TO THIS DAY I appreciate him for that! And he never stopped teaching me until the day he left this Earth last May. I had an AWESOME Daddy, his role in my life was INVALUABLE!!! He Protected AND Prepared me!!!
The reason that your father did not teach you about “game” is that he did not know about it. Most people who were raised in a solid family are naive about how the world works in general, and/or how dating works. People who claim to be from “good Christians homes” can be lying, deceptive, manipulative creatures that talk a good talk but who are only looking out for their own interests. Unless you read a lot of psychological articles discussing how to deal with difficult or disturbed people, then you don’t know how to spot the people who are no good for you, and to weed out the undesirables. Your parents are probably not psychologists nor are they dating experts, so they don’t know what to teach you.
Wrong she said her father was a reformed player who did dirt. He know what game was, he just didn't teach her about it. Probably because he felt too guilty.
My dad did. I went to the club with my father a few times. He's a Libra...a ladies man, charming and sophisticated. My dad loves women. I understand how men are. It's why I've never wanted to marry early.
This is true I didn't have a good relationship with my father and dating was always crazy for me lol. I didn't know anything about men or how to understand them. It caused low self esteem too which can affect dating. I always tell ppl it is a blessing to have such a great father and daughter relationship .
I'm 28 and this lesson just came full circle to me... and I am the extreme daddy's girl!!!! please fellas tell them the game because they will b disappointed when they get my age and see that the real world is not like that.... because now I'm more pessimistic to dating and coming into trying to find that balance between fairy tale and realistic approach to dating
I won’t say my dad wasn’t good, but he wasn’t great either. Not a man after God’s heart & didn’t/never discussed topics in regards to relationships... actually NOBODY ever sat down & discussed any important life topics with me... so a lot of things I had to unfortunately learn on my own & the hard way 😔 I thank God that He’s allowing me to learn thru His wisdom & I’m going forth with better understanding
Dani M My whole life is a book 4real lol but both sides of my family have always lacked the skills of communication, amongst other healthy traits that would’ve been nice to have had... but hey, now I have full control to pursue the life i desire. I just wish that both of parents took more time to actually raise me because I recognize how the lack of affected my life tremendously
My parents especially my mom provided for my needs and kept me in church.. which I am grateful for.. but that was it... no financial info, relationship info, or emotional management... I am 31 years old and still struggling.. but by God s grace I will overcome.. and be able to help my future children..
Growing up Christian in my mind I always thought men were all nice. I was taught the basic about dating don't have sex! But, you are on point with this!
i was a preachers kid and thought all women were innocent angels...But i saw something totally different when i stepped foot on the college campus. Seeing these overly sexual aggressive bunny rabbit girls gave me a new perspective on life.
I agree totally with everything you stated in this video. I would like to add that men are privy to the same lack of information concerning how some women may not be all sugar and spice and everything nice. It is definitely important to teach our children about the realities of the world as it pertains to male and female relationships, as well as human nature. A man needs to teach his daughter about the game before she starts playing, while having no idea of the rules. I don't have a daughter but I have a son and I talk to him every chance I get about the games women play. I also talk to my nieces and other young ladies about the games we men play. Excellent video!!
Young girls are also under attack from females as well. I know girls that had lesbian encounters at sleep overs during preteen years. Young boys also. The attack from the enemy has no age limit or preference. So the learning has to be geared towards are children period. Both sexes are under attack unfortunately.
So glad you commented about that. That is one area I haven't thought about. Thanks for the tip! The world's is changing and we have to prepare our children for it all!
I had a cousin thataways wanted you "do things" as kids at sleepovers. When I got older I understood why my dad never let me go stay the night. I won't allow sleepovers either unless I know the kid and thier parent well.
When I was 16, the life advice I got from my beloved uncle was, "To men, you're just a piece of meat." I've often thought he was harsh, but on the other hand he told me straight.
The advice I would give my daughter is to TELL the guy as upfront as is appropriate 'I don't want to have sex before marriage' and watch them run, which is what I do now.
Your video points are so true. It's so important for dad's to talk to their girls SERIOUSLY about males. It will prevent a lot less heartache because she will be educated and not going out into the world naive and with blinders on. Thank you. I will be sharing this video with my daughter's and nieces.
Even when your leggs are closed, men bullshit you and game you. If men would not play their games, women would not open that easy their leggs either. There are very good players outside and they choose their prey with a blink of an eye and deceive very masterfully tricking women into believing he has very good intentions with her. A man also should close his leggs. That would help too. A man can be an ass. A man can be a real good man too. He has the choice between this too. And girls would not get hurt and traumatized over and over. So at the end a woman would be not that damaged. And men would not get damaged by woman either. Women change too with all their experiences and act different later on with men. A father/man needs to be aware of his power to destroy things forever. A womans heart can change with all misery to swallow. Men too. We all need to get educated to be responsable and being good to eachother. Blessings.
Following your channel is one of the greatest decisions I have made. I appreciate your insight. There is a certain degree of woman understanding that we as men tend to overlook at times. I appreciate your video.
I'm binge watching all of your old videos and this one made me want to shed a tear. So many nuggets to take away in this. I will also remind my husband that he has to talk to BOTH our son and our daughter about how it is like out here, in order to prepare them. Thanks so much for all that you do
I am almost in tears because it took me 43 years of life and 15 years in a horrible marriage to understand this! I didn't grow up with my dad and I know that had a negative impact on my relationship life because I too was told by my mom don't, have sex and don't get pregnant. I took a number of years of retrospection and healing to recover but thankfully I did. So I say all of that to say I pray more father's educate their daughters about men don't hold back that knowledge because she needs that to protect her for many years of pain. Everything you said Sis is so spot on I thank you so much for your wisdom!
Excellent. I’ve been trying to have this conversation and analysis for years. The disillusion based on missing information. Brilliant dialogue. We need tools to learn how to choose and how to date. Thank you!
I was JUST telling someone this! Same thing, my father STILL takes care of me (financially) and has been a great provider in that aspec my entire life. But he definitely dropped the ball on making sure I was truly equip to deal with these fools out here. Had to learn the HARD way.
Good video and we need to teach our young men not to play with women emotionally and teach them about the games of manipulation that women play as well also.
Jay Littles No we need to teach women that they are not princesses. Otherwise they belive all the pandering.. Plus most young women are in fact only good for one thing.. We need to teach them to actually be useful for other things... Otherwise it's all for naught.. Self respect would be a nice plus as well..
as a man i have dealt with this too.. most women will say women are good people.. if i tell my mom or sister a girl did something mean-spirited to me they will find a way to point the finger at me.. i had a 10 month relationship that was a huge headache that showed me some people are just not good people and there is nothing you can do about it except get away from them... get away from any jezebel or narcissist and save yourself.. trust me cuz i had to ask for prayer to get the bitterness out of my heart and everything cuz that rel. was AWFUL
If I have a daughter Im definitely telling her all things Ive seen and done. Also, the shady type of women I dealt with so she can decide if she wants to be that kind of woman.
Men have compartmentalized emotions, whereas the emotions of women are all inclusive. Understanding this will help many people navigate through dating turbulence.
This makes sooo much sense..... Most Dads dont teach daughters about the game...because a. Dad was absent b. Dads are NOT gonna tesch you about GAME because they baby and protect you and not show you or tell you about game...they might even ne down with the game... And MEN dont really experience the GAME. Many like your Dad are reformed players but still not gonna warn against the GAME. They still subconsciously condone the game. To be fair....MOTHERS dont break down her experience of the GAME either.
Great video. I believe it may be helpful for women’s understanding to view this from the opposite perspective. Many men can be all in and the woman will use him and discard him for another man with or appearing to have more resources. It’s hard wiring. I have a 15 year old daughter and started schooling her when she was about 8. I’d tell her about everything she’s going to face at certain ages and as a teenager she’s going to have friends that don’t have good parents. And so they will try to convince her not to follow my counsel. I would drill these things in her head every year. She’s not perfect and we hit the rebellious stage briefly but all in all I believe my tactics had a positive impact.
It's so true, we are protected from all the evils by parents and religions. But on the other hand...Im not so sure my dad or parents could even know all of the evils out here because they didn't experience them or act that way.
Another great and on time content video. I was going to have a real talk with my daughter this week, and then you do this video. Totally doing Gods work. I appreciate your content Sister. Thanks..... Wow just realized this was from years ago... Even more God sent.....
Like you so much! :D What this is all about is SINCERITY with who we care. True friendship and openness. Only true friends tell the truth about the world. Life begins when role-playing ends.
My dad was only physically present. I would later learn that dads actually did things with and for their kids. My mom told me men are animals. My plan was always to make my money and raise my kid alone. But the joke is on me, I've never ear earned enough. I'm now jobless and alone. But still glad I never fell for the game.
Very profound video. As a man this video is essential to me because it open my eyes about telling children the truth about life instead of fairy tales. Everything in life has pros and cons and it our jobs to teach them that so they adjust and prepare with the best of their abilities. Thank you peace and love to you and your family.
My dad didn't put me up on game. I had a good dad. But I lived with my mom. She was a single. My mom always told me "all men are dogs." That wasn't true. I was able to see the dichotomy of her single hood and choice men. And who my dad is. So I became very observant of my mom's relationships and my dad's marriage. My mom put me up on game somewhat. So I went into college thinking all these dudes want is sex. And I wasn't there for that. I went through unscathed. Plus I had a lot of male friends, so I got the male perspective.
I think this video is on point but I would just add 2 things. 1. I believe we need to truly understand MANHOOD as men. Young boys from a very young age are not taught what true manhood is and then once they get older we expect them to be a "REAL"man. I also think young girls need to be taught what WOMANHOOD really is. The older generation has not been taught this from our parents and as a consequence we have not taught it. We need to get bk to learning and teaching manhood and womanhood and have a real conversation with one another. 2. I think woman run just as much game on men as men run on women. There needs to be a real conversation abt what we should expect in relationships and this will eleviate many of the issues and relationships we get into.....
Leroy Mckenzie Jr. JNF Enterprises LLC. ..agreed Leroy I am what most people call..different..as a teen I was extremely observant and so the things that I saw my female and male peers go through with dating and having sex amd ultimately getting their heartbroken, I did not want to do...So until this day at age 31, i am still waiting on the Right Guy that God has for me...
Sister Pope, I have been listening to you for the last 24 hours. I also saw the post you and your husband did and I must say that I never thought I 'd hear a sister talk about how different men and women are. I think that women need to understand that you will never have to trap a man into marrying you "IF" he is ready. A woman just has to make sure that she is able to handle a real man and understand that if he is ready, there will not be a thing he won't try and provide for her. He wants to be able to have a comfortable place where he can come to after being out in the world all day providing.
I’m 34 and i was in 18yrs relationship wid my children, mother. Out of all da gylas I’ve been wid, only 3 had my heart. This is a man, being 💯trillion% honest.
Peace! Yes I had one that did not appreciate Masculinity!!! But also, many people are "UNCONSCIOUS", WITHOUT KNOWLEDGE OF SELF AND OTHER!!! Peace and Love!
Watching this again. Saw this the first time when my daughter was 8. Shes now 10. I slowly started teaching her about guys in a very simplistic way before she hit puberty. Thx so much for this advice.
Very true my dad was there my entire life but never talked about dating etc. My boyfriend told me he was going to put our future children up on game about different types of men which I appreciate because it is important ❤️
This would solve ninety percent of the problems in black relationships. It starts with men being better fathers and black women realizing how important that role is to your children being prepared for this world.
This was eye opening! I’ve always thought women who had supportive and protective fathers were better off than women like me whose father was absent. I didn’t think you all thought every man was like your dad just like we do. I didn’t trust men and didn’t want to get close to them because I didn’t want to become my mom(committed to him through infidelity and held down the household until he died). Now, I rely on the Holy Spirit and the Word to teach me what to look for and what to accept. Also listening to counseling like yours to gain wisdom and understanding.
@@heide-raquelfuss5580 EXACTLY! I GREW UP IN A STRICT RELIGION THAT MY MOM CHOSE BUT MY DAD NEVER ACCEPTED. HOWEVER, HE ALLOWED HER TO MAKE THE DECISIONS ABOUT THE KIDS BECAUSE HE WORKED A LOT. I WASNT ABLE TO DATE UNTIL I DECIDED TO LEAVE HOME SO I MISSED THE EDUCATION & THOUGH HE EDUCATED ME MORE AS I GOT OLDER I HAD ALREADY LEFT HOME AT 19 BECAUSE OF THE STRICT RULES.
Renecca, your exact feeling of how you felt and went thru I went through too. My dad was there and a great father but he didn’t teach me what I really needed to know about guys relationships. The real. Keep being real.
I dont think it will make a difference..... girls taught game by their fathers still end up making poor choices sometimes worse decisions...... Freedom always has a flip side.... The only thing fathers should really be teaching their daughters is how to take responsibility for their actions ans decisions......
my daddy took extra measures and fattened me up so no boy would look at his only daughter....I'm still struggling with my weight today but my dad was and is my best friend and i like my tomboy outlook and humor that turns out to be an asset too....just gotta ease up on the chocolate brownie cookie dough ice cream he always took me after school. i noticed in junior high my real dilemma also that i didnt look like the blonde bikini bimbo my dad admired....i was confused why i didnt wear bathing suits and cute clothes, have pretty hair, wear perfume for the boys, etc...things i pay extra attention to today
I have two daughters and they don't listen to a Word I say. As a married Christan man. But now I have a better idea what to teach. One big note, a lot of so-called game from men is fear of being adequate. Not to be sympathetic. So they move on. Otherwise, no man usually wantS to leave a well-kept woman. Note it is usually one out of ten men that go through the other women. The other 9 men are mad at the women. The men will not talk about the fear they have to other men. This is the stuff I thought about writing
Love that you brought out that topic. 👍🏻 No one taught me either, they didn't talk about it much. I had to learn through other people, experience, and through my studies. And I grew up with boys mostly, helped a lil in certain areas, but not much in knowing the game. I wish that what I know now, I knew 30 yrs ago. Took me yrs to really understand. Thank you! 💚
my only issue with what ur saying is u said “they told us to keep our legs closed” and then u say “they didnt teach us anything” .... if women obeyed that they would avoid 80% of their problems
No it's nothing "keep your legs closed". It doesn't teach how to resist words to see test a man or a teen boy saying all the right things. They should teach the game to their daughters. Men know how to have women they say the good words... In songs in cartoons in tv shows... Everything teach the man how to get it. She has a point: fathers don't usually teach that to their daughters
@@BapsSunshine good fathers do. It's a case by case. Because you never know what type of mom is there as well. What is she saying? How does she treat her husband or men in general? All of that factors in. You can't put this in a bucket and say "most fathers don't etc etc" That's Bull Stanky. We never know the household dynamic.
As soon as I found out that I was havibg a daughter, I planned out the conversation. My son and I are already having convos about respect for girls. My kids gone be too ready!
BEST WAY TO TEACH YOUR CHILDREN HOW TO NAVIGATE THE GAME IS TO TEACH THE SELF WORTH AND WHAT THEY SHOULD NOT TOLERATE...STANDARDS AND BOUNDARIES. i learned the GAME by watching my Mom experienced it from age 5 with my Dad. From her I learned self worth. She tried for years to be the good home provider but upped and left to go improve her life. SHE LEARNED THE HARD WAY BUT TAUGHT HER DAUGHTER'S STANDARDS....
PLEASE LISTENNNN, this message should be a nationwide PSA 🗣🗣🗣. As I’ve gone through the entire situation of the healing process after 2 failed and abusive marriages I find myself at 49 Whole, Complete & Healed. The question now remaining is, “how was I supposed to get it right?!!” No ONE, not my mom, dad, Aunts, Grandmas, Uncles or Grandpas gave me the game or taught me about the nature of me or prepared me. I NOW know this and I have adult daughters. God’s Grace is that I now have a 14yr old who I recently adopted and she will benefit from the woman and mom I am now. She’s getting this knowledge. I only wish I’d learned this much sooner in life and not only chose better but also taught my older girls from childhood. Thank you for this incredible message. This congregation must continue!! 🌹🙏🏾
God Bless You! "It is never hard; "his yoke is easy". Just know that "nothing happens until it's time"! Everything is divine timing. ❤❤ Peace and Love, Minister Hanifah Hightower
Not only do girls need to know about game, but girls need to know how to handle being pressed to provide nudes and the backlash when she doesn’t. Boys are growing up with porn being normal, and girls are growing up knowing what boys want from them. We have got to be able to talk to them all about this. I teach middle school and see this all the time. I spent one year recently teaching elementary and boys were sharing porn on their phones. It’s a new day. Protect the kids.
Mama teaches her daughter “how” to love.
Daddy teaches his daughter “who” to love.
Amen
Ango Leiro agreed
Preach bro,preach.
point two is true... point one should be teaches how to serve...
@@David-ej1ps That's just "love". Part of love is "serving" the other, for men and women.
As a dad of a teen-aged daughter I needed to hear this, thank you!
I like her words. I don't think you have to call it a game and make it sound negative. A young gal does need to know that boys and girls often see dating in different ways. Many boys are good people but there are many that will tell lies, and while it's good to understand and not take it personally, do not tolerate. Do not trust them off the bat with secrets and sexuality. You don't get to know someone's ways until you take the time to do so. Boys don't know how to be what a girl wants and they will mess up; try not to take it personally as a reflection of something you have done or your value. Most of all, when you are uncomfortable SAY SOMETHING! If she is told at least this much, she will have a much better start than many women in history.
The 1st thing I told my daughter when she was about 10 was that when a girl gets her 1st boyfriend she thinks it will last forever, and when a boy gets his 1st girlfriend he wants more girls.. she is 14 now and just had a real conversation about soul ties, women feeling guilt from abortions and topped it off with the dirt I did as a young man.. I should have taken a pic of her face lol
*when a boy gets his 1st girlfriend he wants more girls.*
A lot of them wind up wanting more girls after being screwed over by the first.
Yes, initially. But after more bad experiences, the desire goes down and you don't want to try that much anymore... that's when he becomes open to the red pill: th-cam.com/video/SEVU-YLpM8A/w-d-xo.html
That's awesome that you were completely honest with her.
@@CellGames2006 lol ya right
That’s completely awesome. That’s what the job entails.
A man who didn't teach his girls about the ways of men literally set his daughters up for the slaughter. I could never imagine having daughters and never giving them game on men............that's setting them up to fail. My mama gave me game on life as a young boy, spoke honestly and transparent and as I've gone through life I've come to understand that most people weren't raised like me!
Lol! Pretty much. God bless your mother.
Agreed! I'm a daddy's girl to my core and my daddy BEEN giving me game before I was even old enough to understand! I'm in my 30's and remember advice he gave me at 9! NINE! Thank God for him and his wise words!
You are on point sir.
I can totally relate to the message in this video. My dad never talked to me about men. I assumed all men would be like him, fall in love early 20's, get married, have children, work hard, and provide for his family. I married the wrong man at 25 thinking I was doing the right thing, it lasted less than 3 years. I had no clue about games men play until I went through them and by then I was in my 30's. Ironically, it's my current man that is schooling me how most men really are.
Kostantinos Vlasakakis seems they are projecting their own experiences with the ‘bad boy’ onto all men. Don’t worry about it, keep being a good man!
Harry 1991 I guess it’s just like how I don’t play games as a woman and can’t relate to what men say about women either. The things like high body count, likes Pookie and RayRay, talks to other men, etc.
Amazing timing!! I just spoke to my niece yesterday before I saw this. I broke down the game to her yesterday. I broke the types of men down and explained what a quality man is and to look at actions and not words. I gave her these things to look for in order
1. Character
2. Values
3. Goals
4. Ambition
5. Communication
6. Believe in some higher being
7. Ask him where does he see himself in 2 years.
The Teacher Rom Wills breaks down the two type of men out there who raise the most hell
1. Mr. Goodbar
2. The Masked man aka Status Man
The overlooked man is the Thinking man....this what I explained to her who is the most forgotten and non select man when you are young.
Teach the young gals about what's out there so they don't repeat cycles of foolishness!
Great job Rebecca
Matthew Odom I love listening to his podcasts. They're very informative
The problem is that female nature is going to supersede any of those teachings. It doesn't listen to reason, female nature is not reasonable. If it were, none of these women would be chasing felons, cheaters and beaters. How many do you really know or have ever known that were under 35 and going after sensible, responsible men?
Women go after what makes them wet, reason be damned. Reason comes after multiple kids and being run through the wringer, and then they hunt down a simp/Captain Save-A-Hoe to take care of the kids and wipe away her dumb mistakes.
facts!! literally had a conversation (yesterday) with a female friend of mine she wants to break up with her boyfriend... why?.. "because i don't see myself having sex with him"... women are literally ruled by their vaginas, wither by the value they ascribe to it or the value it, and it alone, can bring them... of this I am sure
Lol with a list like that .. having a real connection doesn't matter
@@David-ej1ps The same way men make decisions with the 'little head'. Same difference.
My parents didn’t teach me anything. They just told me all men are bad and only want one thing and don’t date until I’m 30+. They did not teach me how to distinguish a good man from a one who has bad intentions or anything of the sort. My parents are also very old fashioned and have no clue how dating is today. I wish they had taught me things about dating but they wouldn’t talk about it. They raised me to never have an opinion, just be quiet and do as I’m told. Nothing I did was good enough for them either. So as an adult, I made the mistake of overly trying to please people just thinking if I can be nicer that I will be loved. That’s not how it works. They made me a magnet for narcissistic men and players.
As strange as this may sound to some women I can totally relate to this and I think all men who are classified as "Simps" can relate to what i'm about to say as well. I didn't have a relationship with my mother but I had one with my grandmother. I watched my grandmother be the perfect wife, perfect mother, perfect woman (fairytale) to my grandfather and all he had to do was go to work , provide for her and love her and got a good 50 years out at the very least decent marriage. In my naive mind I believed all I had to do to get a girlfriend was be self sufficient, be a provider , and be able to show a respectable level of emotion as a man and at the very least get what my grand dad had. Yea no one taught me the reality that not all women are going to value that pass i'm using him until he either gives up, or resources are depleted and I learned a lot of hard lessons especially since I was late bloomer socially. Sometimes we get so caught up and calling women hoes, and men simps that we forget that majority of people wanted something simple but were corrupted by reality. And reality can vastly distort your view on the world to the point you're aren't even who intended to be.
Love your comment. I'm learning this in different ways right now. I thought that if I am the "Quintessential perfect woman" be everything a man wants and then a guy will see my value and so forth and so on. It has proven to not be so true. So I continue to wait 🤷🏾♀️
Gino Peterson true. This happens with lack of morals & values. The women now have chosen a dollar 1st. Thats y they're not happy. Women make a majority of the money & still aren't happy
Knight B you know why bruh. Because Black women can do no wrong and to even speak of them doing so is heresy in the Black community.
as a man i think one of the biggest lies is be yourself!!! ive only had 2 people like me for being myself and they only liked me for a few months, both less than a year, this is my experience.
Gino Peterson were are simps at lol
I wanted the opposite of my father, that's what I am looking for, period. My dad was the type of man to live off a woman and be dependent. I want a hardworking man, to love me enough to not watch me struggle.
Think of the genesis of the butterfly. Without struggle, we are handicapped. What was missing in your home, is your parents struggling TOGETHER, and when old enough, you joined them. That's part of the role model.
@Saad Bin Masud
My mom is from spain.
In spain all her sisters where first married and then had sex. Indeed. A man could not ask or push for sex, otherwise only asking it would be for the man a very deep hangover and a girl slapping him in his face or turning him down permanently was common sense. Before not a single sister went into the house with a man. Only dating outside, eating an icecream and walking. Dancing with all friends together in a place where you could dance ones. Talking a lot. The boy or man allways paid for the drink or icecream. It was a honor for him. And he wanted to show her, he was generous and a provider if things went well in the future, when she would marry him. To gain her trust and showing, that he is mature to go for the long howl. To let her know, he is a backbone and is a safe man to choose. Also fir the children. To show her, he likes her.
When they where married, the woman stayed home to do homejob. When the children where born the same. This women never worked outside, only the household. Running the household is a full time job. This women where all depending of the money where the man worked for. That was for a man, the way of living and he was not mad about it or feeling like a victim. They found it even honorable, because they did it. But the man was also depending on the woman, his wife. She made it possible that he did not have to think and manage a whole household and kids, school and so on. He came from work and no worries about other stuff. This men where the providers and felt manly and grown up and had an easier life then the single ones today. A woman/girl would never clean, cook, entertain, having sex, do the 1000 other household things and life stuff for a man, when she was not married. Dating was allways outside the house and a must. Seeing eachother. And go home afterwards and bring the girl safe home. And leave, without entering her house or chilling inside with a cup of coffe. That was for a reason!
And i see the children, man, wife where better of. Of course, when the man was sick or having an accident, that was job loss and very nasty for all the family.
With no security moneywise or wellfare it is a nightmare.
One sister in law said to my mothers brother...
I do not want to have sex..., i do not want to be your wifie working lady, who lives with you. I want first marriage, then sex.
But first i want to finish school.
That takes 7 years.
He waited 7 years to have sex with her. After marriage of course. He was never trying to push her. Not for sex, not for living together, not for anything.
Because he knew...
If he not behaves correctly and does not respect her boundaries and wishes, she would stop everything between them. And no turning back. He knew that. He never took the risk to loose her.
He wanted only her. He wanted to spend his life with her. He knew, that she was the one for him. She was very serious about everything. Luckily he was also a serious man. He liked her so much, that he waited 7 years and respected all her conditions.
She wanted to work and be never depending 100% to a man ever. He respected her in that. They are very wise people in finance too. Very correct people.
She would never tolerate anything of bad behavior towards her or the children. She demanded the respect. He could provide that.
But they where depending on eachoter and growing. Living life.
Nowadays men want from a woman everything. And also not a woman who could or would be depending on him. Men want company, her time, money, emotional support, chilling, watching netflix, going inside her private home, they want her comming to his house, they want her to cook, clean, sharing bills, sex, everything. Making her pregnant, without even marrying!
The woman needs today to be a whore in bed, an angel, a virgin, pleasing a man, watch porn together, having sex in all kind of possitions and colors, where sexy lingery is a must, shaving her legs, vagina, armpits, acting like pornstars, allways dressed up...Men want not pay anything anymore... But women this days are suposed to be content without even marriage and be everything. And a good job ir none. But with much more skills then ever before. Having good conversations in all areas, intelligent, cultivated, elevated, wellspoken, dressed like a whoe, because otherwise she's not worthy havibg sex with.
Men are brutal, low, emotional handicaped, unwellmannered, unpolite, pushy, want sex on the first date. Are arrogant, and want everything with any wise consideration and want a care free woman, who is not depending on him and totally independed, even when she is pregnant or has more children.
In spain, even men would say, this kind of boys/men are the lowest of the lowest. And would never allow that their daughter would be used by men or a man like that. That boy or man would be warned not to come anymore. And the 3d warning would end with a smack on his face by the dad/mom. And even a girl would a man slap on his face, with no manners. Now the world is changed into a place where women have to behave like unmaried housewifes and sex workers without a wage and security. And later with kids. And that is only the top of the iceberg.
Depending on someone and vice versa is the normal. Working together on duties is normal. Wanting to marry for the family to be in a unity is normal.
What the hell is going wrong today?
Same. My dad was a provider to the best of his ability but he damaged me emotionally and was narcisstic. He started making plans to love off me too before I even established my own life.I haven't had a good love life as a result.
"Fairy Tale" That pretty much sums it up. The reason I'm so independent now is because I realized that I am the only one I can truly rely on.
Agreed I was so green and got my heart broken so many times cause my parents didn’t teach me any game and I have a great dad!! But black parents don’t talk about things like that
White parents do it too trust me.
So what's the solution????
RC Blake's has an AWESOME book called The Father Daughter Talk.
Pamela Simon I love R. Blake’s teaching
I have a different narrative because my Dad taught me about GAME and he did it VERY EARLY!! I was like 10 years old. He was a reformed player too so he did not want me to get caught up because he knew the things he had done. My Mom and I thought I was too young at the time, but TO THIS DAY I appreciate him for that! And he never stopped teaching me until the day he left this Earth last May. I had an AWESOME Daddy, his role in my life was INVALUABLE!!! He Protected AND Prepared me!!!
The reason that your father did not teach you about “game” is that he did not know about it. Most people who were raised in a solid family are naive about how the world works in general, and/or how dating works. People who claim to be from “good Christians homes” can be lying, deceptive, manipulative creatures that talk a good talk but who are only looking out for their own interests. Unless you read a lot of psychological articles discussing how to deal with difficult or disturbed people, then you don’t know how to spot the people who are no good for you, and to weed out the undesirables. Your parents are probably not psychologists nor are they dating experts, so they don’t know what to teach you.
Randy G agree
Lmao true
Wrong she said her father was
a reformed player who did dirt. He know what game was, he just didn't teach her about it. Probably because he felt too guilty.
@Markus Harris exactly
Until later in life I never knew about "game." Real life shouldn't be based on game from wither sex.
My dad did. I went to the club with my father a few times. He's a Libra...a ladies man, charming and sophisticated. My dad loves women. I understand how men are. It's why I've never wanted to marry early.
This is true I didn't have a good relationship with my father and dating was always crazy for me lol. I didn't know anything about men or how to understand them. It caused low self esteem too which can affect dating. I always tell ppl it is a blessing to have such a great father and daughter relationship .
True, me & my sister talk about this alot...
D M check out pastor r c Blakes om TH-cam. He has father daughter talks
Its all about looks. Most people are blinded by good looks and put a positive spin on the relationship. Then the lack of morals takes over.
I'm 28 and this lesson just came full circle to me... and I am the extreme daddy's girl!!!! please fellas tell them the game because they will b disappointed when they get my age and see that the real world is not like that.... because now I'm more pessimistic to dating and coming into trying to find that balance between fairy tale and realistic approach to dating
I won’t say my dad wasn’t good, but he wasn’t great either. Not a man after God’s heart & didn’t/never discussed topics in regards to relationships... actually NOBODY ever sat down & discussed any important life topics with me... so a lot of things I had to unfortunately learn on my own & the hard way 😔 I thank God that He’s allowing me to learn thru His wisdom & I’m going forth with better understanding
DRideaux87 this sounds like my story.
Dani M My whole life is a book 4real lol but both sides of my family have always lacked the skills of communication, amongst other healthy traits that would’ve been nice to have had... but hey, now I have full control to pursue the life i desire. I just wish that both of parents took more time to actually raise me because I recognize how the lack of affected my life tremendously
My parents especially my mom provided for my needs and kept me in church.. which I am grateful for.. but that was it... no financial info, relationship info, or emotional management... I am 31 years old and still struggling.. but by God s grace I will overcome.. and be able to help my future children..
Growing up Christian in my mind I always thought men were all nice. I was taught the basic about dating don't have sex! But, you are on point with this!
i was a preachers kid and thought all women were innocent angels...But i saw something totally different when i stepped foot on the college campus. Seeing these overly sexual aggressive bunny rabbit girls gave me a new perspective on life.
I agree totally with everything you stated in this video. I would like to add that men are privy to the same lack of information concerning how some women may not be all sugar and spice and everything nice. It is definitely important to teach our children about the realities of the world as it pertains to male and female relationships, as well as human nature. A man needs to teach his daughter about the game before she starts playing, while having no idea of the rules.
I don't have a daughter but I have a son and I talk to him every chance I get about the games women play. I also talk to my nieces and other young ladies about the games we men play. Excellent video!!
Don't forget to tell your sons how to treat a woman. 😀
No it is the responsibility of the mother to teach the girl child about men.
Young girls are also under attack from females as well. I know girls that had lesbian encounters at sleep overs during preteen years. Young boys also. The attack from the enemy has no age limit or preference. So the learning has to be geared towards are children period. Both sexes are under attack unfortunately.
Very true. Say no to sleepovers
So glad you commented about that. That is one area I haven't thought about. Thanks for the tip! The world's is changing and we have to prepare our children for it all!
I had a cousin thataways wanted you "do things" as kids at sleepovers. When I got older I understood why my dad never let me go stay the night. I won't allow sleepovers either unless I know the kid and thier parent well.
When I was 16, the life advice I got from my beloved uncle was, "To men, you're just a piece of meat." I've often thought he was harsh, but on the other hand he told me straight.
I'm very candid with my oldest son (16) about girls/women; what to look for, how to interact with them, the good and bad; etc.
The advice I would give my daughter is to TELL the guy as upfront as is appropriate 'I don't want to have sex before marriage' and watch them run, which is what I do now.
Your video points are so true. It's so important for dad's to talk to their girls SERIOUSLY about males. It will prevent a lot less heartache because she will be educated and not going out into the world naive and with blinders on. Thank you. I will be sharing this video with my daughter's and nieces.
My older brothers use to say “men only want one thing” yet they were all married. So confusing.
Hearts rarely get broken when legs are kept closed.
Say that!
Even when your leggs are closed, men bullshit you and game you.
If men would not play their games, women would not open that easy their leggs either.
There are very good players outside and they choose their prey with a blink of an eye and deceive very masterfully tricking women into believing he has very good intentions with her.
A man also should close his leggs. That would help too.
A man can be an ass.
A man can be a real good man too.
He has the choice between this too.
And girls would not get hurt and traumatized over and over. So at the end a woman would be not that damaged. And men would not get damaged by woman either. Women change too with all their experiences and act different later on with men.
A father/man needs to be aware of his power to destroy things forever. A womans heart can change with all misery to swallow. Men too.
We all need to get educated to be responsable and being good to eachother.
Blessings.
@@heide-raquelfuss5580 Hearts "Rarely"
Following your channel is one of the greatest decisions I have made. I appreciate your insight. There is a certain degree of woman understanding that we as men tend to overlook at times. I appreciate your video.
You were so on point with this video. Thank you!
I'm binge watching all of your old videos and this one made me want to shed a tear. So many nuggets to take away in this. I will also remind my husband that he has to talk to BOTH our son and our daughter about how it is like out here, in order to prepare them. Thanks so much for all that you do
I am almost in tears because it took me 43 years of life and 15 years in a horrible marriage to understand this! I didn't grow up with my dad and I know that had a negative impact on my relationship life because I too was told by my mom don't, have sex and don't get pregnant. I took a number of years of retrospection and healing to recover but thankfully I did. So I say all of that to say I pray more father's educate their daughters about men don't hold back that knowledge because she needs that to protect her for many years of pain. Everything you said Sis is so spot on I thank you so much for your wisdom!
Excellent. I’ve been trying to have this conversation and analysis for years. The disillusion based on missing information. Brilliant dialogue. We need tools to learn how to choose and how to date. Thank you!
I was JUST telling someone this! Same thing, my father STILL takes care of me (financially) and has been a great provider in that aspec my entire life. But he definitely dropped the ball on making sure I was truly equip to deal with these fools out here. Had to learn the HARD way.
Good video and we need to teach our young men not to play with women emotionally and teach them about the games of manipulation that women play as well also.
Jay Littles
No we need to teach women that they are not princesses. Otherwise they belive all the pandering..
Plus most young women are in fact only good for one thing.. We need to teach them to actually be useful for other things... Otherwise it's all for naught..
Self respect would be a nice plus as well..
I am a Daddy's girl and I experienced the exact same thing!
THIS is what I didn't know I needed!!!
as a man i have dealt with this too.. most women will say women are good people.. if i tell my mom or sister a girl did something mean-spirited to me they will find a way to point the finger at me.. i had a 10 month relationship that was a huge headache that showed me some people are just not good people and there is nothing you can do about it except get away from them... get away from any jezebel or narcissist and save yourself.. trust me cuz i had to ask for prayer to get the bitterness out of my heart and everything cuz that rel. was AWFUL
This is a word!!! Thx sis for speaking on this subject.
The fairy tale is subliminally implanted in your mind by movies and TV.
If I have a daughter Im definitely telling her all things Ive seen and done. Also, the shady type of women I dealt with so she can decide if she wants to be that kind of woman.
@dannie curlett stop
Men have compartmentalized emotions, whereas the emotions of women are all inclusive. Understanding this will help many people navigate through dating turbulence.
This makes sooo much sense.....
Most Dads dont teach daughters about the game...because a. Dad was absent b. Dads are NOT gonna tesch you about GAME because they baby and protect you and not show you or tell you about game...they might even ne down with the game...
And MEN dont really experience the GAME. Many like your Dad are reformed players but still not gonna warn against the GAME. They still subconsciously condone the game.
To be fair....MOTHERS dont break down her experience of the GAME either.
For mothers there may be some embarrassment to admit "they've been had." There's also a double standard for women to have a low partner count.
My dad was so ready to keep me from getting pregnant that that was all he warned against. That and not letting me go out often.
Thanks for this great podcast..
Great video. I believe it may be helpful for women’s understanding to view this from the opposite perspective. Many men can be all in and the woman will use him and discard him for another man with or appearing to have more resources. It’s hard wiring.
I have a 15 year old daughter and started schooling her when she was about 8. I’d tell her about everything she’s going to face at certain ages and as a teenager she’s going to have friends that don’t have good parents. And so they will try to convince her not to follow my counsel. I would drill these things in her head every year. She’s not perfect and we hit the rebellious stage briefly but all in all I believe my tactics had a positive impact.
It's so true, we are protected from all the evils by parents and religions.
But on the other hand...Im not so sure my dad or parents could even know all of the evils out here because they didn't experience them or act that way.
Great Vid!❤️
Very good talk.
Another great and on time content video. I was going to have a real talk with my daughter this week, and then you do this video. Totally doing Gods work. I appreciate your content Sister. Thanks..... Wow just realized this was from years ago... Even more God sent.....
Like you so much! :D What this is all about is SINCERITY with who we care. True friendship and openness. Only true friends tell the truth about the world. Life begins when role-playing ends.
My dad was only physically present. I would later learn that dads actually did things with and for their kids. My mom told me men are animals. My plan was always to make my money and raise my kid alone. But the joke is on me, I've never ear earned enough. I'm now jobless and alone. But still glad I never fell for the game.
Your husband may not know how other men are. In that case, it would be up to you to share your experiences.
HebaruSan I think I can reenforces that. I maybe 19, but because I don't have many male friends I have no idea how "normal" think.
Very profound video. As a man this video is essential to me because it open my eyes about telling children the truth about life instead of fairy tales. Everything in life has pros and cons and it our jobs to teach them that so they adjust and prepare with the best of their abilities. Thank you peace and love to you and your family.
Great video
My dad didn't put me up on game. I had a good dad. But I lived with my mom. She was a single. My mom always told me "all men are dogs." That wasn't true. I was able to see the dichotomy of her single hood and choice men. And who my dad is. So I became very observant of my mom's relationships and my dad's marriage. My mom put me up on game somewhat. So I went into college thinking all these dudes want is sex. And I wasn't there for that. I went through unscathed. Plus I had a lot of male friends, so I got the male perspective.
I think this video is on point but I would just add 2 things. 1. I believe we need to truly understand MANHOOD as men. Young boys from a very young age are not taught what true manhood is and then once they get older we expect them to be a "REAL"man. I also think young girls need to be taught what WOMANHOOD really is. The older generation has not been taught this from our parents and as a consequence we have not taught it. We need to get bk to learning and teaching manhood and womanhood and have a real conversation with one another. 2. I think woman run just as much game on men as men run on women. There needs to be a real conversation abt what we should expect in relationships and this will eleviate many of the issues and relationships we get into.....
Leroy Mckenzie Jr. JNF Enterprises LLC. ..agreed Leroy
I am what most people call..different..as a teen I was extremely observant and so the things that I saw my female and male peers go through with dating and having sex amd ultimately getting their heartbroken, I did not want to do...So until this day at age 31, i am still waiting on the Right Guy that God has for me...
Breathe of fresh air you give 🙌🏾 everybody's damaged because of each other, if only all were taught right you said🌟
I am very thankful for my dad who constantly informs me & my sister’s of “the mind of the man”. He is very open.
Sister Pope, I have been listening to you for the last 24 hours. I also saw the post you and your husband did and I must say that I never thought I 'd hear a sister talk about how different men and women are. I think that women need to understand that you will never have to trap a man into marrying you "IF" he is ready. A woman just has to make sure that she is able to handle a real man and understand that if he is ready, there will not be a thing he won't try and provide for her. He wants to be able to have a comfortable place where he can come to after being out in the world all day providing.
Good video! Thx
My daughters are 11 and 9 and I’ve been teaching them about men and relationships for a few years now and I’ll continue to
I’m 34 and i was in 18yrs relationship wid my children, mother.
Out of all da gylas I’ve been wid, only 3 had my heart.
This is a man, being 💯trillion% honest.
Thank you so much for this!!!! This is the problem so many of us face!
Awesome video
I thank you both for entering my life. Been using your videos to heal myself heal my mother (yes my mom). Much appreciated
Peace! Yes I had one that did not appreciate Masculinity!!!
But also, many people are "UNCONSCIOUS", WITHOUT KNOWLEDGE OF SELF AND OTHER!!! Peace and Love!
I can listening to this woman forever. She is so good.
Watching this again. Saw this the first time when my daughter was 8. Shes now 10. I slowly started teaching her about guys in a very simplistic way before she hit puberty. Thx so much for this advice.
I’m so happy to hear that ❤️
very good advice i gave the talk too my niece the most clever young woman now..shes got a good heart and mind
you need to do a panel in Houston! Come down here!
I appreciate your realness.
Yes! Absolutely this is what all girls need! I wish I had known how to choose!
I thank my father because he did educate me on the game..it worked..
Very true my dad was there my entire life but never talked about dating etc. My boyfriend told me he was going to put our future children up on game about different types of men which I appreciate because it is important ❤️
Great video!
Thank you for this b
This would solve ninety percent of the problems in black relationships. It starts with men being better fathers and black women realizing how important that role is to your children being prepared for this world.
This was eye opening! I’ve always thought women who had supportive and protective fathers were better off than women like me whose father was absent. I didn’t think you all thought every man was like your dad just like we do. I didn’t trust men and didn’t want to get close to them because I didn’t want to become my mom(committed to him through infidelity and held down the household until he died).
Now, I rely on the Holy Spirit and the Word to teach me what to look for and what to accept. Also listening to counseling like yours to gain wisdom and understanding.
I ABSOLUTELY AGREE! I ABSOLUTELY ADORE MY DAD...BUT HE PROTECTED ME AS WELL AND AS A RESULT I WAS HURT A LOT.
He protected you. That is a good father.
But he forgot to educate you.
And that makes it that girls get slaughtered by men.
@@heide-raquelfuss5580 EXACTLY! I GREW UP IN A STRICT RELIGION THAT MY MOM CHOSE BUT MY DAD NEVER ACCEPTED. HOWEVER, HE ALLOWED HER TO MAKE THE DECISIONS ABOUT THE KIDS BECAUSE HE WORKED A LOT. I WASNT ABLE TO DATE UNTIL I DECIDED TO LEAVE HOME SO I MISSED THE EDUCATION & THOUGH HE EDUCATED ME MORE AS I GOT OLDER I HAD ALREADY LEFT HOME AT 19 BECAUSE OF THE STRICT RULES.
Renecca, your exact feeling of how you felt and went thru I went through too. My dad was there and a great father but he didn’t teach me what I really needed to know about guys relationships. The real. Keep being real.
Good video I truly enjoy this ! very informational.
I dont think it will make a difference..... girls taught game by their fathers still end up making poor choices sometimes worse decisions...... Freedom always has a flip side.... The only thing fathers should really be teaching their daughters is how to take responsibility for their actions ans decisions......
jachian jachian
Women taking responsibility would end game oversight. Any bets on it actually happining?
Not true. That's just rebellion at that point
my daddy took extra measures and fattened me up so no boy would look at his only daughter....I'm still struggling with my weight today but my dad was and is my best friend and i like my tomboy outlook and humor that turns out to be an asset too....just gotta ease up on the chocolate brownie cookie dough ice cream he always took me after school. i noticed in junior high my real dilemma also that i didnt look like the blonde bikini bimbo my dad admired....i was confused why i didnt wear bathing suits and cute clothes, have pretty hair, wear perfume for the boys, etc...things i pay extra attention to today
Thank You. My dad had 5 daughters. My dad was 86 yrs old. I was a daddy's girl too and the youngest. I miss him.
Real talk!!
I have two daughters and they don't listen to a Word I say. As a married Christan man. But now I have a better idea what to teach. One big note, a lot of so-called game from men is fear of being adequate. Not to be sympathetic. So they move on. Otherwise, no man usually wantS to leave a well-kept woman. Note it is usually one out of ten men that go through the other women. The other 9 men are mad at the women. The men will not talk about the fear they have to other men. This is the stuff I thought about writing
How old are your daughters?
What's up! Interesting topic.
I believe his name is RC Blakes.... great topic.
RC Blakes is the truth!!! I watch him every chance I get!!
Love that you brought out that topic. 👍🏻 No one taught me either, they didn't talk about it much. I had to learn through other people, experience, and through my studies. And I grew up with boys mostly, helped a lil in certain areas, but not much in knowing the game. I wish that what I know now, I knew 30 yrs ago. Took me yrs to really understand. Thank you! 💚
my only issue with what ur saying is u said “they told us to keep our legs closed” and then u say “they didnt teach us anything” .... if women obeyed that they would avoid 80% of their problems
No , keeping your legs closed is not enough . You will still be naive which is just as dangerous
I said 80% not 100%
@Chanel R. Long if a woman says no a man can't be promiscuous. Anything else is rape.
No it's nothing "keep your legs closed". It doesn't teach how to resist words to see test a man or a teen boy saying all the right things.
They should teach the game to their daughters. Men know how to have women they say the good words... In songs in cartoons in tv shows... Everything teach the man how to get it.
She has a point: fathers don't usually teach that to their daughters
@@BapsSunshine good fathers do. It's a case by case. Because you never know what type of mom is there as well. What is she saying? How does she treat her husband or men in general? All of that factors in. You can't put this in a bucket and say "most fathers don't etc etc" That's Bull Stanky. We never know the household dynamic.
I couldn't agree more.
You are a gem lady.
As soon as I found out that I was havibg a daughter, I planned out the conversation. My son and I are already having convos about respect for girls. My kids gone be too ready!
BEST WAY TO TEACH YOUR CHILDREN HOW TO NAVIGATE THE GAME IS TO TEACH THE SELF WORTH AND WHAT THEY SHOULD NOT TOLERATE...STANDARDS AND BOUNDARIES.
i learned the GAME by watching my Mom experienced it from age 5 with my Dad. From her I learned self worth. She tried for years to be the good home provider but upped and left to go improve her life. SHE LEARNED THE HARD WAY BUT TAUGHT HER DAUGHTER'S STANDARDS....
I think we have the sameeeee life. Married 10 years in church and was MISERABLE
PLEASE LISTENNNN, this message should be a nationwide PSA 🗣🗣🗣. As I’ve gone through the entire situation of the healing process after 2 failed and abusive marriages I find myself at 49 Whole, Complete & Healed. The question now remaining is, “how was I supposed to get it right?!!” No ONE, not my mom, dad, Aunts, Grandmas, Uncles or Grandpas gave me the game or taught me about the nature of me or prepared me. I NOW know this and I have adult daughters. God’s Grace is that I now have a 14yr old who I recently adopted and she will benefit from the woman and mom I am now. She’s getting this knowledge. I only wish I’d learned this much sooner in life and not only chose better but also taught my older girls from childhood. Thank you for this incredible message. This congregation must continue!! 🌹🙏🏾
God Bless You! "It is never hard; "his yoke is easy". Just know that "nothing happens until it's time"! Everything is divine timing. ❤❤ Peace and Love, Minister Hanifah Hightower
Not only do girls need to know about game, but girls need to know how to handle being pressed to provide nudes and the backlash when she doesn’t. Boys are growing up with porn being normal, and girls are growing up knowing what boys want from them. We have got to be able to talk to them all about this. I teach middle school and see this all the time. I spent one year recently teaching elementary and boys were sharing porn on their phones. It’s a new day. Protect the kids.
THANK YOU
This is incredible and very informative.At what age may a father start educating his daughter about game?
True. But let me add that the TV shows and mothers in our lives misled us about the true nature of women too.
Lol