I've spent many years alone on Christmas, you get better at it. I suggest indulging in a few gifts for yourself. Obviously try to work within your budget, but wrap them in really pretty paper and that way if you need a little upliftment on Christmas morning you can open them. Buy a gingerbread house to decorate, find some vintage Christmas music from the 20s or 30s, watch your favorite childhood movies or cartoons. Buy yourself flowers, Just ideas, good luck 🎄🔔🎅🤶🎁
I plan to make gingerbread cookies! I have some records that I like to listen to as well, which I love on a day like Christmas. Carpenters records are the best on Christmas.
I am on year three alone after loss. The first I didn't do anything, too depressed. The second a little Charlie Brown tree which I loved. This year, full out Christmas! Just felt like I deserved a big Christmas even just with me. Sending loving and support to all! 🎄
That makes sense. It's a sign of good health, I'd say, that you eased back into things, rather than forcing yourself to do the traditions that you may have before. It's really good that you're back to the "full out Christmas" stage! Thanks for the love!
I’d rather have crumbs with bums than steaks with snakes..I have had the best seat at the wrong table for too long. Being solo is not lonely at all (for me). I’m so grateful.
It’s OK to simply ignore Christmas and spend the day doing whatever you enjoy. So much of the unhappiness around Christmas is due to unrealistic expectations. Tune out the noise.
Hey! Thanks for the shout out again. My name is Lisa, by the way. I use to have it in my channel title but I changed the name and I forget to introduce myself in the videos. This is such a heartfelt video, it was brave of you to make it. So that's the wooden tree you mentioned! I love rose gold things, so that would be so pretty. 💖💖
Hahaha I get the “forgetting to introduce yourself” thing. I’m going to try the tree very soon. I’m running out of time! 😅 I’m glad you got to see this one. None of us is truly ever alone.
🤗New sub here. I've spent Christmases alone, and once you get over the first one, it's comfortable. Walking at the park, eating a good meal and reading great literature with some candlelight is heaven to me. Movie theaters are great too on Christmas day--so many happy folks are getting a break from family. Lol. I'd watch your Christmas day livestream.🤗
Yes--Christmas day is especially quiet outside because everyone is inside! It makes a solitary walk very pleasant. And the choice to read whatever book you want, and for however long you want--that's the best aspect of living alone, I find. I look forward to making more great foods and enjoying the quiet. It's a luxury that most don't have! Thanks for the subscription! I think I'll do a little livestream...I guess I should make a community post about it to let everyone know....
Thanks for sharing. It is my 4th or so this way. Yeah, it can feel weird and lonesome, but on the other hand, it is the best option for now. So many times back then Christmas has not been exactly what I needed anyway, usually very painful. I don’t want that again. Better to be alone than with people and to still feel lonely. We can make it nice by ourselfs. :)
I agree. Feeling alone in a crowd of people you're supposed to feel close to is much worse than being truly alone. And, as I've said and others as well, you're never really "alone."
I see being alone for holidays in my future. My son moved 3000 miles away, my dog died, then my cat died, then my only little brother died, and my 92 year old alcoholic mother lives 1-1/2 hours away and I don’t drive through San Francisco anymore so luckily I don’t see her too often. Unfortunately I’m very healthy so I may live many more years. 🤷♀️. Appreciate your video - first time viewer.
Wow! Sounds like a lot of tricky changes to navigate. I’m sure a quiet season will be a nice change for you. Thankfully you’re able to set and keep boundaries and live as well as you can. Sounds like you’re in California. I’m in BC, Canada. 🙂
My Mother passed away in October this year and I was there at Christmas every year.But I will be alone this year and every year from here on our.I live alone and have for years,I have a hard time during winter but I do workouts 3 days a week at the Y.I came across this video.Listening now..🇨🇦🙋♀️🎄🏋️
I am so stressad out about christmas! When you tell me about yourself and preparing cokies. It sounds so relaxed. I wish you a wonderful quiet litle christmas🤶🧑🎄🎅🎄🎁
Oh no! Don't stress! Just do what you can and don't bow down to the pressure, that's what I say. Thanks for the well wishes! I hope you get some enjoyment as well.
As long as you have life and breath, you can bring love /joy/hope to those who are in worse circumstances; it will bring love/joy and hope into your life. Just try not to stay camped out on your losses, and move forward ❤
You seem to be a lovely lady. I hope this season that you’re in will pass, I’m sure it will. I’m also alone and isolated so have decided to spend Christmas this year with my parents. Am actually enjoying their company more than I was expecting!
Divorced and alone here too. I have a son too but he spends Christmas with my ex because, basically, she has family. I do, too, but for some reason I've never been invited over for Christmas. Easter, yes, Thanksgiving, yes. But not Christmas for some reason. Rather lonely.
It’s hard with divorce and kids. What I’m doing is what I want-I’m taking things as they come and finding the luxury in solitude. I can relate to your experience, too, though. 🙂 I hope you’ll have a good holiday anyway.
I am alone as well my second as well. It’s ok to be alone. I would rather be with someone but I believe it will come if I need it too. So good luck with it this year
This is my 6th Christmas alone. Last week I had to put my 17 year old dog to sleep. I will spend Christmas day in my PJ's, eating and watching movies, reading books and being thankful I have a safe, warm home . I will remember that many are much less fortunate.
You’re a lovely woman with a beautiful spirit. Sharing a Christmas with you would be wonderful. May you receive the love and connection your heart desires. 🙏💒❤️
New subscriber here! I don’t know how you got to my feed, but I’m so glad you did! I am excited to start following you and see what kind of journeys you take us on. I would have loved to see you do a live stream, but I’ll be working. However, I do hope that you consider doing one in the future though ❤
I’m on my 4th or 5th Christmas alone. It used to be such a special time, now I use it for personal development and photography adventure. Thanks for sharing this!
Hey, Travis! I'm finding it is becoming a time of quiet as well. I think it's an age thing, if I'm being honest. I just unpacked a box and found the original Nikon camera I learned to take photos with--and developed my own film! If only I were better at photography.
Just found your channel, well no, your channel found me! I too am alone for 2nd year after divorce and embracing this Christmas though I feel I am somewhat forcing myself to decorate...I do not have MUCH yet, I bought a 3 foot tree after Christmas, last year...and somehow I had some ornaments, yet I downsized through what I had...and now everything I do now, is JUST FOR ME! That has never happened before, epic stuff...the lord lead you to me, you and others here...thankful! I plan to go live way more, esp on Christmas day, how bout you? What will you do this Christmas day everyone? I think I will go to the beach, that I live 5 miles from Palm beach Florida....never been there yet, been here well almost 2 years now...been in hiding here...isolating is not good right? Next year I will plan better financially too...January I get to use some of my SSA & SSI to buy $20-30 or something for Christmas for next year, keeping in heart, who's Birthday it is to celebrate...Last year I gave everyone a puzzle...might do the same this year, they seemed to love me personally choosing a puzzle for each person, & I told them to tuck it away with the emergency supplies, for when the lights are out, puzzle times!
I did make the suggestion that I do a live stream on the 25th! I put it out as an idea because I wanted to see if anyone else was interested. It's funny that you're only 5 miles from the beach but you've never been. I get it. There's tons of stuff I didn't see in certain places I lived for ages! I'm getting a few things together for my child's gifts--I don't usually give anyone else stuff. But he gets things because it makes sense. I'm glad you're here and thanks so much for watching!
You and I are not the only ones… all of my family has passed onto God’s glory… cousins are out of town and my only living Son lives around the world BUT Jesus is with me and I am celebrating Christmas in the most beautiful way … attend Mass… prepare myself a delicious turkey dinner and be glad to be alive and healthy… I have bought myself my gifts…I have the most perfect Christmas memories… which I cherish… I have gifted my neighbors and a few church friends a gift…. Joy and gratitude will be at my home this Christmas… I wish you Christmas blessings… 🙏🏻🎄🎄🎄
It's an absolute must in my life to have great food to eat (that I made myself) and to enjoy the process of living. If not, depression will definitely hit hard. I like your approach. Thanks for sharing!
I've been there. I was just reminiscing with a good friend about the first Christmas I was alone after a 25 year marriage. I went to the Christmas Eve service at my church, then I went to her house and she and her husband and I drank wine and told stories about disastrous Christmases past and laughed and laughed. It's been 15 years since then and it still makes me smile to think of it. Then, there was 2020 and I was alone for you know what reason. That actually was okay, it was peaceful and I cooked for myself and texted and video chatted with everyone. Then, 2021 we had a horrible ice storm here in New England and Christmas was cancelled for safety reasons. I was okay with that, too (can you tell I'm an introvert and don't mind solitude? LOL). Finally, I hope you do foil the tree! After my divorce, I had bins and bins of craft supplies that I did not have the heart to look at - but in recent years I have been pulling them out and using things from decades ago. It's fun to "shop my stash" and finally finish projects that I started with such hope back when I was married. Now I just enjoy the process and have fun with it.
I’m the same way with solitude. It doesn’t really bug me, but it does get riled up with the season. I’ve enjoyed going through old stuff from married life. I have a huge box of unfinished quilt tops. I think there’s around 20 in there. Bed sized! I’ve given myself permission to finish them appropriately and with my own esthetic in mind. I plan on doing the tree tomorrow. I’ve always wanted to see New England. It looks lovely!
I know how hard it is I am going through a divorce now after 34 years of marriage just found your channel and subscribe so sorry we all have to go through hard times praying for you 😢
It's hard after a long term marriage ends. My parents were together for 30, and that was hard to witness as it unraveled, even though I was already an adult. I was with my husband for 20 years, and there are still tough memories surrounding the holiday. We've got this! Thanks for watching!
don't overthink it. christmas is not about the decorations. if circumstances are such that you are alone during the christmas season and this bothers you, then plan a day outdoors. go out in the woods and enjoy nature. challenge yourself to do some physical task that requires real effort. hike, run, something. and treat christmas as thanksgiving and count your blessings, not your troubles. and get something good to eat for dinner.
I just found you and sorry for your story. BUT I can SEE your STRENGTH. Its like "a death"....to get over. Time heals and you are on your way. Remember the reason for the season. But please know that i can see your strength. Reach out to activities to meet new people. You got this girl!.🙏"we' are your friends...
@@Valencenlibertyit's a beautiful statement that shows us people are here to support us through rough times, because things can ALWAYS get better. Sometimes the kindness and positivity of strangers can turn your whole mood around. But go ahead, be the kind of stranger to bring everyone else down. The rest of us trying to get through sh*t and make it out the other side, to thrive in a new and brighter life...we welcome the support from one another 😊❤.
I've been single many years, the key to being single is seeing yourself as two mind sets, Yin & Yang (right brain child & , left brain adult)☯ This way you are NOT alone, but WITH yourself always. Be good company to yourself (I can see that you are). Have a Merry Christmas, with others or just WITH yourself.😉🎄☯☮
For sure! It’s one of the “blessings” of having been depressed for over a decade: realising there is no such thing as “loneliness.” We’re just told to feel incomplete all the time, so we think we can’t or shouldn’t be alone. Sounds like you know that, though! 🙂
Perhaps hanging out with me for a little while that day might be nice? Just a thought. That's why I'm planning to go live--so that anyone who is a little down might be uplifted, if only a little.
I'm literally laughing right now because I had to look up the reference. I never saw the British or American versions of the Office! I know that sounds weird, but it's true. Anyways, after reading up on this character, it sounds like you might be right. Nice to meet you.
Learn How to make your own MERRY Christmas. We have a lifetime of memories to draw from and can decorate and cook and can find many cozy things to do for yourself and OTHERS. How about DOING things at Christmas for Elders in your community and others that don't have family at Christmas time. # Cooking things to SHARE; Decorate your Home; inside & outside; DO some Christmas Crafts; Put a Puzzle together; Draw; Paint; READ The Holy Scriptures; Pray; SEEK THE LORD. The HOLY SPIRIT IS our COMFORTER & GUIDE. GROW UP & THINK OUTSIDE THE 'SELF' BOX.
There's the secular greeting card holiday of xmas and there's the actual celebration of the birth of Christ the Lord, Christmas. The first is miserable without family, friends, booze, food, and gifts, the second is joyful regardless. I wish all of you a very Merry Christmas.
Xmas is quite an old "abbreviation" for Christmas and in itself isn't secular. X representing the initial chi of Greek Khristos ‘Christ’. People's own beliefs and behaviours are what dictate their season, not simply the name. :)
Your video just popped up on my You Tube screen today. I don't really know your "back story" as they say, but I skimmed some previous videos you made and learned that I think you are a baker at a catering company. You are a beautiful, intelligent, articulate young woman and I am wondering why you are staying in wherever it is that you are in Canada. You say you live in a small place. What is keeping you there? That's no place for someone like you, and surely I would think your job would be transportable. What I guess I am getting at is, why don't you move? I think you need to be with other people your age in a larger city, where you can meet people. I'm not even talking about romance, although that could happen. You deserve so much more out of life. Hope you don't think me a busy body. I'm just saying to you what I would say to my own daughter, who is probably your age. And, yes, she would call me a busy body.
I understand your sentiment. I live where I do so I can see my child for visits. You're right I don't have the obligation to stay here, and a larger city might seem to make sense, but I can afford where I live right now. That's no small thing in today's world! So, for now, I'll stay here, and I'll also be open to moving somewhere else when the time is right.
Someone somewhere right today now is being told something that will require they prepare to get affairs in order i feel for them and presume they most likely would swap places with many of those who are inflicted by empty but healthy lives ? Ps if u have love of a pet then so much other stuff is digestible... even year old fruit cake !
I’m not allowed pets where I live, otherwise I’d have at least 2 cats! I love them so much. And yes, you’re probably right that lots of people would change places with those of us in our own for the holidays. 🙂
Do you not have an old age home to visit and talk / read to them. Serving a Christmas dinner at the local homeless shelter. Visiting children in the local hospital.? We are only alone if we choose to be.
You were the only one who knew it was the last one? I don’t understand why women are leaving their husbands unless there was infidelity, alcoholism, or physical abuse, or some other extreme example. And I guess I never will. It happened to me and I’ll never understand.
I love that Wooden tree. Love the idea of the gold leaf style. That is going to be pretty 🎉...Heartfelt...I became a widow. 1994 left with 3 small girls.. 30 yrs ago it still feels like yesterday...I have family & friends that have always embraced us and kept us near. Treasured memories and yes create your own Traditions..God will always give you Peace. Keep your Light shining bright..Thks for Sharing and know You are Loved. Merry Christmas! Keep God In your life..Big Hugs 🫂 to You .Jesus is The Reason for the Season ..Keep all those memories locked in your heart ❤️
Most of the people who's watching this are probably alone. Everything is so commercialized now,just spoil yourself,it's just one day. Hope your child is with you,when they're young they still love,and appreciate you❤
So what I've been hearing a lot lately is many women are lonely. So women can't make friends, it's not just a "crisis" of lonely men. A lot of men and women are not making time for other people, and I'm not referring to sexual relationships. People want connections but some people will not make friends.
@@DanielleComesBack Which, I think, is fine when people don't want to form connections. but a lot of people seem upset they are alone. SO many people seem to want someone to be there for them, but won't take the time to build a friendship. It's everyone else's responsibility to be MY friend, I don't have to do anything to earn it. I get people may have been burned, but most people aren't that bad. I've had two form friends screw me out of money. Yeah, it sucks but that's only two out of countless people I was close to over years. People get hurt and assume all people are bad.
Jesus is the Reason for the Season. It is His Birthday. Christmas has become too materialistic. No one is alone. God and our Guardian Angels are with us always. May the Holy Infant Jesus bless us always through His Immaculate Mother. Learn how to pray the Most Holy Rosary for peace in the world, peace with others and peace with yourself. Become Catholic. It is the only True Faith and Religion. Study it, find a good, conservative priest and receive the Holy Sacraments. Very hard to find in Canada, but there are a few older ones left. Salvation of your soul is the only thing that really matters.
If you were with Jesus, you wouldn't be alone. I have had 8 christmas's alone due to my husband leaving me. I focus on God. Feed a homeless person. Stay thankful.
I've spent many years alone on Christmas, you get better at it. I suggest indulging in a few gifts for yourself. Obviously try to work within your budget, but wrap them in really pretty paper and that way if you need a little upliftment on Christmas morning you can open them. Buy a gingerbread house to decorate, find some vintage Christmas music from the 20s or 30s, watch your favorite childhood movies or cartoons. Buy yourself flowers, Just ideas, good luck 🎄🔔🎅🤶🎁
I plan to make gingerbread cookies! I have some records that I like to listen to as well, which I love on a day like Christmas. Carpenters records are the best on Christmas.
Thank you for sharing. My second Christmas too. It hurts. Making new memories is a good idea. 😃
I am on year three alone after loss. The first I didn't do anything, too depressed. The second a little Charlie Brown tree which I loved. This year, full out Christmas! Just felt like I deserved a big Christmas even just with me. Sending loving and support to all! 🎄
That makes sense. It's a sign of good health, I'd say, that you eased back into things, rather than forcing yourself to do the traditions that you may have before. It's really good that you're back to the "full out Christmas" stage! Thanks for the love!
@@DanielleComesBack You got it, thanks for bringing us all together in your great channel, Danielle!
Even being on my own....I decorate my whole flat--over decorate is the correct word.
Makes me happy when I walk into the house.
I’d rather have crumbs with bums than steaks with snakes..I have had the best seat at the wrong table for too long. Being solo is not lonely at all (for me). I’m so grateful.
I hear ya! Sounds familiar to my own story, too.
Your never alone with God. I pray that he will fulfill you this Christmas and make it the best day ever for you! Hugs and Merry Christmas
You’re right! Thanks. 😊
Sometimes being lonely is better than the alternative of being miserable.
Yes. Although I don’t feel “lonely.” “Alone” is probably more accurate.
Absolutely.
It’s OK to simply ignore Christmas and spend the day doing whatever you enjoy. So much of the unhappiness around Christmas is due to unrealistic expectations. Tune out the noise.
Happy to do that! The world is rather loud!
Hey! Thanks for the shout out again. My name is Lisa, by the way. I use to have it in my channel title but I changed the name and I forget to introduce myself in the videos. This is such a heartfelt video, it was brave of you to make it. So that's the wooden tree you mentioned! I love rose gold things, so that would be so pretty. 💖💖
Hahaha I get the “forgetting to introduce yourself” thing. I’m going to try the tree very soon. I’m running out of time! 😅 I’m glad you got to see this one. None of us is truly ever alone.
🤗New sub here. I've spent Christmases alone, and once you get over the first one, it's comfortable. Walking at the park, eating a good meal and reading great literature with some candlelight is heaven to me. Movie theaters are great too on Christmas day--so many happy folks are getting a break from family. Lol. I'd watch your Christmas day livestream.🤗
Yes--Christmas day is especially quiet outside because everyone is inside! It makes a solitary walk very pleasant. And the choice to read whatever book you want, and for however long you want--that's the best aspect of living alone, I find. I look forward to making more great foods and enjoying the quiet. It's a luxury that most don't have! Thanks for the subscription! I think I'll do a little livestream...I guess I should make a community post about it to let everyone know....
Thanks for sharing. It is my 4th or so this way. Yeah, it can feel weird and lonesome, but on the other hand, it is the best option for now. So many times back then Christmas has not been exactly what I needed anyway, usually very painful. I don’t want that again. Better to be alone than with people and to still feel lonely. We can make it nice by ourselfs. :)
I agree. Feeling alone in a crowd of people you're supposed to feel close to is much worse than being truly alone. And, as I've said and others as well, you're never really "alone."
I see being alone for holidays in my future. My son moved 3000 miles away, my dog died, then my cat died, then my only little brother died, and my 92 year old alcoholic mother lives 1-1/2 hours away and I don’t drive through San Francisco anymore so luckily I don’t see her too often. Unfortunately I’m very healthy so I may live many more years. 🤷♀️. Appreciate your video - first time viewer.
How are you doing today, Lucita.
Wow! Sounds like a lot of tricky changes to navigate. I’m sure a quiet season will be a nice change for you. Thankfully you’re able to set and keep boundaries and live as well as you can. Sounds like you’re in California. I’m in BC, Canada. 🙂
Sounds like the makings of a country western song.
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@@BicyclesConfusion Had a good day today, thanks for asking.
My Mother passed away in October this year and I was there at Christmas every year.But I will be alone this year and every year from here on our.I live alone and have for years,I have a hard time during winter but I do workouts 3 days a week at the Y.I came across this video.Listening now..🇨🇦🙋♀️🎄🏋️
I am so stressad out about christmas! When you tell me about yourself and preparing cokies. It sounds so relaxed. I wish you a wonderful quiet litle christmas🤶🧑🎄🎅🎄🎁
Oh no! Don't stress! Just do what you can and don't bow down to the pressure, that's what I say. Thanks for the well wishes! I hope you get some enjoyment as well.
As long as you have life and breath, you can bring love /joy/hope to those who are in worse circumstances; it will bring love/joy and hope into your life.
Just try not to stay camped out on your losses, and move forward ❤
Such a broad basic comment when u have nothing else to say😮
That sounds like we're on the same page.
You are not alone. Remember that there is Zoom, meaning you are never alone. ❤❤❤❤❤
Of course. I'm sure there'll be some phone calling.
You seem to be a lovely lady. I hope this season that you’re in will pass, I’m sure it will. I’m also alone and isolated so have decided to spend Christmas this year with my parents. Am actually enjoying their company more than I was expecting!
That's a good idea! They won't be here forever, so it's important to get that time together. Thanks for the comment!
Divorced and alone here too. I have a son too but he spends Christmas with my ex because, basically, she has family. I do, too, but for some reason I've never been invited over for Christmas. Easter, yes, Thanksgiving, yes. But not Christmas for some reason. Rather lonely.
It’s hard with divorce and kids. What I’m doing is what I want-I’m taking things as they come and finding the luxury in solitude. I can relate to your experience, too, though. 🙂 I hope you’ll have a good holiday anyway.
I am alone as well my second as well. It’s ok to be alone. I would rather be with someone but I believe it will come if I need it too. So good luck with it this year
It’s okay to be alone, for sure. But it might be nice to hang out a little online. 😊
That would be fine
It is a brave thing to talk about being alone. I am sending you best wishes for this holiday - maybe sometime soon you will not spend it alone.
Thank you! I plan to show off some short break cookies or something, so I’m not also eating alone. 🙂
This is my 6th Christmas alone. Last week I had to put my 17 year old dog to sleep. I will spend Christmas day in my PJ's, eating and watching movies, reading books and being thankful I have a safe, warm home . I will remember that many are much less fortunate.
You’re a lovely woman with a beautiful spirit. Sharing a Christmas with you would be wonderful. May you receive the love and connection your heart desires. 🙏💒❤️
Thanks! Nice to meet you. I'll make a post about going live.
New subscriber here! I don’t know how you got to my feed, but I’m so glad you did! I am excited to start following you and see what kind of journeys you take us on. I would have loved to see you do a live stream, but I’ll be working. However, I do hope that you consider doing one in the future though ❤
I would like to on Christmas Day! Hopefully you don’t have to work then. ❤️
I’m on my 4th or 5th Christmas alone. It used to be such a special time, now I use it for personal development and photography adventure. Thanks for sharing this!
Hey, Travis! I'm finding it is becoming a time of quiet as well. I think it's an age thing, if I'm being honest. I just unpacked a box and found the original Nikon camera I learned to take photos with--and developed my own film! If only I were better at photography.
Just found your channel, well no, your channel found me! I too am alone for 2nd year after divorce and embracing this Christmas though I feel I am somewhat forcing myself to decorate...I do not have MUCH yet, I bought a 3 foot tree after Christmas, last year...and somehow I had some ornaments, yet I downsized through what I had...and now everything I do now, is JUST FOR ME! That has never happened before, epic stuff...the lord lead you to me, you and others here...thankful! I plan to go live way more, esp on Christmas day, how bout you? What will you do this Christmas day everyone? I think I will go to the beach, that I live 5 miles from Palm beach Florida....never been there yet, been here well almost 2 years now...been in hiding here...isolating is not good right? Next year I will plan better financially too...January I get to use some of my SSA & SSI to buy $20-30 or something for Christmas for next year, keeping in heart, who's Birthday it is to celebrate...Last year I gave everyone a puzzle...might do the same this year, they seemed to love me personally choosing a puzzle for each person, & I told them to tuck it away with the emergency supplies, for when the lights are out, puzzle times!
I did make the suggestion that I do a live stream on the 25th! I put it out as an idea because I wanted to see if anyone else was interested. It's funny that you're only 5 miles from the beach but you've never been. I get it. There's tons of stuff I didn't see in certain places I lived for ages! I'm getting a few things together for my child's gifts--I don't usually give anyone else stuff. But he gets things because it makes sense. I'm glad you're here and thanks so much for watching!
It will be my 3rd xmas by myself. I am looking forward to it. I plan to make waterrcolour postcards.
Sounds great! Go for it!
Thanks for this video. Being an introvert helps me manage better. First Christmas without either of my parents.😢
That’s always tricky-the first one after a loved one departs. I’ll be live for a while that day, if that might help! ❤️🩹
You and I are not the only ones… all of my family has passed onto God’s glory… cousins are out of town and my only living Son lives around the world BUT Jesus is with me and I am celebrating Christmas in the most beautiful way … attend Mass… prepare myself a delicious turkey dinner and be glad to be alive and healthy… I have bought myself my gifts…I have the most perfect Christmas memories… which I cherish… I have gifted my neighbors and a few church friends a gift…. Joy and gratitude will be at my home this Christmas… I wish you Christmas blessings… 🙏🏻🎄🎄🎄
It's an absolute must in my life to have great food to eat (that I made myself) and to enjoy the process of living. If not, depression will definitely hit hard. I like your approach. Thanks for sharing!
@@DanielleComesBack
I've been there. I was just reminiscing with a good friend about the first Christmas I was alone after a 25 year marriage. I went to the Christmas Eve service at my church, then I went to her house and she and her husband and I drank wine and told stories about disastrous Christmases past and laughed and laughed. It's been 15 years since then and it still makes me smile to think of it. Then, there was 2020 and I was alone for you know what reason. That actually was okay, it was peaceful and I cooked for myself and texted and video chatted with everyone. Then, 2021 we had a horrible ice storm here in New England and Christmas was cancelled for safety reasons. I was okay with that, too (can you tell I'm an introvert and don't mind solitude? LOL). Finally, I hope you do foil the tree! After my divorce, I had bins and bins of craft supplies that I did not have the heart to look at - but in recent years I have been pulling them out and using things from decades ago. It's fun to "shop my stash" and finally finish projects that I started with such hope back when I was married. Now I just enjoy the process and have fun with it.
I’m the same way with solitude. It doesn’t really bug me, but it does get riled up with the season. I’ve enjoyed going through old stuff from married life. I have a huge box of unfinished quilt tops. I think there’s around 20 in there. Bed sized! I’ve given myself permission to finish them appropriately and with my own esthetic in mind. I plan on doing the tree tomorrow. I’ve always wanted to see New England. It looks lovely!
Love and hugs from Ottawa!!!!
I know how hard it is I am going through a divorce now after 34 years of marriage just found your channel and subscribe so sorry we all have to go through hard times praying for you 😢
It's hard after a long term marriage ends. My parents were together for 30, and that was hard to witness as it unraveled, even though I was already an adult. I was with my husband for 20 years, and there are still tough memories surrounding the holiday. We've got this! Thanks for watching!
So can you do a live show?I would love that.🇨🇦🙋♀️🎄
Just curious, why would you move so far away from your son and also not visit him over Christmas?
I don't live far from my son. We're in the same city. We just prefer to keep things informal when it comes to visits. I don't force anything.
don't overthink it. christmas is not about the decorations. if circumstances are such that you are alone during the christmas season and this bothers you, then plan a day outdoors. go out in the woods and enjoy nature. challenge yourself to do some physical task that requires real effort. hike, run, something. and treat christmas as thanksgiving and count your blessings, not your troubles. and get something good to eat for dinner.
Sounds like a good plan.
❤❤❤. You got this!
Thanks! As do you!
I just found you and sorry for your story. BUT I can SEE your STRENGTH. Its like "a death"....to get over. Time heals and you are on your way. Remember the reason for the season. But please know that i can see your strength. Reach out to activities to meet new people. You got this girl!.🙏"we' are your friends...
Baseless statement we hear all the time
Thanks! Glad to meet you!
@@Valencenlibertyit's a beautiful statement that shows us people are here to support us through rough times, because things can ALWAYS get better. Sometimes the kindness and positivity of strangers can turn your whole mood around. But go ahead, be the kind of stranger to bring everyone else down. The rest of us trying to get through sh*t and make it out the other side, to thrive in a new and brighter life...we welcome the support from one another 😊❤.
I've been single many years, the key to being single is seeing yourself as two mind sets, Yin & Yang (right brain child & , left brain adult)☯ This way you are NOT alone, but WITH yourself always.
Be good company to yourself (I can see that you are). Have a Merry Christmas, with others or just WITH yourself.😉🎄☯☮
For sure! It’s one of the “blessings” of having been depressed for over a decade: realising there is no such thing as “loneliness.” We’re just told to feel incomplete all the time, so we think we can’t or shouldn’t be alone. Sounds like you know that, though! 🙂
My opinion is: if u aren’t alone don’t comment. Us alone better understand than u do
I will be going live on Christmas for us alone people!
And even if you are alone, not everyone's experience is the same.
A live stream sounds fun!
That’s good to know!! I wasn’t sure if people were “too busy” or not.
How are you doing Vivienne.
Cake.Still have a Merry Christmas
New subscriber from Spain
I love this: "Cake." No worries, there will be much cake to have this season. I was in Spain for a few months in 1995. Very interesting place!
Going to the park with my doggie on Christmas. 💕 🐾🐾
Nice. What kind of dog?
Better to be alone and unloved than with someone and love bombed.
Yeah, the outpouring of emotion can feel disingenuous just because it’s Christmas. It’s hard to not be cynical.
I'm on year 2 of being alone.
Sounds like we're in the exact same boat!
I haven't celebrated Christmas for 11 years in a row now. My mum died and. My brothers dont care. I have no family or friends to celebrate with.
Perhaps hanging out with me for a little while that day might be nice? Just a thought. That's why I'm planning to go live--so that anyone who is a little down might be uplifted, if only a little.
Total Pam Beesly vibes here 🙂
I'm literally laughing right now because I had to look up the reference. I never saw the British or American versions of the Office! I know that sounds weird, but it's true. Anyways, after reading up on this character, it sounds like you might be right. Nice to meet you.
You look radiant in that sunlight or from a sun lamp!
It’s just a cheap ring lamp. Nothing fancy. 😉
Learn How to make your own MERRY Christmas. We have a lifetime of memories to draw from and can decorate and cook and can find many cozy things to do for yourself and OTHERS. How about DOING things at Christmas for Elders in your community and others that don't have family at Christmas time. # Cooking things to SHARE; Decorate your Home; inside & outside; DO some Christmas Crafts; Put a Puzzle together; Draw; Paint; READ The Holy Scriptures; Pray; SEEK THE LORD. The HOLY SPIRIT IS our COMFORTER & GUIDE. GROW UP & THINK OUTSIDE THE 'SELF' BOX.
There's the secular greeting card holiday of xmas and there's the actual celebration of the birth of Christ the Lord, Christmas.
The first is miserable without family, friends, booze, food, and gifts, the second is joyful regardless. I wish all of you a very Merry Christmas.
Thanks, and Merry Christmas to you too. ❤️
Xmas is quite an old "abbreviation" for Christmas and in itself isn't secular.
X representing the initial chi of Greek Khristos ‘Christ’.
People's own beliefs and behaviours are what dictate their season, not simply the name. :)
Your video just popped up on my You Tube screen today. I don't really know your "back story" as they say, but I skimmed some previous videos you made and learned that I think you are a baker at a catering company. You are a beautiful, intelligent, articulate young woman and I am wondering why you are staying in wherever it is that you are in Canada. You say you live in a small place. What is keeping you there? That's no place for someone like you, and surely I would think your job would be transportable. What I guess I am getting at is, why don't you move? I think you need to be with other people your age in a larger city, where you can meet people. I'm not even talking about romance, although that could happen. You deserve so much more out of life. Hope you don't think me a busy body. I'm just saying to you what I would say to my own daughter, who is probably your age. And, yes, she would call me a busy body.
I understand your sentiment. I live where I do so I can see my child for visits. You're right I don't have the obligation to stay here, and a larger city might seem to make sense, but I can afford where I live right now. That's no small thing in today's world! So, for now, I'll stay here, and I'll also be open to moving somewhere else when the time is right.
Hi Danielle
Me too I’m alone at Christmas
Welcome to the club! 🤗
@@DanielleComesBackappreciate we can find strength and happiness within being with each other online
Someone somewhere right today now is being told something that will require they prepare to get affairs in order i feel for them and presume they most likely would swap places with many of those who are inflicted by empty but healthy lives ?
Ps if u have love of a pet then so much other stuff is digestible... even year old fruit cake !
I’m not allowed pets where I live, otherwise I’d have at least 2 cats! I love them so much. And yes, you’re probably right that lots of people would change places with those of us in our own for the holidays. 🙂
Do you not have an old age home to visit and talk / read to them. Serving a Christmas dinner at the local homeless shelter. Visiting children in the local hospital.? We are only alone if we choose to be.
A great idea
You're right. Nobody's ever alone.
Alone this year again.
Sorry about that Martin, How are you doing today?
It’s all good! Trust in the process. You’ll get whatever you want in the right time. ❤️
I just subscribed, if you did a Christmas live stream I would join! I'll be alone too. :)
Me too
yay! Nice to meet you and to know you're interested in the live. I'll have to figure out a plan and make a post about what time it's happening...
Celebrating Jesus’ Birthday is why we have Christmas. Stay in His light. Going to church and reading Jesus’ birth story will help.
I haven't done that in a very long time. Thanks for the suggestion!
Hope you don't mind me asking, I saw some of your previous videos and you had a daughter in them, do you still see your daughter?
Yes I do.
Me too...let's meet
Can you explain why you left? It seems sad.
Oh wow. That’s…a very long story! I was with my husband for 20 years, so it’s a lot of history.
Sounds like it’s time to put yourself “out there” again! It’s pretty obvious you’re not a natural loner, so the sooner you get started the better……..👍
I'm quite solitary, actually. It gives me enough time to process things without neglecting anyone else.
You were the only one who knew it was the last one? I don’t understand why women are leaving their husbands unless there was infidelity, alcoholism, or physical abuse, or some other extreme example. And I guess I never will. It happened to me and I’ll never understand.
I love that Wooden tree. Love the idea of the gold leaf style. That is going to be pretty 🎉...Heartfelt...I became a widow. 1994 left with 3 small girls.. 30 yrs ago it still feels like yesterday...I have family & friends that have always embraced us and kept us near. Treasured memories and yes create your own Traditions..God will always give you Peace. Keep your Light shining bright..Thks for Sharing and know You are Loved. Merry Christmas! Keep God In your life..Big Hugs 🫂 to You .Jesus is The Reason for the Season ..Keep all those memories locked in your heart ❤️
Thanks! I need some lights for that tree. I’m sorry for your loss, and so early in your life together, it sounds like! I’m glad you got through it.
Most of the people who's watching this are probably alone. Everything is so commercialized now,just spoil yourself,it's just one day. Hope your child is with you,when they're young they still love,and appreciate you❤
I'll be making lots of cookies and other goodies to share. It is just a day.
Many people are alone at Christmas
And It must not be a piece of
I wat come to u country married u on Christmas day ❤❤❤❤
less is more.
Seems to be the case!
Hi there if you do a Christmas video I’d love to join I’ll be alone as well ❤
I think I'll go live for a little while on Christmas, but I'm sure I'll do a recorded video as well! Hopefully I'll see you there.
If I were your neighbor, I would ask you if I could bring you a slice of home made pumpkin pie.
Awwww. Wish you were MY neighbor.
Thanks! That's nice to hear.
So what I've been hearing a lot lately is many women are lonely. So women can't make friends, it's not just a "crisis" of lonely men.
A lot of men and women are not making time for other people, and I'm not referring to sexual relationships. People want connections but some people will not make friends.
It's true; we tend to fill our lives up with other stuff instead of just friendship.
@@DanielleComesBack Which, I think, is fine when people don't want to form connections.
but a lot of people seem upset they are alone. SO many people seem to want someone to be there for them, but won't take the time to build a friendship. It's everyone else's responsibility to be MY friend, I don't have to do anything to earn it.
I get people may have been burned, but most people aren't that bad. I've had two form friends screw me out of money. Yeah, it sucks but that's only two out of countless people I was close to over years.
People get hurt and assume all people are bad.
Jesus is the Reason for the Season. It is His Birthday. Christmas has become too materialistic. No one is alone. God and our Guardian Angels are with us always. May the Holy Infant Jesus bless us always through His Immaculate Mother. Learn how to pray the Most Holy Rosary for peace in the world, peace with others and peace with yourself. Become Catholic. It is the only True Faith and Religion. Study it, find a good, conservative priest and receive the Holy Sacraments. Very hard to find in Canada, but there are a few older ones left. Salvation of your soul is the only thing that really matters.
No it is not
It is Satans birthday
Jesus birthday was September
Thanks for the good thought! We're never alone.
you're beautiful
Thank you. ❤️ Thanks for watching!
@@DanielleComesBack you're welcome :)
Get a cat
I'm not allowed in my apartment, otherwise I would!
@ lol, they are easy to hide.
And if you have Wi-Fi get a Roku device. Free movies every day.
If you were with Jesus, you wouldn't be alone. I have had 8 christmas's alone due to my husband leaving me. I focus on God. Feed a homeless person. Stay thankful.
No one is ever alone; you're right.
Do you KNOW CHRIST JESUS as your LORD & SAVIOR ?
So what??? Enjoy by yourself!! And quit the drama!!!
It isn't drama. It is a real severing of a life. It takes time.
I enjoy myself. It's all good.
Patricia, don't be mean.
@@PatriotSteve Sadly this comment thread has brought out a lot of know-it-all compassionless commenters. :(
Let me guess, your husband was a narcissist.
Quite the opposite, my friend
I wouldn't say that.
@@DanielleComesBack everyone has a right to their opinion