Share with us your prom experience or if you’re excited for it . Especially if you relate to this video in any way ! Also let me know any other topics you want me to talk about!!!!!
I'm super excited to go to prom, mainly because I want to dress fancy😅😅 but I'm pretty sure I'm on the Aroace spec, and I get kinda Un comfy at the thought of someone having a crush on me. (also, one time I had a dream where I met you, you're one of my favorite youtubers🥰)
one of the queer clubs at my college hosted a queer prom and it was the best thing in the world. it had everything that a prom should have but there was no strict dress code, no partners required, you don't have to dance, and every single person there was queer. two years ago i would've thought this was a dream. there should be more queer proms‼
I went to my prom at the start of this summer, right before graduation, and it was bad! But for reasons unrelated to my aroaceness. I went as the Cat in the Hat as a sort of middle finger to amatonormativity (and people really liked the bit), which was awesome, but I couldn't eat any of the food because of sensory issues and the music was so loud that I was immediately overstimulated and spent three hours pacing back and forth in front of the bathrooms singing to myself. Bad time.
When I went to Prom for the first ever time, I decided to go by myself bc I have no one in particular to asked out and I decided to do things my solo way! But at Prom, I honestly talked and chill with friends at a table, getting something to drink and candy, I was watching people dance with their prom dates and it was so heart warming to me. And I was putting some moves on the dance floor. And that was it lol. I’ll definitely go back for round two and at least TRY to find someone I’ll be satisfied to asked out or go solo again lol
Nope I didn't go to any of my school dances either. Nor was I 'expecting' to be asked 😂 I also only went to grade 11 and I think most of my friends didn't even have dates either haha! Everyone was very Platonic at that school(Christian and Private). Funny thing is, my sister went to a Public school and did the same thing with all her friends too. She almost caught the queer bug 😅 It's now just me that's queer though but having a queer sibling would've been cool 🌈
I also didn't got to prom (skipped out on junior and senior) apparently the junior was a bust from what I heard but as a graduation gift my parents got me and a friend tickets to see POTO and eat out in the city. I still think back fondly on that night (since it's my favorite musical and I've seen it 4 times).
Personally, I didn’t really care that much. I went in gender neutral attire with a female friend (I wanted to wear a suit, but the closest I got was a jumpsuit). The experience was awkward for a few reasons that are a little too personal for me to share. The dancing was boring, the music sucked (in my opinion), and there really wasn’t much to do. I guess I enjoyed hanging out with my friend, but I regretted spending money on tickets and a nice outfit just to hang out with my friend. I could do that at my house. Or anywhere else.
I went to 2 proms. 10th grade a guy I didn't really know in my PE class asked me to his senior prom. I was an underclassman so I didn't know anyone but I had a great time. He was a total gentleman and not in the "treating me like a useless damsel" way but actually respecting my wants. We ended up dating and he was honestly a perfect boyfriend. I broke up with him 2 years later because I'm gay. So I went to my senior prom with 2 of my friends. We went "as friends" but we had multiple sapphic threesomes before and after prom, so uh we didn't really go as friends lol. The last slow dance I had with one of my dates who I was pretty one-sided in love with and it was sort of torture. Like that whole situation. She was a fuckin mess and a bad person. Ironically I was more relaxed and had more fun at the prom I went to with my first boyfriend who I didn't even know at the time than the one I went to with a girl I had feelings for. 16 years later married with a kid I found out I'm aromantic so that tracks I guess lol. Prom with a good human and no chance of romance= good time! Prom with sticky, complicated attractions and feels?= blegh.
Such a good topic. I avoided my own school dances for a lot of these reasons. Also, could you do a video on how you got to a place of chill and acceptance regarding your aro identity? I know that myself as an aro ace and many other aros struggle with feeling bad, questioning our identities, hoping we're late bloomers when it comes to romantic and sexual attraction. Do you have any tips on how you remain proud and content in your identity instead of the comparing/feeling like we're missing out on those types of deep connections (beyond platonic) some of us might feel? What's been helping me feel better recently is changing up my fanfic reading routine somewhat to make sure i'm also reading plenty of works with aro main characters. My usual diet of romance heavy fanfic is enjoyable but demoralizing sometimes too when i think about how i can't have what i'm always reading about. Edit: other things that have been helping me include making sure my YT feed is filled with other aros, so i support and subscribe. I spend time on aro/ace subreddits and forums (aven/arocalypse) too. I'm sure another part of the problem too is that there's such little representation in media AND it can be hard to know/meet aro/ace folks in real life. So the invisibility of these identities makes it so that i forget i'm aro ace most of the time and panic and question my identity once i remember again every year or two.
I actually have made two videos that may suit what you’re lookin for: “ I'm Happy To Be Aromantic Asexual” and “How being aromantic : asexual affects my daily life”
Share with us your prom experience or if you’re excited for it . Especially if you relate to this video in any way ! Also let me know any other topics you want me to talk about!!!!!
I'm super excited to go to prom, mainly because I want to dress fancy😅😅 but I'm pretty sure I'm on the Aroace spec, and I get kinda Un comfy at the thought of someone having a crush on me. (also, one time I had a dream where I met you, you're one of my favorite youtubers🥰)
one of the queer clubs at my college hosted a queer prom and it was the best thing in the world. it had everything that a prom should have but there was no strict dress code, no partners required, you don't have to dance, and every single person there was queer. two years ago i would've thought this was a dream. there should be more queer proms‼
That’s so amazing and yeah, should have more stuff like that !
I would totally go to that! I go to a catholic school, so no queer clubs I guess. What a shame though, sounds like a lot of fun!
I went to my prom at the start of this summer, right before graduation, and it was bad! But for reasons unrelated to my aroaceness. I went as the Cat in the Hat as a sort of middle finger to amatonormativity (and people really liked the bit), which was awesome, but I couldn't eat any of the food because of sensory issues and the music was so loud that I was immediately overstimulated and spent three hours pacing back and forth in front of the bathrooms singing to myself. Bad time.
When I went to Prom for the first ever time, I decided to go by myself bc I have no one in particular to asked out and I decided to do things my solo way! But at Prom, I honestly talked and chill with friends at a table, getting something to drink and candy, I was watching people dance with their prom dates and it was so heart warming to me. And I was putting some moves on the dance floor. And that was it lol. I’ll definitely go back for round two and at least TRY to find someone I’ll be satisfied to asked out or go solo again lol
Fun timing! In actually going to a Prom soon but I'm technically going alone. Hopefully I can give everyone a fun experience with my dancing!
Nope I didn't go to any of my school dances either. Nor was I 'expecting' to be asked 😂
I also only went to grade 11 and I think most of my friends didn't even have dates either haha! Everyone was very Platonic at that school(Christian and Private).
Funny thing is, my sister went to a Public school and did the same thing with all her friends too. She almost caught the queer bug 😅
It's now just me that's queer though but having a queer sibling would've been cool 🌈
I also didn't got to prom (skipped out on junior and senior) apparently the junior was a bust from what I heard but as a graduation gift my parents got me and a friend tickets to see POTO and eat out in the city. I still think back fondly on that night (since it's my favorite musical and I've seen it 4 times).
Personally, I didn’t really care that much. I went in gender neutral attire with a female friend (I wanted to wear a suit, but the closest I got was a jumpsuit). The experience was awkward for a few reasons that are a little too personal for me to share. The dancing was boring, the music sucked (in my opinion), and there really wasn’t much to do. I guess I enjoyed hanging out with my friend, but I regretted spending money on tickets and a nice outfit just to hang out with my friend. I could do that at my house. Or anywhere else.
I was homeschooled so I didn’t get a chance to go to prom either 🤝
I went to 2 proms. 10th grade a guy I didn't really know in my PE class asked me to his senior prom. I was an underclassman so I didn't know anyone but I had a great time. He was a total gentleman and not in the "treating me like a useless damsel" way but actually respecting my wants. We ended up dating and he was honestly a perfect boyfriend. I broke up with him 2 years later because I'm gay. So I went to my senior prom with 2 of my friends. We went "as friends" but we had multiple sapphic threesomes before and after prom, so uh we didn't really go as friends lol. The last slow dance I had with one of my dates who I was pretty one-sided in love with and it was sort of torture. Like that whole situation. She was a fuckin mess and a bad person. Ironically I was more relaxed and had more fun at the prom I went to with my first boyfriend who I didn't even know at the time than the one I went to with a girl I had feelings for. 16 years later married with a kid I found out I'm aromantic so that tracks I guess lol. Prom with a good human and no chance of romance= good time! Prom with sticky, complicated attractions and feels?= blegh.
Such a good topic. I avoided my own school dances for a lot of these reasons.
Also, could you do a video on how you got to a place of chill and acceptance regarding your aro identity?
I know that myself as an aro ace and many other aros struggle with feeling bad, questioning our identities, hoping we're late bloomers when it comes to romantic and sexual attraction.
Do you have any tips on how you remain proud and content in your identity instead of the comparing/feeling like we're missing out on those types of deep connections (beyond platonic) some of us might feel?
What's been helping me feel better recently is changing up my fanfic reading routine somewhat to make sure i'm also reading plenty of works with aro main characters.
My usual diet of romance heavy fanfic is enjoyable but demoralizing sometimes too when i think about how i can't have what i'm always reading about.
Edit: other things that have been helping me include making sure my YT feed is filled with other aros, so i support and subscribe. I spend time on aro/ace subreddits and forums (aven/arocalypse) too.
I'm sure another part of the problem too is that there's such little representation in media AND it can be hard to know/meet aro/ace folks in real life. So the invisibility of these identities makes it so that i forget i'm aro ace most of the time and panic and question my identity once i remember again every year or two.
I actually have made two videos that may suit what you’re lookin for: “ I'm Happy To Be Aromantic Asexual” and “How being aromantic : asexual affects my daily life”
@@bmudangel Thanks for your response! I have seen "How being aromantic asexual affects my daily life", so I'll check out that other one. Thanks!
I didn't waste time on mine either :O