Folks, every single one of us is "there" no matter what our position. We need to be able to seek help from others in our organization or persuade people to do something when we don't have direct organizational "control" over them. I hope you enjoy this bulletproof tactic and clip out from my monthly leadership coaching program. If you'd like more help like this, check out the program here: www.milewalkacademy.com/andrew-lacivita-leadership-monthly-live. And, as always, enjoy the video and SUB to the channel so you never miss new content weekly and Live Office Hours on Thursdays!
"Help me help you" is where I come from regardless of the person's position in a personal or professional relationship. H.E.L.P. Humility + Empathy + Leadership = Progress. OR Honoring Everyone Leads to Progress.
"When people feel communicated to and have an understanding of the greater picture, there is a greater likelihood that they want to contribute." OMG truer words were never spoken !!
The purpose of why and the greater picture is always important when coaching, connecting, and helping a candidate or client. Transparency is key. Good stuff Andrew.
This absolutely works. As a Project Manager who rarely controls the resources, you have to ask for help and lead into what would be the hurdle. Then go remove the hurdle in order to complete the task. Asking for help and making it a team effort is huge in getting it accomplished.
Using "because" certainly help, although I am not sure whether is 50%, probably not that much. Anyway you are great coach! Giving real, useful advice, not pretending you know it all and preach.
Appreciate it Leo. Check this out: www.academia.edu/29512848/The_mindlessness_of_ostensibly_thoughtful_action_The_role_of_placebic_information_in_interpersonal_interaction. Then tell me what you think about the percentage! It’s much higher. 😂
@@andylacivita hi Andrew, thank you for the article. I will read it. I studied psychology, and read summary of similar experiments. My colleagues even repeated it. The results vary, i don't remember exact figures either of what i read before either my colleagues' outcome but wasn't that overwhelming yet cutting the long line with explanation "because I need to" still worked pretty well. I guess it might a different with written message, people have more time to notice that they was not provided with real explanation. Anyway your advice is very good regardless how well " because" alone works.
@@antygona-iq8ew I sure do. I have programs and services related to job search coaching. I also do 1:1 coaching on career development and high-performance. Anytime you need anything or have any questions related to our programs or services you can always email us at support@milewalk.com and Kara will be happy to clarify for you how to best work with us!
I've done those kinds of requests and people either simply don't reply to my email or chat message (we work remotely / globally) or they say they would do it by a certain time then not do it and then ghost me until I bring in a manager and then I'm the bad guy... What can I do when I get ghosted?
yesterday i bought a lucky for life lottert ticket with potential jackpot of $365,000 a year and gave it to catholic church instead of keeping for myself because i spent 2 dollars i could not afford to buy a snickers candy bar to eat for myself for 2 dollars. when you are on a buget it is give and take
I am curious to know why this topic is even discussed, Because, Work has to be assigned or prioritised by someone. How does influence comes into picture
Bosses can essentially dictate your work assignments to you. What about people who need someone to do something but they do not have the authority to command it? They need to recognize how to get someone to do something even though they cannot command it. That's why this is being discussed. It's prevalent in every company and will be for all time.
If one is a boss she commands what to work on, If one is not, then let the bosses decide it. If one has to command what other person needs to work on, then perhaps she has to become a boss. Organization establishes a structure where is requests are made to bosses about work to be done. Influencing without authority would be an attempt to break that structure .
Folks, every single one of us is "there" no matter what our position. We need to be able to seek help from others in our organization or persuade people to do something when we don't have direct organizational "control" over them. I hope you enjoy this bulletproof tactic and clip out from my monthly leadership coaching program. If you'd like more help like this, check out the program here: www.milewalkacademy.com/andrew-lacivita-leadership-monthly-live. And, as always, enjoy the video and SUB to the channel so you never miss new content weekly and Live Office Hours on Thursdays!
Wow ! Andrew you are so underrated.
Appreciate that much SP. Notoriety takes time, but I don't do it for that. I do it to help YOU! Glad you enjoyed this!
"Help me help you" is where I come from regardless of the person's position in a personal or professional relationship. H.E.L.P. Humility + Empathy + Leadership = Progress. OR Honoring Everyone Leads to Progress.
For sure!
Love it.
"When people feel communicated to and have an understanding of the greater picture, there is a greater likelihood that they want to contribute."
OMG truer words were never spoken !!
Boom. :-)
The purpose of why and the greater picture is always important when coaching, connecting, and helping a candidate or client. Transparency is key. Good stuff Andrew.
Thanks much Jeremy!
This absolutely works. As a Project Manager who rarely controls the resources, you have to ask for help and lead into what would be the hurdle. Then go remove the hurdle in order to complete the task. Asking for help and making it a team effort is huge in getting it accomplished.
Thanks James. Appreciate you engaging and sharing that!!!
The leadership program looks fun!
Get in!!
Using "because" certainly help, although I am not sure whether is 50%, probably not that much.
Anyway you are great coach! Giving real, useful advice, not pretending you know it all and preach.
Appreciate it Leo. Check this out: www.academia.edu/29512848/The_mindlessness_of_ostensibly_thoughtful_action_The_role_of_placebic_information_in_interpersonal_interaction. Then tell me what you think about the percentage! It’s much higher. 😂
@@andylacivita hi Andrew, thank you for the article. I will read it.
I studied psychology, and read summary of similar experiments. My colleagues even repeated it. The results vary, i don't remember exact figures either of what i read before either my colleagues' outcome but wasn't that overwhelming yet cutting the long line with explanation "because I need to" still worked pretty well. I guess it might a different with written message, people have more time to notice that they was not provided with real explanation. Anyway your advice is very good regardless how well " because" alone works.
@@antygona-iq8ew Leo! True stuff! The rationale behind the because strengthens the case. Enjoy the article and my videos too!
@@andylacivita do you do individual coaching?
@@antygona-iq8ew I sure do. I have programs and services related to job search coaching. I also do 1:1 coaching on career development and high-performance. Anytime you need anything or have any questions related to our programs or services you can always email us at support@milewalk.com and Kara will be happy to clarify for you how to best work with us!
I've done those kinds of requests and people either simply don't reply to my email or chat message (we work remotely / globally) or they say they would do it by a certain time then not do it and then ghost me until I bring in a manager and then I'm the bad guy... What can I do when I get ghosted?
just found this video looking for some influence tips and question is literally most of my work. thanks for the video
You’re welcome!!
This was gold.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Great tip! Thank you
You’re welcome Cesar!!
yesterday i bought a lucky for life lottert ticket with potential jackpot of $365,000 a year and gave it to catholic church instead of keeping for myself because i spent 2 dollars i could not afford to buy a snickers candy bar to eat for myself for 2 dollars. when you are on a buget it is give and take
excellent!
Glad you think so!
I am curious to know why this topic is even discussed,
Because,
Work has to be assigned or prioritised by someone.
How does influence comes into picture
Bosses can essentially dictate your work assignments to you. What about people who need someone to do something but they do not have the authority to command it? They need to recognize how to get someone to do something even though they cannot command it. That's why this is being discussed. It's prevalent in every company and will be for all time.
If one is a boss she commands what to work on,
If one is not, then let the bosses decide it.
If one has to command what other person needs to work on, then perhaps she has to become a boss.
Organization establishes a structure where is requests are made to bosses about work to be done.
Influencing without authority would be an attempt to break that structure .
👏
Thank you!
It's called herding cats.
Lol, yes! 🐱