This generation girls will get more blessings bc majority of them are wearing the pants. Whichever way they turned their husbands they will go! So if they say no to burying your parents then of course all the luck will go towards the “muam”. So basically girls everywhere is bearing their own parents 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Kuv xav noog nej Cov ua niam tais tias yus tus txhais hlub2 yus ua niam tais tiam si ua koj tus txhais puas nyiam thiab hlub nws niam pog ib yam li nws hlub thiab Nyiam koj es qias koj os noog nej li no mas kuv tus txiv tuag lawm thiab kuv kuj muaj tub muaj txhais thiab kuv pom tias ib cov niam tais mas cob txhais hlub2 yus tsis qhia yus tus txhais hlub niam pog li Thiab Yuav qhia peb cov txhais hlub niam pog li hlub peb yog peb cov tub yuav nyab los peb xav kom yus tus nyab niam tais los qhia nws tus txhais los hlub niam pog ib Li nws hlub nws niam ces yeej zoo xwb os
Yog lawm os Niam thiab Txiv zam tau txim ces lub ntuj zam tau txim nawb. Yog Niam thiab Txiv zam tsis tau txim ces lub ntuj zam tsis tau txim nawb mog.
Thaum tus laug tuag kiag yog nw fee rau sab twg ces sab ntawv yeej zoo dua tiag tiag li naw muaj tsheeb os kv yeej pom muaj muaj tsheeb tiag tiag li laum
I don't understand some of the small hearted nyabs today. Even if you cannot bring yourself to love your in-laws (assuming they are good & kind like the mom in this story), at least have some human decency to be kind and courteous to them. The sons in the story got what they deserved for not loving their mother and for not protecting her from the cruelty of their wives.
Khub tub nyab Ntxawg ko lim hiam txias ntshav tshaj plaws rau tus niam pog. Ntuj aw nrog nej phauj Yeeb siab zoo tus siab kawg. Cov niag tub nyab siab phem. Nej phauj tuag nco ntsoov rov los tsim tsim kom cov tub nyab ko paub tab paub cai.
Again, Hmong people mostly enabled the sons so this is the result of it. Our parents brought us all to the world. As their children we should all pay respect and honor our parents. After marriage we all have parents from both sides. If you do it for your parents then you need to do it for her parents. If not then don’t do it at all. It’s something that both parties have to agree on before getting married. Not because I’m a Hmong guy and you married me now so you have to take care of my parents - no, both of you take care of your parents from both sides!
I disagree with you. Your husband paid for your head. His parents come first. You and your spouse need to take care of his parents’s needs before you go running to your side. You didn’t pay for your husband’s head. Your husband didn’t change his last name to have yours. It’s the other way around. Yes, both of you need to love both parents but his parents come first. Like it or not, your Hmong and your husband “paid” for you.
I've always wonder why people so mean to the disable, elders, uneducated. Have they not realized we all will age and anything can happen to us at anytime.
Cov niag nyab phem li no los vim niag niam tais yeej phem phem niag nyab thiaj phem npaum li no los mas, tej tub no los ntshai tsam hmo ntuj tsis tau haij lwm xwb ces yeej saib leej niam tsis muaj nuj nqi li os.
Tiam no cov ntxhais hlub niam txiv dua cov tub. Niam txiv yeej cia siab rau cov tub hlub cov tub dua cov ntxhais. Peb hmoob coj li ntawm vim tias cov tub ces yog tub cag hos cov ntxhais ces yog mus saum luag xwb es thiaj hlub cov tub dua.
It may not be easy to live with the parents-in-law, but as a daughter-in-law, a daughter-in-law will never outrank them in the hierachy to tell them what to do or kick them out of their own home, or even her home. However, there are always civil solutions. Extreme tactics will only bring extreme results. There's a saying go that if I meet a good person, he/she will be my master; if I meet a bad person, he/she will also be my master.
The fact that the youngest nyab kicked the mil out of the mil's own house says everything I need to know about the nyab. I don't need to hear the entitled, selfish nyab's side. If the nyab was as innocent as you seem to think, the nyab & son would have voluntarily moved out of the mil's house, not try to take over it. It's true that not all in-laws are pleasant, but it sure sounds like this mil was.
Cov dab neeg li no kuv twb hnov ntau zaj thiab Pom kiag ntawm qhov muag lawm Nco ntsoov nej cov poj niam yog nej tseem hluas li 45 xyoo rov qab ces mus yuav txiv nawb mog tsis txhob nrog cov niag ntsej muag tub dev nyob
I have 1 son and 1 daughter and their 17. My wife is always saying she wants to live with them in the future. I'm like, if they want you. Your kids may want you but your SIL or DIL may not want you. Me, I'm not saying anything. I know my wife is a hard person to get a long with. She have a very strong personality and I know that may not fly with the SIL or DIL. Maybe SIL would be a better choice for her, if he loves our daughter. Our future daughter-in-law may not want my wife (too controlling). I don't want to even whisper a word about living with my son or daughter in the future. I'm easy pleasy. And I don't want to expect too much from my future daughter-in-law or son-in-law.
@@electricgenie966e need to get with the program they don’t want us in the future. So make sure you pay off your house and have money saved. I don’t plan to stay with anyone but haha I’m going to make all my kids take turns coming in. I have 5 kids and there’s 7 days so better take turns 😅 but for me I still have my in law with us bc I can’t bear sending them off to the nursing home they are scared of being abuse and loneliness. So I respect their dying wishes to live with us but I know kids these days don’t give a damn.
Tu siab tshaj os lawv aw yus niam hlub2 tej me nyuam thaum kawg tej tub nyab g xav hlub yus tuag ces kawg cia koob hmoov ntxhais sab xwb leej twg hlub yus ces tseg koob hmoov rau tej ntxhais xwb mas tsis tsim nyog hlub thaum yau paub tias yuav zoo li ces muab pov rau dej tshoob zoo tshaj os...😭😭😭😭😭
Great story. She did right by her children. But damn her son's didn't appreciate her and took her for granted. Her son are paying for the karma. They didn't love their mother. They took her for granted. She wasted all her love, suffering, efforts, and sacrifices for them. She gave up so much for them
The audacity of these SIL!!! Many of Hmong people need to learn humanity!!! We have such evilness in us to hate those who love us. Bless the daughters, but don’t forget to love your in-laws as much as you love your own parents.
Lady, don't try to lecture your aunt. She has every right to be upset at her sons, they can't wear pants and don't see the love and sacrifice their mom had to endure so they won't b orphans. I am like your aunt too, who ever loves me of my kids, i will give them my blessings. You are also a mother too, so don't try to lecture your aunt of what is right and wrong. She has every right to give her blessings to her daughters because these days it is daughters who loves their parents.
Ikr! She saw what the sons did to her sil and yet she still tried to lecture her about being fair. It’s instinctive as a child to protect if they see that their parents are being mistreated, but unfortunately for most Hmong sons, it only applies to the daughters to protect their parents.
The good Niam pog and nyab always get the bad one. That’s just how it is in reality. Everyone wants love and the good one but that would make reality too boring. 😢 I wish I was one lucky nyab who gets the good Niam pog and not just a good husband/son of hers. I always fine it insane when you get a good husband/son of the Niam pog but WTH is with the parents in-law, why are they so different from their own son that came out of them. That gets me every time when I think of it. Tau ib tus mi txiv zoo zoo tab si Niam pog txiv yawm phem phem heev li. Rip to this aunty. ❤
This generation: Girls are best at the “daughter/muam” roles but lacks being a “nyab”. You don’t have to be Cinderella these days but man some words and actions coming out of us women these days are unbearable. Txhob siab phem thiab os cov nyab in the future es….as much as you spit at and torture your mil just remember you have a mom too and you will be a grandma someday. I can have disagreements but to physically throw out my in laws stuff and yell at them like that way over board. You reap what you sow.
The nyab needs a evil mother-in-law so she knows how to appreciate a mother-in-law. Most nyabs aren't even that lucky to have a loving mother-in-law. The niam tais is just as bad as her own daughter. Like mother like daughter.
Yog vim li cas ntuj tsis muab tus niam pog no rau kuv ne? 1 Leej niam uas hlub thiab txhawj txog nws cov menyuam thaum lawv tseem me yau ces yeej yuav ua txhua yam los tiv thaiv nws cov menyuam li tus niam no. Tus txawj hlub los hlub dhau. Tus tsis txawj hlub los tsis hlub kiag li. Tub nyab los li, hos niam pog txiv yawg los li.
Hais rau txhua tu paub yog tej laus tuag es nws fee kiag rau tub lo yog ntxhais sab lawm txhob muab tig nawb...yog leej twg tig ces tu ntawv yuav ntsib teeb mee....muaj ib tsev neeg es nws tig rau cov tub sab lawm cov ntxhais mus kho rau cov ntxhais sab thaum kawg cov ntxhais ntsib teeb meem...ntawm cov tub sab lo ua rau lawv tu thawj coj tuag kiag lawm thiab nawb...thaum zoo li no lawm txhob kov zoo dua
This is the first story where the woman chose her children vs a new husband. Sad that her sons are worthless and marry horrible daughters-in-law. Biggest fear is all mothers....mine especially.
I’m not with the DIL but some people are just so picky lol. Have to do everything and say everything a certain way. Say it alittle too loud, don’t eat their food, don’t ask them for help and they have a meltdown. She can’t even bless any good luck to herself, how can she give any luck to anyone? She’s not God. Moral of the story, isn’t it so ironic that you have to go against shamanism to be able to love your parents as a female? Or to even have a voice in general. Only bc we are in a Christian country you get all the freedom you have today vs jungles of Laos. Thank God for the daughter who married into a Christian family.
Sounds like my story we the girls buried both our parents. It’s heartbreaking but it’s true sometimes some women are so blind and fail to love their MIL like they love their mom. Never once do they bare the feeling of how they will feel if their Nyab did that to their parents. Sad for the aunt but I have to say karma does exist.. Rest In Peace to the aunt.
So sick of the old Hmong tradition of not allowing the surviving Nyab to take all her kids where ever she likes. There is never ever a need to get permission from the brothers or relatives to take care of the mom! Screw those mofos and their opinions and traditions! Whoever can love their mother can always take her regardless of son or daughter. Smh
Tsis yog koob hmoov fee rau ntxhais sab lawm na. Yog vim hais tias tiam nim no niam yog tus cob qhia mi nyuam lawm xwb ces mi nyuam thiaj yoog li niam lawm tiag. Ntxhais ces yuav coj niam tus xeeb ceem siab ntsws mus ua neej ces yuav zoo rau ntxhais sab. Hos tub ces zoo li poj niam tuaj lawm ces yuav mus nrhiav tus zoo nkaus niam los hloov niam chaw tiag. If you look closely, this mom raised her kids to be just like her. Her sons are not manly because they were babied and slaved for by mama their whole life. So of course, the women to be their wives, they would look for someone just like her, to wear her shoes and stand on position. It’s not koob hmoov, it’s their mentality learned from mama herself. Just look at any weaknies boy-men and track back on who raised them, you’ll find that it was mama or grandma.
niam phem li nej niag ko mas uaneej nyob kuv yuav g hu g laig li nawb..mam hu cov ntxhais tuaj laig vim nws qaij rau cov ntxhais tag lawm ne, kuv mas yuav mus lawbdab 3txheej thaiv kiag nawb vim nws twb foom cov tub tag lawm ne..ehaaaaaa.
Hell no your uncle isn't a good man. For him to even suggest that your aunt abandon her children and to marry him and have kids with him. No wonder she won't marry him. He doesn't want her children just her. Your aunt is right. Take care of her children no need for a man. She has great heart and wise.
Kuv mas ntxub cov nyab siab phem lim hiam li niag pog nyab no! Ua cas peb cov ua siab zoo thiab tsawg niag pog hlub es hos tsis tau niag pob siab zoo os lawv…Just know what you sows is what you will reaps! One day you will grow old and your DIL will do the same to you or even worse! Those who don’t have an evil, small narrow minded nyabs will never understand the pains and heartaches! Kuv ntxub cov neeg narcissistic li no tshaj plaws! Ua neeg hais tsis tau tuag ua dab mas tsim os!
The sons are not man enough. Their mom paid their dowry to start their lives. The least they could do is just spend times with her. Why did they take half of the money from the sale of her home? Have some respect at least without her they wouldn’t be able to marry their wife with no dowry money’s. 97% of Hmong guys did not have money for dowry or didn’t even think about it when they brought their bride home. Selfish & afterwards Also becomes A……H….. !!!!!! I think if you decide to marry you should have $$$$ to pay dowry and everything. The parents only help. Parents are to blame too enabling the sons too. That’s why so many divorced because they took everything for granted .., Karma
Right! And in the end it is the sons and their wives who are A-H to the parents who loved and supported them. When it’s the daughters, they work together as siblings to care for their parents, but when it’s the sons they fight and agree with their wives that if they help their parents then they won’t get pussy 🙄 as kids everyone should pitch in to care for their parents. Not just the sons or just the daughters. EVERYONE.
Cov niag nyab lim hiam siab phem li no yeej yog noob phem los ntawm niag niam tais Phem zoo li niag nyab no muab tsawm kom khaum thiab txhub kom ntuj muab rau txim kom yug niag kas tom txhob tau kiag xwb mas Tus niam tais no nws yuam kev lawm vim nws tsis siab tej niag me nyuam yus hlub ๆ los lwm hnub lawv tsis hlub yus no es txhob muab hlub ๆ heev thiab tsuas hlub kom txhob tuag no mas Cia kom txom nyem raug luag tsim txom es thiaj txawj tu siab pob
Koj tus txiv twb yog nws tus nus los yog dab laug kiag ua cas nej ho tsis tuaj cem tuaj ntuas ib los rau nws cov tub nyab kom paub txog txoj kev khaum tom qab tsis hlub tej laus es yuav tshwm sim dab tsi rau lawv paub ma Es twb cia tuag lawm thiab twb tshwm txoj kev phem los raug tej me nyuam lawm es mam ho tuaj hais ua niag ntxim ntxub tsawv li ntawd es puas pab tau lawm na hmoob aw
Tus nyab ntxawg tsis nyiam nyiam pog es thiab lis tsis noj txhua Yam UA niam pog yuav. Ib qrho ob qrho es mus hais niam tais xwb ces Cia nws mas NTI nws kaub puab xwb los ma.
Glad your sil did not marry your uncle because he does not sound like a good person when asked you to ask your sil. She was like my mom(rip), she never remarried since my dad died in 1969.
What side is for son or daughter? I’m just curious because after my mom died, my loser brothers life went down hill. They weren’t the nicest to her during her last couple months on Earth.
Proud for the Hmong daughters. Shameful to the Hmong sons. Great lesson to learn from.
😢😢why can't I have a lovely supportive caring mother-in-law like this. Life is not fair 💔
I know me too, i wish i had one too. i would never be like this nyab.
Me toooooo
Same 😢
Same here
Why can't all MILs be this loving, caring, and considerate. Oh well. Love them as they are.
This generation the girls will get more blessings than the boys
Nyob ntawm tus txawj mus ua nyab zoo xwb os. No guarantees. Tus niam tais no cov vauv twb tau koob hmoov lawm thiab ne, koj tsis pom seem no pob.
Evan Hmong OC Adventure:
YOG paub zoo npaum ko: Cas txhua xeem Hmoob tseem pluag kus txhua tiam neej thiaj Niaj hnub no MAJ!
This generation girls will get more blessings bc majority of them are wearing the pants. Whichever way they turned their husbands they will go! So if they say no to burying your parents then of course all the luck will go towards the “muam”. So basically girls everywhere is bearing their own parents 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Kuv hais tas lis hais thiab , tias ib leeg niam tu tau 10 leej me nyuam hlob , 10 leej me nyuam tu tsis tau ib leeg niam tuag !
Finally some luck for the girls
Kuv xav noog nej Cov ua niam tais tias yus tus txhais hlub2 yus ua niam tais tiam si ua koj tus txhais puas nyiam thiab hlub nws niam pog ib yam li nws hlub thiab
Nyiam koj es qias koj os noog nej li no mas kuv tus
txiv tuag lawm thiab kuv kuj muaj tub muaj txhais thiab kuv pom tias ib cov niam tais mas cob txhais hlub2 yus tsis qhia yus tus txhais hlub niam pog li Thiab
Yuav qhia peb cov txhais hlub niam pog li hlub peb yog peb cov tub yuav nyab los peb xav kom yus tus nyab niam tais los qhia nws tus txhais los hlub niam pog ib
Li nws hlub nws niam ces yeej zoo xwb os
Zoo kawg li os
Yog lawm os Niam thiab Txiv zam tau txim ces lub ntuj zam tau txim nawb. Yog Niam thiab Txiv zam tsis tau txim ces lub ntuj zam tsis tau txim nawb mog.
The issue is the son, he needs to be man enough to protect his mom and expect his wife to be respectful towards his mother.
How I pray that I will have a helper like this mom?
Txhua xeem Hmoob lub qhov ncauj UA ZOG KOOG... Keej KAWG...PAUB KAWG...Tiam sis... PLUAG
KUS TXHUA TIAM NEEJ!
These nyab were blessed with a loving mother in law but with their small heart they can't see it.
Pab hlub tus phauj no.khuv xim dag zoo tus cov menyuam no.cov tub nyab xab maim no ces txhob cia siab😢
Thaum tus laug tuag kiag yog nw fee rau sab twg ces sab ntawv yeej zoo dua tiag tiag li naw muaj tsheeb os kv yeej pom muaj muaj tsheeb tiag tiag li laum
Kab lia aw.. koj hnav xuv khaub ncaws no mas phim koj tiag2 li os lub phuam txoom suab no mas koj ntoo tau zoo nkauj tiag2
This generation the boys has no balls anymore. I believe in KARMA.
I don't understand some of the small hearted nyabs today. Even if you cannot bring yourself to love your in-laws (assuming they are good & kind like the mom in this story), at least have some human decency to be kind and courteous to them. The sons in the story got what they deserved for not loving their mother and for not protecting her from the cruelty of their wives.
Khub tub nyab Ntxawg ko lim hiam txias ntshav tshaj plaws rau tus niam pog. Ntuj aw nrog nej phauj Yeeb siab zoo tus siab kawg. Cov niag tub nyab siab phem. Nej phauj tuag nco ntsoov rov los tsim tsim kom cov tub nyab ko paub tab paub cai.
This auntie deserved a better life, shame on these sons. Kudos to the sisters for stepping up.
Damn where are these kind, good hearted Mother in Law. Where are you MIL how can we find you?
Lol you gotta find the son too, not just the Niam pog. 😅 First come the son then the Niam pog (if you’re lucky enough).
Li kos peb cov no thiaj nrog ntxhai ntau xwb
Luag tej laus ib txwm hais tias yuav tsum fwm thiab hlub tej laus thiaj tau koob hmoov.
Cov neeg ntseeg VajTswv, vaj lug kub yeej hais, tias, “honor thy mother and mother.”
Yus tsis fwm thiab hlub tej laus, txawm tej laus tsis foom los muaj ntnuj thiab daim av yog pov thawj.
Again, Hmong people mostly enabled the sons so this is the result of it. Our parents brought us all to the world. As their children we should all pay respect and honor our parents. After marriage we all have parents from both sides. If you do it for your parents then you need to do it for her parents. If not then don’t do it at all. It’s something that both parties have to agree on before getting married. Not because I’m a Hmong guy and you married me now so you have to take care of my parents - no, both of you take care of your parents from both sides!
I disagree with you. Your husband paid for your head. His parents come first. You and your spouse need to take care of his parents’s needs before you go running to your side. You didn’t pay for your husband’s head. Your husband didn’t change his last name to have yours. It’s the other way around. Yes, both of you need to love both parents but his parents come first. Like it or not, your Hmong and your husband “paid” for you.
@@owlpix8273 you have a point, but I disagree. All I’m saying is love both parents. Both parents are a priority. Not just his. Have a great day!
I've always wonder why people so mean to the disable, elders, uneducated. Have they not realized we all will age and anything can happen to us at anytime.
Cov niag nyab phem li no los vim niag niam tais yeej phem phem niag nyab thiaj phem npaum li no los mas, tej tub no los ntshai tsam hmo ntuj tsis tau haij lwm xwb ces yeej saib leej niam tsis muaj nuj nqi li os.
Tiam no cov ntxhais hlub niam txiv dua cov tub. Niam txiv yeej cia siab rau cov tub hlub cov tub dua cov ntxhais. Peb hmoob coj li ntawm vim tias cov tub ces yog tub cag hos cov ntxhais ces yog mus saum luag xwb es thiaj hlub cov tub dua.
This is such a one sided story. I’d like to hear the daughter in law and son’s version. Life with in laws is not easy for everyone.
It may not be easy to live with the parents-in-law, but as a daughter-in-law, a daughter-in-law will never outrank them in the hierachy to tell them what to do or kick them out of their own home, or even her home. However, there are always civil solutions. Extreme tactics will only bring extreme results.
There's a saying go that if I meet a good person, he/she will be my master; if I meet a bad person, he/she will also be my master.
The fact that the youngest nyab kicked the mil out of the mil's own house says everything I need to know about the nyab. I don't need to hear the entitled, selfish nyab's side. If the nyab was as innocent as you seem to think, the nyab & son would have voluntarily moved out of the mil's house, not try to take over it. It's true that not all in-laws are pleasant, but it sure sounds like this mil was.
Cov dab neeg li no kuv twb hnov ntau zaj thiab Pom kiag ntawm qhov muag lawm Nco ntsoov nej cov poj niam yog nej tseem hluas li 45 xyoo rov qab ces mus yuav txiv nawb mog tsis txhob nrog cov niag ntsej muag tub dev nyob
Tab sis ho txhob mus khaws txiv khib nyiab tsam haj yam tshaj lawm thiab laiv
All I have to say is, "only do as much or as little as it takes to stay civilized and don't expect too much".
I have 1 son and 1 daughter and their 17. My wife is always saying she wants to live with them in the future. I'm like, if they want you. Your kids may want you but your SIL or DIL may not want you. Me, I'm not saying anything. I know my wife is a hard person to get a long with. She have a very strong personality and I know that may not fly with the SIL or DIL. Maybe SIL would be a better choice for her, if he loves our daughter. Our future daughter-in-law may not want my wife (too controlling). I don't want to even whisper a word about living with my son or daughter in the future. I'm easy pleasy. And I don't want to expect too much from my future daughter-in-law or son-in-law.
@@electricgenie966e need to get with the program they don’t want us in the future. So make sure you pay off your house and have money saved. I don’t plan to stay with anyone but haha I’m going to make all my kids take turns coming in. I have 5 kids and there’s 7 days so better take turns 😅 but for me I still have my in law with us bc I can’t bear sending them off to the nursing home they are scared of being abuse and loneliness. So I respect their dying wishes to live with us but I know kids these days don’t give a damn.
Tu siab tshaj os lawv aw yus niam hlub2 tej me nyuam thaum kawg tej tub nyab g xav hlub yus tuag ces kawg cia koob hmoov ntxhais sab xwb leej twg hlub yus ces tseg koob hmoov rau tej ntxhais xwb mas tsis tsim nyog hlub thaum yau paub tias yuav zoo li ces muab pov rau dej tshoob zoo tshaj os...😭😭😭😭😭
Great story. She did right by her children. But damn her son's didn't appreciate her and took her for granted.
Her son are paying for the karma. They didn't love their mother. They took her for granted. She wasted all her love, suffering, efforts, and sacrifices for them. She gave up so much for them
Agreed!
Daughters these days are more supportive than the sons.
The audacity of these SIL!!! Many of Hmong people need to learn humanity!!! We have such evilness in us to hate those who love us. Bless the daughters, but don’t forget to love your in-laws as much as you love your own parents.
Peb yog neeg zoo ces yeej tau qhov phem hos neeg phem tau hmoov zoo
Lady, don't try to lecture your aunt. She has every right to be upset at her sons, they can't wear pants and don't see the love and sacrifice their mom had to endure so they won't b orphans. I am like your aunt too, who ever loves me of my kids, i will give them my blessings. You are also a mother too, so don't try to lecture your aunt of what is right and wrong. She has every right to give her blessings to her daughters because these days it is daughters who loves their parents.
Ikr! She saw what the sons did to her sil and yet she still tried to lecture her about being fair. It’s instinctive as a child to protect if they see that their parents are being mistreated, but unfortunately for most Hmong sons, it only applies to the daughters to protect their parents.
The good Niam pog and nyab always get the bad one. That’s just how it is in reality. Everyone wants love and the good one but that would make reality too boring. 😢 I wish I was one lucky nyab who gets the good Niam pog and not just a good husband/son of hers. I always fine it insane when you get a good husband/son of the Niam pog but WTH is with the parents in-law, why are they so different from their own son that came out of them. That gets me every time when I think of it. Tau ib tus mi txiv zoo zoo tab si Niam pog txiv yawm phem phem heev li.
Rip to this aunty. ❤
This generation: Girls are best at the “daughter/muam” roles but lacks being a “nyab”. You don’t have to be Cinderella these days but man some words and actions coming out of us women these days are unbearable. Txhob siab phem thiab os cov nyab in the future es….as much as you spit at and torture your mil just remember you have a mom too and you will be a grandma someday. I can have disagreements but to physically throw out my in laws stuff and yell at them like that way over board. You reap what you sow.
Amen, well said. You are correct.
The son’s nowadays wears the dress. Stop the elders abuse from the evil daughter in laws and son.
The nyab needs a evil mother-in-law so she knows how to appreciate a mother-in-law. Most nyabs aren't even that lucky to have a loving mother-in-law. The niam tais is just as bad as her own daughter. Like mother like daughter.
Hi sister!!!! Just one on!!! ❤️❤️❤️
Yog vim li cas ntuj tsis muab tus niam pog no rau kuv ne? 1 Leej niam uas hlub thiab txhawj txog nws cov menyuam thaum lawv tseem me yau ces yeej yuav ua txhua yam los tiv thaiv nws cov menyuam li tus niam no. Tus txawj hlub los hlub dhau. Tus tsis txawj hlub los tsis hlub kiag li. Tub nyab los li, hos niam pog txiv yawg los li.
Yg lm laiv peb cov nyab lo txhob siab phem2 thb laiv thj li g npam nb
Hais rau txhua tu paub yog tej laus tuag es nws fee kiag rau tub lo yog ntxhais sab lawm txhob muab tig nawb...yog leej twg tig ces tu ntawv yuav ntsib teeb mee....muaj ib tsev neeg es nws tig rau cov tub sab lawm cov ntxhais mus kho rau cov ntxhais sab thaum kawg cov ntxhais ntsib teeb meem...ntawm cov tub sab lo ua rau lawv tu thawj coj tuag kiag lawm thiab nawb...thaum zoo li no lawm txhob kov zoo dua
This is the first story where the woman chose her children vs a new husband. Sad that her sons are worthless and marry horrible daughters-in-law. Biggest fear is all mothers....mine especially.
I’m not with the DIL but some people are just so picky lol. Have to do everything and say everything a certain way. Say it alittle too loud, don’t eat their food, don’t ask them for help and they have a meltdown.
She can’t even bless any good luck to herself, how can she give any luck to anyone? She’s not God.
Moral of the story, isn’t it so ironic that you have to go against shamanism to be able to love your parents as a female? Or to even have a voice in general. Only bc we are in a Christian country you get all the freedom you have today vs jungles of Laos. Thank God for the daughter who married into a Christian family.
Sounds like my story we the girls buried both our parents. It’s heartbreaking but it’s true sometimes some women are so blind and fail to love their MIL like they love their mom. Never once do they bare the feeling of how they will feel if their Nyab did that to their parents. Sad for the aunt but I have to say karma does exist.. Rest In Peace to the aunt.
So sick of the old Hmong tradition of not allowing the surviving Nyab to take all her kids where ever she likes. There is never ever a need to get permission from the brothers or relatives to take care of the mom! Screw those mofos and their opinions and traditions! Whoever can love their mother can always take her regardless of son or daughter. Smh
Oyo peb tiam 21 no ces yeej kawg taug txoj iev lwj siab menyuam tsis hlub yus lawm xwb os.. cia kom npam npam li no mas..
Tsis yog koob hmoov fee rau ntxhais sab lawm na. Yog vim hais tias tiam nim no niam yog tus cob qhia mi nyuam lawm xwb ces mi nyuam thiaj yoog li niam lawm tiag. Ntxhais ces yuav coj niam tus xeeb ceem siab ntsws mus ua neej ces yuav zoo rau ntxhais sab. Hos tub ces zoo li poj niam tuaj lawm ces yuav mus nrhiav tus zoo nkaus niam los hloov niam chaw tiag.
If you look closely, this mom raised her kids to be just like her. Her sons are not manly because they were babied and slaved for by mama their whole life. So of course, the women to be their wives, they would look for someone just like her, to wear her shoes and stand on position. It’s not koob hmoov, it’s their mentality learned from mama herself.
Just look at any weaknies boy-men and track back on who raised them, you’ll find that it was mama or grandma.
Nim no phauj thiaj li paub tias 9 leej tub tsis npaum ib leej txiv no los mas. Nyab siab phem tiag tiag.
niam phem li nej niag ko mas uaneej nyob kuv yuav g hu g laig li nawb..mam hu cov ntxhais tuaj laig vim nws qaij rau cov ntxhais tag lawm ne, kuv mas yuav mus lawbdab 3txheej thaiv kiag nawb vim nws twb foom cov tub tag lawm ne..ehaaaaaa.
Men wears the dress and the women wears the pants in this story..
Hell no your uncle isn't a good man. For him to even suggest that your aunt abandon her children and to marry him and have kids with him. No wonder she won't marry him. He doesn't want her children just her. Your aunt is right. Take care of her children no need for a man. She has great heart and wise.
Your phauj was not lucky. She got the worst in laws. I hate in laws like those.
Kuv tsis ntsee.
Nyuam ghuav ntxim xwb !
Tug nyaab no takes after her mother. Genetic evilness.
Kuv mas ntxub cov nyab siab phem lim hiam li niag pog nyab no! Ua cas peb cov ua siab zoo thiab tsawg niag pog hlub es hos tsis tau niag pob siab zoo os lawv…Just know what you sows is what you will reaps! One day you will grow old and your DIL will do the same to you or even worse! Those who don’t have an evil, small narrow minded nyabs will never understand the pains and heartaches! Kuv ntxub cov neeg narcissistic li no tshaj plaws! Ua neeg hais tsis tau tuag ua dab mas tsim os!
Hopefully the mil get same treatments from the sil's brothers' wives too. Karma will get her sil!!!
The sons are not man enough. Their mom paid their dowry to start their lives. The least they could do is just spend times with her. Why did they take half of the money from the sale of her home? Have some respect at least without her they wouldn’t be able to marry their wife with no dowry money’s.
97% of Hmong guys did not have money for dowry or didn’t even think about it when they brought their bride home. Selfish & afterwards Also becomes A……H….. !!!!!!
I think if you decide to marry you should have $$$$ to pay dowry and everything. The parents only help. Parents are to blame too enabling the sons too. That’s why so many divorced because they took everything for granted ..,
Karma
Right! And in the end it is the sons and their wives who are A-H to the parents who loved and supported them. When it’s the daughters, they work together as siblings to care for their parents, but when it’s the sons they fight and agree with their wives that if they help their parents then they won’t get pussy 🙄 as kids everyone should pitch in to care for their parents. Not just the sons or just the daughters. EVERYONE.
Npam tsis hlub niam na.
Cov niag nyab lim hiam siab phem li no yeej yog noob phem los ntawm niag niam tais
Phem zoo li niag nyab no muab tsawm kom khaum thiab txhub kom ntuj muab rau txim kom yug niag kas tom txhob tau kiag xwb mas
Tus niam tais no nws yuam kev lawm vim nws tsis siab tej niag me nyuam yus hlub ๆ los lwm hnub lawv tsis hlub yus no es txhob muab hlub ๆ heev thiab tsuas hlub kom txhob tuag no mas
Cia kom txom nyem raug luag tsim txom es thiaj txawj tu siab pob
So what side is girls and what side is boy???
Girls right, boys left..
Koj tus txiv twb yog nws tus nus los yog dab laug kiag ua cas nej ho tsis tuaj cem tuaj ntuas ib los rau nws cov tub nyab kom paub txog txoj kev khaum tom qab tsis hlub tej laus es yuav tshwm sim dab tsi rau lawv paub ma
Es twb cia tuag lawm thiab twb tshwm txoj kev phem los raug tej me nyuam lawm es mam ho tuaj hais ua niag ntxim ntxub tsawv li ntawd es puas pab tau lawm na hmoob aw
Which side is for daughters and which is for sons? Is it equal blessing if the head is straight? Just curious
I think right is for girls side and left is for boys side.
Reduce koj qhov hais " nawb" after the sentence to better the story. The word "Nawb" boredom the story.
Ok thanks for the feedback.
Tus nyab ntxawg tsis nyiam nyiam pog es thiab lis tsis noj txhua Yam UA niam pog yuav. Ib qrho ob qrho es mus hais niam tais xwb ces Cia nws mas NTI nws kaub puab xwb los ma.
If she would to marry to someone else who have kids. Those step kids probably don’t love her too
Unappreciated nyab! 😡
With this issue it have nothing to do with her own kids. It’s her daughter in laws which is not her kids
It’s her sons that was evil to her along with their wives! They never told their wives but allowed their wives to emotional abused their mom.
Boys who wear the skirt, but it's OK. These nyab have brother's too, there bro and nyab will do the same to their parents.
It's fine the boys will get hmoov from their wife's side
😂😂😂
Yog muaj cov laus nyob hauv nov los mloog zaj neej neeg nov no Thov pab qhia seb sab twg yog sab ntxhais, sab twg ho yog sab tug os
Hmoob hais tias laug yog ntxhais, tub ces yog sab xis
Glad your sil did not marry your uncle because he does not sound like a good person when asked you to ask your sil. She was like my mom(rip), she never remarried since my dad died in 1969.
What side is for son or daughter? I’m just curious because after my mom died, my loser brothers life went down hill. They weren’t the nicest to her during her last couple months on
Earth.
I think son is left n daughter is right.
I have 3 girls but no boy. This story give me strong hope.❤