John MacArthur: ADVICE FOR SINGLE MEN
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- Dr. John MacArthur is-far and away-America’s greatest Bible teacher. In 2015, I had a burning desire to understand what the Bible really meant, however, everywhere I searched, all
I found was grossly undereducated men who called themselves “preachers” or “pastors” who were chiefly interested in:
1. Making money
2. Gaining popularity
3. Spreading a false gospel
It was quite obvious to me they had very little Biblical knowledge.
MacArthur, on the other hand, has a vast knowledge of the Bible and goes to great pains to explain it so articulately. I can honestly say that he changed the direction of my life. I am forever grateful to find such a wonderful teacher. Therefore, I’ve created this TH-cam channel in order to propagate his accurate and thorough Biblical teachings.
I implore you to go directly to his website to learn more about the Word of God: www.gty.org/ Here you will find a wealth of information on virtually any subject in God’s Word. You can search by scripture, Books of the Bible, or keywords.
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I pray that God blesses you with a deeper understanding of the Word of God!
The kid in background, he's out like a light! Get the jammies because sonny's going to bed
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Yo he dead...
Oh. So sweet! I would not have noticed. 😊
And when the woman gets tired of you and wants a divorce after you've had 2 children then what do you do Pastor? Then the man is stuck with alimony, child support, huge legal bills, etc ... What really makes things far worse is when she dumps you she then goes off with another Christian church member. If only we were born as lucky as most preachers. Pretty much ALL protestant pastors are married with kids/grand kids. They know nothing about this issue. There is No "greatest Bible Teacher."
Just bang an AI
As a middle aged divorced man, it's even more difficult to find a Godly woman who is intentional. I was dating a woman who has a relationship with Christ, goes to church, has faith/contentment, yet surrounds herself with non-believers and is biblically immature. I struggled with getting assurances she was saved, so I let the relationship die. Now I'm single again and saddened that I will never find a Godly woman who I can rescue, provide for, champion, etc. I don't want to compromise or chance creating a union with a non-believer, yet I understand I have some fears as well that my future partner will turn out to be an unbeliever.
Thank you for telling your story. It was really helpful to me. I will pray for you. I hope you to find good partner. -from S.Korea
Same here, but I'm 65, so there is almost no chances for me. Still, I love God and will follow him even though I must travel alone.
@gybx4094 u never had sex?
No way people are talking about what the video is about when they see the kid in the background
While I respect Dr. McArthur's theology in my aspects his advice on what men should do is contrary to Scripture. The first woman was not created to be "saved" from herself but was created from Adam to be a helpmate to him. Jesus Christ's bride is the Church which he died to give a path to salvation through Faith in His name. But one must recognize their need for salvation and submit to His Lordship. Modern women have zero interest in serving anything but themselves.
There are 4 billions women now and we are christians so things have changed. The first woman was not a mother when she was created. And to put all "modern women" into a single bowl is .. at least wrong. (modern men have also 0 interest in protecting anything but themselves. And a woman carrying a baby in her arms NEEDS protection. But this is a stupid generalisation)
SWEET Baby Jesus Men do not save women from a lonely life. Every study shows that it is MEN who benefit from marriage more than women and Women benefit from friendships. So NICE try. Thanks for the laughs.
I left the faith after being single so long.
And how's THAT going for you sir?
@@ReigningWomban fine.
You might try the Philippines. I found my sweet wife here. As for leaving the faith, the reason to stay or go should be "did Jesus rise from the dead", if he did then he is God and you need to follow him regardless of you circumstances.
@@glstka5710 I'm not going back, Christian people are to judgemental
@@bennyisrael2967 I won't insist that you go back to any particular group, but again if Christianity is true then you need to be right with Jesus Christ. I know that the organizations of people who profess allegiance to him are sometimes hard to deal with, but if Jesus can put up with a jerk like me then I can put up with some other people that I don't find so appealing. Also Jesus told those people to put up with me so I need to put up with them. The main thing is Jesus died for our sins and rose again. Follow Jesus and at least tolerate his followers. You said that you left the faith so I'm assuming that you have at least some understanding that there is some kind of truth to it.
Really ticked off at his comment and the audience's response: "You might be eager to follow the command but can't find anyone who's willing to marry you" and people laugh at him. Pastor MacArthur has done a lot of good, but not with this comment. Literally nothing that he said was helpful to me in this video, just hurtful,. This young man seems to be a person who wants to find a wife, who is willing to go on stage in front of everyone to ask a serious question on behalf of himself and single men. He's already stepping up. I don't think the pastor sees the problem. It isn't smart to just pick some random woman who loves Christ with zero other qualifiers. Standards are important. Let's take a hot button issue like health: if you can't take care of your own body (like choosing to not sleep well and eating unhealthy if you're in a position where you can actually afford to choose healthier options), how can you take care of a spouse or child? Also, "the purpose of marriage is to procreate" and "having children is the highest calling in life" - what a slap in the face to all the Christians who can't have children. That statement cannot be true because if it was, all married believers would have children.
I’m staying single. 1 Corinthians 7 clearly says single is Better.
I gave my heart away once, I'm never doing that again. Women have made me way too cynical to even begin thinking about wanting to be in another relationship. Even the most biblically sound, Jesus loving ones still have high standards. It's a chore it seems these days, cause you there's all these hoops you have to go through (what you look like, what kind of job you have, do her
friends approve, does her family like you etc.) in order for you just to date her. I'm not completely opposed to dating, I'm just not pursuing it
I hope to found. A good man who loves Christ someday. Christian men are hard to find. These days.
If the man can provide, and protect, and save, and help build her up, and help her feel his undying love for her that he would not just risk his life for her BUT also LIVE it out purely for God, then her, there's no way there wont be a steady stream of women lining up for him, and in that line would be one who wants to know God's love, through the man's demonstration of it to her, and his leadership in how to live a godly life for her!
The providing part is extremely hard here in the USA. It was much easier for men from past generations to do such with everything being cheaper. They have it to where if both parents don't work then you'll live paycheck to paycheck forever which isn't my cup of tea. It's a lot more peaceful being single and living comfortable at the moment for me whereas thinking of a spouse comes with spiritual warefare and unnecessary stress. Focusing on the kingdom first🙏🏼✝️
Every time I step up I get rejected. Do better John.
Sorry, I respect John, but all he proved was how out of touch he is with these times. Many Christian men are rejected by Christian women while simultaneously refusing to compromise purity, in turn becoming a burden and even driving some men away from church.
In Esther chapter 1, Queen Vashti is dethroned because she refuses to let her husband's drunken friends ogle her. This shows there are lots of women, even non-believing women, who don't feel proud when men leer at them. Instead, they feel angry, disgusted, humiliated and scared. Modesty teachers never acknowledge this. I recommend watching Reclaiming Beauty on the Botkin Sisters website, although I don't agree with all of it and reading A Disposition on Meekness and Quietness by Matthew Henry for Bible verses which combat excessively long and excessively strict modesty dress codes.
What a sarcastic man, but he is also in business clothes to protect his wife 😂
greatest gift? Paul said you gonna have "trouble in the flesh" but if you really want to marry it's not a sin....it sounds to me like a necessity in order to avoid fornication.not a blessing :)...what bible are you guys reading?
The bible also says it's better to sleep on the roof than in a house with bad woman....that doesn't sound like a blessing to me :)
missy cooper sleeping at the back :D
I didn’t know this nobody told me this and I would like to help me with this
This video is the living embodiment of OK boomer.
Paul was never married (no mention of it) so what did he know about marriage? I'm sure John MacArthur did the same thing most guys do when attending theologian school. First off they want to serve the Lord with all their being (well not all of it). So while one eye is on "serving the Lord" the other eye is looking at the girls ... searching for a future wife and to start a family. Sure seems like they are hypocrites who will soon begin being the human figure of whom some church will embrace as "God's" man for them. Then they will instruct confused young men that Jesus is all they need ... then the preacher will go home to his wife and kids.
Many become preachers in order to avoid the draft or fear having to make a living in the business world.
Marriage is till death do you part. However? Luke 20:34-38 34 And Jesus answering said unto them, The children of this world marry, and are given in marriage:
35 But they which shall be accounted worthy to obtain that world, and the resurrection from the dead, neither marry, nor are given in marriage:
36 Neither can they die any more: for they are equal unto the angels; and are the children of God, being the children of the resurrection.
37 Now that the dead are raised, even Moses shewed at the bush, when he calleth the Lord the God of Abraham, and the God of Isaac, and the God of Jacob.
38 For he is not a God of the dead, but of the living: for all live unto him.
WHAT IS SPECIAL ABOUT BEING A HINDU?
By Francois Gautier.
*Diversity in Divinity and Unity in Spirituality.*
1) Believe in God ! - Aastik - Accepted
2) Don't believe in God ! - You're accepted as Nastik
3) You want to worship idols - please go ahead. You are a murti pujak.
4) You dont want to worship idols - no problem. You can focus on Nirguna Brahman.
5) You want to criticise something in our religion. Come forward. We are logical. Nyaya, Tarka etc. are core Hindu schools.
6) You want to accept beliefs as it is. Most welcome. Please go ahead with it.
7) You want to start your journey by reading Bhagvad Gita - Sure !
8) You want to start your journey by reading Upanishads - Go ahead.
9) You want to start your journey by reading Purana - Be my guest.
10) You just don't like reading Puranas or other books. No problem my dear. Go by Bhakti tradition . ( bhakti- devotion)
11) You don't like idea of Bhakti ! No problem. Do your Karma. Be a karmayogi.
12) You want to enjoy life. Very good. No problem at all. This is Charvaka Philosophy.
13) You want to abstain from all the enjoyment of life & find God - jai ho ! Be a Sadhu, an ascetic !
14) You don't like the concept of God. You believe in Nature only - Welcome. (Trees are our friends and Prakriti or nature is worthy of worship).
15) You believe in one God or Supreme Energy. Superb! Follow Advaita philosophy
16) You want a Guru. Go ahead. Receive gyaan.
17) You don't want a Guru.. Help yourself ! Meditate, Study !
18) You believe in Female energy ! Shakti is worshipped.
19) You believe that every human being is equal. Yeah! You're awesome, come on let's celebrate Hinduism!
"Vasudhaiva kutumbakam" (the world is a family)
20) You don't have time to celebrate the festival.
Don't worry. One more festival is coming! There are multiple festivals every single day of the year.
21) You are a working person. Don't have time for religion. Its okay. You will still be a Hindu.
22) You like to go to temples. Devotion is loved.
23) You don't like to go to temples - no problem. You are still a Hindu!
24) You know that Hinduism is a way of life, with considerable freedom.
25) You believe that everything has God in it. So you worship your mother, father, guru, tree, River, Prani-matra, Earth, Universe!
26) And If you don't believe that everything has GOD in it - No problems. Respect your viewpoint.
27) "Sarve jana sukhino bhavantu " (May you all live happily)
You represent this! You're free to choose, my dear Hindu!
This is exactly the essence of Hinduism, all inclusive .. That is why it has withstood the test of time inspite of repeated onslaught both from within and outside, and assimilated every good aspects from everything . That is why it is eternal !!!
There is a saying in Rigveda , the first book ever known to mankind which depicts the Hinduism philosophy in a Nutshell -" Ano bhadrah Krathavo Yanthu Vishwathah"- Let the knowledge come to us from every directions..
The kid passed out in the background 😂😂
Umm yeah, thats already been mention a hundred times but thanks for pointing that out.... yet again
Ok Boomer. You line up all the women and men and try to have them pair up, and 80% of the women will go for the same 20% of men. So what about that?
It all goes back to the man's fault. I've never heard one sermon on a woman's accountability, or how women wreck relationships. Modern women are why most young men are single.
Thank you for being the only person in this comment section with a working functional brain
You got a point there!
Bingo! But you’ll never hear the church call women out for adopting feminism. They PANDER to women no matter what.
@christopherrather5010 Feminism and MeToo have made it so a man can't even safely ask a woman out now :/
Just be 6'6 Chaddeus Vladimir Thunderschlong III, bro and with a billion dollars in the bank. It's easy, bro.
Word of advice for young single men: DONT ASK A BOOMER FOR DATING ADVICE!
"I met Martha at the juke box after I picked up my corvette and took her to the cottage".
@5thhorseman982 even funnier my parents marriage was basically a family marriage proposal where marriage was decided on the integrity of the family as it was a small town 😂
Especially considering they created the conditions in which it's become difficult to date or get married, some nerve calling anyone selfish really
@@David-bl6yg The most selfish and out of touch generation in history. Record wealth than before them and never will be the same after them. Worst generation in history also.
Women dont want to be wives anymore. I know thats a generalization but that has been my experience. I have yet to find an eligible woman that wants to be a wife, not just married.
The Transformed Wife, her name here on TH-cam, just wrote a blog post (not a video) on your point. You are not alone in your assessment.
It’s because we live in the age of narcissism, and modern women have no interest in submission to a husband, bearing children, and serving a family. She would rather focus entirely on herself.
It’s because men have become fools, sorry to say. Women are tired of lust filled perverts.
@Sim ya, peace be still.
100% correct.
The problem isn't men aren't stepping up. I know plenty of Christian men who ask girls out all the time and they are constantly rejected. I love John MacArthur, but most older pastors are completely out of touch with what modern singles have to deal with.
It’s not *the* problem but MacArthur is right that men not stepping up is one of the problems. I think he pointed to the women’s responsibility too when he said he wants to line men and women up and just pair them together. Both sides need to step up.
I already replied to someone else, but I'll copy and paste what I wrote... I really like JM, but I didn't like his response to this question. The last woman I tried to date at JM's church told me she wanted to marry a medical doctor, involved in ministry, who'd also help her run an orphanage (no lie, no exaggeration). I'm 40, and have been trying to find a wife since my early 20s. But it seems everywhere I go I'm too [this] or too [that] to be likable to the opposite gender. So now I have devoted myself to other pursuits - I read, I study, I travel, I enjoy museum visits, collecting, helping to raise my nephew and nieces, and I teach and run three clubs at my high school. If this means I'm not "manning up", then God's grace will have to cover that sin too. At this age, I'm too discouraged to keep trying to persuade ladies to give me a chance and that I'm not a bad guy. I wouldn't turn down a date if the opportunity presented itself. It's just no longer a focus in my life........ironic that the most ungodly, scummy men of our society seem to find multiple, beautiful girlfriends / wives. I wonder what makes them so desirable. :(
Yeah, women are the relationship gatekeepers. These days they want the perfect Man billionaire Chad Ceo thats going to finance her Instagram lifestyle.
@@obijoel4209 Lmao, that's a tall order of a man she's looking for. Was she a 10/10 in looks?
I agree. I was thinking the same.
I love the kid sleeping in the background.
I hope he is dreaming about heavenly things :)
seems he is going his own way....
He’s a ginger, so he’s dreaming about lucky charms.
It made me laugh at the first second
I'd fall fast asleep too listening to an 85 year old tell someone how to date. I'd then ask him if he can even remember what year he dated in. Or what decade.
Modern women, a wife? Good luck with that. You'll be lucky if it's 50/50.
They aren’t provided for? Protected? Loved? Where are their fathers?
Where are the old women teaching young women to love their husbands?
I’ve moved a lot for work in my life, and I’m not familiar with any churches that have a ministry specified to do this.
The pastor wants to blame young men, but I would bet he’s ignorant to who most young women are these days.
be a man and stop acting like a victom. It is the opposite of attractive
We're living in a cartoon. People's perception and interpretation of how things are is so divorced from reality- it's not even funny. There are countless millions of men and women who are beyond eager to marry but cannot, and will not, find anyone willing to marry them. That this is just a joke to the crowd is a little maddening. Read some of the comments, for instance. Mr. MacArthur says, "i honestly do not know what in the world [men] are waiting for." If a man isn't financially successful (no easy feat, and impossible for some), at least somewhat charming, and attractive, he can "step up" and try to save whomever he wants for the rest of his life- it won't work. I, for one, would gladly be paired up with a random God-fearing woman. But my life is such that even a woman of an identical social status would have nothing to do with the idea. Women are not dumb romantics like men. One piece of evidence is that the biggest factor in divorce is the husband's employment status.
What doesn't help either is that feminism now has women chasing careers rather than families. So both have to work to support a family today. So that hardly helps men to fall into their biblical role of provider. Both have to work and the kids end up in child care. Most of the girls I have met in church have jobs. I have a good job but even that doesn't pay enough to raise a family on my sole income. Society is so broken and I think women are the ones who hold the key to force change back towards biblical homes. Going against the scoietal programming and toxicity of feminism. Taking care of the home, perhaps home schooling the kids etc. Until women want that change back to traditional marriages and families nothing will change. Christian women could really shine the light in that respect and show the world how good things could be. It's not so easy for any of us, but women could step up in that area and ignore the criticism from society for not being a boss babe. If women were to be truly feminine and more traditional, men would mostly oblige as most men I know just want a simple life with a loving, loyal wife and kids. I think it's men who are the overly romantic ones and when reality hits, it is painful to accept.
It's always about the LOVE of MONEY and financial security for them. Not love
The men need to step up? I can’t believe he just said that
I can, he’s 83 and out of touch with how bad it is out there for single Christian Men.
@@unvaccinatedmgtowfitness i know dude i also live in sacramento like yourself. its rough
Lol he is so out touch
That is because he doesn't live with reality.
We men need to take accountability. The reason we are in the situation we are in is because men are not fulfilling their duty to lead. Not disciplining our wives, not disciplining our daughters. Dr. McArthur is correct. This feminine mindset of men being victims is from the devil.
Don't like the answer and don't agree at all.
I am single since 10+ years. Also I have been "raised" as a Christian by the preaching of Dr. MacArthur and I respect him as a Christian teacher. But pastor John is wrong here and there when he answers this young Christian's question.
First of all: Marriage is NOT the best thing that can happen to me. A relationship with Jesus is that thing (or the entire Bible is a lie).
Secondly: A husband IS NOT the savior of her wife. Jesus is the Savior of a saved wife AND of a saved husband, okay?
Thirdly: I consider this concept of "c'mon, single sisters to the left, single brothers to the right... now kiss!" as highly dangerous and unbiblical. Do we really want to do THAT? I am sad to say that in many cases this is one of a purest form of singleness discrimination in the Church. Seriously, it shouldn't be mentioned in the house of God even as a quasi joke. Some vulnerable precious Christians can ruin their life one day because of being influenced by that kind of matchmaking mentality... or bad advice.
TLDR: In my opinion this is a classic example of great, wise, faithful biblical teacher (and since I know an honest man of God) who does not have all the right answers at least when it comes to the complex problem of Christian singleness.
I think a big part of the problem is when churches become big like this then it's harder to just sit and listen to those he is pastoring on a personal level. I find that with a lot of churches today actually. It's more like being preached AT rather that being shepherded, cared for and listened to on a personal level. Even when I went to a smaller church they would preach but lacked a real connection outside of that.
I'm a 65 year old Christian male never married. I deeply regret never finding a wife and having no children, but it's just the way life happened. It's too bad, because as I've aged, my heart has become very loving and compassionate. However, I'm not that attractive physically, so I understand why I was not chosen.
I moved to the Philippines in 2010. just a few days before my 64th birthday found my sweet wife. Get your passport bro, it's better over here.
I'm a 36 year old woman, never married - no kids. And I'm not attractive either. So, I feel your pain.
You KNOW you can change that, right? It's called going to the gym, lifting weights, eating healthy, and taking supplements. You can change your appearance.
what is this guy talking about. women are not lonely. men are are the ones that are lonely then ever today
Yes and also I'm not the one who isn't eager.
And they have plenty of men in their tree begging too be chosen lol
From a Godly single man were stepping up but no women want us and it's so hard to find a Godly wife who feels the same feelings you do.
Women are immature, demanding, and too influenced by secular culture. We have to get married when we are young. The problem is, most people nowadays are too immature to get married when they are young.
That's so true, man. I've read for years that the godly woman is more precious than rubies, but only in the past two have I experienced it and still haven't met her. She really is that rare and precious. And I think in waiting it makes the marriage sweeter when it finally comes. After seeing just how rare a daughter of the King is, and then seeing Him bless me with a daughter of the King, will make me so thankful to Him and zealous in guarding what she and I have. It's a painful process, but so worth it in the end. Take comfort. If our Father wishes us to have a wife, He will send her in His good time and when it is best for us. All things are for our good (Romans 8:28).
Talk to women after church. Ask them spiritual questions with the mentality of you qualifying them and not as you being qualified/judged by them. Now, it is difficult to fake that mentality, so really think about questions you want an answer to and find a curiousity in you what a certain women, you find yourself attracted to, might think about that particular question. Go run to her after church and ask her directly. Thank me later. Just remember you have to be sincere/honest/authentic about it. It really is a requirement.
@@hcrush4855 there are none and the ones there are online have standards so high that it's impossible. I started dating non Christian and left the church
It's so hard to find Godly men these days!!
What are men waiting for?
I'll take that one pastor. As men, it's our responsibility to be able to support a family. In this economy, we have to wait longer than our fathers and grandfathers. On top of that, when the wife gets bored of the husband, she divorces him, takes the kids, house, and at least half the cash. Oftentimes, the husband also has to pay alimony. When the wife remarries, the new guy becomes the kids' new dad.
Also, I keep hearing that we men need to "step up," when do women need to "step up"? I never see women held accountable for their actions.
If marriage is God's greatest gift, does that gift (at least in the west) come with a receipt?
Nailed it bro.
What does female accountability look like in the scenario you described?
The only fault that is apparent to me is ‘getting bored’ as a cause of divorce (which is rarely a source of divorce in CHRISTIAN marriages).
@Taryn theWriter There are a few things. First, when I mentioned female accountability, I meant in a more general sense-not just confined to the issue I described. But women getting bored in marriage and leaving is a huge problem-and no, the Christian community is no exception. When marriage ends, the general rule should be that men and women get 50-50 custody of children. That should be the default. Obviously, if there are circumstances that make this arrangement unwise, then that should be taken into account. The sad reality is that women today see us as little more than donors to have children 😢.
Another arena in which women should be held accountable is in the legal system. When it comes to crime, women usually get a slap on the wrist-if even that. Women receive sentences that are 60% lighter than men who do the exact same offense and are 60% less likely than men to go to jail. Another area where women get off is by making false abuse claims. In many jurisdictions women can claim without evidence that their husband or boyfriend hit them. The man goes to jail and-even if she admits later that it was false-she suffers no consequences. The same thing happens with claims of sexual assault. There are many cases where the woman admits to making false allegations and the prosecutor refuses to charge her. A really bad case happened a few years ago-it was titled something like the 5 mean girls.
Women sadly get the best of both worlds, they are "strong and empowered" until it is no longer convenient. It is hilarious when they wonder why men are avoiding marriage.
@@Alexander44665 I'd love a link to some stats for the claim about women's sentencing. I'm not familiar with that area. As for custody, only one party breastfeeds, so the odds are always going to be in that party's favor (in the West). Conversely, odds are also in favor of those with the most money. (Even the Word says, "Money answers all things." Ecc 10:19)
For criminal cases, most judges are men. If they think women shouldn't have long sentences, we should ask them why. A man can also claim without evidence that his wife is abusing him but other men (most of every police force) won't take that seriously. I get why the courts don't go after people making false allegations, but maybe that needs to change. (That said, I tend to view the system's over zealousness in prosecuting domestic violence a sort of overreach to compensate for the severe burden of proof placed on rape victims
A woman need only take accountability for herself as does each individual man. Each Christian man is marrying ONE woman. That is the only one he need concern himself with and she, with him! All the rest of this is just noise from the culture. The Holy Spirit is more than able to guide each of us to a spouse if He so chooses. 🙏
@Bearing My Seoul I don't know how to link an article in my cellphone. But I can give you a good source. A great article was done on this topic and published in the University of Michigan Law and Economics Research Paper Series. The title is "Estimating Gender Disparities in Federal Criminal Cases" by Sonja B. Starr.
As for young children, breastfeeding is not essential for them-though it is probably preferable. That's not a good reason to deny the father 50% custody. Alsi, the breastfeeding argument doesn't hold water because some women don't choose to breastfeed and it has no bearing on cases when children are older.
I don't dispute that men are sentencing other men to longer prison sentences. I think the reason for this is a Victorian era philosophy that posits that women are somehow more pure and innocent than men. As far as rape convictions or any other criminal conviction goes, the standard must be innocent until proven guilty. We don't want a society where you are guilty until proven innocent.
As far as only concern himself with one woman, millions of men who have been destroyed would disagree. If millions of women were being screwed over by the legal system, nobody would be saying that we should just mind our own business.
That kid in the background is passed out! 😂
i never saw him until i read the comments. hhahahahahahahahhah
Lol
He might as well have been because the response from MacArthur was pretty out of touch and therefore mostly useless 💤
Yes, men ought to step up. However, it is true what one commentator has stated here. Godly men are not wanted. Trying to find a virtuous girl these days is almost mission impossible. You would have an easier time finding a needle in a haystack. For a godly man to be wanted he needs to find a woman who loves the Lord and lives by his edicts too. Woman today have known (in the Biblical sense) at least several men before you meet them. They have been sexually active for a number of years, and let's face it, they seem to go for the bad boys, not the men of God. They are selfish senseless and even shameless.
All I can say is God help all our young people today both men and woman, because it is equally difficult for a good decent young woman who lives by biblical standards to also find a husband of the same mind set. Sex before marriage with Mutiple partners is the norm today and if you refuse that you are cast aside. The world truly is in a very dark place. Thank you for this video.
I don’t know if you’ll read this comment but thank you. I really needed this.
The young man seems so open hearted and John MacArthur, "You might be eager to follow the command but can't find anyone who's willing to marry you" words are cutting. Audience laughter just digs the knife even deeper. If it's "a real, real important question" why belittle it with a joke? Regarding, "The way The Lord looks at His church. He knows the bride has problems but He is her redeemer. He is her rescuer..." The fact that this young man "steps up" to ask his sincere question in from of all those people", well he seems to have the qualities of a man who has such a heart.
Great take on this. I was actually pretty shocked at MacArthur's joke. Some singles are dying on the inside, so his joke was not sensitive. Besides that, there's no way I would expect MacArthur to understand the struggle of finding a mate today. He is way too old to be in touch.
Glad my plight could be the opening joke. Yep, I can't find a woman who wants me. I want to provide, but sharing Christ wherever He calls is more important than a big house and a fancy car. I want a meaningful life over a comfy one. Just wish someone else wanted that too.
There is someone for everyone. You just have to trust him and wait
Whe will you realize these people are here to laugh and belittle you, the don't care about you or your lack of relationships.
Look up Hoe Math here on TH-cam. He is a former player that has reformed and he explains how and why men and women do what they do.
I don't like the people who are laughing as they are in a comedy club. The gentleman asked a very serious and sincere question asking for guidance from someone who is much wiser than him. There is no need for laughter AT ALL.
I don't think they understand how serious the problem really is. I am telling you friend, we really need to pray for strong CHRIST centered marriages. Pray for the couples around you! Pray for singles also. We really need God's grace in this issue.
And no guidance at all happened. Just told what he needs to do and to man up. This guy is clueless and he has harming men through his blindness.
Just saw your comment. Thank you for standing up for this young man.
I'm no expert, but I fear that our dear friend Mr. McCarthy doesn't have a full grasp of feminism and its overarching implications.....be very afraid my brother...modern marriage is not your friend.
A DISGUSTING thing to laugh at his question. Even the Pastor smirking. He gave no answer either, just beat around the bush
Rejected many times, left by ex girlfriends and single for 10 years. Today I have read my Bible and saw these verses. Now I think I know the reason why God keeping me a single man.
1 Corinthians 7:32-34
New International Version
"32 I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs-how he can please the Lord. 33 But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world-how he can please his wife- 34 and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world-how she can please her husband."
If you are truly satisfied as a single more power to you. 1Cor.7:7 Paul writes "Yet I wish that all men were even as I myself am. However, each man has his own gift from God, one in this manner, and another in that." I didn't get Paul's gift so I found my Prov.18:22 favor in the Philippines you might give it a try. But if you are truly happy as a single that's fine too.
Sad... I usually agree with most of what John Macarthur preaches or teaches on, but... this one I'm going to have to strongly disagree with. It's not that men need to " Step up " its that women need to step down, most westernized women of today are trying to be the head because leftists feminism has said it's ok, even ' Christian ' women, so it's no wonder ' Christian ' men hesitate to get married in today's climate where men are demonized, disrespected and not appreciated. Between the Divorce and Custody courts and this upside down skewed ideology where men are behaving like women and women are behaving like men, Mr Macarthur isn't understanding the sad pathetic realities of, Social Media like, Instagram, My space, Tik-Tok or the infamous Onlyfans, which has turned most the women that partake in it to be computer whores, it's really a no brainer why any ' Wise ' thinking Christian man doesn't want to be blind sided, with more than 75% of ALL divorces being initiated by women, the ' Wise ' perspective is for men to concentrate on YHWH and their lives and pray for strength until there's a new awakening.
Ecclesiastes 7:26-28 💯
@@louispittman7367 Amen and amen, Praise the word of YHWH
And in all honesty they both don’t have a biblical view of marriage, let’s be honest for a second here so many Christian’s man and woman have buy into the secular ways of the world if you are not doing what I want I’m out.
1 Corinthians 7:32I want you to be free from concern. The unmarried man is concerned about the work of the Lord, how he can please the Lord. 33But the married man is concerned about the affairs of this world, how he can please his wife, 34and his interests are divided. The unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the work of the Lord, how she can be holy in both body and spirit. But the married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world, how she can please her husband.
I agree with you beyond 100%. The church I used to go to had more than enough women that were into feminism/liberalism that purposely married weak men so they could wear the the pants and the shirts in the marriage. Most women rush into a relationship with the worst men they call bad boys or that the only day as long as you're 6 ft tall. And when those relationships don't work out, they run to feminism and preach how men are terrible and can't be trusted. It's sad to say that a lot of these women are professing Christians. So, I wonder if John MacArthur has picked up on that, because pastors like David Wilkerson and Voodie Beckham have.
When i was " looking" i KNEW the moment i saw my wife she was the ONE. It took a year to convince her. I asked Jesus to give me a sign that even a dunce like me couldnt mistake. On our 1st coffee date she told me right off the bat. " Jesus comes FIRST in my life in ALL things & if you cant handle that theres no point on continuing even trying a relationship." THAT was EXACTLY the words i needed to hear. That UNMISTAKABLE RIGHT ANSWER! Weve been married 37 years & every day it gets better. Our FIRST focus in everything is Jesus & HE makes everything work out for us in ways that are miraculous. Ours is TRULY a marriage made in HEAVEN. Weve NEVER had a major fight & only small disagreements sometimes. I cannot imagine life w/o her & i thank God daily for her. Most amazing person ive even known & an unending scource of amusement/ delight. Best part, shes not even trying to be funny. Just comes out that way. When Jesus said " Seek ye FIRST the kingdom of God W ALL YOUR HEART, MIND & SOUL & HE will make straight paths for you." He ment it. I did & it is WELL WORTH IT!
I made early mistakes when it came to whom I loved more, her or Christ. 3 major relationships ended because of God's future plans for me first and my ignorance to the truth about what your first love is supposed to be. God will NOT take 2nd place. He proved it by taking away what I thought was supposed to be real love between a man and woman. I made the relationships #1 thinking that was real love. It's ok to put her #1 on earth, only. But I didn't seek first the kingdom of God so that other things could be added onto me. I got my mind and heart pointed in the right direction, although I'm still not married. But I can lean on the fact that if God wants me married today, I'm much better prepared.
Has God sent you Storms in your marriage to test what your house is made of and how it is built ? There is no marriage made in heaven for marriage is for the children of this world. I am glad that you have a good marriage . For the storms of life will come as I know they already have . For every house built on a Rock will have to weather the storms. John 16:33
“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” God Bless.
@@misha-elministries5246 , Oh Ya! Lots of them. Had 2 homes burn down & lost everything we had TWICE. 2 errant daughters who went to the darkside for awhile. Seen famine & disease but Christ rescued us from it all. Been tempted on too many fronts to count. Been through the wringer many times. But WE have the key. The ONLY key that ALWAYS works. Jesus comes FIRST in EVERYTHING. Then each other, then the kids, then everything else in that order. I knew she was the ONE on our 1st coffee date. First thing she said was " Jesus comes first in everything in my life & if you cant handle that its time to move on." Id asked for a "sign" even a goof like me couldnt mistake & THAT WAS IT! I have EXACTLY the same priorities & its the winning formula for any marriage. And your wrong. There ARE marriages made in heaven & we have one. When Jesus puts the right 2 people together it CANT fail. And beleive this. She was the LAST person id have ever picked on my own. I was used to girls 20 years younger, lil blue eyed wild blonds, never wanted kids, and athletic dynamos. Had to be to keep up with me. And along came Jan. My age, a brunette, had a KID already & was compleatly crippled in one arm since birth. I was going to Alaska to live with Grizzlies & SHE was the LAST one id have ever chose. EVERYTHING was wrong with her but i couldnt get her out of my head or heart. Fought it for a year. All i got in prayre from Daddy was " Trust ME" . FINALLY broke down & asked her out for coffee. Been together since & she turned out to be smarter. Tougher & better than ALL the other women i had ever known combined. Weve had an amazing life together & still going strong. Im the communicator & shes the prayre warrior & when SHE prays, God listens & answers. You should be so blessed. And be careful what judgements you make Misha. Jan/I got to lead over 1000 people to faith in Christ in our 1st year alone. And that was 35 years ago. Whats your record? Other than playing a " Holier than thou." Troll.
@@tristantimothy1004 Tristan , it sounds to me as your reply says that you enjoyed chasing after those younger blue eye wild Sexy athletic blondes. So after enjoying your fornication and stupidity you say Jesus Christ joined you with a woman who had a child already (sorry I do not know if that child was from a previous marriage or fornication) that says she follows Christ Jesus and you better to or forget this relationship . Let me cut to the chase . You had 2 houses burn down with all your possessions 2 daughters that were wayward (if that is counting the child she had) . Then you say she is the prayer warrior and your the communicator. It is much better when the husband is the head of the wife and she submits to her husband in all things and remains quiet in the church and has her husband teach her and she teaches her daughters to be good wives to there husbands. Sounds like you did not do so well in that department. Now how can a man who has no control over his own house lead others to Christ Jesus ( But then again the Lord can speak through even an Ass (donkey that is , as we both know in scripture.) So Tristan in a flash you went from sexy blue eyed blondes to a woman with a kid already that says she follows Jesus Christ and boom your a Pastor ( remember the Ass) . Sorry Tristan there are no marriages made in heaven except the Marriage supper of the Lamb Jesus Christ. It was you and you alone that made the choice to marry . For the children of this age marry but in heaven we do not marry. Luke 20:34-38 34-35 Jesus replied, “Marriage is for people here on earth, but when those who are counted worthy of being raised from the dead get to heaven, they do not marry. 36 And they never die again; in these respects they are like angels, and are sons of God, for they are raised up in new life from the dead. Blessed are they who do not take offense of me. Do you entertain strangers Tristan. Be sure to keep your marriage covenant.
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Great testimony. Id be interested in talking sometime.
Unfortunately John MacArthur is over-simplifying and making light of a very serious issue. How about telling single men they're absolutely okay and complete without being married or even being involved with a female. Today, marriage is a very BAD deal for men and will led them to emotional destruction and financial ruin. No, marriage is NOT the greatest gift in the world!!
The advice is stay single. You'll be happy, more money, not as many headaches, won't get used, can spend your time serving God instead of some ungrateful Heffer who wouldn't sacrifice the same for you. God will appreciate it.
It’s an ideal but it’s not a realistic path for most men to follow. Ultimately most guys will throw away their dignity if the alternative is solitude.
@@Lycidas777 I agree. It's hard.
Honestly pagans don’t even suffer as much humiliation as this.
Good advice. Too bad the church doesn't have available Single women.
Same. I keep hearing about the statistics being "There are so many more single women in the church than there are single men." which from my experience is completely backwards: all of the groups I attend are 2/3 to 3/4 guys and a few girls who are too young.
My marriage seems like a total failure....I searched for more than twelve years and found the one who I thought loves the Lord. I feel she is totally away from the LORD
I'm saddened to hear this, please keep your faith strong and trust that the Lord will glorify His name in this trial and will one day lift you out of this situation into greener pastures!
My frustration is I can never seem to find the woman he describes. Every time I do they are either uninterested or are spoken for. And these days, many women say one thing but are actually completely different. I’ve dated a few who say they were Christian but I found real quick they don’t know what that means. Being an introvert doesn’t help me much either so I’ll just continue doing my single thing until God brings me someone lol.
@Sim When I say spoken for I mean married lol.
same here. Finding a truly regenerated christian man, one who is born of God is so hard especially when God has blessed you with divine wisdom, you keep bumping into men who might be interested in you but are spiritually dead! Ignorant of the scripture! They don’t desire to keep the commands of Jesus! In other words carnal men who call themselves christians!
@Sim women don't need a ring to be spoken for... Thats just plain silly, in other words her commitment needs to be banded in gold lol
Yet you’re the type who takes vanity photos of himself in the mirror and posts them all over social media. It seems you’ve already found your true love…. Yourself. 😐
@Sim
On what biblical grounds do you explain or justify that women shouldn’t be the pursuers? How does that make sense? Lots of missed opportunities over a silly stigma.
Doesn't MacArthur tell us over and over to be like Christ? Put Jesus first and follow him in everything. Well Jesus never married and here the preacher is telling us we need to be married. MacArthur says he wants to line up all single men and women in "his" church and match them up for marriage. I doubt Jesus goes along with this charade.
we have to step up? that's a joke, we've stepped up for FAR too long, thousands of years we have protected and provided for women just for them to step all over us, grind us into the dust, and just to leave and take everything we worked to build and earn, THEY need to step up.
Get your passport and a plane ticket to the Philippines. Found my sweet wife here.
@@glstka5710 I've been considering that actually. It's also a Christian culture there too.
@@2ndBirth One caution, it's a Christian culture but that means a lot who are Christians ONLY culturally.
@@glstka5710 Very true, good point. I assume even if going there and attending church you need to be careful you aren't just being told what you want to hear.
Did the question actually get answered?
No
With the high rate of divorce today and the anti-men atmosphere permeating into every nook and cranny of society, including church, I think marriage is a very bad idea. Besides, being single frees you up to do more for the Lord without restrictions. 1 Cor. 7: 32-34.
“To procreate in the Lord is the highest calling in life”. This is simply not true. Jesus was unmarried and so was Paul. The gift of singleness is a higher calling than marriage. Why has the modern church forgotten this? The modern church scorns and reproaches young unmarried men. This is not right.
There are two opposite errors, his is one yours is the other. Jesus was single because of His unique role as Savior not the norm for all men. Paul recognized that his celibacy was a special gift 1Cor.7:7 "Yet I wish that all men were even as I myself am. However, each man has his own gift from God, one in this manner, and another in that." I would not say one is higher or lower, it is just a matter of if that happens to be your gift.
I do believe you have made the mistake of not reading the Bible and commenting on it still.
You cannot count Jesus for obvious reasons.
Paul on the other hand,
It is the law of the Sanhedrin that everyone be married for at least 5 years before becoming a member.
For this reason, Paul most likely had a wife who died before he was born again and he naturally became celibate over time.
However, even if you were to discard that, Paul states that men and women should marry more times that he states they should remain single.
He even says that a father who lets his daughter marry is just as good as a father who doesn’t let his daughter marry.
I challenge you to read the scriptures and find all the times that we are told to marry or have children. If you do, I believe you will find your comment to be quite the pious confession of ignorance.
His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry.
But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given. For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.
Mat 19:10-12
Paul also says that “he who does not marry does better” and “ it is good for a man not to touch a woman..”
Not all can accept the celibate life and that’s fine. But those that are should not be treated as strange when the Lord and Paul actually said that it is better than marriage. Obviously though this is just because of the extra time a single person will have to serve the Lord. It doesn’t mean that someone who has the gift of singleness is a better Christian or loves God more. It is mainly a matter of freedom to serve God and not being burdened by family life.
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I agree that they should not be treated as strange, however most who claim to be celibate burn with lust daily.
Did not Adam say in Genesis 2 that a man should leave his Father and mother and be joined to his wife.
Is not the first commandment with a promise to obey your father and mother?
Ephesians 6
How is there to be father and mother if there is not a marriage?
I know that not all are called to marry, however I do not believe that makes it any less important.
He doesn't know what young people are waiting for? Consider that more than 50% of marriages end in divorce (Christian and non-Christian rates are very similar), with about 80% of those separations being instigated by women, and the legal system displaying a preference for women. Entering into matrimony can be quite daunting for men nowadays. This is not the way God intended but this is the current reality. I know men who have been destroyed in the court system and lost their children and did nothing wrong. If you don't believe me look up the stats. Once you are divorced look how some churches treat you, it's almost an unpardonable sin. TH-cam divorce and remarriage and look at the comments, you will be shocked at how divisive this subject is.
Embarrassing and shaming young single men. What else can you expect from a boomer pastor?
From what i understand . Both men and woman should be pursuing church leadership aka dicipleship. Serving in the local church/community . If your going to church and leave right after and want to be married, there wont be any oppurtunity men and woman to be in a godly relationship period .
"find a Godly woman" simple words to say. Sh may start out as a Godly wmn but the odds are sh will steadily become NOT a Godly wmn over time in this social media society. Speaking from experience, a man can do his level best to BE a Godly husband but he has next to no influence in her life compared to the 24/7 bombardment of ungodly influence, from every conceivable angle, in her life. Put that reality together with the fact that single men are treated as lepers in the church He is the unclean one, unworthy of a woman so unworthy of the church. This is the reality that men have to face. Until the "church" starts dealing with that uncomfortable truth marriage is going to continue to disappear
The greatest gift to man is being blessed by the God of Israel, who is our salvation, our light, our truth and our life. And its all given through one body and one name only, Jesus Christ. If we preach to others marriage in the flesh is the greatest gift, then we certainly don't know the the God of Israel and teach falsely. Flesh is flesh, spirit is spirit and there's only one spirit who lives and we through him. Much love all
Advice for single men in AMERICA: Ecclesiastes 7:26-28 "I have found only 1 in a thousand righteous men, but not one woman." 🤣
More Christian women file for divorce than in the unbelieving world. When God cursed them , he made them desire to rule over their husbands. That means the woman wants the same thing Eve and Satan did.
On a serious note Brother, I really think we are in big trouble. If there is a marriage crisis in the chruch, how much worse can things be outside the church? If believers cannot form strong families, there is something seriously wrong. God have mercy on us!
@@sanders194539 It is serious. A woman that submits to her husband, glorifies Christ. Women in the church don't want to do that and don't. There was a time when you would seek a wife at church. Those days are over. Women are on stage singing rock n roll with the blue jean rocker guys and getting noticed that way . The lights go out in the church and the stage lights go on. The fogs machines and laser light show is in sync with the drummer. Women are the preachers and teachers and men are leaving by the thousands. Women are a big part of the great falling away of the church we read about in scripture. The church is a big night club now. Did being worldly bring in people? Yes it did. To hear what? To have a service that FEEEEELS good and is FUN and exiting. How many times do you hear a preacher say "you NEED to get excited and stay excited about God? The state of being and staying EXCITED is what women want. A sound and sober mind is like a good man to a woman. Boring.
@@orangeandslinky I mean the truth can make you be and stay excited.
I dont remenber what was theyr name but the 1 or 2 church in the letters for the churchs in the book of revelation has its leaders reprended for having leaved the first love for Christ.
@@orangeandslinky I go to a docrinally sound church, and even there, most women are more interested in their careers and education. For many, there first priority is proving they can do anything a man can do, second is starting a family. I think the problem stems mostly from the media, and public education. Many Christian fathers are failing to instill Godly womanhood in their daughters.
Very true men tend to fall in love with the eyes and we get caught up with this whole idea of really good looking instead of seeking a women who loves the Lord
Do you think it’s wise for a man-who is by nature a creature of the eye attracted to beauty-to marry a woman he has no physical attraction to? In reality, that opens the door to unfaithful temptations. Eve wasn’t ugly to Adam, she was likely stunning, and that was for a reason. I’m not saying every man deserves a supermodel, but he needs to be physically attracted to his wife. As for a woman, she is a creature of the ear, looks aren’t as important to her. But for a man to marry a woman he has no physical attraction to is a very bad idea.
@@itsok2bwhiteendanti-whiteh548 You're right ...thanks for explaining what I lacked to explain
I'm not saying marry an ugly women I'm saying don't get caught up with only looks
Given the option between two women one is a six and she loves the Lord and the other is a nine but treats God nominal I would rather marry the six
Just an example
@@itsok2bwhiteendanti-whiteh548 I am a woman and want also a man I am physically also attracted to. He needs ot be tall, well build and masculine. On top of this, to be sensitive and love God. As men want all these traits from a woman, I should not expect less. Nowadays, women are working so it's right for them to want a good looking man also.
@@ana-maria448so you want the stereotypical Chad. Unless you are very good looking, you’re not getting a Man like that.
@Ana-Maria that's such a modern feminist statement right there at the end.
HORRIBLE ADVICE
Spending birthdays alone, Christmas, Thanskgiving, well into my adult life but all some people can say, in God's time. I am not protected and Solomon say, when one falls down...
So am I not supposed to consider physical attraction? I understand that that is not the preeminent marker in finding a mate, but I think you ought to find a person at least mildly attractive....... am I wrong?
No. As a male, you are not allowed to have any standard for a woman. Otherwise you are sexist. /sarcasm
This is hilariously bad. I like John but this is hilariously bad. He acts like average single wahmen want to date the average guy when nothing is close to the truth. I ain't providing for any wahman and it isn't a responsibility I want. Go find another sucker... one is born every moment.
Single Christian women here, looking for Christian Godly husband. (Has to be rich, tall, handsome etc etc) lol jk. 😄 But seriously, this is not good advice..
The part that made me laugh was when John said he was gonna line up the singles.
The men would be okay with this...not the ladies 🤣 they'd complain nonstop!
This dude is so out of touch. I'm trying to convince more guys to abandon the west and come to the Dominican Republic 😁🇩🇴
We need the return of Ephesians 5 men and Proverbs 31 women!
Friendly note to Christian pastors: if you've been married to your high school sweetheart for multiple decades, be careful before thinking you know what dating is like nowadays, because you likely don't.
Kid in the back is fighting Mario in his dream
Question, what do you do when you're ugly like me and no women would have you? 🤣
You have to relocate abroad. You will not want to come back to the states if you live there. You wouldn't believe how many average looking men I saw in Spain that had pretty women (for our US standards). Same for other European countries as well as in S.America. These were regular looking men, some of them were balding too. It opened my eyes to how bad things are in the US and other western countries.
dude you're not ugly, cheer up
I've been told in Christian circles that "God brought Eve to Adam" basically saying that I shouldn't be searching for a girl but trust God to bring her to me in His timing.
I'm a 27 year old guy, its hard to get a good girl, let alone a God girl!
Yes but at the same time yk we are usually to be the ones to go after the women. Like we need to make the first move.
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...and visa versa.
@@SCAM-BUSTER.777 idk if this is right but if christ Persues the church then shouldn’t we pursue the women since yk the symbolism. Correct me if I’m wrong
That was only the exception. The exception does not make the rule. It consolidates the rule. God brought Eve to Adam, and not only. She was the first woman. Then after men were approaching women and asked their parents and her in marriage. I am expecting my husband to approach me, then the next step would be to ask God for confirmation. I am not playing around and defitnely want a determined, mature man.
Yes, and God also uses means. Many men of God traveled far from their lands as there were no women of God among them. You may have to travel, maybe closer, maybe far away. If you've exhausted your options, maybe this is something to consider.
Why would men "step up" and get married when the vast majority of divorces are initiatied by women? Marriage is to risky and men are aware of that. I'm not going to work my entire life only for a woman to leave me and take half my assets, then force child support and alominy out of me. Stay single out there men.
This channel is so helpful for sharing in gospel convos online!!
Only John leaves out baptism in his preaching of the gospel which is critical.
@Sim he says baptism is a public declaration of faith, but not necessary for salvation. This contradicts Acts 2:38, 22:16, Mark 16:16, and 1 Peter 3:21. And how could it be a public declaration of faith if the eunuch was baptized in the desert and the Philippian jailor in the middle of the night?
That's not true, baptism is not a seal. The Holy Spirit is the seal until the day of redemption.
@Sim water baptism has no bearing on salvation according to my understanding. You get many people who confess Christ yet they don't live for Christ, likewise many people who I know that have been publicly Baptised also don't live for Christ.
The water Jesus was talking about is the Living water, like He gave to the Samaritan woman.
Another reason why I lean away from baptism being a part of salvation is because when a person on his death bed comes to Christ then very often that would not be baptized due to conditions.
I am not against baptism and as a follower of Christ you should be baptized because we are commanded to do that, however some Christians take baptism to extremes which is also problematic.
It's better to be single as Paul was, Paul encourages those who are single to remain that way, but, as Paul says, if you burn with lust then it's ok to get married.
So if a man can't control his sexual desires, it's better to get married.
Paul places singleness above marriage. Paul even says we are to imitate him in the things he does because those things give glory to God.
Men, if you can control your sexual desires, stay single.
I agree here. I’ve been married and tasted that but being single and sexually pure is far and away the better option
30 years ago I was a born-again Christian young man with no relationship mentoring. I didn't ask questions, and I guess my parents assumed I had it figured out, but I did not. And no one was around to ask in person because I was off in fresh military career. All my work surroundings were not living for God. I was in church and Bible groups but their focus was never relationship focused. I got married too soon and too carelessly and crashed and got burned. Picked a woman poorly and it was an unnecessary train wreck.
As a father of two relatively young sons I am searching how to teach them to seek and receive mentorship, and want to know how to pass guidance to other young men as well. There is not a lot of focused Christian material on this, and I don't find a lot of discussion or discipleship help on it at all. But our "churched" marriages are falling apart as much, or more, as the world's lost folks. Why is this so difficult to teach and help young believers with? Where is the focused Christian efforts at raising and guiding good young men and women to date/marry wisely? It sure seems like this is a super-weak in the Church. What do you think?
If you know of any good portions please share with me. LORD, please send me to the existing guidance and experts if I'm overlooking them!
Peace
Marriage helper is a good you tube channel. They talk about dateing there acronym pie is physically intellectually emotionally. Very good channel and there Christian and they use the Bible.
Their are kinds of marage in the bible.
A earthy kind of marge .
A heavenly kind of marage.
And those who are not made for marage.
Those who are not made for marage , the bible means those who are Eunuchs.
Matthew 19:10-12 His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry.
But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given.
For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.
What are Eunuchs ?
2 Kings 20:16-18 And Isaiah said unto Hezekiah, Hear the word of the LORD.
Behold, the days come, that all that is in thine house,and that which thy fathers have laid up in store unto this day, shall be carried into Babylon: nothing shall be left, saith the LORD.
And of thy sons that shall issue from thee, which thou shalt beget, shall they take away; and they shall be eunuchs in the palace of the king of Babylon.
Like Daniel , Shadrach, Michach and Albertnego were eunuchs of Israel for the sake of the Kingdom of God.
2 Kings 20:16-18 And Isaiah said unto Hezekiah, Hear the word of the LORD.
Behold, the days come, that all that is in thine house,and that which thy fathers have laid up in store unto this day, shall be carried into Babylon: nothing shall be left, saith the LORD.
And of thy sons that shall issue from thee, which thou shalt beget, shall they take away; and they shall be eunuchs in the palace of the king of Babylon.
When not in marage , you are free on earth and your parents provide for you till the age of about 21.
Than you become your own boss , so to speak .
The norm for marage is about the age of 35 to have children in producing the next generation .
Till than you can grow in bond with someone , even not so . But your perpose is to provide a foundation of your own.
Good advise would be a foundation though the manner with God .
A strong foundation , you can build , make mistakes, learn and grow I faith . The foundation shall stand , the mistakes can be wiped of , the memories and depth of your life been treasured to build stronger is still inbedded in your foundation.
To wanne get married , is a stage in your life you should walk in faith , and not force it . Love finds you , just make sure you are ready when it comes .
A old saying . He who works in secret , shall know when something is from God , when it comes by faith out of no where .
Just like Jesus thought to pray in secret . Because God already knows what you want before you ask. So when you pray , pray for a perpose towards God's glory , and ask to forgive your own will , so the will of God can be fullfilled in your life first. Than God shall see to all your blessings in whatsoever your heart desires.
What about single Christian men who would like to be married, but cant find a Christian woman who's interested?
Get a passport and a plane ticket to the Philippines. I found my sweet wife here.
404 Not found. Does not compute.
Try teaching women to be good wives instead of blaming men
AMEN brotha!
When you own a Ferrari, things change !
There's a reason why the top men in the Bible were single - our Messiah, John the Baptist, Elijah, Paul, and however many prophets. When a man is focused on The Word, the type of woman who could be matched with him is extremely miniscule! Even the holiest of women tend to need a lot of attention, affirmation, and reassurance. This becomes a distraction to a spiritual man, especially if she feels the carnal urge to either test him or compel him to prove himself to others. We have to remember, it was not Adam who was deceived, and Eve wasn't satisfied living in Paradise while ruling the world!
All very true, yet Adam may have been present when Eve was tempted and failed to intervene.
@@thesuperioraffection4502 oh he 'intervened' alright!
@@auh2o148 He didn't. If he was there and he did intervene, she wouldn't have had the opportunity to eat it.
@@thesuperioraffection4502 it wasn't about trees and snakes and apples.
@@auh2o148 It was about Adam standing by, not doing anything and letting it happen.
My man is absolutely passed out in the back LOL
John MacArthur is a jerk
How dare he say something so hurtful to struggling single men?
SO insensitive.
been burning for 36 yrs single life has been torment
We can overcome that let give it a chance 💖
I love your sense of humour Past John!God bless you!
Pastor MacArthur really needs to look into the dating scene. Most men would love to just be lined up and assigned a wife. Most women would go “ick.”
A big problem in the church I've seen is the women who are available don't want to get married, they are spoken for already, or they are so focused on their career that a relationship doesn't make any sense
I am a 65-year-old widower and I struggle with some of the same situations as here.
Much ,❤️ from God and I💕
Don't laugh @ church. Take things seriously
Step up? Most single men I know hit the Gym and devotional time every day and still cant get a date.
Well John, that was utterly useless.
Me: *clicks on video and sees baptist theology
ignores video.*
that's pretty much been my philosophy for the past 4 years 😅
seriously...these guys are useless.
@@divinityofblackness6330 this wasn’t really Baptist theology
@@colepriceguitar1153 i just assuemd it was since he was a baptist preacher 😅
in all seriousness, though. this guy is completely neutered.
@@divinityofblackness6330 he’s said some good things, but I find his Calvinist and anti baptismal regeneration position’s unscriptural. And his views on marriage also seem to be unscriptural.
@@colepriceguitar1153 said some good things...maybe if I try hard enough to find them I'll agree with that 😅
like i said...when I detect baptist theology i tune out. they don't have a clue what they are talking about and are highly pompous about it. they would do good to read church history. I did and I stopped being reformed. I'm messianic...but I want more sacramentology in the movement. I'm meeting more jews that agree with me.
his views on marriage are disasterous.
Run from the woman that runs after you, but pursue the quite, peaceful, woman who is hard to know.
They exceptionally rare in American cesspool culture, which is modern Sodom & Gormorrah.
Agreed, stay away from loud, arrogant, boastful, skantly dressed immodest women.
Who post selfies of themselves in all types of manner.
For these women are women without discretion, like a pig with a gold ring in its snout.
Nonsense! If only it worked that way.. if she isnt interested why waste your time convincing her? She will only cheat later when she gets all up in her feelings that she's met somebody more interesting
@@mysty0 Nonsense back at you.
Life has is a hard school master, anything worth while don't come easy. You described the easy pursing woman.
@@alexsandersmith1880 actually I didnt describe anything.. where in my reply did I describe the desirable woman or even attempt such a futile exercise? Do you have reading comprehension issues?
The apostate Church of babylon is in no position to advise anyone..
Apostle paul gives the best advice in
1corinthians
As a man being "friendzoned" on more than one occasion all through my late teens and 20s has made me completely bitter because it's nothing more than a sad reminder that I've never been able to succeed in having a successful relationship with a woman - I'm now in my 30s - Being single and in your 30s in the church is just depressing, part of the reason I've been watching online sermons at home for years now. The church has also failed to help people meet their future spouse so is it any wonder that more Christians have resorted to online dating apps :/ and then we can't forget men can't even safely ask a woman out anymore all thanks to the feminism / metoo movements