As the supportive mother of a FTM son, I like how you respect your mom's feelings about the name she chose for you at birth. It sounds too hard to call something given to you out of love a 'dead name.' Your channel is great , you tell it like it is and clearly explain everything. Although we resect our son's decision to transgender, and talk lot , there are some things that are very personal and others that I didnt even realise were a thing!😊 Congratulations to you for becoming who you are and best wishes for the future. ❤ PS Im sure you will forgive me if I used some expressions wrongly. I' d never heard FTM for example until one of your videos popped up on TH-cam! Im learning, though!
Feel like a lot of people do this but I basically chose the closest ‘male’ version to my birth name. I think it made it easier for a lot of people to make the switch in their head and for me personally it felt natural straight away and took no time to get used to.
I had the intuition to change my name in 2016, and I thought of various Muslim and South Asian men's names, but none of them stuck. Then one day in the summer I received the name Sikander from God, so I adopted that name.
My current name is Kori so hearing that felt so sweet since I find Kori way too feminine for me. Happy you found your name in the end and I hope I'll do too in the future ❤
Dakota is such a cool name and it suits you so much!! Also, to anyone searching for a name for themselves, it took me literally 2 years to find my name, so it'll eventually happen, it's okay if you know you're trans but can't find your name for a while. And same, I found it just searching for names online, so keep on searching and you'll find it.🌟 And totally agree, try those names out, write them down, subscribe to something with that name, etc. Thanks for the video, love the conclusion! (PS I think naming yourself is awesome, my name is Nael, and I'm so happy with it, I feel like I have the most beautiful name in the world haha and love it when people say it's a beautiful name because I picked it myself)
Nael is a really nice name, very unique!! The internet is a great source for names, although sometimes the older baby name books have some cool hidden gems that aren’t as popular nowadays. I agree that naming yourself doesn’t have to be an immediate thing, I think I just got lucky with how quickly I found Dakota :D
I’m on the same page with you about your birth name Aspen. My birth name is actually Dakota and I never see other trans guys using that name. I’m planning on keeping it my middle name since it’s a very beautiful and unisex name.
its a great name!! it’s grown in popularity recently with trans guys and i always have a “spider-man pointing meme” moment whenever i see another dude named Dakota gaha
im a young trans lad (maybe not idk im confused af) and i really like the name oscar, but idk if its the best name for me. i love it, and it applies to me in so many ways, but idk if people would accept me more if i had a name closer to my birthname. just yesterday, my parents were talking about how even if you dont agree with what your child is saying/doing, you need to support them as they're your kid. the thing is, i dont want that. i want them to see me for who i am, and the realization that they wont is probably why im terrified to come out (sorry for ranting)
I'm right there with you ! Confused af but I'm pretty sure I'm trans ( I just don't want to accept it because of family and internalized transphobia). What I've heard thus far is to pick what feels right and if Oscar feels good I'd go for it! Don't let others determine your name for you. Have a wonderful day my friend 😊
Love that you said it's fine to change it over time, I did the testing names out until one fit thing too. This is a list of the coolest sounding names of guys that I've come across, irl or online (personal preference of course, also some are gender neutral): Dakota/Aspen 😉 Phoenix Ash/Asher Jalen Nicholas/Niko Vincent/Vinny Donte/Dante Arthur/Arty Timothy/Timmy/Tim Harvey or Harley Raymond/Ray Jett Ryu Kenny/Kenneth/Ken Henry Warren/Ren Jack Daniel/Dan Leonardo/Leon/Leo Alex/Alexander/Xander Frankie/Frank Nuri Mowgli (like from the jungle book, such a cool name) Theodore/Theo Benji Dragon (sick name) Flynn/Finn/Finley (former is my name aha) Xavier Atlas Isaac Montgomery/Monty Milo Sky Caspar Kingsley/King Ezra Sebastian/Seb Samuel/Sam/Sammy Oliver/Ollie Cameron/Cam Jacob/Jake Peter Parker Rain/Reign Percy Stormy/Storm James/Jamie Forrest Gizmo (not kidding, what a cool name) River Zain/Zayn Rover Onyx and many more, these are just the coolest names that really stuck in my head or ones I just personally like the sound of
I've been going by Felix for over a year now but I saw Raymond on this list and it is literally the perfect name for me. So like idk just know that your comment might have altered the course of my life lol
When I came out a couple of years ago, I chose a name that was basically the masculine version of my deadname and also the name that most people already called me. But I started to feel very uncomfortable after about a year using that name and decided to change to my current name; Benji. I feel like the only reason I stuck with other name so long was to help the people around me, which I fully regret. But anyways, I legally changed my name to Benji about a month ago, and I'm so happy I ended up choosing that name.
hey I am in the same situation right now and I kinda struggle to find a name I really feel comfortable in. How did u know what your name is and how did you inform your environment about changing your name again?
@@fin81376 I don't remember how I really found my name, I just remember that while I was still using my previous name I started telling some friends about my new name and asking them to use it, I also changed my name on some social media platforms, and even started using it when ordering food all to see how it felt. I recommend trying some of those techniques with a name/names that you like, and see if it feels comfortable, and dont worry if it takes a few tries before you find a name that suits you and the person you are. I knew my name was my name when I started assosiating it with the person I am. In terms of how I informed my environment, it started with some close friends, then casually changing social media usernames, and then telling my parents, which luckily for me are super supportive about my transition, so telling them about the change wasn't extremely dificult, although I did feel quite guilty (which I shouldn't have). After that, it kind of just started catching on to the people around me. Hope this was helpful, I'm kinda tired so my writing might be a bit confusing, lol.
Im really thankful that I was adopted. I got to pick my own name when I was eight, and I chose "Charlie Anne" while insisting everyone just called me Charlie. Obviously, Im trans now, lol. But now I go by Charles sometimes >:3
I have an interesting story about how I got my new name. The love of my life accidentally gave it to me when her mom asked who she was talking to. She said the name of a random guy, but I've since come to feel like it was given to me by my future wife. (Shoutout to Lady Bird)
I’m not sure if I’m trans or not but I have thought about and the names i came up with were Bo or Lester cuz they are two of my favourite charahcters from a movie
Never actually knew that Dakota is a male name. In my native language all names ending with "a" are female. Anyways now I know the story of your name. :) I think your mom did a great job when she picked the name Aspen. Gender neutral names are the best. Adrian is after Roman emperor. It kinda "clicked". Zen is similar to my birthname (I don't like to call it dead name either). And it's a short form of Zenodoros (Greek meaning "gift of Zeus"). I was really into ancient Greek and Roman culture at that time. I'm also going by my nickname since childhood Zhanis. It's a male form of my birthname. So that was kinda easy for others to get used to.
i’ve been out as nb for a couple years now, and since i started questioning my gender, i was trying to figure out if i was a trans man or nb, and recently i touched the gender box, and now i can’t ignore it, i’m trying figure out whether or not i’m a man again, and the name i picked is pretty cool, it’s Aspyn, but it just doesn’t feel right
My birth name is Lillie and I don’t hate it but I do want to change it to something that suites me better. Then I think I’ll get a tattoo of a Lillie just because I don’t hate it and it’s still a part of me and my journey through life
I am a cis female, my birth name is Svitlana and I so, so thankful to my parents, it fits me perfectly. My husband, on the other hand, despite being a cis male, doesn't like his Ukrainian name. So, on the the documents and at work he goes by his birth name, but with me and his friends he goes by his favorite Hungerian name. I had to adjust to the name that he goes by but it much better now . I share that with you, in order to confirm that indeed, some cis people dispise their name and change it... Names have segnificant meaning, some are like a music to yout ears, some ain't...
I didn't choose mine. I was like "mom, what was supposed to be my name if I was a boy?" As a kid so I took that one. But now she told me she hates it bc it reminds her to my biological father and she also thinks that I'm transitioning to gain his acceptance somehow?
i changed my name to sacha as its a guys name in my culture :)) i went by a nickname of my deadname for a short while but it never really stuck. Its okay to change your mind !
when I had switched schools years ago I chose the name Ash which is different from my birth name and then later came to Ashlyn but now that I've been exploring my gender identity Ash feels genderfluid but when I chose it I still felt quite feminine so now couple years later it is associated to be feminine in my head and now I've been trying to find another name but I always feel like it has to match my appearance so it's been a struggle. I used to roleplay and make characters and I'd spend so long trying to think of a name that would fit them. I really like the name Zay a lot I've stuck to it for a few years honestly but idk how well I think it fits my appearance and what to do. I'm worried if I choose that name but don't find it fitting it'll spiral into more identity crisis :< what should I do? if you can give any advice.
Your name doesn't necessarily have to match your appearance, it just has to be something that feels right to you, a name that makes you feel comfortable and happy. Names are just words made up by humans so we can be recognized as individuals, so I just think that you should choose a name that feels authentically you. :)
does any one knew what to do if my friends are too used to the first name i chose? I dont exactly like it anymore, and ive tried trying out new names but my friends say theyre too used to " ace " to try out something else unless i know i want it 100% 😭
Hey quick question man I'm thinking of coming out this summer and have German heritage. I'm thinking of going by Heinrich because I've always loved the name and stuff But I love history and I know we are learning about ww2 next year do you think I could still go by Heinrich or do you think people would assume its because of ww2?
i mean,,, are you considering the name because you admire the person from WWII who had it…? cus that’s fucked up and i’m sure there’s lots of other German names that you might like that don’t have ties to high ranking Nazi leaders
I chose my name in Shakespeare class; I was playing a character and it was the first time someone used he/him pronouns on me. (My name also has ancestral and biblical roots for my religious family)
My name is Vermin which is inspired by Coraline because I think the cats name was Vermin and he was the other mother’s son before he turned into a cat.
I have some questions abt name changes: First i am not binary trans, but non binary (trigenderflux i think). I have been thinking of changing my name for some time. like not legaly, but around friends and sth. I have a pretty feminine 'deadname'. Charlie is a name that id probably change to. So first: is it normal that it feels weird, like it doesnt feel bad, just like im not used to it. And second: is it normal, that it didnt take me very long to come up with that name. Like ive always felt kinda connected to that name, but never seriously thought abt changing it, bc my gender identity always changes. So pls help me, im confused😭😭
Yes and yes, anecdotally. I'm a trans guy and 1) When I first changed my name, it definitely took a bit of getting used to for me too. I guess that as much as a person can hate their birth name, it's still what they're trained to respond to. 2) To pick my name, I randomly thought of it one day and thought it sounded cool and was like damn that would make a nice name, and it is now my name. Very little thought went into it. So it's pretty normal :)
My name that I’m currently going by on the internet is Nico but my friends dnd character is also named Nico and I was trying to name myself after Nico di Angelo because we’re both gay emo and Italian and I don’t really want my name to be associated with the dnd character idk
Don't know whether you wanted opinions but here goes: If you like the name Nico, I think you should get priority over a dnd character - maybe you can even ask your friend to rename their character if its important to you not to have the character around. Also, it's only your dnd group that'll make that connection, the rest of the world doesn't know I suppose..unless you're the next critical role ;) :))
As the supportive mother of a FTM son, I like how you respect your mom's feelings about the name she chose for you at birth. It sounds too hard to call something given to you out of love a 'dead name.'
Your channel is great , you tell it like it is and clearly explain everything. Although we resect our son's decision to transgender, and talk lot , there are some things that are very personal and others that I didnt even realise were a thing!😊
Congratulations to you for becoming who you are and best wishes for the future. ❤
PS Im sure you will forgive me if I used some expressions wrongly. I' d never heard FTM for example until one of your videos popped up on TH-cam!
Im learning, though!
Feel like a lot of people do this but I basically chose the closest ‘male’ version to my birth name. I think it made it easier for a lot of people to make the switch in their head and for me personally it felt natural straight away and took no time to get used to.
nice!! i'm happy you found a method that works for you :)
I had the intuition to change my name in 2016, and I thought of various Muslim and South Asian men's names, but none of them stuck. Then one day in the summer I received the name Sikander from God, so I adopted that name.
Sikander is a dope name!
i read a book with a protagonist with that name. Very cool name!
My current name is Kori so hearing that felt so sweet since I find Kori way too feminine for me. Happy you found your name in the end and I hope I'll do too in the future ❤
Dakota is such a cool name and it suits you so much!! Also, to anyone searching for a name for themselves, it took me literally 2 years to find my name, so it'll eventually happen, it's okay if you know you're trans but can't find your name for a while. And same, I found it just searching for names online, so keep on searching and you'll find it.🌟 And totally agree, try those names out, write them down, subscribe to something with that name, etc. Thanks for the video, love the conclusion! (PS I think naming yourself is awesome, my name is Nael, and I'm so happy with it, I feel like I have the most beautiful name in the world haha and love it when people say it's a beautiful name because I picked it myself)
Nael is a really nice name, very unique!! The internet is a great source for names, although sometimes the older baby name books have some cool hidden gems that aren’t as popular nowadays. I agree that naming yourself doesn’t have to be an immediate thing, I think I just got lucky with how quickly I found Dakota :D
I’m on the same page with you about your birth name Aspen. My birth name is actually Dakota and I never see other trans guys using that name. I’m planning on keeping it my middle name since it’s a very beautiful and unisex name.
its a great name!! it’s grown in popularity recently with trans guys and i always have a “spider-man pointing meme” moment whenever i see another dude named Dakota gaha
im a young trans lad (maybe not idk im confused af) and i really like the name oscar, but idk if its the best name for me. i love it, and it applies to me in so many ways, but idk if people would accept me more if i had a name closer to my birthname. just yesterday, my parents were talking about how even if you dont agree with what your child is saying/doing, you need to support them as they're your kid. the thing is, i dont want that. i want them to see me for who i am, and the realization that they wont is probably why im terrified to come out (sorry for ranting)
I'm right there with you ! Confused af but I'm pretty sure I'm trans ( I just don't want to accept it because of family and internalized transphobia). What I've heard thus far is to pick what feels right and if Oscar feels good I'd go for it! Don't let others determine your name for you. Have a wonderful day my friend 😊
Love that you said it's fine to change it over time, I did the testing names out until one fit thing too. This is a list of the coolest sounding names of guys that I've come across, irl or online (personal preference of course, also some are gender neutral):
Dakota/Aspen 😉
Phoenix
Ash/Asher
Jalen
Nicholas/Niko
Vincent/Vinny
Donte/Dante
Arthur/Arty
Timothy/Timmy/Tim
Harvey or Harley
Raymond/Ray
Jett
Ryu
Kenny/Kenneth/Ken
Henry
Warren/Ren
Jack
Daniel/Dan
Leonardo/Leon/Leo
Alex/Alexander/Xander
Frankie/Frank
Nuri
Mowgli (like from the jungle book, such a cool name)
Theodore/Theo
Benji
Dragon (sick name)
Flynn/Finn/Finley (former is my name aha)
Xavier
Atlas
Isaac
Montgomery/Monty
Milo
Sky
Caspar
Kingsley/King
Ezra
Sebastian/Seb
Samuel/Sam/Sammy
Oliver/Ollie
Cameron/Cam
Jacob/Jake
Peter
Parker
Rain/Reign
Percy
Stormy/Storm
James/Jamie
Forrest
Gizmo (not kidding, what a cool name)
River
Zain/Zayn
Rover
Onyx
and many more, these are just the coolest names that really stuck in my head or ones I just personally like the sound of
I've been going by Felix for over a year now but I saw Raymond on this list and it is literally the perfect name for me. So like idk just know that your comment might have altered the course of my life lol
@@thrwwynmbr1 Holy shit that's just blown my mind bro haha
My name is on there :D (It's Benji btw)
When I came out a couple of years ago, I chose a name that was basically the masculine version of my deadname and also the name that most people already called me. But I started to feel very uncomfortable after about a year using that name and decided to change to my current name; Benji. I feel like the only reason I stuck with other name so long was to help the people around me, which I fully regret. But anyways, I legally changed my name to Benji about a month ago, and I'm so happy I ended up choosing that name.
hey I am in the same situation right now and I kinda struggle to find a name I really feel comfortable in.
How did u know what your name is and how did you inform your environment about changing your name again?
@@fin81376 I don't remember how I really found my name, I just remember that while I was still using my previous name I started telling some friends about my new name and asking them to use it, I also changed my name on some social media platforms, and even started using it when ordering food all to see how it felt. I recommend trying some of those techniques with a name/names that you like, and see if it feels comfortable, and dont worry if it takes a few tries before you find a name that suits you and the person you are. I knew my name was my name when I started assosiating it with the person I am.
In terms of how I informed my environment, it started with some close friends, then casually changing social media usernames, and then telling my parents, which luckily for me are super supportive about my transition, so telling them about the change wasn't extremely dificult, although I did feel quite guilty (which I shouldn't have). After that, it kind of just started catching on to the people around me.
Hope this was helpful, I'm kinda tired so my writing might be a bit confusing, lol.
Im really thankful that I was adopted. I got to pick my own name when I was eight, and I chose "Charlie Anne" while insisting everyone just called me Charlie. Obviously, Im trans now, lol. But now I go by Charles sometimes >:3
i like Charlie! very classic name
@@aktdoa Thank you!
I have an interesting story about how I got my new name. The love of my life accidentally gave it to me when her mom asked who she was talking to. She said the name of a random guy, but I've since come to feel like it was given to me by my future wife. (Shoutout to Lady Bird)
wait this is actually so wholesome, such a cute story!!
I love all your videos, please don't stop uploading videos❤
I’m not sure if I’m trans or not but I have thought about and the names i came up with were Bo or Lester cuz they are two of my favourite charahcters from a movie
Never actually knew that Dakota is a male name. In my native language all names ending with "a" are female.
Anyways now I know the story of your name. :) I think your mom did a great job when she picked the name Aspen. Gender neutral names are the best.
Adrian is after Roman emperor. It kinda "clicked". Zen is similar to my birthname (I don't like to call it dead name either). And it's a short form of Zenodoros (Greek meaning "gift of Zeus"). I was really into ancient Greek and Roman culture at that time.
I'm also going by my nickname since childhood Zhanis. It's a male form of my birthname. So that was kinda easy for others to get used to.
i’ve been out as nb for a couple years now, and since i started questioning my gender, i was trying to figure out if i was a trans man or nb, and recently i touched the gender box, and now i can’t ignore it, i’m trying figure out whether or not i’m a man again, and the name i picked is pretty cool, it’s Aspyn, but it just doesn’t feel right
Your hair looks GREAT. Your blue eyes and red hair are just incredible. I am partial to red heads, especially if they also have blue eyes!
My birth name is Lillie and I don’t hate it but I do want to change it to something that suites me better. Then I think I’ll get a tattoo of a Lillie just because I don’t hate it and it’s still a part of me and my journey through life
I am a cis female, my birth name is Svitlana and I so, so thankful to my parents, it fits me perfectly.
My husband, on the other hand, despite being a cis male, doesn't like his Ukrainian name. So, on the the documents and at work he goes by his birth name, but with me and his friends he goes by his favorite Hungerian name. I had to adjust to the name that he goes by but it much better now .
I share that with you, in order to confirm that indeed, some cis people dispise their name and change it...
Names have segnificant meaning, some are like a music to yout ears, some ain't...
I didn't choose mine. I was like "mom, what was supposed to be my name if I was a boy?" As a kid so I took that one. But now she told me she hates it bc it reminds her to my biological father and she also thinks that I'm transitioning to gain his acceptance somehow?
i changed my name to sacha as its a guys name in my culture :)) i went by a nickname of my deadname for a short while but it never really stuck. Its okay to change your mind !
when I had switched schools years ago I chose the name Ash which is different from my birth name and then later came to Ashlyn but now that I've been exploring my gender identity Ash feels genderfluid but when I chose it I still felt quite feminine so now couple years later it is associated to be feminine in my head and now I've been trying to find another name but I always feel like it has to match my appearance so it's been a struggle. I used to roleplay and make characters and I'd spend so long trying to think of a name that would fit them. I really like the name Zay a lot I've stuck to it for a few years honestly but idk how well I think it fits my appearance and what to do. I'm worried if I choose that name but don't find it fitting it'll spiral into more identity crisis :< what should I do? if you can give any advice.
Your name doesn't necessarily have to match your appearance, it just has to be something that feels right to you, a name that makes you feel comfortable and happy. Names are just words made up by humans so we can be recognized as individuals, so I just think that you should choose a name that feels authentically you. :)
does any one knew what to do if my friends are too used to the first name i chose? I dont exactly like it anymore, and ive tried trying out new names but my friends say theyre too used to " ace " to try out something else unless i know i want it 100% 😭
Hey quick question man I'm thinking of coming out this summer and have German heritage. I'm thinking of going by Heinrich because I've always loved the name and stuff
But I love history and I know we are learning about ww2 next year do you think I could still go by Heinrich or do you think people would assume its because of ww2?
i mean,,, are you considering the name because you admire the person from WWII who had it…? cus that’s fucked up and i’m sure there’s lots of other German names that you might like that don’t have ties to high ranking Nazi leaders
Heinrich is cool! No association with anything bad. I read a novel who's main characted was named Heinrich and since then I really started liking it.
Im actually german and Heinrich is cool. Its just probably made fun of around here because its an old german name but go by whatever you like
Jaden. That’s the only one.
I chose my name in Shakespeare class; I was playing a character and it was the first time someone used he/him pronouns on me. (My name also has ancestral and biblical roots for my religious family)
That's dope! I always thought people with names they found in literature were cool
My name is Vermin which is inspired by Coraline because I think the cats name was Vermin and he was the other mother’s son before he turned into a cat.
I was wondering if you have any tips on pre t workouts for trans men.
I have a video about workouts! Check out my FTM videos playlist on my channel :)
I have some questions abt name changes:
First i am not binary trans, but non binary (trigenderflux i think). I have been thinking of changing my name for some time. like not legaly, but around friends and sth. I have a pretty feminine 'deadname'. Charlie is a name that id probably change to.
So first: is it normal that it feels weird, like it doesnt feel bad, just like im not used to it.
And second: is it normal, that it didnt take me very long to come up with that name. Like ive always felt kinda connected to that name, but never seriously thought abt changing it, bc my gender identity always changes. So pls help me, im confused😭😭
Yes and yes, anecdotally. I'm a trans guy and
1) When I first changed my name, it definitely took a bit of getting used to for me too. I guess that as much as a person can hate their birth name, it's still what they're trained to respond to.
2) To pick my name, I randomly thought of it one day and thought it sounded cool and was like damn that would make a nice name, and it is now my name. Very little thought went into it.
So it's pretty normal :)
@redhawkneofeatherman261 thank u that was rlly helpful:)
So thought I was nonbinary, but I'm thinking I might be trans now. Does the name Nyx sound like at good trans guy name?
Nyx sounds handsome af
i think Nyx is cold as hell
My name that I’m currently going by on the internet is Nico but my friends dnd character is also named Nico and I was trying to name myself after Nico di Angelo because we’re both gay emo and Italian and I don’t really want my name to be associated with the dnd character idk
Don't know whether you wanted opinions but here goes: If you like the name Nico, I think you should get priority over a dnd character - maybe you can even ask your friend to rename their character if its important to you not to have the character around. Also, it's only your dnd group that'll make that connection, the rest of the world doesn't know I suppose..unless you're the next critical role ;) :))
List of names i think i want (2 currently)
• Jupiter
• Elliot
both of these are cool! if anything you could make one of them your middle name LOL. i think Elliot Jupiter works well