How to use anger as a force for good | Marcia Reynolds | TEDxAtlanta

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  • Globally acclaimed trainer and coach Marcia Reynolds draws upon her personal life experiences in this simple but powerful talk about how anger can be an empowering emotion that enables us to live up to our full potential.
    Marcia's work in leadership development ad workplace communications has reached over 100,000 people in 41 countries.
    She develops practical applications from the latest neuro/behavioral science discoveries and uses them in her work with some of the world’s most recognizable brands. Her books have been featured in Fast Company, Harvard Management Review, Psychology Today and The Wall Street Journal.
    A globally acclaimed coach, Marcia is the training director at Virginia Tech’s Healthcare Coaching Institute. She holds a doctoral degree in organizational psychology and a master’s degrees in communications and education. Marcia’s work in leadership development and workplace communications has reached over 100,000 people in 41 countries.
    She develops practical applications from the latest neuro/behavioral science discoveries and uses them in her work with some of the world’s most recognizable brands. Her books have been featured in Fast Company, Harvard Management Review, Psychology Today and The Wall Street Journal.
    A globally acclaimed coach, Marcia is the training director at Virginia Tech’s Healthcare Coaching Institute. She holds a doctoral degree in organizational psychology and master’s degrees in communications and education. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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  • @blainejohnston8265
    @blainejohnston8265 3 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    7:09 "Anger erupts when what you believe should happen doesn't." Powerful self recognition statement!

  • @artcornish3520
    @artcornish3520 4 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Never has anger sounded so gentle.

  • @Joao-pe8ur
    @Joao-pe8ur 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I used anger when I didn't get chosen in a selection process (that hadn't the proper setup for a professional) to create some works that caught the attention of the public. Today I'm in a much better position than I'd be if I had been selected :)

  • @nurainiain7761
    @nurainiain7761 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    I cried when she narrated: You care about people! We may be very angry but we empathize with those who are oppressed! I appreciate this content and speaker a lot.

  • @craigjohns7665
    @craigjohns7665 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I could never have guessed what she went through, such a struggle and to come out the way she did.

  • @heatherevans6169
    @heatherevans6169 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Very Powerful! Re-writing the idea that anger is bad and putting it to work for us brilliant!

  • @ForRelationshipHelp
    @ForRelationshipHelp 5 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Knowing how to use anger to clarify your values, and learn from your experiences is amazingly powerful. Thank you for this, Marcia!

    • @gazioktay441
      @gazioktay441 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes the title fooled me for a moment, but I got so much out of this.

  • @EileenMcDargh
    @EileenMcDargh 5 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    Love this. As a good "catholic" kid, we were taught not to show anger. But then, yo realized that even Christ got angry at money changers. I also like the notion that anger can be the fuel to help us forge ahead. Thanks for being vulnerable.

  • @gwendolyncarnell
    @gwendolyncarnell 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    This is so true, I have been labeled by others who had no idea who I am. This is a must watch ted.

  • @rinanoshinikov
    @rinanoshinikov 4 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    I wish I could like this so many more times!! I never thought of using my anger this way.

  • @LyssadeHart
    @LyssadeHart 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I loved this particular truth bombdiggity: "When you get who you are in here [hand over heart], you can do anything out there."

  • @alyhdickinson
    @alyhdickinson 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    She is so strong from what she went through and what she is.

    • @felipeecoelho
      @felipeecoelho 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      really - she is.

    • @charlesdonstand
      @charlesdonstand 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      it just shows you, cant believe what a cover says about a book.

  • @michealdrozd
    @michealdrozd 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I have seen this promoted for a few weeks, I wasn't going to watch, but I am dam glad I did...

    • @ricardom.arnold
      @ricardom.arnold 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      yes me too

    • @rickygrays
      @rickygrays 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      add me in, it's been in our group, this woman is a good speaker.

    • @merlemackenzie
      @merlemackenzie 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thats how I found it too.

    • @rickygrays
      @rickygrays 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@merlemackenzie Hey, havent seen you online in a while, where u been?

    • @tonirduran
      @tonirduran 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Great talk Mike thanks for the share

  • @MindyGibbinsKlein
    @MindyGibbinsKlein 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    "Claim your anger" - what a great statement and what a great lesson. Thank you for sharing this important idea, Marcia.

    • @michaelhunter7959
      @michaelhunter7959 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Oh yeah I get that, I thought it was something different, but this works better than fists

    • @shystrshystr
      @shystrshystr 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      wish I had done this decades ago.

  • @VascoBreitenfeld
    @VascoBreitenfeld 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Such and underrated, under viewed talk. I loved it, just what i needed. Amazing job!

  • @lyricperalez635
    @lyricperalez635 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I Learned That Anger Is Not Always The Answer To Everything You Are Strong And You Are The Only Person To Stop Yourself From Acting Out Don’t Feel Hopeless You Are Enough

  • @tonirduran
    @tonirduran 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I was moved, and they said I wasn't enough - now I own 3 companies and have a staff of 70. Some are the kids who were in the smart classes.

  • @chanteldraper3474
    @chanteldraper3474 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Wow. TH-cam suggested I watch this video, which was incredibly random, and I am blown away by the relevance of it showing up at this point in time within my life. One of the most insightful and thought provoking talks I’ve heard in a long time. Thank you.

  • @annmerrychristmas
    @annmerrychristmas 4 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    wow I am so conflicted, in the world of mindfulness there isn't room for anger, yet I hear her

    • @agnespuentes
      @agnespuentes 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I thought that too but I see it different now

    • @annmerrychristmas
      @annmerrychristmas 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@agnespuentes yes I agree it is different

    • @agnespuentes
      @agnespuentes 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@annmerrychristmas thank you

    • @marciareynolds3235
      @marciareynolds3235 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I hope we all come to accept our humanity in all it's forms.

    • @annmerrychristmas
      @annmerrychristmas 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@marciareynolds3235 thats so true thank you.

  • @natejohnson5393
    @natejohnson5393 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This was great for me to hear- I feel so angry all the time and want to control it

  • @alicerose9140
    @alicerose9140 5 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    That was inspiring! Yay for Anger! 12.41 was only time enough to barely get into this long-neglected issue. And yet in that time she said so much

  • @greenapple6
    @greenapple6 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    6:14 when you get who you are in here, you can do anything out there. WOW!

    • @robertaherron
      @robertaherron 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yeah totally agree

    • @marciareynolds3235
      @marciareynolds3235 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      She changed my life!!

    • @robertaherron
      @robertaherron 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@marciareynolds3235 yes I can see that, angels come in many forms

  • @alessandrolorusso9778
    @alessandrolorusso9778 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Brilliant and down to heart/earth as always, Thankyou Marcia.
    "Getting hungry is easy, it is getting angry with the right person, for the good reason and in a proper manner that requires wisdom!" - Socrate

  • @tinaomotoyosi
    @tinaomotoyosi 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you for sharing your story Marcia. Very transformational

  • @tonikoch
    @tonikoch 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Great one… so glad I saw this. Helps big time.

  • @MrCash-lm1xz
    @MrCash-lm1xz 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    1:26 to 1:43 sounds like something a past avatar would say to Aang when he asked them for advice.

  • @johnlum8136
    @johnlum8136 4 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    It would seem again that even the best of us had to struggle with others who did not see our worth.

  • @jamesbowie4540
    @jamesbowie4540 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Great talk, I was one of those kids moved down.

    • @maverickvassallo
      @maverickvassallo 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yeah me too..

    • @alanwbell
      @alanwbell 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      yeah I know this one, me too.

    • @joo-jali
      @joo-jali 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      more of us than anyone knows

    • @dimamoharev
      @dimamoharev 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I was too, we were annoying to the system.

    • @timmymckinley
      @timmymckinley 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      its like we need to start a support group james, kids forced into bad places

  • @jorgecastano3724
    @jorgecastano3724 ปีที่แล้ว

    THE FORCE IS STRONG ON THIS ONE

  • @AnaA-ku2yt
    @AnaA-ku2yt 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank YOU!

  • @sylviacrittendon
    @sylviacrittendon 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Brilliant talk!!!!!!

  • @spazmatt3000
    @spazmatt3000 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you

  • @adammayhew3673
    @adammayhew3673 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    This makes sense, and it moves me.

  • @gracefairbank
    @gracefairbank 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I am that kid too, really love this talk.

  • @milesprimrose5990
    @milesprimrose5990 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Very good talk, take the few minutes and watch this!!

  • @pengzhou6952
    @pengzhou6952 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Very smart talk, and she knows. I like speakers who you know knows what they are speaking about.

  • @jimwebbjr
    @jimwebbjr 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Yeah, good talk really good talk.

  • @susanpqpowell
    @susanpqpowell 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Now this is good, very good - amazing story.

  • @emmillyy.
    @emmillyy. 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Wonderful talk! :)

  • @nicopetey
    @nicopetey 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Talk about a shift, amazing.

  • @scottyh8494
    @scottyh8494 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Excellent speech on anger.

  • @dl4121
    @dl4121 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Through passion I gain strength.

  • @agnespuentes
    @agnespuentes 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I loved every second of this video, I can look at anger in a different way now!

    • @adammayhew3673
      @adammayhew3673 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Me too, this is why I love watching TEDs...

    • @agnespuentes
      @agnespuentes 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@adammayhew3673 and I watched it again, thats how good is, watching on christmas day

    • @marciareynolds3235
      @marciareynolds3235 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for letting me know my words made an impact on you.

  • @WonderfulTruck-fi8lo
    @WonderfulTruck-fi8lo หลายเดือนก่อน

    Very good! 👌

  • @prod.dopamine
    @prod.dopamine 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    RESPECT

  • @roguetrooper9442
    @roguetrooper9442 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This was awesome

  • @lisa-lio
    @lisa-lio 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks for sending Glenn, this is a gem!!! and yes her? jail?

  • @katrivers1489
    @katrivers1489 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    That was awesome woman!!!

  • @kristianzlee
    @kristianzlee 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    This goes on my save list, anger this way is smart anger.

  • @maryjboffa
    @maryjboffa 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I couldn't believe the first few minutes, and I won't spoil it.

  • @georgewatkiss
    @georgewatkiss 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I was that kid in trouble too, maybe I still am. Good talk should be seen.

  • @liza-zotova
    @liza-zotova 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This is amazing 3rd time I have watched in 2 days

    • @skyec8562
      @skyec8562 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I am on my 3rd now too.

    • @marciareynolds3235
      @marciareynolds3235 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you Lisa. It means so much to me to hear that my words and experiences have impact.

    • @liza-zotova
      @liza-zotova 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@marciareynolds3235 :)

  • @jessebrooks1158
    @jessebrooks1158 ปีที่แล้ว

    Nice

  • @susau
    @susau 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    💗💗💗

  • @charleshurstreinvention3959
    @charleshurstreinvention3959 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    To an extent. Becoming angry when needed is normal. But as I tell my own subscribers--staying in that state is not. Suffering from chronic anger causes a few problems. First it impedes your progress. By draining your energy that you should be using to advance yourself. Ever been angry all day at work then skipped that night workout? That's probably why. But it also isn't physically healthy and can lead to long term effects on the heart and doctors now think future cancer as well. Not to mention high blood pressure. There are two simple methods I tell my own people how to control anger. One you have with you--your breathing. You can breathe in a meditative state while walking down the street. You picture a coil slowly unwinding as if you were breathing through your stomach. Slow and in and out. Wind the coil and let it go slowly. It calms you down and if you do it every few hours for maybe ten reps then it keeps you calm. Second--reflect on what you are growing angry about. Is it really going to affect you even four months from now? You'll find many times it won't. So I would use these techniques to minimize anger so you can only progress forward. Hope that helps someone out there---Charles

  • @riddhikaria4628
    @riddhikaria4628 ปีที่แล้ว

  • @mayali8124
    @mayali8124 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hiding from anger will squeeze you into silence

  • @seamusconlan9673
    @seamusconlan9673 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    If I keep the energy and act only more harm will be done.

  • @brilliantphoto5992
    @brilliantphoto5992 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Anger can be a force for good.

  • @tomkijiner1639
    @tomkijiner1639 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    FIRST BABYYY!!!

  • @alexaphillips8911
    @alexaphillips8911 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    You are the smart kid now Marcia...

  • @zvch88
    @zvch88 24 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Why is nobody talking about the fact that she was part of a school socialization experiment 😭💀💀

  • @Version-ru1mj
    @Version-ru1mj 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    An animal caught in a trap, will gnaw off it's own leg to escape. What will you do?
    I must not fear... I must not fear... Fear is the mind-killer. Fear, is the little death that brings obliteration.
    And I'll face my fear and I'll permit it to pass over me and through me.
    And when it has gone past... I will turn the inner eye and see its path. And where the fear has gone, there will be nothing.
    Only I will remain.
    Like sifting sand through a screen, we sift people.
    If you had been unable to control your impulses, like an animal. We couldn't let you live.

  • @tonistark8843
    @tonistark8843 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Her voice makes me more anger..

  • @JellyBean0776
    @JellyBean0776 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    What is the source of your anger is retraumatizing on a daily basis and there's nothing you can do about it.

  • @chinookvalley
    @chinookvalley 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Poor volume. Good presentation.

    • @alicerose9140
      @alicerose9140 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      My volume was great and she speaks very clearly. Have you checked your sound control?

  • @billconconi
    @billconconi 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Now this was a shocker, I wouldn't have picked her in this story?

  • @glennhamilton3rd
    @glennhamilton3rd 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    No way, I just didn't see this coming. JAIL? for her?

  • @fatimaausama4451
    @fatimaausama4451 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Im sorry to say that but that unfortunately doesnt always work

  • @douglaslett7504
    @douglaslett7504 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I believe most people are angry because someone mistreated them ! Many times religion doesn't help, there's nothing worse than bad theology. One of the few theologians that seem to make since is Rabbi Harold Kushner !

  • @therealmr.unicorn
    @therealmr.unicorn 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Just can't see her with a spliff chillin back and getting busted

  • @agnespuentes
    @agnespuentes 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    WHAT!!!! this woman was in Jail????

  • @10mmfan
    @10mmfan 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Looks like this lady has used her anger in the weight room. Nice arms. Lol

  • @freshliving4199
    @freshliving4199 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    How can Marcia Reynolds explain to anyone how to deal with anger when she herself has not overcome her own anger?
    She is misleading many people.
    Ask me how to overcome anger and I will gladly answer.
    Or take Marcia advice and see how far you get.

    • @lizziemonk927
      @lizziemonk927 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ok Dr Phil since you have all the answers how do I overcome years of anger, resentment, grumpiness, bitterness, rage and apathy from being bullied at home and at school??? How do I have a FRESH start at LIVING anger-free??

    • @freshliving4199
      @freshliving4199 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@lizziemonk927 Hi Lizzie, as children we are born innocent. Then as we grow up we become traumatized, usually first by our very own parents, and then by the people we meet along the way.
      Growing up traumatized in this world basically recreates us into who we think we are today. We become the sum total of our experiences. That is miserable, angry, hateful, depressed human beings. This is NOT who we were created to be!
      Return to your life giving Father by forgiving your parents for the initial trauma. They did do the very best they knew how.
      This forgiveness is the key to being set free from ALL your life traumas. EVERYTHING!!!
      I can only try to explain but you have to experience it yourself to believe it.
      In conversation with you I can explain faster and clearer if you can Zoom/Skype/Etc.
      Regards, Julian

  • @Kikematamitos
    @Kikematamitos 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    LOL you pay for views!!!!!

  • @monkeybusiness6417
    @monkeybusiness6417 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    should be called "how to turn your anger into vanity". tedx used to be better than that series of lame commonplaces.

    • @alicerose9140
      @alicerose9140 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      So a woman's valid anger and advice on how to channel that is not sufficiently profound enough for you? You sound vain about your own 'important' opinion and 'superior' expectations of tedx subject matter.

    • @monkeybusiness6417
      @monkeybusiness6417 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@alicerose9140 you seem to know a lot about anger

    • @alicerose9140
      @alicerose9140 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@monkeybusiness6417 I do. You sound like you have some work to do too

    • @monkeybusiness6417
      @monkeybusiness6417 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@alicerose9140 no, I expressed my view, that's all. freedom of expression, nothing more.

    • @Aeimee7
      @Aeimee7 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You obviously didn't understand how an emotion can be used, in either a productive or destructive manner @MonkeyBusiness You still have time to learn. Good for you I just used my anger towards your ignorance to bless you instead. I call this compassion instead of anger.

  • @Version-ru1mj
    @Version-ru1mj 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    An animal caught in a trap, will gnaw off it's own leg to escape. What will you do?
    I must not fear... I must not fear... Fear is the mind-killer. Fear, is the little death that brings obliteration.
    And I'll face my fear and I'll permit it to pass over me and through me.
    And when it has gone past... I will turn the inner eye and see its path. And where the fear has gone, there will be nothing.
    Only I will remain.
    Like sifting sand through a screen, we sift people.
    If you had been unable to control your impulses, like an animal. We couldn't let you live.