Heidi Grant Halvorson: Why No One Understands You (and What To Do About It)

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  • @a64738
    @a64738 7 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    My life is going deeper and deeper into pure hell because people with authority and power NEVER believe me when I tell the truth (except when I actual lie, THEN they belive me). It has gone so far that I am afraid to do anything anymore and live in almost total social isolation as that is the only way I have found to avoid getting into more and more disturbingly life ruining troubles.

    • @Onsdeefke
      @Onsdeefke 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Here is your key to get outside again. > en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Subtle_Art_of_Not_Giving_a_F*ck

    • @as3774
      @as3774 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I feel like the talk is putting the responsibility on the one who isn't being heard. As a society we really need to start listening to others when they speak. Especially those in positions of power lower than our own like children.

    • @a64738
      @a64738 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@as3774 All the people in power has now closed down all communication so no criticism reaches them. They live in their own bobble of reality now and think that all the pople that do not share their fanatic distorted picture of the world is stupid, not realizing the stupid ones is themselves...

    • @khayahbrookes
      @khayahbrookes 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@a64738 You may be in a literal cult. They're not just about religion. I've encountered them even in the form of software companies. Look into the characteristics of "high-demand" groups and relationships and see if you recognize what you're dealing with. Then try to get yourself out. Trust your gut and trust what cognitive dissonance tells you about what is and isn't reasonable, and get yourself free.

  • @sheilagarcia8473
    @sheilagarcia8473 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great talk. It was totally worth it for that picture of Putin riding the bear.

  • @sheriyarkhani170
    @sheriyarkhani170 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Very Basic information but I needed to hear it thank you

  • @kevinanderson9240
    @kevinanderson9240 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    It's amazing how she has personal knowledge of political figured, athletes and families. Lik

  • @oneheckofanadventure6809
    @oneheckofanadventure6809 9 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I am great at this. I try to make friends, and as a woman trying to make male friends.. This warmth thing is a big issue. I always look people in the eyes, i really listen. I speak of my competence, they get frightened, so i create the feeling of us. So that we ca be friends. And they fall in love with me.
    Every damn guy I meet. Is men like insanely lonely? I don't flirt, don't ware makeup, not fancy clothes. So disturbing -.-

    • @kikai2761
      @kikai2761 9 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      +One Heck Of An Adventure As a guy with most of my best friends being females, and falling for one of them, I can relate to the guys in your story, most guys, unfortunately, look to other guys strictly as friends, more often than not, when a guy talking to the opposite gender, they tend to consider them as a potential love interest. As much as i hate to admit it, a lot of nice guys are simply not used to looking at any female outside of family as someone other than someone he could date maybe.

    • @oneheckofanadventure6809
      @oneheckofanadventure6809 9 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yeah. Its true. I just don't get the feeling that these guys see me as an actual potential mate. (Because I do keep my eyes open for true love). It just does not feel authentic. They are more interested in showing me off or having me as a trophy. Or for validating their own self worth trough sexual action. It does not feel like they even know who the heck I am. And yeah like you say; they see every damn girl that they meet as a "potential date". Makes me feel un-special.
      Disturbing >.

    • @diabolusdc
      @diabolusdc 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      +One Heck Of An Adventure How's this for a thought experiment: You're a girl late 20's with an established partner (I dunno you might be!). You catch a bus for work, same one every day, you see the same guy every day, he's always alone, you're always alone. One day he says "hello", over time a couple of conversations follow, a little laughter, much conversation. Many weeks pass, it rains one day, you both end up under one umbrella. You have a stressful week and he shows concern. You go out one night with some other girls, you mention the guy, what do they say?

    • @oneheckofanadventure6809
      @oneheckofanadventure6809 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Aaaw. This sounds like a movie. A really cute lovestory.
      (I am single).. I get what you mean. I established after much thought; that you must be in inner harmony with yourself to do an honest connection -with anybody-. That is why this bothered me so much, the guys who "fall in love with me" don't really love me, they just want to use the infatuation to escape reality. Or dullness as presented.
      (Why Im not flattered).
      Btw, beautifully written, you could be a writer & storyteller.

    • @diabolusdc
      @diabolusdc 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      +One Heck Of An Adventure Well, we can wonder what is or is not flattering and all the rest of it, not to ignore such things but to leave them aside for the moment. The girl in the story may not thus far have sensed anything to do with attraction, love (in that sense) or these desires and inclinations is going on, but is that actually so? In the context of that you do the scene I mention previously, the girls go out, a few drinks are had and the guy gets a mention for the first time.

  • @jojomesina4088
    @jojomesina4088 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I feel like no one understands me 😢😢 my parents my freinds =(

  • @evenzero
    @evenzero 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    3:40 we need to watch our faces

  • @youcanheal
    @youcanheal 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    life is no math. and we are no machines. just be yourself and be kind. that; s all

  • @pablodiablo3519
    @pablodiablo3519 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Good video overall. I don’t think asking friends that vague of a question without any context would be beneficial. Maybe I’m just not close enough with anyone for that to seem like a good idea

  • @luuupus
    @luuupus 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Black background all along, you're following intently... and BAM!, a blinding white photo out of nowhere. Interesting content, though.

  • @venkateshkalla3256
    @venkateshkalla3256 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    What if people Understands you very well but they just wants to sets you up on Failure. In India, it is very much possible because of Class-Caste structures.

  • @peterhalvorson6085
    @peterhalvorson6085 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    MY last name is halvorson!

  • @growing367
    @growing367 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    13:30

  • @georgegray2712
    @georgegray2712 8 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This talk has an error in it. Everyone DOES like chocolate ice cream!! 7:15

    • @---do2qd
      @---do2qd 8 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      +George Gray I actually don't, plain chocolate is a boring flavor

  • @TheCameltotem
    @TheCameltotem 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Smart women are nice!

  • @shugzt
    @shugzt 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Some of her language is near profanity, it should not be used in business

    • @GoodxJ
      @GoodxJ 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Tell that to Gary Vee. You can do what you want in business thats the beauty of running your own. 😁💪✌️👍🤠