What if the child flat-out refuses? As in "Nope, not happening. I'm not doing it and you can't make me." He's right, I can't make him. I don't want to get into a yelling match and I don't want to plead with him. Threatening him with loss of screentime seems like the wrong motivator. He's 12 and usually stalls or puts up a bit of a fight but sometimes he stands his ground. I usually respond with something petty like "You're right, I can't make you. But know that if I have to do both of our chores then I probably won't feel inclined to take you to your friends house later (or whatever the desired activity is)." But still, I've only accomplished getting him to do the right thing for the wrong reasons. Side note: He has ADHD so often doesn't remember the sense of pride in a job well done, even with praise and reminders.
Very helpful, thank you!
What if the child flat-out refuses? As in "Nope, not happening. I'm not doing it and you can't make me." He's right, I can't make him. I don't want to get into a yelling match and I don't want to plead with him. Threatening him with loss of screentime seems like the wrong motivator. He's 12 and usually stalls or puts up a bit of a fight but sometimes he stands his ground. I usually respond with something petty like "You're right, I can't make you. But know that if I have to do both of our chores then I probably won't feel inclined to take you to your friends house later (or whatever the desired activity is)." But still, I've only accomplished getting him to do the right thing for the wrong reasons. Side note: He has ADHD so often doesn't remember the sense of pride in a job well done, even with praise and reminders.