1/16/08 - Rick Koster goes Behind the Scenes at the Byles Memorial Home in New London. (Video by Peter Huoppi)1/16/08 - Behind the Scenes at the Byles Memorial Home in New London. (Video by Peter Huoppi)
I live in a funeral home. My dad is the owner and director and I have helped out with everything that goes on. I see this all the time. This is nothing new or abnormal for me...it's my day to day life. And no, it is not creepy...it has taught me to never take life for granted.
Couldn't do it. I had an Uncle who did this work all his life, even lived in along with his immediate family the upper floor of the funeral home. Needless to say, as a kid I use to get really creeped out when we went to visit my Uncle because we had to go through of course the lower floor where the bodies were (already prepared for upcoming funerals). And my Mom and grandmother wanted to "see" who all was in the caskets on our way upstairs. Naturally I followed and looked because as a kid I sure wasn't going to be left alone on that floor by myself. I do respect and appreciate all who do this work with respect and great care for the deceased.
Nope. ;) I myself went to college for mortuary science and funeral service, and I finally start my first job in a funeral home in just a couple days. Yea!
It fascinates me I'd love to do a green cemetery, but it's a bit late for me to start a project that huge alone. I'm going in the ground in a shroud in a green cemetery when I die. Ashes to ashes, dust to dust.
I appreciate the relaxed tone of this video. No hyper-smiley host and millions of jump cuts, no fake sadness and corny puns. Just chill dudes having a chill conversation about a career.
A very big thank you to all the people who take care of our loved ones once they're dead. You have all the respect of the world. You are admired for your services. Thank you once again.
My father passed away at home around midnight this past March. The death was somewhat expected with Hospice to have started the next day. My mom called all the children and then called EMS. My sister actually called me first and when I saw her name on caller ID I knew exactly why she was calling. Because he died at home the police were contacted and "secured the scene". About 2:00 AM the coroner arrives dressed in a tie and jacket. He looked like he was going to a nice dinner. All of us had to leave the room while he investigated the scene. About 30 minutes later he relieves the police from the room and then starts interviewing the family. At around 3:00 AM two young girls in their 20's arrive in a black mini-van dressed in white shirts, black sweaters with the funeral home insignia, and black slacks. My father weighed about 225 lbs and these young ladies were able to move him from his bed to their stretcher without any assistance (although we offered assistance). These young ladies asked us to leave the room for about 10 minutes while they prepared his body. Then they allowed the entire family back into the room to say our final goodbye before he was taken directly to the funeral home. I never gave a single thought previously that there is an entire workforce working 2:00 AM every night transporting dead people to funeral comes or coroner's office. It was a night that I will never forget.
I'm a former EMT for many years, I'll admit the first body that moved when I least expected it and I was alone within 30'of my partner scared the hell out of me!
These folks are some of the most intelligent, most compassionate folks I've ever met. They did a superb job with my dad with his cremation, memorial service, and interment last October. Just beautiful.
I work in the industry. U wouldnt believe what they charge for use of the kitchen. Nothing is inexpensive. The people here are good people. It is the prices that are ridiculous.
As a graduate student, I took a health course in death, dying, and bereavement. The title sounds as if it would be morbid and depressing, but that was one of the best classes I ever completed. It was not morbid, but more of an appreciation of life course.
It's okay. Things will get better. My Aunt and Grandma passed away in the same week. I thought I would never get over it. You will think about them everyday but crying helps!
I know ti's been a year, but I just wanted remind you that the embalming process is meant for you (the family). It's intended to allow closure and reflection. In my case, it allowed me to say goodbye to a few people who died while I was out of town.
Colin Masterson same...my aunt and grandma passed away...but 3 months apart...it’s really a hard thing...I miss there voice..there hugs...and everything about them...but you just gotta be strong😊
Thank you so much for posting this video. I've always wondered about what goes on behind the scenes. I recently had an a cousin and two uncles pass in the recent years. I'm still coping with these losses. But each day gets a little better.
architecture student here, final project of the semester is a funeral home in a venetian style, your video was very detailed and helpful, thank you kindly
We loved this Funeral Home, very professional and courteous staff, inspiring services on behalf of our loved one and family. We saved 3k on the casket by ordering online and having it flown in as well, beautiful casket from Best Price Caskets and the funeral home was so gracious about it, we couldn't be happier :-)
What most people don't realize is that, in most states, you can act as your own funeral director and do the funeral at home. What that means is transporting the body yourself, washing and dressing the body, keeping it on dry ice for three days, and having visitation where you are most comfortable--in your own home. Not being so removed from the process by relinquishing all care of the person you love to a stranger is incredibly healing and costs very little compared to the ave cost of $10,000
@@AwesomeAlexAdam dont listen to these high horse religious nutjobs. If ur saved ur body is a temple. I find that comment so wierd. Some ppl think they r more worthy of heaven and r not sinners. Fuck tards. Just ignore it
+Dan Kozlauskos Hello Dan, A question for you if you don't mind. I have been a diagnostic ultrasonographer for the last 34 years; am 63 y/o. I had the good fortune to be hired as a funeral assistant for 2 years in California while I did my ultrasound work at the hospital as well. Always wanted to be a funeral director. Sorry to say, I have no interest in returning to school. Any suggestions or encouragement for me as I leave my hospital work. Originally from Chicago, currently in Philly. I know, it IS my calling and I feel I shortchanged myself in life for not doing this earlier in life. Thank you ahead of time your help. Sam
+Sam Rocco just apply and see which funeral home will give you a try...start by getting death certicates signed...little by little work your way up thats how I started....good luck
Sam, you said you're in Philly. Pennsylvania requires a 2 year Funeral Service degree to be a Funeral Director / Embalmer (all one license). I'm licensed in PA. There are two schools in PA: one is in Pittsburgh (PIMS) and the other is in the Bethlehem area (Northampton Area Community College). You can also take your classes online through other states' programs, but you'd have to do clinicals (embalming labs) on site. Once done, you have to take and pass the National Board Exam and State Board Exam and do a one year internship. Then you get a full license. As for getting in... it can be very tough. Your best bet, as Dan said, is to talk to funeral directors around your area, work as an assistant on funerals and offer to run errands such as getting death certificates signed and doing removals. If you're reliable, you'll likely stick out in their minds and they can either bring you on as an intern or give you ideas of who to talk to. Good luck!
Perhaps you're afraid because you have yet to lose someone who means all the world to you? I used to be afraid as well, until I lost my husband who was the love of my life. That fear disappeared because I wanted to be with him and look upon him as Long as I possibly could; because I knew, once buried, I would Never see him again in this life. I believe the fear of the dead comes from watching Fictional scary movies ... at least that how I grew to fear the dead. By the time other family members began to pass away, there was no more fear for me.
These presentations make the whole subject of death and dying much easier to comprehend and accept. We’re all gonna die anyway so we might as well learn about what happens.
James Upton I toally agree with you James. There's a lot of good things and bad things about our profession. I been in this profession for the last 17 years. I have educated a lot of families on their affordable options when it comes to funeral services. I've chosen to be cremated however is important to that my family creates a lovely life celebration service with family or friends, because every human being has a life story that must be told. Cheers
It's more expensive to get a burial than it is to embalm. But I'm totally with home funerals and home viewing, it's just very difficult to have cleared
Pretty sure embalming is required most places, because a body starts to rot and smell after a few hours. But yes, in the old days they wrapped the person up, sometimes laying them on ice, and had the service within 24 hours. Also, modern funerals - and all the paperwork - confirm the person actually died and didn't try to fake their own death or whatever.
@UntrustedXSoul I worked at one for about 3 years before applying to medical school. Honestly, it really prepared me for my current job (EMT) and future career as a doctor. Never had any nightmares. Everyone's very respectful to the deceased and their families.
The crazy part about it is we don't know when we die and we don't know when we're dead. Families have feuds about funeral services, I want my family to know I won't know so don't fight.💜🕊️
I am not scared of death when you die you go to heaven and you are with the father the son and the holy spirit and the angels and I will be with my stepmum I miss her so much god bless you and keep you safe amen
Hey Mary & Maya, it generally differs on various aspects. Funeral homes have various ways of doing this and generally, it goes down to the type of urn, personal tradition, and other factors. Most of the time when I put ashes into an urn generally the urn is already ordered and at our place, so after we get done reducing the bone fragments to the granular form most call cremains or ashes, I have the plastic bag inside the urn already and ill just add the ashes in and seal the bag. That way if the urn does break the ashes aren't going to go everywhere.
That's why i suggested memorial societies. I'm a member of the Peoples Memorial Association of Washington. My parents were both cremated under a Peoples Memorial plan and buried at a local cemetery in what they called "cremation plots" - the two feet or so of space between the ends of regular graves. The cremations and plot together cost less than $1,500. My parents were both very adamant that expense was to be held down.
We will all meet this fate one day..I just hope that when it's my time to go, my family plays Drop it Like It's Hot as they're putting me into the ground...LMFAO
Much respect for the people who do this job...you have to have your A game, all the time...there is no room for error...God bless the funeral directors...
This would be very different at a traditional Jewish funeral home, where embalming is not done, and cremation is not encouraged. Also, Jewish funeral homes usually do not hold viewings except for the close family names. However, the services themselves are usually held in a chapel on the premises. Plus the caskets are supposed to be plain pine boxes. But just like some Jews are now opting for cremation, others may be going in the other direction and opting for personalized caskets.
+rslitman Yes, and everything you mentioned is done by this mortuary and by most others. While almost all funeral homes know and do provide services to almost any religion or belief, there are many homes that cater more toward a particular religion, most commonly Judaism and Catholicism in the US, usually depending upon region..
There is a Jewish funeral home in the nearest city to me that takes care of most of the deceased Jewish people in the area. Thousands per year. They told me that embalming is done on more and more of them.
This is the funeral INDUSTRY. They are there to make money off of the family of the dead person. I worked in a funeral home for three years and the biggest boast of the owner was that he could talk someone out of a simple cremation into a full scale funeral at ten times the cost. At a college for morticians it was 49 credits for a funeral directer's degree - 6 credits, embalming and cosmetology, 43 credits salesmanship and merchandising. Look up memorial societies to keep down the cost.
I am a funeral director apprentice they do not go over how much paper work is involved with every thing that is done in a funeral home that is like one of the biggest things that we do
@Alphabex8 The 'harvesting of organs' is done in a hospital, I can't remember what the 'window' is though, I think no more than 2hrs after the death occurs, it's a surgical procedure like any other just minus the anestesia (sorry for the spelling) then once done, the body is closed & released to the family/funeral home. All done with respect to the person/body, again, like any other surgical procedure.
Good point, but though the approximate consistency may be like sand, the actual makeup might not be the same. Cremains are mineral but I personally don't know that volumetrically the weight is the same. Never thought about it, but it makes sense that the two would be about the same (if not exactly) weight.
@cannoir Washing is almost always done, but embalming is usually an option. An unembalmed body won't "blow up" in short order unless other circumstances (heat, moisture, etc.) help that process along. An embalmed body in a casket will be preserved for a relatively long time, but not forever. Sooner or later, embalmed bodies also decompose, so you get the same effects - just at a later date.
I grew up just down the road from the local cemetery and I've been through there looking at graves and even went inside a crypt which was full with about 4-5 coffins.The door now is sealed up so you cant open it,but I didn't scare me then or now.
I just lost my love one so I understand how feel but he is in a better place looking down and saying I made it to heaven so don't be upset you will always have memories be strong and it will get easier god bless you and your family
@bigskillet9591 just out of curiosity (cause your last comment was made 7 months ago) did you follow through with getting into the funeral business? :)
All States requiring embalming by Law if you have any intentions of having a public viewing and the body has been dead more then 3 days; and rightly so, as dead bodies which start to decay carry all kinds of harmful bacteria's and possibilities for disease. A body that has not been embalmed should be buried within 72 hours, mandatory.
I hadn't thought about the microbiology standpoint with bacteria. I don't know much about burial, I'm more of the bury me in a plywood box in the backyard kind of guy.
Embalming is required if the family wishes to have a public viewing, long distance transportation, or long term storage. Other than that embalming is not required by any state. A family can always choose other options that don't entail embalming. Direct cremation and burials are done every day without embalming.
oh god I hate watching this stuff, was directed here by mistake, I don't want this, I want a hefty bag and thrown over a clift , I like hw they had it in the old days being buried in ur backyard
That scarred me for life. I started crying when I saw the enbalming room. My friend told me that they take the eye balls out and everything when they display the body in the casket so I wanted to see if it is true but this was too much. I am so scared to die now.
Yep I have already put my living will in place.... I choose to be an organ donor.. Help somebody else& burn the rest. Give my ashes to my babies via necklaces or urns. Whatever they choose
Thats what the new generation has turned the business into, back in the day when I first started in the industry, (1970) it was all about the family & giving the best service possible. It had to because the lady mortician, Mrs. L. T. (Mamie) Hewing had five funeral homes operating @ the same time, & every service was carried out w/precision performance. Once the service began, there was no talking among the professionals, everything was carried out by a look or motion from the mortician, & that worked until she was in a terrible car accident & one of her sisters was killed in the accident. The good old days. Today, a service is measured by how much money the family spends & how high u were up into society, they would get the mortician & owner & the best staff, & the service w/o money & society gets the left overs. Such a sad commentary, but true.
Walmart sells caskets? I had no idea. I know Costco does, and at a fraction of the cost as a funeral home and they ship the same day. Yeah a lot of people don't realize they are not obligated to buy anything at the funeral home. Best to begin looking in advance and compare prices. There's a huge difference.
Rebecca Coomes Yes, you can buy caskets in Costco too. But the quality of the caskets is dubious. I work for a mortuary and I've seen people bring is some ridiculously crappy caskets that they bought online, and after shipping costs they paid as much as if they had just bought the same style casket from the mortuary.
I am a funeral director and owner.The last man claims that "this generation" wants to personalize by buying caskets with golf clubs.In my opinion, personalizing merchandise is how some funeral homes sell more expensive products to families(did you hear him say "it's an emotional thing"?).The most important aspect is not what you buy but time for family and friends to share memories, visit together, maybe eat and drink.Those who sell,sell sell are ruining our business and perpetuating the stigma.
I live in a funeral home. My dad is the owner and director and I have helped out with everything that goes on. I see this all the time. This is nothing new or abnormal for me...it's my day to day life. And no, it is not creepy...it has taught me to never take life for granted.
Is this Paul Bearer and the Undertaker?
What I would give for a day in your shoes....really tho!
Is your name Vada Sultenfuss.?..just kidding probably never get to ask anyone that again..lol
Wow that sounds awesome to learn about. One day I'd love to just buy one and change nothing but the zoning.
Creepy funeral homes usually have good bad and trapped spirits gateways for demons fark that
Couldn't do it. I had an Uncle who did this work all his life, even lived in along with his immediate family the upper floor of the funeral home. Needless to say, as a kid I use to get really creeped out when we went to visit my Uncle because we had to go through of course the lower floor where the bodies were (already prepared for upcoming funerals). And my Mom and grandmother wanted to "see" who all was in the caskets on our way upstairs. Naturally I followed and looked because as a kid I sure wasn't going to be left alone on that floor by myself. I do respect and appreciate all who do this work with respect and great care for the deceased.
Am I the only one who finds death fascinating and the whole funeral process fascinating as well?
Nope. ;) I myself went to college for mortuary science and funeral service, and I finally start my first job in a funeral home in just a couple days. Yea!
annm861 I wonder about it every once in a while
dbzgal04. did u like
It fascinates me I'd love to do a green cemetery, but it's a bit late for me to start a project that huge alone. I'm going in the ground in a shroud in a green cemetery when I die. Ashes to ashes, dust to dust.
Laura Lovesthestones. Ok weirdo
I appreciate the relaxed tone of this video. No hyper-smiley host and millions of jump cuts, no fake sadness and corny puns. Just chill dudes having a chill conversation about a career.
A very big thank you to all the people who take care of our loved ones once they're dead. You have all the respect of the world. You are admired for your services. Thank you once again.
They were once like you, and pretty soon you'll be like them.
i seen a Tomb Stone one time that said about the same thing you just stated
I saw an epitaph one day and it said "as you are I once was. As I am you one day shall be."
Know you now as you walk by
That as you are so once was I
And as I am so must you be
Prepare for death and follow me...
Prose from a tombstone
@@grammamarth6681 That's VERY true!
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This is a world that many people dont know about. So , these videos are very important , and informative. Thx for put it out there.
My father passed away at home around midnight this past March. The death was somewhat expected with Hospice to have started the next day. My mom called all the children and then called EMS. My sister actually called me first and when I saw her name on caller ID I knew exactly why she was calling. Because he died at home the police were contacted and "secured the scene". About 2:00 AM the coroner arrives dressed in a tie and jacket. He looked like he was going to a nice dinner. All of us had to leave the room while he investigated the scene. About 30 minutes later he relieves the police from the room and then starts interviewing the family. At around 3:00 AM two young girls in their 20's arrive in a black mini-van dressed in white shirts, black sweaters with the funeral home insignia, and black slacks. My father weighed about 225 lbs and these young ladies were able to move him from his bed to their stretcher without any assistance (although we offered assistance). These young ladies asked us to leave the room for about 10 minutes while they prepared his body. Then they allowed the entire family back into the room to say our final goodbye before he was taken directly to the funeral home. I never gave a single thought previously that there is an entire workforce working 2:00 AM every night transporting dead people to funeral comes or coroner's office. It was a night that I will never forget.
I have been a hospice social worker but i could not do this type of work. Its good that we all have different skill sets.
Thank you for this behind the scene look at a funeral home.
thanks for sharing behind the scenes, this was great.
I'm a former EMT for many years, I'll admit the first body that moved when I least expected it and I was alone within 30'of my partner scared the hell out of me!
These folks are some of the most intelligent, most compassionate folks I've ever met. They did a superb job with my dad with his cremation, memorial service, and interment last October. Just beautiful.
I work in the industry. U wouldnt believe what they charge for use of the kitchen. Nothing is inexpensive. The people here are good people. It is the prices that are ridiculous.
As a graduate student, I took a health course in death, dying, and bereavement. The title sounds as if it would be morbid and depressing, but that was one of the best classes I ever completed. It was not morbid, but more of an appreciation of life course.
im watching this because i wanna know what they did too my grandma ... i cant believe she gone
It's okay. Things will get better. My Aunt and Grandma passed away in the same week. I thought I would never get over it. You will think about them everyday but crying helps!
My grandma passed last Friday and today is the funeral. I can't believe she is gone either
Shautiana Sullivan mine passed away Wednesday... funeral was today :(
I know ti's been a year, but I just wanted remind you that the embalming process is meant for you (the family). It's intended to allow closure and reflection. In my case, it allowed me to say goodbye to a few people who died while I was out of town.
Colin Masterson same...my aunt and grandma passed away...but 3 months apart...it’s really a hard thing...I miss there voice..there hugs...and everything about them...but you just gotta be strong😊
Funeral employees are always the last people to let you down.
I really don't care what they do to my body. But I want a comedian telling jokes at my funeral.
shares mother 93 years old
Barry Sabahat amen fam
Your amazing your like my dead brother he was like u a joker I miss him u take care
@@juliebromley5998 you too. RIP brother. 😢
@@Barzins1 bless thank u
Max respect for those who donate their bodies for medical training.
My Dad has that same Urn @2:19. RIP to all who have gone before us. I enjoyed this video.
I live about 10 miles from New London where this funeral home is. Nice to human bodies treated with such respect.
My husband was cremated 2 yrs ago . No casket . I’m curious if they wrapped a sheet around him , or nothing at all ?
In our area , it is customary to “rent “ caskets if a cremation follows .
Thank you so much for posting this video. I've always wondered about what goes on behind the scenes. I recently had an a cousin and two uncles pass in the recent years. I'm still coping with these losses. But each day gets a little better.
architecture student here, final project of the semester is a funeral home in a venetian style, your video was very detailed and helpful, thank you kindly
thanks for the upload
“As big as you or as thin as me” 😂 I see what he did there
I was confused... Was he making a joke? Lol
This is a job I couldn't have. I would have a heart attack & die right there if someone's eyes poped open while I'm working on them like he just said.
The funeral industry definitely isn't for everyone.
it's not for everyone. I have been working for one for 6 months now and there are weird moments. You need nerves of steel sometimes.
Keisha Curry I am with you there I don't find death fasenating at all I could not work in that kind of business at all
Keisha Curry was
Long as they don't ask me if my cigarette tastes cool!
We loved this Funeral Home, very professional and courteous staff, inspiring services on behalf of our loved one and family. We saved 3k on the casket by ordering online and having it flown in as well, beautiful casket from Best Price Caskets and the funeral home was so gracious about it, we couldn't be happier :-)
I'm glad this video was made I've always wanted to work in a funeral home I currently take care of abandoned graves
This I feel was done in good taste ,wasn't morbid and face it this will happen to all of us,I hope I have someone as kind as these folks seem
Started out in criminal justice. Witnessed an autopsy. The odor was intense. Worked at a hospital. Witnessed even "stranger" things.
@Ron DeVita I will attend a funeral this 26th of August. My question is, what should I expect? I never been to one!
Just looking at the inside of a funeral home gives me the Heebie-jeebies .. Respect to those who do this type of work!
Thank you so much for posting this video! Doing a career planning project, I think I could do this..
why am I watching this ? 😱
u need boyfriend
It does happen to us all.whether you watch it or not.
, isn't it a man why do you care
You find it interesting..
Why am I reading all the comments?
The funeral home is big bussiness, it's a place that we all will stop on by sooner or later.....
Thanks for the video.
What most people don't realize is that, in most states, you can act as your own funeral director and do the funeral at home. What that means is transporting the body yourself, washing and dressing the body, keeping it on dry ice for three days, and having visitation where you are most comfortable--in your own home. Not being so removed from the process by relinquishing all care of the person you love to a stranger is incredibly healing and costs very little compared to the ave cost of $10,000
I'm glad you posted this. I am very interested in becoming a funeral director, and it's nice to get a closer look at what I may be doing someday.
This comment is 12 years old. How's that dream coming? I too am considering funeral directing as a career
alot of people seem to be opting for cremation nowdays due to the cost of funerals
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It's way cheaper, and most people dont like the idea of rotting in a casket
I think it's disrespectful to the body., even though the body is a temple, if you're saved.
So Marilyn what your saying is that if your not saved your body is not a temple Is that correct
@@AwesomeAlexAdam dont listen to these high horse religious nutjobs. If ur saved ur body is a temple. I find that comment so wierd. Some ppl think they r more worthy of heaven and r not sinners. Fuck tards. Just ignore it
What AN AMAZING PLACE you are doing an amazing job X
Thank you for this information
this is what I do, 13 yrs and counting.
+Dan Kozlauskos
Hello Dan,
A question for you if you don't mind. I have been a diagnostic ultrasonographer for the last 34 years; am 63 y/o. I had the good fortune to be hired as a funeral assistant for 2 years in California while I did my ultrasound work at the hospital as well. Always wanted to be a funeral director. Sorry to say, I have no interest in returning to school. Any suggestions or encouragement for me as I leave my hospital work. Originally from Chicago, currently in Philly. I know, it IS my calling and I feel I shortchanged myself in life for not doing this earlier in life. Thank you ahead of time your help. Sam
+Sam Rocco just apply and see which funeral home will give you a try...start by getting death certicates signed...little by little work your way up thats how I started....good luck
Sam, you said you're in Philly. Pennsylvania requires a 2 year Funeral Service degree to be a Funeral Director / Embalmer (all one license). I'm licensed in PA.
There are two schools in PA: one is in Pittsburgh (PIMS) and the other is in the Bethlehem area (Northampton Area Community College). You can also take your classes online through other states' programs, but you'd have to do clinicals (embalming labs) on site.
Once done, you have to take and pass the National Board Exam and State Board Exam and do a one year internship. Then you get a full license.
As for getting in... it can be very tough. Your best bet, as Dan said, is to talk to funeral directors around your area, work as an assistant on funerals and offer to run errands such as getting death certificates signed and doing removals. If you're reliable, you'll likely stick out in their minds and they can either bring you on as an intern or give you ideas of who to talk to.
Good luck!
Dan Kozlauskos I have mad respect for you
much respect for the work you do
I want to be an mortician so bad omg this is so relaxing to me I've seen my uncle do bodies as a young girl and I was never scared
"as thin as me" gave did me a chuckle on a somber topic
thanks for posting.this is very intersting.I visited a funeral home when i was in high school
I built my own funeral urn. Made from the headboard of the first bed my wife and I shared.
7700Purplexity Damn thats special
Wow
So romantic.💞
pussy
Awe that's beautiful
I have to admit I am scared of the dead.
Perhaps you're afraid because you have yet to lose someone who means all the world to you? I used to be afraid as well, until I lost my husband who was the love of my life. That fear disappeared because I wanted to be with him and look upon him as Long as I possibly could; because I knew, once buried, I would Never see him again in this life. I believe the fear of the dead comes from watching Fictional scary movies ... at least that how I grew to fear the dead. By the time other family members began to pass away, there was no more fear for me.
Me too... but I see it this way we never die. Are bodies stop working but our souls live on. The earth is not our home.
my mom use to say ,itsnot the dead that's going to hurt you its the living. So true.
No one has to fear death if they are right with God.
CRaptor it okay just think of that as going to see the Lord ps I lost my mom last year
These presentations make the whole subject of death and dying much easier to comprehend and accept. We’re all gonna die anyway so we might as well learn about what happens.
Thank you
Looks like it costs a bomb. What's wrong with a simple pine coffin, no embalming, makeup or shit, lying in your own house, then church, then burial?
James Upton I toally agree with you James. There's a lot of good things and bad things about our profession. I been in this profession for the last 17 years. I have educated a lot of families on their affordable options when it comes to funeral services. I've chosen to be cremated however is important to that my family creates a lovely life celebration service with family or friends, because every human being has a life story that must be told.
Cheers
It's more expensive to get a burial than it is to embalm. But I'm totally with home funerals and home viewing, it's just very difficult to have cleared
@ James Upton---They couldn't have THAT, James !!! The big Funeral-parlour monopolies wouldn't make any MONEY off of you !!!!!
No $$ in it James Its as simple as that
Pretty sure embalming is required most places, because a body starts to rot and smell after a few hours.
But yes, in the old days they wrapped the person up, sometimes laying them on ice, and had the service within 24 hours.
Also, modern funerals - and all the paperwork - confirm the person actually died and didn't try to fake their own death or whatever.
Very well put together. Death is just a part of life. Found this vid interesting and informative. Why the negativity peeps?
Quick question.. what short cuts are they taking? Also, thanks for doing it the right way.
Why am i watching this 10 years later .
dying is easy, living is the hard part
I cudnt agree with you more
Be more worried wer ur souls going instead of death it'll happen to us all.. get with God n be rightous n live a godly life n be saved ..
@UntrustedXSoul I worked at one for about 3 years before applying to medical school. Honestly, it really prepared me for my current job (EMT) and future career as a doctor. Never had any nightmares. Everyone's very respectful to the deceased and their families.
The crazy part about it is we don't know when we die and we don't know when we're dead. Families have feuds about funeral services, I want my family to know I won't know so don't fight.💜🕊️
I love this profession : I drove a hearse for every transport.
Curiosity has alot to do with my interest... It was a blessing for me to do my MOM hair n make up....SHE WAS BACK TO NORMAL....
That a special way to share last time with your mom. 🙏
GOTTA LOVE The sales pitch at the end.
gee..........what a cheerful, uplifting video !!! : ]
I am not scared of death when you die you go to heaven and you are with the father the son and the holy spirit and the angels and I will be with my stepmum I miss her so much god bless you and keep you safe amen
I put my parents into their urns without opening the plastic bag.
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Too smart... Lol I like...
Hey Mary & Maya, it generally differs on various aspects.
Funeral homes have various ways of doing this and generally, it goes down to the type of urn, personal tradition, and other factors. Most of the time when I put ashes into an urn generally the urn is already ordered and at our place, so after we get done reducing the bone fragments to the granular form most call cremains or ashes, I have the plastic bag inside the urn already and ill just add the ashes in and seal the bag. That way if the urn does break the ashes aren't going to go everywhere.
That's why i suggested memorial societies. I'm a member of the Peoples Memorial Association of Washington. My parents were both cremated under a Peoples Memorial plan and buried at a local cemetery in what they called "cremation plots" - the two feet or so of space between the ends of regular graves. The cremations and plot together cost less than $1,500. My parents were both very adamant that expense was to be held down.
Very interesting video. Thank you.
i am actually curious about this. i desire to do this as a career
same here!
same
Go for it, and good luck! ;) Have you looked up mortuary colleges yet?
dbzgal04 nah i havent.... but i should start
Victoria Jones try gupton Jones in Atlanta GA
We will all meet this fate one day..I just hope that when it's my time to go, my family plays Drop it Like It's Hot as they're putting me into the ground...LMFAO
dfl ik I'm late put it in your will
boris paul 69 : you have a suspiciously morbid sense of humor . I love it.
I just hope and pray that every thing goes well tomorrow
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Much respect for the people who do this job...you have to have your A game, all the time...there is no room for error...God bless the funeral directors...
CREMATORIUM... let me BE... CREMATORIUM... just leave me alone...
Man, those instruments shown at 3:20 are so old and overused, can you imagine how many dead folks they were used upon?
Very well done.
Great job !! Nice home
This would be very different at a traditional Jewish funeral home, where embalming is not done, and cremation is not encouraged. Also, Jewish funeral homes usually do not hold viewings except for the close family names. However, the services themselves are usually held in a chapel on the premises. Plus the caskets are supposed to be plain pine boxes. But just like some Jews are now opting for cremation, others may be going in the other direction and opting for personalized caskets.
+rslitman Yes, and everything you mentioned is done by this mortuary and by most others. While almost all funeral homes know and do provide services to almost any religion or belief, there are many homes that cater more toward a particular religion, most commonly Judaism and Catholicism in the US, usually depending upon region..
There is a Jewish funeral home in the nearest city to me that takes care of most of the deceased Jewish people in the area. Thousands per year.
They told me that embalming is done on more and more of them.
they get buried standing up so the change don't fall out of there pockets
This is the funeral INDUSTRY. They are there to make money off of the family of the dead person. I worked in a funeral home for three years and the biggest boast of the owner was that he could talk someone out of a simple cremation into a full scale funeral at ten times the cost. At a college for morticians it was 49 credits for a funeral directer's degree - 6 credits, embalming and cosmetology, 43 credits salesmanship and merchandising. Look up memorial societies to keep down the cost.
I am a funeral director apprentice they do not go over how much paper work is involved with every thing that is done in a funeral home that is like one of the biggest things that we do
@Alphabex8 The 'harvesting of organs' is done in a hospital, I can't remember what the 'window' is though, I think no more than 2hrs after the death occurs, it's a surgical procedure like any other just minus the anestesia (sorry for the spelling) then once done, the body is closed & released to the family/funeral home. All done with respect to the person/body, again, like any other surgical procedure.
I had no idea that ashes weighed as much as sand!😐
Good point, but though the approximate consistency may be like sand, the actual makeup might not be the same. Cremains are mineral but I personally don't know that volumetrically the weight is the same. Never thought about it, but it makes sense that the two would be about the same (if not exactly) weight.
We Christians, by nature, should desire to do good deeds, but good deeds are not what gets you to heaven. It's salvation through Jesus. :)
Amen! 🙏🏻😎👍
Shut up
Very nice documentary.
I want someone to play Queen's "another bites the dust" at my funeral.
2:23 ain’t no way I’ll be doing that without a mask or gloves ..I’m not about to be breathing in no human ashes
@Ethan Stilwagen hell i don’t care
yeaaaa how I wish I could live forever though haha
@cannoir Washing is almost always done, but embalming is usually an option. An unembalmed body won't "blow up" in short order unless other circumstances (heat, moisture, etc.) help that process along.
An embalmed body in a casket will be preserved for a relatively long time, but not forever. Sooner or later, embalmed bodies also decompose, so you get the same effects - just at a later date.
I grew up just down the road from the local cemetery and I've been through there looking at graves and even went inside a crypt which was full with about 4-5 coffins.The door now is sealed up so you cant open it,but I didn't scare me then or now.
This is what i would like to do as a career.
Me? I'd rather be a porn star. But hey, we all have our dreams.
I'm so sad. my grandad just passed away. I'm so sad
Thank you for your thoughts!
+Niki Banks Deepest condolences!
I just lost my love one so I understand how feel but he is in a better place looking down and saying I made it to heaven so don't be upset you will always have memories be strong and it will get easier god bless you and your family
Me too. My 3rd brother down from me died last week. Now there are only 3 of us left out of 7 children.
Blessed are they that mourn, for they shall be comforted.
From stroller to casket, they profit from our first breath to our last.
@bigskillet9591 just out of curiosity (cause your last comment was made 7 months ago) did you follow through with getting into the funeral business? :)
I want Rush played at my funeral! Play 2112!
Zudemaster,I want funeral for a friend by Elton John played at mine.
and the word funeral also got the word fun in it too...Woo Hoo.
also the Undertaker and Paul Bearer
Thanks
I love this job. I work in Brazil
1:30 so there are states that actually require embalming by law? talk about governments not knowing their bounds.
All States requiring embalming by Law if you have any intentions of having a public viewing and the body has been dead more then 3 days; and rightly so, as dead bodies which start to decay carry all kinds of harmful bacteria's and possibilities for disease. A body that has not been embalmed should be buried within 72 hours, mandatory.
I hadn't thought about the microbiology standpoint with bacteria. I don't know much about burial, I'm more of the bury me in a plywood box in the backyard kind of guy.
Embalming is required if the family wishes to have a public viewing, long distance transportation, or long term storage. Other than that embalming is not required by any state. A family can always choose other options that don't entail embalming. Direct cremation and burials are done every day without embalming.
oh god I hate watching this stuff, was directed here by mistake, I don't want this, I want a hefty bag and thrown over a clift , I like hw they had it in the old days being buried in ur backyard
lisaanne thomas LOL! I don't think anyone would want to buy your house after that! LOL
Am watching dis vedio cause mi wan know what dem do to mi Brother still cant believe him gone sigh rip
That scarred me for life. I started crying when I saw the enbalming room. My friend told me that they take the eye balls out and everything when they display the body in the casket so I wanted to see if it is true but this was too much. I am so scared to die now.
How long after you embalm does it take to set up in the body?
Money money money!!!!!!!|
Yep I have already put my living will in place.... I choose to be an organ donor.. Help somebody else& burn the rest. Give my ashes to my babies via necklaces or urns. Whatever they choose
What are you complainung about? Someone has to plant you so I'd pay them well for the dignity of service .
Thats what the new generation has turned the business into, back in the day when I first started in the industry, (1970) it was all about the family & giving the best service possible. It had to because the lady mortician, Mrs. L. T. (Mamie) Hewing had five funeral homes operating @ the same time, & every service was carried out w/precision performance. Once the service began, there was no talking among the professionals, everything was carried out by a look or motion from the mortician, & that worked until she was in a terrible car accident & one of her sisters was killed in the accident. The good old days. Today, a service is measured by how much money the family spends & how high u were up into society, they would get the mortician & owner & the best staff, & the service w/o money & society gets the left overs. Such a sad commentary, but true.
Agree.peoples feelings are played on.
Yeah those funeral home caskets are ridiculously priced.
You can buy caskets at Walmart. Seriously. And funeral homes HAVE to allow it. They are usually shipped within a day of order. Whodathunk it?
Walmart sells caskets? I had no idea. I know Costco does, and at a fraction of the cost as a funeral home and they ship the same day. Yeah a lot of people don't realize they are not obligated to buy anything at the funeral home. Best to begin looking in advance and compare prices. There's a huge difference.
Rebecca Coomes Yes, you can buy caskets in Costco too. But the quality of the caskets is dubious. I work for a mortuary and I've seen people bring is some ridiculously crappy caskets that they bought online, and after shipping costs they paid as much as if they had just bought the same style casket from the mortuary.
***** Actually, it depends on your state laws.
FEDERAL law requires funeral homes to accept privately purchased caskets. Whether they like it or not.
I am a funeral director and owner.The last man claims that "this generation" wants to personalize by buying caskets with golf clubs.In my opinion, personalizing merchandise is how some funeral homes sell more expensive products to families(did you hear him say "it's an emotional thing"?).The most important aspect is not what you buy but time for family and friends to share memories, visit together, maybe eat and drink.Those who sell,sell sell are ruining our business and perpetuating the stigma.
I've always been creeped out my morgues/funeral homes, but this video makes it seem much mor clinical