Weaponized incompetence is a behavior pattern where one partner pretends to be bad at simple tasks to get out of shared responsibilities. E.g burning food so that you don't ask him to cook again.
Equality is not wanting to be identical but wanting a state of having equal political, social, economic rights (right to vote, to fair trial, to education, to own property/enter legal contracts, to hold public office, to fair wages). Chivalry (wanting your door opened is like wanting to wear a scarf) is a matter of personal preference, i.e., neither here nor there matters gender equality. Whenever you are confused about what gender equality comprises, think of the other "forms of equality", such as racial equality, and what exactly those of minority race(s) (encompassing all genders) mean when they seek racial equality, they are not seeking to be whites. Or when persons with disabilities push for equality, etc.
If my husband every brings a side chick to my house, I won't even fight him. I will just find a side guy, bring him and we shall live as one big happy family. The 4 of us. It takes a village after all aiiiiii.
Once a relative was staying at my house and I came late from work only to find they had cooked just for themselves without considering me. My house, my food and they couldn’t even spare a thought. Never felt so disrespected like that
Don't disrespect back if someone disrespects you because you will be allowing someone to change you into a person you are not...its better you dissociate or love them from a distance if it has come to that...
Aki the way I related with Julia about how stunned you become and continue with tasks after a disrespectful episode just shook me. Now I am an alright human but mahn! The things I have ignored in some relationships are inexcusable. Weuh! Lemme go heal again.
Disrespect = lack of due regard. Any time someone doesn't give you (or you don't give) due regard its straight up disrespect. The standard for respect is so high that it requires humility to fully give it. And disrespect is not a petty offence. One act is enough to give you enough information to let you know who are dealing with. Also goes hand in hand with forgiveness/grace because ego always looks out for no.1. in which case how would due regard be given to anyone if you're the most important character? These concepts are transcendent
According to Google, mansplaining is the ''explanation of something by a man, typically to a woman, in a manner regarded as condescending or patronizing.'' When men explain a concept to a woman the same way they would talk to a child because they think you are not able to comprehend the 'complex' details. It mostly happens in the work place for example, they are both competent and certified financial modelers but the man will explain a concept to the woman peer like he is talking to a child.
Jules is such a mirror image ... I like how she was honest bout how she handles provocations ..as a reactive person I strike right back.n yes the kind of men uphold women's rights n protects women do sweep feet off.yes the higher rd is quite a challenge
The reason people overreact on things definitely relates to their perceived ego. But the truth is the ego doesn't really exist, it is an illusion. Once you realise that, it becomes so easy to not react at all to things.
On having a problem and telling the other spouse, yes Jules, we need context😂! Sometimes it really gets out of hand and you go to the spouse to see if they can help!
Kila time Jules akiongea I see myself in those stories 🤣🤣🤣...life full of drama.....aaah! you just reminded me of that church leader when I was in highschool 😂😂...then the lady went home to tell my Dad 🤦..giiiiirrl, this is my buddy!!
Not me watching this on a Tuesday, sema kuchelewa🤦🏿♀️. Interesting convo👌🏾🔥. I live for Jules storoz😅🔥. Nyinyi ni warembo💕💕. Just Ivy looking good🤓. Lornzie❤️.
Jules like seriously u are my soul sister it's like everything uve gone through I have as well.. your likes, talents.. we share a lot it's crazy to me. I love u girl...
It's not really disrespectful if you disrespect someone for disrespecting you. It's just reciprocation. What you give is what you receive. It's not even about revenge
Fantastic seeing you all lovely ladies…love the engagement..Julez you’ve really lived walai, we need more info huko tiny little channel! I’m stuck hapo my man giving my friend time to talk about me in my absence…I can’t move past there I’ve not even tried to think whether it’s right or wrong of my friend..I’m frozen there. There’s different levels of loyalty at play here, my soon to be x friend on one and my man : read hubby on another..once man is elevated from boyfriend to fiancé to hubby..I wouldn’t except this move.
I am doing my MBA in Finance. But every once in a while, some guy who doesn't work in field or hasn't gone to school for it will try to mansplain basic Finance to me. I'm sure they wouldn't do it if I we're a guy.
@@honeststranger1070 the act of explaining something to someone in a way that suggests that they are stupid; used especially when a man explains something to a woman that she already understands. It's often rooted in the assumption that a man is likely to be more knowledgeable than a woman.
You babes have triggered me from here to Timbuktu. 😩 My then hubby brought home his side babe when he thought I was at my parents. Side babe walked in first and welcomed me into my matrimonial home. 🥴 I was speechless.
I don't take gizzard and I can't take kuku kienyeji thigh. They were and are still dad's parts. You know the way some foods are not in your taste pallet and you have to learn, that's me with gizzards. 😂
I feel its so disrespectful to announce other people's news ,like success or even failures without their permission or before they do. like we've seen alot of people sharing something like pregnancy news ,miscarriage or promotion or even new business news before the owner. RESPECT PRIVACY, .u never know what one is going through to come to terms with the situation or news.
I keep talking to myself everytime am on the road. My mum keeps telling me to be nice and calm. It's annoying and disrespectful for people to drive like they are the only ones on the road.
0:33 to 0:39 is the reason why divorce should be normalized; people act like am crazy for saying this but that's one disrespectful circumstance that nobody should have to go through
Great program, I thoroughly enjoyed it; so refreshing. Word of advice, stick to your accent, it's more authentic, the imported one (American) does not add value to the program, secondly try your best to refrain from explicits, it also does not add value to the positivity of this program. Young ladies, remain resolute, keep the faith and stay+. Jah Bless!!
For sure when talking with the girls its easier to call out bs, but as its happening to you in private, i too get in shock and i'm unable to respond/process immediately and let the disrespect fly Jules-thank you for being open to sharing all the things we too go through Ivy-thank you for such topnotch moderating and for this topic on disrespect Shikie-thank you for always having the words to express feelings we all feel but struggle to word them
That's Hepeating (He + Repeating). When you say something and they pretend not hear or dismiss it but then repeat/reframe that same concept to you as if it was their idea. Like when you are in a meeting and you present an idea and it's not acknowledged but a man repeats it and they're applauded and given credit. Like if
@@muchemikimani5318 It's men who don't respect the humanity of women. Like these things are perfectly okay to do to maintain an upper hand over women. It happens a lot.
mansplaining is also when a man explains something a woman had just explained, like in corporate, men who like to say, "what she is tying to say'...then goes ahead to say what the lady had said..
Applauding Jules for choosing to be vulnerable every single episode. I learn so much from your experiences. Your fits are dope AF 🔥
Weaponized incompetence is a behavior pattern where one partner pretends to be bad at simple tasks to get out of shared responsibilities. E.g burning food so that you don't ask him to cook again.
Well said!
Or... Pretending not to know how to do an engine swap on a vehicle 🤔
Equality is not wanting to be identical but wanting a state of having equal political, social, economic rights (right to vote, to fair trial, to education, to own property/enter legal contracts, to hold public office, to fair wages).
Chivalry (wanting your door opened is like wanting to wear a scarf) is a matter of personal preference, i.e., neither here nor there matters gender equality.
Whenever you are confused about what gender equality comprises, think of the other "forms of equality", such as racial equality, and what exactly those of minority race(s) (encompassing all genders) mean when they seek racial equality, they are not seeking to be whites. Or when persons with disabilities push for equality, etc.
Thank you for the clear explanation. Right on it.
@@emmangumo3375 🤝 you're most welcome 🙂
Jules is always relatable and always willing to share her experiences i love that about her
🤣Walai Jules needs a whole episode to tell us all the shit she's been through 😂😂 OMG, it's a lot! Jules are you okay?? 😭
Every episode is a new story
It's aloot aki😭😂😂
@Rukundo58 yeeesss
You remember Jules told us she loves bad boys🤣😣. Those boys give character development a good one🥺! I had to leave them alone juu wueh💔
😂😂😂I know
First born daughters😂⚡sometimes I think I'm Jules when she was 20
If my husband every brings a side chick to my house, I won't even fight him. I will just find a side guy, bring him and we shall live as one big happy family. The 4 of us. It takes a village after all aiiiiii.
😂😂😂😂😂😂 ah this made my day
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Atomic bomb
Jules you are so amazing for being open. honest and vulnerable. We really appreciate that about you. ❤
So true ❤️love how real she is👍
Ivy your moderation is even more fabulous in this episode ❤️❤️
It's the little giggle for me at the begining
Once a relative was staying at my house and I came late from work only to find they had cooked just for themselves without considering me. My house, my food and they couldn’t even spare a thought. Never felt so disrespected like that
The nerve😅
Don't disrespect back if someone disrespects you because you will be allowing someone to change you into a person you are not...its better you dissociate or love them from a distance if it has come to that...
Oh yes, stay away from them. It doesn't leave them unchanged either. They know they're not worth your attention anymore.
Aki the way I related with Julia about how stunned you become and continue with tasks after a disrespectful episode just shook me. Now I am an alright human but mahn! The things I have ignored in some relationships are inexcusable. Weuh! Lemme go heal again.
Same here 🙆🏾♀️..but it’s never too late to rewrite your story. Happy healing to you 😊
Disrespect = lack of due regard.
Any time someone doesn't give you (or you don't give) due regard its straight up disrespect. The standard for respect is so high that it requires humility to fully give it. And disrespect is not a petty offence. One act is enough to give you enough information to let you know who are dealing with. Also goes hand in hand with forgiveness/grace because ego always looks out for no.1. in which case how would due regard be given to anyone if you're the most important character? These concepts are transcendent
Dating someone and they are also seeing someone else. That's disrespectful
I love how Ivy listens so intently before answering back
"That's the end of my story" 😂😂😂 don't I love how Jules explains herself😂
Thank you so much for adding subtitles, From SA 🇿🇦 with love.
I almost thought you guys won't post today....the disappointed... I'm glad you did....you make my Mondays better
Girl same!! Happy they posted
According to Google, mansplaining is the ''explanation of something by a man, typically to a woman, in a manner regarded as condescending or patronizing.'' When men explain a concept to a woman the same way they would talk to a child because they think you are not able to comprehend the 'complex' details. It mostly happens in the work place for example, they are both competent and certified financial modelers but the man will explain a concept to the woman peer like he is talking to a child.
Mansplaining an example ~~ When a man will automatically feel the need to "direct a lady" park or "exit" a parking spot 😃
Aki for me it's the opposite. I welcome it because sijui kupark uuui🤣🤣🤣
Mschew
@@Mumo_Mailu purrrfect real life come back. Men are just being helpful. Radical feminism is a problem.
And I welcome that because exiting parking spots esp via reverse to me is an extreme spott.
Ai. No they only do that if they see you're struggling otherwise it's a welcome for me I love it
Jules is such a mirror image ... I like how she was honest bout how she handles provocations ..as a reactive person I strike right back.n yes the kind of men uphold women's rights n protects women do sweep feet off.yes the higher rd is quite a challenge
The reason people overreact on things definitely relates to their perceived ego. But the truth is the ego doesn't really exist, it is an illusion. Once you realise that, it becomes so easy to not react at all to things.
On having a problem and telling the other spouse, yes Jules, we need context😂! Sometimes it really gets out of hand and you go to the spouse to see if they can help!
I've learned so much on this channel, growing up with no aunties to teach you some stuff, Good work... I Love you guys
Kila time Jules akiongea I see myself in those stories 🤣🤣🤣...life full of drama.....aaah! you just reminded me of that church leader when I was in highschool 😂😂...then the lady went home to tell my Dad 🤦..giiiiirrl, this is my buddy!!
"When we talk about equality and opportunity, we talk about cerebral opportunity..." -Priyanka Chopra.
The evening couldn't get any better. hot cup of coffee and an awesome vlog by 3 intelligent babes.
The amount of laughter i have had for the very last segment when Jules asked, "Are you still rolling?"
That Dude ...WTF...Food...I can't eat if she had nothing to eat...I would never!!
Thanks for highlighting the bit on culture, it's very disrespectful for culture to be disregarded
Watched the whole episode very entertaining. Ivy glowing as usual. Glasses on point.
Not me watching this on a Tuesday, sema kuchelewa🤦🏿♀️. Interesting convo👌🏾🔥. I live for Jules storoz😅🔥. Nyinyi ni warembo💕💕. Just Ivy looking good🤓. Lornzie❤️.
Julia is so beautiful. Inside and out.!!
Love this ladies
I learn so much from you guys
This was a fantastic segment! I’ve laughed so hard😂thank you ladies for always coming through with another banger!💃🏽
I Love Your Different Personalities...I Love The Laughter on Set...And How You Gel.
It’s so much fun watching your episodes. My highlight was at the end lol. With traffic etiquette lol
Jules like seriously u are my soul sister it's like everything uve gone through I have as well.. your likes, talents.. we share a lot it's crazy to me. I love u girl...
It's not really disrespectful if you disrespect someone for disrespecting you. It's just reciprocation. What you give is what you receive. It's not even about revenge
Besides the content,y’all ATE!!!! You girls are looking good👌🏾
Okay now I miss sweet lornzie 😩😭❤️
Ivy ivy and the whole Squad just soo cute ❣️
I strike right back, you disrespect me,! ni Mimi na wewe😂😂thank you Jules for always being vulnerable
😂😂
Jules and the stories 😂😂😂ivy needs to finish the boxer and pand t shirt story
Key lessons!
* Context is key always.
* Be mindful of your tone
* Disrespect is just DISRESPECT😂😂😂😂😂
Not automobile decorum 😭😭😭😭😭 We need that as an episode on its own
Fantastic seeing you all lovely ladies…love the engagement..Julez you’ve really lived walai, we need more info huko tiny little channel!
I’m stuck hapo my man giving my friend time to talk about me in my absence…I can’t move past there I’ve not even tried to think whether it’s right or wrong of my friend..I’m frozen there. There’s different levels of loyalty at play here, my soon to be x friend on one and my man : read hubby on another..once man is elevated from boyfriend to fiancé to hubby..I wouldn’t except this move.
"This watch looks expensive but it will only cost you 7500 Ksh" 😂😂😂😂
I truly admire Just Ivy Africa🥰, sijui ni nini😂😂
South Africa is here ❤😊😘
Lakini Julia umekapitia 😂😂😂
I am doing my MBA in Finance. But every once in a while, some guy who doesn't work in field or hasn't gone to school for it will try to mansplain basic Finance to me. I'm sure they wouldn't do it if I we're a guy.
What is mansplaining 😂😂....mnachukua terms za upuzi za hao woke feminsts majuu mnatumia hapa
@@honeststranger1070 the act of explaining something to someone in a way that suggests that they are stupid; used especially when a man explains something to a woman that she already understands.
It's often rooted in the assumption that a man is likely to be more knowledgeable than a woman.
@@honeststranger1070
You just have to level up. Ignorance is not cute.
@@honeststranger1070 watu walikuwa wakisoma ww ulikuwa unajikuna matako ukinusa !?? Mbuz ww😂
Ivy Ivy Ivy 😂😂😂I don't know why am laughing at "we didn't do anything"
You babes have triggered me from here to Timbuktu. 😩 My then hubby brought home his side babe when he thought I was at my parents. Side babe walked in first and welcomed me into my matrimonial home. 🥴 I was speechless.
I felt every single point here! Kwanza the driving ones! Let's not get there😭😭😭
Jules forgot to leave the link in the description box😭
Can you please guys bring in pumla as a guest from bump love uganda you girls would blend together lots
Jules is just the best. Realest person in these kenyan nets
Lite 🔥🔥🔥 quite informative. Hii nayo ni Beauty with lots of Brains🔥🔥🔥💯👌
😂😂😂😂😂 Jules...I love you for being honest and vulnerable.
Going for equality is where we go wrong. Equity is what we should be going for.( fairness)
I can relate with Shikkie , I bet it's the introversion, but all of you girls are awesome.
Ivy's fashion sense has improved...lol
Yes let's have the automobile etiquette video😂😂😂😂😂😂 there's so much to say!
I don't take gizzard and I can't take kuku kienyeji thigh. They were and are still dad's parts.
You know the way some foods are not in your taste pallet and you have to learn, that's me with gizzards. 😂
I looove Jules' braids. Do them more often.
Ivy your whole outfit....is FIRE!!!!! daaang!😍💥💥💥💥
I'm looking for that link that Jules said she'll add on the description below.
I feel its so disrespectful to announce other people's news ,like success or even failures without their permission or before they do. like we've seen alot of people sharing something like pregnancy news ,miscarriage or promotion or even new business news before the owner. RESPECT PRIVACY, .u never know what one is going through to come to terms with the situation or news.
Jules. Jules. 😂😂😂😂 hapo pa massage aki I am just face palming. Massage him as who?😂😂😂😂
You have a good sense of fashion, beautiful bodies, and sharp brains
i find it very disrespect when someone ask me about having children in arude way. i have infertility issue its not easy like everyone else
Not keeping time is disrespectful
We need a part 2 please ladies🤣😂
Yaay!
I'm always dancing to the intro!
Today I learnt so much vocabulary. Your English is amazing 👌
Aki Jules 😂😂😂😂ur tu stories are funny..
Shikie please tell me where you got that too and that trouser pleaseeee
I need to know. You look so good ❤
Top *^
I keep talking to myself everytime am on the road. My mum keeps telling me to be nice and calm. It's annoying and disrespectful for people to drive like they are the only ones on the road.
0:33 to 0:39 is the reason why divorce should be normalized; people act like am crazy for saying this but that's one disrespectful circumstance that nobody should have to go through
Equity > Equality for me.
Great program, I thoroughly enjoyed it; so refreshing. Word of advice, stick to your accent, it's more authentic, the imported one (American) does not add value to the program, secondly try your best to refrain from explicits, it also does not add value to the positivity of this program. Young ladies, remain resolute, keep the faith and stay+. Jah Bless!!
I had missed the energy like that of the last 2 minutes
On an unrelated note, how did the name Miss Tiramisu come about?
For sure when talking with the girls its easier to call out bs, but as its happening to you in private, i too get in shock and i'm unable to respond/process immediately and let the disrespect fly
Jules-thank you for being open to sharing all the things we too go through
Ivy-thank you for such topnotch moderating and for this topic on disrespect
Shikie-thank you for always having the words to express feelings we all feel but struggle to word them
I loveeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeed it! I loveeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeed it!
Lack of Regard** for other people.
Hey Jules,the footballer is Ozil...he was victimized for speaking up for women and muslim rights in China
Aki shiks dressed!!!❤️❤️❤️
You guys are looking glaaaaaaam
Did Jules just say ''he feeds me''😂😂
mansplaining is when a man says the exact same thing you've said and trys to take credit or pass it as their original thought/idea
And this happens in real life? Who are these people?
That's Hepeating (He + Repeating). When you say something and they pretend not hear or dismiss it but then repeat/reframe that same concept to you as if it was their idea.
Like when you are in a meeting and you present an idea and it's not acknowledged but a man repeats it and they're applauded and given credit.
Like if
@@muchemikimani5318
It's men who don't respect the humanity of women. Like these things are perfectly okay to do to maintain an upper hand over women. It happens a lot.
Its beyond ok to disrespect a disrespectful person. Ok not right😅.
Julia, it is possible the chapos and dengu had been prepared by the lady - ouch :-)
wow..this was such a great topic.
That was such an interesting episode/show.
Jules surely😂😂😂😂Chapo Ndengu
She was chapoed😂
mansplaining is also when a man explains something a woman had just explained, like in corporate, men who like to say, "what she is tying to say'...then goes ahead to say what the lady had said..
And I really hate it...juu he was last to say it ,it now looks like his idea
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Loving the set
our househelp AAFTER AASKING FFOUR TTIMES was still singing her weird songs
this is after i gave her extra cash, gum and even chocolate. but i learnt that u should show ppl ur good side after they earn it. not before
Shikie and Ivy’s reaction when Jules said she had been in a similar situation😂😂😂😂😂