Seeing my mother deal with young widowhood, I know it’s important to deal with unresolved issues as they come up. Get clarity about finances as you move through life so there will be no surprises or confusion about money. Ask the hard questions, so you both can have peace when the day comes to say goodbye.
I’ve been alone for a year since my husband passed. My greatest fear was being alone and now I’m living it. I miss the conversations with him, asking his advice on something, sharing meals together, traveling together, always holding hands, skipping through the parking lots. I have many beautiful memories. I just miss him so much. Being alone and not having anyone to talk to is hard. I know God is always with me. I know one day I’ll treasure our memories even more. Right now, I’m still hurting. With no children and hardly any family contact it’s pretty much me to get connected with my church family whom I’ve lost touch with. I need to find hobbies that I’m interested in. Thank you, Sandra, for this video. It’s encouraging to me. I know that my emotions can sidetrack me and keep me down and I need to be realistic with what needs to be done. Much love..,❤
@ Thank you! I’m not really strong, just know I want to find my purpose and move forward. It seems a long time,a year, but I feel like it was only yesterday. God is my strength.
I lost my husband in December so I’m new at this. We were marred over 40 years. There are days that feel like my heart is being torn out of my chest! The evenings are the worst. Thank you for this today. I really needed to hear this. We were so comparable and yes, we finished each other’s sentences always. As soon as the winter breaks, I live in Michigan, I will join the local senior center, they have an abundant programs plus lunches daily, so sometimes I won’t have to eat alone, plus they go on day trips and weekend getaways. Right now, I’vegot plenty to do I’m great as long as I can keep busy. It’s the downtime I have a hard time with.
@ I know it’s so hard right now for you. I agree the evenings are the worse. Sounds good to connect to the local center to get involved in activities. Will be praying for you. 🙏🏻❤️
I just lost my husband 2 weeks ago….i am like a zombie, just surviving the days….i miss him so much. We were married 42 years and were together all the time ….he had a stroke in October 2024 and passed in January 2025. …he could communicate with me these past 3 months and his biggest concern was me….he constantly would tell me….please take care of yourself, don’t worry about me….he was ready to pass on because he had so much wrong from the stroke , could not walk, etc., but his biggest fear was me….i just miss him so….blessings to all of you ….i know exactly how you feel 😂
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That is absolutely beautiful. I am a widow and I met the love of my life in my 40s as well and he was in his 50s. He passed away in 2014 unexpectedly. The way I cope as you asked, is living in the house that he and I built together really helps. There are many features here that are connected to him. This house and gardens meant the world to him and therefore it means the world to me now
Lost my husband 6 months ago transitioning through the grief. What helps is that I know he truly loved me and I loved him even enough to give him his wish to die at home with hospice. He said don’t be sad and I’ll see you on the other side, don’t be late. 😊 MCL got him in the end he was ready. Instead of thinking about ME, I’ve laid down my life for him in his dying days and that is both a gift and hard to do. Right here where I’m sitting until the day the Lord calls me home 💜Love what’s important right now.
My husband has been diagnosed with vascular dementia. It truly is a long goodbye and I miss the man and the companion he was. I am grateful for what we had, but I am trying to make the adjustment that I now must be “ alone” in so many ways. I joined an online support group that has helped. Thank you for sharing.
Being a person that has Alway's done"Research" into the Medical Field, I came across a Story on Someone that had been Told to Give this person MORE WATER. They had the Same Thing that you're speaking of. They Tried It. To their Amazement, the person was Simply... DE-HYDRATED.
Thank you for today’s video. I’m 75 and my husband of 46.5 years passed 3.75 years ago. Everything you mentioned is true and this has definitely been a bumpy journey that seems to change moment to moment. Seeing that you voiced my feelings helped me to once again understand and appreciate the reality of widowhood. It’s a comfort to know I’m not alone, even though I have wonderful, understanding, and supportive family and friends. Bless you, I send Love and Blessing to you. JOJO
Everything you said is right on point, Sandra. I have thought the same things many times. I lost my husband of 53 years last September and it’s the little things I miss the most; sharing a thought, talking about our day, saying goodnight, having a hug when we need one, me cooking and him doing the dishes. It’s the everyday things I miss, not so much the big things. Most days I’m okay now, but it can be a lonely life, even though my friends have been wonderful. Thank you for voicing my feelings, it helps to know I’m not the only one. Hugs Sandra and to all who are missing their other half. 💕
I heard a comedian describe marriage like this and it is sad but true; "Hey, I really like hanging out with you. Let's do it until one of us dies" It is the sad reality of "until death do us part" and young people at the alter getting married say it so flippantly...
I was marrying for 52 years, minus 3 years that he left me. I always say it was more devastating when he left me than when he died. He had Alzheimer’s for the last 7 years we were together. But when he “returned “ after he left, he was less selfish, more compassionate and caring. He became a really happy child as his Alzheimer’s progressed. It was a blessing because so many people became mean with that disease. I completely understand your missing Author. I feel the same but it took more than a year to forget those years he left me and I can look back and find such peace and contentment in all the good we had together. Sometimes i don’t believe that we shared the life we did… and it was a good and very exciting life. Thank you, as always, Sara. This was a lovely video
I know how you feel. I cared for my husband who had dementia and aphasia and he became a different person. He passed 1-1/2 years ago, but as you said, he left me several years before that and never returned. Even forgot who I was 😢
When we really invest in our spouse and relationship , and are their champion, best friend, advocate, sounding-board and nurturer, the loss of that companionship is huge. I’m sure the visit with son and family, and visiting that restaurant brought those feelings to the surface. I loved getting to see Arthur in action when you interviewed him on your balcony, his love of soup and using every pan you have to make pancakes. I think that is what he made. You two had a great run! Your lucky you have those videos to replay when you miss him
Sandra - you have great personality! You are so needed! I admire your never ending beauty, and warm positive attitude towards life again all odds. I am 72, I do not have your experiences but I love to transform your attitude to other aspects of my life. I nourish myself on you :)
Dear Sandra, this conversation deeply touched my heart❤. I am so sure that our passing loved ones become our special guardian angel and always guide and protect us, we are never alone 🙏
Sandra you are right. My husband passed away almost 10 years ago, and I remember the good times. Although I have seen other people (men) I never forget the love and companionship he gave me.
So true Sandra and thank you for sharing. It’s been 6 years and it seems Ike yesterday. after 50 really good years the silence is so loud. I miss that hand to reach for. I listen to you from Trinidad all the time. Thanks for sharing your wisdom with such honesty and grace ❤️🙏
I am afraid of the day that I may have to live alone 😢 . . . . I am experiencing the not-so-good memories fading away, Praise God . . . . Thank You Barbara, for sharing your wisdom ❤️
hi grandma Sandra, hope all is well with you. you look beautiful as always ❤ thank you for sharing this very personal conversation with us. this lesson about marriage is truly important, especially for young people like us who are not married yet. learning to compromise for another person is one of the toughest things to do, yet it is so crucial in a marriage. i appreciate you. take care and god bless you ...zac ❤
I’m recently engaged and my greatest fear is losing him. I’m 38 and it took me so long to find my true love and I’m so unbelievably happy, now I’m so scared of losing him.
Thank you Sandra for sharing your personal journey and loss, my husband passed away 7 months ago and it is still hurting so much. He was very ill for years, and now I do understand why he was sometimes difficult to understand,. But I know he did loved me. It wasn't a perfect marriage , but he was a good person. We were married for 27 years. I do miss him a lot. It's sucks to be alone, but life goes on. We just have to be kind to ourselves, one day we will be together together with our loved ones. God willing. Stay blessed Sandra.♥️🙏🦋💜
I’ve been widowed 4 yrs. I miss my person to hug, hold hands with, laugh Etc. Cherish your loved one. Let them know they matter & overlook their petty actions. Thanks Sandra
47 years of “compromise” I understand - oh boy do I miss him and the compromising. He has been gone just over a year - seems like yesterday and years ago at the same time. Sending love. Sue UK ❤
Wonderful words of reflection and wisdom. I was married for 32 years before my husband passed in 2023. We certainly had our ups and downs but I’m so thankful we hung in there during the rough spots. We had so many wonderful times together. Last year I took a little road trip to a place we enjoyed going to. It was a big step to go alone, but a wonderful trip for me. My husband was known for his super friendly personality and his inquisitive nature. We both worked hard but still found time for road trips, and our hobbies. I miss him but thankful for the memories. Thank you.
Sounds so much like me and my husband. Stuck through the hard times and my husband has that super friendly personality as well. He shines for the both of us and I appreciate having him still.
Lost my husband 7 months ago. We did everything together. I hate being alone. Yes, I do have children and grands, but they have lives of their own. I have no desire to do anything. I know that I have to change my mind set. Waiting for spring and hoping being outdoors more will help. It’s been very cold here in N.Y. Thank you Sandra for all your advice. You are such a blessing! 🙏❤️
@ thank you for asking. I’m just taking one day at a time. Some better than others. The schools are closed today so I’m watching my granddaughter, so that will keep me busy.💕
Beautiful ❤️ opening. ❤❤❤❤❤ life at 70 is hard, and no family is gone. Will be 6 years since my husband's passing never made friends here where i lived for 13 years was a care taker he was very sick a great man. Sad to say its just lonely people dont want new people in their lifes. I'm lucky in so many ways he left me where i don't have to worry lived in a senior gated community have everything here. But it's still lonely.
Dear Sandra, Great message again! It is always like that… When we lost someone/ something we remember only the good things about it when the time goes through… However, being alone is not necessary a bad thing. Plus you are not completely alone! You have your family and super wonderful MooShoo who loves you very much. Big hug❤️
My husband passed away 6 years ago. I miss him more with each passing year. It has been difficilt at timed to navigate my senior years now without him . I find myself ruminating about what I wished I would have said or done. Recently the dog we had together passed away. It was one of the worst losses of my life. I loved hat dog more than words could say. It really opened up the grief again. Sadly, and truthfully, I have now begun to prefer dogs over people.
It's been over 2 years since I lost my husband of 30 years to an aggressive cancer which took him quickly and painfully. He was 10 years older than me but you would never have guessed by looking at him. Like you, I never envisioned being a widow because he had longevity in his family. I thought there was a good chance I'd die first. His death was a shock and it changed me profoundly. I'm not the same person anymore. There's a sadness and a heaviness in me that I struggle to deal with. I still can't go to the restaurants we used to go to. I'm coping by doing many things differently and changing my patterns of living. I do cherish the memories and I'm grateful for the years we had but I miss him every minute of every day.
Sandra, thank you for your wisdom. I have been with my husband for 38 years, and I can echo your thoughts that the hardest part of marriage is the times when you have to find compromise. I also think it is true that we all come in to a partnership not having some of the skills we will need. There have been many books written about the subject of marriage, but we would probably have to buy them all to get us through a lifetime of couple hood and the issues that arise. How lucky you were to find Arthur and to have made a life of sharing and caring together.
My husband has had dementia for a long time. It is an ambiguous kind of grief and an anticipatory one. Because this is a progressive disease. It is hard watching your loved one fade away year after year. I miss him even though he is still here. I mostly miss not having that one person in the world who knew me and yet loved even my flaws. It has been a lonely journey. Fifteen years of caregiving is a long time.But I have accepted that the end is inevitable so I find joy in nature, my garden and playing with my beloved dogs. I am stronger and more resilient than I ever knew. I have become fearless.I really don’t know how the end will ultimately affect me, but I truly feel I will be happy that he has found peace at last. Thank you❤
My heart goes out to you. 15 years of caregiving! You must be an amazingly strong woman. I took care of my husband, who had dementia and aphasia for 4 years before I had to put him into skilled nursing because he became aggressive and unpredictable. Hardest thing I ever had to do. He passed away 1-1/2 years ago and I still miss the person who he used to be, who I fell in love with. I wish you strength and peace and am glad you are finding joy in nature and with your pets. God bless.
@ thank you. I am sorry for the loss of your beloved husband. I myself know that day is also coming and the grief will compound even more. For that I must continue to prepare.
You speak so eloquently from the soul while in your element. True beauty by most is something seen on the surface; but usually is within your heart and the palms of your hands where it is not always so easy to see... The biggest compliment to those we've loved is to always remember and miss them.
Excellent advice. Marriage is supposed to make us grow. Your soul mate may be someone you bump up against a lot. But working it out in a reasonably healthy way causes growth. I fear losing my beloved. This message is helping prepare me for being alone again one day. Thank you.
Hi Sandra, I know you will be ok but my heart hurts for your deep pain of loss. I truly understand and although I will be 76 and my husband will be 81, I thank God everyday and pray that we have each other for many more years. We met in 2012 and married in 2014 and these years have been the happiest of my life. I was married and divorced 2 times before the age of 50 then spent over 10 years alone, intentionally, not dating or interested in anything other than finding my true self and learning how to be true to myself. It is the best gift I have ever give to “me”! We surely don’t know what life will look like but we must make it the best, as well as we can with what we have now. “Being mindful”! Thank you for the beautiful video Sandra. I will remember you in my prayers. Love, Dee ❤
Thanks Sandra. Your story of the journey, guidance, and reflection of marriage touched me deeply. I lost my husband six months ago and when the tide of grief comes around its all good memories. Thank you for such an honest video.
The attachment we humans have to others is so deep and profound. Your words are wise, each partner in a personal relationship is important. I watched my dad slowly implode after my mom passed. It took 4 years but losing her killed his spirit to live and then his body. Thank You for your wisdom ❤
I still have the love of my life with me. Married 27 years, 2nd time for both and mature 2nd marriage like you referenced for yourself. I am 71 and he is 61. I keep in good shape playing court sports, in a ukulele amateur music group and learning guitar. Great social life. Money in the bank. I am grateful everyday and my selfish wish is to leave earth before he does. Though he is younger he does not take good care of his body and it has worried me for years. I won’t last long without him and he would be devastated to lose me but could function in this world. Yes, living in the moment is all we have and I am grateful every day for an abundant life, good health and wonderful relationships. Gratitude is a wonderful space to operate from and everything coming is gravy on a life well lived. Every good day is an appreciated and cherished gift. Love your channel, your vibe and you always have something of import to share. Keep it coming.
I find it surprising that you didn't think about being a widow. I've been married for 40 years . I was barely 24, so a fairly young bride. I've always been aware that odds are great that I will outlive my husband. I have tried to mentally and financially prepare for that happening. My personality is to be an extreme planner. 😊 Thank you for your vulnerability and honesty in your videos. You are an inspiration and mentor. ❤
Sandra you look gorgeous. Thanks for sharing your heart. Love and grief are two strong emotions. Queen Elizabeth said “grief is the price we pay for love”. I read this recently: when we lose someone we love, we must learn not to live without them, but to live with the love they left behind. 🤗💕
You and Mr, Arthur learned how to L LIVE and find peace in a big big world. Many never find truth in another person but you did and as you look back tears may come but the smiles are more. Glad to hear you again today. Have a good week. You help so many with the lessons on life.
That was such a wise video. I worry all the time that I might someday be alone. My husband and I are both in our 80's. And my brother, who is the same age as my husband, is in hospice and I am so sad and feel that I can't except his passing, then I look over at my husband and think how scary it is that he too might pass before I do. Thank you for sharing.
Sandra, your poem is so touching and true. My love one has been gone for eight months and I feel that our love is still alive with many fond memories. This makes me keep going forward with many blessings from yesteryear. Love you Sandra, you have thought me so much, blessings.
❤ Sending hugs to you. Brought a tear to my eyes 😢. My ex has passed recently of cancer. He had bi polar and cancer. We divorced but remained friends. I miss him😢.x
I lost my husband recently. He passed away in his sleep unexpectedly. We had plans that day. We had plans for this year. Now i don't know how i can go on with my life. I can't stop thinking about him and I can't stop crying. I miss him so much.
I love listening to Sandra sharing her life experiences, even though I'm much younger and I still need to learn a lot. I don't think I was born to get married, I don't believe much in this love Eros, but I would love to be able to have a companion in which we could enjoy life and take care of each other with a lot of respect and love. It's sad to feel alone, yet I love my solitude. Thank you so much Sandra for all your videos that help us to think and to reflect about life in general. May our Lord bless you richly in everything you wish for. Love from UK. ❤😇
Your honesty is so incredibly helpful Sandra! You have given me so much guidance as I face these later years, and the fact that you address these kind of topics in such a forthright way, has brought me so much peace, knowing I am not alone. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.❤
Thank you for your honesty Sandra. I’m sorry for your loss and grieve, since unique Arthur went to The Spiritual Realms. Sure his loving spirit will remain with you, only his vehicle, his body, is gone. True love can’t die, it’s forever in both your spirits. I also had the gift of a 12:44 a late (third) and True Match Made in Heaven; hasn’t been easy, but we cherish each day together now and the memories we made already. It’s a Blessing. 🙏🏼💞☯️ All the best for you. You are loved, by Arthur, your children and a whole community ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Listening and compromising is the key to marriage Takes practice, I am a widow, and i wish I could turn Back time, I would do things differently and listen More.❤
That beautiful poem relates for sure. All and all it's wonderful that we've been loved and loved in return...even with the memories that can at times be overwhelming. There are many women, and men alike in this world, for one reason or another who have not experienced the love and happiness being connected to someone that adds to your happiness. So we really should count our many blessings, especially the gift of children who are there in our senior years. ❤❤
Being a very selfish person, marriage has been difficult for me, but with Gods help, I am and want to learn other wise. It’s the “ great institution “ as I’ve heard it described.❤ My husband is now retired with early/ mid stages of Alzheimer’s. He’s had it about 5 years, but I’m thankful for this time of him being home , and coming to terms with many hard times we’ve had in the past. I know that the grass is never greener on the other side, so it’s time to reconsider and reconcile my thinking on him and my wrong thinking of him and us. In a nutshell it’s been a great healing time because I want to change for the better. I believe because of that, I’m a much healthier person mentally and emotionally. Even spiritually! My heart has gotten healed more and more. Thank God for His mercy. Love you Sandra.
Hi from Annie you are looking great, and you are a real saviour and so very wise. I think it is lovely that your son and h is family came to see you, is your daughter still staying with you . She would be nice company for you. Of course you little pooch he is so wonderful and give you a reason to get up in the mornings. God bless.
I don't know about reminiscing that just makes me sad, so I prefer going to places where my husband and I did not go but everyone is different and cope's differently, I cannot just live of the memories or I won't move on but if it works for most people that's great, have a wonderful day
I loved the poem! Beautifully written and recited! I've commented to you many times in the past, I've been divorced for over 30 years and live alone, this year I'm coming back alive in 2025! Two new knees and now I want to go roller skating! Thanks Sandra for this sweet and thoughtful message to so many of us old gals! ❤
My husband and I have been together for 46 years-I am 69-he is 65. We have had a wonderful life and pray we have even more time together. It is so hard to think about being without him, or him without me. He always says he wants to go first because he can’t imagine life without me. I sometimes force myself, only because I feel it is necessary, to think about how I would live without him. The scenario is always the same-it will be a very difficult journey. Thank you for sharing your experience and your profound wisdom.
Cuando tienes un sentido espiritual de la existencia, realmente sientes que tus seres queridos que ya han muerto, quienes sean, viven contigo en tu recuerdo, en tu oración, en tu vida. Esta proyección espiritual es un hilo invisible que te une a ellos para siempre, amiga, fuerza y ánimo. Cordiales saludos desde España.
Thank you Sandra for your wisdom. I wish that I knew this sooner. Divorced him 6 years ago. He died on November 2024. I realized that we didn’t know how to communicate. He was my only long relationship. I’m so sad for him and me.
My mother has been a widow since 2017 we talk about my father often My brother passed 2020 we talk about him often also we cherish the memories we have picture My brother in the great room My fathers picture is in my bedroom we will always cherish their memories
I beg the Trinity every morning night to let me outlive all my siblings and husband so I can be with them in comfortabledeath. I do not care if I die alone as long as they don’t. I cry these prayers daily.
Wonderful Sandra! So enjoy your videos! One minute there are lotsa friends n family then all of a sudden they are not there any more. I actually like my space so dont ever feel lonely. I have fun n love getting out n still excited n curious about life and the day to come. I practice gratitude and that is a big help to me. Also very optimistic! Just train your brain. Lol! Much love Kx
One feels loneliness because one misses & remember their partner & full house they once had. But if u learn to enjoy your own company u will never be alone. Discover your inner self, you will find acceptance & will gain strength to detach from worldliness. Now is the time when u stop seeking approvals & live as u like Eat pray & 🧘♀️ meditate.
By Bestie is living through this now. Her husband and soulmate of 30 years passed away suddenly at 65. She says she has no interest in having another relationship. She says the the thing she misses most is having him there to talk to and experience life with. They had just retired to their dream home in Mexico when he died so she's living their dream alone. My heart breaks for her.
there was a time when i kept wondering why some people seemed to naturally draw others in while i was just…there. no matter what i tried, i couldn’t figure out how they did it. then someone mentioned the book Vibrations of Manifestation by Alex Lane, and i decided to check it out. the way it explains how your aura affects everything around you? it blew me away. it’s like having a secret code to unlock your magnetic energy. this book is a game-changer.
Seeing my mother deal with young widowhood, I know it’s important to deal with unresolved issues as they come up. Get clarity about finances as you move through life so there will be no surprises or confusion about money. Ask the hard questions, so you both can have peace when the day comes to say goodbye.
I’ve been alone for a year since my husband passed. My greatest fear was being alone and now I’m living it. I miss the conversations with him, asking his advice on something, sharing meals together, traveling together, always holding hands, skipping through the parking lots. I have many beautiful memories. I just miss him so much. Being alone and not having anyone to talk to is hard. I know God is always with me. I know one day I’ll treasure our memories even more. Right now, I’m still hurting. With no children and hardly any family contact it’s pretty much me to get connected with my church family whom I’ve lost touch with. I need to find hobbies that I’m interested in. Thank you, Sandra, for this video. It’s encouraging to me. I know that my emotions can sidetrack me and keep me down and I need to be realistic with what needs to be done. Much love..,❤
So sad that you lost your husband. You seem like you are a strong person and will make it through alright. My best wishes for you.
@ Thank you! I’m not really strong, just know I want to find my purpose and move forward. It seems a long time,a year, but I feel like it was only yesterday. God is my strength.
I lost my husband in December so I’m new at this. We were marred over 40 years. There are days that feel like my heart is being torn out of my chest! The evenings are the worst. Thank you for this today. I really needed to hear this. We were so comparable and yes, we finished each other’s sentences always. As soon as the winter breaks, I live in Michigan, I will join the local senior center, they have an abundant programs plus lunches daily, so sometimes I won’t have to eat alone, plus they go on day trips and weekend getaways. Right now, I’vegot plenty to do I’m great as long as I can keep busy. It’s the downtime I have a hard time with.
@ I know it’s so hard right now for you. I agree the evenings are the worse. Sounds good to connect to the local center to get involved in activities. Will be praying for you. 🙏🏻❤️
I just lost my husband 2 weeks ago….i am like a zombie, just surviving the days….i miss him so much. We were married 42 years and were together all the time ….he had a stroke in October 2024 and passed in January 2025. …he could communicate with me these past 3 months and his biggest concern was me….he constantly would tell me….please take care of yourself, don’t worry about me….he was ready to pass on because he had so much wrong from the stroke , could not walk, etc., but his biggest fear was me….i just miss him so….blessings to all of you ….i know exactly how you feel 😂
one night i was scrolling through my phone, feeling like i’d never figure out why some people just seem so magnetic. then i came across this book, Vibrations of Manifestation by Alex Lane, and something about it caught my attention. reading it was like turning on a light in a dark room. it’s not about pretending to be someone you’re not; it’s about unlocking the energy you already have. trust me, this book is worth every page
That is absolutely beautiful. I am a widow and I met the love of my life in my 40s as well and he was in his 50s. He passed away in 2014 unexpectedly. The way I cope as you asked, is living in the house that he and I built together really helps. There are many features here that are connected to him. This house and gardens meant the world to him and therefore it means the world to me now
Lost my husband 6 months ago transitioning through the grief. What helps is that I know he truly loved me and I loved him even enough to give him his wish to die at home with hospice. He said don’t be sad and I’ll see you on the other side, don’t be late. 😊 MCL got him in the end he was ready. Instead of thinking about ME, I’ve laid down my life for him in his dying days and that is both a gift and hard to do. Right here where I’m sitting until the day the Lord calls me home 💜Love what’s important right now.
My husband has been diagnosed with vascular dementia. It truly is a long goodbye and I miss the man and the companion he was. I am grateful for what we had, but I am trying to make the adjustment that I now must be “ alone” in so many ways. I joined an online support group that has helped. Thank you for sharing.
It is very hard and sad to see a person who day by day is losing his light...
I wish you to find comfort ❤
My heart is with you. So hard. ❤
Great that you have been proactive in getting support. It is extremely important that you have a strong and supportive community.
My Husband has just been diagnosed too with vascular dementia and alzeimers ❤
Being a person that has Alway's done"Research" into the Medical Field, I came across a Story on Someone that had been Told to Give this person MORE WATER. They had the Same Thing that you're speaking of. They Tried It. To their Amazement, the person was Simply... DE-HYDRATED.
Thank you for today’s video. I’m 75 and my husband of 46.5 years passed 3.75 years ago. Everything you mentioned is true and this has definitely been a bumpy journey that seems to change moment to moment. Seeing that you voiced my feelings helped me to once again understand and appreciate the reality of widowhood. It’s a comfort to know I’m not alone, even though I have wonderful, understanding, and supportive family and friends. Bless you, I send Love and Blessing to you. JOJO
That's the most beautiful poem!
Sandra did you write that most beautiful poem?
Everything you said is right on point, Sandra. I have thought the same things many times. I lost my husband of 53 years last September and it’s the little things I miss the most; sharing a thought, talking about our day, saying goodnight, having a hug when we need one, me cooking and him doing the dishes. It’s the everyday things I miss, not so much the big things. Most days I’m okay now, but it can be a lonely life, even though my friends have been wonderful. Thank you for voicing my feelings, it helps to know I’m not the only one. Hugs Sandra and to all who are missing their other half. 💕
I remember a friend saying the longer it had been since her husbands death the more saintly he became.😊
I heard a comedian describe marriage like this and it is sad but true; "Hey, I really like hanging out with you. Let's do it until one of us dies" It is the sad reality of "until death do us part" and young people at the alter getting married say it so flippantly...
I was marrying for 52 years, minus 3 years that he left me. I always say it was more devastating when he left me than when he died. He had Alzheimer’s for the last 7 years we were together. But when he “returned “ after he left, he was less selfish, more compassionate and caring. He became a really happy child as his Alzheimer’s progressed. It was a blessing because so many people became mean with that disease. I completely understand your missing Author. I feel the same but it took more than a year to forget those years he left me and I can look back and find such peace and contentment in all the good we had together. Sometimes i don’t believe that we shared the life we did… and it was a good and very exciting life. Thank you, as always, Sara. This was a lovely video
Blessings your way!!
why did he leave you?
I know how you feel. I cared for my husband who had dementia and aphasia and he became a different person. He passed 1-1/2 years ago, but as you said, he left me several years before that and never returned. Even forgot who I was 😢
When we really invest in our spouse and relationship , and are their champion, best friend, advocate, sounding-board and nurturer, the loss of that companionship is huge. I’m sure the visit with son and family, and visiting that restaurant brought those feelings to the surface. I loved getting to see Arthur in action when you interviewed him on your balcony, his love of soup and using every pan you have to make pancakes. I think that is what he made. You two had a great run! Your lucky you have those videos to replay when you miss him
Sandra, you are a wonderful person❤.
Sandra - you have great personality! You are so needed! I admire your never ending beauty, and warm positive attitude towards life again all odds. I am 72, I do not have your experiences but I love to transform your attitude to other aspects of my life. I nourish myself on you :)
Dear Sandra, this conversation deeply touched my heart❤. I am so sure that our passing loved ones become our special guardian angel and always guide and protect us, we are never alone 🙏
Sandra you are right. My husband passed away almost 10 years ago, and I remember the good times. Although I have seen other people (men) I never forget the love and companionship he gave me.
Thank You Sandra for teaching us the value of a marriage ❤
So true Sandra and thank you for sharing.
It’s been 6 years and it seems Ike yesterday.
after 50 really good years the silence is so loud. I miss that hand to reach for.
I listen to you from Trinidad all the time.
Thanks for sharing your wisdom with such honesty and grace ❤️🙏
Thank you for sharing that.
I am afraid of the day that I may have to live alone 😢 . . . . I am experiencing the not-so-good memories fading away, Praise God . . . . Thank You Barbara, for sharing your wisdom ❤️
Yes, me too. I’ve never lived alone….I’m really trying to focus on the day and enjoying by dogs and my hubs. He’ll be 80 this year💕
hi grandma Sandra, hope all is well with you. you look beautiful as always ❤ thank you for sharing this very personal conversation with us. this lesson about marriage is truly important, especially for young people like us who are not married yet. learning to compromise for another person is one of the toughest things to do, yet it is so crucial in a marriage. i appreciate you. take care and god bless you ...zac ❤
Thank you so much for your kind words, Zac. I am always grateful for the support and love!
most welcome 😇 @@lifewithsandrahart
I’m recently engaged and my greatest fear is losing him. I’m 38 and it took me so long to find my true love and I’m so unbelievably happy, now I’m so scared of losing him.
God is with you never worry it takes up to much time. Best of luck.❤
@ Thank you 🙏 🥹💜
May our Lord Jesus Christ be with you always
Don’t waste time worrying about what will happen but live this wonderful time of your life in the present , otherwise you will waste that. ❤
Never waste your energy on ‘what if’s’. Enjoy every moment and build beautiful memories together!
Thank you Sandra for sharing your personal journey and loss, my husband passed away 7 months ago and it is still hurting so much.
He was very ill for years, and now I do understand why he was sometimes difficult to understand,. But I know he did loved me. It wasn't a perfect marriage , but he was a good person. We were married for 27 years. I do miss him a lot. It's sucks to be alone, but life goes on. We just have to be kind to ourselves, one day we will be together together with our loved ones. God willing. Stay blessed Sandra.♥️🙏🦋💜
I’ve been widowed 4 yrs. I miss my person to hug, hold hands with, laugh Etc. Cherish your loved one. Let them know they matter & overlook their petty actions. Thanks Sandra
I definitely will do that.
47 years of “compromise” I understand - oh boy do I miss him and the compromising. He has been gone just over a year - seems like yesterday and years ago at the same time. Sending love. Sue UK ❤
Wonderful words of reflection and wisdom. I was married for 32 years before my husband passed in 2023. We certainly had our ups and downs but I’m so thankful we hung in there during the rough spots. We had so many wonderful times together. Last year I took a little road trip to a place we enjoyed going to. It was a big step to go alone, but a wonderful trip for me. My husband was known for his super friendly personality and his inquisitive nature. We both worked hard but still found time for road trips, and our hobbies. I miss him but thankful for the memories. Thank you.
Sounds so much like me and my husband. Stuck through the hard times and my husband has that super friendly personality as well. He shines for the both of us and I appreciate having him still.
I’m so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you had a beautiful life together. 🙏
Lost my husband 7 months ago. We did everything together. I hate being alone. Yes, I do have children and grands, but they have lives of their own. I have no desire to do anything. I know that I have to change my mind set. Waiting for spring and hoping being outdoors more will help. It’s been very cold here in N.Y. Thank you Sandra for all your advice. You are such a blessing! 🙏❤️
Hang in there! You will find peace and a new way of living.
@ thank you 💕
Sorry about your loss Diane, How are you doing today?
@ thank you for asking. I’m just taking one day at a time. Some better than others. The schools are closed today so I’m watching my granddaughter, so that will keep me busy.💕
@@dianeb7420 I am glad watching your daughter keeps you busy.
Beautiful, poignant advice,, thank you 💜
Nice to see you today, Sandra. Beautiful observations on what's worth remembering in life.
Compromise, meet in the middle, you both are so important. ❤ beautiful message to the world so timely with Valentine's day in couple of weeks.
Thank you for the lovely comment!
Beautiful ❤️ opening. ❤❤❤❤❤ life at 70 is hard, and no family is gone. Will be 6 years since my husband's passing never made friends here where i lived for 13 years was a care taker he was very sick a great man. Sad to say its just lonely people dont want new people in their lifes. I'm lucky in so many ways he left me where i don't have to worry lived in a senior gated community have everything here. But it's still lonely.
Ooh let's be friends
I truly understand.
Dear Sandra,
Great message again!
It is always like that… When we lost someone/ something we remember only the good things about it when the time goes through…
However, being alone is not necessary a bad thing. Plus you are not completely alone! You have your family and super wonderful MooShoo who loves you very much. Big hug❤️
My husband passed away 6 years ago. I miss him more with each passing year.
It has been difficilt at timed to navigate my senior years now without him . I find myself ruminating about what I wished I would have said or done. Recently the dog we had together passed away. It was one of the worst losses of my life. I loved hat dog more than words could say. It really opened up the grief again.
Sadly, and truthfully, I have now begun to prefer dogs over people.
Truly " Get it " as M-a-n-y
Feel the Same as You. 🙂
It's been over 2 years since I lost my husband of 30 years to an aggressive cancer which took him quickly and painfully. He was 10 years older than me but you would never have guessed by looking at him. Like you, I never envisioned being a widow because he had longevity in his family. I thought there was a good chance I'd die first.
His death was a shock and it changed me profoundly. I'm not the same person anymore. There's a sadness and a heaviness in me that I struggle to deal with. I still can't go to the restaurants we used to go to. I'm coping by doing many things differently and changing my patterns of living.
I do cherish the memories and I'm grateful for the years we had but I miss him every minute of every day.
Sandra, thank you for your wisdom. I have been with my husband for 38 years, and I can echo your thoughts that the hardest part of marriage is the times when you have to find compromise. I also think it is true that we all come in to a partnership not having some of the skills we will need. There have been many books written about the subject of marriage, but we would probably have to buy them all to get us through a lifetime of couple hood and the issues that arise. How lucky you were to find Arthur and to have made a life of sharing and caring together.
Sooo sooo true, Sandra!
My husband has had dementia for a long time. It is an ambiguous kind of grief and an anticipatory one. Because this is a progressive disease. It is hard watching your loved one fade away year after year. I miss him even though he is still here. I mostly miss not having that one person in the world who knew me and yet loved even my flaws. It has been a lonely journey. Fifteen years of caregiving is a long time.But I have accepted that the end is inevitable so I find joy in nature, my garden and playing with my beloved dogs. I am stronger and more resilient than I ever knew. I have become fearless.I really don’t know how the end will ultimately affect me, but I truly feel I will be happy that he has found peace at last. Thank you❤
I understand what you are going through. Thank you for sharing!
My heart goes out to you. 15 years of caregiving! You must be an amazingly strong woman. I took care of my husband, who had dementia and aphasia for 4 years before I had to put him into skilled nursing because he became aggressive and unpredictable. Hardest thing I ever had to do. He passed away 1-1/2 years ago and I still miss the person who he used to be, who I fell in love with. I wish you strength and peace and am glad you are finding joy in nature and with your pets. God bless.
@ thank you. I am sorry for the loss of your beloved husband. I myself know that day is also coming and the grief will compound even more. For that I must continue to prepare.
@ it’s a difficult journey. God bless.
You speak so eloquently from the soul while in your element. True beauty by most is something seen on the surface; but usually is within your heart and the palms of your hands where it is not always so easy to see... The biggest compliment to those we've loved is to always remember and miss them.
Thank you for your beautiful words.
Excellent advice. Marriage is supposed to make us grow. Your soul mate may be someone you bump up against a lot. But working it out in a reasonably healthy way causes growth. I fear losing my beloved. This message is helping prepare me for being alone again one day. Thank you.
I am so sorry for your fear and I hope that you have many more years to enjoy with your beloved!
Hi Sandra, I know you will be ok but my heart hurts for your deep pain of loss. I truly understand and although I will be 76 and my husband will be 81, I thank God everyday and pray that we have each other for many more years.
We met in 2012 and married in 2014 and these years have been the happiest of my life.
I was married and divorced 2 times before the age of 50 then spent over 10 years alone, intentionally, not dating or interested in anything other than finding my true self and learning how to be true to myself. It is the best gift I have ever give to “me”!
We surely don’t know what life will look like but we must make it the best, as well as we can with what we have now. “Being mindful”!
Thank you for the beautiful video Sandra. I will remember you in my prayers. Love, Dee ❤
Thanks Sandra. Your story of the journey, guidance, and reflection of marriage touched me deeply. I lost my husband six months ago and when the tide of grief comes around its all good memories. Thank you for such an honest video.
Beautiful!
Thanks for the valuable advice.
What a beautiful video, Sandra. Thank you for posting this. We can all learn so much from this.❤
Thank you for watching!
Thank you Sandra for such a lovely inspiring message. You’re a wonderful insightful woman. Much love to you. ❤
The attachment we humans have to others is so deep and profound. Your words are wise, each partner in a personal relationship is important.
I watched my dad slowly implode after my mom passed. It took 4 years but losing her killed his spirit to live and then his body.
Thank You for your wisdom ❤
I still have the love of my life with me. Married 27 years, 2nd time for both and mature 2nd marriage like you referenced for yourself. I am 71 and he is 61. I keep in good shape playing court sports, in a ukulele amateur music group and learning guitar. Great social life. Money in the bank. I am grateful everyday and my selfish wish is to leave earth before he does. Though he is younger he does not take good care of his body and it has worried me for years. I won’t last long without him and he would be devastated to lose me but could function in this world. Yes, living in the moment is all we have and I am grateful every day for an abundant life, good health and wonderful relationships. Gratitude is a wonderful space to operate from and everything coming is gravy on a life well lived. Every good day is an appreciated and cherished gift. Love your channel, your vibe and you always have something of import to share. Keep it coming.
I find it surprising that you didn't think about being a widow. I've been married for 40 years . I was barely 24, so a fairly young bride. I've always been aware that odds are great that I will outlive my husband. I have tried to mentally and financially prepare for that happening. My personality is to be an extreme planner. 😊
Thank you for your vulnerability and honesty in your videos. You are an inspiration and mentor. ❤
Anna, I’m just like you, always planning ahead making it a softer place that I may land!❤
Thanks for sharing, it is so important to be prepared!
@@lifewithsandrahart Sandra, you have been a great help to me, when my deceased husband was living with Alzheimer’s you were my rock.❤️
I've never been married, I'm still trying to find someone. I have many times wished I could see my Dad again though esp during the bad times.
How are you doing?
Sandra you look gorgeous. Thanks for sharing your heart. Love and grief are two strong emotions. Queen Elizabeth said “grief is the price we pay for love”. I read this recently: when we lose someone we love, we must learn not to live without them, but to live with the love they left behind. 🤗💕
Beautiful
🥰❤ thanks for sharing, Sandra.
You and Mr, Arthur learned how to L
LIVE and find peace in a big big world. Many never find truth in another person but you did and as you look back tears may come but the smiles are more. Glad to hear you again today. Have a good week. You help so many with the lessons on life.
Thank you for your kind words and for watching.
That was such a wise video. I worry all the time that I might someday be alone. My husband and I are both in our 80's. And my brother, who is the same age as my husband, is in hospice and I am so sad and feel that I can't except his passing, then I look over at my husband and think how scary it is that he too might pass before I do. Thank you for sharing.
I know exactly what you mean. It's a heavy burden to carry. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
Hi Sandra you're a beautiful person inside and out!! 💖
Thank you for sharing this 😢❤
Peace in your heart is prayed for and wished for you. It is good that you are able to speak his name : Arthur ❤
Sandra, your poem is so touching and true. My love one has been gone for eight months and I feel that our love is still alive with many fond memories. This makes me keep going forward with many blessings from yesteryear. Love you Sandra, you have thought me so much, blessings.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I wish you peace and blessings as you journey ahead.
Thank you so much.
Excellent conversation…I was feeling sad today regards missing my spouse…this helped me today. Thank you.
❤ Sending hugs to you. Brought a tear to my eyes 😢. My ex has passed recently of cancer. He had bi polar and cancer. We divorced but remained friends. I miss him😢.x
I lost my husband recently. He passed away in his sleep unexpectedly. We had plans that day. We had plans for this year. Now i don't know how i can go on with my life. I can't stop thinking about him and I can't stop crying. I miss him so much.
I love listening to Sandra sharing her life experiences, even though I'm much younger and I still need to learn a lot. I don't think I was born to get married, I don't believe much in this love Eros, but I would love to be able to have a companion in which we could enjoy life and take care of each other with a lot of respect and love. It's sad to feel alone, yet I love my solitude.
Thank you so much Sandra for all your videos that help us to think and to reflect about life in general.
May our Lord bless you richly in everything you wish for. Love from UK. ❤😇
Where can I find the words of your lovely poem Sandra, it’s just so touching. 💕
My poem is in the transcript below the video description. Thank you!
How are you doing today, Vivienne
Your honesty is so incredibly helpful Sandra! You have given me so much guidance as I face these later years, and the fact that you address these kind of topics in such a forthright way, has brought me so much peace, knowing I am not alone. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.❤
Thank you for your wise words
Thank you for your honesty Sandra. I’m sorry for your loss and grieve, since unique Arthur went to The Spiritual Realms. Sure his loving spirit will remain with you, only his vehicle, his body, is gone. True love can’t die, it’s forever in both your spirits.
I also had the gift of a 12:44 a late (third) and True Match Made in Heaven; hasn’t been easy, but we cherish each day together now and the memories we made already. It’s a Blessing. 🙏🏼💞☯️ All the best for you. You are loved, by Arthur, your children and a whole community ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Listening and compromising is the key to marriage
Takes practice, I am a widow, and i wish I could turn
Back time, I would do things differently and listen
More.❤
I will start listening more.
That beautiful poem relates for sure. All and all it's wonderful that we've been loved and loved in return...even with the memories that can at times be overwhelming. There are many women, and men alike in this world, for one reason or another who have not experienced the love and happiness being connected to someone that adds to your happiness. So we really should count our many blessings, especially the gift of children who are there in our senior years. ❤❤
Being a very selfish person, marriage has been difficult for me, but with Gods help, I am and want to learn other wise. It’s the “ great institution “ as I’ve heard it described.❤ My husband is now retired with early/ mid stages of Alzheimer’s. He’s had it about 5 years, but I’m thankful for this time of him being home , and coming to terms with many hard times we’ve had in the past. I know that the grass is never greener on the other side, so it’s time to reconsider and reconcile my thinking on him and my wrong thinking of him and us. In a nutshell it’s been a great healing time because I want to change for the better. I believe because of that, I’m a much healthier person mentally and emotionally. Even spiritually! My heart has gotten healed more and more. Thank God for His mercy. Love you Sandra.
I’m so glad you are finding peace and healing
That’s absolutely wonderful, thank you for sharing your story ❤ I really hope I get to experience that too one day.. I have a long way to go…
Hi from Annie you are looking great, and you are a real saviour and so very wise. I think it is lovely that your son and h is family came to see you, is your daughter still staying with you . She would be nice company for you. Of course you little pooch he is so wonderful and give you a reason to get up in the mornings. God bless.
Good message ❤
I don't know about reminiscing that just makes me sad, so I prefer going to places where my husband and I did not go but everyone is different and cope's differently, I cannot just live of the memories or I won't move on but if it works for most people that's great, have a wonderful day
I loved the poem! Beautifully written and recited! I've commented to you many times in the past, I've been divorced for over 30 years and live alone, this year I'm coming back alive in 2025! Two new knees and now I want to go roller skating! Thanks Sandra for this sweet and thoughtful message to so many of us old gals! ❤
So beautiful Ty !!❤
My husband and I have been together for 46 years-I am 69-he is 65. We have had a wonderful life and pray we have even more time together. It is so hard to think about being without him, or him without me. He always says he wants to go first because he can’t imagine life without me. I sometimes force myself, only because I feel it is necessary, to think about how I would live without him. The scenario is always the same-it will be a very difficult journey. Thank you for sharing your experience and your profound wisdom.
Cuando tienes un sentido espiritual de la existencia, realmente sientes que tus seres queridos que ya han muerto, quienes sean, viven contigo en tu recuerdo, en tu oración, en tu vida. Esta proyección espiritual es un hilo invisible que te une a ellos para siempre, amiga, fuerza y ánimo. Cordiales saludos desde España.
I can relate to much of what you have to say. Im early into the journey of widowhood, but recognise the truth of what you say here.
❤love you! be happy
Thank you Sandra teach me how to face self and how to make marriage batter, knowing the value of marriage.
Your feelings are very understandable...☺️
Thank you Sandra for your wisdom. I wish that I knew this sooner. Divorced him 6 years ago. He died on November 2024. I realized that we didn’t know how to communicate. He was my only long relationship. I’m so sad for him and me.
Wow love it ❤
🌻Powerful Message!Thank you!💎🌞
You’re never alone, G-D is with you all the time in live ❤ thanks for your beautiful videos
The introduction of your video makes me feel nostalgic dear Sandra, it is so pretty 😍😍😍😍.
Magnificent poem Sandra. ❤
I can remember my Aunt saying that my mom would want me to go to the Smokies and enjoy it. I enjoyed this video ❤
My mother has been a widow since 2017 we talk about my father often My brother passed 2020 we talk about him often also we cherish the memories we have picture My brother in the great room My fathers picture is in my bedroom we will always cherish their memories
This was a special talk dearxoxo ❤
Beautiful ❤
I beg the Trinity every morning night to let me outlive all my siblings and husband so I can be with them in comfortabledeath. I do not care if I die alone as long as they don’t. I cry these prayers daily.
Wonderful Sandra! So enjoy your videos! One minute there are lotsa friends n family then all of a sudden they are not there any more. I actually like my space so dont ever feel lonely. I have fun n love getting out n still excited n curious about life and the day to come. I practice gratitude and that is a big help to me. Also very optimistic! Just train your brain. Lol! Much love Kx
Lovely❤
One feels loneliness because one misses & remember their partner & full house they once had.
But if u learn to enjoy your own company u will never be alone.
Discover your inner self, you will find acceptance & will gain strength to detach from worldliness. Now is the time when u stop seeking approvals & live as u like Eat pray & 🧘♀️ meditate.
Hi Sandra how are you ? Learnt a lot from you❤love this vdo .
By Bestie is living through this now. Her husband and soulmate of 30 years passed away suddenly at 65. She says she has no interest in having another relationship. She says the the thing she misses most is having him there to talk to and experience life with. They had just retired to their dream home in Mexico when he died so she's living their dream alone. My heart breaks for her.
there was a time when i kept wondering why some people seemed to naturally draw others in while i was just…there. no matter what i tried, i couldn’t figure out how they did it. then someone mentioned the book Vibrations of Manifestation by Alex Lane, and i decided to check it out. the way it explains how your aura affects everything around you? it blew me away. it’s like having a secret code to unlock your magnetic energy. this book is a game-changer.
I became a widow today at 62 after 42 years of marriage. Any advice on a helpful book would be appreciated. 💕
Sandra, who wrote that beautiful beginning of the show? Id love to share it w friends/ acquaintances
I wrote that poem. It is in the transcript below the video. Thank you for watching today.
😢love you