What Social Anxiety Feels Like
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hey guys. this video is very different than my others, it’s my final project for my sociology class. anxiety is something i’ve been dealing with for years now and i think it’s important that others know how it feels. to others struggling- you are not alone.
i worked hard on this, and i hope you guys enjoy. :)
*the time lapse, isn’t my video, it belongs to Dave Jaeger
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people also don't understand that its exhausting
Kaneki Ken ur so right im drained all the time, it is very hard work to live with😣
Kaneki Ken ur so right im drained all the time, it is very hard work to live with😣
yeah omg like physically exhausting for real
Kaneki Ken ik!!! you get so damn worried and worked up over everything and it just fucking drains you
Exhausting my soul , my brain, and my body
My social anxiety stops me from doing so many 'normal' things. Like even commenting on videos here makes me nervous and I usually delete the comment before pressing send.
this is so me...
Fluffy Unicorn SAME
well at least I know Im not the only one lol
same😪
Fluffy Unicorn
I do that too 😯
ugh everything you said is how i feel everyday
anxiety is horrible
I felt like this since I was 11 (18 now)
Ari Love stay strong.
same :/ btw heyy arianator lol I can’t believe no tears left to cry comes out on Friday I’m shaking hcjskifkskwow
It's like a constant war happening inside your head. I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy :(
+Erin M Erin, Maybe my story can help you???? Did you ever consider that some of these thoughts may come from an outside source???? Reason I'm asking is that I have experienced voices in my ears and thoughts that are not mine. I learned in the Christian Holy Bible that there is an invisible war on Earth involving evil demonic spirits who can speak into our ears all manner of thoughts. The Lord Jesus Christ helped me in this battle and can help anyone who will believe God. Please take the time to listen to my story on TH-cam at Hearing Voices: Real Help and Understanding. Praying for you, Carol
ive always thought i was just shy , until i clicked on a video about social anxiety, everytime they said something i would be like " omg yes " and then i read the comments and literally relate to every single sentence they listed . Worse thing about going to classes was when the teacher would call on me and asked me a question , my heart would beat really fast it went really hot in that class , i felt the redness in my face to the point i started sweating . When i would answer a complete sentence , someone would randomly say " omg you talk ?" " this is the first time i hear you talk omg " or when the teacher calls my name i would hear " whos that ?" . I could go on and on of the worst things that happen in school but it would be waaaay too long .
anaaahi that would happen to me too all the time😩
anaaahi Same, I thought I was just a shy loser but then I found a 'Do you have social anxiety quiz then I took like five and I had a high probability for every test, and I relate to everything in these comments, and now I finally know why I'm so scared
We are basically the same person, after a certain event in my life happened in elementary school, i became really shy. I thought that was all it was at first but then once i got to middle school and other bad things happened, i noticed i was more then just "Shy". During class it is really hard for me to even get up from my chair to go ask my teacher a question or to get a drink of water. Whenever i have to do a presentation i get bad headaches and i feel like throwing up. Even if i'm just standing in line at like Starbucks or something i feel like everyone is watching and judging me, and all i want to do it break down and cry. Also at school i'm literally invisible. If i killed myself or moved to another school literally probably no one would notice lmao.
anaaahi omg i swear we are the exact same person
yes and I hate it when I flicking cry in from of people during a presentation and I will always get that feeling that everyone from school are judging me of how I look and act and mostly what I wear it just makes so ughhhhhh!!!
I'm so glad that there's others like me 😊
Ikr I thought there was something wrong with me
That Guy same, i thought i was alone
Same
Me too I’m glad I’m not alone
Hi
Wow exactly how I feel...
Hi kenny same here
Kenzie Fickey same.
Same here to.
sameee
Kenzie Fickey me too
Most people without social anxiety act like it's really easy. They just tell you to 'start talking', it's practically the equivalent of telling a guy in a wheelchair to just start walking. It's honestly better said than done and they don't get that what they say really doesn't help. Wow I'm suddenly cured :/
the only thing i find annoying is when people START TALKING!!!!
Well said
Willow Eaglewright people say : "dont wait for a miracle , go and do something to reach what you want" but i cant start a conversation so all i can do is wait for that motherfucking miracle
Willow Eaglewright it’s actually like telling a alcoholic to just stop drinking.
Willow Eaglewright ikr ! That shit is so fucking annoying
For the longest time.. I really thought there was something wrong with me! I just recently realized it’s social anxiety, it’s crazy, even sometimes around family, I get it.
Hello to everyone who has it and reading this comment! We’re not alone :)
hello , i have it too and struggling to come out
Me too
i had been to a doctor but it seems that she did't understand how it feels to have and live with anxiety (SAD) , even tough i told her that i have all these symptoms , she was like "its all in ur head , stop overthinking and face the problem, its not real " i was like (in my mind) "wait ! what ? its in my head ! its not rational ! WTF ! i already know that and still can't help myself and thats why its called SAD" i did't say it on her face but i understood that she don't understand my problem and right now, i don't know who understands it ! i don't know how to get out of this
Me tooooo
Yeah
The best time of my day is at night when Im alone in my room, watching youtube videos and actually COMMETING on videos, youtube is the only place I can speak my mind and I dont care if I am being judged negatively
Michael Jackson same
Michael Jackson, same.
Same here
Michael Jackson Same, wattpad is a nice escape too
Michael Jackson I never want to leave my bed im always here I skip school its getting to the point where I dont want to move
Using the bathroom in school...
5% using the bathroom
95% avoiding people
I go to the bathroom 10-20 times a day in school
thats a lot....
Back when I was in school I used to sit in the toilet cubicle for the whole hour of lunch break so it wouldn't be obvious to everyone that I had no friends.
Abriana Allen 💯💯💯
Rlly? I get too scared to even go to the bathroom because I’m afraid there will be girls in there
hah I'm too scared to even ask to use the restroom in class.
I'm 19 and my social anxiety is as worse as its ever been. I can't get into a normal conversation without being sick to my stomach and eyes turning watery. The only safe place is my room and I'm tired of living this way. If it doesn't end soon, I'm done.
Aloha, Thanks, I have never been in a relationship and I never have felt so alone as I do now. Been bullied all my life because of shyness and social anxiety. Maybe its for the best I stop this nightmare.
Aloha, Thank you for the help. This is going to sound weird but I have had a problem with PMO for 9 years straight and I've recently took this nofap challenge online. I think that was the root of my problem, I have been off of it for a week now and I feel like absolutely free and amazing. I was addicted to PMO because it was an escape from my problem as a teen, and all along it was just destroying me more, and being off of it has changed me.
Caleb Roche same im totally feeling suicidal
Caleb Roche Hey, I know you wrote this a while ago, but please try seeking treatment, if it's possible. Your life is worth living. Also, I never had social anxiety disorder, but I did feel anxious to where I would think about little things like how I moved my hand when I was talking to someone, and I constantly worried about what people think of me. I would get really anxious around some people that I would have bad thoughts about others (the thoughts really just came in my head as a defense mechanism against rejection). What helped me a lot was not caring what ppl think about me. I feel so free knowing that it it doesn't matter what people think about me sick my worth doesn't depend on other people's opinions. I know I sound like I'm saying it's easy to get over anxiety, but I can say that it definitely isn't, and that it takes some work before coping with it well. Best of luck!
hope you're still around
The only thing I would add to this list, for me, is fear of driving. It took me until two months ago to realise that this stemmed from social anxiety; a fear of being judged.
Mar eve I HATED driving!! It's gotten a lot better but my anxiety with it used to be so bad. I totally know how you feel
Mar eve I'm 17 and I still don't have my permit. The simple knowing that I'll have to go to the DMV terrifies me, so I keep postponing it.
Mar eve I'm afraid of driving too! And because of the exact same reason as you. I just realized that... Wow...
Wow same here. I had to renew my permit because I would always come up with an excuse to not drive and I just hated driving. I'm slowly getting more comfortable and hope I can get over it this year
Haley Meyer it’s okay I know the feeling! I didn’t get my license until a couple months before I turned it 19 because my anxiety was so intense. It’s definitely has gotten a lot better since I did, I’ll say that but take your time!
This summed everything up perfectly. I have severe social anxiety.
When a teacher asks you to pick your own partner? Breathing problems, sweating palms, the feeling of your heart sinking to your stomach. Complementing someone? Closing up, worrying, sweaty palms, thinking about it for an entire hour in my head, worrying about what could go wrong, debating with myself. Wanting nothing more than to be alone by myself, all the time. Constantly worrying if someone is talking about me, acting extremely paranoid. Overanalyzing everything, going over past events that happened years ago and wondering if people still remember, like one accidental trip on the stairs, or a failed pass at basketball. Constantly feeling sick of myself and others. Wanting to talk and speak my mind, having plenty to say, but not being able to. Even saying "good morning" feels like going to war. Everyone thinking I'm either shy or stuck up, because I can't say anything. Being embarrassed that people think I'm shy, wanting to change but not being able to, no matter how many times I put myself out there or practice. Wondering whether I'd rather them think I'm shy, or just stuck up. Always thinking people are watching me. Being able to go days, even weeks, without saying a word. Going to the mall, or the store, and freaking out because I feel like all eyes are on me and watching me, even though I look around and nobody's looking at me- getting dizzy and nauseous. Making plans and truly planning on going through with them, but always backing out last minute. Feeling like a failure as a friend and family member.
Sometimes I'd go days without food or sleep, so that way I was so tired and so hungry that I'd have something else to mainly focus on, so that way I could talk easier and be free with myself around others. Because then I would be feeling hungry with sore eyes, rather than feeling overwhelming and soul-crushing nervousness. I'd still be nervous, but at least I could hold on to something else instead and think about something else at the same time, which would weaken my nervousness and make it easier to speak.
Talking to others and being in public makes me feel literal dread. I feel dread for days, weeks, even months before a presentation is due. I know it's ridiculous, but it's so huge that it makes me fall under its weight and it crushes me. I feel like I'm going to war, or like I'm dying inside, like I'm being killed from the inside.
Grace Reeves I relate to all of this
I relate. ..
You have just written out my life in a few paragraphs
Grace Reeves It will never go away, but as you get older you get it under control, you learn to manage it. So, people wont be aware of your anxiety, even though you will feel it, but it will be subdued.
same here, plus dates, that's the one i fear most of all and giving a public speech uggh....
I'm considering taking pills to calm down because i've tried so many things
I feel exactly the same. I'm only 14 and my social anxiety and generalized anxiety have taken over my life. I even tried starving myself to stop the pain. It all gets worse. You did a great job with the video :)
I'm not even diagnosed or anything but it's just gotten so bad that it's obvious.
ʕ•ᴥ•ʔ thank you so much! i know how you feel, and you're not alone. stay strong!!❤️
Haley Meyer aww thank you! Hey anyways we're not alone :)
Nevel Papperman aww same for you! We're gonna do this together :)
Some months ago I passed through these feelings! Nowadays, exercising and swimming almost everyday, my life has changed a lot! I feel stronger and in control of all my emotions again.. Keep going guys! And feel free to talk!
Aw thank you! I´d love to go swimming but there is no place to swim around my town :c But thanks! :)
The worst thing for me is people saying 'oh my gosh, you're being so narcissistic because every time someone laughs you think they're laughing at you!' 'if you just stop thinking about it, it will go away.' 'just stop feeding your brain and relax.' Guess what? I literally cannot help that I can't stop thinking about how I made that joke that nobody laughed at, how I got off the bus and tripped on the stairs, how I can't order food on my own, how I can't talk on the phone, how I can barely maintain a stable relationship because when they're not texting me I feel like they're uninterested or think I'm weird. I can't just 'stop', I can't just 'relax', and I definitely can't just wish it away.
All of these are me
my entire life I've always thought these were " normal " thoughts to think. i never knew that there was an actual term for what I was experiencing until now.
Mackenzie Manke same i thought i was just shy
"When your teacher asks you to find a partner and your heart sinks"
Yes , that is so me
Also having social anxiety is so hard
this just described my whole life except i don’t get panic attacks
char loves ariana heeeyyy .... I have social anxiety too uuuummm... Are you gay too?
Idk if she is but what she said fits me exactly and I am gay too😂
Murky yeahh i’m gay as fick
fuck* i cant spell
Same...
It's so unbelievable and just really sad to me the fact that I'm not the only one going through this everyday
Now I descovered that I have fear to, I think about everything I'm doing, cuz what if I do something 'wrong' and people judge me about that. I don't like talking to strange people, because if I say anything weird or not normal, then what the hell is that human gonna think about me for the next time he/she sees me? I'm afraid of making eye contact, what would that people think of me? 'It will probably be a negative thought' thats what I am thinking then. I'm also excpecially afraid of talking to strange guy's cause "what if I'm saying anything wrong? Are they gonna tell everything about the 'weird girl' (me) to their friends?" I am sorry for my bad english.. O and I am also afraid of placing this comment, because mayby people will think I'm a girl which is looking for attention, ya I'm verry insecure to..I'm afraid and Insecure about every little and big thing. I really hope it will change.. I really want to feel confident. how would that feel? I don't know
denise the same way ı feel...
denise same!!
Same💔
Same
David. Parkinson my family hates me
School: anxiety
Home: depression
Life: overwhelming
"It feels like wanting to compliment someone but youre too afraid"
I can relate to that sm
This made me feel not alone. Thank you.
yankeesrock913 ❤️❤️
do you have anxiety about reading aloud :(( ? i have the worse anxiety with that. but also watching this made me realize it more than just reading aloud for me like when people stare or laugh i automatically think they are talking about me, i'm really bad at making new friends , etc
brianna nicole yes!! i'm totally the same way
Haley Meyer like my teacher said we have to present in 3 weeks and i cannot stop thinking about it :( did you find a way to not be so anxious when reading aloud??
brianna nicole honestly no :( but I just try to think thoughts like "okay it's only going to last five minutes, no matter what happens i'll be able to go home and be safe, time doesn't stop so i won't be up there forever" and things like that
Haley Meyer sorry for the late reply but thankyou so much !! ❤❤
Yes me too I immediately think people are laughing at me when they laugh. Then I just think that I did something stupid or w/e. I have yo force myself to think it's directed towards me but in the back of my head, I still think it is.
I'm not diagnosed, I can't really afford any professional help. But hell, feels nice to know you're not alone in the way you feel, that you're not some kind of a nature's mistake. Especially the compliments thing. This isn't even bad, I know nobody's gonna judge me, why am I so scared?!? 😂 Thank you, thank you so much.💛 And good luck fighting your social anxiety.
IGREK RAY we are never alone!! thank you so much, good luck fighting your anxiety too❤️ stay strong!
SAME
IGREK RAY I know I'm 12 but me or my parents can't pay for help or anything like that but it is good to know people feel the same
But does professional help cure this horrible feeling?
king77703 it probably would help talking about what your feeling inside and what your actually scared of
This is exactly how I feel about my social anxiety and I just want to curl up into a ball in school because everyone I hear I think is making fun of me
Josh pitts F*cking same. It's gets even worse when I see people whispering things to each other and laughing out loud.
Josh pitts like I know the world doesn't revolve around me or anything but I just can't help but think that I'm always being talked about by people
Me too :( if I walked by a group of people who were laughing in the hallway I always think they are laughing at me and making fun of me :(
@@erinm6830 me too
@@erinm6830 i feel the same too
i think ive had this since 3rd to 4th grade and im currently in 10th grade i hate my social anxiety it totally has got worse than before i feel exactly like this women feels. In school is where it happens alot when we get told to get in partners when it gets to me to answer or read question out loud when we go to a restaurant with my family and it comes for me to order. I dont even make eye contact with anybody its not that i dont care i do. In school i have only 4 friends when im with them i barely talk same for school im always quiet avoiding everything that involves socializing because when it does i get nervous, scared and judged. Even when it comes to visiting family when we have to say our greetings when we arrive i feel the same my mom and sister call me antisocial but i dont think i have that i feel like i have more of what this women is saying. All i want to do is when i get home from school is go to my bed watch netflix and youtube and that is what i do most of the week. My parents call me disrespectful because i dont greet anyone if we go if they come to our place i dont even like parties because of lots of people coming and i get nervous and scared i hate crowds in general also i really pay attention to every little thing i do it honestly sucks
CXB That's so me..
I can relate to every single thing u said
im only 13, but this is way too accurate :(
....we have the same name.....
Same to you. We can be friends if you want :)
If you are struggling with these symptoms in general, for everyone, I'd get diagnosed. That's how you're going to get help. Don't let anxiety control your life. There's treatment and therapy. Don't fight this battle alone.
tatlynn I know I should probably do something about my feelings (which, in this video, is exactly how I feel) but I'm too scared to.
i can't afford therapy and my parents won't allow me to take medication :(
I feel like social anxiety isn’t allowing me to grow because I’m so afraid to do new things and meet people
Yes this was me.
I was the girl who would feel nauseous all the time. Have sweaty hands and hot flushes down my back. My heart rate at high speed in my chest. Feeling of crying when I spoke to anyone. Not feeling worthy. Looking down avoiding looking at people's faces. Feeling judged on every move every action and every word I spoke. Worried what people thought of me.
But one day it hit me. I admired so many females around me in school. I asked myself how were they so confident and popular? (The nice popular girls btw) How do they not give a damn on what people think? How can they be generally happy with themselves? How can they talk to people so easily? I examined how they were that week.
I quickly realised.. I'm the one who's holding myself back. From then on, I changed everything of my lifestyle.
I started making my counselling sessions worth while, actually taking in the advice.
I created a healthy routine of exercising, getting out more, visiting more people, dressing the way I wanted, eating more healthier, not second guessing myself, practising self confidence / esteem exercises. It took some time but the results have been amazing!
I can now walk in a street not looking down and feel like a badass. People now come up to me and talk to me. I can now talk with confidence.
Yeah my anxiety does come back, but I am in control of it and it doesn't consume me anymore ☺️
how i feel, it's difficolt for me everyday because I feel bad, i have a Inexplicable fear of social situations and the people don't understand how i feel so they judge me, they say "i am strange" or "I'm rude", They take advantage of me. Few people know exactly what is social anxiety, thanks for your video, it makes me feel understood 😄☁🌈
raiden stewart me too...I wish I could just talk to people freely and with ease like a lot of other people do but becsuse I'm so afraid of being judged and making eye contact with others, people will think I'm rude or stuck up or think that I think I'm better than everyone else when it's anything but that :( My social anxiety has even pushed all my friends away. I would often tell myself that these people dont really like me. they just feel sorry for me so they only tolerate me. So i isolate myself and they give up on me which only confirms my worst fears. it's crippling :(
same, but I also can't cross the street, I just get scared that the car won't stop or sometimes I cross on the wrong time and the and then the driver gets mad and beebs at me (is 'beebs' a word?)and when he does that I just frees and feel idk, scared and try to calm myself down. I hate crossing streets or talking to random people it's so annoying
Story time okay so it begin today I was walking to the bus stop. My bus was coming in 8 minutes so when I saw my bus at the red light I had to run the bus was just about to pull off lucky thing I made it in time anyway he closed the door all of a sudden I got nervous my hand was shaking and I was sweating today was just a bad day for me
Telling yourself I just have to push myself out of my comfort zone, stop reading into things so much, stop getting attached, etc. But it doesn’t help because no matter what you do you still have that constant fear.
I feel exactly the same way. I am always overthinking everything, not able to forget my fear for a moment, always thinking that people are judging me or talking bad about me.Everything time I have to do a presentation at school my hands start shaking.And I can't stop it
It’s the most exhausting thing in the world constantly fighting your own thoughts. Pushing people away because you’re afraid they don’t really like you or you annoy them. Overthinking every little thing someone says or does. And then your friends get annoyed when you constantly need reassurance and get anxious about things.
I’ve felt this way all my life and it makes me happy knowing I’m not alone in this. Thank you for making this video.
when she said "panic attacks in the school bathroom" i FELT that. today was my first day of freshman year, and i spent 5th hour in the bathroom hyperventilating while the counselor tried to console me.
Everything you just said is 100% accurate. At my work, the restaurant is divided into two sides. The restaurant side and the ice cream side and everyday I stay on my side. Whenever I hear people laughing, I constantly think they’re talking about how “weird” or “antisocial” I am. I want to go on that side and talk to them but I feel like I can’t. So watching this video gives me a sigh of relief knowing that there are other people out there who deal with social anxiety.
I am so relieved I’m not the only one feeling this way. I get so much anxiety with just doing what other people consider normal. Walking in the street, being out in the public, making small conversation, meeting new people, going to the gym, canceling last minute to hang out w/ friends, always in my room the whole day and even making a phone call. It literally controls my life and I hate it so much. Some people find it cute when they claim they have social anxiety but those people doesn’t actually know what social anxiety is like. You’re constantly being held back by this loophole you’re stuck with for the rest of your life and it sucks like hell. I really wish I could get rid of this feeling so I can have a normal life
I related to everything here. Social anxiety sucks the life outta me, man.
Introvert Outside Good luck with it all, buddy!
It’s exhausting trying to beat it everyday. We hope for tomorrow to be better but honestly it’s the same thing every day. You laugh with yourself. You talk and hang out with yourself. You do everything on your own. Anxiety is hard..and it’s truly exhausting
I had anxiety for two years. I am only thirteen now, everybody is probably thinking “you are too young, it’s probably not serious, etc. But I know what it was, and I wouldn’t admit it was anxiety. At the end on sixth class is when it started to go away. I don’t know what triggered it. Whenever someone tried to speak to me, I got so nervous and couldn’t speak. I cried a lot when I was on my own. I got left out in school. I got bullied. I was scared I wasn’t pretty, that I had to get into the trend. When I started secondary school is when it mostly went away. I have lots of friends now. I am more comfortable. I think my mam wanted to get a therapist, and I was soo scared for that. I understand why most people don’t want to go to a therapist. What I have now I won’t call anxiety, but I am still recovering and sometimes still get scared of big crowds, people and things. I hope this message will help other people to realise that now matter what triggers it or what you did that cause it, if it’s abuse tell someone, but if you did something you can tell others, or sometimes you don’t have to tell them. Because you can forgive yourself, no matter how bad it is, if you are sorry❤️
ever since 4th or 5th grade i have been the most nervous person in the WORLD. every morning i'd wake up and i would start to get an excruciating pain in my stomach because of so much stress. stress being caused by the thoughts of going to school and being around so many people who i KNOW dislike me. i'd stress about going to school the second i came home to the second i fall asleep. then in the morning, the stress just continues. EVERY single day i would wear a hoodie, black leggings and boots to try and cover as much of my body as i possibly can.
i'd hardly ever talk unless it's to a teacher or one of my 2 friends. i'm such an insecure person and it does NOT mix well with being nervous at all. i had finished 6th grade and decided i CANNOT go to school anymore, so my mom figured out a way to homeschool me. i'm definitely WAY happier now not being in school. but, it's unhealthy. REALLY unhealthy. i occasionally go outside, meaning, once or twice a month. i LIVE on the internet. and, i'm stuck here in this house completely alone for 11-12 hours EVERY DAY. i'm starting to worry because i am feeling very sad and, well, depressed lately. not only depressed but lonely, and REALLY anxious.
i've always been scared of normal things to fear, like spiders, insects, the dark, stuff like that. but i'm also scared of flies, lamps/bulbs flicking, and rapidly moving candles. mirrors make me feel quite uneasy too. and don't even get me started on the absolutely TERRIFYING images my mind creates. even typing it brings those images back and i'm starting to feel really anxious. i'm really starting to worry about myself. my mom says i am picking up mental illnesses from staying in the house all the time, and i always said "no i'm not, i'm perfectly fine", but now i'm starting to become more aware of what staying indoors for such a long period of time does to me.
the biggest thing i've picked up on is this, i don't know what to call it, but my mom calls it a "tick". i don't think that's the right word, though. i get SO unbelievably angry when i hear the sound of someone clearing their throat. like, so angry that it goes to the extent where i inflict pain on myself to try and release the anger, as edgy as that sounds. but seriously, every time i hear that sound it is TORTURE for me. so when someone clears their throat or coughs, i automatically have to cough because it makes me feel better. yeah, very weird, i know. i think getting so annoyed by noises like that is called "misophonia". not completely sure though. so, to sum everything i just wrote up, i think these are signs of social anxiety, normal anxiety, insecurity, depression, and misophonia. i also just searched google what the fear of talking is, because it's something i literally HATE doing, and found "glossophobia", so yeah. signs of that too. i obviously can't confirm i have any of these things until i see a doctor or a psychiatrist.
if you read down to here, thank you so much. i didn't plan on writing so much but it just automatically grew. i also feel relieved to finally write down everything that has been bothering me. sorry if i seemed over dramatic, but if you were me, you'd understand. thanks for your time
This was really well made. I wish more people would understand what social anxiety even means. Especially teachers. It's just annoying when you get a bad grade just because you're not participating in class or because your presentations suck.
I can relate so much to this video. no one understands wjat it feels like, everyone just thinks you're being rude or stuck up. It's so hard when you don't have anyone around you who actually understands what you're feeling.
MsAndieG24 some people think i'm so rude cause i don't talk or make conversation :/ i know how you feel
Haley Meyer I'm so happy I found your video. Thank you replying. Social anxiety sucks, I wish more people understood..
MsAndieG24 thanks so much!❤️
Right now I am waiting for diagnosis from my therapist for social anxiety.
I am soooooo afraid of going to school and being in public without anybody that i know. I hate elewators, I swear that every single day I am praying for an empty one. Probably my mom dont even know how many times Ive decided to stay at home and not go to school.
Actually I am afraid of social media the most.
If I would tell you what my perfect vacation should be like I would say:I want to go on desert island.
My tip for everybody with social mental illnesses is to find backup/protection. In class I have one friend who is stting with me, talking to me. She decide who are we gona be in group with. You can call it running away from problem. But at least it maight help.
btw the begenning of this film reminds me of Ed Sheeran Photograph music video
Worst part it when you start to have issues with seeing the people who you used to be close to. If you, by accident, don't see them for a week too long or they ask something of you thats out side of your comfort zone and suddenly, you feel like you have to cut out people you've been friends with for years. in the end, you end up with no one :(
this amazingly accurate I love it
Anxiety... Walking into a room, feeling like the everyone is looking at you. Judging you waiting for you to fail. Or, your teacher tells everybody it's time to read out loud. You count down the paragraphs in your head and rehearse over and over your paragraph so you won't mess up. Or taking too long at a register. And someone's waiting behind you. I think those are the worst for me. I never really realized how bad it was.
My my whole life I've had anxiety. I've denied it, push it away, tried to forget about it. But that's not possible. I've always thought I could manage it... That I didn't need anyone's help. But I finally decided and I'm going to get help.
I have this fucking social anxiety. and I don't know if it's just me, but when I'm driving a car, I feel a little better. but when I'm going through the streets on my feet.. I can't. that's too much. these people looking at me.. fast heartbeat, paralysis, all the thoughts.. I'm so fucking tired of my 'life' I wanted to kill myself and now I'm just depressed again.. I don't know what to do with myself. SSRI doesn't help me. but that video was helpful, made me feel I'm not so alone as I think.. thank You.
LonelyPlatinumGirl hang in there, i'm glad the video helped❤️❤️
I dont have that? are being shy and social anxiety different things?
I don't drive but I walk on the streets. I feel the same way. But I'm surprised u feel comfortable driving. I'm probably gonna be scared while driving because of road rage and I can't verbally defend my self.
Kuzuforprison yes they are two totally different things. Say you're shy, you don't want to talk to people but it doesn't necessarily bother you that much however; social anxiety is fearing to talk to people scared of being judged and talked about behind your back. People mistake me for being shy but they don't know what's really going on in my head..
I could probably leave the house in the car but not on foot
I do not know if I have social anxiety, but every time I watch a video about social anxiety, I recognize myself in it
Wow...so relatable my house is the safe place when I come home from school I’m relieved no crowds no people just me alone in my room calm and not thinking to much, I’m 13 it’s really hard actually, I’m also going through depression and obviously social anxiety every time when I go with my mom to the store I have to say do I look good cause I don’t want everyone staring at me when I’m at school ugh just in the hallway so much people I have to go to the bathroom to calm down and say your ok nothing is gunna happen ok stay calm don’t be afraid sometimes I just feel like crying what’s worse is yesterday my teacher was talking about how shy I am at school and to quit and she called me out in front of my whole class I wanted to say something to her but didn’t I wanted to tell her you can’t just do that that’s not ok you like fucked up like stop please stop like they don’t understand but when I saw this video I just connected so much every little word you said is what I feel and been through and still am... just wish my friends people I knew would just understand but they don’t at all
It feels great to be here, seeing all the comments and so many people relating to it. I feel safe that i am not the only one going through this.
My family just doesn't understand my social anxiety. My brother called me stuck up....idk why. I told him that it's hard for me to talk to people and I just can't do it. He said that I can do...I just don't want to. I CAN'T TALK TO PEOPLE. It's so hard for me to talk to people. I can't go out with my family. Going to school is rough. Every time I hear someone laugh or whisper around me I automatically think it's about me. I change my outfit about 3 to 4 times every morning because I think people will talk about it. WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME?! I'm 13 in the 8th grade. At least I have a few bestfriends that help me get through the school day. I'm thankful for them. Getting out and going somewhere is the hardest thing for me. I don't think anyone around me would understand that.
And sweating, shaking, trouble sleeping, blending everything out as much as possible, sometimes it's hard to walk normal..
this is such a powerful video you are truly an inspiration 💖
Bluebird thank you so much, that means a lot❤️
Truth is, for a long time I had thought that I was just shy. Lately however, I see that it’s not only that.
I get so nervous in class and i start sweating which gave me even more anxiety, to the point where nowadays I wear a coat EVERY SINGLE DAY at school to cover it.
I blush every time I answer a question in class because I’m not sure if my answers are correct and i feel like everyone will laugh at me.
I do my best to not get out of class even during recess because I’m worried im gonna do something stupid or embarrassing.
I find it hard to talk to people, I can’t make new friends and I find excuses to not attend social events or go somewhere that my friends will be with their OTHER friends because I know that I’ll just end up sitting awkwardly by myself the whole time.
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Anyway, I doubt many people would take the time to read this but I just needed somewhere to vent and get what I feel out of my chest. If you took the time to read all this, God bless you and i hope you have a lovely month ❤️
social anxiety is the worst. a lot of people just say they have it for attention, why would they even want to say that? it's absolute shit. it prevents you from having friends or a social life. i've tried to make friends so many times but it's so hard to stick with them because it eventually cuts off due to my anxiety and awkwardness. i can never hold a conversation. the only place i ever am is in bed, i don't understand why ANYONE would WANT this terrible disorder
I have pretty bad anxiety and here’s one thing that helped me. I always remind myself, you only have one life on this earth, and you can’t screw it up by being scared constantly. You will have so many regrets.
I dont think I have social anxiety im just very self conscience and shy. More like fear of being judged which sucks cause I have a dream to become an actor but it will never happen
Katelin ussery you can overcome your anxiety it sounds hard to believe but if you really have a dream to be an actor you can do it I have faith in you. Even though I don't know you I believe that you are an amazing person even tho it will be hard you can successfully reach your goal. Im really shy but I've been able to put myself out more into the world more by slowly pushing myself a bit and that's why I believe you can do the same. You go follow your dreams be who you want to be. :)
if you will try hard, you can do anything. It will just take sometime. I believe in you.
Katelin ussery exactly I always thought acting was so cool and fun to do. But I couldn't do my best in front of others.
You just described my life in one video, my social anxiety has made me shut some of the people that love me the most, and it even got to the point of when my mom said "have you had a good day at school?" i would just say yeah to make sure she doesn't worry, i have had loads of anxiety attacks in the school bathrooms, and the only place i feel most safe is in my bed where i can be myself and chill, at the moment there is only two people i am able to open up to (my mom and best friend) but even with them i end up trying to block them out and want to be alone, i have been called many things in my day-to-day life by people that don't even know me, like today a girl that goes to my school said to my best friend that she thinks i'm just dramatic and i am making up my anxiety, and at the moment i have had enough of all the teasing, it even is hard to write this :( because of the thought someone is going to judge me, my main point is that if anyone reads this (or if it just fades into the comments) can they please support the people with anxiety because i don't think anyone would make it up that they have this terrible problem. Xxx
All you said is what I feel...a lot of times
This is very much what social anxiety feels like for me too. I’m 17 and I feel that I’ve wasted my entire high school experience being afraid and nervous and throwing away all kinds of opportunities... it really sucks
Can someone please help! Basically, I've been thinking these past few months if I have Social Anxiety. I've asked so many friends and family members and they all just say 'it's just nerves as you grow up' and 'it's just fear'. But it's so much more. I get so worked up about having one single conversation with anyone. Even if they are my best friend. I refuse to do something that involves talking to a stranger, even if it's ordering a meal at a fast food restaurant. And in class, when I get picked on by my teachers for daydreaming I get so scared. My heart won't stop beating and I begin to sweat. Even if I get the right answer, I question if I said it right. Does anyone think im likely to have or have social anxiety?
I cried during this. It completley describes me. I always hear “its not a big deal.” Im always sick to my stomach. Im scared to compliment people. Im scared to walk past people, down the hall, do anything
I know exactly what she feels like. I've had Social Anxiety my whole life and spend most of my life in my room.
Social anxiety is the worst
Every time someone laughs i automatically think its about me. This video is so relatable
Social anxiety is hell, yet some people just don't understand
you are beautiful, just letting u know.
Arnav R E V I E W empty words for me because i also hate myself
This is excatly how I feel! I've watched so many different videos about social anxiety and this is one of those I can relate the most
I suffer the same thing everyday:(
Wow... Thank you. Now I know that I'm not alone in this. It feels so stressful to listen to constant "You should talk more" "He is so shy/emotional/exagerated" "Don't listen to him, he is just overreacting" "Stop crying, it's nothing".
This is me. I fucking hate social anxiety
I'm 17 years old and I can say that I have had social anxiety ever since I was a kid. It was only until the last 2-3 years that I have been progressively improving and now it's safe to say that my social anxiety is about 70% better than it used to be. I used to be unable to talk to anyone other than my friends without feeling extremely anxious and scared of being judged. Really the way I improved was by trying to be more social and putting myself in social situations. A major factor to this was getting a job working at a gas station and forcing myself to talk to people which believe it or not has helped SO much. The only way to conquer your fears is to face them and overcome them and in the end it isn't so bad after all. The main trigger for my social anxiety was the feeling of having no purpose and meaning in life which led me to discover the world of music. I learned to play piano and bass guitar and that has been almost a means of venting my anxiety through just playing and zoning out, nowadays I'm so much better. I hope anyone reading this learns at least something in order to overcome this horrible feeling of social phobia.
Social Anxiety I have the same thing it's my fear. All the people I hang out with are nothing but imature. And I feel alone cause I'm not like them and don't have the same in common. If im alone with no one it helps me stay focused and get my day go by fast.
my school is full of dumb gangsters! nothing like me
@@kuzuforprison697 omg same
this is SO accurate. I have a really bad social anxiety, whenever someone tries to talk to me i have panic attacks, shake, cant speak, and tear up. and still everyone thinks im just shy. this is a great video thank you for making it. at least im not alone♥
This describes me so well...
This is actually so relatable, sometimes i feel like no one understands what i feel, and i need to know that other people do feel like this too
Omg Love The Video I was in tears because I feel the same way! Can you do a video about how to control your anxiety while driving? I would love that because that is one of my biggest fears and I am 19 years old and I need to start driving but I need help!
i cried watching this because it's exactly how i feel every day, and i hate it
I can totally relate.
I HATE talking with people, everyone talks about me and calls me little girl. IM A HIGHSCHOOLAR GETTING CALLED LITTLE GIRL BY PEOPLE MY AGE!
Douche- Hey little kid can you move?
Me- Uhhhh
Douche- Well? Little kid?
Me- * Panic attack * Y-Yeah s-sure t-thing....
I HATE IT!
than you are more then shy.... cause im very shy but i like it to talk but just now to much
My social anxiety stops me from doing normal activities like how to behave in front of others, even I can't remember anything properly hence I get bad marks, sometimes but i manage this with my social anxiety. Actually living life with this is really tough, no one understands our problem 😥😭
I have social anxiety but i put a mask to look im fine then fear comes over me darkness and hate also i have depression
I have a lot of social anxiety and this was so relatable when she said "The feeling of constantly feeling judged" or "when someone laughs i think it is because of me". I was bullied like a lot and that caused me to have social anxiety so i know how it feels to be "constantly watched" People think that i'm very rude because i don't talk to them as well and its really annoying so i just try to suppress those feelings. for anyone out there who feels the same way, trust me, you're not alone. a lot of people feel this way
this is why i smoke weed
ScarySun u a real one
I think if I was to drink I wonder how I will be like maybe as I get older I do that just to drink my problems away because I can’t do this any much longer
Itzkrystal That is the worst possible solution other than drugs
philipx550 technically yes but what i mean is weed doesn’t cause damage quite like other drugs do
i loved that you called it fear because so do i. I've always described it as constantly being terrified of doing completely normal things or things that are supposed to be fun. it's ridiculous and i hate that i cant or am always afraid of doing SIMPLE things like talk to people, do activities, sports, life outside of my room, etc. people dont understand and just think im being rude or that im "too cool" when really im just anxious and worried. i think too much all the time. why can't i be normal, why am i so scared, and why do i care so much about what other people think? why am i like this..
yes... just yes
I have social anxiety and my parents tell me I have to just “get over it” when I won’t come downstairs and people are over. I won’t socialize when my sisters bf is over, even if it’s only one extra person. I especially won’t at my dads house, where his friends consist of loud, drunk idiots, who I swear see who can give me a headache the quickest
I’ve known that I’ve felt like I’m annoying to everyone even if they never actually say it. I’ve always known that I over think everything that I say or hear. But I didn’t realize it was a form of social anxiety until now. Thank you for this 🙏🏻
I have the huge need to show this to my mom, she always thinks I'm overreacting or making a big deal of something. Thanks to this I don't feel alone
i am 12 years old and i have social anxiety. i cant eat in public places. i cant present a book report. i cant eat while im with people other then my family. i cant answer a simple question that my teacher asks of me. i cant sit down with being afraid of people judging me. i cant eat lunch at school. i have to bring extra pencils to school because im worried about having to stand up to sharpen my pencil. i cant get changed in the locker room without waiting until everyone is gone. im pretty much afraid of everyone/everything. i dropped out of school awhile ago. i cry whenever i think about going to school. im trying to step out of my comfort zone. whenever i eat in public places, i try to stop myself from breaking down in tesrs when they ask me for my order. it just doesnt work out. i cry whenever i think of things like this.
im trying to get better :)
I can relate and I have had this problem for so long that my chest is starting to feel heavy and at the same time hollow. I go to online school now which makes me feel slightly better about it now. I hope you can get through it, meditating helps as well.
I try so hard to explain to people what it's like for me with anxiety. Usually people isolate me more instead of understanding or say I'm making it up. This video explains exactly how I feel. Anxiety controls every aspect of my life. Thanks for sharing your story!
Now since that therapist told me I've got social anxiety, I can remember so many things that happened just because of that fear. My grades became so bad, just because I was so scared of talking in class and saying something wrong. It's not getting better but I know it's my job to deal with it since I didn't wanted a therapy. I got there because I told my mum I had a depression, but I answered not a single question honest because I couldn't sleep when I knew I had a new meeting, I was just stressed out to talk so much about my feelings with a stranger. After the diagnosis phase ends, I told them it became better and I don't want a therapy anymore. This dumb woman really asked my whether I'd like to do a group therapy with like 10 others hahaha.
It's the worst to eat in class in front of others, the mask is the only thing that gives me security. I have to look in every single car when I'm outside, because I feel like I have to be prepared for when I meet people I know. Sometimes I even think of the way I walk and how long I have to look in a person's eyes when I talk to them. I never know what to talk about when I ride with my bike to get home with some classmates after school (this sentence doesn't sound right). I really try my best to find a subject but it always ends up that I'm riding alone behind all the others, that's why I prefer taking the bus. It's good to know that it's not me that acts like this, it's not my fault, and it's not yours, it's because of this anxiety.
I was diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder earlier this year. It’s horrible. Anxiety is not fun. To everyone struggling, You are amazing ❤️
For my whole life I’ve been afraid of team sports knowing I would be judged if I messed up, not talking to family or friends, my school calls me “asmr” because I’m so quiet thinking people judge me for what I would say, and I’m known as “quiet girl” being called quiet isn’t a compliment :(
A lot of this really describes me (except the panic attacks) and I’ve always wondered if its just who I am. Now I’m not so sure but i hope others who do have social anxiety know that you are loved and appreciated no matter what!
Depression is something I suffer from time to time and I think this video is the best one that describes it.
omg this is so fucking relatable. thank you. and the part when you say "it feels like u wanna compliment someone but being too afraid" i thought it was just me
this'll sound basic, but this video is really relatable.
+ tfw when people don't want to be friends with you and always leave you behind because they think you just want to stay home and don't want to make friends. guys. I wish I had the courage to go for a walk not covering my face with a mask or a scarf. I wish I had the courage to be comfortable enough to speak out loud what I really think.
so I am alone all the time and "cute" is the last thing u can say about social anxiety.
This was 2 years ago aha but I think I have anxiety. I feel exactly like this video, worrying about everything, thinking I’m annoying, not speaking to anyone but my close friends and family. People literally ask me if I speak. I don’t take the opportunities that I would love to because I worry people will judge me, or are watching me. The best I can describe it is kind of a burning feeling in my chest when I have to answer a answer in class, when I start worrying or when someone I don’t really know starts talking to me. It doesn’t even feel like being shy, my friends are all shy but they can talk to people and teachers pretty easily whilst it feels like I can’t open my mouth and I can’t think of anything to say.