Negotiating the Pitfalls of Parenting - Are You Doing More Harm Than Good?
ฝัง
- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 29 มิ.ย. 2024
- How do you negotiate the difficult roads of personal relationships especially when you have tried your hardest and then find out you are doing more harm than good? Watch this video with our special guest Jono Decker from Mended Light.
Next, watch Therapist reacts to Ginny and Georgia with Bob Bordone
• Therapist Reacts to Gi...
Welcome! I'm Bob Bordone, a Senior Fellow at Harvard Law School and the Founder and former Director of Harvard Law Schools Negotiation Mediation Clinical Program. I'm also the Founder and Principal of the Cambridge Negotiation Institute and have written and taught on negotiation, mediation, and conflict resolution for more than 20 years.
00:00 Collab with Mended Light
01:00 Ginny and Georgia clip
04:00 Build confidence
11:00 Feedback can feel like judgement
#ginnyandgeorgia #mendedlight #BobBordone
A little context. The dad is not dead but the most recent step dad died at the beginning of season 1. Genny's dad moved close by at the end of the 1st season to be more active in her life and in Austin's life even though he is not his dad. Her dad found out about the self harm and put her in therapy. She was reluctant but went because she didn't want her dad to tell her mom about some of the things he found out. Georgia found Genny's therapy journal and that's how she found out about therapy and the self harm. This scene is basically Georgia crashing Genny's therapy session without Genny's permission and without giving the therapist a heads up.
Something i really dislike about Ginny is that she adores her dad because he is the "fun" one, but he totally bailed on them ans was able to have a normal life, study, travel, while Georgia was struggling to raise their kid, and the only other choice was his parents basically stealing Ginnt away from Georgia instead of supporting her
@@Fan_Girl-xd8wy I hear you. So many kids have those relationships with their parents the one who is around gets more flack than the one that isn't. It's messed up most kids grow out of it but some don't.
@@Fan_Girl-xd8wyYeah it's not bc he is the "fun" one, it's bc Ginny feels safer with her mom to react that way. Kids tend to do that with the parent that is safer to do that with bc they won't get abandoned. Also Ginny knows her mom left her dad and basically pushed him to follow his dreams. If you rewatch the one scene Georgia packs up her stuff and says that if her and Ginny stay he will hate his life and resent her so she leaves instead. Not to mention the first time, Georgia also left without telling him since his parents said they wanted to adopt Ginny.
Important context (to understand the tension in the beginning and why the therapist wasn’t warm and open): this was Ginny’s therapy session. Georgia overstepped her bounds and stated that she would be there too, because she wanted to see it for herself. Ginny and the therapist were both taken aback, and even though some good conversation happened since Georgia was there, it completely took away the private care that Ginny needed and turned the focus onto Georgia.
I have a complicated relationship with both of my parents and have tried to explain the topics that have been brought up in this video throughout my life. I don't feel heard by them abd don't get the feeling that they are even trying. However hearing you guys analyse this situation makes me feel like I am heard and someone sees me because these conflicts are human.
I'm so sorry to hear about this struggle but very grateful to you for sharing with us. And very glad to know that you have felt heard and seen here. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for the video! I loved what you said about being a good parent/person and still sometimes making bad choices.
Came here from mended light! Great content!
So glad you found this. Thanks for your nice words and feel free to spread the word to others!
I love that suggestion of thinking of instances in which you did the opposite of what you chose as your values.
I am new to the channel but I am getting an idea of what negotiation is and I am really interested. I'd love book recommendations to get into the topic. So thankful for your insights in this videos! 😄
Ginny wouldn’t have been able to express herself in a healthy manner if it wasn’t for therapy. In the first season, she is very catty and can be very mean to her mom.
On one of your final points about how did Ginny get to be so mature. Its kind of a core part of their relationship.
Georgia never got to have a childhood of her own and in many ways hasn't really matured beyond the wild 15 year old she was when she had ginny. She's flighty, reactive, emotionally immature, a teenager in a 30 year olds body.
Consequently Ginny has been parentified from a young age, taking on much of the caring responsibilities for herself and her brother. At the same time though, Ginny thinks she's more mature than she actually is, in that she makes many incorrect assumptions and well intended actions have dire consequences, she thinks she can manage things she can't (& shouldn't have to), and rushes into situations she's not ready for.
I found many aspects of the second season were handled beautifully in terms of how they presented mental health issues. Particularly 2 of the later episodes tell the story of the same day from 2 different perspectives, 1 of whom is battling depression, the actor does a phenomenal job, and the cinematography is brilliant with how it shoots the exact same scene in 2 very different ways to communicate how each character experiences it.
Which is why these scenes with the therapist frustrate me so much, as they i feel like the therapist and the way they portray the experience of going to therapy is pretty inaccurate
Mums 30 and the daughters 15 .. her mum was never there
And let the step dad do what ever he wanted with her so she ran away at 14/15
And she’s on the run but her kids don’t know that she’s hiding from her son’s father … it will come
Later that her names not Georgia but Mary