I don’t envy your job one bit. It’s like people are just looking for things to say “gotcha!” to. You do so much already and your content really makes a difference, so thank you.
The “gotcha” attitude really bugs me! One place I constantly run into it is when people talk about wind generation for electricity. People love to show up and talk about bird deaths with that “gotcha” attitude. But they’re making this comparison in a vacuum and totally disregard the fact that coal/natural gas power plants actually kill more birds per KWh generated! And they ignore the fact that the leading cause of bird deaths is actually outdoor cats. So keeping our cats as indoor only and supporting Trap, neuter, release (TNR) programs in your local area will have a MUCH more profound effect on bird lives…
It’s as if we feel like we get higher on the “good people” list if we nitpick someone else…like, “ha! I’m better at this than you because I noticed xyz.” Tiiiiiiired
With the exception of maybe being playful with friends/family I really hate gotcha when it comes to discussions. Like it's not cool or faithfully arguing if you purposely take people out of context or ignore all nuance and makes everyone more divisive and miserable.
Well shit. I finished gardening and decided to sit by my fan with a glass of ice water and enjoy your content on my refurbished iPhone 6 (that I charged with solar!). Didn’t realize I’ve committed a multitude of sins. Some people. 🤦♀️ You’re an amazing person and activist Shelbi!
And I bet you sat on a chair of some sort which took energy to make in or around your home which has water and electricity installed. What a sinner! 😋😻
How dare you not sit flat on the ground! But also if you did sit on the ground... How dare you crush so many plants and I sects - don't you know we need to save the pollinators?! You're doing great 💕
It's really sad that people are so nit picky when they probably don't even do a QUARTER of the sustainable things you do... I'm so glad you're getting help, the internet is a cruel place a lot of the time. Your true supporters will always be grateful for everything you do. Wishing you all the strength, peace and patience!
Definitely and they blame the individual instead of corporations and governments that make sustainable living impossible. We didn’t opt-into this system. 🙄
I have never commented on any of your videos or really looked at any of the comments, but I've watched your videos religiously for the last 2 years. It seems like the nit-picky peoples voices are louder, and I just want to let you know how much I love your content. There are probably many like me who don't comment enough to let you know we hear your message, appreciate how real you are and tell you what a great example you are of your moto (both of them now). Thank you!
Yes! The extremes tend to be the loudest. That’s why I’ve started going into the comment sections to balance it out but comment sections can be so toxic 🫣
@@miss_xenia_ Yes, this. Even just adding a little comment that the video was enjoyable balances it out. I work on TH-cam (for a different creator, I'm not a creator myself) and the nice comments are noticed, trust me. The mean ones are just louder sometimes.
I will comment here just to say that absolutely I'm totally a lurker but you have helped me make so many personal changes in my day-to-day that are better for the planet and I'm so grateful for you!
I will never understand the whole "why is your fan on if it's not hot outside" 1) unless you are literally her neighbor you have no idea how hot it was when she was filming 2) a couple of kilowatts is not worth Shelby, Madison, and Tippy all getting heatstroke
Also, I don't really get the ice thing either. Literally your freezer is always on, whether there is an ice pack in there or not doesn't matter... She lives in Texas iirc, I would argue that ice is a necessity there. The people commenting on that should maybe ask why has it gotten so hot in Texas recently? Perhaps a little thing called climate change??
Uhh, ceiling fans actually save energy! They provide extra cooling so you don't have to run your AC as cold 🤦🏻♀️ honestly girl, you and Madison are doing great. I know the negative comments can be discouraging, but please don't let them get to you! Your work is way too important and I have learned so much from you 🖤
Some people need to go outside. Honestly, I get so much inspiration from your videos and they keep me motivated to continue towards goals of being more environmentally conscious. Your the goal I'm working toward and I learn from you with every video. So keep doing what you're doing. The naysayers always seem to have the loudest voices. You're doing great.
So many content creators deal with sustainability, environment and conscious living, yet this is the only channel that I follow religiously because you tell things as they are. I'm tired of the picture perfect lifestyle, of women who look and talk exactly like one another telling me to dump my stuff and replace it with bamboo products. I stopped following everyone who tried to showcase their yearly trash contained in a jar, because it was giving me anxiety and making me wonder why I can't reach such ridiculous goals. We are all doing the best we can with the cards we have been dealt. Sending you love from Europe! 🥰
I love that you show the imperfections, struggles, and process of how you decide which choices to make. The “perfect” standard is obviously impossible and makes me feel so discouraged. And the deeper videos you make are so important and needed. Sorry the internet people have been so horrible.
Thanks for being so honest about what you’re going through. Don’t forget to check how liked the comments are when they’re getting you down. Im willing to bet most comments that are thankful for what you do end up with tons of likes (to the point that they’re 90% or more of your engagement) while the negative ones end up with almost none. On a personal level, you’re one of the few zero waste channels I can religiously watch BECAUSE you’re not artificial and full of crap like all the other ones.
You do you. You know not to pay attention to the nit picky. That alone is important. Folks in life that have caused me the most grief had issues worse than any they could try to create for me. We all do not have to agree on everything. R E S P E C T. You have mine.
@@charcoalmef I run into similar comments from time to time on my videos as well, but my channel’s not big enough to attract the real trolls like Shelbi’s. So I’m actually kinda mentioning it as a way of reminding myself I guess haha! It’s hard sometimes honestly. Negative stuff sticks with us more than the positive for whatever reason!
I so get that. I feel guilty for buying convenience foods sometimes, so I skip on them all together and think I’ll make them myself but then I just end up not eating because I didn’t have time to make yogurt or bread or whatever I usually have for lunch/breakfast. I have to know my limits because I can’t always do it all.
@@Plantsandmusicandyarn Wow that sounds like a struggle. I can understand how that would happen. Remeber you can't fight for the causes you care out with out nuturing your own body first🧡
I Love to see the “unsustainable” things you do because I need to see that as a person trying my best. If you only show perfect things it makes me feel like garbage since I could never be perfect. THANK YOU FOR WHAT YOU DO 💚💚💚
Honestly annoyed you had to make this video, how can anyone expect you to be perfect. We're all the doing the best we can and you've always be soo open from the beginning. Keep doing you, I find your videos super helpful and full of knowledge so I love coming back to your channel.
I get sick and stressed seeing people’s ridiculous comments on my favorite TH-camrs feeds. I can’t imagine how it weighs on you. From the bottom of my heart, I love your personality, and thank you for the great content!
People love to knit pick and it does make creators interact less in the comments which is unfortunate and not fair for those that are supporters. Love your content!
Can I just apologize, on behalf of all the assholes...I'm so sorry that you feel discouraged from being your authentic natural self at all times. Your content is needed and appreciated. Every bit of it. "If you don't have something nice to say..." If it's not constructive, just shut up? Shelby clearly shines in this movement towards helping our Earth and encouraging others to do the same. If you don't like it, leave her alone and actually leave. End of story. Love you girl, and that wifey too! Been watching more of your vlog channel and seeing you 2 together more, and sweet Tippy! Makes me so happy. Thank you for everything over the years. 💚
We love you Shelby!! Thank you for highlighting that everyone's best looks different and the most impactful changes are structural ones. Perfection isn't realistic for anyone. Your videos have helped me to make changes and to increase my awareness, thank you! 💕
I think people who are making negative comments on your videos are projecting their own insecurities onto you because it's easier than facing reality. I think it's great that you've made this video to confront those people on this, but I really hope you will not take it to heart and let others make you feel inadequate in anyway. There are so many of us who admire how you live your life, don't forget! I really appreciate you and want to thank you for educating me on so many things. I've made some serious changes in my life with your help and am excited to do what I can to live more sustainably. Keep doing you Shelbi, cuz you're doing what you can for this planet and making others want to too!
I love the nuance you bring into this space and I appreciate your openness about all of this. I'm sorry so many people are inconsiderate and pass so much judgement on to you. I wish it was as simple as ignoring the negative comments; but I know that that's not how brains work. I hope therapy helps you and that you start making improvement.
Great video! Wish people would realize it’s about progress, not perfection. I agree with Ava, that often I feel guilt if I’m not doing things perfectly. And it’s killer, man. We are just trying to do better. We aren’t saints, and even they weren’t perfect. Thanks for all you do and sorry for the shit you get. You inspire so many of us!
Please.continue.being.REAL!!! It is the only reason why I watch your channel so much. It’s reality, it’s honest, and unpretentious. I don’t watch other “perfect” channels because I can’t connect with them, unlike you and your channel that is so encouraging to just start doing something, and be serious about it, but being kind to yourself at the same time. Also, I grew up in the Pacific Northwest and never understood the need for air conditioning until I moved to Texas. Anyone who has never lived here cannot understand. Ceiling fans for air circulation are also a must. I also get really pissed off at pretentious environmentalists from NYC or or the East Coast in general who have no concept of how car-dependent Texas and other spread-out areas are. When I get told that I should just start riding a bike more I just laugh and enjoy the mental image of slapping their stupid faces. Sorry that was harsh lol
Blows my mind that people even have the audacity to say some of those things much less to someone they don't know and who is just trying to help us all be a bit better in out world. Noone is perfect nor does anyone do all of the things all of the time, we're all just trying our best. Glad you got this of your chest!! Thanks for all you have taught me over the years, it's truly appreciated. ✌️
I think we all need this reminder on a regular basis. Being a woman i feel this pressure to hold all the roles; mom, wife, professional working woman, daughter, sister equality and perfectly. You are good enough and life isn't perfect and you cant be everything to everyone. You should start or end all your videos with that quote. Little changes can have huge impact in all areas of your life. Kudos for you for being real
Perfection is a lie. Full stop. I genuinely appreciate this channel and it has given me information to make positive changes in my life. Shelby, You are making a huge positive impact. I know your job is hard. Please don't give up on sharing and teaching.
OMG. I think you hit the nail on the head! People just want to find things to criticize. It seems to be ‘a thing’ nowadays. Not sure why but I totally appreciate all the things you show and new ideas. Thank you. Xo
I started watching you about 3 months ago; the thing you said about “you can’t do all the good in the world, but the world can use all the good you can do” was what stuck with me and keeps me coming back for more! Shelby you are doing amazing work! 🤗
I love watching your video's, you have taught me a lot and really opened my eyes to how wasteful I was. I just sit here and enjoy them, I could never find something to nit pick and criticize you on. It seems that alot of people don't know how to enjoy anything anymore and have to critique everything.
I've heard it said once to the effect that if you claim to be an activist, you're never doing enough because you could always be doing more. However, Shelbi you ARE DOING BEYOND ENOUGH. I became more conscious of my habits because of you and this channel. I now look at the world through a completely different lens and try to implicate as many eco-friendly actions as I can on a daily basis because of you and this channel. And I am humbled by the privilege of being able to live sustainably because of you and this channel! You're doing your part, and I'm sorry that some people are trying to make you believe you aren't.
The more I watch your channel the more I respect the hard work that goes into it. There is a level of research and realism that is not common to see. Plus, may I just say, I SO appreciate the balance of your perspective. You do a great job of inspiring me to take individual action, as well as acknowledging the systemic changes that need to happen. Plus giving specific examples of how I can use my influence to push for that change-- it gives me so much hope! I don't know if I'll be able to word this correctly, but I can't help but feel like the people who are too nit-picky are deriving satisfaction from making sustainable living seem impossible. Maybe they just like being jerks, or maybe they're trying to give themselves excuses. It's so funny (in a sad way) that they would criticize you for not being "perfect" when that's literally the opposite of what your channel is about.
Being perfect at zero waste in the society we currently live in is so difficult. I'd really like to see the people criticizng showing everyone everything they use in their life and see if it's perfect 🙃 Tbh seeing your videos is the sole reason I started to change how much I consume and throw away, swapped to a lot of zero waste stuff etc. You've already made a giant impact on so many individuals and you should be proud of yourself!
When people think they have to be “sustainable “ in a perfect way, it puts way to much pressure on them. They may think, “if I can’t go all the way, why bother”. I always love your tips for living sustainability and know that every little thing counts. Also, love your message, today! There is a culture now, where people look for ways to criticize everything. Ugh! Toxic! Thanks for doing what you do and keep it coming.
TH-cam looks like easy money but putting yourself out there, and making yourself vulnerable takes some guts. And as someone who is very environmentally conscious, I know the struggle of constantly debating between different trade offs and making conscious choices after hours of thinking. Then getting criticism from people who don't know the thought process behind decisions is just slap in the face. Anyhow, YOU GO GIRL! Use your presence to at least get people thinking.
Thank you for this video! It's something people need to hear, although I'm sure the majority is mature enough to understand that no one is perfect (including them). I hope you won't stop posting because I genuinely consider you one of the best creators who talk about environmental issues. Specifically, because you are fair, and authentic and talk about issues others don't address. Your approach is (ironically) perfect because consider every side of an issue. So, thank you for your work.
Shelby- thank you for making this video. It's really unfair that people are this nitpicky with your content. When people are new to low waste/sustainability, you are usually the first person I send them to because of all the reasons you listed. You seem like a real human being! You drive a car! You eat what you want to eat! You live in a house! I have so many friends that see people like me (live in a big city with ample public transit, in a small space, etc) and think they can't make any changes because they can't make the changes I've made. And a lot of sustainability "influencers" live lifestyles even more outwardly perfect than mine. The content you make is honest and genuinely helpful and that's what I share it with so many of my friends.
Thank you for sharing your perspective! :) I'm a third year medical student, and I chose to become a medical student to address human suffering. A lot of aspects of my life, just because of being a medical student, are fairly unsustainable. Public transit is not an option for me, ignoring the fact that I live in Texas, because being on time is literally a matter of whether or not I keep my job, I cannot risk not being on time. I also have to buy lots of supplies that cannot be purchased secondhand, like my stethoscope, hospital attire (all of my business casual is secondhand but scrubs? Not willing to buy those used), notebooks (tech is iffy because of patient confidentiality), and other things that non-medical students don't think about. Not to mention the process of getting into medical school/residency, which usually means flying all over the country to accept whichever school/job you get offered. Of course I do the best that I can, I eat 100% plant-based, always buy clothing/furniture secondhand, and I try to reduce my impact wherever I can, but I will never be perfect. Other environmentalists pointing it out just makes me feel helpless lol
Newby here. Thank you, you have inspired me exactly in the way I think you intended to do. I haven't shifted my life upside down but I am looking around at things that could be better. One here, another there. It's not huge by any means but you did change my outlook on things. I didn't know food going to landfill was so damaging. I didn't know aquatic life provides most of oxygen. Etc. etc. etc. Let me sneak in a little request for the off chance you do see this comment: I don't live in the US, where I live most waste is burned. Do you have any information or tips for how I can treat my garbage best? You talk a lot about landfills but that doesn't apply to my personal situation. Love for you to inform me. Thank you again so so much, your channel really helps.
I’m the same, a lot of things you can do involve reducing your waste (try doing a trash audit), upcycling as much as possible, composting (food waste takes a lot of energy to incinerate as it is so wet). Hope that helps, Good luck!
Glad you're mentioning your imprefections.. have this idea in my head folk that care about this issue don't ever face 'hiccups' basically. My husband doesn't hold the same values as I and I'm not willing to ruin our relationship over my ideals. I have to accept my household will carry plastic bottled water because my husband loves the taste of it. I can make myself feel better by contacting the company he likes and suggesting they use not virgin plastic and have a non separate cap that can cause issues if disconnected to the bottle.
I know this don't make up for the trolls but you're honestly my role model and helped me get into ecominimalism back in 2020. As far as cars, a super amazing channel is "Not Just Bikes" that talks about how bad infrastructure is in North America and how car dependency and a lot more is systemic
I'm so sorry to hear that people criticize you so much around some of these things. You're doing the best you can (which is A LOT!) and I SO appreciate watching your videos as it allows me to learn so much about making less wasteful choices!
For what it's worth I love your slogan. It really helps any time something feels like only a small effort that won't help much to remind myself that any good I can put into the world is a positive. People love to criticise to make themselves feel justified in giving up and not trying at all. We can all only do the best we can with what we have and none of us can be perfect simply because the system doesn't allow us to but that doesn't mean we should just give up like many people sadly seem to think. Plus talking about our efforts helps everyone because we can all share ideas and it helps us all improve little by little.
Oh, Shelbi... I'm so sad you have to endure all of this 💔 I think you're doing an amazing job. Like you said, we have to do what we can, so there's no point in judging people based on the standard of perfection instead of reality. Keep going girl, you're a beautiful soldier of the Earth and nobody's voice is more important than the voice of your soul, so if you're at peace with yourself and your life, the rest of the world can go to hell 😘😘💚💚
You make me feel better about what I *can* do for the planet without making me feel like complete trash for what I *can't* do. Your content is both relatable and inspirational, and I love it!
Shelby, I cannot even begin to tell you how much you’ve helped me with my sustainable lifestyle. It really hurts my heart that you even had to make a video like this. People who criticize you honestly just don’t understand how difficult it is to have a sustainable lifestyle particularly in the US and that you sometimes have to choose your mental health or yourself over sustainability. Yes, you can always be more sustainable, but do these people not understand you’re a human & need to live your life? It blows my mind that they have the need to comment about having AC, they obviously have never been to Texas in the summer. (Fellow San Antonian myself) 😂 y’all wouldn’t even last a day. Please know you have a huge community that supports and appreciates you! This is also honestly my first comment on one of your videos even though I’ve seen so many, just know you have tons of silent appreciators!!!
You go girl! You gotta do what's best for you, and I'm SO thankful for your honesty and transparency. I feel like the last few weeks I've slipped a lot in my sustainable habits, and I'm wanting to get back into it. But having grace for myself in the times where I'm not "perfect" is so important, if I didn't I would get burned out SO easily.
I'm amazed and inspired that you and your wife are able to live so sustainably and do all the things you do. It's wonderful to know that a life like yours is possible, even/especially because it's not perfect.
This! This is why I subscribe to you instead of other people. Your honesty and vulnerability that you share with us is a kindness that most people do not deserve. And yet you still do it. Bravo!
I watch most of your videos and I love your perspective on all these topics. The zero waste community is often not acknowledging privilege and is really toxic and gate keeping in many ways. I see the same thing in the vegan community and it makes me really sad. Thank you for sharing this!
It’s sad to be trolled and that people have have nothing else to do than find any little thing you’re not perfect. You’re a fabulous and you’re inspiring ❤️
Sending you hugs! (Some) people can be just awful! No one is perfect. And the people who leave these comments aren't perfect either - it is just that they want to pretend that they are. One of the things that I LOVE about your channel is that you don't claim to be perfect. You show the parts of your life where you aren't perfectly sustainable. And at the same time, you call it out - you say, this is not the most sustainable thing that I do but I am doing the best that I can and that is what matters. Lots of times, you mention what is the most sustainable option for those who are able to do this (access, affordability, lifestyle, etc). There are so many people who think that they can only be environmentalists if they do everything...then, they get overwhelmed and do nothing. That is the last thing that this planet needs. Thank you for everything that you do!
Hi Shelbi. I admire your perseverance in continuing to provide this content even though the nit-pickers have negatively impacted your mental health. You have greatly helped and inspired thousands of individuals to lighten their environmental footprint (you definitely have helped me greatly). You are amazing and beautiful and definitely DO NOT deserve anything but love and praise! Thank you for everything you do for us and for the earth!
First, I LOVE when people make ranty videos, but I am very sorry that you felt that you needed to due to negative comments. I definitely agree with you that the people who are making the comments you mentioned (on either side) are people who can't watch all of your videos. Your outro messages are very clear and helpful, and strike the right balance in my opinion between "there is no ethical consumption under capitalism" (true) and individual choices do matter. I also want to agree with the general sentiment that we can't do everything right all the time. No one's actions can line up with their ideology 100% of the time, and that's because we live in a complicated, nuanced world. I've been feeling really bad about crafting projects recently because I enjoy doing them but there isn't really a purpose for the completed crafts. But at the same time, I'm being sustainable with my crafting purchases and don't buy much (crafting or otherwise) new. The people who are making these comments are making them in either ignorance or bad faith, and haven't given time to critically think about the issues. Thank you for this video! I always appreciate your content, and look forward to new videos + newsletters (whenever you're in the headspace for them again!).
I love the way you chose to address the hate. No clickbait title, no crying, etc. You're the most thorough and informative low-waste influencer I watch, and I would never shame you for "unsustainable" actions bc I do them too lol
Hi Shelby, I’m a huge fan of your content- not only because i’m endlessly inspired by you with new ways to live more sustainably but also because you keep it realistic and don’t hide behind a ‘perfect’ zero waste image! I’m so sorry people are always looking for things to criticise- especially now I know that’s a reason you don’t post much food content- I would LOVE to see more food/sustainable eating videos from you (and frankly i couldn’t care less about your weight/size as it’s nobody’s business but yours!) but completely understand if the needless critics make that too difficult for you. Thanks again for all of your amazing videos- you truly make SUCH a great difference to our world 💚
I love your perfectly imperfect ways. Im shit at boundaries and do not envy your exposure to excessive commentary, i would simply crumble at a small hand full of them. You had me at vote with your dollars but im happy to watch your journey. Im so sorry for the struggle you are faced with but also grateful that you stay angry and keep fighting. You are a super hero. Thank you for being you.
I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I have learned SO MUCH from your channel and have been able to critically think about my choices and how they can be more sustainable. Remember that the people who are criticizing nitpicky shit are people who are most likely doing nothing themselves to make better choices, or who feel helpless to do something, so they instead choose to take it out on others who dare to do better. There's a difference between genuine criticism that opens productive discussion, and judgmental criticism that compromises good intention and generates zero progressive action. It's not easy to "just ignore the negative comments," but please remember that the good you're doing completely outweighs the pointless criticisms that you're receiving.
My parents used to say ' if they are talking about you, they are not talking about themselves " it draws the focus away from all they are (not)doing. I understand it can be hard. So happy you are not giving them the satisfaction of not creating anymore and you are getting the help you need and want. Love your content. ❤
I really enjoyed how candid you were in this video. I completely understand why you wouldn’t want to talk about food given people being toxic and why people request it highly because as someone who has to eat gluten free at times it is super hard to try and be as low waste as I’d like and get reasonable gf food. It wasn’t my daughter turned maybe 5 months or 6 months and a female consultant for an education savings company tried to suggest how I style her hair over a zoom call that I realized how ridiculously and deeply engrained it is in our society for people to think they have a right to comment on peoples appearances. She’s just over a year and every time someone says something positive or negative about her appearance I cringe now because she doesn’t exist for the sake of other people to look at or have an opinion on her appearance, so I can only imagine how amplified that is when your career involves a public forum like TH-cam. I’m sorry that you have experienced that toxicity and I hope in the future viewers will remember what your content is actually about and keep unsolicited (especially the toxic ones) opinions to themselves
This probably wasn't an easy video to make. I'm glad you are keeping true to your intentions and yourself. I can't imagine why people would bother to watch with such a negative outlook going in. What a mess! Keep doing whatever makes you happy and the true supporters will be there for you!
I really do dislike the internet for this reason. I’ve wanted to make TH-cam videos forever and haven’t for this reason. I appreciate you being open and vulnerable so much! You are such a inspiration seriously. I know it’s easy to say don’t care about the haters but know the majority of your supporters feel the opposite!! I love your slogans too they make me feel so much better about trying my best instead of trying to be “perfect”
I am so proud of you, Shelbi. You are one person. You are doing more than those nit picky people, in my opinion. Are any of those comments made by other influencers of the same scope and reach as you? I guess what I am trying to say unless a person walks a mile in YOUR shoes then they need to sit down.
Thank you for this video❤️ I feel a lot of guilt around my life & I love that you give space to learn, grow, change & advocate for LARGE change. In my personal life I run into a lot of feedback that x,y,x isn’t worth the effort & I get it. & I totally see that valid point but it brings me down because it’s an action I can take big or small. That’s for showing that perfection isn’t the goal, large scale change is. Also your gorgeous so screw thee haters that say mean things about you. They are trolls & it must totally suck to live in their negative headspace.
First of all I LOVE how REAL you are. You're channel has changed the way I think about things so much. On the internet everyone has opinions, and there really are people that are just out to spread negativity. In my experience you have to just wade through the B.S. Even some of my mom's opinions I ingnore, so you better believe some random people on the internet can be ignored. Keep living YOUR life girl. No one is perfect nor will they ever be. You have a whole audience that you've inspired and believe me we support you.
You sticking up for yourself and clearly naming what you will NOT stand for is so badass!! I know for a fact that 99.99% of the people critiquing you aren’t doing half as much as you are to lower their own environmental impact, so they have no basis to try and tear you down. Your closing quotes resonate so deep with me and I’ve been passing them on to friends and students! You rock, keep rockin! 🌹
Hello Shelbi! I totally love your content!!! What you're doing is extremely important and it makes a huge difference in the world! Thank you for your lead! Even though I have no scientific proof, I'm pretty confident that these judgmental people either criticize you because you're doing better than them and they can't stand how well you meet your goal and how big is your impact or they are people that simply see enemies everywhere. No one owes an apology about their choices, anyway. Our goal as a community shouldn't be "perfection". Perfection isn't viable. If we strive for perfection we will end up doing less for the planet instead of more. Also, as you say sustainability is a "gray area", so there is no such thing as "perfection". But if we can assume that such a thing exists, then you have come very close.
You’re great. I don’t think you need to read comments. Though, this was a super useful video and an example why you’re great. Because of your strong academic background and experience in the field, you bring a “realness” and organically nuanced outlook. Thank you for continuing to make insightful content.
I really loved and appreciate this vid! The sustainability space can be so toxic. It’s like, the minute you vocalize that you want to do better, people take that as an invitation to find all the things you’re doing that are “hypocritical” to that mission statement. I’ve seen this happen so often-there will be two creators: one that has never mentioned sustainability, and one that has mentioned wanting to try to do better for the planet. The two of them do a brand partnership with Target or H&M, etc. and the comment sections are only tearing apart the one who has mentioned sustainability. I definitely think there are issues with those kinds of greenwashing partnerships, but I just feel like people are sooo quick to criticize anyone who steps into sustainability. My parents do this too - I mention trying to reduce waste and then my dad will say “well, aren’t you using water to wash that reusable cup?” It goes back to the black/white, all-or-nothing mentality and importance of understanding the nuance that you mentioned in your previous video. I don’t even like using the word “sustainability” or “minimalist” because the internet has turned those words into something synonymous with “perfection,” yet, like you mentioned, the algorithm loves those words. It truly is hard navigating things as an internet person, and I think you did a stellar job touching on so many important things in this video. Love your integrity and honesty as always.
Shelby your channel is the reason I became interested in sustainability, and the kickstarter to my environmental degree. Those comments are a minority and they suck but it’s not representative of how most people feel. Thanks for what you do here!
People need to understand that living 100% sustainably in this society IS NOT POSSIBLE. We can only do our best with the tools we have, and the rest is up to corporations. As individuals we are simply subject to the means we have, everyone has different needs and abilities, it is simply not realistic to expect everyone to do everything all the time. I would argue that it is better that we do some of it some of the time than to give up because we don't feel like we can do it all. It is psychologically proven that you cannot SHAME people into being better, quite the opposite actually. People get stirred away from being more sustainable when we start gatekeeping. This is not meant to be a fashion but rather a paradigm change. So everyone chill out, be kind, do what you can, lead by example, and like Shelby says: Advocate for the rest.
I havent thought about how people could be so rough and annoying. It is very difficult to deal with those kind of people. I sincerely appreciate what you are doing and wish you the best.
The nitpicky criticisms you talked about are exactly why I don't put very much publicly on the internet. The constant nitpicks from strangers seems like it would be so outrageously wearing. I am in awe when people are able to keep it up long term. It's totally understandable that it sometimes makes you just not want to interact with any of it at all.
I hope you know that for every person nit picking you there are probably 100 people watching and never commenting but appreciating your realness. You're doing great and are a really good educator!
Its wild how critical and intense some people can be. Especially on things that impact health and one’s comfort. You need to be healthy (i.e. not dying from heat stroke or from being malnourished from not eating) to be able to help the planet. I feel like your channel is such a positive space for people to learn about sustainability. The people who criticize just want to feel better about the lack of things they are doing. Keep being you Shelbi!
I'm a very new subscriber, and from the first video I saw, I LOVED your phrase "you can't do all the good the planet needs, but the planet needs all the good you can do". It is such a great message, and is a brilliant way to encourage people who otherwise would throw up their hands and say "why bother" when we can't do everything perfectly. It's a real shame that people will try to trip you up with things they notice. If you projected a holier than thou kind of mentality (e.g. if your approach was to scold your viewers about not taking every eco-friendly step possible in their life) then I'd understand the kickback from viewers... But the wonderful thing about your channel is that you are a realist and you give advice, rather than a blueprint or dogma. All strength to you and your family, and I wish your audience in general grows to match you in hopefulness, tolerance and pragmatism.
I'm thankful you made this video, but sad for you that you felt like you need to explain yourself! Full honesty, your motto of "you cannot do all the good the world needs, but the world needs all the good that you can do" ACTUALLY (like my memory pinpoints it on one of the first videos of yours I watched a little less than a year ago) to not only work more towards my footprint and being more sustainable conscious, but also drove me into being more engaged in fighting for the rights of my community (not eco-related, but definitely helped empower me to seek fighting for better working conditions in my industry, which personally I also think is powerful.) Your motto I think has attracted and empowered so many including myself, BECAUSE it inherently challenges viewers to engage in healthy thought to try one's best, while also forgiving one's self for being human, and living in a world that is not built for ultimate sustainability. I know so many people who feel defeated in the face of climate change, but I think outlooks like this one HELP encourage people to try - we don't need to give up, nor abuse ourselves for our mistakes, because that will just also make us give up, which is how this system works!!! This was a long ramble, but I just wanted to say thank you Shelby, I hope you continue to take care of yourself, and you have encouraged and empowered so many people in a world that currently feels like it needs to beat us down. You are doing all the good you can do, and that has been more than enough.
This is why I'm really careful with the eco-friendly content I engage with because it's so easy to fall into these people's guilt traps because you do genuinely care so much, and yet you're still a human being with a variety of personal struggles, so you can only do so much without it being detrimental to your health. Thank you for being open and honest. Your channel is very inspiring.
Thank you so much for this conversation. I recently discovered your channel and I feel you! I studied architecture and environmental design back in the early 80s and can't tell you how frustrated I've felt, that we (as a society) haven't made more progress! I've been told to "get off my soapbox", "that no one wants to be preached to" and on and on. I'm now 65 and fear for future generations. Love your vlogs! Keep up the good work!
It’s so much easier to criticize others than it is to look at your own faults. I think that’s why people get so damn nitpicky because they won’t look at their own lives and improve it when they can “feel better” by pointing out someone else’s “imperfections”. I adore your content, and I think you’re doing so much to help the world not just in the sustainable things you do but also by educating others. The effects of your videos do not stop at just the main viewers. I’ve been able to convince others to make better choices just by passing on the info and tips from your videos. You make waves, don’t forget that ❤️
I just want to say I’m really frustrated that you receive that kind of feedback! I’ve been so interested in low waste and more eco-friendly living for so long but it wasn’t until I found your channel that I felt like I could truly do it. you have such a kind, sensible, understanding approach to it. I quote your end statement to so many people when I share about changes I’m making to be more sustainable or aware. So I guess I just want to thank you for actually putting out content to inspire not condemn. Ironically I always found the zero waste movement very toxic. And sometimes felt like all the things I was trying were worthless anyways because I could not do it perfectly until I found you! Eco Fatigue is so real and I wish this community was more about celebrating what we are doing instead of criticizing each other. When we criticize I feel like it just makes us all want to give up and what is that really doing for earth??? Thank you Thank you!! I really appreciate what you do!! I hope you know there are people like me that want to be better and love when people help us know how :)
The reason you're one of my favourite TH-camrs is because you're honest. You motivate to make sustainable choices where possible, and don't judge people who make an effort but can't do everything. The people who criticise you aren't perfect themselves, they want to inflict their rudeness onto other people without care for their feelings. I console myself by thinking their choosing to be rude on a video that someone has put time and effort into says more about them and nothing about who they're being rude to, but it's cold comfort. I'm very happy I discovered your channel, and as a byproduct of that your vlog channel, because your videos bring happiness and educate in a way that's informative and easy to digest.
For the nit-pickers literally, they can use ice trays. I would argue that newer fridges are more efficient. Thank you for your content it has helped me so much with eco commensalism.
I appreciate this video. You are the first environmentally conscious creator that I've actually followed. I've been binging your content and I was insensitive when I brought up the shower thing and I'm so sorry that I made you feel bad about that. I honestly was surprised that it made ME so uncomfortable. It makes sense that the further your water is from the water heater the longer it takes to get warm. I doubt I was the only 1 to comment so I'm not going to beat myself up about it. I am always careful to not be offensive in comments as I suffer from ridiculous anxiety, so I'm fairly sure I wasn't rude. I literally commented on how it made ME uncomfortable...which again was a surprise. I do apologize though for making you feel criticized. I've been trying to reduce my family's plastic consumption for a few years now and you have helped me a lot recently.
Yay you! Being under the microscope is unnerving. I'm so grateful for your content and everything I've gleaned from your videos has helped me make more eco friendly shifts. Like I started composting. And here's the thing, when we look at our biology and our place in the eco system we are consumers, not in the sense of purchasing everything, but in the producer consumer relationship. I think when we try, when we give back in a culture its wonderful. Living in a drought and being a gardener is hard, but I'm sequestering carbon with my plants. I'll let my lawn dry up, but lemme grow my food and flowers so the bees have a place. It's all about balance and society has created a very unhealthy environment requiring perfection and demanding more than is realistic. And that's why I love your channel and your outro. I think it everyday. It's like my eco mantra. Keep doing what you are doing.
These "critiques" are absolutely absurd. You do so much good and inspire so many people. I love this channel and I hope that people start to realize that they need to find something better to do than to criticize people that are doing everything they can.
Honestly, I don't know how people notice those things. Like, you are living your life, you obviously have a reason why are you doing something, and if they know you at all, they should know that you don't do anything without consideration of environment and question a lot of your decisions. I love what you do and don't be discouraged by this 🌸❤
I thank you and respect you for putting this out there. Personally, I love seeing the imperfect side (the real side!) of people's lives when it comes to sustainability. It helps me as a baby environmentalist to identify where I can best focus my energy and realize that there are many things out of my control. Seeing the "highlight" reel of perfection really just leaves me feeling inadequate, so I appreciate what you do. And that you will explain how you came to that decision (not that you owe us any explanation, just helps me to understand :-)) I am sorry the internet ass-hats are getting to you, know that you are appreciated and are doing amazing things!
if you saw the thumbnail before this one.. no you didn't.
nooo but it was so funny ddsibfk
So funny
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I saw it😈😈😂😂
girl put it back!!
I don’t envy your job one bit. It’s like people are just looking for things to say “gotcha!” to. You do so much already and your content really makes a difference, so thank you.
The “gotcha” attitude really bugs me! One place I constantly run into it is when people talk about wind generation for electricity. People love to show up and talk about bird deaths with that “gotcha” attitude.
But they’re making this comparison in a vacuum and totally disregard the fact that coal/natural gas power plants actually kill more birds per KWh generated! And they ignore the fact that the leading cause of bird deaths is actually outdoor cats.
So keeping our cats as indoor only and supporting Trap, neuter, release (TNR) programs in your local area will have a MUCH more profound effect on bird lives…
It’s as if we feel like we get higher on the “good people” list if we nitpick someone else…like, “ha! I’m better at this than you because I noticed xyz.”
Tiiiiiiired
With the exception of maybe being playful with friends/family I really hate gotcha when it comes to discussions. Like it's not cool or faithfully arguing if you purposely take people out of context or ignore all nuance and makes everyone more divisive and miserable.
Well shit. I finished gardening and decided to sit by my fan with a glass of ice water and enjoy your content on my refurbished iPhone 6 (that I charged with solar!). Didn’t realize I’ve committed a multitude of sins. Some people. 🤦♀️
You’re an amazing person and activist Shelbi!
And I bet you sat on a chair of some sort which took energy to make in or around your home which has water and electricity installed. What a sinner! 😋😻
How dare you not sit flat on the ground!
But also if you did sit on the ground... How dare you crush so many plants and I sects - don't you know we need to save the pollinators?!
You're doing great 💕
It's really sad that people are so nit picky when they probably don't even do a QUARTER of the sustainable things you do...
I'm so glad you're getting help, the internet is a cruel place a lot of the time. Your true supporters will always be grateful for everything you do. Wishing you all the strength, peace and patience!
I feel like that's the exact reason why they're nit picky... To put the blame on others and to not accept any blame themselves
Definitely and they blame the individual instead of corporations and governments that make sustainable living impossible. We didn’t opt-into this system. 🙄
I second that!
Yesssss you know someone is writing those comments while like making coffee with a k cup or throwing dryer sheets in their dryer lmao
I have never commented on any of your videos or really looked at any of the comments, but I've watched your videos religiously for the last 2 years. It seems like the nit-picky peoples voices are louder, and I just want to let you know how much I love your content. There are probably many like me who don't comment enough to let you know we hear your message, appreciate how real you are and tell you what a great example you are of your moto (both of them now). Thank you!
Yes! The extremes tend to be the loudest. That’s why I’ve started going into the comment sections to balance it out but comment sections can be so toxic 🫣
@@miss_xenia_ Yes, this. Even just adding a little comment that the video was enjoyable balances it out. I work on TH-cam (for a different creator, I'm not a creator myself) and the nice comments are noticed, trust me. The mean ones are just louder sometimes.
hah! ^this. I just commented basically the same thing. so, can confirm... there are more people like you out there.
Ditto!
I will comment here just to say that absolutely I'm totally a lurker but you have helped me make so many personal changes in my day-to-day that are better for the planet and I'm so grateful for you!
I will never understand the whole "why is your fan on if it's not hot outside"
1) unless you are literally her neighbor you have no idea how hot it was when she was filming
2) a couple of kilowatts is not worth Shelby, Madison, and Tippy all getting heatstroke
Also, I don't really get the ice thing either. Literally your freezer is always on, whether there is an ice pack in there or not doesn't matter... She lives in Texas iirc, I would argue that ice is a necessity there. The people commenting on that should maybe ask why has it gotten so hot in Texas recently? Perhaps a little thing called climate change??
Uhh, ceiling fans actually save energy! They provide extra cooling so you don't have to run your AC as cold 🤦🏻♀️
honestly girl, you and Madison are doing great. I know the negative comments can be discouraging, but please don't let them get to you! Your work is way too important and I have learned so much from you 🖤
Girl I love you because you're normal and it's relatable
Some people need to go outside. Honestly, I get so much inspiration from your videos and they keep me motivated to continue towards goals of being more environmentally conscious. Your the goal I'm working toward and I learn from you with every video. So keep doing what you're doing. The naysayers always seem to have the loudest voices. You're doing great.
So many content creators deal with sustainability, environment and conscious living, yet this is the only channel that I follow religiously because you tell things as they are.
I'm tired of the picture perfect lifestyle, of women who look and talk exactly like one another telling me to dump my stuff and replace it with bamboo products. I stopped following everyone who tried to showcase their yearly trash contained in a jar, because it was giving me anxiety and making me wonder why I can't reach such ridiculous goals. We are all doing the best we can with the cards we have been dealt.
Sending you love from Europe! 🥰
Yeah. I know reduce waste but that's unrealistic that people can fit a year's trash in a jar. I don't believe them.
I love that you show the imperfections, struggles, and process of how you decide which choices to make. The “perfect” standard is obviously impossible and makes me feel so discouraged. And the deeper videos you make are so important and needed. Sorry the internet people have been so horrible.
Thanks for being so honest about what you’re going through. Don’t forget to check how liked the comments are when they’re getting you down.
Im willing to bet most comments that are thankful for what you do end up with tons of likes (to the point that they’re 90% or more of your engagement) while the negative ones end up with almost none.
On a personal level, you’re one of the few zero waste channels I can religiously watch BECAUSE you’re not artificial and full of crap like all the other ones.
Yes, all of this!!
You do you. You know not to pay attention to the nit picky. That alone is important. Folks in life that have caused me the most grief had issues worse than any they could try to create for me.
We all do not have to agree on everything. R E S P E C T. You have mine.
@@charcoalmef I run into similar comments from time to time on my videos as well, but my channel’s not big enough to attract the real trolls like Shelbi’s.
So I’m actually kinda mentioning it as a way of reminding myself I guess haha! It’s hard sometimes honestly. Negative stuff sticks with us more than the positive for whatever reason!
Her and SedonaChristina are the only 2 sustainability YT I watch because they're the only ones I find are actually realistic !
This is really helpful. I tend to feel a lot of guilt for not being perfect. Perfectionism has always been a problem for me.
I so get that. I feel guilty for buying convenience foods sometimes, so I skip on them all together and think I’ll make them myself but then I just end up not eating because I didn’t have time to make yogurt or bread or whatever I usually have for lunch/breakfast. I have to know my limits because I can’t always do it all.
@@Plantsandmusicandyarn Wow that sounds like a struggle. I can understand how that would happen. Remeber you can't fight for the causes you care out with out nuturing your own body first🧡
I Love to see the “unsustainable” things you do because I need to see that as a person trying my best. If you only show perfect things it makes me feel like garbage since I could never be perfect. THANK YOU FOR WHAT YOU DO 💚💚💚
well said!
Honestly annoyed you had to make this video, how can anyone expect you to be perfect. We're all the doing the best we can and you've always be soo open from the beginning. Keep doing you, I find your videos super helpful and full of knowledge so I love coming back to your channel.
I get sick and stressed seeing people’s ridiculous comments on my favorite TH-camrs feeds. I can’t imagine how it weighs on you. From the bottom of my heart, I love your personality, and thank you for the great content!
People love to knit pick and it does make creators interact less in the comments which is unfortunate and not fair for those that are supporters. Love your content!
I've seen some creators only interact with patrons who get advanced access to the videos and, like, fuck i get it
Yes! This kind of toxic behaviors need to stop, well said.
Can I just apologize, on behalf of all the assholes...I'm so sorry that you feel discouraged from being your authentic natural self at all times. Your content is needed and appreciated. Every bit of it. "If you don't have something nice to say..." If it's not constructive, just shut up? Shelby clearly shines in this movement towards helping our Earth and encouraging others to do the same. If you don't like it, leave her alone and actually leave. End of story. Love you girl, and that wifey too! Been watching more of your vlog channel and seeing you 2 together more, and sweet Tippy! Makes me so happy. Thank you for everything over the years. 💚
We love you Shelby!!
Thank you for highlighting that everyone's best looks different and the most impactful changes are structural ones. Perfection isn't realistic for anyone. Your videos have helped me to make changes and to increase my awareness, thank you! 💕
I think people who are making negative comments on your videos are projecting their own insecurities onto you because it's easier than facing reality. I think it's great that you've made this video to confront those people on this, but I really hope you will not take it to heart and let others make you feel inadequate in anyway. There are so many of us who admire how you live your life, don't forget! I really appreciate you and want to thank you for educating me on so many things. I've made some serious changes in my life with your help and am excited to do what I can to live more sustainably. Keep doing you Shelbi, cuz you're doing what you can for this planet and making others want to too!
Couldn't have said it any better! There must always be darkness to make us see and appreciate the light.
I love the nuance you bring into this space and I appreciate your openness about all of this. I'm sorry so many people are inconsiderate and pass so much judgement on to you. I wish it was as simple as ignoring the negative comments; but I know that that's not how brains work. I hope therapy helps you and that you start making improvement.
Great video! Wish people would realize it’s about progress, not perfection. I agree with Ava, that often I feel guilt if I’m not doing things perfectly. And it’s killer, man. We are just trying to do better. We aren’t saints, and even they weren’t perfect. Thanks for all you do and sorry for the shit you get. You inspire so many of us!
My friends and family constantly tell me I should be a content creator but I absolutely would not want to deal with the ignorance of society.
Please.continue.being.REAL!!! It is the only reason why I watch your channel so much. It’s reality, it’s honest, and unpretentious. I don’t watch other “perfect” channels because I can’t connect with them, unlike you and your channel that is so encouraging to just start doing something, and be serious about it, but being kind to yourself at the same time.
Also, I grew up in the Pacific Northwest and never understood the need for air conditioning until I moved to Texas. Anyone who has never lived here cannot understand. Ceiling fans for air circulation are also a must.
I also get really pissed off at pretentious environmentalists from NYC or or the East Coast in general who have no concept of how car-dependent Texas and other spread-out areas are. When I get told that I should just start riding a bike more I just laugh and enjoy the mental image of slapping their stupid faces. Sorry that was harsh lol
Blows my mind that people even have the audacity to say some of those things much less to someone they don't know and who is just trying to help us all be a bit better in out world. Noone is perfect nor does anyone do all of the things all of the time, we're all just trying our best. Glad you got this of your chest!! Thanks for all you have taught me over the years, it's truly appreciated. ✌️
People are trash, but your channel is awesome and so helpful. I appreciate every video you make!
I think we all need this reminder on a regular basis. Being a woman i feel this pressure to hold all the roles; mom, wife, professional working woman, daughter, sister equality and perfectly. You are good enough and life isn't perfect and you cant be everything to everyone. You should start or end all your videos with that quote. Little changes can have huge impact in all areas of your life. Kudos for you for being real
The new quote and the graphic that goes with it are fantastic!
Perfection is a lie. Full stop. I genuinely appreciate this channel and it has given me information to make positive changes in my life. Shelby, You are making a huge positive impact. I know your job is hard. Please don't give up on sharing and teaching.
OMG. I think you hit the nail on the head! People just want to find things to criticize. It seems to be ‘a thing’ nowadays. Not sure why but I totally appreciate all the things you show and new ideas. Thank you. Xo
I started watching you about 3 months ago; the thing you said about “you can’t do all the good in the world, but the world can use all the good you can do” was what stuck with me and keeps me coming back for more! Shelby you are doing amazing work! 🤗
I love watching your video's, you have taught me a lot and really opened my eyes to how wasteful I was. I just sit here and enjoy them, I could never find something to nit pick and criticize you on. It seems that alot of people don't know how to enjoy anything anymore and have to critique everything.
I've heard it said once to the effect that if you claim to be an activist, you're never doing enough because you could always be doing more.
However, Shelbi you ARE DOING BEYOND ENOUGH. I became more conscious of my habits because of you and this channel. I now look at the world through a completely different lens and try to implicate as many eco-friendly actions as I can on a daily basis because of you and this channel. And I am humbled by the privilege of being able to live sustainably because of you and this channel!
You're doing your part, and I'm sorry that some people are trying to make you believe you aren't.
The more I watch your channel the more I respect the hard work that goes into it. There is a level of research and realism that is not common to see. Plus, may I just say, I SO appreciate the balance of your perspective. You do a great job of inspiring me to take individual action, as well as acknowledging the systemic changes that need to happen. Plus giving specific examples of how I can use my influence to push for that change-- it gives me so much hope!
I don't know if I'll be able to word this correctly, but I can't help but feel like the people who are too nit-picky are deriving satisfaction from making sustainable living seem impossible. Maybe they just like being jerks, or maybe they're trying to give themselves excuses. It's so funny (in a sad way) that they would criticize you for not being "perfect" when that's literally the opposite of what your channel is about.
Being perfect at zero waste in the society we currently live in is so difficult. I'd really like to see the people criticizng showing everyone everything they use in their life and see if it's perfect 🙃
Tbh seeing your videos is the sole reason I started to change how much I consume and throw away, swapped to a lot of zero waste stuff etc. You've already made a giant impact on so many individuals and you should be proud of yourself!
When people think they have to be “sustainable “ in a perfect way, it puts way to much pressure on them. They may think, “if I can’t go all the way, why bother”. I always love your tips for living sustainability and know that every little thing counts. Also, love your message, today! There is a culture now, where people look for ways to criticize everything. Ugh! Toxic! Thanks for doing what you do and keep it coming.
We love a creator with boundaries
TH-cam looks like easy money but putting yourself out there, and making yourself vulnerable takes some guts.
And as someone who is very environmentally conscious, I know the struggle of constantly debating between different trade offs and making conscious choices after hours of thinking. Then getting criticism from people who don't know the thought process behind decisions is just slap in the face. Anyhow, YOU GO GIRL! Use your presence to at least get people thinking.
Thank you for this video! It's something people need to hear, although I'm sure the majority is mature enough to understand that no one is perfect (including them). I hope you won't stop posting because I genuinely consider you one of the best creators who talk about environmental issues. Specifically, because you are fair, and authentic and talk about issues others don't address. Your approach is (ironically) perfect because consider every side of an issue. So, thank you for your work.
Shelby- thank you for making this video. It's really unfair that people are this nitpicky with your content. When people are new to low waste/sustainability, you are usually the first person I send them to because of all the reasons you listed. You seem like a real human being! You drive a car! You eat what you want to eat! You live in a house! I have so many friends that see people like me (live in a big city with ample public transit, in a small space, etc) and think they can't make any changes because they can't make the changes I've made. And a lot of sustainability "influencers" live lifestyles even more outwardly perfect than mine. The content you make is honest and genuinely helpful and that's what I share it with so many of my friends.
Thank you for sharing your perspective! :) I'm a third year medical student, and I chose to become a medical student to address human suffering. A lot of aspects of my life, just because of being a medical student, are fairly unsustainable. Public transit is not an option for me, ignoring the fact that I live in Texas, because being on time is literally a matter of whether or not I keep my job, I cannot risk not being on time. I also have to buy lots of supplies that cannot be purchased secondhand, like my stethoscope, hospital attire (all of my business casual is secondhand but scrubs? Not willing to buy those used), notebooks (tech is iffy because of patient confidentiality), and other things that non-medical students don't think about. Not to mention the process of getting into medical school/residency, which usually means flying all over the country to accept whichever school/job you get offered. Of course I do the best that I can, I eat 100% plant-based, always buy clothing/furniture secondhand, and I try to reduce my impact wherever I can, but I will never be perfect. Other environmentalists pointing it out just makes me feel helpless lol
Newby here. Thank you, you have inspired me exactly in the way I think you intended to do. I haven't shifted my life upside down but I am looking around at things that could be better. One here, another there. It's not huge by any means but you did change my outlook on things. I didn't know food going to landfill was so damaging. I didn't know aquatic life provides most of oxygen. Etc. etc. etc. Let me sneak in a little request for the off chance you do see this comment: I don't live in the US, where I live most waste is burned. Do you have any information or tips for how I can treat my garbage best? You talk a lot about landfills but that doesn't apply to my personal situation. Love for you to inform me. Thank you again so so much, your channel really helps.
I’m the same, a lot of things you can do involve reducing your waste (try doing a trash audit), upcycling as much as possible, composting (food waste takes a lot of energy to incinerate as it is so wet). Hope that helps, Good luck!
Glad you're mentioning your imprefections.. have this idea in my head folk that care about this issue don't ever face 'hiccups' basically. My husband doesn't hold the same values as I and I'm not willing to ruin our relationship over my ideals. I have to accept my household will carry plastic bottled water because my husband loves the taste of it. I can make myself feel better by contacting the company he likes and suggesting they use not virgin plastic and have a non separate cap that can cause issues if disconnected to the bottle.
I genuinely appreciate your channel you were one of the people that got me interested in living more sustainable and caring about the environment❤️
I know this don't make up for the trolls but you're honestly my role model and helped me get into ecominimalism back in 2020. As far as cars, a super amazing channel is "Not Just Bikes" that talks about how bad infrastructure is in North America and how car dependency and a lot more is systemic
I'm so sorry to hear that people criticize you so much around some of these things. You're doing the best you can (which is A LOT!) and I SO appreciate watching your videos as it allows me to learn so much about making less wasteful choices!
For what it's worth I love your slogan. It really helps any time something feels like only a small effort that won't help much to remind myself that any good I can put into the world is a positive. People love to criticise to make themselves feel justified in giving up and not trying at all. We can all only do the best we can with what we have and none of us can be perfect simply because the system doesn't allow us to but that doesn't mean we should just give up like many people sadly seem to think. Plus talking about our efforts helps everyone because we can all share ideas and it helps us all improve little by little.
Oh, Shelbi... I'm so sad you have to endure all of this 💔 I think you're doing an amazing job. Like you said, we have to do what we can, so there's no point in judging people based on the standard of perfection instead of reality. Keep going girl, you're a beautiful soldier of the Earth and nobody's voice is more important than the voice of your soul, so if you're at peace with yourself and your life, the rest of the world can go to hell 😘😘💚💚
You make me feel better about what I *can* do for the planet without making me feel like complete trash for what I *can't* do. Your content is both relatable and inspirational, and I love it!
Shelby, I cannot even begin to tell you how much you’ve helped me with my sustainable lifestyle. It really hurts my heart that you even had to make a video like this. People who criticize you honestly just don’t understand how difficult it is to have a sustainable lifestyle particularly in the US and that you sometimes have to choose your mental health or yourself over sustainability. Yes, you can always be more sustainable, but do these people not understand you’re a human & need to live your life? It blows my mind that they have the need to comment about having AC, they obviously have never been to Texas in the summer. (Fellow San Antonian myself) 😂 y’all wouldn’t even last a day. Please know you have a huge community that supports and appreciates you! This is also honestly my first comment on one of your videos even though I’ve seen so many, just know you have tons of silent appreciators!!!
You go girl! You gotta do what's best for you, and I'm SO thankful for your honesty and transparency. I feel like the last few weeks I've slipped a lot in my sustainable habits, and I'm wanting to get back into it. But having grace for myself in the times where I'm not "perfect" is so important, if I didn't I would get burned out SO easily.
I'm amazed and inspired that you and your wife are able to live so sustainably and do all the things you do. It's wonderful to know that a life like yours is possible, even/especially because it's not perfect.
This! This is why I subscribe to you instead of other people. Your honesty and vulnerability that you share with us is a kindness that most people do not deserve. And yet you still do it. Bravo!
I watch most of your videos and I love your perspective on all these topics. The zero waste community is often not acknowledging privilege and is really toxic and gate keeping in many ways. I see the same thing in the vegan community and it makes me really sad. Thank you for sharing this!
It’s sad to be trolled and that people have have nothing else to do than find any little thing you’re not perfect. You’re a fabulous and you’re inspiring ❤️
I LOVE boundary setting Shelbi
Sending you hugs! (Some) people can be just awful! No one is perfect. And the people who leave these comments aren't perfect either - it is just that they want to pretend that they are. One of the things that I LOVE about your channel is that you don't claim to be perfect. You show the parts of your life where you aren't perfectly sustainable. And at the same time, you call it out - you say, this is not the most sustainable thing that I do but I am doing the best that I can and that is what matters. Lots of times, you mention what is the most sustainable option for those who are able to do this (access, affordability, lifestyle, etc). There are so many people who think that they can only be environmentalists if they do everything...then, they get overwhelmed and do nothing. That is the last thing that this planet needs. Thank you for everything that you do!
Hi Shelbi. I admire your perseverance in continuing to provide this content even though the nit-pickers have negatively impacted your mental health. You have greatly helped and inspired thousands of individuals to lighten their environmental footprint (you definitely have helped me greatly). You are amazing and beautiful and definitely DO NOT deserve anything but love and praise! Thank you for everything you do for us and for the earth!
Don't give up. So many people appreciate your efforts.
First, I LOVE when people make ranty videos, but I am very sorry that you felt that you needed to due to negative comments.
I definitely agree with you that the people who are making the comments you mentioned (on either side) are people who can't watch all of your videos. Your outro messages are very clear and helpful, and strike the right balance in my opinion between "there is no ethical consumption under capitalism" (true) and individual choices do matter.
I also want to agree with the general sentiment that we can't do everything right all the time. No one's actions can line up with their ideology 100% of the time, and that's because we live in a complicated, nuanced world. I've been feeling really bad about crafting projects recently because I enjoy doing them but there isn't really a purpose for the completed crafts. But at the same time, I'm being sustainable with my crafting purchases and don't buy much (crafting or otherwise) new. The people who are making these comments are making them in either ignorance or bad faith, and haven't given time to critically think about the issues.
Thank you for this video! I always appreciate your content, and look forward to new videos + newsletters (whenever you're in the headspace for them again!).
I love your channel! I hate that people are knit picking and creating problems… honestly, THAT’S the waste of energy.
I love the way you chose to address the hate. No clickbait title, no crying, etc. You're the most thorough and informative low-waste influencer I watch, and I would never shame you for "unsustainable" actions bc I do them too lol
"I can't do everything, I can't be everything" perfectly said.
What people say about you says more about them than you ❤️
Hi Shelby, I’m a huge fan of your content- not only because i’m endlessly inspired by you with new ways to live more sustainably but also because you keep it realistic and don’t hide behind a ‘perfect’ zero waste image!
I’m so sorry people are always looking for things to criticise- especially now I know that’s a reason you don’t post much food content- I would LOVE to see more food/sustainable eating videos from you (and frankly i couldn’t care less about your weight/size as it’s nobody’s business but yours!) but completely understand if the needless critics make that too difficult for you.
Thanks again for all of your amazing videos- you truly make SUCH a great difference to our world 💚
I love your perfectly imperfect ways.
Im shit at boundaries and do not envy your exposure to excessive commentary, i would simply crumble at a small hand full of them.
You had me at vote with your dollars but im happy to watch your journey.
Im so sorry for the struggle you are faced with but also grateful that you stay angry and keep fighting.
You are a super hero. Thank you for being you.
I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I have learned SO MUCH from your channel and have been able to critically think about my choices and how they can be more sustainable. Remember that the people who are criticizing nitpicky shit are people who are most likely doing nothing themselves to make better choices, or who feel helpless to do something, so they instead choose to take it out on others who dare to do better.
There's a difference between genuine criticism that opens productive discussion, and judgmental criticism that compromises good intention and generates zero progressive action. It's not easy to "just ignore the negative comments," but please remember that the good you're doing completely outweighs the pointless criticisms that you're receiving.
My parents used to say ' if they are talking about you, they are not talking about themselves " it draws the focus away from all they are (not)doing. I understand it can be hard. So happy you are not giving them the satisfaction of not creating anymore and you are getting the help you need and want. Love your content. ❤
I really enjoyed how candid you were in this video. I completely understand why you wouldn’t want to talk about food given people being toxic and why people request it highly because as someone who has to eat gluten free at times it is super hard to try and be as low waste as I’d like and get reasonable gf food.
It wasn’t my daughter turned maybe 5 months or 6 months and a female consultant for an education savings company tried to suggest how I style her hair over a zoom call that I realized how ridiculously and deeply engrained it is in our society for people to think they have a right to comment on peoples appearances. She’s just over a year and every time someone says something positive or negative about her appearance I cringe now because she doesn’t exist for the sake of other people to look at or have an opinion on her appearance, so I can only imagine how amplified that is when your career involves a public forum like TH-cam. I’m sorry that you have experienced that toxicity and I hope in the future viewers will remember what your content is actually about and keep unsolicited (especially the toxic ones) opinions to themselves
This probably wasn't an easy video to make. I'm glad you are keeping true to your intentions and yourself. I can't imagine why people would bother to watch with such a negative outlook going in. What a mess! Keep doing whatever makes you happy and the true supporters will be there for you!
I really do dislike the internet for this reason. I’ve wanted to make TH-cam videos forever and haven’t for this reason. I appreciate you being open and vulnerable so much! You are such a inspiration seriously. I know it’s easy to say don’t care about the haters but know the majority of your supporters feel the opposite!! I love your slogans too they make me feel so much better about trying my best instead of trying to be “perfect”
Thank you for saying this. Perfection isn't real and the internet is so TOXIC!
I am so proud of you, Shelbi. You are one person. You are doing more than those nit picky people, in my opinion. Are any of those comments made by other influencers of the same scope and reach as you? I guess what I am trying to say unless a person walks a mile in YOUR shoes then they need to sit down.
Thank you for this video❤️ I feel a lot of guilt around my life & I love that you give space to learn, grow, change & advocate for LARGE change. In my personal life I run into a lot of feedback that x,y,x isn’t worth the effort & I get it. & I totally see that valid point but it brings me down because it’s an action I can take big or small. That’s for showing that perfection isn’t the goal, large scale change is. Also your gorgeous so screw thee haters that say mean things about you. They are trolls & it must totally suck to live in their negative headspace.
First of all I LOVE how REAL you are. You're channel has changed the way I think about things so much. On the internet everyone has opinions, and there really are people that are just out to spread negativity. In my experience you have to just wade through the B.S. Even some of my mom's opinions I ingnore, so you better believe some random people on the internet can be ignored. Keep living YOUR life girl. No one is perfect nor will they ever be. You have a whole audience that you've inspired and believe me we support you.
You sticking up for yourself and clearly naming what you will NOT stand for is so badass!! I know for a fact that 99.99% of the people critiquing you aren’t doing half as much as you are to lower their own environmental impact, so they have no basis to try and tear you down. Your closing quotes resonate so deep with me and I’ve been passing them on to friends and students! You rock, keep rockin! 🌹
Hello Shelbi! I totally love your content!!! What you're doing is extremely important and it makes a huge difference in the world! Thank you for your lead! Even though I have no scientific proof, I'm pretty confident that these judgmental people either criticize you because you're doing better than them and they can't stand how well you meet your goal and how big is your impact or they are people that simply see enemies everywhere. No one owes an apology about their choices, anyway. Our goal as a community shouldn't be "perfection". Perfection isn't viable. If we strive for perfection we will end up doing less for the planet instead of more. Also, as you say sustainability is a "gray area", so there is no such thing as "perfection". But if we can assume that such a thing exists, then you have come very close.
You’re great. I don’t think you need to read comments. Though, this was a super useful video and an example why you’re great. Because of your strong academic background and experience in the field, you bring a “realness” and organically nuanced outlook. Thank you for continuing to make insightful content.
I really loved and appreciate this vid! The sustainability space can be so toxic. It’s like, the minute you vocalize that you want to do better, people take that as an invitation to find all the things you’re doing that are “hypocritical” to that mission statement. I’ve seen this happen so often-there will be two creators: one that has never mentioned sustainability, and one that has mentioned wanting to try to do better for the planet. The two of them do a brand partnership with Target or H&M, etc. and the comment sections are only tearing apart the one who has mentioned sustainability. I definitely think there are issues with those kinds of greenwashing partnerships, but I just feel like people are sooo quick to criticize anyone who steps into sustainability. My parents do this too - I mention trying to reduce waste and then my dad will say “well, aren’t you using water to wash that reusable cup?” It goes back to the black/white, all-or-nothing mentality and importance of understanding the nuance that you mentioned in your previous video. I don’t even like using the word “sustainability” or “minimalist” because the internet has turned those words into something synonymous with “perfection,” yet, like you mentioned, the algorithm loves those words. It truly is hard navigating things as an internet person, and I think you did a stellar job touching on so many important things in this video. Love your integrity and honesty as always.
Shelby your channel is the reason I became interested in sustainability, and the kickstarter to my environmental degree. Those comments are a minority and they suck but it’s not representative of how most people feel. Thanks for what you do here!
People need to understand that living 100% sustainably in this society IS NOT POSSIBLE. We can only do our best with the tools we have, and the rest is up to corporations. As individuals we are simply subject to the means we have, everyone has different needs and abilities, it is simply not realistic to expect everyone to do everything all the time. I would argue that it is better that we do some of it some of the time than to give up because we don't feel like we can do it all. It is psychologically proven that you cannot SHAME people into being better, quite the opposite actually. People get stirred away from being more sustainable when we start gatekeeping. This is not meant to be a fashion but rather a paradigm change. So everyone chill out, be kind, do what you can, lead by example, and like Shelby says: Advocate for the rest.
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When you share your perceived “imperfections” I feel like you make the zero waste movement more accessible for all. Thanks for sharing Shelbi!
I havent thought about how people could be so rough and annoying. It is very difficult to deal with those kind of people. I sincerely appreciate what you are doing and wish you the best.
The nitpicky criticisms you talked about are exactly why I don't put very much publicly on the internet. The constant nitpicks from strangers seems like it would be so outrageously wearing. I am in awe when people are able to keep it up long term. It's totally understandable that it sometimes makes you just not want to interact with any of it at all.
I hope you know that for every person nit picking you there are probably 100 people watching and never commenting but appreciating your realness. You're doing great and are a really good educator!
Its wild how critical and intense some people can be. Especially on things that impact health and one’s comfort. You need to be healthy (i.e. not dying from heat stroke or from being malnourished from not eating) to be able to help the planet. I feel like your channel is such a positive space for people to learn about sustainability. The people who criticize just want to feel better about the lack of things they are doing. Keep being you Shelbi!
I'm a very new subscriber, and from the first video I saw, I LOVED your phrase "you can't do all the good the planet needs, but the planet needs all the good you can do". It is such a great message, and is a brilliant way to encourage people who otherwise would throw up their hands and say "why bother" when we can't do everything perfectly.
It's a real shame that people will try to trip you up with things they notice. If you projected a holier than thou kind of mentality (e.g. if your approach was to scold your viewers about not taking every eco-friendly step possible in their life) then I'd understand the kickback from viewers... But the wonderful thing about your channel is that you are a realist and you give advice, rather than a blueprint or dogma.
All strength to you and your family, and I wish your audience in general grows to match you in hopefulness, tolerance and pragmatism.
I'm thankful you made this video, but sad for you that you felt like you need to explain yourself! Full honesty, your motto of "you cannot do all the good the world needs, but the world needs all the good that you can do" ACTUALLY (like my memory pinpoints it on one of the first videos of yours I watched a little less than a year ago) to not only work more towards my footprint and being more sustainable conscious, but also drove me into being more engaged in fighting for the rights of my community (not eco-related, but definitely helped empower me to seek fighting for better working conditions in my industry, which personally I also think is powerful.) Your motto I think has attracted and empowered so many including myself, BECAUSE it inherently challenges viewers to engage in healthy thought to try one's best, while also forgiving one's self for being human, and living in a world that is not built for ultimate sustainability. I know so many people who feel defeated in the face of climate change, but I think outlooks like this one HELP encourage people to try - we don't need to give up, nor abuse ourselves for our mistakes, because that will just also make us give up, which is how this system works!!! This was a long ramble, but I just wanted to say thank you Shelby, I hope you continue to take care of yourself, and you have encouraged and empowered so many people in a world that currently feels like it needs to beat us down. You are doing all the good you can do, and that has been more than enough.
This is why I'm really careful with the eco-friendly content I engage with because it's so easy to fall into these people's guilt traps because you do genuinely care so much, and yet you're still a human being with a variety of personal struggles, so you can only do so much without it being detrimental to your health. Thank you for being open and honest. Your channel is very inspiring.
Thank you so much for this conversation. I recently discovered your channel and I feel you! I studied architecture and environmental design back in the early 80s and can't tell you how frustrated I've felt, that we (as a society) haven't made more progress! I've been told to "get off my soapbox", "that no one wants to be preached to" and on and on. I'm now 65 and fear for future generations. Love your vlogs! Keep up the good work!
It’s so much easier to criticize others than it is to look at your own faults. I think that’s why people get so damn nitpicky because they won’t look at their own lives and improve it when they can “feel better” by pointing out someone else’s “imperfections”. I adore your content, and I think you’re doing so much to help the world not just in the sustainable things you do but also by educating others. The effects of your videos do not stop at just the main viewers. I’ve been able to convince others to make better choices just by passing on the info and tips from your videos. You make waves, don’t forget that ❤️
I just want to say I’m really frustrated that you receive that kind of feedback! I’ve been so interested in low waste and more eco-friendly living for so long but it wasn’t until I found your channel that I felt like I could truly do it. you have such a kind, sensible, understanding approach to it. I quote your end statement to so many people when I share about changes I’m making to be more sustainable or aware. So I guess I just want to thank you for actually putting out content to inspire not condemn. Ironically I always found the zero waste movement very toxic. And sometimes felt like all the things I was trying were worthless anyways because I could not do it perfectly until I found you! Eco Fatigue is so real and I wish this community was more about celebrating what we are doing instead of criticizing each other. When we criticize I feel like it just makes us all want to give up and what is that really doing for earth??? Thank you Thank you!! I really appreciate what you do!! I hope you know there are people like me that want to be better and love when people help us know how :)
Here for ALLLLL your content, Shelbi! Keep doing you and f*** whatever box everyone else tries to put you in 🖤
The reason you're one of my favourite TH-camrs is because you're honest. You motivate to make sustainable choices where possible, and don't judge people who make an effort but can't do everything. The people who criticise you aren't perfect themselves, they want to inflict their rudeness onto other people without care for their feelings. I console myself by thinking their choosing to be rude on a video that someone has put time and effort into says more about them and nothing about who they're being rude to, but it's cold comfort. I'm very happy I discovered your channel, and as a byproduct of that your vlog channel, because your videos bring happiness and educate in a way that's informative and easy to digest.
For the nit-pickers literally, they can use ice trays. I would argue that newer fridges are more efficient. Thank you for your content it has helped me so much with eco commensalism.
I appreciate this video. You are the first environmentally conscious creator that I've actually followed. I've been binging your content and I was insensitive when I brought up the shower thing and I'm so sorry that I made you feel bad about that. I honestly was surprised that it made ME so uncomfortable.
It makes sense that the further your water is from the water heater the longer it takes to get warm.
I doubt I was the only 1 to comment so I'm not going to beat myself up about it. I am always careful to not be offensive in comments as I suffer from ridiculous anxiety, so I'm fairly sure I wasn't rude. I literally commented on how it made ME uncomfortable...which again was a surprise. I do apologize though for making you feel criticized.
I've been trying to reduce my family's plastic consumption for a few years now and you have helped me a lot recently.
Yay you! Being under the microscope is unnerving. I'm so grateful for your content and everything I've gleaned from your videos has helped me make more eco friendly shifts. Like I started composting. And here's the thing, when we look at our biology and our place in the eco system we are consumers, not in the sense of purchasing everything, but in the producer consumer relationship. I think when we try, when we give back in a culture its wonderful. Living in a drought and being a gardener is hard, but I'm sequestering carbon with my plants. I'll let my lawn dry up, but lemme grow my food and flowers so the bees have a place. It's all about balance and society has created a very unhealthy environment requiring perfection and demanding more than is realistic. And that's why I love your channel and your outro. I think it everyday. It's like my eco mantra. Keep doing what you are doing.
These "critiques" are absolutely absurd. You do so much good and inspire so many people. I love this channel and I hope that people start to realize that they need to find something better to do than to criticize people that are doing everything they can.
Honestly, I don't know how people notice those things. Like, you are living your life, you obviously have a reason why are you doing something, and if they know you at all, they should know that you don't do anything without consideration of environment and question a lot of your decisions. I love what you do and don't be discouraged by this 🌸❤
I thank you and respect you for putting this out there. Personally, I love seeing the imperfect side (the real side!) of people's lives when it comes to sustainability. It helps me as a baby environmentalist to identify where I can best focus my energy and realize that there are many things out of my control. Seeing the "highlight" reel of perfection really just leaves me feeling inadequate, so I appreciate what you do. And that you will explain how you came to that decision (not that you owe us any explanation, just helps me to understand :-))
I am sorry the internet ass-hats are getting to you, know that you are appreciated and are doing amazing things!