I really feel that there's a whole lot more to this than just a FB status. I feel that her intuition is telling her deep down that something isn't quite right about this guy, and her only tangible piece of evidence is this FB status. Dear friend, if you are reading this comment, please pleaseeee slow walk buying a house with this guy. If you don't feel comfortable enough to have a convo with him about a FB status, I wonder if buying a house with him at this stage is a good idea. xoxo
I think he should be the one who wants his friends and family on board. Maybe you each buy a house and share the places together. This way you can minimize the risk of losing your money to this guy if he decides to leave the relationship.
Her point is that he is sharing on social media his entire life *except* for his relationship and partner. I think that is a huge problem and a huge red flag. (I assume no other adults had a discussion with him to ask him to post everything else about his life on social media. I assume he thought of it and did that by his own grown self.)
I've been in this situation. I was in a relationship, we weren't living together or anything but I wasn't put on his social media. He didnt post a lot but did post his sons stuff. So he told me it was no big deal for him not to post ANYTHING about our relationship and his exes are nosey Well he was cheating with 2 other women. One was he so called nosey ex. They didnt know he had a gf and i found out he did post pics of him and the ex when they were together! I dont mean to scare the guest but yes it's a conversation that needs to be had. I feel she hasn't asked is because deep down she is afraid of the answer! She knows it's weird. He post his life and friends but not her after 14 months? No I'm sorry.
My ex boyfriend of near a decade always balked when I wanted to use a picture of us both as a profile photo. Also months and months went by before he shared anything about me on his account. Seven years later things went downhill and crashed at the bottom.
Men are different than women. Just because he moves in with you does NOT mean he’s all in. For him it’s easy access to sex and there’s someone who may cook for him and do his laundry. I’m being a little sarcastic here so forgive me and definitely this is not indicative of every man out there .. however I think it’s important to make a man earn the love of a woman first. To me, moving in after only six months of dating is way tooo soon! You should spend at least two years really getting to know the person inside and out before major decisions are made.
I have to disagree with you on this Jonathon. You don’t have to “live together” after six months to find out if you’re incompatible. You can figure that out by dating, spending time in respective homes, meeting family and friends, traveling together, etc etc etc…Just because you live together doesn’t mean that person is all in. I think it takes a few years to really know a person. Prior to that we may be with a representative. lol Many people don’t even know what they really want in a relationship anyways. They prioritize easy access to sex which comes with living together. Glad we can agree to disagree. Love your videos.
@@kristinej.4182 I've known so many people who waited till marriage to live together (after dating), only to have it blow up once they lived together. It is merely a suggestion on my part.
Please stop being a girlfriend unless you are okay with them treating you like a doormat! That’s so juvenile to be a gf. Men don’t take the world girlfriend seriously. You are single. Please rotational date and find a better man
Not everyone uses Facebook the same way. It depends on their time schedule, how detail-oriented they are, how people oriented they are, their level of techno-saviness, their privacy settings and their priorities.
I think she never sees any pictures of him and her on his facebook page ? I too think she should listen to her intuition. If he cant acknowledge the relationship. Id be 😳 sus
I do believe it's a red flag if he does not post anything about you on social media. When Jonathan met the girl that moved in with him not too long ago, he was posting pics of them two all the time on social media pics of your guys' vacation. Because he liked her, he was showing her off. If he is not showing you off you gotta ask the question of why. I do believe you need to absolutely have that conversation like Jonathan said an adult conversation because yes men can not read our minds lol but a lot of men interact with ladies on social media so if he is keeping you hush hush on social media probably because he either A is keeping his options open online because he is not sure of you or B he is already talking to ladies online or could be C he is just keeping personal info quiet but if it's C better make sure he keeps everything personal quiet other wise it's not adding up
I have a question....being that you estimate 80% of people on dating sites are users and spenders, and as you've read us, you have an extensive profile intro. How do you handle people who ask questions that reveal that they didn't read your page? This inevitably annoys me and i end up telling the guy to please read my page and then they think I'm rude 😮
I would definitely have the ' Our Public Life ' conversation. That could cover a lot. Like past or present stalking problems, how private you want to be & for how long, bringing in friends & hanging out, exposing the relationship to social media & in what way.
I think she was hoping that he would naturally want to put up a pic or change the relationship status of his own accord. I think she wanted to see him initiate something like this without a discussion taking place because it would have highlighted to her that he loves her and he wants to share that feeling about her with his Facebook world...... Because he wanted to not because they had a discussion about it. If that makes sense 🤷
Sorry men want to have the best of both worlds by being in denial ... Also men making it seem it's not a big deal to change the status! But it is he could be loving the attention he is receiving and is not prepared to change the status!
I totally understand there is a way of talking to each other to try and understand each other and have grown-up conversations, but there is also ways of talking to your clients.. could you check yourself next time? I had to turn down the volume due to you shouting some what frustrated at your client.
Like my case.. my partner has fb but never added me, He just added me on instagram.. but he knew i have facebook Were living together for more than a year
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I really feel that there's a whole lot more to this than just a FB status. I feel that her intuition is telling her deep down that something isn't quite right about this guy, and her only tangible piece of evidence is this FB status. Dear friend, if you are reading this comment, please pleaseeee slow walk buying a house with this guy. If you don't feel comfortable enough to have a convo with him about a FB status, I wonder if buying a house with him at this stage is a good idea. xoxo
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I think he should be the one who wants his friends and family on board. Maybe you each buy a house and share the places together. This way you can minimize the risk of losing your money to this guy if he decides to leave the relationship.
The guy is sharing his entire life on social media except his relationship - huge red flag! The woman should listen to her intuition.
Would love an update on Lillia's situation. what was her partner's response??
This is an example of why communication in a relationship is so important.
Exactly
Her point is that he is sharing on social media his entire life *except* for his relationship and partner. I think that is a huge problem and a huge red flag. (I assume no other adults had a discussion with him to ask him to post everything else about his life on social media. I assume he thought of it and did that by his own grown self.)
Right. If you can post your friends but not your gf...no. thats weird
I agree. She was saying he doesn't include her in his posts??? I'm not sure, but that's a huge red online flag
I've been in this situation. I was in a relationship, we weren't living together or anything but I wasn't put on his social media. He didnt post a lot but did post his sons stuff. So he told me it was no big deal for him not to post ANYTHING about our relationship and his exes are nosey Well he was cheating with 2 other women. One was he so called nosey ex. They didnt know he had a gf and i found out he did post pics of him and the ex when they were together!
I dont mean to scare the guest but yes it's a conversation that needs to be had. I feel she hasn't asked is because deep down she is afraid of the answer! She knows it's weird. He post his life and friends but not her after 14 months? No I'm sorry.
My ex boyfriend of near a decade always balked when I wanted to use a picture of us both as a profile photo. Also months and months went by before he shared anything about me on his account. Seven years later things went downhill and crashed at the bottom.
Men are different than women. Just because he moves in with you does NOT mean he’s all in. For him it’s easy access to sex and there’s someone who may cook for him and do his laundry. I’m being a little sarcastic here so forgive me and definitely this is not indicative of every man out there .. however I think it’s important to make a man earn the love of a woman first. To me, moving in after only six months of dating is way tooo soon! You should spend at least two years really getting to know the person inside and out before major decisions are made.
Spending two years determining two people are incompatible is worse than six months.
I have to disagree with you on this Jonathon. You don’t have to “live together” after six months to find out if you’re incompatible. You can figure that out by dating, spending time in respective homes, meeting family and friends, traveling together, etc etc etc…Just because you live together doesn’t mean that person is all in. I think it takes a few years to really know a person. Prior to that we may be with a representative. lol Many people don’t even know what they really want in a relationship anyways. They prioritize easy access to sex which comes with living together.
Glad we can agree to disagree. Love your videos.
@@kristinej.4182 I've known so many people who waited till marriage to live together (after dating), only to have it blow up once they lived together. It is merely a suggestion on my part.
Living together is like renting a marriage. You don't really have what it feels like you think you do.
Men like that want to keep their options open in case something better comes along. Men “all in” shout it out to the world.
Please stop being a girlfriend unless you are okay with them treating you like a doormat! That’s so juvenile to be a gf. Men don’t take the world girlfriend seriously. You are single. Please rotational date and find a better man
14 months like that’s crazy esp at her age
Well said Jonathon. Being direct in communication is important.
Not everyone uses Facebook the same way. It depends on their time schedule, how detail-oriented they are, how people oriented they are, their level of techno-saviness, their privacy settings and their priorities.
Shouldn't all of this been discussed before moving in together!!!
I think she never sees any pictures of him and her on his facebook page ? I too think she should listen to her intuition. If he cant acknowledge the relationship. Id be 😳 sus
I do believe it's a red flag if he does not post anything about you on social media. When Jonathan met the girl that moved in with him not too long ago, he was posting pics of them two all the time on social media pics of your guys' vacation. Because he liked her, he was showing her off. If he is not showing you off you gotta ask the question of why. I do believe you need to absolutely have that conversation like Jonathan said an adult conversation because yes men can not read our minds lol but a lot of men interact with ladies on social media so if he is keeping you hush hush on social media probably because he either A is keeping his options open online because he is not sure of you or B he is already talking to ladies online or could be C he is just keeping personal info quiet but if it's C better make sure he keeps everything personal quiet other wise it's not adding up
Something NOT RIGHT! smh! 🏃♀️➡️🏃♀️➡️🏃♀️➡️🏃♀️➡️
That is strange not have a few FB posts of Lilia for 14 months. Would love an update from Lilia.
I have a question....being that you estimate 80% of people on dating sites are users and spenders, and as you've read us, you have an extensive profile intro. How do you handle people who ask questions that reveal that they didn't read your page? This inevitably annoys me and i end up telling the guy to please read my page and then they think I'm rude 😮
I would definitely have the ' Our Public Life ' conversation. That could cover a lot. Like past or present stalking problems, how private you want to be & for how long, bringing in friends & hanging out, exposing the relationship to social media & in what way.
Dislike social media. I had issues with my guy with this. We fixed it. But I say…get off all social media. It’s drama you don’t need
I think she was hoping that he would naturally want to put up a pic or change the relationship status of his own accord. I think she wanted to see him initiate something like this without a discussion taking place because it would have highlighted to her that he loves her and he wants to share that feeling about her with his Facebook world...... Because he wanted to not because they had a discussion about it. If that makes sense 🤷
Some people value social media too much. Others value privacy
Wishing, hoping and praying rarely produce the desired result
Jonathon..I'm noticing there are men who stay in relationships but they're not in love.. are they incapable or fearful of being vulnerable?
No , they are frightened of being alone ,
Lilia you are pretty and nice. I hope you get treated like a queen and have much happiness. I’m a widow too. Bless you!!
Good advice Jonathan.
Sorry men want to have the best of both worlds by being in denial ... Also men making it seem it's not a big deal to change the status! But it is he could be loving the attention he is receiving and is not prepared to change the status!
Yes
True Jonathon, men aren't mind readers.
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I totally understand there is a way of talking to each other to try and understand each other and have grown-up conversations, but there is also ways of talking to your clients.. could you check yourself next time? I had to turn down the volume due to you shouting some what frustrated at your client.
I wondered if it was a concern that he hasnt involved her in his life with his family and was keeping some separation between her and his kids?
Rant Jonathan. Rant. Let it out. 😂
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Like my case.. my partner has fb but never added me,
He just added me on instagram.. but he knew i have facebook
Were living together for more than a year
These days there are so many people in the DMs. I don't trust that
Well... You should leave him, he is definitly hidding something from you 🥺😬🤷♀️