Kidney transplant is so much harder on the DONOR too. That's definitely not a decision to take lightly. My aunt donated a kidney to her best friend and friend bounced back and my aunt had a loooooong recovery but she was fully consenting and willing to accept those risks
Little side note cause I found this fascinating but when you give your kidney, not only is the body recovering from that but the singular kidney will enlargen/increase in size to compensate for the other kidney
My stepmom donated her kidney to her sick sister. It went really good for a few weeks and then all of a sudden her sister started rejecting and passed away. I don’t know how this fits in with your story, but it unlocked that forgotten memory of mine. (I was about 9)
This podcast makes me realize I need to stop accepting peoples disrespectful behavior and set boundaries. Bending backwards for others was not humble kindness I thought it was, I was taken advantage of and harming myself in the process. I thought I already was ok at setting boundaries, but I clearly have a long way to go. I need to get over feeling selfish because I’m not, I’m choosing me.
YES! It definitely helps me with my personal issues and outlook too. I find myself constantly reflecting on my actions to see if sometimes I’m being disrespectful by accident or being toxic. Huge bonus for me too is that I don’t have many friends. 2 people I speak to maybe once a week? So having a podcast that actually really engages me makes me feel way less lonely ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
For the story about leaving the person behind in a foreign country. It’s important to stay close to your group but she literally told her she will leave her if she didn’t come back to the hotel in time. She tried getting her to the hotel with her but she is a grown ass adult. She can handle herself and her choices.
Plus, foreign countries have phone service. She could have recharged her phone or borrowed a phone. I would have left without a thought. I would be worried the whole time and wouldn’t have slept well, but come on. I bet she was just pissed bc she missed her flight.
My friend and I were in Germany together and she decided to get off the train at the last second, so the doors ended up closing in my face (they don’t open back up like in NYC). I had to get off at the next stop blocks down the road. I assumed she would have waited for me or tried walking in the direction of the train to meet me. She didn’t. She just walked back herself and thought nothing of it. When I didn’t even know the address of the B&B. Luckily, I was able to figure out where it was by searching for a specific restaurant that was down the street. But it was sundown and getting dark, alone in a foreign country. I was really pissed at her because she didn’t even apologize when I got back. She saw me getting stuck and I even pointed in the direction of the train to try to tell her to follow. Idk. I just know I would have followed the train to make sure she was safe and not alone.
She should’ve went to the party too but under the condition that when she says leave, it’s time to go. I would not travel with someone who would let me go to parties on my own.
@@guiltymanners wait why would she go to a party that she had no interest in? She didn’t even know the people who invited her and her acquaintance to the party in the first place. The acquaintance wanted to go and it’s not the girl’s job to be her body guard or watcher. She made the decision and so there goes consequences for her actions.
Omg thank you! I feel so dumb, I saw these as Tiktoks, but never thought anything of it... was watching another TH-cam video and cane across these videos. Never did my dumb butt put two and two together and realize I could listen/download these on Spotify 😆 thanks!
@@kittykat282828 Yes! Spotify is amazing for this channel, over 50 full episodes?? Yes, please! I mean, don't feel dumb! I miss stuff like that too, pretty sure YT recommended this channel before I realised who they were too!
Omg yes!! Me too. This is exactly how I would describe it! When I'm doing stuff around the house it really helps me focus. I have ADHD too. This is the only podcast I like. All the other ones I feel like are too chaotic
For the second one. I had this happen to me. It was me and 2 other friends. We were in Arizona for 4 days and after going out the girls I was with would stay with guys that they would meet. I would always Uber back to the hotel alone. The last night there I told the girls we all needed to be at the hotel at 2am the latest as our flight was at 5am. We were packed and ready to go. One of the girls decided to stay at the guys house again. We called several times and no answer. Told the front desk that our friend would be back for her luggage and gave them our key. Friend missed that flight but ended up being able to meet us at the airport at the next layover. She was mad that we left her. I was mad that we all agreed on something and she fell through with the plan and then expected us to miss our flight because she was being irresponsible.
From what I heard, Selena’s friend was mad because Selena was drinking and partying on her new donated kidney. She felt like she donated her kidney for nothing
To be fair selena couldnt do any of those things for a long time, and she probably wanted to celebrate by doing the stuff she couldnt do for a long time. One night wont ruin the kidney
Story 1: 2:00 (kidney) Story 2: 12:05 (left someone in a foreign country) Story 3: 19:52 (pregnant maid of honor) Story 4: 25:00 (inherited ring) Story 5: 33:39 (pay for dinner) Story 6: 40:35 (bridesmaid gift)
I was so impressed when she spoke about Jewish death practices. It's very rare I find people outside the Jewish community who know even a sliver of our customs and speaks about them with respect (especially outside of comparing or valueing our cultural customs off there worth to Christianity). It was really nice to see and was a little moment that felt very inclusive and respectful :)
@@hulyayilmaz2071 Yes, there are many Muslim practices that were adopted from/relate to our ethno-religious customs :) there tends to be a lot of connection/points for relation, I find.
I asked my friend to marry me and my husband more than a year prior to our wedding he accepted. He and his gf found out they were expecting and the due date was a week before the wedding. The due date came and went, the venue was out of town. We had him marry us in our living room the day before we left and had another friend stand in, im his place. Their son was born on our wedding day and is like an adopted nephew now. We feel forever linked to our little wedding crasher. Love should not be selfish, it is the best story and turned into one of the best things that could've happened ^_^
With the rich friends dinner story, I feel like not only are they shitty friends but they also seemingly ran up the bill purposefully bc they assumed she’d pay for everything, especially with the context that their parents have been paying for everything their whole lives so it’s just general entitlement to others money bc at this point they seem like they’re cheap until it’s someone else’s money to spend or something they personally want
My own sister was due the week of my original wedding date (pre-covid) and I was totally understanding of her not being able to come to the wedding. The health of that baby and the mom are most important, especially given the fertility situation.
As a kidney donor this struck a cord with me. The choice is always yours. It is a gift you are giving. Most transplant centers will cover and take the blame if you decide privately that you cannot donate. They will says something medically came up. The story that you tell I am 100% sure that the center would not have let her donate because they look at your lifestyle and the psychology. You also need a primary caregiver. To determine if I could donate, I have to go through interviews with nephrology, surgeon, psychologist, social workers, primary care, and your advocate. They want to make sure your life is not impacted long term. The pre-tests are A LOT! Recovery is 6-8 weeks plus a commitment for testing every 6 months for the rest of your life.
It would be a hell of a plot twist if it turned out the best friend/wife actually chose not to donate via telling the transplant team and was projecting her feelings of guilt
The dinner one is crazy. I have NEVER said to someone that we should go out to celebrate something that happened in their life and expect them to pay - I pay for them because we're celebrating them. That's ridiculous. I agree - they aren't her friends.
im poly, and i would never date some who cheated in a monogamous relationship. though it seems like they would suit an open relationship, they still suck and are uncommunicative 😭😭😭
i should mention that ive been binging your podcasts today (after finding you on tiktok) and really enjoying them! thank you for taking time and energy to do this, its been so nice to listen to! you two have such a fun dynamic, and i love the anecdotal stories. stay genuine and true to yourselves, thank you 😊
I've heard of poly girls who have boyfriends who, even though they can have more relationships because they are poly, still hide any side relationship and deny feeling any attraction for someone else. It's like they want to have a secret rather than just another girlfriend? Or worse, like they think "my gf SAYS she'd be okay with it but I know she wouldn't, because I know how women are". It's kinda fucked.
My bridesmaids never paid for their dresses, their hair or make up for the day. I got them a small gift and they kept their lovely dresses. I made sure it was minimal as possible, even my hen do (bachelorette party) was in a pub. I don’t think you getting married should put people out of pocket, if they want to gift that’s lovely but we didn’t have a wedding list either. My girls spoiled me and I was grateful but I would never expect anything from them, I got married, not them 😄
I love that you did that for your girls! Weddings cost a lot and the bridesmaid dress alone could put a person in a tough spot financially. I totally agree, it shouldn’t put people in financial just so they can be apart of the wedding.
This way of thinking is getting more popular thankfully. I asked my bridesmaids to wear the same color and same dress length, but aside from that they had free reign. One sister spent $150 on her dress and my sister in law spent $30 on Amazon lol. I wanted them to buy something they felt comfortable in and not wreck their finances. It is crazy so many expect their bridal parties to spend thousands!
@@fleurmal7648 I laughed out loud omg that's so cute, every single one of my graduation/prom dresses were under $20, I'd find a dress with the color/fabric I want from online or thrift shop, and alter the fuck out of it to fit me lmao and one dress my mom made herself. It's the perfect way to have the dress you had in mind and I just love a cheap dress story
The story with the women and the book deal: it was a celebration for her! If I was in that situation I’d be paying for her as a gift and because I was proud. Not expecting her to pay for me. Ridiculous!
For the ring one, I agree that the woman is being selfish. It isn’t her family heirloom so she shouldn’t be the one to to decide to end the tradition. If her husbands mother agreed that she should be buried with it then that’s another story.
Never really been a fan of podcasts or long videos. I felt like people go on and on. Talking so much about one subject I got bored, but this podcast actually has me entertained and intrigued for more. Definitely a podcast I'll be looking into. So happy I found you two on tik tok. Keep up the good work 😁
Every culture sees the dinner celebration thing differently. As an American, I grew up with the notion that if someone says, “Let’s go out, we should celebrate you!” That means they’re paying. Albanians think the opposite. If you got a new job or something, you pay because now you’re the more fortunate one. But you also usually suggest the celebration yourself when that’s the case. So it depends a bit on cultural context. But inviting someone else to dinner assuming they’ll pay for more than their share is rude af
Yes, I'm Pakistani but live in the UK and when I go out for diner with friends. For us it's often a race to get your card down first (so you can pay for everyone). So I think the culture matters
I have kidney damage and may need a transplant at some point in my life, and I would never demand nor expect my family or friends to donate one of theirs, never even crossed my mind to ask, I planned to wait my turn on the donor list.
the one about the woman who doesn’t want to give her ring bothers me not just because she’s being insanely selfish but her son lost his FATHER and she thinks it is above all more important for her to keep the ring rather than pass it onto him?? i hope he got to propose to his boyfriend with it, he should have it.
What gets me too is like, he’s been dead longer than the relationship they ever had has been- they were only married for four years and now, you know, the ring just sits there next to his ashes collecting dust. Meanwhile, that’s the son’s family ring, not her family ring- I’m almost certain it does have homophobic “rationale” behind keeping it from him. She’s a witch in all honesty. That ring means nothing to her whatsoever now and she’s more concerned about keeping a hunk of metal as a keepsake in “memory” of her late husband while there’s a whole ass human being that’s literally half of him trying to carry on *his* family tradition.
@@TwoHotTakes so in laymans terms I'd say the sun sign is your main personality (your grown up self), your moon sign is more like your personality when you were a child, and your rising sign is what you come off as to people when they meet you At least this is what I know it to be lol
For the kidney story, she is also would have had her immune system greatly compromised. The last thing she would want in a pandemic is a compromised immune system. Or even just having young kids prone bringing germs home from school
To the girl who’s friends expected to pay for their meals I’m proud of you and recognize this amazing accomplishment you’ve had don’t let them bring you down everything they said to you they could describe themselves as
Omg so refreshing to hear someone else be like weirded out by cemeteries in the sense of it’s such a waste of land/open space when you could literally give back to the environment by becoming a tree or like Morgan said a coral reef/jewelry
But if you were a tree, then someone will come along and cut you down to make room for a housing development. I would rather see a cemetery than another subdivision of homes or another strip mall! The one thing that bugs the crap out of me is when people come along and see an empty plot of land and think I have to figure out a way to make money off it. They can’t stand seeing empty land not being used for something.
in that one part where they're talking about being buried w things, it made me think about my grandmas funeral. basically she was a big fan of an artist and had bought a t shirt with them on it. when she died of cancer the plan was to bury her in that shirt with her favorite jeans that way shed be "happy in her favorite clothes even in death" they were also going to bury her in some of her favorite jewelry. the issue being that someone(not sure if it was a family friend or one of their neighbors) went through her things and stole those clothes and some of her jewelry. they chose a different outfit and buried her in what was left of her jewelry, but later on the same person that stole her stuff, was seen wearing it around the neighborhood, and put up a fight when confronted about it. this happened before i was even born, my grandma died when my mom was 15, and shes 40 now, but that section of the video brought back the memory of my family telling me the story.
Selena Gomez and friend who donated her kidney Francia Raisa did an interview discussing what happened. Long story short Francia lived with Selena Gomez for some time and realized Selena was struggling with easy every day tasks and finally confessed to her about her health issues and Francia without a doubt decided she would get tested to see if she was a match and indeed she was. They are still friends and just because people don’t hang out as much doesn’t mean they still do not care. Intentions were always good.
It sounds like he may be queer. Just meaning that perhaps he has dated other gender folks in the past. I can see what she may mean though. Like, would he be altering the ring for his probable fiancé? Or would it remain the same? I think that’s important to consider as well.
@@Crispy26 nah dud, u can be queer, bi, non binary... dating a man for six years means you have a boyfriend. People always find a way to excuse subtle offenses.
@@yassercastillo2607 I wasn’t saying that it does not make him his boyfriend/partner. I’m saying that she may have put it that way because she felt like the partner may not want the ring, due to style/design. So, I’m just stating the she may have written it that way to emphasize the gender of the parter. Due to when typing other options have have made it appear as if she was belittle disregarding his place in her Son’s life.
absolutely enjoyed this episode! been falling down the rabbit hole of podcasts, and by far yours has made me feel more encouraged to keep recording with my bff! the dynamic between the cohost is very relatable and the opinions are spot on what my reaction would be. cant wait to hear more
I don’t know if anyone else has commented this but re: feeling like your heart is beating really fast at the dentist or for oral surgery - you likely were likely given a numbing agent containing epinephrine, otherwise known as adrenaline. Some people are sensitive to it and it can make you feel shaky with a racing heart. I thought I was really anxious and maybe having a panic attack when I noticed it first. Just tell your dentist/oral surgeon you are sensitive and they will give you an alternative! I can’t imagine having that and also laughing gas, that doesn’t sound like a good time 🤢
It made me feel like I was being held down from the shoulders and added to my anxiety. I didn’t feel high or relaxed. I came out wondering how it’s so popular as a pert drug.
The friend that gave Selena her kidney was also upset because apparently Selena promised to quit drinking and she didn't. I understand that alcoholism is a serious problem and I really feel for Selena but I'd be pissed off too if I was her friend
As the sensitive one in my friend group who eventually wants to make music and spiritual-based content, this was so inspiring to hear about you two. Thank you for sharing your beautiful selves with us on the internet and taking those risks even though they are not easy 💗
I found y'all's about a month and a half ago and have been slowly binge watching all of y'all's episodes. I'm really enjoying them and that last little tidbit at the end is what finally gave me the strength to over come my anxiety and say something. So thank you 💛💛💛🧡
If I was the bride in the MOH pregnancy story, I would set up a stream service so she can still attend my big day if she has given birth on her due date (which, if you look at the stats, is highly unlikely). I would be more excited about my best friend bringing a baby into this world than my MOH needing to step down. I would understand. The MOH is NTA. At all.
I absolutely love this podcast! I have recommended it to friends! The story about the bride asking for the gifts back hit home with me! It reminds me of a wedding I was in with a former toxic friend. The stories about this relationship before and after the wedding we’re wild but that’s besides the point lol. This totally seems like something she would do! Loved it!
The one with the friends dinner who got the book deal- if we are going out to celebrate a friend’s accomplishment, I would never expect them to pay! It’s a party for them-especially if I suggested going out in the first place!
They just numbed me horribly. No putting out, no gas, just sitting there focusing on the sounds and my dentist’s arms shaking from the strength/force used to rip them out. It was great!
I tried so many podcast but your podcast is the only one I truly love and relate to! You’re so funny and lovable! I binged watched all your episode in the last days! Can’t wait for the next one!
There’s a video on TH-cam where Francia is being interviewed after her organ donation. Selena found out she was a match before she did. She was pressured. And then Selena goes back to rehab after a new kidney.
With the heirloom ring I can completely understand why she would want to keep it until she died. Its her connection to her dead husband and means alot. But to be buried with it? That's selfish. The ring isn't going to do anything for when your dead. And if you believe in heaven then you'll be with your 1st husband again anyway. Have it be passed down to your son after you die. If he's already married with kids at that point he can give it to his kids when they marry. She's the arsehole.
She’s missing the point that heirlooms don’t really belong to you, they are given to you for a time and are then passed on. Keeping it while she’s alive seems reasonable; selfish, but reasonable…to be buried with it defies the love that was intended to be passed along.
1. NTA. Even if it's a small chance risking leaving your kids that's still a very real , very scary proposition. 2. NTA. She's a grown woman and the poster tried to get her to leave with her. 3. NTA. However I do think based on context clues that the friend isn't that upset. 4. YTA. That ring is a family heirloom and he has rights to it. If his mother had kept the ring she wouldn't even have it now anyway. 5. NTA. It would be one thing if they were like broke college students and you insisted on an expensive restaurant. They can pay their way. 6. NTA. The audacity of this woman after cheating on her partner to even message her much less ask for the gift back.
I was my aunts caregiver after her kidney transplant. She healed incredibly quick and still for over 2 weeks she couldn’t shower, walk to the bathroom, or even put her socks on alone. It’s also twice as hard for donors than recipients!
Saw your videos on tiktok and came here for full episodes. Been obsessed with the podcasts for two days, have seen a lot of them already.😅 Best wishes! Really enjoy your content (obviously) 🤣
If I’m a bit mean guys remember my family is toxic and they call me fat and ugly (I’m a average weight for my height and age) just kidding for the most part I just don’t talk to my friends cuz I’m left out 😼🥴😟😢😊😋💅✝️💗🤡🥴😻😟😼🥴😭🤩🥲🥸😂🤓😊😞😘😔😏😊
I've been bingeing these podcasts all weekend! So glad they came up suggested, it feels like having the best chats with wine (1 glass 👀) with your friends! I've been working all summer and miss my friends ♥
Regarding the organ donation issue, I think helping someone you know & care about in that way is super selfless and admirable. It's important to acknowledge that gratitude is one of the most difficult emotions to sustain. Relationships often don't survive the feelings of obligation etc that come with such a massive gift, it changes things for everyone x
with heirloom jewelry i hate how people act like its a family owned piece. that woman was GIVEN that ring by her husband. by logic, it is hers then. I understand tradition matters, but also she owns the ring not the grandmother or her son. its not selfish and entitled to do what you want with an item you own.
First time commenting, I just needed to say you ladies have such a peaceful voice and relatable perspective! Long time supporter of your channel, and love every video!! Thank you for your bravery in putting yourself out there. I am too shy and hearing you are as well is empowering! Always looking forward to the next video. One of my top favorite podcasts. You all are amazing! Thank you for creating and sharing
I totally had the same reaction on laughing gas! My heart was racing I was scared I was going to have a panic attack, i was worried i was going to choke cause it felt like something was pooling at the back of my mouth, it was just a recipe for disaster but I was able to talk myself out of freaking out thankfully
Selena wouldn’t of been able to find out if her friend was a match as doctors have to protect patients confidentially with HIPPA so if the doctor did say something they could be sued and they can lose there licence to practice medicine
Love your guys’ ideas on burials/cremation! There’s so many better ways than just getting buried in the ground & I think it’s so true that those are a waste of resources! I also haven’t ever heard of the coral reef one but that is an AMAZING idea I’ll be looking into. Imagine if everyone who passed turned into a tree or some sort of biodegradable source, or a coral reef, it would help the ecosystem so much.
When my best friend died, her parents sent (not very legal, but it was too far to drive them) some of the ashes to a glass artist that does glass sculptures, to which you can add color in the centre and some ashes. They had one made for the mom, dad and brother. It was beautiful to see how they had turned the top of a high commode into a memorial with pictures, the sculptures, her religious necklace (sorry, English isn't my first language and I can't find the right word) and more. I edited her in a picture of me at the lake (a place she loved and wanted to one day see in person but her living in Canada and me in Switzerland, we never got to do it). I took a picture from her if where she was smiling so hard and looked extremely happy. I'm glad I got to out the picture on the memorial, means a lot. I would love to have that done with a bit of my ashes and have the rest turned into a tree! She and I even talked about it when I visited her, leaving her 10 days before she passed. In my opinion, the mother is selfish to keep an heirloom ring that comes from her husband's family. If it was hers, I could understand (not necessarily agree, but understand). If her husband had not died, she would have probably given him the ring. Trust me I get the whole "it's so meaningful" part but she has to remember that her son lost his dad, too. When my dad passed, my mom gave me her wedding band (they were divorced but it was very sentimental to her) and we had them turned into a necklace, the small one in the big one, connected at the top and with a dangling heart in the middle. I'd give the mom 1.5/5 buttholes bc it's meant to be passed down from gen to gen, but I don't think it's also the end of the world. Let's make it 2/5 bc of the risk it gets stolen or the son has to make the decision to take it when she passes, and he would most likely feel awful about doing that.
When I get married, when I said my bridesmaids to be my bridesmaids I let them know that they would be paying for the dress, what they have the chose of what dress they wanted and felt comfortable on but just had to be the same colour. I paid for the hens party and to get the dresses fitted if needed and they could wear what ever jewellery and shoes they wanted. And if they couldn't or didn't want to that was there opposition from day one. All I wanted on my wedding day was for then to be comfortable it what they were wearing and could look back on phone and love them, because they picked what suited them. I LOVE YOUR PODCASTS AND I'M BULK WATCHING THEM
're the ring; if the son is the son of the father that passed on give him the ring but if he is the son of the current husband then give him the ring that the current husband gave her.
The first thing that cane to mind when you mention she had kids was, what if one of her kids needs one and shes a match? I will never give my kidney to someone outside my family.
I’ve never heard of leaving the casket before it’s lowered. Funerals I’ve been to watched the casket get lowered so I couldn’t imagine leaving it above ground when watching it go into the ground may provide more closure mentally
For the rich friends dinner story, I also felt she shouldn't have had to pay for dinner at ALL because it was a celebration for her brought up by her friends. Unless it's going to a bar, you don't just say you gonna celebrate a person and then expect them to pay for themselves let alone for everyone
Fun fact - my grandad was planning on being turned into a ring after he died, but when my mom looked into it apparently it was super expensive :( (we threw him in the ocean instead) (post-cremation, in case that wasn't clear)
I'm from Ecuador, always stick together and don't pull out your phones for any reason in the world. I'm from Guayaquil though, so be extra careful and don't go to any area that's not for tutorism if you're not from there. You speak English like an American, be aware of people who don't have the best intentions. But this girl who went by herself to a party, she choose that. She should've stayed with you and knowing her flight was the next morning. Glad they both made it safely back but this is not a country you separate from your group. Always have someone who knows Spanish with you, my country is beautiful and everyone should go but with caution and in a group.
Good luck to you recovering from your mouth surgery. Sorry it wasnt a more comfortable experience. I appreciated your take on the first story and putting yourself in the shoes of both parties. I hadn't considered the friends view point.
Hey I know you might now be checking this, but as you're discussing the kidney stuff, I want you to know that's not how the transplant process works. I have followed the Selena story closely since I have a deep connection to it and have admired Selena for years. I had to leave my college class because I cried when the original story broke. I've had 2 kidney transplants and I'm a little younger than Selena, the doctor would not tell the person getting the donation anything before the doner knew (I had a lot of family and friends get tested.), it goes against the patient/doctor confidentiality agreement and HIPPA. The issue between the two was Selena was drinking post-transplant, which you're allowed to just not to an excessive amount- I personally drink wine at least 2/3 times a week and am 5 years post-transplant. Also, I know you did not mean any harm by your jokes about The Weeknd/Selena transplant but as someone who's had 2 transplants and has been bullied for it, I find it a bit distasteful. I joke about my own healthy pretty frequently, but as someone who's been bullied and lived my entire life with this situation please be careful when joking about it. I'm enjoying your video but I wanted to educate you a little since I am someone who's been on the receiving side of a transplant and has spent all 24 years of my life chronically ill from having a transplant/ the changes it makes to your everyday life. Hope you're doing good, Grace
about your questions on the process, it is life/death your kidney gets rid of the toxins in your body and if that builds up you can die. Dialysis is the next step if you can't get a donor right away, and as someone who's done it for 5 years, I'm still dealing with the psychological trauma of it all. It's also really hard on your body and changes the way you live your life, you're living off a machine. You can only get a donation from someone with your blood type and if you have certain antibodies you can't get a certain part of the populations of that blood type's organs. The friend shouldn't have pressured her at all, I had a really hard time asking anyone to do it, it's a big ask it's hard on your body.Like the type comment said they're very picky on who they do/ do not let be a donor, age, weight, family situation, mental health state, ext are all looked at. I also get being that desperate, I've been there personally, I did everything I could to get a kidney, I had a facebook page, but I would never have pressured anyone, I always was like...ya sure pls don't feel like you have to do this for me. It's a shitty situation over all.
I agree so much with Lauren's point that the idea of being buried weirds me out. Definitely seems like a waste of space once you're gone and i LOVE that idea of being turned into a tree or a coral reef
The ring one, yes she’s being selfish, it’s a pass down. In my family we don’t have this tradition but I would love to start mine with my ring as soon as one of my kids would wanna get married, I would give them my ring in a heart beat.
With the wedding ring. I wouldn't want the ring to be broke down into another piece of jewelry. I would want it to stay as a wedding ring - I want to pass mine down. Honestly, I don't know if a man would want to wear a womans wedding ring. She could give him her father's ring and then tell them if they have a little girl that it could go to her when she gets engaged
I needed a kindey transplant at age 16. People got tested but no one was a match or were in poor health conditions. When people like my teachers offered to give me theirs I told them not to go get tested because I felt way too guilty taking anyone's kindey. UNOS called and I got a kindey from a deceased person at age 18. I don't think she is the asshole, but if my husband needed a kindey it would be so gut wrenching and I'd be trying harder to get him that kindey. Dialysis 3 times a week for 4 hours and lots of surgeries and knowing you might die soon and feeling terrible all the time. I wouldn't be handle seeing someone I love go through that I went through it's so hard. And especially knowing the average adult has to wait on the transplant list for over 5 years. 5 years of hell, I was lucky I was a minor so I only had to wait 3 years. So she isn't the asshole but I do feel for her friend and understand where she is coming from. But if it was me I still don't think I would cut her off she needs ro understand where other people are coming from.
regarding the ring, the son might want the ring to carry on the tradition like his father, I feel bad for the woman who lost her husband but she is not the only person in that situation who lost a loved one.
People seems to assume that you can donate a kidney and go on with their lives as normal, it deeply affects your life forever. Not to mention she could a have a permanent complications that render her from work or even dying, then who will take care and support her children. Plus what happens if one of her kids needs a transplant one day and she can't even get tested because she donated to her friend's husband already.
As an afab person, this is such a string of terrible decisions on that acquaintance's part: I would never 1) go out AT NIGHT 2) alone 3) in an area I didn't know 4) in a foreign country with 5) STRANGERS who 6) spoke a language I didn't. Please please do not do this.
FYI, several states have laws that do not allow people to claim lottery winnings anonymously. You'd think they would for safety reasons, but nope. That's why if you win, you need to hire a team of attorneys and financial advisors so they can help you setup a trust that can claim the winnings on your behalf, and you can then keep the trust's information confidential.
If my maid of honor had to step down due to finally getting pregnant, I would be so happy for her and immediately start planning a tribute to her for the reception wishing her the best delivery ever and thanking her for the best gift ever cause I would be ready to spoil that baby so much. ❤️
My grandmother's ashes are in my ring, it's my most treasured piece of jewelry and it goes everywhere with me. I think one for each person is a great idea!
When you mentioned your grandma always calling and reminding you of the movie Taken, it reminded me of my grandma. If we were going to Canada, let's say Prince Edward Island (which is to the far right of the country), she'd call and be like "Did you know there's fires in Vancouver??" (which is the opposite side lolol) or my sister went to Germany in the summer of like 2016. Then two years later, my grandma called my sister and was like "Where were you in Germany?? Did you know someone just drove through the capital building in Berlin??" like... Grandma that happened a couple days ago. Not in 2016 😂 You gotta love the concern tho haha
For the ring: I think it’s okay for her to keep it until she dies, but not continuing to pass it down is messed up. She should leave it to her son so the ring has continuous use and follows tradition, even if the son can’t propose with it, he’d still get it and be able to pass it down.
I agree too also what might be a solution for this would be that you give the ring to a jewler which then takes some of the shaveings and makes a new man sized ring for the son's potencial fiance So she could have the ring until she dies but the son still has a piece of the actual heirloom
@@joiceraiana yeah that’s what I’m saying. If it has sentimental value than hold on to it until she dies, but she should give it to her son when that happens
@@joiceraiana yes but right now it's HER ring. The ring SHE got from HER DECEASED husband I understand your view but for her it might be like giving a major piece of him away forever... those proposal rings often signifie the relationship two people have and giving that up... idk...
Exactly. As soon as the ring was passed to her it became her ring. It was a gift. Being barrier with anything doesn’t make any sense to me and I think she should will it to her son but for now it’s hers.
I am a new fan of your podcasts. I came across this video and the story where the former friend said she needed to give back a gift, actually reminds me of a story that I did post on Reddit but I took it down because of how the way I explained it...and it only gave me limited words to type....
Kidney transplant is so much harder on the DONOR too. That's definitely not a decision to take lightly. My aunt donated a kidney to her best friend and friend bounced back and my aunt had a loooooong recovery but she was fully consenting and willing to accept those risks
It’s not like letting someone have a dress or somthing it’s a body part and it’s yojr body
Little side note cause I found this fascinating but when you give your kidney, not only is the body recovering from that but the singular kidney will enlargen/increase in size to compensate for the other kidney
@@halycon4923 I have heard that too. The body is wonderful at adapting
My stepmom donated her kidney to her sick sister. It went really good for a few weeks and then all of a sudden her sister started rejecting and passed away. I don’t know how this fits in with your story, but it unlocked that forgotten memory of mine. (I was about 9)
@@Dee912 I'm sorry for your loss. I hope your stepmom feels some degree of peace that she did all she could and sometimes rejection just happens.
This podcast makes me realize I need to stop accepting peoples disrespectful behavior and set boundaries. Bending backwards for others was not humble kindness I thought it was, I was taken advantage of and harming myself in the process. I thought I already was ok at setting boundaries, but I clearly have a long way to go. I need to get over feeling selfish because I’m not, I’m choosing me.
It’s July 2022 and I felt your comment to my core. I’m terrible at setting boundaries too and it needs to happen.
@@FemaleNamedStacy me too, it's been an ongoing issue since I was young
This. This is why I listen to it so much.
I have the same problem. Especially being a Christian (the guilt is strong), I feel like I have to be super kind to everyone-even to my own detriment.
YES! It definitely helps me with my personal issues and outlook too. I find myself constantly reflecting on my actions to see if sometimes I’m being disrespectful by accident or being toxic.
Huge bonus for me too is that I don’t have many friends. 2 people I speak to maybe once a week? So having a podcast that actually really engages me makes me feel way less lonely ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
For the story about leaving the person behind in a foreign country. It’s important to stay close to your group but she literally told her she will leave her if she didn’t come back to the hotel in time. She tried getting her to the hotel with her but she is a grown ass adult. She can handle herself and her choices.
Plus, foreign countries have phone service. She could have recharged her phone or borrowed a phone. I would have left without a thought. I would be worried the whole time and wouldn’t have slept well, but come on. I bet she was just pissed bc she missed her flight.
My friend and I were in Germany together and she decided to get off the train at the last second, so the doors ended up closing in my face (they don’t open back up like in NYC). I had to get off at the next stop blocks down the road.
I assumed she would have waited for me or tried walking in the direction of the train to meet me. She didn’t. She just walked back herself and thought nothing of it. When I didn’t even know the address of the B&B. Luckily, I was able to figure out where it was by searching for a specific restaurant that was down the street. But it was sundown and getting dark, alone in a foreign country.
I was really pissed at her because she didn’t even apologize when I got back. She saw me getting stuck and I even pointed in the direction of the train to try to tell her to follow. Idk. I just know I would have followed the train to make sure she was safe and not alone.
@@MelissaJetzt sounds like your friend is a bit of a dick, however, the stories are not comparable.
She should’ve went to the party too but under the condition that when she says leave, it’s time to go. I would not travel with someone who would let me go to parties on my own.
@@guiltymanners wait why would she go to a party that she had no interest in? She didn’t even know the people who invited her and her acquaintance to the party in the first place. The acquaintance wanted to go and it’s not the girl’s job to be her body guard or watcher. She made the decision and so there goes consequences for her actions.
I love podcasts while I'm working and it really helps my ADHD brain focus. You also have very nice voice tones and I am excited to listen more
Omg thank you! I feel so dumb, I saw these as Tiktoks, but never thought anything of it... was watching another TH-cam video and cane across these videos. Never did my dumb butt put two and two together and realize I could listen/download these on Spotify 😆 thanks!
@@kittykat282828 Yes! Spotify is amazing for this channel, over 50 full episodes?? Yes, please!
I mean, don't feel dumb! I miss stuff like that too, pretty sure YT recommended this channel before I realised who they were too!
Soooo true for me as well. 100% agree.
Yessss Same here!
Omg yes!! Me too. This is exactly how I would describe it! When I'm doing stuff around the house it really helps me focus. I have ADHD too. This is the only podcast I like. All the other ones I feel like are too chaotic
For the second one. I had this happen to me. It was me and 2 other friends. We were in Arizona for 4 days and after going out the girls I was with would stay with guys that they would meet. I would always Uber back to the hotel alone. The last night there I told the girls we all needed to be at the hotel at 2am the latest as our flight was at 5am. We were packed and ready to go. One of the girls decided to stay at the guys house again. We called several times and no answer. Told the front desk that our friend would be back for her luggage and gave them our key. Friend missed that flight but ended up being able to meet us at the airport at the next layover. She was mad that we left her. I was mad that we all agreed on something and she fell through with the plan and then expected us to miss our flight because she was being irresponsible.
From what I heard, Selena’s friend was mad because Selena was drinking and partying on her new donated kidney. She felt like she donated her kidney for nothing
I don't know what the post op lifelong instructions are.
To be fair selena couldnt do any of those things for a long time, and she probably wanted to celebrate by doing the stuff she couldnt do for a long time. One night wont ruin the kidney
Story 1: 2:00 (kidney)
Story 2: 12:05 (left someone in a foreign country)
Story 3: 19:52 (pregnant maid of honor)
Story 4: 25:00 (inherited ring)
Story 5: 33:39 (pay for dinner)
Story 6: 40:35 (bridesmaid gift)
Thank you 🙏🏻 what a lifesaver
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I was so impressed when she spoke about Jewish death practices. It's very rare I find people outside the Jewish community who know even a sliver of our customs and speaks about them with respect (especially outside of comparing or valueing our cultural customs off there worth to Christianity). It was really nice to see and was a little moment that felt very inclusive and respectful :)
Muslims also have the same practices as the jewosh religion on burial.
@@hulyayilmaz2071 Yes, there are many Muslim practices that were adopted from/relate to our ethno-religious customs :) there tends to be a lot of connection/points for relation, I find.
ngl i’m christian and i feel weird to be buried like yk the normal lol i loved the jewish practice for me sounds peaceful
I'm pretty sure Morgan has mentioned that she's Jewish. Can't remember what ep, tho.
i think she may be jewish or have close people who are
I asked my friend to marry me and my husband more than a year prior to our wedding he accepted. He and his gf found out they were expecting and the due date was a week before the wedding. The due date came and went, the venue was out of town. We had him marry us in our living room the day before we left and had another friend stand in, im his place. Their son was born on our wedding day and is like an adopted nephew now. We feel forever linked to our little wedding crasher. Love should not be selfish, it is the best story and turned into one of the best things that could've happened ^_^
Love it. People don’t realize that most of life’s ups and downs are what you make of it.
This is so sweet. So much love in your family!! ❤💙🖤
With the rich friends dinner story, I feel like not only are they shitty friends but they also seemingly ran up the bill purposefully bc they assumed she’d pay for everything, especially with the context that their parents have been paying for everything their whole lives so it’s just general entitlement to others money bc at this point they seem like they’re cheap until it’s someone else’s money to spend or something they personally want
It feels a little selfish to have even asked a single mom especially if she wasn’t footing all the bills and helping with the kids.
My own sister was due the week of my original wedding date (pre-covid) and I was totally understanding of her not being able to come to the wedding. The health of that baby and the mom are most important, especially given the fertility situation.
As a kidney donor this struck a cord with me. The choice is always yours. It is a gift you are giving. Most transplant centers will cover and take the blame if you decide privately that you cannot donate. They will says something medically came up. The story that you tell I am 100% sure that the center would not have let her donate because they look at your lifestyle and the psychology. You also need a primary caregiver. To determine if I could donate, I have to go through interviews with nephrology, surgeon, psychologist, social workers, primary care, and your advocate. They want to make sure your life is not impacted long term. The pre-tests are A LOT! Recovery is 6-8 weeks plus a commitment for testing every 6 months for the rest of your life.
Wow. That is a lot. Thanks for sharing that. I didn’t realize there was life long testing.
It would be a hell of a plot twist if it turned out the best friend/wife actually chose not to donate via telling the transplant team and was projecting her feelings of guilt
The dinner one is crazy. I have NEVER said to someone that we should go out to celebrate something that happened in their life and expect them to pay - I pay for them because we're celebrating them. That's ridiculous. I agree - they aren't her friends.
Also even if you, for whatever reason, expect someone to pay, the second you realize you're wrong, you just eat your words and pay.
im poly, and i would never date some who cheated in a monogamous relationship. though it seems like they would suit an open relationship, they still suck and are uncommunicative 😭😭😭
i should mention that ive been binging your podcasts today (after finding you on tiktok) and really enjoying them! thank you for taking time and energy to do this, its been so nice to listen to! you two have such a fun dynamic, and i love the anecdotal stories. stay genuine and true to yourselves, thank you 😊
Love this comment!! And thank you for your support :)
I've heard of poly girls who have boyfriends who, even though they can have more relationships because they are poly, still hide any side relationship and deny feeling any attraction for someone else. It's like they want to have a secret rather than just another girlfriend? Or worse, like they think "my gf SAYS she'd be okay with it but I know she wouldn't, because I know how women are". It's kinda fucked.
I agree - they would never respect their partners boundaries and communicate.
@@theyoutubeanalyst3731This happened to me more than once
My bridesmaids never paid for their dresses, their hair or make up for the day. I got them a small gift and they kept their lovely dresses. I made sure it was minimal as possible, even my hen do (bachelorette party) was in a pub. I don’t think you getting married should put people out of pocket, if they want to gift that’s lovely but we didn’t have a wedding list either. My girls spoiled me and I was grateful but I would never expect anything from them, I got married, not them 😄
I love that you did that for your girls! Weddings cost a lot and the bridesmaid dress alone could put a person in a tough spot financially. I totally agree, it shouldn’t put people in financial just so they can be apart of the wedding.
This way of thinking is getting more popular thankfully. I asked my bridesmaids to wear the same color and same dress length, but aside from that they had free reign. One sister spent $150 on her dress and my sister in law spent $30 on Amazon lol. I wanted them to buy something they felt comfortable in and not wreck their finances. It is crazy so many expect their bridal parties to spend thousands!
@@fleurmal7648 I laughed out loud omg that's so cute, every single one of my graduation/prom dresses were under $20, I'd find a dress with the color/fabric I want from online or thrift shop, and alter the fuck out of it to fit me lmao and one dress my mom made herself. It's the perfect way to have the dress you had in mind and I just love a cheap dress story
here from tiktok, love you guys will be tuning in more💕
So happy you found us!!
The story with the women and the book deal: it was a celebration for her! If I was in that situation I’d be paying for her as a gift and because I was proud. Not expecting her to pay for me. Ridiculous!
Exactly what I was thinking
OR
"We've been paying for your dinner all along...
but now that you've
got a book deal...
dinner is on you."
For the ring one, I agree that the woman is being selfish. It isn’t her family heirloom so she shouldn’t be the one to to decide to end the tradition. If her husbands mother agreed that she should be buried with it then that’s another story.
Never really been a fan of podcasts or long videos. I felt like people go on and on. Talking so much about one subject I got bored, but this podcast actually has me entertained and intrigued for more. Definitely a podcast I'll be looking into. So happy I found you two on tik tok. Keep up the good work 😁
Every culture sees the dinner celebration thing differently. As an American, I grew up with the notion that if someone says, “Let’s go out, we should celebrate you!” That means they’re paying. Albanians think the opposite. If you got a new job or something, you pay because now you’re the more fortunate one. But you also usually suggest the celebration yourself when that’s the case.
So it depends a bit on cultural context. But inviting someone else to dinner assuming they’ll pay for more than their share is rude af
Interesting ! The Albanian way is more common in my family, we are American.
I think the big difference is that she didn’t even ask them out to dinner, someone else suggested it and expected her to pay 😳
Yes, I'm Pakistani but live in the UK and when I go out for diner with friends. For us it's often a race to get your card down first (so you can pay for everyone). So I think the culture matters
Australian over here. If it were my friend, I’d be suggesting we all chip in to cover her dinner as it’s her celebration 😊
@@misstaylahmareexx9080 that’s how my friends and I do it. We all pay for our meal an split the cost of who we are celebrating between us.
I have kidney damage and may need a transplant at some point in my life, and I would never demand nor expect my family or friends to donate one of theirs, never even crossed my mind to ask, I planned to wait my turn on the donor list.
the one about the woman who doesn’t want to give her ring bothers me not just because she’s being insanely selfish but her son lost his FATHER and she thinks it is above all more important for her to keep the ring rather than pass it onto him?? i hope he got to propose to his boyfriend with it, he should have it.
What gets me too is like, he’s been dead longer than the relationship they ever had has been- they were only married for four years and now, you know, the ring just sits there next to his ashes collecting dust. Meanwhile, that’s the son’s family ring, not her family ring- I’m almost certain it does have homophobic “rationale” behind keeping it from him. She’s a witch in all honesty. That ring means nothing to her whatsoever now and she’s more concerned about keeping a hunk of metal as a keepsake in “memory” of her late husband while there’s a whole ass human being that’s literally half of him trying to carry on *his* family tradition.
@@kashinimeyo doesn't matter how long somebody has been dead. the grief never leaves.
I've never felt more identified with someone as I did with Morgan while Lauren was talking about astrology.
It is so lost on me 😂
@@TwoHotTakes so in laymans terms I'd say the sun sign is your main personality (your grown up self), your moon sign is more like your personality when you were a child, and your rising sign is what you come off as to people when they meet you
At least this is what I know it to be lol
@@tatumwatson9422 not a red flag for someone who is into astrology, she's not stepping on any toes lol
@@tatumwatson9422 It's not a uncommon thing for ppl who are into astrology.
For the kidney story, she is also would have had her immune system greatly compromised. The last thing she would want in a pandemic is a compromised immune system. Or even just having young kids prone bringing germs home from school
To the girl who’s friends expected to pay for their meals I’m proud of you and recognize this amazing accomplishment you’ve had don’t let them bring you down everything they said to you they could describe themselves as
Omg so refreshing to hear someone else be like weirded out by cemeteries in the sense of it’s such a waste of land/open space when you could literally give back to the environment by becoming a tree or like Morgan said a coral reef/jewelry
If you’re concerned about the environment then more land and open spaces are a good thing
But if you were a tree, then someone will come along and cut you down to make room for a housing development. I would rather see a cemetery than another subdivision of homes or another strip mall! The one thing that bugs the crap out of me is when people come along and see an empty plot of land and think I have to figure out a way to make money off it. They can’t stand seeing empty land not being used for something.
I can't believe anyone would burry a valuable family heirloom. What a waste.
An heirloom that hasn’t been past down in her bloodline. She may have been given it but doesn’t make it her family heirloom.
in that one part where they're talking about being buried w things, it made me think about my grandmas funeral. basically she was a big fan of an artist and had bought a t shirt with them on it. when she died of cancer the plan was to bury her in that shirt with her favorite jeans that way shed be "happy in her favorite clothes even in death" they were also going to bury her in some of her favorite jewelry. the issue being that someone(not sure if it was a family friend or one of their neighbors) went through her things and stole those clothes and some of her jewelry. they chose a different outfit and buried her in what was left of her jewelry, but later on the same person that stole her stuff, was seen wearing it around the neighborhood, and put up a fight when confronted about it. this happened before i was even born, my grandma died when my mom was 15, and shes 40 now, but that section of the video brought back the memory of my family telling me the story.
Selena Gomez and friend who donated her kidney Francia Raisa did an interview discussing what happened. Long story short Francia lived with Selena Gomez for some time and realized Selena was struggling with easy every day tasks and finally confessed to her about her health issues and Francia without a doubt decided she would get tested to see if she was a match and indeed she was. They are still friends and just because people don’t hang out as much doesn’t mean they still do not care. Intentions were always good.
The fact the woman said "he's been dating a man for six years" instead of saying his boyfriend of six years is kind of revealing.
You’re so right - I didn’t catch that at first. Like?? That’s a whole relationship m’am
I was thinking THE SAME THING
Language is so important and telling of what someone truly thinks!!
It sounds like he may be queer. Just meaning that perhaps he has dated other gender folks in the past.
I can see what she may mean though. Like, would he be altering the ring for his probable fiancé? Or would it remain the same? I think that’s important to consider as well.
@@Crispy26 nah dud, u can be queer, bi, non binary... dating a man for six years means you have a boyfriend. People always find a way to excuse subtle offenses.
@@yassercastillo2607 I wasn’t saying that it does not make him his boyfriend/partner.
I’m saying that she may have put it that way because she felt like the partner may not want the ring, due to style/design.
So, I’m just stating the she may have written it that way to emphasize the gender of the parter. Due to when typing other options have have made it appear as if she was belittle disregarding his place in her Son’s life.
I listened to this while shredding papers for work bc I was bored. This made time fly. Awesome vid
The liver also is the only organ that regenerates, so you donate a portion of the liver and eventually you and the recipient have a full liver.
My mom was cremated and I had her ashes put into the necklace and whenever I got a compliment, I would pull the "Oh thank you! It's my mom!"
absolutely enjoyed this episode! been falling down the rabbit hole of podcasts, and by far yours has made me feel more encouraged to keep recording with my bff! the dynamic between the cohost is very relatable and the opinions are spot on what my reaction would be. cant wait to hear more
I don’t know if anyone else has commented this but re: feeling like your heart is beating really fast at the dentist or for oral surgery - you likely were likely given a numbing agent containing epinephrine, otherwise known as adrenaline. Some people are sensitive to it and it can make you feel shaky with a racing heart. I thought I was really anxious and maybe having a panic attack when I noticed it first. Just tell your dentist/oral surgeon you are sensitive and they will give you an alternative! I can’t imagine having that and also laughing gas, that doesn’t sound like a good time 🤢
Wow I didn’t know that! Thanks for the info :)
It made me feel like I was being held down from the shoulders and added to my anxiety. I didn’t feel high or relaxed. I came out wondering how it’s so popular as a pert drug.
The friend that gave Selena her kidney was also upset because apparently Selena promised to quit drinking and she didn't. I understand that alcoholism is a serious problem and I really feel for Selena but I'd be pissed off too if I was her friend
As the sensitive one in my friend group who eventually wants to make music and spiritual-based content, this was so inspiring to hear about you two. Thank you for sharing your beautiful selves with us on the internet and taking those risks even though they are not easy 💗
I found y'all's about a month and a half ago and have been slowly binge watching all of y'all's episodes. I'm really enjoying them and that last little tidbit at the end is what finally gave me the strength to over come my anxiety and say something. So thank you 💛💛💛🧡
If I was the bride in the MOH pregnancy story, I would set up a stream service so she can still attend my big day if she has given birth on her due date (which, if you look at the stats, is highly unlikely). I would be more excited about my best friend bringing a baby into this world than my MOH needing to step down. I would understand. The MOH is NTA. At all.
Omfg. I literally wanted to be turned into a ring and used the same phrase when explaining it to friends. I love that
I'm not alone in my weirdness then! yesss ❤️
I absolutely love this podcast! I have recommended it to friends! The story about the bride asking for the gifts back hit home with me! It reminds me of a wedding I was in with a former toxic friend. The stories about this relationship before and after the wedding we’re wild but that’s besides the point lol. This totally seems like something she would do! Loved it!
The one with the friends dinner who got the book deal- if we are going out to celebrate a friend’s accomplishment, I would never expect them to pay! It’s a party for them-especially if I suggested going out in the first place!
They just numbed me horribly. No putting out, no gas, just sitting there focusing on the sounds and my dentist’s arms shaking from the strength/force used to rip them out. It was great!
The Author should not apologize for her success & it should never be expected for anyone to pay your way.
I tried so many podcast but your podcast is the only one I truly love and relate to! You’re so funny and lovable! I binged watched all your episode in the last days! Can’t wait for the next one!
It's so interesting to know that I'm not the only one who gets Taken stories from parents every time I travel abroad
I was traveling Europe solo at 19 when the first movie came out, my mom was going crazyyy 🤣🤣 I made it home in one piece.
There’s a video on TH-cam where Francia is being interviewed after her organ donation. Selena found out she was a match before she did. She was pressured. And then Selena goes back to rehab after a new kidney.
With the heirloom ring I can completely understand why she would want to keep it until she died. Its her connection to her dead husband and means alot.
But to be buried with it? That's selfish. The ring isn't going to do anything for when your dead. And if you believe in heaven then you'll be with your 1st husband again anyway.
Have it be passed down to your son after you die. If he's already married with kids at that point he can give it to his kids when they marry. She's the arsehole.
She’s missing the point that heirlooms don’t really belong to you, they are given to you for a time and are then passed on. Keeping it while she’s alive seems reasonable; selfish, but reasonable…to be buried with it defies the love that was intended to be passed along.
Found y’all on tiktok and now I’m obsessed 🤠
1. NTA. Even if it's a small chance risking leaving your kids that's still a very real , very scary proposition.
2. NTA. She's a grown woman and the poster tried to get her to leave with her.
3. NTA. However I do think based on context clues that the friend isn't that upset.
4. YTA. That ring is a family heirloom and he has rights to it. If his mother had kept the ring she wouldn't even have it now anyway.
5. NTA. It would be one thing if they were like broke college students and you insisted on an expensive restaurant. They can pay their way.
6. NTA. The audacity of this woman after cheating on her partner to even message her much less ask for the gift back.
I was my aunts caregiver after her kidney transplant. She healed incredibly quick and still for over 2 weeks she couldn’t shower, walk to the bathroom, or even put her socks on alone. It’s also twice as hard for donors than recipients!
Saw your videos on tiktok and came here for full episodes. Been obsessed with the podcasts for two days, have seen a lot of them already.😅 Best wishes! Really enjoy your content (obviously) 🤣
"i dont wanna gemini"
me: sad gemini noises
If I’m a bit mean guys remember my family is toxic and they call me fat and ugly (I’m a average weight for my height and age) just kidding for the most part I just don’t talk to my friends cuz I’m left out 😼🥴😟😢😊😋💅✝️💗🤡🥴😻😟😼🥴😭🤩🥲🥸😂🤓😊😞😘😔😏😊
My mom is a Gemini and she’s the best person ever!
I just found your podcast and I am now missing the days when i could listen to things at work. Definitely going to watch every single episode in time.
I love these full length episodes!❤
I've been bingeing these podcasts all weekend! So glad they came up suggested, it feels like having the best chats with wine (1 glass 👀) with your friends! I've been working all summer and miss my friends ♥
Regarding the organ donation issue, I think helping someone you know & care about in that way is super selfless and admirable. It's important to acknowledge that gratitude is one of the most difficult emotions to sustain. Relationships often don't survive the feelings of obligation etc that come with such a massive gift, it changes things for everyone x
Getting buried with something serves no purpose.
with heirloom jewelry i hate how people act like its a family owned piece. that woman was GIVEN that ring by her husband. by logic, it is hers then. I understand tradition matters, but also she owns the ring not the grandmother or her son. its not selfish and entitled to do what you want with an item you own.
i just got surgery on my mouth but i was put under… and y’all’s podcast is the only thing i will watch and puts me in a calm state💛
First time commenting, I just needed to say you ladies have such a peaceful voice and relatable perspective! Long time supporter of your channel, and love every video!! Thank you for your bravery in putting yourself out there. I am too shy and hearing you are as well is empowering! Always looking forward to the next video. One of my top favorite podcasts. You all are amazing! Thank you for creating and sharing
I totally had the same reaction on laughing gas! My heart was racing I was scared I was going to have a panic attack, i was worried i was going to choke cause it felt like something was pooling at the back of my mouth, it was just a recipe for disaster but I was able to talk myself out of freaking out thankfully
Selena wouldn’t of been able to find out if her friend was a match as doctors have to protect patients confidentially with HIPPA so if the doctor did say something they could be sued and they can lose there licence to practice medicine
The "at the end of the day" shots for this episode would have me hospitalized 😂 absolutely love this podcast
Love your guys’ ideas on burials/cremation! There’s so many better ways than just getting buried in the ground & I think it’s so true that those are a waste of resources! I also haven’t ever heard of the coral reef one but that is an AMAZING idea I’ll be looking into. Imagine if everyone who passed turned into a tree or some sort of biodegradable source, or a coral reef, it would help the ecosystem so much.
In the 5th story I bet those "friends" expected her to pay for those trips too.
When my best friend died, her parents sent (not very legal, but it was too far to drive them) some of the ashes to a glass artist that does glass sculptures, to which you can add color in the centre and some ashes. They had one made for the mom, dad and brother. It was beautiful to see how they had turned the top of a high commode into a memorial with pictures, the sculptures, her religious necklace (sorry, English isn't my first language and I can't find the right word) and more. I edited her in a picture of me at the lake (a place she loved and wanted to one day see in person but her living in Canada and me in Switzerland, we never got to do it). I took a picture from her if where she was smiling so hard and looked extremely happy. I'm glad I got to out the picture on the memorial, means a lot.
I would love to have that done with a bit of my ashes and have the rest turned into a tree! She and I even talked about it when I visited her, leaving her 10 days before she passed.
In my opinion, the mother is selfish to keep an heirloom ring that comes from her husband's family. If it was hers, I could understand (not necessarily agree, but understand). If her husband had not died, she would have probably given him the ring. Trust me I get the whole "it's so meaningful" part but she has to remember that her son lost his dad, too. When my dad passed, my mom gave me her wedding band (they were divorced but it was very sentimental to her) and we had them turned into a necklace, the small one in the big one, connected at the top and with a dangling heart in the middle. I'd give the mom 1.5/5 buttholes bc it's meant to be passed down from gen to gen, but I don't think it's also the end of the world. Let's make it 2/5 bc of the risk it gets stolen or the son has to make the decision to take it when she passes, and he would most likely feel awful about doing that.
When I get married, when I said my bridesmaids to be my bridesmaids I let them know that they would be paying for the dress, what they have the chose of what dress they wanted and felt comfortable on but just had to be the same colour. I paid for the hens party and to get the dresses fitted if needed and they could wear what ever jewellery and shoes they wanted. And if they couldn't or didn't want to that was there opposition from day one.
All I wanted on my wedding day was for then to be comfortable it what they were wearing and could look back on phone and love them, because they picked what suited them.
I LOVE YOUR PODCASTS AND I'M BULK WATCHING THEM
're the ring; if the son is the son of the father that passed on give him the ring but if he is the son of the current husband then give him the ring that the current husband gave her.
Kidney transplants are often a much tougher recovery for the person donating because they are losing while the recipient is gaining
The first thing that cane to mind when you mention she had kids was, what if one of her kids needs one and shes a match? I will never give my kidney to someone outside my family.
I’ve never heard of leaving the casket before it’s lowered. Funerals I’ve been to watched the casket get lowered so I couldn’t imagine leaving it above ground when watching it go into the ground may provide more closure mentally
Yeah same here. When we buried my mom, each of us put a flower and a bit of dirt after the casket was lowered before it was buried.
I love this so much. I listen to all of these all day long. Please continue these!!!
For the rich friends dinner story, I also felt she shouldn't have had to pay for dinner at ALL because it was a celebration for her brought up by her friends. Unless it's going to a bar, you don't just say you gonna celebrate a person and then expect them to pay for themselves let alone for everyone
Yeah, they should have chipped in for HER meal tbh.
Fun fact - my grandad was planning on being turned into a ring after he died, but when my mom looked into it apparently it was super expensive :( (we threw him in the ocean instead) (post-cremation, in case that wasn't clear)
Haha😂
I'm from Ecuador, always stick together and don't pull out your phones for any reason in the world. I'm from Guayaquil though, so be extra careful and don't go to any area that's not for tutorism if you're not from there. You speak English like an American, be aware of people who don't have the best intentions. But this girl who went by herself to a party, she choose that. She should've stayed with you and knowing her flight was the next morning. Glad they both made it safely back but this is not a country you separate from your group. Always have someone who knows Spanish with you, my country is beautiful and everyone should go but with caution and in a group.
Good luck to you recovering from your mouth surgery. Sorry it wasnt a more comfortable experience. I appreciated your take on the first story and putting yourself in the shoes of both parties. I hadn't considered the friends view point.
Awe thank you Renee!!
Came here from tiktok.. and havent stopped watching these 💜💜
Hey I know you might now be checking this, but as you're discussing the kidney stuff, I want you to know that's not how the transplant process works. I have followed the Selena story closely since I have a deep connection to it and have admired Selena for years. I had to leave my college class because I cried when the original story broke. I've had 2 kidney transplants and I'm a little younger than Selena, the doctor would not tell the person getting the donation anything before the doner knew (I had a lot of family and friends get tested.), it goes against the patient/doctor confidentiality agreement and HIPPA. The issue between the two was Selena was drinking post-transplant, which you're allowed to just not to an excessive amount- I personally drink wine at least 2/3 times a week and am 5 years post-transplant.
Also, I know you did not mean any harm by your jokes about The Weeknd/Selena transplant but as someone who's had 2 transplants and has been bullied for it, I find it a bit distasteful. I joke about my own healthy pretty frequently, but as someone who's been bullied and lived my entire life with this situation please be careful when joking about it.
I'm enjoying your video but I wanted to educate you a little since I am someone who's been on the receiving side of a transplant and has spent all 24 years of my life chronically ill from having a transplant/ the changes it makes to your everyday life.
Hope you're doing good,
Grace
about your questions on the process, it is life/death your kidney gets rid of the toxins in your body and if that builds up you can die. Dialysis is the next step if you can't get a donor right away, and as someone who's done it for 5 years, I'm still dealing with the psychological trauma of it all. It's also really hard on your body and changes the way you live your life, you're living off a machine. You can only get a donation from someone with your blood type and if you have certain antibodies you can't get a certain part of the populations of that blood type's organs.
The friend shouldn't have pressured her at all, I had a really hard time asking anyone to do it, it's a big ask it's hard on your body.Like the type comment said they're very picky on who they do/ do not let be a donor, age, weight, family situation, mental health state, ext are all looked at. I also get being that desperate, I've been there personally, I did everything I could to get a kidney, I had a facebook page, but I would never have pressured anyone, I always was like...ya sure pls don't feel like you have to do this for me. It's a shitty situation over all.
Thank you for sharing your knowledge and your experience 💗
Also I’m so sorry to hear everything you’ve gone through. We appreciate you following the podcast and your input 💗
Love your podcast! It’s been awhile since I listened, but I just started back up again. These make doing everyday chores not as tedious. 😘
I agree so much with Lauren's point that the idea of being buried weirds me out. Definitely seems like a waste of space once you're gone and i LOVE that idea of being turned into a tree or a coral reef
I LOVED this episode. I totally agree with you guys and you’re soooo entertaining
The ring one, yes she’s being selfish, it’s a pass down. In my family we don’t have this tradition but I would love to start mine with my ring as soon as one of my kids would wanna get married, I would give them my ring in a heart beat.
With the wedding ring. I wouldn't want the ring to be broke down into another piece of jewelry. I would want it to stay as a wedding ring - I want to pass mine down. Honestly, I don't know if a man would want to wear a womans wedding ring. She could give him her father's ring and then tell them if they have a little girl that it could go to her when she gets engaged
I needed a kindey transplant at age 16. People got tested but no one was a match or were in poor health conditions. When people like my teachers offered to give me theirs I told them not to go get tested because I felt way too guilty taking anyone's kindey. UNOS called and I got a kindey from a deceased person at age 18. I don't think she is the asshole, but if my husband needed a kindey it would be so gut wrenching and I'd be trying harder to get him that kindey. Dialysis 3 times a week for 4 hours and lots of surgeries and knowing you might die soon and feeling terrible all the time. I wouldn't be handle seeing someone I love go through that I went through it's so hard. And especially knowing the average adult has to wait on the transplant list for over 5 years. 5 years of hell, I was lucky I was a minor so I only had to wait 3 years. So she isn't the asshole but I do feel for her friend and understand where she is coming from. But if it was me I still don't think I would cut her off she needs ro understand where other people are coming from.
regarding the ring, the son might want the ring to carry on the tradition like his father, I feel bad for the woman who lost her husband but she is not the only person in that situation who lost a loved one.
People seems to assume that you can donate a kidney and go on with their lives as normal, it deeply affects your life forever. Not to mention she could a have a permanent complications that render her from work or even dying, then who will take care and support her children. Plus what happens if one of her kids needs a transplant one day and she can't even get tested because she donated to her friend's husband already.
As an afab person, this is such a string of terrible decisions on that acquaintance's part: I would never 1) go out AT NIGHT 2) alone 3) in an area I didn't know 4) in a foreign country with 5) STRANGERS who 6) spoke a language I didn't. Please please do not do this.
FYI, several states have laws that do not allow people to claim lottery winnings anonymously. You'd think they would for safety reasons, but nope. That's why if you win, you need to hire a team of attorneys and financial advisors so they can help you setup a trust that can claim the winnings on your behalf, and you can then keep the trust's information confidential.
from minnesota :) love love ur guys’s podcast i always have them on when im doing my makeup or cooking!
If my maid of honor had to step down due to finally getting pregnant, I would be so happy for her and immediately start planning a tribute to her for the reception wishing her the best delivery ever and thanking her for the best gift ever cause I would be ready to spoil that baby so much. ❤️
Found you on TikTok and I've been addicted since!!
If your friends are celebrating your success they should be paying for you.
My grandmother's ashes are in my ring, it's my most treasured piece of jewelry and it goes everywhere with me. I think one for each person is a great idea!
The dinner one… they’re there celebrating her. Blows my mind that they expected her to pay…wow
When you mentioned your grandma always calling and reminding you of the movie Taken, it reminded me of my grandma. If we were going to Canada, let's say Prince Edward Island (which is to the far right of the country), she'd call and be like "Did you know there's fires in Vancouver??" (which is the opposite side lolol) or my sister went to Germany in the summer of like 2016. Then two years later, my grandma called my sister and was like "Where were you in Germany?? Did you know someone just drove through the capital building in Berlin??" like... Grandma that happened a couple days ago. Not in 2016 😂 You gotta love the concern tho haha
I really love lauren's hair 💕
For the ring: I think it’s okay for her to keep it until she dies, but not continuing to pass it down is messed up. She should leave it to her son so the ring has continuous use and follows tradition, even if the son can’t propose with it, he’d still get it and be able to pass it down.
I agree too also what might be a solution for this would be that you give the ring to a jewler which then takes some of the shaveings and makes a new man sized ring for the son's potencial fiance
So she could have the ring until she dies but the son still has a piece of the actual heirloom
It's not HER family heirloom tho. The grandmother and her son want to uphold the family tradition, she's just selfish
@@joiceraiana yeah that’s what I’m saying. If it has sentimental value than hold on to it until she dies, but she should give it to her son when that happens
@@joiceraiana yes but right now it's HER ring. The ring SHE got from HER DECEASED husband
I understand your view but for her it might be like giving a major piece of him away forever... those proposal rings often signifie the relationship two people have and giving that up... idk...
Exactly. As soon as the ring was passed to her it became her ring. It was a gift. Being barrier with anything doesn’t make any sense to me and I think she should will it to her son but for now it’s hers.
I am a new fan of your podcasts. I came across this video and the story where the former friend said she needed to give back a gift, actually reminds me of a story that I did post on Reddit but I took it down because of how the way I explained it...and it only gave me limited words to type....