7 weeks sober and still going. Am not alcoholic just decided to give it up completely to see how my body reacts. I feel so much better and I lost 2 kilos already. Am seriously thinking to give it up forever as I don't miss drinking at all plus I feel much better without it.
People who don’t have drinking problems NEVER have to stop. Only those with problem drinking question whether they have a problem and need to give it up.
I quit drinking for 15 months and then unbelievably it got its claws back into me!! I am gutted I failed myself. I'm now starting that clock again and as I write this I'm 3 weeks dry again
My sister's partner is a recovering alcoholic. Alcohol will always be his enemy. He might lose the occasional battle but he is definitely winning the war. From what you write you seem no different and I see nothing for you to be ashamed of.
I am been sober since 8/21/2012...found myself after I stopped. I lived for it until I couldn't. I no longer want to see my day wasted while being wasted.
Sober for 2 years and 3 months here. I was a functioning alcoholic but barely functioning near the end. High blood pressure, overweight due to the amount of booze I was consuming every night and weekend, and my depression was so bad during the day I couldn't wait to have drinks after work. Sometimes chose to drink instead of eating dinner I made for my family. Now I'm 50 pounds lighter and feel amazing. I don't miss it.
@user-og2wt3le4j to me if they won't be your friend once you stop drinking, they wasn't your friend to begin with, I stopped drinking 2yrs ago due to health issues and meds I'm on for crohns I still go out with friends on nights out nd get together we just find places that also does mocktails or alcohol free drinks along side normal drinks none of my friends are bothered I don't drink, one friend always tries her hardest to include me nd when they do shots she will get the staff to make me a fruit juice shot 😂 so I can still do a shot with them but not have to drink lol
I gave it up at 63….. surprisingly easy even though I drank most days. Now 5 years on, my only regret is that I didn’t kick it years ago. I bought into the ludicrous Scottish drinking culture where you weren’t considered a man unless you drank. A lot. Now I see the damage that drink causes, and I detest the big business brewers and distillers who make millions from it. Thanks for the video.
So true! I am 59 and really want to quit (now 10 days sober). In Germany the drinking culture is similar. Beer! Wine! Jägermeister! My life was so bad sometimes, without alcohol I could have had a better happier life with a family... But I was so torn (depression, party-girl, too many lovers, drama...) because of the drug, this was not me. I am happy to find out who I am really🙂
I got sober in 2011. I value the way it is now a lot better. Being clear for this long is very freeing, a lack of stress and an ambient peaceful feeling: a lack of fear.
Suddenly, there's lots of time and money that had not been available before. Feeling clear-headed and having the freedom to enter any store without going directly to the liquor department. Better health all around. Some people never give their livers a break ... not 1 day. The 'no alcohol' rule before/after surgery or when taking certain medications becomes doable.
I can't believe this cliche hasn't already been put up." If you've ever asked yourself do I have a problem? You do." People who don't have problems don't ask that question. Sober since 97.
Not drinking for a month doesn't bother me...but for some reason any mention of it drives friends, family and coworkers up the wall! "You're not drinking?!" yes! Not the end of the world.
@@GeoffreyBronsonI agree with you that a lot of people seem very put out when you tell them you don't want to drink. Pathetic isn't it. My husband can't drink due to a medication he's taking. He went out with his colleagues for a Christmas drink one time and they knowing put alcohol in his soft drink all the time knowing that he shouldn't drink alcohol due to medicinal reasons.
I like to think of myself as a pretty open and honest person but i have never been as truthful to myself as Adrian is here. Dude has a good heart and real courage to be so vulnerable about this topic.
I've now watched this 3 times,and want to thank Adrian for making this. He put himself out there, no holds barred. Making himself potentially vulnerable. So much ,makes alot ov sense, as I'm Probably about where he is on this documentary. Its made me realise that ppl can spk the same language, and its not just me. I have high blood pressure ,and borderline diabetic, which has woken me up. I've also watched Claudia Christian on aud,which I've also found helpful and would recommend. Ty again Adrian, top bloke 😊
Temporarily hiding any mental problem with alcohol is a massive mistake. There are alternatives ro alcohol. Dont dismiss therapy and get your arse to the gym
I stopped drinking end of october 2022, been sober almost a year now. I almost killed myself with alcohol, pancreatitis is one hell of a wake up call. Alcohol is no joke.
I've been sober almost 4 years. I'm not going back to drinking. Counting units, trying to cap the amount, rationalizing (it's not that bad). Nice to be off the roller coaster.
What a great documentary. I am 100% and alcoholic. Been sober 3 years now and I work to make sure it stays that way. But most of my social life, aside from my wife and family, consists of other people in recovery. And we tend to think of drinking as a black or white, all or nothing issue, because that’s the way it was for us and would be if we went back to drinking. This was a great insight into the grey area that exists for “normal” (I.e. non-alcoholics). I heard a lot of things I or fellow alcoholics have said. I also heard plenty of things that don’t align with my experience with drinking. All said, a very interesting and well thought out piece. Thank you.
It's a love-hate relationship with alcohol isn't it? Such a powerful force in society and used by so many people for so many different reasons. Been a big part of my life for over 50 years and my first memory of being drunk is at a wedding aged 11! My Dad, brothers, sisters, uncles, aunts, friends all drank excessively so it was a natural and normal thing to do. But it is possible to quit and to all those struggling I say don't give up, you are stronger than you think and you can beat alcohol. No matter how many times you may feel like you have failed, you will get there one day so keep on keeping on. There are millions like us. Good luck to everyone who wants to be sober ❤
Great doco, me to a tee. You discover the reality for real when you decide to stop, its then you realise how dependent you are. I'm 68 and I've been off for 11 mths and it was bloody hard, now I'm feeling much better about it, Im not thinking so much about it and I dont get the cravings any more. I drank 3 cans of beer or something similar every day for 35 years, I didnt drink when I was a teenager until around 30, Ive never forgotten the previous night, Ive never got into any silly trouble etc, Im not a classical alcoholic but Im an alcoholic just the same. Oh and no you cant cut down, that first one will start you on the same path putting poison down your throat. You must totally stop for 3mths and see how much you becomes focused on the first drink
My partner was a classic alcoholic and he’s been dry for decades: You deserve a congrats! May i ask … did you truly notice a physical approvement? (I think it wasn’t the amount because 3 cans ‘are not that much’ but I’m going to assume- if everyday it compounds mild effects on the body a tad at a time, then?) if you feel better then that’s the only knowledge you need to know your effort was worth it!!! Way to go!
@@BrokeNdisAbled To be honest I cant say I felt significantly better or slept better. However I could see my volume ever increasing and knew it was only going to get worse. I found it very hard to stop but it got better after about 3mths and now I don't think too much about it. I do feel a lot better in myself knowing that I am now in control and not being driven by a poison that does nothing for you and just makes others rich.
I limit my alcohol consumption to just once a month. Having children is a compelling reason for moderation; we always arrange for childcare when my wife and I go out. Even before becoming a parent, my drinking was restricted to a specific weekend day each month, and I considered that to be more than sufficient. The thought of drinking daily is inconceivable to me, given the potential impact on my health.
Great documentary. I went from binging 3+ times a week to maybe 1 binge a month now and it’s helped me financially, mentally, emotionally and lost weight! When I say binge, I was drinking 10+ pints, 3-4 nights a week. Averaged about 40 pints a week. I’d drink spirits and wine on top of that. When the girl said she didn’t have an off switch, I can totally relate.
I was a scotch drinker for 18 years. I quit a year ago due to afib and it was literally one of the best decisions I’ve ever made for my health. And I’m perfectly happy getting together with the same drinking friends, just not as often or for as long. The thing is, you really can’t gauge how much better it is until you do it. And for myself, there was no “ moderation” option. Abstinence was the only option because the saying is true: the first drink is your choice, after that the alcohol is choosing.
This documentary hit me in so many different ways. Just his journey was amazing to watch. The most relatable person in the whole film to me was his father. Alcohol has cost me so much, but for some of us just the monotony of existing is too much to bear.
This hits home. I've drunk every day for 35 years, mostly alone due to depression, anxiety & loneliness. Functional as I hold a responsible job, but I know it's not good for me. Probably 150 units a week. Need to cut down right now.
I stopped for a “sober September” just for myself two weeks ago. It was hard for a couple days-difficult to get to sleep, boredom setting in. Luckily I also love THC so I just smoked a lot to get through it. Feeling really good these days and might just stop for good. I’d recommend doing something like this rather than simply “cutting down.” A clean break (at least for a period of time) can clear the board and give you some perspective, making every future decision about alcohol that much easier.
@@Tavat Thank you Tavat. I'm seriously thinking about sober October, but it's going to take a lot of willpower. I have stopped for a few days, but once the constant pain in my lower left side subsided, I start again. Not sure if it's my liver or pancreas crying out or just a coincidence but this is a sign I think.
43:02 This is how dependency controls behavior. It’s like being a captive to the urge to drink alcohol. I saw it eat away at people and leave them so empty . Alcoholism brings so much destruction it’s heartbreaking.
Alcohol is a dual purpose drug. It is a stimulant and a depressant. When you take your first drink, there’s a rush of dopamine release whic is why you feel good and euphoric. To compensate your brain releases a ton of other neurotransmitters causing dopamine to fall & anxiety/depression set in making you want another drink to release more dopamine. With time there’s almost no effect on dopamine but depressant effect stays around but you’re constantly chasing that initial dopamine release.
So true. When I was younger I always got such a rush. Then when I was drinking every day for years, I entered this massive depressive state, often just crying and sobbing uncontrollably. I felt I was dying.
this documentary is asking the right questions. the reason behind the drinking needs to be addressed. i didnt drink for 10 years, not a single drop but then i started drinking again a couple of years ago. i successfully gave up alcohol when i realised why i was drinking. the reason behind my drinking was my fear of failure in life. the minute i understood that, i was able to get off the booze. these sober years were really productive, no doubt. now im trying to figure out why im drinking again and i cant deny that alcohol makes everything messy. when i didnt drink my mind was so sharp, so switched on, i miss that.
I think it's also very much about the people that you surround yourself with. I live in Toronto and I met a few Brits in the pub to watch rugby. I had a coffee because it was 10am... they were all drinking beer. The whole pub, was drinking. They all thought I was weird. I thought they were weird. Some of them were absolutely smashed by 12. My personal opinion is drinking at 10 in the morning is shocking; whether it's a Wednesday or a Saturday; I just would never do it. BUT... if everyone around you is doing it; then it becomes normal. I've never gone back... and i'm sure they don't miss me lol.
It's an excuse to drink, like when you go to the airport and people are drinking heavily at say 7am before boarding the plane. Unfortunately I started finding any excuse (we're on holiday, there's a sports match on. it's Christmas etc) and now drink heavily around the clock now as I get the shakes. It wouldn't be unusual for me to wake up at 5am and start drinking. That's dependency. It's a horrible cycle. @@mikepwillis88
If you have to start imposing all sorts of rules and regulations around your drinking, then it’s definitely time to quit. Cutting down only usually works for people who don’t like alcohol - ie, who don’t have a problem in the first place. Limiting yourself, when you love booze and enjoy drinking, is walking a tightrope. Sooner or later you’ll fall.
I drank more than this guy for years, my liver turned out fine but little did I know what it was doing to my cerebellum. I now have a permanent balance disorder. Everyone always thinks it only effects your liver, stomach or heart. Needles to say you don't need drink with a balance disorder. So it had to go. And I mean the drink not my cerebellum.
Yeah it's common permanent damage to alcoholics - gait is also effected and unfortunately it doesn't improve with time. Memory etc however show a good amount of improvement though
Frank Skinner gave probably the worst answer possible to a guy who has reached a monumental point (vulnerability, asking questions, thinking about actually stopping) in his potential recovery from alcohol dependence.
The new lower recommedations out of Canada of two drinks a week really made me re evaluate my usage. It bothered my GI alot too, it burns of your gastric lining if one drinks more days than not.
I'm 64. Been drinking beer pretty much every day of my adult life. At times, I was putting away 8 beers a day. I simply live the taste of cold beer and its refreshing quality. I don't drink soft drinks or juice. I managed to quit drinking alcoholic beer by switching to a good quality alcohol free beer.
I’ve been a similar level to Adrian for 2 decades. I love being out and around people, hate being at home. Only now am I starting to feel it. Never touch spirits so probably the only reason it’s not worse. He’s now cut back, but not quit. Time to do the same. My liver also has no damage, as per a recent hospital visit. Which is a bit weird.
The liver is a pretty resilient organ. If you're only drinking as much as Adrian it's not that surprising at all to me that you don't have liver damage. I guess maybe you assumed you could have had a very small amount of damage, but even that could take an extreme amount of abuse for some people. Some people are unlucky and their livers are not as forgiving though. I have seen people drink like 3 times as much this daily for 40 plus years and not having any serious damage to their bodies. Depends on the person though, some people could damage themselves in a year or two of heavy drinking, and on the opposite side some people could drink as much as they want their whole life and never see the damage. Be careful though because it's not just the liver, alcohol is poisonous to all your organs and can damage many many parts of the body. A lot of heavy drinkers may not have damage to their liver, but may have really messed up other organs. Be safe though man, that's whats important. Glad your quitting though, for most people it's a very positive thing to their body and their life.
Alcohol is a drug. Because it’s in liquid form and drinking liquids is a natural bodily function, taking alcohol that way somehow makes it seem normal, even natural. But it’s still a highly addictive drug, and once you take that first drink, you put yourself indeed on a slippery slope of addiction. Just remember: it’s not your fault. We’ve all been conned by our friends and family who have in turn been conned by the alcohol industry to think taking a drug is normal. It’s not. Would you think snorting just “a little bin” of cocaine or taking just half a pill of oxy is totally natural? Of course not, yet we’ve all been brainwashed into thinking drinking this addictive, liquid poison is. The more you see it for what it is, the less you’ll be in its grips.
Once I realized what even small amounts of alcohol do to your brain and body, I was done drinking forever. Boredom and anxiety got me drinking decently heavy and I just realized it doesnt make me better at anything. Also it keeps me overweight and tired. Im 30 and a musician from the US. Id rather live as long as possible being super active as well as writing songs and performing them live on stage for as long as humanly possibe. I dont want to cut my career short bc of a health issue due to consistent drinking. That would be such a waste of a good thing! Ive seen too many people in my life waste great opportunities bc they decided to continue their bad habits...Plus, ganja is way more fun anyway =)
I've been sober for over 18 years. I know if I cared in and had just a beer, I'd end up having 20. Ill always be an alcoholic however the soul sickness I drank over I've is gone.
I used to "go out" and drink about 40 units 3 times a week and the other 4 nights I'd "pop in" on the way home from work and have around 10. A routine blood test picked up on a very high lft when I was 27. My 20's should have killed me, thankfully I met my future wife when I did.
My biggest regret is only having stopped drinking at 50, and it wasn't even all that hard, it just hadn't occurred to me sooner. I didn't drink much in my 20s, but my 30s and 40s were lost decades of pointless daily drinking that I'll never get back.
Saaame. 30s and 40s drank way too much. I quit at 46. First 6 months I missed it but dove into fitness and my love for my artwork came back. Good for you for quitting! We got this!!
Eleven years sober and as soon as someone says, " Once I get the taste, I'm on it" or " I've had a rough day, I need a drink." My ears prick up because I know that they could possibly be using drink to deal with life or they have the allergy that once they have one or two drinks all bets are off and they are going to get drunk.
I drank a lot when I was younger - now I can drink a glas of sherry and soda and may be a bottle of ale - if I drink any more I feel really ill - not drunk - just ill
Alcoholics cannot control their alcohol intake, both when they're going to drink and how much. When that irrestible compulsion to drink is on them, they have to drink and when they start, they have no control of the amount they drink. In this regard, they are said to be powerless over alcohol. And quite often because of they're powerlessness over alcohol, they fail at living up to their personal responsibilities, perhaps get into financial difficulties, fall foul of the law and maybe become a danger to themselves or others. In this respect, it's said their lives have become unmanageable. And there are many other examples of living an unmanageable life because of drinking. There also may be other underlying psychiatric problems. In spite of all the negative consequences of drinking, the alcoholic is still unable to control their intake. This is the insanity of the disease/illness - repeating the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. In Adrian's case, he's been given a warning to cut down - alcoholics couldn't do that, it's all or nothing. And nothing it has to be, no alcohol, ever again, one day at a time. Or another way of saying all that is, if drinking is costing more than the money in your pocket, you've got a problem!
I just got bored of drinking. I didn't like being locked in once you start drinking. I enjoy a beer now and again. I focus on trying a new beer or cider instead of drinking half a dozen of the same old.
Easy early assessment: If alcohol is a part of your (almost) daily program, you are in severe risk. With 5-6 pints per day, in long term, it is almost 100% certain to aquire a liver disease condition. Daily pub is a real danger, even with few pints, although the probability is lower, it still remains and actualizes to some. The heavier the drinking, (even with scarce, let's say, weekly frequency) accidents will be your number one health risk.
32 units a day is quite up there , amongst the upper parliament of alcoholics. No , non alchoholic could reach those numbers, they aren't rookie numbers , it takes years of training to get tolerance like that , into withdrawal zone, extra time.
Your an alcoholic mate and that's that, because you can't go without it and need a drink and can't go without, is a massive sign that says your an alcoholic, you need to stop and that's what is, the only solution
He needs to read Annie Grace. There is no such thing as an alcoholic. Do we have the term narcaholic or opiodaholic? No! Dependence on alcohol is what it is & if you’re making “rules” surrounding you’re prob dependent.
I quit because of peripheral neuropathy. My foot felt stiff. Me fingers felt weird. Handwriting was off … It’s getting better now. A lot of supplements and exercise… Anyone else?
Funny you should ask…..I just now stumbled into a description of alcoholic neuropathy, and it describes my physical condition exactly. Wow. Glad to know however, and I’ve recently started on sobriety and the neuropathy is already getting better. Little by little, but definitely improving- especially my balance.
"They say as soon as you have to cut down on your drinking you have a drinking problem." Normal social drinkers don't think about it, or try to limit themselves, or challenge themselves to go without. They just have a pint every now and then and don't think anything more about it. This guy is 100% in denial, and keeps going to different people to try to hear a different answer. The answer he wants to hear of: steady on lad, keep drinking the same way.
Yeah that quote is way too simplistic anyway. You can't say stuff like that like it's an absolute, which a big pet peeve of mine overall. People on youtube and just people in general never account for the specifics of situations, and just say things like they're always true or true for everyone, which is just never the case for almost anything. People who aren't addicted and drink socially very very rarely think about those things you said, which is also true.
Yes it’s based on no science. I’m reading David Nutt’s book and despite the fact I’m under 14 units every week (and have lots of drink free days) I’m still reducing my intake intentionally because of what I’m learning.
BUt Frank Skinner told him he should just moderate and so did everyone in that smart recovery group meeting lol I felt like Adrian was mostly depressed from getting told he had some liver damage and obviously he didnt like the thought of stopping completely like most people dont want to stop completely if they are a habituated social drinker
I love to drink but I hardly ever do it. Last time I had was at the very beginning of the pandemic. Day drinking and all, always having it 24/7 whilst on holiday.
If you have not got a problem you should be able to stop. It’s affecting your health negatively. You don’t have to damage to others ir drink in the morning to be an alcoholic. Your denial system is strong and you hang with people who support your drinking. Get honest with yourself and get real.
I don’t drink because I don’t like how o feel after a few alcoholic drinks. But if you go out with people who drink a lot on a night out you have to deal with so much crap. All of these people think they are so cool and do much fun when they are out drinking, but they are like a group of crazy three year olds. I don’t want to deal with that. I want to Jane proper conversations, and not have to look after people who are falling over or a danger to themselves. So o don’t socialise in pubs or clubs . It has isolated me but I’d rather be alive than with drunk people.
Average regular drinker: I wouldn't say I'm an alcoholic but...I like to have my evening beer. Oh...Sure you aren't. Unfortunately, alcoholism is very different from what we picture. If you drink a whole lot and feel terrible the next day, maybe it's time to quit because that indicates a problem. All these people are in denial.
My dad and brother are both alcoholics they drink every day but there functioning they work my brother owns his own business so yes some can still work ect my brother told me himself he is addicted to alcohol
"We're addicted to it without being alcoholics" is the most alcoholic thing I've ever heard lol
It’s functioning alcoholics that say this yeah
my dad used to say this but died at 63
😂👌🏻
"Would you be willing to cut down on this"
"No"
"Then would you say your addicted?"
"No I don't think so"
Absolute denial
He's obese, old as sh1t, and drinking 100 units a week. He's really dancing with the reaper.
7 weeks sober and still going. Am not alcoholic just decided to give it up completely to see how my body reacts. I feel so much better and I lost 2 kilos already. Am seriously thinking to give it up forever as I don't miss drinking at all plus I feel much better without it.
People who don’t have drinking problems NEVER have to stop. Only those with problem drinking question whether they have a problem and need to give it up.
I lost 10kg over 3 months of not drinking. I'm feeling and moving much quicker. Like I used to. Alcohol is poison.
How are yee now Laddie? well I hope
@@user-xy7pn9bb8m Still sober thanks for asking. Since I've stopped drinking I lost a few friends but hey life goes on!
@@5thdimension625 But if you feel better with no drinking, what's the problem with giving it up? This seems weirdly defensive of you.
I quit drinking for 15 months and then unbelievably it got its claws back into me!! I am gutted I failed myself. I'm now starting that clock again and as I write this I'm 3 weeks dry again
My sister's partner is a recovering alcoholic. Alcohol will always be his enemy. He might lose the occasional battle but he is definitely winning the war. From what you write you seem no different and I see nothing for you to be ashamed of.
You know you can do it! Nobody I know every quit completely the first time...
It’s not a straight road. Two steps forward, one back. Ur body appreciated those 15 months, it’s a victory in itself
I love how you mentioned your fail…. No one ever does that they always talk about the good part.
Nothing to be ashamed of Paul. You know the problem, you know how to fix it. Slip ups and the like are only human. Keep on keeping on!
I am been sober since 8/21/2012...found myself after I stopped. I lived for it until I couldn't. I no longer want to see my day wasted while being wasted.
Good for you. I quit in 1997 and never looked back. It does change your life. You may lose some friends but overall life is better.
Sober for 2 years and 3 months here. I was a functioning alcoholic but barely functioning near the end. High blood pressure, overweight due to the amount of booze I was consuming every night and weekend, and my depression was so bad during the day I couldn't wait to have drinks after work. Sometimes chose to drink instead of eating dinner I made for my family. Now I'm 50 pounds lighter and feel amazing. I don't miss it.
almost 2 years myself. Good for you carly.@@carly829
@user-og2wt3le4j to me if they won't be your friend once you stop drinking, they wasn't your friend to begin with, I stopped drinking 2yrs ago due to health issues and meds I'm on for crohns I still go out with friends on nights out nd get together we just find places that also does mocktails or alcohol free drinks along side normal drinks none of my friends are bothered I don't drink, one friend always tries her hardest to include me nd when they do shots she will get the staff to make me a fruit juice shot 😂 so I can still do a shot with them but not have to drink lol
I gave it up at 63….. surprisingly easy even though I drank most days. Now 5 years on, my only regret is that I didn’t kick it years ago. I bought into the ludicrous Scottish drinking culture where you weren’t considered a man unless you drank. A lot. Now I see the damage that drink causes, and I detest the big business brewers and distillers who make millions from it. Thanks for the video.
So true! I am 59 and really want to quit (now 10 days sober). In Germany the drinking culture is similar. Beer! Wine! Jägermeister! My life was so bad sometimes, without alcohol I could have had a better happier life with a family...
But I was so torn (depression, party-girl, too many lovers, drama...) because of the drug, this was not me. I am happy to find out who I am really🙂
First you take a drink, then the drink takes a drink, then the drink takes you.
Irish proverb.
@@johnmc3862no F. Scott Fitzgerald
I got sober in 2011. I value the way it is now a lot better. Being clear for this long is very freeing, a lack of stress and an ambient peaceful feeling: a lack of fear.
Suddenly, there's lots of time and money that had not been available before. Feeling clear-headed and having the freedom to enter any store without going directly to the liquor department. Better health all around. Some people never give their livers a break ... not 1 day. The 'no alcohol' rule before/after surgery or when taking certain medications becomes doable.
@ellensoucek1914 There's all of that too!
Great comment!
This programme underlines how so many drinks are drunk in boring, mundane, slightly sad circumstances.
I can't believe this cliche hasn't already been put up." If you've ever asked yourself do I have a problem? You do." People who don't have problems don't ask that question. Sober since 97.
It's simple: If you are not an alcoholic, being asked to not drink for a month would not bother you in the least.
Not drinking for a month doesn't bother me...but for some reason any mention of it drives friends, family and coworkers up the wall! "You're not drinking?!" yes! Not the end of the world.
@@GeoffreyBronsonI agree with you that a lot of people seem very put out when you tell them you don't want to drink. Pathetic isn't it. My husband can't drink due to a medication he's taking. He went out with his colleagues for a Christmas drink one time and they knowing put alcohol in his soft drink all the time knowing that he shouldn't drink alcohol due to medicinal reasons.
@@sugarpuff2978 Some sketchy colleagues there. Hopefully he's no longer associating with them where unnecessary.
Mhm. Now please go for a month without a single ounce sugar and coffee.
Easy-peasy.
@@mrmaxaxl Thats way way harder to do
I like to think of myself as a pretty open and honest person but i have never been as truthful to myself as Adrian is here. Dude has a good heart and real courage to be so vulnerable about this topic.
😊😊😊😊👍👍👍👍 From a recovering alcoholic in sweden.. Thanks to Adrian for his courage of sharing..
I've now watched this 3 times,and want to thank Adrian for making this. He put himself out there, no holds barred. Making himself potentially vulnerable. So much ,makes alot ov sense, as I'm Probably about where he is on this documentary. Its made me realise that ppl can spk the same language, and its not just me.
I have high blood pressure ,and borderline diabetic, which has woken me up. I've also watched Claudia Christian on aud,which I've also found helpful and would recommend.
Ty again Adrian, top bloke 😊
I'm a binge drinker who uses for anxiety purposes. This is a brilliant documentary. Loved the banter. Thank you 👍
That was me, give it away and try medical THC
@@campbellmorrison8540 2nd that. Except they charge twice the street price in Aust at a legal dispensary.
Boozing actually does nothing but make anxiety worse! Honestly give it up and take up exercise you'll thank me!
Me, too. No hangovers … just more anxiety in the morning thinking about the day ahead of me … and I have an easy day. Easier than most. 😢
Temporarily hiding any mental problem with alcohol is a massive mistake.
There are alternatives ro alcohol.
Dont dismiss therapy and get your arse to the gym
IT EMPTIES YOUR POCKET AND MAKES YOU FEEL SHIT
IT DOES!!!
talking about me ex-wife again?
I stopped drinking end of october 2022, been sober almost a year now. I almost killed myself with alcohol, pancreatitis is one hell of a wake up call. Alcohol is no joke.
I've been sober almost 4 years. I'm not going back to drinking. Counting units, trying to cap the amount, rationalizing (it's not that bad). Nice to be off the roller coaster.
What a great documentary. I am 100% and alcoholic. Been sober 3 years now and I work to make sure it stays that way. But most of my social life, aside from my wife and family, consists of other people in recovery. And we tend to think of drinking as a black or white, all or nothing issue, because that’s the way it was for us and would be if we went back to drinking. This was a great insight into the grey area that exists for “normal” (I.e. non-alcoholics). I heard a lot of things I or fellow alcoholics have said. I also heard plenty of things that don’t align with my experience with drinking. All said, a very interesting and well thought out piece. Thank you.
It's a love-hate relationship with alcohol isn't it? Such a powerful force in society and used by so many people for so many different reasons. Been a big part of my life for over 50 years and my first memory of being drunk is at a wedding aged 11! My Dad, brothers, sisters, uncles, aunts, friends all drank excessively so it was a natural and normal thing to do. But it is possible to quit and to all those struggling I say don't give up, you are stronger than you think and you can beat alcohol. No matter how many times you may feel like you have failed, you will get there one day so keep on keeping on. There are millions like us. Good luck to everyone who wants to be sober ❤
Great doco, me to a tee. You discover the reality for real when you decide to stop, its then you realise how dependent you are. I'm 68 and I've been off for 11 mths and it was bloody hard, now I'm feeling much better about it, Im not thinking so much about it and I dont get the cravings any more. I drank 3 cans of beer or something similar every day for 35 years, I didnt drink when I was a teenager until around 30, Ive never forgotten the previous night, Ive never got into any silly trouble etc, Im not a classical alcoholic but Im an alcoholic just the same. Oh and no you cant cut down, that first one will start you on the same path putting poison down your throat. You must totally stop for 3mths and see how much you becomes focused on the first drink
My partner was a classic alcoholic and he’s been dry for decades: You deserve a congrats! May i ask … did you truly notice a physical approvement? (I think it wasn’t the amount because 3 cans ‘are not that much’ but I’m going to assume- if everyday it compounds mild effects on the body a tad at a time, then?) if you feel better then that’s the only knowledge you need to know your effort was worth it!!! Way to go!
@@BrokeNdisAbled To be honest I cant say I felt significantly better or slept better. However I could see my volume ever increasing and knew it was only going to get worse. I found it very hard to stop but it got better after about 3mths and now I don't think too much about it. I do feel a lot better in myself knowing that I am now in control and not being driven by a poison that does nothing for you and just makes others rich.
I limit my alcohol consumption to just once a month. Having children is a compelling reason for moderation; we always arrange for childcare when my wife and I go out. Even before becoming a parent, my drinking was restricted to a specific weekend day each month, and I considered that to be more than sufficient. The thought of drinking daily is inconceivable to me, given the potential impact on my health.
Very relatable!!! well done. No preaching, just discovery.
Great documentary. I went from binging 3+ times a week to maybe 1 binge a month now and it’s helped me financially, mentally, emotionally and lost weight! When I say binge, I was drinking 10+ pints, 3-4 nights a week. Averaged about 40 pints a week. I’d drink spirits and wine on top of that. When the girl said she didn’t have an off switch, I can totally relate.
Great mate. You managed to stay drinking semi responsibly?
I was a scotch drinker for 18 years. I quit a year ago due to afib and it was literally one of the best decisions I’ve ever made for my health. And I’m perfectly happy getting together with the same drinking friends, just not as often or for as long. The thing is, you really can’t gauge how much better it is until you do it. And for myself, there was no “ moderation” option. Abstinence was the only option because the saying is true: the first drink is your choice, after that the alcohol is choosing.
11:03 the doctor goes from thinking they're talking about alcoholics to realising that he's talking to one.
This documentary hit me in so many different ways. Just his journey was amazing to watch. The most relatable person in the whole film to me was his father. Alcohol has cost me so much, but for some of us just the monotony of existing is too much to bear.
Yep. For me, it's a way of passing time I'd otherwise be spending bored, and putting off things that I really should do but don't want to.
@@peterclarke7240 Do you then do those things?
This hits home. I've drunk every day for 35 years, mostly alone due to depression, anxiety & loneliness. Functional as I hold a responsible job, but I know it's not good for me. Probably 150 units a week. Need to cut down right now.
U got this brother
I stopped for a “sober September” just for myself two weeks ago. It was hard for a couple days-difficult to get to sleep, boredom setting in. Luckily I also love THC so I just smoked a lot to get through it. Feeling really good these days and might just stop for good. I’d recommend doing something like this rather than simply “cutting down.” A clean break (at least for a period of time) can clear the board and give you some perspective, making every future decision about alcohol that much easier.
@@Tavat Thank you Tavat. I'm seriously thinking about sober October, but it's going to take a lot of willpower. I have stopped for a few days, but once the constant pain in my lower left side subsided, I start again. Not sure if it's my liver or pancreas crying out or just a coincidence but this is a sign I think.
You can do it Paul! Prayer helped me after years of struggling trying on my own
@@huntforberries Your delusion assuaged your addiction. Bet you're American.
I found cutting back to be impossible, so I quit cold turkey and never looked back. I don't miss drinking at all.
43:02 This is how dependency controls behavior. It’s like being a captive to the urge to drink alcohol. I saw it eat away at people and leave them so empty . Alcoholism brings so much destruction it’s heartbreaking.
I lost my sister to it recently my heart is broken people should take it more seriously it’s not funny it’s a killer.
I've been sober 13 months. Before that l drank for 15 months, before that l quit for 2.5 years. I hope this time it's for good.
Alcohol is a dual purpose drug. It is a stimulant and a depressant. When you take your first drink, there’s a rush of dopamine release whic is why you feel good and euphoric. To compensate your brain releases a ton of other neurotransmitters causing dopamine to fall & anxiety/depression set in making you want another drink to release more dopamine. With time there’s almost no effect on dopamine but depressant effect stays around but you’re constantly chasing that initial dopamine release.
So true. When I was younger I always got such a rush. Then when I was drinking every day for years, I entered this massive depressive state, often just crying and sobbing uncontrollably. I felt I was dying.
this documentary is asking the right questions. the reason behind the drinking needs to be addressed. i didnt drink for 10 years, not a single drop but then i started drinking again a couple of years ago. i successfully gave up alcohol when i realised why i was drinking. the reason behind my drinking was my fear of failure in life. the minute i understood that, i was able to get off the booze. these sober years were really productive, no doubt. now im trying to figure out why im drinking again and i cant deny that alcohol makes everything messy. when i didnt drink my mind was so sharp, so switched on, i miss that.
Have you tried getting into weights and/or running? Really helps you keep sharp and might help,you once you come off it again to burn of the energy.
@@georgemulford2910 Not the "HaVe yOu TrIeD ExErcIse" nonsense again.
@@PeaceOfMake what point are you attempting to try and make?
@georgemulford2910 That this is quite a useless thing to say. I'd compare it to saying "be positive!" to someone depressed.
Never thought of it!
@@PeaceOfMake what advice would you give in this situation?
I think it's also very much about the people that you surround yourself with. I live in Toronto and I met a few Brits in the pub to watch rugby. I had a coffee because it was 10am... they were all drinking beer. The whole pub, was drinking. They all thought I was weird. I thought they were weird. Some of them were absolutely smashed by 12. My personal opinion is drinking at 10 in the morning is shocking; whether it's a Wednesday or a Saturday; I just would never do it. BUT... if everyone around you is doing it; then it becomes normal. I've never gone back... and i'm sure they don't miss me lol.
Also, Mark (the retiree); I honestly think he's just bored. Bless him.
It's an excuse to drink, like when you go to the airport and people are drinking heavily at say 7am before boarding the plane. Unfortunately I started finding any excuse (we're on holiday, there's a sports match on. it's Christmas etc) and now drink heavily around the clock now as I get the shakes. It wouldn't be unusual for me to wake up at 5am and start drinking. That's dependency. It's a horrible cycle. @@mikepwillis88
People drink at 10am in Canada too. It's hardly a British phenomenon.
If you have to start imposing all sorts of rules and regulations around your drinking, then it’s definitely time to quit. Cutting down only usually works for people who don’t like alcohol - ie, who don’t have a problem in the first place. Limiting yourself, when you love booze and enjoy drinking, is walking a tightrope. Sooner or later you’ll fall.
The tightrope comment is so true, a Perfect analogy.
I drank more than this guy for years, my liver turned out fine but little did I know what it was doing to my cerebellum. I now have a permanent balance disorder. Everyone always thinks it only effects your liver, stomach or heart. Needles to say you don't need drink with a balance disorder. So it had to go. And I mean the drink not my cerebellum.
Has your balance disorder got better to some extent?
Yeah it's common permanent damage to alcoholics - gait is also effected and unfortunately it doesn't improve with time. Memory etc however show a good amount of improvement though
Frank Skinner gave probably the worst answer possible to a guy who has reached a monumental point (vulnerability, asking questions, thinking about actually stopping) in his potential recovery from alcohol dependence.
A timestamp would have helped.
@@lynette599 47:00
The new lower recommedations out of Canada of two drinks a week really made me re evaluate my usage. It bothered my GI alot too, it burns of your gastric lining if one drinks more days than not.
I'm 64. Been drinking beer pretty much every day of my adult life. At times, I was putting away 8 beers a day. I simply live the taste of cold beer and its refreshing quality. I don't drink soft drinks or juice. I managed to quit drinking alcoholic beer by switching to a good quality alcohol free beer.
I’ve been a similar level to Adrian for 2 decades. I love being out and around people, hate being at home. Only now am I starting to feel it. Never touch spirits so probably the only reason it’s not worse. He’s now cut back, but not quit. Time to do the same.
My liver also has no damage, as per a recent hospital visit. Which is a bit weird.
The liver is a pretty resilient organ. If you're only drinking as much as Adrian it's not that surprising at all to me that you don't have liver damage. I guess maybe you assumed you could have had a very small amount of damage, but even that could take an extreme amount of abuse for some people. Some people are unlucky and their livers are not as forgiving though. I have seen people drink like 3 times as much this daily for 40 plus years and not having any serious damage to their bodies. Depends on the person though, some people could damage themselves in a year or two of heavy drinking, and on the opposite side some people could drink as much as they want their whole life and never see the damage. Be careful though because it's not just the liver, alcohol is poisonous to all your organs and can damage many many parts of the body. A lot of heavy drinkers may not have damage to their liver, but may have really messed up other organs. Be safe though man, that's whats important. Glad your quitting though, for most people it's a very positive thing to their body and their life.
You’d be surprised I was a full blown alcoholic and I only had minor damage after 15 years heavy use
Beverage junkie
@@onlyfenians quality input. Attention junkie. Or just a moron
Been to the dark place seen the light 32yrs ago and sober one day at a time
Want to look 10 years younger?
Stop drinking and exercise every day instead.
Alcohol is a drug. Because it’s in liquid form and drinking liquids is a natural bodily function, taking alcohol that way somehow makes it seem normal, even natural. But it’s still a highly addictive drug, and once you take that first drink, you put yourself indeed on a slippery slope of addiction.
Just remember: it’s not your fault. We’ve all been conned by our friends and family who have in turn been conned by the alcohol industry to think taking a drug is normal. It’s not. Would you think snorting just “a little bin” of cocaine or taking just half a pill of oxy is totally natural? Of course not, yet we’ve all been brainwashed into thinking drinking this addictive, liquid poison is.
The more you see it for what it is, the less you’ll be in its grips.
This is fascinating. Adrian has made a programme specifically about how he lies to himself and has lied to himself all the way through it.
This man sets such a great example! 👍👍👍
Once I realized what even small amounts of alcohol do to your brain and body, I was done drinking forever. Boredom and anxiety got me drinking decently heavy and I just realized it doesnt make me better at anything. Also it keeps me overweight and tired. Im 30 and a musician from the US. Id rather live as long as possible being super active as well as writing songs and performing them live on stage for as long as humanly possibe. I dont want to cut my career short bc of a health issue due to consistent drinking. That would be such a waste of a good thing! Ive seen too many people in my life waste great opportunities bc they decided to continue their bad habits...Plus, ganja is way more fun anyway =)
I've been sober for over 18 years. I know if I cared in and had just a beer, I'd end up having 20. Ill always be an alcoholic however the soul sickness I drank over I've is gone.
I used to "go out" and drink about 40 units 3 times a week and the other 4 nights I'd "pop in" on the way home from work and have around 10. A routine blood test picked up on a very high lft when I was 27. My 20's should have killed me, thankfully I met my future wife when I did.
Absolute champion. Very good yarn. Didn’t learn anything. Hope you’re going okay.
A very honest program!
My biggest regret is only having stopped drinking at 50, and it wasn't even all that hard, it just hadn't occurred to me sooner. I didn't drink much in my 20s, but my 30s and 40s were lost decades of pointless daily drinking that I'll never get back.
same here bro, good work for stopping at all, many don't...
Saaame. 30s and 40s drank way too much. I quit at 46. First 6 months I missed it but dove into fitness and my love for my artwork came back. Good for you for quitting! We got this!!
I rarely drink, but I had two pints, a cognac, and a whisky soda while watching this documentary.
cheers!
@@GeoffreyBronson - Thanks, mate. 👍🙂
Did you get triggered by seeing other people drink? That happens to me with movies.
Go get your liver checked😂 You have a drinking problem. That's no were near enough🙊🍻🍺🍹🍸🍷🍾🥂💊💊💉🚬🚬🚬🛏⚰
Eleven years sober and as soon as someone says, " Once I get the taste, I'm on it" or " I've had a rough day, I need a drink." My ears prick up because I know that they could possibly be using drink to deal with life or they have the allergy that once they have one or two drinks all bets are off and they are going to get drunk.
I’m 10 years sober (it’s right at the top of the phone book) and if I could drink normally, I’d do it all the time.
I drank a lot when I was younger - now I can drink a glas of sherry and soda and may be a bottle of ale - if I drink any more I feel really ill - not drunk - just ill
Great documentary, thanks for sharing it.
I’m 7 months sober, relate to his dad
Alcoholics cannot control their alcohol intake, both when they're going to drink and how much. When that irrestible compulsion to drink is on them, they have to drink and when they start, they have no control of the amount they drink. In this regard, they are said to be powerless over alcohol. And quite often because of they're powerlessness over alcohol, they fail at living up to their personal responsibilities, perhaps get into financial difficulties, fall foul of the law and maybe become a danger to themselves or others. In this respect, it's said their lives have become unmanageable. And there are many other examples of living an unmanageable life because of drinking. There also may be other underlying psychiatric problems. In spite of all the negative consequences of drinking, the alcoholic is still unable to control their intake. This is the insanity of the disease/illness - repeating the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. In Adrian's case, he's been given a warning to cut down - alcoholics couldn't do that, it's all or nothing. And nothing it has to be, no alcohol, ever again, one day at a time.
Or another way of saying all that is, if drinking is costing more than the money in your pocket, you've got a problem!
Adrian Chiles might not get drunk or be a heavy alcoholic, but he definitely looks like someone who loves to drink. Looks very puffy.
You don't need to be an alcoholic to be the worst liar!!!
Water retention, common problem with heavy drinking as the body struggles to stay hydrated
Jowly yes
You can also have puffy face through underactive thyroid and yet also not drink.
Best thing I’ve seen on you tube
What an incredible honest documentary 👌
my brother drank he would go up the shops 6am and drink all day everyday sadly he was found dead in his bed due to alcohol miss use he was only 60
You do have a drinking problem, when you start to look like John Wayne Gacy. 😂
You are awesome sir. I salute u
30:20 here you can tell very clearly he is in fact a real alcoholic. The realisation, the anger. It's so relatable.
The phenomenon of craving and that damnable compulsion.
There is a life without alcohol waiting for us all. We just have to keep walking past that very very very appealing drink to get there.
Drinking or not, I must say, Ol’ Benny Hill looks better than he ever has!
I just got bored of drinking. I didn't like being locked in once you start drinking. I enjoy a beer now and again. I focus on trying a new beer or cider instead of drinking half a dozen of the same old.
I drink mainly to piss off certain sanctimonious killjoys...
Uruguay.
Way to punish yourself to show em’!
@@michaeldodd9260 - 🍻🍺🍺🥂🍷🍷🍸🥂🍾🍸🥃🥃🍸👍🙂
it is not easy when it gets you. one bad choice has derailed my life. i wish everyone the very best xxx
Easy early assessment:
If alcohol is a part of your (almost) daily program, you are in severe risk. With 5-6 pints per day, in long term, it is almost 100% certain to aquire a liver disease condition.
Daily pub is a real danger, even with few pints, although the probability is lower, it still remains and actualizes to some.
The heavier the drinking, (even with scarce, let's say, weekly frequency) accidents will be your number one health risk.
32 units a day is quite up there , amongst the upper parliament of alcoholics. No , non alchoholic could reach those numbers, they aren't rookie numbers , it takes years of training to get tolerance like that , into withdrawal zone, extra time.
His parents house is so clean 💐
Frank Skinner would be the worst AA sponsor ever.
GREAT PROGRAM !!!!!!!!!!!!!! watching from HOUSTON. TX 😄😄😄😄😄😄
This guy made a full documentary trying to convince himself he’s not an alcoholic 😂😂😂
Your an alcoholic mate and that's that, because you can't go without it and need a drink and can't go without, is a massive sign that says your an alcoholic, you need to stop and that's what is, the only solution
Carrying five pints at once is an impressive feat.
I want a beer now.
I am the designated driver ! And that’s where you really see clearly!
Challenge is, alcohol is deeply embedded into ethnic and social cultures
He needs to read Annie Grace. There is no such thing as an alcoholic. Do we have the term narcaholic or opiodaholic? No! Dependence on alcohol is what it is & if you’re making “rules” surrounding you’re prob dependent.
Aud
I quit because of peripheral neuropathy.
My foot felt stiff.
Me fingers felt weird.
Handwriting was off …
It’s getting better now.
A lot of supplements and exercise…
Anyone else?
Funny you should ask…..I just now stumbled into a description of alcoholic neuropathy, and it describes my physical condition exactly. Wow. Glad to know however, and I’ve recently started on sobriety and the neuropathy is already getting better. Little by little, but definitely improving- especially my balance.
"They say as soon as you have to cut down on your drinking you have a drinking problem."
Normal social drinkers don't think about it, or try to limit themselves, or challenge themselves to go without. They just have a pint every now and then and don't think anything more about it. This guy is 100% in denial, and keeps going to different people to try to hear a different answer. The answer he wants to hear of: steady on lad, keep drinking the same way.
Yeah that quote is way too simplistic anyway. You can't say stuff like that like it's an absolute, which a big pet peeve of mine overall. People on youtube and just people in general never account for the specifics of situations, and just say things like they're always true or true for everyone, which is just never the case for almost anything. People who aren't addicted and drink socially very very rarely think about those things you said, which is also true.
Yes it’s based on no science. I’m reading David Nutt’s book and despite the fact I’m under 14 units every week (and have lots of drink free days) I’m still reducing my intake intentionally because of what I’m learning.
BUt Frank Skinner told him he should just moderate and so did everyone in that smart recovery group meeting lol I felt like Adrian was mostly depressed from getting told he had some liver damage and obviously he didnt like the thought of stopping completely like most people dont want to stop completely if they are a habituated social drinker
@randommess6667 like a gambler being told just do lucky 7s
I wonder.... what is the connection between alcohol addiction and sugar addiction?
They both affect the liver adversely and increase visceral fat.
Very inspiring!
I love to drink but I hardly ever do it. Last time I had was at the very beginning of the pandemic. Day drinking and all, always having it 24/7 whilst on holiday.
this was insightful. cheers
If you have not got a problem you should be able to stop. It’s affecting your health negatively. You don’t have to damage to others ir drink in the morning to be an alcoholic. Your denial system is strong and you hang with people who support your drinking. Get honest with yourself and get real.
‘Wow thanks I’m cured’
Alcoholics don’t think they are alcoholics.
Yes, a symtom of alcoholism.
Moderation is the key to alcohol or cigarettes, if you dont want the major side effects.
I don’t drink because I don’t like how o feel after a few alcoholic drinks. But if you go out with people who drink a lot on a night out you have to deal with so much crap. All of these people think they are so cool and do much fun when they are out drinking, but they are like a group of crazy three year olds. I don’t want to deal with that. I want to Jane proper conversations, and not have to look after people who are falling over or a danger to themselves. So o don’t socialise in pubs or clubs . It has isolated me but I’d rather be alive than with drunk people.
Wonderful parents!
Average regular drinker: I wouldn't say I'm an alcoholic but...I like to have my evening beer.
Oh...Sure you aren't.
Unfortunately, alcoholism is very different from what we picture. If you drink a whole lot and feel terrible the next day, maybe it's time to quit because that indicates a problem.
All these people are in denial.
I wish I could get paid for making a documentary about how much I drank and how much I wanted to stop drinking so much.
A glass of wine with my dinner. I'm not stopping.
"nice, regular drinking." Uh-huh. 5-1/2 years sober here. Best choice I've ever made and keep making. Alcohol is poison.
My dad and brother are both alcoholics they drink every day but there functioning they work my brother owns his own business so yes some can still work ect my brother told me himself he is addicted to alcohol
Thanks for that Glenn! I will watch this later today. Hope this finds you well :)
A ball hair off 1 year sober here :)
Good job well done hope it continues 👍💪😀
@@futuregirl8803 thank you so much :)