If She Doesn’t Respect Her Father, She Probably Won’t Respect You
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- Why dating a women who is rude and disrespectful to her father means she will probably treat you the same way.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who has been dating a woman for about 4 months. He tends to be overly emotional and gets butt-hurt too easily. He says he is a little bit on the needy side and doesn’t have much of a life outside of his girlfriend. She recently was very rude, disrespectful and short with him after getting back from vacation together. He asks my opinion.
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Yep. And she’ll self-sabotage the relationship.
Facts!!!!
Big time
Relationships with these women typically only last through the honeymoon phase (3-6 months). Once the honeymoon is over and it settles into a relationship, she'll then start jockeying with you for control. Stand your ground, she'll resent you. Relent, she won't respect you. Either way, she's soon on to the next honeymoon. You're left wondering how she could lovebomb you for months then do a sudden 180. That's why these relationships hurt. It's so sudden. Men are only there to serve her need for temporary validation. She has little respect for their feelings or needs. It's all about her. These women will always be drifters, monkey-branching from guy to guy. Let them go, set them free.
Just went through this recently and this is SPOT ON
Same
Yes, yes, when they hate the father, she starts out with great sex and pretending to be normal. Down the road, she starts the " father hatred" part. The sex stops, she gets cold, she won't take off her clothes. She is showing her hatred to her father at you. It never gets better and she goes to a new guy. Does the same thing to him.
first question on a date from me “hows your relationship with your father” lol
I tried to set healthy boundaries with my ex and tried to follow Corey’s book, but she continued to cross them and I had enough. She always went to anger-screaming, yelling, and stonewalling. As much as I loved her, I was tired of the bs and had to let her go. You gotta keep looking and fight through the pain of the ones you can’t be with.
Well done for setting those bounderies bro !! Am proud to hear that !!
@@ageofprogressive2248 yup !! Same story with my one bro , your not wrong there !! After my one refused to make me a priority in her life and not an Option !! She didnt take any accountability for her own sneacky and bad actions towards me , she gived me "The Silent Treatment" and thats when i set the clear cutting Bounderies with her and her controlling behaviour , shes the same , daddy issues , NPD/possible BPD , very argumentative , high body count and abuses the alcohol very strongly > the Vodka , didn't do anything i ever requested of her , as it was slowly turning into a One-Sided Relationship and its always " about her WANTS and NEEDS " that needed to be met , not mine !! I Cut her off completely for good , you can lead a horse to water , but you can't make the horse drink it !!
This is why it bothers me when some men claim that if a woman had a dad in her life then she's wife material. But some women treat their fathers like a peasant and then treat their husband as such.
It's true. My last ex of two years treated her father like shit. She had so many red flags. Constant cheater, bad with money, tantrums, needy and attention seeking, emotional, starting drama all the time, liar. Her old sister cheated on her husband, and her oldest sister was a drama queen too. Even the mother cheated on the father before. I had enough last year in March. I walked away. It was a great decision. Now she's someone else's problem LOL :)
I recently came out of a 4 month relationship with a girl I really liked. Still trying to get over it. She was so into me for the first 3 months, by month 4 she started to back off and withdraw, eventually breaking up with me in early August. She had a bad relationship with her father and ultimately cut him out of her life entirely. I knew this going in but overlooked it.
@@nkmensah Thanks. Her father was not a good man most likely but did try to make things right with her later in life. Still, there were other issues I overlooked too and ultimately I just think we were not compatible, and I was too willing to get into a relationship with someone who I felt a connection with from the start.
A lesson learned in 4 months beats getting a 4 year degree in the same field. You did quite well time-wise. It's not a bad thing to talk about family to a girl you're dating early on to get a feel of her family dynamics, which will usually become an indicator of what kind of family dynamic you will have with her...IF there is future with her. You will get over your past girlfriend once you find a girl with stronger family ties, especially with her father.
You guys must be from Cali cuz that's just what 99% of the girls have here
@@MasterChiefSierra117-ce4uu like coach said respect yourself, move on and date other people.
dude she probably will be back after u go silent.Check out coach's way of handling ex girlfriends.Hang out with your friends and play sports.laugh at the situation because years from now u wont care at all about this girl lol
You can’t change her, it’s embedded in her behavior now. All you can do is try to make it work with what you got, or move on.
@@ageofprogressive2248 refer back to the answer @daveblackman816 gave.
@@ageofprogressive2248you’ll get tired of it
@@ageofprogressive2248been there done it and it always ends bad . And you know that it’s not right but it’s still hard to leave that sweet cat but just know those are major red flags if you’re in that situation
This is so true. People's habits and ways of acting out in the world with others are formed when they are children reacting to their mum and dad. Once they become adults, it becomes extremely hard for people to change their ways as it has to be constant and active versus passive and easy to do as a child. Few people can change but one thing I have noticed over my meagre 29 years on this planet is that most would try to change the world first rather than themselves. If you manage to find someone who is on the path of change, as they have become enlightened and decided to change their ways, then give them a shot as they will be much more reasonable and aware of how the world actually works. If not then don't bother as trying to change them will wear you down into an absolute crisp as all the discipline that should have been instilled on them when young just won't exist.
I deliberately provoke them to try me. To overstep my boundaries. The satisfaction from putting them in their place or straight dropping them on the spot is far greater than sex.
If the mother is constantly berating the father in front of the kids, that household has some things to work through on a few levels...
Coach Corey Wayne - you speak from experience, the lessons and you speak directly. Can't believe how many scenarios that I can relate to in your videos, but I can tell from my own experience that you are spot on! I really appreciate what you have done for our community and help us men grow a pair. You've been a beacon of hope during the ups and downs! Words are not enough to thank you.
If the father is and was a doormat, run! Run for the hills..
She wants you to be a doormat too.
Yup pretty much, i mean you can be a man as much you want but that won't change her ass much, drama and chaos all over the place with her and her mother
Don't forget the part where she will discard you for being a doormat too, it's about time.
I wish this video was made 7 years ago, I would have seen the signs of my ex behavior and let her go as soon as possible. You can not fix people who are disrespectful towards you. Let them go 🤔🧐😳👍!!!!!!!!!!!!
Shout out to all the men who follow Corey’s work and apply it correctly because it does work it changed my life but what’s annoying sometimes is how we us as men damn there have to perfect to keep a woman happy it’s crazy lol but I love a challenge it’s what being a leader is all about even when you are annoyed and put in tough situations you still thrive 💪
Very true. I lived with a woman for 3 years. She would talk very badly about her father. She was very verbally abusive with me. Eventually I left her.
What I do like about CW, and I forget it sometimes, is that he often mentions how he was EXACTLY like the guy he is BERATING in a certain video, and being harsh with. It shows you can change, and move forward, and hold yourself and others to new standards and become the person you want to be.
Modern women are hard to break. They are so conditioned to be in charge and treat men like shit.
I realized even when you're going through the toughest time and actually handling it internally and being strong she'll STILL project it onto you because she still has her own inner demons and trauma. Then she'll complain that your pushing her away and not opening up to her and she'll break down out of nowhere. My ex randomly got drunk late at night at home in her room while im at work trying to deal with the loss of my mother ( who wasn't even 47 yet) as best as i could. I get a call from her crying loudly and sending videos of her downing Hennessey in tears and telling me she " has to go", basically implying she has to die. I tried to assure her that naturally of course the death of my mother affects me but I'm being strong and dealing with it because you never know when someone can pass. Then in the same night she calls my younger sister 4 in the morning and then my sister calls me worried saying that my girlfriend at the time called her and now shes worried about me too. Mind you, people basically refer to me as a robot, so i wasnt some emotional cry baby. The fact she disturbed my sister that late and projected her inner demons onto me really set me off and i lost my temper and shouted at her. O didnt want to deal with this while im at work and not even supposed to be on my phone. I told her I'll come over tomorrow and we'll talk. I worked overnight, so that morning coming up i hear that she lashed out at her father in the living room who was absent for 98% percent of her life. At that point in time i had more time in her life with her than he did. He left when she was a 1 year old and her mom randomly took him back 20 something years later after things went sour with her other baby daddy who she has twin sons with and completely cut off communication after she let him back in. All of this lead to her eventually monkey branching and cheating on me with some shmuck who knew we were together and pillow talked with her about me. He caught her at a vulnerable time and she was ready to betray me behind my back. The way i had to find out was crazy but her true identity was revealed to me and she's a covert narcissist. Stay away from these kind of women fellas, you don't need it apart of your journey other than a learning experience, but its better to avoid it all together. These ppl can't be fixed and when they can't self regulate their emotions they'll use the worst coping mechanisms and find a thirsty dude that will take what he can get. Low life people. I basically got cheated on because my mother passed away 😂.
Good morning coach!
Really great video and insight. The father doesn’t have to be some insane abusive drunk in order to screw up his daughter. All he has to do is excuse terrible, ungrateful behavior and YOU will be dealing with a nightmare
6:25 : Coach you are so Right! It's the truth, you didn't make them that way, it's just hard facts.
This is infinitely accurate
Too many people I know don't understand these ideas despite how many times I've told them and they tell me I'm the crazy one.
I realized I was talking to walls, and decided they could face the consequences of their own actions.
I know exactly what you mean, it's frustrating when you want to help people you care about and you get grief in return.
The truth is they just aren't ready and will need to receive more pain and pressure in order to change.
The best thing to do is just set an example and let them see the good results you get and maybe they will realise there's a better way.
"You've seen too many Disney movies..." 😂
Women/the feminine essence is a cat's - dependent on leadership for happiness, but convinced of complete independence. Just like cats, if you intently "listen", women will always tell you what they need you to provide, and how to provide it. As true leadership is conferred, true comprehension of emotion is reciprocated. We DON'T need them, but they DO need us: and when you completely own this, you're then just as free to be a man as your woman is then free to be a woman. On my 6th read of 3% Man, watching this, it just clicked.
Would think the converse is true, as well.
Day 130 a text from an unknown no. Pages and pages worth of script telling me how much she loved me, i was getting out of hope because of day 130 but now i know that no contact works 💯 and now i realised I don't want her anymore I'm worth much more than her and that she doesn't deserve me begging for me to come back i knew she was mentally ill but she blamed it all on me and didn't seek medical advice after all my saying her to see the doctor.
What if her dad is an absentee father?
What if her father was a toxic person. Cheated od her mother and disown her as a child?
damage goods still applies
Means she's for the streets, pump and dump
Time to grow the F up!
@@GodIsMyEverythingNow lol I hear u actually smart not too
Yeah I just learned the hard way, don’t give her the benefit of the doubt if she has no relationship with her father. You simply can’t fix those issues.
I understand that we can’t treat them like they are our mothers, but then why have a relationship? Sometimes I don’t understand why, we can go to women for pretty much anything, except for sex. Can any guys tell me how a women has dramatically changed their lives? And if so how?
What if her father was the messed up one?
I'm the person who emailed. Her father was the problem but he's not wrong either. It's learned by having no respected men besides her grandfather. She works hard to change but still I think he's right it's likely to not work anyway
No daddy, no wedding caddy
Also Corey, and any other viewers that might want to chime in, what do you think about a situation where the woman grows up with an emotional abusive father, where there’s substance issues, and major gaslighting and manipulation. In my opinion, it’d be a no brainer for a woman to have little to no respect for her father in this scenario.
How do you think this could affect future relationships?
“It’s like 99.99999% guaranteed not to be workable or fixable.”
Well, gimme a sec, I’m also coming up with 32.33% repeating of course, of the relationship’s survival. But with that, does this make your whole overall life a lot better than what you usually do?
Serious question. What if her father was a complete a**hole? My girlfriend has been with me for a year and she has expressed how much it had affected her in her life and in our relationship /communication with other males, the fact that his father was absent and had 10+ kids with multiple women (his way of "concerning" is texting on Christmas/birthdays and occasionally give a ton of cash whenever they DO get to show up, cute I know.
She has worked a lot in removing her previous biases and learning to see things more objectively, mainly in knowing her father is a human being with many flaws but he does not represent the majority of males or what masculinity truly is. And she is very loving and caring, even if her femininity is not as convenientional on the traditional way.
My question is: how can she truly "respect" that guy? Would I really be a fit to contest against that type of competition?
I mean, that "if she doesn't respect her father she won't respect you" statement is a complete fallacy. There are no guarantees or data to support that. Sure, you can have it both ways: a woman with resentment and issues that will sabotage a relationship, and like you mentioned, you can also have a woman who has put in all the work throufhyeither therapy or self help and is a healthy and respectful human being.
People just like judging and making biased assumptions about other people
Thank you. Some of these men are too shallow in this comment section generalizing all women who had issues with their dad in a negative sense. I had similar issues like your girlfriend had with her dad. I would be the kindest most loyal partner and am looking for a man the complete opposite of my father but also someone who respects himself and other people. That guy I would respect and be submissive to immediately
@@tangleduniverse5042sure
A little bit needy is 100% beta
Not true because if he respects himself then i would easily respect him. 💯
Now I’m no expert, but it sounds like maybe this particular guy is going through and insecure phase. We’ve all been there but at some point you’ve gotta snap out of it.
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