Why He’s Not Giving You the Respect You Deserve
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Wondering why the guy you’re seeing doesn’t seem to respect you? You might be surprised by the reason . . .
If your tendency is toward anxiety, you’ll go to great lengths just to restore the peace and get things “back to normal” as quickly as possible.
This often includes the compulsion to say “sorry” even when something’s not your fault.
The danger with this is that when we make it clear to someone that we’ll do anything to avoid difficult conversations, it becomes easy for them to take us for granted . . .
If any of this sounds familiar, you will not want to miss the 3 tips I share in today’s video. Not only will you learn how to honor your own needs and boundaries, but you’ll also raise your value in the process. What’s more, you’ll do so by actually living your life rather than simply existing in a state of perpetual people pleasing and anxiety.
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0:00 - 0:53 - Saying ‘Sorry’ to Keep the Peace
0:53 - 2:11 - When Tension = Anxiety
2:11 - 3:40 - When Apologizing Is a Good Thing
3:40 - 4:37 - What to Do the Next Time You Feel This Tension
4:37 - 5:50 - Tip #1: Have a Breaker Switch
5:50 - 7:32 - Tip #2: When the Relationship Doesn’t Meet Your Standards
7:32 - 9:22 - Tip #3: Anxiety Pressure Valves
Chapter 8) 9:22 - 11:41 - Choosing Peace Over Appeasement
“The older I get the more I realize the importance of walking away from people and situations which threaten my peace of mind, self respect, values and self worth.”
Me too and it’s the best lesson and feeling in the world to just let it go.. took 50 years to get here. Nobody will ever treat me bad again
Well said. ❤
That is great advise. Thank you & I too feel the same, at least once everyday. Quite sad really, my heart is taking over my head. Do I want to live like this, No. XxX
Or people that have no self-confidence, and you can tell it even through text
Yep. Amen to that! I now have a low tolerance for somebody disrespecting me in a friendship, or any type of relationship.
I’m adding this to my notes:
The only appropriate way to test a romantic partner:
“Speak up about what’s important to me, and to see whether the relationship can handle it.”
- Matthew Hussey
So needed to hear this right now
You Tuber Shallon Lester says "if it's fragile, let it break". Good advice too.
That's great!
Yup. Don’t stay in a relationship because you think it will get better eventually. Know your worth and move on ❤
Someday is not a day of the week! If you have to lose someone it's okay better is on its way!
Amen! And not a truer word was spoken!
"Their effort reflects their interest" is something i have in the back of my head, hope it can be helpful to somone❤️
This is exactly what I've been telling myself as I'm not seeing effort. Great to see this comment now. Thank you
Love this
I wish I could have had access to content like this earlier in my life, at a younger age. People with anxiety disorders have expressive difficulties in relationships and are much easier to be manipulated by their partners. I appreciate you for helping people with this content.
Omg,yes....I wish that too!!!
Nice thought
So brilliant as always ❤
🧡💛💚💙💜
so true....
I think guys do this a lot. They apologise, eventhough they don't understand what they have done, to keep peace.
Yup mainly hear this from men
They apologize cause its easier than actually listening and trying to do something different. It usually means they dont really care that something is wrong because they r getting what they want or need from the relationship
"You don't have a relationship- you have an emotional hostage situation." Too true! I laughed soooo hard!!!
I was crying last night because of this .. then i got this notification for this video
me too girl
LITERALLY Me too 🥹
I’m 67 years old and this has been such a pattern in my two long relationships, ultimately leading to the end of both. I’d love to meet someone again and this video is just what I need! Perfect timing, thanks Matthew! 🥰
I hope you’ve found someone wonderful, and if not, I hope you’re loving yourself and living your best life! ❤🎉
You described my relationship of the last 2 years. After he yelled at me and hung up on me. I flipped that switch and went no contact. He blew up when I wanted to talk to him about something he did. I got tired of every thing becoming a fight over the smallest things that I wanted to talk about. As hard as it was to walk away it's the best thing I did for my mental and emotional health. I couldn't imagine living my life that way for the rest of my life.
That’s crazy cause I also would try and talk to him and it would always turn into a argument or he would leave the room and dismiss the conversation and block me out. Then turn it on me because he didn’t like my reaction to his actions.
I went through both of calls situations. He was always flipping things on me no matter what. I only wanted reassurance for situations but he would always get upset... I guess he had enough of me asking and he ended things with me how are yall doing now... I feel like I can't bare it... we have a 10 month old...
To be able to hear and watch this after two months from walking away on someone that I told myself I can lose this person, I've survived it before and I will be okay, brings me so much joy and contentment.
This is a reminder that I did what is best for me and accepted that I will never find peace in a relationship where I have to lower my standards and ignore my non negotiables/boundaries just because someone does not want to step up.
I may not be fully healed yet from the hurt but it gives me so much peace to know that every day Im moving one step further from that pain and gaining one step closer to being whole again. Bliss!
Way to go. Been there. It will get better ✨
How are you doing now?
@@laurapissani Thanks for asking and I can confidently say that these past 10 months have been the happiest and I'm glad I had the courage to leave behind something that no longer served me and my well-being. And the best part? When you take care of yourself and demand the energy you deserve you attract the right one that matches it. I'm glad I didn't settle for anything less, because now, I am in a healthy relationship with someone who at the end of the day loves me the way I want to be loved and need not ask for it. My happiness is also his. And I think that's wonderful and that should be the bare minimum. ❤️ I hope this for you and everyone here too.
@@adjustmentbureau0 This is so lovely to hear ❤
Just went through a breakup where I left because he wasn't respecting my boundaries and meeting me halfway in the relationship after 6 years together, 1 of them engaged. This video hit the nail on the head. Thank you. It reassured me that despite loving him more than I thought possible, leaving was the right thing to do for myself.
How are you feeling now? Same thing, just 10 months situation...
@@olgacherkasova3522 Hi 🙋🙋
How are u sweet friend ❤❤
@@ImranKhan-tj3dr hey, had my breakup yesterday... Shattered but not as dramatic as I used to be in my previous breakups... How are you?
@@olgacherkasova3522 You are always most well come 🌷🌷
I m fine .. so where from sweet friend ..?
Crazily, I have just left a relationship because every time I tried to point out his disrespectful/angry behaviour, he would turn it around so that he was the victim and I was the bully for not taking his feelings etc into account. Eventually I stopped speaking out, gave himself enough rope to hang himself with, then walked out the door.
I'm still the bad guy for "not understanding, being too sensitive, taking it all the wrong way and walking away" 😅
🤣🤣🤣 it happened to me too n i just left asap & blocked him everywhere. dont wanna be friends nor wanna talk to him no mo
@@thisloop Hahaha, excellent! Some people just don't deserve a second chance 🤣
Thank you Matthew!
You are literally pulling our feelings from the darkness of self-doubts under the daylight of reality and common sense .
We should stop being “convenient girls” for our partners and remember that
“ I am #1 priority in my life “.
And it’s not selfishness, it is self respect.
If I don’t respect myself, no one will respect me . The rule of Universe .
This is so right.. 👏🏻 You know you're in the right relationship when you feel safe stating about your boundaries and sticking with them and your partner is willing to have the hard conversations to make the relationship better.. You will see and feel his effort that you dont have to question it.. Nobody's perfect, i think if both partners are trying to improve themselves, things always get better.. and you will both feel loved and secured❤️❤️❤️
I just took a bunch of your suggestions of what to say, and said them to this man who never respected me. I carried a torch for him for almost 4 yrs. Thank you for helping me. He’s frozen me out. Haha! Oh well. Thank you, Matt for helping me! I stood up for myself. Told him I deserve someone 100% into me. I told him he needed to go figure out how to treat a woman. Had enough of his blockings, ignoring me, lies… I told him he disappears and that just becomes boring. I feel totally in control of my life and love life and happy. I can’t thank you enough!!!🎉❤
That is what I should promise myself. I need to let someone go if I am risking my peace of mind. Never being scared of being alone because it is better to be alone than being in a toxic relationship
This is me with my ex, I literally said im afraid bringing up this “matter”and he said “then don’t”
Tell him and his arrogance to shove it! 😡
Same.
Some lie, and lies are the worst! I love the truth, even if it's hard to hear...my standard is honesty
Learning to walk away and to truly let go is a skill everyone should be taught at a young age to avoid ongoing depression as an adult.
Unfortunately I can relate so much with this topic that I felt like you were talking directly to me! And even before I started watching the video I knew exactly what you will say and what I did wrong... I learned my lesson for sure and I will need lots of time to recover...but hey was my fault for ALWAYS apologizing even when it wasn't the case! And I lost his respect and all the rest....shame we learn lessons only by making mistakes!
As long as we learn, we never fail. 💚
You’ll definitely find what you’re looking for
I felt like he was talking to me too 😭🤦🏼♀️
Maybe we should all just not be so hard on ourselves :) the other person must be deeply flawed for making you feel that way
✋ I can lose this person and I will be okay. ... I needed that. Thanks for this video ❣
People usually apologize to clear their own consciences, not to make amends. It's a trick.
As someone who suffers from anxiety in relationships, this video really hit home!
"emotional hostage" cool comparison
Play this on repeat!!!I ve been all for the peace keeping in a relationship where the slightest comment could trigger moodiness from him and when confronted,escalate into an argument or brief separation! We cant lower our standards just to feed the other person's ego or calm their insecurities... It amazes me how many men(mainly) are so immature and dont have a clue how to trully communicate in a relationship, putting their pride and selfishness first...Makes u wonder if they really loved you or were just living the fantasy of being in love...
Love this. I am learning to speak up, be stronger on my own, not say sorry so much, keep my boundaries, express concerns, have good standards and exert consequences as needed. Also rather than say ‘sorry to bother you’ to say ‘thank you for listening’. Love having the breaker switch of taking a break, doing something else and knowing I’ll be ok regardless, and I’d rather be alone then mistreated. It all makes a difference for sure:) Thank you 😊
"We should remind ourselves that we have lost people in the past and that, somehow, we survived that."
Did we? 😡
And yet… sentences with ‘not’ seem to create the opposite: ‘I won’t think about him!’ can be turned into ‘I concentrate on myself’. Thanks for your video! Have a lovely evening!
I’m generally anxious so I just push everyone away. If I’m gonna be alone, I’m gonna be alone. I’m too hot for this.
You helped me heal my anxious attachment issues, Matthew, and gain things like boundaries, standards, confidence… you know, no biggie 😉
How? I need help!
@@tanjaxxx6984 look up Thais Gibson and her Personal Development School channel, she's got awesome content around attachment theory and how to fix it
I was always the one keeping the peace while being disrespected. Now I don't care who I lose, I'm staying true to myself. If I can't voice how I feel comfortably then they don't care enough about me.
Word!! 🙏🏼❤
Stay strong sister! Remember that knowing your worth and sticking to your values is sexy! You might “ lose “ some unworthy companionship and temporary peace but you really are winning life.
Yes I can see in my marriage I gave away all my boundaries & self respect for false peace. I just got more & more obsessive as truly I was giving away my self respect in order not to loose the relationship. In the end I lost the relationship anyway so it was a double whammy.
Has taken years to regain my integrity & real inner peace which comes from inner self worth. Been a tough journey meeting & nurturing my past wounds which began in childhood.
I do still wish for a healthy relationship deep down but now I see most important is my integrity & self respect. Without that no other relationship will work.
My wish is to find a person who is willing to grow a healthy relationship together. In the meantime I'm loving all my abandoned parts back to wholeness from which they came & can return too in the safety of the truth of myself at my core essence.
The bottom line. I'm willing to loose anyone if there is not equal investment in healthy relating.
Ruminating about it is something that I just can't stop. I struggle with that a lot.
This came at the right time for me ❤ I have just had a breakup happen where the guy says that his school/work has gotten too busy for a relationship, but I think in the process of getting to that point he has lost respect for me. I have to choose to not let anxiety win and I had to leave that situation, putting myself first.
This is exactly what I needed to hear. I'll play this one on loop. Thank you.
That's exactly what I'm doing. Good to know that there are ppl like me around 🙏
WOW! Weirdly, I knew this at the back of my mind, but how you phrased everything made it have essence on another level! People who have tension anxiety are often from backgrounds/families where there was always tension from/between their parents and they never want to experience that in their relationships. This, plus the fear of losing someone they love deeply makes them seek peace by any means necessary. Unfortunately, this costs their respect from their partner and eventual hurt. However, if someone hurts you, demoralised your standards, and does not see the wrong in it, they are not the right one for you in the first place. They will ultimately hurt you regardless of you apologising or pretending not to care to make them come back. Don't lose your standards for anyone. THANK YOU MATTHEW, you are the older brother we all need🥺👏
Have I mentioned I have listened to this 3 times simultaneously? Wow! And I plan to listen 100 times more until the core of me gets every word he is saying.
Hello Matthew, Stephen, and team! I hope one day to meet you or hear from you so I can say thank you directly to you. You are giving more than hope for people to live their best life. You are giving us the tools to do so! Much love always.
I nearly burst into tears watching this video because every word was spot on. NEVER in my 50 + years on this planet has anyone ever understood, let alone articulated why saying “sorry” all the time is unhealthy and indicative of a problem.
Now. This comment is forever long, but it has a happy ending.
I tried shortening it, but this video released a torrent of feelings that led to write as if I were writing in my diary.
Please let my experience encourage anyone out there who is suffering in a toxic relationship and on the fence about leaving. Your life can and will be better than you ever imagined once you take back your power and take a leap of faith in yourself.
Here’s my story:
My father was a true narcist and mom did everything she could to prevent him from yelling. To this day, I can’t handle anyone yelling. But, back to my story. My had a BOOMING voice the like of James Earl Jones. Although we lived in a nice home set back on a large corner lot, our neighbors or anyone walking by could hear him from the street when he yelled namely at my mom.
The remedy: My mom taught us game. She called it "keep the peace." Those were her exact words. She taught us how to submit as a means to survive because my dad only got louder and crueller when you challenged him or tried to speak up for yourself. My mom occasionally tried to stick up for us kids and my dad would shout “stop defending the kids. You can have more kids but you only get one husband.” Plus, he was masterful with language. He could turn any problem into some one else’s fault.
As a result of growing up in such a tumultuous situation, I didn't learn self-respect. I had no sense of dignity and no sense of security. I spent nearly every waking moment trying to guess what my father needed or wanted or thought should happen so I didn't upset him. The result was that I had an extremely narrow vision of the world. Heck. I couldn't afford to pay attention to anything else in the world except him. It's no wonder why I have only been in one relationship, two “situation-ships,” and one husband of 21 years.
My first boyfriend was more than a decade older than me. He was emotionally abusive and racist yet I stayed for 6 years trying to make it work. I followed that disaster up by dating a much older man who lived in New York City while I lived in Ohio. We had completely opposite values yet I remained available to him all the while he was dating other women for 20 years. I naively thought if I were patient enough, he would one day see me and want me above all others because I didn’t require too much work from him to get the best of me. Last, I married a man 27 years older. He was my dad in a different zip code.
The men could do whatever they wanted because all I knew how to do was appease, appease, and appease some more.
Now. I want to back to my childhood to give you some context. My homelife was so miserable that I began planning my suicide in the seventh grade. That was my release valve. I told myself to hang in there because the day will come that I end the pain. Eventually, things got so bad I was hospitalized three times in my young life for being suicidal.
I reached out to my parents for help once. I said I wanted to go to therapy and that I was depressed. My dad dismissed me by saying “you aren’t depressed and therapists are therapists because they themselves need therapy. That was the end of the discussion.
Fast forward to my late twenties. Unwittingly, I married my father. Warning bells didn't ring sound with this person because his narcissistic behaviors were familiar and comfortable to me. I knew exactly how to keep the relationship going. All I had to do was make myself so small that my husband didn't have to pay attention to my needs. Things got so bad from stuffing my emotions down and letting him walk all over me that I became physically ill. My doctor called my symptoms a conversion disorder. That's when emotional pain becomes physical pain.
Here's on a small list of what I suffered: tremors, panic attacks, instances when I would lose the ability to walk and speak, vertigo, etc.
By the 15th year of my marriage, I was so ill that I could no longer. My husband, who controlled all of the finances and kept me in the dark, blamed me for things being financially difficult. That was bologna by the way. We lived in one of the most expensive areas in the country. I'll never forget the day he said to me, out of the blue, "you know. I've come to accept that you won't be the person I thought you would be. And I'm OK with it now.” Naturally, this plummeted me into another serious depression. And once again, I soothed myself by saying knowing it wouldn’t be long before I took my own life and terminated my misery.
Of course, I ended up back in therapy where my therapist got me to see the abuse. It took three years after knowing I was being abused to consider leaving. Why so long? He convinced me I couldn’t survive without him. I stayed four more years (for a total of 7 years) trying to get my husband to hear me, see me, touch me, go to therapy, etc. He always refused. I even went to couples therapy by myself for 1 1/2 years. Needless to say, couples therapy without the couple doesn't work so nothing changed at home. Rather, things got even worse. My husband spoke to me unlike anyone else. I asked him why he was so foul to me and he said, “because I know I can get away with it.”
Again, it took seven years, but I did finally leave. Soon after he wrote me a letter saying if I didn't come back, he would kill himself. Fortunately, I had been to enough therapy to know that this was the ultimate manipulation so I didn't go back. He carried out his threat on Jan. 5, 2022. Now I am in probate with my step-kids. I helped raise them for more than half of their lives so it’s painful that our relationship has devolved into issues over money. What's worse is that my husband did as much as damage as he could before he killed himself to prevent me from receiving any financial support despite the fact that I was unemployed due to him making me sick.
My friends came to my rescue because my husband cut off what little access I had to any money. He even ended my heath care insurance without telling me so I missed the enrollment period to buy an individual plan with Cobra health insurance.
All of this may sound like a woe is me story. Yet, it’s the opposite.
My husband’s vile treatment forced me to get industrious after we separated so I was able to get by. Later, I received word from the company holding his retirement accounts. They said I was an 80% beneficiary of his accounts. California law saved me because he required my signature to remove me as a beneficiary. He still did some other financial gymnastics that still are causing problems but gone are the days that he can hurt me.
Now I am back in school to get certified to teach Pilates. It pays well enough; besides I enjoy it. I could teach middle and high school drama and filmmaking again to make more money. I have MA in Art Education, but I have absolutely zero interest in going back to teaching. Fifteen years was enough for me.
I share all of this to say to anyone out there having the same troubles as I once had to say. Right now, you are on a cliff. You can stay with devil you know. Things are guaranteed to get progressively worse because you wouldn’t be in such a dire situation if there was a chance for things to get better. So, I say to you take a chance and jump. A soft landing isn’t guaranteed but a once you are free, health, love, and peace become a possibility.
Had I stayed with my husband. I can say with certainty I would be dead now instead of writing this forever long comment.
LOL. Again, for all those people suffering, I say JUMP. Have faith in yourself that you will figure it out. The only other choice is stay on that cliff with your abuser who gets kicks by threatening to push you over the side. JUMP and take the chance you will be pushed away from the person who doesn’t care about you. You will have a better chance of landing on your feet if you control the trajectory.
Much love to Matthew and Stephen Hussey and everyone on his team. I listen to you every morning as part of my morning routine to remind myself that I am worthy of so much more than I have ever been given. Now it's my turn to live.
My world view has expanded because I no longer have to focus on a single person. I see my friends whenever I want and do the things, I have always dreamt of doing.
Best wishes to you all. I am sending peace, love, and light.
Sincerely,
Michelle
Much love to you! You'll do great!
P.S. you have a great writing style. You might want to think about writing? ;)
Thank you for sharing and much love to you, Michelle.
Thank you for sharing
You are a remarkable woman God will bless you 🙏
OMG I started crying reading your story😢 my story is similar in some ways. God bless you for making this very difficult decision. My self respect and believing in yourself because my childhood, ex-marriage and next long relationship were destroyed. I'm smiling outside but inside I'm screeming with pain and intimidation how I was treated. I'm depressed and don't want to get up from my bed sometimes and was thinking to end my life to not feel this pain again how I was treated in the past. My ex-husband destroyed my life coz I left him and there is nothing I can do legally. There is no amount of tablets, herbs I will take so they will help me to heal. I totally feel what you have been through🤗
You are amazing coach Matthew! You are the elder brother women need in their lives ! Thankyou ❤
Shivangi. Ur saying absolutely right.
I never want to be with someone who can give a silent treatment or manipulative tactic with ease. I want them to miss me as much as I miss them - and if they don't - that is not someone I want.
The person I want desires harmony to the same degree and is distressed by having to pull away. They want to resolve things and seek affection. We treat each other kindly.
Oh boy did I need to hear this especially today. I have definitely been seeking short-term appeasement rather than long-term peace. Thank you so much for putting it into perspective for me. I've been doing this my whole life, expecting things to change. Although it's hard to admit, I realize that is up to me to make those changes and to set those boundaries. Thank you so much you have no idea what listening to this has done for my mental health.
I wish I'd heard this 25 years ago! Only finally getting to this mentality now
This video and words are really helping me. I had the longest break up phase with a (probably) narcissist last year. Respect for me and my mentioned standards were not served but I didn't walk away and let all the horrible manipulative things happen. Him walking away and coming back whenever he wanted and I was just happy for him to come back like a dog that got mistreated so badly but still feels dependent to their owner.. The relationship developed into a power and dependency game... I wish I would have had the power to walk away and this is biggest goal now to show my borders now if anyone or the narcissist tries talking to me again. A part of me knows that I'm loveable and I want to be treated like it. I feel shocked how I let all of it happen.
i have been today in this exact same situation with my boyfriend, he ghosted me the entire day after we argued about something and i became obsessively anxious about it thinking it was the end and making moves out of anxiety , i regret it now but im gonna put my standards on the table from now on and be in power as well and if he's not okay with it then screw him so thank you so muuuuch
This video is absolute gold for people who have anxiety in relationships and tend towards people pleasing. Thank you!
I’m going through this exact thing right now. It’s not what I wanted to hear, but it is exactly what I needed to hear. Your content is so valuable
Love the “breaker switch” concept!
He's a gem of a person... I've watched numerous videos of psychologists here where the comment sections are flooded with how helpful they r but I've never ever find the peace u find in Matthew Hussey's video .. seriously he's a gem of a e person..better than any any anyyyyy psychologist out there
That's what I needed ❤️ to hear
This is so hard, know your worth, know your boundaries, be healthy people xoxo
Thank you Matthew. I really needed to hear this.
Matthew , you always knows exactly what to say to really set us on the right track. This was extremely helpful. Super grateful for you!
As always, your timing is impeccable! Thanks always!
I can't believe this video just popped up when I needed it the most! Thanks, Mathew! You are a life-saver.
This was so useful. Thank you ❤
Thank you so much for this video🙏🙏 can't credit you enough❤️
This message came at a very opportune time. Thank you Matthew for all that you do.
Wow. This is your most hard hitting video to date. Thank you.
I needed to hear that so much. This is my exact situation. Thank you for brighting my eyes❤
Wow!!!!! Matthew! Excellent videos ... I know this aspect of myself of speaking up about things that are bothering me when I’ve been in a relationship has been single handed to one of the most significant areas I’ve been actively working on. This video was such a nice unexpected godsend!
Thank you for this!! I really needed to hear this. I really suffered from anxiety in my situationship to keep the peace. Recently I had the strength to stand up for my standards and myself. He wasn’t able to step up. Now I’m trying to fill my cup up again, accept things for what they are, and move on.
So accurate, I wonder how he knows so much about this.... Thank you again 👏👏👏
perfect timing i needed this. I asked about the future and he shut down
This man and his videos have been a life safer for more than once. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
Thank you for posting this!
Matthew - you have no idea how many lives you are saving. Keep up the good work
This has been the most helpful video you have created..so far. Thank you!
Thank you for this, I really needed to hear this and stop blinking first and compromising on my boundaries.
Thanks Matthew ❤❤❤
Amazing ! You are literally amazing ! You are nailing everything in my life in your videos I’ve been watching you for years but this is the first time I’ve found anyone addressing this problem that I have . OMG this is amazing thanks you
This is such excellent advice. Thank you 😊
Matthew thank you for this video. I was about to make that mistake this week, but the individual avoided me instead. Stupid me felt bad for not trying hard enough to get the individual's attention and for waiting the right moment or opening to initiate a conversation. Later on I ended up feeling better that the interaction did not happen. Now with your video message and advice will stop me from doubting and minimize my self-respect. Your videos are a mind and heart saver. Thank you!!!
It always comes back to the fear of abandonment.... I'm slowly learning this.
Thanks for the poignant and enlightening content, as always!
Thank you, this has helped me a lot ❤
No idea how much I needed this !
That was exactly what I needed to hear. I can't thank you enough. I think this may be a daily watch for me for the next 7 days
Love this video. You nailed the dynamics on the head
I'm in a long distance relationship at the moment and the communication has faded in the past couple of weeks, we haven't seen each in a while so it's been starting to get to me. He has apologized for the lack in communication but it's one of two messages in a week. I keep thinking if I should just keep trying but like you said, Matthew. It's his move, so I think I will take a step back this week and see what he does 🌿
i did a long distance one never again too hard
One or two messages in a week? How can you even call it a relationship?
Means he just doesn’t gaf anymore. Cut him off.
@@libbynovotny9979 yes
Amazing! Exactly speaking to me right now
Thank you so much for this video, I needed this!
Exactly what I needed to hear today 😢 thank you MH
This was just what I was needing to ear before doing something that would mean bending over again and not keeping my standards! Thank you Matthew and Team you all have been the greatest team mates. Keep on because what you do and the way you do it is greatness and kindness together with powerfulness
Literally needed at this EXACT moment. Uncanny timing, my God😂. Thank you Matt❤️
Thank you for this video Matt, i badly needed it. God bless you
This truly is solid advice.
Yes, this is what is needed! Look at our patterns. This is what leads to meaningful change.
O my gosh Matthew is great. Thanks for this video
Thank you for this. It’s been a really bad pattern in my life. I’m exhausted. I’ve always been the peacemaker to avoid conflict or being “the problem”. I deserve better than I’ve gotten from several people. Loved this one, Matthew. Cheers. 💚🫵🏻
Needed this. Thank you
Love this so much! Tysm! I am seriously resonating with this subject on peace & anxiety ,AMMAZING!
This is my situation now exactly ! This couldn’t have come at a better moment! Thank you so much for giving me the added strength I needed to express what I need!!
Exactly what I went through in my last relationship. Thank you for this!
This! I’m so tired of feeling bad even when I know my feelings are valid. Thank you so much.
WoW! This speaks volumes… Thank you.
So good & perfect timing for me at the moment as I’m feeling anxiety over something I need to express. Thank you!
I like the breaker switch advice. 🙏 It definitely changes my mindset
This makes so much sense...thank you
This is just what i needed to hear at this very moment. Thank you for your content. It really helps me out!
Exactly my problem, never was able to put a finger on it until this video. Thanks so much Matthew!
Matthew your tips are pearls. thoughts that were previously only confused became clear and simple and that means peace and space for what is really necessary. Thanks ❤