Dating apps have obliterated my self esteem. It makes it hard to approach in public. I'm self aware that is the problem and it will get better, but I find myself self sabotaging. It's a viscous death spiral I'm stuck in. There's things I know I should be working on, going to the gym, my friend trying to teach me options trading, working on and improving my art, but after a long shift I'm stuck. I get back to a dark, empty Patrick bateman apartment, realize I'm alone and shut down. Stuck in a nihilistic brain fog. The self awareness is the worst part. I can't follow my own advice. If this was happening to a friend, I'd be the loudest saying whatever you'd no doubt say to me. Nothing about it is rational, but it has a grip on me.
Hey, sorry to hear you're going through this. Out of all of this, I'd prioritise going to the gym. It'll get you out the house, keep you fit and you'll be around men of a similar age who you'll be able to speak with and make new friends :) James
Thanks for making this video. The 6th point I find to be the most important right now. Dating 20 years ago we didn't have to deal witv with apps. Now social media and apps is what is used mostly. Mental health is important. And not a bad idea to come off the app and learn the old fashioned way of meeting someone. Ex, if you're into hiking then go hiking and enjoy. Also work on your communication skills.
Take the red pill, dating apps are terrible they so are, not only are the reviews terrible for these apps but read and watch what people say about them, its a flawed process. In reaction always comes opportunity & you'll find new human connection real world models prop up... its inevitable because online dating apps are so flawed and these new models are going to make a killing! Those who think its not about human connections are still taking the blue pill.
One quick statement. Dating apps are artificial. Wasn't meant how humans are meant to interact long term.
Dating apps have obliterated my self esteem. It makes it hard to approach in public. I'm self aware that is the problem and it will get better, but I find myself self sabotaging. It's a viscous death spiral I'm stuck in. There's things I know I should be working on, going to the gym, my friend trying to teach me options trading, working on and improving my art, but after a long shift I'm stuck. I get back to a dark, empty Patrick bateman apartment, realize I'm alone and shut down. Stuck in a nihilistic brain fog. The self awareness is the worst part. I can't follow my own advice. If this was happening to a friend, I'd be the loudest saying whatever you'd no doubt say to me. Nothing about it is rational, but it has a grip on me.
Hey, sorry to hear you're going through this.
Out of all of this, I'd prioritise going to the gym. It'll get you out the house, keep you fit and you'll be around men of a similar age who you'll be able to speak with and make new friends :)
James
Thanks for making this video. The 6th point I find to be the most important right now. Dating 20 years ago we didn't have to deal witv with apps. Now social media and apps is what is used mostly. Mental health is important. And not a bad idea to come off the app and learn the old fashioned way of meeting someone. Ex, if you're into hiking then go hiking and enjoy. Also work on your communication skills.
Nice clean clear highly underrated
Thanks, I appreciate it :) James
Take the red pill, dating apps are terrible they so are, not only are the reviews terrible for these apps but read and watch what people say about them, its a flawed process. In reaction always comes opportunity & you'll find new human connection real world models prop up... its inevitable because online dating apps are so flawed and these new models are going to make a killing! Those who think its not about human connections are still taking the blue pill.
good views!
I wanted to ask you out of curiosity, what is your height?
Hey! I'm 5'11 :)
James
@@daterhelp Thank you for the reply. I wanna ask you, did you put your height in your bio?