I love this guy he speaks the truth. Once you start listening to him you never stop. This is very very true ......make a decision that you are sure off don't let anyone even your family members make decisions for you. I have seen many youths regretting leaving there GF/BF coz of age and tribe they are now regretting. If you love someone don't look at age or tribe marry the persons personality respect love faithfulness and most important friendship and you will never regret.
Thanks a lot for the impactful message. It came at the right time for me because I am not going to let go of my soul mate because of age anymore. "We give age too much importance "
Yoo listening to this it gave me hope,I'm dating a guy who younger than me with 3yrs and I was planning to leave him thoughhe is very good , well mannered
U talking to me since I can relate to your topic Benjamin 😂 I am 38, looking like I am in my late twenties dating a 33 yr old male and the connection is wow, we are very compatible 😅 and on the same level
Sis how is it going? I have exactly same age difference with mine, married him only for him to wake up and told me to go that he doesn't want the marriage anymore that he always wanted to marry a younger woman only 3 months marriage
Hey Sis I am doing very good thanks, I am so sorry to hear that, i dont think the age gap was the problem, I know of people who have been married for years with the same age gap and are still together, maybe he didn't deserve you from the word go, take your time to heal and focus on yourself, tell yourself that you re worthy and someone even better will come along🤗 stay strong 😘
Wow Benjamin, you are so wise. May God continue to bless you with more wisdom. You touched on so many issues. I was especially when you spoke about parents who stifle their children's development and progress, meddle and try to control them or who use them to take care of them or siblings which is their responsibility because they are the parents. I learnt so much from this as a parent, what an eye opener. Keep going strong Benjamin.
I agree Zulu, never take criticism from someone who cannot advice you. Dr. Mike Murdock also said that one should never share a problem with someone who is not part of the solution. Find a party that can help you
True Zulu, a child shouldn't be forced to co-parent children they didn't sure.. Most children were forced to educate their many siblings because their parents didn't plan well. They cleared school and started paying fees with their 1st salary instead of developing themselves. 😞😞😢
Heee...hee... Benjamin have locked today😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣 "pecking chicken and the owners of the chickens started pecking too"😂😂😂😂have made my day.....parent is not a statement of character but statement of biology......Benjamin may you live long....your wisdom is really sharpening us your class....pour more we are ready to tap...God bless you much.
🤣Thank you for your funny and refreshing angle! You are so right; is such a trivial, minor little schtoopid thing like age be a hindrance to marry two who finally met and wanted each other after all the waiting and wondering, suffering and longing, trying and rejecting, being deceived and rejected?! Well no! 😊
My man is 19 years younger but I feel the Divine brought us together. We are great together but his mother has tried to poison our relationship. I pray God has this under control, I give it to Him.
Eeehh early 50s is too much biko. I thought he's between 36-38. He's always told Mwikali of Switch TV that they're in the same "whatsapp " group when it comes to age.
@@benjaminzuluglobal You speak with such wisdom and certainty I thought for sure you had the life experiences and age of someone at least 5 years older! Keep up the fantastic work!!!
Can I first start by saying Zulu you are the chosen one !!! that video that you made _ talking about if you are having a hard time dating you can start by your physical appearance and turning on the feminine charm I am here to confirm its true. Heh decided to put it to test and I can attest that, that last month I've had to buy a line specifically meant for dating because the attention is over the roof .....
He he he I also was not accustomed to getting so much attention as I go about my day and so today I was wondering what was happening with the men until I realized it was the Zulu dress code I was wearing...knee length fitting dress with modest heels...this stuff really works
Everything is okay don't let age be the reason why you don't get married to the person you love.No matter how old or young they are if you both love each other do what's right for the both of you. Stop worring about "some people"
I dont understand why in africa specially in nigeria that if a women is older than the guy, its a big issue for them..many countries or most other countries don't find it as big deal..as long as you love each other respect will always be there and marriage will work. Sadly, African or nigerian people are not that broad minded..
Black tax… sending money home for sibling school fees and medical issues. Yeah, African children are deputy parents @BenjaminZulu: thanks for holding a mirror up for us to identify the pathologies we hide behind (and doing it with lots of humor😂)
@@agnesndumia1713 we do rhyme but surely it's the hardest thing i have ever experienced,,,,,i don't see any problem but people will make u make other choices.......it's not a sin surely..but anyway acha nione
@@agnesndumia1713 and people think sis ladies ukiolewa ama.ukodate someone who is younger than u,ni sis tunawaendea for heavenly sake it's a big NO..u tell them.but they still insists.......earth is hard nkt
Woow...i wish i can send this to my ex...he dumped me coz i was 3 yrs older than him...how pathetic...imagine he even told me he had found a wife he was looking for in me...Jeeez...wat is wrong with people...
Thank you,,, i found this man 2years younger than me,, his huge a little fatty,, and i looks very younger than him as if am his youngest sister,,eeh this guy his younger i feel like am a baby to him but his 2years younger,,,, i have not yet accepted him,, kkk but he's really nice and matured,,, now i wonder i have dated men order than me but still behave childish ,,,i wonder Lord have mercy,,,,, please can i go for this gentle man,,,, his my mentor,,, he teaches me how to play a piano,,we met at church,,, but we started failing for each other,,, i have one child but he still call my child,,, wow my handsome dude,,his so good ,, he calls me cute 16,,, mami,,, i look small that these men are deceived 😅
once you start listening to Benjamin, you just can't stop
yap, You can say that again
Facts
Listening from America.
Good addiction I tell you ..thus man changed my life😅
Fact
I love this guy he speaks the truth. Once you start listening to him you never stop. This is very very true ......make a decision that you are sure off don't let anyone even your family members make decisions for you. I have seen many youths regretting leaving there GF/BF coz of age and tribe they are now regretting. If you love someone don't look at age or tribe marry the persons personality respect love faithfulness and most important friendship and you will never regret.
You are a rare gem, your wisdom is unmatched.
I’m currently being approached by a much younger man, he seems to be way more in line with my next chapter goals than the men my age.
Wish you all the best👏
I like how you presented that more in line with your next chapter in life..
How is it going honey?
My current status😊
Wisdom being spitted all over 👌💯
Great intro from Bramwel. Keep up the good work! 🔥🔥🔥
a younger man is pursuing me, i came to seek your advice and im glad i did :) thank you
You are nothing but the epitome of truth and honesty . You keep opening our eyes …………
I understand you sir...God has used you to prevent me from making the worst mistake of my life. Thank God for your life
Thanks a lot for the impactful message. It came at the right time for me because I am not going to let go of my soul mate because of age anymore. "We give age too much importance "
😊I have also decided this....
I can litsen to Benjamin the whole day without getting tired.may God bless you n add you more wisdom
Thanx so much 🙌for imparting wisdom in this generation.
Brilliant, brilliant Benjamin. Cheering us up here in USA. Excellent topic!!!!!!
Woooo...what a wonderful inspiring and encouraging message. I think I'm sharing this to someone. Thanks alot
Yoo listening to this it gave me hope,I'm dating a guy who younger than me with 3yrs and I was planning to leave him thoughhe is very good , well mannered
I have also have someone persuing me he is younger than me by 3 yrs he is so kind so loving so handsome 😛I have been telling him no buh naw 😂
U talking to me since I can relate to your topic Benjamin 😂 I am 38, looking like I am in my late twenties dating a 33 yr old male and the connection is wow, we are very compatible 😅 and on the same level
Sis how is it going? I have exactly same age difference with mine, married him only for him to wake up and told me to go that he doesn't want the marriage anymore that he always wanted to marry a younger woman only 3 months marriage
Hey Sis I am doing very good thanks, I am so sorry to hear that, i dont think the age gap was the problem, I know of people who have been married for years with the same age gap and are still together, maybe he didn't deserve you from the word go, take your time to heal and focus on yourself, tell yourself that you re worthy and someone even better will come along🤗 stay strong 😘
@@dineotsotetsi7385 awww thanks a lot I appreciate
@@therealone8628woow what was he expecting
Excellent topic. So adequately and truthfully addressed!
I have to say you have wisdom beyond your years!!!!God bless you
Yay if we consistent we shall be on100k by the end of 2021🙏🙏🙏 God bless u Benjamin for the knowledge that u pour out
Wisdom at its best...
Wow Benjamin, you are so wise. May God continue to bless you with more wisdom. You touched on so many issues. I was especially when you spoke about parents who stifle their children's development and progress, meddle and try to control them or who use them to take care of them or siblings which is their responsibility because they are the parents. I learnt so much from this as a parent, what an eye opener. Keep going strong Benjamin.
I needed to hear these... very powerful and effective to one who is ready to really tap wisdom to tackle life issues
Being a parent is not a statement of Character.
Being a parent is not a statement of character it is a statement of biology 😁😁
Some families are "Problem Problem Another Problem"
Love listening to Benjamin Zulu, l love your teachings
This man is too much . He is spitting the truth yet laughing . Words of wisdom . Being a parent is a matter of Biology and not character . 😊😊😊
This man also😂😂😂so funny but yet so wise
Haaa now those of us who have come out as good students 😩 this man can provoke
Thank u for watching but am sure on this channel there's other video that can be important to you 😂
Mr Benjamin,
Definitely on point.
Bless you, sir
True abroad it's NOT A BIG DEAL AT ALL....And it's NORMAL..😍But we were conditioned to NOT deal with younger men.
It's our African mentality too bad
My dear big brother you are gifted in all aspects one topic can explain everything thank you for building Africans and the world at large
I agree Zulu, never take criticism from someone who cannot advice you. Dr. Mike Murdock also said that one should never share a problem with someone who is not part of the solution. Find a party that can help you
Its so funny that every part of this discussion i can relate with.....ooh God give me the Grace🙌
Me too!
Thank you Benjamin Zulu/Bramwel so much love from arushaaaa🇹🇿 learning everyday
True Zulu, a child shouldn't be forced to co-parent children they didn't sure.. Most children were forced to educate their many siblings because their parents didn't plan well. They cleared school and started paying fees with their 1st salary instead of developing themselves. 😞😞😢
Heee...hee... Benjamin have locked today😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣 "pecking chicken and the owners of the chickens started pecking too"😂😂😂😂have made my day.....parent is not a statement of character but statement of biology......Benjamin may you live long....your wisdom is really sharpening us your class....pour more we are ready to tap...God bless you much.
Idk how I fell upon this but preach on the parents! Thank you
And my mom is white. Lol but there is a crab barrel mentality where I live. Every generation gets better in my fam. Hallelujah
He is flowing realistically you on point 👌
😄😁😆😅🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣ah🙌ihave laughed until am crying 😆😅🤣😂😂😂😂🤣🙌you win Benjamin am still there at peckering,Pickering, pecking, pecking 🤣😂😅😆🤣🤣🤣😂😂
It is easy to listen to this man. Wisdom❤
Good job for inducing wisdom in us
Thanks so much Benjamin for the advice 😊
God bless you Zulu 🙏🏿🙏
🤣Thank you for your funny and refreshing angle! You are so right; is such a trivial, minor little schtoopid thing like age be a hindrance to marry two who finally met and wanted each other after all the waiting and wondering, suffering and longing, trying and rejecting, being deceived and rejected?! Well no! 😊
Trying to cooperate with people who aren’t related to your destiny. 🔥
Once GOD put two people together that's it.
My man is 19 years younger but I feel the Divine brought us together. We are great together but his mother has tried to poison our relationship. I pray God has this under control, I give it to Him.
I unashamedly tap to this kind of wisdom in Jesus name.
This just hit my core,parents mistake 😕.
🤣🤣🤣🤣 But I can’t stop laughing 😆
Oh my God I wish I heard this 10 years ago🙏
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What!!! Zulu did you say you are only 34??? You are such so young. Honestly I have always thought you are in early 50s. Kudos to you. Love from Dallas
Haha thanks 😊 I'm already 35 though 😅
Eeehh early 50s is too much biko. I thought he's between 36-38. He's always told Mwikali of Switch TV that they're in the same "whatsapp " group when it comes to age.
@@benjaminzuluglobal You speak with such wisdom and certainty I thought for sure you had the life experiences and age of someone at least 5 years older! Keep up the fantastic work!!!
Thank you Benjamin for this.
I agree with you totally!!
This man is God send
Good advice, wisdom on top mixed with too much sarcastic laugher
Thank you for that advice
Many thanks, esteemed ❤
Fantastic talk
Can I first start by saying Zulu you are the chosen one !!! that video that you made _ talking about if you are having a hard time dating you can start by your physical appearance and turning on the feminine charm I am here to confirm its true. Heh decided to put it to test and I can attest that, that last month I've had to buy a line specifically meant for dating because the attention is over the roof .....
Thank you! 😊
He he he I also was not accustomed to getting so much attention as I go about my day and so today I was wondering what was happening with the men until I realized it was the Zulu dress code I was wearing...knee length fitting dress with modest heels...this stuff really works
Wow!!I fully understand what your saying.hopefully my generation will organize & plan there life so well, for the betterment of there Offsprings.🙏🙏
Cheers 🎉🎉🎉 all the way from 🇺🇸
Thank you for clarification. 🙏🏽
This has really encouraged me infant im coming from Google trying to understand why younger men are chasing me.....
thanks for the tips
Benjamin eyes opener
Iko sawa
What about a lady being 8 or 9 years older than the man? Is this still possible?
I'm 😂forced to comment here,😅this man is extremely funny but dishing out the real truth 🎉🎉🎉
Wow this is amazing!! 😊
Preach 👏👏Zulu!! Preach!! Some perents should stop using their children as retirement plan!!
How about an episode of dating a senior bachelor
Zulu is a resource of wisdom
Mr.Benjamin.kindly how can I get you,am in a situation that i need advice
Thank you!
This brother is full of wisdom, thank you!!!!!!!!
Am 28 years and my husband is 38 a different of 10years is it ok please
Everything is okay don't let age be the reason why you don't get married to the person you love.No matter how old or young they are if you both love each other do what's right for the both of you. Stop worring about "some people"
It's okay, it happened in my family admilst my parents and they are leaving fine till old age.
I'm being held hostage at home😂🤣🤣. It's funny, but very painful. This leads to depression at some point.
I dont understand why in africa specially in nigeria that if a women is older than the guy, its a big issue for them..many countries or most other countries don't find it as big deal..as long as you love each other respect will always be there and marriage will work.
Sadly, African or nigerian people are not that broad minded..
Yeah we need to change this African mentality....that for a man to be the head of the family he has to be older than the wife
@@SarahWanjiku-z7z very bad and a very sad belief for them... Hopefully that mentally change
😂😂😂😂 actually am here because my man is younger than me
point taken
Word!!!
What about 5 year gap
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂.....you guys have made my day
I totally agree 😊😂
No rules honey just gotta have that Benjamin button going on 😂
Wisdom at its best.always here to take notes.
Black tax… sending money home for sibling school fees and medical issues. Yeah, African children are deputy parents @BenjaminZulu: thanks for holding a mirror up for us to identify the pathologies we hide behind (and doing it with lots of humor😂)
What if there is a 7years different.
Chicken pecking😅😅 we are good at that
Praying that I never ever need to watch this video 🥴🤣
Is 5 year difference reasonable? Girl 43 man 38?
Yes!
This is so ok
Hii Iko sawa endelea mbele.
It's reasonable if you both understand each other and you can be submissive to him.
What about 8years younger than him?
@@agnesndumia1713 we do rhyme but surely it's the hardest thing i have ever experienced,,,,,i don't see any problem but people will make u make other choices.......it's not a sin surely..but anyway acha nione
@@agnesndumia1713 and people think sis ladies ukiolewa ama.ukodate someone who is younger than u,ni sis tunawaendea for heavenly sake it's a big NO..u tell them.but they still insists.......earth is hard nkt
As long as you comfortable with one another..go for it...LOVE IS LOVE!
Hi Benjamin how can I reach u need more advice plz thanks. Am really having stress
This man called Zulu and his friend😂😂
Woow...i wish i can send this to my ex...he dumped me coz i was 3 yrs older than him...how pathetic...imagine he even told me he had found a wife he was looking for in me...Jeeez...wat is wrong with people...
You're better my dear, I can give you free advice you meant not to be together.
Oh my God!!! You are lucky he left you.
Hope you find a kinder man of your dream......
Eish hayaaaa
Thank you,,, i found this man 2years younger than me,, his huge a little fatty,, and i looks very younger than him as if am his youngest sister,,eeh this guy his younger i feel like am a baby to him but his 2years younger,,,, i have not yet accepted him,, kkk but he's really nice and matured,,, now i wonder i have dated men order than me but still behave childish ,,,i wonder Lord have mercy,,,,, please can i go for this gentle man,,,, his my mentor,,, he teaches me how to play a piano,,we met at church,,, but we started failing for each other,,, i have one child but he still call my child,,, wow my handsome dude,,his so good ,, he calls me cute 16,,, mami,,, i look small that these men are deceived 😅
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Co-parenting with parents....
Because of this belief I lost mine