The Sociology of Gossip: Elaine Lui at TEDxVancouver

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  • Lainey isn't looking to impress anyone, especially celebrities. The ETALK Reporter and scribe of the immensely popular celebrity gossip blog, LaineyGossip.com, does what she does for one reason -- to provide a gossip education to the Canadian public. The Toronto-born, self-proclaimed gossip maven got into the gossip game in a very roundabout way. What started as an email to two friends grew to a website with active followers from around the world. More than one million people now read LaineyGossip.com every month, making it a leading international celebrity news source. Elaine's years of experience in the media, celebrity entertainment and blogging space have helped her shape a fascinating TED talk about gossip and it's critical place within modern pop culture.
    In the spirit of ideas worth spreading, TEDx is a program of local, self-organized events that bring people together to share a TED-like experience. At a TEDx event, TEDTalks video and live speakers combine to spark deep discussion and connection in a small group. These local, self-organized events are branded TEDx, where x = independently organized TED event. The TED Conference provides general guidance for the TEDx program, but individual TEDx events are self-organized.* (*Subject to certain rules and regulations)
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  • @emmali3014
    @emmali3014 9 ปีที่แล้ว +134

    Have to watch to the end.She is not telling us to gossip. She is telling us to think.

    • @PostedForYou
      @PostedForYou 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      She literally said at the end: "great go and gossip. You are carrying on a human tradition
      Go forth and gossip".
      At the end of the day, gossip is based in insecurity and personal character weakness

    • @dbrad8143
      @dbrad8143 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I think you are mistaken .. She is trying to normalize a degrading act by white washing it with history and a scientific spin... just because we've always done it doesn't make it right... It destroys the talebearer the listener and the victim..
      .The words of a gossip are like choice morsels;
      they go down to the inmost parts. prov 26:22
      This lady is sadly deluded .. literally prophecying destruction on herself 'Go forth and gossip'

  • @MsSera21
    @MsSera21 10 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    I love that any criticism of her talk just goes to reinforce her point. Call her talk rubbish, specious, or pointless and that is a comment on your own belief about what you find culturally, economically or intellectually valuable.

    • @orangeadventure975
      @orangeadventure975 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Art, music, film, history, philosophy, science. That's what my friends talk about and they are objectively more culturally, economically and intellectually valuable than gossip. This is true!
      "Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, weak minds discuss people"

  • @meganbright94
    @meganbright94 8 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    I believe that the simplest way to prevent "drama" is to not talk about someone behind their back, unless we are saying something kind. Gossip breeds heartache. But as Lainey shows, it also writes history. Very interesting...

    •  2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I like the idea it writes history, but is it always the truth?

    • @sherryinfinity_hairstylist4129
      @sherryinfinity_hairstylist4129 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      One situation has many truths depending on who you ask, as history has proven.

  • @NotANoob27x7
    @NotANoob27x7 10 ปีที่แล้ว +160

    Mindblowing. It's amazing how she transformed from a stereotype of a gossip-loving silly girl to a scientist in minutes.

    • @meandmetoo8436
      @meandmetoo8436 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      There is nothing scientific about this presentation.

    • @ashotofwhiskey219
      @ashotofwhiskey219 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      "Scientific." XD

  • @andy4an
    @andy4an 10 ปีที่แล้ว +121

    wow, this is way deeper than the title suggested.
    great presentation, and great questions to us.

    • @Gyork_
      @Gyork_ 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      This only shows you can make an argument about anything with the correct amount of bullshit.

  • @EvilPanda187
    @EvilPanda187 10 ปีที่แล้ว +154

    I just want to say that all the comments are proving her point. They are essentially gossip on her presentation, and thus reflect our social culture, moral values, beliefs, social behavior, (to the extent of an internet comment), ethics, etc. Thank you, because I think that makes her expert point of view even more astute.

    • @meandmetoo8436
      @meandmetoo8436 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Discussing the presentation and the ideas conveyed is not gossiping.
      Gossiping would be using one of her personnal traits or past action as an argument of the conversation.

    • @franticranter
      @franticranter ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Commenting on what someone is arguing is not gossip. That's just making a point about what one believes. Me commenting about what you wrote is not gossip, because I am not commenting on your private life

    • @ewest9138
      @ewest9138 ปีที่แล้ว

      It’s a presentation.

    • @user-yt6cy3gf8k
      @user-yt6cy3gf8k 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yes it is a presentation. Gossiping entails spreading private information and defamation. It’s toxic and unhealthy. It makes people feel unsafe, bullied and and ostracized. There’s a big difference between documentation and gossip.

  • @Angelica-gm6bj
    @Angelica-gm6bj 8 ปีที่แล้ว +131

    I think the entire comment section missed the point of what she was trying to say

  • @asia742
    @asia742 8 ปีที่แล้ว +126

    Nowhere in the talk did she claim that gossip was "good" or "bad". She simply pointed out its great potential to raise questions about our society, and therefore gossip can be seen as something less trivial and more academic. That's literally it. If you missed that you need to watch it again.

  • @stevenhageman8255
    @stevenhageman8255 8 ปีที่แล้ว +142

    I watched this last year. This video changed the way i look at all celebrities, and quite frankly- There's a lot to be said about Trump being so popular.

  • @MxEverybody
    @MxEverybody 9 ปีที่แล้ว +57

    I did not expect this to be this interesting. I'm so glad I watched it.

    • @rachelsweets
      @rachelsweets 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      IWill SingWithYou I agree

  • @Yellowtable101
    @Yellowtable101 9 ปีที่แล้ว +78

    If you actually read her website you would know she is incredibly intelligent and well read. Not only that, the way she dissects stories is brillliant. She doesnt usually post trashy foder or made up stories. Its not just shit she spews out This IS a conversation about business marketing sociology and pop culture.

    • @ctwolf
      @ctwolf 9 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      StrawberryBigMac but this presentation, indeed, the entire perspective that gossip has any meaningfully positive value to society, is rubbish.

    • @annnee6409
      @annnee6409 9 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      christiaan kruger I think it has positive and negative values. The negatives are obvious enough; but it's true gossip, as she explained, informs society what is acceptable and what isn't, what is highly valued and isn't, expected and not (etc; not to mentions reveals).

    • @ctwolf
      @ctwolf 9 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Annee Chang hmm... I think that can be done more effectively without gossip, but to each their own!

  • @NimTheHuman
    @NimTheHuman 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Excellent TED talk! Elaine has a very interesting view on gossip.
    She basically claims that gossip is anthropology, and that it helps us understand the moral views of a society.
    She encourages gossip because when you gossip, you indirectly communicate your moral views.
    The only other time I've witnesses someone vouch for gossip so rationally was in the Happiness Hypothesis by Jonathan Haidt.
    Regardless, I'm not sure if I see a lot of utility in gossip (esp., celebrity gossip).
    Some of her key points:
    - She gossips about celebrities for a living.
    - The celebrity ecosystem consists of:
    - Celebrities (e.g., Tom)
    - Celebrities' Teams (i.e., publicists, make-up artists, agents, etc.)
    - Media & Paparazzi
    - Fans (e.g., us)
    - Gossip is historical.
    - Gossip can be found in ancient Egyptian hieroglyphs.
    - Gossip is a reflection of popular mores and ethics of the time they're from.
    - Gossip allows us to set a standard of conduct.
    - Gossip can help us explore the relationship between infidelity and gender.
    - When Kristen Stewart cheated, she was penalized.
    - When Ashton Kutcher cheated, he was rewarded.
    - Celebrity mothers are celebrated.
    - This is a reflection of roles (i.e., motherhood) society expects women to take on.
    - 3 years after Chris Brown assaulted Rihanna, Chris Brown went on to winning a Grammy and got back with Rihanna.
    - This says something about how we (society) view violence towards women.
    - Gossip about John Travolta can help us understand popular views on the correlation between homosexuality and masculinity.

  • @HouphouetKonan
    @HouphouetKonan 10 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    they loved talking shit so much they carved it in stone......OH MY GOD

  • @hannahkirschman4107
    @hannahkirschman4107 10 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I was very skeptic at first, but she got me by the end. Very impressed

  • @cheerschar9635
    @cheerschar9635 8 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    As a Sociology graduate, who has been feeling slightly beaten down from job hunting, the talk truly inspired me and reignited my passion for the discipline. Thank you!

  • @myriahquintela7100
    @myriahquintela7100 10 ปีที่แล้ว +56

    What a compelling speaker!! This video totally surpassed my expectations. I'm moved!

  • @Psy0psAgent
    @Psy0psAgent 8 ปีที่แล้ว +154

    Small minds discuss people, mediocre minds discuss events and great minds discuss ideas.

    • @zerolimits7250
      @zerolimits7250 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Yea yea everyone loves gossip

    • @rainnovember913
      @rainnovember913 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@zerolimits7250 no ot eveyone

    • @annielwhite
      @annielwhite 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Psy0psAgent I hate gossip

    • @PeteS_1994
      @PeteS_1994 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      I don’t think it’s that simple everyone gossips in one form or another. I think certain gossip is toxic though. But overall it’s human nature we are always going to talk about people.

    • @zinniahardy8887
      @zinniahardy8887 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I love this comment

  • @KatiCleo
    @KatiCleo 7 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I've always felt great contempt for people who gossip and for the reasoning behind gossip in general, but as it turns out, even if we are not talking about celebrity gossip, in the end, everyone does it to an extent, and it mirrors our values and expectations out of our social environment. I have never thought of it like this and quite honestly there is all kinds of gossip out there, and some are of a plain disgusting kind, but the way it intercepts our lives says a lot about the people in them.
    very insightful talk. I do get why some people misinterpreted her words but I was enlightened.

  • @LadyHeathersLair
    @LadyHeathersLair 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I am not a reader of her website. But after listening to her, I have developed a newfound respect for her. Great speaker, and very informative.

  • @MihoubiAssala
    @MihoubiAssala 9 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    That's actually was one of the smartest, most interesting TED Talks I have ever watched!
    How Gossip can be such a powerful tool in the evolution of social norms, that was very smart to talk about it!

  • @yakampriscille4793
    @yakampriscille4793 7 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    wow!!!!! seriously, my vision of gossip has changed. this woman is soo inspiring. i like the way she succedeed in convincing me and with such charisma to view things differently!!
    am amazed, this is one of my best tedx videos.

  • @sarahsunsmashable
    @sarahsunsmashable 10 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    I don't see how the "gossip is bad" comments on this video are of any relevance at all.
    The ethics behind gossip aren't what she is talking about, nor did she pose any strict moral statements in her speech.
    She is simply trying to convey the fact that people collectively pour their thoughts, standards, and expectations of others into a giant pool in the media of celebrity gossip. This pool of thought is the object of her study. Thus, "the media", which is so often blamed for all sorts of things in society, can't really be criticised; the media is merely a reflection of our collective self. When people make large, defiant statements/speeches about society (and the media) they may receive large backing from their listeners, but none of them realise that they are simply criticising themselves.

  • @writedrunkeditsober
    @writedrunkeditsober 10 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    her message is so much deeper than the title! great video. love lainey!!

  • @parishaines1993
    @parishaines1993 10 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Wasn't sure about it at first, but she totally shocked me toward the end, very insightful. loved it

  • @laurenspivack1903
    @laurenspivack1903 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Gossip is wrong on so many levels. I am sorry to those who I have hurt through gossip and other ways

  • @oh_adhi
    @oh_adhi 10 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    OMG! This should have been my thesis topic for my paper. So Good.

  • @BloomingElephants
    @BloomingElephants 8 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I've been trying to explain the BBQ pork comment to my friends for years and this is the first time I've heard someone else reference it hahaha this made my day

    • @joshuaoppong1447
      @joshuaoppong1447 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      +Julia Ho What's the joke?

    • @BloomingElephants
      @BloomingElephants 8 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      +Joshua Oppong it's a saying in Chinese that parents say to scold you, which roughly translates to, "It would've been better to have given birth to BBQ pork instead of you because at least I could've eaten that."

    • @joshuaoppong1447
      @joshuaoppong1447 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      +Julia Ho Oh, thanks for explaining

    • @corsicanlulu
      @corsicanlulu 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      +Julia Ho thats a horrid joke

  • @lade5656
    @lade5656 10 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    WHEN SHE PULLED UP THAT RIHANNA PICTURE I WAS LIKE OH SHIT

  • @damiend.7392
    @damiend.7392 9 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Incredibly well executed. Excellenct oration and quality meditation, profound elucidation, truly conscious raising.

  • @paulthetallsigma1552
    @paulthetallsigma1552 9 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    gossips have been around since the beginning! my favourite period would be that of the bard... and a story is good providing that it is true.

  • @nievediaz6102
    @nievediaz6102 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is not about gossiping guys, This is about dissecting human behavior in the mass media. The way celebrities behave is a reflection of human behavior and sets standards for many people that are influenced by it. This is a brilliant Tedtalk, and you will only get it if you think outside the box.

  • @yujinoh1
    @yujinoh1 10 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Great Talk! Very interesting insights about how gossip truly tells us about the world we live in.

  • @mamalovesthebeach437
    @mamalovesthebeach437 10 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    If celebrity gossip is a mirror of our society's values we're in big, big, trouble . . .

  • @tonimarsha-antoine4028
    @tonimarsha-antoine4028 9 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I feel that this is an unlikely topic, that she probably was expecting backlash from. Her doing this topic as a positive spin off of what most people think about it. No matter you have gotten from this video Ms. Elaine has given you a new prospective of something new. I thought that was the basis of TED talks to give new point of views, and not entirely change your view, but to enhance to seeing it from both sides. I think that she completely nailed this. One of the most interesting Ted talks ever.

  • @javierjuarez8793
    @javierjuarez8793 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I will miss my friendship with my family. I thank you God for such a blessing. I am priveledged to known them. Proud to have you as a father and hope my life makes a difference when it comes to gossip. I've put up with it my whole life. I love you all.

  • @edlyndiaz6172
    @edlyndiaz6172 10 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This speech altered my views about the concept of gossip. I never before thought about what actually goes behind the study of gossip and in how it truly defines the modern society. While I don't agree entirety about how celebrities are in a way bullied and harassed in the public eye I agree with how it helps create history of how we all function as people within our reactions and responses.Overall good entertaining speech.

  • @MsBlushing24
    @MsBlushing24 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    "Gossip is bad."
    Gossip is simply talking about other people. How we JUDGE those people is on us. Gossip isn't bad. How we view each piece of gossip defines character, and as this woman points out, it defines a society. Very interesting piece. I think this may be one of my favorites.

    • @dimatadore
      @dimatadore 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      +MsBlushing24 why do you care what other people are doing.

    • @purplenurps
      @purplenurps 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      +MsBlushing24 It was pretenious.
      She's a homophobic hypocrite

    • @CeritanyaMama
      @CeritanyaMama 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      MsBlushing24 trueee

  • @jasonantigua6825
    @jasonantigua6825 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Gossip played a vital role in our development as human beings! It would have be so important:

  • @trevormontoya4554
    @trevormontoya4554 8 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    I still think gossip deserves its bad reputation. While someone intelligent may take the time to use it as data and draw conclusions from it, the vast majority of people are not

    • @timeisgoingby
      @timeisgoingby 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      +Trevor Montoya well then that points to the vast majority of people who aren't, doesn't it?

    • @trevormontoya4554
      @trevormontoya4554 8 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      +timeisgoingby I'm not quite following what you are trying to say

    • @TheScrewdriver09
      @TheScrewdriver09 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Read sapiens , empires are built on gossip apparently

  • @ericsavellano
    @ericsavellano 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    watched the whole thing. didn't expect gossip could go beyond reflecting anthropology & sociology in understanding humans in our context - both historically & academically. Interesting and compelling. Good talk.

  • @jonathantieken
    @jonathantieken 10 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Insightful. Profound. And almost missed the train from "Great Speech Station". There were so many excellent points brought up in this talk that would have been utterly wasted without the very last thought of ascribing to gossip the value of an anthropological perspective. Not taking the time to think about what such stories say about "who we are and where we're going" is like the man who has a match that never strikes it to flame. Knowledge is nothing unless applied.

  • @user-ll8mh3rh1x
    @user-ll8mh3rh1x 8 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    Most of the comment section is gossiping about how gossip is evil and they don't even realize it.

    • @purplenurps
      @purplenurps 7 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      You don't know what gossip means

    • @user-ll8mh3rh1x
      @user-ll8mh3rh1x 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      maybe you don't.

    • @purplenurps
      @purplenurps 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      D81
      i do

    • @user-ll8mh3rh1x
      @user-ll8mh3rh1x 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      ^.^

    • @intp5861
      @intp5861 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      You should read the definition of what gossip actually is. Gossip is mainly discussing about others, not ideas of a subject.

  • @tianacooper7221
    @tianacooper7221 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This was reeeeally boring up until about 8:30, and then it got real and heavy and incredibly worthwhile. Amazing talk! Well done.

  • @KerinnLee
    @KerinnLee 10 ปีที่แล้ว

    way more insightful than I thought this was going to be
    one of my favourite TED talks

  • @Nixillustrations
    @Nixillustrations 11 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This is something I've never heard before and it is extremely insightful. I would never have thought of gossip as academic until I watched this video. What a very interesting look on it.

  • @ruinima3563
    @ruinima3563 10 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I instantly wanted to post on here that this was the biggest load of crap ever spoken but then I realized that I would be doing exactly what she speaking about for the last 19 mins. Am I and the other 400 people who commented negatively/positively a reflection of what our society believes about gossip? This woman is a genius!

  • @JulieSaysHi
    @JulieSaysHi 10 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Great talk! Makes you think more deeply on things we perceive lightly on the surface. I definitely love her linkage to how you 'gossip' inevitably reflects your own beliefs and values.

    • @cooldude5699
      @cooldude5699 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi, you seem like an interesting person. Are you single?

  • @sadikmeah4057
    @sadikmeah4057 7 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    I hate people who gossip.
    I just like typing all kinds of shit on youtube instead and responding to others....surely that's different!

    • @jacquelinewoo1900
      @jacquelinewoo1900 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      ever wonder why you simply like typing all kinds of shit on a very social format?

  • @LovelyRequiem999
    @LovelyRequiem999 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is amazing, i love this. This is what should be taught, critical thinking when it comes to social issues like these.

  • @prittawibisono891
    @prittawibisono891 10 ปีที่แล้ว

    I enjoyed this talk. It's a nice, current take on so many aspects in Sociology. Just because it's related to gossip doesn't mean it doesn't have any substance.

  • @chrissy6486
    @chrissy6486 10 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Great talk! I enjoyed every minute of it! :)

  • @elizabethmacdonald96
    @elizabethmacdonald96 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Lainey is absolutely brilliant.

  • @AdrianaGirdler
    @AdrianaGirdler 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This was so interesting. Love the part where you described it as a system and dove deep into how it all works. Gossip is truly harmful and it's important to know how to deal with it. Thanks for sharing - cheers!

  • @mulanlee1000
    @mulanlee1000 9 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love Lainey! I love her at CTV's The Social! Gossip or not , she always has a brilliant point of view!

  • @trinigirl35
    @trinigirl35 11 ปีที่แล้ว

    Brilliant! You couldn't have explained why i love gossip any better... THANK YOU!

  • @susanallen6127
    @susanallen6127 11 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I loved her talk. I think anthropology is a very interesting science because it tells us about ourselves; where we came from, where we are now and a good idea or ideas as to where we'll go in the future. I really appreciated and enjoyed her remarks.

  • @3yearshardcore1
    @3yearshardcore1 10 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Through gossip, the dignity of people who hold the celebrity status that we bestow upon is sacrificed so we can attempt to understand what is morally permissible .

  • @aamnakhan9463
    @aamnakhan9463 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    It’s a pleasure to listen to her ‘gossiping’

  • @IdaLearsy
    @IdaLearsy 10 ปีที่แล้ว

    This was really fun and informative. She is so smart and charming. Thumbs up.

  • @leoartalejo
    @leoartalejo 11 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great talk. Amazing delivery without notes. "Gossip is the play by play of our social evolution".

  • @jacquelinewoo1900
    @jacquelinewoo1900 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    tx for a great talk. pointed and specific with a clear voice.

  • @god-son-love
    @god-son-love 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is so entertaining yet insightful! Didn't expect this from TED.

  • @2011Oly
    @2011Oly 9 ปีที่แล้ว +79

    I'm only here because of my Sociology final

    • @TheLoneCone
      @TheLoneCone 9 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I feel you brother

    • @aleelanp
      @aleelanp 9 ปีที่แล้ว

      Preach it.

    • @2011Oly
      @2011Oly 9 ปีที่แล้ว

      It's tomorrow guys, wish me luck haha

    • @TheLoneCone
      @TheLoneCone 9 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I'm assuming you're in the same class as me. 2pm? Gym? Good luck mate.

    • @2011Oly
      @2011Oly 9 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yeah buddy

  • @samriddhichaturvedi9509
    @samriddhichaturvedi9509 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This ted talk is severely underrated🤯

  • @keveenkorakor
    @keveenkorakor 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Gosh did this video make me smile...thank you... you're awesome! love love love. Baba Bear

  • @sugartem1
    @sugartem1 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Smart lady and a smart approach on the subject I had to watch it twice to get the message 👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼

  • @MsKbizz
    @MsKbizz 11 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I read her blog everyday. She's a hilarious writer, and gives great insights into celebrity hierarchy.

  • @lifeworkshopca
    @lifeworkshopca ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Amazing speaker, loved it.
    Value system of a society decides who goes on top and be famous. Famous and powerful does not have to be smart, has to to be like by the society.
    In another word uneducated society, makes uneducated people famous and powerful.
    Change happens better by educating the society, not educating the famous and powerful.

  • @jellyrcw12
    @jellyrcw12 11 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This actually got very interesting! I never thought it from a societal point of view. But it is true, what we say about others says the most about ourselves. Great TED talk!

  • @barbwilburn1363
    @barbwilburn1363 10 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    "So you see, those old Egyptians loved talking shit too. They loved talking shit so much, that they went and carved it in stone." lmao

  • @sisteradmn
    @sisteradmn 9 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This helps me be a bit more tolerant of business networking conversations that take a turn towards gossip. At that point, I usually think like Eleanor Roosevelt, "Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people."
    Well, when you are in a conversation with someone that you don't know and your real goal for being there at all is to build relationships and build your business, the place you may have to start is "small". Besides networking events can be seriously awkward with more sellers than buyers in attendance. However, a "small", authentic conversation where you really connect with someone can be like Mark 4, "a mustard seed which is smaller than all the seeds, but grows larger than all the garden plants and forms large branches"
    Elaine Lui @ TEDx Talks says that "Gossip allows the communication of behavioral code to others. Gossip cannot be consumed without bias. Gossip is a reflection of popular morals and ethics. When gossip is filtered through the prism of [personal] experience, what comes out is a definitive declaration of what we believe, what we expect, what we reject and how we process. Gossip allow us to communicate a behavioral code to others and set a standard of conduct."
    While I can't promise this every time, I at least have an on ramp to assign some value to gossip and the insight it provide to see if there is a good moral and ethical fit between you and a person that you would like to buy from or sell to.

  • @DJFlozone
    @DJFlozone 11 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I have been waiting for this for months!! Thank you Ted!!!

  • @aoihana1042
    @aoihana1042 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Very insightful, eye-opening topic

  • @Pinguru
    @Pinguru 9 ปีที่แล้ว

    This was great! She's a fantastic speaker.

  • @realsociology
    @realsociology 8 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    Excellent talk - the title doesn't do it justice - Should be the disturbing truth about what celebrity gossip tells us about misogyny, sexual violence and homophobia

    • @purplenurps
      @purplenurps 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Or how gossip sites promote those things

    • @allisongreager5661
      @allisongreager5661 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      +purplenurps No, they are smart enough to take advantage of our already existing albeit unconscious preference for stereotypical gender roles for men and women in order to make a buck and keep celebrities famous. I don't hate the gossipers, I hate our society for allowing them to take advantage of us.

    • @purplenurps
      @purplenurps 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      Allison Greager
      So why not get mad at the websites taking advantage then? You sound dumb

  • @deniseflattery
    @deniseflattery 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    These talks are so informative

  • @FisshyJoyce
    @FisshyJoyce 10 ปีที่แล้ว

    Yes, brilliant speaking n its very true about life.....

  • @nboris31
    @nboris31 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Simply...BRILLIANT!

  • @ccarolynchaos
    @ccarolynchaos 9 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    i think she's missing the point that it's not necessarily good to create a society. Ex. If they gossiped about her job afterwards, ("that bitch does THAT for a living?") then they are encouraging/growing a negative society view towards studying sociology. In short, gossip is the creation of flaws in society. Yeah, it says what we accept. But that's not a good thing. - Because it's only talking about what we DON'T accept, and a good society should accept everyone. If I were to say "that's so cool that she does THAT for a living" then it's not called gossip, but it's still revealing what society thinks

    • @ctwolf
      @ctwolf 9 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      ccarolynchaos yus! REASON! :D

    • @superkidx6964
      @superkidx6964 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Medical Sociology is revealing. We breed for traits...in a limited pool.

  • @karenwapinski4822
    @karenwapinski4822 9 ปีที่แล้ว

    this went places I was not expecting. excellent talk

  • @deborahsavoie
    @deborahsavoie 9 ปีที่แล้ว

    Go girl! crusade for you. GO for it. You CARE!

  • @textred13
    @textred13 8 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    this was jaw dropping.

  • @shericewillis1006
    @shericewillis1006 9 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I love herrrrr!

  • @glennsak
    @glennsak 11 ปีที่แล้ว

    This was wonderful. Thank you Lainey.

  • @michael775
    @michael775 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    wowww, such a great speech and examples, talented, actually very talented

  • @Kyrmana
    @Kyrmana 10 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Love her expressions

  • @TourAbsurd
    @TourAbsurd 10 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Sorry, word nerd and Egyptian archaeology enthusiast here. It's "hieroglyphs" or "hieroglyphic [writing/characters/etc.]". Fingernails on a blackboard...

  • @cadencemoorhouse6563
    @cadencemoorhouse6563 11 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    That was very insightful. I never thought about celeb gossip from that perspective.

  • @anuka5336
    @anuka5336 10 ปีที่แล้ว

    this is very refreshing!

  • @sharonstyle
    @sharonstyle 10 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I'm having a hard time with the word idea "gossip." Can't the same argument be made about media? Our tv show scripts, movie plots, music lyrics are essential the bigger players of this ecosystem she speaks of. What we watch, what we obsess over, what is entertaining to then becomes the "gossip." I think gossip is too narrow and specific of a social activity to give it that much credit. But, I see their point and enjoyed the conversation she started.

  • @juangordillo359
    @juangordillo359 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    THANK YOU!!!

  • @__-to3hq
    @__-to3hq 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    ty for your work in social behavior, talking about substituting the truth with a falsehood was hard to detect

  • @andy4an
    @andy4an 10 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    Incredibly, she doesn't address how hurtful gossip is. I appreciate the fresh look at it, but it seems incomplete.

    • @parishaines1993
      @parishaines1993 10 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      Hey ultimate point was to show how the way we look at celebrities is often the way we look at each other, and what is considered "news" in the gossip world is a good reflection of where societies morals stand as of today.

    • @nataliap2705
      @nataliap2705 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      Actually she did. But she did it in a very sly manner. The reason for not saying it outright is because it would sound trite, frivolous, and these elements would make the ideas presented here sound likewise. She actually said it at the end. More or less she says, "gossiping reveals WHO WE REALLY are and deserves academic study. So go ahead, GOSSP". Gossip IS negative, it is hurtful, but her talk demonstrated that it will never go away. It wouldn't be gossip if it wasn't hurtful because otherwise we wouldn't keep it within a certain circle, celebrities have it hard as the gossip about them doesn't remain contained within a pair of group of people. She approached this from an academic standpoint and the depth of her talk matched her ending lines where she almost challenges us to gossip (and not be aware that we are revealing more about ourselves than about the victim of the gossiping).

  • @celesteannlopezcastillo2058
    @celesteannlopezcastillo2058 10 ปีที่แล้ว

    very insightful talk on a very common form of communication among humans. kudos!

  • @claire1909
    @claire1909 10 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I don't think she conveys it quite clearly at the end, but I think her point is that we have to be more critical about what we read and hear in the media, and what we say about celebrities and whatnot. Everything in the media communicates a social message and expectation, so we have to be mindful about what we receive from this media, and what we say in response to this media.

  • @sherryinfinity_hairstylist4129
    @sherryinfinity_hairstylist4129 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I’ve never understood the “bad” of gossip as everyone shares situations with there own opinion. Taking someone’s opinion of someone and applying it without your own research is the problem.

  • @Darrklandz
    @Darrklandz 10 ปีที่แล้ว

    Simply Brilliant.... She definitely has the glasses [They Live!] :D

  • @SaltWataDawta_
    @SaltWataDawta_ 10 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love it!!

  • @joannanewsomscat
    @joannanewsomscat 10 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    my new favorite ted talk

  • @tigerzZxX
    @tigerzZxX 11 ปีที่แล้ว

    She is not saying that the mens' actions are the cause of their subsequent success.She is merely making a point on how the two are correlatable. A very valid argument,in my opinion,as she offers abundant examples to support it.She explains that we can observe human behaviour and judge it with regard to sociology,psychology and anthropology.Evidently,"gossip" is the critique on our society.And the FACT that the existence of gender roles inhibits equality between the sexes is irrefutable.