Hi Jersey...My Thai girlfriend is from Udon Thani..But she works in Bangkok in the government hospital...I live in Australia...In Sydney...We communicate thou emails but I hope to meet her soon...What should I do to help bond our relationship between our cultures...,?.
. Be Patient You come from a culture that is more aggressive, more individualistic, and more confrontational. The idea of moving slowly and patiently as you develop a relationship might be strange to you. You’ll want to get physical quickly - holding her hand or kissing her goodnight - or even hopping into bed - to demonstrate your affection for her. Know this: she will find that quickness extremely uncomfortable and embarrassing, and is likely to pull away or shrink from your affection, no matter how much she likes you. Being Thai, she is inherently shy, modest, reserved, and concerned about her reputation - and she expects you to respect that about her. 2. Communicate gently. Since Thai people value harmony and peace in relationships, it’s rare that we express our feelings, opinions, or desires directly. Your Thai girlfriend will most likely not express these things as openly as would a Western woman. She will smile, nod, and agree, rather than risk disharmony by speaking up for herself. She might drop hints, or talk around a subject rather than face it head on. You, as a Westerner, might think she is being less than honest with you when she does that. If you truly want her to speak her mind, tell you what she wants or what she thinks, you must make it safe for her to do it. Raising your voice, making light of or disagreeing with her opinions, or embarrassing her when she speaks up will only make her withdraw and become more indirect. 3. Understand her needs. For the rest of her life, your Thai woman will be committed to her family. Whether you live in Thailand together, or move to your home country, they’ll never be out of her mind or out of her heart. You must understand she’ll always feel the pull toward taking care of her parents, giving gifts to her siblings, and helping her extended family. You might feel that she’s constantly asking you for money or gifts for her family - that you’re just their ATM. You might grow resentful and suspicious that you’re being taken advantage of - that it’s not you she loves, but your money. If you’re involved in a relationship with a Thai woman of good family and reputation, you need to expect that you’ll be considered a provider not only for her, but for her family as well. It’s up to you to understand that need, as well as to gently communicate your financial boundaries so there are no misunderstandings. 4. Express compassion. Compassion literally means “feeling with” someone. You may be the “strong silent type.” You may not be accustomed to speaking gently, or expressing your feelings of uncertainty openly. You might even worry that doing so makes you less “manly” somehow. But learning to freely offer the depth of yourself to another person, particularly to your Thai lady, can do much to build strong, deep bonds between you. If your Thai partner says or does something you don’t understand, ask for help in understanding it. If you have difficulty understanding her English, express compassion for the fact she’s trying to speak in a language that isn’t her own. If she’s struggling with trying to come to grips with your culture, express compassion (or feel “with” her) for the difficulty she’s facing. Expressing compassion doesn’t necessarily mean that you agree - it just means that you’re willing to let her be, and willing to be where she is, so you can feel what she’s feeling. 5. Let her be herself. Just like you don’t enjoy being with a woman who tries to change you, it would be unfair and inconsiderate of you to expect her to be any different than the way she is. She has her own preferences. Her own likes and dislikes. Her own rituals and superstitions. Her own emotions and reactions. She might not get as rabid about football as you would like. She might not enjoy big greasy hamburgers or blood-rare steaks. She might prefer making love with the lights off. Your job in the relationship is to love, respect, and support her for who she is, and if you want a really stellar relationship, celebrate how different she is from the women of your home country. 6. Be curious and keep an open mind. Part of the wonder of any successful relationship is exploring and delighting in the differences between you, and learning from the experiences you share. Remember how big, exciting, and wondrous the world seemed when you were a little boy? Every experience was an adventure. Colors, sights, smells, and sounds seemed more intense, more joyful. Every day brought something new to learn and grow from. In any relationship - particularly a cross-cultural relationship - you can regain that sense of exploration and wonder if you’re willing to drop your defenses just a little and let yourself be open and curious. No doubt in your time in Thailand, as well as in your relationship with your Thai lady, you’ll be exposed to many new and different ways of looking at the world. Let yourself explore them, and realize that just being open doesn’t mean your way of looking at the world is threatened. 7. Keep your sense of humor. No doubt there will be times when you make mistakes - finding yourself embarrassed, uncomfortable, or confused as you navigate the inter-cultural waters with your Thai partner. She will make many mistakes. But guess what - so will you. If you can remember that nobody is perfect - that life is a rich tapestry of endless opportunity for human error, you’ll have a much easier time of it. Laughter is the great human leveler. We Thais understand that perhaps better than many in the West. We know that laughing when someone makes a mistake is a way to help everyone save face and avoid embarrassment and humiliation. If you’re truly committed to a lifelong relationship with a good Thai woman, your sense of humor will be a blessing to both of you. Any long-lasting, fulfilling, loving relationship is hard work. Don’t let anyone tell you differently. The hard work doesn’t stop when you exchange vows - it actually begins right then. But in a relationship between a genuine, warm Western man like you and a decent, well-brought-up Thai woman, there might be more challenges than with a woman of your own culture. You value different things. You approach life differently. You think and express yourselves differently. You relate to others differently.Your job, if you want a truly amazing relationship with your Thai partner that lasts a lifetime, is to embrace the challenges, commit to the journey, and celebrate the differences between you. If you are successful, you’ll build a relationship so strong you can be at home anywhere - in Thailand, in your home country, or anywhere in the world your journey takes you
Lloyd, that’s a very interesting walk around town and the market, lots to see. I don’t think that raw meat and seafood is just left out there? Well, can’t be all day. I better not forget my charcoal tablets. The main thing, make sure it’s cooked good! I recognize some cooked food I like. Take care.🙏🏼👍😷⭐️⭐️
Thanks again Lloyd ,I was wondering how many people have gotten sick from eating that chicken and raw meat just sitting out on them tables in all that heat half the day.Guess the city health codes are few and far between lol!..Take care now,and thanks again for the walk around ....
Great video. Thanks for sharing. It seems the old immigration building (at 3:16) is still there where I got my Thai PR (Bai Tang Dao) in 1965 which costed Baht 500. Now it is around Baht 15K. I have to visit Udon someday especially Don Bosco school.
Thanks Lloyd, I always like strolling around the Thailand markets, you certainly can get some bargains and the fresh food just fantastic, I miss Thailand something fierce, can't wait until it all opens up again. cheers buddy and stay safe.
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Streetwalk Posri Road Udonthani
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So much delicious food, thankyou for showing.
Thanks for visiting
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Thank you so much Cheers
Thanks for another walk around today.
Glad you enjoyed
Thanks for the walk along. 🙂👍🏻👍🏻
Glad you enjoyed Cheers Ian
great exploring Jersey !!! hope your day is going good .
Thanks, you too!
If I get a vaccine, I will enjoy my vacation in Udon Thani for about 3 months. I think your TH-cam video will help me before I leave Korea.Everything~
Where did all the people go??? Those streets used to be packed.....Are face diapers mandatory?
Glad it was helpful!
kinda scary not seeing people about lol
Hi Jersey...My Thai girlfriend is from Udon Thani..But she works in Bangkok in the government hospital...I live in Australia...In Sydney...We communicate thou emails but I hope to meet her soon...What should I do to help bond our relationship between our cultures...,?.
. Be Patient
You come from a culture that is more aggressive, more individualistic, and more confrontational. The idea of moving slowly and patiently as you develop a relationship might be strange to you. You’ll want to get physical quickly - holding her hand or kissing her goodnight - or even hopping into bed - to demonstrate your affection for her. Know this: she will find that quickness extremely uncomfortable and embarrassing, and is likely to pull away or shrink from your affection, no matter how much she likes you. Being Thai, she is inherently shy, modest, reserved, and concerned about her reputation - and she expects you to respect that about her.
2. Communicate gently.
Since Thai people value harmony and peace in relationships, it’s rare that we express our feelings, opinions, or desires directly. Your Thai girlfriend will most likely not express these things as openly as would a Western woman. She will smile, nod, and agree, rather than risk disharmony by speaking up for herself. She might drop hints, or talk around a subject rather than face it head on. You, as a Westerner, might think she is being less than honest with you when she does that. If you truly want her to speak her mind, tell you what she wants or what she thinks, you must make it safe for her to do it. Raising your voice, making light of or disagreeing with her opinions, or embarrassing her when she speaks up will only make her withdraw and become more indirect.
3. Understand her needs.
For the rest of her life, your Thai woman will be committed to her family. Whether you live in Thailand together, or move to your home country, they’ll never be out of her mind or out of her heart. You must understand she’ll always feel the pull toward taking care of her parents, giving gifts to her siblings, and helping her extended family. You might feel that she’s constantly asking you for money or gifts for her family - that you’re just their ATM. You might grow resentful and suspicious that you’re being taken advantage of - that it’s not you she loves, but your money. If you’re involved in a relationship with a Thai woman of good family and reputation, you need to expect that you’ll be considered a provider not only for her, but for her family as well. It’s up to you to understand that need, as well as to gently communicate your financial boundaries so there are no misunderstandings.
4. Express compassion.
Compassion literally means “feeling with” someone. You may be the “strong silent type.” You may not be accustomed to speaking gently, or expressing your feelings of uncertainty openly. You might even worry that doing so makes you less “manly” somehow. But learning to freely offer the depth of yourself to another person, particularly to your Thai lady, can do much to build strong, deep bonds between you. If your Thai partner says or does something you don’t understand, ask for help in understanding it. If you have difficulty understanding her English, express compassion for the fact she’s trying to speak in a language that isn’t her own. If she’s struggling with trying to come to grips with your culture, express compassion (or feel “with” her) for the difficulty she’s facing. Expressing compassion doesn’t necessarily mean that you agree - it just means that you’re willing to let her be, and willing to be where she is, so you can feel what she’s feeling.
5. Let her be herself.
Just like you don’t enjoy being with a woman who tries to change you, it would be unfair and inconsiderate of you to expect her to be any different than the way she is. She has her own preferences. Her own likes and dislikes. Her own rituals and superstitions. Her own emotions and reactions. She might not get as rabid about football as you would like. She might not enjoy big greasy hamburgers or blood-rare steaks. She might prefer making love with the lights off. Your job in the relationship is to love, respect, and support her for who she is, and if you want a really stellar relationship, celebrate how different she is from the women of your home country.
6. Be curious and keep an open mind.
Part of the wonder of any successful relationship is exploring and delighting in the differences between you, and learning from the experiences you share. Remember how big, exciting, and wondrous the world seemed when you were a little boy? Every experience was an adventure. Colors, sights, smells, and sounds seemed more intense, more joyful. Every day brought something new to learn and grow from. In any relationship - particularly a cross-cultural relationship - you can regain that sense of exploration and wonder if you’re willing to drop your defenses just a little and let yourself be open and curious. No doubt in your time in Thailand, as well as in your relationship with your Thai lady, you’ll be exposed to many new and different ways of looking at the world. Let yourself explore them, and realize that just being open doesn’t mean your way of looking at the world is threatened.
7. Keep your sense of humor.
No doubt there will be times when you make mistakes - finding yourself embarrassed, uncomfortable, or confused as you navigate the inter-cultural waters with your Thai partner. She will make many mistakes. But guess what - so will you. If you can remember that nobody is perfect - that life is a rich tapestry of endless opportunity for human error, you’ll have a much easier time of it. Laughter is the great human leveler. We Thais understand that perhaps better than many in the West. We know that laughing when someone makes a mistake is a way to help everyone save face and avoid embarrassment and humiliation. If you’re truly committed to a lifelong relationship with a good Thai woman, your sense of humor will be a blessing to both of you.
Any long-lasting, fulfilling, loving relationship is hard work. Don’t let anyone tell you differently. The hard work doesn’t stop when you exchange vows - it actually begins right then.
But in a relationship between a genuine, warm Western man like you and a decent, well-brought-up Thai woman, there might be more challenges than with a woman of your own culture. You value different things. You approach life differently. You think and express yourselves differently. You relate to others differently.Your job, if you want a truly amazing relationship with your Thai partner that lasts a lifetime, is to embrace the challenges, commit to the journey, and celebrate the differences between you. If you are successful, you’ll build a relationship so strong you can be at home anywhere - in Thailand, in your home country, or anywhere in the world your journey takes you
Thank you for your advice Jersey...Your the first positive response I have got outside my circle of friends...thank you...👍👍🐨🦘...
Hello Craig, i had to do some research to give you this info i hope its ok
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Lloyd, that’s a very interesting walk around town and the market, lots to see. I don’t think that raw meat and seafood is just left out there? Well, can’t be all day. I better not forget my charcoal tablets. The main thing, make sure it’s cooked good! I recognize some cooked food I like. Take care.🙏🏼👍😷⭐️⭐️
hello Les, all the food we buy is very fresh never had bad meat or fish fingers crossed lol, cheers Les take care enjoy your week
Beautiful share my friend! Fantastic video! Nice shops near the street!
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Have a nice day to you!
Thanks for visiting Lia have a awesome day
Thanks again Lloyd ,I was wondering how many people have gotten sick from eating that chicken and raw meat just sitting out on them tables in all that heat half the day.Guess the city health codes are few and far between lol!..Take care now,and thanks again for the walk around ....
Thank you Kenneth, yes its strange i never got Food Poisoned, only Drink Poisoned from cold coffee and they must of used tap water
Never thought about water,how true..
Never thought about water,how true..
Great video. Thanks for sharing. It seems the old immigration building (at 3:16) is still there where I got my Thai PR (Bai Tang Dao) in 1965 which costed Baht 500. Now it is around Baht 15K. I have to visit Udon someday especially Don Bosco school.
Thanks for the info!
@@jerseyfaranginthailand8134 I hope Udon is treating you well.
Thanks Lloyd, I always like strolling around the Thailand markets, you certainly can get some bargains and the fresh food just fantastic, I miss Thailand something fierce, can't wait until it all opens up again. cheers buddy and stay safe.
Glad you enjoyed it Keith, Food much cheaper than Tesco's for sure lol, Cheers Keith Stay Safe Bud
Amazing vlog thank you for sharing
Thank you so much, sorry not much happening in video
Still waiting for you to walk around a golf course. Bring your wife, she can be your caddy.
Lol wait until cold season weather no good for my high blood pressure here today was 95F