Guide to Maintaining Friendships
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Maintaining friendships during life-changing events such as graduation and moving away to college isn't easy. It's not uncommon to grow apart from your friends as you get older and it gets harder to stay in touch. Fortunately, WellCast has 4 tips on how to keep your friendships strong!
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1 Good communication
2 Consider their feeling
3 be nice to them (Don't be toxic)
4 Spend time with them
5 Let them cry on your shoulder when they need you
Didnt do any 5 of it and lost friends
Did it all and still lost friends
@@tl9585 Haha I have one friend😀
I think too many people abuse their friendships like asking for money or asking to watch their kids too frequent, expecting too much and leaving a friend to resent the friendship. If you can ever find that one friend that you enjoy being with, talking with and they leave you in a better state when they leave, you got something special.
I wished they still posted ;(
Me too
Change.org maybe?
+Micah Manabat TH-cam stopped paying them.
Amy Play OH NO!!
Simone Smith WHY?!???
My best friend and I have been friends for 15 YEARS!! We are trying so hard to talk and see each other and it's going so well!!
I wish you the best for you and your friend
I wish this was for older people that those in college. It's harder to make friends in the workforce. Also, why are so few friendship articles about men? They always emphasize women as if they're the only ones who need friends.
+Nepthu Just a thought, but maybe it's due to the fact that men are logical. In instances we can kind of make friends with ease. We generally don't mind finding a new buddy, as woman (some) are emotional creatures, who focus a lot more on smaller details than us guys. As guys we don't let everything get to us (sometimes), but girls tend to let small things get to them, this is why articles will be more towards woman from my guess. I haven't seen my mate in years, and I can still go up to him and have a casual conversation like nothing has changed, and we just accept small changes, unless it's extreme (if he becomes an atheist).
+ATARi You mind religion?!
Nepthu
ATARi Shut the fuck up. Female and male people are BOTH logical and emotional creatures. What are you? An 80 year old from the sexist era? Fucking bum
@@troymackenzie1232 He is speaking the truth about how humans work, we are all logical and emotional but men are more logical and women are more emotional.
"Don't focus on the differences"
Thank you ❤ I have a feeling in a few years I'm going to reach my success' shortly before she does and I don't want that to cause us to lose the beautiful connection we have.
So my best friend is now homeschooled. We don't talk as often as much as we used to and I miss our days when we hung out and talked during lunch break in school. I missed her soooooo much the past 5 weeks. But I did see her today and we ice skated together so that was fun. I just really hope I can get back to the relationship we used to have.
youre everywhere btw i love your name
I’m going through the same thing
How to MAKE friends in the first place?
Edit 4 years later and after having gone to uni: Fuck, I don't know how I made friends. They just plopped into my lap. I still don't know how to get more friends.
me
Be cool
@Weeblackie 😂😂😂lol!
I think being casual and funny with them is the best way. I also didn't know how to but I started acting casual and funny with my classmates and guess what, they talked and we had fun. The most important point is to keep the conversation going.
I have been able to make friends easily.
I think you are doing great already! Just wanting friends let's the people who are proactive make friends out of you man.
It's hard for even the fastest friend maker from a distance.
I have to say this video made a lot of sense and it's very accurate. Communication in any form is the key. Making time for each other in your busy lives is what it truly comes down to, if you don't make time for each other then you will not have a friendship. Friendship takes effort and committment like any other relationship.
also, another really important thing is to tell them how much they mean to you, that you love them, or miss them, or maybe you see something that reminds you of them and you just grab the opportunity and call!...cause, sure, these things are important when you are close too, but being far apart you really need to hear them out loud or really see them in their eyes..even if you dont really have sth to talk about at that moment, send a heartwarming big smile, you still love them they need to know!
I used to have a million freinds. But one day, a girl started bullying me. I lost all my freinds, I would NEVER smile in my birh day pictures, I would always cry at night, and I would be scared to go to shool. I try making freinds, but I end up trying so hard that nobody in the shool liked me anymore. The loss of my freinds didn't only effect me, but it effected my dad. my dad yelled at my principle every day about why that girl was bullying me. I REALLY wish I had a freind😭😭😳
Sometimes it's better to only have 1 friend then "a million" of them
u just said my whole life SO FAR I hope...
that is true. I moved to a new shool and i found 1 girl that said she wanted to be my freind, that's how far I'm going to go for now, but, that doesn't mean I'm going to stop making freinds.
I am your friend 😝 don't let haters affect you. All the pain that you feel will be invisible. True
thanks😊❤😳😭
This video is a great asset from the perspective of a teenager. From an adult? Not so much: What about raising children, terminal illness, depression... those things can fuck up friendships beyond repair.
I was in exact same situation. It got really frustrating that I was the only one trying to maintain contact, so I gave up. And we haven't talked since. Although I still love her very much, moving on has allowed me to accept my life without her and realize that it's not as important to keep in contact if she isn't putting in the effort.
My BFF moved away last summer. It was heart breaking for me. We have been friends since we were toddlers and I missed her so much. Then we started phoning,texting and video chatting more often. And we manage to talk almost every day. I am going to visit her this summer for a few weeks. We will see each other every summer. Thanks for the tips!
+JerJer Jellybean That's great for you!. You're both working the preserve the foundation of the tight relationship.
it's not easy...coz it goes both ways..
I wish i had friendships like in the big bang theory
Disabler same :( everyone finds me annoying and leaves me out
You actually watch that show?
Me and my friend live far away but we still stay in touch
It's really awkward for me and my friend to talk nowadays, we used to talk constantly but now, it's like a 5 second conversation, and he's speaking to a lot of other people a lot more now, I wanna stop seeing him.
But if I do. I won't have any friends
ToucanSam :D I’ll b ur friend😂😛
ToucanSam your comment made me so emotional because same has happened with me 😭😭
Are you guys still talking?
That's my situation right now but Im trying so hard to make new friends
ToucanSam :D I feel the same
We have a video on dealing with grief. I'm sorry to hear about your loss.
I'm gonna try these tips out! Lately i've felt like my friendship has been drifting and i am no longer close to my one true friend! Hopefully these tips help me out! Thanks a lot wellcast! 😄
Thanks just landed on Planet Earth, this will help me blend in.
my best friend recently moved abroad to a whole different continent, and we stay in touch with emails. we send 1000+ word emails every few days about every single little thing that happens in our lives. projects, homework, fandoms, future plans, mutual friends, home life, new habits, EVERYTHING.
it really helped, and she recently came back for a while and it didn't feel awkward at all - I've even asked for her to get a video from her awesome new teachers and friends saying hi! xD
I can't agree more! Call me old fashioned or whatever you want, but i truly think that a good friendship can only form in face-to-face communication and it takes time to create a friendship. It also takes work to maintain it because...well you aren't really friends anymore if you haven't talked in 4-5 yrs right?
Don't get me wrong, i love social media and i use it too to keep in touch. But i think online communication can only take us so far and to truly develop a relationship, you need to see each other in person. thanks for a great video wellcast ^^
I always suck at talking and making friends due to my shyness and pessimism, now my best friend and I moved to high school and we are so quickly growing apart. They've made new friends and kinda ditching me for them. They don't properly treat me like human being and only acts like a friend when there's just the two of us. I think they've getting bored of me. I make myself look like a total dumb loser and don't talk, when I try to talk about something funny it always comes out the wrong way like puny jokes. I don't laugh when something's funny because I just can't join the conversation that my friend is in and when I try to 'm always being ignored. I really want to change myself and have more self confidence so if whether I want to break off our unhealthy friendship or try to fix it, I can do it properly. After I watched but this video, it got me motivated and inspired. This video was very helpful, thank you very much for making such awesome videos. I hope to see more videos of yours in the future. 😊
this video is so amazing, the thing i'm most scared about in life is losing my best friends, especially one of them whom just changed school a month ago, and i really would do anything to keep contact to her. thanks wellcast
I have no contact with my best friend what so ever.He blocked me off of everything, doesn't answer my calls, doesn't text me, absolutely nothing.I don't know why.I think it's because this teen I know said something about him to me secretly and I didn't do anything about it.He was upset.I took it as a joke, and Jacob was upset that I did.I haven't talked to him at all in a year, and I just...I don't know what to do about it.I want to apologize or something, but I don't have any connection with him anymore.I can text him, I can FaceTime him.But it's useless cause he never responds or accepts.I tried finding him on Minecraft Forums, I tried to put comments on his TH-cam channel, I've tried everything...I just can't move on.I just moved to PA from FL in January.So I will never see him in person again.I used to pray every night for something good to happen.I really wish I could apologize.I only knew him for a year and a half, but it felt like it had been 10 years.😧
if you really grew apart from each other so much that you're 100% sure you'll never see him again, and he blocked you on everything, FUCK HIM. he isn't a best friend if he blocks you on everything or never answers anything.
I think you both need to move on, there are way more awesome people in the world.
ΟmεgαΑΙρλαGαmiηg I guess your right.I don't appreciate that language though.:P
+ΟmεgαΑΙρλαGαmiηg your rigth
don't worry buddy
you really make me sad i am sorry for you and of ourse you will meet another friends and i wish you will happy again
just watched this really helped me realise some things that i have to change
First of all, I live in Appalachicola, Florida and all my friends live in Eastpoint, Florida, so we don't talk in person much, I get to see them at school and I will be seeing my BFF/cousin/ sister, so, that's cool! And number one rule with friendships; BE YOURSELF! I've come to know that trying to act someone you're not, results in a lot of bad shit, trust me! All of your friends will love you for who you are!
I have like NO friends hahahaha its not funny
dry skin gal me neither, it’s sad
do u go to public school?
im lonely XD
Oh gosh I feel bad for you guys..
If you wanna be friends with me then I'm completely fine with it
@@user-dc7zw I gi to private school and I have no friend...money can't solve your problems haha😥😥
I wished I had a true friend, but I don’t in fact, I have none, Im still not ready to socialise because of my autism. Why can’t everyone be nice to each other. Everyone is stuck with the 7 billion people on the earth. We all live and breathe in the same places and air. I wish for a world for a better place and to have 1 true friend
felt 💔 it’s hard to socialize when the number one rule is communication, something i’m terribly bad at
"Don't expect them not to change". Thank you. This help a little bit.
My best friend and I for 9 long years have had a falling out but bounced back up. He now lives in Florida while I'm still in our hometown of Chicago. But we speak on the phone everyday except weekends so every Monday we have something to talk about. I'm excited however since he has arrived for a visit as of yesterday :)
Hi! In the intro you mentioned that it's hard to make friends when you get older. Could you make a video on tips to do just that, please?
Also a tip to people who usually run out of things to say. Don't panic just talk about nothing or just throw out random ideas its what I do and it has helped
Might I add: Reach out to people, even when they don't.
My best friend and I know live 50 miles apart and in september it will our 10 year anniversary of being besties. Now that I live father away we seemed to have gotten even closer after a period where we didn't talk to each other very much. Tip: If you feel your friend and you are growing apart sit down and think really think about all the amazing times you had and why you chose that person as your best friend.
Can you make a video on "Thinking your friend thinks your to "Annoying" or "wierd" or "dramatic"" that would be a great help becoase i Agree i have been a bit under the weather and not communicating well with my friend and when i do... Well we just walk together! Can you help plz?!?
Thanks to whoever is doing this videos .
I really want to have real friends .You don´t know how much I appreciate this.
You're welcome! We hope it helps!
friendships is very important to us,to make a new friend and i will never forget the old friend. you a need friend and everyday conversation.
I've been doing these tips the last few years with a very important friend. We lost contact in 7. grade, though we were in the same school, but we choose different main subjects and got separated. She found a new friend in an old classmate of us, who I had a fight with. Because of that we drifted apart. When I started taking the train home we were able to walk together. Now nearly 3 years later (she:working; me:continuing school) we're meeting constantly, calling eachother and are best friends.
Perhaps if you share a little with her about what you've gone through being depressed, she might be more open to sharing what she's going through. That's so great that you're there for her, but not everyone is comfortable opening up to others. If she's really being abused by this coach, you should speak with one of her parents, because they might not know what it going on, and can help her better.
All great suggestions!
Basic and to the point. Very helpful, even if I'm waaay past the early adulthood stage, lol. At any age this is encouraging and growth-inspiring. I am currently connected to a special soul that may or may not keep in touch with me after I change schedules and no longer see them everyday at work. I am committed to keeping in touch with them but, I can't exactly explain why, I feel deep down inside they were only meant to be here for a season of my life. But it was a beautiful, lie-changing season I will never forget as long as I live.
I love your videos. My daughter is on the autism spectrum and it helps her understand social situations.
The first noise of the video scared the freak out of me. Shocked and haven't gathered enough courage to watch on yet. Just putting this here.
Most of my friends are made during kindergarten. Like I have this one friend from nursery is still my friend
You are very very lucky!!🙌 On this entire planet.
I have a best friend that is in the other side of our world , we have long distance friendship , at first we think that its easy beacause we have communication everyday , but in the long run , we realize that its really hard , mostly when were the same busy , sometimes we dont have some time to each other to talk about what is happening in each of us , but i believe that one day we will meet again and finally have some bonding moment that we really wish to happen 😊😊😊 #Strongfriendship
+Aubrey De Jesus I hope so for your sake, Aubrey:-) Distance is an ewwy thing for some friendships.
Absolutely! When you're in school, you're already connected to so many networks by default-classes, sports teams, kids in your neighborhood. After graduation, you have a try a bit harder to build those networks, especially if you don't connect to anyone at work. Pick a cause you're passionate about and volunteer; you'll already have something in common with your fellow volunteers and it's easier to forge connections.
ohhh this is so right I was thinking about why my positive feelings about a friend is fading and it's because
1.realizing I can't confide him anymore because Im pretty sure he'll tell his gf everything
2.we don't hang out often and when we do he always brings his gf so it's always a very superficial situation where I have no intimacy
Tbh I didn't think I'd ever need to watch vids like this one but duuude,, the whole pandemic shook up my friendships and it sucks. Tryna find my vibe back 🤞🏽
"sending you greetings" that's actually really helpful! thanks gotta make use of it stat
My best friend and I from high school have a hard time being consistent, but i do realize it’s my fault. I shouldn’t be hard on her, and let her go for it. I’ll definitely work on this!
I remember i watched cartoon i saw the true meaning of friendship the story is a man figure lost his close friend he become sad and seek to take vengence of his friend but vengence wasnot enough for him he deprived himself from food and his beard get tall and still sad for losing his friend this is a man who have a good heart
....this make me cry ...reminded of me ...
Maintaining friendships is not easy, especially when life changes, but this video provides a helpful four-step method to help us.
Now I’m more learned about maintaining friendships. Thanks!
Made a friend purely online the year this vid was made and she and I are still super close.
Thank you!
This helped alot.
Hey what's the best way to make both gender groups of friends, and you can also hang out with after school😕
its been 2 years and nobody gave you a suggestion
AJ Baines 4 years...
What about making friends online? Or even finding love internationally through the internet?
It's often underestimated how strong these kinds of relationships can grow. Sure, it's even harder to keep in touch, and it's different in that it lacks much (if any) physical bonding. But just the desire to meet them face-to-face someday can be enough to fuel a pretty deep connection, at least from what I've experienced.
I'd really like to see an episode about this someday, if that's possible~
thanks again well cast! i know im not moving out or anything yet, but this video helped me othrwise. keep making them!
That's a difficult situation. Try and bring it up in a way that's not pointing blame and anger at her, more showing how you were hurt. For example, "So-and-so mentioned your birthday party to me. I was confused to be hearing about it from him/her, and not you, and it hurt my feelings not to be invited." Maybe there was a miscommunication, but it's good to get a dialogue going to figure out where things stand between you. Let us know how it turns out!
You're welcome!
My best friend and i of five years, we usually see each other during the summer. we love at opposite ends of an enormous city. We would try to see.each other more often but she has the most insane schedule. It's always special when we do get to speak to each other. We call and text a lot. I just wish i could see her more.
We are making a video about "the friendzone" right now!
I wish you still post in quarantine :"(
Why should I start at the first place? Why don't they start first?
The other person can think the same like you, you know. So I suggest you to be initiative by doing it first. So you won't come into the endless mindset that's leading to no act at all
Thank you for this video! This answered all of my questions about friendship.
Yes it helped. I just shared this link on my latest video about friendships :) thanks for sharing!
My best friend lives on the other side of the country and I'm seeing her today. I hope it goes well...
Even tho this video is 6 yrs old I love these tips and they are actual good things in a friendship
Thanks!!!I might need it
hi wellcast i have been friends with this girl and she has really been on my nerves. last time i tried saying i dont want to be friends anymore she cries and makes me feel bad so i forgive her and say sorry how can i stand up to her without feeling bad?
I'm a kid, and i would like it if you could do a Wellcast on things that kids are bad at; like not listening to their own parents. Please and thank you.
these tips helped me as a person alot. Thank you
also, making plans together for the future, like goin campin in the summer, travelling together...yeah
Hey Wellcast! It's cool to mantain relationships, but what if it really doesn't work? I know we have to go to the next step and just get out of it, and I know you did a video of poisonous friendships. But I would like a video about approaching other people, making new friends and make the new friendship grow strong. Could you do it? I have a serious problem with making knew friends, because even if most of the time people like me, we don't get to the "friends level".
They have a video on how to break toxic relationships.
Frankly, a person who treats you like that is not a friend. Friendship means respecting each other, and she obviously don't.
They also have a video on bullying.
I hope everything sorts itself out for you :)
It felt very cathartic when you said "you've changed. Why can't they?"
This could help. I'm going to use these tips next year because my BFF and are going to different middle schools
I need you guys. Thank god for this video, it's here just when I needed it most. Thanks!
thank you so much it has really helped with my friendships and now i know what to do in thoes situations
This is a 8 years ago video
Me amd my bestfriend are not okay not i mean we're not into fight but our connections are fadin' then i saw this video on my ytfeed so i decided to watch now i think this 8 years agi video might help me from our problems. Maybe Universe are put this video on my ytfeed so that we have a solutions for are problems right now. Thanks for making this video. 😀
I went through something traumatic and I pushed everyone away and blamed everyone for what happened to me now I don’t have close friendships anymore. Now I only have my boyfriend and a few associates. I can’t gain back the trust of my old friends but I want friends again.
These are nice suggestions to maintaining friendship!
These tips did help me a lot, at school. Thanks!
That's pretty good advice, I didn't think to try volunteering. Thanks!
And how to stop being shy plz too
You guys ROCK
Yea i try and it make me and my friends become together... thank you...
I tried my best to maintain my friendship with my friend who moved 20 minutes away, and I thought everything was okay. We hung out almost every weekend and texted/talked all the time, but then he just left and abandoned me and everyone else he knew from our old school. I just don't understand... If you have any tips on understanding people and their actions, I'd love to hear them.
People just change
A few months ago my friend who is four years younger than me graduated from college and ever since he left I feel like he doesn’t value our friendship the way I do. When I was able to be around him he always smiled and said hi to me and even hugged me now that he’s gone and busy with life he doesn’t answer texts much anymore. The last time I talked to him he said the reason he hadn’t been communicating with me as normal for the past five months (at that point) was because he was dealing with personal stuff. It really bothers me that our friendship has ended up like this he told me I did nothing wrong when I asked him if I did something.
I would like to know what happened next..
This was a great help thanks so much
I was messing up with this in previous schools. So I'm just being quiet in current school and that's when I started to have good relationships with my classmates, even though I don't talk to them that much.
thank you so much on this abvice, i could use this to maintain good friendships🙂
This. Will. Be. SOOOOOOOO. Helpful.
the hardest part for maintaining my friendships is not being fully able to confirm if your feelings between us is mutual; does my best friend see me, and think about me as I see and think about him?
how do you start a friendship from a stranger that you didn't know?
Thank you!
I really like your videos, they're very interesting and helpful! Lately ive been drifting off from my circle of friends because I don't have classes with them and I find that there are fewer things to talk about :/
i don't have any friends so i don't have to worry about any of this bullshit. :D
High five.
can i be your friend
i have non
Miles Barnes Awwh, you just reminded me of one song from my childhood. It was about some animal.. a bear?.. that was looking for friends. He asked other animals if they could be his friends.. They all were happily willing to be with him. It was kinda touching :) But yes, we should all be friends together.
he he
My logic EXACTLY don't nobody got time to be doing all the drama you is doing. So im usally the one who ends the crap.