I am two weeks from giving my notice from an IT job that I LOVE but a pair of bosses that are extremely TOXIC, a husband and wife that are new to management. They started out our first staff meeting five months ago with the "everyone is replaceable" speech. As a result our original team of eight is now down to just three. For some reason they don't understand why great people are quitting. Knowing that I don't have to disclose my new employer helps reduce the stress level. And practice, practice, practice will help. I really want to leave on good terms but I know these two people are going to be brutal. Thanks, one of the best resign videos I have watched!
I used to work for a manager from Seattle in the lab logistics industry, who is really toxic ( bullying employees, putting employees down in front of co-workers, micro-managing, etc ) and attempts to notify his superior, as well as H.R. proved worthless, ) and as a result, nobody respects the guy, or wants to work for him, and we kept losing employees. We had a really good supervisor who transferred up here to Seattle from Portland, OR, and he was a large reason why this guy quit, too. I heard this employer recently merged with a couple of other logistics companies down in Oregon, and I feel sorry for those who will be exposed to this. A lot of great pointers you brought up. Sad when a toxic manager can ruin so many prosperous careers.
one and only - the most helpfull video out there... others are just repeathing "be grateful, be kind, thank them, do your best in the last days" - we know all that, what we didn't know was how exactly to tell this. Thank you sir! Edit: truly, this is the only helpful video out here on youtube.
I’m about to talk to my boss tomorrow cuz I finally got an offer. A lot of team members quit so I can’t imagine how he’ll react (he’s very needy and asks me to do all his work). Can’t wait to get out of my toxic work environment
@@everywoman194 Update: got my work settled, asked my boss if he needed anything else during my 2 weeks (never responded), and I'm out. I start my new job next week :D. Plus a bit of a "fun" fact, more people from my department are quitting and I almost wish I could be a fly on the wall for the manager meetings since SOMEHOW the company says they can't hire new employees b/c they're "over their hiring budget" lol. They're gonna be slammed for a while (sadly some friends are still there but they're lookin' to get out too)
This is excellent! 🔥 I am about to go into this conversation and I have a feeling it will go exactly the way you showed, so I thank you both for doing this role-playing, instead of giving general advice like everyone else: "be professional, blah blah blah" 😊 Thank you!
Nope, just an email will do. Making claims such as “ I read the non compete and I am not in violation” is just setting you up for legal issues. Avoid any discussion about where you’ll be going or any details, this again just sets you up for something to be used against you. Also, politely decline any sort of exit interview with HR, and do NOT sign any “release” paper work either. Usually these papers will void any kind of legal claim you can pursue against your employer for any reason.
Why would you stay for 19 years without any raise or bonus hahaha oh let me guess because you're a terrible employee, add no value, never improved yourself, and couldn't find another job.
See this is where they'd be happy to get rid of you, because you're trash and it shows in your work product. Imagine how you treat customers if you talk ghetto to your boss.
How would you deal with a situation where you boss will talk your ear off for an hour or more because you're quitting, and will text you while you're home trying to bribe you to stay?
Sorry I missed your comment - hopefully you were able to resolve. I would say that the best thing to do in that situation is what one should do with anyone that's unreasonable - ignore them, and make the decision that's right for you (move on to the next opportunity). If he/she threatens legal action, you now have the evidence on your phone to rest easy.
Simple, picture this: You're dating this girl that doesn't have her stuff together. She drinks too much, doesn't keep on top of important stuff and so on. You dump her and tell her you're going to date a new girl who doesn't have these problems. She all the sudden agrees to quit drinking and get caught up on work if you dump the new girl and go back to her. Would you take her up on it? No! You were headed out the door for a reason. Even if she 'fixed' the problems which she didn't want to deal with earlier, chances are in a few weeks she's burnt out with it and back to her old self. What makes you think your boss is going to change stuff on a stable basis? What makes you think a disorganized or toxic or poorly paying boss is going to change their ways for long. Come on. We weren't born yesterday. The dude is just trying to buy himself time to transfer all your notes and train thr replacement so he can fire you.
I made the mistake of telling my supervisor about my plans to move, then asked her if she would write a recommendation letter for me. She said yes, then went on to tell me how no one has got my back at work and if I want to do what's best for me I should. However, she didn't write the letter, started distancing herself from me and I noticed awkward looks from my other colleagues, including my manager. Now I really got the offer, and I'm not sure how to approach my manager. I know she knows because the same supervisor told me if I do quit I must really be sure because as soon as I approach my manager I wiill have no future at the company. How do I approach my manager considering the back story? Thanks.
You don’t want a future at such a company. Professionally give your notice and cut your losses. You will be relieved and happier in the long run and in a month you won’t care at all.
What if your bosses boss wants to get your reasons for leaving? I dont really like him or his style and dont really want to share with him. Dont want to share even where I am going.
Hi Sir, I have a problem. The firm that i am currently working on has a notice period of 3 months to get relieved. I have an offer which has given me a hike of 250%. :) (Yikes). But the problem now is, the new company wants me to join in 1 month. I definitely cannot lose this oppurtunity and wanted to get relieved really soon. Can you please suggest me how to get out of this situation smoothly :) .. Thanks in advance
3 months seems unusually long - is this in the United States? In the employment contract, what does it say will happen if you can not honor the 3 month period and have to leave earlier? I don't know your boss, but your best bet is to have an honest conversation about this with him/her. Clarify that you've received an opportunity that you can not turn down given your career goals and financial needs, but that you'd be happy to to work overtime in the next month to train your replacement or team to make sure the transition is smooth. You might also offer to be available part time to respond to specific questions for an additional month (if that's possible). Sounds like you should take this new offer, congrats!
Revz.in thank you sir. However, I am from India and not from UNITED STATES. The new offer however is from united states company. Indian companies generally have very high notice period and hence is my problem and wanted to know and trying to understand how to deal with it. :(
Do you know anyone that has tried to quit before the 3 months? What has happened in those cases? Basically, the best thing you can do is try to understand the possible ramifications if you were to leave early. If you speak with your boss, and if the boss says no and threatens legal action, then you should talk to an employment attorney to see what is actually legally enforceable by the company. My bet is that it will not go that far, especially if you have a good relationship with your employer.
Yes sir. Thank you so much for your advices. I will work on those points :) and will get back to you if at all I have any more questions. Thank you so much for your help
I don't get why you have to wallk on egg shels and be extra careful when you resign from your job. But my boss can fire me at any time without any warning??? This seams to me sheepish mentality which is full of sh!t
The workforce and the things that people tell employees and candidates ONLY benefit these shitty companies and never the employee or candidate. I am with you!
What if your bosses boss wants to get your reasons for leaving? I dont really like him or his style and dont really want to share with him. Dont want to share even where I am going. What if your bosses boss wants to get your reasons for leaving? I dont really like him or his style and dont really want to share with him. Dont want to share even where I am going.
I know it may feel like it, but we're not literal slaves, people. Tell them you're leaving and leave. If they have deadlines or staffing issues or whatever, oh well, that's their problem not yours.
Nope! I appreciate your viewpoint, but if an employer would go "I know everyone in the industry... etc." I would tell him to f** himself. End of story. They didn't buy me yet.
This is ridiculous. No wonder people watching this have trepidation. Weak people have issues with this. He had better not SAY anything innacurate. Let them know a slander suit would be in order. Tell them F&$k you! If they have problem then leave at lunch time. If they treated you better you would have stayed.
I'm with you and could not agree more. But I am one of those as I don't know why I am so scared to talk to my boss we do have a great relationship I just got a better opportunity
Excellent! And still relevant- just a year ago had most of these comebacks said to me when I resigned a toxic supervisor.
I am two weeks from giving my notice from an IT job that I LOVE but a pair of bosses that are extremely TOXIC, a husband and wife that are new to management. They started out our first staff meeting five months ago with the "everyone is replaceable" speech. As a result our original team of eight is now down to just three. For some reason they don't understand why great people are quitting.
Knowing that I don't have to disclose my new employer helps reduce the stress level. And practice, practice, practice will help. I really want to leave on good terms but I know these two people are going to be brutal.
Thanks, one of the best resign videos I have watched!
I used to work for a manager from Seattle in the lab logistics industry, who is really toxic ( bullying employees, putting employees down in front of co-workers, micro-managing, etc ) and attempts to notify his superior, as well as H.R. proved worthless, ) and as a result, nobody respects the guy, or wants to work for him, and we kept losing employees. We had a really good supervisor who transferred up here to Seattle from Portland, OR, and he was a large reason why this guy quit, too. I heard this employer recently merged with a couple of other logistics companies down in Oregon, and I feel sorry for those who will be exposed to this.
A lot of great pointers you brought up. Sad when a toxic manager can ruin so many prosperous careers.
one and only - the most helpfull video out there... others are just repeathing "be grateful, be kind, thank them, do your best in the last days" - we know all that, what we didn't know was how exactly to tell this. Thank you sir!
Edit: truly, this is the only helpful video out here on youtube.
I’m about to talk to my boss tomorrow cuz I finally got an offer. A lot of team members quit so I can’t imagine how he’ll react (he’s very needy and asks me to do all his work). Can’t wait to get out of my toxic work environment
Update
@@everywoman194 Update: got my work settled, asked my boss if he needed anything else during my 2 weeks (never responded), and I'm out. I start my new job next week :D. Plus a bit of a "fun" fact, more people from my department are quitting and I almost wish I could be a fly on the wall for the manager meetings since SOMEHOW the company says they can't hire new employees b/c they're "over their hiring budget" lol. They're gonna be slammed for a while (sadly some friends are still there but they're lookin' to get out too)
@@yamisdate hurrah!
How did it go?? How was the conversation like? Same scenario?
This sounds soooo familiar 😂
This is excellent! 🔥 I am about to go into this conversation and I have a feeling it will go exactly the way you showed, so I thank you both for doing this role-playing, instead of giving general advice like everyone else: "be professional, blah blah blah" 😊 Thank you!
This is really an awesome demontration and explanation of a very critical work life conversation.
thanks this conversation really helped me.
Such questions was asked by boss???
Nope, just an email will do. Making claims such as “ I read the non compete and I am not in violation” is just setting you up for legal issues. Avoid any discussion about where you’ll be going or any details, this again just sets you up for something to be used against you. Also, politely decline any sort of exit interview with HR, and do NOT sign any “release” paper work either. Usually these papers will void any kind of legal claim you can pursue against your employer for any reason.
Wow this was my exact situation with the non compete any everything THANK YOU 🙏
I say , I got something very funny to tell you. Well here are my notes and a list of things to get up to speed over the next 2 weeks...
That was great! I wish I would've seen this a few hours ago before I had my resignation meeting because they reacted much in the same way. Lol.
Damn looked scary! I'd be so nervous.
I am right now lol I'm dying lol
Really awesome video! Thanks
Hmmmm! 19 years with employer....no raise or bonus in years.....I'm going to just email my letter 😁😁
Why would you stay for 19 years without any raise or bonus hahaha oh let me guess because you're a terrible employee, add no value, never improved yourself, and couldn't find another job.
Geez no raise in 19 years, I’m happy you were able to move on ! Congrats 🎊
good video. you both are super smart guys, thank you for sharing your experience
See this is where I would have to calm down the ghetto in me. I'd be like none of you damn business didn't you hear me I quit!
Same here!! I always try to be professional but my manager doesn't know I actually have a hood temper/attitude beneath the surface
Lol honestly
lmao
See this is where they'd be happy to get rid of you, because you're trash and it shows in your work product. Imagine how you treat customers if you talk ghetto to your boss.
@@GolgeIncelemesi Oh look out, we got a BAD ASS OVA HURR
California here too!
Thank you so much for this. It helped a lot
that was intense
"I understand that, but I've made my decision and am giving you my notice."
How would you deal with a situation where you boss will talk your ear off for an hour or more because you're quitting, and will text you while you're home trying to bribe you to stay?
Sorry I missed your comment - hopefully you were able to resolve.
I would say that the best thing to do in that situation is what one should do with anyone that's unreasonable - ignore them, and make the decision that's right for you (move on to the next opportunity). If he/she threatens legal action, you now have the evidence on your phone to rest easy.
Simple, picture this: You're dating this girl that doesn't have her stuff together. She drinks too much, doesn't keep on top of important stuff and so on. You dump her and tell her you're going to date a new girl who doesn't have these problems. She all the sudden agrees to quit drinking and get caught up on work if you dump the new girl and go back to her. Would you take her up on it? No! You were headed out the door for a reason. Even if she 'fixed' the problems which she didn't want to deal with earlier, chances are in a few weeks she's burnt out with it and back to her old self. What makes you think your boss is going to change stuff on a stable basis? What makes you think a disorganized or toxic or poorly paying boss is going to change their ways for long. Come on. We weren't born yesterday. The dude is just trying to buy himself time to transfer all your notes and train thr replacement so he can fire you.
Perfect explaination
Great Video ! Thank you
I will be gracious in my exit...but before the email taking my sick days/vacation days 😁😁😁
Only way to do it😁
I am here today to get some ideas professionally how to quit my job.
Omg the boss here 😅
Hello Sir, can we opt out of revealing the information of having the offer in hand .
Do I have to give 2 weeks notice?
I made the mistake of telling my supervisor about my plans to move, then asked her if she would write a recommendation letter for me. She said yes, then went on to tell me how no one has got my back at work and if I want to do what's best for me I should. However, she didn't write the letter, started distancing herself from me and I noticed awkward looks from my other colleagues, including my manager. Now I really got the offer, and I'm not sure how to approach my manager. I know she knows because the same supervisor told me if I do quit I must really be sure because as soon as I approach my manager I wiill have no future at the company. How do I approach my manager considering the back story? Thanks.
You don’t want a future at such a company. Professionally give your notice and cut your losses. You will be relieved and happier in the long run and in a month you won’t care at all.
Super helpful
What if your bosses boss wants to get your reasons for leaving? I dont really like him or his style and dont really want to share with him. Dont want to share even where I am going.
the manager in this video is so aggressive. I think what I cannot deal with is the situation when the manager is very kind
Yep, I've had these kind of managers as well as very good ones. Two different situations but both difficult.
Hi Sir, I have a problem. The firm that i am currently working on has a notice period of 3 months to get relieved. I have an offer which has given me a hike of 250%. :) (Yikes). But the problem now is, the new company wants me to join in 1 month. I definitely cannot lose this oppurtunity and wanted to get relieved really soon. Can you please suggest me how to get out of this situation smoothly :) .. Thanks in advance
3 months seems unusually long - is this in the United States? In the employment contract, what does it say will happen if you can not honor the 3 month period and have to leave earlier? I don't know your boss, but your best bet is to have an honest conversation about this with him/her. Clarify that you've received an opportunity that you can not turn down given your career goals and financial needs, but that you'd be happy to to work overtime in the next month to train your replacement or team to make sure the transition is smooth. You might also offer to be available part time to respond to specific questions for an additional month (if that's possible). Sounds like you should take this new offer, congrats!
Revz.in thank you sir. However, I am from India and not from UNITED STATES. The new offer however is from united states company.
Indian companies generally have very high notice period and hence is my problem and wanted to know and trying to understand how to deal with it. :(
Also as a co incidence my new company recruiting managers name was also Sergey :)
Do you know anyone that has tried to quit before the 3 months? What has happened in those cases? Basically, the best thing you can do is try to understand the possible ramifications if you were to leave early. If you speak with your boss, and if the boss says no and threatens legal action, then you should talk to an employment attorney to see what is actually legally enforceable by the company. My bet is that it will not go that far, especially if you have a good relationship with your employer.
Yes sir. Thank you so much for your advices. I will work on those points :) and will get back to you if at all I have any more questions. Thank you so much for your help
Thank you for this!!
I don't get why you have to wallk on egg shels and be extra careful when you resign from your job.
But my boss can fire me at any time without any warning???
This seams to me sheepish mentality which is full of sh!t
The workforce and the things that people tell employees and candidates ONLY benefit these shitty companies and never the employee or candidate. I am with you!
What if your bosses boss wants to get your reasons for leaving? I dont really like him or his style and dont really want to share with him. Dont want to share even where I am going.
What if your bosses boss wants to get your reasons for leaving? I dont really like him or his style and dont really want to share with him. Dont want to share even where I am going.
He asked me what did he do wrong ?
I know it may feel like it, but we're not literal slaves, people. Tell them you're leaving and leave. If they have deadlines or staffing issues or whatever, oh well, that's their problem not yours.
Nope! I appreciate your viewpoint, but if an employer would go "I know everyone in the industry... etc." I would tell him to f** himself. End of story. They didn't buy me yet.
So bosses only hire look-alike : epitome of narcissism !!
This is ridiculous. No wonder people watching this have trepidation. Weak people have issues with this. He had better not SAY anything innacurate. Let them know a slander suit would be in order.
Tell them F&$k you! If they have problem then leave at lunch time. If they treated you better you would have stayed.
dude
I'm with you and could not agree more. But I am one of those as I don't know why I am so scared to talk to my boss we do have a great relationship I just got a better opportunity