I need to slow down my speech. I speak fast because I get interrupted alot. But maybe I get interrupted because I speak fast and don't hold people's attention. Its a viscous circle !
I talk fast most of the time owing to anxiety but when I'm calm, I speak normally. Another thing I have realized is that if remind myself to not speak fast, I speak normally as well. But as you mentioned, I should breath and pause while speaking. Thanks
i talk fast too, but some of other people that talk too fast like i do, they're words is can be understood by anyone but me, when i talk, it's fast and i can't clear it there some words that i can't speak well 😢
start from my childhood , i speak too fast i myself don't even realize it. but now , these days whenever i did my presentation , all of my classmates keep an annoying face to me, some people even left when i did presentation, it makes me so sad. Most of my friends comment me "you speak too fast, we don't know what are you talking about",it makes me so sad. People even don't know how i prepare for this presentation too hard,they just keep me shit! NO SUPPORTING! if someone saw my comment, please keep me some advices, thank you.
I'm also going through the same here. I wish to talk normal like everyone. I remember we had one presentation and I was like, I'll start with the introduction. We decided to rehearse on it in the group, I started and they were like it's too fast. It took like 20minutes for one lady to guide me on how to go about it. 🥺😌😌
I talk fast but it frustrates me when people call me out on it as if I am intentionally doing it. What I hear and say in my head is normal speech so I dont know how I would go about speaking slow. Speaking slow feels like I am talking in baby talk or acting mentally challenged. I know it has a lot to do with my anxiety. I grew up in a family where there where a lot of verbal arguments or if I was in trouble and often I would be confronted by someone and I would carefully have to choose my words or get a beating. Then as an introvert contending with everyone speaking over me. I get this anxious burst of speech as if wanting to get over with. Sometimes i think people just arent attentive listeners. So if you do understand me and I am talking slow it means I am talking to you like an idiot with slow comprehension.
But listening to a fast talkers causes anxiety, so basically you are implying that your feelings are more important . Fast talkers are hard to understand, anxiety inducing and terrible for people who speak English as a second language….so it seems like y’all are the ones in the wrong and need to work on it or get used to be avoided
It's also something to note that people with ADHD, such as myself, tend to talk really fast as well. This is because our brains move much faster and we have like 60 thoughts going through our heads at once, so if we don't get everything out there into the world as fast as possible we might forget it all mid-sentence.
As my native language is not English however, I don’t know why does it happen with me when i speak fast i get appropriate words and vocabulary and when i slow down my speed i start forgetting the words it doesn’t come in mind then i start fumbling 😢.
@@tycho8473 This is also a great point! It's easier to speak on autopilot the faster you talk. Speaking slowly forces you to think about what you're saying which can cause you to mess up more
I talk to fast that sometimes i just stutter then lose my courage to speak. I guess thats why im a loner Edit: wow this has been here for a while but still get responses. Thank you all for the support and advice :) I actually developed self confidence during these last 2 years im not a loner now and can gladly say i have a good circle of friends who i can rely on. Again thank you all and may you all succeed in your dreams :)))))
Have you tried just laughing at yourself when you stumble over your words😀 it could help reframe it in your mind and maybe over time it can help you become more comfortable with your tiny quirk. I stumble over my words too 🙂 I also find it funny when I trip and fall, hey we're human and some errors are just life's little funny surprises among day to day living. Imagine if we never made silly mistakes like trip, stutter, funny typo etc and everything always happened the way we think it's supposed to, that would be quite monotonous 🙄. Those silly unexpected human moments are a part of life's humour 🙂. Perhaps that's just life goofing off🙃
I'm from NYC...we speak fast there. Once I left NY, spent time around others and lived in Texas, my cadence slowed down a bit. Now, when I listen to people in business video, they drive me nuts with all the speed-talking.
If I speak slower I get a brain freeze not knowing what I am talking about like total blank :/ I just feel like I need to deliver the idea before it is lost and everything gets awkward
@@Jungkookie629 nope lol.. I don't think it's a problem now that's just our minds being a little special.. I'm too restless for meditation.. but maybe it will do something
I talk fast apparently, its just natural. I know I'll get listened to without interruptions etc. How do you talk slower and still keep up pace with your mind. I also had to watch the video at 2x the speed else I'd lose focus. I'm always asked why I walk and move fast too by everyone. Maybe my brain doesn't produce enough GABA and thoughts race and I'm extremely excitable both positively and negatively. I never used to care about it, I only care now because apparently kt makes you appear nervous, I'm always asked why I'm nervous when I'm feeling perfectly confident, apparently it's tied to the fact that I speak fast and I want to appear as confident as I feel. When I talk slowly, I feel out of sync with thoughts like my thoughts are ahead of my world and I get muddled which I now realise is probably yhr wreason I'm so terrible at writing because there's a limit to how fast you can write and then I feel that lag and lose my plot. I also want to improve my writing which I imagine would be improved by learning to talk slower. I care now because I thought I would avoid writing by going into maths and computer science where yoh don't really have to write in a very structured way and that was the case throughout my entire bachelor's but now but now I'm doing my masters by research so the whjole degree is a dissertation and I have to write and I'm procrastinating because writing is so daunting because getting thoughts onto paper through writing is so difficult
I have realised that i need to slow down my speed of speaking. I really talk too fast and the important communication is missed every time . Please help me in this regard.
I get it! I’m working on my conversations skills! I need to stop talking too fast! They will think I talk too much. They don’t know what I’m saying! That will be stressful! I got to take a chill pill! It will help me to feel relax!
Mine is slow to my ear cause I was born with a fast tongue not cause I want to talk faster or wanting to cover anyone even when I sound slow my words come out so fast
Sometimes when i try to begin a conversation i kinda like ( glitch) trying to pronouce the thing i was thinking about and instead i find my self spelling random letters soo fast for like 3 seconds then i recover and tell what i was thinking about
I notice a lot of younger & Hispanic people speak English very fast. It’s been so irritating I just had to research it. Your comment on sounding more N.American was interesting., I didn’t realize that was something we did but if that’s how others perceive it then I will consider that as a reason. I just started noticing it in the last decade. Has this always been an issue or do you think it’s been recent increase as well? Thank you for your video!
speaking slowly is better than fast, that's what is being said. If you have habit of speaking fast slow down. Breathe deep and look at the audience in eyes.
Same here. The majority of non-music YT videos I watch at 2x speed, especially reviews & discussions where it is mostly talking. The short demo of fast talking Bonnie gives here at 0:44 is how I wished everyone talked all the time. The rest of this video is too slow for me...
Many languages, other than English, are spoken very fast. When people with a fast native language speak English as a second language they tend to speak English too fast and their words run together. As well, many ESL students learn English from a teacher whose 2nd language is English and will speak and teach their English with their first language accent. To learn English well, find a teacher whose first language is English and 2nd language is that of the students. A Spanish first speaker should not be teaching English to Spanish speaking students, the English taught will have a Spanish accent. Likewise, an English first speaker should not be teaching Spanish to English first speakers. They too, will pick up an English accent in learning their Spanish. The exceptions prove the rule and please slow down (you know who you are).
what if those people never have to go or would never go to english speaking countries like us, uk or aus.? they wouldn't need to speak in proper english at all.
Speaking quickly is a sign of intelligence, but people who deliberately talk too fast, like Martin Scorsese only sound like they're trying to impress everyone.
Thank you for pointing this out. I know a lot of fast talkers. A sign of intelligence? please..... if the ones i know are any indication then people have an extremely low standard.
@@Phantom-ez4zv stupid its not like that lol you are taking these fast talking in a whole new level which is not related at all. for me iam a fast talker like a kid but i talk rarely, i talk less but when i talk it is fast,so that means i dont think at all lol. fast talker dosent mean talkative peraon,some people talk very very less but when they speak it is usually very fast. that is intelligence lol
@@Phantom-ez4zv and if you say so then go and watch zakir naiks videos how he speaks very fast and dont let others talk😂😂 only if you are a well educated mem than go and watch "zakirs naik vs sadhguru videos on youtube" you will be amaze with their wisdom....but if you are jist a student or stupid and uneducated then dont watched it its a warning for you
Millennials talk too damn fast especially the females. Just tried calling Customer Service, many times I’ve had to tell a female millennial to slow down. And for god sake millennials get the hell off the phone while you’re driving!!
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I need to slow down my speech. I speak fast because I get interrupted alot. But maybe I get interrupted because I speak fast and don't hold people's attention. Its a viscous circle !
That’s the same exact reason for me
✋me too
I talk fast most of the time owing to anxiety but when I'm calm, I speak normally. Another thing I have realized is that if remind myself to not speak fast, I speak normally as well. But as you mentioned, I should breath and pause while speaking. Thanks
i talk fast too, but some of other people that talk too fast like i do, they're words is can be understood by anyone but me, when i talk, it's fast and i can't clear it there some words that i can't speak well 😢
You are a female. Of course you do. YAK...YAK...AND ENDLESS YAKING!
@@PrincessTiozon-o5d That is because you are a female
start from my childhood , i speak too fast i myself don't even realize it. but now , these days whenever i did my presentation , all of my classmates keep an annoying face to me, some people even left when i did presentation, it makes me so sad. Most of my friends comment me "you speak too fast, we don't know what are you talking about",it makes me so sad. People even don't know how i prepare for this presentation too hard,they just keep me shit! NO SUPPORTING! if someone saw my comment, please keep me some advices, thank you.
Were in the same boat. I need some advice as well
I'm also going through the same here. I wish to talk normal like everyone.
I remember we had one presentation and I was like, I'll start with the introduction. We decided to rehearse on it in the group, I started and they were like it's too fast. It took like 20minutes for one lady to guide me on how to go about it. 🥺😌😌
I talk fast but it frustrates me when people call me out on it as if I am intentionally doing it. What I hear and say in my head is normal speech so I dont know how I would go about speaking slow. Speaking slow feels like I am talking in baby talk or acting mentally challenged. I know it has a lot to do with my anxiety. I grew up in a family where there where a lot of verbal arguments or if I was in trouble and often I would be confronted by someone and I would carefully have to choose my words or get a beating. Then as an introvert contending with everyone speaking over me. I get this anxious burst of speech as if wanting to get over with. Sometimes i think people just arent attentive listeners. So if you do understand me and I am talking slow it means I am talking to you like an idiot with slow comprehension.
But listening to a fast talkers causes anxiety, so basically you are implying that your feelings are more important . Fast talkers are hard to understand, anxiety inducing and terrible for people who speak English as a second language….so it seems like y’all are the ones in the wrong and need to work on it or get used to be avoided
It's also something to note that people with ADHD, such as myself, tend to talk really fast as well. This is because our brains move much faster and we have like 60 thoughts going through our heads at once, so if we don't get everything out there into the world as fast as possible we might forget it all mid-sentence.
Speaking facts 🎉
Soooo trueeee
As my native language is not English however, I don’t know why does it happen with me when i speak fast i get appropriate words and vocabulary and when i slow down my speed i start forgetting the words it doesn’t come in mind then i start fumbling 😢.
@@tycho8473 This is also a great point! It's easier to speak on autopilot the faster you talk. Speaking slowly forces you to think about what you're saying which can cause you to mess up more
I talk to fast that sometimes i just stutter then lose my courage to speak. I guess thats why im a loner
Edit: wow this has been here for a while but still get responses. Thank you all for the support and advice :) I actually developed self confidence during these last 2 years im not a loner now and can gladly say i have a good circle of friends who i can rely on. Again thank you all and may you all succeed in your dreams :)))))
Yo trust me I have the confidence in ur self it sounds cliche. But when u believe that ur a somebody u will be a somebody trust me
exactly thats why people avoids me too i speaks fast
Same !!
Have you tried just laughing at yourself when you stumble over your words😀 it could help reframe it in your mind and maybe over time it can help you become more comfortable with your tiny quirk. I stumble over my words too 🙂 I also find it funny when I trip and fall, hey we're human and some errors are just life's little funny surprises among day to day living. Imagine if we never made silly mistakes like trip, stutter, funny typo etc and everything always happened the way we think it's supposed to, that would be quite monotonous 🙄. Those silly unexpected human moments are a part of life's humour 🙂. Perhaps that's just life goofing off🙃
@@shaquan2001 wow. That had an impact on me ay.
I'm from NYC...we speak fast there. Once I left NY, spent time around others and lived in Texas, my cadence slowed down a bit.
Now, when I listen to people in business video, they drive me nuts with all the speed-talking.
If I speak slower I get a brain freeze not knowing what I am talking about like total blank :/
I just feel like I need to deliver the idea before it is lost and everything gets awkward
With me too and I forget what I was talking about...... you have any solution
@@Jungkookie629 nope lol.. I don't think it's a problem now that's just our minds being a little special.. I'm too restless for meditation.. but maybe it will do something
I talk fast apparently, its just natural. I know I'll get listened to without interruptions etc. How do you talk slower and still keep up pace with your mind. I also had to watch the video at 2x the speed else I'd lose focus. I'm always asked why I walk and move fast too by everyone. Maybe my brain doesn't produce enough GABA and thoughts race and I'm extremely excitable both positively and negatively. I never used to care about it, I only care now because apparently kt makes you appear nervous, I'm always asked why I'm nervous when I'm feeling perfectly confident, apparently it's tied to the fact that I speak fast and I want to appear as confident as I feel. When I talk slowly, I feel out of sync with thoughts like my thoughts are ahead of my world and I get muddled which I now realise is probably yhr wreason I'm so terrible at writing because there's a limit to how fast you can write and then I feel that lag and lose my plot. I also want to improve my writing which I imagine would be improved by learning to talk slower. I care now because I thought I would avoid writing by going into maths and computer science where yoh don't really have to write in a very structured way and that was the case throughout my entire bachelor's but now but now I'm doing my masters by research so the whjole degree is a dissertation and I have to write and I'm procrastinating because writing is so daunting because getting thoughts onto paper through writing is so difficult
Girl I talk fast too. I can't talk slow I'll forget lol
I found my people 😂
I have realised that i need to slow down my speed of speaking. I really talk too fast and the important communication is missed every time . Please help me in this regard.
I get it! I’m working on my conversations skills! I need to stop talking too fast! They will think I talk too much. They don’t know what I’m saying! That will be stressful! I got to take a chill pill! It will help me to feel relax!
Yep! Must work on this... love your vids.
Mine is slow to my ear cause I was born with a fast tongue not cause I want to talk faster or wanting to cover anyone even when I sound slow my words come out so fast
Sometimes when i try to begin a conversation i kinda like ( glitch) trying to pronouce the thing i was thinking about and instead i find my self spelling random letters soo fast for like 3 seconds then i recover and tell what i was thinking about
I notice a lot of younger & Hispanic people speak English very fast. It’s been so irritating I just had to research it. Your comment on sounding more N.American was interesting., I didn’t realize that was something we did but if that’s how others perceive it then I will consider that as a reason. I just started noticing it in the last decade. Has this always been an issue or do you think it’s been recent increase as well? Thank you for your video!
Hello, I am Turkish and I do not understand what is meant in the video and Turkish subtitles are not available. Can you give me a brief summary?
speaking slowly is better than fast, that's what is being said. If you have habit of speaking fast slow down. Breathe deep and look at the audience in eyes.
Could you please make a video I could share to friends (in my case a colleague), one they wouldn't get offended if received?
That would be great :)
Sometimes I just wish people would speed up their listening receptors and process it. I just can't stand people that slow talk.
OMG IKR ppl literally everyone I know tells me I talk too fast, but I don’t even notice
Me too people are too stupid.
I feel exactly the same way.
actually i prefer when people talk fast and i speed up pretty much every yt video with talking. slow talking is boring
I agree. I can't understand people who talk too slow.
Yea I rather fast talking. Slow talking itches me
Same here. The majority of non-music YT videos I watch at 2x speed, especially reviews & discussions where it is mostly talking.
The short demo of fast talking Bonnie gives here at 0:44 is how I wished everyone talked all the time. The rest of this video is too slow for me...
Many languages, other than English, are spoken very fast. When people with a fast native language speak English as a second language they tend to speak English too fast and their words run together. As well, many ESL students learn English from a teacher whose 2nd language is English and will speak and teach their English with their first language accent. To learn English well, find a teacher whose first language is English and 2nd language is that of the students. A Spanish first speaker should not be teaching English to Spanish speaking students, the English taught will have a Spanish accent. Likewise, an English first speaker should not be teaching Spanish to English first speakers. They too, will pick up an English accent in learning their Spanish. The exceptions prove the rule and please slow down (you know who you are).
what if those people never have to go or would never go to english speaking countries like us, uk or aus.? they wouldn't need to speak in proper english at all.
I would this is not true
I’m from south Florida we all talk fast 🤣
Hi
Can we be friends
Pause and slow down and your turn is over. If they don't want to hear what you say. Don't say it!
Speaking quickly is a sign of intelligence, but people who deliberately talk too fast, like Martin Scorsese only sound like they're trying to impress everyone.
Thank you for pointing this out. I know a lot of fast talkers. A sign of intelligence? please..... if the ones i know are any indication then people have an extremely low standard.
@@Phantom-ez4zv stupid its not like that lol you are taking these fast talking in a whole new level which is not related at all.
for me iam a fast talker like a kid but i talk rarely, i talk less but when i talk it is fast,so that means i dont think at all lol.
fast talker dosent mean talkative peraon,some people talk very very less but when they speak it is usually very fast. that is intelligence lol
@@Phantom-ez4zv and if you say so then go and watch zakir naiks videos how he speaks very fast and dont let others talk😂😂
only if you are a well educated mem than go and watch "zakirs naik vs sadhguru videos on youtube" you will be amaze with their wisdom....but if you are jist a student or stupid and uneducated then dont watched it its a warning for you
@@Phantom-ez4zv Not all us who talk fast are trying to prove anything. Many of us have been put into situations where the habit forms and sticks.
Noo i dont want a deep voice forever nooooo
Me to .😁🏃♂️
Millennials talk too damn fast especially the females. Just tried calling Customer Service, many times I’ve had to tell a female millennial to slow down. And for god sake millennials get the hell off the phone while you’re driving!!
We all are same 😂
does that mean I have bipolar disease
Ya I m among them
I searched for this after listening to a TH-camr I found unbearable, no only he talks too fasts , but he talks without making any pause
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