Yeah, the Indian woman's answer was spot on. I made great friends when I was in Japan and talked to them via Line almost every day despite returning to my home country, but I could never talk about actual issues or emotional things. Nothing truly deep at all. One of them didn't even tell me he got engaged and then married, even though we talked regularly. Everything seems incredibly superficial as a result, which can be a ticking time-bomb for people with social anxiety or similar issues.
lmao at the guy who got married. I've never been to Japan but made a friend online and we talked everyday and shared travel photos and whatnot, but one day he stopped respoding. After a while I was like "hey man, everything good?" and he was just like "Oh, i just have nothing to say" and he never responded beyond that. I thought we were really good friends lol
@@handlemeifyoucan144 People with anxiety need more verbalized reassurance from their relationships. Without that, they can collapse in on themselves with doubt and distrust, which can eventually lead to them self-destructing the relationship.
I lived in Japan from 2012-2016, I must agree with the first girls from India. Japanese are friendly regardless in Tokyo or Osaka or other places, it’s just that the friendships could only go to the superficial level, cannot go deep.
Which can kind person are stereotypically easier to form deep relationships with like how do you compare Chinese, Thai, Korean, Vietnamese, Indonesians, Indians, Russians, Americans, Latinos?
Well, I guess there's a difference between being friendly and easy to make friends. I am not sure how the friendships was build among Japanese but I'm guessing it's the same anywhere. But it takes more effort to understand other people who doesn't grow up as you do, culture and languages bring its own challenges there. And since foreigners rarely stay long, not more than 1, 5, or 10 years so it's quite understandable if you feel the Japanese treat you more as guest, and consequently maintain some distance.
@@aoeu256as a latino that has traveled and lived in other non-latin countries, i would say us. People here would make friends out of anyone instantly, you’d tell story of your life or fight politics with people just literally just met in a bar and then hosting them in your house years later when write you on fb that they are visiting your country. People for good or worse have no restrain on being who they are and sharing it with everyone else. Or maybe that’s just my country? Dunno.
The Indian girl explained this topic very well kudos to her 👏👏👏 I live here for almost 20 years and this is exactly my experience.Nice topic Takashi keep up the good work!!!
I am in japan from america. I have a baby and husband here. It is very difficult to make close friends, it’s lonely and I’ve gone through so many emotions since being here, ranging from love to hate.
hey if you ever need someone , anyone to talk to i can be that source! nobody should feel this way i’m also american , i could help , reach out if you’d like ! :) best wishes
I'm a native Japanese. It is difficult to make close friends for Japanese persons as well. Japanese people are extremely insular minded. They are polite, but that's all.
What that Indian lady said about the difficulty of forming deep friendships with Japanese people is so true. It's like there's always a barrier between you and them no matter what you do. It's to the point where asking a favor from a non-Japanese person is easier and less anxiety inducing than asking a Japanese person because it feels like you're going to owe them a huge debt.
could it be that this barrier is only in your own mind? Maybe Japanese people are waiting on you to take initiative because they are too afraid to overstep their boundry.
@@KGBos Nope. I'm speaking from personal experience. They are extremely polite but it's not...it's like being polite to be polite; but not genuine in a way that allows for you to go beyond the surface of polite necessities.
@@raven_bard could you narrate a personal experience as an example ? Cause as an Indian i thought japanese would be pretty racist towards me or other asians in general ( as is the perception ) but then i met this awesome japanese girl and now we're in a relationship and she's amazing and super open and always goes out of her way to help me with whatever.
@@vccv9785 asian mostly means chinese korean and japanese to be fair, as an indian you are probably seen as a foreigner like how a westerner would be seen
I really liked the Indian women’s answer. And I think she’s right, but it’s not only Japanese people, that just depends on the culture. Having deep close relationships with people from the west is also difficult and I’ve even felt like that living in the US compared to Latin American countries for example. Thank you so much for this video! It was so interesting. 😊
She felt like that because in india. People help each other. And if you are close friend then if I call my friend then in few minute he/she will be here to help. In india family values are great and people feel connected to each other.
@@AbhijeetKumar-vh1ff Yeah but to westerners that can also feel intrusive. We Indians are too much into each others business 😅 . Some may like it, some may want more independence.
Alicia, by any chance, when you lived in the USA, did you live somewhere outside of the traditional South? In the South, if somebody needs help, honey, we give it. I’d like to know what state you lived in, please.
@@matthewjay660 Hi Matthew! I've lived in Georgia and I currently live in Florida, I've been living in the United States for about 10 years now. I'm not saying that people would not help and that they are not nice, that's not what I meant. On the contrary, they are VERY nice and kind people. I just think building a deep, really close, long lasting friendship with an american, from my experience, has been harder than doing it with a hispanic person. Maybe is the difference in culture between us, but I do have american friends and they have told me multiple times things like "I've never had a friend like you because people here normally don't really care that deep and truly about each other and you do." They even think their own relationships with other americans are superficial. But again, is just my experience and my friends's point of view. I'm sure there are a lot of people that would think otherwise.
I live in Japan so I know how cool Japan is. But the truth I always need to remind people on is that being polite in Japan doesn't necessarily mean being nice. Just like anywhere you go you get good and bad people, but the strict working environment is what bugs me the most of all things. Still love Japan though.
Kaneshiro san, I could not have said that better. I’m an American and have several Japanese contractors that are extremely overworked and burned out. I feel so bad for them and wish they had a work/life balance. I’m hoping this culture will change.
Spent 6 months in Tokyo for work, the most depressed, rigid society I've seen, that demands so much from its people. However, if I was going on vacation I'd have loved it for sure.
Agree with the first comment. In Japan, many foreigners feel like it is not easy to make friends, but making new connections can help your stay become much easier to deal with. Almost Japanese prefer to keep some distance between their private lives and their work,etc.
Takashi your videos deserve so much more views. You do topics that no one would actually do and these are so helpful. You speak to natives and even international people. Thank you for these great videos!
I'm a foreigner. I've never been to Japan, but I like to visit Japan, so this type of videos are very useful. Thank you Takashi for organizing such interesting interviews.
Definitely visit it. I've been there three times and can't wait to go back. My advice is to familiarize yourself with the culture before you go. It also helps to learn some Japanese
You're creating high quality content, the interviews feels authentic and the questions are well oriented. I'm pretty confident that your subscriber count will grow faster. Keep up the good work !
Actually we always fantasise Japan as a clean highly developed country. Obviously it's true but every country has their own problems and Japan is not an exception. Not only Japan, every countries of this world must have some harsh realities.
I am so happy to have found your channel. Your videos are so informative and I love how they take an objective stance. As a newly arrived foreigner, I wish I had seen your videos earlier as they would have helped prepare me for living in Japan. I wish more people talked about the bad sides of Japan and did not look at everything with rose-tinted glasses.
As someone who has lived abroad, I've realized that some behaviors/differences I thought were cultural differences are actually just differences between rural life, small town life, and city life, which to an extent are universal across nationalities.
Once in my airplane travel, I was seated beside a Japanese man from Seattle to Narita. We never spoke a word, but he always smiled and helped me with my luggage without me asking.
I agree with this. I've only been to Japan once, but I've made a lot of Japanese friends over the years because of uni and work. They're really respectful and friendly, but I do feel this barrier between us. They seldom ask for help, and when they do, they seem very apologetic about it. After months of staying in my country, some of them expressed their initial shock as to how warm the people are. They're not used to people showing that much affection like friends hugging, holding hands, etc.
I lived in Fukuoka for a while back in 2016 (best time of my life there ;_; I miss it a lot). But no one talks about the living conditions, or did only I had such a bad apartment complex? The walls are like paper, super thin. I heard every neighbor and I had to sleep with earplugs and earphones plus TV on, that I can sleep somehow. And unfortunately I had a neighbor who had a girlfriend, so you can guess what happened daily and to hear that daily was quite disturbing. Then I also heard a girl singing, she sang very often and I still can hear her voice in my head, because she just sang it so often. So I would say that is a down side of Japan, or rather the buildings. You can basically talk with your neighbor from wall to wall, good corona protection there. But other than that, I love Japan and I wish I could return somehow.
I like your videos Takashi because they focus on real issues, not the usual shallow OMG JAPAN IS GREAT OMG THE PEOPLE ARE SO FRIENDLY. Have you considered writing a book about social issues in J? I'd read it!
I don't know why these types of videos scare me. When even in my own country, I have few acquaintances and not friends! Anyway, thank you so Takashi for bringing this! ありがとうございます
for me personally, every foreigners' problems in these videos are kinda nothing new to me. I'm dealing with literally same problems in my homeland (Georgia). Never had any close friends, I was always alone when needed help, people are not straightforward when I ask for a feedback and not to mention work ethic in Japan kinda looks same as mine (I'm an IB Student while also working as part time indie game developer and 3D artist.) as for me personally I work around 8-11 hours a day. But hey, maybe I don't know what I'm talking about and Japan is worse than I think ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
as someone who lived in 5 continents & many countries for many yrs, there are different levels of trust. being respectful & friendly with the general public or other cultures is not the same type of relationship that u attach to ur family & best friends that u grew up with in ur hometown. this is a universal thing anywhere on this planet. too many barriers to list.
Japan is known for the most disciplined people in the world. But sometimes they take it to the extremes. I hope the new Japanese generation will change the rigid and absurd laws and system of the old Japan... I love Osaka and Okinawa too. But TAKAshi and the Laughtrip boys from Tokyo are slowly opening my mind to love Tokyo too. 💙💚💛💜💗
I am in Tokyo and since I can't speak Nihongo , I feel lonely. That's why I am learning Japanese now. I must admit people just go about their business in Tokyo and not very friendly.
This is very relatable! Please keep making great videos ☺️ It’s true that Japanese are very shy but I’ve lived in Japan for about 2 years now and during my part time job, I have met a lot of very friendly Japanese people. Some even took their time to help me with my Japanese and there are some who are very curious about aboard. It’ nice because we are learning about each others culture. Right now there aren’t many chance to meet people like that but hopefully in the future 😊
In Europe specifically in The Netherlands, people are nice that if you need help then they are willing to come to help you , except if during workdays they can't unless you have an appointment with them , . Building Friendship is really hard bdw , like especially if you are already in 30s 40s 50s . They are helpful and not with your personal issues.
Hi Takashi, great video. I am 70 years still working as an Industrial Engineer and hoping to come this October to study Japanese Language. This information is so Valuable for me. I will change my Japanese Language school from Tokyo to Kyoto. I am from Australia and love to be around nice people. Thank you Best Regards Gamini
Earlier I used to have thoughts of living in Japan now I feel like it's not my cup of tea because being an extrovert from India I don't think I could survive a day without offending the Japanese it's not that any of us(me Or you guys) are bad it's just a cultural difference like we laugh loud we talk louder than Japanese I LOVE EVERYTHING ABOUT JAPAN THE CLEANLINESS THE WARMTH THE MUTUAL RESPECT BUT I REALLY AGREE WITH THE INDIAN GIRL IN THE BEGINNING OF THE VIDEO WE HERE BECOME VERY CLOSE IN NO TIME ACTUALLY YOU MEET TWICE OR THRICE AND THAT'S IT YOU ARE LIKE A PART OF ONE'S LIFE 😄😄
In Europe, people are equally distant and most friendships shallow. At least in Japan, even if people are a little distant, they are polite and outwardly nice to you, not noisy and rude to your face. It's refreshing ;)
As a Mexican I've met Spaniards and Italians that give it all when you become friends with them. With their off-putting quirks and all, but I'd never say they're distant or shallow. I guess you're talking about Northern or Eastern Europe?
Very nice! Keep it up. Cuban lady from Osaka seemed like a sweetheart. I hope Japanese people do not just walk by and miss the opportunity to give her kind hospitality like she can experience back in Cuba.
When it comes to making friends it is like anywhere else. It depends on how you put yourself out there and where you are. Where I live now (Aomori) it's harder to meet people since everyone is more spread out and more difficult to make friends while in the last town I lived in( Iwate) I had a bunch of friends and it was easier to get to know people. Plus, many went out of their way to get to know me to the point of just inviting me to their house for drinks when they saw me walking down the street.
As an Indian I felt that Indian woman. In India we always seek deep relationship , bonding . In India there are so many different communities , Linguistic groups living together. People from different sides of India can't even understand each other languages. Suppose two Indians from different cultures meet , if everything goes well then in few days they can treat each other like their own brother . Actually an Indian man treat his friend like own brother . Indians can be your closest friend if you treat them well.
I have been living in Japan for 6 years. Earlier I lived in Saitama and Tokyo as a university student and now working in Kansai. Yes Kansai ppl are warmer than Tokyo. However I was lucky to have warm heart university friends in my university life. I also feel harsh reality in Japan is talking open heart with Japanese ppl. They don’t check about others. I have few good Japanese friends both in Tokyo and Osaka. But unless I contact them they never contact me 😞
This is true in all countries. When you get older you will realize that people who can count their true friends on one hand are beyond blessed. That’s just life, dear.
It's because of internalised racism in that country. Most of them will keep in touch with the white skinned westerners/europeans but anyone is with darker skin tone they see as "less desirable". Anyone who has darker skin tone is considered the low ones, so they won't associate with them
WHY IS NOBODY BRINGING UP THE IDEA OF INTERNALISED RACISM???!!!!!! IF YOU AS A CAUCASIAN PERSON (AMERICAN/EUROPEAN) THE SAME THING THE ANSWER WOULD BE DIFFERENT. JAPANESE PEOPLE DEVALUE AND TRIVILIAZE ANYONE WHO ISN'T WHITE. THEY ONLY HAVE LASTING GENUINE FRIENDSHIPS WITH CAUCASIAN PEOPLE!!
@@greenygreen6771 Yeah but latin american countries n India are best when it comes to depth and understanding b/w people. It's one of those things I am proud of. Even neighbours are soo soo warm and natural to us, it's not something I will get anywhere else in the world.
@@tromboner6061 i dont know anything about india but as a latino in the US, you are right. Americans with the right personality can also be super friendly
this comment is the epitome of taking things out of context/blowing shit out of proportion. Ever heard of the word "superficial"? Coz maybe you have too many of these types of friendship and you know what? good for you ! :D Anyone who thinks that vomiting all your life problems on the first day of a friendship must be having fewer braincells than a chimp. That's basic common sense (then again common sense is not so common anymore nowadays) But I cannot possibly think of a friendship that has lasted for years and years only to talk about "Hi hello! nice weather eh? ^__^" 💀
Great video! Can you make an updated video about: What would be the best way for an American to learn Japanese? From a Japanese person’s perspective, if you could guide an American to learn Japanese, then what would be the most efficient tools/resources that you would recommend? What tools/resources have your American friends used that was very successful? What schools, books, online classes, apps would be the most valuable for an American to learn Japanese? Thank you so much!
I think what a lot of foreigners or visitors to Tokyo misunderstand about Tokyo residents, is that actually many many people here are from other parts of the country themselves and come here for work so it can feel a bit lonely in some central neighbourhoods. However, I’ve been here in Tokyo 18 years and now have a family and home just outside of the Yamanote line and when you live in a neighbourhood where people are born and raised Tokyoites, they’re absolutely warm and friendly. I live in a fantastic real Tokyo community and I would not change it at all. The people are great, they’re just not in your face all the time thankfully!
WHY IS NOBODY BRINGING UP THE IDEA OF RACISM???!!!!!! IF YOU AS A CAUCASIAN PERSON THE SAME THING THE ANSWER WOULD BE DIFFERENT. JAPANESE PEOPLE DEVALUE AND TRIVILIAZE ANYONE WHO ISN'T WHITE. THEY ONLY HAVE LASTING GENUINE FRIENDSHIPS WITH CAUCASIAN PEOPLE!!
A wise old timer named Hampton taught me this: "For most westerners, Japan is great at 25, okay at 35, a problem at 45, a struggle at 55 and a disaster at 65 with no pension, no property and minimal savings. This is because incomes don't increase to match expenses and people should leave earlier or improve themselves and get better jobs." I would add that if you want to have a middle-class life (own home, marriage, children), you will find this quite difficult to do in Tokyo. It happens gradually of course. You get a girlfriend, you get married, she wants a child, she wants to stop working, she doesn't want to leave Japan...
I really love Japan... thanks for such a videos ...it's really entertaining and we get lot of information about different culture ❤️ ... really appreciate your efforts 💜
Well, I am not living in Japan. But I’ve been living in a country different than my own for 4 years. The truth is, developing a genuinely deep relationship with anyone in the new environment is HARD in itself. During these 4 years I happened to know closely quite a number of people, was invited home, learned what’s on their hearts etc. Nonetheless I cannot say I have developed a really deep relationship ( except for my husband) with many of them. Maybe it’s just my observation, but I say it takes years to find your circle of contacts with the same depth as your family and close friends.
It's funny when I hear people talk about friendships. I live in western part of the world and even though making friends is easy here and you do share personal things about yourself easily, I could never really depend on anyone when I really needed something. But with my Japanese friends, i have never met more understanding people. The thing is that making friends with Japanese that would last takes a lot of time. It's extremely slow process but in my experience, it's worth it. I could just tell my Japanese friends my pain and traumas and I never got verbal validation but I got understanding and support I never had before in my life. So we all have different experiences it seems.
I think the ones who had more difficulty were ones from developing countries like mine. We can have really tightly knit communities where let alone your friends, but even your neighbors have the complete idea what's going on in your life. It can feel intrusive and invasive to those coming from abroad, but everyone is up everyone else's business in a good way. Currently, I have been in living in Canada for 2+ years, and it's really surprising to me how detached everyone feels from everyone else. But this is my experience maybe because I don't know many people here. So yeah I agree with you that we all have different experiences.
@@ruturajgole1850 I disagree. I come also from a developing country and I could never rely on anyone from my country, while people from richer western counries were always acting like they are better instead of helping. Even if you watch other rich westerners like americans, a lot of them don't like living in Japan while few think it's the happiest time of their lives and even got married to a Japanese. So I think it depends on the personality. I struggle with having good friendships with westerners because even though I'm one myself I just don't like how intrusive, loud and selfish they are. While I vibe very well with my asian friends and even Japanese ones. Heck, I met my Japanese best friends the way that I literally asked them for help because my western friends were too busy being defensive instead of helping me. While Japanese, even tough i was a complete stranger, I was met with so much kindess. Granted, some Japanese literally told me they hated me but that happens rarely. So I guess it depends on the individual and on how much time and effort they are willing to spend on a person. Because making asian friends and Japanese in particular takes a lot of time and it's a slow process in my experience but to me it was worth it. I got more help and understanding from them than I ever got from my own people.
@@ruturajgole1850 And yes, we also have tight knit communities and everyone is invasive and I always hated it. I hated that everyone around always knew what's up because it was annoying and useless to me. I love my independence while I can rely on people to be there when I need it. Which is what I have with my Japanese friends.
Good video. Good timing, too, as this is exactly what I've started to look for. I'm possibly going to Japan this year or next through the JET program as a CIR, so it's really good to see opinions on all sides of the country from people that come from all kinds of different backgrounds. It paints a better picture about what to expect when I get there.
Exactly what the Indian lady said. Relationships with Japanese is quite impossible. A foreigner cannot make friends here. Even if they "make friends", they will not be as deep as they hope them to be.
@@AshTheDuke I think "tatemae" culture makes it difficult to build a deeper kind of friendship with them. It's difficult to know whether they're being nice or they're being sincere.
These interviews and videos from Takashii from Japan are really deep and address so much. They are frankly discussed here. Saying or discussing them explains some of the things in the back of your head.
I find it really odd that none of these foreigners mentioned the travel ban that Japan has imposed to foreigners for two years now, with absolutely no current epidemiologic reason but pure xenophobia. Most of the foreigners I know who live here have been affected by this travel ban in a way or another. Families that include foreigners are kept apart for no reason, international students are repeatedly asked to wait for news that never come, while they and their families have to pay for tuition fees not knowing if they will ever set foot in Japan before the end of their courses. In the meantime, japanese people can travel freely for TOURISM and study abroad in the same countries that are denied entry to Japan. That's the worst about living here: you will always be the unwanted foreigner, and you will never have the same rights as a japanese person no matter what/how much time you spend here. I am very disappointed by the way Japan has treated foreigners during the pandemic, and by the fact that 80% of the population agrees with these racist ban. It feels like they enjoy having an excuse to forbid the entry of as many foreigners as possible 😑
Blunt, unflattering, but true, esp. that a foreigner will always be the unwanted foreigner. If you look at Japanese immigration policy, it is not enough to know the language as well as a native, know the culture, customs, and blend in seamlessly, and have lived a long time in the country. Testimonials on your behalf will fall on deaf ears. You also need 100-percent pure Japanese blood, and it helps if you were born in Japan. Otherwise, you will never be granted a Japanese passport or citizenship. _Pure xenophobia_ is probably correct.
I have the same aspirations as the school counsellor. It would be so great to talk with him or someone who has made the transition as a therapist to Japan!
I love your videos so much. It's a pretty simple but enjoyable style. Just walking to strangers and ask them questions. I'm from Mexico, never been to Japan, but I'd love to. Thanks for the great videos, keep it up! ❤️
I am very excited to live in Japan when they allow it again! Just found your videos too so its really great to see you asking some of these deep questions.
Blessed to have close Japanese friends in Tokyo, but I can relate to people feeling isolated and I sometimes even find myself doing the same thing to other people. I feel like younger Japanese people seem to be a little bit more open.
Either you need or not Japanese, you should learn the language of the country you want to live in. If you want the country to respect you, you need to show respect first.
I agree! I loved Osaka so much more than Tokyo. Both places were an amazing experience for me coming from the UK but people in Osaka were so friendly and seemed more relaxed than in Tokyo. I also found it easier with my limited Japanese speaking abilities in Osaka.
I’m living in Osaka but for me Japan culture is matching me so there’s really no harsh reality for me ! In general, I’m a quiet soft spoken person and Feminine and I do not like hugging or kissing In public even in my country and I do not have any tattoos and I love cooking and eating Japanese food and I like the zen lifestyle it can bring you living in Japan ! Also I heard many people in your videos say that Osaka people are more friendly and maybe it’s true but also when I lived in Kanagawa and stayed in Tokyo before I experienced really friendly and nice Japanese people too like very friendly maybe even more than Osaka !
@@albertsmith99 not at all! but I do have a little boy and I like to play with him and spend time with him and watch him grow ! Anyways, I think some people are misunderstanding me ..lol Basically, Japanese society is matching me is what my point was! ( I also like some European Countries lifestyle too ) Some girls are loud , and / or coming on strong or aggressive behaviour , some girls are soft spoken.,,,,, and I am more on the soft spoken side and I like to make peace with everyone and I don:t want to say something negative to the people even if I don:t like something about that stranger ...because that is not living in harmony and we can live the life without saying those things so also Tatemae is also something I:m perfectly OK with to some extent !! And actually some Japanese are very direct when it comes to academics , social media twitter, or yahoo, my Japanese husband said he saw many rude comments from other Japanese to other Japanese and also he said his soccer coach was very direct and not Tatemae for that ... Also , Japanese are not Tatemae with their own family or close friends. just strangers because they don:t want hurt their feelings or cause any disturbances. ..so that is just my style ! I dislike tattoos and that also has nothing to do with cats lol As for hugging or kissing in public, in my opinion it:s something private except some hugging is OK ...,,,So I*m a bit confused why you would think I own lots of cats lol!
So because you don't like tattoos that makes you a more valuable person in your mind? Because self expression and the body is only temporary. I feel social standards and proximity with whiteness is what the Japanese aspire to be. However, the barrier of socialism is very necessary in forming personal bonds as well as helps with anxiety and social skills. I think it's weird that hate tattoos. Is that why most black people are looked at strangely? Do we look like one giant tattoo to you?
Sounds like Japanese are introverts. You start appreciating your culture and warmth from people once you travel outside of your own place. Love and miss India ❤️
I’ve really been enjoying your content Takashii, I’m planning on moving/working in Japan, as it’s a dream and aspiration of mine, so getting the insight of the culture before migrating into it is very helpful, thanks a lot!
She's one of the most articulate Indians I've ever seen. Most Indians just just use some fancy words that make no sense. Love how she's so clear in her thoughts and able to express them just as clearly
Wow I just discovered your channel. You're so cute Takashi! 😍 Haha. Also, that Indian lady is very well spoken and I'm very impressed with her Japanese too.
Hi takashi san 😁 Thanks alot for this video, actually i can understand more how japanese people think. I'm from UAE, and oneday i met a Japanese girl and in a short time we have become a friends. she invited me to her house..i know a little bit a japanese and she's also know little bit English.. even if we couldn't speak well, we trying to translate our talk by line translator or any app..so i think some people will struggling because of language, or maybe they are thinking japanese people refuse a friendship with foreign..
Personally I have been scammed so many times by people who acted like friends, so it is hard to be anything more than just friendly. You have to protect yourself.
This exists in the UK too. If you get together with people and you start talking about something deeper, it seems to them that you're just moaning/whining. Sometimes it's embarrassing to show your real emotions.
My Japanese wife maintains close friendships with old Indian classmates, and they seem to really rally around each other here in Japan. I think I understand them a little better now.
WHY IS NOBODY BRINGING UP THE IDEA OF RACISM???!!!!!! IF YOU AS A CAUCASIAN PERSON THE SAME THING THE ANSWER WOULD BE DIFFERENT. JAPANESE PEOPLE DEVALUE AND TRIVILIAZE ANYONE WHO ISN'T WHITE. THEY ONLY HAVE LASTING GENUINE FRIENDSHIPS WITH CAUCASIAN PEOPLE!!
It wasn't really touched on with these interviewees, but one of the reasons I decided against studying to live and work in Japan is that support for women's reproductive health and for mental health is still very behind a lot of other countries. If I wanted to live there with my specific conditions, I would almost definitely need to regularly get my medication from Canada, and one of my prescriptions is even banned in Japan last I checked.
I believe that people in Tokyo are more "cold" because there is a big city. When I went to the São Paulo city I have the same feeling. People are really busy in their own lifes, there are a lot of people and things to do, so it's hard to have a friendly relationship with everyone. When you live at the country side, people know each other, or at least someone of your family, then people at the streets treat you very diffently, more warm and kind.
What the indian women said is actually true…not only for japan, i’m from indonesia, it’s hard to form a deep emotional friendship with friends, where you feel emotionally connected with your friends in indonesia and now i live in new zeland…and my best friend is a Brazilian, latino people really have a deep bond with their friends and treasure their friendship with their friends
WHY IS NOBODY BRINGING UP THE IDEA OF RACISM???!!!!!! IF YOU AS A CAUCASIAN PERSON THE SAME THING THE ANSWER WOULD BE DIFFERENT. JAPANESE PEOPLE DEVALUE AND TRIVILIAZE ANYONE WHO ISN'T WHITE. THEY ONLY HAVE LASTING GENUINE FRIENDSHIPS WITH CAUCASIAN PEOPLE!!
These videos r really necessary who just want to go to Japan Korea just bcoz of anime or k-pop coz reality is very different and hard hitting , long back I wanted to go to both countries but now I'll only go for sightseeing if I ever went there
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Yeah, the Indian woman's answer was spot on. I made great friends when I was in Japan and talked to them via Line almost every day despite returning to my home country, but I could never talk about actual issues or emotional things. Nothing truly deep at all. One of them didn't even tell me he got engaged and then married, even though we talked regularly. Everything seems incredibly superficial as a result, which can be a ticking time-bomb for people with social anxiety or similar issues.
lmao at the guy who got married.
I've never been to Japan but made a friend online and we talked everyday and shared travel photos and whatnot, but one day he stopped respoding. After a while I was like "hey man, everything good?" and he was just like "Oh, i just have nothing to say" and he never responded beyond that. I thought we were really good friends lol
@@FSVR54 Dude I'm so so sorry you went through that, it feels b a d lol
@@catherine1756 its all good LOL! Part of life. I'm sure someone of Takashii's caliber wouldn't do that haha
Wym ticking time bomb
@@handlemeifyoucan144 People with anxiety need more verbalized reassurance from their relationships. Without that, they can collapse in on themselves with doubt and distrust, which can eventually lead to them self-destructing the relationship.
I lived in Japan from 2012-2016, I must agree with the first girls from India. Japanese are friendly regardless in Tokyo or Osaka or other places, it’s just that the friendships could only go to the superficial level, cannot go deep.
same thought currently living in Japan
Is it the same for Japanese people being friends with other Japanese? Are most of their friendships superficial? Or is it just with foreigners?
Which can kind person are stereotypically easier to form deep relationships with like how do you compare Chinese, Thai, Korean, Vietnamese, Indonesians, Indians, Russians, Americans, Latinos?
Well, I guess there's a difference between being friendly and easy to make friends. I am not sure how the friendships was build among Japanese but I'm guessing it's the same anywhere. But it takes more effort to understand other people who doesn't grow up as you do, culture and languages bring its own challenges there. And since foreigners rarely stay long, not more than 1, 5, or 10 years so it's quite understandable if you feel the Japanese treat you more as guest, and consequently maintain some distance.
@@aoeu256as a latino that has traveled and lived in other non-latin countries, i would say us. People here would make friends out of anyone instantly, you’d tell story of your life or fight politics with people just literally just met in a bar and then hosting them in your house years later when write you on fb that they are visiting your country. People for good or worse have no restrain on being who they are and sharing it with everyone else. Or maybe that’s just my country? Dunno.
The Indian girl explained this topic very well kudos to her 👏👏👏 I live here for almost 20 years and this is exactly my experience.Nice topic Takashi keep up the good work!!!
Where are you from ?
@Monochrome 12 It's Because they were speaking Indian English and Nepali ofcrs
But do you notice that white caucasians have more genuine friendships with japanese because they see anyone as non white as inferior and lesser
I am in japan from america. I have a baby and husband here. It is very difficult to make close friends, it’s lonely and I’ve gone through so many emotions since being here, ranging from love to hate.
🙁 same to you
hey if you ever need someone , anyone to talk to i can be that source! nobody should feel this way i’m also american , i could help , reach out if you’d like ! :) best wishes
I feel you girl.Same here.
I'm a native Japanese. It is difficult to make close friends for Japanese persons as well.
Japanese people are extremely insular minded. They are polite, but that's all.
There are many people, even Japanese, who have NO friends or lovers.
Do you know the Japanese word "botch"?
What that Indian lady said about the difficulty of forming deep friendships with Japanese people is so true. It's like there's always a barrier between you and them no matter what you do. It's to the point where asking a favor from a non-Japanese person is easier and less anxiety inducing than asking a Japanese person because it feels like you're going to owe them a huge debt.
could it be that this barrier is only in your own mind? Maybe Japanese people are waiting on you to take initiative because they are too afraid to overstep their boundry.
@@KGBos Nope. I'm speaking from personal experience. They are extremely polite but it's not...it's like being polite to be polite; but not genuine in a way that allows for you to go beyond the surface of polite necessities.
@@raven_bard could you narrate a personal experience as an example ? Cause as an Indian i thought japanese would be pretty racist towards me or other asians in general ( as is the perception ) but then i met this awesome japanese girl and now we're in a relationship and she's amazing and super open and always goes out of her way to help me with whatever.
she straight up spit all the truths lol
@@vccv9785 asian mostly means chinese korean and japanese to be fair, as an indian you are probably seen as a foreigner like how a westerner would be seen
Could you interview people from countryside about the population discrepancy between city and villages?
Oh Japanese or foreigners !?
@@takashiifromjapan japanese
Yes would love to see perspectives from the villages!
Yes.
Great Idea.
インタビューを受けて下さっていた皆さんの率直な意見が聞けて、とても興味深かったです😃
表面的な付き合いしかなかなか出来なくて寂しいというのは、日本人としても感じるところですよね。
天気の話をするのはもう飽きました笑
funny) well you can change it ) and chat with me) but i dont speak nihon go yet)
Hahahahaha
May be start a discord server for deeper interactions? Make up a community hopefully spread the msg and bring a change?
It’s interesting that this might be a universal thing in Japan
I really liked the Indian women’s answer. And I think she’s right, but it’s not only Japanese people, that just depends on the culture. Having deep close relationships with people from the west is also difficult and I’ve even felt like that living in the US compared to Latin American countries for example. Thank you so much for this video! It was so interesting. 😊
She felt like that because in india. People help each other. And if you are close friend then if I call my friend then in few minute he/she will be here to help. In india family values are great and people feel connected to each other.
@@AbhijeetKumar-vh1ff Yeah but to westerners that can also feel intrusive. We Indians are too much into each others business 😅 . Some may like it, some may want more independence.
Alicia, by any chance, when you lived in the USA, did you live somewhere outside of the traditional South? In the South, if somebody needs help, honey, we give it. I’d like to know what state you lived in, please.
@@matthewjay660 Hi Matthew! I've lived in Georgia and I currently live in Florida, I've been living in the United States for about 10 years now. I'm not saying that people would not help and that they are not nice, that's not what I meant. On the contrary, they are VERY nice and kind people. I just think building a deep, really close, long lasting friendship with an american, from my experience, has been harder than doing it with a hispanic person. Maybe is the difference in culture between us, but I do have american friends and they have told me multiple times things like "I've never had a friend like you because people here normally don't really care that deep and truly about each other and you do." They even think their own relationships with other americans are superficial. But again, is just my experience and my friends's point of view. I'm sure there are a lot of people that would think otherwise.
@@alipao1212 Now I understand, Alicia. Thank-you for sharing.
I live in Japan so I know how cool Japan is. But the truth I always need to remind people on is that being polite in Japan doesn't necessarily mean being nice. Just like anywhere you go you get good and bad people, but the strict working environment is what bugs me the most of all things. Still love Japan though.
Kaneshiro san, I could not have said that better. I’m an American and have several Japanese contractors that are extremely overworked and burned out. I feel so bad for them and wish they had a work/life balance. I’m hoping this culture will change.
@@bw4497.. Totaly agree with you. This is the biggest problem coming to mind, when thinking about Japan.
So true. The politeness almost feels cold sometimes. It’s completely different to friendliness.
strict working environment meaning?
@@kaneshirosan1642 oh ok understood am from america i have worked in supermarkets i know how it feels
Spent 6 months in Tokyo for work, the most depressed, rigid society I've seen, that demands so much from its people.
However, if I was going on vacation I'd have loved it for sure.
Where are you from bro?
You didn’t actually ‘live’ in Tokyo then mate tbh because while the money and work is here, it certainly is not what you say.
@@tokyohands gatekeeping like a mf
Agree with the first comment. In Japan, many foreigners feel like it is not easy to make friends, but making new connections can help your stay become much easier to deal with. Almost Japanese prefer to keep some distance between their private lives and their work,etc.
Takashi your videos deserve so much more views. You do topics that no one would actually do and these are so helpful. You speak to natives and even international people. Thank you for these great videos!
I'm a foreigner. I've never been to Japan, but I like to visit Japan, so this type of videos are very useful. Thank you Takashi for organizing such interesting interviews.
i hope you get to visit here someday!!😆
@@user-zv7jc1vx3d bad idea
Definitely visit it. I've been there three times and can't wait to go back. My advice is to familiarize yourself with the culture before you go. It also helps to learn some Japanese
Search junko furuta and think about going japan
@@user-zv7jc1vx3d are you Japanese?
You're creating high quality content, the interviews feels authentic and the questions are well oriented.
I'm pretty confident that your subscriber count will grow faster.
Keep up the good work !
Actually we always fantasise Japan as a clean highly developed country. Obviously it's true but every country has their own problems and Japan is not an exception. Not only Japan, every countries of this world must have some harsh realities.
I am so happy to have found your channel. Your videos are so informative and I love how they take an objective stance. As a newly arrived foreigner, I wish I had seen your videos earlier as they would have helped prepare me for living in Japan. I wish more people talked about the bad sides of Japan and did not look at everything with rose-tinted glasses.
As someone who has lived abroad, I've realized that some behaviors/differences I thought were cultural differences are actually just differences between rural life, small town life, and city life, which to an extent are universal across nationalities.
Once in my airplane travel, I was seated beside a Japanese man from Seattle to Narita. We never spoke a word, but he always smiled and helped me with my luggage without me asking.
I agree with this. I've only been to Japan once, but I've made a lot of Japanese friends over the years because of uni and work. They're really respectful and friendly, but I do feel this barrier between us. They seldom ask for help, and when they do, they seem very apologetic about it. After months of staying in my country, some of them expressed their initial shock as to how warm the people are. They're not used to people showing that much affection like friends hugging, holding hands, etc.
white foreigner
I lived in Fukuoka for a while back in 2016 (best time of my life there ;_; I miss it a lot). But no one talks about the living conditions, or did only I had such a bad apartment complex? The walls are like paper, super thin. I heard every neighbor and I had to sleep with earplugs and earphones plus TV on, that I can sleep somehow. And unfortunately I had a neighbor who had a girlfriend, so you can guess what happened daily and to hear that daily was quite disturbing. Then I also heard a girl singing, she sang very often and I still can hear her voice in my head, because she just sang it so often. So I would say that is a down side of Japan, or rather the buildings. You can basically talk with your neighbor from wall to wall, good corona protection there. But other than that, I love Japan and I wish I could return somehow.
Are you foreigner? How much that apart cost?
@@nicojaewpunk Mine was 84000yen a month, 12 m2 room. And yes, I am foreigner. I am from Austria.
@@mizulightblue damn thats expensive
@@RamMohammadJosephKaur it sure is. But Japan has many people, so living space is expensive, and small
I guess the walls are thin as an earthquake safety measure
I like your videos Takashi because they focus on real issues, not the usual shallow OMG JAPAN IS GREAT OMG THE PEOPLE ARE SO FRIENDLY. Have you considered writing a book about social issues in J? I'd read it!
I'd love to !
Chris Broad has just published a book in J. Who knows, maybe there's demand for books written by TH-camrs! Cheers from Poland.
I don't know why these types of videos scare me. When even in my own country, I have few acquaintances and not friends!
Anyway, thank you so Takashi for bringing this!
ありがとうございます
for me personally, every foreigners' problems in these videos are kinda nothing new to me. I'm dealing with literally same problems in my homeland (Georgia). Never had any close friends, I was always alone when needed help, people are not straightforward when I ask for a feedback and not to mention work ethic in Japan kinda looks same as mine (I'm an IB Student while also working as part time indie game developer and 3D artist.) as for me personally I work around 8-11 hours a day. But hey, maybe I don't know what I'm talking about and Japan is worse than I think ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Such a interesting video thank you takashii!
Thank you so much !!
as someone who lived in 5 continents & many countries for many yrs, there are different levels of trust. being respectful & friendly with the general public or other cultures is not the same type of relationship that u attach to ur family & best friends that u grew up with in ur hometown. this is a universal thing anywhere on this planet. too many barriers to list.
I was surprised by the two south Asian girl's fluency in Japanese. Especially the one who has only lived there for 4 years.
Japan is known for the most disciplined people in the world. But sometimes they take it to the extremes. I hope the new Japanese generation will change the rigid and absurd laws and system of the old Japan...
I love Osaka and Okinawa too. But TAKAshi and the Laughtrip boys from Tokyo are slowly opening my mind to love Tokyo too. 💙💚💛💜💗
I am in Tokyo and since I can't speak Nihongo , I feel lonely. That's why I am learning Japanese now. I must admit people just go about their business in Tokyo and not very friendly.
Yeah I agree with her !
As she said in Osaka it might be different
This is very relatable! Please keep making great videos ☺️ It’s true that Japanese are very shy but I’ve lived in Japan for about 2 years now and during my part time job, I have met a lot of very friendly Japanese people. Some even took their time to help me with my Japanese and there are some who are very curious about aboard. It’ nice because we are learning about each others culture. Right now there aren’t many chance to meet people like that but hopefully in the future 😊
In Europe specifically in The Netherlands, people are nice that if you need help then they are willing to come to help you , except if during workdays they can't unless you have an appointment with them , .
Building Friendship is really hard bdw , like especially if you are already in 30s 40s 50s .
They are helpful and not with your personal issues.
They explained it really well that now I finally understood why most of my japanese friends do not reply to sensitive topics I share.
Hi Takashi, great video. I am 70 years still working as an Industrial Engineer and hoping to come this October to study Japanese Language. This information is so Valuable for me. I will change my Japanese Language school from Tokyo to Kyoto. I am from Australia and love to be around nice people. Thank you Best Regards Gamini
Amazing how at such an advanced stage of life, you still have the fire to learn and grow. 👏🏻 👏🏻 👍🏽
If you are person of color, look elsewhere. People don't treat you the same as caucasian
Your channel is giving me cultural insight. I always wanted to learn Japanese and visit Japan.
Earlier I used to have thoughts of living in Japan now I feel like it's not my cup of tea because being an extrovert from India I don't think I could survive a day without offending the Japanese it's not that any of us(me Or you guys) are bad it's just a cultural difference like we laugh loud we talk louder than Japanese I LOVE EVERYTHING ABOUT JAPAN THE CLEANLINESS THE WARMTH THE MUTUAL RESPECT BUT I REALLY AGREE WITH THE INDIAN GIRL IN THE BEGINNING OF THE VIDEO WE HERE BECOME VERY CLOSE IN NO TIME ACTUALLY YOU MEET TWICE OR THRICE AND THAT'S IT YOU ARE LIKE A PART OF ONE'S LIFE 😄😄
In Europe, people are equally distant and most friendships shallow. At least in Japan, even if people are a little distant, they are polite and outwardly nice to you, not noisy and rude to your face. It's refreshing ;)
As a Mexican I've met Spaniards and Italians that give it all when you become friends with them. With their off-putting quirks and all, but I'd never say they're distant or shallow. I guess you're talking about Northern or Eastern Europe?
Can't agree at all. All deep and close longterm friendships I have are with Europeans or Africans
@@Floating.Point. southern euros are different from northern euros. where the weather is warm the people are always more friendly
Very nice! Keep it up. Cuban lady from Osaka seemed like a sweetheart. I hope Japanese people do not just walk by and miss the opportunity to give her kind hospitality like she can experience back in Cuba.
It was so nice that you opened that kind of topic
When it comes to making friends it is like anywhere else. It depends on how you put yourself out there and where you are. Where I live now (Aomori) it's harder to meet people since everyone is more spread out and more difficult to make friends while in the last town I lived in( Iwate) I had a bunch of friends and it was easier to get to know people. Plus, many went out of their way to get to know me to the point of just inviting me to their house for drinks when they saw me walking down the street.
As an Indian I felt that Indian woman. In India we always seek deep relationship , bonding . In India there are so many different communities , Linguistic groups living together. People from different sides of India can't even understand each other languages. Suppose two Indians from different cultures meet , if everything goes well then in few days they can treat each other like their own brother . Actually an Indian man treat his friend like own brother . Indians can be your closest friend if you treat them well.
India is fake state 100%
Not true. India is a deeply and severely fragmentef society. Unhealthy and unnatural.
I have been living in Japan for 6 years. Earlier I lived in Saitama and Tokyo as a university student and now working in Kansai. Yes Kansai ppl are warmer than Tokyo. However I was lucky to have warm heart university friends in my university life. I also feel harsh reality in Japan is talking open heart with Japanese ppl. They don’t check about others. I have few good Japanese friends both in Tokyo and Osaka. But unless I contact them they never contact me 😞
That doesn't sound like real friends
This is true in all countries. When you get older you will realize that people who can count their true friends on one hand are beyond blessed. That’s just life, dear.
It's because of internalised racism in that country. Most of them will keep in touch with the white skinned westerners/europeans but anyone is with darker skin tone they see as "less desirable". Anyone who has darker skin tone is considered the low ones, so they won't associate with them
WHY IS NOBODY BRINGING UP THE IDEA OF INTERNALISED RACISM???!!!!!! IF YOU AS A CAUCASIAN PERSON (AMERICAN/EUROPEAN) THE SAME THING THE ANSWER WOULD BE DIFFERENT. JAPANESE PEOPLE DEVALUE AND TRIVILIAZE ANYONE WHO ISN'T WHITE. THEY ONLY HAVE LASTING GENUINE FRIENDSHIPS WITH CAUCASIAN PEOPLE!!
It is true that the relationship ♥️ with neighbours and friends in India can never be found in other countries.
Are you sure? Not only India, there are some other countries
@@greenygreen6771 leave him be bro
@@greenygreen6771 Yeah but latin american countries n India are best when it comes to depth and understanding b/w people.
It's one of those things I am proud of. Even neighbours are soo soo warm and natural to us, it's not something I will get anywhere else in the world.
@@tromboner6061 i dont know anything about india but as a latino in the US, you are right. Americans with the right personality can also be super friendly
Lmao I wish you have gained some knowledge about every country and their cultures before making such a statement. 🙃
Very insightful. Thank you!!
Thank you for watching !
I would probably have the most fun in Osaka or Okinawa, but I would also like to visit Tokyo. ( In the summer! )
I'm glad your channel more and more growing up everyday
That "I am from Nepal", Made me come back from my homework tab to TH-cam tab.
Yes! Telling about your life’s troubles and going deep will truly drive the friendship more farther than closer!
this comment is the epitome of taking things out of context/blowing shit out of proportion.
Ever heard of the word "superficial"? Coz maybe you have too many of these types of friendship and you know what? good for you ! :D
Anyone who thinks that vomiting all your life problems on the first day of a friendship must be having fewer braincells than a chimp. That's basic common sense (then again common sense is not so common anymore nowadays) But I cannot possibly think of a friendship that has lasted for years and years only to talk about "Hi hello! nice weather eh? ^__^" 💀
Great video!
Can you make an updated video about:
What would be the best way for an American to learn Japanese?
From a Japanese person’s perspective, if you could guide an American to learn Japanese, then what would be the most efficient tools/resources that you would recommend?
What tools/resources have your American friends used that was very successful?
What schools, books, online classes, apps would be the most valuable for an American to learn Japanese?
Thank you so much!
I think what a lot of foreigners or visitors to Tokyo misunderstand about Tokyo residents, is that actually many many people here are from other parts of the country themselves and come here for work so it can feel a bit lonely in some central neighbourhoods. However, I’ve been here in Tokyo 18 years and now have a family and home just outside of the Yamanote line and when you live in a neighbourhood where people are born and raised Tokyoites, they’re absolutely warm and friendly. I live in a fantastic real Tokyo community and I would not change it at all. The people are great, they’re just not in your face all the time thankfully!
WHY IS NOBODY BRINGING UP THE IDEA OF RACISM???!!!!!! IF YOU AS A CAUCASIAN PERSON THE SAME THING THE ANSWER WOULD BE DIFFERENT. JAPANESE PEOPLE DEVALUE AND TRIVILIAZE ANYONE WHO ISN'T WHITE. THEY ONLY HAVE LASTING GENUINE FRIENDSHIPS WITH CAUCASIAN PEOPLE!!
A wise old timer named Hampton taught me this: "For most westerners, Japan is great at 25, okay at 35, a problem at 45, a struggle at 55 and a disaster at 65 with no pension, no property and minimal savings. This is because incomes don't increase to match expenses and people should leave earlier or improve themselves and get better jobs." I would add that if you want to have a middle-class life (own home, marriage, children), you will find this quite difficult to do in Tokyo. It happens gradually of course. You get a girlfriend, you get married, she wants a child, she wants to stop working, she doesn't want to leave Japan...
I'm glad I found your channel, you're doing an amazing job
Man you're vlogs are great, really beautiful.
Keep it up bro 💥🔥🔥
I really love Japan... thanks for such a videos ...it's really entertaining and we get lot of information about different culture ❤️ ... really appreciate your efforts 💜
I don’t know why, but I love Japanese language, the accent voice tone I love it
Well, I am not living in Japan. But I’ve been living in a country different than my own for 4 years. The truth is, developing a genuinely deep relationship with anyone in the new environment is HARD in itself. During these 4 years I happened to know closely quite a number of people, was invited home, learned what’s on their hearts etc. Nonetheless I cannot say I have developed a really deep relationship ( except for my husband) with many of them. Maybe it’s just my observation, but I say it takes years to find your circle of contacts with the same depth as your family and close friends.
It's funny when I hear people talk about friendships. I live in western part of the world and even though making friends is easy here and you do share personal things about yourself easily, I could never really depend on anyone when I really needed something. But with my Japanese friends, i have never met more understanding people. The thing is that making friends with Japanese that would last takes a lot of time. It's extremely slow process but in my experience, it's worth it. I could just tell my Japanese friends my pain and traumas and I never got verbal validation but I got understanding and support I never had before in my life. So we all have different experiences it seems.
I think the ones who had more difficulty were ones from developing countries like mine. We can have really tightly knit communities where let alone your friends, but even your neighbors have the complete idea what's going on in your life. It can feel intrusive and invasive to those coming from abroad, but everyone is up everyone else's business in a good way. Currently, I have been in living in Canada for 2+ years, and it's really surprising to me how detached everyone feels from everyone else. But this is my experience maybe because I don't know many people here. So yeah I agree with you that we all have different experiences.
@@ruturajgole1850 I disagree. I come also from a developing country and I could never rely on anyone from my country, while people from richer western counries were always acting like they are better instead of helping. Even if you watch other rich westerners like americans, a lot of them don't like living in Japan while few think it's the happiest time of their lives and even got married to a Japanese. So I think it depends on the personality. I struggle with having good friendships with westerners because even though I'm one myself I just don't like how intrusive, loud and selfish they are. While I vibe very well with my asian friends and even Japanese ones. Heck, I met my Japanese best friends the way that I literally asked them for help because my western friends were too busy being defensive instead of helping me. While Japanese, even tough i was a complete stranger, I was met with so much kindess. Granted, some Japanese literally told me they hated me but that happens rarely. So I guess it depends on the individual and on how much time and effort they are willing to spend on a person. Because making asian friends and Japanese in particular takes a lot of time and it's a slow process in my experience but to me it was worth it. I got more help and understanding from them than I ever got from my own people.
@@ruturajgole1850 And yes, we also have tight knit communities and everyone is invasive and I always hated it. I hated that everyone around always knew what's up because it was annoying and useless to me. I love my independence while I can rely on people to be there when I need it. Which is what I have with my Japanese friends.
You have restaurants in Japan which are lawfully allowed to discriminate and not allow non Japanese people in. That's about as racist as it gets.
@gANN dalf Are you sure? lol
or do you just like anime
Good video. Good timing, too, as this is exactly what I've started to look for.
I'm possibly going to Japan this year or next through the JET program as a CIR, so it's really good to see opinions on all sides of the country from people that come from all kinds of different backgrounds. It paints a better picture about what to expect when I get there.
Exactly what the Indian lady said. Relationships with Japanese is quite impossible. A foreigner cannot make friends here. Even if they "make friends", they will not be as deep as they hope them to be.
why though
@@AshTheDuke I think "tatemae" culture makes it difficult to build a deeper kind of friendship with them. It's difficult to know whether they're being nice or they're being sincere.
@@preciousamorpiscador1474 thats what i call i "stone personality"
What if your an Asian foreigner? Sounds a bit racist but I'm just curious.
@@sulena8823 every country in Asia is racist.
These interviews and videos from Takashii from Japan are really deep and address so much. They are frankly discussed here. Saying or discussing them explains some of the things in the back of your head.
I find it really odd that none of these foreigners mentioned the travel ban that Japan has imposed to foreigners for two years now, with absolutely no current epidemiologic reason but pure xenophobia. Most of the foreigners I know who live here have been affected by this travel ban in a way or another. Families that include foreigners are kept apart for no reason, international students are repeatedly asked to wait for news that never come, while they and their families have to pay for tuition fees not knowing if they will ever set foot in Japan before the end of their courses. In the meantime, japanese people can travel freely for TOURISM and study abroad in the same countries that are denied entry to Japan. That's the worst about living here: you will always be the unwanted foreigner, and you will never have the same rights as a japanese person no matter what/how much time you spend here. I am very disappointed by the way Japan has treated foreigners during the pandemic, and by the fact that 80% of the population agrees with these racist ban. It feels like they enjoy having an excuse to forbid the entry of as many foreigners as possible 😑
What you mentioned could be one off the reason for Japan & it's society fall.
Blunt, unflattering, but true, esp. that a foreigner will always be the unwanted foreigner. If you look at Japanese immigration policy, it is not enough to know the language as well as a native, know the culture, customs, and blend in seamlessly, and have lived a long time in the country. Testimonials on your behalf will fall on deaf ears. You also need 100-percent pure Japanese blood, and it helps if you were born in Japan. Otherwise, you will never be granted a Japanese passport or citizenship. _Pure xenophobia_ is probably correct.
Living in Japan currently.i feel it's a great country.i am happy
💞
great video :) its interesting to hear about other foreigners' thoughts, especially during covid when it is hard to meet face to face
That’s a good insight… it’s interesting to here from many different people from different backgrounds 😮
I have the same aspirations as the school counsellor. It would be so great to talk with him or someone who has made the transition as a therapist to Japan!
I like it how open you are ❤️ talking with everyone 🥰
I love your videos so much. It's a pretty simple but enjoyable style. Just walking to strangers and ask them questions. I'm from Mexico, never been to Japan, but I'd love to. Thanks for the great videos, keep it up! ❤️
Cuban 🇨🇺 in Japan 🇯🇵 we’re loud and proud very nice to hear there is a small thriving Cuban community in Japan
I am very excited to live in Japan when they allow it again! Just found your videos too so its really great to see you asking some of these deep questions.
Blessed to have close Japanese friends in Tokyo, but I can relate to people feeling isolated and I sometimes even find myself doing the same thing to other people.
I feel like younger Japanese people seem to be a little bit more open.
Either you need or not Japanese, you should learn the language of the country you want to live in. If you want the country to respect you, you need to show respect first.
Yup!
Great vid. Really good insight from the Indian girl and the Californian guy. Best wishes for the Cuban girl!
I agree! I loved Osaka so much more than Tokyo. Both places were an amazing experience for me coming from the UK but people in Osaka were so friendly and seemed more relaxed than in Tokyo. I also found it easier with my limited Japanese speaking abilities in Osaka.
Thanks for doing this sir
I hope you can interview people on working culture in japan.
I did!
I’m living in Osaka but for me Japan culture is matching me so there’s really no harsh reality for me ! In general, I’m a quiet soft spoken person and Feminine and I do not like hugging or kissing In public even in my country and I do not have any tattoos and I love cooking and eating Japanese food and I like the zen lifestyle it can bring you living in Japan !
Also I heard many people in your videos say that Osaka people are more friendly and maybe it’s true but also when I lived in Kanagawa and stayed in Tokyo before I experienced really friendly and nice Japanese people too like very friendly maybe even more than Osaka !
what a masochist
you must own a lot of cats
@@albertsmith99 not at all! but I do have a little boy and I like to play with him and spend time with him and watch him grow ! Anyways, I think some people are misunderstanding me ..lol Basically, Japanese society is matching me is what my point was! ( I also like some European Countries lifestyle too ) Some girls are loud , and / or coming on strong or aggressive behaviour , some girls are soft spoken.,,,,, and I am more on the soft spoken side and I like to make peace with everyone and I don:t want to say something negative to the people even if I don:t like something about that stranger ...because that is not living in harmony and we can live the life without saying those things so also Tatemae is also something I:m perfectly OK with to some extent !! And actually some Japanese are very direct when it comes to academics , social media twitter, or yahoo, my Japanese husband said he saw many rude comments from other Japanese to other Japanese and also he said his soccer coach was very direct and not Tatemae for that ... Also , Japanese are not Tatemae with their own family or close friends. just strangers because they don:t want hurt their feelings or cause any disturbances.
..so that is just my style ! I dislike tattoos and that also has nothing to do with cats lol As for hugging or kissing in public, in my opinion it:s something private except some hugging is OK ...,,,So I*m a bit confused why you would think I own lots of cats lol!
@@CandiOsaka just curious. People in japan seem to love cats. There's even an island full of them.
So because you don't like tattoos that makes you a more valuable person in your mind? Because self expression and the body is only temporary. I feel social standards and proximity with whiteness is what the Japanese aspire to be. However, the barrier of socialism is very necessary in forming personal bonds as well as helps with anxiety and social skills. I think it's weird that hate tattoos. Is that why most black people are looked at strangely? Do we look like one giant tattoo to you?
Sounds like Japanese are introverts. You start appreciating your culture and warmth from people once you travel outside of your own place. Love and miss India ❤️
I’ve really been enjoying your content Takashii, I’m planning on moving/working in Japan, as it’s a dream and aspiration of mine, so getting the insight of the culture before migrating into it is very helpful, thanks a lot!
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Another great content, thank you.
Cheers from 🇧🇷!
She's one of the most articulate Indians I've ever seen. Most Indians just just use some fancy words that make no sense. Love how she's so clear in her thoughts and able to express them just as clearly
Love these kinds of videos, you’re a great communicator:)
Great interviews! This gives me an idea of what to expect when I visit. Thank you!
I love the content of your vdo. I REALLY enjoy watching this.
your way of interviewing is really great, keep up the good work! :D
Wow I just discovered your channel. You're so cute Takashi! 😍 Haha. Also, that Indian lady is very well spoken and I'm very impressed with her Japanese too.
Very good interviews. Lots of information and interesting people.
Hi takashi san 😁
Thanks alot for this video, actually i can understand more how japanese people think. I'm from UAE, and oneday i met a Japanese girl and in a short time we have become a friends. she invited me to her house..i know a little bit a japanese and she's also know little bit English.. even if we couldn't speak well, we trying to translate our talk by line translator or any app..so i think some people will struggling because of language, or maybe they are thinking japanese people refuse a friendship with foreign..
Personally I have been scammed so many times by people who acted like friends, so it is hard to be anything more than just friendly. You have to protect yourself.
I want to learn Japanese but I’m kind of intimidated by the writing ✍️ system. I visited Japan in May of 2019 and I want to return once Covid is over.
Indian - I like overspeaking.😃😃😃
Japanese - I like being reserve.😐😐😐
Nepalese - I like watching you guys 😳😳😳
This exists in the UK too. If you get together with people and you start talking about something deeper, it seems to them that you're just moaning/whining. Sometimes it's embarrassing to show your real emotions.
My Japanese wife maintains close friendships with old Indian classmates, and they seem to really rally around each other here in Japan. I think I understand them a little better now.
WHY IS NOBODY BRINGING UP THE IDEA OF RACISM???!!!!!! IF YOU AS A CAUCASIAN PERSON THE SAME THING THE ANSWER WOULD BE DIFFERENT. JAPANESE PEOPLE DEVALUE AND TRIVILIAZE ANYONE WHO ISN'T WHITE. THEY ONLY HAVE LASTING GENUINE FRIENDSHIPS WITH CAUCASIAN PEOPLE!!
Hey Takashi
Happy to see your channel grow
Your friend from HT !!!
Oh thank you for supporting me !
It wasn't really touched on with these interviewees, but one of the reasons I decided against studying to live and work in Japan is that support for women's reproductive health and for mental health is still very behind a lot of other countries. If I wanted to live there with my specific conditions, I would almost definitely need to regularly get my medication from Canada, and one of my prescriptions is even banned in Japan last I checked.
Why Japan is far behind in these two areas of women's health?
I believe that people in Tokyo are more "cold" because there is a big city. When I went to the São Paulo city I have the same feeling. People are really busy in their own lifes, there are a lot of people and things to do, so it's hard to have a friendly relationship with everyone. When you live at the country side, people know each other, or at least someone of your family, then people at the streets treat you very diffently, more warm and kind.
You have a nice voice, Takashi. It is relaxing to listen to 😊... Also, very good content. You are a good interviewer and you chose good people
The American Guy is telling the truth. I also lived in Miyakojima for 3 years. It's really heaven.♥️
What the indian women said is actually true…not only for japan, i’m from indonesia, it’s hard to form a deep emotional friendship with friends, where you feel emotionally connected with your friends in indonesia and now i live in new zeland…and my best friend is a Brazilian, latino people really have a deep bond with their friends and treasure their friendship with their friends
WHY IS NOBODY BRINGING UP THE IDEA OF RACISM???!!!!!! IF YOU AS A CAUCASIAN PERSON THE SAME THING THE ANSWER WOULD BE DIFFERENT. JAPANESE PEOPLE DEVALUE AND TRIVILIAZE ANYONE WHO ISN'T WHITE. THEY ONLY HAVE LASTING GENUINE FRIENDSHIPS WITH CAUCASIAN PEOPLE!!
Omg takashii your skin is absolutely gorgeous
These videos r really necessary who just want to go to Japan Korea just bcoz of anime or k-pop coz reality is very different and hard hitting , long back I wanted to go to both countries but now I'll only go for sightseeing if I ever went there
Making friends is hard wherever you’re from. There are good and bad things in every country and culture!😊
the Indian lady in blue is very wellspoken I could listen to her talk for hours