NOTIFICATION SQUAD: Get ready for "Brett Maverick" - the name you wish you had. 🍿🍿🍿Keep an eye out for Journey Across Japan: The Lost Islands which starts later this week! th-cam.com/video/SEN6v1ZFlJ0/w-d-xo.html AS FOR THIS VIDEO, I've made over 200 videos in Japan over the years that've been rather positive about the country and I'd like to think my love for this country, the people and the culture are beyond question. But of course, the country isn't perfect (nowhere is). I've always held off of this video as I know it'll open a pandoras box of people telling me to "go home", but I think all of the criticism I've levelled at Japan in this video is pretty fair. Time will tell! But keep an eye out for angry racist comments. Hopefully we can bundle them into a future hate mail video...
Makes perfect sense why the Isekai genre is so strong in Japan. They all dream of a fantasy world they would rather be in than having to do all of the things in this video.
Aint that true for the entire world? People seem to inflate the country being bad, when in reality its just Capitalism being bad, hyper individualism, isolation at work, in social life, rise of social media and even Covid has had impact on society. Japan is the most advanced Capitalist country, by that I mean not by technology, but by the economical system, its experienced all the issues we face today in the western world, like 20 years earlier, Hikikomori began in Japan during the late 70s, thats a huge issue today in the west, funny how it all works out.
@@SMGJohn Just across the water is com munism and they seem to have all the same problems, plus the requisite totalit arian gov ernment that comes with every instantiation of com unism.
I met an awesome Japanese dude called Sho when I was living in Australia. He was a Pro surfer, we went to watch him at some competitions and he was awesome, getting sponsorships and everything. He was looking at moving to Australia permenatly and I asked him if he ever wanted to go home. He laughed and said "man, no-one in Japan thinks surfing is a job".
@@mdjohnson1 I'm a consultant and my company wanted to staff me at this Japanese company, which would have required me spending a year in Japan. I would love to visit don't get me wrong, but I wasn't even that apprehensive about joining the fucking Army. I'd seen a lot of "a day in the life" in a Japanese corporate office and it seems fucking horrible. I stewed over it for about 2 weeks and said no. On the one hand it could be an unforgettable life experience on the otherhand I could want to kill myself a month in.
Why would you want to study in Japan the work/study culture is so strict and awful. I can see the point in moving there as long as you don't have a traditional job, but now I'm curious why would you go study there?
After 15 years in Japan, I’m also getting ready to leave, partially for the same reasons as listed in this video. I ticked all the boxes: I learned the language, found a good job, got married, had kids, built a house. But in the end, I just can’t take it anymore. There are some truly heartbreaking stories in the comments and my heart goes out to each one of you. I could add my own but it’s too painful to spell out here.
@@FireBolt076Hey, of course there are gardening jobs here. But unless you start your own company, it’s likely going to be paid just around the poverty line. Expect really slim pickings and super hard work. Also, it might be hard getting a visa for jobs that are mostly manual labor. As for being a therapist, if you’re okay to limit yourself to other foreigners an American degree will do - if you want to see Japanese patients you’re likely going to need a degree from a Japanese school and a near perfect command of Japanese.
@himajin11, the things you said are too painful to say, does it relate to the harsh working conditions? I got offers constantly from headhunters to come work in Japan (because I graduated from Japanese University long ago). Sometimes I feel like returning to Japan but when I think about the working culture, always makes me rethink. Is it still that bad now in the Japanese companies?
What makes you think life is different elsewhere? I see people saying all this stuff but honestly even in Norway people experience the same stuff, Norwegian people that is, native people lived and born here all their life. Isolation is down to Capitalism and is a growing problematic issue everywhere in the world, you are isolated at work, you are isolated in the public, why? Because jobs are moving into more and more independent tasks, less cooperating with others, the rise of social media did no one any favour either, people have this weird expectation that social media is the only place they can find people to talk to which is frankly hilarious. Because of this, people in the public are much rarer to say hello to you, its harder to form relationship in the public because events and gatherings just are not a thing anymore and its even harder to make relations at work because of the individualistic setup they have at jobs, you are required to do job of what maybe 2 - 4 people did in the past. Frankly, people who lived a long time in Japan and then complain about stuff, seem unfathomably ignorant about life elsewhere, even in their home country they would most likely experience similar issues, after Covid its gotten a lot worse even. I know a lot of people in Britain and they all share the same stories, after Covid even the pubs are emptier now, people just do not want to gather anymore, they discovered social media and are building their little echo chambers online.
Hi Chris! Long-time subscriber here. One thing to expand on is it's very widely viewed in the western world that Japan is extraordinarily safe to visit, BUT there is a tendency to push crimes in Japan under the rug and make them un-noticed. In a lot of the Japanese crime cases I cover I'm corrected on Japan's *actual* crime rates versus reported crime rates. This actually perpetuates the problem for foreigners. Anyway wanted to comment under your invite, I love your channel and can't wait for your new Journey Across Japan!
A japanese professor of mine, that was raised here in my country, gave me the following advice as to crimes and being foreigner there: Don't do drugs Don't do prostitution Don't do grand theft autos and resseling of parts to the overseas Don't do Pachinko and Cassinos Don't do Guns and Organs traffic Don't do frauds Don't get indebted You don't do any of those, you won't get into their (Yakuza) radar. It's generally very safe, unless you became a troublesome foreigner seen as something that needs to be purged..... I mentioned Yakuza specifically cuz that's what I'm told as most worrysome for foreigners, I know there are other crimes, but I think the most serious risk to your integrity as foreigner is getting notice by them as someone that deserves their attention
Im definitely no expert on japan, but all ive heard on the internets is that yes, it is very safe, but if something happens it's gets really difficult in a way. Japanese have the "saving face" mentality for real, and also making mistakes is judged way more harshly than in most other countries, that's why japan has 99% or something ridiculous like that conviction rate. That may seem great, but it only comes from the fact that cases only go to court if they are pretty much 100% sure they can win, and if they lack evidence or just confidence to make it work, the case never reaches court. This kind of ignorance combined with rampant xenophobia can make it really hard for foreigners who get in any way involved wit a crime. All of this info is from random youtube channels dealing with japan and some articles ive read, so take it with a pinch of salt, but i bet it's not far from the truth, it's just way more complicated.
I lived in Japan twice, three years as a high school student and later 6 years as an executive at a subsidiary of a company headquartered in silicon valley. The points made in the video are quite accurate and anyone considering a move to Japan would benefit from taking them to heart.
@@pollen04 Very much so. But I was there as an expatriate executive so I had much more support than someone who goes to Japan with no job and no connections and has to figure it all out on their own.
@@Jake-sb9bs Sorry, I am not knowledgeable regarding requirements for permanent residency. During my stay I had a work permit and temporary residency statis which required that I leave the country periodically which was not a problem since my job required that I travel regularly.
Also, my job required that I travel regularly outside of Japan. While I enjoyed my life in Japan, if I went more that three months "in country" I felt a physical sense of expansive relief when I got off the plane in the U.S.. But in a few days I was happy to return.
i am from singapore which is hot and humid year round. I found my paradise in japan because except for summer, the rest of the year are very comfortable plus the four seasons scenery and landscape are fantastic. thus i don't mind the negative part of living in japan. ten years living in japan now and I can live forever here.
Serious Question: if you didn't have this TH-cam channel with the ability to connect with people (and make some income) do you still think you would have lived in Japan as long?
Working as a recruiter, meeting endless of people who wish to work in japan while not considering the reality of actually living here, this video makes my job 1000time easier.. thank you lol
I lived in japan previously and have been looking for work To move there again, but all the recruiters I've come across are for inter Japan job moves, not international. This might just be due to coronavirus at the moment but if you could have recommend any agencies I'd really really appreciate it please 🙏🙏
As a Japanese, living in Japan is also difficult. A lot of the same things apply to many Japanese. This mind culture like hard work, being patient, and peer pressure makes us suicidal or depression. I always wanted to be free, playful, so I couldn't stand so much restriction for my most of life 18 years, that's why I decided to study abroad and live in the UK now. It's very interesting, that a foreign country more fits you than living in your original country. Despite totally different cultures, facing a lot of issues that you've never experienced, but you could live a greater life.
@@HalendleofLoc UK has its up and down. In a small town like Rugby, Northampton and Leicester, I love the sundays where everyone just chill and be unproductive while chucking beer and watching football. However, weather is terrible which is why I travel to Spain or Portugal in the winter. Also traveling within the country is overpriced due to outdated infrastructure and I am being polite here using outdated. Not to mention the safety is compromised when you walk alone after sunset(of course I should not have compared that to Japan)One thing I do look forward to is carboot on the weekends, so many antiques its gorgeous and I could style my home and feel like a king in the castle lol
@@YoonJintae98 Yep, sounds about right. British weather is so bad it defeated the Romans. Japanese storms kill Mongols, English storms kill Romans. We are not so different. Glad you've found things to enjoy too though. I didn't actually know they still do car boot sales though, I thought they died off years ago, that's awesome to hear.
I like it. I'm usually very cautious when something is sold to me as overly positive, and especially about Japan it's like people just CANNOT criticize it for some reason, despite it having numerous problems - from sexual harassment, to severe depression and xenophobia. So I'm glad this isn't one of those clickbait titles where they say "12 reasons not to" and then just proceed to list positives in a sarcastic manner.
When the majority of what people are exposed to of Japan are fantastical elements most aren't going to get a realistic grasp of the society. And when you point these things out, people take it as a personal insult, rather than realizing that they never thought deeply about this subject in the first place. It's what happens when most people aren't educated on the socratic method and don't think critically about things they see and do.
As someone with mental health stuff, the fact that more therapists in our own countries do online sessions is helpful. The time difference creates issues but it could be possible to make it work. The isolation does make it worse, though, and it’s why I ultimately left.
Truth is Japanese are 'humble', 'polite', 'disciplined' and 'hard working'. Some foreigners are quite the opposite. Although I'm not Japanese, I can relate to Japanese point of views about foreigners 🤔
Oh, and if you have a full sleeve tattoo as I do, get ready for some bizarre responses in public. I nearly gave an old lady a heart attack in the vegetable department of a rural mountain supermarket while buying onions... I felt terrible as I did not get a tattoo to wreak havoc on the elderly...
Mental health is a massive issue in Japan. It's not that they don't understand it, it's that they DON'T WANT to understand it. Even the doctors are mostly unwilling to try. There is a lot of depression in Japan which is VERY treatable, but because it's so taboo and no one is willing to acknowledge it, people don't have anyone to turn to for help, and many times it will lead to suicide. It's very sad to see such an advanced society to have such a treatable and preventable problem.
The 25 door slams in the morning that Chris mentioned in the beginning is HARD proof of this. HARD. That sounds right like OCD. And, truly, doesn't necessarily sound treated either.
You can argue that it's even worse in America, school shootings happen on a regular basis because people with mental health issues are not getting the help they need. The Joker movie was trying to make that point.
@@DoritosBurger USA much larger country(26x); much more population(2.6x). People in the US avoid the help they need due to a lack of finances to cover that medical care rather than a lack of acknowledgment of there being a problem at all. Social/Cultural issues be a tough cookie. Also, here's a list: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_school_shootings_in_the_United_States As far as I can tell the majority - if not practically all(joking) - of these "shootings" appear to involve very different circumstances - at least in the last 10yrs or so - from a few key ones you're likely to have in mind such as the Columbine High School massacre. But; regardless of that, of all the ones I read through the locations of these incidences would appear to be happenstance and more than likely would've occurred whether they were at or nearby a school in the first place.
Given that many of the common medicines used to treat mental illnesses such as depression are still not available in Japan, I'm not at all surprised. Some people have to change their medication (with all the problems that brings} before emigrating because of lack of availability. Their treatment options are very limited.
I get my depression meds here, and they give them to me in 15 seconds without any questions about my medical history or anything LOL They don’t care about talking about mental health AT ALL.
I’m Japanese. Do not work in Japan. I woke up 4 in the morning, then came back 9pm usually. This video has a lot of sense for me at least. Sometimes traditional is pain in my ass.
@@JamesArslan this is definitely cultural. Japan is very strict to staying in their traditional ways. (or so i've seen and heard) that "Stuck in the past" reason is a perfect example of how Japan is strict in their culture.
rewatching these why NOT to x videos... My application to JET was declined back in 2019 and I was really torn up about it. I still dream about what could've been, but I find these videos weirdly comforting. Like your other one where you chatted with Pete about teaching, and how it finally broke down my unrealistic daydreams. I'll still visit Japan someday, but as a tourist, where my whole life and mindset won't have to turn on a dime just to not-quite-fit-in.
My dear man, wonderful summary of the life of an alien in Japan. I live on a small island, been here 15 years total, and everything mentioned applies... Boom! Job well done. Keep up the good work...
@@chrishansen5784 8 years here. I live in a sprawling kominka property in Fukuoka that cost just 8k (880,000 yen), including over an acre of farmland we do natural farming on. Not quite the cramped apartment he describes!!. My lifestyle has been featured on national TV. This channel is preposterous with it's mis-representation of Japan.
You hit every nail on the head. Lived in Japan for 10 years, was married to a Japanese person, and had two kids. It took at least 3 or 4 years for me to get over most of that stuff, but some of it I never got over completely. Like, For example, I thought I was pretty comfortable and had gotten over things until I tried to enroll my daughter in youchien. She was turned away because I am a foreigner. I struggled with severe depression and anxiety the entire time I lived there and after that situation I became suicidal, because I felt my kids were better off without a crappy gaijin mom who would always make things harder for them and embarrass them.. because I knew no matter how much I had learned in the past I was always going to encounter something new, make mistakes, and look like an idiot. Whether it’s a new school, a new PTA duty, some unspoken rule I never knew until 7 years into doing something, a naraigoto, a ceremony, a neighborhood association meeting, …anything. I hated myself and I truly felt sorry for my kids that they couldn’t have a normal mom like everyone else. My ex husband beat me down the entire time I was there and refused to help me with anything at all, he just kicked me to the wolves. In addition to all that though, bad things do happen to foreigners for standing out sometimes. My very first week in japan, I was accused of stealing from Uniqlo at Granduo mall in Kamata station in Tokyo. I looked at a few tshirts, put them back where they were, realized I had to leave because I was staying with my ex husbands grandparents and they wanted me home by a certain time, and left (in a bit of a hurry I guess). Two security guards grabbed me physically on the street outside of the mall and shouted at me, ripped my jacket off, dumped the contents of my bag all over the ground, and flat out accused me of stealing. When they saw I had nothing, they left without apology. Obviously everyone was staring at the ruckus. Not one person stopped to help me pick up all my things. I was bawling my eyes out. One of the only times my ex husband ever actually did help me, he contacted the mall manager, Uniqlo manager, and security manager, and he and I had to go meet with them. He threatened them with legal action and voice recorded everything. They admitted that it was in fact because I’m a foreigner. I got my first ever dogeza apology which was almost as humiliating to be involved with as the initial situation as well as 2man in JCB gift money. In addition to that I then had to meet with the two security guards who stopped me and the manager of security again at Tully’s coffee where they also apologized to me and gave me 2man JCB gift money. I just wanted the whole thing to end. The only thing I could say was that I just hope this doesn’t happen to another foreigner by you guys again in the future… Don’t even get me started on hospitals and doctors… I’ve got plenty of stories such as when I was locked in my labor room alone in pitch black over night while in labor with my eldest, terrified, isolated, and in excruciating pain (and that’s only the start of that horror story) or the time I got a root canal without Novocain by a dentist who refused to wear gloves and got mad at me because I couldn’t gaman through it. There are some things I truly loved about my life in Japan and I am proud of that era of my life but truly and honestly I can tell you some dark stories.
Thanks for sharing. It may be different that your children had an american mom and a Japanese dad. Myself, as a mixed-race halfu, my mother is Japanese, father is white american (navy). Therefore, my mother did all the arrangements with houkuen and perhaps I was treated differently as a result. Maybe my mom had the cultural capital to make sure to guarantee my own well-being as a halfu. I am not sure why the Japanese culture, the same culture that produced kamikaze pilots and the rape of nanking, are like this tbh. I am not sure where it comes from. Perhaps their violent and bloody samurai culture remnants still dwells in their culture.
I like how anime fans pretend Japan is this progressive social country when in realty it's probably one of the most racist and conservative modern nations on earth.
@@marnixmaximus3053 Don't lump us all together. From what I've seen, most seem to accept that Japan would be a terrible place to live in. Those who glorify Japan's living situation without being there are few and far between.
Someone once told me, especially when I went to Japan for a semester study abroad program in collage, it’s all about your perspective and you decide to go about your situation. No matter where you are you can either take things in stride and try to have a good time if that’s what you want to do. Idk it really helped open me up a bit and make me realize even when I’m traditionally boring or difficult situations I can either mope about it or try and make the best of it that I can. So I guess that’s what I try to do is make the best of my situation. I recently had a work opportunity that took me to New Jersey and I’ve honestly heard nothing but terrible things about the state (I’m from Texas); just there’s nothing to do there. But I made the best of it that I could and actually had a nice time.
Hi Chris, Australian guy with Japanese wife now living last 30 years in Australia. Lived in Tokyo for 3 years and love your channel, keep going strong much love!!!
Doc: "You should be more happy." Chirs: "I'm British." Doc: "Oh. Right. Here take these." *hands Chris pills* Chris: "Wait. These are strychnine!" Doc: "Yes. You will no longer be British or sad."
what about afraid in japan? ...like a horror version of this channel lol Maybe a Maid in japan => Chris in a maid costume yeeah maybe the last ones a bit much haha
@@paulszki I don't particularly mind it, as long as the person reacting will give his own insight or perspective about Chris's opinions. If the person reacting is just gonna make "oohs" and "ah" sound, then it's just a pointless video. It's just someone using the video to get views on their video.
I enjoyed my 12 years in Japan. Something I found is that foreigners aren't held to the same standards as Japanese so there wasn't the pressure to work late, observe all the rules, etc. One thing that got to me a bit was point #12. I could live in Japan for 30 years and I would still be referred to as "the foreigner". Also the inevitable "_________ jouzu desune!" comments. That killed me a little inside every time.
Yeah, strangely it's getting "jouzu'd" that does the most mental damage over time. I never had trouble with feeling like people are staring, I figured it's normal to look at someone who looks so different from most people, so I never got paranoid about it. I also realized pretty soon that (most) Japanese people aren't avoiding you because they hate foreigners, they are just terrified of the possibility of having to attempt to speak English, up to the point that they don't even realize it if you are speaking Japanese instead. But constantly getting praised for the most mundane things makes you feel like some sort of lab rat that has managed to pick up a trick that makes the humans happy. It's strange, it shouldn't feel bad and they definitely aren't doing it to make you feel bad, but it gets grating really quickly.
@@RS-fy9hb Man, you’ve just described my last 6 years in the UK. I won’t tell which part (not England) since people are absolutely lovely there but you do get overly caring personalities who buy you food from the local Polish shop because you MUST be missing home. And as I say, it’s absolutely lovely of them to buy me food, it is, really really kind gesture. And I almost felt bad for getting annoyed and now I think you hit the nail on the head - it does feel patronising and #12 on the list, boy Oh boy, do I need to even say anything about it for a Pole living in the UK? And as I say, lovely people where I am, but always being asked: ‘do to go HOME for Christmas?’, ‘do you go home for holidays?’. Bro, my home is in downtown, pretty happy there. and in fact, I home no other home. So, the buying food part, probably not patronising at lot but a little bit silly; the ‘when do you’ questions - yeah, these can feel - as you’ve helped me realise @R S , thanks - pretty patronising. But hey, that’s life, I enjoy being a foreigner, I enjoy being where I am but at the same time, you can’t beat having a good life in a place where you’re from and that’s why I’m back now, back in Poland. I’d never trade my time in the UK, absolutely loved it, every minute of it (again, I was not in England), and yeah, that’s it.
@@penttikoivuniemi2146 yeah, just like how I feel when people still compliment my English, despite the fact that I’ve lived in Australia for years, just because I’m Asian and has an accent 😊
I have a few Japanese friends and I've been friends with them for 18 years. Until now, even though we have a good relationship and they always include me in everything, there is still a formal distance that you can feel. I'm not complaining though. I am thankful I hit the jackpot when it came to having Japanese friends.
I was sad when people sat next to me on the metro in Tokyo. 😅I thought I would be just a foreigner people try to avoid. I love Nordic countries. They know what personal space really means 😄
True. I’ve been living here for more than a decade now and it really isn’t for everyone. I love it here and it’s definitely because my personality and chosen lifestyle fits the Japanese culture. I can easily see myself continue living here for more decades to come! As for noisy neighbors, we decided to talk to them about it. They were quiet after that. Weird thing is though, that room above us never has a tenant more than a few months. They keep moving out and now I have a theory it might be cursed…
I read a book from the 1980s intended for business people going to Japan, and all of these points are familiar. It noted especially how as a temporary guest to their country you would be treated with great reference and patience, but dare to try to live there and it is a very different story. The author was a long time (30 year +) resident of Japan and fluent in the language and customs, and said he finally understood that he would never be Japanese and therefore never fully accepted no matter how hard he tried.
I thought he was too soft on some issues. Like the blatant racism, that was absolutely disgusting, and he simply went over it like it was just a minor inconvenience.
@@mreeeeeegf I agree. I've heard people of colour talk about how they get denied service in stores and found it appalling. I really wish it was taken a little more seriously in the video
Having lived here for over 16 years now, married to a Japanese wife, having kids, working in Tokyo, even built a house here, I can only say I agree with all points you bring up. Especially the last one your friend mentioned about never expecting to become Japanese. I know quite some people who struggled with that and never felt they fit in. Love the channel by the way, even though I live here and watch it from my house in Tokyo, it always gives me some new ideas, a new set of eyes sometimes, and even some cool travel ideas. I also love driving, haven't been to Sendai by car yet, but certainly plan to in the near future. Keep up the great work & cheers!
What's it like for your kids, out of curiosity? I have a friend in your situation but oddly enough even though she's British she almost looks mixed-race Japanese herself (she has the 'white' version of an Asian eyelid, like Bjork etc.), so her kids do still look fully Japanese. I've often wondered if it'd be harder for her if one of her kids looked more European than they do.
@@SH4D02 yes, sort of. I was born in Amsterdam so this is obviously not my real name. It comes from my wife's family name, Nakamura, plus the Japanese pronunciation of my Dutch first name when written in Kanji. I kept my Dutch passport though, and made no legal changes so it's an alias
@@tSp289 my daughter is definitely recognizable as mixed race, and I like to think she got the good parts of my Dutch and my wife's Japanese features. She goes to regular Japanese schools, so initially it was tough for her to fit in, especially in kinder garden and early years of elementary. I don't live in the center of the city, more on the outskirts where foreigners are a bit rare, so the kids around here had to get used to her as well. She is now junior high, going on to high school, and that problem has completely disappeared.
@@guigoroable Glad to hear it! A family friend visited Japan in the 1970s, and he had a load of kids chasing after him shouting 'Gaijin!' Glad to hear they're a little more accepting now.
How I wish our trains left on time and arrived when they are supposed too!! The train system there is amazing ( speaking from experiencing it first hand).
This is really the kind of realistic content and discussions that need to be happening about the realities of Japanese society, and dispelling some of the ridiculous myths that so many foreigners have cooked up for themselves by watching Japanese media and consuming their culture from afar. Good job on this one
I’m 100% Japanese and grew up there, but because of those reasons I left Japan. What he says here are all right 😂 Especially the endless rules! My friend recommended this channel and I enjoy your vids!
@Razor Lover I understood what you were trying to say but it had no relevance to what the original person was commenting thats why I thought you misunderstood sorry if that upset you.
@@bunni9843 I agree with you. Razor Lover's comment makes zero sense. Trying to get all technical saying that there is no 100% genetically pure Japanese.
@Razor Lover Yeah we get it Einstein, so spare us your technicalities. Your comment was pure stupid. There is no 100% of anything. There. Are you happy now?
I'm very impressed by how Chris handled this topic. He had to walk a narrow path and he did a great job with it. It was funny but serious. It was frank but respectful. It clearly stated the problems but in a way that showed why they existed rather than just demonizing them. Excellent.
Problem is that when you tell a Japanese person "most countries view diversity as a positive, not a negative", that right there is basically demonizing them, because they believe the EXACT opposite.
I live in Ibaraki Prefecture and ate at more restaurants during the Covid era than in the 10 years before that. Nobody gave a crap that I was a foreigner, they were just happy to have customers
A cousin worked over there for 2 years as a medical translator and he's a 6'4" redhead. You can just imagine how much he stood out and got stared at. Children would often ask if he was a viking 🤣🤣 Apearantly there was some cartoon about Vikings that was popular at the time.
People romanticize places very easily, non more so than Japan. Mostly people who just watch anime and tv shows think its a paradise where all their dreams come true. It happens too often. Remember all places have issues that will be a huge culture shock. There is an adjustment period that a lot of people can't get past and come home bitter. Thank you for sharing the some of the big issues.
Good thing my country had a deep connection to Japan even in olden times. So I'm aware but getting more aware as I grew up because I'm studying about Japan because I want to go there despite all the thing
Wouldn’t live there permanently, but would defo stay there a few months, my sister went a few years ago, the beautiful places, stories etcetera were amazing.
Paris might be a contender for that title. If I recall correctly, there's actually a mental health condition caused by visiting Paris and it not meeting expectations.
I would suggest watching some native Japanese youtube channels where you can see how they live everyday. Just learn some language first. Even you're not fluent, you can definitely get enough real life vibes from them.
I met two Japanese guys when I traveled to Laos & I am still good friends with both of them. I also met with them when I went to Japan and had a blast. I still talk to them and we're planning on meeting again. I went three times to Japan (the equivalent of 3 months) and I met lots of people but these two guys I can confidently say that they are my only Japanese friends. Funny how I met them through traveling to Laos & not in Japan.
Isn't it because they traveled abroad? I live in Canada, and open-minded people are often the ones who travel outside their own country. I moved to a very conservative province and the constrast between "borned & raised and never traveled" and those who came from another part or did travel is huge. Not just openness, but they become more knowledeable and interesting.
I lived in Japan many years ago. I agree with all of these points. As a single female, I encountered an additional irritant that was probably the biggest factor in my decision to move back to the US. I turned 30. Horror of horrors, I just kept getting older. And, as I mentioned, I was single. I had a good job with a great salary, my Japanese language skills were progressing nicely and I had a nice place to live. More than once, I overheard the term “Christmas Cake” (クリスマスケーキ). The Christmas Cake looks fine but no one wants it after Christmas. I had surpassed my expiration date. I was even told that I should quit my job so that I could spend more time to find a husband or that I should focus on finding a widower or a divorced man who already had children. WHAT？
I don't know whether to laugh or feel bad for you lmao. Honestly though, that's pretty horrible. I don't understand how a country that takes respect so seriously can be so overly disrespectful toward people that are even the slightest bit different than the norm. I love their culture, and I know I would love going there for a holiday but I have never wanted to live there despite knowing that it's still a better place than my country. For me to go to a place where I'd be the outsider and weirdo for the rest of my life, that place would have to be like 10 times better than where I live. I'm not about to give up my whole life here just for a few small advantages that I can live without. I think people need to think a lot more before they move to Japan, or any other country really. As long as there's a significant cultural difference, the positives need to way outweigh the negatives for it to be worth it, imho.
I wish I could say this was surprising, anywhere. That mentality persists in many places, unfortunately, though it's definitely worse in some places. I sympathize with your situation. I spend half the year time traveling in southern Italy, where it's still 1950, and as a solo female traveler I'm regarded with a mix of curiosity and suspicion, especially as one without a husband or children and apparently lacking the goal of obtaining those. But even in my native country (USA) I'm regarded by some with pity for my lack of children or marriage certificate-it never seems to cross anyone's mind that that isn't a goal for me or my partner. (They also don't get it that we are ok with spending a lot of time on different sides of the ocean). But then, I tend to view those who dream of bridal gowns and children with the same bewilderment with which they regard me. I hope you're now enjoying a beautiful life, of your own design, whether or not it includes marriage or children. And anyone who doesn't want the cake the day after Christmas is an idiot. Cake is cake. We always accept the cake.
Honestly this was one the toughest subjects in the video. Mental health is an important part of living a fulfilling life. It was disappointing (but not surprising) to hear that it's not taken very seriously.
"I have never expected to be japanese." Yeah, exactly my opinion. Some people would ask me when I was going to give up my citizenship for japanese citizenship and it's just… the way I see it is that if I have japanese citizenship or not, I will always be treated as a foreigner. It doesn't matter. There might be a few instances where people ask beforehand what my nationality is, because "these days, you can never assume", but these people are rare. One time, a woman asked me when I was going back home (as in 帰国) and I answered that this was my home (帰る場所はここなんです). The look on her face was priceless - like a windows '95 computer trying to access AOL.
"I have never expected to be Japanese" I have lived in Germany for 30 years and am still treated as a foreigner, even though I am fluent in German. "Do you think you will go back home sometime?" is a common question. But I don't mind. I will never be German, just as you will never will be Japanese. Just be yourself and respect the country`s customs and traditions - however absurd they might be. After all, you chose to go and live there.
@@nigelw.ruddock1424 But that's just because of how regional Germany is. You move from one federal state to another and you pretty much are treated as a foreigner even as a German. Statistically, Germans don't really travel, not even within our own borders. So again, there's strong regional tribalism happening and anything new will be treated with suspicion. And honestly, Germany is such a diverse place, who gives a damn about being "German" when the second you leave your home area you're immediately perceived as an alien?
@@Leon_der_Luftige Truth be told, as someone who has lived in Austria their life, although I love this place I actually felt a whole lot better in Germany (or at least in Berlin when I visited). People were just so... nice and welcoming. Or maybe I was just lucky hahaha
@@nigelw.ruddock1424 btw the "Do you plan on going home sometime" is not meant out of spite or rejection, but an indirect question meaning more something like "do you like it here?" Because honestly, I'd go out on a limb and say that most Germans wouldn't expect anyone to come here when there's countries like Norway, Sweden or Switzerland around the bend which are simply nicer in a lot of ways. Germans are generally speaking pretty indifferent of foreigners if they speak the language good enough.
@@low-key5512 Berlin is a whole different game. It's like saying "London = Britain" . Just a different world really. People visiting Germany tend to mistake "Germans minding their own business" with Germans "being rude". If you ask for help from a stranger or shop assistant, you will get it but if you don't ask, don't expect anyone to approach you offering it. Hope that clears some things up to anyone wondering.
I mean I've seen a lot of videos like this too . And its landed me back to earth and grounded me , but I have that itch that I still want to visit there and live there like other people have . And yes I know the history , issues , the good and bad of every country as well . Also NO I AM NOT A WEEB OR WEEABO , * sigh* you know what I mean . But yeah I see what you mean .
Exactly. I worked in Japan and South Korea and I didn't enjoy my time in either country, but then I got a job in China and started visiting Japan due to the proximity for the hikes and onsen, and loved it. Being a tourist in Japan rocks. Oh, and if you really want to live in Japan, it really helps if you're outgoing and enjoy talking to new people. I am introverted and didn't get on well with people. It takes me a while to develop feelings of affection with strangers.
I hate to say it I agree, like I would LOVE to experience some of the culture and see the sites Japan has to offer, the food, the nature, a lot of the good stuff. But living there is a bit of a hit and miss for me because of the issues it has, America's already got enough problems, why add to it? That and I might get homesick and my Japanese is atrocious.
Late reply, I know, but I figured I'd put in my two cents yet. I've never thought of outright moving to Japan. I think the country is beautiful, the food is astounding, and the culture is captivating, but also leaves me a lot to be desired. Just as one example, as an American car guy, Japan does have a vast car culture, but I'm also a truck guy, and a Harley guy. What few trucks Japan has are tiny, and even if I did import a truck that's more my size, it wouldn't ever fit on the roads of Japan. And how often do you see someone riding a Harley Davidson instead of a Honda, Suzuki, Yamaha, or other Japanese bike? Japan seems amazing, and I would love to visit very regularly, but I don't think I could ever outright live there. The United States is my home, and it will remain so, Lord willing.
I've lived in Japan for more than 2 years now and I can honestly say that I've experienced everything that you touched on here to a certain degree. Yes, the country has a lot of issues and living here is definitely not for everyone, but so far it's been an experience that's helped me grow and mature as a person as well as helped me become more independent. Thank you, Chris, for making this video and for educating everyone on some of the things many people don't tell others about living in Japan
I was browsing a website for music for my other TH-cam channel and came across the theme song he uses for journey across Japan, and that should be retired for only Chris' use imo 😃
My last trip to japan, I remembered giving up my seat to an old Japanese lady on the train. She completely ignored me. I knew right there and then what was going on. And to confirm the theory, a Japanese man gave up his seat and the old lady promptly sat down.
I"ve been to Japan numerous times, staying for a month to months. I have't had this happen, but having a Japanese girlfriend I notice she gets negative attention from Japanese men as we walk along, and on a train out of Tokyo on a Saturday night some young woman sitting across from her glared at her the whole hour long train ride. I have given my seat up to older Japanese and they showed appreciation, I've helped elderly Japanese get out of trains. One time a group of older Japanese got on a train and there were these young kids (about 10 years old) sitting. I made them all get up and give their seats to the old people, all in English (my Japanese is minimal). So it works all ways.
I did this when I was staying for 2 weeks in Tokyo and the granny took the seat. Also I think I got like 3 times(?) when I was offered seats by the Japanese. I'm a woman with hijab though. Honestly, thinking they would look at me strangely and I didn't expect much, but I got nice experience from that short time thankfully
@@CLJuvenal That can happen anywhere. I'm a white Londoner, was going out with an Indian girl. We were walking down a street hand in hand when a white girl started giving her daggers, to the point that my gf became so angry, that she stopped in the street and confronted the other girl. The girl just looked at her, then me, with a disgusted look and carried on walking. I thought it was funny but my gf was real upset. The point is that some people are going to hate, it's how you react to it that matters.
I’m super curious about your Japanese friends who “don’t fit the mould”. What was their experience like growing up in Japan? How did they deal with that?
I have a bit of experience with that before I moved to the states, as a kid you're kinda just seen as a trouble maker but the blame isn't really on you it gets transfered to your family which makes you honestly feel pretty bad especially when you don't know why you can't concentrate like I didn't even know what adhd was til I turned 20. I also remember telling my mother I didn't want to go to college and she nearly fainted. There's a big "what would the neighbors think" mentality and it's really stressful even to the people who can fit the mold
That would be a good video. I met Japanese people who moved from Japan to my country and changed a lot, it seems that the society as a whole is a big factor
I lived in Japan for nearly 30 years, married to a Japanese. Back in UK now. Your comments are spot on. Very well articulated. That feeling of never fitting in. I love being back in England where I can be invisible. Thanks for this. I enjoy your funnies but this also needs to be said. Well done.
I’m Canadian living in the countryside of southern Shikoku for going on 12 years now. I agree with all of your points. My goal within the first 5 years was to fully integrate into Japanese society. Therefore, I avoided building relationships with other foreigners and focused on studying Japanese and meeting Japanese people only. What I discovered was integration as a foreigner is impossible. To this day, I do not have a single Japanese friend. It does not matter how much effort I make to build relationships, it is never reciprocal. Sure, I have acquaintances at work and elsewhere but the relationships are very superficial and there is always an invisible barrier between us. Once leaving the office, I live a completely isolated life, without a social life. A Japanese will never, ever make any effort to build a relationship with a foreigner. The rules are endless, the expectations to behave exactly the same as everyone around you is constant. As an independent thinker, I have discovered I really do not fit in to society here. If I ever express my own opinion that is different from the group, it is really frowned upon. I have a lovely traditional home and small farm here, but the ongoing isolation is motivating me to eventually return to Canada.
@@Thatlilmonkey-ng9il Hello, thanks! I like to keep an open mind, but at the same time, be realistic. I never meet anyone here, except a grandmother outside working in her garden.
aye, loneliness and isolation are a real problem. I would suggest you either put in an effort to make foreigner friends there and just accept that the social circle is a little different or just move elsewhere. no sense in making yourself suffer more than necessary. Best of luck man!
@@ThatsNotGaming You are very right! The problem is over the past 5-6 years, I never, ever even see or meet another foreigner here in the countryside. If I did, I would certainly approach them and start a conversation. Even attempt to establish a friendship. The Japanese are too busy most often working 10, 12 or 16-hour days. They have no time nor desire for new friendships, especially with foreigners. The desire for them simply doesn’t exist. If I could easily snap my fingers and transport my house, land, pets and myself to Canada, I’d do it right now! I need to finish my house renovations myself, put my land and home on the market for sale, then prepare to transport myself and 4 pets to Canada. Plus I need to buy property in Canada in advance of my arrival, so I have a place to sleep once getting off the plane. Lots of details to work out. Not a simple task. I’m working on it every day. Real estate in Canada over the past 10+ years has skyrocketed in value. Not easy to afford now either. It’s a big problem. I don’t have family to shack up with upon first arriving in Canada.
For girls wanting to move to Japan: One thing I wish people would have told me is to be even more aware of my surroundings (even a bit more than the states). I live in Tokyo and been followed home several times by men. Although they’ve never force themselves inside my apartment and usually just go back to station after I go inside my apt or take a picture and leave; it’s still pretty scary. I’ve only had my picture taken under skirt two times (it wasn’t even that short and I always wear shorts underneath). I usually walk w/o headphones and try to look around but now I’m even more aware and have a system in place when I’m being followed. In regards to the police, I’ve tried to report it but even with a Japanese friend there to translate, nothing was done. Japan is safe is you’re a guy but if you’re a girl then just prepare. Safer than other places but just brace yourself if it happens to you. Update: Some tips -Send your location to a friend while walking home if you feel something is off. -If you think someone is following you then go to a convenience store but don’t buy anything, just look around all the aisles and then leave. If you’re being followed then the person will also leave behind you w/o buying anything. Go back to your station and call a friend who could come walk you or you could go visit. -if you’re being followed while shopping then go into a big store and try to lose them (highly recommended Uniqlo or a mall). -on crowded trains aim to have your back touching the wall,door, seat wall or another female -if you’re sleepy while on the train and are wearing a dress or skirt then put your bag/jacket/some type of object on your lap as some guys have pretended to “fall asleep” and had their hand causally fall in some of friends laps and touch. (Mostly at night time or on the weekends).
@@puffballcakes5150 of course! Just thought I would share my experience in hopes that it would prepare someone who is planning to move here. Had these experiences been shared with me before I moved out here, I probably would have taken some self defense classes before arriving.
I think it happens even more for foreigners. I Think the guys never see females like that. Plus they feel they can get away with it. Because they don't speak english and you dont speak Japanese. Atleast thats what they assume. Be careful and if you don't speak the language I would learn some stuff. It could scare them off alittle bit faster!
When I lived in Japan as a student in the 60s (really!), I met a man who recounted the story of a White Russian who had fled to Japan during the Russian Revolution, lived there his whole life thereafter and was a native speaker. When in his 80s he was asked how the Japanese treated him in view of that long history, he replied, "Like I just got off the boat." No matter what you make of your time there, as a foreigner you will never be treated as a Japanese. Live with it.
@@Woeisme2 Didn't want to go there, but unfortunately White Christian nationalism is real in our country and is definitely unfriendly to non-Caucasians.
To clarify, White Russians are those who fled Russia for political reasons after the Bolshevik Revolution in 1917. This distinguishes them from the "Reds" who stayed behind to create the Worker's Paradise. The terms have nothing to do with the color of their skin.
I would like to see one of the Japan TH-camrs address the stereotype that Japan is extremely extremely racist. Is the country really that bad or is the stereotype false?
I'm glad you mentioned about mental health in Japan. A lot of my Japanese friends would always tell me how horrible mental health is in Japan and that it is always brushed under the rug or not spoken about. Because it could damage the families reputation and also Japanese people sort of have this "if there's something wrong with you, it's your fault" mentality. So if you have depression, anxiety, or severe mental health disorders, it's your fault and you need to work harder to get "better." It would be seen as shameful if you were to go to a doctor for mental health, an embarrassment even. So you basically have to suck it up and work it out yourself, hence why Japan's depression and suicide rate is incredibly high compared to other countries in the world. My one Japanese friend told me her sister is mentally ill and still lives in Japan, but no doctors will help her because they don't understand why she's "ill" and that she should work harder and that through hard work she will get better. My ex moved back to Tokyo and started suffering severe depression and had suicidal tendencies due to the Salaryman type job he got, and when I mentioned he should get help he laughed and told me that's not an option here and that he just "needs to focus more on his work." It's honestly so sad.
I know this comment is 5 months old, but I still thought it was worth mentioning, that sadly this is not just a japan thing, but seems to unfortunately be a more wide spread issue across a lot of Asia. I know for example China very much practices the idea of if you ignore it then it doesn't exist, to the grave detriment of many people who either have or know someone that has a mental illness issue. I know a lady that worked in China for some time, she actually has some education for dealing with mental issues as her son has some problems, so she took courses to be able to help him. While working in China she would get calls from people that knew her and knew that she had some education in mental health issues, and so knew how to deal with them to some degree, and they would end up basically begging her for help if their child was having some type of episode, because they had absolutely no idea what to do, because as far as the government and rest of society was considered, nothing was wrong. Sadly far to many people have yet to learn that ignoring an issue, doesn't make it better, in fact it just makes it a lot worse.
Chinese here, I remember one time in a Morison's cafe back in northern England. A toddler point his finger at me and his father immediately stopped his act. It is actually OK for me, but I really appreciate the father's gratitude.
I'm 6'6" and while visiting a botanical garden in Japan in 1987, a couple asked me to pose for a photo standing next to their children. When people saw what was going on, other people asked me to do it with their children.
@@chrisbotos we mean they were six feet and six inches tall. Also I think they took the picture because they thought they were an athlete. But probably because they were really tall
I was going to say the same thing. I would bet anything that, given how polite and conscientious Japanese people tend to be, he probably hated himself for how much commotion he felt compelled to cause every morning. I feel bad for him.
Or...or...hear me out. Ryotarou paid the guy a ridiculous sum to torture Chris mentally in a bid to break Chris' sanity. Hell I'd go so far as to say that that guy was Ryotarou himself, moving in unbeknownst to Chris! We all know Ryotarou's mission in life is to ruin and/or assassinate ruin Chris and take over his channel! Mwahahahaha...!
I’m Japanese. I’ve traveled all Japanese prefectures and then, I realized it might be a little bit tough and difficult for foreigners to live in Japan without the person who speak Japanese. Because almost all people living in Japan don’t speak English 😅
As I’ve noticed, I do think Japanese language is one of the hardest to learn. So I’ve always wondered how it felt to to be able to converse with them despite being a foreigner.
@@lee_hannahdulset Out of the 8 languages I've studied (English, French, Swedish, Russian, Arabic, Finnish, Chinese and Japanese) I have to say Japanese was overwhelmingly the easiest to learn. The use of Chinese characters in the language actually makes it much easier to learn than European languages. The way the characters work helps tremendously with memorizing vocabulary. I only studied seriously for a few months in the beginning (using an Anki deck + Rosetta Stone + the internet) to learn grammar; then I got burned out and decided to watch anime / talk shows and play games / read visual novels with a dictionary instead. Fast forward 5 years and I'm able to speak fluently and read fast, even though the only "studying" I did in that time was literally just consuming entertainment while checking an online dictionary. Mandarin Chinese is by far the most difficult language I've ever learned. I've studied it for 4 years, and I can read it (knowing Japanese helps a lot) and I can understand simple spoken phrases, but I couldn't speak it to save my life.
@@VVayVVard That’s amazing of you. I wonder how you were able to learn all that languages when I can’t even speak one of the languages in my country fluently. I did try learning the korean language called hangul but I gave up halfway and decided to just enjoy reading subtitles instead. After all these years and I’m only able to read and my writing sucks too. And mind you that korean language is actually one of the easiest to learn. That is why when I saw all those characters in Japanese, kanji(?) is that what they call them? I gave up not even trying haha
@@lee_hannahdulset My Russian teacher in high school encouraged students to learn as many languages as possible. In her words, learning a new language helps you see the world from a whole new perspective. And I understand what she meant now; each language has its own "toolset" for communicating ideas, and many aspects of culture are only accessible in the language native to said culture. Learning an exotic language feels much like opening a door to a whole new world; it's a refreshing experience, like an adventure. I gave up on most languages halfway through, though, since memorizing vocabulary is so taxing in the long run. Japanese was the only one I ended up mastering. Learning kanji is only difficult in the beginning, for the first 300 ~ 400 characters. Once you get a grasp of the basic radicals, memorization becomes second nature, and you can even start guessing the definitions / readings of characters you've never seen before. Learning vocabulary is the hardest part (as with every other language) but surprisingly I found that this was a lot more fun in Japanese and Chinese than in European languages. It's like the characters add a unique "color" to each word that make them pop out in a way that isn't possible with letters. I only noticed this after I got past the 300+ character point, though. (this is why I think it's a shame hanja aren't used in Korean anymore; they're a huge help when learning a language as a foreigner) Something I noticed in my studies, though, is that there's not much point to trying to learn a language if it doesn't feel "compatible" with who you are. E.g. if you don't like how a language sounds, or if the culture associated with a language doesn't appeal to you, studying feels like chore and you won't really get anywhere. As a case in point, I tried to study French and Spanish for 10+ years for career-related reasons, but it felt like a constant uphill battle and I never really progressed. Something about the languages just wasn't compatible with who I am, and it was only much later that I realized that that's something you can't really force.
I feel you on the standing out. As a black man working (think international business consulting) in more rural areas of Japan (Tohoku and Hokkaido Regions), I was often the only foreigner people saw (outside of Golden week when they went to Tokyo) and as an extension the only black person. So when you leave Tokyo especially, you have to make sure you are setting a good example for the other foreigners. I dealt with a lot of business and government officials for my job, and by setting these good "first" impressions, you pave the way for other foreigners. Though you won't do much to stop the little kid from holding tightly to his mother walking to school in the morning.
Thank you for thinking ahead and being empathetic towards fellow foreigners. I've lost count of how many tourists and expats I've heard were treated like trash because other completely unrelated foreigners had stirred up trouble there previously. It's not fair, but it is what it is.
Finally a video that hits home! No BS or "tourists only" things here. Care to do a video about how many foreigners (western and eastern) are actually happy here or otherwise?
Well, foreigners unless self-sustained, can not really live safely in Japan. At most, you'd get a 2-4 year contract and that's it. Then you have to move to another employer. The built-up years of experience will be reset. So your salary scale, will go back to zero! Their politics are extremely racist which unfortunately translates to many Japanese people there too. You, a foreigner, there === big trouble. Well, unless you have a beste, hubby or wife that is a native Japanese! Only then is it OK. But still, the resetting salary scale just sucks. You better be self-employed and your own boss. Otherwise, it's just a waste of time.
@Clout Well to be fair, it’s hard as hell to make it anywhere in the world without the help of someone, and even though the Japanese Dream is not exactly the “Japanese Dream” Japanophiles imagine, there still are ways to be happy here. You can work for a foreign company for starters, or perhaps better yet be an entrepreneur, whatever that may be. If you’re strapped on cash or the Japanese Dream has really got you trapped, there are sly, roundabout ways to get out of that mess. Passive income, pockets to free time you can use to your advantage, audiobooks to educate yourself, foreign communities with local misfits to help you out, etc... I don’t know the circumstances of everybody but it’s still possible to change things in Japan if you’re the creative type, and then take it from there even if you conclude you have to move out.
He expressed himself very fairly I think. I would love to have a beer with him in person. I lived in Japan for a year and I struggle to believe someone as British, sarcastic and intelligent as Chris has never flew off the handle or seriously thought about catching the next available flight out of the country.
@Kevin S I think I've watched every vid on this channel over the years and never got that impression. I had really bad depression because of living in Japan and know lots of Brits who did too. Maybe Chris's life was proper awful in the UK or he's never lived anywhere else so Japan is the best he knows.
I’m Mexican and today I reached 20 years living in the UK and I still feel very much a foreigner/outsider. My daughter born here is serious about going to Japan next year to learn Japanese after college, she is doing the basics now but we love your videos which are funny and informative please keep doing them
In my first real job, I worked for a Japanese company (Funai) in California. They maintained a strict Japanese work culture, and it was not the type of atmosphere that I wanted to stay in at all. Couldn't enjoy it, felt very robotic, people looked miserable, and bosses were complete douchebags. This scared me off so much, that now all of my work is 100% remote, and if you are planning on living in Japan, probably the best choice to be honest.
Even though I went to a US Navy hospital for my colonoscopy and Americans normally put you under I stayed awake because my Japanese wife said they don’t get general anesthesia in Japan so I shouldn’t either.
@@c3aloha I've had it done in both the UK and Japan, both times awake. Whatever anaesthetic they give you to put in your mouth like Chris mentions, definitely doesn't work much anyway.
I've had one awake in Ukraine and due to doctor's professionalism it went really good although I don't actually want to relive that experience ever again...
At least, they have far more holidays than Americans. In total, USAmericans work on averae even more hours than even the Japanese. That's why I would never want to live in either of those two countries.
Had lived in Japan for over 12 years and thought I had built some solid friendships with my Japanese colleagues. But truth be told, once you leave Japan, the Japanese are quick to forget you. Out of sight, out of mind . I was surprised that some even failed to reply to a short cheerful e-mail. So much for Japanese "friends".....
Exactly the same in my experience as well, I think my kids Japanese dad even forgot about his own kids lol (partially joking but I’m sure you know what I mean..)
Yeah, they are really like that. It's really weird. what you said: "Out of sight, out of mind". That awkward moment of running into a former Japanese friend who has put you in the "written off" category. The intense awkwardness. I don't know why they are like that, and I suspect they would not be able to explain it themselves. They're missing out on a human experience.
@@thatundeadlegacy2985 It depends, if you are like me then in your teen years you made some toxic friends that you want to forget about. I ghosted them but it was for the better tbh because they made me feel more alone when I was with them. Cutting contact was very hard because some people don't move on here in America. But you really gotta look at it thru another persons perspective if they even wanted to be friends in the first place. In my case I never wanted to be friends with this group but it was a mere coincidence and I did not have the confidence to tell them.
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AS FOR THIS VIDEO, I've made over 200 videos in Japan over the years that've been rather positive about the country and I'd like to think my love for this country, the people and the culture are beyond question. But of course, the country isn't perfect (nowhere is). I've always held off of this video as I know it'll open a pandoras box of people telling me to "go home", but I think all of the criticism I've levelled at Japan in this video is pretty fair. Time will tell! But keep an eye out for angry racist comments. Hopefully we can bundle them into a future hate mail video...
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"The world's smallest beer"
"No no no no no, I'm so big"
I love this man already and it's the first time I've seen him
go watch the marmite video from a few years ago! He features in that too!
I envy you a bit. You have so many videos to watch from him...
I miss the old videos where he appeared
He is very lovable, isn't he?
Legend!
It's hilarious to see someone use the words "overly positive" when referring to Chris.
exactly my thought
I had to stop and blink when those words were used.
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How rude. I think he tests positive for sarcasm on a regular basis.
Makes perfect sense why the Isekai genre is so strong in Japan. They all dream of a fantasy world they would rather be in than having to do all of the things in this video.
Aint that true for the entire world? People seem to inflate the country being bad, when in reality its just Capitalism being bad, hyper individualism, isolation at work, in social life, rise of social media and even Covid has had impact on society.
Japan is the most advanced Capitalist country, by that I mean not by technology, but by the economical system, its experienced all the issues we face today in the western world, like 20 years earlier, Hikikomori began in Japan during the late 70s, thats a huge issue today in the west, funny how it all works out.
@@SMGJohn I wonder what western "Isekai" will look like.
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Super Hero genre is literally escapism
@@SMGJohn Just across the water is com munism and they seem to have all the same problems, plus the requisite totalit arian gov ernment that comes with every instantiation of com unism.
@@treelineresearch3387 *communism
I met an awesome Japanese dude called Sho when I was living in Australia. He was a Pro surfer, we went to watch him at some competitions and he was awesome, getting sponsorships and everything. He was looking at moving to Australia permenatly and I asked him if he ever wanted to go home. He laughed and said "man, no-one in Japan thinks surfing is a job".
quite irrelevant but i've watched an anime about surfing and one of the characters there was named sho
@@arrianah5080 what anmie
@@Eat_The_Rich142 wave surfing yappe or smth
Bro was this on the Gold Coast? I met a guy called Sho who was pretty wild working at Donto Sapporo in Surfers, what a small world.
@@alexanderhgardiner6731 I met him in the sunshine Coast, not sure where he went afterwards. Hope he's doing good.
Japanese boss: "It's come to our attention you have a life outside the office."
Sir, I'm sorry, it won't happen again.
So true ... I've worked for a Huge Japanese company for 5 years ... and damn ... it is different!
@@mdjohnson1 I'm a consultant and my company wanted to staff me at this Japanese company, which would have required me spending a year in Japan. I would love to visit don't get me wrong, but I wasn't even that apprehensive about joining the fucking Army. I'd seen a lot of "a day in the life" in a Japanese corporate office and it seems fucking horrible. I stewed over it for about 2 weeks and said no. On the one hand it could be an unforgettable life experience on the otherhand I could want to kill myself a month in.
@@tsdobbi congrats on dodging a bullet
@@mdjohnson1 what's it like?
Started learning japanese to study in japan.
Chris Broad: “Fuck off, don't move here”
Well that's just great
"Understandable, Have a nice day!"
Why would you want to study in Japan the work/study culture is so strict and awful.
I can see the point in moving there as long as you don't have a traditional job, but now I'm curious why would you go study there?
@@milkshaketuga1902 could be a student exchange program
Indian's going to study in Japan, that astounding.
What a great start
After 15 years in Japan, I’m also getting ready to leave, partially for the same reasons as listed in this video. I ticked all the boxes: I learned the language, found a good job, got married, had kids, built a house.
But in the end, I just can’t take it anymore. There are some truly heartbreaking stories in the comments and my heart goes out to each one of you. I could add my own but it’s too painful to spell out here.
Heyy do you have email or something for communication? I’d like to send u chat to knowing more about japan, thanks
@@toplespecah666 Hey, happy to chat here. How can I help?
@@FireBolt076Hey, of course there are gardening jobs here. But unless you start your own company, it’s likely going to be paid just around the poverty line. Expect really slim pickings and super hard work. Also, it might be hard getting a visa for jobs that are mostly manual labor.
As for being a therapist, if you’re okay to limit yourself to other foreigners an American degree will do - if you want to see Japanese patients you’re likely going to need a degree from a Japanese school and a near perfect command of Japanese.
@himajin11, the things you said are too painful to say, does it relate to the harsh working conditions?
I got offers constantly from headhunters to come work in Japan (because I graduated from Japanese University long ago). Sometimes I feel like returning to Japan but when I think about the working culture, always makes me rethink.
Is it still that bad now in the Japanese companies?
What makes you think life is different elsewhere?
I see people saying all this stuff but honestly even in Norway people experience the same stuff, Norwegian people that is, native people lived and born here all their life.
Isolation is down to Capitalism and is a growing problematic issue everywhere in the world, you are isolated at work, you are isolated in the public, why? Because jobs are moving into more and more independent tasks, less cooperating with others, the rise of social media did no one any favour either, people have this weird expectation that social media is the only place they can find people to talk to which is frankly hilarious.
Because of this, people in the public are much rarer to say hello to you, its harder to form relationship in the public because events and gatherings just are not a thing anymore and its even harder to make relations at work because of the individualistic setup they have at jobs, you are required to do job of what maybe 2 - 4 people did in the past.
Frankly, people who lived a long time in Japan and then complain about stuff, seem unfathomably ignorant about life elsewhere, even in their home country they would most likely experience similar issues, after Covid its gotten a lot worse even.
I know a lot of people in Britain and they all share the same stories, after Covid even the pubs are emptier now, people just do not want to gather anymore, they discovered social media and are building their little echo chambers online.
Hi Chris! Long-time subscriber here. One thing to expand on is it's very widely viewed in the western world that Japan is extraordinarily safe to visit, BUT there is a tendency to push crimes in Japan under the rug and make them un-noticed. In a lot of the Japanese crime cases I cover I'm corrected on Japan's *actual* crime rates versus reported crime rates. This actually perpetuates the problem for foreigners. Anyway wanted to comment under your invite, I love your channel and can't wait for your new Journey Across Japan!
A japanese professor of mine, that was raised here in my country, gave me the following advice as to crimes and being foreigner there:
Don't do drugs
Don't do prostitution
Don't do grand theft autos and resseling of parts to the overseas
Don't do Pachinko and Cassinos
Don't do Guns and Organs traffic
Don't do frauds
Don't get indebted
You don't do any of those, you won't get into their (Yakuza) radar. It's generally very safe, unless you became a troublesome foreigner seen as something that needs to be purged.....
I mentioned Yakuza specifically cuz that's what I'm told as most worrysome for foreigners, I know there are other crimes, but I think the most serious risk to your integrity as foreigner is getting notice by them as someone that deserves their attention
Im definitely no expert on japan, but all ive heard on the internets is that yes, it is very safe, but if something happens it's gets really difficult in a way. Japanese have the "saving face" mentality for real, and also making mistakes is judged way more harshly than in most other countries, that's why japan has 99% or something ridiculous like that conviction rate. That may seem great, but it only comes from the fact that cases only go to court if they are pretty much 100% sure they can win, and if they lack evidence or just confidence to make it work, the case never reaches court. This kind of ignorance combined with rampant xenophobia can make it really hard for foreigners who get in any way involved wit a crime.
All of this info is from random youtube channels dealing with japan and some articles ive read, so take it with a pinch of salt, but i bet it's not far from the truth, it's just way more complicated.
So nothing new for people living in third world shitholes like me then lol.
I didn't expect you to be here
Japan is like that: if crime happens it's straight out of horror book
One minute you're accused of being too negative. And now you're being accused of being too positive. You can't win sometimes, man.
Next video: 12 reasons NOT to become a TH-camr...
@@GTti72 😂
You can never win....
I lived in Japan twice, three years as a high school student and later 6 years as an executive at a subsidiary of a company headquartered in silicon valley. The points made in the video are quite accurate and anyone considering a move to Japan would benefit from taking them to heart.
Did you still find the pros to outweigh the cons?
@@pollen04 Very much so. But I was there as an expatriate executive so I had much more support than someone who goes to Japan with no job and no connections and has to figure it all out on their own.
@@Jake-sb9bs hire a Japanese lawyer if you want to know
@@Jake-sb9bs Sorry, I am not knowledgeable regarding requirements for permanent residency. During my stay I had a work permit and temporary residency statis which required that I leave the country periodically which was not a problem since my job required that I travel regularly.
Also, my job required that I travel regularly outside of Japan. While I enjoyed my life in Japan, if I went more that three months "in country" I felt a physical sense of expansive relief when I got off the plane in the U.S.. But in a few days I was happy to return.
i am from singapore which is hot and humid year round. I found my paradise in japan because except for summer, the rest of the year are very comfortable plus the four seasons scenery and landscape are fantastic. thus i don't mind the negative part of living in japan. ten years living in japan now and I can live forever here.
Serious Question: if you didn't have this TH-cam channel with the ability to connect with people (and make some income) do you still think you would have lived in Japan as long?
THIS
this comment has to get to him!! it's a very good question
Get this up there
replying just to get this up
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Working as a recruiter, meeting endless of people who wish to work in japan while not considering the reality of actually living here, this video makes my job 1000time easier.. thank you lol
I lived in japan previously and have been looking for work To move there again, but all the recruiters I've come across are for inter Japan job moves, not international. This might just be due to coronavirus at the moment but if you could have recommend any agencies I'd really really appreciate it please 🙏🙏
I'd definitely love the opportunity. What exactly do you recruit for?
As a Japanese, living in Japan is also difficult. A lot of the same things apply to many Japanese. This mind culture like hard work, being patient, and peer pressure makes us suicidal or depression. I always wanted to be free, playful, so I couldn't stand so much restriction for my most of life 18 years, that's why I decided to study abroad and live in the UK now. It's very interesting, that a foreign country more fits you than living in your original country. Despite totally different cultures, facing a lot of issues that you've never experienced, but you could live a greater life.
Interesting view. Greetings from Argentina 😎
Hope life here in the UK treats you well buddy!
life of living robots. i am proud to being elsewhere
@@HalendleofLoc UK has its up and down. In a small town like Rugby, Northampton and Leicester, I love the sundays where everyone just chill and be unproductive while chucking beer and watching football. However, weather is terrible which is why I travel to Spain or Portugal in the winter. Also traveling within the country is overpriced due to outdated infrastructure and I am being polite here using outdated. Not to mention the safety is compromised when you walk alone after sunset(of course I should not have compared that to Japan)One thing I do look forward to is carboot on the weekends, so many antiques its gorgeous and I could style my home and feel like a king in the castle lol
@@YoonJintae98 Yep, sounds about right. British weather is so bad it defeated the Romans. Japanese storms kill Mongols, English storms kill Romans. We are not so different. Glad you've found things to enjoy too though. I didn't actually know they still do car boot sales though, I thought they died off years ago, that's awesome to hear.
I like it. I'm usually very cautious when something is sold to me as overly positive, and especially about Japan it's like people just CANNOT criticize it for some reason, despite it having numerous problems - from sexual harassment, to severe depression and xenophobia. So I'm glad this isn't one of those clickbait titles where they say "12 reasons not to" and then just proceed to list positives in a sarcastic manner.
When the majority of what people are exposed to of Japan are fantastical elements most aren't going to get a realistic grasp of the society. And when you point these things out, people take it as a personal insult, rather than realizing that they never thought deeply about this subject in the first place. It's what happens when most people aren't educated on the socratic method and don't think critically about things they see and do.
I think the term xenophobia is a little silly.
In my mind it makes sense to be cautious of people who don't share your values and morals.
@@connordougherty3477 You don't know that until you talk to people. People who look exactly like me have the most reprehensible ideas.
Who else is waiting on the Japan VS Narnia video now? 🤔
how about when would chris do the skate board challenge across japan i bet he would get really fit if that happens
Let's goooooo!
I'm all about that My Neighbor Ryotaro to be honest.
I’d watch it lol
Oh yes! 🤩🤩🤩 🏰🐉🧝♂️🧚🏻♀️🦁...
First question: Are Japanese apartments big enough for a wardrobe big enough to fit a lion and a witch in it?... 🤔
Incoming "Chris hates Japan" comments 😀
Lot of reaction vids coming
Bro what is a war thunder youtuber doing here ......
And as a result another reply to haters video is coming as well :P
Wait, Chris doesn't hate Japan? I thought he and I were two peas in a pod!
The flood gates have opened
I can imagine Chris' child who grew up in Japan starting a channel "Abroad in Britain"
he's got to have sex first! (sorry chris)
"20 fucking reasons why not to move to fucking Britain"
@@InvisibleJiuJitsu Goddamn
He'd go to bare ends innit West End Mastif ma g ya wagwan on ma blood bruv chicken penger creps fam. :)
*Another Broad in Britain
As someone with mental health stuff, the fact that more therapists in our own countries do online sessions is helpful. The time difference creates issues but it could be possible to make it work. The isolation does make it worse, though, and it’s why I ultimately left.
"hey Natsuki how are you?"
"Fucking hell"
thank you so much for reminding me of this absolute GEM.
Natsuki is just Japanese Johnny rotten
“Natsuki what are you doing?”
“Fucking hell.”
“*in depressed cynical voice:*sounds painfull…”
Natsuki deserves his own anime.
For anyone wondering, it’s at 23:16
Truth is Japanese are 'humble', 'polite', 'disciplined' and 'hard working'.
Some foreigners are quite the opposite.
Although I'm not Japanese, I can relate to Japanese point of views about foreigners 🤔
Oh, and if you have a full sleeve tattoo as I do, get ready for some bizarre responses in public. I nearly gave an old lady a heart attack in the vegetable department of a rural mountain supermarket while buying onions... I felt terrible as I did not get a tattoo to wreak havoc on the elderly...
With all that yakuza over there most tats will freak people out lol
That lady story killed me 😂
Luckily I'm afraid of Needles i want tattoos but it involves needles heck nah
Then why DID you get a tattoo?jk
But didn't you... ? 😂😂😂
Mental health is a massive issue in Japan. It's not that they don't understand it, it's that they DON'T WANT to understand it. Even the doctors are mostly unwilling to try. There is a lot of depression in Japan which is VERY treatable, but because it's so taboo and no one is willing to acknowledge it, people don't have anyone to turn to for help, and many times it will lead to suicide. It's very sad to see such an advanced society to have such a treatable and preventable problem.
The 25 door slams in the morning that Chris mentioned in the beginning is HARD proof of this. HARD. That sounds right like OCD. And, truly, doesn't necessarily sound treated either.
You can argue that it's even worse in America, school shootings happen on a regular basis because people with mental health issues are not getting the help they need. The Joker movie was trying to make that point.
@@DoritosBurger USA much larger country(26x); much more population(2.6x). People in the US avoid the help they need due to a lack of finances to cover that medical care rather than a lack of acknowledgment of there being a problem at all. Social/Cultural issues be a tough cookie. Also, here's a list: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_school_shootings_in_the_United_States
As far as I can tell the majority - if not practically all(joking) - of these "shootings" appear to involve very different circumstances - at least in the last 10yrs or so - from a few key ones you're likely to have in mind such as the Columbine High School massacre. But; regardless of that, of all the ones I read through the locations of these incidences would appear to be happenstance and more than likely would've occurred whether they were at or nearby a school in the first place.
Given that many of the common medicines used to treat mental illnesses such as depression are still not available in Japan, I'm not at all surprised. Some people have to change their medication (with all the problems that brings} before emigrating because of lack of availability.
Their treatment options are very limited.
I get my depression meds here, and they give them to me in 15 seconds without any questions about my medical history or anything LOL
They don’t care about talking about mental health AT ALL.
I'M OFFENDED. I don't know why I'm offended, but I'll come up with some reasons sooner or later and then blame you.
Still taking your time?
This is the most honest straight down the middle view ive ever seen about japan. Kudos.
Just a random stranger giving you your first comment
@@mattjones8016 You are so random.
@@TheKaiTetley I move along the flow of the algorithm
I’m Japanese.
Do not work in Japan. I woke up 4 in the morning, then came back 9pm usually.
This video has a lot of sense for me at least. Sometimes traditional is pain in my ass.
How come one of the most advanced country in world could allow this kinda thing? What is government doing about this or is it just a culture thing?
@@JamesArslan As far as I know its a cultural thing. Being devoted to the whole team so to speak.
@@JamesArslan this is definitely cultural. Japan is very strict to staying in their traditional ways. (or so i've seen and heard)
that "Stuck in the past" reason is a perfect example of how Japan is strict in their culture.
@@JamesArslan beacause japan is just like america the media shows u the good side leaves the bad
@@mrelitists7751 lol, every country do that.
I genuinely expected one of the reasons to be, "Ryotaro lives here!"
is it not
13 reasons not to live in Japan
He seems nice, unless you are named chris😈
rewatching these why NOT to x videos... My application to JET was declined back in 2019 and I was really torn up about it. I still dream about what could've been, but I find these videos weirdly comforting. Like your other one where you chatted with Pete about teaching, and how it finally broke down my unrealistic daydreams. I'll still visit Japan someday, but as a tourist, where my whole life and mindset won't have to turn on a dime just to not-quite-fit-in.
You know you have a great friend group when you introduce them like a bank heist team.
My dear man, wonderful summary of the life of an alien in Japan. I live on a small island, been here 15 years total, and everything mentioned applies... Boom! Job well done. Keep up the good work...
There's no way you actually live there...
@@chrishansen5784 literally check his channel out
@@chrishansen5784 8 years here. I live in a sprawling kominka property in Fukuoka that cost just 8k (880,000 yen), including over an acre of farmland we do natural farming on. Not quite the cramped apartment he describes!!. My lifestyle has been featured on national TV. This channel is preposterous with it's mis-representation of Japan.
Ive lived in Sasebo for 9 yrs, now live in Ureshino, Saga Prefecture since 2005. Love every minute of it 😄😊🍵
@@rupert-japan Lmfaoo
You hit every nail on the head. Lived in Japan for 10 years, was married to a Japanese person, and had two kids.
It took at least 3 or 4 years for me to get over most of that stuff, but some of it I never got over completely.
Like, For example, I thought I was pretty comfortable and had gotten over things until I tried to enroll my daughter in youchien. She was turned away because I am a foreigner. I struggled with severe depression and anxiety the entire time I lived there and after that situation I became suicidal, because I felt my kids were better off without a crappy gaijin mom who would always make things harder for them and embarrass them.. because I knew no matter how much I had learned in the past I was always going to encounter something new, make mistakes, and look like an idiot.
Whether it’s a new school, a new PTA duty, some unspoken rule I never knew until 7 years into doing something, a naraigoto, a ceremony, a neighborhood association meeting, …anything. I hated myself and I truly felt sorry for my kids that they couldn’t have a normal mom like everyone else. My ex husband beat me down the entire time I was there and refused to help me with anything at all, he just kicked me to the wolves.
In addition to all that though, bad things do happen to foreigners for standing out sometimes. My very first week in japan, I was accused of stealing from Uniqlo at Granduo mall in Kamata station in Tokyo. I looked at a few tshirts, put them back where they were, realized I had to leave because I was staying with my ex husbands grandparents and they wanted me home by a certain time, and left (in a bit of a hurry I guess). Two security guards grabbed me physically on the street outside of the mall and shouted at me, ripped my jacket off, dumped the contents of my bag all over the ground, and flat out accused me of stealing. When they saw I had nothing, they left without apology. Obviously everyone was staring at the ruckus. Not one person stopped to help me pick up all my things. I was bawling my eyes out. One of the only times my ex husband ever actually did help me, he contacted the mall manager, Uniqlo manager, and security manager, and he and I had to go meet with them. He threatened them with legal action and voice recorded everything. They admitted that it was in fact because I’m a foreigner. I got my first ever dogeza apology which was almost as humiliating to be involved with as the initial situation as well as 2man in JCB gift money. In addition to that I then had to meet with the two security guards who stopped me and the manager of security again at Tully’s coffee where they also apologized to me and gave me 2man JCB gift money. I just wanted the whole thing to end. The only thing I could say was that I just hope this doesn’t happen to another foreigner by you guys again in the future…
Don’t even get me started on hospitals and doctors… I’ve got plenty of stories such as when I was locked in my labor room alone in pitch black over night while in labor with my eldest, terrified, isolated, and in excruciating pain (and that’s only the start of that horror story) or the time I got a root canal without Novocain by a dentist who refused to wear gloves and got mad at me because I couldn’t gaman through it.
There are some things I truly loved about my life in Japan and I am proud of that era of my life but truly and honestly I can tell you some dark stories.
Damn
Thanks for sharing. It may be different that your children had an american mom and a Japanese dad. Myself, as a mixed-race halfu, my mother is Japanese, father is white american (navy). Therefore, my mother did all the arrangements with houkuen and perhaps I was treated differently as a result. Maybe my mom had the cultural capital to make sure to guarantee my own well-being as a halfu. I am not sure why the Japanese culture, the same culture that produced kamikaze pilots and the rape of nanking, are like this tbh. I am not sure where it comes from. Perhaps their violent and bloody samurai culture remnants still dwells in their culture.
I like how anime fans pretend Japan is this progressive social country when in realty it's probably one of the most racist and conservative modern nations on earth.
@@marnixmaximus3053 Don't lump us all together. From what I've seen, most seem to accept that Japan would be a terrible place to live in. Those who glorify Japan's living situation without being there are few and far between.
I have a lot of similar stories after living 18 years as a foreigner in England ....
Someone once told me, especially when I went to Japan for a semester study abroad program in collage, it’s all about your perspective and you decide to go about your situation. No matter where you are you can either take things in stride and try to have a good time if that’s what you want to do. Idk it really helped open me up a bit and make me realize even when I’m traditionally boring or difficult situations I can either mope about it or try and make the best of it that I can. So I guess that’s what I try to do is make the best of my situation. I recently had a work opportunity that took me to New Jersey and I’ve honestly heard nothing but terrible things about the state (I’m from Texas); just there’s nothing to do there. But I made the best of it that I could and actually had a nice time.
As a PA resident, NJ is jokingly the punching bag of the northeast. There's nothing actually wrong with it.
Texas, on the other hand...
Somebody once told me-
Absolutely loved watching this. Really interesting. As much as I love Japan as a destination I definitely couldn’t live there.
Same here. It's such a fascinating country to me, but I would NEVER want to spend my life there.
I Really want to go to Japan for a holiday one day, but living there for me won't make it as amazing.
Saaame! The work culture is just too much for me, everything else is fine and can deal.. :D
@@Fabio-ql5yf For pretty much all the reasons discussed in the video, among others.
I would love to live there but man, I couldn't stand the work culture
Ryotaro: He's gonna die.
The pinnacle of true friendship there.
a friend will help you out in a time of need.
A true friend will stand there and laugh, and *then* help you out
Nothing says friendship better than pointing your buddy in the face and laughingly yelling into a camera hes going to die XD
@@BrSgtJordan Indeed
@@LoliMaster69227 XD
@@BrSgtJordan True
Getting called overly positive as a British person must be considered a grave insult
I recoiled in British
I do feel like I'm letting the side down if I make more than two unambiguously nice comments in a row.
They could not handle people from the midwest bro lmao
Hi Chris, Australian guy with Japanese wife now living last 30 years in Australia. Lived in Tokyo for 3 years and love your channel, keep going strong much love!!!
Doc: "You should be more happy"
Chris: "I'm Britsh"
Doc" Ahh, alright then. Carry on"
Doc:"awrite yew go' a loicence fo be-een sad?"
Doc: "You should stop being British"
Doc: "You should be more happy."
Chirs: "I'm British."
Doc: "Oh. Right. Here take these." *hands Chris pills*
Chris: "Wait. These are strychnine!"
Doc: "Yes. You will no longer be British or sad."
Me: "Sorry doc I was born with severe depression."
Doc, Have you seen UK politics!!
Not gonna lie, A FRAUD in Japan is a channel that I would subscribe to.
Tips on how to scam your way through the country.
what about afraid in japan? ...like a horror version of this channel lol
Maybe a Maid in japan => Chris in a maid costume
yeeah maybe the last ones a bit much haha
I can't believe Chris nearly, genuinely put Risottero on that list without a bad word....almost
Almost
The honesty is much appreciated!
The Japanese TH-cam reactors are going have a field day with this one Chris have fun with those videos
I don't like "react" videos in general but there is a special place of hate in my heart for people reacting to Chris' videos.
@@paulszki I don't particularly mind it, as long as the person reacting will give his own insight or perspective about Chris's opinions.
If the person reacting is just gonna make "oohs" and "ah" sound, then it's just a pointless video. It's just someone using the video to get views on their video.
tbh, it is interesting to see it from a native's pov
The Japanese nuclear reactors already had Chris on a field day.
@Audan Baan nah theres some good reactors out there for sure
I enjoyed my 12 years in Japan. Something I found is that foreigners aren't held to the same standards as Japanese so there wasn't the pressure to work late, observe all the rules, etc. One thing that got to me a bit was point #12. I could live in Japan for 30 years and I would still be referred to as "the foreigner". Also the inevitable "_________ jouzu desune!" comments. That killed me a little inside every time.
Yeah, strangely it's getting "jouzu'd" that does the most mental damage over time. I never had trouble with feeling like people are staring, I figured it's normal to look at someone who looks so different from most people, so I never got paranoid about it. I also realized pretty soon that (most) Japanese people aren't avoiding you because they hate foreigners, they are just terrified of the possibility of having to attempt to speak English, up to the point that they don't even realize it if you are speaking Japanese instead. But constantly getting praised for the most mundane things makes you feel like some sort of lab rat that has managed to pick up a trick that makes the humans happy. It's strange, it shouldn't feel bad and they definitely aren't doing it to make you feel bad, but it gets grating really quickly.
@@penttikoivuniemi2146 It seems you're describing feeling patronized 😊.
@@RS-fy9hb Man, you’ve just described my last 6 years in the UK. I won’t tell which part (not England) since people are absolutely lovely there but you do get overly caring personalities who buy you food from the local Polish shop because you MUST be missing home. And as I say, it’s absolutely lovely of them to buy me food, it is, really really kind gesture. And I almost felt bad for getting annoyed and now I think you hit the nail on the head - it does feel patronising and #12 on the list, boy Oh boy, do I need to even say anything about it for a Pole living in the UK? And as I say, lovely people where I am, but always being asked: ‘do to go HOME for Christmas?’, ‘do you go home for holidays?’. Bro, my home is in downtown, pretty happy there. and in fact, I home no other home. So, the buying food part, probably not patronising at lot but a little bit silly; the ‘when do you’ questions - yeah, these can feel - as you’ve helped me realise @R S , thanks - pretty patronising. But hey, that’s life, I enjoy being a foreigner, I enjoy being where I am but at the same time, you can’t beat having a good life in a place where you’re from and that’s why I’m back now, back in Poland. I’d never trade my time in the UK, absolutely loved it, every minute of it (again, I was not in England), and yeah, that’s it.
@@penttikoivuniemi2146 yeah, just like how I feel when people still compliment my English, despite the fact that I’ve lived in Australia for years, just because I’m Asian and has an accent 😊
日本語で失礼します
jouzu desune!
これは確かに初めて会った人には言っちゃうかも
日本人でさえ日本語は難しいものと思ってるからそれを海外から来た人が喋ってると素直に凄いって思っちゃうんだよな～
確かに長いこと日本に住んでて日本語に自信もあるのに上手ですねを言われたら嫌な気持ちになる人もいますよね😥見極めが難しい…sorry…
日本も外国の人が日本に定住してそういう人達の子供が多くなっていくと､ある種のステレオタイプは薄まってくるとは思う
何年かかるかは分からないけど😂
Chris' Comment Reading Voice is basically his best voice.
Sounds like the merchant from resident evil 4
@@polloduh Merchant: "Waddaya boiyen?"
Chris : "Hats"
@@softbutchpinkchick687 I killed the merchant. He didn't come back :(
I have a few Japanese friends and I've been friends with them for 18 years. Until now, even though we have a good relationship and they always include me in everything, there is still a formal distance that you can feel. I'm not complaining though. I am thankful I hit the jackpot when it came to having Japanese friends.
''People won't sit next to you even if it's crowded.''
Me,a finn: '' I see this as an absolute win!''
Me as a NYer: I see this as an absolute win.
i have to agree to that as well. more space for me lol
I was sad when people sat next to me on the metro in Tokyo. 😅I thought I would be just a foreigner people try to avoid. I love Nordic countries. They know what personal space really means 😄
Me as a New Englander: Sounds perfect!
Me, a swede: "Isn't this normal?"
True. I’ve been living here for more than a decade now and it really isn’t for everyone. I love it here and it’s definitely because my personality and chosen lifestyle fits the Japanese culture. I can easily see myself continue living here for more decades to come!
As for noisy neighbors, we decided to talk to them about it. They were quiet after that. Weird thing is though, that room above us never has a tenant more than a few months. They keep moving out and now I have a theory it might be cursed…
@@maeudaou7347 on which part?
@@NihonGoal his just jealous lol
You should ask the landlord. That would be an interesting story
Maybe the room above you is just a terrible room.
Maybe If It in the 4th or 5th floor
Japanese superstition is strong
I read a book from the 1980s intended for business people going to Japan, and all of these points are familiar. It noted especially how as a temporary guest to their country you would be treated with great reference and patience, but dare to try to live there and it is a very different story. The author was a long time (30 year +) resident of Japan and fluent in the language and customs, and said he finally understood that he would never be Japanese and therefore never fully accepted no matter how hard he tried.
The great reverence is reserved for the people with highly sought after skills.
@@jaif7327 Good question. It's been years since I saw it, and it was a friend's.
@@Under-Kaoz Me and my engineering degrees will be very happy there.
@@atashgallagher5139 good for you
It happens in many places in the world. Europe is the best example. Everywhere ghettos, people not integrating. The culture is going extinct.
An excellent informative video whilst at the same time being extremely entertaining.
I love how he explained every "negative" aspect thoroughly without really shitting on Japan.
Uh, what kind of life do you live / people you hang out with where you can’t criticize something without it being a shitfest?
I thought he was too soft on some issues. Like the blatant racism, that was absolutely disgusting, and he simply went over it like it was just a minor inconvenience.
@@mreeeeeegf xenophobia and racism are different
@@mreeeeeegf I agree. I've heard people of colour talk about how they get denied service in stores and found it appalling. I really wish it was taken a little more seriously in the video
@@mreeeeeegf well, I heard that the big issue with the skin only applies for black people, and he probably didn’t had to deal with it
Having lived here for over 16 years now, married to a Japanese wife, having kids, working in Tokyo, even built a house here, I can only say I agree with all points you bring up. Especially the last one your friend mentioned about never expecting to become Japanese. I know quite some people who struggled with that and never felt they fit in.
Love the channel by the way, even though I live here and watch it from my house in Tokyo, it always gives me some new ideas, a new set of eyes sometimes, and even some cool travel ideas.
I also love driving, haven't been to Sendai by car yet, but certainly plan to in the near future. Keep up the great work & cheers!
What's it like for your kids, out of curiosity? I have a friend in your situation but oddly enough even though she's British she almost looks mixed-race Japanese herself (she has the 'white' version of an Asian eyelid, like Bjork etc.), so her kids do still look fully Japanese. I've often wondered if it'd be harder for her if one of her kids looked more European than they do.
Cant help but notice your username, have you perhaps changed your name? Or do you go by an alias with your legal name staying the same as before?
@@SH4D02 yes, sort of. I was born in Amsterdam so this is obviously not my real name. It comes from my wife's family name, Nakamura, plus the Japanese pronunciation of my Dutch first name when written in Kanji. I kept my Dutch passport though, and made no legal changes so it's an alias
@@tSp289 my daughter is definitely recognizable as mixed race, and I like to think she got the good parts of my Dutch and my wife's Japanese features. She goes to regular Japanese schools, so initially it was tough for her to fit in, especially in kinder garden and early years of elementary. I don't live in the center of the city, more on the outskirts where foreigners are a bit rare, so the kids around here had to get used to her as well. She is now junior high, going on to high school, and that problem has completely disappeared.
@@guigoroable Glad to hear it! A family friend visited Japan in the 1970s, and he had a load of kids chasing after him shouting 'Gaijin!' Glad to hear they're a little more accepting now.
On the bright side, everyone and anyone can still visit the country if they wanted to, there are a lot of things worth experiencing there.
You again? I'm literally starting to think that this account is being Managed by Multiple people
How I wish our trains left on time and arrived when they are supposed too!!
The train system there is amazing ( speaking from experiencing it first hand).
You again!!! How do you write something so remarkable that it gets THAT many like
I see you everywhere
Actually no one can visit right now
This is really the kind of realistic content and discussions that need to be happening about the realities of Japanese society, and dispelling some of the ridiculous myths that so many foreigners have cooked up for themselves by watching Japanese media and consuming their culture from afar. Good job on this one
I’m 100% Japanese and grew up there, but because of those reasons I left Japan. What he says here are all right 😂 Especially the endless rules! My friend recommended this channel and I enjoy your vids!
@Razor Lover I’m pretty sure she just means she was born and raised there.......
@Razor Lover so if u knew why give a long winded unnecessary comment :/
@Razor Lover I understood what you were trying to say but it had no relevance to what the original person was commenting thats why I thought you misunderstood sorry if that upset you.
@@bunni9843 I agree with you. Razor Lover's comment makes zero sense. Trying to get all technical saying that there is no 100% genetically pure Japanese.
@Razor Lover Yeah we get it Einstein, so spare us your technicalities. Your comment was pure stupid. There is no 100% of anything. There. Are you happy now?
"My Neighbour Ryotaro" is my favorite film.
I'm very impressed by how Chris handled this topic. He had to walk a narrow path and he did a great job with it. It was funny but serious. It was frank but respectful. It clearly stated the problems but in a way that showed why they existed rather than just demonizing them. Excellent.
Yes totally agree.
Problem is that when you tell a Japanese person "most countries view diversity as a positive, not a negative", that right there is basically demonizing them, because they believe the EXACT opposite.
I live in Ibaraki Prefecture and ate at more restaurants during the Covid era than in the 10 years before that. Nobody gave a crap that I was a foreigner, they were just happy to have customers
“This is a pen” is still wreaking havoc. Wow.
kore wa pen desu
kore wa pen desu
kore wa pen desu
The shockwave of that "P" went around the whole world
Damn, it's almost a half decade since that... Lol
A cousin worked over there for 2 years as a medical translator and he's a 6'4" redhead. You can just imagine how much he stood out and got stared at. Children would often ask if he was a viking 🤣🤣 Apearantly there was some cartoon about Vikings that was popular at the time.
Could it be "Vickie the viking"? That was an anime that was very popular here in Germany, too
@@lydiagalantmotherf Could be. It was about 6 years ago.
😂 😂 😂 😂
@@lydiagalantmotherf inspired one piece too of I remember correctly
@@iiiivvvv9986 Oh, really? That's cool!
People romanticize places very easily, non more so than Japan. Mostly people who just watch anime and tv shows think its a paradise where all their dreams come true. It happens too often. Remember all places have issues that will be a huge culture shock. There is an adjustment period that a lot of people can't get past and come home bitter. Thank you for sharing the some of the big issues.
Good thing my country had a deep connection to Japan even in olden times. So I'm aware but getting more aware as I grew up because I'm studying about Japan because I want to go there despite all the thing
Wouldn’t live there permanently, but would defo stay there a few months, my sister went a few years ago, the beautiful places, stories etcetera were amazing.
Paris might be a contender for that title. If I recall correctly, there's actually a mental health condition caused by visiting Paris and it not meeting expectations.
@@Scorpodael en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paris_syndrome
I would suggest watching some native Japanese youtube channels where you can see how they live everyday. Just learn some language first. Even you're not fluent, you can definitely get enough real life vibes from them.
This is a great video. Thank you for your honesty!
"You should be more happy"
Is this the same guy suggesting to homeless people they should "just buy a house"?
yes
Just stop being depressed, bro.
If you are starving just eat food... Duh
Happiness is a choice
Unless the failed London mayoral candidate this year went and skipped town...
I met two Japanese guys when I traveled to Laos & I am still good friends with both of them. I also met with them when I went to Japan and had a blast. I still talk to them and we're planning on meeting again. I went three times to Japan (the equivalent of 3 months) and I met lots of people but these two guys I can confidently say that they are my only Japanese friends. Funny how I met them through traveling to Laos & not in Japan.
Interesting
Isn't it because they traveled abroad? I live in Canada, and open-minded people are often the ones who travel outside their own country. I moved to a very conservative province and the constrast between "borned & raised and never traveled" and those who came from another part or did travel is huge. Not just openness, but they become more knowledeable and interesting.
Hey I know you I watched your naruto remixes a while ago
I think it's probably best to meet J peeps outside of Japan because they're more likely open minded about things lol
Super intriguing to know that Japanese people would consider travelling to Laos!
I lived in Japan many years ago. I agree with all of these points. As a single female, I encountered an additional irritant that was probably the biggest factor in my decision to move back to the US. I turned 30. Horror of horrors, I just kept getting older. And, as I mentioned, I was single. I had a good job with a great salary, my Japanese language skills were progressing nicely and I had a nice place to live. More than once, I overheard the term “Christmas Cake” (クリスマスケーキ). The Christmas Cake looks fine but no one wants it after Christmas. I had surpassed my expiration date. I was even told that I should quit my job so that I could spend more time to find a husband or that I should focus on finding a widower or a divorced man who already had children. WHAT？
I don't know whether to laugh or feel bad for you lmao. Honestly though, that's pretty horrible. I don't understand how a country that takes respect so seriously can be so overly disrespectful toward people that are even the slightest bit different than the norm. I love their culture, and I know I would love going there for a holiday but I have never wanted to live there despite knowing that it's still a better place than my country. For me to go to a place where I'd be the outsider and weirdo for the rest of my life, that place would have to be like 10 times better than where I live. I'm not about to give up my whole life here just for a few small advantages that I can live without. I think people need to think a lot more before they move to Japan, or any other country really. As long as there's a significant cultural difference, the positives need to way outweigh the negatives for it to be worth it, imho.
You cant make this shit up
I wish I could say this was surprising, anywhere. That mentality persists in many places, unfortunately, though it's definitely worse in some places. I sympathize with your situation. I spend half the year time traveling in southern Italy, where it's still 1950, and as a solo female traveler I'm regarded with a mix of curiosity and suspicion, especially as one without a husband or children and apparently lacking the goal of obtaining those. But even in my native country (USA) I'm regarded by some with pity for my lack of children or marriage certificate-it never seems to cross anyone's mind that that isn't a goal for me or my partner. (They also don't get it that we are ok with spending a lot of time on different sides of the ocean).
But then, I tend to view those who dream of bridal gowns and children with the same bewilderment with which they regard me. I hope you're now enjoying a beautiful life, of your own design, whether or not it includes marriage or children.
And anyone who doesn't want the cake the day after Christmas is an idiot. Cake is cake. We always accept the cake.
Does anyone really like christmas cake .
@@yeetman1422 You don't know her personally. Maybe she's happy on her own.
Cracking video. Looking like I'll be moving out there in two months, and this is the kind of stuff I need to hear. Great job, Chris 👏👏👏
"You should be more happy"
*The number of depressed people drops to zero*
Honestly this was one the toughest subjects in the video. Mental health is an important part of living a fulfilling life. It was disappointing (but not surprising) to hear that it's not taken very seriously.
"I have never expected to be japanese." Yeah, exactly my opinion. Some people would ask me when I was going to give up my citizenship for japanese citizenship and it's just… the way I see it is that if I have japanese citizenship or not, I will always be treated as a foreigner. It doesn't matter. There might be a few instances where people ask beforehand what my nationality is, because "these days, you can never assume", but these people are rare. One time, a woman asked me when I was going back home (as in 帰国) and I answered that this was my home (帰る場所はここなんです). The look on her face was priceless - like a windows '95 computer trying to access AOL.
"I have never expected to be Japanese" I have lived in Germany for 30 years and am still treated as a foreigner, even though I am fluent in German. "Do you think you will go back home sometime?" is a common question. But I don't mind. I will never be German, just as you will never will be Japanese. Just be yourself and respect the country`s customs and traditions - however absurd they might be. After all, you chose to go and live there.
@@nigelw.ruddock1424 But that's just because of how regional Germany is.
You move from one federal state to another and you pretty much are treated as a foreigner even as a German.
Statistically, Germans don't really travel, not even within our own borders. So again, there's strong regional tribalism happening and anything new will be treated with suspicion.
And honestly, Germany is such a diverse place, who gives a damn about being "German" when the second you leave your home area you're immediately perceived as an alien?
@@Leon_der_Luftige Truth be told, as someone who has lived in Austria their life, although I love this place I actually felt a whole lot better in Germany (or at least in Berlin when I visited). People were just so... nice and welcoming. Or maybe I was just lucky hahaha
@@nigelw.ruddock1424 btw the "Do you plan on going home sometime" is not meant out of spite or rejection, but an indirect question meaning more something like "do you like it here?"
Because honestly, I'd go out on a limb and say that most Germans wouldn't expect anyone to come here when there's countries like Norway, Sweden or Switzerland around the bend which are simply nicer in a lot of ways.
Germans are generally speaking pretty indifferent of foreigners if they speak the language good enough.
@@low-key5512 Berlin is a whole different game.
It's like saying "London = Britain" .
Just a different world really.
People visiting Germany tend to mistake "Germans minding their own business" with Germans "being rude".
If you ask for help from a stranger or shop assistant, you will get it but if you don't ask, don't expect anyone to approach you offering it.
Hope that clears some things up to anyone wondering.
I’ve wanted to move to Japan for a while but the more I look into it, the more I think I’ll just stick to visiting.
Yeah I think I would just visit too lol. I just visited South Korea and I can’t see myself living there for a prologued period of time
I mean I've seen a lot of videos like this too . And its landed me back to earth and grounded me , but I have that itch that I still want to visit there and live there like other people have . And yes I know the history , issues , the good and bad of every country as well . Also NO I AM NOT A WEEB OR WEEABO , * sigh* you know what I mean . But yeah I see what you mean .
Exactly. I worked in Japan and South Korea and I didn't enjoy my time in either country, but then I got a job in China and started visiting Japan due to the proximity for the hikes and onsen, and loved it. Being a tourist in Japan rocks. Oh, and if you really want to live in Japan, it really helps if you're outgoing and enjoy talking to new people. I am introverted and didn't get on well with people. It takes me a while to develop feelings of affection with strangers.
I hate to say it I agree, like I would LOVE to experience some of the culture and see the sites Japan has to offer, the food, the nature, a lot of the good stuff.
But living there is a bit of a hit and miss for me because of the issues it has, America's already got enough problems, why add to it?
That and I might get homesick and my Japanese is atrocious.
Late reply, I know, but I figured I'd put in my two cents yet.
I've never thought of outright moving to Japan. I think the country is beautiful, the food is astounding, and the culture is captivating, but also leaves me a lot to be desired.
Just as one example, as an American car guy, Japan does have a vast car culture, but I'm also a truck guy, and a Harley guy. What few trucks Japan has are tiny, and even if I did import a truck that's more my size, it wouldn't ever fit on the roads of Japan. And how often do you see someone riding a Harley Davidson instead of a Honda, Suzuki, Yamaha, or other Japanese bike?
Japan seems amazing, and I would love to visit very regularly, but I don't think I could ever outright live there. The United States is my home, and it will remain so, Lord willing.
I love that natsuki plays a reverse firebird, that guitar is so him its unreal
When are we getting a "My Neighbour Ryotaro" that movie cover was just beautiful
Lmao
TONARI NO RYO-TA-RO RYO-TA-RO
Your name 😫💦
I've lived in Japan for more than 2 years now and I can honestly say that I've experienced everything that you touched on here to a certain degree. Yes, the country has a lot of issues and living here is definitely not for everyone, but so far it's been an experience that's helped me grow and mature as a person as well as helped me become more independent. Thank you, Chris, for making this video and for educating everyone on some of the things many people don't tell others about living in Japan
2 years is still the honeymoon phase, mate 😂
"Sad trumpet" will forever be the most iconic Abroad in Japan sound effect
What about "Evil Piano" tho?
@@jonahwillis2781 also a good candidate for most iconic Abroad in Japan sound effect
I was browsing a website for music for my other TH-cam channel and came across the theme song he uses for journey across Japan, and that should be retired for only Chris' use imo 😃
日本人ですが、共感できる部分もあれば一部、随分と一般的では無い希少でネガティブな経験を話されているようにも感じましたよ。
まぁ、どの国にも歴史的背景や独自の価値観、文化があるので、それに寄り添う気持ちや理解が無ければ、どこに行っても不満でしょうね。
Perfect video to watch after just being accepted to study abroad!
congratulations !!
congrats
Gz
lol me too just yesterday but not in japan unfortunately
Congrats dude
My last trip to japan, I remembered giving up my seat to an old Japanese lady on the train. She completely ignored me. I knew right there and then what was going on. And to confirm the theory, a Japanese man gave up his seat and the old lady promptly sat down.
I"ve been to Japan numerous times, staying for a month to months. I have't had this happen, but having a Japanese girlfriend I notice she gets negative attention from Japanese men as we walk along, and on a train out of Tokyo on a Saturday night some young woman sitting across from her glared at her the whole hour long train ride. I have given my seat up to older Japanese and they showed appreciation, I've helped elderly Japanese get out of trains. One time a group of older Japanese got on a train and there were these young kids (about 10 years old) sitting. I made them all get up and give their seats to the old people, all in English (my Japanese is minimal). So it works all ways.
mate there are plenty anecdotes that would support japanese as being very polite, it doesn't prove anything. "Assholes" are everywhere.
I did this too, the granny was nice and thankful :)
I did this when I was staying for 2 weeks in Tokyo and the granny took the seat. Also I think I got like 3 times(?) when I was offered seats by the Japanese. I'm a woman with hijab though. Honestly, thinking they would look at me strangely and I didn't expect much, but I got nice experience from that short time thankfully
@@CLJuvenal That can happen anywhere. I'm a white Londoner, was going out with an Indian girl. We were walking down a street hand in hand when a white girl started giving her daggers, to the point that my gf became so angry, that she stopped in the street and confronted the other girl. The girl just looked at her, then me, with a disgusted look and carried on walking. I thought it was funny but my gf was real upset. The point is that some people are going to hate, it's how you react to it that matters.
I’m super curious about your Japanese friends who “don’t fit the mould”. What was their experience like growing up in Japan? How did they deal with that?
I'd love to here about that. Great idea.
I have a bit of experience with that before I moved to the states, as a kid you're kinda just seen as a trouble maker but the blame isn't really on you it gets transfered to your family which makes you honestly feel pretty bad especially when you don't know why you can't concentrate like I didn't even know what adhd was til I turned 20. I also remember telling my mother I didn't want to go to college and she nearly fainted. There's a big "what would the neighbors think" mentality and it's really stressful even to the people who can fit the mold
That would be a good video. I met Japanese people who moved from Japan to my country and changed a lot, it seems that the society as a whole is a big factor
This could very nicely be the beginning of Natsuki the movie 2!
Love to hear that too
I lived in Japan for nearly 30 years, married to a Japanese. Back in UK now. Your comments are spot on. Very well articulated. That feeling of never fitting in. I love being back in England where I can be invisible. Thanks for this. I enjoy your funnies but this also needs to be said. Well done.
I’m Canadian living in the countryside of southern Shikoku for going on 12 years now. I agree with all of your points. My goal within the first 5 years was to fully integrate into Japanese society. Therefore, I avoided building relationships with other foreigners and focused on studying Japanese and meeting Japanese people only. What I discovered was integration as a foreigner is impossible. To this day, I do not have a single Japanese friend. It does not matter how much effort I make to build relationships, it is never reciprocal. Sure, I have acquaintances at work and elsewhere but the relationships are very superficial and there is always an invisible barrier between us. Once leaving the office, I live a completely isolated life, without a social life. A Japanese will never, ever make any effort to build a relationship with a foreigner. The rules are endless, the expectations to behave exactly the same as everyone around you is constant. As an independent thinker, I have discovered I really do not fit in to society here. If I ever express my own opinion that is different from the group, it is really frowned upon. I have a lovely traditional home and small farm here, but the ongoing isolation is motivating me to eventually return to Canada.
Hope you could find some amazing mates sooner or later😭
@@Thatlilmonkey-ng9il Hello, thanks! I like to keep an open mind, but at the same time, be realistic. I never meet anyone here, except a grandmother outside working in her garden.
aye, loneliness and isolation are a real problem. I would suggest you either put in an effort to make foreigner friends there and just accept that the social circle is a little different or just move elsewhere. no sense in making yourself suffer more than necessary. Best of luck man!
@@ThatsNotGaming You are very right! The problem is over the past 5-6 years, I never, ever even see or meet another foreigner here in the countryside. If I did, I would certainly approach them and start a conversation. Even attempt to establish a friendship. The Japanese are too busy most often working 10, 12 or 16-hour days. They have no time nor desire for new friendships, especially with foreigners. The desire for them simply doesn’t exist. If I could easily snap my fingers and transport my house, land, pets and myself to Canada, I’d do it right now! I need to finish my house renovations myself, put my land and home on the market for sale, then prepare to transport myself and 4 pets to Canada. Plus I need to buy property in Canada in advance of my arrival, so I have a place to sleep once getting off the plane. Lots of details to work out. Not a simple task. I’m working on it every day. Real estate in Canada over the past 10+ years has skyrocketed in value. Not easy to afford now either. It’s a big problem. I don’t have family to shack up with upon first arriving in Canada.
Why do you do it ? 12 years ? Basically a lonely life
For girls wanting to move to Japan:
One thing I wish people would have told me is to be even more aware of my surroundings (even a bit more than the states). I live in Tokyo and been followed home several times by men. Although they’ve never force themselves inside my apartment and usually just go back to station after I go inside my apt or take a picture and leave; it’s still pretty scary. I’ve only had my picture taken under skirt two times (it wasn’t even that short and I always wear shorts underneath). I usually walk w/o headphones and try to look around but now I’m even more aware and have a system in place when I’m being followed. In regards to the police, I’ve tried to report it but even with a Japanese friend there to translate, nothing was done. Japan is safe is you’re a guy but if you’re a girl then just prepare. Safer than other places but just brace yourself if it happens to you.
Update: Some tips
-Send your location to a friend while walking home if you feel something is off.
-If you think someone is following you then go to a convenience store but don’t buy anything, just look around all the aisles and then leave. If you’re being followed then the person will also leave behind you w/o buying anything. Go back to your station and call a friend who could come walk you or you could go visit.
-if you’re being followed while shopping then go into a big store and try to lose them (highly recommended Uniqlo or a mall).
-on crowded trains aim to have your back touching the wall,door, seat wall or another female
-if you’re sleepy while on the train and are wearing a dress or skirt then put your bag/jacket/some type of object on your lap as some guys have pretended to “fall asleep” and had their hand causally fall in some of friends laps and touch. (Mostly at night time or on the weekends).
Thank u for telling me this information
@@puffballcakes5150 of course! Just thought I would share my experience in hopes that it would prepare someone who is planning to move here. Had these experiences been shared with me before I moved out here, I probably would have taken some self defense classes before arriving.
I wouldn't even be able to deal cuz if i went there and saw someone doin tht typa shit I'd get so pissed off
Thank you for that information, hoping for your safety always
I think it happens even more for foreigners. I Think the guys never see females like that. Plus they feel they can get away with it. Because they don't speak english and you dont speak Japanese. Atleast thats what they assume. Be careful and if you don't speak the language I would learn some stuff. It could scare them off alittle bit faster!
When I lived in Japan as a student in the 60s (really!), I met a man who recounted the story of a White Russian who had fled to Japan during the Russian Revolution, lived there his whole life thereafter and was a native speaker. When in his 80s he was asked how the Japanese treated him in view of that long history, he replied, "Like I just got off the boat." No matter what you make of your time there, as a foreigner you will never be treated as a Japanese. Live with it.
Some Americans think this way as well especially Republicans. They don't want anyone that's not white in our country.
@@Woeisme2 Didn't want to go there, but unfortunately White Christian nationalism is real in our country and is definitely unfriendly to non-Caucasians.
And nobody would call them out on it. Do that in any English speaking nation, however, and it's going to be screamed to the public that you're racist.
To clarify, White Russians are those who fled Russia for political reasons after the Bolshevik Revolution in 1917. This distinguishes them from the "Reds" who stayed behind to create the Worker's Paradise. The terms have nothing to do with the color of their skin.
I would like to see one of the Japan TH-camrs address the stereotype that Japan is extremely extremely racist. Is the country really that bad or is the stereotype false?
I lived in Osaka for two years...I never expected to be an insider, but it was a fantastic experience.
I'm glad you mentioned about mental health in Japan. A lot of my Japanese friends would always tell me how horrible mental health is in Japan and that it is always brushed under the rug or not spoken about. Because it could damage the families reputation and also Japanese people sort of have this "if there's something wrong with you, it's your fault" mentality. So if you have depression, anxiety, or severe mental health disorders, it's your fault and you need to work harder to get "better." It would be seen as shameful if you were to go to a doctor for mental health, an embarrassment even. So you basically have to suck it up and work it out yourself, hence why Japan's depression and suicide rate is incredibly high compared to other countries in the world. My one Japanese friend told me her sister is mentally ill and still lives in Japan, but no doctors will help her because they don't understand why she's "ill" and that she should work harder and that through hard work she will get better. My ex moved back to Tokyo and started suffering severe depression and had suicidal tendencies due to the Salaryman type job he got, and when I mentioned he should get help he laughed and told me that's not an option here and that he just "needs to focus more on his work." It's honestly so sad.
Yup, and that is why so much people commit suicide there.
Bc they have that "Its your fault if you were born with asperger" bs.
That’s so barbaric and anti-science. Why do the younger generations put up with something so backward?
@@lijohnyoutube101 because they need to fit into the "common sense". Fckn weird for me but who knows, dif country.
I know this comment is 5 months old, but I still thought it was worth mentioning, that sadly this is not just a japan thing, but seems to unfortunately be a more wide spread issue across a lot of Asia. I know for example China very much practices the idea of if you ignore it then it doesn't exist, to the grave detriment of many people who either have or know someone that has a mental illness issue. I know a lady that worked in China for some time, she actually has some education for dealing with mental issues as her son has some problems, so she took courses to be able to help him. While working in China she would get calls from people that knew her and knew that she had some education in mental health issues, and so knew how to deal with them to some degree, and they would end up basically begging her for help if their child was having some type of episode, because they had absolutely no idea what to do, because as far as the government and rest of society was considered, nothing was wrong.
Sadly far to many people have yet to learn that ignoring an issue, doesn't make it better, in fact it just makes it a lot worse.
@@ShonenBeats Different strokes for different people.. have you ever thought you could be the problem? LOL … 😂😃🤣
Chinese here, I remember one time in a Morison's cafe back in northern England. A toddler point his finger at me and his father immediately stopped his act. It is actually OK for me, but I really appreciate the father's gratitude.
Here’s hoping you, that father, and his son are all doing well and will continue to do well!
When my son does that I try to explain to him that all people are different and unique lol
Well we foreigners here get the opposite, the parents point at us for the kids to see lmao ( in china )
I'm 6'6" and while visiting a botanical garden in Japan in 1987, a couple asked me to pose for a photo standing next to their children. When people saw what was going on, other people asked me to do it with their children.
Well yeah; Duh! (I mean: who's 6'6" nowadays? 6'5" or 6'7", okay; But 6'6"? )
@@BorisNoiseChannel I think the point that rick is trying to make is that japanese culture is very "hive mind" like. I could be wrong
I have no idea what you Americans mean by 6'6 but I guess it is tall😂
@@chrisbotos we mean they were six feet and six inches tall.
Also I think they took the picture because they thought they were an athlete.
But probably because they were really tall
@@chrisbotos depends on your shoe-size
Thank you for your honest, unbiased review!👍👏
The “my neighbour ryotoro” poster had me on the floor laughing 😂😂
That film would single-handedly bring about world peace.
Glad that I'm not the only one!
Were you already down there or did you climb onto the floor to laugh?
I want that movie made NOW
@@kaldogorath I fell 🤦♂️
The guy who would close his door 25 times definitely had OCD.
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I thought the same too.
I was going to say the same thing. I would bet anything that, given how polite and conscientious Japanese people tend to be, he probably hated himself for how much commotion he felt compelled to cause every morning. I feel bad for him.
I don't understand what's the thought process behind this? Like just curious
Or...or...hear me out. Ryotarou paid the guy a ridiculous sum to torture Chris mentally in a bid to break Chris' sanity. Hell I'd go so far as to say that that guy was Ryotarou himself, moving in unbeknownst to Chris! We all know Ryotarou's mission in life is to ruin and/or assassinate ruin Chris and take over his channel! Mwahahahaha...!
I’m Japanese. I’ve traveled all Japanese prefectures and then, I realized it might be a little bit tough and difficult for foreigners to live in Japan without the person who speak Japanese. Because almost all people living in Japan don’t speak English 😅
As I’ve noticed, I do think Japanese language is one of the hardest to learn. So I’ve always wondered how it felt to to be able to converse with them despite being a foreigner.
@@lee_hannahdulset Out of the 8 languages I've studied (English, French, Swedish, Russian, Arabic, Finnish, Chinese and Japanese) I have to say Japanese was overwhelmingly the easiest to learn.
The use of Chinese characters in the language actually makes it much easier to learn than European languages. The way the characters work helps tremendously with memorizing vocabulary.
I only studied seriously for a few months in the beginning (using an Anki deck + Rosetta Stone + the internet) to learn grammar; then I got burned out and decided to watch anime / talk shows and play games / read visual novels with a dictionary instead. Fast forward 5 years and I'm able to speak fluently and read fast, even though the only "studying" I did in that time was literally just consuming entertainment while checking an online dictionary.
Mandarin Chinese is by far the most difficult language I've ever learned. I've studied it for 4 years, and I can read it (knowing Japanese helps a lot) and I can understand simple spoken phrases, but I couldn't speak it to save my life.
@@VVayVVard That’s amazing of you. I wonder how you were able to learn all that languages when I can’t even speak one of the languages in my country fluently. I did try learning the korean language called hangul but I gave up halfway and decided to just enjoy reading subtitles instead. After all these years and I’m only able to read and my writing sucks too. And mind you that korean language is actually one of the easiest to learn. That is why when I saw all those characters in Japanese, kanji(?) is that what they call them? I gave up not even trying haha
@@lee_hannahdulset My Russian teacher in high school encouraged students to learn as many languages as possible. In her words, learning a new language helps you see the world from a whole new perspective. And I understand what she meant now; each language has its own "toolset" for communicating ideas, and many aspects of culture are only accessible in the language native to said culture. Learning an exotic language feels much like opening a door to a whole new world; it's a refreshing experience, like an adventure. I gave up on most languages halfway through, though, since memorizing vocabulary is so taxing in the long run. Japanese was the only one I ended up mastering.
Learning kanji is only difficult in the beginning, for the first 300 ~ 400 characters. Once you get a grasp of the basic radicals, memorization becomes second nature, and you can even start guessing the definitions / readings of characters you've never seen before. Learning vocabulary is the hardest part (as with every other language) but surprisingly I found that this was a lot more fun in Japanese and Chinese than in European languages. It's like the characters add a unique "color" to each word that make them pop out in a way that isn't possible with letters. I only noticed this after I got past the 300+ character point, though. (this is why I think it's a shame hanja aren't used in Korean anymore; they're a huge help when learning a language as a foreigner)
Something I noticed in my studies, though, is that there's not much point to trying to learn a language if it doesn't feel "compatible" with who you are. E.g. if you don't like how a language sounds, or if the culture associated with a language doesn't appeal to you, studying feels like chore and you won't really get anywhere. As a case in point, I tried to study French and Spanish for 10+ years for career-related reasons, but it felt like a constant uphill battle and I never really progressed. Something about the languages just wasn't compatible with who I am, and it was only much later that I realized that that's something you can't really force.
@@VVayVVard you studied arabic yallah warina chtartek alors
as a pilot who dreams of moving to japan and working for ANA this video is incredibly instructive and useful
I feel you on the standing out. As a black man working (think international business consulting) in more rural areas of Japan (Tohoku and Hokkaido Regions), I was often the only foreigner people saw (outside of Golden week when they went to Tokyo) and as an extension the only black person. So when you leave Tokyo especially, you have to make sure you are setting a good example for the other foreigners. I dealt with a lot of business and government officials for my job, and by setting these good "first" impressions, you pave the way for other foreigners. Though you won't do much to stop the little kid from holding tightly to his mother walking to school in the morning.
Thank you for thinking ahead and being empathetic towards fellow foreigners. I've lost count of how many tourists and expats I've heard were treated like trash because other completely unrelated foreigners had stirred up trouble there previously. It's not fair, but it is what it is.
You're a chad, respect
It's kinda a sad that you have to do that then again it look like a running theme everywhere.
An intelligent person like you will be welcomed wherever you go in the world.
Finally a video that hits home! No BS or "tourists only" things here. Care to do a video about how many foreigners (western and eastern) are actually happy here or otherwise?
Well, foreigners unless self-sustained, can not really live safely in Japan. At most, you'd get a 2-4 year contract and that's it. Then you have to move to another employer. The built-up years of experience will be reset. So your salary scale, will go back to zero! Their politics are extremely racist which unfortunately translates to many Japanese people there too. You, a foreigner, there === big trouble. Well, unless you have a beste, hubby or wife that is a native Japanese! Only then is it OK. But still, the resetting salary scale just sucks. You better be self-employed and your own boss. Otherwise, it's just a waste of time.
@@Samosayummyyay
Are you currently in Japan ?
@Clout Well to be fair, it’s hard as hell to make it anywhere in the world without the help of someone, and even though the Japanese Dream is not exactly the “Japanese Dream” Japanophiles imagine, there still are ways to be happy here. You can work for a foreign company for starters, or perhaps better yet be an entrepreneur, whatever that may be. If you’re strapped on cash or the Japanese Dream has really got you trapped, there are sly, roundabout ways to get out of that mess. Passive income, pockets to free time you can use to your advantage, audiobooks to educate yourself, foreign communities with local misfits to help you out, etc... I don’t know the circumstances of everybody but it’s still possible to change things in Japan if you’re the creative type, and then take it from there even if you conclude you have to move out.
@@MinistryTwitch
I guess you are happy settling down in Japan ?
Damn, this was a really serious topic and Chris managed to handle it well as always. Looking forward to lots of hopes and dreams being crushed!
I don't have any friends because they are ashamed of the videos I upload. Are they really that bad, dear abi
@@AxxLAfriku yes
He expressed himself very fairly I think. I would love to have a beer with him in person. I lived in Japan for a year and I struggle to believe someone as British, sarcastic and intelligent as Chris has never flew off the handle or seriously thought about catching the next available flight out of the country.
@Kevin S I think I've watched every vid on this channel over the years and never got that impression. I had really bad depression because of living in Japan and know lots of Brits who did too. Maybe Chris's life was proper awful in the UK or he's never lived anywhere else so Japan is the best he knows.
I’m Mexican and today I reached 20 years living in the UK and I still feel very much a foreigner/outsider. My daughter born here is serious about going to Japan next year to learn Japanese after college, she is doing the basics now but we love your videos which are funny and informative please keep doing them
In my first real job, I worked for a Japanese company (Funai) in California. They maintained a strict Japanese work culture, and it was not the type of atmosphere that I wanted to stay in at all. Couldn't enjoy it, felt very robotic, people looked miserable, and bosses were complete douchebags. This scared me off so much, that now all of my work is 100% remote, and if you are planning on living in Japan, probably the best choice to be honest.
TAKE ME WITH YOU! I wanna meet Goji, Sukuna and emo spikey hair dad
Really?!
I don't even want to live in Cali. Now you're telling me two nightmares have been mixed? Yeesh
@@rexxer7598 bruh
@@rexxer7598 bruh, chill.
I never thought the one thing I'd relate to Chris the most with is that I've also had an endoscopy in Japan.
Even though I went to a US Navy hospital for my colonoscopy and Americans normally put you under I stayed awake because my Japanese wife said they don’t get general anesthesia in Japan so I shouldn’t either.
@@c3aloha I've had it done in both the UK and Japan, both times awake. Whatever anaesthetic they give you to put in your mouth like Chris mentions, definitely doesn't work much anyway.
It sounds awful!
@@princessthyemis It is, I hope I never have to do it again!
I've had one awake in Ukraine and due to doctor's professionalism it went really good although I don't actually want to relive that experience ever again...
”the land of the rising overtime" just cracked me up for some reason
Because good ol Chris is witty
Oh god. Now I get it
@God Slayer
What's been like that?
At least, they have far more holidays than Americans. In total, USAmericans work on averae even more hours than even the Japanese. That's why I would never want to live in either of those two countries.
This actually isn’t boring. He’s actually very interesting and I’m an introvert that has problems that speak of.
As a foreigner living in Japan for 18 years, I can confidently say this is all true
As a foreigner living in Japan for 1 year, it's all true. It doesn't take too long to hit all the boxes
Wish i could live there too, but with a 2y/o son its just impossible. But i guess, one Day i'll go there for atleast a month tough
As a foreigner living in his own country... Yeah... I would like to give a try on Japan for a while to see if I´m "enough" for the country xd
What's your job there? Just curious
@@tetsusumu I'm in IT
I have lived and taught English in South Korea, and basically, all these points apply to Korea too.
Had lived in Japan for over 12 years and thought I had built some solid friendships with my Japanese colleagues. But truth be told, once you leave Japan, the Japanese are quick to forget you. Out of sight, out of mind . I was surprised that some even failed to reply to a short cheerful e-mail. So much for Japanese "friends".....
Really, that's tough man sorry for your experience.
Exactly the same in my experience as well, I think my kids Japanese dad even forgot about his own kids lol (partially joking but I’m sure you know what I mean..)
Yeah, they are really like that. It's really weird. what you said: "Out of sight, out of mind". That awkward moment of running into a former Japanese friend who has put you in the "written off" category. The intense awkwardness. I don't know why they are like that, and I suspect they would not be able to explain it themselves. They're missing out on a human experience.
Westerners seem more like true friends tbh.
never forget eachother for years.
@@thatundeadlegacy2985 It depends, if you are like me then in your teen years you made some toxic friends that you want to forget about. I ghosted them but it was for the better tbh because they made me feel more alone when I was with them. Cutting contact was very hard because some people don't move on here in America. But you really gotta look at it thru another persons perspective if they even wanted to be friends in the first place. In my case I never wanted to be friends with this group but it was a mere coincidence and I did not have the confidence to tell them.