@Shubham Kanojia That doesn't makes sense at all. Porn stars and sex workers are not criminals, but murderers and terrorists are criminals. Try again, stupid.
@Shubham Kanojia you thought your baseless assumption will do something didn't you? terrorists and sex workers are two different things and one is more brutal and gruesome than the other
Even boys got sexually assaulted by male teachers. I'm one of the victims when I was in high school, but for a man, it is hard to tell anyone because it is even more embarrassing, people would say "how can you let that happen to you, you are a man, you are big, you are strong". Only a few classmates that have been harassed know it, we try not to bring it up ever since. That abomination of a man died many years ago by cancer, justice has never been served
You are not alone. I feel you I also experience it when I was young though it's outside of the school. It is hard to open to someone you don't know what others will think about you. Stay safe and strong. 💪🙂
@Beish Bear It was not easy for a 14 yo boy to speak out. What if people know and make fun out of it, what if I have to move to the next school and be apart from all of my friends, what if my new classmates ask why am I being transferred. There were so many thoughts in my head including the physical beating that man. But was too scared of the consequence. They won't listen, even if they do, they won't believe us. Kids don't matter, adults are always right, adults can't be wrong(authoritarianism as she said) Thailand has been like that for as long as I can remember. And by the time we grew up, we will be forced to accept the society as it is. Luckily this generation is full of smart and rebellious kids. They do what we always wanted to do but couldn't at the time.
I can relate so much unfortunately. :( At 16 years old, I was sexually abused my by biological father and I too was victim blamed. I was made fun of in school and people even picked on my sisters for this. My own family called me to say I must have wanted it, or asked for it, or that I should just keep quiet about it, or asked why I didn't try hard to make it stop,.... you name it and they said it to me. No one gave my father a hard time and when we brought him to court he was acquitted because there was no one else there when it happened and it was my word against his. It is now 20 years later and I still struggle with ptsd, depression, anxiety, and panic attacks from this. I've gone to group counseling too and they all tell a very similar story. :'(
I am sorry thst you have to undergo this. You deserve much better than how your family treated. Please know that there are many peple who are on your side, who won't shame you, judge you and who believes in you. Don't lose faith in the goodness of people. I wish you all the best as well as healing. 💕
I am really sorry for what happened with you. This shouldn't have happened. The society is to blame. These denoms who commit such sins are to blame. I know it would have always been hard for you since the one who did this wa your own father. But i hope your condition gets better with time. You recieve all the happiness in end and this dreadful horrible memory of yours fade away. 😔
I am so sorry knowing that has happened to you. I was too sexually abused many times and every time I told my family about that, they didn't believe it or blaming me to be over reacted about that, my mother even told me to just accepted it and even blamed me that it was my bad omen why I could be sexually abused many times. Don't lose hope for your future, what has happened can't be undone but believe that there are still goodness and kindness in this world. We just have to find it. Healing process can take as long as our life-time. ❣
I know what you mean, I have Nieces that I worry about now and another one that's reaching that age...How do I protect them when I am not there, how do I teach them to protect themselves? Praying, which is essentially hoping is just temporarily just relieving yourself to possible threats. As a Christian, born and raised, God did not answer me many times during certain situations; I don't resent God but I did lose faith which made me make some reckless decisions so far in my life. So besides kind words and intentions, what do you think? Just say something kindly with pure intentions? Don't hate the people involved but have passion towards the subject is my opinion, how to solve the problems or perhaps even come up with solutions or even better solutions with nets of security. This is not the first incident in Human Civilization and I doubt it will be the last. I as a human being, a male at that, have had some disgusting thoughts and what not; to be honest-- been watching porn for over 20 years since age 7 and it's like a psychological narcotic that sort of warps people into sedation, what is right, what is wrong is sometimes forgotten for that spontaneous impulse or event; if you want to break it down to childhood memories when does a boy want to hold a girl's hand and what does it mean--neither of them really know what it means but it's the just the way God/Creation/Higher Power/ whatever you want to call it created us... My opinion, it is a lot of micro-psychology involved, if that is even a term; of what is taught, what is right, what is wrong, trust given, trust lost, discrimination, pride, envy, misinterpretation, miscommunication, rage or wrath, humiliation that leads to rage, wrath or depression, contemplation of vengeance or revenge--there is too many things to factor into an equation such as this--just look at Jeffrey Dahmer or Richard Ramirez, we do not know every single moment of their lives but they were the products of certain situations. Better education, social networks such as support groups, social media and what not can definitely and is probably the best solution in my opinion and it's working somewhat so I am glad...I say this because I've been seeing a lot of TikTok and TH-cam videos about Gang Culture in regards to many sensitive subjects. Communication, Self-Preservation, Respect, Boundaries, Understanding and many more compassionate Human Emotions is what helps and is what is helping Society and things such as Street-Warfare--you may not see or understand it but there is most definitely an Underworld of things going on here and there; how do you think Marijuana, Cocaine, Ecstasy, Methamphetamines, etc. is hitting the population and flooding us with the Homeless Crisis, Violence, and many other subjects--like a destruction from within almost, like another Country is destroying us from within, is what I wonder--I say Us as in the United States because this is my home, born and raised in a White, Black or Hispanic Man/Woman's World--what the f*ck am I anyway, I don't belong there, here, anywhere sometimes. Anyway, back to the subject of this video. It's the isolation, I think personally, when a person is left alone to their thoughts without any sort of guidance, reassurance, etc. of what is right or wrong then certain people take advantage while some people don't know how to react. Take for example the recent "Japanese Joker" attack that happened a month ago in Japan, the guy stabbed multiple people then set off an IED, nobody could've predicted that it seems, but it happened--now let's say some of those people in that incident had the courage to step outside of their boundaries of comfort? Would the numbers of injured or deaths been reduced? If you saw some random person on the bus with you get stabbed, then another, then another, would you just run or stop him/her? They're coming for you and more, what do you do? Would September 11, 2001 happened as bad as it did if some people knew how to react? I apologize, I apologize for putting salt on wounds, it is still too soon but would it have happened if we as a Society were not turning Blind Eyes to certain situations and neglecting them with just a wishful comment or action? Did the Jewish People have to suffer the Nazi Regime though the Nazi Regime had some justifiable intentions at the start, oppression and discrimination sparked it...don't forget that. Would I have lost family members on September 11 if people stepped up to the situation instead of minding their own business thinking it's just a plane ride smelling flatulence, random noises, strange smells, lack of fresh air or whatever else? Sorry to go off topic but the original topic is not something that happened just once, maybe this is the first time you've learned about things such as this but it's going to happen again--how do you want to prevent or soften situations? Human Beings are born every single day...
@@n6235 Nothing to do with titles. It's because I have a daughter, a sister, a mother. I have women in my life who I would want to protect, especially from savages and bullies like this.
My girlfriend was sexually assaulted by her school principal... And then the priest... I haven't known about all of this till the day she was comfortable to open up things for me (before I proposed to her). She told me all of her bitter past and why she is a loner or has a very small circle of friends... She was blackmailed, regularly sexually abused during the end of the week's school... To make things short, friends of mine and her family, got to report it to the police and finally got a multiple case against those people who assaulted her with enough proof and evidence that we won during the court trials. She is fine and glad I was able to meet her and save from her dark traumatizing experience... I'm glad she could open things up anything she want to talk about to other people. Mostly me and her friends and families.
Take care of her and respect her and love her without selflessly. She needs to become confident and be able to trust men. Her family and your family need to be there for her. Also don't forget to take care of yourself.
@@divyasharma4364 Wow its been a month that I haven't opened my notifs. Of course I am, but there are events in which just a simple problem talks it always make her remember her past. And I'm still looking for some advices on psychiatrists for her treatment. And this month I'll be giving her my own books about stoicism. I hope she would become undefeatable. I know her past will never be forgettable but I know that sooner or later she will be able to accept all of it and just continue to face on moving forward.
even when someone would walk naked in front of you in society, it is never an excuse or "reason" to rape or sexually assault someone. It is never the victims fault. You as a human being should be able to control, see and "unsee" what arouses you and not use this as a way to harm the other.
totally agree every human have feelings whether a man , women or sex worker . teaching women to dress properly, blaming her dressing or her profession is very wrong .
@@ammericanochuachuaaa EXACLY. If you really cannot control yourself, GET HELP SO YOU CAN. And maybe that means we need more resources but I’m pretty sure most people doing horrible things without consent to other ppl can control themselves, they are just dehumanizing the other person to justify their actions, or make excuses in their brain like “they want this too” too justify their actions.
Totally, being naked is not lewd, it's only the things associated with it that are lewd. Of course everyone should still dress properly in front of other people, but people also need to control themselves and not cause harm to anyone who hasn't done anything to harm them.
I'm a teacher in Thailand from the UK. In 2019, I was raped by a taxi driver. I'm a male, as was the taxi driver. I first read of the person in the video speaking up about her ordeal on the day of a pr*test (just in case the police are spying) about the education system along with other youngsters, and so I went to there because of reading about her ordeal. In my mind, I kind of thought at that moment "I'm a teacher here right? I'm supposed to make sure that young people are safe in school, not sexually abused". I stand with the students and youngsters. I've had students confide in me because I was open to them about my experience of being raped and I told them that this isn't right and I'm always here to defend them and speak up for them.
@@sisthebest4810 in Thailand you’re almost never safe around men. I could be walking on a street and I’d see at least 3-4 men make creepy eye contact with me along the way.
Thailand is a nation where men and women , and other genders are abused . Just like any other asian countries, victim blaming is a norm too. I am so proud of this child for speaking up. The new generation can definitely change the world.
@@freeyourmind7538 is that what is important??? In my nation even animals get raped. The matter is "RAPE" here. Come another time to discuss genders . Not here, not now. P.S. and yesh ..to give you a clue. There are eunuchs too, who are born with defects and are called "third genders". Anyways as I said, that's a whole another discussion. Not here. Not now.
It's so annoying. Basically, if a woman/girl is assaulted, the immediate assumptions are: * she was asking for it * look what she was wearing So even if we go with what these people are saying, they AGREE that sexual intercourse happened, but that it was consensual (even if the girl was 14). To me, THAT ALONE means the teacher needs to be fired. No teacher should be having sex with any of their students, "even if they wanted it". Look, we know that in every country, women have issues with being assaulted. But it seems as though Thailand is maybe 40 years behind western countries.
this right here is a good take. plus even if you look at what she was wearing, it contributes NOTHING because clothes don't speak for you, and it could've been hot outside or in this case its the mandatory school uniform. I cannot believe that when some people hear about sexual assault, they start defending the predator.
I agree to your first statement. The latter part where Thailand is 40 years behind, not really. This is pretty predominant in 3rd world countries. And even in first world countries, there are still cases that is only resurfacing now. The idea of victim blaming is still a dominant mindset in most countries, even in the US. But times are slowly changing, just like how someone is starting to speak up in Thailand, people are also becoming more open to the discussion of this issues which, hopefully, will lead to a better mindset of society in regards with the victimd and a better management of the cases such as SA.
@@nyxcole I disagree. I’m Canadian/Thai and in Thailand we blatantly blame victims. In Canada, when the truth comes out, the PM doesn’t come out and say “but she was asking for it.” There is still a rape culture in Canada, yes. But in Thailand it’s systematic.
Mm being a boy I was sexually abused many a times even in the crowded open market but I never spoke about it to anyone. I blamed myself for having a feminine body shape, I started to hate myself, my bed became my bestfriend. It became like that whenever I go out I get anxiety attacks also the strong and fearless boy was now turned into a coward. I get scared whenever a guy comes near me. It disturbed my mind it had traumatized me but I shook myself up and stood up again talked about it with my friends who helped me heal again. I understand how the victims who are sexually abused, everyone is not same I understand you. Some people might blame the victims itself, like honey once put ur feet into their shoes and try to feel how they feel and what they are going through. It is very easy for people to pass on their comments on something or someone but it's hard for the once who've gone through it to heal. Also like everyone is different and unique in their own lifestyles, "you can't judge somebody else based on your living style". I'm so proud of the girl for stepping up raising her voice for this issue❤️lol(lots of love) and lastly let's all be each other's support afterall we're sharing the same earth!
I'm so sorry this happened to you...Breaks my heart 💔 Has nothing to do with your body, why these vile serpents take advantage I don't know you, but Please know you are Treasured to the most high🏆♦️ Much Love from Colombia 🇪🇨
@@komradson7357 I know this is just a message but you know it means alot when people support people instead shading upon them, much love 💕 and thank you so much for your positive words💜
Since I was a child my parents have always been extremely protective towards me. They taught me to avoid men (all men, also family members and family friends) and never allowed me to go to parties, disco or so on because they're dangerous places for girls. I used to think that they were a bit exaggerated, but then they told me the story of one of my childhood friends: she was raped at 12 and then threatened with a gun by one of her mother's friend. Now I'm grateful for them being so protective and teaching me how to defend myself from those perverts.
Even if you think victims are “unwise,” the blame needs to be on the perpetrator. They’re the only reason why these atrocities take place. They’re the root of the problem, NOT the victims. It’s not their fault that society enables bad people to do bad things.
@@lindmohamad3726 Is this a game? "They harassed me, so I will harass and traumatise other person, the cycle must go on" what the f? Even if they were perpetrated before, it should be their duty to help the future generations to not face what they had to. Like this isn't an excuse man.
I think we r lucky in Malaysia as this kind of issue r not so serious due to conservatism of our people especially the Malay Muslim old folks. it still occurs as every nations r not perfect but way more less compared to other ASEAN countries.
@@faisonwaloh6912 no, there are many sexual victims in malaysia but the women are too afraid to speak up because scared that family will look down on them in shame when they report to police. Also, it has been normalized to the point that girls think - nah, just a trivial stuff. The latest sexual assualt wave in malaysia among women are sexual grooming and Malaysians are not educated enough about it. The way to spread awareness about sexual assault techniques is through sex education where educators teach young students about what to do and how to detect sexual perpetrators in different situations. But some politicians don't want to officialized sex education because they think that sex education = teaching kids how to do sex. But this assumption is so wrong. I think you know which politicians. So many young girls and boys have experienced sexual assaults in malaysia, but they don't realise that they were sexual assualted - they thought it was some kind of normalized play. Also, some trusted popular figures can find way to do sexual assault by using trust and popularity as a tool , because malaysians are so adhering to respect and trust to higher authority no matter religious or not (some "so called religious figures" use his or her fame to do sexual assault);for example when seeking counselling from these "trustworthy" figures - they may fall victim to perpetrators.
@@Sarah-yg8kt ye I agree with u . I'm just stating that we r lucky cuz ours r way more less. U can even notice that prostitutes in Malaysia r mostly foreigners from China,Thailand,Indo and the Philippines. Our social sexual issues r there but it's not so common among our people due to the fact that our local authorities always barge in and prevent it. There r many cases lately in here especially in rural areas and jungles in East Coast and East Malaysia ,I don't deny that but still its average r lower among other ASEAN countries and +3 of Japan,China and Korea.
Btw Ray Mak is a Malaysian of Chinese descent who loves to go to Thailand n love its related-stuff such as culture and entertainment B4 covid was a thing. Now our brain r kinda stunted cuz we can't experience it irl anymore. Hope Malaysian border will reopen anytime soon. N that's kinda sudden n random from me O-O
The VICTIM BLAMING SHAMING NEEDS to be STOPPED. The world needs to be educated more. There must be more accountability put on these predator abusers. Law enforcement needs to be re educated also. Especially in countries where men are valued more than women and children.
@@tomato_6681 By a wide margin, sure. And this phenomenon created a collateral: No one listens to male victims of rape and sexual assault cuz toxic patriarchy and toxic masculinity says boys and men should just enjoy sex whenever and however they get the chance.
@@rzdanger damn we love it when we talk about problems women go through people want to compare it to male abuse. They’re both bad ok. But we have to spread awareness to women because it happens more.
@@supereggtartersauce6464 You misunderstood what I wrote. Toxic patriarchy and masculinty, the very enemies of intersectional feminism, produced their collateral damage: male victims of sexual abuse and rape. If toxic patriarchy and toxic masculinity aren't listening to female victims, sure as hell they aren't listening to male victims. Ever heard of Anthony Rapp and Terry Crews? Apparently, in pop culture, male rapes and sexual abuse are seen as a joke. Like, you're supposed to just take sexual advances from anyone cuz that should make you feel macho (toxic patriarchy). And believe it or not, male survivors also survived almost getting murdered. Their pain is no different from female survivors.
@@supereggtartersauce6464 It happens more. Yes (female victims). But we shouldn't also downplay the reality that rape and sexual abuse of men are severely underreported or not at all.
I can relate to her.. as a sexually abused victim... I am so afraid to tell to my grandma since it was her friend and a former co-worker... I accidentally spill it when my dad was mad because I act so differently... I told accidentally spill about my almost rape experience.. and he said "ITS YUR FAULT, I DONT CARE ANYMORE".. but after three days we goes to that rapist.. and he denied it.. cuz I was 13 that time and I just tell it when I am 19.. he said he doesn't remember anymore... I am feeling so defeated, I almost lost my life by hanging myself but my dad saw me.. he brings me to other places to rest my mind.. when I came back home, I heard the news that that rapist is dead already because of a heart attack... now I'm 20 years old... still seeking justice... I want him to suffer even though he's dead... TO ALL GIRLS AND BOYS OUT THERE A VICTIM OR NON-VICTIM OF SEXUAL ABUSE... YOU KNOW WHO RUNS THE WORLD... IF WE NEED TO FIGHT FOR JUSTICE WE WILL DO... WE NEED TO SPEAK OUT.. and to all boy who thinks we're just a toy... see you in hell...
Tears rolled down my cheeks when she said, "If only I didn't have my body this way." Being a woman it kills me to hear everyday about the heinous crime against women and how at some point all women think if only they didn't have to be so vigilant about their surroundings and so protective of their bodies. It's just insane how every one is born out of a woman, yet they are the ones society kills the most.
Blaming the victim for being sexually abused is like blaming the store's existence for being robbed. It completely missed the point and shrug the problem under the shoulder.
Also to make it worse by putting more unnecessary pressure/stress on the victim/the person that should be the one who is being protected in the first place. They have already suffered something that they did not asked for and putting a blame of someone else's actions on the is just unacceptable. It is just a complete failure and disgrace.
The victim should never be blamed. As a former teacher, I apologize in behalf of those who couldn't understand your situation. My heart was already broken knowing you experienced sexual assault but I got infuriated when that female teacher silenced and even blamed her when she should have defended her. She received hate messages for exposing the truth which is totally absurd! It's not your fault. I'm sorry you went through this shit. I'm really sorry. I can't imagine the trauma you're dealing with now. I'm really sorry. (hug)
I work as a teacher in Thailand and sadly, the victims are told to shut up. I've been raped by a taxi driver but got told to keep quiet from police, who also refused to help because I'm not a Thai citizen.
Honestly what she went through wasn't the worst or most ludicrous. If u read the comment thread, many ladies inluding mysel were silenced by our own family members. Moms specifically. Truly heartbreaking. The trauma of being betrayed by the supposed people who were meant to protect n love u.. "Family" is just a blank word to me now.
Have you heard the Thai idiom "Having a daughter is like having a toilet open in front of their house"? They have to protect their toilet and don't let strangers pee on it because it will be dirty, stinky and disgusted by other people. This is like if the daughter had sex... or was raped before married, she is dirty and disgusting like the toilet and brings shame to the family. Patriarchy is a real thing in Thailand and still exists and this causes victim-blaming especially in girls.
Those who never were sexually abused would never understand the disgusting feeling that clouds the victim. The disgust is so strong that you feel anxious whenever you remember the crime. Consent is the keyword. Even if the woman is naked in front of you, if she doesn't consent then you don't have the right to touch her. Besides from sexual assault, the fact that the teachers did this make it even worse! Someone who should have been your protector did the opposite. Abuse of authority has more impact in the mental torture that the victim experienced in my opinion.
Being a woman is so difficult. I've never ever said anything to my parents or to anyone and idk if i'll ever be able to, i still remember everything so vividly and it's such a shame that victims are blamed. I'm 23 and ik i need therapy for me to be able to move on and actually be absolutely free of the thoughts that hunt me sometimes but i'm scared. I hope everyone that has ever experienced sexual assault to finally heal and be happy.
I am Thai and I can confirm that these things are more common than you think. A lot of female students are sexually harassed. Most of the time, they are harassed by someone who they weren’t expecting. For example, tutors and relatives. I am from Bangkok and is quite sheltered from stuff that happened in other provinces. However, one incident that sticks out the most. Around a year ago I went to my friend’s village it was pretty rural. I met her cousin who is around 4 years old. I played dinosaur toys with her for a while but then she picked up one of the dinosaur toys and put it on the back of another one while moving it in a humping motion. It really shocked my friend and me because how does a 4 years old knows about sex. It was really weird but I may be overthinking. I don’t really know. All I can say is in Thailand you can get away with a lot of stuff that you cannot in western countries. Either by using money or connections.
Ugh almost the same situation in Malaysia. The riches and elites get away from crimes. The number one corrupted man is even roaming free here! Here, sexual assaults is a problem here among young women but they are too afraid to make reports to police because scared that family look down on them. Fortunately an independent organization is looking forward to change that but it is still not that strong against the riches and elite men - they always use their connections. I saw a news a long while back that an elderly woman was raped. Our goverment ignore to acknowledge these stuffs and just want to paint a picture that malaysia is an advanced country by sticking pictures of kuala Lumpur and johor bahru on every advertisements - to attract wealthy foreign investors. But news flash! malaysia is mostly rural land and forests. KL and johor bahru are mostly build to accomodate to foreign investments not for common people. Government representatives for these rural districts can be so corrupted that one actually went on vacation to france while his people were screaming for help at the villages. Also the royal family can be quite spoilt but NO NEWS dared to publish what they did.
This is so heartbreaking and yet many politicians just remained quiet about it and blame in on the survivors. How can the society improve if it continue to stay this way. All the billionaires just care about the space but why don't they try to help out all the people to be their voices. This girl is a hero, she stepped up even though is hard and she is brave to embrace the consequences for good so that no more students or women would have to go through the same thing.
@@skrtskrt4750 its every one jobs including you and me. If everyone just leaves it to the government, it will only get worst. Everyone should be the voice to voice out the unfairness.
Because the politicians themselves have probably sexually assaulted women in the past or currently doing it. So they don’t want to look like hypocrites defending it
That's sadly how Thailand goes. The victim is the one who is blamed. There's still this "losing face" thing that the country has and they try to make everything be "sabai sabai, its all ok, don't worry"
When I went to college in the late 90s, first semester I was raped along with most of the girls on my dorm floor. It's caused serious anxiety and resentment towards males to this day, as well as affected my relationships. I wouldn't have dared to tell authorities as I was ashamed and blamed myself. I'm mad at myself for crying through the whole thing, instead of fighting. I was treated like a body and not a person. After that, I made it a mission to emotionally hurt as many males as possible, some undeserving. NO means NO, no matter the circumstances. Majority of rapes go unreported for fear of public opinion as well as not wanting to relive those nightmares. I can't imagine being assaulted by my teachers, people you are suppose to feel safe with. She is a brave woman for speaking up. I hope time can help to heal her.
It's not just Thailand. Victim blaming and victim shaming is found all over the world. What a brave woman for speaking out in a culture that supports abusers and ignores or blames victims.
She was wearing this, she was wearing that! It's her choice to wear what she wants to, someone else whoever it is has no rights to anyone else's body, victim blaming is the most pathetic thing. The perpetrator is not an animal who can't control over it's urges. It is such a shame that the society is so ugly to blame the victim.
More people should come forward. Thank you for posting this. Their voices should be heard. Sexual abuse is not right and the perpetrators should face heavy justice to the fullest extent of the law. As a sexual abuse survivor myself I feel for the victims
I was abused by a family member since I was 6 years old and when I told my mother the first thing she told me was if i flashed him my panties. This began when I was in grade 1 and I was still blamed by my own mother. This world makes me sick
I am so sorry that happened to you. I was too sexually harrased and abused many times when I was young kids and teenager. Sad things that even our own family like our mother could not even protect us emotionally, they even make it worse by not trusting and blaming me of why the abused happened. I have stopped telling my mother about those things since and try to keep distance from her. I try to reconsile with myself (because I was so stressful and blaming myself all the time) and many times asking God why those bad things happened to me and many other woman in the world. All I can say that I didn't get the answer immediately but my heart tells me that I shouldn't give up, don't lose hope and keep believing that there are still kindness in this sick world, we just have to find it also in ourselves. I hope the same for you too. ❣
Sorry girl, if I'm someone you know I'd probably end up killing your relative and your mother in the cruelest way possible, I will torture them and I will not let them die easily. I'm not a victim but I don't know if I'll ever be Human again if this happens to someone in my neighborhood. I apologize for my wordings.
It takes so much to disassociate yourself from the teachings of everyone around you, to learn all the social conditioning you had to go through. I am so proud of her for speaking out when it must have felt like everyone was against her!!!!
I’m Thai and yes society here has very strict rules and it’s been like this for centuries. I’m so glad that the newer generations ( mostly gen z ) have the guts to rebel against these old stereotypes.
It happened to me once....I was only 11 years old then....I was caught in a crowd while waiting in front of a food stall to buy a sandwich when that happened....someone strong groped my chest so badly.....I can tell u that and I still remember how terrified I felt at that time...for a moment I remained petrified and scared, I couldn't even see the perpetrator behind me. It was too crowded, but somehow I pushed myself out of the crowd and didn't wait to buy a sandwich ....this happened in the church area where a charity bazaar was held.......my father never imagined such a thing could happen in church places when he send me to the stall to buy a sandwich for myself.....till now I have never uttered a word to my parents about this incident...... although I was shocked and felt distressed for that whole day, thankfully I was able to recover from it very soon but I have become quite cautious and even now at 36 I would think thrice when I see a crowded place..... after what happened to me I became quite protective of my 2 young daughters......I fervently pray and wish that such things don't happen to people especially kids both boys and girls alike
I currently study in Thailand. I'm 16, and I've never experienced sexual assault in school, however, I was sexually assaulted by my friend's cousin (age 23) in a hotel room I was staying in with my friends. I was at the blackout stage of being drunk and I felt his hands on my body and shit went down but I was in shock and I didn't know what to do, I was thinking, "Am I really going to put up with this? Will I really allow this to happen to me?" The next day I talked to my friends about it and they kept on trying to tell me to forget it and that it already happened. From personal experience, I understand how deeply embedded and normalized sexual assault is in school and even out of school. For the people that have spoken up about this, I extremely applaud you but personally, I don't have the bravery to do so just yet.
I seems to know nothing much about this world. this kind of things should never be ignored. Drunk men prone to commit sexual abuse, then I guess the thought are always inside him. poor excuse as a man.
It's a dark reality of the world . We women should stand together to solve this problem . United we stand and support our sisters and friends all over the world .
Not just women, all of us should be standing together against sexual abusers (of both genders). Boys and men need to play a key role because they are the future fathers. To standby when someone is being hurt is cowardly and should be deemed unmanly. In general these types of crimes need to be punished more severely no matter the gender or age. *Together we stand. Divided we fall.*
@@Iksvomid You know what. Fuck you. How can you say that to a person who was abused by someone they should trust. People like you are just as shitty as those teachers.
I was sexually abused when I was 8 for two years by a family member. One day I told a woman close to my family about it she told me that I was the problem and I'm the one who's "provoking".it made me hate my self.i never told anyone about since I thought it will only cause conflict in the family but it affected me for many years
im so sorry you had to experience that, always remember that its never the victims fault so dont blame yourself. Youre very strong and i hope everything gets better.
I dont know why, but i felt something, i thought i wrote this comment cuz the same things happened to me too when i was this age, and they were a family members also.
I couldn't stop myself from crying and writing this right now .... Last week, i was sexually abused by my doctor who was my own uncle as well... I fully trusted him and the process he was doing but than i started being awkward! And I called my mom if I should do my body examine as it wasn't the part of what treatment i was doing but my mom blind folded like me! Trusted my uncle and told me to do it what he says... And when I came out of the room, i was shocked for the procedure he asked me to do and I asked my friends and sister, they told me doctor was sexually abusing me.... But we decided to keep this shut as doctor apologized to me and my family... But I still couldn't keep this whole thing inside of me....
I'm really sorry this happened to you. There are always disgusting people like him in every field. I remember I was undergoing scan by a male doctor which was already very uncomfortable he kept asking me to pull up my shirt my bra was almost visible and he also kept using the scanner thing near the panty strap line. My mom was getting furious and he suddenly said he couldn't see anything and said we should do internal scanning my mom blasted on him and we left. I think you and ur family should cut every contact with him or his family in future although he deserves to be punished but I can understand your situation for keeping this shut.
No one, not even the closest person to you have the right to touch you without your consent even a doctor who is doing a specific examination. And if they do, that is already considered assault besides, whenever a male doctor examines a female patient, it is always right and ethical to have a female companion (either a female nurse or a female relative). I am a nurse and if I was the nurse in that doctor's office, that doctor might have lost his hands by now (I hope actually that he does, not literaly but figuratively). It will be a long and emotional process of healing but you will get there. I will be praying for you, so please be strong.
I relate to you. I was sexually abused by an uncle when I was 5 years old. Still remember everything at that time until now. And when I was 22 years old I told my family and they was shocked. I found a little bit relieved cause I was strong enough to tell my own story after 17 years
@@jruth4557no the female nurse was the one that helped the doctor. For my story' When i was there with my mom, he suddenly asked the nurse to took off my pants, i was shocked why the female nurse did that, she even lower my underwear and asked me to lay down to check something, i was blank at that time. My mom was there but she couldn't see what happened because of the blind spot. The doctor came and looked at my private area . He didn't even tell me what he was going to do,just asked the nurse to helped him(disgusting). I was blank the whole day at that time,like the girl in this video freeze . It's my first time someone looked at my lower body without any cloth. Even he didn't rap me but that's still sexual assault
Shit happens here too; I was a victim of sexual assault, and when I told, no one did anything. In fact, they continued to allow the perpetrator to come by to our house. (It was my own father). I would yell at my family about it and have countless arguments, and in response they would say “you shouldn’t be wearing provocative stuff” or “that’s your father, you need to love him regardless”. That man stopped being my father the very moment he didn’t look at me as daughter…. And I was a teen. I wore nothing but sweaters and skater shorts.
I feel sorry about whatever happened to you. 😔 I don't know you but I hope you have found happiness today and that your perpetrator is nowhere in your life. Wish you all the best 🧡
What the fuck! How could he do that to you?! It doesn't matter what you wear, a father shouldn't do that to his daughter! How old are you now? You'd better off without your family.
People judging her for not being ashamed of her body and make photos the way she wants to... I am honestly proud of her, to be able to keep fighting and still help others in the same situation, even after receiving hate comments.
she's so strong and brave for this. thank you for stepping up, for making other victimes know they're not alone and it's not their fault. seriously, she's admirable
I got abused by my cousin brother, and that was the worst experience ever. Getting abused by a person, whom u had amazing memories with, broke my heart and I am very scared to trust anyone now
This's the truth that those people with power in my country, Thailand, have always ignored. Abuse and racism has been normalized for ages. people called other "fatty""shorty""glassed" as a funny and normal thing to do. it's a disgrace.
Malaysia can quite relate :') usually some police reports are just being ignored and let the perpetrators are freed. For example just recently, a young man in military school was bullied to death by some numbers of his colleagues who were sons of wealthy and prominent figures. The bullies were freed and the perpetrators were smiling at the camera because they knew that the police wouldn't dare to touch the riches. If commoners here make police reports, they aren't to be taken that seriously. But when the rich people report to police --> straight away police do work My blood boils!!
My friend was sexually abused by her teacher that led to her taking her life. We reported what happened to the school, but she was blamed and was accused of seducing the teacher. The teachers said that it was her fault for getting drunk and she probably forgot that she seduced the teacher herself, but she didn't! She was drunk because she was forced by the teacher, saying that she don't know how to socialize with her teachers! Also, even if someone got drunk on their own accord, that doesn't give you the right to abuse her. The teachers, and her parents failed her. I don't know what to feel when i saw her parents crying on her burial while knowing how they blamed her for getting raped. That was not her fault. You know what's ridiculous? That teacher that raped her is still there, teaching, smiling at the students, acting like a saint, getting awards, while my friend, she'll never come back. She didn't even get rhe justice she deserves. Stop victim blaming. That's just helping the perpetrators while taking away the justice from the victims.
I was molester at 11 by my pediatrician. My dad was waiting outside the doctor's room and had no idea what happened. I didn't understand the difference between a good touch and bad touch. I cried whole day and was scared to enter the dark room and change into a gown for an x ray. I was ashamed to tell my dad what happened. I am 27 now and about to get married. I still can't forget how disgusting it felt. Even though i was a child and hardly knew anything about all these things but that incident did make me feel that it was something wrong and that's not how a medical checkup should be done. I understood what happened to me was sexual assault only when i turned 15. Even today it haunts me how people we trust abuse our trust and the power and influence they have on our lives. I regret i wasn't smart and grown up enough to do anything about it. Never ever leave your child alone with anyone not even their doctor.
When I was young, that time I didn't used to understand why the victims doesn't tell it to their parents, elders or others. But now I understand it all, how hard it is.
I’m proud of her for speaking out and telling her story. A lot of these incidents go unreported because people blame the victim instead of the perpetrators/predator. They are forced to be silent. I hate that about Thai society and they normalize it is even worse. You can see it in the lakorn and series they showcase on tv.
Also teachers here hit students, I witnessed it. the teacher slapped a student with a ruler super hard multiple times and left red marks on her back. Everyone laughed about it but I thought it was horrible. And then they want us to respect them & bow to their feet?? Everything is sad
Victim blaming is so normalize. It's so tiring. Really. ...and when you chose not to speak about the abuse/harassment for years and years, they would still question you what took you so long to speak up. Isn't it obvious?
I am so proud of you, sweet girl. You have shown great strength and courage in speaking out. I pray for you to be safe and happy. I send you love and healing energy. Take strength in knowing that in speaking out and standing up for what is right, you are no longer just a victim, you are a survivor!!! You are an inspiration!!! Your truth is the truth of many, many sexual abuse survivors. I know they thank you for speaking out. When you speak out against this issue and what happened to you, you give voice to all who have ever been victimized in such a horrendous manor. ...with great admiration from a fellow sexual abuse survivor!!! ❤⚘😊⚘❤
This has happened to me when I was 14.. I transferred schools because I am living with my grandmom but it was hard for me to fit in. My classmates used to talk sht behind my back and called me slurs. It was just verbal but slowly it turned into physical abuse. While we were having a break, my classmates and some seniors took turns slapping me and recorded it, I remember having a mental breakdown. I'm 16 now, schools are resuming soon I'm scared to face them again.. I just want this sht to stop but it's hella embarassing as a man to complain ab all these.. edit: i failed y’all and myself, I couldn’t fight back but i complained about it to the homeroom teacher, he scolded them. That’s all, it didn’t make a difference infact it got fkn worse. That day, they held me and put lipstick all over my face and forced me to kiss them. It keeps getting worse day by day. I'm serious, it’s got to a point where I have felt like dying many times. Is living like this worth it?
Aww..I hope you're going to be alright,I hope Jesus will heal the brokenness it cause you and remember you can always call on Him when you are in need of if you are sad and He will listen because He loves you and proved it by dying on the cross so we could have eternal life.
Being a woman is significantly harder. Imagine being yourself and doing nothing that concerns men, but some men still find ways to sexualize you, smh. Men on the other hand doesn't have to be on guard as much as women are.
@Belltown Daisy of course men can be raped too, this is a very cruel world afterall. but i think it's about time that people realise that in this case, there IS a difference. women can be just jumped on with no options left to do anything but raping a man is harder, but not impossible ofc. this is why women need to be way more aware
We desperately need more girls and women like Nalinrat all around the world. She should be proud of what she has achieved here, if nothing else to initiate a long needed discussion on this topic.
The discussion is always closed by males using same 4 sentences 1) What she was wearing 2) She asking for it 3) Males get r@ped too 4) She is lying or doing it for attention
@@kimchithatisnicelyfermente4627 who said it doesn't but men on social standards aren't affected the same . If a revenge porn of men is released it is no going to affect his life socially the same as women.
This should be appeared in one of an episode in "Girl from nowhere" Nano : Save the victim, punish the bad guys.. everything's gonna be ok. Yuri : They're all deserved this. Its all happened because of their high level of karma. Anyway am very proud of her for speaking out .
Tbh I hate it when people use karma as an excuse to blame the victim. "Oh she must have done something bad in her past life to deserve this. She deserves this." Like wtf, that kind of unsympathetic thinking is cruel. It's like saying you deserve to be tortured, raped or killed because of "karma" which is something that cannot be proven to be true.
@@lavendertears1814 That was my thoughts too. Sometime the victim got blamed about their outfit but, the truth face is that RAPE can be occurred in any circumstance even the victim cover the body from head to toe.
I am a teacher and this is so sad! Before we graduate in college, we have this lesson code of ethics for teachers. We study there how to treat students and what are the do's and don'ts. It was included there to NEVER sexually assault your students! I hope those teachers will learn their lessons
It's why one of my ambitious dreams yet is to become a lawyer defending rape/sexual assault/victims like me because not only do I wanna help other women and girls who experienced such horrors but to also help them learn that they are stronger than they think. If I were to have a son I would teach him how a woman is just as powerful as man. Much love from Philippines, this video is truly an insight.
I was 10/11 when my IT teacher kept kissing my cheek for doing a good job with my works. I had no idea what his hidden intentions were. And he would invite me to hang out on weekend with my other female classmate. I told him no one was free to send me, he then offered to pick me up and send me back. I was naive and dumb so I just followed him knowing that he’s my teacher, I trusted him. I even went to his house once because he kept insisting to visit for a bit ( on our way back to my house from skating). There, I met his mom and I ate a cookie. I think I really dodged a bullet there since there were many ppl around. I started feeling uncomfortable near him and later he got fired from the school after the principle found out he kept hanging out with female students. I’m 19 and I still have goosebumps abt it. I can still feel those saliva on my cheeks and knowing that I could’ve been taken advantage off really scares me.
Whenever this topic come up my mum has always said " But the clothing you wear play a factor too", " Those girls were the target because they asked for attention, they got it". Back then I don't know why it was so upsetting, but now I know it's precisely the lack of accountability towards the perpetrators. The forefront of the blame was always concentrated on the victim, whom most of the time wasn't even trying to appeal to men. This is also why I detest all media associating school uniforms as something erotic.
As a sexual abuse survivor that also had to experience that at 12 and for another 10 years bear with my abuser oppressing me at my own house, I want to thank this girl for speaking out loud and giving her my support and a big hug. Anyone that is going or went through something like this should know that there is nothing to be ashamed of, whether you speak about it or not, either you demanded or not, even if no one believes/ed you. You deserve to be free of that pain and to be respected, whatever time it takes for you to be on your feet again. That should have never happened to you, never should happen to anyone. It's been 13 years of it and I am still on pills for my depression, PTSD, anxiety, and s**cidal self, never blame the victim.
As a teacher I am shocked, disgusted and so angry by this, this is awful. I honestly did not know it was this bad, when that girl started to cry my heart broke
Her language is foreign to many, but her experience has been shared by more. Keep your head up Daughter. Being a survivor is what girl/womanhood is all about. 🦋
Wtf! Wtf! Omg, I have been in situations where I felt unsafe and if I didn't leave things would go south, and I left or confronted them. Luckily it has never escalated go full on sexual asault or rape or gang rape. But the threats I received of being gang raped scared me SO BAD that I didnt know how to act around these colleges. One day I screamed at them in front of everyone PLEASE STOP SAYING THOSE THINGS TO ME!!! They were embarresed and stopped.
It's so disturbing to see. I have also noted in many of the television shows etc. That rape and or sexual assault, the perpetrator never gets punished. The victim suffers or is victim shamed and that's it. Why are so many pedophiles being allowed to teach......it's just so sad.
I think there should be a subject called self- defense in every school in every country. They should teach both girls and boys to fight physically , also about the psychology of assaulting people. There should be a counselor for students to check their mental health
When I was younger and was touched inappropriately, I froze. I was afraid of the repercussion if I fought back. Understand the victims' side, don't blame them. 99% of the time, nobody wants being touched inappropriately without consent.
She is so amazing and so true! There should be a change in the educational system like they said, and students, parents, and teachers alike must learn about sexual assault and how to best educate, support, and protect sexual assault victims
I experienced it too, my mind went blank. I can't believe someone would do something like that to me. And the police are still asking why I didn't scream when it happened. I felt useless reporting to the police at that time. They think I made up stories
the police is shitty, like do they not know that in times like that you don't know what to do because everything freezes? im so sorry that happened to you, you deserve none of it, sending love
as a victim of sexual abuse and rape her story give me chills now, what happened to me before is giving me flashback. And I am in grade 2, grade 6 and even when I am in my highschool year I experience sexual abuse. I already accept what happen to me and now open to share it to my friends but, my parents is an exemption. I am scared they wouldn't believe me, as the one who raped me is my cousin and might cause a war within the family. I am 26 now.
I was raped in the 6th grade by an 8th grader. My memory is in pieces about what happened, there are bits I remember and others I don't remember. What's terrifying is that thought that it might happen again and that all my memories will come back, I pray neither one of these things occurs. It hurts whenever I think about what happened, I feel like my skin was ripped away and I'm exposed. It's so common too, where I live multiple girls have been touched by other male students but faculty does nothing. They say "You don't want to ruin their life, do you?". My mother was horrified when I told her about it a year ago, I thought she'd be mad and disgusted but she comforted me. SA and rape survivors are shamed, manipulated, and silenced. As a whole, can we as a race of humans not blame victims? Please?
What an Amazing Woman!!! Major respect for her, and all the other advocates. I will be more than willing to go join the student protests next time they're happening, especially if she is giving a speech. I hear a lot of the protests but never see the fruits. I think today is the day we all rise for those harmed by their own teachers.
Some people in Thailand think the outfits that we wear alluring the offenders, shouldn't they be aware of their own actions? what a world we're living in...
No one deserves this. I have a friend who's 12 years old and was SA by her own step father, she's in a foster home right now cause she's not safe at home and her mother wasn't reliable either cause she knew her boyfriend did that to her daughter and still didn't do anything. I'm visiting her this october cause it's her bday as much as possible I'll always stay in touch with her even if it's hard cause I live far away from the foster house. She'll turn 13, I'm excited to visit her I hope she's doing okay rn.
It takes so much courage to speak up about your abuse, i could never do it and whenever I did I was silenced, so I'm so proud of her, she didn't deserve it, i hope she heals:(
I’ve faced the most sexual assaults while I was under the age of 18. We think that children getting sexually assaulted is a rarity and shocking, but it’s the opposite.
The fact that she is being blamed by reasons like "you sexually aroused him" how can people even say that?? women can wear whatever they want and that does not give anyone the right to sexually assault them
“What she said was victim blaming”,these are the words I hear from sexually assaulted victims. And it’s so disappointed to know these words are mostly heard that occurred at any institution or religious society, some of these society will try to hide these crime!
I was around 4-5 or maybe less, my neighbor a very close family friend had done similar kinda a thing to me, I hardly thought about it till I watched this video. I was a tiny kid just running around, playing with other kids. He'd pull me to a corner and do nasty things. At that time, I didn't realise it was abuse. I'm literally crying right now just recalling what had happened 14 years ago. Till date I haven't spoken a thing about this to anyone.
Its always that second wind that comes when you have to relive your nightmares but also be denied access of relief and safety after the event has occured. That teacher that told her those clothes were "sexual" and are the reason why she was molested is just as bad as the teacher who actually touched her. You have the basic duty as a person to take care of your family, your friend, your stranger. If it is possibly to hard for you to do such a thing, then maybe you need to be reminded of all of our ancestors that have once upon a time helped save us and helped put us in the world we are at now today, and to be reminded of the people currently working to change the world for the better.
🔆 For all those who have been hurt or affected, May you recover from these pains and challenges 🌿 🙌 and move on to better pastures with peace and Love 🌅🌳 God Bless you all 👼✨
Recently at a lunch out with my collage mates we started discussing on this topic. The saddest part is we all had our own stories to tell about SA. We are all coming from different backgrounds different ages but we all had that in common and we all knew so many other people who had the same experiences or worse experiences. How is this became that normal? The saddest part is most of us haven’t been open about our experiences to anyone most of people haven’t. I hate that the world is this cruel.
To the people who blame the victim really sucks me, that's why many victims are afraid to speak, because some will say "she likes wearing revealing clothes" like wtf women will be the one to adjust so to the men who are pervert like men should be responsible for his actions. Also others will say because " she wanted it" who the hell gonna complain if she wanted it, woman are suffering from it but society makes them more miserable to live. I hope that kind of stigma will change, and put the right justice not only for woman but also to any kind of gender that deserves a better treatment of the society, even tho it is impossible to make it.
like i dont understand? and about that one person from parliament saying she was "cosplaying" or something I don't understand how she came to that conclusion
I am grateful that in Indonesia, as in the recent case, a lecturer harassing female students was made a suspect, and the victims are no longer ashamed to speak up, regulations on sexual harassment have been designed and are ready to be implemented in the education system, although there are still many shortcomings, I believe we are all must improve, and regulations regarding this must be applied to prevent the same thing
May i ask? Is sex education a thing in Indonesia?like, educators teaching young students how to detect sexual abusers and how to handle the situation? Malaysia should follow some of the example too
@@Sarah-yg8kt Similar to malaysia. Majority is still taboo to speak up. But soon there will be regulation for sexual harassment. Hope it will be establish and applied as quick as possible. We are still dealing with islamic organization because they disagree in some points
@@regi7943 there are many sexual victims in malaysia but the women are too afraid to speak up because scared that family will look down on them in shame when they report to police. Also, it has been normalized to the point that girls think - nah, just a trivial stuff. The latest sexual assualt wave in malaysia among women are sexual grooming and Malaysians are not educated enough about it. The way to spread awareness about sexual assault techniques is through sex education where educators teach young students about what to do and how to detect sexual perpetrators in different situations. But some politicians don't want to officialized sex education because they think that sex education = teaching kids how to do sex. But this assumption is so wrong. I think you know which politicians. So many young girls and boys have experienced sexual assaults in malaysia, but they don't realise that they were sexual assualted - they thought it was some kind of normalized play. Also, some trusted popular figures can find way to do sexual assault by using trust and popularity as a tool , because malaysians are so adhering to respect and trust to higher authority no matter religious or not (some "so called religious figures" use his or her fame to do sexual assault);for example when seeking counselling from these "trustworthy" figures - they may fall victim to perpetrators. There has been cases like this but often ignored by many people especially conservatists, because they think it is false news. It might be wrong, it might be true, but to deny its existence among authority figures, is just wrong. And this is a mindset on many malays especially. As a malay i think this needs to be fixed - anyone has equal probability to be sexual perpetrator no matter your profession. Pray that we are able to safeguard ourselves from these hyenas while implementation of sex education is a must especially in a society that has a case of raping an old woman.
@@Sarah-yg8ktthe S Education is a taboo in Asian . That's the most important education ,i didn't even know what's sexual assault when i was in high school, my friend grope my leg, he suddenly sit next to me and just grope my leg, i thought that's what male friends did to each other but i was really uncomfortable. I didn't even know how to report it at that time. one day I just speaked out loud in front of my teacher he touched my leg, i said "touched" not "grope", the teacher was silent and no body care. 😔i don't even know grope "word"at that time.
It's a shame that sexual assault victims are blamed and shamed, but not the perpetrators.
it is not a shame .it is a disgrace
Sometimes the victims were willingly got themselves into bad situations.
@@พงศกรฉ่ําพึ่ง how? How exactly?
@@พงศกรฉ่ําพึ่ง you are a disgusting victim blamer
@@พงศกรฉ่ําพึ่ง people like you are part of this problem. disgusting
"Even if I was a porn actress or a sex worker, you wouldn't have rights to sexually assault me"
Exactly. NO ONE DESERVES THIS.
@Shubham Kanojia That doesn't makes sense at all. Porn stars and sex workers are not criminals, but murderers and terrorists are criminals. Try again, stupid.
@@roastedpeanuts1994 dumbass really compared sex workers to criminals lmao
@Shubham Kanojia another salty indian incel i see
@Shubham Kanojia you thought your baseless assumption will do something didn't you? terrorists and sex workers are two different things and one is more brutal and gruesome than the other
@@Bella-zf9ey even if it is a crime, their comparison still doesn’t make any sense LOL also a porn actress isn’t a criminal.
It’s disgusting how some may assume being sexual assaulted is “pleasurable” like tf get out
Even worse, the media romantisizes this sh*t!
Like fr there has to be a reason people called it assault-
@LOGIC where is the video ?
0:09 can't blame that pervert for kneading the dough 😅
Fr it’s terrifying and uncomfortable.
Even boys got sexually assaulted by male teachers. I'm one of the victims when I was in high school, but for a man, it is hard to tell anyone because it is even more embarrassing, people would say "how can you let that happen to you, you are a man, you are big, you are strong". Only a few classmates that have been harassed know it, we try not to bring it up ever since.
That abomination of a man died many years ago by cancer, justice has never been served
You are not alone. I feel you I also experience it when I was young though it's outside of the school. It is hard to open to someone you don't know what others will think about you. Stay safe and strong. 💪🙂
i am so sorry.. this is so awful
Ikr! Some people even say "How can you be raped, didn't you enjoy it?" Like wtf people!! 😭
I hope you recover soon!
@Beish Bear It was not easy for a 14 yo boy to speak out. What if people know and make fun out of it, what if I have to move to the next school and be apart from all of my friends, what if my new classmates ask why am I being transferred. There were so many thoughts in my head including the physical beating that man. But was too scared of the consequence. They won't listen, even if they do, they won't believe us. Kids don't matter, adults are always right, adults can't be wrong(authoritarianism as she said) Thailand has been like that for as long as I can remember. And by the time we grew up, we will be forced to accept the society as it is. Luckily this generation is full of smart and rebellious kids. They do what we always wanted to do but couldn't at the time.
People who blame the victim are disgusting.
Also, those people are very ignorant!
They literally help the perpetrators.
Just unacceptable.
Potential perpetrators?
I can relate so much unfortunately. :(
At 16 years old, I was sexually abused my by biological father and I too was victim blamed. I was made fun of in school and people even picked on my sisters for this. My own family called me to say I must have wanted it, or asked for it, or that I should just keep quiet about it, or asked why I didn't try hard to make it stop,.... you name it and they said it to me.
No one gave my father a hard time and when we brought him to court he was acquitted because there was no one else there when it happened and it was my word against his. It is now 20 years later and I still struggle with ptsd, depression, anxiety, and panic attacks from this.
I've gone to group counseling too and they all tell a very similar story. :'(
I am sorry thst you have to undergo this. You deserve much better than how your family treated. Please know that there are many peple who are on your side, who won't shame you, judge you and who believes in you. Don't lose faith in the goodness of people. I wish you all the best as well as healing. 💕
Same thing happened to me. Same questions, same comments. No one blamed him.
I am really sorry for what happened with you. This shouldn't have happened. The society is to blame. These denoms who commit such sins are to blame. I know it would have always been hard for you since the one who did this wa your own father. But i hope your condition gets better with time. You recieve all the happiness in end and this dreadful horrible memory of yours fade away. 😔
I hope you will get out of depression. Best wishes.
I am so sorry knowing that has happened to you. I was too sexually abused many times and every time I told my family about that, they didn't believe it or blaming me to be over reacted about that, my mother even told me to just accepted it and even blamed me that it was my bad omen why I could be sexually abused many times.
Don't lose hope for your future, what has happened can't be undone but believe that there are still goodness and kindness in this world. We just have to find it. Healing process can take as long as our life-time. ❣
Wow maybe the Girl from Nowhere series is secretly revealing realities in Thailand…
that's exactly what the movie .. on first episode
So.. you know how to do a things with your circles.
that’s the entire premise of the show
Not only in Thailand but at most schools around the world
Duh
As a father, a brother, a son. This breaks my heart, you just want to cry hearing these grotesque sexual abuse claims.
I know what you mean, I have Nieces that I worry about now and another one that's reaching that age...How do I protect them when I am not there, how do I teach them to protect themselves?
Praying, which is essentially hoping is just temporarily just relieving yourself to possible threats.
As a Christian, born and raised, God did not answer me many times during certain situations; I don't resent God but I did lose faith which made me make some reckless decisions so far in my life.
So besides kind words and intentions, what do you think?
Just say something kindly with pure intentions?
Don't hate the people involved but have passion towards the subject is my opinion, how to solve the problems or perhaps even come up with solutions or even better solutions with nets of security.
This is not the first incident in Human Civilization and I doubt it will be the last.
I as a human being, a male at that, have had some disgusting thoughts and what not; to be honest-- been watching porn for over 20 years since age 7 and it's like a psychological narcotic that sort of warps people into sedation, what is right, what is wrong is sometimes forgotten for that spontaneous impulse or event; if you want to break it down to childhood memories when does a boy want to hold a girl's hand and what does it mean--neither of them really know what it means but it's the just the way God/Creation/Higher Power/ whatever you want to call it created us...
My opinion, it is a lot of micro-psychology involved, if that is even a term; of what is taught, what is right, what is wrong, trust given, trust lost, discrimination, pride, envy, misinterpretation, miscommunication, rage or wrath, humiliation that leads to rage, wrath or depression, contemplation of vengeance or revenge--there is too many things to factor into an equation such as this--just look at Jeffrey Dahmer or Richard Ramirez, we do not know every single moment of their lives but they were the products of certain situations.
Better education, social networks such as support groups, social media and what not can definitely and is probably the best solution in my opinion and it's working somewhat so I am glad...I say this because I've been seeing a lot of TikTok and TH-cam videos about Gang Culture in regards to many sensitive subjects.
Communication, Self-Preservation, Respect, Boundaries, Understanding and many more compassionate Human Emotions is what helps and is what is helping Society and things such as Street-Warfare--you may not see or understand it but there is most definitely an Underworld of things going on here and there; how do you think Marijuana, Cocaine, Ecstasy, Methamphetamines, etc. is hitting the population and flooding us with the Homeless Crisis, Violence, and many other subjects--like a destruction from within almost, like another Country is destroying us from within, is what I wonder--I say Us as in the United States because this is my home, born and raised in a White, Black or Hispanic Man/Woman's World--what the f*ck am I anyway, I don't belong there, here, anywhere sometimes.
Anyway, back to the subject of this video.
It's the isolation, I think personally, when a person is left alone to their thoughts without any sort of guidance, reassurance, etc. of what is right or wrong then certain people take advantage while some people don't know how to react.
Take for example the recent "Japanese Joker" attack that happened a month ago in Japan, the guy stabbed multiple people then set off an IED, nobody could've predicted that it seems, but it happened--now let's say some of those people in that incident had the courage to step outside of their boundaries of comfort?
Would the numbers of injured or deaths been reduced?
If you saw some random person on the bus with you get stabbed, then another, then another, would you just run or stop him/her?
They're coming for you and more, what do you do?
Would September 11, 2001 happened as bad as it did if some people knew how to react?
I apologize, I apologize for putting salt on wounds, it is still too soon but would it have happened if we as a Society were not turning Blind Eyes to certain situations and neglecting them with just a wishful comment or action?
Did the Jewish People have to suffer the Nazi Regime though the Nazi Regime had some justifiable intentions at the start, oppression and discrimination sparked it...don't forget that.
Would I have lost family members on September 11 if people stepped up to the situation instead of minding their own business thinking it's just a plane ride smelling flatulence, random noises, strange smells, lack of fresh air or whatever else?
Sorry to go off topic but the original topic is not something that happened just once, maybe this is the first time you've learned about things such as this but it's going to happen again--how do you want to prevent or soften situations?
Human Beings are born every single day...
Be sad a s a human first u don’t have to be all these titles to understand helpless ness of kids
@@n6235 Nothing to do with titles. It's because I have a daughter, a sister, a mother. I have women in my life who I would want to protect, especially from savages and bullies like this.
Please educate your sons, nephews, male friends, male colleagues and male cousins
@@KshipsinKchups amen
My girlfriend was sexually assaulted by her school principal... And then the priest... I haven't known about all of this till the day she was comfortable to open up things for me (before I proposed to her). She told me all of her bitter past and why she is a loner or has a very small circle of friends... She was blackmailed, regularly sexually abused during the end of the week's school... To make things short, friends of mine and her family, got to report it to the police and finally got a multiple case against those people who assaulted her with enough proof and evidence that we won during the court trials. She is fine and glad I was able to meet her and save from her dark traumatizing experience...
I'm glad she could open things up anything she want to talk about to other people. Mostly me and her friends and families.
Take care of her and respect her and love her without selflessly. She needs to become confident and be able to trust men. Her family and your family need to be there for her. Also don't forget to take care of yourself.
Salute to you bro
@@divyasharma4364 Wow its been a month that I haven't opened my notifs. Of course I am, but there are events in which just a simple problem talks it always make her remember her past. And I'm still looking for some advices on psychiatrists for her treatment. And this month I'll be giving her my own books about stoicism. I hope she would become undefeatable. I know her past will never be forgettable but I know that sooner or later she will be able to accept all of it and just continue to face on moving forward.
@@mingmarhero5957 thank you so much!
@@kentadran take her to a therapist, psychologist. Can you take her to a hypnotherapist?
even when someone would walk naked in front of you in society, it is never an excuse or "reason" to rape or sexually assault someone. It is never the victims fault. You as a human being should be able to control, see and "unsee" what arouses you and not use this as a way to harm the other.
And if they can't, then they should either lock themselves at home or meet a therapist
totally agree every human have feelings whether a man , women or sex worker . teaching women to dress properly, blaming her dressing or her profession is very wrong .
@@Qwerty-jc3so yes exactly whether u have feelings or not control it do not take it out on others
@@ammericanochuachuaaa EXACLY. If you really cannot control yourself, GET HELP SO YOU CAN. And maybe that means we need more resources but I’m pretty sure most people doing horrible things without consent to other ppl can control themselves, they are just dehumanizing the other person to justify their actions, or make excuses in their brain like “they want this too” too justify their actions.
Totally, being naked is not lewd, it's only the things associated with it that are lewd. Of course everyone should still dress properly in front of other people, but people also need to control themselves and not cause harm to anyone who hasn't done anything to harm them.
I'm a teacher in Thailand from the UK. In 2019, I was raped by a taxi driver. I'm a male, as was the taxi driver. I first read of the person in the video speaking up about her ordeal on the day of a pr*test (just in case the police are spying) about the education system along with other youngsters, and so I went to there because of reading about her ordeal. In my mind, I kind of thought at that moment "I'm a teacher here right? I'm supposed to make sure that young people are safe in school, not sexually abused". I stand with the students and youngsters. I've had students confide in me because I was open to them about my experience of being raped and I told them that this isn't right and I'm always here to defend them and speak up for them.
A Thai taxi driver did this to you?
This is really horrible!!! But I appreciate that you spoke up about this.
@@sisthebest4810 in Thailand you’re almost never safe around men. I could be walking on a street and I’d see at least 3-4 men make creepy eye contact with me along the way.
That's just damn shxx to the bone horrible. I hope that shxx's life is miserable or will get even more miserable.
Wow. Lesson learned hopefully: learn how to defend yourself!
Thailand is a nation where men and women , and other genders are abused . Just like any other asian countries, victim blaming is a norm too. I am so proud of this child for speaking up. The new generation can definitely change the world.
A nation where men and women and other genders.
Other genders other than men and women?
Really?
@@freeyourmind7538 is that what is important??? In my nation even animals get raped. The matter is "RAPE" here. Come another time to discuss genders . Not here, not now.
P.S. and yesh ..to give you a clue. There are eunuchs too, who are born with defects and are called "third genders". Anyways as I said, that's a whole another discussion. Not here. Not now.
@@crochet-and-coffee cool. Apologise.
News flash, this happens all over the world, not just Asia.
trueeeee
It's so annoying. Basically, if a woman/girl is assaulted, the immediate assumptions are:
* she was asking for it
* look what she was wearing
So even if we go with what these people are saying, they AGREE that sexual intercourse happened, but that it was consensual (even if the girl was 14). To me, THAT ALONE means the teacher needs to be fired. No teacher should be having sex with any of their students, "even if they wanted it". Look, we know that in every country, women have issues with being assaulted. But it seems as though Thailand is maybe 40 years behind western countries.
this right here is a good take. plus even if you look at what she was wearing, it contributes NOTHING because clothes don't speak for you, and it could've been hot outside or in this case its the mandatory school uniform. I cannot believe that when some people hear about sexual assault, they start defending the predator.
I agree to your first statement. The latter part where Thailand is 40 years behind, not really. This is pretty predominant in 3rd world countries. And even in first world countries, there are still cases that is only resurfacing now. The idea of victim blaming is still a dominant mindset in most countries, even in the US. But times are slowly changing, just like how someone is starting to speak up in Thailand, people are also becoming more open to the discussion of this issues which, hopefully, will lead to a better mindset of society in regards with the victimd and a better management of the cases such as SA.
In Malaysia,girls are mostly covered everywhere yet rape still happen .The problem is never really about the victims .
@@everythingnothing2978 i agree, the problem is only the mindset of the predator and the people who agree with them.
@@nyxcole I disagree. I’m Canadian/Thai and in Thailand we blatantly blame victims. In Canada, when the truth comes out, the PM doesn’t come out and say “but she was asking for it.” There is still a rape culture in Canada, yes. But in Thailand it’s systematic.
Mm being a boy I was sexually abused many a times even in the crowded open market but I never spoke about it to anyone. I blamed myself for having a feminine body shape, I started to hate myself, my bed became my bestfriend. It became like that whenever I go out I get anxiety attacks also the strong and fearless boy was now turned into a coward. I get scared whenever a guy comes near me. It disturbed my mind it had traumatized me but I shook myself up and stood up again talked about it with my friends who helped me heal again. I understand how the victims who are sexually abused, everyone is not same I understand you. Some people might blame the victims itself, like honey once put ur feet into their shoes and try to feel how they feel and what they are going through. It is very easy for people to pass on their comments on something or someone but it's hard for the once who've gone through it to heal. Also like everyone is different and unique in their own lifestyles, "you can't judge somebody else based on your living style". I'm so proud of the girl for stepping up raising her voice for this issue❤️lol(lots of love) and lastly let's all be each other's support afterall we're sharing the same earth!
I'm so sorry you went through this words can't tell how strong u are u literally deserve the world and don't hate urself u did nothing wrong
@@reemcui thank you 💗🌻
I'm so sorry this happened to you...Breaks my heart 💔
Has nothing to do with your body, why these vile serpents take advantage
I don't know you, but Please know you are Treasured to the most high🏆♦️
Much Love from Colombia 🇪🇨
@@komradson7357 I know this is just a message but you know it means alot when people support people instead shading upon them, much love 💕 and thank you so much for your positive words💜
@@Papipussslay a
Absolutely!!
Since I was a child my parents have always been extremely protective towards me. They taught me to avoid men (all men, also family members and family friends) and never allowed me to go to parties, disco or so on because they're dangerous places for girls.
I used to think that they were a bit exaggerated, but then they told me the story of one of my childhood friends: she was raped at 12 and then threatened with a gun by one of her mother's friend.
Now I'm grateful for them being so protective and teaching me how to defend myself from those perverts.
Even if you think victims are “unwise,” the blame needs to be on the perpetrator. They’re the only reason why these atrocities take place. They’re the root of the problem, NOT the victims. It’s not their fault that society enables bad people to do bad things.
The evil Djinn that accompanies them..
@Kailyn
Well, all those bad/evil people can all die! Their time will expire! They must be punished!
The perpetrators may have been perpetrated upon before when they were young. They were victims..a vicious cycle..not all but some..
@@lindmohamad3726 Is this a game? "They harassed me, so I will harass and traumatise other person, the cycle must go on" what the f? Even if they were perpetrated before, it should be their duty to help the future generations to not face what they had to. Like this isn't an excuse man.
@@piddimon_yt it reminds me of the cycle of bullying. They just give up on life bruh
It's a taboo thing to talk about in many Asian countries
I think we r lucky in Malaysia as this kind of issue r not so serious due to conservatism of our people especially the Malay Muslim old folks. it still occurs as every nations r not perfect but way more less compared to other ASEAN countries.
@@faisonwaloh6912 no, there are many sexual victims in malaysia but the women are too afraid to speak up because scared that family will look down on them in shame when they report to police. Also, it has been normalized to the point that girls think - nah, just a trivial stuff.
The latest sexual assualt wave in malaysia among women are sexual grooming and Malaysians are not educated enough about it. The way to spread awareness about sexual assault techniques is through sex education where educators teach young students about what to do and how to detect sexual perpetrators in different situations. But some politicians don't want to officialized sex education because they think that sex education = teaching kids how to do sex. But this assumption is so wrong. I think you know which politicians. So many young girls and boys have experienced sexual assaults in malaysia, but they don't realise that they were sexual assualted - they thought it was some kind of normalized play.
Also, some trusted popular figures can find way to do sexual assault by using trust and popularity as a tool , because malaysians are so adhering to respect and trust to higher authority no matter religious or not (some "so called religious figures" use his or her fame to do sexual assault);for example when seeking counselling from these "trustworthy" figures - they may fall victim to perpetrators.
@@faisonwaloh6912 ASEAN countries are heavily affected; you don't read news often.
@@Sarah-yg8kt ye I agree with u . I'm just stating that we r lucky cuz ours r way more less. U can even notice that prostitutes in Malaysia r mostly foreigners from China,Thailand,Indo and the Philippines. Our social sexual issues r there but it's not so common among our people due to the fact that our local authorities always barge in and prevent it. There r many cases lately in here especially in rural areas and jungles in East Coast and East Malaysia ,I don't deny that but still its average r lower among other ASEAN countries and +3 of Japan,China and Korea.
Btw Ray Mak is a Malaysian of Chinese descent who loves to go to Thailand n love its related-stuff such as culture and entertainment B4 covid was a thing. Now our brain r kinda stunted cuz we can't experience it irl anymore. Hope Malaysian border will reopen anytime soon. N that's kinda sudden n random from me O-O
The VICTIM BLAMING SHAMING NEEDS to be STOPPED. The world needs to be educated more. There must be more accountability put on these predator abusers. Law enforcement needs to be re educated also. Especially in countries where men are valued more than women and children.
The problem is that in every country men are valued more
@@tomato_6681
By a wide margin, sure.
And this phenomenon created a collateral:
No one listens to male victims of rape and sexual assault cuz toxic patriarchy and toxic masculinity says boys and men should just enjoy sex whenever and however they get the chance.
@@rzdanger damn we love it when we talk about problems women go through people want to compare it to male abuse. They’re both bad ok. But we have to spread awareness to women because it happens more.
@@supereggtartersauce6464
You misunderstood what I wrote. Toxic patriarchy and masculinty, the very enemies of intersectional feminism, produced their collateral damage: male victims of sexual abuse and rape. If toxic patriarchy and toxic masculinity aren't listening to female victims, sure as hell they aren't listening to male victims.
Ever heard of Anthony Rapp and Terry Crews?
Apparently, in pop culture, male rapes and sexual abuse are seen as a joke. Like, you're supposed to just take sexual advances from anyone cuz that should make you feel macho (toxic patriarchy). And believe it or not, male survivors also survived almost getting murdered.
Their pain is no different from female survivors.
@@supereggtartersauce6464
It happens more. Yes (female victims). But we shouldn't also downplay the reality that rape and sexual abuse of men are severely underreported or not at all.
I can relate to her.. as a sexually abused victim... I am so afraid to tell to my grandma since it was her friend and a former co-worker... I accidentally spill it when my dad was mad because I act so differently... I told accidentally spill about my almost rape experience.. and he said "ITS YUR FAULT, I DONT CARE ANYMORE".. but after three days we goes to that rapist.. and he denied it.. cuz I was 13 that time and I just tell it when I am 19.. he said he doesn't remember anymore... I am feeling so defeated, I almost lost my life by hanging myself but my dad saw me.. he brings me to other places to rest my mind.. when I came back home, I heard the news that that rapist is dead already because of a heart attack... now I'm 20 years old... still seeking justice... I want him to suffer even though he's dead...
TO ALL GIRLS AND BOYS OUT THERE A VICTIM OR NON-VICTIM OF SEXUAL ABUSE... YOU KNOW WHO RUNS THE WORLD... IF WE NEED TO FIGHT FOR JUSTICE WE WILL DO... WE NEED TO SPEAK OUT.. and to all boy who thinks we're just a toy... see you in hell...
You are such a strong person, I so glad you were able to tell your story🙏🏽💕🙏🏽
Very brave. Love your story. Justice for sexual abuse victims!!
Please, be always strong, move on with your life, ask for help if needed, I'm sure you're a wonderful human being who deserves the best!
The death of the rapist is enough. Karma has already did its Justice.
Tears rolled down my cheeks when she said, "If only I didn't have my body this way."
Being a woman it kills me to hear everyday about the heinous crime against women and how at some point all women think if only they didn't have to be so vigilant about their surroundings and so protective of their bodies.
It's just insane how every one is born out of a woman, yet they are the ones society kills the most.
Blaming the victim for being sexually abused is like blaming the store's existence for being robbed. It completely missed the point and shrug the problem under the shoulder.
Men are the actual victims of
Over sex drive... It's not evil it's just biology
@@eaglemgtow2789 and humans have a brain.
This make some wonder, are you even a human for writing such a shitty excuse?
It not only "shrugged the problem under the shoulder", it swept the problem under the rug.
Also to make it worse by putting more unnecessary pressure/stress on the victim/the person that should be the one who is being protected in the first place. They have already suffered something that they did not asked for and putting a blame of someone else's actions on the is just unacceptable.
It is just a complete failure and disgrace.
Best analogy I've ever heard. I will use your example in the future. SO spot on!
I think the show Girl from Nowhere portrayed how authoritarian and this kind of abuse existed in Thai education system.
Yup, my first thought was Girl from Nowhere Season 1, Epiosde 1.
Omg!
same.
Is this a show on Netflix? It sounds very familiar
@@mw02 yes, you should watch, it's pretty nice.
The victim should never be blamed. As a former teacher, I apologize in behalf of those who couldn't understand your situation. My heart was already broken knowing you experienced sexual assault but I got infuriated when that female teacher silenced and even blamed her when she should have defended her. She received hate messages for exposing the truth which is totally absurd!
It's not your fault. I'm sorry you went through this shit. I'm really sorry. I can't imagine the trauma you're dealing with now. I'm really sorry. (hug)
I work as a teacher in Thailand and sadly, the victims are told to shut up. I've been raped by a taxi driver but got told to keep quiet from police, who also refused to help because I'm not a Thai citizen.
@@RobertHeslop that's terrible. Have you tried reporting to your embassy since the Thai police are corrupt?
@@RobertHeslop try reporting to your country's embassy in Thailand. Since the the Thai police force can't be trusted.
Honestly what she went through wasn't the worst or most ludicrous. If u read the comment thread, many ladies inluding mysel were silenced by our own family members. Moms specifically. Truly heartbreaking. The trauma of being betrayed by the supposed people who were meant to protect n love u.. "Family" is just a blank word to me now.
Have you heard the Thai idiom "Having a daughter is like having a toilet open in front of their house"? They have to protect their toilet and don't let strangers pee on it because it will be dirty, stinky and disgusted by other people.
This is like if the daughter had sex... or was raped before married, she is dirty and disgusting like the toilet and brings shame to the family. Patriarchy is a real thing in Thailand and still exists and this causes victim-blaming especially in girls.
Those who never were sexually abused would never understand the disgusting feeling that clouds the victim. The disgust is so strong that you feel anxious whenever you remember the crime. Consent is the keyword. Even if the woman is naked in front of you, if she doesn't consent then you don't have the right to touch her.
Besides from sexual assault, the fact that the teachers did this make it even worse! Someone who should have been your protector did the opposite. Abuse of authority has more impact in the mental torture that the victim experienced in my opinion.
Being a woman is so difficult. I've never ever said anything to my parents or to anyone and idk if i'll ever be able to, i still remember everything so vividly and it's such a shame that victims are blamed. I'm 23 and ik i need therapy for me to be able to move on and actually be absolutely free of the thoughts that hunt me sometimes but i'm scared. I hope everyone that has ever experienced sexual assault to finally heal and be happy.
Hope you're doing well now
@@divya9874 i am
Male is now difficult too..
If we got harassment it's just a joke for people to laugh at.
But I hope you're okay now.
Lol you wouldn't last one month as a male
I am Thai and I can confirm that these things are more common than you think. A lot of female students are sexually harassed. Most of the time, they are harassed by someone who they weren’t expecting. For example, tutors and relatives.
I am from Bangkok and is quite sheltered from stuff that happened in other provinces. However, one incident that sticks out the most.
Around a year ago I went to my friend’s village it was pretty rural. I met her cousin who is around 4 years old. I played dinosaur toys with her for a while but then she picked up one of the dinosaur toys and put it on the back of another one while moving it in a humping motion. It really shocked my friend and me because how does a 4 years old knows about sex. It was really weird but I may be overthinking. I don’t really know.
All I can say is in Thailand you can get away with a lot of stuff that you cannot in western countries. Either by using money or connections.
Ugh almost the same situation in Malaysia. The riches and elites get away from crimes. The number one corrupted man is even roaming free here!
Here, sexual assaults is a problem here among young women but they are too afraid to make reports to police because scared that family look down on them. Fortunately an independent organization is looking forward to change that but it is still not that strong against the riches and elite men - they always use their connections.
I saw a news a long while back that an elderly woman was raped.
Our goverment ignore to acknowledge these stuffs and just want to paint a picture that malaysia is an advanced country by sticking pictures of kuala Lumpur and johor bahru on every advertisements - to attract wealthy foreign investors. But news flash! malaysia is mostly rural land and forests. KL and johor bahru are mostly build to accomodate to foreign investments not for common people. Government representatives for these rural districts can be so corrupted that one actually went on vacation to france while his people were screaming for help at the villages. Also the royal family can be quite spoilt but NO NEWS dared to publish what they did.
Dude that's disgusting
I hope what she was imitating or motioning was porn from the parents. I hope nothing did happen to her!
@Avocado kid No not more than thailand .They are preety bad but Thailand is the worst
Money power can be seen in most of the countries.
This is so heartbreaking and yet many politicians just remained quiet about it and blame in on the survivors. How can the society improve if it continue to stay this way. All the billionaires just care about the space but why don't they try to help out all the people to be their voices. This girl is a hero, she stepped up even though is hard and she is brave to embrace the consequences for good so that no more students or women would have to go through the same thing.
How did the billionaires came into topic? Lmao. It's not their job, it's the job of government officials
@@skrtskrt4750 its every one jobs including you and me. If everyone just leaves it to the government, it will only get worst. Everyone should be the voice to voice out the unfairness.
Because the politicians themselves have probably sexually assaulted women in the past or currently doing it. So they don’t want to look like hypocrites defending it
That's sadly how Thailand goes. The victim is the one who is blamed. There's still this "losing face" thing that the country has and they try to make everything be "sabai sabai, its all ok, don't worry"
Haha welcome to Thai politics this is what you’re gonna have to live with. A bunch of greedy people and boomers hold power in this country.
When I went to college in the late 90s, first semester I was raped along with most of the girls on my dorm floor. It's caused serious anxiety and resentment towards males to this day, as well as affected my relationships. I wouldn't have dared to tell authorities as I was ashamed and blamed myself. I'm mad at myself for crying through the whole thing, instead of fighting. I was treated like a body and not a person. After that, I made it a mission to emotionally hurt as many males as possible, some undeserving. NO means NO, no matter the circumstances. Majority of rapes go unreported for fear of public opinion as well as not wanting to relive those nightmares. I can't imagine being assaulted by my teachers, people you are suppose to feel safe with. She is a brave woman for speaking up. I hope time can help to heal her.
So sorry for what happened to you. Hope you are healed now.
I hope you are okay and recovering.
@Action-thriller movie scenes That's not funny
@Action-thriller movie scenes y’all sensitive as hell isn’t it obvious?
@Action-thriller movie scenes I SAW EVERY COMMENTS OF URS, U SEEMS DEFENDING THOSE MF, MAYBE U'RE ONE OF THEM
It's not just Thailand. Victim blaming and victim shaming is found all over the world. What a brave woman for speaking out in a culture that supports abusers and ignores or blames victims.
She was wearing this, she was wearing that!
It's her choice to wear what she wants to, someone else whoever it is has no rights to anyone else's body, victim blaming is the most pathetic thing. The perpetrator is not an animal who can't control over it's urges.
It is such a shame that the society is so ugly to blame the victim.
It's so crazy because if it was just up to the clothes, of course we would choose to wear only the clothes that do not attract bad men...
Seriously, rapists should be executed. No arguments, just executed.
More people should come forward. Thank you for posting this. Their voices should be heard. Sexual abuse is not right and the perpetrators should face heavy justice to the fullest extent of the law. As a sexual abuse survivor myself I feel for the victims
I was abused by a family member since I was 6 years old and when I told my mother the first thing she told me was if i flashed him my panties. This began when I was in grade 1 and I was still blamed by my own mother. This world makes me sick
I am so sorry that happened to you. I was too sexually harrased and abused many times when I was young kids and teenager. Sad things that even our own family like our mother could not even protect us emotionally, they even make it worse by not trusting and blaming me of why the abused happened. I have stopped telling my mother about those things since and try to keep distance from her. I try to reconsile with myself (because I was so stressful and blaming myself all the time) and many times asking God why those bad things happened to me and many other woman in the world. All I can say that I didn't get the answer immediately but my heart tells me that I shouldn't give up, don't lose hope and keep believing that there are still kindness in this sick world, we just have to find it also in ourselves. I hope the same for you too. ❣
Sorry girl, if I'm someone you know I'd probably end up killing your relative and your mother in the cruelest way possible, I will torture them and I will not let them die easily. I'm not a victim but I don't know if I'll ever be Human again if this happens to someone in my neighborhood. I apologize for my wordings.
i hope your mum suffers the same. I'm sorry but that's disgusting, please leave that household or like get help or something.
@@justawlwwholikesshygirls5704 it's disgusting and painful but I wouldn't wish this on anyone much less my mother
@@Nonyah123 I'm sorry she doesn't deserve to be called a mother. Please get help or tell ur dad or something just so something. Take care PLEASE
It takes so much to disassociate yourself from the teachings of everyone around you, to learn all the social conditioning you had to go through. I am so proud of her for speaking out when it must have felt like everyone was against her!!!!
Your comment is beautiful. It indeed takes a lot of mental strength. She is a very brave person. I admire her courage a lot
I’m Thai and yes society here has very strict rules and it’s been like this for centuries. I’m so glad that the newer generations ( mostly gen z ) have the guts to rebel against these old stereotypes.
It happened to me once....I was only 11 years old then....I was caught in a crowd while waiting in front of a food stall to buy a sandwich when that happened....someone strong groped my chest so badly.....I can tell u that and I still remember how terrified I felt at that time...for a moment I remained petrified and scared, I couldn't even see the perpetrator behind me. It was too crowded, but somehow I pushed myself out of the crowd and didn't wait to buy a sandwich ....this happened in the church area where a charity bazaar was held.......my father never imagined such a thing could happen in church places when he send me to the stall to buy a sandwich for myself.....till now I have never uttered a word to my parents about this incident...... although I was shocked and felt distressed for that whole day, thankfully I was able to recover from it very soon but I have become quite cautious and even now at 36 I would think thrice when I see a crowded place..... after what happened to me I became quite protective of my 2 young daughters......I fervently pray and wish that such things don't happen to people especially kids both boys and girls alike
I currently study in Thailand. I'm 16, and I've never experienced sexual assault in school, however, I was sexually assaulted by my friend's cousin (age 23) in a hotel room I was staying in with my friends. I was at the blackout stage of being drunk and I felt his hands on my body and shit went down but I was in shock and I didn't know what to do, I was thinking, "Am I really going to put up with this? Will I really allow this to happen to me?" The next day I talked to my friends about it and they kept on trying to tell me to forget it and that it already happened. From personal experience, I understand how deeply embedded and normalized sexual assault is in school and even out of school. For the people that have spoken up about this, I extremely applaud you but personally, I don't have the bravery to do so just yet.
I hope u find the courage to speak up someday
Prevention is better than cure... Do not drink when you are with male friends to the extent you may blackout.
@@kareemkhan-hv1yp or just find better trustworthy friends??
@@ohno7153 once a man is drunk, he is very prone to commit this crime, it's better not to blackout with them
I seems to know nothing much about this world. this kind of things should never be ignored. Drunk men prone to commit sexual abuse, then I guess the thought are always inside him. poor excuse as a man.
It's a dark reality of the world . We women should stand together to solve this problem . United we stand and support our sisters and friends all over the world .
Not just women, all of us should be standing together against sexual abusers (of both genders). Boys and men need to play a key role because they are the future fathers. To standby when someone is being hurt is cowardly and should be deemed unmanly. In general these types of crimes need to be punished more severely no matter the gender or age. *Together we stand. Divided we fall.*
Shame that they're bending over instead of standing up.
@@Iksvomid Shame that victim blamers are standing up instead of laying 6-feet below the ground
@@su1ka779 So called victims doing anything for a grade. Nice.
@@Iksvomid You know what. Fuck you. How can you say that to a person who was abused by someone they should trust. People like you are just as shitty as those teachers.
The teachers name should be revealed. And their actions should be condemned.
These are people that the parents are supposed to trust
What a horrible situation
Much respect to them for speaking out ❤️
They kill ya or throw ya in prison for life for a joint but rape and child molesters get a pass. Where’s Dexter Morgan when we need him??
The problem is not with police but the educational institute protecting abusers since if news get out they lose face and of course, business.
I was sexually abused when I was 8 for two years by a family member. One day I told a woman close to my family about it she told me that I was the problem and I'm the one who's "provoking".it made me hate my self.i never told anyone about since I thought it will only cause conflict in the family but it affected me for many years
im so sorry you had to experience that, always remember that its never the victims fault so dont blame yourself. Youre very strong and i hope everything gets better.
Im really sorry for youu, if you wanna talk about it more, we are here to support,
I dont know why, but i felt something, i thought i wrote this comment cuz the same things happened to me too when i was this age, and they were a family members also.
I couldn't stop myself from crying and writing this right now .... Last week, i was sexually abused by my doctor who was my own uncle as well... I fully trusted him and the process he was doing but than i started being awkward! And I called my mom if I should do my body examine as it wasn't the part of what treatment i was doing but my mom blind folded like me! Trusted my uncle and told me to do it what he says... And when I came out of the room, i was shocked for the procedure he asked me to do and I asked my friends and sister, they told me doctor was sexually abusing me.... But we decided to keep this shut as doctor apologized to me and my family... But I still couldn't keep this whole thing inside of me....
I'm really sorry this happened to you. There are always disgusting people like him in every field. I remember I was undergoing scan by a male doctor which was already very uncomfortable he kept asking me to pull up my shirt my bra was almost visible and he also kept using the scanner thing near the panty strap line. My mom was getting furious and he suddenly said he couldn't see anything and said we should do internal scanning my mom blasted on him and we left.
I think you and ur family should cut every contact with him or his family in future although he deserves to be punished but I can understand your situation for keeping this shut.
No one, not even the closest person to you have the right to touch you without your consent even a doctor who is doing a specific examination. And if they do, that is already considered assault besides, whenever a male doctor examines a female patient, it is always right and ethical to have a female companion (either a female nurse or a female relative). I am a nurse and if I was the nurse in that doctor's office, that doctor might have lost his hands by now (I hope actually that he does, not literaly but figuratively). It will be a long and emotional process of healing but you will get there. I will be praying for you, so please be strong.
I relate to you. I was sexually abused by an uncle when I was 5 years old. Still remember everything at that time until now. And when I was 22 years old I told my family and they was shocked. I found a little bit relieved cause I was strong enough to tell my own story after 17 years
@@jruth4557no the female nurse was the one that helped the doctor. For my story' When i was there with my mom, he suddenly asked the nurse to took off my pants, i was shocked why the female nurse did that, she even lower my underwear and asked me to lay down to check something, i was blank at that time. My mom was there but she couldn't see what happened because of the blind spot. The doctor came and looked at my private area . He didn't even tell me what he was going to do,just asked the nurse to helped him(disgusting). I was blank the whole day at that time,like the girl in this video freeze . It's my first time someone looked at my lower body without any cloth. Even he didn't rap me but that's still sexual assault
Shit happens here too; I was a victim of sexual assault, and when I told, no one did anything. In fact, they continued to allow the perpetrator to come by to our house. (It was my own father).
I would yell at my family about it and have countless arguments, and in response they would say “you shouldn’t be wearing provocative stuff” or “that’s your father, you need to love him regardless”.
That man stopped being my father the very moment he didn’t look at me as daughter…. And I was a teen. I wore nothing but sweaters and skater shorts.
Absolutely disgusting. You are incredibly strong and we stand with you.
I feel sorry about whatever happened to you. 😔 I don't know you but I hope you have found happiness today and that your perpetrator is nowhere in your life. Wish you all the best 🧡
What the fuck! How could he do that to you?! It doesn't matter what you wear, a father shouldn't do that to his daughter! How old are you now? You'd better off without your family.
Too much prn.
Oh my god... I'm so sorry to hear that. How did they not see the wrong in that?? Are they insane??? wtf
People judging her for not being ashamed of her body and make photos the way she wants to... I am honestly proud of her, to be able to keep fighting and still help others in the same situation, even after receiving hate comments.
she's so strong and brave for this. thank you for stepping up, for making other victimes know they're not alone and it's not their fault. seriously, she's admirable
I got abused by my cousin brother, and that was the worst experience ever. Getting abused by a person, whom u had amazing memories with, broke my heart and I am very scared to trust anyone now
This's the truth that those people with power in my country, Thailand, have always ignored. Abuse and racism has been normalized for ages. people called other "fatty""shorty""glassed" as a funny and normal thing to do. it's a disgrace.
Malaysia can quite relate :') usually some police reports are just being ignored and let the perpetrators are freed. For example just recently, a young man in military school was bullied to death by some numbers of his colleagues who were sons of wealthy and prominent figures. The bullies were freed and the perpetrators were smiling at the camera because they knew that the police wouldn't dare to touch the riches.
If commoners here make police reports, they aren't to be taken that seriously. But when the rich people report to police --> straight away police do work
My blood boils!!
Yet these sexual abuses are coming from a society, largely holding spiritual values including non sexual Misconducts. What irony
It's always the conservative society where such stories go unheard as it is more socially unacceptable to even report
These women are so strong for speaking out!!!
May they get justice and peace❤️
My friend was sexually abused by her teacher that led to her taking her life. We reported what happened to the school, but she was blamed and was accused of seducing the teacher. The teachers said that it was her fault for getting drunk and she probably forgot that she seduced the teacher herself, but she didn't! She was drunk because she was forced by the teacher, saying that she don't know how to socialize with her teachers! Also, even if someone got drunk on their own accord, that doesn't give you the right to abuse her. The teachers, and her parents failed her. I don't know what to feel when i saw her parents crying on her burial while knowing how they blamed her for getting raped. That was not her fault. You know what's ridiculous? That teacher that raped her is still there, teaching, smiling at the students, acting like a saint, getting awards, while my friend, she'll never come back. She didn't even get rhe justice she deserves. Stop victim blaming. That's just helping the perpetrators while taking away the justice from the victims.
I was molester at 11 by my pediatrician. My dad was waiting outside the doctor's room and had no idea what happened. I didn't understand the difference between a good touch and bad touch. I cried whole day and was scared to enter the dark room and change into a gown for an x ray. I was ashamed to tell my dad what happened. I am 27 now and about to get married. I still can't forget how disgusting it felt. Even though i was a child and hardly knew anything about all these things but that incident did make me feel that it was something wrong and that's not how a medical checkup should be done. I understood what happened to me was sexual assault only when i turned 15. Even today it haunts me how people we trust abuse our trust and the power and influence they have on our lives. I regret i wasn't smart and grown up enough to do anything about it. Never ever leave your child alone with anyone not even their doctor.
When I was young, that time I didn't used to understand why the victims doesn't tell it to their parents, elders or others. But now I understand it all, how hard it is.
I’m proud of her for speaking out and telling her story. A lot of these incidents go unreported because people blame the victim instead of the perpetrators/predator. They are forced to be silent. I hate that about Thai society and they normalize it is even worse. You can see it in the lakorn and series they showcase on tv.
“Politics of sex” should not be in the title about sexual abuse - it’s not sex - it’s violence and abuse.
Also teachers here hit students, I witnessed it. the teacher slapped a student with a ruler super hard multiple times and left red marks on her back. Everyone laughed about it but I thought it was horrible. And then they want us to respect them & bow to their feet?? Everything is sad
Yeah, that's common though. My mum and dad are South Asian and they also got whacked with the ruler.
Im so proud of this girl. Should be more people like her in the world to share the awareness about sexual abuse.
Victim blaming is so normalize. It's so tiring. Really.
...and when you chose not to speak about the abuse/harassment for years and years, they would still question you what took you so long to speak up. Isn't it obvious?
They basically look to blame women for everything
I am so proud of you, sweet girl. You have shown great strength and courage in speaking out. I pray for you to be safe and happy. I send you love and healing energy. Take strength in knowing that in speaking out and standing up for what is right, you are no longer just a victim, you are a survivor!!!
You are an inspiration!!! Your truth is the truth of many, many sexual abuse survivors. I know they thank you for speaking out. When you speak out against this issue and what happened to you, you give voice to all who have ever been victimized in such a horrendous manor.
...with great admiration
from a fellow sexual abuse survivor!!!
❤⚘😊⚘❤
Harrasers and abusers are murderers. They are killers of self worth. They deserve the worst punishment.
This has happened to me when I was 14.. I transferred schools because I am living with my grandmom but it was hard for me to fit in. My classmates used to talk sht behind my back and called me slurs. It was just verbal but slowly it turned into physical abuse. While we were having a break, my classmates and some seniors took turns slapping me and recorded it, I remember having a mental breakdown. I'm 16 now, schools are resuming soon I'm scared to face them again.. I just want this sht to stop but it's hella embarassing as a man to complain ab all these..
edit: i failed y’all and myself, I couldn’t fight back but i complained about it to the homeroom teacher, he scolded them. That’s all, it didn’t make a difference infact it got fkn worse. That day, they held me and put lipstick all over my face and forced me to kiss them. It keeps getting worse day by day. I'm serious, it’s got to a point where I have felt like dying many times. Is living like this worth it?
I hope you’re okay :(
Practice judo and keep knife / scissor for safety
Aww..I hope you're going to be alright,I hope Jesus will heal the brokenness it cause you and remember you can always call on Him when you are in need of if you are sad and He will listen because He loves you and proved it by dying on the cross so we could have eternal life.
@@felix6308 He's a guy-
@@Pringles928 I'm so sorry 🙇
Being a woman is significantly harder. Imagine being yourself and doing nothing that concerns men, but some men still find ways to sexualize you, smh. Men on the other hand doesn't have to be on guard as much as women are.
Totally agree
@Belltown Daisy of course men can be raped too, this is a very cruel world afterall. but i think it's about time that people realise that in this case, there IS a difference. women can be just jumped on with no options left to do anything but raping a man is harder, but not impossible ofc. this is why women need to be way more aware
@Belltown Daisy they weren't talking abt men but ok
Straight facts.
We desperately need more girls and women like Nalinrat all around the world. She should be proud of what she has achieved here, if nothing else to initiate a long needed discussion on this topic.
The discussion is always closed by males using same 4 sentences
1) What she was wearing
2) She asking for it
3) Males get r@ped too
4) She is lying or doing it for attention
@@ramenomirice2767 But really tho, male raping does exist. The 3 others are just straight up toxic.
@@kimchithatisnicelyfermente4627 who said it doesn't but men on social standards aren't affected the same . If a revenge porn of men is released it is no going to affect his life socially the same as women.
@@ramenomirice2767 It does. But I won't talk about that here.
@@kimchithatisnicelyfermente4627 Yh by other MEN seems like the problem is YOURE GENDER
It's disappointing how teachers committed this crime!!!!
This should be appeared in one of an episode in "Girl from nowhere"
Nano : Save the victim, punish the bad guys.. everything's gonna be ok.
Yuri : They're all deserved this. Its all happened because of their high level of karma.
Anyway am very proud of her for speaking out .
That show is so cathartic.
@@myriamkay I liked the first season more than the second.
Tbh I hate it when people use karma as an excuse to blame the victim. "Oh she must have done something bad in her past life to deserve this. She deserves this." Like wtf, that kind of unsympathetic thinking is cruel. It's like saying you deserve to be tortured, raped or killed because of "karma" which is something that cannot be proven to be true.
@@lavendertears1814 That was my thoughts too. Sometime the victim got blamed about their outfit but, the truth face is that RAPE can be occurred in any circumstance even the victim cover the body from head to toe.
I am a teacher and this is so sad! Before we graduate in college, we have this lesson code of ethics for teachers. We study there how to treat students and what are the do's and don'ts. It was included there to NEVER sexually assault your students! I hope those teachers will learn their lessons
It's why one of my ambitious dreams yet is to become a lawyer defending rape/sexual assault/victims like me because not only do I wanna help other women and girls who experienced such horrors but to also help them learn that they are stronger than they think. If I were to have a son I would teach him how a woman is just as powerful as man. Much love from Philippines, this video is truly an insight.
I was 10/11 when my IT teacher kept kissing my cheek for doing a good job with my works. I had no idea what his hidden intentions were. And he would invite me to hang out on weekend with my other female classmate. I told him no one was free to send me, he then offered to pick me up and send me back. I was naive and dumb so I just followed him knowing that he’s my teacher, I trusted him. I even went to his house once because he kept insisting to visit for a bit ( on our way back to my house from skating). There, I met his mom and I ate a cookie. I think I really dodged a bullet there since there were many ppl around. I started feeling uncomfortable near him and later he got fired from the school after the principle found out he kept hanging out with female students. I’m 19 and I still have goosebumps abt it. I can still feel those saliva on my cheeks and knowing that I could’ve been taken advantage off really scares me.
Oh that's horrible
As a man myself I am ashamed that such monsters roam freely without any fear and think that they can have their ways with anyone they want.
They can and they will because it's Thailand. Nothing will ever change there.
@@highflybirdy851 brave people like her will change it gradually
When she's burst into crying feel like I wanna hug her. This makes my body and soul feels very sad.
Whenever this topic come up my mum has always said " But the clothing you wear play a factor too", " Those girls were the target because they asked for attention, they got it". Back then I don't know why it was so upsetting, but now I know it's precisely the lack of accountability towards the perpetrators. The forefront of the blame was always concentrated on the victim, whom most of the time wasn't even trying to appeal to men. This is also why I detest all media associating school uniforms as something erotic.
"Those who have committed sexual assaults should feel most guilty and ashamed"
That's right
How can a women put blame on a women like this just blows my mind away
I really admire her for talking and standing up ,much love and respect
As a sexual abuse survivor that also had to experience that at 12 and for another 10 years bear with my abuser oppressing me at my own house, I want to thank this girl for speaking out loud and giving her my support and a big hug. Anyone that is going or went through something like this should know that there is nothing to be ashamed of, whether you speak about it or not, either you demanded or not, even if no one believes/ed you. You deserve to be free of that pain and to be respected, whatever time it takes for you to be on your feet again. That should have never happened to you, never should happen to anyone. It's been 13 years of it and I am still on pills for my depression, PTSD, anxiety, and s**cidal self, never blame the victim.
To those who send her a bad comments or message shame on you!
As a teacher I am shocked, disgusted and so angry by this, this is awful. I honestly did not know it was this bad, when that girl started to cry my heart broke
Her language is foreign to many, but her experience has been shared by more. Keep your head up Daughter. Being a survivor is what girl/womanhood is all about. 🦋
Heartbreaking 💔. I wish all those males who harmed them would be in jail for life
Wtf! Wtf! Omg, I have been in situations where I felt unsafe and if I didn't leave things would go south, and I left or confronted them. Luckily it has never escalated go full on sexual asault or rape or gang rape. But the threats I received of being gang raped scared me SO BAD that I didnt know how to act around these colleges. One day I screamed at them in front of everyone PLEASE STOP SAYING THOSE THINGS TO ME!!! They were embarresed and stopped.
It's so disturbing to see. I have also noted in many of the television shows etc. That rape and or sexual assault, the perpetrator never gets punished. The victim suffers or is victim shamed and that's it.
Why are so many pedophiles being allowed to teach......it's just so sad.
I think there should be a subject called self- defense in every school in every country. They should teach both girls and boys to fight physically , also about the psychology of assaulting people. There should be a counselor for students to check their mental health
When I was younger and was touched inappropriately, I froze. I was afraid of the repercussion if I fought back.
Understand the victims' side, don't blame them. 99% of the time, nobody wants being touched inappropriately without consent.
She is so amazing and so true! There should be a change in the educational system like they said, and students, parents, and teachers alike must learn about sexual assault and how to best educate, support, and protect sexual assault victims
I experienced it too, my mind went blank. I can't believe someone would do something like that to me. And the police are still asking why I didn't scream when it happened. I felt useless reporting to the police at that time. They think I made up stories
the police is shitty, like do they not know that in times like that you don't know what to do because everything freezes? im so sorry that happened to you, you deserve none of it, sending love
as a victim of sexual abuse and rape her story give me chills now, what happened to me before is giving me flashback. And I am in grade 2, grade 6 and even when I am in my highschool year I experience sexual abuse.
I already accept what happen to me and now open to share it to my friends but, my parents is an exemption. I am scared they wouldn't believe me, as the one who raped me is my cousin and might cause a war within the family. I am 26 now.
I was raped in the 6th grade by an 8th grader. My memory is in pieces about what happened, there are bits I remember and others I don't remember. What's terrifying is that thought that it might happen again and that all my memories will come back, I pray neither one of these things occurs. It hurts whenever I think about what happened, I feel like my skin was ripped away and I'm exposed.
It's so common too, where I live multiple girls have been touched by other male students but faculty does nothing. They say "You don't want to ruin their life, do you?". My mother was horrified when I told her about it a year ago, I thought she'd be mad and disgusted but she comforted me.
SA and rape survivors are shamed, manipulated, and silenced. As a whole, can we as a race of humans not blame victims?
Please?
What an Amazing Woman!!! Major respect for her, and all the other advocates. I will be more than willing to go join the student protests next time they're happening, especially if she is giving a speech. I hear a lot of the protests but never see the fruits. I think today is the day we all rise for those harmed by their own teachers.
Some people in Thailand think the outfits that we wear alluring the offenders, shouldn't they be aware of their own actions? what a world we're living in...
Don't teach women how to protect themsleves or how to dress, teach men not to sexually assault and to respect.
This! I love your comment! Thank you!!
No one deserves this. I have a friend who's 12 years old and was SA by her own step father, she's in a foster home right now cause she's not safe at home and her mother wasn't reliable either cause she knew her boyfriend did that to her daughter and still didn't do anything. I'm visiting her this october cause it's her bday as much as possible I'll always stay in touch with her even if it's hard cause I live far away from the foster house. She'll turn 13, I'm excited to visit her I hope she's doing okay rn.
It takes so much courage to speak up about your abuse, i could never do it and whenever I did I was silenced, so I'm so proud of her, she didn't deserve it, i hope she heals:(
I’ve faced the most sexual assaults while I was under the age of 18.
We think that children getting sexually assaulted is a rarity and shocking, but it’s the opposite.
*Victim Blaming/Shaming must STOP*
The fact that she is being blamed by reasons like "you sexually aroused him" how can people even say that?? women can wear whatever they want and that does not give anyone the right to sexually assault them
“What she said was victim blaming”,these are the words I hear from sexually assaulted victims. And it’s so disappointed to know these words are mostly heard that occurred at any institution or religious society, some of these society will try to hide these crime!
I was around 4-5 or maybe less, my neighbor a very close family friend had done similar kinda a thing to me, I hardly thought about it till I watched this video. I was a tiny kid just running around, playing with other kids. He'd pull me to a corner and do nasty things. At that time, I didn't realise it was abuse. I'm literally crying right now just recalling what had happened 14 years ago. Till date I haven't spoken a thing about this to anyone.
Whatever your sexuality is "Rape is wrong" and "No means no"
Its always that second wind that comes when you have to relive your nightmares but also be denied access of relief and safety after the event has occured. That teacher that told her those clothes were "sexual" and are the reason why she was molested is just as bad as the teacher who actually touched her. You have the basic duty as a person to take care of your family, your friend, your stranger. If it is possibly to hard for you to do such a thing, then maybe you need to be reminded of all of our ancestors that have once upon a time helped save us and helped put us in the world we are at now today, and to be reminded of the people currently working to change the world for the better.
"Why do women hate men so much"
Men:
fax
Yeah, because all men do this 😂😂
Female logic strikes again. Women also m0lest underage boys too, genius
Wow what a great way to get support from men
Oh God...
It breaks my heart 💔
🔆 For all those who have been hurt or affected,
May you recover from these pains and challenges 🌿 🙌
and move on to better pastures with peace and Love 🌅🌳
God Bless you all 👼✨
Recently at a lunch out with my collage mates we started discussing on this topic. The saddest part is we all had our own stories to tell about SA. We are all coming from different backgrounds different ages but we all had that in common and we all knew so many other people who had the same experiences or worse experiences. How is this became that normal? The saddest part is most of us haven’t been open about our experiences to anyone most of people haven’t. I hate that the world is this cruel.
To the people who blame the victim really sucks me, that's why many victims are afraid to speak, because some will say "she likes wearing revealing clothes" like wtf women will be the one to adjust so to the men who are pervert like men should be responsible for his actions. Also others will say because " she wanted it" who the hell gonna complain if she wanted it, woman are suffering from it but society makes them more miserable to live. I hope that kind of stigma will change, and put the right justice not only for woman but also to any kind of gender that deserves a better treatment of the society, even tho it is impossible to make it.
like i dont understand? and about that one person from parliament saying she was "cosplaying" or something I don't understand how she came to that conclusion
@@EliseGaming_Official cuz of the narrow minded people
I am grateful that in Indonesia, as in the recent case, a lecturer harassing female students was made a suspect, and the victims are no longer ashamed to speak up, regulations on sexual harassment have been designed and are ready to be implemented in the education system, although there are still many shortcomings, I believe we are all must improve, and regulations regarding this must be applied to prevent the same thing
May i ask?
Is sex education a thing in Indonesia?like, educators teaching young students how to detect sexual abusers and how to handle the situation?
Malaysia should follow some of the example too
@@Sarah-yg8kt Similar to malaysia. Majority is still taboo to speak up. But soon there will be regulation for sexual harassment. Hope it will be establish and applied as quick as possible. We are still dealing with islamic organization because they disagree in some points
@@regi7943 there are many sexual victims in malaysia but the women are too afraid to speak up because scared that family will look down on them in shame when they report to police. Also, it has been normalized to the point that girls think - nah, just a trivial stuff.
The latest sexual assualt wave in malaysia among women are sexual grooming and Malaysians are not educated enough about it. The way to spread awareness about sexual assault techniques is through sex education where educators teach young students about what to do and how to detect sexual perpetrators in different situations. But some politicians don't want to officialized sex education because they think that sex education = teaching kids how to do sex. But this assumption is so wrong. I think you know which politicians. So many young girls and boys have experienced sexual assaults in malaysia, but they don't realise that they were sexual assualted - they thought it was some kind of normalized play.
Also, some trusted popular figures can find way to do sexual assault by using trust and popularity as a tool , because malaysians are so adhering to respect and trust to higher authority no matter religious or not (some "so called religious figures" use his or her fame to do sexual assault);for example when seeking counselling from these "trustworthy" figures - they may fall victim to perpetrators. There has been cases like this but often ignored by many people especially conservatists, because they think it is false news.
It might be wrong, it might be true, but to deny its existence among authority figures, is just wrong. And this is a mindset on many malays especially. As a malay i think this needs to be fixed - anyone has equal probability to be sexual perpetrator no matter your profession.
Pray that we are able to safeguard ourselves from these hyenas while implementation of sex education is a must especially in a society that has a case of raping an old woman.
@@Sarah-yg8ktthe S Education is a taboo in Asian . That's the most important education ,i didn't even know what's sexual assault when i was in high school, my friend grope my leg, he suddenly sit next to me and just grope my leg, i thought that's what male friends did to each other but i was really uncomfortable. I didn't even know how to report it at that time. one day I just speaked out loud in front of my teacher he touched my leg, i said "touched" not "grope", the teacher was silent and no body care. 😔i don't even know grope "word"at that time.