99.9% of women hearing the message will take zero advice from this video, because it conflicts with what their single 304 girlfriends are telling them.
The advice is solid as fuck, but you're right lol most women won't take it because it's not the drama they're comfortable with and not the type of "equality" they want
I made the first move with my husband…. Not that he wasn’t going to, but I beat him to it. 😉 He didn’t ask me for my number the night we met, so I got his number and asked him out on a date. We have literally been inseparable since our first date… we will be celebrating 18 of marriage this year. 😍 God also blessed us with twins 11 yrs ago. ❤ It does work!
You're probably a very attractive woman. Facts: the more attractive you are as a woman, the more afraid men are to approach you. It takes a lot for a guy to believe you really like him. It's harder for more attractive women because men don't approach women based upon attractiveness; men approach women based upon the likelihood of not being rejected. 🫡🫡
We have flying cars... they're overly expensive and unwieldy. They also have that consequence of pushing the air down under it so it goes up. Helicopters... that's the flying cars
@thewatcher611 ask her to guess where ur going and try tomake her give u the iptions "honey your never gonna guess where im taking you for dinner 🥰🥰" oh are we going to the fancy place blahblah blah nuh uh well how about this place" 🤩 omg howed you know i was taking you there problem solved
Yes! Girls have literally nothing to lose by doing that! Even if he's not interested or available, he will go out of his way to let you down as gently and respectful as possible, because he understands the value of not scaring that kind of girl from trying again with someone else.
It statistically and logically just makes too much sense, so it’s incredible to me how few do it. I mean seriously, not only do you have a high success rate at first (just don’t shoot way out of your league), but you’re actively weeding out guys you don’t want, and you’re directly increasing that small chance encounter that the guy you want would even approach you from 1% (so 99% likely he won’t approach you if not more) to 100%. It’s like saying you have a 1% chance at a 1% chance, but if you take X action, you increase that to 99% chance at a 50% chance 😂
I'd say that while this is a big part of it, the biggest part is that she is clearly displaying an interest in you and putting in effort. That's probably what's most attractive. Confidence is basically a non-issue here; it doesnt matter if she is super nervous and stumbling over her words or if she is assertive.
I can tell from reading comment after comment saying “I’m a creep if I approach” it shows me that most men don’t approach and never will so have zero reference experience. I’ve cold approached 100s of girls and still do, and I’ve probably had like one or two bad reactions. Most are polite even if they’re not interested. All the creep thing is is a weasel not to approach and to protect your ego.
I'm hoping that there's a new era of dating where it's women approaching men... but even then I'm skeptical, because I'm willing to bet that the women who do start doing that are looking for rebound relationships.
Or it's a ploy for a massive ridiculing, shaming event. All at your expense. I've had more than enough of this kind of attention in my life. There's that part that's hopeful and you trust that...only to be tormented ruthlessly in the end. One of many reasons why I hate being around people.
True, I'd say expect the first reaction to be a rejection, not because he's interested, but because he'll be so shocked, he'll convince himself that you were just puling his leg, or doing a sick joke. Ask a second time, and it'll get better result, give him time to have the idea rolling in his head a little, mull it over. Play through the "what if it's not a sick joke" scenario.
This chick gets it. I love how so many other women complain that men won't communicate. And then refuse to tell us what they want, and drop "hints" instead. You know she doesn't do that.
Duuude she’s so right. Every person I’ve ever thought of approaching is taken, so if someone were to approach me I’d already be a bit flustered just from that alone :)
She isn't going after you. It would still be the same you'd have all the women going after the top 20% of men and focusing on the top 5% even harder. You wouldn't have women approaching you even if they started doing that.
… or a barely smile and a hey when you walk by. Had one tell me she had been flirting for years, and it was nothing more than a friendly greeting when I occasionally saw her.
@@jameslittle5214This lmao. I had a "friend" pull this on me. We never had a full conversation, we never flirted, she never showed interest and neither did I because I was just being friendly.
#2 is the key to me and my wife's very happy 27 year sex life. When she's in the mood for something she just tells me. When she wants to try something new she just tells me. That gives me the freedom to do the same. I always try anything she wants at least twice just to be sure and she does the same. There have been things one or the other of us decided were hard no's and some things we decided were not all the time things but there are lots of things we do that we would never have tried if we had not been honest and said we wanted to try it to each other.
Here’s the thing: if they’re an attractive woman, they do have a lot of guys around them. I call them orbiters or “body guards”. They aren’t worth your time, guys.
I'm an attractive woman and was married for nine years. Now I'm divorced and would never let anyone orbit my percious energy field. What you're saying is not accurate. Don't discurage other guys just because you're insecure.
Also the fact that most attractive women are already taken ... I mean .. so unless she comes on to me first im not gonna bother wasting my valuable time on her ...
@@talongreenlee7704 Same, though I know the whole reason why it makes me wary is that I am not used to them, and anyone who has used one on me did it to extract use from me.
I don't do well with compliments, I never have. Positive reinforcement, positive and negative criticism all have the same effect on me and it's not a good thing. And yes, I've had counselors try to help me with that to no avail. It's been this way my entire life. At this point, I'm convinced my brain is miswired.
it's not confidence that makes it attractive, it's being chosen and knowing someone actually wants you. it's the cutest thing in the world when a super shy girl gets out of her comfort zone to approach you.
@@PowerofRock24 I thought it was a reference to Ultimate Showdown of Ultimate Destiny. "Angels sang out In immaculate chorus As down from the heavens Descended Chuck Norris Who delivered a kick Which could shatter bones Into the crotch Of Indiana Jones" But if that line is in the KJV, then obviously it's referencing that.
Because she does have everyone and their brother in her DM's, proven by the fact that she can just choose the guy she likes without much risk of being rejected. Probably because he is already in her DM's she just missed him in the hundreds or thousands she's got.
Of course women get rejected. Almost as much as men do. And it hurts the same for both genders when rejection happens. But men are generally nicer with rejection than women even if it hurts the same.
@@kingsgold if you believe most women get rejected as much as men do you clearly know nothing about men. Women are way pickier than most men, meaning men need to face rejection every day and develop a thick skin or they would be a shell of their former selves real quick. Women don't face as much rejection especially when they are young and hot, as shown by the fact that women tend to lose the sh*t when they do. Rejection hurts especially in the beginning but you eventually get used to it and learn it doesn't really matter.
@@kingsgold Women get rejected almost as much as men do? I don't buy that, both genders face rejection, yes, but not in similar numbers. They would've habe to approach as often as we do, and they don't. The gap is bigger than you think.
No freaking way women get rejected as much as men do. A good friend of mine is on a dating app and she is in her 40s And she’s just decent looking. She gets 100 to 150 emails every day. That’s not even an understatement me. I look pretty good I’m in good shape. I make plenty of money have no debt and no kids. I’m in Siberia.
@@kingsgoldAlmost as much? Bro I've rejected a few women because they were problematic, loose, and loud mouthed. Every time it was their first rejection
This is 💯% spot on!! Women always expect the man to make the first move and the fact of the matter is that we like to feel wanted too so make that move ladies. You won't regret it!
This confused me; a text message is a Direct Message, isn't it? The guys they want don't text? They won't send private messages in Facebook or whatever? Why?
@@aehfoibyr2931Because a lot of the men these sorts of women want are in high demand and do not need to use dating apps to get what they want. The men on dating apps are 'losers' and narcissists looking for rotating disposable harems.
@@Bibopeloula I’m surprised nobody else picked up on that. I had to watch it again because I couldn’t believe it, how quickly she contradicted herself. Women. ☕️
Yes as a guy I have always been very shy about asking a woman out. The only reason I got my first kiss at 17 was because I knew she liked me. It is flattering and makes you very attractive if you make the first move.
I wish I could be that bold, haha. It feels like if I have to make the first move then the guy is not interested at all, so what's the point of putting myself out there like that?
@@vk2ig I'm not surprised at all. No one wants to be rejected. Just voicing a feeling I have. I've asked guys out on a date before and nothing came of it or we enjoyed the date but nothing else was set after. Not even a phone call. I get why men don't want to try. I also think that because men and women are different, it means something different who asked first and rejection is experienced differently.
Yes yes and yes. Don't just tell us what you want in the bedroom though, about food or where you want to go for vacation, most of us aren't in detective mode all the time so hints and implications go unnoticed, not because we don't care but because you are where we want our peace, we're in a comfort zone, and we relax
Confidence isn’t something men care about in women…what’s attractive is that you’re making it clear that you’re interested in us and not playing around wasting our time…
@@Ryan-cb1ei I don’t know you so you probably do, I’m certainly not going to argue with you about what’s important to you, I’m assuming you really are a man and a grown one so do your thing, brother! I just know that most of us don’t think “I need a woman who’s confident”…we do need a woman who’s confident in us 👍🏾
Glad you shared this clip. Appreciate you E. Us guys love when women have some idea what they want. Not expecting a whole life plan. Even saying you don't know yet but are working on it? That is a starting point we can work together with. Something similar I would imagine in reverse. The dating market has needed a reboot. This is square one, hopefully.
My guy and I take turns planning date night. My first one I made reservations, totally surprising him. It was a 4 course fondue dinner. It was fun and I paid. His happiness was so visible.
I always tell this story. My grandpa joined the army after a drunken night with his brother lead them to decide to fight in the Korean War. Whilst going between places at his barracks he saw a striking woman sitting on a bench with a friend. For some reason he mustered up the courage and walked up to this woman and said "Hello! My name is John!" She looked at him unphased and replied "what am I supposed to do with that information?" Don't ask me how but they married and were together until they died. Pamela was the most direct woman I have ever met in my entire life, perhaps not surprising she was a signaller in the Army in the Korean war. But I loved that directness for you always knew exactly where you stood with her.
Oh bless this woman!!! Everything she just said is true! I am lucky enough to have a fiancé who is gorgeous and we are both ecstatically happy because we LOVE to do things for each other! And that "Tell them exactly what you want!" Especially in the bedroom....AMEN TO YOU!
Mutual effort is the key. So many women are all hyped up on this "not doing 50/50 thing", as if any effort they have to put into a relationship, is taking away their soul or something, lol.
If this helps one woman, I say its a plus. Finding that one woman however.... while not as rare as it may seem, is a lot harder to find than people want to admit.
She's not wrong after all...a woman actually made the first move with me and even though I was beyond happy on 1 hand but on the other hand I was questioning if it was a joke because I never was on the receiving end plus she is way to pretty for me....I even did my own type of test to see if she really wanted me and this was a few weeks ago
Attractive as in a solid 5/10 or better. Most plain Janes are quite attractive. Success rate will be lower the less attractive you are but until you're getting below average you are going to have a higher success rate of any man on the same level as you. Unless, of course, you're doing that good old hypergamy thing and only going after the top 0.01% of men like the majority of women.
@@lisasilversmith still better odds than a man on the same level as you but you really can't be shooting above your level anymore. The exception that breaks the rule is finding that guy with some sort of fetish for what makes you ick to 90% of men. You can't be a 0.5 like Gorlock the Destroyer and going after 7/10 men. Be honest with yourself.
I definitely want to say that I support all the hardworking guys out there including my father, grandfather, uncles and my hubsand who are strong men in my life that I really love.
Yup true nuff, especially the 1st one. No matter how you look as a woman. If you make the first move. 9/10 the guy will still take you to dinner (assuming hes not married) irregardless of any self-confidence concerns you have. (speaking from experience and taking past women out that have made the move.) It freaks us out into a brain stall and removes the block in our mind that prevents us from taking the initiative. It also removes the risk nowadays of wondering if im gonna be labeled a creep incase im not attractive to her.
I #was #looked at #like a #creep #approaching an #attractive #woman , #got #off #the #next #stop of the #subway and #waited for the #next #subway #train , #very #humiliating in #public #stayed #single #after #that and #no #luck #online which is a #lost #cause #still #single and #have to #accept #average #guy #low #income = #single #goodguy #all #day #everyday until i #passaway #hopefully #sooner the #better
@@jo2kworld Yeah, nowadays its better to stay single. Its just too risky for guys. your signing away your life if you marry. Not only metaphorically but if she bails on you, your gonna be paying her anyway. No contract is worth that.
Irregardless is not really a word. The Ir- negates the -less. It's effectively the same thing as removing the word regardless completely from the sentence. The word is regardless, regardless of context. 🤪
Thinking the same thing. If girls started approaching, they'd all still be going after the same guys instead of someone in their league who already seems like he might be interested.
I approach guys who wear dirty work boots, a fish hook in their hat, and camo looking like Zach Galifianakis and Jack Black and they still turn me down. Because the shocker is.... they want the super model that everybody else wants in the room.
@@rondasoutherland6882 Your choice of men to put in that sentence proves his comment. You are still approaching Chad and Tyrone, just in dirty boots. No man without choice would ignore you, unless, possibly, you look like a whale. which would again be, in your control.
I think it's funny that she's not even talking about an in-person approach here! DM's... I'm assuming on Instagram. Things have definitely changed -- and not for the better.😮
People said I am attractive. No man approach me. I thought they are intimidated, but the fact is one of them finally casually chat with me while waiting for a train and he said: "you already married, right? Why we never see your husband?" THEY THOUGHT I AM ALREADY MARRIED! Mystery and attractiveness go too far???
Well, she's absolutely right. If a man is receptive to being in a relationship and an attractive woman approaches, she's going to get the guy. Women who do this get exactly who they want because we're so flattered and taken aback that we say "yeah I would love to".
It actually amazes me how many women don’t like to talk about what they like in the bedroom. But then complain that she’s not getting what she wants from her partner in the bedroom.
If you have the mindset that being single your whole life wouldn’t be the worst thing, ironically you become happier and probably attract someone anyway
I love your stuff because I listened to you and now I have been with a man for a year who treats me like a queen and the mutual respect thing goes so far. I love watching your stuff❤
@@JohnAnderson-ev3lplmaooo no, my children’s father(my ex-husband) is shorter than me. Height is not an issue for me. I just know how much it bothered him to the point that he would be livid if I wore heels. Height not a factor in my book. I personally feel women need to start looking at men for who they are and not what they can get from them. But, you’re never going to believe that’s how I feel so this whole conversation is moot.
@@loulou3262 well you did say ex, and that makes no sense why that would bother him, unless it just attracts tall dudes who think they can steal your girl, and if that has happened it does screw up a guy.
"Confidence is sexy" is such a female thing to say. I don't care about confidence. I care about interpreting spoken language rather than having to read your mind.
She is spot on. I've only had one woman ever do this to me and she went from being someone I was friendly with to a woman of interest. Sadly her family changed cities before things could get to the dating stage and social media was still in its infancy at the time.
Nope it’s a trap. Stay strong brothers. Remember the pain from last time. They’re just trying to step their game up. But let them cook. Because it’s not enough that they’re trying to be nice. Let them cook.
You'll notice the key phrase here: "It's so rare to have the guy _you want_ to actually DM you." That one statement negates everything else she said in that entire speech.
I have one major piece to add. Do make the first move. DONT make it a sexual first move. This is NOT because guys don’t want that, they absolutely do, BUT the dating apps are filled with bot, scammers and *cough* entrepreneurs that will immediately jump to sexy talk to bait in a victim, so you’ll probably get blocked or ignored. Wait until you meet in person or at least build a good rapport before taking it that way.
Facts I assume every woman is taken or has hundreds of DMs a day. She's right if you show you're interested then we don't have to guess and feel more free to pursue you without thinking are we wasting time, are we going to be labeled a creep, is she taken and so on.
Date planning was always the hardest thing for me. And I always tried but I always put in all the work. We recently broke up. But it's one of the things I genuinely struggled the most with, and I feel like she never cared.
If she makes the first move she holds double aces in her hand. She can only win. And if she is straightforward and to the point, she might as well add her ring size too
There was this one time a gal sat next to me and we enjoyed chatting. Her ride arrived and she angrily said that I didn’t ask her name. After she left I realized that maybe she had been interested in me. I assumed she was just being nice and waiting for her ride. If she had introduced herself and been clearer about being interested I probably would have happily gone on a date with her. I have almost exclusively dated women who have initiated things. Virtually every one I’ve approached has gone nowhere. So, if you are interested, say so. Make it VERY clear that you want to go on a date. Guys assume a gal is just being nice otherwise. There is a chance a guy is taken. A good guy will turn you down as kindly as possible. He will appreciate the bravery it took to ask, and get a mood boost. Ladies, you are wonderful and worthy of having a good guy. If you find a good guy (who is single and looking) then be crystal clear about your interest. You have a good chance at getting him. 🙂
Nothing is more attractive than reciprocal attraction.
1000%.
Walked away because of the cat and mouse games, mind games, unsure if there was reciprocal attraction.
Absolutely
Reciprocal effort that is constant that doesn't diminish once you are in a committed relationship.
That's not even attraction, it's just being nice/courteous. It's more that of you don't reciprocate you clearly don't care
@@raulrojas2576is going to diminish, as long as it doesn't dissappear
99.9% of women hearing the message will take zero advice from this video, because it conflicts with what their single 304 girlfriends are telling them.
It's also too boring for them and above all, no drama
The advice is solid as fuck, but you're right lol most women won't take it because it's not the drama they're comfortable with and not the type of "equality" they want
Guess this woman who is listening doesn’t count. 🤣🤣🤣
Men are so turned off as 9 out of 10 are toxic. And as Ws are so manipulate you can never find the 1 0ut of 10.
@@dianedemarco370-- You Count, Babe, & Thanks for Speaking Up 💃🕺🎶
I made the first move with my husband…. Not that he wasn’t going to, but I beat him to it. 😉 He didn’t ask me for my number the night we met, so I got his number and asked him out on a date. We have literally been inseparable since our first date… we will be celebrating 18 of marriage this year. 😍 God also blessed us with twins 11 yrs ago. ❤ It does work!
Only if you're the tall dude
That's awesome. It's nice to hear a happy story !
You're probably a very attractive woman. Facts: the more attractive you are as a woman, the more afraid men are to approach you. It takes a lot for a guy to believe you really like him. It's harder for more attractive women because men don't approach women based upon attractiveness; men approach women based upon the likelihood of not being rejected. 🫡🫡
Love it, here's to 18 more!!!
@@jasonstevens1319 Thanks Jason!
Not just in the bedroom. Just say what you mean and mean what you say. That's it! Period! It's simple!
sadly thats not how women operate haha
Impossible
Sounds simple. But, it's impossible nowadays.
Be blunt with what you want. Wr don't read minds!
If 1% of women did this, we would have flying cars.
you mean #when #pigs do #fly 😏😏😂😂
It does not work. I've tried.
We have flying cars... they're overly expensive and unwieldy. They also have that consequence of pushing the air down under it so it goes up.
Helicopters... that's the flying cars
@@rondasoutherland6882yeah most likely only a few times or on the wrong guys
Women do pursue just guys too stupid to build them
"Tell them exactly what you want" God bless her❤😊
DATA TRANSMITTED...!!!
not just the bedroom😫
I will 100% of the time pick the wrong place to eat. She'll be mad, even though she says, "just pick somewhere."
@thewatcher611 ask her to guess where ur going and try tomake her give u the iptions
"honey your never gonna guess where im taking you for dinner 🥰🥰"
oh are we going to the fancy place blahblah blah
nuh uh
well how about this place"
🤩 omg howed you know i was taking you there
problem solved
@@thewatcher611actually, shes made enough decisions today. Shes tired, and just wants you to decide.
Yes! Girls have literally nothing to lose by doing that! Even if he's not interested or available, he will go out of his way to let you down as gently and respectful as possible, because he understands the value of not scaring that kind of girl from trying again with someone else.
Totally.
It statistically and logically just makes too much sense, so it’s incredible to me how few do it. I mean seriously, not only do you have a high success rate at first (just don’t shoot way out of your league), but you’re actively weeding out guys you don’t want, and you’re directly increasing that small chance encounter that the guy you want would even approach you from 1% (so 99% likely he won’t approach you if not more) to 100%. It’s like saying you have a 1% chance at a 1% chance, but if you take X action, you increase that to 99% chance at a 50% chance 😂
“Be confident “
“Ok babe, how about we-“
“Not you”.
It's not the confidence that's attractive to a man. It's the fact that he can't be called a creep if you approach him.
Most underrated comment. It removes the entire creep and SA element.
I'd say that while this is a big part of it, the biggest part is that she is clearly displaying an interest in you and putting in effort. That's probably what's most attractive. Confidence is basically a non-issue here; it doesnt matter if she is super nervous and stumbling over her words or if she is assertive.
I can tell from reading comment after comment saying “I’m a creep if I approach” it shows me that most men don’t approach and never will so have zero reference experience. I’ve cold approached 100s of girls and still do, and I’ve probably had like one or two bad reactions. Most are polite even if they’re not interested. All the creep thing is is a weasel not to approach and to protect your ego.
@_Lumiere_ what if she is only a 4 on looks?
I don't see how approaching a man is confident tbh. We've always known that they're gonna have an exponentially higher success rate.
When it comes to asking us out, please specify that you are being sincere, otherwise we will think we are on camera and this is for tik tok
Exactly
How about people put the damn phone down and interact human-to-human?
I'm hoping that there's a new era of dating where it's women approaching men... but even then I'm skeptical, because I'm willing to bet that the women who do start doing that are looking for rebound relationships.
Or it's a ploy for a massive ridiculing, shaming event. All at your expense. I've had more than enough of this kind of attention in my life.
There's that part that's hopeful and you trust that...only to be tormented ruthlessly in the end.
One of many reasons why I hate being around people.
True, I'd say expect the first reaction to be a rejection, not because he's interested, but because he'll be so shocked, he'll convince himself that you were just puling his leg, or doing a sick joke.
Ask a second time, and it'll get better result, give him time to have the idea rolling in his head a little, mull it over. Play through the "what if it's not a sick joke" scenario.
This chick gets it.
I love how so many other women complain that men won't communicate. And then refuse to tell us what they want, and drop "hints" instead. You know she doesn't do that.
Holy shit. A woman that doesn't make us play "Guess what I want. Nothing you say will be right, EVER." 20/10
Duuude she’s so right. Every person I’ve ever thought of approaching is taken, so if someone were to approach me I’d already be a bit flustered just from that alone :)
She isn't going after you. It would still be the same you'd have all the women going after the top 20% of men and focusing on the top 5% even harder. You wouldn't have women approaching you even if they started doing that.
@@thomgizzizyou think??
Idk about that dude..
Maybe worldly chicks but christian ones.. I don’t think so
@@erxfav3197there aren't a lot of actively, consciously, religious people.
@@thomgizziz Ok Debbie Downer. I know it’s not realistic but I’m just saying it’d make me and a lot of other people happy…
What women think is making the first move and what is *actually* making the first move are often two very different things.
Yeah for them it's glacing at you from a far hoping you notice, for us it's actually walking up to them and starting a convo. Different dimension.
… or a barely smile and a hey when you walk by. Had one tell me she had been flirting for years, and it was nothing more than a friendly greeting when I occasionally saw her.
Can you articulate that? What do you mean? Thanks
@@jenniferd264He's talking about all the subtle _hints_ that you guys give and think men will notice, much less act upon
@@jameslittle5214This lmao. I had a "friend" pull this on me. We never had a full conversation, we never flirted, she never showed interest and neither did I because I was just being friendly.
#2 is the key to me and my wife's very happy 27 year sex life. When she's in the mood for something she just tells me. When she wants to try something new she just tells me. That gives me the freedom to do the same.
I always try anything she wants at least twice just to be sure and she does the same. There have been things one or the other of us decided were hard no's and some things we decided were not all the time things but there are lots of things we do that we would never have tried if we had not been honest and said we wanted to try it to each other.
We need more women like this in our world, God bless this kind of woman
Here’s the thing: if they’re an attractive woman, they do have a lot of guys around them. I call them orbiters or “body guards”. They aren’t worth your time, guys.
Pretty women always have men in the friendzone.
@@jesse4550 agreed.
@@jesse4550that’s why we bang them a few times and move on
I'm an attractive woman and was married for nine years. Now I'm divorced and would never let anyone orbit my percious energy field. What you're saying is not accurate. Don't discurage other guys just because you're insecure.
Also the fact that most attractive women are already taken ... I mean .. so unless she comes on to me first im not gonna bother wasting my valuable time on her ...
Another thing sexy from women, compliments! We will probably appreciate them more cause of how little of them we get.
and affirmations of them feeling safe with you or protected or comfort
I dunno. Compliments actually make me wary. I don’t like people who I think are just buttering me up.
@@talongreenlee7704 Same, though I know the whole reason why it makes me wary is that I am not used to them, and anyone who has used one on me did it to extract use from me.
Ay slow down chap, bro getting greedy 😅
I don't do well with compliments, I never have. Positive reinforcement, positive and negative criticism all have the same effect on me and it's not a good thing.
And yes, I've had counselors try to help me with that to no avail.
It's been this way my entire life. At this point, I'm convinced my brain is miswired.
Another thing. Most guys that I know of, don't wanna meet through DM's. They'd rather have a face to face.
it's not confidence that makes it attractive, it's being chosen and knowing someone actually wants you. it's the cutest thing in the world when a super shy girl gets out of her comfort zone to approach you.
And the angels rang out in an immaculate chorus, as this message was finally recognized and understood by the girls here among us...
Yo, is that a reference to Revelations 17? So strange, because I've been obsessed with that recently.
The 0.000000001% of women, lol
@@PowerofRock24 I thought it was a reference to Ultimate Showdown of Ultimate Destiny.
"Angels sang out
In immaculate chorus
As down from the heavens
Descended Chuck Norris
Who delivered a kick
Which could shatter bones
Into the crotch
Of Indiana Jones"
But if that line is in the KJV, then obviously it's referencing that.
🦗🦗
"HAAA-LLELUJUH, HALLELUJAH, HALLELUJAH, HALLELUJAH, HAAA-LELUJAH!" (Esp if you ever played worms shooting game!)
Because she does have everyone and their brother in her DM's, proven by the fact that she can just choose the guy she likes without much risk of being rejected. Probably because he is already in her DM's she just missed him in the hundreds or thousands she's got.
Of course women get rejected. Almost as much as men do. And it hurts the same for both genders when rejection happens. But men are generally nicer with rejection than women even if it hurts the same.
@@kingsgold if you believe most women get rejected as much as men do you clearly know nothing about men. Women are way pickier than most men, meaning men need to face rejection every day and develop a thick skin or they would be a shell of their former selves real quick.
Women don't face as much rejection especially when they are young and hot, as shown by the fact that women tend to lose the sh*t when they do.
Rejection hurts especially in the beginning but you eventually get used to it and learn it doesn't really matter.
@@kingsgold Women get rejected almost as much as men do? I don't buy that, both genders face rejection, yes, but not in similar numbers. They would've habe to approach as often as we do, and they don't. The gap is bigger than you think.
No freaking way women get rejected as much as men do. A good friend of mine is on a dating app and she is in her 40s And she’s just decent looking. She gets 100 to 150 emails every day. That’s not even an understatement me. I look pretty good I’m in good shape. I make plenty of money have no debt and no kids. I’m in Siberia.
@@kingsgoldAlmost as much? Bro I've rejected a few women because they were problematic, loose, and loud mouthed. Every time it was their first rejection
It’s amazing that we have to be clear that we should express our needs and wants, be confident, and be a good person
This is 💯% spot on!! Women always expect the man to make the first move and the fact of the matter is that we like to feel wanted too so make that move ladies. You won't regret it!
The guys you want don't DM.
So true.
This confused me; a text message is a Direct Message, isn't it?
The guys they want don't text? They won't send private messages in Facebook or whatever? Why?
True. I don't even know how to DM. Like do I just stare at Instagram all day and scroll through random women's profiles??
The women you want are not on dating apps to be DMed, either.
@@aehfoibyr2931Because a lot of the men these sorts of women want are in high demand and do not need to use dating apps to get what they want. The men on dating apps are 'losers' and narcissists looking for rotating disposable harems.
“You should chose your pick of the bunch.”
Yup, there it is! She has everyone and their brothers in her DM’s. 🤦🏼♂️
Finally someone says it.
@@Bibopeloula HoeMath should hire me as his forensics expert.
@@Bibopeloula I’m surprised nobody else picked up on that. I had to watch it again because I couldn’t believe it, how quickly she contradicted herself.
Women. ☕️
CRAP!! Haha I was making sure no one else blasted her for this, but here it is. Great job 👏🏼
Nothing would make me feel more appreciated than a little reciprocated effort
Yes as a guy I have always been very shy about asking a woman out. The only reason I got my first kiss at 17 was because I knew she liked me. It is flattering and makes you very attractive if you make the first move.
I wish I could be that bold, haha. It feels like if I have to make the first move then the guy is not interested at all, so what's the point of putting myself out there like that?
@@OceanleighsideYou might be amazed at how many guys think the same way.
@@vk2ig I'm not surprised at all. No one wants to be rejected. Just voicing a feeling I have. I've asked guys out on a date before and nothing came of it or we enjoyed the date but nothing else was set after. Not even a phone call. I get why men don't want to try. I also think that because men and women are different, it means something different who asked first and rejection is experienced differently.
Only once has a girl taken me on a date. I still remember every detail. Same with my only flower.
Damn these things can actually happen in reality? You're a lucky man
Yes yes and yes. Don't just tell us what you want in the bedroom though, about food or where you want to go for vacation, most of us aren't in detective mode all the time so hints and implications go unnoticed, not because we don't care but because you are where we want our peace, we're in a comfort zone, and we relax
Confidence isn’t something men care about in women…what’s attractive is that you’re making it clear that you’re interested in us and not playing around wasting our time…
They’re all wasting our time and playing games tbh.
What? Men very much care about confidence, I surely do. It really makes or break how much I will like a woman.
@@Ryan-cb1ei I don’t know you so you probably do, I’m certainly not going to argue with you about what’s important to you, I’m assuming you really are a man and a grown one so do your thing, brother! I just know that most of us don’t think “I need a woman who’s confident”…we do need a woman who’s confident in us 👍🏾
Both of these women are insanely attractive, SOLELY because of their attitude and personality. Period.
"For the guy YOU want."
To borrow from Saturday Night Live:
1) Be handsome
2) Be attractive
3) Don't be unattractive
Glad you shared this clip.
Appreciate you E.
Us guys love when women have some idea what they want. Not expecting a whole life plan. Even saying you don't know yet but are working on it?
That is a starting point we can work together with. Something similar I would imagine in reverse.
The dating market has needed a reboot.
This is square one, hopefully.
Thanks for showing Real Women!
My guy and I take turns planning date night. My first one I made reservations, totally surprising him. It was a 4 course fondue dinner. It was fun and I paid. His happiness was so visible.
Dude she gets it. Clearly she's in for happiness if she doesn't already have it. Good for her
She's teaching which means she likely isn't practicing.
I always tell this story. My grandpa joined the army after a drunken night with his brother lead them to decide to fight in the Korean War.
Whilst going between places at his barracks he saw a striking woman sitting on a bench with a friend.
For some reason he mustered up the courage and walked up to this woman and said "Hello! My name is John!"
She looked at him unphased and replied "what am I supposed to do with that information?"
Don't ask me how but they married and were together until they died.
Pamela was the most direct woman I have ever met in my entire life, perhaps not surprising she was a signaller in the Army in the Korean war. But I loved that directness for you always knew exactly where you stood with her.
Oh bless this woman!!! Everything she just said is true! I am lucky enough to have a fiancé who is gorgeous and we are both ecstatically happy because we LOVE to do things for each other! And that "Tell them exactly what you want!" Especially in the bedroom....AMEN TO YOU!
Mutual effort is the key. So many women are all hyped up on this "not doing 50/50 thing", as if any effort they have to put into a relationship, is taking away their soul or something, lol.
If this helps one woman, I say its a plus.
Finding that one woman however.... while not as rare as it may seem, is a lot harder to find than people want to admit.
Because it IS incredibly rare.
Things us guys love the most.... When you put out. That's the # 1 thing we love. Hope my blatant honesty wasn't too offensive.
Some guys, not all. Some of us wait until we are married.
@@shadowscall7758
And some of us don't lie.
@@shadowscall7758 A considerable portion of women _stop_ putting out after marriage (or a child). It is more complete than that.
My gf asked me out and I said yes immediately because I liked and respected the fact that she made the effort and took the chance.
Attractive woman advise....Definitely helpful.
Refreshing hearing the truth from a beautiful REAL ladie !!! 👏🤘👌👍🫶✌️🐸
De Gatineau Québec Canada !!!
And just like that, I'm even more appreciative of my wife 😊
"The guy you want"
Is likely going to be the guy you accuse everyone else of being
She’s spot on with all her talking points!!!
She's not wrong after all...a woman actually made the first move with me and even though I was beyond happy on 1 hand but on the other hand I was questioning if it was a joke because I never was on the receiving end plus she is way to pretty for me....I even did my own type of test to see if she really wanted me and this was a few weeks ago
I'm glad the girl finally says it: If you're an ATTRACTIVE woman. If you're plain, other rules apply to you.
Attractive as in a solid 5/10 or better. Most plain Janes are quite attractive. Success rate will be lower the less attractive you are but until you're getting below average you are going to have a higher success rate of any man on the same level as you. Unless, of course, you're doing that good old hypergamy thing and only going after the top 0.01% of men like the majority of women.
Facts...@@DearlyDepartedDaz
What if you are ugly?
@@lisasilversmith still better odds than a man on the same level as you but you really can't be shooting above your level anymore. The exception that breaks the rule is finding that guy with some sort of fetish for what makes you ick to 90% of men. You can't be a 0.5 like Gorlock the Destroyer and going after 7/10 men. Be honest with yourself.
@@lisasilversmith HAHA!
I definitely want to say that I support all the hardworking guys out there including my father, grandfather, uncles and my hubsand who are strong men in my life that I really love.
It's amazing how being upfront and not play mind games is seen as a radical notion among modern Woman.
Yup true nuff, especially the 1st one. No matter how you look as a woman. If you make the first move. 9/10 the guy will still take you to dinner (assuming hes not married) irregardless of any self-confidence concerns you have. (speaking from experience and taking past women out that have made the move.) It freaks us out into a brain stall and removes the block in our mind that prevents us from taking the initiative. It also removes the risk nowadays of wondering if im gonna be labeled a creep incase im not attractive to her.
I #was #looked at #like a #creep #approaching an #attractive #woman , #got #off #the #next #stop of the #subway and #waited for the #next #subway #train , #very #humiliating in #public #stayed #single #after #that and #no #luck #online which is a #lost #cause #still #single and #have to #accept #average #guy #low #income = #single #goodguy #all #day #everyday until i #passaway #hopefully #sooner the #better
@@jo2kworld Yeah, nowadays its better to stay single. Its just too risky for guys. your signing away your life if you marry. Not only metaphorically but if she bails on you, your gonna be paying her anyway. No contract is worth that.
Irregardless is not really a word. The Ir- negates the -less. It's effectively the same thing as removing the word regardless completely from the sentence. The word is regardless, regardless of context. 🤪
The title should have been: "What women SHOULD do that guys love." 😊
That threw me off. I thought she said you'd have a 99.9% success rate approaching as a man. I instantly went to comments until it played again lol
She’s smart and pretty! And in one 👂 and out the other…
Bro , just hearing her say all that makes you melt 😂😅
Unfortunately a lot of women who are just average looking will message the most handsome guy & wonder why they're alone.
Thinking the same thing. If girls started approaching, they'd all still be going after the same guys instead of someone in their league who already seems like he might be interested.
I approach guys who wear dirty work boots, a fish hook in their hat, and camo looking like Zach Galifianakis and Jack Black and they still turn me down. Because the shocker is.... they want the super model that everybody else wants in the room.
@@rondasoutherland6882I can only conclude from that you must look like an absolute gargoyle.
@@rondasoutherland6882 Your choice of men to put in that sentence proves his comment. You are still approaching Chad and Tyrone, just in dirty boots. No man without choice would ignore you, unless, possibly, you look like a whale. which would again be, in your control.
thanks for this, i knew i would find one that out the same comment i did.
I think it's funny that she's not even talking about an in-person approach here! DM's... I'm assuming on Instagram. Things have definitely changed -- and not for the better.😮
People said I am attractive. No man approach me.
I thought they are intimidated, but the fact is one of them finally casually chat with me while waiting for a train and he said: "you already married, right? Why we never see your husband?"
THEY THOUGHT I AM ALREADY MARRIED!
Mystery and attractiveness go too far???
Well, she's absolutely right. If a man is receptive to being in a relationship and an attractive woman approaches, she's going to get the guy. Women who do this get exactly who they want because we're so flattered and taken aback that we say "yeah I would love to".
It actually amazes me how many women don’t like to talk about what they like in the bedroom. But then complain that she’s not getting what she wants from her partner in the bedroom.
Yup, I can’t really say I feel for them when it’s directly under their control
Ive been single my entire life and probably will be for the rest of it but videos like this give me a vary small bit of hope that I'll find someone
#godbless #you and #hope #theres that #special #someone for #you so #happy #love ❤#finding !🙏🙏✌️✌️
If you have the mindset that being single your whole life wouldn’t be the worst thing, ironically you become happier and probably attract someone anyway
I love your stuff because I listened to you and now I have been with a man for a year who treats me like a queen and the mutual respect thing goes so far. I love watching your stuff❤
Got the tall dude I guess 😂
@@JohnAnderson-ev3lp ummm what does his height have anything to do with it? He was a friend of mine who grew closer. Someone have little man syndrome?
@@loulou3262 only women who discriminate based on height use that insult
@@JohnAnderson-ev3lplmaooo no, my children’s father(my ex-husband) is shorter than me. Height is not an issue for me. I just know how much it bothered him to the point that he would be livid if I wore heels. Height not a factor in my book. I personally feel women need to start looking at men for who they are and not what they can get from them. But, you’re never going to believe that’s how I feel so this whole conversation is moot.
@@loulou3262 well you did say ex, and that makes no sense why that would bother him, unless it just attracts tall dudes who think they can steal your girl, and if that has happened it does screw up a guy.
"Confidence is sexy" is such a female thing to say. I don't care about confidence. I care about interpreting spoken language rather than having to read your mind.
Omg I love her accent and she is gorgeous
The narcissism doesn't put you off?
I wish more women understood this
She is spot on. I've only had one woman ever do this to me and she went from being someone I was friendly with to a woman of interest. Sadly her family changed cities before things could get to the dating stage and social media was still in its infancy at the time.
That’s another reason I am single, the ex never planned any surprises
THANK YOU EMILY W. KING, You get us too; you understand us (men) so well 👍😎👍😎
Nope it’s a trap. Stay strong brothers. Remember the pain from last time. They’re just trying to step their game up. But let them cook. Because it’s not enough that they’re trying to be nice. Let them cook.
Amen!
Emily is a fucking legend sorting out humanity one post at a time
Please do not listen.
Men chase what they want, and we dodge what walks up. Or decent men do.
This Ai is getting so good
You'll notice the key phrase here: "It's so rare to have the guy _you want_ to actually DM you."
That one statement negates everything else she said in that entire speech.
They both understand the assignment
I think this message should be for some of the women who fit into this category. Not all women are the same .
As a man, I can confirm she speaks the truth. I'm even a long term married man at that.
True but then they get so hurt by everything you do. People tell me to date around and I’m finding it’s best to not do that
She's got it! Definitely will do well for herself!!
Round of applause for that lady, she gets it
that girl will have much success in life!
All 100% on point. Well done you.
spot on but they still won't believe you two LOL
I have one major piece to add. Do make the first move. DONT make it a sexual first move. This is NOT because guys don’t want that, they absolutely do, BUT the dating apps are filled with bot, scammers and *cough* entrepreneurs that will immediately jump to sexy talk to bait in a victim, so you’ll probably get blocked or ignored. Wait until you meet in person or at least build a good rapport before taking it that way.
Spread the word!
Facts I assume every woman is taken or has hundreds of DMs a day. She's right if you show you're interested then we don't have to guess and feel more free to pursue you without thinking are we wasting time, are we going to be labeled a creep, is she taken and so on.
My dopamine raised a little by listening to her words.
Thank you for your encouragement and giving me confidence
Date planning was always the hardest thing for me. And I always tried but I always put in all the work. We recently broke up. But it's one of the things I genuinely struggled the most with, and I feel like she never cared.
She is a keeper!
This gives me hope.
If she makes the first move she holds double aces in her hand. She can only win. And if she is straightforward and to the point, she might as well add her ring size too
There was this one time a gal sat next to me and we enjoyed chatting. Her ride arrived and she angrily said that I didn’t ask her name. After she left I realized that maybe she had been interested in me. I assumed she was just being nice and waiting for her ride.
If she had introduced herself and been clearer about being interested I probably would have happily gone on a date with her. I have almost exclusively dated women who have initiated things. Virtually every one I’ve approached has gone nowhere.
So, if you are interested, say so. Make it VERY clear that you want to go on a date. Guys assume a gal is just being nice otherwise.
There is a chance a guy is taken. A good guy will turn you down as kindly as possible. He will appreciate the bravery it took to ask, and get a mood boost.
Ladies, you are wonderful and worthy of having a good guy. If you find a good guy (who is single and looking) then be crystal clear about your interest. You have a good chance at getting him. 🙂
Such simple and practical advice but it'll make things so much easier for women.
The crossover we needed
If a girl came up to me with confidence saying she wants my number and thinks I’m yada yada yada.. I would think I’m being setup or on camera😂
Love this advice.
Yes Yes Yes to all of that. Especially mutual effort.
Had to "share" this one. She is spot on! If women showed more confidence more of them could have the man they are interested in.
This woman needs to be protected.